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In this episode of EFT Tapping Junction, you and I
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are going to combine two powerful methods to increase your
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sense of positive well-being and emotional balance. A method called HEAL, H-E-A-L, and,
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of course, Emotional Freedom Techniques. Hello, Stephen Carter here, your
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host for the EFT Tapping Junction show. I do thank
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you for joining me. Who is this show for? If
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you use emotional freedom techniques, thought field therapy, or other
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tapping protocol for self-care or to help others, this show
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is for you. In brief introduction, for more than four decades,
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I've helped thousands of people create healthier, happier, more productive
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lives using a variety of methods to include, of course, EFT,
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thought field therapy, hypnosis, NLP, and an array of other methods.
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To learn more about our work, visit us at stressreliefradio.com. Dr.
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Rick Hansen, author of Hardwiring Happiness, tells us, The brain
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is like Velcro for negative experiences and Teflon for positive ones.
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The brain is like Velcro for negative experiences and Teflon
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for positive ones. If we think about that for a moment,
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let's say a dozen wonderful things happen in your day
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this day. But there was just one problem experience, one
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offhand comment you might have made in a meeting or
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to a simple stranger, a comment you later regretted. As
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you lay in bed tonight preparing for sleep, where will
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your mind go? Where will your memory go? Will it
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go to the many positive, uplifting experiences of your day?
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Or will it go to that one problematic experience or comment?
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Where will your attention dwell? You know where it's going
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to dwell. It's going to dwell on the negative. From
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an evolutionary point of view, this really isn't a flaw
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in our design. It's a feature. Our ancestors survived because, well,
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they remembered where the predator was, where danger was. They
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spent little time focused on the lovely flowers or the
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beautiful sky. Their proclivity for negativity, it kept them
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alive,
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and as a result, you are on this planet. In
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our modern world, this negative bias leaves us chronically stressed,
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it leaves us anxious, it leaves us depleted, even when
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our actual environment is safe. How do we change our
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pattern so we can dwell more often on what is good,
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what is positive, what is uplifting? Dr. Hansen offers a
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four-step framework he calls HEAL, H-E-A-L. We're going to explore
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his method and how we can combine HEAL with emotional
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freedom techniques to help change our default orientation from negative
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to positive. Let's begin by looking at what Dr. Hansen's
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HEAL method is all about. It's designed to take everyday
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positive moments that could be, for example, a sip of
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your morning coffee that tastes oh so good, a kind
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text from a friend, a moment of accomplishment, personally or professionally.
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We can use HEAL to convert those short-term mental states
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into those momentary acknowledgements, and make them into long-term habitual patterns.
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Number one is the H in heal. Have a positive experience.
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Have a positive experience. You bring into awareness a positive fact,
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a sense of deep gratitude, a positive experience, And you
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allow it to become deeply felt. Deeply felt. You truly
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feel the experience in your entire body. You notice the
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good thing happening right now. Number two, E, enrich it.
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Enrich it. You stay with the experience. You don't rush
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through it. You don't rush past it. You breathe into it.
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You notice details. You stay with that experience for 5, 10,
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or perhaps even 20 seconds. Let it register through your
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entire body. Let it register deeply. Number three, A, absorb it.
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Absorb it. You let the experience truly sink in even deeper. Dr.
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Hansen describes, imagine it is soaking into your body like
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warm sunshine sinking into your skin or water being absorbed
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by a sponge. Number four, L, link positive and negative.
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Link positive and negative. Here is where we neutralize that
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recurring negative thought pattern that you just can't seem to release.
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You bring again to mind that positive experience. Bring it
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into awareness in its totality. Feel it. Then you bring
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in the negative stressful memory. You bring that into mind.
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The positive feeling gradually soothes, changes, and rewires the old
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emotional charge that in your judgment was negative. This is
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a wonderful, elegant cognitive process. As a matter of fact,
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it's a variation of an NLP process. Sometimes, however, when
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the nervous system is heavily dysregulated, Our brain and body
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reject positivity. We may feel unworthy. We may have a
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strong sense of anxiety that is going to block the
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absorbed phase of the heal method. This is where EFT
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can come to the rescue. You know, traditionally, EFT is
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used to release negative emotions like anxiety, grief, or anger.
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Research shows us that tapping on the acupressure points sends
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calming signals to various parts of the brain to include
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the amygdala, which is the gateway for our fight-or-flight reaction.
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The amygdala is the brain's alarm system. We know EFT
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can down-regulate that fight-or-flight response. Here is the magic intersection
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between EFT and the HEAL method. When your nervous system
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is calm and your amygdala is quiet, your brain's neuroplasticity
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can open up. Neuroplasticity is, of course, the brain's ability
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to rewire itself as a result of training, experiences, and
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through other processes. That rewiring, the quality of that rewiring,
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is dependent on the quality of the experiences and training
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we give to the brain. If you try to absorb
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a positive feeling while the body is secretly holding on
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to low-grade stress, your brain is going to treat that
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positivity as a guest rather than a resident. But When
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you use EFT tapping while practicing this HEAL method, you're
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signaling a sense of absolute safety to your brain and
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to your body. You clear out the resistance. You lower cortisol.
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You allow the positive experience to deeply anchor into your memory.
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How do we implement this? First, for enriching and absorbing.
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you know that tapping helps you stay present in your body.
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It magnifies the physical sensations of warmth, of relief, of
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a joyous experience, a joyous feeling. For linking, when you
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hold a stressful memory in mind while tapping and bringing
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up a positive resource, The tapping accelerates the reconditioning of
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that neural pathway. It tells your nervous system, I survived
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that past event, and right now I am safe. Right
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now I am safe. Let me invite you right now,
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if of course you are in a safe place, if
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you're driving or you're otherwise engaged with activity that requires
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your full attention, Revisit this process at a later time
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when you can give your full attention to the integrating
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of HEAL and EFT. Step one, you're set up and
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having the experience. Bring to mind a simple positive moment
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you recently experienced. It doesn't have to be major. It
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doesn't have to be mind-blowing. It simply has to create
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that positive emotion in your body, those positive feelings. Perhaps
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it was a cup of coffee or tea this morning,
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a laugh with someone you care about, or just the
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feeling of the sun on your face. As you hold
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this image, tap on the karate chop point. Voice, preferably
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out loud, but if necessary, in mind. Even though my
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brain naturally clings to the negative, I am fully open
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to receiving and anchoring this good moment right now. Even
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though my brain naturally clings to the negative, I am
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fully open to receiving and anchoring this good moment right now.
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Go to the eyebrow point. Notice the details of the
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positive moment. What did it look like? What did it
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sound like? What did it feel like? This positive moment.
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That's your reminder phrase, this positive moment. Side of the eye.
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I see it. I feel it. I hear it. I
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feel
it. I see it. I hear it. This positive moment.
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Under the eye. I notice how it feels in my body.
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I allow this memory to flow through me to enrich
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every cell in my body. Under the nose, this feeling,
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this positive feeling. Now let's move down to the collarbone,
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and we'll do Dr. Hansen's absorption step. Imagine this feeling
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soaking into you like warm honey, the warmth of the sunlight,
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sinking past your skin, into your muscles, into the bones,
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into the art, through the solar plexus. Imagine it filling
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your entire being as you're tapping the collarbone point. Move
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through the underarm position. Allow it to sink even deeper.
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Breathe into it. Breathe that positive feeling into the nasal
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passages and allow it to flow through your entire body. Voice,
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this is real. I am allowed to feel good. This
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is so real. I am allowed to feel good. At
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the crown point, tap, I feel so grateful for this experience.
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I feel so grateful for this positive, uplifting experience. Allow
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a loving deep in-breath and long exhalation. Then allow one
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more loving deep in-breath and then a long exhalation. Absorb
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it completely. Place your hands to heart and voice out
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loud this positive experience. this positive experience. Notice how your
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body is feeling in this moment. Compare it to when
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you started. Notice what's changed. This is neuroplasticity in action. Dr.
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Hansen reminds us that building inner strength, resilience, calm, happiness,
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It's not about waiting for external circumstances to change. It's
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about taking control of your daily mental activity. When you
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consciously choose to have, enrich, and absorb positive experiences, you
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change the physical structure of your brain. You change the
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physical structure of your cells. And with those changes come
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a felt sense of well-being, happiness, and joy. When you
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pair the HEAL method with EFT, you're removing barriers that
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can keep you locked into stress. You're turning down the
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alarm system. You're opening up your neuroplasticity pathways. And you're
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teaching your brain that Velcro isn't just for fear. It
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can be for joy as well. I suggest that you
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have a go with this at least once a day
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over the coming week. Choose a tiny mundane positive moment.
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Tap through the points and let it soak in. Allow
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that positive sensation to truly permeate every cell in your body.
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I believe you're going to be surprised at how quickly
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your internal landscape begins to shift. You'll find the four-step
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heal process in the show notes. I'll also have a
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link to Dr. Hansen's book. If there's someone in your
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life that you know uses EFT, why not share this
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episode with them and you can have a conversation about
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applying the HEAL method with EFT and work together to
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that end. If you're not yet following the show, you
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can certainly do that where you get your podcasts. You
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can listen to previous episodes on our website at stressreliefradio.com
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If you would like to be in touch, email me
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at cartermethod at gmail.com. Until our next visit together, your
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host here, Stephen Carter, wishing for you and your loved
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ones blessings in abundance.