Accepting a Lie Doesn’t Make You Polite | Accidental Education: Reality Lab

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I once worked with the producer who told me that
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if I took off my hat and set it down somewhere,
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that you would pick it up and smell it. I
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didn't have a follow up question because I thought that
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might be rude, So I just went with the flow.
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Spending the globe from the four corners of the world,
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traveling the.
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While entertaining millions in secrecy. These are lessons learned through
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not so average experience from a life spent creative reality television.
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This accidental the case with your guys.
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Welcome to Accidental Education Reality Lab. I am your adjunct professor,
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Tom Cunningham, and this podcast in general is about my
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education that I got.
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Through working in reality television.
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Working in this industry has led me to travel to
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places that I wouldn't ever imagined as a little kid
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growing up in Naples, Florida, but it has, and I've
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learned a lot of life lessons, and I've learned a
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lot about history. I've learned a lot about world politics,
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and all those experiences have helped shape my views on
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every topic that you could ever imagine. Getting back to
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the story that I led with, Yes, I was working
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on a show. I think it was for the back
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of the time. There's a cable show cable channel called
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ABC Family, and I was doing it.
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I was a cameraman a.
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Show called Switched, and basically you had a person a
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person B who led different lives that were, you know,
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pretty dramatically different, and then they would switch positions and
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the idea was to learn from each other's experiences. I
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was working with this producer. She was a relatively young
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field producer. I was young at the time, but I
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had been working in reality television longer than she had,
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because this was right at the beginning of it where
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shows were cropping up all over the place and everybody
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wanted a reality show. So we were in the our
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mini van had all our gear in it, and she
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came right out and told me and said, hey, if
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you put your hat down.
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I'm going to have to pick it up and smell it.
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I thought that was really unusual, but I didn't want
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to be rude and ask a follow up questions, so
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I figured I'd just go with the flow, and eventually
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I did put my hat down and she did smell it,
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and then she looked at me with the sort of
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sheepish eyes and put it back down and said, it's
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just what I.
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Do, it's what I'm into.
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And from that moment on, I tried not to take
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my hat off and set it down because I didn't
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want to feel like that I was engaging in whatever
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issue that she was dealing with.
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So for the remainder of.
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The days, I kept my hat perfectly affixed onto my
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head whenever I.
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Was in her presence.
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And I think a lot of times we get sucked
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into these traps of wanting to have good manners around
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people and not upset them, even though not upsetting them.
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Might pull us into a different reality or a different
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way of life that we are not accustomed to.
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And it's okay if you feel like, you know what,
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I'm not into being a furry So I don't really
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want to engage with somebody and like have a conversation
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with somebody who's, you know, weren't wearing.
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A full on, you know, raccoon suit.
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I'm just not comfortable, you know, talking about the war
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in Iran with somebody who's talking through a muffled giant
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furry head.
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That doesn't mean that you dislike the person.
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It just means that they're in a position and they're
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engaging in activity that you don't particularly.
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Want to engage with, and they're you know what.
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And I'm not gonna lie and say that there have
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been times where out of curiosity, I've.
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Engaged in conversations with the furries, but it's.
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Never been a situation where I was having to accept
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them into the world that I was living. And actually
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I was at a S and M convention. Well, let
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me backtrack a little bit. The hotel I was staying
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at was hosting an S and M convention, So you
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had a lot of people dressed in latex gas masks,
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all kind of any kind of weird fetish that you
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could imagine was there, and then you had your.
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Contingent of furries that were there.
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So I was in an elevator with the furry just
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kind of chit chatting as one does, and you know,
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just asking basic basic questions, is it hot in there?
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Do you find it hard to breathe? That sort of
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just regular conversation, and I got off on my floor.
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And that was the end of the you know, my
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interaction with somebody from the furry fetish population. But we've
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come to a place since societ where it's almost it's
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almost rude. It's a certain segment that the population takes
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it as being rude if you have follow up questions
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to somebody and and it's it's just like, it's the
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victimization world that we find ourselves living in, where there's
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higher stock in somebody.
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That's being a victim.
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I know, I come from a different generation, the generation xers,
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where you took a tremendous amount of pride in not
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being a victim and just dealing with the cards that
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you were dealt and moving on and trying to be.
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The best at whatever it was. But we've slowly, slowly
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have gone to a position.
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Where your stock rises even higher if there's something wrong
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with you, whether it's real or not, or something that
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you fabricated. And what we're finding more and more is
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a fabrication of grievance or a fabrication of victimhood. And
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in a healthy society that's just not sustainable.
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You have to have.
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People who are able to you know, as I was
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told when I was a kid, and still hear it
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occasionally nowadays, suck it up, Buttercup, just keep moving. And
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that mentality seems to have gone away. And when I
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first became aware of it was it my son's soccer game.
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He was about my son's going to turn nineteen in September,
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so he was probably about eight, so eleven years ago.
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His team lost and at the end of the game,
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you know, the kids line up and they shake hands,
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go game, good game.
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And then all the mothers from my.
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Son's team ran out into the field and made this
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mommy tower, and all the kids passed through. All my
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son's team passed through the mommy tower, and they're like, oh, yay,
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good for you, Oh good, try better luck next time.
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And I thought to myself, that's just weird. I understand,
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you know, when your kids don't win at something and
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giving them encouragement and telling them not to quit and
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keep going. But as a parent, you have a tendency
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to go overboard and try and mitigate bad things that
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happen to your kids.
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Of course, you want to keep your kids away from danger.
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That's you know, danger and threats and anything bad.
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That'll happen to them.
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But in certain instances, especially when it comes to winning
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and losing in a competitive environment, you want to soften
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the blow a little bit, but you don't want to
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take the sting out of the misery of losing. And
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I think that's one of the lessons that's not being
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taught in sports nowadays is we've gotten to a point
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where parents have become so protective of their children not
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enduring something difficult that when the kids get older, they
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manufacture difficult difficulties. It's like don Quixote, you know, when
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your life is so good that when you reach a
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certain age, especially when you go off to college, and
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there hasn't been too many struggles, and you don't have
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the tools in your toolkit to be able to understand
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that there are going to be setbacks and you can
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move forward even though there are setbacks. You start looking
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for windmills that you think are dragons that need to
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be slayed, and those windmills aren't really there because you've
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been so insulated from such a young age to keep
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the real dragons away, and so when you get older,
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you create these fictitious dragons that you have to slay.
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And that.
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Has turned into a culmination of the whole victimhood society
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that seems to be prevalent in not only the United
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States but in parts of Europe. You don't I don't
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think you really see it in Asia, but Western civilization
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you see.
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It a lot.
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And the whole Jade and Daniels situation going on to
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me has a lot to do with the mommy tower.
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Jade and Daniels had a great career in college, Heisman
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Trophy winner, went to LSU, and now he's with the
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Washington Commanders. His mom is his agent.
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And I understand a son's love for their mother. That's great.
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And I understand what the Bible says about honoring your
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mother and father and listening to them. Totally agree with
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it one hundred percent. But there also is.
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A time when a son has to go out on
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his own.
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You can still honor your mother and father, but not
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have them be an integral part of your life. There's
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a point where a boy has to become a man,
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and to me, leaving the house, going out on your
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own and being a professional, that's the point. You know,
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even in college, you could say, you know, it's great,
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you know when things aren't going well, to give your
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parents a call, let them know what's going on, you know,
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have them give you a little bit of a pep talk,
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give you a little bit of advice to you, and
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then you move on and you face whatever adversity comes next.
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But in the situation with his mom.
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Being his agent, I just to me, that is like
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the roughest thing that I could ever imagine, because we've
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come to a point where she is now telling she's
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she well she the attorneys within the whole management hierarchy
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of the Jaden Daniels management has sent a cease and
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desist order to LSU saying that nobody can wear the
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number five. And this is a tremendous backlash, especially.
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When your mom is your agent.
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It would be different if you had a third party
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who is your agent, who is fighting this battle, But
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when mommy's fighting the battle, it just gets really weird.
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The optics just look horrible on this.
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And I'm not sure how much Jayden Daniels himself has
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to do with the controversy that's going on that his
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mother has started, but it goes back to that mommy
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tower of I'm going to do what's best for my son,
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and I'm his best advocate. And that's true. Mothers are
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always going to be the best advocate for their sons.
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But when it comes to business, you have to be
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able to take emotion out of it.
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And this situation feels like it's.
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Overwrought with emotion where it's WHOA, I'm going to make
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a stand, I'm going to be girl boss, I'm going
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to lay down the law, and this is how it's
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going to be.
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And to me, it would be different if Jaden Daniels.
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Had spent you know, all four years at LSU and
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they were going to retire his number. And the whole
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retiring of numbers is just silly because it's like this
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person was so good that nobody will ever be able
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to wear that number again. With this in this day
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and age of name, image and likeness.
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That's just impossible. That can't be done.
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Because a lot of kids make their decision on where
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they're going based on a number, and that's another weird
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thing to me as well, But it is what it is,
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and that's the world that we're living in right now.
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But having your mom constantly fighting your battles, you're just
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going to be really ill equipped to deal with any
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sort of hardship because now going into this next football season,
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which starts here in what three weeks, everything that he
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does on the field is now going to be met with, oh,
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MoMA's boy.
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This MoMA's boy. That it's just.
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It sends a bad sign. And again I understand that.
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And well I shouldn't say I understand because I fortunately
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came and grew up.
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In a two parent household, but I do.
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And it does seem like, you know, he's got a
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very strong bond with his mother.
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Because of that.
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Relationship that they had of you know, her being the
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head of the household. But for her, I mean, there
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comes a time where you've got to let your son
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become a man and let him go out on his own,
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and you can still advise him, but once you start
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taking control over his finances and negotiations, that part of it,
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there's just there's just too much room for error, and
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there's just too much room. I mean, I can't imagine
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Jayden Daniels and how he feels about, you know, being
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in the locker room and expecting to be a leader
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of a professional football organization when mommy's fighting your battles.
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That to me is not that's like arrested development. It's
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not like a true leader somebody who's rising up and saying, okay,
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all right, everybody, get together. You need to get your
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shit together. You know, on that you are dogging it
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on that last pass route. Get it a little bit
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more crisp, I'll throw you the ball.
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this person, I'm like, oh, what are you going to
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do if I don't do that? Are you going to
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tell your mom? Are you going to run home with
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your mom and tell her that I'm not playing the
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way that you want me to play as an adult
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in somebody who's in a leadership role, It's just it's
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counterintuitive for other men to want to be led by
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that person who his mother is fighting his battles for him.
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So I think she's doing a tremendous.
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Disservice to Jadeen Daniels and the effectiveness of his leadership.
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And plus the optics are just so bad and they're
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just so petty where they're fighting over a number, and
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I understand what she's trying to do with the and
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I you know, LSU not using his name, image and likeness,
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that's totally fine, but saying that LSU can't use a
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certain number.
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Hey, man, if you don't want to have anything to.
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Do with LSU and you want your heisman trophy that's
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on display, there, fine, take it back. But when you
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start demanding and you start fighting on your son's behalf
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for something that seems like an emotional outburst that you
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didn't get your way, it seems like it is a
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lack of control. It's a lack of emotional control. And
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how can your son be expected to lead a group
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of men out onto a field and compete when you're
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looked at as, Oh, if things don't go well, it's okay,
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I'm gonna call my mom and she's gonna make everything better.
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I know.
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If it were myself, and I'm a totally different generation
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from those guys who are in the locker room, I
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think that was weird. I think it was really weird.
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Even though we're totally different generations, something inside me would
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send off.
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You know, alarm, saying I don't know about this guy.
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Is he a true leader? I know he's very athletic.
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He can throw the ball, he can run the ball,
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But does he have that little extra gear that are
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true champion has or when times get tough and he
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needs to find that gear, is he going to collapse
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because his mommy isn't there. So if I were Jade
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Daniels and I'm not, but if I were, I would
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make a call to my mom and say, look, we
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need to have a come to Jesus meeting and talk
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about your role in my organization now, because now Jaden
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Daniels is the product, and you do want an advocate
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in there making sure that nobody's taking your money and
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they have what's best for you at the forefront of
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all the decision making that's going on.
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I get that, but you can find that in.
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Somebody else, and that's where I think Jaden Daniels needs
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to step out away from his mother, bring somebody else
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into that mix that could make clear Sise's decisions and
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not base them on emotion and not base it on
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you know what, I'm gonna make my presence known. I'm
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going to be this fierce boss bitch who's looking out
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for my son.
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And you're gonna have to answer to me in the end.
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I think it's going to be detrimental to his career
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if she keeps going down this path. Speaking of going
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down bad paths, Oh my gosh.
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The WNBA.
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Just when you think the WA the NBA couldn't get
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any worse or as far as I'm considered better, they
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do this is these these are like the most self
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owns I've ever seen before. And to me, what's fascinating
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about the WNBA is the makeup of it and their
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belief system, because what you have is a professional league
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that's made up of a certain belief system, and that
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belief system is built around Marxism, and it's built around
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the belief that whatever they're in, the players, the owners,
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and the coaches are indoctrinated with everybody else who either
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is a new player or wants to be a fan
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of the league has to share that same belief in Marxism.
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And it's just it's it's fascinating to watch. And what
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makes the WA NBA different from other professional leagues is
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totally subsidized by the NBA. So basically you're dealing with
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a five oh one C three. So when you don't
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when when someone's giving you money, you can have these
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fanciful beliefs in Marxism, which is what they adhere to,
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because you're not under the pressure of playing for your fans.
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They have a certain fan that they cater to and
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that's all they care about.
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New fans that have come along because of Caitlin Clark
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and even newer fans because of Sophie Cunningham, are starting
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to see exactly what this WNBA situation is. And then
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throw in one of my favorites of all time, the
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head coach of the Indiana Fever, Stephanie White guilt. As
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you all know, there was a hard foul over the
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weekend with Sophie Cunningham and Djna Carrington and.
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A technical call, a technical technical foul was called.
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Djna was thrown out of the game when immediately immediately
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to the locker room tweeted out white privilege at Indiana Fever.
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Pretty obvious what Djna Carrington was trying to say that
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she got kicked out of the game because she fouled
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a white girl. Obvious, right, Oh no, not in the
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mind of a Marxist, It's not obvious. Djona then comes out,
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you know, after all the backlash, saying, oh, you just
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assumed my intentions that had nothing to do with the foul.
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Oh really, you really think that we're that dumb?
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And yes they do, because later on in the week
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you have Royce White and you have Enis Kanter saying
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that it was last week when they declared themselves eligible
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for the NBA draft.
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So you've got that whole, that whole like.
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Schism now of what is a woman being thrown into
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the WNBA because their dog their mantra is if a
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trans woman, if a trans person says they if a
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man says he's a woman, he.
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Is a woman. That's it. That's the bottom line. And
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you have to accept that.
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That's a very very cut and dry and a hard
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line opinion. And what you're basically what basically what you're
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doing is you're telling.
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People that they have to skip the.
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Knowledge that they've accumulated over their lives and pretend that
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what they know is not real. You're getting them to
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buy into a lie, knowingly buy into a lie. And
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a lot of people like myself don't want to buy
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into lies. I don't want to buy into lies of
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JFK nine to eleven, the earth being round, you name it.
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I am so far away.
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From believing anything that I'm told, especially by the government,
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that I am not going to believe anyone saying, Okay,
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you know the.
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Sky is green when I know the sky is blue.
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And that's what we're being told by the WNBA is
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that a man.
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Who identifies as a woman is now a woman biologically,
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they're not.
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We know that not to be true.
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And now we're being told, well, you're a bigot if
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you don't buy into this narrative, which is ridiculous. You're
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not a bigot if you've got the truth.
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On your side. You know what the truth is. You
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know that their XX and.
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Xy chromosomes is pretty basic. We all, this was all
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something that we knew up until twenty twenty, when evidently
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cern got really turned on and cranked up and the
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world just turned upside down onto its head. So now
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Stephanie White Guilt enters the fracas talking about love and
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inclusion during her press conference before a game and talking
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about how she didn't see the fall the foul on
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Sophie Cunningham because she got a lot of backlash because
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when she came onto the court after this little frankas erupted,
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she went directly to Djna Carrington and didn't check on
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her own player, and so of course throughout social media
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it's like, look, Stephanie White Gilt cares more about the
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aggressor than the victim, which is true in the Marxist philosophy,
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because the aggressor is the oppressed. They're forced into that
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position because the oppressor has.
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Put him there.
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And in this whole narrative that the Marxist WNBA has
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is that white people are the oppressor and minorities are
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the victims.
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So you can never once.
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You have that victimhood status, you can never be the oppressor.
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So if you do something blatantly against somebody based you know,
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on a hard foul or on race or whatever it is,
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even though you're the aggressor, you're the victim.
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And that was what was on.
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Display with Stephanie White Guilt's reaction to the foul and
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then she gets into the press conference and talking about
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love and inclusion and which.
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Is all great.
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And believe me, I have nothing against the trans community whatsoever.
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If anything, I feel a tremendous amount of sympathy for
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somebody who actually believes that they have been born inside
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the wrong body, and I support whatever decision they make
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as an adult, as somebody who's over the.
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Over eighteen years old of age and is able to
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make a decision for themselves that's going to affect the
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rest of their life.
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Whatever you want to do, I might not agree with it,
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but I agree with the fact that you're.
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Able to make that decision.
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And if I'm working with somebody who has transitioned, and
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I have in the past, they're a female, they're a
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male or a female.
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I've had experiences with both. They don't have to tell
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me their pronouns. I get what life they're living.
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And since we're co workers, and since we have to
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carry on together in an environment, in a team environment
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where we have to move forward and get the job done,
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I'm not going to harp over whatever pronoun they're going
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to use.
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And I don't use any pronouns. I call them by
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their first name, whatever.
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That might be, and I just expect them to do
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the job that they were hired to do.
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And at the end of the day, we.
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Have a couple of beers, shake hands, move on to
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the next project.
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But now we find.
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Ourselves in situations where it's almost inescapable, especially if you're
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being polite and you misgender somebody. I would say ninety
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percent of the time that people doing the misgendering don't
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mean to do it. They actually think that they're being
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polite and addressing somebody by either Ma'm or sir.
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And.
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That's taken the wrong way.
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So it's just a it's a perpetual doom loop of
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of victimhood having more social credit than achievement.
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And that's a that's a tough one. That's that's just
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a tough world to live in.
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And again it goes back to truth. What is truth?
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What are you seeing?
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What are you telling me?
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Are you telling me to believe in something that I
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don't believe in? Being a conspiracy theorist or, as I
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like to say, a pattern recognitionist, I don't force people
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into my beliefs.
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I just tell you what I believe, and a lot
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of time I.
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Get mocked and ridiculed for it, and I think it's
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great because.
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To me, it's all about humor. And you know, there
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are a few things that you know, I kind of
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lean toward.
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Okay, maybe that's true, maybe it's not, but I'll engage
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in a conversation and I'll even take the side that's
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you know, less popular. You know, if I get into
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conversation with somebody about the Earth being flat, is it flat?
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I don't know. I mean, it's all perspective. I mean,
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you know, is it I don't have anything circled, but
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is it a ball that we're looking at?
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And the perspective is seeing it like this or is
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it a puddle where the where the perspective is.
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It's actually shaped like this, but we're looking at it
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like that.
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So it's still circular, but it's flat.
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That could be. I don't know for sure.
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All I do know is the government has lied to
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me my entire life, and up until COVID, I believe.
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The the world was round, but now I kind of
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questioned it. And lastly, this whole.
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Acceptance and being forced in this forced acceptance without.
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With the fear of being.
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Called a name to me, this all started with casual Friday.
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I know this is going to sound strange, but hear
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me out and the I I think it was the
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early nineteen sixties. There was a couple from California who
496
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went to Hawaii. And I don't know like the names
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or who exactly these people were, but I do know
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that they were from California and they went out and
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00:32:39.839 --> 00:32:43.079
they were exposed to what they called the locals called
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Aloha Friday, where local businesses would dress down and they'd wear,
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00:32:48.720 --> 00:32:53.480
you know, to your traditional aloha shirts, and they thought
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that was really neat went back to California and whoever
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it was and however it went down, and this is.
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My best guess of how it happened.
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It was a male and female who were on vacation
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in Hawaii and casual Friday. Hewlett Packard has been credited
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for the first company to have casual Friday in their business.
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So for my.
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Story, it's gonna be Lou and Angie who go to
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Who go to Hawaii?
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And Angie sees the Aloha.
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Shirts and she's like, Oh, Lou, you see everybody in
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those Aloha shirts.
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Isn't that fantastic? You know what I think? I think
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that you should tell your bosses that Hewlett Packard that
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you should have an Aloha Friday.
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Lou was driving the car, all right, you know, maybe
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I'll bring it up in a meeting. What's the harm
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in it other than getting mocked and ridiculed.
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You know how the old man is who runs the company.
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You know, it's.
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Dress shirt, it's tie, it's cod I know, but Lou,
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you should tell him what a pleasant environment it was.
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And these businesses that we saw about how the employees
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loved it, how I loved how the customers love it.
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It could be you know what, louke, It could foster creativity. Well, yeah,
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I can see how foster creativity, you know, not having
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the tie on.
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All right, I'll bring it up in a meeting, Oh, Lou,
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I think that's a fantastic idea. And so.
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A couple months later, Lo's back in the office having
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his meeting at Hewlett Packard.
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The boss is there smoking a cigarette.
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All right, before we wrap up this meeting for the week,
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does anybody have anything.
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They want to discuss, anything that we could implement. And
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then you have Lou thinking about.
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That conversation with Angie, knowing that if he goes back home.
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And tells her that he was in another.
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Meeting and didn't bring up the idea of Aloha Friday.
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There would be hell to pay. So Loose sits there,
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sheepishly raises his hand. The boss sees it, Lou, you
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got something.
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It better be good. It's almost cocktail hour. Loose looks
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around at everybody in the meeting. Just as classes Angie
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and I were on vacation two months ago, went to
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Hawaii and went into one of the businesses, and we
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00:36:03.920 --> 00:36:04.920
saw that everyone was.
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Wearing Aloha shirts.
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And I think us wearing Aloha shirts on Fridays would
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be a lot of fun, and I think it would
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foster creativity, creativity.
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I don't like the sounds of this. Sounds very communist
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to me. Plus, we have a dress code around here.
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I'd hate, I hate to.
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Relax the dress code because our clients, they expect us
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to look professional.
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And that's when somebody else in the meeting chimed up. IRV.
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IRV chimes in, well, you know I was, I too,
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was in Hawaii with my wife Nancy ed we saw
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the same thing. And you know, as somebody who does
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a lot of programming, and you know, it's very important
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for us to think out of the box at times,
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and you know, the necktie could be a bit constricted.
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And I think there would be a good idea because
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it would foster you know, like Lewis saying creativity, that
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creativity would also translate into productivity.
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00:37:28.639 --> 00:37:37.519
Productivity you mean we could get more out of the workers.
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Yeah.
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I think that we could get more out of the
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workers because you would let out barriers and once those
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00:37:46.880 --> 00:37:51.119
barriers are down and then poof, the imagination runs wild.
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00:37:52.239 --> 00:37:52.800
Yeah.
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I agree with IRV. I think it's a tremendous idea.
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And you know, I I do believe that there is
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room for growth.
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Or productivity.
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All right, loop, go ahead and put it in a memo,
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work with Irving on it, put it up in the
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break room.
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It's not going to be a looja though. Let's make
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it more casual. And then casual Friday was born to me.
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Casual Friday set the precedent.
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For it began.
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The idea began great, because I'm not one to like
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fall in line with, you know, whatever the fashion is.
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I like to, you know, kind of do my own thing.
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But in doing your own thing, you also have to
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00:38:47.039 --> 00:38:50.239
do your own thing where it's acceptable to the situation
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00:38:50.400 --> 00:38:53.239
that you're in. You know, if I'm going to a wedding,
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I'm not going to be wearing this, and I don't
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00:38:55.920 --> 00:38:59.440
have a tuxedo or a suit that is denim with
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the American flag on it, and I'll make sure that
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00:39:03.239 --> 00:39:06.599
my hair isn't as wild. I'll put on a suit
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00:39:06.679 --> 00:39:11.880
and a tie, but it will be you know, a
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00:39:11.920 --> 00:39:15.480
style and a design that I'm comfortable with that I like,
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00:39:15.679 --> 00:39:20.199
but it still fits the occasion. And where casual Friday
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00:39:20.199 --> 00:39:25.159
went off the rails was people coming in with T
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shirts with writing on it, you know, to hell with
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Nixon damn the torpedoes. And then that's when you start
601
00:39:36.760 --> 00:39:41.840
getting into okay, is casual Friday really worth it? Where
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00:39:41.880 --> 00:39:46.480
does employee's first amendments rights begin? And where did they end?
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00:39:47.519 --> 00:39:51.719
And then it becomes a fiasco. And then you start
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00:39:51.760 --> 00:39:55.880
loosening dress codes to the point where you start losing
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00:39:56.079 --> 00:40:03.320
loosening expectations. And once you start loosening expectations, all bets
606
00:40:03.320 --> 00:40:06.199
are off. That's when you get employees showing up in
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00:40:06.280 --> 00:40:08.480
basketball shorts, hoodies.
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And crocs. And that's where we find ourselves today.
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So I, for one, propose that we do away with
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casual Friday, because to me, casual Friday was the beginning
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of the fall of Western civilization. There needs to be
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00:40:32.119 --> 00:40:34.760
we need to get back to the social contract of
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I'm not just gonna wear what feels right. I'm gonna
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where what the bosses and the business that I made
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00:40:44.239 --> 00:40:48.000
a deal with expect from me when it comes to
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what I wear. Again, I understand there. You know certain
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people that are going to push it. I get it
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because they want to be different. I totally get that.
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I understand that I am that person, But I also
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understand that I have to be reflective of the people
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that hired me, and I have to honor the commitment
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00:41:15.239 --> 00:41:19.840
I made to them to uphold their expectations in hiring me.
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00:41:21.360 --> 00:41:23.440
You know, I've done a lot of shoots.
624
00:41:22.960 --> 00:41:26.320
All over the world with the military, with.
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00:41:26.360 --> 00:41:29.920
Law enforcement, and each time that I've worked with them,
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00:41:30.320 --> 00:41:34.840
I've blended in. I don't wear any jewelry. I dress
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00:41:35.079 --> 00:41:38.000
very drab, whatever the situation is, just so I can
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00:41:38.000 --> 00:41:42.559
blend into the background. And to me.
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00:41:43.039 --> 00:41:44.880
That's a sign of professionalism.
630
00:41:45.519 --> 00:41:48.880
It's not a sign that I'm gonna, you know, go
631
00:41:48.920 --> 00:41:51.199
along to get along and just be one of the team,
632
00:41:51.280 --> 00:41:52.519
another cog in the wheel.
633
00:41:53.639 --> 00:41:56.840
It just means that I understand the situation.
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00:41:56.480 --> 00:41:59.719
That I'm in and I don't want to be the
635
00:41:59.760 --> 00:42:03.880
same of attention in the center of focus.
636
00:42:04.000 --> 00:42:05.039
But I also.
637
00:42:07.760 --> 00:42:11.920
Don't want to be just another cog. And I think
638
00:42:12.000 --> 00:42:17.079
you can achieve that by your own sense of style.
639
00:42:18.440 --> 00:42:24.800
And the best example of that are people's haircuts. You know,
640
00:42:24.920 --> 00:42:29.480
whatever the trend is, you'll see ninety percent of all
641
00:42:29.519 --> 00:42:32.519
the males sport in the same haircut, and you'll see
642
00:42:32.559 --> 00:42:34.920
ten percent that might wear it a little bit longer,
643
00:42:35.440 --> 00:42:38.599
might have a mullet that's their own thing, that's what
644
00:42:38.639 --> 00:42:40.440
they feel comfortable with that's what they like.
645
00:42:40.599 --> 00:42:41.559
I mean, they could have been a.
646
00:42:41.480 --> 00:42:45.880
Hockey player and they're comfortable sporting a mullet. Totally fine
647
00:42:45.920 --> 00:42:49.039
with that. As long as they're not wearing, you know,
648
00:42:49.320 --> 00:42:52.519
a shirt that has cuss words all over it.
649
00:42:52.840 --> 00:43:02.159
I think you're fine. So a casual Friday, no go.
650
00:43:04.679 --> 00:43:07.599
And yes, I would like to see everybody in suits
651
00:43:07.599 --> 00:43:10.760
and ties. Once again, there's something about that look from
652
00:43:10.760 --> 00:43:13.719
the nineteen thirties and forties that I really like. Where
653
00:43:13.800 --> 00:43:14.599
the where the.
654
00:43:14.639 --> 00:43:17.760
Suit hung on a man and he went to a bespoke.
655
00:43:17.360 --> 00:43:21.440
Shop and had the clothier with the shears and the
656
00:43:21.480 --> 00:43:25.519
tape measure and going through it, and that was your suit.
657
00:43:25.679 --> 00:43:28.639
That was your suit of armor that you wore and
658
00:43:28.679 --> 00:43:34.599
everything fit nicely. Oh well, I guess a guy can dream,
659
00:43:35.039 --> 00:44:00.800
all right. Until next week, we'll see up.
660
00:43:49.199 --> 00:43:57.079
The gold from the far corners of the world, entertaining.
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Millions in secrecy.
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Lessons learned through not so average experiences from a life
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spent creative reality television.
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This is accidental education with your girls, My doctor
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Tom Cunning and down and squire am I to d
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D is