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You've probably heard of the Golden Rule. Treat others the way you want to be treated. R. Karl Hebenstreit, an executive coach and organizational psychologist with over 30 years of experience, explains why that's actually the wrong rule, and what to use instead.
Karl has worked with organizations including AT&T, Merck, Genentech, and Kaiser Permanente, and he's the author of Explicit Expectations and The How and Why: Taking Care of Business with the Enneagram. His work focuses on leadership, motivation, and helping capable people stop running themselves into the ground.
You Can't Do It Alone
Karl explains why the leaders and high performers who try to carry everything themselves eventually burn out, and why the skills that got someone promoted often aren't the skills that help them lead well.
Golden Rule, Platinum Rule, Rhodium Rule
Treating others the way you want to be treated assumes everyone is the same. Karl walks through why the Platinum Rule (treating others the way they want to be treated) is more effective, and what it looks like to fully integrate that into how you lead and communicate.
The Fixer Pattern
Karl and Dr. Alise talk about the difference between being responsible and being over-responsible, and how constantly stepping in to help can quietly create learned helplessness in the people you're trying to support.
The Swiss Army Knife Metaphor
Most of us default to our "main blade," the one part of our personality we rely on most. Karl explains why the other tools are still there, and how to start accessing them instead of assuming your default is the only option you have.
Circadian Rhythm and Energy
Understanding when you're actually most productive, and how to (realistically) advocate for a schedule that works with your energy instead of against it.
Quick Win
Think of one thing you've been over-functioning on lately, something you keep doing yourself instead of delegating or asking for help. Ask: is this actually mine to carry, or am I just used to being the one who does it?
Find Karl
Website: performandfunction.com | LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/RKarlHebenstreit
FAQ
What's the difference between the Golden Rule and the Platinum Rule?
The Golden Rule says treat others how you want to be treated. The Platinum Rule says treat others how they want to be treated, which accounts for the fact that people have different needs, preferences, and communication styles.
Why do capable, self-aware people still feel stuck?
Often because they're comparing themselves to a version of success that isn't actually theirs. Understanding your own patterns, and recognizing you have access to more than just your default style, opens up options that self-criticism simply won't.
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