Finding Purpose Through Grief, Grace, and Resilience | Stephanie Lodor

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The world has said, you know, like resiliency, it's it's
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a buzzword right now, feel like it's still a hot topic,
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like people want to learn about it and know about
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it and how to beat it and all, you know,
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all this stuff, right it's not about like how to
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walk inside of my values with that.
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It's okay. Well, I was taught all of the.
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Secular ways of dealing with it, and so like me
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and Ken basically said the same thing, you know, like
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walking in your values is what he said, and I said.
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Finding your purpose.
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It's like those nuances that you know, like you know,
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like the Bible promises if you walk in in your purpose.
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We're all made for something. If if you walk into
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your purpose, you won't feel burnout, you won't feel like
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that struggle, that internal pull. We we feel that internal pull,
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that pressure and everything else because we're not walking and
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what we were made for.
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You Welcome back to the l three. Hey, listen, we
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have not only a special guest. We had her on before,
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but this time she's back in the building. But before
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I introduce our guests, I do want to share that
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I am a firm believer that every mentor needs a
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mentor and every coach needs a coach. Our special guest
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today not only a certified coach, but now a published author.
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And so before our introduc her, I'm gonna toss it
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over to camp and we'll jump right into it.
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What's up like love shared siscret.
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You guys. So first, before we get started, you guys
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are going to start to see a shift in the
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platform because we want to bring value to you guys
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based off how you're building out there, whether you're a
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small business, whether you're a leader, whether you're managing a team,
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and so we want you to come here because you
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want to be better and so you will see that
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as we move forward.
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So in the building Stephanie Louder, now published author, and
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I want to read this, yes, yes, yes, So when
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we first had her on, she was in the process
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of putting it together and then I remember us talking
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about like, once she publishes, we want to have her
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back on. So uh flew in for Cam's retirement, but
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while she's still here, want to highlight her book, Grief
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through Grace, a young Widow's journey through loss, growth and
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the power of hope. Again, ladies and gentlemen, welcome Stephanie
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loader thank you.
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Let welcome back to California.
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Thank you. I've been here more than that, just three
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times to see you.
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With times account saying how many times, how many reps
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your kinds and all of the ones after it starts hurting, Hey,
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that's true, right as the best ones.
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That's true, that's true. But yeah, so again, welcome, welcome
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back to the platform. We are super excited that you
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you're noun a published author. Yes, how did it feel
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once you once you got your first your sample print?
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It was pretty exciting.
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I sent Cam a picture right away, like a yeah.
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And and so I'm like, I struggle because I don't
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like being in the spotlight and so and like the
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book is.
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Like very personal to me.
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A lot of my struggles and challenges that I've walked through,
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and like a lot of things that I never even
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told other people that I was going through, like my
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inner monologue, and so like for me, who's a pretty
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private person, to put all of that into print, I
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was like, like, so for me, I still struggle with
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the idea that people are reading it because I'm private
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and I know what I put in that book, and
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I'm like, okay, this is this is okay, but but
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everybody who's read it has found like immense value from it,
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whether you've lost somebody or not. You know, like a
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lot of people haven't lost somebody who and they're reading
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it like they're taking the principles of it and applying
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it to.
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Other like trauma.
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Situations that they've gone through or you know, like other
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just trials and tribulations that life gives to us.
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Okay, Nice, Nice, So I do want to dive a
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little bit into the book before we do. So you're
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the founder of press col Yes, right, can you just
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give us an overview of what it is? And then
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where did the title come from?
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Okay?
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So, presscool dot org is my company, and my business
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is primarily a coaching business, but I'm also a public speaker,
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and so I coach clim clients I have. I'm a
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an internationally certified coach, and so my primary certification in
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like the bulk of my training is in leadership in
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executive coaching. But apart from the big training that I've done,
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I have focused primarily on like grief and loss and
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trauma and emotional intelligence, and and so I have coached
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like lawyers and doctors in c suite all the way
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to like stay at home moms and like people people
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trying to heal and recover from, like being in a
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relationship with a narcissist. And so I'm in like my
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you know, like my clients hole is like all over
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the Candia.
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Home. Yeah, and so, and then what was your next question?
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Just to kind of an overview it as far as
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the name press.
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Cool Okay, So the name pressed coal comes from Rick
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Warren's quote and he said along the lines thereof not
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a perfect quote, but God takes a caterpillar and turns
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it into a butterfly. He takes a grain of sand
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and turns it into a pearl. And he takes a
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piece of coal and turns it into a diamond. Using
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time and pressure. He's working on you too. And so
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from there, pressed coal is a diamond. And even though
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you're feeling that pressure and in the hardships of life,
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God is working on turning you into diamond.
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Interesting, So how long ago did you decide that you
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wanted to like start entrepreneurship?
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So because we met in training.
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Yes, yes, yes, okay, So I became a widow in
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June of twenty eighteen. So, like next, week is the
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eight year anniversary of when my husband passed away. Yeah,
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I was three months pregnant with my second daughter and my.
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Older was two and a half when he passed.
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And so so that was like a really hard point
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in my life and through a lot of the crying
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out to God put it that way of why do
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I have to walk this path?
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Like why is this the.
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Why?
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Why is this like what we.
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Me and mikeel like, it's not just me walking through it,
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like why why do the girls.
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Have to go through this too?
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On One of the things that God like put on
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my heart was this book, and I fought him for
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three years. I was like, oh, yeah, see, you clearly
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forgot who you created because you did not create an
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author there. You did not create somebody to stand in
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front of other people and talk to them. You did
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not create any of this or in me anyway. I'm like,
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in other people, that's awesome, but not in me. And
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so he, you know, God, God just continued to push
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and push and push, and so people ask me like
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how long did it take me to write the book?
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I would say probably like six months right time, three
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years fight time.
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And like that. Oka And so.
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When you are a.
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Like a nonfiction author. They in order to be published,
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you have to already have a following. And then like
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as God was working on me through this book, you know,
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like the idea of writing this book, he was also
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working on me through I have this story to tell
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and and like this way to connect at a deeper
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level with people now and so like going into public
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speaking while you have to like have a company and
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do all this crazy nonsense in order to have those things.
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And so that's kind of where entrepreneurship started from. It
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was never my intention or my goal or anything else.
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And so yeah.
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But so now that entrepreneur is here with you, yep,
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you know, what are you? What are your thoughts around entrepreneurship.
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I think that that those people who have uh a
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mind forward and a gift for it are incredible. And
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I'm like, like, you know, me and Cam still talk
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about business building and listening to you guys today, like
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there's so much of it that goes over my head.
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I'm like, I'm like, like, uh, Cam, a while ago
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had sent me alive for for like a demonstration or
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uh business Yeah, like so ai business lounge, but it
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was all about Claude and like the capabilities of Claude
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and one that was the first time that I ever
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heard of Claude too, you know, like I am not
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a stranger to AI. I use I use AI quite
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a lot, actually, but I I've never even heard of Claude.
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And so then I sent Cam a text in the
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middle of the thing. I'm like, I understand that you
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people are using English words, but you might as well
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be speaking German.
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I don't get any of it.
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So so, yeah, I've been working and growing, and even
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though I don't understand all of it. Yeah, I'm like
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taking out to bits and trying to learn where I
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can and and everything else. So so I keep really
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good smart people in my back pockets.
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That's good, well, I mean, and that's I think solopreneurs, entrepreneurs,
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people get caught in this like I have to do
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everything by myself. But like no, no, no one ever
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built anything alone right now. That being said, when you're
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by yourself initially, you do have to figure out a
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lot of different things and you have to and you
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have to operate and do those things right. But you know,
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with where we are now in the world, like like
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you've seen in the last couple hours, Like you can
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multiply yourself relatively fast?
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Is it free?
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No?
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Excuse me, but nothing in life is free, right like
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and and it's all about calculated investment for you, like
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moving moving through entrepreneurship these last couple of years. I
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was like, as we've known each other, like what would
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you say? Or like some of the more difficult pieces
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of it, like it's starting out.
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Well even now, I'm so So the most difficult.
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Thing for me.
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Period is like getting over myself. This is not my
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natural natural bend, like to to talk in front of people,
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to to like put myself out there like that. So
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a lot of my struggle is getting out of my
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own way to allow God to like work through me.
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And so so you know, like like that's been a
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huge piece through even my my own healing, let alone
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other people's healing. Is just like how can I get
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out of my own way to like let let the
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smart people in the room. So and besides, besides that,
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like that's that's always probably going to be number one,
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because it's it's always a pain point for me to
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to like put myself out there and and then to
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like have to read what I've written to have to watch,
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like to watch what I've done, Like it's it's not
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a comfortable feeling internally. But then number two is like,
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like there's no guide book on how to like create
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a business, and and everybody wants to sell you their
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their guide book on how to create a business. And
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there most of the time garbage and spamy and and
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every and you.
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Know, like to give you shortcuts, and there there's.
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No and and a lot of them aren't even applicable,
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you know, like like right exactly, and and that's that's
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not helpful. And so I've said a lot this weekend
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being here with like all your business people, I'm like,
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I have no clue what I'm doing. I don't know
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how to build this business. Like I need somebody to
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hold my hand and walk me through how to build
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up my business because I have no clue what I'm doing.
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And so and and to that point, one of the
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reasons I kind of started out with, like every mentor
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needs a mentor, every coach needs a coach. And even
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you're expert in your field, right, there's still room for
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where you need coaching in those areas, right, And and
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so I do want to highlight something that you said,
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because I believe that a lot of people in business
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like ruggle with standing in their own way right. And
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one of the things that I've learned and that I've
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seen around standing in my own way is really like
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recognizing and understanding who I am, and then in addition
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to understanding who I am, being very very clear on
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what I'm trying to achieve. And then the other thing
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is affirming yourself.
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mentioned about mindset. A lot of people miss the transformation
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about shifting their perspective and their mindset and affirming themselves
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because sometimes that self talk in the mirror, when you're
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looking yourself and repeating it over and over and over again,
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it really really shifts your perspective and not even realizing it,
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so that you can stop standing in.
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like our words are so powerful, and whether they're written
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negative kind of condonation and then I'm like I get
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halfway through my sentence and I'm like delete, delete, delete, delete,
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Just got to say what you got to say.
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I understand that.
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go somewhere, and so you know, like like you know,
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we were talking this morning about thriving off of the yeah,
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the chaos, and in our brains thrive off of the
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you learn to like hold on to. And then when
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you don't have that, you know, like when you have
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a moment of peace, you're like looking for what the
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learning how to heal or learning how to you know,
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like move through different situations in your life. Is letting
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go of the chaos or the negativity or excuse me,
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whatever else it is that you're going through. And then
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my oldest daughter bends to negativity. And so a big
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thing that we do every single night is what is
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your favorite thing? So that they can look through their
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day to say, to say, there has to be one
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thing that was good today, and so what was good today?
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I would even add to what you were saying as
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far as like with the chaos is also learning how
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to operate in the chaos, right, because something that you
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can't control more times than not is the chaos itself,
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and so not being able to just stare away and
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run from it, but being able to operate in the
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midst of it.
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book is published, like what like as a business owner,
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like what are your next steps or like or like
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what big lessons did you learned doing because I know
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a lot of people like I've heard it too, right, like, hey,
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write a book, it becomes this lead magnet, or it
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becomes this thing that you can pass out all the time,
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or you know, Like so like what was that like
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getting the book published, but then thinking about, well, what
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what is the next thing I do with this book?
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Was like, Hey, once I get this book, I can
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start trying to get people to hire me to do
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speeches or you know, workshop whatever. Like so like how
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did you work through that? Or like how are you
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working through that currently?
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I would say that the majority of my clientele before
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this book was put out was like not in the
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religious sect like every I'm all, but like I mean,
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everybody's a Christian, but but they're like coming to me
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for work stuff.
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Employees and military and like all these people who you know,
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like I'm I'm working with them for their work life,
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not not like their Christianity life. And and so it's
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been interesting because if I'm using my book as a platform,
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then I have to like change everything about my I mean,
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my company has always been Pressed Coal, but most people
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didn't know where that name comes from. And so you know,
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like like changing my company to being more religious, right,
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more religious based, and and like everything that I'm seeking out,
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like how do I how do I like resilience?
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You know, like I I know, up and down all
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day long?
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How to talk about resilience from a secular side of
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and you know, like how to how to move through it?
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Or burnout? Burnout is like one of.
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how to like combat burnout as a Christian mm hm,
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Help you navigate that space?
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because like all these things, I know how to talk
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about them from a secular side, like how to how
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to create like uh, you know, however long conversation about
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it our our talk or slide deck or whatever from
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and but but you know, like how how to like
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give biblical principles be true to the Bible, you know,
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like what the Bible is saying in the biblical truths
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there and and what we as Christians are supposed to do,
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because that's a lot of times very different like what
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the world tells us to do and how to move
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through things versus what the Bible is telling us to do.
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all of my stuff into the religious realm.
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So, speaking of burnout, I've heard what.
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You're going.
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I personally don't believe in burnout. And here's why I
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say that.
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Well, correction, I believe in burnout, but I.
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Don't believe it in the way that I think is
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like said a lot, yes, and so, and what I
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mean by that is I believe that many times burnout
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is due to you operating in a space that doesn't
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align with who you are. Absolutely, yeah, and so it's
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it's it's a like a. It's a it's a value
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based misalignment.
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Yeah, well and and and that's like the biggest thing
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that I learned, like working to try to figure out
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how to talk about it as a Christian, Like like
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you need to figure out what your purpose is. And
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as soon as you start walking in your purpose, you
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won't feel burnout for sure, Like you will feel an
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unexplainable joy. And and in that joy, you can't feel burnout,
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you know, like just like we're talking about like like
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your brain thriving off of the chaos or the negativity.
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You know, like once you start working walking in.
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Your purpose, you don't need chaos.
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You no longer need that chaos or that negativity to
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to thrive. And so so like trying to hone in
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on what your purpose is and in or your values
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you know, like a misalignment in that in that field.
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hard sometimes, you know, like like let's figure out how
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to how to align with our values or walk in
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our purpose on a daily life. But then you know,
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like that's scary because does that mean that I have
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to like leave my job, like this supports my family,
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Like what am I supposed to do with that?
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So one of the one of the things that I
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hear you saying is like in the secular side and
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the knowledge that all you have, like you can talk
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all up and down around resilience and a number of
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other principles, But from an entrepreneur's standpoint, are you having
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the challenge of how do I merge that stand true
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to my values but still build my business? Is that
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where the gap is?
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So I don't think that that's where the gap is.
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Not for me anyway, Like I I don't think that
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I don't think I've ever walked away from or stepped
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out of my personal values.
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And in fact, in my coaching, like like nine.
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Out of ten of my coaches or my leaders or
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whatever you want to call them, by like our fourth
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session we touch on you know, like I'll ask a
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question like, well, have you checked in with your values
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with that question our decision yet? And they're like like
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deer in the headlights look at me.
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They're like.
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What And I have a values exercise to like help
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them to like help them work through and figure out
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what their values are. And so I would say nine
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times out of ten, like by the fourth or fifth
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session that we have, I'm like always assigning, which I
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don't hardly ever sign homework in coaching, but like I'm
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always giving out this this worksheet that I have that
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helps you learn what are your values and what are
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those lines that you're unwilling to cross? And so but
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like for me, I think, you know, like I've walked
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in my values, but the world has said, you know,
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like resiliency, it's it's a buzzword right now, you know,
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like like it's.
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It has been a buzzword for a.
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Minute when we're in the military.
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So it's yeah, feeling sector usually kind of they were like, ah.
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Yeah, but you know, like like it's still.
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A hot topic, like people want to learn about it
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and and know about it and how to beat it
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and all, you know, all this stuff, right and so
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and like but it's so it's it's not about like
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how to walk inside of my values with that It's okay,
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Well I was taught all of the secular ways of
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dealing with it, and so like me and Cam basically
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said the same thing, you know, like walking in your
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values is what he said, And I said, finding your purpose.
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I'm like, like, but his was the secular way of
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saying it. Mine is the like religious way of saying it.
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It's it's like those nuances that you know, like like
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if you walk in, you know, like the Bible promises
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if you walk in in your purpose. We're all made
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for something. If if you walk into your purpose, you
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won't feel burnout, you won't feel like that struggle, that
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internal pull. We we feel that internal pull, that pressure
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and everything else because we're not walking and what we
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were made for, you know.
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So and knowing and knowing all of that and hearing
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you say all that, how do you take all of
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that integrated into your business to then take your business
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to your next level based off of whatever your priorities
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are over the next three to six months.
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That's a really good question, and I don't really have
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much of an answer for you. So I I came
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out here, I've I've been real and I've been honest,
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and and so, you know, like Kim has a great
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network of people you included in, you know, like like
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all of all of you guys have such a great
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business mind, and thankfully everybody has been so willing to
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like offer advice and and you know, like help me,
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you know, like understand different things that was a misconception
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before or whatever. And so you know, like like yesterday
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I started a new notes tab in in my phone
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and I just keep like, you'll say something one more time.
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I have like a whole running list of once I
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get home, the things that I need to like start doing.
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And then it was funny because Chez was just like
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making fun of me because I was sitting at.
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got like the eyebrows furrow all this stuff, and I
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was like, I was like, these things are making me
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mad and trying to fight with AI.
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Would you be willing to share that note with me?
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Yeah, it's in the other room, Okay.
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Now, just mean like is that I want to make
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a piece of content about that? Be like, hey, Mike,
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our my friend flew out here from my retirement.
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We spent a few days together, and.
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Like here's all the note she was able to take
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back with her after spending time with like us and
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our network and our people.
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Yeah, and so speaking of spending time with us, so
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you've been here in the studio with us for hours
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and hours just today.
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Yeah, tired, y'all.
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We did my retirement yesterday and then we were up
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at five to go to the gym, and then we
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were back at the studio this morning at nine o'clock.
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So so so since this morning till now, if you
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could one or two takeaways that or observations that you
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had that you're taking back with you when you get
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on a plane around business, entrepreneurship processes, AI, any of
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that stuff.
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So I have been using perplexity Pro for like it's
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been well over a year now using Perplexity pro and
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Perplexity Pro specifically with my business and how to level
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up and like do all this stuff. And and so
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today I switched.
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Over to claude.
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Topic I want my link, yeah, and so its.
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Clip it.
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Yeah.
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So I I in the other room. I have a
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whole prompt setup to you know, like what what like
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questions about my business so that it can like then
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create agents for me so that it can help my
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business grow and in other ways. And so I feel
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like like learning the AI beast is probably like one
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of the biggest things for me that will like an
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AI that will actually help me, not that my content
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or you know, like my book, I didn't use any
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AI for like that's all just me and most of
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my content, you know, like in the past, I've used
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all of it for like ideas.
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Okay, well, you know, like like if if I'm going
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to do a talk on.
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H burnout, because that's what we've already talked about, what
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are five key points that I need to hit on
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and so you know, like like that's how I've used
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you know, perplexity in the past and so but Claude,
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the reason that I switched to it is because there's
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so many optimizations and for for like like even just
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cleaning out your email. I started today with four thousand
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emails in my inbox. Now I think has like one
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hundred and fifty.
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What's that? What's that metric? I gotta like, all right,
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I gotta get that metric.
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Down, like like, well, so in the military do lout
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they're called EPR bullets, or they used to be called
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EPR bullets.
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And it's like you were.
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Like we always were like find a percentage or finding
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number like decreased business clutter byes.
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Link.
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Yeah, no, for sure, Like I mean, yeah, well, I
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mean you you came here Thursday right now on Wednesdnesday.
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Guy's got your Thursday?
534
00:32:05.440 --> 00:32:07.680
You get you got here Wednesday and now it is
535
00:32:07.759 --> 00:32:12.920
it's Saturday. And so within between Wednesday and Saturday, how
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has your thought process behind how AI can like multiply?
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You changed?
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I mean like so for me, I've been around you
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since what we met in twenty one in a while, yeah,
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and so far, bro, I know, all right, it's been crazy.
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Yeah.
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So you know, like you're the first person who you
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know like chat GBT when that came out. I remember
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us sitting on a zoom call and you, like you
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showing me how to create that plug in on my computer.
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00:32:53.680 --> 00:32:57.240
So like like I've been around you long enough to
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know that AI has the capability. I'm like, people are
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legit writing books from AI.
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Yeah, yeah, no for sure, Like all right, one of
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our clients took was it almost five hundred pages something
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like that? He wrote he wrote a book years ago,
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five hundred pages, sent it to a publisher, publisher sent
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notes back, and then sat on it because because life
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happened right started working with us, you know, setting up
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his claud getting his AI automations up today, like really
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just like foundational lessons on how to get the most
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out of it, and a book that he had been
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sitting on for four years is already back at the publisher.
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He's only been working us a month and a half.
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What it also found was that when he was sending
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his manuscript or whatever it's called, for some reason, Google
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Drive was actually cutting off paragraphs of his book. So
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he's like, now, this makes sense, because when I was
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getting the notes back from the publisher, they were like,
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this seemed to abruptly end, and he's like, what are
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you talking about? And that's why what he found. What
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it found was that forty thousand words had gotten had
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did not make it to the publisher.
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Forty thousand wow.
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And so not only there was a claude able to
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identify that, it helped him fix it, apply the edits
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that the publisher provided to him, and now it's back
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at the publisher for an additional review.
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So while we're on that topic on AI and how,
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you know, how we leverage it in the sense of
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helping our business as well as our clients. So I
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had one of my AI agents do some research on you, okay,
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and so I'll just share this with you. I'm ready
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one And this is more just kind of like feedback, right, tip,
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Because from when we had you on the first time
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and I learned about you, I walked away fro.
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I'm we knew each other before I was on the
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first time.
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But I mean, like from the conversation, I walked away
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from that conversation.
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Okay, yeah, okay, like she has.
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An amazing and a powerful story. And so that's me
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knowing the little that I knew about you. But so
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AI it said press Coal. It's a powerful name. But
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the website is functional, not magnetic.
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Yep, I know that.
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Okay. The story what I thirty one pregnant, two year
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old is the hook that will move people. It's currently buried.
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And so here here's a quick coaching angle. So your
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your personal story is your most powerful marketing asset, and
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it lives in a pop up on your website. Where
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else is that story being told consistently, boldly and in
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your own voice. So if I could give you one
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one thing and and and reading that and knowing what
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I know about you and knowing where you want to
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go with your business, is thinking about uh, becoming more
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visible with your story? Yeah right? And I know I
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know you say that that you know that, But one
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of the things one of the things that we found
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with people in business is that don't know something, most
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will know something fear will act on it. And so
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the challenge is that we encourage you to leave here
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and execute on that thing that you already know.
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What motivates you? Are you like intrinsically motivated? Are you
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externally motivated? Is it like I don't want to let
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somebody down that I've made a promise to, Like like
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what what moves your needle? And it and and there's
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no right or wrong answer, but it's like knowing, like
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are you going to get something done faster because like
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you're like, I gotta get this done?
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Or are you pressure? Like I know me, I'm kind
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of both.
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Like I can do a lot of things internally, but
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like sometimes like if I know that someone's counting on me,
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I'm gonna move like or something's about to expire, you know.
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Like I did my VIA disability claim the.
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Day it was due, you know, and I was just like,
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oh shit, I know better for you know, I had
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it ninety percent complete for two weeks. Yeah, but it
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wasn't until the last day where I was like, all right,
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you gotta get this done now. But you know, like
627
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how are you motivated or like what what gets you
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to move?
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Is like like quickly.
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I don't know.
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I kind of feel like you'd be better to answer
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that question than me. I mean, five years of listening
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to me fight about my book.
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Let me ask you this if if if your daughter's
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checked in with you every day to see if you
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do something.
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So if I, like your oldest if I was like,
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hey every day, I want you to ask your mam
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if you.
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Bro don't do that to me?
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There you go. Because because as a mother.
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I'man like like, so where do I find my motivation?
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It is to like be able to better our lives,
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the three of us.
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And so you know I I fight for.
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Like this company one because with that book, like like
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you know, I fought with God. He didn't he didn't
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relent uh with my arguments, And so you know, I'm
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trying to be a good steward. And you know, like
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I've I've said ever since Keith's funeral that if my
651
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story can help one person, that that'll be good enough.
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And and I I truly mean that, and so you know,
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like I do believe, you know, like we're taught to
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to pray that, you know, like God would change my
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heart to be his will, and so I do. I
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00:39:03.239 --> 00:39:08.159
do believe that that like this is my heart's desire now,
657
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is to do his will.
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And I.
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Like trying to get out of my own way, and
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so like this is what I want for my life now,
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00:39:19.559 --> 00:39:24.679
to be this entrepreneur to have like I'm not trying
662
00:39:24.719 --> 00:39:33.039
to become Elon Musk and have a trillion dollar but
663
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you know, like just enough to support me and my
664
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daughters is you know, like what I'm looking for and travel,
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you know, like we love to travel and see the
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world and everything else. And so yeah, I feel like
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that's the bare minimum in life.
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I think that's a bullshit. Go Here's why I say
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that that.
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I think many people hide behind that I just want
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enough to get by.
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I'm I don't.
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I don't want it just enough to get by, Like
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right now, I have just enough to get by. I
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want right support comfortably, comfortably support, you know, like I
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don't you know, like I don't want to have to
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worry about if I drop down like twenty percent on
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my client tele or you know, like I don't want
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all of that internal stress, like about how would.
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I make the bills.
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If you know three of my clients disappeared or you know,
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like like like that's.
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What I mean.
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I I want to be speaking so that I can
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be like here's here's some crazy stuff, okay, and so
686
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like this is what gets me going, right, I got it.
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00:40:50.440 --> 00:40:52.000
I don't know if you know who he is or not,
688
00:40:52.119 --> 00:40:55.079
but Brandon Lake, he took a chance on Jelly Roll.
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Most people know who jelly Roll is, and so like
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jelly Roll had put out something that I think he
691
00:41:04.079 --> 00:41:06.840
was in an interview saying that he's like trying to
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get his life right with God and like trying to
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like figure all these things out right. So at the
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same time, Brandon Lake was trying to find an authentic
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artist to do heartfelt Hallellujah with him. Like I don't
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want like just some artists who is like, oh yeah,
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I fought for my life, you know, like going through
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normal life stuff. He wanted like somebody who's been through
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the ringer and who is trying to walk with God right.
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And so now, because Brandon Lake was a good mentor
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to Jelly Role, they went on tour together. Like jelly
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Roll saw how he lived his life, like Jelly Roll
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and his wife are like committed Christian Jelly Rule still
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sells out stadiums, like stadiums and he sings heartfelt Halleujah,
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like they have praise and worship and like come to
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Jesus moments every single time that he gets on that stage,
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and how incredible is that for the kingdom? And so
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like like what do I want?
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I want?
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I don't think I will ever sell out stadiums, but
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I want to be able to say when I meet
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my Maker that I ran the good race, I fought
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the good fight, and I'm here and I did what
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I could do to further the kingdom. And so what
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pushes me? It's not anything here. I mean, sure, of course,
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I you know, like I could live the rest of
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my life. I'm living now with the girls, and that'll
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be fine enough. But I don't want to meet my
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Maker and have to explain why I didn't go with
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the vision that he gave me.
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For sure, interest helping a million people, one at a time,
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fight through grief.
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A million, that's a lot of people.
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That's your mission. That's a lot, one at a time.
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And when I heard Kim ask you about what motivates
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you as you navigated through that conversation, I heard family,
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God and to help one person at the time. And
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I think that you know, as business owners and entrepreneurs
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or solopreneurs, people forget to hold on to that anchor
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as there as they're thinking about, Hey, how what processes
731
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do I need to scale my business? What what do
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I need? What partnerships, what collaborations, et cetera. And you know,
733
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that's your that's your gym, you know. So as you
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do leave here and you go through your notes on
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the plane or you get back home and go through
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your notes, like you know, I would, I would encourage
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you to, you know, stay true to the to the
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anchor and build off of that. They let that be
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the foundation, and you build off of that because with
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you being you, you having your story, uh, and you
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stand true or having that firm foundation, the people will
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attract themselves to you, right like, whether it's through your story,
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whether it's through your book. And I think leaning on
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that would definitely help as you're standing in front of
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people speaking or coaching them and all of that. And
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so to that, to all of that, my one of
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my last questions to you is when you are impacting
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these individuals and you want to bring them into the
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press col ecosystem. When you finish speaking to them or
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meeting with them, Like, what's next for them? How do
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they stay connected with you? What's your what's your what's
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your process, what's your what's your offer?
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With that?
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You can email me as.
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So here's a piece of advice if I may, Right,
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So you have great story. Website is already up, and
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you have this piece here, right, and so the story
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and this can be connected, right, and so as you
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bridge that gap. Right, Let's say we finished up a
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meeting around and I was just coached by you in
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some way, shape, some way, shape or form. Right. Oh,
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by the way, because I already know a piece of
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your story. Hey, you know grief through grace. I have
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this right. You can order it off of Amazon, et cetera,
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et cetera, you can package it. Right, So just just
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a small small tip. But we'll talk offline about some
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additional stuff.
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So questions to that point, with all the people that
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you've coached, what is an overwhelming thing between all of
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them that like for the most like high percentage wise, right,
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Like what are most of them trying to.
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Be coached on?
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I think for me, it's like how to promote in life.
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Whether it's their job or their circumstance situation, like how
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figure out how to be better or happy or or
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you know, like whatever it is. And like one of
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my guys he was a subcontracted, Like he was a
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sub he was an employee on a government contract, and
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so like, I don't know, within the three years that
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I coached with him, I think he changed company hands
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like three or four times because he's connected to that contract.
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For those people who don't know about government contracts.
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Yeah, someone loses the contract, wins the contract. You just
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kind of like go with whatever the company.
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Yeah, And so like like who your supervisors are, who
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pays your check, who you know, like all that stuff.
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And by the time we ended talking, we end up
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talking because he was still a reservist and he was
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being shipped out overseas, and so one of his big
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goals before he was going was to to like no
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longer be attached to.
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The contract, to like.
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Be able to move into the government sect and like
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be you know, like just then work for the government
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instead of in the contract. And and so I'm like
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it took until nearly right before he shipped out but
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but he you know, like through through all these different
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things you know, of course at home, but also you know,
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like like with our coaching, you know, he was able
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to I'm in like one of the first things that
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we talked about, he was like, well, what's in it
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for me? I'm like, I like, that's a great question.
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Let's walk through what's in it for you? What will
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your boss see? What will your boss on the government
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side see? Because you have these people on both sides
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looking at you. So if you're doing the bare minimum, yeah,
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that's your job, but what what is.
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In it for you?
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That's right? What is in it for you? You you
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want to change, but you want to be promoted, promoted,
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you want to like do all these things, but then
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your attitude is what's in it for me? Like like, nah, bro,
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let's let's see what's in it for you?
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Okay.
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And so even his wife, like I talked to his wife,
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you know, at one point, and she was like, we
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love Stephanie in this house because there were so many
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different times that he would say something and I'm.
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Like, ooh, did you talk to your wife about that?
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Like how does she feel?
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And so then she would start asking him like did
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Stephanie ask you what I would say about this? How
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long would it have taken you to say this to me?
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If Stephanie hadn't of life giving it, you know, like
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asked you, and she was like, you have saved us
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so many different fights, and so you know, I would
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definitely say, like the overarching theme has been how to
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promote whether in your marriage and your job is a
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parent how you know, like.
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Toxic relationships, how to how to promote?
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How to promote I got some light and round questions,
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four of them. Okay, the first couple of things that
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pop in your head are from your heart right. Question
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number one, what's one piece of advice you give clients
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that you still have to remind yourself.
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Of Mm hmm walk with God?
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Grief or PTSD, which is harder to coach through? And why.
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PTSD because grief is the emotion. PTSD is the the
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recurring trauma that comes from that emotion. It's easier to
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heal from. It's easier to heal from the trauma. But
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like PTSD, yeah, like a lot, right, And you don't
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even know what's going to trigger you. And and there
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have been times that like I would have never said
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that I had PTSD until a couple of different occurrences
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came through and then I'm like, holy cow. I never
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even thought that like going through everything with Keith's death
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would give me a PTSD, but like it legit has in.
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Yeah, PTSD got you.
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Okay, Uh, what's one thing you wish more people understood
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about the coaching profession?
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Coaches?
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Coaching certificates are diamond dozen and just because somebody says
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that they have a certificate does not mean that they
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know how to coach. And so so make like vet
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your coaches because there's a lot of coaches out there
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that are not, like, don't have a clue of what
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the fundamentals of coaching are.
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And so yeah, vet your coaches because.
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And as my last question, as I hold your book
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in my hand, what's the one line from Grief through
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Grace you want everyone to carry with them.
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I'm not sure that it's one line, and I it's
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it's been too long since I've read it to really
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be able to like think of a quote out of it.
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But I would say the overarching theme. I didn't say
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it at the beginning, but I structured my book real
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quick as like a personal element each chapter is a
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personal element like why did I write this chapter?
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And then I have.
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An emotional intelligence tool, a mindset change tool, and then
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a biblical promise. And so the overarching message I want
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people to take from my book is that there is hope.
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Like there there's hope for you out there there, you know,
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like the Bible gives us so many promises that we
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can hold on to and and they are like life
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changing when you when you apply them to your life.
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And so you can change your mindset. You can, you know,
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like change your habits.
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You can.
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You can make sure that you know God is able
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to walk in your grief and find grace.
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Grief through grace, grief through grace. So Steph me, I
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know the first time that we had you on the podcast,
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we did a video video call. We recorded it so
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first time and studio thank you for carrying the the
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life experiences that you continue to carry it through life
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as you you know, continue coaching people and helping people
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and showing them the light that there is hope. From
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our team to you, we are very grateful for the
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work that you're doing in this world. And so with
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that being said, thank you, I will say, guys, if
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you have not purchased this book yet. If you have
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not purchased this book yet, you Stephanie is gonna be
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about to tell you where you can find it at
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to order it again. Is Grief through Grace, a young
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widow's journey through loss, growth, and the power of hope.
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You want to close us out and then.
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Oh, well, first, where can people find you?
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So I am on pressed Coole dot org and you
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can the link for my book is there also, it's
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a pop up like you said.
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You can. It's on Amazon.
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Put my name in there, Stephanie Loader in the search
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and I'll pull up my book and my email is
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Stephanie at pressed Coal dot org.
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I'm gonna purchase my copy today.
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There you go, uh i uh.
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With that being said, like love, share, subscribe, tell us
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what you like, tell us what you don't like, and
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we see y'all later.
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Yes, there, Stephanie Loader.