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Speaker 2: Whenever we call to learn about the pitfalls and mistakes of people's dating lives.
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: Very rarely do things get sentimental in a touchy-feely kind of way.
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Speaker 1: I know, because it would make Alexis too uncomfortable. Yeah, she would handle so much.
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Speaker 4: Emotions.
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Speaker 2: But today, it's a little different. One couple definitely got touchy-feely in a different kind of way.
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Speaker 3: Wait.
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Speaker 2: Well, it wasn't a bad thing, but it certainly was weird and a little unexpected. And even more unexpected that they'd be back on the show again to give us a special update update on what's happened since. So get ready for lots of touching and feeling in your second date update update next. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
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Speaker 1: Second date update.
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Speaker 2: When you meet someone special, what's the first thing that usually draws you in? Their eyes.
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Speaker 1: Their laugh.
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Speaker 2: Their hair. Their laugh. Speak for yourself.
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Speaker 3: No.
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Speaker 2: Today, it's their feet.
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Speaker 1: We're going to start here and usually end up here.
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Speaker 2: I'm not trying to be creepy about it. The reason that I bring it up is because our listener Claire says she met a guy that she's interested in. At a shoe store.
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Speaker 1: Oh, she's like the modern day Cinderella.
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Speaker 2: Could be. Claire, does it ever go through your mind that shoe stores are the hot spots for all the pervs? It's where they congregate.
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Speaker 1: Ew.
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Speaker 4: No, I don't think so.
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Speaker 2: OK, you don't hang out at the shoe stores that I hang out at. Everybody needs shoes.
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Speaker 1: I've never had a weird interaction at a shoe store, Jeff. So I think this may be just you.
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Speaker 2: Oh, I will give you some addresses that will change how you think. But OK, maybe this is a different type of shoe place. So tell us about how you met this guy. What's his name, by the way?
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Speaker 4: His name was Dan.
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Speaker 3: Okay.
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Speaker 4: I met him while I was basically, he wasn't actually helping me. He was helping this girl that was next to me.
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Speaker 3: Oh, wait.
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Speaker 1: He's an employee there.
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Speaker 2: Or is he just a random guy that goes around helping people at shoe stores?
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Speaker 4: No, he was super sweet. He actually does work there.
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Speaker 2: Okay. That's true, man. All right.
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Speaker 4: Like I said, he wasn't helping me directly, but he was helping a woman that was next to me.
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Speaker 3: And every time he would.
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Speaker 4: Go get her some shoes, he kind of would like chat up with me a little bit and like be like, oh, those shoes look great.
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Speaker 3: You know what I mean?
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Speaker 1: And more than just like I make commission nice. I mean, that.
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Speaker 4: Was the best part. I wasn't his customer. He wasn't making any commission off me.
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Speaker 1: Did you make a move?
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 4: Here's the thing. I went up to go buy my shoes and I told the girl that was checking me out. I actually gave her my number and said, can you give it to that guy over there, that shoe guy over there?
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Speaker 3: And, um, She did.
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Speaker 2: Wow.
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Speaker 4: I thought, you know, why the heck not? I'd never find anybody in the wild anymore. Always these dating apps, you know what I mean?
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Speaker 1: This is great.
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Speaker 2: Feet stores are better than Tinder now. Who would have thought we'd gotten to that point in life? But we made it. It came full circle, Jeff. This is awesome. So did he reach out to you?
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Speaker 3: He did.
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Speaker 4: He totally reached out to me. And he suggested a Mexican place, a hole in the wall. It was really nice.
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Speaker 2: How was the connection between you and Dan?
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Speaker 4: I thought it ended up being very natural. I was very happy. Like, I left.
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Speaker 2: Okay, was that Dan or was that the margaritas, though, that was.
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Speaker 1: Making you happy? Why can't it be both, Jeff?
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Speaker 2: That's true. But maybe something specific about Dan that happened that made you happy?
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Speaker 4: It was really playful between us.
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Speaker 3: I felt really good.
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Speaker 4: And at one point, we were feeding each other chips and salsa.
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Speaker 2: Each other? Interesting. That feels a little messy.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, but it was kind of sweet. It was really sweet.
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Speaker 2: That is cute. Okay, that was like a romantic move.
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Speaker 3: It was.
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Speaker 1: I gotta know who started that.
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Speaker 3: Who's the first person?
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Speaker 4: I kind of started it. I kind of wanted to show him that I was playful, and he reciprocated.
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Speaker 3: You see that.
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Speaker 2: In romantic movies where at a certain point they feed each other an hors d'oeuvre or something.
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Speaker 1: I don't know if I've ever fed anyone outside of my toddlers.
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Speaker 4: I really, truly can't think of it.
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Speaker 2: You've never been making a cake and you put some frosting on your husband's nose and you guys have a frosting fight?
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Speaker 1: No. Maybe I'm not romantic enough.
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Speaker 2: I mean, don't you think it would be nice at our next show dinner if at one point we all just stopped and fed the person to our right? Put a sushi roll in the next person's mouth.
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Speaker 1: I'm sick. I can't go.
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Speaker 2: Just the three of us then.
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Speaker 1: It doesn't matter what we think or do. It's that you liked it and you think Dan liked it because then he fed.
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Speaker 3: You, right?
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Speaker 1: That's the indicator that he was into it.
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Speaker 4: He did feed me back, yeah. It wasn't just me feeding him.
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Speaker 3: Oh, good.
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Speaker 2: You matched energy.
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Speaker 1: You have to be careful with sharp tortilla chips. You have a.
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Speaker 2: Gum or something. All right. I mean, this is sounding pretty good. How does the date end?
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Speaker 4: So basically, we got to know each other.
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Speaker 3: We talked about our jobs.
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Speaker 4: And then when we left, He walked me to my car, obviously, but he did not try to kiss me.
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Speaker 3: What?
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Speaker 2: You know what?
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Speaker 1: Brooke's outraged. Well, I am. The only reason I say what is you just fed each other. You would think that like.
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Speaker 2: But you feed your toddler.
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Speaker 1: You're intimately connected in a different type of way, right?
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 4: I totally know what you guys are saying, but I was actually okay with it. I don't really like to kiss on the first date. All right.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's all right. So he read you right. So that's good.
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Speaker 2: So that's how you left it. What's happened since then?
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Speaker 4: Not a whole lot has happened. I've texted him and he just kind of hearts. My text? Just, like, reacts to what you're... I'm kind of confused.
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Speaker 2: Well, it started off so great, I don't... I can't imagine what would have made him not want to kiss you and not want to call you back. So, let's try to figure that out for you. Maybe she wore a really ugly pair of shoes.
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Speaker 3: On the date.
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Speaker 1: Well, I bet he is judgy about shoes.
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Speaker 2: He's a shoe guy, right?
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Speaker 1: That's a good point. Some people think a shoe says everything about a person.
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Speaker 2: Really? I don't know who those people are, but we'll find out if your shoes weren't sexy enough. When we come back and do your second date update right after this. Hold on. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
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Speaker 1: Second date update. You're in the middle of a second date update update.
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Speaker 2: And we're going to.
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Speaker 1: Find out how the couple is doing right after you hear part two.
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Speaker 2: How does that romantic saying go? Couples who love each other, feed each other.
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Speaker 1: I've never heard that. Is that something that's hanging in your kitchen?
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Speaker 2: It should be.
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Speaker 1: One of those cute little life love signs.
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Speaker 2: Our listener, Claire, is well on her way to that. Because on her first hangout with Dan, the shoe salesman, they were hand-feeding each other chips and salsa at a Mexican restaurant. And you don't do that on a first date unless there's an obvious connection happening. Not to mention the flowing margaritas.
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Speaker 1: I do think we have to send them to an Italian restaurant if they go out again just so they can lady and tramp some spaghetti. It's kind of their thing.
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Speaker 2: Or a breadstick.
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Speaker 1: Oh, yeah.
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Speaker 2: There was no kiss at the end of the date. So, Brooke, what's running through your mind? Why wouldn't she be getting the call for date number two here?
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Speaker 1: It's so hard to know anymore. I mean, how single was this guy? Like, you met him out in the wild. Did you do any internet research on him?
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Speaker 4: I mean, he doesn't really have social media, so.
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Speaker 2: You've already had your hands in each other's mouths at this point, so what could be stopping him from wanting a little bit more of that?
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Speaker 1: Why is it going in?
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Speaker 2: At least a finger or two. A finger and a thumb. Hold on, I gotta get my thumb in there. Push it all the way to the back. I don't know how you do it, Claire. Let's just call Dan, and we'll see if he picks up and hopefully has some answers for us. You ready? Thanks, guys.
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think she's kind of over us at this point.
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Speaker 1: Most people by this point in the call regret their decision.
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Speaker 2: Perfect. We're right on track. Let's dial his number.
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Speaker 4: Here we go.
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Speaker 2: Hello? Hey, is this Dan? Yeah, who's this? Hey, man, this is a radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. How you doing?
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Speaker 3: Hey, Dan. Hi.
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Speaker 1: What up, Dan?
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Speaker 2: Good morning, brother.
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Speaker 3: Okay. Why are you calling?
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Speaker 2: We're trying to help out one of our listeners who went out with you recently, says she had a really nice time and is confused why there hasn't been a second hang.
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Speaker 3: Oh.
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Speaker 2: Okay. Okay, so this is a woman named Claire.
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Speaker 3: Of course.
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Speaker 1: Of course, you say.
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Speaker 2: You're expecting it.
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Speaker 3: Wow.
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Speaker 1: Interesting.
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Speaker 2: So what was your take on Claire?
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Speaker 3: Uh... Claire's really nice. Claire's really sweet. I had a good time with Claire.
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Speaker 1: That's awesome.
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Speaker 3: I don't know. I'm just a little more of a maybe.
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Speaker 2: What's making it a maybe and not a definite yes?
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Speaker 3: So like when we're walking to the table, I felt someone touch my back.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: And she was like, hold on. She adjusted my collar. She adjusted my shirt collar. It was a little crooked. That's nice.
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Speaker 1: I mean, I could see how some people would be, because you had just met her, right?
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Speaker 3: It was fine. I appreciated it. I noted that, like, oh, this person is very comfortable with me right away, and I just, like, you know, we had just met, but it was sweet. Okay.
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Speaker 4: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: Okay. So this isn't a bad check yet? Yeah.
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Speaker 3: None of these are bad checks. I just don't know how to take it.
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Speaker 2: You're just noting. Was there anything else?
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Speaker 3: So we order our food, and they bring the chips and salsa.
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Speaker 2: I'm curious on this one. Yeah, we heard a little bit about the chips and salsa. Tell us about it.
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Speaker 3: Oh, you did?
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Speaker 2: We did. She said that you two fed each other.
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Speaker 3: Yes. She fed me, and I fed her back. But mostly it was just like, I thought it was pretty funny.
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Speaker 2: Okay.
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Speaker 1: It's interesting because I would have thought, you know, you're listing these things and you're just noting them, but you're laughing and you sound like you're remembering the moments fondly.
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Speaker 3: I'm laughing because... When we were finished, she takes her napkin and she wipes a little bit of salsa from the corner of my mouth.
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Speaker 2: She takes her napkin and wipes your face with it?
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: What was your take on that? I was surprised by it.
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Speaker 3: I laughed out loud. I can't remember the last time somebody wiped my face for me with a napkin.
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Speaker 1: Probably when your mother did it.
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Speaker 2: Probably didn't want to say that. But did she ask, like, hey, you've got something there, or did she just go in for it?
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Speaker 3: So she, like, said, oh, you got a little something, and just, like, just went and did it.
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Speaker 2: As she's doing it, yeah.
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Speaker 3: And then she's, like, putting my napkin on my lap for me.
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Speaker 2: Oh, jeez.
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Speaker 1: It's a little smothering.
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Speaker 2: Okay, but you don't want a dirty lap. So I could see why she did that.
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Speaker 1: But she cares, you know? Like, she's doing sweet things.
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Speaker 3: Totally. I get that. And no other girl would ever do that for me or ever has done that for me. Does she stand up?
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Speaker 2: That's sweet. I mean, she's looking out for you. She's watching over you. Even listening in on this phone call to make sure that you're okay right now. She's there always.
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Speaker 3: Oh, that makes sense.
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Speaker 2: Really?
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Speaker 1: Does it? You think it fits with everything else?
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Speaker 2: Because I'm serious.
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Speaker 3: No, I mean, I just didn't. She's on the phone. Of course she is. I didn't think about that.
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Speaker 2: She's really there. Claire?
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Speaker 3: I did hear all of it.
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Speaker 4: And you know what? I do like hearing the voice of my dirty little Danny on the phone.
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Speaker 1: Wait, Dan, do you know that nickname already?
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Speaker 3: Yeah, she was using it at the restaurant. What the heck?
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Speaker 2: Dirty Danny? Is it a good reason? Is it like a dirty, like a sexy thing?
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Speaker 3: No, it was like when she went to wipe my mouth. She was like, oh, it's my dirty little Danny.
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Speaker 2: And then it just came back throughout the night.
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Speaker 1: Oh, she said it in like a turned on tone though.
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Speaker 2: Interesting. You know what? There's a lot happening. We should step back from this and let you two talk to each other. So Claire, talk to Dirty Dan for yourself. No.
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Speaker 4: You should know that I obviously like you because I don't do that with everyone.
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Speaker 3: And I want to.
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Speaker 4: Say that I know that I untapped your shirt at one point.
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Speaker 2: What?
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Speaker 3: Untapped it? Why?
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Speaker 4: Because he ate a little too much, and I could tell.
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Speaker 1: That is the... No, you'd untuck it to take the shirt off, I mean, at some point in the date, but not.
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Speaker 2: But what does Dan think of that?
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Speaker 3: That was actually... That was funny. What?
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Speaker 2: You like that.
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Speaker 1: If a man came over and unbuttoned my pants because they look.
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Speaker 2: A little tight, I'm going to.
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Speaker 1: Tell you it is not going over well.
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Speaker 2: Somebody shouldn't have had that six slice of pizza. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. But you don't sound totally opposed to it.
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Speaker 3: That's why I was telling you guys. It's like a mixed bag. Like we do kind of fit in certain ways. Oh, I do.
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Speaker 2: You like being doted on just a tiny bit.
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Speaker 4: I mean, here's the thing. I just truly believe that we do need to spend more time together, Dan. So I guess I'm sorry I untucked your shirt if you didn't like it. But I thought I was being helpful.
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Speaker 3: That's all I'm going to say.
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Speaker 2: Wow. Claire is just laying it out there, Dan. She really wants to see you again. And if you're willing to give her one more chance. We would pay for that date.
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Speaker 1: I will say it does sound like she's hearing you on some of these boundaries.
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Speaker 2: Totally.
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Speaker 3: And it's partly on me for not speaking up. But Claire, I would love to go on another date with you, provided you understand. That you understand that I just like I'm a little bit of a slow mover and I'm going to have to like get to know somebody.
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Speaker 1: A lot more.
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Speaker 3: Before I just like decide, oh, this is the person that for me.
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Speaker 2: Whoa. Using his big boy voice to lay down boundaries early in the relationship. Claire.
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Speaker 4: Totally understandable. I just want to let you know, I did hold back a little bit on this date. I almost put the straw down. to your lips for the margarita, and I chose not to.
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Speaker 1: Look at that restraint, Dan.
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Speaker 2: You know what?
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Speaker 3: I sensed that. I saw you go for my drink and then pull away from me. There you go.
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Speaker 1: It's going to be interesting to see where this goes.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, but it sounds like this is a success. We're going to send you two out one more time.
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Speaker 3: Yay!
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Speaker 2: And Dirty Danny, you're going to have to behave yourself.
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Speaker 1: I don't think she wants him to behave himself.
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Speaker 2: I think that's what gets her excited.
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Speaker 4: Danny, I'll be watching you. Oh, God.
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Speaker 2: I love it. This is funny.
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Speaker 3: Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
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Speaker 2: Well, it's been over seven months since we last spoke to Claire and Dirty Danny.
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Speaker 1: Dude.
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Speaker 2: That's a while. But we've got them back on today, which means they did go out again.
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Speaker 3: Yes.
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Speaker 2: And Danny, did you behave yourself?
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Speaker 3: I mean, I tried.
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Speaker 2: Liar.
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Speaker 1: Liar.
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Speaker 3: Bad boy.
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Speaker 2: Give me your ear.
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Speaker 1: Wait, are you guys still, are you still seeing each other?
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Speaker 3: Yeah, we did meet up and we're still seeing each other.
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Speaker 2: How did it go?
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Speaker 1: It's good.
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Speaker 4: It's great.
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Speaker 2: It's good. Okay. That's awesome.
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Speaker 1: That's cute.
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Speaker 3: Yeah. But it is one more interesting thing to the story, right? So I didn't know before that she was eight years older than me. Oh.
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Speaker 2: Okay. How did that come out?
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Speaker 1: Good for your age. I like that.
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Speaker 3: You know, I just thought she was younger. I'm, you know, compliments to her.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: But we went to the family's for dinner, right?
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Speaker 2: And I thought.
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Speaker 3: for most of the night that her mom was her grandma.
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Speaker 1: Okay, hopefully we didn't say that. Wait a minute. We kept that to ourselves, right?
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Speaker 3: No, I said it out loud. It was really embarrassing.
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Speaker 2: Oh, no. You literally said, oh, I thought you.
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Speaker 3: Were the grandma. It was okay.
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Speaker 4: No, no, it was totally okay. My family thought it was super funny. We were all laughing about it.
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Speaker 2: Oh, thank goodness.
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Speaker 1: Your mom has only booked three facelift appointments since then.
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Speaker 3: What a relief.
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Speaker 4: And, you know, they did not know about us coming on the podcast before and talking about this and our first date, talking to you guys and all of this. We just thought it was really funny.
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Speaker 3: The best part is that her mom wiped my mouth. Oh, wow.
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Speaker 1: No way.
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Speaker 2: Wait, what?
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Speaker 1: That is weird.
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Speaker 3: At the end of dinner, she, like, wiped the corner of my mouth.
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Speaker 2: And she hadn't heard the second date? That was just natural? That's just how she is?
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Speaker 3: No, yeah. So now I see where she gets it from. Yeah.
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Speaker 2: Oh, okay.
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Speaker 1: We all grow up to be our parents, whether we want to or not. That's true.
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Speaker 3: Wow.
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Speaker 1: I don't know.
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Speaker 3: We'll see how it goes from here. But I'm nervous to meet her grandma to find out what she does.
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Speaker 2: If the mom is wiping your mouth, who knows what grandma's.
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Speaker 3: Going to do. I don't know what she's going to do.
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Speaker 2: Well, that is good news, I think. Hey, you're together and that's good.
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Speaker 1: And you're meant for each other.
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Speaker 2: It's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
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Speaker 2: Whenever we call to learn about the pitfalls and mistakes of people's dating lives.
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: Very rarely do things get sentimental in a touchy-feely kind of way.
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Speaker 1: I know, because it would make Alexis too uncomfortable. Yeah, she would handle so much.
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Speaker 4: Emotions.
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Speaker 2: But today, it's a little different. One couple definitely got touchy-feely in a different kind of way.
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Speaker 3: Wait.
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Speaker 2: Well, it wasn't a bad thing, but it certainly was weird and a little unexpected. And even more unexpected that they'd be back on the show again to give us a special update update on what's happened since. So get ready for lots of touching and feeling in your second date update update next. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
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Speaker 1: Second date update.
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Speaker 2: When you meet someone special, what's the first thing that usually draws you in? Their eyes.
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Speaker 1: Their laugh.
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Speaker 2: Their hair. Their laugh. Speak for yourself.
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Speaker 3: No.
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Speaker 2: Today, it's their feet.
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Speaker 1: We're going to start here and usually end up here.
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Speaker 2: I'm not trying to be creepy about it. The reason that I bring it up is because our listener Claire says she met a guy that she's interested in. At a shoe store.
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Speaker 1: Oh, she's like the modern day Cinderella.
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Speaker 2: Could be. Claire, does it ever go through your mind that shoe stores are the hot spots for all the pervs? It's where they congregate.
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Speaker 1: Ew.
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Speaker 4: No, I don't think so.
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Speaker 2: OK, you don't hang out at the shoe stores that I hang out at. Everybody needs shoes.
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Speaker 1: I've never had a weird interaction at a shoe store, Jeff. So I think this may be just you.
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Speaker 2: Oh, I will give you some addresses that will change how you think. But OK, maybe this is a different type of shoe place. So tell us about how you met this guy. What's his name, by the way?
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Speaker 4: His name was Dan.
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Speaker 3: Okay.
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Speaker 4: I met him while I was basically, he wasn't actually helping me. He was helping this girl that was next to me.
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Speaker 3: Oh, wait.
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Speaker 1: He's an employee there.
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Speaker 2: Or is he just a random guy that goes around helping people at shoe stores?
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Speaker 4: No, he was super sweet. He actually does work there.
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Speaker 2: Okay. That's true, man. All right.
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Speaker 4: Like I said, he wasn't helping me directly, but he was helping a woman that was next to me.
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Speaker 3: And every time he would.
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Speaker 4: Go get her some shoes, he kind of would like chat up with me a little bit and like be like, oh, those shoes look great.
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Speaker 3: You know what I mean?
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Speaker 1: And more than just like I make commission nice. I mean, that.
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Speaker 4: Was the best part. I wasn't his customer. He wasn't making any commission off me.
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Speaker 1: Did you make a move?
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 4: Here's the thing. I went up to go buy my shoes and I told the girl that was checking me out. I actually gave her my number and said, can you give it to that guy over there, that shoe guy over there?
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Speaker 3: And, um, She did.
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Speaker 2: Wow.
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Speaker 4: I thought, you know, why the heck not? I'd never find anybody in the wild anymore. Always these dating apps, you know what I mean?
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Speaker 1: This is great.
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Speaker 2: Feet stores are better than Tinder now. Who would have thought we'd gotten to that point in life? But we made it. It came full circle, Jeff. This is awesome. So did he reach out to you?
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Speaker 3: He did.
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Speaker 4: He totally reached out to me. And he suggested a Mexican place, a hole in the wall. It was really nice.
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Speaker 2: How was the connection between you and Dan?
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Speaker 4: I thought it ended up being very natural. I was very happy. Like, I left.
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Speaker 2: Okay, was that Dan or was that the margaritas, though, that was.
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Speaker 1: Making you happy? Why can't it be both, Jeff?
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Speaker 2: That's true. But maybe something specific about Dan that happened that made you happy?
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Speaker 4: It was really playful between us.
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Speaker 3: I felt really good.
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Speaker 4: And at one point, we were feeding each other chips and salsa.
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Speaker 2: Each other? Interesting. That feels a little messy.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, but it was kind of sweet. It was really sweet.
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Speaker 2: That is cute. Okay, that was like a romantic move.
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Speaker 3: It was.
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Speaker 1: I gotta know who started that.
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Speaker 3: Who's the first person?
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Speaker 4: I kind of started it. I kind of wanted to show him that I was playful, and he reciprocated.
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Speaker 3: You see that.
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Speaker 2: In romantic movies where at a certain point they feed each other an hors d'oeuvre or something.
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Speaker 1: I don't know if I've ever fed anyone outside of my toddlers.
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Speaker 4: I really, truly can't think of it.
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Speaker 2: You've never been making a cake and you put some frosting on your husband's nose and you guys have a frosting fight?
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Speaker 1: No. Maybe I'm not romantic enough.
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Speaker 2: I mean, don't you think it would be nice at our next show dinner if at one point we all just stopped and fed the person to our right? Put a sushi roll in the next person's mouth.
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Speaker 1: I'm sick. I can't go.
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Speaker 2: Just the three of us then.
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Speaker 1: It doesn't matter what we think or do. It's that you liked it and you think Dan liked it because then he fed.
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Speaker 3: You, right?
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Speaker 1: That's the indicator that he was into it.
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Speaker 4: He did feed me back, yeah. It wasn't just me feeding him.
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Speaker 3: Oh, good.
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Speaker 2: You matched energy.
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Speaker 1: You have to be careful with sharp tortilla chips. You have a.
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Speaker 2: Gum or something. All right. I mean, this is sounding pretty good. How does the date end?
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Speaker 4: So basically, we got to know each other.
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Speaker 3: We talked about our jobs.
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Speaker 4: And then when we left, He walked me to my car, obviously, but he did not try to kiss me.
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Speaker 3: What?
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Speaker 2: You know what?
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Speaker 1: Brooke's outraged. Well, I am. The only reason I say what is you just fed each other. You would think that like.
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Speaker 2: But you feed your toddler.
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Speaker 1: You're intimately connected in a different type of way, right?
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 4: I totally know what you guys are saying, but I was actually okay with it. I don't really like to kiss on the first date. All right.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's all right. So he read you right. So that's good.
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Speaker 2: So that's how you left it. What's happened since then?
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Speaker 4: Not a whole lot has happened. I've texted him and he just kind of hearts. My text? Just, like, reacts to what you're... I'm kind of confused.
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Speaker 2: Well, it started off so great, I don't... I can't imagine what would have made him not want to kiss you and not want to call you back. So, let's try to figure that out for you. Maybe she wore a really ugly pair of shoes.
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Speaker 3: On the date.
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Speaker 1: Well, I bet he is judgy about shoes.
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Speaker 2: He's a shoe guy, right?
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Speaker 1: That's a good point. Some people think a shoe says everything about a person.
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Speaker 2: Really? I don't know who those people are, but we'll find out if your shoes weren't sexy enough. When we come back and do your second date update right after this. Hold on. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
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Speaker 1: Second date update. You're in the middle of a second date update update.
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Speaker 2: And we're going to.
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Speaker 1: Find out how the couple is doing right after you hear part two.
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Speaker 2: How does that romantic saying go? Couples who love each other, feed each other.
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Speaker 1: I've never heard that. Is that something that's hanging in your kitchen?
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Speaker 2: It should be.
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Speaker 1: One of those cute little life love signs.
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Speaker 2: Our listener, Claire, is well on her way to that. Because on her first hangout with Dan, the shoe salesman, they were hand-feeding each other chips and salsa at a Mexican restaurant. And you don't do that on a first date unless there's an obvious connection happening. Not to mention the flowing margaritas.
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Speaker 1: I do think we have to send them to an Italian restaurant if they go out again just so they can lady and tramp some spaghetti. It's kind of their thing.
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Speaker 2: Or a breadstick.
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Speaker 1: Oh, yeah.
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Speaker 2: There was no kiss at the end of the date. So, Brooke, what's running through your mind? Why wouldn't she be getting the call for date number two here?
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Speaker 1: It's so hard to know anymore. I mean, how single was this guy? Like, you met him out in the wild. Did you do any internet research on him?
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Speaker 4: I mean, he doesn't really have social media, so.
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Speaker 2: You've already had your hands in each other's mouths at this point, so what could be stopping him from wanting a little bit more of that?
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Speaker 1: Why is it going in?
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Speaker 2: At least a finger or two. A finger and a thumb. Hold on, I gotta get my thumb in there. Push it all the way to the back. I don't know how you do it, Claire. Let's just call Dan, and we'll see if he picks up and hopefully has some answers for us. You ready? Thanks, guys.
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think she's kind of over us at this point.
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Speaker 1: Most people by this point in the call regret their decision.
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Speaker 2: Perfect. We're right on track. Let's dial his number.
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Speaker 4: Here we go.
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Speaker 2: Hello? Hey, is this Dan? Yeah, who's this? Hey, man, this is a radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. How you doing?
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Speaker 3: Hey, Dan. Hi.
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Speaker 1: What up, Dan?
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Speaker 2: Good morning, brother.
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Speaker 3: Okay. Why are you calling?
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Speaker 2: We're trying to help out one of our listeners who went out with you recently, says she had a really nice time and is confused why there hasn't been a second hang.
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Speaker 3: Oh.
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Speaker 2: Okay. Okay, so this is a woman named Claire.
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Speaker 3: Of course.
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Speaker 1: Of course, you say.
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Speaker 2: You're expecting it.
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Speaker 3: Wow.
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Speaker 1: Interesting.
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Speaker 2: So what was your take on Claire?
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Speaker 3: Uh... Claire's really nice. Claire's really sweet. I had a good time with Claire.
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Speaker 1: That's awesome.
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Speaker 3: I don't know. I'm just a little more of a maybe.
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Speaker 2: What's making it a maybe and not a definite yes?
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Speaker 3: So like when we're walking to the table, I felt someone touch my back.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: And she was like, hold on. She adjusted my collar. She adjusted my shirt collar. It was a little crooked. That's nice.
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Speaker 1: I mean, I could see how some people would be, because you had just met her, right?
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Speaker 3: It was fine. I appreciated it. I noted that, like, oh, this person is very comfortable with me right away, and I just, like, you know, we had just met, but it was sweet. Okay.
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Speaker 4: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: Okay. So this isn't a bad check yet? Yeah.
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Speaker 3: None of these are bad checks. I just don't know how to take it.
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Speaker 2: You're just noting. Was there anything else?
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Speaker 3: So we order our food, and they bring the chips and salsa.
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Speaker 2: I'm curious on this one. Yeah, we heard a little bit about the chips and salsa. Tell us about it.
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Speaker 3: Oh, you did?
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Speaker 2: We did. She said that you two fed each other.
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Speaker 3: Yes. She fed me, and I fed her back. But mostly it was just like, I thought it was pretty funny.
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Speaker 2: Okay.
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Speaker 1: It's interesting because I would have thought, you know, you're listing these things and you're just noting them, but you're laughing and you sound like you're remembering the moments fondly.
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Speaker 3: I'm laughing because... When we were finished, she takes her napkin and she wipes a little bit of salsa from the corner of my mouth.
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Speaker 2: She takes her napkin and wipes your face with it?
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: What was your take on that? I was surprised by it.
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Speaker 3: I laughed out loud. I can't remember the last time somebody wiped my face for me with a napkin.
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Speaker 1: Probably when your mother did it.
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Speaker 2: Probably didn't want to say that. But did she ask, like, hey, you've got something there, or did she just go in for it?
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Speaker 3: So she, like, said, oh, you got a little something, and just, like, just went and did it.
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Speaker 2: As she's doing it, yeah.
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Speaker 3: And then she's, like, putting my napkin on my lap for me.
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Speaker 2: Oh, jeez.
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Speaker 1: It's a little smothering.
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Speaker 2: Okay, but you don't want a dirty lap. So I could see why she did that.
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Speaker 1: But she cares, you know? Like, she's doing sweet things.
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Speaker 3: Totally. I get that. And no other girl would ever do that for me or ever has done that for me. Does she stand up?
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Speaker 2: That's sweet. I mean, she's looking out for you. She's watching over you. Even listening in on this phone call to make sure that you're okay right now. She's there always.
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Speaker 3: Oh, that makes sense.
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Speaker 2: Really?
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Speaker 1: Does it? You think it fits with everything else?
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Speaker 2: Because I'm serious.
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Speaker 3: No, I mean, I just didn't. She's on the phone. Of course she is. I didn't think about that.
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Speaker 2: She's really there. Claire?
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Speaker 3: I did hear all of it.
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Speaker 4: And you know what? I do like hearing the voice of my dirty little Danny on the phone.
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Speaker 1: Wait, Dan, do you know that nickname already?
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Speaker 3: Yeah, she was using it at the restaurant. What the heck?
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Speaker 2: Dirty Danny? Is it a good reason? Is it like a dirty, like a sexy thing?
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Speaker 3: No, it was like when she went to wipe my mouth. She was like, oh, it's my dirty little Danny.
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Speaker 2: And then it just came back throughout the night.
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Speaker 1: Oh, she said it in like a turned on tone though.
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Speaker 2: Interesting. You know what? There's a lot happening. We should step back from this and let you two talk to each other. So Claire, talk to Dirty Dan for yourself. No.
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Speaker 4: You should know that I obviously like you because I don't do that with everyone.
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Speaker 3: And I want to.
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Speaker 4: Say that I know that I untapped your shirt at one point.
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Speaker 2: What?
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Speaker 3: Untapped it? Why?
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Speaker 4: Because he ate a little too much, and I could tell.
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Speaker 1: That is the... No, you'd untuck it to take the shirt off, I mean, at some point in the date, but not.
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Speaker 2: But what does Dan think of that?
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Speaker 3: That was actually... That was funny. What?
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Speaker 2: You like that.
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Speaker 1: If a man came over and unbuttoned my pants because they look.
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Speaker 2: A little tight, I'm going to.
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Speaker 1: Tell you it is not going over well.
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Speaker 2: Somebody shouldn't have had that six slice of pizza. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. But you don't sound totally opposed to it.
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Speaker 3: That's why I was telling you guys. It's like a mixed bag. Like we do kind of fit in certain ways. Oh, I do.
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Speaker 2: You like being doted on just a tiny bit.
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Speaker 4: I mean, here's the thing. I just truly believe that we do need to spend more time together, Dan. So I guess I'm sorry I untucked your shirt if you didn't like it. But I thought I was being helpful.
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Speaker 3: That's all I'm going to say.
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Speaker 2: Wow. Claire is just laying it out there, Dan. She really wants to see you again. And if you're willing to give her one more chance. We would pay for that date.
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Speaker 1: I will say it does sound like she's hearing you on some of these boundaries.
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Speaker 2: Totally.
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Speaker 3: And it's partly on me for not speaking up. But Claire, I would love to go on another date with you, provided you understand. That you understand that I just like I'm a little bit of a slow mover and I'm going to have to like get to know somebody.
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Speaker 1: A lot more.
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Speaker 3: Before I just like decide, oh, this is the person that for me.
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Speaker 2: Whoa. Using his big boy voice to lay down boundaries early in the relationship. Claire.
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Speaker 4: Totally understandable. I just want to let you know, I did hold back a little bit on this date. I almost put the straw down. to your lips for the margarita, and I chose not to.
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Speaker 1: Look at that restraint, Dan.
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Speaker 2: You know what?
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Speaker 3: I sensed that. I saw you go for my drink and then pull away from me. There you go.
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Speaker 1: It's going to be interesting to see where this goes.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, but it sounds like this is a success. We're going to send you two out one more time.
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Speaker 3: Yay!
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Speaker 2: And Dirty Danny, you're going to have to behave yourself.
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Speaker 1: I don't think she wants him to behave himself.
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Speaker 2: I think that's what gets her excited.
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Speaker 4: Danny, I'll be watching you. Oh, God.
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Speaker 2: I love it. This is funny.
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Speaker 3: Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
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Speaker 2: Well, it's been over seven months since we last spoke to Claire and Dirty Danny.
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Speaker 1: Dude.
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Speaker 2: That's a while. But we've got them back on today, which means they did go out again.
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Speaker 3: Yes.
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Speaker 2: And Danny, did you behave yourself?
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Speaker 3: I mean, I tried.
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Speaker 2: Liar.
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Speaker 1: Liar.
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Speaker 3: Bad boy.
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Speaker 2: Give me your ear.
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Speaker 1: Wait, are you guys still, are you still seeing each other?
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Speaker 3: Yeah, we did meet up and we're still seeing each other.
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Speaker 2: How did it go?
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Speaker 1: It's good.
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Speaker 4: It's great.
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Speaker 2: It's good. Okay. That's awesome.
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Speaker 1: That's cute.
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Speaker 3: Yeah. But it is one more interesting thing to the story, right? So I didn't know before that she was eight years older than me. Oh.
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Speaker 2: Okay. How did that come out?
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Speaker 1: Good for your age. I like that.
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Speaker 3: You know, I just thought she was younger. I'm, you know, compliments to her.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: But we went to the family's for dinner, right?
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Speaker 2: And I thought.
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Speaker 3: for most of the night that her mom was her grandma.
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Speaker 1: Okay, hopefully we didn't say that. Wait a minute. We kept that to ourselves, right?
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Speaker 3: No, I said it out loud. It was really embarrassing.
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Speaker 2: Oh, no. You literally said, oh, I thought you.
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Speaker 3: Were the grandma. It was okay.
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Speaker 4: No, no, it was totally okay. My family thought it was super funny. We were all laughing about it.
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Speaker 2: Oh, thank goodness.
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Speaker 1: Your mom has only booked three facelift appointments since then.
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Speaker 3: What a relief.
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Speaker 4: And, you know, they did not know about us coming on the podcast before and talking about this and our first date, talking to you guys and all of this. We just thought it was really funny.
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Speaker 3: The best part is that her mom wiped my mouth. Oh, wow.
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Speaker 1: No way.
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Speaker 2: Wait, what?
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Speaker 1: That is weird.
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Speaker 3: At the end of dinner, she, like, wiped the corner of my mouth.
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Speaker 2: And she hadn't heard the second date? That was just natural? That's just how she is?
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Speaker 3: No, yeah. So now I see where she gets it from. Yeah.
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Speaker 2: Oh, okay.
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Speaker 1: We all grow up to be our parents, whether we want to or not. That's true.
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Speaker 3: Wow.
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Speaker 1: I don't know.
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Speaker 3: We'll see how it goes from here. But I'm nervous to meet her grandma to find out what she does.
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Speaker 2: If the mom is wiping your mouth, who knows what grandma's.
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Speaker 3: Going to do. I don't know what she's going to do.
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Speaker 2: Well, that is good news, I think. Hey, you're together and that's good.
00:18:05
Speaker 1: And you're meant for each other.
00:18:06
Speaker 2: It's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
