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But if you consistently plan for unrealistic, your body's gonna use laziness as like hiding in a cave against this unsustainable workload you're doing.
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This is a thing I'm constantly fighting in my own life, constantly.
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A some time ago, we talked about how laziness is perfectly natural, just not ultra-adaptive to the current environment in which we live and which productivity is so massively rewarded.
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And at the end of that video, I said I was going to have tips for you, and here they are on overcoming laziness.
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Both how to get moving in the moment and how to set up your habits so that you are facing the demon, the dragon of laziness with your biggest weapons.
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And consistently, it becomes a smaller, more tractable problem.
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So how to do it in the now, how to overcome laziness in the now.
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If you're hit with laziness but you know you got to do some shit –
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oh, how do I get out of this chair?
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And how to architect your life in a way that laziness just doesn't have as much traction and you can overcome it even easier.
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So the next time you're in that chair thinking, how do I get out?
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It's actually like an easier step off the chair.
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All right, so let's get into it.
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First, let's talk about getting moving in the moment.
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You're lazy.
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You got shit to do.
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You don't feel like doing it.
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How do you do it?
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First, from last time, and check in with last time's videos about laziness for a very, very detailed explanation of this.
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Laziness is not a character verdict.
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It is a starting condition.
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You have to work with it.
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Everyone has a lot of laziness, and it's totally natural, and it's adaptive in our old environment.
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It's just the reality.
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Now, before you go and do anything,
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On occasion, you can ask yourself a quick check, and this is something that's pretty obvious.
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For me, sometimes not so obvious, and for Dylan, definitely not obvious.
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Okay, take that back.
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It's not obvious.
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You got to check in.
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Are you just lazy because of the natural drive of laziness, or are you genuinely tired and need recovery?
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Because if someone's like, hey, you had a real busy week, you're like, uh-huh.
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Do you want to like hop in and do this extra work task on Saturday morning?
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And you're like, is the shock factor because you're just lazy?
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Could be.
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You're not tired.
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Or it could be you're so overwhelmed and so busy you need a few days of relaxation.
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Guys, that's how it works.
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relaxation to work and to life is as important as relaxation and rest recovery is to training when you're getting jacked.
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It is critical.
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It's just that most of your favorite influencers don't talk about it because they just already assume you're getting way enough recovery because you're a lazy cunt.
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But a lot of you motherfuckers out there, sorry, Dylan, I'll stop swearing shortly, are just hardworking psychopaths.
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There's tons of you.
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And you need rest.
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So sometimes asking, maybe I'm supposed to be lazy.
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Like on weekends when I'm doing my life properly instead of traveling more for work, I like take weed and chill for like an entire evening.
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And then when like, I'm like, oh, I should get up and do this thing, I'm like, wait, Ezra Tell, you're literally recovering on purpose.
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And the weed makes it almost impossible to move.
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And so I'm like, oh, actually this is where I wanna be.
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It's just like stay on the TV and watch TV or chat with friends or take walks or do whatever.
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I ain't doing work.
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For me, honestly, you guys, THC is a crutch so that I can have an excuse to tell my industrious Ashkenazi brain, hey, hey idiot, stop working.
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because that's critical.
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But sometimes you're just being lazy, and that's definitely a thing.
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Once you realize you're just being lazy, you can be more specific if you like.
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Are you being lazy because, or sorry, you're being lazy, that's the natural state of the world.
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The task that you're supposed to do next, that you know you're supposed to do, why aren't you doing it?
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In addition to the laziness, is the task going to be boring?
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That does not help the case.
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Is the task confusing and you're
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sort of reticent to start because you're not exactly sure what you're even supposed to be doing?
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Are you fearful of doing that task badly?
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That can push you away from doing it.
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Different obstacles, different additions to your baseline laziness need different fixes.
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So it's sometimes good to figure that out.
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But one thing you don't need to figure out, one thing you can stop doing right now is roasting yourself.
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Just admitting to yourself like, oh, I'm feeling resistance.
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I'm feeling a bit of laziness is plenty.
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There's no reason to just totally get on yourself and be like, I'm a piece of shit.
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I'm lazy.
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It's a character flaw.
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Save that.
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Guilt trips are dumb.
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They're incredibly short-sighted.
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It's just more emotions you don't need.
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What you can do instead is reconnect with your reason for doing the thing that you're supposed to do.
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I have to drive to Dylan's house to record progress channel videos because the progress channel is an important part of what I do with my life so that I can go to sleep at night and know I'm making some kind of difference in the world.
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Okay, I get in the car, I go to Dylan's.
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There's my reason.
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That was easy.
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And always leverage into positive reasons, and I would say almost never into negative reasons.
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I'm a loser if I don't do this is not sustainable.
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I'm slowly building my amazing empire of accomplishment that will make me feel real nice in a few years is a great reason to do something.
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Next tip of how to get going when you need to get going.
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This one's massive.
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When I learned this one when I was younger, I was like, oh, oh, I've been doing this all wrong.
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Don't wait until you want to start doing the thing.
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If you're being lazy and you're on the couch and you got something to do, you just do it.
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Why?
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Because you can physically move your body while still feeling mildly to moderately unenthusiastic about it.
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If you're waiting for motivation, that shit ain't coming.
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But you have something even better than motivation on
your side once you overcome that initial bit of laziness.
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And that is momentum.
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Momentum is the ultimate crusher.
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I actually have people every now and again ask me like, hey, how do I get motivated to train?
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I'm like, I ain't got nothing for you, man.
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You either want to do the shit or you don't.
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But if you want to, in the grand scheme, do the shit, but not every day do you actually want to do the tasks that are required for it, then every day you remember like, oh, I want to do grand shit, but I don't feel like it.
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But it doesn't matter.
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I can just start.
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I can just start doing things before.
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I feel like doing them is one of the biggest unlocks against laziness you'll ever have.
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It doesn't feel so great.
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But it gets you moving and it starts to build momentum.
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Because after you get up off the couch and you start loading up the washing machine in the kitchen, you start scrubbing the counters.
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Like 35 seconds after you start doing that, if someone's like, hey, you don't have to do that.
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You can just come sit back down on the couch.
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You're kind of like, I already got up.
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Let me just do five minutes of cleaning up so that we'd have a clean apartment so we can chill and watch TV for the rest of the day.
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Cool, cool.
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Momentum is massively on your side, but you got to spark that and you just got to do it on straight willpower.
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Just like, I was going to start.
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You're not expecting motivation.
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You're not expecting it to feel good.
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And it won't.
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Another tip is to shrink the assignment ahead of you for the time that you're trying to get motivated to do it.
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So you don't have to like envision your entire workout and all of the 18 sets you're gonna do, because it's like a lot when you're feeling lazy, you're like, oh my God, I can already feel the triceps, like the skull crusher is like hurting my soul.
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Your next task can be like, put my shoes on to go to gym.
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After you put your shoes on, you're like, make shake.
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You have your shoes on, you have a shake in your hand, it's momentum now.
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You're gonna get
in the car and you're gonna go to the gym.
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Don't even worry about the whole workout right away, just be like,
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I know I have to work out.
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Check.
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I'm being lazy as shit.
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Check.
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That's totally cool.
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Check.
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What do I have to do to get the momentum train rolling?
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Remember that question and ask yourself, what do I have to do right now to get the momentum train rolling?
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Because once that train gets going, dude, you're going to be doing stuff.
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Put on my gym shoes.
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Aliens are outside of the earth and they have a laser gun pointed at the North Pole and they're going to blow us all the smithereens like in Men in Black.
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The only thing they require to save the entire earth is me putting on my gym shoes.
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Can I do it?
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Yes.
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Okay, get up and I do it.
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All right, kind of make the shake.
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All right, I'm going to the gym.
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Halfway through your workout, you're going to be like, I can't wait to work out forever because now you got that motivation on your side.
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But remember, it won't be there to begin with.
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Stop looking for it.
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A humongous way to help yourself do this first little mini action is to make it two things.
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Physical, actual fucking movement, and obvious.
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For example, pause the TV.
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Turn off the TV is even better.
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Physically hit the turn off the TV button because then laziness is on your side because your TV has like a five-second refresh rate after you turn it off to where you turn it back on again and it actually loads the shit.
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You have to log back into YouTube.
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You ain't going to do all that.
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You're too lazy.
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So as soon as you hit the power button on TV, you're like, ah, all right, well, TV is gone forever.
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Guess I'm doing the next thing now.
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Put your feet down onto the ground.
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Here's one.
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Stand up.
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Just stand up.
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Because once you're up, she looks and feels a
little bit different than when you're sitting down.
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Physical, hardcore actions.
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Simple, physical, obvious.
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Get into car.
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Shit like that.
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Put on clothes.
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You can do this thing where you're lying in bed and sleeping in and you should be like getting up and doing stuff, but you're like, ah.
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You can have all the philosophy arguments that you want in your head.
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They're going to help you.
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They never helped me, man.
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I never, Dylan, do you ever like get some revelatory shit about why you should be trying in your life when you're like lazy?
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No.
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No.
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Just like start doing shit.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Just have to next action.
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Next action.
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And I have some Q phrases for myself that helped me know that next action.
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One of my absolute best Q phrases is, Isretel, do your job.
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I say it to myself in my head.
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It is an incredible honor for me, an incredible privilege and an incredible thing of massive, massive influence in my life and my own self-respect is can I do my job well?
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Can I do my job?
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If I have to write scripts for the progress channel and I'm laying in bed and just letting the morning go, is there a hell to your job?
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Boom.
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I get up.
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Boom.
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I walked to the computer.
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Boom.
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I take out my cock because I have an only fans live stream.
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I forgot about, I make a bunch of money.
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I don't even have to have the progress channel.
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Dylan.
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When are we starting only fans?
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Uh, well, how many of those videos you got banked on your computer question?
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Glad you asked thousands.
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Oh, we're good then.
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Thousands.
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How many days have you, you know what?
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I'm not even going to go down.
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Constant live stream.
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Constant live stream.
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Next, if you're really feeling dug down, try five minutes of whatever work you wanted to do and then honestly reassess maybe you're just too tired that day and you won't do it.
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Small commitment is actually quite easy.
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Just be like, all right, all right, all right.
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I got some computer work, I got emails to do.
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I got a couple of things to do on the computer and documents to submit.
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Let me answer an email and see how I feel.
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Cause after answering the email and you're like, oh, you're like, ooh, actually I think I'm really fatigued.
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But after answering email, you're like, ah, okay, I'm already sitting here at the computer.
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I kind of got a flow going, but I'll just answer the rest and I'll just do all my work and I'm done.
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So try something small at first.
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If you're confused about what to do and that's helping the laziness, cause you're like, I could get up but I don't even know what I'm supposed to do.
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Just make your first task the definition of the task.
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So something like work on business transmutes into draft three email bullet points.
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Oh, I can do that.
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I know exactly what to do.
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I'm not confused anymore.
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Well, I'll just do it.
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Way better than being like, I ought to do work.
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What does that even mean?
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And then you just sit there and you do that mental philosophy that gets you nowhere.
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If it's perfectionism that's blocking you, give yourself permission for an ugly first pass.
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First pass is supposed to be ugly, you guys.
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Editing requires something to edit.
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So tell yourself, look, I'm being a perfectionistic.
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I don't want to start until it's perfect.
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I'm just going to make the ugly version first.
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Then when you make the ugly version and you're a perfectionist, you're like seething to just perfect it.
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And then your laziness is not your problem.
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You have the opposite problem.
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You're going to be working until 8 p.m. because like, oh, now you're in the flow.
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Another big
unlock here, guys, is to make starting the thing more pleasant.
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That is totally an option.
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Do not think of it as a crutch.
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The idea of thinking about almost everything as a crutch is fucking stupid.
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We live in a civilized world.
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If you think turning on your favorite music before cleaning your house is a crutch and you should be able to do it without music at all, then, like, why are you so soft on yourself when you get sick?
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You take drugs, you bitch.
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When you're tired, Dylan, you sit on the couch, you F-word that isn't the one about sex but about gender orientation.
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sexual preference, whatever that word means, pile of sticks.
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You coddle yourself with driving a car instead of walking.
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And like a total, total little pussy, you avoid going out in bad weather.
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You're not tough.
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You're not David Goggins.
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You're a disgrace.
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No, no, wait, I said that wrong.
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You're a normal person utilizing the tools of civilization to make themselves better at being productive by using the tools.
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So don't you go telling yourself I should be able to clean my room without my favorite music.
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Fuck that.
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Turn on your favorite music.
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Make your workspace really comfortable.
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Have an enjoyable warmup before you get to your main work.
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Suffering isn't extra credit.
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Stop suffering and produce value, period.
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Oh, Dylan, the David Goggins reviews are already weighing on me.
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We haven't even gotten onto it.
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There is absolutely value in pushing yourself to that next level with inconvenience.
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But don't you take that shit too seriously.
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You got shit to do.
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Elon Musk has to go to work and work on rocketry physics for nine hours.
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Do you think he's like, oh, this would be more challenging if I didn't eat and also worked out for three hours before?
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Yes.
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But Elon's not trying to challenge himself with rocket physics.
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No, no.
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He's trying to put our civilization on different moons and different
planets.
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That means he wants all the best for himself.
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So he's going to eat properly.
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He's going to be well rested.
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He's going to have plenty of coffee.
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He's going to have his whole team with him.
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And they're going to use all the best technology in the world to try to make rocketry as easy as possible, not as hard as possible.
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So if you really don't want to clean up your apartment, turn on the jams that make you just want to like, I got to move when I hear this.
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And all of a sudden I'm scrubbing and I'm vacuuming and I'm doing all the stuff I'm supposed to be doing.
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I don't have to get really psyched to do my work work because I love typing on my laptop when I'm working on the road.
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And I love, love, love typing on my home computer monitor.
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I love doing work on that thing.
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And what I do is I put in my like cyberpunk ambient tunes and I'm like in the Matrix.
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Love it.
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And so when I'm like being lazy, I'm like, but I love my work.
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That's the ultimate unlock.
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Competing options will mess with you.
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And you gotta, here's another tip, you gotta block them off.
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So for example, you got your phone and you got work.
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You gotta do your work, but there's all this stuff on your phone, there's all these cool icons and sort of parasocial maybe people that are DMing you things.
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It's exciting.
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Take the phone, physically put it away.
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In my deep work sessions, because I need to refer sometimes to my phone for technical notes, I will take my phone, I'll put it that way, and I'll flip it upside down.
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I don't even need to look at it.
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Turn that TV off.
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One task open is the only task you focus on.
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It's real tough to be lazy and distracted when there's nothing to distract yourself with.
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Those are big, big habits that you want to uncalkate.
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And not habits, sorry, they'll eventually become habits.
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Those, every single one of these things you can use right now to your advantage.
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And the biggest lesson from there is put everything on your side.
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Give yourself every advantage and just do the thing.
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Don't you worry about motivation.
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Sometimes it comes, sometimes it doesn't.
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It almost always comes.
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But you have something even better than motivation on your side once you overcome that initial bit of laziness, and that is momentum.
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Momentum is the ultimate crusher.
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Once you're at work and you're moving and grooving and answering calls and doing emails, someone's like, hey, I'm feeling lazy this morning.
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You're like, I was.
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How are you feeling now?
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Like, I'm feeling in the zone, baby.
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Once you're in the zone, man, pulling you out is the opposite problem.
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You let fatigue do that four hours later.
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All right, part two of this video is, okay, cool.
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Thanks for the tips, Mike.
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But what kind of habits can we build to make future starts easier?
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Because if you can build habits that make this nasty laziness start that you have to use all these techniques to actually start, make way, way, way smaller of a speed bump, then like, man, you got it made.
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Because like now when you're lazy and you have all these habits, you're like, oh, oh, I just go to my house and I'm not lazy and I'm doing stuff.
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These are big habits.
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A lot of these, most people don't know about or know about in intellectual sense, but never actually do because they just don't do.
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They have no glory to them, some of these.
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Here's the one, first one with no glory to it.
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Choose a realistic workload.
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Every free minute does not need to have you insert a job into it.
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If you're looking ahead towards your daily schedule and it seems overwhelming, maybe you're being lazy, but maybe it's just overwhelming.
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Okay.
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When I have a very constrained daily schedule of stuff that I need to be doing, but plenty of rest afterwards, so I know I'm going to have some free time, man, I'm just like, I jump out of bed in the morning.
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But when I have a day that looks like way too much for me, I'm like dreading getting out of bed.
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Realistic workloads are the only ones that you can do with a high quality.
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And sometimes life sneaks up on
you and you're going to have to do some unrealistic shit every now and again.
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But if you consistently plan for unrealistic shit, your body's going to use laziness as like hiding in a cave against this unsustainable workload you're doing.
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This is a thing I'm constantly fighting in my own life.
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Constantly.
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Here's another thing.
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Try to schedule demanding tasks when you actually have energy.
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Don't schedule cleaning your apartment at 9 p.m. on a Friday.
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What the fuck?
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That's not going to happen.
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You must be crazy.
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Schedule cleaning your apartment at 9 a.m. on a Saturday.
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After sleeping in, you wake up, you're like, Oh, it's dirty in here.
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Oh, I have tons of energy and I'm pissed.
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Boom.
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Cleaning time.
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You have a choice in when to schedule the hard stuff.
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Another scheduling thing that I like to use is momentum-based scheduling.
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I put my real hard work in the first four hours of work, first four to six, whatever, two to six, and then I have some tasks that I don't really love to do but have to get checked off, emails, checking, you know, messaging apps, whatever, checking in with Teams, and I put those for right after.
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Because once I'm through my hard stuff, I feel super relieved, but I still have momentum, and then I have momentum into like the easy stuff.
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Like my train was at zero miles per hour, my momentum freight train.
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And then by hour three, it was 90 miles per hour.
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And then by hour five, when I've done all of my deep work for the day, the train is now starting to slow down from fatigue.
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But it's still going 50 miles an hour, and it takes miles to stop that train.
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And so I just like don't push the train anymore.
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I just go, go, go, go.
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It just like crushes through obstacles and slows down every now and again.
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But each obstacle is like check DM apps, check emails, give marketing those quick picture assets they ask for.
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Record a quick selfie video because Jorge, my social media manager, asked for it last night.
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And as soon as I record that last social media video, the train stops.
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And I'm like, ah, I'm done.
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Hey, I got everything done.
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Because I scheduled that stuff that's easy but needs to be checkboxed for at the end of the momentum of the train.
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I could have made a big mistake.
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I could have used the train momentum to sit down and watch TV.
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And I'm still kind of, oof.
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Okay, I'll watch TV.
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Man, these are really interesting programs.
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And I'm still kind of on edge.
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But then I get fatigued enough.
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Yeah.
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And then I'm like, oh, now that I've watched TV for an hour, I can start doing my other tasks.
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No, no, no.
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Because then you lost the momentum.
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You're a train.
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The train velocity is zero.
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You're like, oh, these tasks, I'll just do it tomorrow.
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And then you're off to some bad shit.
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So scheduling easier tasks after generating momentum from harder tasks is a big, big unlock.
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I use it constantly to massive, massive benefit.
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And there's actually two ways to do this.
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You can take your easier tasks and do a couple of them as a warm-up to the big task, which we've discussed before in our video about deep work, or you can put them after as a cool-down.
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Either way, it works great.
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Another tip for these habits is to attach starting the work to a reliable cue.
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After dinner, I clear my plate and I open my document.
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Dinner is done, what's my plate doing?
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I clear my plate.
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One thing I do is I almost never leave my healthy junk food, my protein donut wrappers, my David Barr wrappers, and my food containers.
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I almost never fall – I'll constantly fall asleep on the couch having them out.
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But then when I wake up two hours later in a stupor and start to transfer myself to my bedroom –
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I almost always go, all right, and I pick up my plate and I put it underwater in the sink.
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And then I take my trash and I throw it in the trash.
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So I look back on the whole couch situation and I'm like, oh, super clean couch.
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Tomorrow morning, I'm going to wake up
not interested in cleaning, but I don't have to because I already cleaned.
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So the reliable cue is wake up in stupor, see garbage in front, clear the garbage right away.
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Now that it's a habit for me, it's the easiest thing in the world because it's like I just literally have to physically take my stuff.
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I don't even have to make a trip back to the couch.
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I either get up and go to my bedroom or I get up to go to my bedroom, grab stuff with me, put one thing in the dishes, one thing in the garbage, and just continue the same trip.
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But because I've been practicing it, it's a habit.
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It just occurs totally naturally to me to do.
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It's easy.
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You can also do a thing that if the obstacle gives you a big pushback, you can switch to something easier.
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And then do the tough thing either later or not at all, but you got something done.
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So I'll have scripts for a few different kinds of videos in various stages of completion in my workflow.
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And I could be like, ooh, do I wanna start the script which requires like two hours of deep research and really thinking it through?
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Or I have this other script where I'm super passionate about the subject, I'm already the domain expert in it and I can just bullet point it no problem and 20 minutes later I'll be done with it.
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Well, you'll see how I feel.
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You know, if I'm tempted to skip the hard stuff, I'll just do the small version, I'll do the easy thing.
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And then I've gotten something done.
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And a lot of times after you get the easy thing done, you're warmed up, you got momentum, your train is rolling, and you're like, fuck it, let's do the hard stuff first, or not, but if you feel damn good after you start moving, you're like, hey, I'll do the hard stuff first.
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Either way, you have a win.
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The alternative is just have the hard stuff and not even, I'm not ever doing the easier stuff, a man does the hard stuff.
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And you're looking at the hard stuff, and you're like, oh my God, just seems impossible.
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Well, don't worry, start with something easier.
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If your brain gives you a big obstacle, just duck and go the other way.
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The size of the speed bump for doing the easier video script for me is like tiny.
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The size of the big script, big speed bump.
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Sometimes I got it, sometimes I don't.
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Either way, I'm doing some.
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If you get reliably trapped by your couch,
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One big tip I have for habits is to schedule couch time and not couch time and stick to that schedule.
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I have couch time reserved for only two times in my life.
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Time one is in the evening on work days when I've done my work.
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I literally do not sit on my couch almost ever.
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Except if I'm on a call and my legs get tired walking around my apartment and I have to sit down somewhere.
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Sometimes I'll sit on the couch.
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But even that I don't prefer.
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Because the couch is a very enshrined place for me.
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It's chill times only.
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The other time I sit on my couch is on weekends.
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When I'm like doing a whole lot of nothing except sitting on my couch.
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I do not sit on my couch in the middle of the day.
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I do not watch TV in the middle of the day.
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If you ever hang out with me for a whole day, you'll be like, this weirdo only watches TV for like an hour at night and then several hours during the weekends.
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He doesn't turn on his TV in the morning ever or in the afternoon ever and before work is done ever.
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I do not schedule my TV watching between anything.
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And if the couch and the TV reliably trap you or your phone reliably traps you, you change the sequence to be like, first, I do all my stuff and then I do my relaxing.
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Because if you have that habit, my God, it's the ultimate unlock.
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Like to me, when I'm like in the morning on Saturday, I'm like, all right, what to do, what to do, what to do.
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Finished most of my work for the week.
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I got to relax.
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I'm really fatigued.
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There's a couple of things I'd like to get done, but I sure just could take weed right now and cash out.
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what do I typically do?
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What's my habit like?
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Oh, my habit is get work done for a few hours.
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Like I literally have a habit.
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Like if you told me, hey dude, you know, this big thing happened at work, tons of money for the company, you got patted on the back, you get three days off,
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Three days totally off.
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Do you want to hang out and just wake and bake every single day?
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I would be like, absolutely not.
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I do not wake and bake.
442
00:26:35.435 --> 00:26:36.656
I don't know if I've ever done it.
443
00:26:37.456 --> 00:26:37.917
Maybe never.
444
00:26:38.977 --> 00:26:40.859
When I wake up, I'm not trying to get high.
445
00:26:41.379 --> 00:26:43.281
I got to do something.
446
00:26:43.301 --> 00:26:44.401
I got to get something done.
447
00:26:44.421 --> 00:26:46.723
It could be very minimal, but it's got to be something.
448
00:26:47.704 --> 00:26:52.647
Usually like two to four hours of work and or training and or something.
449
00:26:52.667 --> 00:26:53.348
And then I can chill.
450
00:26:54.809 --> 00:26:56.490
And that's just a habit.
451
00:26:56.842 --> 00:26:57.443
That I've built up.
452
00:26:58.003 --> 00:27:00.166
And so if you're like, hey, do you want to just get high right out of bed?
453
00:27:00.186 --> 00:27:01.508
I'm like, no.
454
00:27:01.668 --> 00:27:02.449
And why?
455
00:27:02.629 --> 00:27:04.492
Like, well, there's no compelling reason really.
456
00:27:04.512 --> 00:27:08.196
It's just not what I do.
457
00:27:09.017 --> 00:27:10.840
And because I have that habit, I get my shit done.
458
00:27:10.960 --> 00:27:11.961
And then I get to relax.
459
00:27:12.121 --> 00:27:13.423
And laziness is not a big problem.
460
00:27:15.765 --> 00:27:27.408
An enormous habit you can take in your fight against getting really, really carried away with laziness is preparing the runway ahead of time, especially when you have momentum like the day before.
461
00:27:27.628 --> 00:27:30.949
For example, you can pack your gym bag the day before.
462
00:27:31.149 --> 00:27:33.530
You can make your shake and put it in the fridge the day before.
463
00:27:33.930 --> 00:27:38.591
You can get the document with bullet points ready the night before so they wake up in the morning and work on the document.
464
00:27:38.611 --> 00:27:41.712
It's already ready for you and you know exactly where to click and where to go.
465
00:27:43.848 --> 00:27:44.929
That's huge.
466
00:27:45.849 --> 00:27:47.510
I do this a lot in my life.
467
00:27:48.371 --> 00:27:54.454
I have a variety of routines that prepare me for what I'm doing next or tomorrow, a bunch.
468
00:27:55.895 --> 00:28:03.380
And I use them constantly, and it's huge because it makes your experience of life kind of frictionless and seamless.
469
00:28:04.480 --> 00:28:06.181
Like, time to go work out.
470
00:28:06.301 --> 00:28:07.061
What do I need to do?
471
00:28:07.281 --> 00:28:07.642
Nothing.
472
00:28:07.842 --> 00:28:09.182
I have clothes on my body.
473
00:28:10.063 --> 00:28:11.263
I have a shake in the fridge.
474
00:28:11.323 --> 00:28:12.724
I take the shake out of the fridge.
475
00:28:12.764 --> 00:28:16.086
I walk to my car and all of my workout gear is in my trunk.
476
00:28:16.446 --> 00:28:17.366
That's just where it lives.
477
00:28:19.347 --> 00:28:22.248
I took some time to put it there, but then just where it is.
478
00:28:23.329 --> 00:28:26.070
Whereas if I have to get all the shit together, blah, blah, blah.
479
00:28:26.090 --> 00:28:27.691
Oh my God, dude, I'm not going to work out.
480
00:28:27.751 --> 00:28:28.091
Fuck that.
481
00:28:31.413 --> 00:28:31.713
Huge.
482
00:28:35.187 --> 00:28:41.472
And the big thing with habits isn't just the sequence of you doing things.
483
00:28:42.573 --> 00:28:44.534
It's the sequence and the setting.
484
00:28:46.116 --> 00:28:52.160
If you're starting work or getting out of laziness in a consistent context, you get used to being consistent in that context.
485
00:28:52.200 --> 00:28:57.945
For example, you're on your couch and you have to go call your parents because you said you're going to call them.
486
00:28:57.965 --> 00:28:58.605
You're a good person.
487
00:28:58.625 --> 00:29:00.267
You talk to your parents like you're supposed to.
488
00:29:01.088 --> 00:29:13.971
And if every time that you're in that context, you're on the couch in one part of the couch that you really like to sit on and you're physically there and the phone's on the other side of the couch and you have to get up and get your phone and start walking around and talking to your parents, you just like know that problem really well.
489
00:29:14.131 --> 00:29:15.031
And you've done it a bunch.
490
00:29:15.671 --> 00:29:18.552
So it's not like, oh, man, I don't even know how I'm going to get to my phone.
491
00:29:18.592 --> 00:29:20.452
It's like I put my feet on the floor.
492
00:29:20.512 --> 00:29:21.353
I physically get up.
493
00:29:21.773 --> 00:29:24.253
I reach for my phone and I just call my parents.
494
00:29:24.333 --> 00:29:27.334
And then everything else is downstream of them picking up and you talking to them.
495
00:29:28.867 --> 00:29:31.431
Most of my life is groundhog days.
496
00:29:31.911 --> 00:29:35.116
Most of my days look very much similar, super similar.
497
00:29:35.136 --> 00:29:36.938
My Monday through Thursday look almost identical.
498
00:29:37.319 --> 00:29:40.063
My Friday has its own very similar structure, slightly modified.
499
00:29:40.363 --> 00:29:41.645
And my weekends have their own structure.
500
00:29:43.028 --> 00:29:48.310
I'm, I'm a real big structure person and unfortunately, fortunately, how do I say this?
501
00:29:48.530 --> 00:29:54.473
A part of my job is to travel around the country and the world and do various things like meeting people.
502
00:29:55.373 --> 00:29:58.795
And that strains the shit out of my autism because I don't like to be thrown off my swag.
503
00:29:59.445 --> 00:30:05.770
When I'm in my element and I'm in my environment, my laziness is almost never a problem because I know exactly what leads to what.
504
00:30:05.830 --> 00:30:10.573
I know exactly how to get myself out
of laziness in those physical and time constraints.
505
00:30:10.673 --> 00:30:19.019
Saturday morning at 12, morning, Saturday afternoon at 12, I know exactly where I'm going to be and how I'm going to overcome laziness because I've done it like hundreds of times.
506
00:30:19.580 --> 00:30:19.980
Big deal.
507
00:30:20.000 --> 00:30:25.204
If you can turn your life a little bit more of a machine situation, you're going to port from one station to the next.
508
00:30:25.524 --> 00:30:26.325
Your life is like –
509
00:30:27.045 --> 00:30:30.346
getting, uh, it's like living in a conveyor belt at a factory.
510
00:30:30.387 --> 00:30:31.767
Like next thing is bottling.
511
00:30:31.807 --> 00:30:32.667
Next thing is labeling.
512
00:30:32.728 --> 00:30:33.528
Next thing is sorting.
513
00:30:33.568 --> 00:30:38.250
Next thing is you're in a box and you're being shipped off to Kansas where they consume ketchup, just like that.
514
00:30:38.490 --> 00:30:44.373
You brush, you wake up, you know, you get up off the couch, you walk over, you brush your teeth, you wash your face, you take a dump.
515
00:30:44.573 --> 00:30:47.994
You don't wash your hands cause you're an animal and you start preparing food for your family.
516
00:30:49.235 --> 00:30:50.075
Think about that whole thing.
517
00:30:52.446 --> 00:30:56.549
Next, you want to give your effort a clear finish line.
518
00:30:56.849 --> 00:31:02.013
Starting work when the question mark, question mark, question mark is what you're going to be done is like kind of intimidating.
519
00:31:03.494 --> 00:31:08.437
Give yourself a clear finish line, even if you have to break up the work into tasks that takes multiple days and multiple attempts.
520
00:31:09.118 --> 00:31:10.579
So, you know, I'm going to start this thing.
521
00:31:11.559 --> 00:31:15.142
My laziness tells me not to, but I know this thing has an end point.
522
00:31:16.838 --> 00:31:24.863
It's like when the Fellowship of the Ring people in Lord of the Rings started walking towards Mordor or whatever, they knew they had an exact thing they were going to be doing.
523
00:31:25.583 --> 00:31:27.605
Destroy the ring and the fires of Mordor.
524
00:31:28.846 --> 00:31:29.206
That's it.
525
00:31:30.807 --> 00:31:31.807
We know when this is done.
526
00:31:32.088 --> 00:31:33.288
And so it's easy to get motivated.
527
00:31:33.348 --> 00:31:36.430
But when you don't know when something's going to be done, that's really tough.
528
00:31:36.630 --> 00:31:41.393
Open-ended wars, two countries just clashing for maybe a year, maybe five years.
529
00:31:41.513 --> 00:31:42.154
That's tough.
530
00:31:42.954 --> 00:31:45.156
So if you give yourself a clear, clear finish line...
531
00:31:45.950 --> 00:31:47.970
could be like, oh, this isn't going to be that bad.
532
00:31:48.091 --> 00:31:49.751
I know when the thing is going to be over.
533
00:31:50.491 --> 00:31:53.232
I have to get up off my ass and do the thing, but I know it ends.
534
00:31:53.292 --> 00:31:55.872
It's not like a forever thing because that can be way too intimidating.
535
00:31:58.113 --> 00:32:01.574
When you're done, I recommend not just finishing.
536
00:32:03.014 --> 00:32:08.415
Finish in a way that is satisfying to you, which can mean noticing the progress.
537
00:32:08.895 --> 00:32:09.436
All right.
538
00:32:10.396 --> 00:32:14.777
Being thankful for the planned downtime after, like, all right, I did the thing and now I get
539
00:32:15.977 --> 00:32:17.758
It's going to reinforce that loop in your head.
540
00:32:17.798 --> 00:32:24.241
It's going to make you motivated more and more in the future to finish your tasks, even to begin your tasks, because you know you get that mental payoff.
541
00:32:24.722 --> 00:32:28.584
I love having to-do lists, and I love checking off the to-do list on my phone.
542
00:32:29.044 --> 00:32:30.325
Click, and then it's done.
543
00:32:30.745 --> 00:32:32.085
Oh, it's a fetish.
544
00:32:33.326 --> 00:32:40.610
Because completion is satisfying, it reinforces starting and doing and completing the longer you do it.
545
00:32:42.808 --> 00:32:50.213
If you skip a session, if you let laziness win, do not do the punishment marathon of talking shit to yourself in your head.
546
00:32:50.753 --> 00:32:51.874
Just be like, all right, I'm going to be lazy.
547
00:32:51.994 --> 00:32:52.534
No big deal.
548
00:32:52.954 --> 00:32:55.496
At the next opportunity, I'm going to resume and I'm going to do the thing.
549
00:32:56.436 --> 00:33:02.760
It is unlikely that with one or two or 15 falls off the wagon, you're going to learn to be lazy and unlearn all your good habits.
550
00:33:02.800 --> 00:33:06.823
Every now and again, you just accept that I'm just going to do a small thing or no thing at all.
551
00:33:07.063 --> 00:33:07.363
Cool.
552
00:33:07.783 --> 00:33:08.884
But as soon as you accept it,
553
00:33:10.542 --> 00:33:10.922
You're done.
554
00:33:11.963 --> 00:33:13.064
Sometimes they need an extra day.
555
00:33:13.084 --> 00:33:15.866
I'm like, okay, I'll finish my work early and I will do marijuana.
556
00:33:16.246 --> 00:33:19.669
And then I'm like lining up the drink and I'm like, I'm a piece of shit drug addict.
557
00:33:19.949 --> 00:33:22.611
And this is how my legacy begins to unwind.
558
00:33:24.172 --> 00:33:24.753
I'm that guy.
559
00:33:25.153 --> 00:33:28.776
I'm like headed down a terrible spiral of drug dependency.
560
00:33:29.496 --> 00:33:31.958
And then I'm like, what are you talking about?
561
00:33:33.627 --> 00:33:39.069
You're just using an awesome, almost completely harmless drug to help yourself chill.
562
00:33:39.289 --> 00:33:40.109
Did you earn it?
563
00:33:40.309 --> 00:33:41.590
Yes, in the literal sense.
564
00:33:42.050 --> 00:33:42.910
Do you deserve it?
565
00:33:43.110 --> 00:33:45.431
Yes, I think I do, according to my own logic.
566
00:33:45.991 --> 00:33:47.632
Is it hurting anyone that you're taking this?
567
00:33:47.872
--> 00:33:48.872
No, that's ridiculous.
568
00:33:48.972 --> 00:33:50.973
Is it hurting you in the long term or short term?
569
00:33:51.113 --> 00:33:52.634
No, it's helping me actually.
570
00:33:53.274 --> 00:33:54.774
So what the fuck is wrong with you?
571
00:33:54.874 --> 00:33:59.036
I feel guilty about not continuing to work in perpetuity until I bleed out of my eyes and die.
572
00:33:59.456 --> 00:34:00.616
Oh, that's not mental illness, Mike.
573
00:34:00.636 --> 00:34:01.296
Good job, buddy.
574
00:34:01.637 --> 00:34:02.557
Oh, oh, sure is.
575
00:34:03.681 --> 00:34:03.962
gulp.
576
00:34:04.605 --> 00:34:07.919
And as soon as I gulp the weed, I don't got time to be feeling guilty about being on weed.
577
00:34:08.645 --> 00:34:11.807
As soon as I decide to sit on the couch and be lazy, I don't got time for guilt.
578
00:34:12.008 --> 00:34:12.708
You got two things to do.
579
00:34:12.728 --> 00:34:15.270
You're either working or you're relaxing guilt-free.
580
00:34:15.470 --> 00:34:18.472
You're either working or you're relaxing guilt-free.
581
00:34:19.173 --> 00:34:28.520
Relaxing with guilt is the gigantic waste of your time and soul that you can damn near ever think of because it accomplishes nothing.
582
00:34:28.580 --> 00:34:31.582
It ruins your relaxation time and you ain't doing anything, pimp.
583
00:34:32.163 --> 00:34:35.785
Remember, machines either work or they recover to work again.
584
00:34:36.506 --> 00:34:39.430
If you're not doing one of those because guilt's getting in the way, you're doing it wrong.
585
00:34:42.333 --> 00:34:46.538
If something in this process repeatedly trips you up, try to find ways to adjust it.
586
00:34:47.319 --> 00:34:51.244
What you want, guys, the speed bump of laziness not to go away.
587
00:34:52.058 --> 00:34:52.739
It's unrealistic.
588
00:34:53.099 --> 00:34:57.742
You want it to get really small, and you want to have five things to deploy against it.
589
00:34:58.483 --> 00:35:08.151
All those habits, consistency, the right setting, the right checkboxes, so that your habits are so much taller than the speed bump, you just ride right over, and it's like, you're always going to feel it.
590
00:35:08.791 --> 00:35:16.777
That first step off the couch is always going to feel kind of like shit when you don't feel like doing it, but it could literally be five seconds of feeling.
591
00:35:17.578 --> 00:35:22.581
And then five seconds of, and then three hours of like, oh yeah, I'm working.
592
00:35:23.402 --> 00:35:28.925
And then six hours, because it's a weekend of amazing relaxation because you earned it.
593
00:35:30.526 --> 00:35:31.187
Let me know what you think.
594
00:35:31.847 --> 00:35:41.494
And let me know again if there's other vices or temptations or behavioral patterns like laziness that you're dealing with that are really messing with you and you want to know how to like make them easier.
595
00:35:41.834 --> 00:35:42.374
Maybe I'll help.
596
00:35:43.475 --> 00:35:43.975
See you next time.