Transcription complète de Ming Leone Started the I Love You Foundation to Impact Mental Health in Her Community

00:02:01.549 --> 00:02:09.240 Bailey and Buck Unplugged is back, and we are kicking 37 00:02:09.300 --> 00:02:11.969 off this season with someone who is bringing music, meaning, 38 00:02:12.069 --> 00:02:14.210 and a whole lot of heart to the conversation. 39 00:02:14.689 --> 00:02:18.229 She's a powerful rap artist, entrepreneur, and the founder of 40 00:02:18.289 --> 00:02:21.530 the I Love You Foundation. Using her voice not just 41 00:02:21.569 --> 00:02:24.509 to make music, but to spread a message of love, purpose, 42 00:02:24.650 --> 00:02:28.199 and connection. She's authentic, she's fearless, and she's got a 43 00:02:28.280 --> 00:02:31.340 story you're definitely going to want to hear. So turn 44 00:02:31.360 --> 00:02:34.719 it up because we are officially getting unplugged with the. 45 00:02:34.680 --> 00:02:39.599 Incredible Ming Leone. Ming, welcome to Bailey and Buck Unplugged. 46 00:02:39.639 --> 00:02:40.419 Welcome. 47 00:02:40.460 --> 00:02:42.830 So happy to have you here. Thank you for having me. 48 00:02:43.199 --> 00:02:43.780 Me. 49 00:02:44.099 --> 00:02:44.699 I'm excited. 50 00:02:45.960 --> 00:02:47.969 Oh, I'm glad you're excited and I'm so happy that 51 00:02:48.000 --> 00:02:50.490 you said yes and you get to meet my extended family. 52 00:02:51.550 --> 00:02:54.750 We usually like to kick off our mental health podcast 53 00:02:54.810 --> 00:02:57.710 with a question about your personal journey and when you 54 00:02:57.770 --> 00:03:02.810 experienced any distress or had an experience just with mental health. 55 00:03:02.870 --> 00:03:06.770 Your journey is very extensive and you can share with 56 00:03:06.849 --> 00:03:10.719 us whatever you feel like the audience should hear about you. 57 00:03:10.740 --> 00:03:11.719 Okay. 58 00:03:12.460 --> 00:03:14.819 So you're asking me when did I realize when the 59 00:03:14.840 --> 00:03:15.979 mental health triggered? 60 00:03:16.020 --> 00:03:16.780 Well, yeah. 61 00:03:16.819 --> 00:03:18.909 When did you have to have you ever encountered an 62 00:03:18.969 --> 00:03:20.069 issue with mental health? 63 00:03:20.110 --> 00:03:22.210 Has anything ever impacted. 64 00:03:21.750 --> 00:03:23.729 Your mental health? What would you like to share with 65 00:03:23.810 --> 00:03:26.930 us about? Well, for me, I feel like I might 66 00:03:26.969 --> 00:03:28.909 deal with it every day. I lost my mom when 67 00:03:28.949 --> 00:03:32.639 I was nine. So that's something, you know, for a 68 00:03:32.680 --> 00:03:34.460 young woman, that's hard. 69 00:03:34.039 --> 00:03:37.389 To pull up and deal with. Teach yourself how. 70 00:03:37.270 --> 00:03:39.569 To be a woman on a day to day basis. 71 00:03:39.949 --> 00:03:42.289 You know, so I feel like I'll deal with that 72 00:03:42.340 --> 00:03:43.419 maybe for the rest of my life. 73 00:03:43.500 --> 00:03:44.819 I know how to cope with it. 74 00:03:44.860 --> 00:03:45.479 You know what I mean? 75 00:03:45.539 --> 00:03:46.539 But I'm not sad. 76 00:03:46.560 --> 00:03:48.900 I'm not a victim. You know, some people take that 77 00:03:48.939 --> 00:03:50.939 and become a victim or have a victim personality. 78 00:03:50.979 --> 00:03:53.979 I don't have that. I'm grateful. I lived longer than 79 00:03:54.020 --> 00:03:58.020 she was able to. And yeah. 80 00:03:58.060 --> 00:03:58.840 Do you remember? 81 00:03:58.860 --> 00:04:03.490 Do you remember at nine years old? this mental state 82 00:04:03.509 --> 00:04:05.569 you were in when you lost your mom? Is that, 83 00:04:05.590 --> 00:04:07.830 you know what I'm saying? Like, was that, is that 84 00:04:07.909 --> 00:04:09.849 something that was traumatic for you? 85 00:04:10.710 --> 00:04:11.789 Well, at nine, you. 86 00:04:11.750 --> 00:04:12.810 Don't understand that. 87 00:04:13.030 --> 00:04:15.900 So when I was told I'm thinking she's coming back, 88 00:04:15.919 --> 00:04:17.699 you know what I mean? You don't understand what that 89 00:04:17.740 --> 00:04:21.060 really is. So that's what actually that's, I started writing. 90 00:04:21.079 --> 00:04:23.240 So at nine, you know, I'm thinking maybe she'll be 91 00:04:23.279 --> 00:04:24.959 back in a year or whatever, you know. 92 00:04:24.800 --> 00:04:25.079 What I mean? 93 00:04:25.100 --> 00:04:27.399 So I started writing poetry to her and, you know, 94 00:04:27.439 --> 00:04:29.319 just waiting for her to come and she never came. So, 95 00:04:29.889 --> 00:04:31.810 I don't remember my mental state. I just know I 96 00:04:31.829 --> 00:04:34.230 wasn't aware what death was, and I was just always 97 00:04:34.269 --> 00:04:35.269 waiting for her to come home. 98 00:04:35.610 --> 00:04:39.680 So what age did it hit you that, you know, hey, 99 00:04:40.480 --> 00:04:43.360 she's not coming back? What age did that happen? 100 00:04:43.800 --> 00:04:46.339 I don't know what age it was, but, I mean, 101 00:04:46.819 --> 00:04:50.279 every day, it's my reality. So I'm not sure of 102 00:04:50.319 --> 00:04:53.100 the actual age that it hit me, but, you know, 103 00:04:53.120 --> 00:04:55.060 it hits me every day, honestly. 104 00:04:55.290 --> 00:04:57.420 Right. It's obviously still affecting you. 105 00:04:59.339 --> 00:05:02.579 To this, obviously, to this day, that's trauma that a 106 00:05:02.620 --> 00:05:06.120 lot of people go through when, you know, you lose someone, 107 00:05:06.160 --> 00:05:09.639 no matter what age it manifests itself later on. 108 00:05:09.980 --> 00:05:12.730 And you got to identify, hey, wait a second. 109 00:05:12.750 --> 00:05:16.069 This could be because I never dealt with the loss 110 00:05:16.089 --> 00:05:18.009 of my mother or anything like that. 111 00:05:18.300 --> 00:05:19.420 You know what I mean? Similar. 112 00:05:19.639 --> 00:05:22.160 Have you thought about getting therapy because of that loss? 113 00:05:22.180 --> 00:05:22.959 I went to therapy. 114 00:05:23.220 --> 00:05:23.980 Well, definitely. 115 00:05:24.000 -->

00:05:26.550 I went to therapy. My grandmother, she raised me. She 116 00:05:26.560 --> 00:05:27.939 put me in therapy when I was young because I 117 00:05:27.990 --> 00:05:31.069 was very angry. Because I didn't understand. So she put 118 00:05:31.110 --> 00:05:32.769 me in therapy. Me and her went together. And that 119 00:05:32.810 --> 00:05:36.790 was very helpful. But it still didn't change. So I'm 120 00:05:37.269 --> 00:05:39.230 assuming that's why I am how I am. 121 00:05:39.250 --> 00:05:40.430 Like, I'm a bubbly person. 122 00:05:40.790 --> 00:05:43.490 I'm shy. But if you know me, I'm bubbly. And 123 00:05:43.529 --> 00:05:46.930 I'm not walking around like a Debbie Downer. Some people would. 124 00:05:47.110 --> 00:05:49.910 You know what I mean? I'm assuming it's because of 125 00:05:49.930 --> 00:05:50.970 the therapy. 126 00:05:50.670 --> 00:05:52.269 Or, you know, I don't know. 127 00:05:52.490 --> 00:05:55.370 Or maybe what I do. So for me, music is 128 00:05:55.410 --> 00:05:59.189 my therapy. You know, that's a tool for therapy for me, 129 00:05:59.329 --> 00:05:59.600 you know. 130 00:06:00.480 --> 00:06:02.360 And is that how you use, is that the tool 131 00:06:02.399 --> 00:06:03.560 that you use to cope with? 132 00:06:03.759 --> 00:06:04.120 Yes. 133 00:06:05.079 --> 00:06:06.399 I'll shop. 134 00:06:06.860 --> 00:06:09.079 I'll do my music. I'll travel. 135 00:06:09.100 --> 00:06:09.180 Yeah. 136 00:06:10.000 --> 00:06:10.959 But then it hits me. 137 00:06:10.980 --> 00:06:13.160 I can go get on the jet and go to 138 00:06:13.259 --> 00:06:15.339 Paris or whatever. I can't take my mom with me. 139 00:06:15.399 --> 00:06:16.420 So then, you know what I mean? 140 00:06:16.439 --> 00:06:18.730 So it's like, Violence, I guess. 141 00:06:20.410 --> 00:06:22.389 When did you realize you love music? 142 00:06:24.610 --> 00:06:27.389 When I got older, I always loved music. When I 143 00:06:27.430 --> 00:06:29.689 was young, I was writing poetry. I would write, like 144 00:06:29.730 --> 00:06:31.329 I said, I would write letters to my mom, you know. 145 00:06:32.089 --> 00:06:33.829 And I was always really good at it, but I 146 00:06:33.829 --> 00:06:35.949 didn't take it serious. So when I got older, my 147 00:06:35.970 --> 00:06:37.750 brother was like, you should do music because I have 148 00:06:37.790 --> 00:06:40.000 the lifestyle, I have the thing. Like, you know, I 149 00:06:40.009 --> 00:06:42.250 look like an artist. So he was like, you should 150 00:06:42.269 --> 00:06:44.160 really get into it and take it serious. And then 151 00:06:44.519 --> 00:06:46.620 I started. I started about three years ago. 152 00:06:48.279 --> 00:06:49.600 Which is amazing. 153 00:06:49.660 --> 00:06:53.019 But you, so, you know, our foundation, Kennedy Kids Foundation 154 00:06:53.259 --> 00:06:56.149 actually deals with teen mental health and teen suicide prevention. 155 00:06:56.529 --> 00:06:59.230 And so as a teen that struggled. 156 00:06:58.930 --> 00:07:03.089 With mental health, like it's, literally struggled with the losing 157 00:07:03.129 --> 00:07:06.069 your mom and that trauma you had to work through 158 00:07:06.120 --> 00:07:08.720 and going to therapy. What were your thoughts on therapy 159 00:07:08.779 --> 00:07:11.139 at the time? Do you recall how you felt about 160 00:07:11.220 --> 00:07:12.259 going to therapy? 161 00:07:12.279 --> 00:07:14.160 I was angry because I'm like, I don't need it. 162 00:07:14.259 --> 00:07:14.779 You don't know. 163 00:07:14.839 --> 00:07:16.579 You're a kid. You don't know what you need as 164 00:07:16.639 --> 00:07:17.959 a child. You know what I'm saying? 165 00:07:18.000 --> 00:07:18.540 So I was angry. 166 00:07:18.560 --> 00:07:20.160 I'm like, why am I going to this? But she 167 00:07:20.180 --> 00:07:21.930 made me and I'm so grateful that she did. 168 00:07:23.420 --> 00:07:25.680 So you can see now, like, do you still recall 169 00:07:25.720 --> 00:07:29.360 some of the therapy sessions now as you're older? Like, 170 00:07:29.399 --> 00:07:31.939 that there were tools that they gave you during therapy? 171 00:07:32.019 --> 00:07:34.959 If I remember not that good now, Bailey. 172 00:07:37.279 --> 00:07:37.680 Bye. 173 00:07:37.720 --> 00:07:39.779 None of us are as are. So you're in the 174 00:07:39.800 --> 00:07:40.279 same group. 175 00:07:40.300 --> 00:07:42.040 You're in the right group right now. 176 00:07:42.120 --> 00:07:44.879 But, no, I don't remember the tools that they gave 177 00:07:44.920 --> 00:07:45.519 me back then. 178 00:07:46.759 --> 00:07:49.730 But you're living in a more positive light and you 179 00:07:49.769 --> 00:07:52.550 seem to be like using tools because you say you 180 00:07:53.089 --> 00:07:56.230 remember every day. So then you're working through life, assuming 181 00:07:56.250 --> 00:07:58.319 that the tools came out of the therapy session. 182 00:07:58.379 --> 00:07:59.079 And that's why you're. 183 00:07:59.339 --> 00:08:02.279 Assuming or maybe what I've done or, you know what 184 00:08:02.300 --> 00:08:02.459 I mean? 185 00:08:02.500 --> 00:08:04.579 My own personal things I've done, maybe. 186 00:08:05.420 --> 00:08:06.500 I don't know. I'm just. 187 00:08:06.639 --> 00:08:07.750 I am grateful. 188 00:08:07.759 --> 00:08:08.079 So even. 189 00:08:08.110 --> 00:08:09.410 So my grandmother raised me. 190 00:08:10.009 --> 00:08:11.529 When my mom passed, I was going to go live 191 00:08:11.550 --> 00:08:12.910 with my... I wanted to live with my dad. And 192 00:08:13.550 --> 00:08:16.060 I'm grateful that I did. And my grandma took me. 193 00:08:16.069 --> 00:08:21.209 And she wasn't very... She's not like a lover girl. 194 00:08:21.769 --> 00:08:25.560 She's not affectionate because she never met her parents. 195 00:08:25.939 --> 00:08:28.240 She grew up in foster care, so she never saw that. 196 00:08:28.300 --> 00:08:28.759 You know what I mean? 197 00:08:28.779 --> 00:08:29.519 She

never experienced it. 198 00:08:29.540 --> 00:08:32.720 So she wasn't affectionate. But she put me in so 199 00:08:32.779 --> 00:08:36.620 many activities. She put me in active school, etiquette classes. 200 00:08:36.879 --> 00:08:39.159 She put me in all the things that keep me creative, 201 00:08:39.539 --> 00:08:42.039 which was a blessing because it kept my mind going. 202 00:08:42.120 --> 00:08:44.059 And even to this day, you know what I mean? 203 00:08:44.539 --> 00:08:46.580 So I'm grateful for that. But she wasn't loving. She 204 00:08:46.600 --> 00:08:48.779 wasn't saying, I love you or, you know, how was 205 00:08:48.820 --> 00:08:52.559 your day? But she, you know, she kept me busy. 206 00:08:52.820 --> 00:08:55.009 So I feel like if I was with my dad, 207 00:08:55.019 --> 00:08:56.360 I would have had a different lifestyle. 208 00:08:56.399 --> 00:08:57.350 You know what I mean? 209 00:08:57.379 --> 00:08:59.509 Why do you feel you would have? Like, how do 210 00:08:59.529 --> 00:09:03.990 you know what that was? What that lifestyle would be 211 00:09:04.090 --> 00:09:04.789 like with your dad? 212 00:09:04.830 --> 00:09:07.230 I don't know. I didn't know then, but I know now. 213 00:09:07.929 --> 00:09:12.889 I didn't know back then, but I just know now that. 214 00:09:13.730 --> 00:09:16.490 Just all the things she did, even to a school system. 215 00:09:16.529 --> 00:09:17.970 She put me in all Catholic schools. 216 00:09:18.710 --> 00:09:19.470 Oh, wow. 217 00:09:20.090 --> 00:09:22.809 She just invested a lot of money into me, I 218 00:09:22.850 --> 00:09:25.860 would say. She didn't put a lot of time, like herself, 219 00:09:25.879 --> 00:09:28.080 like personal, like sit down with me, but she put 220 00:09:28.120 --> 00:09:29.740 a lot of money so I can have, you know. 221 00:09:29.759 --> 00:09:32.039 Them extracurricular activities that are important. 222 00:09:32.580 --> 00:09:32.879 Right. 223 00:09:32.899 --> 00:09:33.519 You know what I mean? 224 00:09:33.539 --> 00:09:35.139 She put me in acting classes, so I was able 225 00:09:35.159 --> 00:09:36.990 to do my own TV show. I had my own 226 00:09:37.269 --> 00:09:39.929 sitcom at one point. So, you know, all of those 227 00:09:39.970 --> 00:09:41.649 things that she instilled in me. 228 00:09:42.429 --> 00:09:43.909 Now I can carry on to this day. 229 00:09:43.929 --> 00:09:44.000 So. 230 00:09:44.500 --> 00:09:44.740 Right. 231 00:09:45.279 --> 00:09:45.700 Question. 232 00:09:45.740 --> 00:09:47.779 Did she, did you, so did you still, were you 233 00:09:47.799 --> 00:09:50.919 still able to maintain some semblance of a relationship. 234 00:09:50.360 --> 00:09:52.620 With your father? Did you facilitate that even though you 235 00:09:52.659 --> 00:09:54.429 didn't get to go live with him because you wanted to? 236 00:09:54.570 --> 00:09:55.090 No, no. 237 00:09:55.090 --> 00:09:59.830 So, um, it's so interesting because he passed about 10 238 00:10:00.039 --> 00:10:03.039 years ago and I was always angry at him you 239 00:10:03.059 --> 00:10:04.950 know what I mean I was always angry like why 240 00:10:05.049 --> 00:10:07.730 you know because although I didn't come live with you 241 00:10:07.769 --> 00:10:10.570 why didn't you come you know step up or take 242 00:10:10.590 --> 00:10:13.529 me play whatever And we spoke when he was in 243 00:10:13.549 --> 00:10:13.909 the hospital. 244 00:10:13.929 --> 00:10:15.909 I went to go see him, right? Me being mature. 245 00:10:15.970 --> 00:10:19.289 Holding the grudge all the time. 246 00:10:19.490 --> 00:10:21.879 And I just asked him, I said, why weren't you around? 247 00:10:21.889 --> 00:10:24.460 And he was like, you know, you reminded me too 248 00:10:24.500 --> 00:10:25.279 much of your mom. 249 00:10:25.299 --> 00:10:29.519 I couldn't. So, you know, that was his excuse. And 250 00:10:29.580 --> 00:10:30.399 it may be true. 251 00:10:30.440 --> 00:10:31.220 You know what I'm saying? 252 00:10:31.679 --> 00:10:34.120 But it is what it is. 253 00:10:34.200 --> 00:10:35.799 I was able to talk to him, you know, his 254 00:10:35.850 --> 00:10:38.610 last days. And I am glad that I did. Because, 255 00:10:38.629 --> 00:10:40.490 you know, some people always sit around and wonder. 256 00:10:40.509 --> 00:10:41.210 Right. 257 00:10:41.230 --> 00:10:41.330 Right. 258 00:10:41.940 --> 00:10:45.779 You got to ask the question. Yeah. Without that question. 259 00:10:45.799 --> 00:10:47.490 Answer to the best of his ability. 260 00:10:47.970 --> 00:10:48.250 Yeah. 261 00:10:48.309 --> 00:10:51.350 Without that question, it could have been, your mental state 262 00:10:51.370 --> 00:10:52.929 could have been a lot different today. 263 00:10:53.690 --> 00:10:54.129 Yes. 264 00:10:54.169 --> 00:10:55.980 Because you got that question out and you got the 265 00:10:56.100 --> 00:10:57.820 answer no matter what the answer is. 266 00:10:57.820 --> 00:10:58.159 Right. 267 00:10:58.500 --> 00:11:00.159 Whether I agree with it or not. 268 00:11:00.600 --> 00:11:00.860 Right. 269 00:11:00.899 --> 00:11:02.019 I got the answer. 270 00:11:02.139 --> 00:11:04.519 It gave you, yeah, it gave you a conclusion. 271 00:11:04.539 --> 00:11:05.080 Mm-hmm. 272 00:11:06.090 --> 00:11:06.289 Yeah. 273 00:11:06.350 --> 00:11:06.929 That's amazing. 274 00:11:06.950 --> 00:11:09.309 Well, I'm really sorry for the loss of both your parents, Ming. 275 00:11:09.409 --> 00:11:11.450 I'm sorry that you went through that. That's a very 276 00:11:11.490 --> 00:11:13.929 hard thing to do. I lost my dad in 2008 277 00:11:13.929 --> 00:11:17.220 and I'm not looking forward to losing my mom at 278 00:11:17.279 --> 00:11:19.299 all because it's just a very hard time in a 279 00:11:19.379 --> 00:11:21.460 person's life to go through loss at all. 280 00:11:21.519 --> 00:11:22.720 Period, of course. 281 00:11:25.440 --> 00:11:28.139 So I would love to segue to the I Love 282 00:11:28.179 --> 00:11:32.370

You Foundation that was created. And if you could tell 283 00:11:32.429 --> 00:11:34.409 us a little bit more about that foundation that you 284 00:11:34.429 --> 00:11:38.070 started and how You created it, what the mission is about. 285 00:11:38.090 --> 00:11:40.370 I think it has an alignment with Kennedy Kids that 286 00:11:40.389 --> 00:11:41.509 I'd love for everyone to know. 287 00:11:41.529 --> 00:11:42.669 Okay. 288 00:11:42.690 --> 00:11:45.700 The I Love You Foundation, I created it three years ago. 289 00:11:45.720 --> 00:11:47.980 I had a foundation prior, it was called the Luxury Foundation, 290 00:11:48.000 --> 00:11:49.960 but it was just a little too, you know. 291 00:11:49.980 --> 00:11:51.860 Right. The Luxury Foundation. 292 00:11:52.669 --> 00:11:54.490 Right, so I had to get. 293 00:11:54.389 --> 00:11:55.129 Real with things. 294 00:11:55.149 --> 00:11:58.110 Luxury foundation. I was like, what's a luxury foundation? But 295 00:11:58.210 --> 00:11:58.789 I get it. 296 00:11:59.129 --> 00:11:59.889 Please shop. 297 00:12:00.789 --> 00:12:04.649 Yeah. Don't judge me. So I changed it to the 298 00:12:04.730 --> 00:12:07.669 I Love You Foundation because, you know, what we're lacking 299 00:12:07.750 --> 00:12:10.169 in the world and even in my community is love, 300 00:12:10.250 --> 00:12:13.269 you know. So I feel like that was more relatable 301 00:12:13.860 --> 00:12:16.960 and softer. So that foundation is for mental health awareness. 302 00:12:17.440 --> 00:12:20.659 It's for children and parents, right? I have a lot 303 00:12:20.700 --> 00:12:23.860 of friends who do deal with depression and I see 304 00:12:24.080 --> 00:12:27.559 how their depression can affect their children. So I created 305 00:12:27.639 --> 00:12:30.460 it for, you know, my smaller circle of friends and. 306 00:12:30.419 --> 00:12:31.299 Also the community. 307 00:12:31.320 --> 00:12:33.159 So if I can help them, then we can help 308 00:12:33.179 --> 00:12:35.419 the community together. So that was my mission and my goal. 309 00:12:35.440 --> 00:12:37.299 So a lot of things I do, I do it 310 00:12:37.340 --> 00:12:38.740 with mother and daughters. 311 00:12:39.399 --> 00:12:40.120 That's awesome. 312 00:12:41.419 --> 00:12:43.870 That's awesome that you even got the name I Love 313 00:12:43.889 --> 00:12:47.269 You Foundation. It just seems like something that someone else 314 00:12:47.289 --> 00:12:49.220 would have. But the fact that you've got the I 315 00:12:49.279 --> 00:12:52.980 Love You Foundation, that in itself is just. 316 00:12:52.279 --> 00:12:52.960 A beautiful name. 317 00:12:53.460 --> 00:12:53.980 Thank you. 318 00:12:54.259 --> 00:12:54.620 Yes. 319 00:12:55.559 --> 00:12:59.779 You also deal with women suffering from postpartum depression as well, correct? 320 00:13:00.129 --> 00:13:00.490 Yes. 321 00:13:00.750 --> 00:13:01.169 Yes. 322 00:13:01.970 --> 00:13:02.269 Yes. 323 00:13:03.009 --> 00:13:05.269 I love that aspect of your organization. And I thought 324 00:13:05.389 --> 00:13:08.049 you were such a great fit for our podcast and 325 00:13:08.110 --> 00:13:11.929 for our mission as well, because the alignment is mental health, 326 00:13:11.960 --> 00:13:12.820 which is totally. 327 00:13:13.799 --> 00:13:15.360 And so in your career. 328 00:13:15.600 --> 00:13:18.320 And sorry to interrupt you, but let's talk about postpartum, 329 00:13:18.360 --> 00:13:20.080 not even just postpartum, even. 330 00:13:19.899 --> 00:13:21.200 Being a woman, right? 331 00:13:21.639 --> 00:13:21.879 Yeah. 332 00:13:21.899 --> 00:13:23.350 So we've talked about this. 333 00:13:23.389 --> 00:13:27.370 I recently dealt with fibroids, but that causes depression in women. 334 00:13:27.389 --> 00:13:27.970 You know what I mean? 335 00:13:28.210 --> 00:13:29.909 So there's so many things that we deal with on 336 00:13:29.970 --> 00:13:32.330 a daily basis that people may not know, the world 337 00:13:32.370 --> 00:13:34.980 don't know, but, you know, it can cause depression. So 338 00:13:35.429 --> 00:13:37.320 thank God we're like, you know, we don't look like 339 00:13:37.340 --> 00:13:38.139 what we've been through. 340 00:13:38.700 --> 00:13:38.879 Right. 341 00:13:39.590 --> 00:13:43.129 So and she actually is not making a joke. She 342 00:13:43.210 --> 00:13:45.629 just went through fibroid surgery. So she does not look 343 00:13:45.690 --> 00:13:46.730 like she's just been. 344 00:13:46.629 --> 00:13:48.230 Through a walk the next day. 345 00:13:48.269 --> 00:13:51.509 I had six fibroids and I didn't even know what 346 00:13:51.529 --> 00:13:54.789 was going on. But as a woman, you get insecure 347 00:13:54.809 --> 00:13:57.669 because you're gaining weight and you can't have children at 348 00:13:57.710 --> 00:14:00.279 that point because it's like taking over your uterus. So 349 00:14:00.340 --> 00:14:02.220 it's just so many things that women deal with. 350 00:14:02.299 --> 00:14:03.139 It's just like, whoo. 351 00:14:04.100 --> 00:14:10.230 Right. Well, you guys give birth to humankind. God made 352 00:14:10.250 --> 00:14:11.029 you strong. 353 00:14:11.289 --> 00:14:12.029 I know. 354 00:14:12.269 --> 00:14:15.789 You guys are special. I realize that. Yes. 355 00:14:16.529 --> 00:14:20.830 My whole foundation is almost 90 plus percent women. 356 00:14:21.250 --> 00:14:21.649 Okay. 357 00:14:21.889 --> 00:14:22.789 Lucky you. 358 00:14:22.909 --> 00:14:25.200 Yes, exactly. I'm smart. 359 00:14:27.820 --> 00:14:34.509 I'm done. That's funny. I'm sorry. I'm like, wait a minute. 360 00:14:34.549 --> 00:14:35.149 That's funny. 361 00:14:36.289 --> 00:14:37.970 That's not what I thought you were about to say, 362 00:14:38.009 --> 00:14:38.690 but that's funny. 363 00:14:38.710 --> 00:14:40.509 What was he about to say? 364 00:14:41.370 --> 00:14:43.509 I didn't know he was going to say 90% of 365 00:14:43.549 --> 00:14:46.330 his foundation is women. I thought he was going to 366

00:14:46.429 --> 00:14:48.950 drop some mental health statistic at that point. 367 00:14:49.049 --> 00:14:50.929 No, I'm just talking about. 368 00:14:51.029 --> 00:14:52.830 It was his mental health statistic. 369 00:14:52.870 --> 00:14:53.710 Exactly. 370 00:14:58.320 --> 00:15:01.879 So Ming is also a rap artist, and she's dropped 371 00:15:01.919 --> 00:15:03.279 a few videos, and she's. 372 00:15:03.120 --> 00:15:04.019 Got her music. 373 00:15:04.230 --> 00:15:07.070 And we're so excited that she said she would be 374 00:15:07.230 --> 00:15:11.429 our first host of our Halloween gala that we are 375 00:15:11.490 --> 00:15:15.110 partnering with for Giselle this year on 1029, which is 376 00:15:15.169 --> 00:15:15.809 super cool. 377 00:15:15.830 --> 00:15:16.929 But Ming, like. 378 00:15:17.669 --> 00:15:20.620 As an artist in the industry and breaking through the 379 00:15:20.659 --> 00:15:24.039 glass ceiling, like what sort of challenges do you encounter 380 00:15:24.080 --> 00:15:27.299 that challenge your mental health while you're working in that space? 381 00:15:27.320 --> 00:15:29.279 Because that's an environment I know nothing about. 382 00:15:30.529 --> 00:15:32.169 Well, nothing really triggers. 383 00:15:31.870 --> 00:15:34.529 My mental health because I live now like I live 384 00:15:34.549 --> 00:15:36.570 in a state where you can't control what you can't control. 385 00:15:36.590 --> 00:15:39.740 So I live a very soft life. So I don't 386 00:15:39.769 --> 00:15:43.299 let things bother me. The only issue is it's predominantly men. 387 00:15:44.490 --> 00:15:47.149 And men think women are a little slower than they 388 00:15:47.230 --> 00:15:48.070 are for some reason. 389 00:15:48.590 --> 00:15:51.309 So that's the only issue, like, you know, dealing. 390 00:15:51.009 --> 00:15:54.210 With marketers or people that think they can outsmart you. Like, 391 00:15:54.250 --> 00:15:56.590 I didn't get to where I am because I'm not brilliant. 392 00:15:57.370 --> 00:15:58.909 So that's the only thing. 393 00:15:58.929 --> 00:16:01.590 But I don't let it affect me because, you know, 394 00:16:01.649 --> 00:16:03.710 you can't control what you can't control. And I do 395 00:16:03.750 --> 00:16:06.309 believe everything is, you know, divine timing. 396 00:16:06.330 --> 00:16:06.570 Yeah. 397 00:16:07.730 --> 00:16:08.649 But I am. 398 00:16:08.470 --> 00:16:12.769 Putting a project out, my first full project on my 399 00:16:12.789 --> 00:16:14.570 mom's birthday this year is 11-11. 400 00:16:14.590 --> 00:16:17.470 So I'm excited for that. Oh, that's awesome. 401 00:16:17.990 --> 00:16:20.789 Yes. How much of it have you gotten done so far? 402 00:16:21.509 --> 00:16:23.759 It's done. Oh, it's done. Oh, you're ready. 403 00:16:24.259 --> 00:16:24.840 Yes, I'm done. 404 00:16:24.860 --> 00:16:27.940 Locked and loaded. That's exciting. 405 00:16:28.289 --> 00:16:29.850 Yeah, I just have to do the content. 406 00:16:29.870 --> 00:16:31.450

So I'm going to be working on that in the 407 00:16:31.509 --> 00:16:32.149 next two. 408 00:16:32.009 --> 00:16:32.629 To three weeks. 409 00:16:32.850 --> 00:16:35.710 You know, just videos, photos, things of that nature, but 410 00:16:35.850 --> 00:16:38.289 all of it. I actually have three done, but I'm just, 411 00:16:38.330 --> 00:16:39.950 you know, taking my time. 412 00:16:41.029 --> 00:16:43.960 OK, we got some exclusive information right here. 413 00:16:43.980 --> 00:16:44.409 I do. 414 00:16:45.960 --> 00:16:46.659 That's awesome. 415 00:16:47.120 --> 00:16:50.519 Yeah, it's dropping 1111. Mark your numbers. 416 00:16:50.720 --> 00:16:52.019 And what's the name? 417 00:16:52.620 --> 00:16:53.759 Leon by Ming. 418 00:16:54.759 --> 00:16:56.519 Leon by Ming. I like it. 419 00:16:56.820 --> 00:16:59.710 Thank you. I'm sure it was available. 420 00:16:59.730 --> 00:17:02.049 It's not, I'll buy it. 421 00:17:02.029 --> 00:17:02.070 100%. 422 00:17:02.070 --> 00:17:05.380 So what outfit are you planning to wear at the 423 00:17:05.400 --> 00:17:05.859 Halloween party? 424 00:17:13.019 --> 00:17:14.519 See how men are never satisfied? 425 00:17:14.539 --> 00:17:16.519 You got an exclusive tip, but you wanted. 426 00:17:16.319 --> 00:17:17.460 A more exclusive tip. 427 00:17:17.539 --> 00:17:19.609 I want more exclusive. 428 00:17:19.900 --> 00:17:20.950 Actually, that's pretty unusual. 429 00:17:21.009 --> 00:17:23.490 Most men I know don't ask follow-up questions. This is 430 00:17:23.549 --> 00:17:26.309 one of my husband's, like, fatal flaw. He comes home 431 00:17:26.329 --> 00:17:27.630 and he tells me, oh, so-and-so broke up. 432 00:17:27.650 --> 00:17:27.990 But why? 433 00:17:28.049 --> 00:17:28.369 I don't know. 434 00:17:28.410 --> 00:17:29.029 I didn't ask. 435 00:17:29.609 --> 00:17:31.579 So, Robert, I appreciate that question. 436 00:17:31.630 --> 00:17:36.160 That's the follow-up. Yeah. What is... What did I go for, Robert? 437 00:17:36.180 --> 00:17:36.819 What do you think? 438 00:17:38.470 --> 00:17:42.039 You know, you're glamorous, right? And you're pretty. 439 00:17:42.099 --> 00:17:45.200 So I'm assuming it's not going to be anything that 440 00:17:45.279 --> 00:17:47.099 really aligns with horror. 441 00:17:47.119 --> 00:17:47.180 No. 442 00:17:49.200 --> 00:17:52.619 And no mask. You have to see my face. 443 00:17:53.920 --> 00:17:55.450 Exactly. Exactly. 444 00:17:55.509 --> 00:18:00.089 It's probably going to be something along the lines of like. 445 00:18:01.660 --> 00:18:07.299 Maybe like Spider-Woman or something like that. Something where you 446 00:18:07.519 --> 00:18:12.279 wear something tight or exotic. You're just not coming with 447 00:18:12.380 --> 00:18:13.079 anything horror. 448 00:18:13.539 --> 00:18:14.259 No, no way. 449 00:18:14.339 --> 00:18:18.400 I don't ever look scary. I don't like Halloween, honestly. 450 00:18:18.440 --> 00:18:21.329 I don't like being scared. I don't like scary movies. 451

00:18:21.809 --> 00:18:26.549 But I'm coming out for Bailey and, you know. 452 00:18:26.650 --> 00:18:29.690 It's going to be an amazing, amazing Halloween party. 453 00:18:30.119 --> 00:18:31.170 I'm excited. 454 00:18:31.690 --> 00:18:34.349 We want to do every year annually to be like 455 00:18:34.569 --> 00:18:38.269 a consistent fundraiser. Giselle's been a great partner. 456 00:18:38.470 --> 00:18:39.630 I know you love. 457 00:18:39.430 --> 00:18:42.509 Giselle, which is one of my favorite restaurants as well. 458 00:18:43.509 --> 00:18:46.329 So the owner has been a sponsor of several of 459 00:18:46.410 --> 00:18:49.630 our events throughout the history of Kennedy Kids Foundation, which 460 00:18:49.890 --> 00:18:52.589 I don't know if you probably know Alan directly or 461 00:18:53.089 --> 00:18:58.089 one of your assistants does. So that's why we picked 462 00:18:58.170 --> 00:18:59.710 it to do it with him there because it's the 463 00:18:59.750 --> 00:19:01.809 perfect spot. And I thought you'd be the perfect host 464 00:19:01.829 --> 00:19:04.230 to kick off our first annual and. 465 00:19:04.589 --> 00:19:06.490 Go from there. I'm excited. 466 00:19:06.569 --> 00:19:07.569 Yes, let's do it. 467 00:19:08.339 --> 00:19:10.819 Yeah, but you can work a lot harder on your costume. 468 00:19:10.839 --> 00:19:13.059 You don't have to tell anybody what your costume is today. 469 00:19:13.460 --> 00:19:16.839 I really don't have a clue, though, honestly. Yeah, that's 470 00:19:16.880 --> 00:19:19.720 where I'm at. I was thinking about Poison Ivy. 471 00:19:19.839 --> 00:19:22.460 I don't know. That'll be different. 472 00:19:22.480 --> 00:19:22.920 I don't know. 473 00:19:22.940 --> 00:19:24.420 I gotta think. 474 00:19:24.619 --> 00:19:26.059 It's gonna be here before you know it. 475 00:19:26.279 --> 00:19:28.960 And you know, you girls, I could probably put together 476 00:19:28.980 --> 00:19:30.349 my outfit in a week. 477 00:19:31.009 --> 00:19:31.890 Are you gonna be Batman? 478 00:19:32.329 --> 00:19:32.589 No. 479 00:19:32.609 --> 00:19:32.670 No. 480 00:19:32.809 --> 00:19:32.890 No. 481 00:19:37.369 --> 00:19:40.059 Not going to be Batman. But my point is, I 482 00:19:40.299 --> 00:19:41.660 could probably put together. 483 00:19:41.380 --> 00:19:42.400 An outfit in a week. 484 00:19:42.420 --> 00:19:46.890 I'm assuming you guys need a good amount of time, right? 485 00:19:47.250 --> 00:19:49.529 No, it's kind of easy for us. We have the... 486 00:19:49.880 --> 00:19:50.519 first part. 487 00:19:51.240 --> 00:19:51.559 Right. 488 00:19:51.700 --> 00:19:53.720 It's going to be pretty easy for us. 489 00:19:53.700 --> 00:19:56.119 Daily, I think. 490 00:19:56.519 --> 00:19:58.400 I like scary, so when I come, I don't cheat. 491 00:19:59.049 --> 00:20:01.230 I don't like for anybody to know it's me. Halloween 492 00:20:01.250 --> 00:20:04.410 has always been one of my favorite holidays. Yeah, only 493 00:20:04.509 --> 00:20:06.849 just since as a kid because I love candy and I. 494 00:20:06.809 --> 00:20:08.450 Have a sugar tooth. I love candy. 495 00:20:08.930 --> 00:20:13.230 So I loved trick-or-treating, especially with my own kids. So 496 00:20:13.289 --> 00:20:16.170 every year I've made a huge deal out about Halloween 497 00:20:16.230 --> 00:20:19.529 and everybody gets full dressed up, full everything. And typically 498 00:20:19.569 --> 00:20:21.230 I like for people not to know it's me when 499 00:20:21.250 --> 00:20:22.279 I'm standing in front of them. 500 00:20:22.319 --> 00:20:22.960 So that's me. 501 00:20:23.759 --> 00:20:26.740 The lengths at which I'm willing to go for our 502 00:20:26.779 --> 00:20:29.460 Halloween party. So I'm looking forward to planning something great, 503 00:20:29.500 --> 00:20:31.220 but I need at least like three weeks just to 504 00:20:31.259 --> 00:20:31.980 ship the stuff I. 505 00:20:31.980 --> 00:20:32.799 Need to put together. 506 00:20:36.259 --> 00:20:37.220 Yeah. 507 00:20:37.480 --> 00:20:39.799 No, you can look cute. You're the host, but anyway, 508 00:20:40.220 --> 00:20:44.200 to mental health went off the deep end on our 509 00:20:44.259 --> 00:20:48.819 next fundraiser event. But, um, Misty is, uh, life coach 510 00:20:48.880 --> 00:20:52.089 for athletes and is in this space. So, Misty, do 511 00:20:52.109 --> 00:20:54.509 you have any questions for our beautiful Ming Leon? 512 00:20:54.529 --> 00:20:56.829 Of course I have questions. 513 00:20:56.849 --> 00:20:58.049 First of all, cheers. 514 00:20:58.130 --> 00:21:00.650 I have sparkling water, but. 515 00:21:00.009 --> 00:21:01.730 Something told me to put it in a wine glass. 516 00:21:01.950 --> 00:21:02.930 Get the memo. 517 00:21:02.950 --> 00:21:06.490 Bailey's jealous over there. I know she is. 518 00:21:06.609 --> 00:21:07.250 I was just thinking that. 519 00:21:13.740 --> 00:21:16.299 When she said I didn't get the memo, I was like, okay, 520 00:21:16.339 --> 00:21:19.339 that was the cue for, hey, why didn't you tell me? 521 00:21:20.119 --> 00:21:21.730 FOMO, fair missing out. 522 00:21:22.369 --> 00:21:23.509 Always, always. 523 00:21:23.869 --> 00:21:25.289 We'll do it moving forward, Bailey. 524 00:21:25.309 --> 00:21:25.970 That'll be our thing. 525 00:21:27.150 --> 00:21:28.809 So Ming, of course, I want to thank you for 526 00:21:28.849 --> 00:21:30.839 your time and being here. 527 00:21:30.920 --> 00:21:31.759 And I love so much. 528 00:21:31.779 --> 00:21:33.779 There's so much I want to unpack about what you're 529 00:21:33.819 --> 00:21:36.000 saying and you have shared so far. 530 00:21:36.599 --> 00:21:39.160 But I love your ability. 531 00:21:38.779 --> 00:21:42.750 To have just this joyful bubbly, as you said, you have. 532 00:21:42.670 --> 00:21:44.150 This confidence about you. 533 00:21:44.170 --> 00:21:49.470 And I can really tell that that self-love and self-empowerment 534 00:21:49.930 --> 00:21:52.390 seems to be such a big part of

just who 535 00:21:52.430 --> 00:21:55.130 you are naturally, like who you have just become in 536 00:21:55.170 --> 00:21:58.539 your life. And through your organization or when you're supporting 537 00:21:58.559 --> 00:22:01.480 women through postpartum or mothers and daughters or whatever it is, 538 00:22:03.069 --> 00:22:04.910 know self-love is something that we can struggle with a 539 00:22:04.970 --> 00:22:08.170 lot i think especially younger in our teenage years we're 540 00:22:08.190 --> 00:22:10.930 battling so many things that will make us look at 541 00:22:10.970 --> 00:22:13.549 ourselves and then as we get older right as moms 542 00:22:13.589 --> 00:22:18.099 like your life completely changes everything everything changes so that 543 00:22:18.180 --> 00:22:21.500 self-love part is really hard because now you're had this 544 00:22:21.539 --> 00:22:23.599 other expectation of what it is to be a mom 545 00:22:23.740 --> 00:22:26.279 right and so by doing a good enough job is 546 00:22:26.519 --> 00:22:29.720 always on my back of my mind So how do 547 00:22:29.740 --> 00:22:34.160 you encourage women? How do you take that natural, bubbly, self-loving, 548 00:22:34.299 --> 00:22:37.799 brilliant energy that you have and really help the women 549 00:22:37.920 --> 00:22:39.559 in your foundation do the same? 550 00:22:41.609 --> 00:22:44.450 First off, no one's perfect and nothing is perfect. 551 00:22:44.490 --> 00:22:45.049 I used to be an. 552 00:22:45.069 --> 00:22:49.549 Overthinker back in my day. So I really just sit 553 00:22:49.589 --> 00:22:51.650 there and talk to them and tell them, you know, 554 00:22:51.710 --> 00:22:53.130 you could be whoever you want to be. 555 00:22:53.190 --> 00:22:53.829 They could be whoever. 556 00:22:54.150 --> 00:22:57.150 But the most important part is you got to have 557 00:22:57.190 --> 00:23:00.230 the confidence and they have to see it in you first. Like, 558 00:23:00.269 --> 00:23:01.910 you know what I mean? Like, for instance, I have 559 00:23:01.950 --> 00:23:03.869 a friend and she's like, oh, she wants to steal 560 00:23:03.890 --> 00:23:04.869 certain things of her. 561 00:23:04.769 --> 00:23:07.539 Child or her children. She has two children. And I'm like, 562 00:23:07.619 --> 00:23:09.000 they have to see it in you first. 563 00:23:09.339 --> 00:23:13.000 So I actively, you know, try to help them build 564 00:23:13.059 --> 00:23:14.240 up their confidence first. 565 00:23:14.319 --> 00:23:16.740 Like you can't they're watching you. 566 00:23:16.829 --> 00:23:17.710 They're a sponge. 567 00:23:18.130 --> 00:23:20.529 You can't bring them to me or, you know, have 568 00:23:20.569 --> 00:23:23.549 them around me and think they're going to have my life, 569 00:23:23.730 --> 00:23:26.410 you know, or have my confidence because they're around you 570 00:23:26.450 --> 00:23:29.000 most of the time. So, you know, just encouraging them. 571 00:23:29.880 --> 00:23:32.680 you know, to love yourself, you know, every day is 572 00:23:32.720 --> 00:23:34.779 going to be better than, you know, the day before. 573 00:23:34.859 --> 00:23:36.819 You just have to be, there's nothing you can do. 574 00:23:36.880 --> 00:23:38.519 Your life is your life and you just have to 575 00:23:39.559 --> 00:23:42.319 find your confidence however you can. You know, how I 576 00:23:42.339 --> 00:23:44.640 found mine may not be how you find yours, but 577 00:23:44.700 --> 00:23:46.319 you have to find it some way, especially if you 578 00:23:46.339 --> 00:23:49.400 have children. I don't have any children yet, but hopefully 579 00:23:49.509 --> 00:23:52.869 once I do, you know, I'll be even more confident 580 00:23:52.890 --> 00:23:54.750 and I'm able to instill those things in them. 581 00:23:54.789 --> 00:23:54.930 So. 582 00:23:56.789 --> 00:23:57.190 I love that. 583 00:23:57.210 --> 00:23:58.539 But do you let me ask you, do you feel 584 00:23:58.619 --> 00:24:01.960 pressure to come off as confident at all times? You 585 00:24:02.000 --> 00:24:04.119 said nobody is perfect and you're going to have days 586 00:24:04.160 --> 00:24:07.349 that aren't necessarily great that are great. So you don't 587 00:24:07.369 --> 00:24:08.970 like as a role model to them, like I have 588 00:24:09.009 --> 00:24:09.829 to always be. 589 00:24:10.049 --> 00:24:12.930 No, I'm if I have to cry, I cry. 590 00:24:12.990 --> 00:24:14.109 I don't hold things in. 591 00:24:14.130 --> 00:24:14.650 You know what I mean? 592 00:24:14.809 --> 00:24:15.250 I'm not. 593 00:24:15.970 --> 00:24:18.680 No, not at all. I'm very much like. 594 00:24:19.589 --> 00:24:21.750 Transparent as I can be you know what I'm saying 595 00:24:22.190 --> 00:24:25.210 I don't ever feel pressured to be confident at all 596 00:24:25.289 --> 00:24:27.930 no because I know no one is confident you know 597 00:24:28.009 --> 00:24:30.869 all the time no they're just not realistic so. 598 00:24:31.710 --> 00:24:35.539 Right right right right I think that's really go ahead 599 00:24:35.579 --> 00:24:36.480 Robert no. 600 00:24:36.430 --> 00:24:40.299 I was just saying that's that's interesting how open and 601 00:24:40.339 --> 00:24:45.279 transparent you are and I'm just thinking you know usually 602 00:24:45.319 --> 00:24:50.170 when when someone starts a foundation, there's something or reason 603 00:24:51.329 --> 00:24:54.029 that causes them to start the foundation. 604 00:24:54.250 --> 00:24:57.130 Me, obviously, I lost my daughter. People who do. 605 00:24:57.029 --> 00:25:01.769 Cancer foundation charity, someone in their family. What made you 606 00:25:01.829 --> 00:25:05.990 start the I Love You Foundation? What is it that 607 00:25:06.309 --> 00:25:08.269 drove you to say, I need. 608 00:25:08.130 --> 00:25:08.650 To do this? 609 00:25:09.700 --> 00:25:13.420 Well, definitely me losing my mom, but mental health runs 610 00:25:13.460 --> 00:25:16.400 in my family. So, and I see it, you know, 611

00:25:16.480 --> 00:25:19.450 I see how it passes down from mother to daughter. 612 00:25:19.910 --> 00:25:22.329 So that's really what made me start. Like I see 613 00:25:22.349 --> 00:25:24.220 it in my eye and how it passed down to 614 00:25:24.279 --> 00:25:25.000 her children. 615 00:25:25.579 --> 00:25:27.819 So that's the experience that you have. 616 00:25:27.980 --> 00:25:29.240 Right. That was my experience. 617 00:25:29.279 --> 00:25:31.579 And I have friends and I see how they're depressed 618 00:25:31.599 --> 00:25:35.609 and their children watching me depressed and crying. And it's like, 619 00:25:35.690 --> 00:25:38.549 but you're depressed over a guy like, you know, I'm 620 00:25:38.869 --> 00:25:41.329 not saying that you can't be. But, you know, I'm 621 00:25:41.349 --> 00:25:43.970 not walking like I'm not crying. I lost my parents. 622 00:25:44.049 --> 00:25:45.059 Like that's ultimate. 623 00:25:45.079 --> 00:25:45.680 You know what I mean? 624 00:25:46.880 --> 00:25:49.740 So it's so that's like just me experiencing within my 625 00:25:49.779 --> 00:25:52.859 friend group, my family and knowing that, you know, at 626 00:25:52.880 --> 00:25:55.569 some point, statistically, everyone will experience mental health. 627 00:25:55.609 --> 00:25:57.829 Everybody will experience. Sorry. 628 00:25:58.630 --> 00:25:58.910 Sorry. 629 00:25:59.670 --> 00:26:02.210 Lauren, everyone will experience some type of mental health in 630 00:26:02.230 --> 00:26:02.670 their life. 631 00:26:02.769 --> 00:26:06.069 So a hundred percent, everyone, a hundred percent. 632 00:26:06.109 --> 00:26:07.789 And that's, and that's why I named it the, I 633 00:26:07.809 --> 00:26:09.609 love you founder. Cause everyone needs love. 634 00:26:09.690 --> 00:26:11.269 And that's what a lot of people are lacking. 635 00:26:11.289 --> 00:26:14.390 Like even when I did, I did a vision board 636 00:26:14.430 --> 00:26:17.470 party with moms and daughters, or I did different things. 637 00:26:17.509 --> 00:26:19.690 Like I went around the groups and talk to different people, 638 00:26:19.730 --> 00:26:22.630 like in schools, like what is it? I know it's 639 00:26:22.730 --> 00:26:24.309 the juveniles when they get arrested. 640 00:26:24.849 --> 00:26:25.069 Right. 641 00:26:25.170 --> 00:26:25.369 Yeah. 642 00:26:27.420 --> 00:26:31.390 Yes. I know someone who runs, she's like the social 643 00:26:31.430 --> 00:26:31.910 worker there. 644 00:26:32.230 --> 00:26:33.930 And me and her was talking and she was like, yeah, 645 00:26:33.990 --> 00:26:34.609 a lot of them. 646 00:26:35.069 --> 00:26:37.369 I actually had her come on my show and talk about, 647 00:26:37.529 --> 00:26:40.009 you know, what, why, like when she talks to the children, 648 00:26:40.430 --> 00:26:42.430 you know, why do they do certain things? And they say, 649 00:26:42.490 --> 00:26:44.569 my mom don't tell me she loves me. My mom 650 00:26:44.589 --> 00:26:47.099 don't hug me. So it's so much lack of love 651 00:26:47.240 --> 00:26:47.940 in the world. 652 00:26:48.480 --> 00:26:51.519 So, you know, that's basically why. 653 00:26:51.539 --> 00:26:55.160 I think there's a big, I think there's a sad. 654 00:26:55.240 --> 00:26:55.380 Yeah. 655 00:26:57.069 --> 00:27:00.430 I think there's a big disconnect between the. 656 00:27:02.529 --> 00:27:03.230 Age groups. 657 00:27:03.630 --> 00:27:07.279 Like my mom and a lot of friends that I know, 658 00:27:07.380 --> 00:27:09.859 their parents that are, you know, my friends that are 659 00:27:09.900 --> 00:27:14.799 my age and their parents, yeah, they grew up during 660 00:27:14.839 --> 00:27:19.400 a time where, you know, we're in the streets, we're playing. 661 00:27:19.869 --> 00:27:22.210 It wasn't like, I love you so much. 662 00:27:22.230 --> 00:27:22.710 You know what I mean? 663 00:27:22.730 --> 00:27:25.960 It was like tough love, like, Come home before the 664 00:27:26.000 --> 00:27:28.549 lights are on, go to school, go to bed, boy. 665 00:27:28.569 --> 00:27:31.410 You know what I mean? Go to football practice. 666 00:27:31.529 --> 00:27:35.309 Whatever the case may be, but it wasn't really lovey-dovey. 667 00:27:35.730 --> 00:27:36.910 Hey, I love you. 668 00:27:36.930 --> 00:27:39.970 No, I was like, listen, the food's on the stove. 669 00:27:40.390 --> 00:27:42.599 Get the food. You know what I mean? 670 00:27:42.900 --> 00:27:47.799 But now, I think a lot of parents are trying 671 00:27:47.859 --> 00:27:51.819 to be more loving, right? But the parents that are 672 00:27:52.259 --> 00:27:54.990 our age, and I think because... They look back on 673 00:27:55.029 --> 00:27:59.190 their life and they say, I didn't get this. Let 674 00:27:59.250 --> 00:28:02.769 me do it this way. And then, you know what 675 00:28:02.789 --> 00:28:06.119 I mean? You get two different parenting aspects. 676 00:28:06.859 --> 00:28:07.960 Which is a blessing, though. 677 00:28:08.000 --> 00:28:11.680 You realize what you didn't get and what you lacked. 678 00:28:11.700 --> 00:28:13.660 Because some people don't realize that. 679 00:28:13.779 --> 00:28:14.559 You know what I'm saying? 680 00:28:14.680 --> 00:28:15.200 Exactly. 681 00:28:15.259 --> 00:28:19.759 But the flip side is a lot of kids are 682 00:28:19.819 --> 00:28:28.200 getting that, but that along with technology and everything, our 683 00:28:28.240 --> 00:28:34.099 suicide rate is still up. It's higher. Mental health, all 684 00:28:34.140 --> 00:28:40.420 the issues that kids are having is up. It's incredible. 685 00:28:40.440 --> 00:28:43.960 It's an epidemic now. Back in the day when parents 686 00:28:44.029 --> 00:28:48.799 weren't saying that, but obviously we didn't have the technology. 687 00:28:48.859 --> 00:28:51.960 We didn't have social media where we knew what was 688 00:28:52.019 --> 00:28:56.319 going on everywhere our friends were. Back in the day, 689 00:28:56.480 --> 00:28:58.460 we just knew what was going on from as

far 690 00:28:58.500 --> 00:29:01.839 as we could see. And if we got the opportunity 691 00:29:01.859 --> 00:29:03.859 to get on the phone with that long wire, that 692 00:29:03.900 --> 00:29:07.559 long cord on it, we got a chance. And when 693 00:29:07.579 --> 00:29:09.529 we did get a chance, our parents would be like, 694 00:29:09.569 --> 00:29:12.190 you got five more minutes, get off that phone. 695 00:29:12.210 --> 00:29:13.730 So you didn't. 696 00:29:13.529 --> 00:29:16.700 Have an opportunity to bring all of the other your friends, 697 00:29:16.779 --> 00:29:19.539 all their problems into your life or what you see 698 00:29:19.660 --> 00:29:22.140 or what, you know, it's just a different, it was 699 00:29:22.180 --> 00:29:23.980 just a different time. 700 00:29:23.990 --> 00:29:25.430 You know? 701 00:29:25.509 --> 00:29:28.029 So I love your, you know, the I Love You 702 00:29:28.069 --> 00:29:33.349 Project and it's 100% needed. And I hope one day 703 00:29:33.410 --> 00:29:35.970 we can collaborate and do something together. 704 00:29:36.509 --> 00:29:37.049 Definitely. 705 00:29:37.109 --> 00:29:37.730 I'm interested. 706 00:29:38.509 --> 00:29:39.150 Oh, go ahead. 707 00:29:40.160 --> 00:29:44.059 Love the Kennedy Kids Foundation also. Y'all are doing amazing work. 708 00:29:44.579 --> 00:29:46.960 I love the 5K that you guys just did. 709 00:29:46.980 --> 00:29:50.930 Hopefully next year you can come down and speak and 710 00:29:50.970 --> 00:29:52.089 talk on the stage. 711 00:29:52.150 --> 00:29:52.910 Definitely. 712 00:29:53.410 --> 00:29:54.869 Maybe perform a song. 713 00:29:57.299 --> 00:29:58.319 Rob is reaching. 714 00:29:59.259 --> 00:30:00.799 Definitely, though. 715 00:30:00.859 --> 00:30:02.539 I got you. I got to ask. I got you 716 00:30:02.579 --> 00:30:03.339 right here, you know. 717 00:30:03.359 --> 00:30:08.369 Close mouth, don't get fat. 718 00:30:08.430 --> 00:30:13.049 Maybe I'm asking her like, you know, we're in high school. 719 00:30:13.589 --> 00:30:15.309 Come perform at my house party. 720 00:30:15.450 --> 00:30:20.779 Okay, ask away. I think it'd be better if she 721 00:30:20.819 --> 00:30:22.579 performed at Giselle, though, but yeah. 722 00:30:22.839 --> 00:30:23.440 But anyways. 723 00:30:26.089 --> 00:30:29.069 Funny um misty you had a question. 724 00:30:28.789 --> 00:30:30.710 For her sorry no i just was saying i was 725 00:30:30.730 --> 00:30:33.109 just making an observation with what you we've been talking 726 00:30:33.150 --> 00:30:36.049 about here and i it it really sounds like you 727 00:30:37.599 --> 00:30:39.539 know and when i'm coaching people we do a lot 728 00:30:39.599 --> 00:30:42.759 of kind of stepping back and looking at the whole 729 00:30:43.240 --> 00:30:46.380 the whole situation and really like the theme it sounds 730 00:30:46.400 --> 00:30:48.539 like that we're talking about is that love is an 731 00:30:48.619 --> 00:30:53.619 action word and so People can show love in different ways. 732 00:30:53.680 --> 00:30:56.539 It's a lot from someone saying like, oh, I love you, right? 733 00:30:56.759 --> 00:30:59.099 Talking and doing are two very different things. So if 734 00:30:59.119 --> 00:31:00.900 you have somebody who's saying I love you, but they're 735 00:31:00.920 --> 00:31:03.539 always on their phone or they're not prioritizing you or 736 00:31:03.579 --> 00:31:05.380 this or that, you're not going to feel loved even 737 00:31:05.400 --> 00:31:07.319 though the words are coming out of their mouth. Maybe 738 00:31:07.339 --> 00:31:11.059 they're not saying to you, I love you, but they're 739 00:31:11.400 --> 00:31:12.539 putting you in acting classes. 740 00:31:12.559 --> 00:31:14.579 They're putting you in this school. They're making sure. 741 00:31:15.289 --> 00:31:15.970 That you're fed. 742 00:31:15.990 --> 00:31:17.599 They're making sure that this is taken care of. 743 00:31:17.599 --> 00:31:19.839 So, you know, like maybe they're not saying it, but 744 00:31:19.880 --> 00:31:21.859 you feel in your heart that you are loved and 745 00:31:21.880 --> 00:31:24.259 you are a priority to that person. And I think 746 00:31:24.359 --> 00:31:28.079 that that's that that's so important, such an important piece 747 00:31:29.690 --> 00:31:31.930 of what it means to love. And it just was 748 00:31:32.190 --> 00:31:33.430 I don't know, it just was it just was an 749 00:31:33.470 --> 00:31:36.190 observation that I was making because being here, you are 750 00:31:36.230 --> 00:31:39.410 you taking action to do that through your foundation? 751 00:31:39.430 --> 00:31:40.299 And I think that's amazing. 752 00:31:40.990 --> 00:31:42.750 And my grandmother just said to me the other day 753 00:31:42.789 --> 00:31:44.309 on the phone, well, her birthday was, like, a. 754 00:31:44.269 --> 00:31:44.990 Couple weeks ago. 755 00:31:45.329 --> 00:31:48.009 And she was like, I'm so grateful your mom left 756 00:31:48.069 --> 00:31:50.710 you with me. She was like, I'm so blessed. Like, 757 00:31:50.750 --> 00:31:52.829 I didn't realize when it, you know, first happened. Because, 758 00:31:52.869 --> 00:31:55.250 of course, you lost a child. And that was her 759 00:31:55.450 --> 00:31:58.170 first child. And they were very close. Like, they grew 760 00:31:58.250 --> 00:31:59.869 up together. You know, you had that first child that 761 00:31:59.890 --> 00:32:02.130 you grew up with and go through so much with. 762 00:32:02.569 --> 00:32:05.480 So she was like, um. She was like, I'm so grateful. 763 00:32:05.500 --> 00:32:07.349 I didn't realize it in time, but she was like, 764 00:32:07.369 --> 00:32:09.779 you know, because there's so much going on, but. 765 00:32:09.640 --> 00:32:12.609 I'm so grateful. Like, you're such a blessing. I'm like, oh, 766 00:32:12.609 --> 00:32:13.650 that was such a compliment. 767 00:32:15.730 --> 00:32:19.509 Oh, that's a huge compliment. And I was about to 768 00:32:19.630 --> 00:32:22.730 ask

if your grandmother was still with you. So I'm glad. Yes, 769 00:32:22.769 --> 00:32:24.109 we're very close, actually. 770 00:32:24.470 --> 00:32:27.569 And now she's so, she's so affectionate now, which is 771 00:32:27.609 --> 00:32:28.809 so interesting. 772 00:32:29.230 --> 00:32:30.410 But it's fine. 773 00:32:30.430 --> 00:32:34.289 She's like, I love you. You're so pretty. It's so crazy, right? 774 00:32:34.309 --> 00:32:36.769 Because I had my dad's nose, right? So when I 775 00:32:36.789 --> 00:32:38.450 was young, my girl was like, I'm giving you a 776 00:32:38.490 --> 00:32:42.519 nose job. So I went to my dad and I 777 00:32:42.519 --> 00:32:44.380 was like, my grandma's giving me a nose job. I 778 00:32:44.400 --> 00:32:47.940 was excited. I'm like 10 or 11. And I'm telling 779 00:32:47.980 --> 00:32:50.779 her now, that's not okay. 780 00:32:50.880 --> 00:32:51.119 Right. 781 00:32:53.150 --> 00:32:55.089 I don't think he liked your daddy very much. 782 00:32:56.029 --> 00:32:58.230 He was very annoyed. He was like, because I had 783 00:32:58.269 --> 00:32:58.690 his nose. 784 00:32:58.730 --> 00:33:01.089 Can you imagine? So he was like, no, she's not. 785 00:33:01.109 --> 00:33:02.269 I'm like, yes, yes, she is. 786 00:33:02.289 --> 00:33:02.869 I'm excited. 787 00:33:03.089 --> 00:33:03.309 Right. 788 00:33:03.970 --> 00:33:06.009 So I'm telling my grandma, this was a couple years ago. 789 00:33:06.039 --> 00:33:07.019 I was like, you said you were giving. 790 00:33:06.920 --> 00:33:07.539 Me a nose job. 791 00:33:07.559 --> 00:33:07.900 What happened? 792 00:33:07.920 --> 00:33:09.759 I'm playing with her now, though. She was like, you 793 00:33:09.779 --> 00:33:10.880 have the cutest nose. 794 00:33:10.920 --> 00:33:11.819 You grew into it. 795 00:33:11.880 --> 00:33:12.859 I was like, what? 796 00:33:12.900 --> 00:33:16.480 But that affects a child's, you know, insecurity. 797 00:33:16.500 --> 00:33:16.579 Yeah. 798 00:33:19.150 --> 00:33:21.769 Yeah, because they start worrying about their nose and being 799 00:33:21.789 --> 00:33:22.740 self-conscious about it. 800 00:33:22.750 --> 00:33:24.710 The things you can laugh about now, but back then, 801 00:33:24.809 --> 00:33:25.369 I'm like. 802 00:33:26.210 --> 00:33:26.950 Okay, when? 803 00:33:29.119 --> 00:33:29.660 That's funny. 804 00:33:29.900 --> 00:33:34.720 That's a funny, you know, what Misty said, because my 805 00:33:34.819 --> 00:33:38.299 mom was, as I mentioned, she didn't tell us that 806 00:33:38.759 --> 00:33:42.160 she loved us, but somehow I just knew that she. 807 00:33:42.089 --> 00:33:43.140 Was in love with us. 808 00:33:43.490 --> 00:33:47.589 You know, just through all the spankings and the yellings 809 00:33:47.950 --> 00:33:53.670 and you know, making sure I was doing everything with schoolwork. 810 00:33:53.849 --> 00:33:57.539 Like my mom was like that typical Jamaican lady that 811 00:33:57.579 --> 00:33:59.619 would beat me with the belt. 812 00:33:59.720 --> 00:34:00.420 And then when I'm. 813 00:34:00.319 --> 00:34:02.980 Walking away, throw the shoe at me in the back 814 00:34:03.019 --> 00:34:05.140 of the head. But I still. 815 00:34:06.359 --> 00:34:09.179 Knew that she loved the mess out of me. 816 00:34:09.659 --> 00:34:10.000 Yeah. 817 00:34:10.079 --> 00:34:13.719 And I tell her a lot now. I tell her 818 00:34:13.739 --> 00:34:15.610 a lot. Hey, mom, I love you. And I make, 819 00:34:15.650 --> 00:34:17.269 I said, tell me you love me back. 820 00:34:17.409 --> 00:34:21.000 I force her. Right? And then she tells me. And 821 00:34:21.039 --> 00:34:21.980 I can tell it's still a. 822 00:34:21.980 --> 00:34:25.829 Little awkward, but I know that lady loves me to death. 823 00:34:26.349 --> 00:34:26.510 Right. 824 00:34:26.570 --> 00:34:28.590 And she probably didn't experience that either. You know what 825 00:34:28.610 --> 00:34:29.050 I mean? 826 00:34:29.110 --> 00:34:30.909 That's my point. A hundred percent. 827 00:34:30.969 --> 00:34:33.150 People only know what they know. 828 00:34:33.210 --> 00:34:33.489 Right. 829 00:34:33.530 --> 00:34:33.789 So. 830 00:34:33.909 --> 00:34:36.070 As long as you're telling your kids you love. 831 00:34:35.889 --> 00:34:36.989 Them, you know, we got to. 832 00:34:37.050 --> 00:34:38.659 Right. You know? 833 00:34:38.949 --> 00:34:41.219 And you don't know what people went through when they 834 00:34:41.260 --> 00:34:42.800 were young. You don't know their trauma. 835 00:34:43.239 --> 00:34:43.460 Right. 836 00:34:43.480 --> 00:34:45.739 And I think, you know, a lot... We have to be. 837 00:34:46.480 --> 00:34:51.429 more compassionate with our parents and the people who raised us. 838 00:34:51.710 --> 00:34:55.489 And instead of pointing fingers at parents or, you know, 839 00:34:56.130 --> 00:35:00.150 you got to just take into consideration that what did 840 00:35:00.190 --> 00:35:00.929 they go through? 841 00:35:01.050 --> 00:35:04.679 What was happening in their life? You know, what was their... 842 00:35:05.500 --> 00:35:07.519 It may not have anything to do with you. 843 00:35:07.599 --> 00:35:11.380 You were just a product of the trauma that they 844 00:35:11.420 --> 00:35:12.500 went through, right? 845 00:35:12.519 --> 00:35:14.800 This is true, right. And then when you're young, you 846 00:35:14.820 --> 00:35:15.239 don't realize. 847 00:35:15.260 --> 00:35:18.179 But now I'm like, I understand. You never you were 848 00:35:18.199 --> 00:35:21.599 never told you that anyone loved you. So I understand. 849 00:35:21.619 --> 00:35:23.719 But I tell myself every day. 850 00:35:25.579 --> 00:35:27.380 And even my friend the other day, she was like, 851 00:35:27.440 --> 00:35:29.280 you are your mom's wildest dreams. 852 00:35:29.320 --> 00:35:31.619 Like that was such a compliment to me. 853 00:35:31.659 --> 00:35:32.360 You know what I mean? 854 00:35:32.780 --> 00:35:35.099 So things like that, like the things that make me 855

00:35:35.159 --> 00:35:38.730 happy now, you know, is just like. Like, I unintentionally 856 00:35:38.789 --> 00:35:41.369 grew a pumpkin patch outside my house, and that just 857 00:35:41.389 --> 00:35:41.690 makes me. 858 00:35:42.070 --> 00:35:43.780 It brings me so much joy. 859 00:35:44.079 --> 00:35:46.760 How did you... Wait a sec. Were you throwing the 860 00:35:46.800 --> 00:35:48.460 seeds out the window, and then it just. 861 00:35:49.260 --> 00:35:51.940 No, I decorate every season, and I guess one of 862 00:35:51.960 --> 00:35:54.320 the pumpkins must have fell, like, in the, you know, 863 00:35:54.420 --> 00:35:55.400 on the side of my house. 864 00:35:55.480 --> 00:35:57.440 And maybe a squirrel ate it. I don't know, but 865 00:35:57.519 --> 00:35:59.110 it's such a beautiful pumpkin patch. 866 00:35:59.159 --> 00:35:59.889 And I'm like. 867 00:36:00.199 --> 00:36:02.329 Like, the things that bring me joy. 868 00:36:01.949 --> 00:36:02.809 Now, it just, like. 869 00:36:03.190 --> 00:36:04.369 That's hilarious. 870 00:36:04.849 --> 00:36:07.190 I bet if I tried to grow a pumpkin patch, 871 00:36:07.289 --> 00:36:08.010 it wouldn't happen. 872 00:36:08.349 --> 00:36:10.909 Yours just fell off of something into the ground, and 873 00:36:10.949 --> 00:36:12.949 now you've got this beautiful pumpkin patch. 874 00:36:12.969 --> 00:36:16.480 Beautiful patch, just like, I said, wow, you know? 875 00:36:16.519 --> 00:36:18.900 Do you have siblings? 876 00:36:19.400 --> 00:36:21.440 Yes. Not on my mom's side. I'm the only child 877 00:36:21.460 --> 00:36:23.500 on my mom's side. I have an older brother and 878 00:36:23.599 --> 00:36:26.639 sister on my dad's side. And a younger, actually a 879 00:36:26.679 --> 00:36:30.599 younger sister that I recently found out about off of Ancestry.com. 880 00:36:32.000 --> 00:36:35.500 What? Yep. Are you, did you meet her yet? 881 00:36:36.139 --> 00:36:38.539 I met her a couple, about like five years ago. 882 00:36:38.559 --> 00:36:41.800 You were excited. Were you excited to meet her? How 883 00:36:41.820 --> 00:36:42.559 was those feelings? 884 00:36:43.500 --> 00:36:45.280 Okay, to be honest, at first I was like, I 885 00:36:45.300 --> 00:36:46.119 don't have any sisters. 886 00:36:46.139 --> 00:36:48.949 So my grandmother, like I said, she was, well, she 887 00:36:48.969 --> 00:36:50.610 was brought up in foster care. 888 00:36:50.630 --> 00:36:52.429 She never met her family. 889 00:36:52.650 --> 00:36:55.230 When she was younger, yeah, she was put into foster care. 890 00:36:55.250 --> 00:36:57.429 So her whole life she's been on Ancestry trying to 891 00:36:57.469 --> 00:36:58.289 find clues. 892 00:36:59.070 --> 00:37:01.150 So she had all of us do a DNA test, 893 00:37:01.190 --> 00:37:02.300 my aunt, my uncle, my cousin. 894 00:37:02.320 --> 00:37:04.699 We all did like a DNA test just to see, 895 00:37:05.219 --> 00:37:08.460 you know, guess who our relatives are. And me, I 896 00:37:08.480 --> 00:37:09.380 don't care at this point. 897 00:37:09.420 --> 00:37:09.760 I don't know. 898 00:37:09.780 --> 00:37:12.320 I know who I know, whatever. But she put her 899 00:37:12.340 --> 00:37:14.719 results on there. My sister reached out to her. And 900 00:37:14.739 --> 00:37:18.360 she was like, what's your granddaughter's dad name? I think 901 00:37:18.409 --> 00:37:22.429 we have the same father. But listen to how mental. 902 00:37:22.190 --> 00:37:22.929 Health is, right? 903 00:37:23.309 --> 00:37:26.969 Her mom... She's one year younger than me. Her mom 904 00:37:27.010 --> 00:37:30.280 named her after, like, very close, right, to my name. 905 00:37:31.019 --> 00:37:31.199 And. 906 00:37:33.460 --> 00:37:34.000 Very close. 907 00:37:34.340 --> 00:37:35.360 And her, um. 908 00:37:37.300 --> 00:37:39.960 And her mom didn't tell her who her dad was 909 00:37:40.139 --> 00:37:40.980 until she was 18. 910 00:37:40.980 --> 00:37:41.639 Oh. 911 00:37:43.420 --> 00:37:45.260 So that's what made her go in ancestry. That's how 912 00:37:45.280 --> 00:37:47.489 we found each other. But we're very close, very similar. 913 00:37:47.550 --> 00:37:49.650 It's so funny. Like, can we talk about, like, how 914 00:37:49.730 --> 00:37:51.739 old we have been? We would have grew up together, but. 915 00:37:51.769 --> 00:37:56.130 Right. Right. How was that on your mental health when 916 00:37:56.170 --> 00:37:57.090 you went through all that? 917 00:37:57.690 --> 00:38:00.150 Well, my grandma told me I wasn't interested because I'm like, 918 00:38:00.269 --> 00:38:02.150 I don't know. I'm like attached to my mom so 919 00:38:02.190 --> 00:38:05.190 much because he obviously, we were one year apart and. 920 00:38:05.130 --> 00:38:05.889 He was with my mom. 921 00:38:05.929 --> 00:38:08.139 So I'm like, I don't have a sister. At first, 922 00:38:08.179 --> 00:38:09.960 I'm like, no, thank you. I'm not interested. 923 00:38:10.340 --> 00:38:12.900 And she lived in New York and she messaged me 924 00:38:12.960 --> 00:38:14.019 on Instagram or whatever. 925 00:38:14.039 --> 00:38:15.920 So I'm like, I'm not interested. 926 00:38:16.019 --> 00:38:18.030 But once I was in New York and something just 927 00:38:18.050 --> 00:38:19.139 came over me, I reached out. 928 00:38:19.159 --> 00:38:20.409 So I was like, yeah, I'm in New York. Let's 929 00:38:20.429 --> 00:38:20.889 have dinner. 930 00:38:21.519 --> 00:38:22.239 Oh, wow. 931 00:38:22.440 --> 00:38:23.320 Yeah, and it was cool. 932 00:38:23.579 --> 00:38:25.280 And now you got a good relationship. 933 00:38:25.320 --> 00:38:27.179 Yeah, yeah, we have a good relationship. 934 00:38:27.300 --> 00:38:30.639 That is wild, but I understand. 935 00:38:30.659 --> 00:38:33.719 It's wild from the perspective of I didn't meet my 936 00:38:33.840 --> 00:38:38.400 older sister until I was 30. Okay. I found out 937 00:38:38.519 --> 00:38:41.440 I had an older brother and sister when I was 938 00:38:41.679 -->

00:38:44.929 really young. So my mom, who was raised in the 939 00:38:45.030 --> 00:38:48.429 bushes of Trinidad, and when I say bush, I mean 940 00:38:48.510 --> 00:38:50.250 bush because I went and looked at it when I 941 00:38:50.289 --> 00:38:52.510 was 30, and it's actual bush, like the height of 942 00:38:52.579 --> 00:38:52.960 my head. 943 00:38:53.059 --> 00:38:55.420 When she used to say. 944 00:38:55.280 --> 00:38:56.920 It, I thought she was exaggerating that she was in 945 00:38:57.280 --> 00:38:57.679 the bushes. 946 00:38:58.199 --> 00:39:00.780 But no, I went and she was not lying. 947 00:39:01.380 --> 00:39:03.659 The way she described it was what it still looked 948 00:39:03.719 --> 00:39:04.989 like at 30. 949 00:39:04.989 --> 00:39:06.170 And so I can't imagine. 950 00:39:05.909 --> 00:39:07.889 What it had looked like 30 years before that. So 951 00:39:07.929 --> 00:39:10.289 going back to tying into what Robert said about our 952 00:39:10.329 --> 00:39:12.789 parents with like a belt and a shoe at your 953 00:39:12.809 --> 00:39:14.869 head while you're walking away, like that's how my mom 954 00:39:14.909 --> 00:39:15.530 raised me too. 955 00:39:15.570 --> 00:39:18.170 But she didn't know what she didn't know. Like she 956 00:39:18.210 --> 00:39:19.380 didn't have the parenting. 957 00:39:19.409 --> 00:39:22.440 She escaped family when she was 15 and it was 958 00:39:22.920 --> 00:39:27.280 super abusive and type of upbringing. And so I have 959 00:39:27.480 --> 00:39:30.400 an older siblings that were products of rape and so 960 00:39:30.440 --> 00:39:32.829 when my mom left she left them like because she 961 00:39:32.869 --> 00:39:35.829 wasn't raising them they were children that were produced as 962 00:39:35.869 --> 00:39:39.900 a result of that scenario And then so by people 963 00:39:39.940 --> 00:39:40.980 she doesn't even know. 964 00:39:41.420 --> 00:39:44.760 And so they were raised by other members of her family. 965 00:39:44.940 --> 00:39:47.940 And so when I turned, when I was in seventh grade, 966 00:39:47.980 --> 00:39:49.780 I remember my mom telling us that we had a 967 00:39:49.820 --> 00:39:52.099 brother and a sister that were older than me. Now 968 00:39:52.139 --> 00:39:54.559 that messed with me because I was raised as the oldest. 969 00:39:54.639 --> 00:39:56.619 The whole time I thought I was the oldest. And 970 00:39:56.639 --> 00:39:59.929 then come to find out I'm the middle child, like they're... Like, 971 00:39:59.949 --> 00:40:04.070 you know, so she brought my brother down and my 972 00:40:04.110 --> 00:40:06.710 brother really messed up. He tried to abuse me and 973 00:40:06.750 --> 00:40:09.949 my three younger sisters. So she sent him back away 974 00:40:09.989 --> 00:40:11.150 and then she never talked to. 975 00:40:11.130 --> 00:40:11.929 My older sister. 976 00:40:11.969 --> 00:40:14.690 And then when I was 27, she, I, and I 977 00:40:14.730 --> 00:40:17.760 lived in Miami and cause the beginning I was living 978 00:40:17.800 --> 00:40:21.619 in Canada. My uncle brought my sister to Florida and 979 00:40:21.639 --> 00:40:23.500 my mom told me she was here and we all 980 00:40:24.019 --> 00:40:27.139 like collaborated. All my sisters and I collaborated to meet her. 981 00:40:27.159 --> 00:40:30.289 And when I saw her, I just about died because 982 00:40:30.570 --> 00:40:33.559 my whole life I struggled with how I looked because 983 00:40:34.039 --> 00:40:36.119 I always looked like my dad had adopted me or 984 00:40:36.159 --> 00:40:38.880 my mom had adopted me because of being of a 985 00:40:39.179 --> 00:40:41.019 German father and a Trinidadian mother. 986 00:40:41.039 --> 00:40:42.800 I didn't like either of them. 987 00:40:43.219 --> 00:40:46.809 And so when we met her, she looks exactly like 988 00:40:46.889 --> 00:40:49.309 my mother. And I cried my eyes out because I 989 00:40:49.369 --> 00:40:50.889 never got to look like my mom. 990 00:40:50.909 --> 00:40:51.510 Yeah. 991 00:40:52.659 --> 00:40:54.840 She did the whole time and she wasn't with us. 992 00:40:54.940 --> 00:40:57.610 And it was like a really hard thing to process. 993 00:40:57.639 --> 00:41:00.090 And so I can't imagine meeting your sister for the 994 00:41:00.119 --> 00:41:03.590 first time, but also only finding out like as recent 995 00:41:03.650 --> 00:41:06.030 as you did and then getting to meet her quickly. 996 00:41:06.110 --> 00:41:09.389 Like it was, that's, that's, that does something to you, 997 00:41:09.710 --> 00:41:11.789 you know? And, but I still operate as the oldest 998 00:41:11.829 --> 00:41:14.610 child because no one's ever been in the household ahead 999 00:41:14.650 --> 00:41:15.869 of me, you know? 1000 00:41:15.969 --> 00:41:16.550 Yeah. 1001 00:41:17.389 --> 00:41:18.590 I'm the youngest on my day. 1002 00:41:18.610 --> 00:41:25.130 Well, I was, and now she's the youngest. Whatever. 1003 00:41:25.489 --> 00:41:27.369 And you know that the baby never likes. 1004 00:41:28.849 --> 00:41:31.030 Any attention taking away from them when they're the baby 1005 00:41:31.269 --> 00:41:31.909 until they find out. 1006 00:41:31.869 --> 00:41:34.510 They're not the baby anymore. I'll always be the baby. 1007 00:41:34.530 --> 00:41:36.650 It's incredible. 1008 00:41:36.690 --> 00:41:38.550 Everybody's family has like. 1009 00:41:38.369 --> 00:41:41.829 These stories that we didn't talk about. 1010 00:41:42.349 --> 00:41:47.409 Everybody's family has these stories and we're on here today 1011 00:41:47.429 --> 00:41:52.110 and there's probably so many more stories we still don't know. 1012 00:41:53.360 --> 00:41:57.159 But it's like, when do you find out what age 1013 00:41:57.239 --> 00:42:00.909 are you? How did it affect you? You know, is 1014 00:42:01.050 --> 00:42:03.869 it better that you just, you shouldn't have found out? 1015 00:42:04.030 --> 00:42:05.289 You know what I mean? Like, how does it affect 1016 00:42:05.309 -->

00:42:05.849 your mental health? 1017 00:42:05.889 --> 00:42:08.690 How does it affect your relationship with whoever the party 1018 00:42:08.730 --> 00:42:10.110 is of the people, right? 1019 00:42:10.139 --> 00:42:11.320 Is it your mom, your dad? 1020 00:42:11.659 --> 00:42:14.440 All these different stories and things that people go, like, 1021 00:42:14.460 --> 00:42:18.860 we're talking about what we've been through now, but there's 1022 00:42:18.880 --> 00:42:23.239 going to be generations and generations in the future. that 1023 00:42:23.849 --> 00:42:27.309 aren't gonna know how you met your sister right not 1024 00:42:27.329 --> 00:42:30.489 gonna understand your story baby but but they're gonna be 1025 00:42:30.570 --> 00:42:33.510 our family you know what i mean and so they're 1026 00:42:33.530 --> 00:42:36.380 not gonna know what your mental health was you know 1027 00:42:36.409 --> 00:42:39.159 what traumas you had and they're gonna be going through 1028 00:42:39.199 --> 00:42:43.800 their traumas you know and it could be heavenly's kids 1029 00:42:43.980 --> 00:42:46.880 or my kids kids you know where's the grandparent and 1030 00:42:47.400 --> 00:42:49.639 and so forth and so on and and they'll just 1031 00:42:49.989 --> 00:42:53.909 they'll just stop at heavenly right and as in terms 1032 00:42:53.989 --> 00:42:57.650 of like being, heavily being a mother, right? Or the 1033 00:42:57.889 --> 00:43:01.090 grandmother or the great-grandmother who's gone and they don't know 1034 00:43:01.150 --> 00:43:02.030 that side. 1035 00:43:02.050 --> 00:43:04.769 So it's just so much out there. 1036 00:43:04.789 --> 00:43:05.570 So much to unpack. 1037 00:43:06.269 --> 00:43:07.750 Yes, a lot to unpack. 1038 00:43:07.949 --> 00:43:11.219 What's funny is we've never talked about this, but that 1039 00:43:11.280 --> 00:43:13.699 brings this to light, Robert, is we were raised in 1040 00:43:13.760 --> 00:43:16.539 an era where you weren't allowed to talk about what 1041 00:43:16.579 --> 00:43:19.679 was going on in your house with anyone else. If 1042 00:43:19.719 --> 00:43:22.440 you said anything outside of the walls of the house, 1043 00:43:22.739 --> 00:43:25.250 it was like an ass whooping. 1044 00:43:25.329 --> 00:43:26.730 For lack of a better word. 1045 00:43:27.010 --> 00:43:27.230 Yes. 1046 00:43:27.309 --> 00:43:29.190 So that's how I was raised too. 1047 00:43:29.530 --> 00:43:32.199 And then now to hear all this stuff that's coming up, 1048 00:43:32.510 --> 00:43:35.539 like when would have been the right time for a parent. 1049 00:43:35.239 --> 00:43:38.960 To tell that to a child and to impact the 1050 00:43:38.980 --> 00:43:39.480 mental health? 1051 00:43:39.500 --> 00:43:42.300 Because now what we're seeing in society on a day-to-day 1052 00:43:42.340 --> 00:43:45.849 basis is, is we're seeing people being held accountable for 1053 00:43:45.909 --> 00:43:49.570 decisions they made 30 years ago. But 30 years ago, 1054 00:43:49.639

--> 00:43:52.059 the decision was made based on the information that was 1055 00:43:52.119 --> 00:43:54.860 had at the time, and we're judging people for decisions 1056 00:43:54.880 --> 00:43:59.519 they made 30 years ago, but with today's. 1057 00:43:59.179 --> 00:44:01.309 Information, which is also a very. 1058 00:44:02.900 --> 00:44:05.539 Mentally unhealthy struggle to go through. Like, how do you 1059 00:44:05.579 --> 00:44:07.800 know when to tell your child that, hi, I was 1060 00:44:07.900 --> 00:44:10.460 raped when I was little, and you have a brother 1061 00:44:10.519 --> 00:44:10.980 and sister? 1062 00:44:11.019 --> 00:44:12.920 When should my mom have sat me down and shared 1063 00:44:12.940 --> 00:44:13.539 that information? 1064 00:44:13.579 --> 00:44:13.820 Right. 1065 00:44:14.340 --> 00:44:18.599 Some parents don't, won't tell you, you know? Yeah. And 1066 00:44:18.639 --> 00:44:19.500 some parents will. 1067 00:44:19.719 --> 00:44:21.519 And some parents will tell you when you're young, and 1068 00:44:21.539 --> 00:44:23.030 some parents will tell you when you're older. 1069 00:44:23.090 --> 00:44:24.409 It's just, who knows? 1070 00:44:24.429 --> 00:44:27.329 Like, for me, when should your dad have told you 1071 00:44:27.369 --> 00:44:29.030 to have another daughter, you know? 1072 00:44:29.050 --> 00:44:31.570 Yeah, I don't think he ever would have told me. 1073 00:44:32.190 --> 00:44:32.409 Right. 1074 00:44:33.670 --> 00:44:35.789 I don't think he ever went his home, which is 1075 00:44:35.809 --> 00:44:36.869 so interesting. 1076 00:44:36.889 --> 00:44:37.650 And I have a. 1077 00:44:38.710 --> 00:44:42.809 Little brother, too. I have a little brother. I've never 1078 00:44:42.849 --> 00:44:44.710 met him before, so I don't even claim him. 1079 00:44:44.869 --> 00:44:45.530 I don't know. 1080 00:44:46.130 --> 00:44:47.230 But I never met him. 1081 00:44:47.929 --> 00:44:51.130 So imagine if he lived a long time. You would 1082 00:44:51.170 --> 00:44:54.989 still be living now and not know about your sister. 1083 00:44:55.349 --> 00:44:59.289 And then, in fact, you have all these other siblings. 1084 00:44:59.730 --> 00:45:01.989 And he didn't tell you when you spoke to him 1085 00:45:02.030 --> 00:45:04.070 before he passed. No. 1086 00:45:04.630 --> 00:45:06.510 Like, he didn't even bring it up then. 1087 00:45:06.530 --> 00:45:08.250 He didn't even think about it, I don't think. 1088 00:45:08.369 --> 00:45:11.449 He wasn't even thinking about that, no. 1089 00:45:11.530 --> 00:45:13.730 At that point, he's not trying to go deep into 1090 00:45:13.750 --> 00:45:15.389 the bag of bones. 1091 00:45:15.730 --> 00:45:17.389 But at that point, I. 1092 00:45:17.349 --> 00:45:21.539 Would have told her. But that's me. That's you. 1093 00:45:21.599 --> 00:45:23.840 Everybody's different. Everybody's different. 1094 00:45:24.380 --> 00:45:27.219 Maybe he felt like, listen, she's already asking me why 1095 00:45:27.280 --> 00:45:28.039 I wasn't around. 1096 00:45:28.119 --> 00:45:31.650 I'm not going to throw this also into the pot. So.... 1097 00:45:32.869 --> 00:45:36.650 And, and, and at the end of the day, we don't, 1098 00:45:37.150 --> 00:45:39.130 I don't know you, you know, I don't know, Ming, 1099 00:45:39.170 --> 00:45:40.750 I don't know if you know, but you don't know 1100 00:45:40.789 --> 00:45:43.230 how he grew up, you know, how, how are things 1101 00:45:43.269 --> 00:45:44.570 for him at 10 years old? 1102 00:45:44.969 --> 00:45:47.750 You know, what did he go through? You know, you. 1103 00:45:47.630 --> 00:45:50.190 Talk about things that happened in the family, your brother 1104 00:45:50.230 --> 00:45:52.690 tried to do this and who knows who tried to 1105 00:45:52.750 --> 00:45:56.630 do something to him and his, and maybe he saw 1106 00:45:56.690 --> 00:46:01.030 something happening with his parents and, You know, he went through, 1107 00:46:01.150 --> 00:46:04.650 he probably unpacked a lot of stuff from the people 1108 00:46:04.670 --> 00:46:05.409 before him. 1109 00:46:05.449 --> 00:46:08.320 Well, it's interesting because I did ask him before, like, 1110 00:46:08.409 --> 00:46:10.619 when I was younger. I'm like, what? Because he would 1111 00:46:10.659 --> 00:46:13.300 say he was going to do stuff, you know, and 1112 00:46:13.320 --> 00:46:15.380 didn't do it. But it's so funny because Drake say this, 1113 00:46:15.679 --> 00:46:17.300 Black American dad story. 1114 00:46:17.340 --> 00:46:19.219 Like, and it's so true. 1115 00:46:19.340 --> 00:46:22.079 Like, we all, I mean, not we all, but so 1116 00:46:22.099 --> 00:46:24.380 many people experience it. But I asked him, I'm like, 1117 00:46:24.480 --> 00:46:27.059 why aren't you stepping up? You're saying you're going to 1118 00:46:27.079 --> 00:46:28.230 do this and you're not doing it. 1119 00:46:28.260 --> 00:46:30.360 Like, I guess I was a little mature. 1120 00:46:30.019 --> 00:46:31.659 When I was, you know, when I'm thinking about it now, 1121 00:46:31.699 --> 00:46:33.980 like to even ask these questions. But I'm like, what's 1122 00:46:34.000 --> 00:46:36.739 going on? You're putting everything on my grandmom's plate. You know, 1123 00:46:36.760 --> 00:46:38.219 I'm not really her responsibility. 1124 00:46:38.619 --> 00:46:41.019 And he was like, you know, I didn't know how, 1125 00:46:41.039 --> 00:46:42.860 I don't know how to be a dad. 1126 00:46:43.739 --> 00:46:45.409 I'm like, okay. 1127 00:46:45.739 --> 00:46:49.289 So, but my brain, I think like, okay, I know 1128 00:46:49.309 --> 00:46:51.210 what I lack. So I want to be better. But 1129 00:46:51.230 --> 00:46:53.449 he didn't think like that. He just don't know what 1130 00:46:53.489 --> 00:46:55.369 he don't know. And he's fine with not knowing. 1131 00:46:55.389 --> 00:46:56.809 So, you know, everyone's different. 1132 00:46:58.039 --> 00:47:01.059 And sometimes you got, I mean, you got to look 1133 00:47:01.139

--> 00:47:04.800 at it like, if he says, I don't know how 1134 00:47:04.840 --> 00:47:09.199 to be a dad, that does not mean I don't 1135 00:47:09.289 --> 00:47:09.730 love you. 1136 00:47:11.409 --> 00:47:14.809 Where's that action, Bert? I don't see no action, so. 1137 00:47:14.909 --> 00:47:17.710 I know, but in my eyes, but there, you know, 1138 00:47:17.869 --> 00:47:20.809 I could see someone saying, I don't know how to, 1139 00:47:21.530 --> 00:47:23.510 I don't know how to be a dad, but. 1140 00:47:23.829 --> 00:47:26.159 Deep down, I love you. Like, You know, I know 1141 00:47:26.179 --> 00:47:26.559 a lot of. 1142 00:47:26.980 --> 00:47:29.239 I've been around a lot of people who have gone 1143 00:47:29.300 --> 00:47:34.139 through that type of scenario where maybe the mom was 1144 00:47:34.340 --> 00:47:39.530 so bitter, she created this environment that this man didn't 1145 00:47:39.550 --> 00:47:43.110 want to be around, and she made the kids... Like, 1146 00:47:43.150 --> 00:47:45.030 you know, Brian McKnight, we interviewed him. 1147 00:47:45.329 --> 00:47:46.489 No, I hear of that a lot. 1148 00:47:46.730 --> 00:47:47.690 And he's going through. 1149 00:47:47.550 --> 00:47:51.150 That now where his kids hate him, and the public 1150 00:47:51.210 --> 00:47:51.889 hates him, and. 1151 00:47:52.880 --> 00:47:55.579 They make it seem like he loves his other family. 1152 00:47:56.019 --> 00:47:57.679 He just don't want to be in that nick because 1153 00:47:57.699 --> 00:48:01.769 the mom turned the kids against him. And the kids 1154 00:48:01.809 --> 00:48:03.789 hate him. He doesn't talk to his kids. But when 1155 00:48:03.869 --> 00:48:07.989 I talk to him personally, he loves his kids. But 1156 00:48:08.010 --> 00:48:13.150 he just can't get through that energy that's coming back. 1157 00:48:13.670 --> 00:48:15.639 Because that toxic environment was set up. 1158 00:48:15.650 --> 00:48:17.530 Very toxic, yeah. Yeah, yeah. 1159 00:48:17.610 --> 00:48:20.530 Well, for me, I know when I was young, my mom, like, 1160 00:48:20.590 --> 00:48:22.579 I have so many books. Thank God I have pictures 1161 00:48:22.639 --> 00:48:24.980 and memories. But my dad was in jail when I 1162 00:48:25.000 --> 00:48:27.719 was young, right? And I remember my mom used to 1163 00:48:27.739 --> 00:48:29.519 take me up there to go see him every weekend. 1164 00:48:30.000 --> 00:48:32.719 She was, like, so in love with him. I used 1165 00:48:32.739 --> 00:48:35.389 to take me to a jail, like... I mean, and 1166 00:48:35.409 --> 00:48:37.429 then he comes out and then he's not around. 1167 00:48:37.469 --> 00:48:38.289 It's just so weird. 1168 00:48:38.309 --> 00:48:38.409 Right. 1169 00:48:38.789 --> 00:48:40.170 But, you know, so I know. 1170 00:48:40.090 --> 00:48:41.030 That wasn't my. 1171 00:48:41.050 --> 00:48:43.150 You saw him more when he was locked up than 1172 00:48:43.190 --> 00:48:45.179 you did when he... Right. 1173 00:48:45.610 --> 00:48:47.780

Right. But I have all my pictures. I'm such a 1174 00:48:47.820 --> 00:48:50.039 daddy's girl and all my... When I was young, when 1175 00:48:50.059 --> 00:48:52.860 they were, you know... I'm like, what the heck? So 1176 00:48:53.000 --> 00:48:56.539 it plays mind games on you. It's like, wait, I'm confused. 1177 00:48:56.579 --> 00:49:00.929 When it's time to be a daddy's girl, daddy's not around. But, 1178 00:49:01.349 --> 00:49:03.730 you know, that's my story and there's nothing. 1179 00:49:03.489 --> 00:49:04.269 I can do, but. 1180 00:49:05.329 --> 00:49:09.500 So I think one thing that's really interesting here that 1181 00:49:10.500 --> 00:49:13.659 is also emerging as a theme is the fact that 1182 00:49:13.699 --> 00:49:15.690 we don't know what someone else is going through and 1183 00:49:15.730 --> 00:49:19.429 that a lot of times people are carrying a whole 1184 00:49:19.489 --> 00:49:25.349 lot and it will look like they are just fine, right? 1185 00:49:25.369 --> 00:49:27.010 Like they come off like they're just fine and you 1186 00:49:27.030 --> 00:49:31.980 wouldn't really necessarily know. So I'm just curious, Ming, in 1187 00:49:32.019 --> 00:49:34.760 your work with people through the foundation and just your 1188 00:49:34.880 --> 00:49:39.380 day-to-day life in general, How do you approach that? Like, 1189 00:49:39.400 --> 00:49:41.519 how do you do a meaningful mental health check in 1190 00:49:41.539 --> 00:49:44.099 with somebody when you kind of maybe when you get 1191 00:49:44.119 --> 00:49:47.030 the feeling like something's off, but they're really good at 1192 00:49:47.090 --> 00:49:48.889 hiding it and kind of keeping it to themselves? 1193 00:49:49.800 --> 00:49:52.239 I'm so intuitive, it's almost scary, right? 1194 00:49:52.659 --> 00:49:55.590 So I can literally look at someone or hear their voice, 1195 00:49:55.719 --> 00:49:57.829 and I know, like, I'm so into it. 1196 00:49:57.849 --> 00:49:59.429 My friends are like, you're a witch. Like, how do 1197 00:49:59.449 --> 00:49:59.949 you know? 1198 00:50:00.630 --> 00:50:02.550 And not, like, witch in a bad way, but it's just, 1199 00:50:02.630 --> 00:50:05.869 I'm so intuitive. So I can just automatically tell. Like, 1200 00:50:05.909 --> 00:50:07.590 I'll just ask them, how are you feeling today? 1201 00:50:07.650 --> 00:50:09.360 Are you feeling loved? Are you feeling beautiful? 1202 00:50:09.739 --> 00:50:11.880 Like, I'll just come up and I'll just ask them 1203 00:50:12.199 --> 00:50:12.659 and not. 1204 00:50:12.539 --> 00:50:13.280 In a weird way. 1205 00:50:13.300 --> 00:50:15.579 Like, how's your mental health? Like, you know what I mean? 1206 00:50:15.599 --> 00:50:17.980 Because people don't like to talk about this sometimes, you know? 1207 00:50:18.019 --> 00:50:18.360 Right. 1208 00:50:18.460 --> 00:50:19.679 So I'll just say, that's. 1209 00:50:19.480 --> 00:50:20.079 Why we're here. 1210 00:50:20.099 --> 00:50:21.639 Right. 1211 00:50:22.059 --> 00:50:23.420 Awareness. 1212 00:50:23.539 --> 00:50:24.800 Or I'll just compliment them. 1213 00:50:24.860 --> 00:50:27.539 And some people haven't heard a compliment in forever. 1214 00:50:27.619 --> 00:50:30.980 So, you know what I mean? So that will help them. Definitely. Like, 1215 00:50:31.539 --> 00:50:34.039 I'll just say, oh, you look beautiful, or I love you. 1216 00:50:34.159 --> 00:50:34.960 Even me saying I. 1217 00:50:34.900 --> 00:50:37.510 Love you to my friends, like, that make, you know, 1218 00:50:37.760 --> 00:50:39.369 you don't know when the last time someone heard that. 1219 00:50:39.449 --> 00:50:40.550 It's just so much, so. 1220 00:50:40.889 --> 00:50:44.329 What do you think started that intuition in you, that 1221 00:50:44.369 --> 00:50:45.070 awareness to. 1222 00:50:45.469 --> 00:50:48.269 I mean, to even ask people about their mental health. 1223 00:50:48.449 --> 00:50:49.389 I want to be honest. 1224 00:50:49.429 --> 00:50:51.449 When I was a kid, right, it's so weird. 1225 00:50:51.730 --> 00:50:54.030 Before my mom passed away, so she went on a 1226 00:50:54.070 --> 00:50:57.309 trip with a friend and never returned, right? But before 1227 00:50:57.329 --> 00:50:58.809 that happened, when I was a kid, I had a 1228 00:50:58.849 --> 00:51:01.090 dream that she was being taken from me, right? 1229 00:51:01.210 --> 00:51:02.739 And I told her about it, right? 1230 00:51:02.760 --> 00:51:04.090 Before it happened, I had a dream. 1231 00:51:04.139 --> 00:51:05.639 So it went back all the time when I was 1232 00:51:05.699 --> 00:51:07.019 a kid, unfortunately. 1233 00:51:07.480 --> 00:51:09.360 But, so I don't know. 1234 00:51:09.380 --> 00:51:12.239 That's amazing that you had that kind of dream. 1235 00:51:13.360 --> 00:51:16.809 I really did. So I'm like, But, yeah. 1236 00:51:17.130 --> 00:51:17.849 You probably do. 1237 00:51:17.969 --> 00:51:21.739 I mean, that is an intuition within itself on a 1238 00:51:21.840 --> 00:51:26.219 subconscious level, right, Misty? To have that kind of dream 1239 00:51:27.920 --> 00:51:32.369 and then actually go through something that aligns with that. 1240 00:51:34.050 --> 00:51:37.829 You may be a good witch. 1241 00:51:38.170 --> 00:51:40.869 My husband's like that. He's dreamt of the lotto numbers 1242 00:51:40.889 --> 00:51:42.840 but only remembered five. Right, come on. 1243 00:51:49.190 --> 00:51:49.909 Lord have mercy. 1244 00:51:50.329 --> 00:51:52.210 Well, I think me, one of the things that I 1245 00:51:52.309 --> 00:51:55.010 love too about you is that there's this saying, I 1246 00:51:55.010 --> 00:51:56.710 don't know if you've heard of it before, but it's 1247 00:51:56.989 --> 00:51:58.269 a safe place is. 1248 00:51:58.210 --> 00:51:59.329 A consistent space. 1249 00:51:59.690 --> 00:52:04.429 And I can see through, you know, this conversation today, 1250 00:52:04.449 --> 00:52:09.550 how you create that consistent, loving, joyful space for everybody 1251

00:52:09.630 --> 00:52:12.269 around you. And so as we get ready, we're coming 1252 00:52:12.429 --> 00:52:14.050 up on an hour already. Of course, we want to 1253 00:52:14.070 --> 00:52:14.570 be respectful. 1254 00:52:14.590 --> 00:52:15.829 Wow, that went fast. 1255 00:52:16.150 --> 00:52:16.989 I know. 1256 00:52:17.269 --> 00:52:20.429 We got to do a part two. A real table. 1257 00:52:20.449 --> 00:52:23.340 Because this conversation, people don't talk about this on a 1258 00:52:23.360 --> 00:52:25.059 daily basis. It's necessary. 1259 00:52:26.059 --> 00:52:26.400 Right. 1260 00:52:26.519 --> 00:52:26.719 Yeah. 1261 00:52:26.760 --> 00:52:29.059 I mean, that's the whole purpose for sure. 1262 00:52:29.079 --> 00:52:32.599 So I want to thank you for being that safe 1263 00:52:32.639 --> 00:52:37.760 and consistent place for people because it does make a difference. 1264 00:52:37.800 --> 00:52:43.800 Like every ripple that we cast... as individuals, matters. 1265 00:52:43.590 --> 00:52:44.579 In the community, right? 1266 00:52:44.699 --> 00:52:48.000 And so I want to thank you for your time 1267 00:52:48.079 --> 00:52:52.000 and for being that place of light and safety. 1268 00:52:51.679 --> 00:52:54.739 And love for others. And Robert and Bailey, I don't know. 1269 00:52:54.679 --> 00:52:56.980 If you have any final questions before we get to 1270 00:52:57.099 --> 00:52:58.380 our final, final question. 1271 00:52:58.400 --> 00:53:00.199 I'm just so glad that we had her on. 1272 00:53:00.440 --> 00:53:04.010 And she, you know, you come across as like a 1273 00:53:04.030 --> 00:53:04.929 breath of fresh air. 1274 00:53:05.250 --> 00:53:07.829 You are bubbly. You are very energetic. 1275 00:53:08.489 --> 00:53:09.130 Thank you. 1276 00:53:09.150 --> 00:53:14.199 Yeah, keep doing that. You're, you know, you're someone that 1277 00:53:14.500 --> 00:53:17.099 the community needs. And I'm glad you started the I 1278 00:53:17.139 --> 00:53:20.769 Love You Foundation. And I'm excited about the future for 1279 00:53:21.690 --> 00:53:24.590 you personally, but for also for your foundation with the 1280 00:53:24.630 --> 00:53:27.469 type of energy that you have. And you're the type 1281 00:53:27.489 --> 00:53:32.619 of person and, you know, foundation that we would love 1282 00:53:32.679 --> 00:53:34.380 to collaborate on. 1283 00:53:34.440 --> 00:53:36.719 Something in the future, girl, we're going to do something. 1284 00:53:36.739 --> 00:53:37.079 Definitely. 1285 00:53:37.239 --> 00:53:37.820 Definitely. 1286 00:53:37.880 --> 00:53:38.360 I'm interested. 1287 00:53:38.380 --> 00:53:38.579 Yeah. 1288 00:53:39.750 --> 00:53:42.110 I know Ming's not going anywhere from my life, and 1289 00:53:42.429 --> 00:53:44.300 she says I love you to me every time she 1290 00:53:44.320 --> 00:53:45.780 calls me or we hang out. 1291 00:53:46.059 --> 00:53:48.159 You guys look like sisters a little bit, you know? 1292 00:53:48.179 --> 00:53:49.380 That's it. 1293

00:53:50.199 --> 00:53:52.760 Thank you. 1294 00:53:52.980 --> 00:53:56.099 That's awesome and funny at the same time. I'm only 1295 00:53:56.099 --> 00:53:58.300 20 years her senior, I think, or close to that. 1296 00:53:58.420 --> 00:53:58.610 Maybe 13. 1297 00:53:58.599 --> 00:53:58.719 Okay. 1298 00:54:00.019 --> 00:54:00.500 Doesn't matter. 1299 00:54:00.760 --> 00:54:03.760 But Ming, I'm just so grateful you said yes and 1300 00:54:03.800 --> 00:54:05.880 that I am really looking forward to seeing you do 1301 00:54:05.900 --> 00:54:07.960 big things with the I Love You Foundation as well. 1302 00:54:08.000 --> 00:54:10.019 And of course, we're always here to support and align 1303 00:54:10.059 --> 00:54:10.320 with you. 1304 00:54:10.360 --> 00:54:12.800 And I know Misty has our final question for you 1305 00:54:12.820 --> 00:54:14.179 because she's closing us out today. 1306 00:54:14.239 --> 00:54:18.340 So our final question that we typically ask of every 1307 00:54:18.380 --> 00:54:21.280 guest is when you are maybe not having the best 1308 00:54:21.360 --> 00:54:23.679 day or you do feel like your mental health is 1309 00:54:23.739 --> 00:54:25.869 slipping into not. 1310 00:54:25.219 --> 00:54:26.409 The greatest state. 1311 00:54:26.840 --> 00:54:28.670 What are the top three things that you do to 1312 00:54:28.710 --> 00:54:30.909 lift your mood or make yourself feel better and get 1313 00:54:30.949 --> 00:54:31.489 back on track? 1314 00:54:32.489 --> 00:54:35.289 I'll go to the gym, for sure. 1315 00:54:35.309 --> 00:54:40.510 I feel like health is wealth, really. So I'll go 1316 00:54:40.530 --> 00:54:40.869 to the. 1317 00:54:40.829 --> 00:54:42.070 Gym, I'll swim, whatever. 1318 00:54:42.130 --> 00:54:48.429 Whatever activity I decide to do, I'll pray. I pray 1319 00:54:48.449 --> 00:54:51.269 for sure. I pray to my mom more so, honestly. 1320 00:54:52.110 --> 00:54:55.889 And I play with my dogs. They're my emotional support. 1321 00:54:56.639 --> 00:54:57.510 You know, animals. 1322 00:54:57.530 --> 00:54:58.570 So they make me happy. 1323 00:54:58.610 --> 00:54:59.170 They're cute. 1324 00:54:59.190 --> 00:55:02.130 They're colorful. So those are my three things. 1325 00:55:02.670 --> 00:55:04.550 Are you going to have dogs for the rest of 1326 00:55:04.570 --> 00:55:06.550 your life? Are you going to always have a dog 1327 00:55:06.570 --> 00:55:06.989 around you? 1328 00:55:07.429 --> 00:55:09.739 Yes. I had, I had a dog for 18 years. 1329 00:55:09.780 --> 00:55:13.219 She just recently passed and she was my girl. So 1330 00:55:13.260 --> 00:55:14.920 I got two more and it's like, Oh, it's not 1331 00:55:14.940 --> 00:55:19.139 quite the same. I'm settling, but dogs. 1332 00:55:19.239 --> 00:55:20.949 Are such a breath of fresh air. 1333 00:55:21.010 --> 00:55:22.309 So they don't talk. 1334 00:55:24.349 --> 00:55:28.409 But, you know, they love you no matter what day 1335 00:55:28.949 --> 00:55:31.449 you're having or you

come home. 1336 00:55:31.469 --> 00:55:33.829 Right. They make you feel special. 1337 00:55:33.929 --> 00:55:34.289 Right. 1338 00:55:34.670 --> 00:55:34.969 Right. 1339 00:55:35.070 --> 00:55:37.050 And it's so funny because I let my dog now 1340 00:55:37.070 --> 00:55:40.190 sit in my window, like, on my couch. And my 1341 00:55:40.230 --> 00:55:42.449 neighbor was saying, she was like, I was having a 1342 00:55:42.530 --> 00:55:45.230 horrible day and I saw your dogs in the window 1343 00:55:45.289 --> 00:55:46.630 and it's just bright in my day. 1344 00:55:46.710 --> 00:55:48.730 Thank you. So it's like unintentionally. 1345 00:55:49.010 --> 00:55:51.630 The dog's taking on your energy. 1346 00:55:51.909 --> 00:55:53.489 Right, right. 1347 00:55:53.659 --> 00:55:56.760 The dogs are also multiple colors because they go to 1348 00:55:56.800 --> 00:55:58.940 the spa every week or every two weeks. 1349 00:56:00.940 --> 00:56:01.659 Oh, wow. 1350 00:56:01.699 --> 00:56:04.300 They're like pink and blue and green and yellow. 1351 00:56:04.340 --> 00:56:04.920 It is so cute. 1352 00:56:04.940 --> 00:56:06.099 They're having the best life. 1353 00:56:06.119 --> 00:56:06.579 Yes, they are. 1354 00:56:06.659 --> 00:56:07.739 They're going to be. 1355 00:56:07.559 --> 00:56:08.400 Mad when you have kids. 1356 00:56:08.420 --> 00:56:08.579 Lordy. 1357 00:56:17.610 --> 00:56:21.429 So before we close up final, how can people support 1358 00:56:21.449 --> 00:56:23.309 the I Love You Foundation? How can they get in 1359 00:56:23.329 --> 00:56:25.110 touch with you, keep up with your work and all 1360 00:56:25.130 --> 00:56:25.610 the good stuff? 1361 00:56:26.090 --> 00:56:30.400 So I have a website, MingLeon.com, but my Instagram is 1362 00:56:30.559 --> 00:56:35.260 at Ming.Leon. It's the I Love You Foundation as well 1363 00:56:35.280 --> 00:56:39.929 on Instagram. And I also have a website that is 1364 00:56:39.969 --> 00:56:42.510 called La Vie Royale. It means a royal life in French. 1365 00:56:43.210 --> 00:56:45.750 And I have to bring some products to you guys 1366 00:56:45.829 --> 00:56:49.309 for the Halloween party. I actually have a face and 1367 00:56:49.349 --> 00:56:52.869 body oil, and it actually is made by aromatherapists. And 1368 00:56:52.909 --> 00:56:54.550 it helps with your mental health. So if you're having 1369 00:56:54.590 --> 00:56:56.789 a bad day, you can just rub your hands together 1370 00:56:56.849 --> 00:56:57.309 and smell it. 1371 00:56:57.329 --> 00:56:59.840 It'll actually, it really works too. And it gives you- 1372 00:56:59.860 --> 00:57:00.199 That's awesome. 1373 00:57:00.219 --> 00:57:01.099 Take one gallon. 1374 00:57:05.989 --> 00:57:09.869 But i'll start you i'll try to bring what i 1375 00:57:09.909 --> 00:57:13.510 can and you know you know our foundation we give 1376 00:57:13.670 --> 00:57:18.630 out gift bags all the time we're the foundation so okay. 1377 00:57:18.349 --> 00:57:20.510 Well i'll definitely put some in there for the next 1378 00:57:20.670 --> 00:57:22.670 your next event or when we do an event together 1379 00:57:22.690 --> 00:57:24.769 i'm excited to collab with you guys i love. 1380 00:57:24.630 --> 00:57:27.340 The work that y'all are doing and keep it up 1381 00:57:28.650 --> 00:57:31.110 We definitely can't wait to see you. I think it's 1382 00:57:31.159 --> 00:57:31.659 the 29th. 1383 00:57:31.699 --> 00:57:33.659 You guys, we nailed down that date, it sounds like. 1384 00:57:33.699 --> 00:57:37.360 So the 29th, look for information on that event. And again, 1385 00:57:37.380 --> 00:57:41.260 this podcast is brought to you by the Kennedy Kids Foundation. 1386 00:57:41.280 --> 00:57:45.329 If you are struggling with your mental health, please don't wait. 1387 00:57:45.489 --> 00:57:46.889 You never have to wait for it to be bad 1388 00:57:46.929 --> 00:57:48.809 enough or whatever you think might be bad enough to 1389 00:57:48.849 --> 00:57:49.250 get help. 1390 00:57:49.309 --> 00:57:51.869 If you're struggling, you're struggling. Dial 988. 1391 00:57:51.869 --> 00:57:55.230 If it's an absolute emergency, please dial 911. 1392 00:57:55.230 --> 00:57:57.030 Go to your nearest emergency room. 1393 00:57:57.449 --> 00:57:59.190 And of course, if you want to support the cause 1394 00:57:59.250 --> 00:58:01.750 or find out more about the resources that we have available, 1395 00:58:02.070 --> 00:58:04.690 please visit KennedyKids.org. 1396 00:58:05.070 --> 00:58:06.650 And Ming, thank you again. 1397 00:58:06.769 --> 00:58:08.929 For your time. And we will definitely do a part two. 1398 00:58:08.969 --> 00:58:09.989 This has been such a delight. 1399 00:58:10.320 --> 00:58:11.070 All right. 1400 00:58:11.199 --> 00:58:12.619 And guess what? 1401 00:58:12.679 --> 00:58:13.340 Thank you, Ming. 1402 00:58:13.460 --> 00:58:14.840 And I love you. 1403 00:58:14.920 --> 00:58:16.519 One day we gonna get on. 1404 00:58:19.079 --> 00:58:22.840 This episode of Bailey and Buck Unplugged is generously sponsored 1405 00:58:22.860 --> 00:58:29.869 by Lynx Health Advisors, where health gets personal again. visit lynxhealthadvisors.com.