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Welcome back to Making Good, the podcast here to help you do better marketing so you can make a bigger impact.
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I'm your host, Lauren Tilden, and this is episode 318.
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Today we are back with this month's edition of Making Good Book Club and we are talking about the one thing, the surprisingly simple truth about extraordinary results by Gary Keller and Jay Papasan.
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If this is your first time tuning in to Making Good Book Club, here is the deal once every month, my amazing book club co-host Charelle and I discuss a book we think can help move the needle in your small business.
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And we talk about our takeaways specifically for small business owners.
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And I wanna say this upfront, this is actually our last book club episode with Charelle as a co-host after four years.
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Oh my gosh.
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Dozens of books and so many fun British versus American English moments.
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This is our last one together.
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I am so grateful for Charelle for the time and care she has poured into this series.
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I have gotten personally so much out of all of these conversations I know that many of you have as well, and I am still deciding what happens next with book clubs.
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So if you have enjoyed these episodes and you would love to see some version of them continue, Please DM me on Instagram and tell me that seriously, I want your feedback, and that is how I'm going to decide I am at Lauren Tilden.
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Okay, back to the book.
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This month we talked about the one thing, which is all about this idea.
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Big results come from narrowing your focus, not doing more, not hustling harder, not juggling 10,000 things at once.
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The book gives you super practical frameworks for figuring out what matters most.
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Staying focused long enough to build momentum and protecting your time so that your one thing actually gets done.
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In this book club episode, we talked about the domino effect and why small focused actions can build into big results.
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The six lies that derail our focus, like multitasking, everything matters equally, and the myth of balance.
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The focus in question.
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What is the one thing I can do such that by doing it, everything else becomes easier or unnecessary.
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How does set goals from someday to right now in a way that actually leads to action?
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Why time blocking might be the most important productivity tool there is, and more.
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If you feel pulled in a million directions, if you feel constantly busy, but not always progressing.
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Or like your goals, just keep getting buried under life and work and inboxes.
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Okay, let's get into this month's book club episode about the one thing.
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Charelle, welcome back to Making Good Book Club.
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you for having me back.
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If you listen to one of the last interviews before this episode came out on Making Good, you'll have heard a big announcement about Making Good Book Club, which is that that is the last time I'm gonna get to say Charelle.
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Welcome back to Making Good Book Club because this is our last episode, at least with Charelle as co-host, I'm still debating about what to do, if anything, moving forward.
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So TBD, if there's any form of making good book Club that sticks around, if you're interested, please hit me up.
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If you are interested in that happening, I would love to hear your feedback.
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But for now, after four years,
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Which is crazy.
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I couldn't believe it's four years when I looked back, it's gone so fast.
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neither.
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Dozens of books we've covered together.
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So many conversations, so many fun British slash americanisms, and things lost in translation between the two of us.
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This is our last one and, I'll say it again.
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I will say it right now.
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I'm just so grateful, Charelle, for all of these conversations, all of the work.
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I know it's so much time that you've put into this, so thank you so much.
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Absolutely loved it and I'm a bit like, oh, as I said, it definitely wasn't an easy decision for me to walk away, but, I, I'm very excited to do this last book and moving on to a new chapter in my life.
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A new chapter, see what you did there.
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Well I'm gonna give you a chance at the end to tell everyone all about what's next for you.
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And definitely folks stick around for that because Charelle is up to some amazing things.
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So she'll tell you all about that at the very end.
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But for now, let's dig into our last book that we're covering together.
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It is the One Thing by Gary Keller and Jay Papasan and this is a book that I feel like has been on my radar for a long time.
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I know you had actually read it before, and the reason I think we hadn't.
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Or at least I hadn't really pushed to do it is because we have covered the book Essentialism, which has a similar focus of like short version of the story is like, focus on less so you can achieve more.
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That's, that is the takeaway of Essentialism and I thought that this would be very similar to that book.
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So I just didn't see a need to do both.
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But Charelle was like, no, let's do it.
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And I'm really glad that we did.
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It was a perfect book to read this time of year.
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You said you had read it a while ago.
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You read it again.
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So what was your, what was that like reading it for a second time?
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I had totally forgotten much.
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I think like you, I think between, essentialism and also reading the Compound Effect, I think they'd all sat in that very similar bubble of less is more like just concentrate, basically take, don't take on the whole world, et cetera.
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And if I was honest, I probably didn't remember like that many of the concepts and that many, much of the book in that like a very vivid way.
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So it actually was very enjoyable to read it again.
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Definitely was a few things that I was like, this is what you need to actually apply, take this in.
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I definitely feel like these are some things that are easier said than done, but I'm very, very glad I read it again and it was perfectly timed.
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Yeah, perfectly time for the end of the year and, this episode comes out December 15th, so everyone will also get to soak in whatever we share from the book now.
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But also I would just say upfront, like I think it's worth a read.
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We'll cover as much as we can, but I do think this one is worth reading.
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it's not a hard read, so it's like, it's just over 200 pages.
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But I think compared to some of the books we've read where they're all like, the font's really small, the book's really big,
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Yeah.
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whatever.
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This isn't like, I genuinely was like, this is a book that you actually can read at a decent about it taking forever,
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And it's not dry.
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Like it, it is.
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I mean, he's a business person.
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I don't think you have to be a business person to get something from the book.
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But it's not a lot of like dry business concepts.
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Like he tells stories, he pulls examples from fiction.
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Charelle is in as big of a fan of those things as I am.
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There's great quotes.
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He surfaced some great quotes that he starts the chapters out with.
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I'm sure I'll be naming a few of those.
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So yeah, great.
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Easy but really thought provoking and useful book to read.
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I think for basically anyone.
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So it's broken up into three.
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Parts, there's a few chapters up front kind of setting the scene, and then there are three parts and I think, we'll, we may not get to every chapter, but we'll definitely kind of try to cover the bases on the parts of the book.
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From the intro chapters, there's three intro chapters.
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Anything that really stuck out with you here.
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So my, not a quote that from someone else, quote from him that I pulled out was about like, the, essentially what we're looking at is it's recognizing that not all things matter equally and finding out the things that matter most.
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And I
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Mm-hmm.
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that that was a quote, I, I highlighted it before and I was like, yeah, I still really, truly believe that.
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I think obviously as business owners, we do so much, like we all do so much, and like, if only we could really, really, really nail down this thing of being like, a lot of it doesn't make that much of a difference, and some of it really, really does.
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And so finding out the things about it most, I really was like, yes, this is the bit to remember.
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Mm-hmm.
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so yeah, that was definitely like the thing in terms of like this idea of like the one thing that I was like, yeah, I, and it does connect to one of the lies and then the next, in the next section of the book.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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And something that stood out to me right near the quote you just said, which is extraordinary results are directly determined by how narrow you can make your focus.
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This, I feel like, is the key concept from Essentialism that I think about over and over again.
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It is a huge personal challenge for me.
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And
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And you, and actually I think maybe, uh.
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I might be putting words in your mouth, but like part of your decision not to continue with making Good Book Club is a little bit of trying to practice this narrowing in on, you know, the one thing for you.
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a hundred
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Yeah.
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So yeah, I think I would say.
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I think most entrepreneurs struggle with this.
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I, I think unless you are someone who genuinely has one passion and you are like, your whole business is just around that, I think most people actually in their heart are multi-passionate and want to do a hundred things and have loads of creative ideas, and trying to focus on one thing is super difficult.
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Yeah.
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And I think, I think this, this definitely does come up later in the book, which we'll probably get to, but one thing this book had me thinking more about than I remember thinking more about from like Essentialism or other things like this is the concept of like, okay, well how do you figure out what that thing is?
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Like I get.
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That we need to narrow down, but you can't just pick a random thing,
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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it has to be the right thing that you're narrowing in on.
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And that, I think, is actually the really challenging part because maybe for, for many of us, when we are dipping our toes into so many things, maybe on a subconscious level, it's like, well, we don't know what the one thing is, so we're trying to like hedge our bets a little bit.
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And so
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So you talk about that later in the book?
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No.
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Hedging our bets.
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yes, no hedging.
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But yeah, and so we'll talk about it later, but, but I think that is one thing that really stands out to me about this book is the focus on figuring out what that thing is.
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Another concept in these early chapters is the domino effect.
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knew you were
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Um,
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Go on.
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Because it's a story
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There's this story, well, there's like just a little anecdote about, the world record for Dominoes, which was set in 2009.
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Maybe it's been, this book is a little older, so it could have been beat by then.
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But this, in this publication, it was 4 million, almost 500,000 dominoes that were coordinated to go up.
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And it unleashed more than 94,000 joules of energy, which is as much as it takes an average sized male to do 545 pushups.
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Just through this like simple domino effect of one knocking down the next.
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And then there's this other concept here where dominoes can actually knock over things that are larger than'em.
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So, so like one domino can knock down a slightly larger domino, which can knock, slight, knock down a slightly larger domino.
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And he's kind of using this as an example to show like, yes, when you focus on your one thing, you may be starting small, but.
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It picks up steam pretty quickly and like kind of escalates to bigger and bigger and better and better results, so.
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like that fact.
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So it says up to, it can be another domino that's up to 50% larger.
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I think, so then you really get this idea of like how exponential growth really
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Mm-hmm.
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And I think that in some ways is Britney.
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I think like when you look at the compound effect, it might be slightly different.
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I think this, um, what did you call it?
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Anecdote shows it more this idea of like how it, it builds up.
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And I think knowing
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Mm-hmm.
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little thing, starts to chain reaction.
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And I think that is
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Yeah.
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so true.
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I truly believe in that as a concept as a whole.
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But I think sometimes when we think the thing, I think some of us know the thing we really want, but it seems so big.
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But actually if you're like, well, actually, if all I've got to do is focus on the chain reaction and it will keep getting bigger and bigger, and actually that growth isn't necessarily as hard or as far away as you might imagine it to be.
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Yeah.
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He says the key is over time, success is built sequentially.
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It's one thing at a time.
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And then his last thing in this like intro bit was just around, talks about like success leaving clues.
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And this is where he really tries to reinforce this idea that extraordinary successful companies all have one product or service they're most known for or that makes them the most money.
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And I suppose this is where I felt it does give you a bit of leeway in terms of being like, it's not, you only have to have one thing in your business, but what is a thing you're known for?
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What is a thing that people remember you for, recommend you for, refer you for?
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Like that's the reason why people approach you.
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That doesn't then mean you can't have more.
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But it's like you
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Mm-hmm.
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thing that's like the standout and like obviously I'm like, we talk a lot about like having in my services with like a signature service, a signature offer.
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So it's like that to me made sense just being like, what's the one thing, you still allowed more, but you need to have one.
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That's the standout.
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Mm-hmm.
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Yeah.
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And then he, he sort of is diversifying this one thing concept a bit.
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And he says like, sometimes it's one person who like really believes in you and sets you on the right track.
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One passion, one skill, one life.
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Yeah,
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Um, I get a little distracted by these extra concepts, honestly.
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Like I, I feel like I'm like, well wait, now I have a lot more than just one thing.
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You know, I've got, like, I've got the one project at work.
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That's the one thing.
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And then, I don't know, I'm, I'm getting distracted a little bit when we apply this one thing concept so vastly across different parts of our lives.
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But, um, yeah, that's just me maybe.
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So part one of the book is the Lies that Mislead and Derail Us.
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Okay, so just maybe to set the scene here, there are six lies between you and success.
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Everything matters equally.
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Multitasking.
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A disciplined life, willpower is always on, will call a balanced life and big is bad.
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So maybe we could pick a few of these to dig into
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so I think
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which one stood out to you?
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obviously that everything, mattered equally was the one that I'd already spoken about a little bit before, but he really leans into this idea of like, I never say Paretos Paretos principle, which is the
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Pareto's principle.
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the 80 20 rule and like.
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Really what I liked about him on this though was he said you could take it further and further.
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So like looking at the 80 20, working out what's the 20% that makes, you know, the most results or the best output or whatever.
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And then digging into that again and then digging into that again.
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And so really, really forcing yourself to like push, I suppose like to the limits.
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Like what actually is what matters.
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And actually I think if you really embrace this concept actually is freeing because it will help you to drastically cut down your to-do list.
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Mm-hmm.
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just do it.
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Yeah.
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So hard.
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So hard, but he makes very good case for it.
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Another lie that stood out to me a lot was willpower is always on will call.
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And this is sort of about the idea that many of us, when we're trying to do something new or we have a goal that we're approaching, we just kind of feel like we have to summon the willpower and then it'll happen.
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Like we just have to kind of make ourselves do it.
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And inevitably, like when we are relying on all of this willpower, we fail, we like give up on the project or you know, January 9th, I think it is actually is National Quitter's day.
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I looked this up recently.
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It's the second Friday of January.
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By which date most people have already given up or failed on their news resolutions because I think of like the willpower that we're trying to depend on, and this reminds me of James Clear atomic habits.
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He says we can't always expect to have motivation, but we can rely on systems.
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And this is a little bit of a similar concept where like, we just can't always meeting our goals, can't be dependent on summoning a lot of willpower because it's just not always available to us.
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He says, when our willpower runs out, we will all revert to our default settings.
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This begs the question, what are your default settings?
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yeah.
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He mentions a bunch of the different things that tax your willpower, so.
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Implementing new behaviors, filtering out distractions, resisting temptation, suppressing your emotions, restraining aggression, suppressing impulses, tests, trying to impress others, coping with fear, doing something you don't enjoy selecting long-term over short-term results.
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So like, as you can imagine, maybe just like hearing those things, you can think of all these moments throughout your day where something is taxing your willpower and draining it, and eventually we just run out.
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So like, if you're one of those people who struggles with, I don't know, maybe you're, you find it easy to stick to your healthy habits in the morning and midday, but by the end of the day you struggle.
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That's a really good example of this.
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In practice, like you just run out, we deplete our willpower.
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And so I think my big takeaway here is like paying attention to how much of your life requires, exercising, willpower, trying not to drain it.
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Kind of staying in, in touch with like how much willpower you have and if you need to do something to replenish it, take a break or take, go for a walk or whatever it is.
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Do that.
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And then also he is really all about, and this comes up again and again in the book, like timing
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He's a
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your most important things so that they happen earlier in the day when you actually have the willpower, like when it's available to you.
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The other one I liked was a balanced life.
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And he talks about how work life balance and having or having a balanced life is a myth and actually there is like magic in the extremes rather than the middle.
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So actually sort of is saying like, if we are trying to balance, it's like you're not really giving anything possibly enough for it to really succeed.
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And so rather than searching for that, he actually says sometimes you are gonna have to like, make trade offs.
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Some things are gonna have to like not happen.
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And rather than balance where you're trying to juggle everything equally, he talks about counterbalance.
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And so there'll be phases where you like it's extreme.
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Like you are going really hard into one area, for example.
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And that will mean there is.
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A negative repercussion on another part of your life.
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But the point is when all, another part of your business forever.
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But we're not doing it forever.
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Like it's for a period of time.
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And so actually we want counterbalance across like years rather than thinking of like balance within a day or a week.
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Yeah, that resonates to me.
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Um, oh, I think the, the other one that I was thinking of is a disciplined life, which is similar, I think, to the willpower comment.
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But, um, he gives the example here of Michael Phelps, the Olympics swimmer, who is like.
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I think gotten more gold medals than any other Olympian still.
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And he actually apparently struggled as a child.
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Like he has not always been this like, super driven, I don't know, like success story that we think of him as today.
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He shares that.
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Like he basically had this one thing, which is that he decided he was gonna train seven days a week, 365 days a year.
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But this way he gets 52 training days extra than everyone else because most people take off a weekend day.
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So he's training on Sundays.
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Everyone else isn't.
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He gets 52 extra training days.
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And this was like his secret sauce that like, basically he credits to his results.
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You know, not all of us are gonna be doing something like that, but I think it's a good example of like.
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Finding that, that one angle of, of your edge.
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He also talked about disciplines and habits.
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This is connected to willpower in that like, I don't think if you needed the willpower, you could do 365 days a year for however many years he did it to train.
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Like eventually it has to become a habit.
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So you're just like
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That's what I
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defaulting to that, right?
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Instead of needing the willpower.
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And so he talks about there's this 21 days to form a habit.
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Thing that, like people talk about a lot.
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I'm, I'm sure I have like said that because that's what a lot of people report, but actually they've done studies on it and the average time that it takes to acquire a new habit is 66 days.
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So that's over two months.
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Like that is a while of sticking with something.
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But once it does become a habit, it takes a lot less discipline and willpower to keep it going.
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And so you just kind of have to be willing to go for 66 days.
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And this was kind of thought provoking for me because I feel like, yeah, that 21 day or 30 days is touted so often as like what it takes to form a habit.
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And if you were to feel like you didn't have it as a habit after that, I don't know, it'd be really easy to give up on.
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So I think this just kind of speaks to the value and sticking out of, sticking it out a bit longer.
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Even if it's still hard, like after a certain point it does become a habit.
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It just, it's gonna take longer than 21 days.
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Yeah.
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And he says, do this one at a time.
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Like don't try five new habits at a time.
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Trying to stick it out for six to six days on each, like build one habit at a time.
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Anything else on the lies?
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that's not enough of the lives.
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Now let's go into the truth.
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All right.
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So this is meant to be this simple path to productivity, and there's only three chapters in this one.
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So the first is around the focusing question, and the premise of this is around the quality of any answer is directly determined by the quality of the question.
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And so if we wanna get better answers, we basically have to ask ourselves better questions.
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And so the focusing question he talks about is, what's the one thing I can do such that by doing it, everything else will be easier or unneccessary.
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Yep.
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And this is a question that he comes back to over and over throughout the rest of the book in many different ways.
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So like, I'm gonna read it again so that you have it in your head.
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What's the one thing I can do such that by doing it, everything else will become easier or unnecessary.
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This to me is sort of the filter for helping you figure out like what your one thing is.
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Would you agree with that?
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Yeah, I think it's well, it's two things.
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Because the easier part of the question, I see it as that connects back to like what we're saying about where do you put your effort that gets the most resource and stuff.
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And then the unnecessary I see is you being able to get rid of stuff.
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So I feel like it's doing two things.
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It's helping you to get rid of some things and not, and then it's also helping you to try and focus on actually choosing the right thing.
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I think that's a really, like that last part, such that by doing it, everything else will be easier or unnecessary.
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I think that's the really important part because I don't know, maybe that's the part that can give you some confidence about letting other things go.
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You know, when you're narrowing down on one thing and just like going all in, that's one thing.
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But when you're like, okay, by doing this, I know that everything else either doesn't need to be done or is simplified or is irrelevant now, like, I don't know.
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That's a level of like comfort.
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I think that I, I haven't put this into practice yet, but I imagine like, it, it becomes easier to let go of all the other stuff when, when you understand
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Yeah,
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the context this way.
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like easy to say no when you know what you're saying yes to.
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It's that same thing, isn't it?
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By knowing this is what we're saying yes to, then we can say no to other things,
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Mm-hmm.
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so yeah.
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Okay.
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Um, the next chapter is the Success Habit.
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And this is where it goes further into the question, but starts to add in categories and timeframes, for example.
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So we start to look at the one thing I could do such that everything else would be easier or necessary for my personal life, for my key relationships, for my job, for my business, for my finances, for my spiritual life, for my physical health.
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And so it's really, and then the book, he asks a lot more questions he showed you, but I suppose it's really about how to start applying it to different areas.
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So the idea is that this can help us in all aspects of our life.
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It's not just, and I, I suppose it's what, um, a lot of'em was saying in the beginning, like, this is not a business book.
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Like yes, the techniques really will help you in business, but it can be applied to any area of your life.
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Mm-hmm.
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And then the timeframe thing could be that you could ask yourself like um, right now versus this week.
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What's my one thing overall is big picture and then what's my one thing right now is like day to day.
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Yeah.
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And then the last bit I think you
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Then
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I'm gonna put, I'm gonna put it out there.
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Liked this next
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I do,
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it a quadrant.
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it had a quadrant, it had something really visual.
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This final section in this, the second part is the path to great answers.
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And this is about basically the quality of your question leads to the quality of your answer.
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So if you have a great question, you can create a great answer.
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And there's this framework that he introduces, which I really like.
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He calls it the great question matrix.
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And across the X axis you have everything from broad to specific.
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So a broad question to a specific question.
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And the Y axis, the vertical axis at the top, it's big and small.
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So as examples, a small and broad question might be, what can I do to increase sales?
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A small and specific question is, what can I do to increase sales by 5% this year?
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A big but broad question would be, what can I do to double sales?
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And a big specific question is, what can I do to double sales in six months?
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And once he's gone through like all of these different options of types of questions between big, small, broad, specific, he believes that the best type of question, at least in this context of, you know, finding your, the one thing and your, your answer is big and specific.
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So again, the example there is what can I do to double sales?
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That's big doubling in six months specific.
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He finds these to be the elements of a great question.
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And so you can convert this into a focusing question, which Charelle introduced a couple chapters ago by something like the following, what is the one thing I can do to double sales in six months such that by doing it, everything else will be easier or unnecessary.
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And so you have your question.
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And then the second part here is finding a great answer.
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He says there are three types of answers here.
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Three categories, doable, stretch, and possibility.
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Doable is, you probably already know how to do it.
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You don't have to do much, you can just go do it.
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The next level up would be stretch, which is like within reach, but it's, it's gonna be a lot harder.
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You'll have to, he says, do research, figure out what others have done.
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And then finally the last one is, possibility.
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And he says that highly successful people choose to live at the outer limits of achievement.
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So they're going for this possibility
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Mm-hmm.
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ring on the, on the frame or the possibility category, I guess, of great answers.
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The way that he approaches this is he.
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Learns a lot from other people who have done it.
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So if there's something you wanna do and you find the answer to be that it's, it's gonna really stretch you outside of, it's not doable, it's not stretch, it's in this like possibility category.
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Like you're gonna have to look at someone who's done it or something similar and look for like the breadcrumbs and then the clues that have been left behind.
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And so, books, um, experts, mentors the internet, like looking at the clues left by other people who have done it is the best place to start with this.
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On the topic of possibilities, it leads us nicely into the third part of the book, which is extraordinary results, unlocking the possibilities within you.
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And very early on in this chapter, or this section of the book, we have a nice little diagram.
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We talks about, purpose, priority, and productivity.
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And so his thing is your big one thing is your purpose and your small one thing is a priority.
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You take action on to achieve it.
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And so in this diagram, it's like an iceberg.
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And so underneath at the bottom of the iceberg, we've got purpose.
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Then you've got priority on top, and both these layers are under the water.
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And then you have productivity, which is.
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The bit that's showing the iceberg above the water.
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And so it's like, actually so many of the people that you think are productive, we just see that and we are thinking, oh, they've learned how to do time management better, or they've learn some system better.
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But for him, he's like, no, actually, what you don't see underneath is they've got a really strong purpose.
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And so they understand what their priority is and that's what on the top makes it actually productive.
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Mm-hmm.
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Yeah.
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And then if you're a business on the top, top of the iceberg would be profit.
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So it's like if you wanna have a profitable business.
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And then he says it's purpose, priority, productivity, profit.
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Because people love A-P-P-P-P in a book, don't they?
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Mm-hmm.
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He says, yeah, great businesses are built one productive person at a time.
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Um, and so like the productivity is what leads to the profit, which is why profit's on top.
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But that has to be based on like these clear priorities and an underlying purpose, which brings us to the next chapter, live With Purpose.
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And here he tells the Ebenezer Scrooge story from a Christmas Carol, which, he actually tells the whole story in the book, but basically the Scrooge is like a mean, nasty, very money oriented person.
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He has this like apparition, possibly a dream you don't really know where he basically changes overnight and he's visited by his past, present, and future.
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And he realizes he's not on the right track.
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And then he kind of has this.
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New purpose to use his money for good and like immediately changes.
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And so it's kind of just, he, he is telling the story to give an example of like, when you have a purpose, it guides all of your behavior.
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And he's showing, he's telling all these stories about, once Ebenezer, Scrooge has transformed, he tells all these stories of ways he does good with his money through different acts, basically.
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And so when you have this underlying purpose, your priorities are clear and like your actions are guided kind of effortlessly.
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Yeah, I mean, I, I think the, the purpose conversation is a bit harder.
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Like, figuring out exactly what your purpose is is a challenge.
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I've always struggled with, with this concept of like having a super clear purpose.
00:32:26.848 --> 00:32:31.648
He says who we are and where we want to go, determine what we do and what we accomplish.
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And I think he does acknowledge, like in the end of this chapter, if you don't have a clear purpose to find, you can kind of like instead pick a direction to move in.
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So like, I may not know clearly like this is my life's purpose, but I can.
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I can sense it's about doing good for others or it's about teaching, or, you know, you can kind of give yourself a nudge in one direction.
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Play with it.
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You can change your mind, but yeah, I, I do like this concept.
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I see the power of it, but I think there are some of us who like, it's not cut and dry.
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I'm, I would agree I'm the same.
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And I think that's
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Yeah.
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I've read it in so many books, come across it so many times and I think it seems to be something that people either get and they know and it's really, really strong or other people seem to spend a lot of time trying to search and to find it for sure.
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I can absolutely see actually, probably more so in this book than some of the other reasons how it works, like why it really is important.
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But yeah,
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Mm-hmm.
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end, he does say this idea of like, purpose may sound heavy, but it doesn't have to be.
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Think of it simply as the one thing you want your life to be about more than any others.
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Try writing down something you'd like to accomplish and then describe how you do it.
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And so, and his actual purpose to me, I was like, oh, actually that's not.
00:33:53.980 --> 00:33:57.009
not as heavy and as hard and as like big mythical as we talk about.
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So we talked about how my purpose is to help people live their greatest life possible through my teaching, coaching, writing.
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Like actually
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Mm-hmm.
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that wasn't that intense.
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Mm-hmm.
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maybe it wasn't as specific as I expected, or just when you hear people talk about purpose.
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you know, when I think I hear people talk about these like big missions that are like to help a million people do whatever.
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And I think maybe my brain went into that realm.
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But yeah, I think
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Yeah.
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find something.
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And like you said, it doesn't have to be forever.
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It can be a direction for now.
00:34:26.063 --> 00:34:26.364
Right.
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Yeah, I agree.
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His example was less intimidating, but it's still kind of specific, like, you know, he, it, it's based on his profession.
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Yes.
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Now and like, yeah.
00:34:39.474 --> 00:35:03.043
So I, I would struggle to define it that clearly, but I understand, how having that as like a baseline grounding bottom of the iceberg type visual is, is very compelling, like baseline that your priorities are based on your purpose and your productivity is based on, well, like what you work on is based on your priorities.
00:35:03.094 --> 00:35:05.014
The iceberg format makes sense to me.
00:35:05.014 --> 00:35:07.173
I just personally struggle a little bit with that.
00:35:07.173 --> 00:35:11.793
So I guess I just share that in case anyone listening is like, well, geez, I don't know what my purpose is.
00:35:11.793 --> 00:35:12.724
Like you're not alone.
00:35:12.739 --> 00:35:13.280
you're not alone.
00:35:14.434 --> 00:35:15.364
Not alone at all.
00:35:16.204 --> 00:35:16.295
All
00:35:16.443 --> 00:35:17.043
Okay.
00:35:17.074 --> 00:35:20.014
is living by priority, which is much easier for me.
00:35:21.244 --> 00:35:21.844
Same.
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how purpose,
00:35:22.833 --> 00:35:23.884
the concept at least.
00:35:24.724 --> 00:35:27.605
the purpose we without priority is powerless.
00:35:27.934 --> 00:35:33.244
And so he comes around this idea shares called goal setting to the now.
00:35:33.724 --> 00:35:42.215
And so he talks about this idea if, if you have a Russian doll, so there's dolls that all go inside each other, one by one by one, you will start with like your Someday goal.
00:35:42.215 --> 00:35:44.224
So what's the one thing I want to do someday?
00:35:44.344 --> 00:35:47.344
And then you start bringing it closer and closer to now.
00:35:47.554 --> 00:35:48.905
So you have like a five year one.
00:35:49.114 --> 00:35:53.554
So based on my Sunday goal, what is the one thing I can do the next five years?
00:35:53.675 --> 00:35:57.784
Then a one year goal based on my five year goal, what is the one thing I can do this year?
00:35:58.114 --> 00:36:05.795
Then down to monthly, weekly, daily, until right at the end you get, based on my daily goal, what's the one thing I can do right now?
00:36:06.619 --> 00:36:13.070
And I really like this because I think, well, one, obviously it's a nice visual, but I think it makes sense.
00:36:13.070 --> 00:36:28.730
It really has this feeling of like moving towards something, um, but also enabling you to be able to break things down to a much easier, so like your Someday goal could be massive and feel very overwhelming, but you can break it really, really down to something that you wanna do right now.
00:36:30.168 --> 00:36:30.559
Yeah.
00:36:31.548 --> 00:36:43.969
Well, I think, um, I also really liked this and there is this paragraph where he is like explaining, the step by step of going from someday to five year goal to one year goal.
00:36:44.418 --> 00:36:48.648
And I was, I like, I, I understood what he was doing, so I skipped that.
00:36:48.648 --> 00:36:50.478
Most of it, I didn't read it word for word.
00:36:50.958 --> 00:36:54.559
And then he goes, I hope you hung in there and read the entire thing.
00:36:55.068 --> 00:36:55.818
And I was like, well shoot.
00:36:55.818 --> 00:36:58.998
Okay, now I'm gonna go read it and I'm actually gonna read it.
00:36:59.389 --> 00:37:04.849
It's gonna take me a minute, but I'm gonna read it because I think it does illustrate when you actually read the whole thing.
00:37:06.199 --> 00:37:14.208
Because on like on one hand, if I were to say, based on my someday goal, what's one thing I can do right now to move toward it?
00:37:15.768 --> 00:37:18.528
That's the shortcut that most of us want to do.
00:37:18.528 --> 00:37:22.068
And that to me loses all the power of this exercise.
00:37:22.144 --> 00:37:22.264
Oh.
00:37:22.489 --> 00:37:31.489
So here's, here's the thing I'm gonna read based on my Someday goal, what's one thing I can do in the next five years to be on track to achieve it?
00:37:31.878 --> 00:37:41.148
Now based on my five year goal, what's one thing I can do this year to be on track to achieve my five year goal so that I'm on track to achieve my Sunday day goal?
00:37:41.869 --> 00:37:45.559
Now, based on my goal this year, what's the one thing I can do this month?
00:37:45.619 --> 00:37:48.108
So I'm on track to achieve my goal this year.
00:37:48.259 --> 00:37:50.389
So I'm on track to achieve my five year goal.
00:37:50.418 --> 00:37:52.369
So I'm on track to achieve my someday goal.
00:37:52.998 --> 00:37:56.869
Now, based on my goal this month, what's the one thing I can do this week?
00:37:56.898 --> 00:38:01.759
So I'm on track to achieve my goal this month so that I'm on track to achieve my goal this year.
00:38:01.759 --> 00:38:06.498
So I'm on track to achieve my five-year goal so that I'm on track to achieve my Someday goal.
00:38:07.099 --> 00:38:10.548
Now, based on my goal this week, what's the one thing I can do today?
00:38:10.548 --> 00:38:12.768
So I'm on track to achieve my goal this week.
00:38:13.068 --> 00:38:15.228
So I'm on track to achieve my goal this month.
00:38:15.228 --> 00:38:17.239
So I'm on track to achieve my goal this year.
00:38:17.599 --> 00:38:21.918
So I'm on track to achieve my five-year goal so that I'm on track to achieve my someday goal.
00:38:22.248 --> 00:38:22.969
And last one.
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So based on my goal today, what's the one thing I can do right now so that I'm on track to achieve my goal today?
00:38:30.378 --> 00:38:34.878
So that I'm on track to achieve my goal this week so that I'm on track to achieve my goal this month.
00:38:35.208 --> 00:38:37.309
So I'm on track to achieve my goal this year.
00:38:37.309 --> 00:38:39.498
So I'm on track to achieve my five-year goal.
00:38:39.739 --> 00:38:41.778
So I'm on track to achieve my Someday goal.
00:38:42.108 --> 00:38:50.298
So that's the the monologue that I skipped through once I realized what was going on and then was be rated and the text immediately below.
00:38:51.079 --> 00:39:03.469
But yeah, when you say simply what's one thing I can do right now so I'm on track to achieve my someday goal, you can see how it loses all of the power of like, oh, I understand how these are all related.
00:39:03.889 --> 00:39:23.896
And I think for me, an exercise like this would help me to, well, to actually do things now that don't have a clear payoff now because it's so clearly step by step tied to all of this goal setting that you've done, like reverse engineered basically.
00:39:25.021 --> 00:39:31.981
I think like myself and many other people, like we really struggle to do things in the short term when the payoff is way down the road.
00:39:32.400 --> 00:39:36.690
Like I don't struggle to put my podcast out next week because it's pretty close.
00:39:37.380 --> 00:39:45.516
But if it was like, here, do something for your podcast growth that you won't see or experience till five years from now, that's so much harder.
00:39:45.751 --> 00:39:54.661
But an exercise like this, I think makes it really crystal clear how like your actions in the short term create your long term reality.
00:39:54.661 --> 00:40:06.701
So, I hope that I didn't lose any listeners in my long reading of that, but it was very powerful to me and so I just thought I would make sure you had the chance to soak that into.
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In the next
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All right.
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live for
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Yeah.
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And so this one, he goes through some, some tactics, some very specific tactics that not, I don't think if you've listened to us talk about some of the business books you won't come across.
00:40:22.016 --> 00:40:31.027
He talks about a typical day versus the productive day and the amount of time, basically you should be actually allocating to your one thing.
00:40:31.327 --> 00:40:37.237
And so in an ideal world, he says, you should be allocating four hours to your one thing.
00:40:37.476 --> 00:40:38.586
How did that make you feel, Lauren?
00:40:38.755 --> 00:40:41.766
Um, it felt like a lot.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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And the other thing, so he's suggesting four hours that are time blocked and he is also just suggesting that they're the first four hours of your workday, basically.
00:40:54.072 --> 00:40:58.393
And to me, I was like, my whole schedule is set up the opposite of this and.
00:40:58.588 --> 00:40:59.429
Mm.
00:41:00.657 --> 00:41:03.447
I think actually part of it is being on Pacific Time,
00:41:03.568 --> 00:41:03.809
Okay.
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um,
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up,
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which when I, well, when I wake up, my inbox is so full.
00:41:10.768 --> 00:41:20.398
Um, any meetings I do generally have to be in my morning or else I can't do them at all because other people that I'm meeting with aren't on Pacific Time.
00:41:20.577 --> 00:41:22.677
So it might be their afternoon, but it's not mine.
00:41:23.108 --> 00:41:35.717
Like you, Charelle, like our meetings for four years now have always been at like eight or 9:00 AM my time, which is not when I should be having meetings if I'm gonna follow this type of advice.
00:41:35.717 --> 00:41:38.527
So it really actually gave me a ton to think about with that
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a re
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of like,
00:41:39.954 --> 00:41:40.614
interesting thing.
00:41:40.614 --> 00:41:46.704
'cause obviously, I mean time zone's my favorite topic, not, but is a reality that,
00:41:47.108 --> 00:41:47.438
yeah.
00:41:47.543 --> 00:41:59.423
'cause I was thinking, obviously I know some people where they like will talk maybe like, because of how they've got children and so their responsibilities will mean actually they're like, no, the first thing they've got to do is get everyone up, get everyone up to school, et cetera.
00:41:59.423 --> 00:42:02.123
Like that's, they've only, that's the priority.
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But I've never thought of it
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Yeah.
00:42:03.713 --> 00:42:06.893
a, yeah, even from you, from a work perspective actually.
00:42:06.923 --> 00:42:10.673
'cause the way we, you overlap with people in other time zones that Yeah.
00:42:10.733 --> 00:42:11.603
Whereas actually for
00:42:11.813 --> 00:42:12.322
Yeah.
00:42:12.384 --> 00:42:13.554
would be, I could
00:42:13.748 --> 00:42:14.358
It's a benefit.
00:42:14.514 --> 00:42:15.054
could do it.
00:42:15.264 --> 00:42:20.869
Like, it's one of the things that I've said, I was wondering,'cause I was thinking my thing is I'm naturally night owl, so I.
00:42:21.639 --> 00:42:23.199
Always been like, I'll do the podcast in the unit.
00:42:23.228 --> 00:42:24.278
It doesn't make a difference to me.
00:42:24.309 --> 00:42:24.818
I'm fine.
00:42:24.818 --> 00:42:25.958
Like, and I remember when we was in
00:42:26.148 --> 00:42:26.568
Mm-hmm.
00:42:26.708 --> 00:42:27.639
she's up so late.
00:42:27.639 --> 00:42:28.449
I was like, yeah, that's fine.
00:42:28.509 --> 00:42:29.079
I don't mind,
00:42:29.588 --> 00:42:29.878
Yeah.
00:42:30.188 --> 00:42:30.478
Yeah.
00:42:30.668 --> 00:42:31.929
you are with this.
00:42:31.929 --> 00:42:35.108
So for me, try and do the morning, try and block out four hours would be hard work.
00:42:35.349 --> 00:42:39.219
But in terms of actual other people, it'd probably be easier.
00:42:39.219 --> 00:42:42.489
So yeah, sometimes it'cause of life or sometimes it's because of where
00:42:42.597 --> 00:42:42.887
Yeah.
00:42:43.119 --> 00:42:44.289
It's easier said than done.
00:42:45.782 --> 00:42:48.123
And this will depend on what type of work you do too.
00:42:48.123 --> 00:42:52.322
Like many people don't have to have meetings with people in other time zones.
00:42:52.322 --> 00:43:03.802
And you know, this will, this conversation might feel totally irrelevant to you, but I do remember, when I was in corporate, I worked for a British company whose marketing team was in New York.
00:43:04.222 --> 00:43:17.432
And so like, I would wake up and my inbox would be full of people who had been working for like, you know, six hours already so like I was always behind and I remember whenever I traveled to Europe for work, I loved it.
00:43:17.432 --> 00:43:26.643
Like I would wake up and no one, you know, I was like on top of everything I would, no one was like even online until I got all my work done.
00:43:26.643 --> 00:43:28.503
Like, it was just, it really did make a difference.
00:43:28.503 --> 00:43:32.713
So I don't really know if there's a workaround aside from moving, which.
00:43:33.327 --> 00:43:36.748
Seems a little extreme, but yeah, it is, it is a challenge.
00:43:36.838 --> 00:43:37.047
And
00:43:37.199 --> 00:43:37.259
hmm.
00:43:37.347 --> 00:43:46.648
I am also a morning person, so like morning is my best time by far to be thinking and using my brain and um, like doing important work.
00:43:46.648 --> 00:43:59.967
So this did long digression just to say like, this did gimme a lot to think about when it comes to, I think like, so many moments in the book adding up, like the willpower being drained by the end of the day.
00:44:00.027 --> 00:44:00.418
Okay.
00:44:00.418 --> 00:44:04.108
Well the end of the day is when I leave for anything that actually is important.
00:44:04.108 --> 00:44:18.117
And so not, not anything that actually is important, but the, the important thinking, the hard like working on longer term projects, that's the kind of stuff that I tend to have to leave or right now to the end of the day.
00:44:18.117 --> 00:44:19.768
And that doesn't always get done.
00:44:19.768 --> 00:44:30.358
So it, the whole book but kind of culminating in this chapter gave me a lot to think about regarding my own schedule and just can I protect my time better.
00:44:31.467 --> 00:44:37.827
In the hours where like I have the mental discipline, I resist distraction a little bit better.
00:44:37.827 --> 00:44:47.838
Like I can focus I probably need to be a little more careful with like the way that I use my mornings because they are precious and yeah.
00:44:48.137 --> 00:44:50.568
So that's, that was kinda my key takeaway.
00:44:50.568 --> 00:44:52.248
So he talks about time blocking
00:44:52.248 --> 00:44:52.608
he talks about
00:44:52.878 --> 00:44:53.898
four hours.
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four hours of your thing.
00:44:55.188 --> 00:44:56.688
But he also goes a little bit further.
00:44:56.688 --> 00:45:02.119
So he talks about time blocking your time off, which obviously I'm always gonna be a big advocate.
00:45:02.148 --> 00:45:05.358
Take some time off people time block your one thing.
00:45:05.358 --> 00:45:10.719
So this would be where Lauren, as you're saying, if we are trying to aim for that four hours, how do we put that in the schedule?
00:45:11.048 --> 00:45:19.389
And I think what I would say right now reading this book is you might genuinely be like, I cannot commit to that now, but can you start commit to one hour till one thing every day?
00:45:19.449 --> 00:45:20.349
Can you start commit to two
00:45:20.467 --> 00:45:20.768
Yeah.
00:45:20.829 --> 00:45:21.248
up from there?
00:45:21.548 --> 00:45:24.159
And then third one was time block your planning time.
00:45:24.646 --> 00:45:25.226
Did you love it?
00:45:25.367 --> 00:45:26.838
I did there three things.
00:45:26.838 --> 00:45:29.447
I literally was like, oh, you just like my best dean.
00:45:29.447 --> 00:45:30.378
And I just didn't realize.
00:45:30.467 --> 00:45:33.858
And then you start to think, is it just subconsciously went in like eight years ago?
00:45:33.858 --> 00:45:34.398
And I've forgotten.
00:45:34.458 --> 00:45:37.097
But yeah, I swear by that.
00:45:37.217 --> 00:45:38.688
Totally swear by time blocking anyway.
00:45:38.927 --> 00:45:44.148
But I think your time off when you're gonna concentrate on what really matter and time for other planning.
00:45:44.237 --> 00:45:44.478
Yeah.
00:45:45.498 --> 00:45:45.797
Do it.
00:45:46.367 --> 00:45:46.726
Yeah.
00:45:48.016 --> 00:45:48.376
Yeah.
00:45:49.257 --> 00:46:05.036
He has a visual in here of time blocking and just showing if you had a calendar and you were to mark off every day with an X that you had stuck to your four hours of the one thing, there's kind of this like, don't break the chain thing that happens where you see all these exes stacked up.
00:46:05.036 --> 00:46:11.666
I've worked every weekday for a whole month on my one thing, like I'm gonna keep doing it and do it another day.
00:46:11.666 --> 00:46:14.306
I mean, this is true with any sort of like habit or.
00:46:14.996 --> 00:46:23.547
Consistent thing you're trying to do, like having a visual of watching how many days in a row you've done it is one of the most powerful things that will get you to do it another day.
00:46:23.547 --> 00:46:25.016
Like,'cause you don't wanna break that streak.
00:46:25.168 --> 00:46:25.858
Yes.
00:46:25.887 --> 00:46:29.998
I used to have a calendar when I first years ago I did used to do it, tick, tick, tick, tick.
00:46:29.998 --> 00:46:30.898
Tick's not break the chain.
00:46:30.898 --> 00:46:32.338
It's a very powerful visual.
00:46:32.936 --> 00:46:33.536
yes.
00:46:33.536 --> 00:46:34.286
Super powerful.
00:46:34.378 --> 00:46:34.467
Mm.
00:46:35.342 --> 00:46:35.561
Um,
00:46:35.563 --> 00:46:36.043
The one or the
00:46:36.152 --> 00:46:36.806
okay then.
00:46:36.882 --> 00:46:37.753
could we do one last thing on time
00:46:37.827 --> 00:46:38.067
Yeah.
00:46:38.246 --> 00:46:38.697
Oh yeah.
00:46:39.043 --> 00:46:39.253
you said
00:46:39.387 --> 00:46:39.686
Mm-hmm.
00:46:40.003 --> 00:46:45.702
your time blocks and saying the best way to protect your time blocks is to adopt the mindset that they can't be moved.
00:46:46.182 --> 00:46:49.992
And if you do, if you need to erase it, you must replace it.
00:46:50.083 --> 00:46:51.733
And I just, I think that's the thing.
00:46:51.733 --> 00:46:57.222
'cause I think lots of people have great intentions then someone else will ask them to do something and then they just delete it.
00:46:57.313 --> 00:46:59.382
Like it's in your calendar and you just go, boop.
00:47:00.282 --> 00:47:02.233
And I'm like, no, this, you can't erase it.
00:47:02.233 --> 00:47:03.043
You must replace it.
00:47:03.103 --> 00:47:04.302
I would argue like, just move it.
00:47:04.572 --> 00:47:10.302
So you're just like, actually if you have, if someone wants that meeting, something else comes up, you have to move it.
00:47:10.302 --> 00:47:14.262
So you're still making sure you are time for your one thing.
00:47:15.822 --> 00:47:16.112
Yeah.
00:47:17.916 --> 00:47:24.217
The next chapter, the three commitments, these are three commitments that he is suggesting we each make.
00:47:24.217 --> 00:47:25.806
I'm trying to find another way to say that.
00:47:25.806 --> 00:47:38.376
And commitment is, is the way there's three commitments he's suggesting we each make to ourselves, to like help give ourselves the best chance possible of, of achieving this big lofty one thing goal that we have.
00:47:39.047 --> 00:47:42.436
The first is to follow the past path of mastery.
00:47:42.800 --> 00:48:00.074
And I think part of this is just putting in the hours is how, like understanding that all of these hours, these four hours a day, let's say you're gonna be putting in toward this goal that you have, inevitably there's gonna be a lot of mastery that gets built in that way.
00:48:00.074 --> 00:48:11.773
Just through like that 10,000 hour rule essentially where, in a study they found that, like basically the, the most talented musicians, I think they're violinists in the study.
00:48:12.268 --> 00:48:15.509
They had put in more than 10,000 hours of practice by age 20.
00:48:15.509 --> 00:48:19.889
It was not a gifted thing or they're a natural, or they have this like innate talent.
00:48:20.278 --> 00:48:25.367
It's that they had the people who were the most elite had just put in the most work.
00:48:25.367 --> 00:48:27.646
And so this applies obviously to all of us.
00:48:27.646 --> 00:48:34.666
Like you are gonna be putting in all of these hours every single day and like inevitably in that you are going to be on this path to mastery.
00:48:35.717 --> 00:48:40.907
And with mastery, like he says, the pursuit of mastery bears gifts, you get more confident.
00:48:41.266 --> 00:48:44.626
Both your self-confidence and your success competence will grow.
00:48:44.626 --> 00:48:47.327
He says, this what.
00:48:47.327 --> 00:48:49.543
gonna say, don't make me do, if I move from E to P.
00:48:51.181 --> 00:48:53.371
Oh, I like from E to P.
00:48:53.431 --> 00:48:56.942
Okay, so then the next one is from E to P.
00:48:57.211 --> 00:49:02.942
And this is about moving from an entrepreneurial approach to a purposeful approach.
00:49:03.481 --> 00:49:06.001
This I felt extremely called out on.
00:49:06.481 --> 00:49:11.913
An entrepreneurial approach is someone who just, like someone says, go cut some firewood.
00:49:11.913 --> 00:49:14.432
And the entrepreneurial person is like, yes on it.
00:49:14.672 --> 00:49:20.443
They pick up the ax, they start heading into the woods, chopping down trees and making firewood out of it.
00:49:20.443 --> 00:49:21.853
Like they get straight to it.
00:49:21.853 --> 00:49:22.603
They just go.
00:49:22.992 --> 00:49:26.952
And I think like if that's all I said, you might say, well, that sounds like a good thing.
00:49:27.672 --> 00:49:30.972
And that's kind of my instinct is like, yes, just get to work.
00:49:30.972 --> 00:49:31.873
Go take action.
00:49:32.273 --> 00:49:35.152
But he says we want to move toward purposeful.
00:49:36.202 --> 00:49:41.003
Which is in the same scenario, a purposeful person might say, where can I get a chainsaw?
00:49:41.512 --> 00:49:47.123
And therefore like, save all this time, be much more productive.
00:49:47.132 --> 00:49:48.003
Get a lot of results.
00:49:48.003 --> 00:49:50.432
And I, I find myself bumping into this all the time.
00:49:50.432 --> 00:49:52.472
I'm just like, I have a way of doing it.
00:49:52.713 --> 00:49:56.193
It may not be the most efficient, but like I'm doing it.
00:49:56.253 --> 00:49:57.992
You know, it may not save the most time.
00:49:57.992 --> 00:50:02.072
It may not even create the best results, but it's the way that I do it and that's how I'm doing it.
00:50:02.072 --> 00:50:06.766
And so I felt very called out by this and I'm, I'm just gonna think about it.
00:50:06.815 --> 00:50:14.436
He says too many people reach a level where their performance is good enough and then they stop working on getting better people on the path to mastery.
00:50:14.436 --> 00:50:21.425
Avoid this by continually upping their goal, challenging themselves to break through their current ceiling, and staying the forever apprentice.
00:50:21.965 --> 00:50:25.865
And so it's just about like constantly asking yourself, is there a better way to do this?
00:50:27.170 --> 00:50:30.170
Could I get different, bigger results if I made some changes?
00:50:30.170 --> 00:50:35.940
And I was, in many ways thinking about the podcast, I've done a ton with this podcast.
00:50:35.940 --> 00:50:37.440
I've gotten a lot of great results.
00:50:37.440 --> 00:50:39.300
It, a lot of people listens to it.
00:50:39.300 --> 00:50:39.960
It's great.
00:50:40.501 --> 00:50:52.740
But I think I have gotten into a bit of a, routine that like I'm maybe not often enough asking, like, is there bigger, better, more impactful ways to, to make this show?
00:50:53.101 --> 00:50:55.650
And so, yes, I'm thinking about this.
00:50:55.650 --> 00:51:01.096
Like, I think it's, it's challenging to like forever shift your mindset permanently, right?
00:51:01.275 --> 00:51:06.226
But because I do have this bias for action, like I just like to just do something.
00:51:06.735 --> 00:51:09.945
And I think I've thought that was good for a really long time.
00:51:10.275 --> 00:51:17.025
And so trying to be like, yes, do something, but like in the best way, that doesn't slow me down.
00:51:17.085 --> 00:51:20.565
Also, because I think there's a, there's a risk when you're.
00:51:21.331 --> 00:51:24.780
Pausing to be like, what's the best way to do this?
00:51:24.780 --> 00:51:28.471
That you can just not do it like it gets procrastinated or whatever.
00:51:28.471 --> 00:51:35.407
So I think there's this really fine line of like, yes, take action, but make sure your action is purposeful.
00:51:35.887 --> 00:51:37.867
So I will be thinking about this.
00:51:38.588 --> 00:51:40.597
Do you wanna talk about the accountability cycle?
00:51:40.764 --> 00:51:41.034
one.
00:51:41.034 --> 00:51:43.244
So live in the accountability circle.
00:51:43.853 --> 00:51:52.583
And this is about how taking complete ownership of your outcomes by holding no one but yourself responsible for them is the most powerful thing you can do to drive your success.
00:51:52.974 --> 00:51:57.713
So I suppose this is about like victim mentality versus accountable mentality.
00:51:57.713 --> 00:52:02.643
So when things happen, he talks about how a victim might be like avoiding reality.
00:52:02.643 --> 00:52:05.284
They don't ask any questions or they fight reality.
00:52:05.434 --> 00:52:06.393
That's not how I see it.
00:52:06.454 --> 00:52:12.184
They blame, so they'll blame someone else or they'll make personal excuses and they just sort of like wait and hope so.
00:52:12.664 --> 00:52:13.954
If it was meant to be, it'll happen.
00:52:14.974 --> 00:52:19.824
when someone who's accountable, they will seek out reality, like what's happening.
00:52:20.153 --> 00:52:21.594
They're like, knowledge the reality.
00:52:21.594 --> 00:52:23.003
So this is what it is.
00:52:23.244 --> 00:52:23.994
They'll own it.
00:52:24.293 --> 00:52:26.664
If it has to be, it's up to me.
00:52:26.844 --> 00:52:29.184
They find solutions like, what am I to do?
00:52:29.364 --> 00:52:30.264
And then they get on with it.
00:52:30.503 --> 00:52:31.463
Okay, let's do it.
00:52:32.184 --> 00:52:39.023
I, I think it's, I think this is a particularly, particularly one that's useful for business owners.
00:52:39.384 --> 00:52:39.804
'cause I think
00:52:39.952 --> 00:52:40.373
Mm-hmm.
00:52:40.733 --> 00:52:48.414
there's stuff that happens in the external environment all the time and it can be very, very easy to blame all of that.
00:52:49.193 --> 00:52:52.134
And I think actually taking full responsibility and being like.
00:52:53.503 --> 00:52:58.063
Whatever's happening outside like will continue to happen, but being a victim of mentality is not gonna help you.
00:52:58.304 --> 00:53:03.014
And actually really staying focused on being like, how am I accountable and what am I, what's the actual reality?
00:53:03.193 --> 00:53:04.634
And how, how am I gonna deal with that?
00:53:04.664 --> 00:53:07.634
What am I gonna do as a result of it, I think is super powerful.
00:53:08.744 --> 00:53:13.844
he talks about obviously as well, like, one of the fastest ways to bring accountability to your life is to have an accountability partner.
00:53:14.324 --> 00:53:20.893
So you don't have to try and do all of this by yourself, but either way, it's like cannot blame the world.
00:53:21.134 --> 00:53:21.853
Other people.
00:53:22.514 --> 00:53:23.054
you wanna go after
00:53:23.277 --> 00:53:23.757
Mm-hmm.
00:53:23.893 --> 00:53:25.184
own success, it's down to you.
00:53:25.492 --> 00:53:25.851
Yeah.
00:53:26.382 --> 00:53:26.742
Yeah.
00:53:27.105 --> 00:53:34.094
The next chapter is called The Four Thieves, and this is just really about the four things that get in the way of being productive.
00:53:34.635 --> 00:53:35.985
Inability to say no.
00:53:36.284 --> 00:53:45.244
Uh, I think we've talked about this a bit, but it's just like you have to protect your time and your focus and what you're working on, it's going to require you to say a lot of nos.
00:53:45.644 --> 00:53:50.235
He said, someone once told me that one, yes, must be defended over time by a thousand nos.
00:53:50.534 --> 00:53:59.264
So if you say yes to something, if you're taking something on, like you're one thing that's gonna require you to say no to a lot of other things, and you just have to be willing to do that.
00:53:59.894 --> 00:54:00.525
Fear of chaos.
00:54:00.525 --> 00:54:02.264
I found this such an interesting one'cause he says
00:54:02.833 --> 00:54:03.123
Yeah.
00:54:03.344 --> 00:54:05.264
thing has a guaranteed consequence.
00:54:05.505 --> 00:54:06.945
Other things don't get done.
00:54:08.175 --> 00:54:09.795
And like you have to be comfortable with that.
00:54:10.574 --> 00:54:11.264
I, I think
00:54:11.278 --> 00:54:11.338
Yeah.
00:54:11.474 --> 00:54:11.684
is,
00:54:12.003 --> 00:54:12.304
really hard.
00:54:12.375 --> 00:54:12.764
yeah.
00:54:16.514 --> 00:54:28.425
I think that's a really hard thing to do, I think to be able to be like, by me saying yes, by me focusing on my one thing here, this will mean other things are gonna be chaotic and I.
00:54:29.369 --> 00:54:34.079
I think that's a very hard thing for many people to deal with, so I've definitely not got a solution.
00:54:34.079 --> 00:54:35.969
But he says you just have to deal with it.
00:54:37.434 --> 00:54:41.153
A quote here, and I haven't read very many of my favorite quotes throughout the book, but
00:54:41.170 --> 00:54:41.559
I thought, oh, we
00:54:41.634 --> 00:54:42.534
this is a good one.
00:54:43.094 --> 00:54:49.304
If a cluttered desk is a sign of a cluttered mind of what then is an empty desk a sign?
00:54:49.320 --> 00:54:49.860
what is the
00:54:49.903 --> 00:54:50.563
Ooh.
00:54:50.699 --> 00:54:55.349
I spend every week trying to keep my desk not cluttered, which always surprises people.
00:54:55.349 --> 00:54:57.809
People think I'd have a, I do not have an a Mac desk at all.
00:54:58.050 --> 00:54:58.500
Never do.
00:54:59.503 --> 00:54:59.954
Yeah.
00:55:01.003 --> 00:55:01.514
I don't know.
00:55:01.514 --> 00:55:04.534
And I think there's a flip side argument to this for sure, which is like.
00:55:05.648 --> 00:55:07.929
External clutter creates internal clutter.
00:55:07.929 --> 00:55:12.009
Like I personally can't think very well when I'm looking at a bunch of junk.
00:55:12.728 --> 00:55:14.798
But that might be an exception, like a desk.
00:55:14.798 --> 00:55:24.509
The place you're actually sitting trying to do that super important work actually feels like it's worth like spending the time to actually keep it tidy and clean.
00:55:24.539 --> 00:55:26.608
If, if you find that it affects you.
00:55:27.088 --> 00:55:29.989
I can't work when I'm looking at chaos.
00:55:29.989 --> 00:55:43.028
Like I, it's like I, and not to say I am impeccably tidy, but sometimes I'll be like, okay, the reason I'm probably struggling so much is that I've got papers and receipts and like all this stuff to deal with.
00:55:43.568 --> 00:55:47.108
But maybe there are other things you have to overlook, like, I don't know.
00:55:47.518 --> 00:55:54.465
The dishwasher that needed to be unloaded or if you like being at inbox zero, you might just have to not be at inbox zero.
00:55:54.764 --> 00:56:04.034
Like there might be things that like, yeah, in an ideal world, maybe you would do all these like more minor things, but understanding where they stack up.
00:56:04.034 --> 00:56:12.764
Like, okay, is it more important for me to do this super important work on my one thing, or get to inbox zero by filtering out a bunch of junk mail.
00:56:12.795 --> 00:56:18.795
That's a waste of time relative to these super important tasks.
00:56:18.795 --> 00:56:28.204
So just putting it in context, but I think just addressing and acknowledging, yeah, you might have to drop the ball on some other things like that might be part of this.
00:56:28.594 --> 00:56:30.934
That's hard for people who don't like dropping the ball.
00:56:31.565 --> 00:56:33.726
Number three was poor health habits.
00:56:34.626 --> 00:56:35.945
and I, I don't think we need to go into this.
00:56:35.945 --> 00:56:38.795
I think we all know we need to look after our health if we want to be
00:56:38.945 --> 00:56:39.275
Yeah.
00:56:40.715 --> 00:56:40.985
Yeah.
00:56:41.065 --> 00:56:45.056
And then number four was environment doesn't support your goals.
00:56:45.835 --> 00:56:51.715
and it talks about how the people around you well as your action environment, so people and place.
00:56:52.481 --> 00:56:55.150
How both of these things have an impact on us.
00:56:55.601 --> 00:56:56.021
Mm-hmm.
00:56:56.592 --> 00:56:57.672
we've also talked about those
00:56:57.746 --> 00:56:58.016
Yeah.
00:56:58.032 --> 00:56:58.362
the past.
00:56:58.362 --> 00:56:58.572
So,
00:56:58.766 --> 00:57:00.295
Yeah, yeah.
00:57:00.615 --> 00:57:01.275
all right.
00:57:01.675 --> 00:57:02.786
The journey.
00:57:03.550 --> 00:57:07.000
yeah, I was gonna say, there's a couple more chapters kinda wrapping up.
00:57:07.099 --> 00:57:11.570
There's the journey and then putting the one thing to work.
00:57:12.719 --> 00:57:16.559
I guess those are the last two, so I know we've gone over.
00:57:16.559 --> 00:57:20.065
Is there anything that really stood out to you in these kind of wrap up chapters?
00:57:20.940 --> 00:57:29.340
I think the main thing was just like, I think I wrote, I could highlight a bit that was like, action build and action habits, build on habits, success build and success.
00:57:29.521 --> 00:57:31.351
And just really, like, you've gotta start, haven't you?
00:57:31.411 --> 00:57:34.621
We, it all goes back to that domino right from the beginning, just being
00:57:34.844 --> 00:57:35.385
Right.
00:57:35.731 --> 00:57:37.021
Gotta knock the first one over.
00:57:37.157 --> 00:57:37.907
not the first one over.
00:57:37.936 --> 00:57:42.706
You've gotta start taking the action and keep coming back to this.
00:57:42.706 --> 00:57:50.266
The one thing like, actually I think it's probably easy to start and then get distracted from enough again to like keep coming back to what is the one thing.
00:57:50.460 --> 00:57:50.641
Mm-hmm.
00:57:51.329 --> 00:57:51.599
Yeah.
00:57:51.701 --> 00:57:51.990
Yeah.
00:57:52.010 --> 00:57:54.090
And then, yeah, I think that was it.
00:57:54.420 --> 00:57:54.990
Yeah.
00:57:55.362 --> 00:57:59.262
So I said in the beginning like, I really liked it.
00:57:59.262 --> 00:58:01.413
I thought it was good.
00:58:02.898 --> 00:58:16.257
Kind of frame of mind to put my, put me in as I start thinking about next year and planning and you know, what to keep doing, what to stop doing, what to add or delete from my life and from my business.
00:58:16.257 --> 00:58:18.927
I think it was super, super useful.
00:58:19.827 --> 00:58:30.938
My biggest takeaway might be like a small thing, but just my schedule, and the fact that it's very hard for me to get super focused work done with the way that my schedule currently is.
00:58:31.427 --> 00:58:35.507
And so that probably needs some rethinking, which is a good time to do that.
00:58:36.617 --> 00:58:38.807
What would be any big takeaways for you?
00:58:39.449 --> 00:58:44.219
I know it, I know it, but it is such a good reminder thing of the dominoes.
00:58:44.579 --> 00:58:54.539
I just generally, and it's not very often that a very visual thing sticks in my mind, but I actually just think this, like the little one knocking something over a little bit bigger and a little bit bigger.
00:58:54.869 --> 00:59:06.298
I think that actually is a visual I'm really gonna remember and focus on, and being like actually like, yes, it's a chain reaction, but it's also a chain reaction that's gaining power as it goes along.
00:59:07.302 --> 00:59:14.293
Well, I think my takeaway for folks, like I could give you a small thing, a small go thing to go do, but I really think this book is worth reading.
00:59:14.842 --> 00:59:17.123
We said before, it's, it's not a hard read at all.
00:59:17.123 --> 00:59:18.382
It's not that long.
00:59:18.623 --> 00:59:20.952
And it's just, it's good.
00:59:21.132 --> 00:59:26.168
And I think the message was needed on both of our counts it sounds like.
00:59:26.543 --> 00:59:26.784
Yeah.
00:59:26.784 --> 00:59:26.963
I
00:59:26.978 --> 00:59:27.907
Um.
00:59:28.074 --> 00:59:31.523
it, not all the time I think go read the book, but I actually do.
00:59:31.614 --> 00:59:32.304
No, I don't.
00:59:32.364 --> 00:59:35.063
And sometimes they're like, long you like, it's a lot to go through.
00:59:35.153 --> 00:59:44.934
But I think it's a good balance of like practical tips, some good diagrams, a few nice stories, stuff to do like, I think, and not, and it didn't feel too hard to read.
00:59:44.934 --> 00:59:46.043
So I, I think this actually is
00:59:46.088 --> 00:59:46.447
Yeah,
00:59:46.554 --> 00:59:50.244
most people, I can't see anyone not gain anything out of it, even though
00:59:50.438 --> 00:59:51.007
same.
00:59:51.324 --> 00:59:53.844
of reminders, I just think it's done in a nice way.
00:59:54.460 --> 00:59:54.851
Yeah.
00:59:55.581 --> 00:59:57.440
Yeah, that's a good way to put it.
00:59:57.440 --> 00:59:59.751
I can't see anyone not being able to get something out of this.
00:59:59.811 --> 01:00:00.471
I agree with that.
01:00:01.731 --> 01:00:06.621
Okay, Charelle, we just wrapped up our final but club episode together.
01:00:06.740 --> 01:00:08.036
Tell us what's next for you.
01:00:08.036 --> 01:00:12.115
What, what are you going to use this new time for?
01:00:12.115 --> 01:00:20.050
And I'll just plug right now, we did an episode together really digging into Charelle and her her focus moving forward.
01:00:20.050 --> 01:00:22.481
So definitely go listen to our episode together.
01:00:22.510 --> 01:00:23.740
It'll be linked in the show notes.
01:00:24.021 --> 01:00:27.951
It was all about planning for 2026, so that's a great one.
01:00:28.460 --> 01:00:32.630
But tell us what your, tell us what your one thing is going to be.
01:00:32.811 --> 01:00:32.961
thing.
01:00:32.961 --> 01:00:41.302
I still dunno my purpose and I still haven't got my one thing, but you were right about me making a concentrated effort to focus on less.
01:00:41.572 --> 01:00:42.291
So,
01:00:42.471 --> 01:00:42.740
Yeah.
01:00:42.802 --> 01:00:50.632
I am giving, stepping Away from Making Good Book Club, but also I'm stepping away from my own book club that I run for 10 years and Propel
01:00:50.695 --> 01:00:51.115
Mm-hmm.
01:00:51.172 --> 01:00:55.461
so it's very much a moving away from a decade.
01:00:55.882 --> 01:00:56.661
I've been very book.
01:00:58.532 --> 01:00:58.652
And
01:00:58.655 --> 01:00:59.076
Mm-hmm.
01:00:59.371 --> 01:01:03.061
consuming and being like fooling as if I needed to get
01:01:03.215 --> 01:01:03.505
Yeah.
01:01:03.871 --> 01:01:06.061
And I'm like, you know, way, way, way enough now.
01:01:07.626 --> 01:01:07.916
Yeah.
01:01:08.041 --> 01:01:17.431
what you need is more time for implementing, more time for executing and to be focused because, you know, it was still was three things that I was, and everything.
01:01:17.431 --> 01:01:30.992
And I really wanna say this is people that are multi-passionate because I know a lot of people on the podcast, like I had quit for Figuring Out, which was a podcast that I'd had for like two and a half years, and I had this new space in my calendar and the love was like, do you wanna come and do this?
01:01:30.992 --> 01:01:31.742
And I was like, yes.
01:01:31.952 --> 01:01:41.851
And it's so, so tempting and to like, just, you give yourself a bit of space and you try and do like exactly what the book says and then you're like, ah, because you're just not used to it.
01:01:41.972 --> 01:01:42.601
And so
01:01:43.005 --> 01:01:43.425
Mm-hmm.
01:01:43.887 --> 01:01:44.282
and so,
01:01:44.346 --> 01:01:44.615
yeah.
01:01:44.615 --> 01:01:48.335
Sometimes saying No, you're saying no to things you want to do.
01:01:48.577 --> 01:01:48.637
I.
01:01:48.786 --> 01:01:50.675
That's the hard part that I think we don't talk about.
01:01:50.675 --> 01:01:55.596
It's like sometimes it sounds really great and it sounds fun and you want to do it,
01:01:56.271 --> 01:01:56.572
And that,
01:01:56.615 --> 01:01:56.885
so,
01:01:56.902 --> 01:01:59.211
thing, like I'm not stepping away'cause I don't enjoy doing this.
01:01:59.211 --> 01:02:00.112
I'm not stepping away from my own
01:02:00.141 --> 01:02:00.260
Hmm.
01:02:00.322 --> 01:02:01.581
'cause I don't enjoy doing them.
01:02:01.822 --> 01:02:08.722
I could happily continue to do both of them, but actually when I sit down and I look at like the time and the head space for both of them,
01:02:09.110 --> 01:02:09.440
Yeah.
01:02:10.132 --> 01:02:16.371
I, if I really wanna take my business to the next level, I need to try and follow what all the books seem to tell you, which is
01:02:16.701 --> 01:02:17.271
Yes.
01:02:17.751 --> 01:02:18.891
prioritize.
01:02:19.416 --> 01:02:19.425
Yeah.
01:02:19.492 --> 01:02:24.782
yes, so it's just gonna be about me pouring all my time, all my energy into charellegriffith.com.
01:02:25.161 --> 01:02:27.802
I'm very much leaning into planning.
01:02:27.802 --> 01:02:38.121
So as Lauren said, there is a podcast episode on annual planning and I'm really excited to, as if you've listened to the podcast, you'll probably see I'm a very organized person.
01:02:38.871 --> 01:02:40.101
I'm very disciplined.
01:02:40.132 --> 01:02:47.152
I know a lot about planning and I think actually having the conversations with you, Lauren, actually some of them made me really realize how much of their strength.
01:02:47.842 --> 01:02:49.311
had been, I knew it and not,
01:02:49.490 --> 01:02:49.760
Yeah.
01:02:49.762 --> 01:02:56.152
one of the services I'd offered for a long time, but I think I've definitely gained confidence to really try and lean into that now.
01:02:56.512 --> 01:03:02.342
So yeah, so definitely, if you wanna stay in my world, you can come over to my website, charellegriffith.com.
01:03:02.681 --> 01:03:03.402
I've got a newsletter.
01:03:03.461 --> 01:03:05.291
I also am on LinkedIn.
01:03:05.472 --> 01:03:06.791
It's just my name, Charelle Griffith.
01:03:06.911 --> 01:03:08.831
And on Instagram it's just my name.
01:03:08.831 --> 01:03:10.902
I'm super lucky'cause I've got a fairly
01:03:11.090 --> 01:03:11.210
Hmm.
01:03:11.382 --> 01:03:13.092
name, but there's no s on Griffith.
01:03:13.092 --> 01:03:16.121
The last podcast I was on, someone said, do you think you lose loads of people?
01:03:16.121 --> 01:03:18.762
Could you forget to tell people there's no S on Griffith?
01:03:18.762 --> 01:03:20.711
And I was like, oh, I never thought of it.
01:03:20.891 --> 01:03:23.981
So I'm telling people now, um, I'm like, okay.
01:03:24.291 --> 01:03:24.561
And yeah.
01:03:24.561 --> 01:03:37.251
And so I'm gonna be leading much more into planning, so you're gonna see much more me talking about annual planning, quarterly planning, just strategic business planning in general and just trying to help people be super organized so they get the results and business they really want.
01:03:37.342 --> 01:03:40.101
And totally right.
01:03:40.822 --> 01:03:41.422
I'm sure loving
01:03:41.436 --> 01:03:41.826
Yeah.
01:03:41.902 --> 01:03:42.742
crazy, does it?
01:03:43.925 --> 01:03:44.735
Not at all.
01:03:44.735 --> 01:03:47.766
It sounds like exactly how it should be.
01:03:47.766 --> 01:03:48.067
Yeah.
01:03:48.217 --> 01:03:49.686
And so I'm super excited.
01:03:49.847 --> 01:03:52.536
But definitely,'cause obviously I know this is a very American audience.
01:03:52.746 --> 01:03:59.527
There are some things in the pipeline for next year that I'm like looking at new virtual things and the time difference thing you're talking about.
01:03:59.527 --> 01:04:07.027
There's some stuff that I've got like planned, so I'm definitely looking to, like, I wanna help more and more business owners so things will be changing.
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So even if right now you feel I'm very British, it's not gonna be for long, that's for sure.
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No, and I've learned so much like I'm American and I've learned a lot from you.
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When I think about planning, like you are the person who comes to mind.
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So it sounds exactly right.
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And I am very excited to continue following along.
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I know we'll continue to have you back on the podcast because whether it's about a book or about your own expertise, like I love chatting with you and you always have a ton of value to offer.
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So, but thank you again for everything.
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I know it's been such a commitment and.
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It's been such a blast to get to talk with you every month and talk books and geek out.
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So, I know on behalf of all of our book club folks, just a huge thank you.
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thank you.
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I've really, really enjoyed it.
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I'm definitely going to miss it, so I'm sure I'll end up going back'cause I'll be like, I want do something.
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This space on my
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do books.
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I meant to do with it.
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Yeah.
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What do I do at 5:00 PM on Wednesdays every month.
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Well, thank you Charelle, for this great conversation about the one thing and for the dozens of other books we've covered.
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Yeah, I'll, I'll make sure that all the links to all you've got going on, your socials, your website newsletter, all the stuff is in the show notes.
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But yes, for one last time, thank you so much for joining me on this episode of Making Good Book Club.
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having me.
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All right, so there you have our conversation all about the one thing.
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Did you enjoy it?
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What were your takeaways?
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DM us on Instagram and let us know your thoughts.
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We would love to chat.
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I am@laurentilden and Charelle is@charellegriffith.
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Huge, huge, huge thanks to Charelle for four years of making good Book Club.
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It has been such a treat to cover all of these books with you, Charelle, and I am so grateful for the time, energy, thought, and tension that you've put into this.
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And listener.
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We have lots of book club episodes, dozens on so many different books that really will make a difference for your small business.
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Head to making good podcast.com to see all of our previous episodes.
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And so for the first time ever, I am not announcing a book for next month on the book club because that was Shell's last book club episode and possibly the last one forever, TBD.
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But I wanna hear from you.
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Do you listen to, do you love these book club episodes?
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Please DM me on Instagram and let's.
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Chat, I am totally open to continuing.
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If there is enough demand, I really want to hear from you.
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You can find the show notes from this episode at makinggoodpodcast.com/318.
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And if you enjoyed this episode, I'd love for you to leave a rating and review in your favorite podcast player.
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It takes just a few seconds and it would totally make my day.
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Thank you for being here and for focusing on making a difference with your small business.
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Talk to you next time.
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Welcome back to Making Good, the podcast here to help you do better marketing so you can make a bigger impact.
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I'm your host, Lauren Tilden, and this is episode 318.
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Today we are back with this month's edition of Making Good Book Club and we are talking about the one thing, the surprisingly simple truth about extraordinary results by Gary Keller and Jay Papasan.
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If this is your first time tuning in to Making Good Book Club, here is the deal once every month, my amazing book club co-host Charelle and I discuss a book we think can help move the needle in your small business.
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And we talk about our takeaways specifically for small business owners.
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And I wanna say this upfront, this is actually our last book club episode with Charelle as a co-host after four years.
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Oh my gosh.
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Dozens of books and so many fun British versus American English moments.
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This is our last one together.
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I am so grateful for Charelle for the time and care she has poured into this series.
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I have gotten personally so much out of all of these conversations I know that many of you have as well, and I am still deciding what happens next with book clubs.
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So if you have enjoyed these episodes and you would love to see some version of them continue, Please DM me on Instagram and tell me that seriously, I want your feedback, and that is how I'm going to decide I am at Lauren Tilden.
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Okay, back to the book.
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This month we talked about the one thing, which is all about this idea.
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Big results come from narrowing your focus, not doing more, not hustling harder, not juggling 10,000 things at once.
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The book gives you super practical frameworks for figuring out what matters most.
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Staying focused long enough to build momentum and protecting your time so that your one thing actually gets done.
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In this book club episode, we talked about the domino effect and why small focused actions can build into big results.
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The six lies that derail our focus, like multitasking, everything matters equally, and the myth of balance.
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The focus in question.
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What is the one thing I can do such that by doing it, everything else becomes easier or unnecessary.
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How does set goals from someday to right now in a way that actually leads to action?
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Why time blocking might be the most important productivity tool there is, and more.
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If you feel pulled in a million directions, if you feel constantly busy, but not always progressing.
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Or like your goals, just keep getting buried under life and work and inboxes.
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Okay, let's get into this month's book club episode about the one thing.
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Charelle, welcome back to Making Good Book Club.
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you for having me back.
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If you listen to one of the last interviews before this episode came out on Making Good, you'll have heard a big announcement about Making Good Book Club, which is that that is the last time I'm gonna get to say Charelle.
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Welcome back to Making Good Book Club because this is our last episode, at least with Charelle as co-host, I'm still debating about what to do, if anything, moving forward.
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So TBD, if there's any form of making good book Club that sticks around, if you're interested, please hit me up.
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If you are interested in that happening, I would love to hear your feedback.
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But for now, after four years,
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Which is crazy.
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I couldn't believe it's four years when I looked back, it's gone so fast.
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neither.
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Dozens of books we've covered together.
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So many conversations, so many fun British slash americanisms, and things lost in translation between the two of us.
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This is our last one and, I'll say it again.
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I will say it right now.
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I'm just so grateful, Charelle, for all of these conversations, all of the work.
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I know it's so much time that you've put into this, so thank you so much.
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Absolutely loved it and I'm a bit like, oh, as I said, it definitely wasn't an easy decision for me to walk away, but, I, I'm very excited to do this last book and moving on to a new chapter in my life.
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A new chapter, see what you did there.
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Well I'm gonna give you a chance at the end to tell everyone all about what's next for you.
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And definitely folks stick around for that because Charelle is up to some amazing things.
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So she'll tell you all about that at the very end.
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But for now, let's dig into our last book that we're covering together.
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It is the One Thing by Gary Keller and Jay Papasan and this is a book that I feel like has been on my radar for a long time.
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I know you had actually read it before, and the reason I think we hadn't.
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Or at least I hadn't really pushed to do it is because we have covered the book Essentialism, which has a similar focus of like short version of the story is like, focus on less so you can achieve more.
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That's, that is the takeaway of Essentialism and I thought that this would be very similar to that book.
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So I just didn't see a need to do both.
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But Charelle was like, no, let's do it.
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And I'm really glad that we did.
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It was a perfect book to read this time of year.
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You said you had read it a while ago.
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You read it again.
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So what was your, what was that like reading it for a second time?
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I had totally forgotten much.
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I think like you, I think between, essentialism and also reading the Compound Effect, I think they'd all sat in that very similar bubble of less is more like just concentrate, basically take, don't take on the whole world, et cetera.
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And if I was honest, I probably didn't remember like that many of the concepts and that many, much of the book in that like a very vivid way.
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So it actually was very enjoyable to read it again.
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Definitely was a few things that I was like, this is what you need to actually apply, take this in.
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I definitely feel like these are some things that are easier said than done, but I'm very, very glad I read it again and it was perfectly timed.
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Yeah, perfectly time for the end of the year and, this episode comes out December 15th, so everyone will also get to soak in whatever we share from the book now.
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But also I would just say upfront, like I think it's worth a read.
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We'll cover as much as we can, but I do think this one is worth reading.
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it's not a hard read, so it's like, it's just over 200 pages.
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But I think compared to some of the books we've read where they're all like, the font's really small, the book's really big,
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whatever.
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This isn't like, I genuinely was like, this is a book that you actually can read at a decent about it taking forever,
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And it's not dry.
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Like it, it is.
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I mean, he's a business person.
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I don't think you have to be a business person to get something from the book.
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But it's not a lot of like dry business concepts.
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Like he tells stories, he pulls examples from fiction.
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Charelle is in as big of a fan of those things as I am.
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There's great quotes.
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He surfaced some great quotes that he starts the chapters out with.
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I'm sure I'll be naming a few of those.
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So yeah, great.
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Easy but really thought provoking and useful book to read.
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I think for basically anyone.
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So it's broken up into three.
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Parts, there's a few chapters up front kind of setting the scene, and then there are three parts and I think, we'll, we may not get to every chapter, but we'll definitely kind of try to cover the bases on the parts of the book.
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From the intro chapters, there's three intro chapters.
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Anything that really stuck out with you here.
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So my, not a quote that from someone else, quote from him that I pulled out was about like, the, essentially what we're looking at is it's recognizing that not all things matter equally and finding out the things that matter most.
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And I
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Mm-hmm.
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that that was a quote, I, I highlighted it before and I was like, yeah, I still really, truly believe that.
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I think obviously as business owners, we do so much, like we all do so much, and like, if only we could really, really, really nail down this thing of being like, a lot of it doesn't make that much of a difference, and some of it really, really does.
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And so finding out the things about it most, I really was like, yes, this is the bit to remember.
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Mm-hmm.
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so yeah, that was definitely like the thing in terms of like this idea of like the one thing that I was like, yeah, I, and it does connect to one of the lies and then the next, in the next section of the book.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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And something that stood out to me right near the quote you just said, which is extraordinary results are directly determined by how narrow you can make your focus.
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This, I feel like, is the key concept from Essentialism that I think about over and over again.
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It is a huge personal challenge for me.
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And
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And you, and actually I think maybe, uh.
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I might be putting words in your mouth, but like part of your decision not to continue with making Good Book Club is a little bit of trying to practice this narrowing in on, you know, the one thing for you.
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a hundred
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Yeah.
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So yeah, I think I would say.
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I think most entrepreneurs struggle with this.
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I, I think unless you are someone who genuinely has one passion and you are like, your whole business is just around that, I think most people actually in their heart are multi-passionate and want to do a hundred things and have loads of creative ideas, and trying to focus on one thing is super difficult.
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Yeah.
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And I think, I think this, this definitely does come up later in the book, which we'll probably get to, but one thing this book had me thinking more about than I remember thinking more about from like Essentialism or other things like this is the concept of like, okay, well how do you figure out what that thing is?
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Like I get.
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That we need to narrow down, but you can't just pick a random thing,
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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it has to be the right thing that you're narrowing in on.
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And that, I think, is actually the really challenging part because maybe for, for many of us, when we are dipping our toes into so many things, maybe on a subconscious level, it's like, well, we don't know what the one thing is, so we're trying to like hedge our bets a little bit.
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And so
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So you talk about that later in the book?
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No.
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Hedging our bets.
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yes, no hedging.
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But yeah, and so we'll talk about it later, but, but I think that is one thing that really stands out to me about this book is the focus on figuring out what that thing is.
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Another concept in these early chapters is the domino effect.
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knew you were
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Um,
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Go on.
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Because it's a story
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There's this story, well, there's like just a little anecdote about, the world record for Dominoes, which was set in 2009.
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Maybe it's been, this book is a little older, so it could have been beat by then.
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But this, in this publication, it was 4 million, almost 500,000 dominoes that were coordinated to go up.
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And it unleashed more than 94,000 joules of energy, which is as much as it takes an average sized male to do 545 pushups.
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Just through this like simple domino effect of one knocking down the next.
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And then there's this other concept here where dominoes can actually knock over things that are larger than'em.
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So, so like one domino can knock down a slightly larger domino, which can knock, slight, knock down a slightly larger domino.
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And he's kind of using this as an example to show like, yes, when you focus on your one thing, you may be starting small, but.
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It picks up steam pretty quickly and like kind of escalates to bigger and bigger and better and better results, so.
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like that fact.
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So it says up to, it can be another domino that's up to 50% larger.
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I think, so then you really get this idea of like how exponential growth really
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Mm-hmm.
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And I think that in some ways is Britney.
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I think like when you look at the compound effect, it might be slightly different.
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I think this, um, what did you call it?
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Anecdote shows it more this idea of like how it, it builds up.
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And I think knowing
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Mm-hmm.
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little thing, starts to chain reaction.
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And I think that is
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Yeah.
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so true.
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I truly believe in that as a concept as a whole.
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But I think sometimes when we think the thing, I think some of us know the thing we really want, but it seems so big.
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But actually if you're like, well, actually, if all I've got to do is focus on the chain reaction and it will keep getting bigger and bigger, and actually that growth isn't necessarily as hard or as far away as you might imagine it to be.
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Yeah.
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He says the key is over time, success is built sequentially.
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It's one thing at a time.
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And then his last thing in this like intro bit was just around, talks about like success leaving clues.
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And this is where he really tries to reinforce this idea that extraordinary successful companies all have one product or service they're most known for or that makes them the most money.
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And I suppose this is where I felt it does give you a bit of leeway in terms of being like, it's not, you only have to have one thing in your business, but what is a thing you're known for?
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What is a thing that people remember you for, recommend you for, refer you for?
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Like that's the reason why people approach you.
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That doesn't then mean you can't have more.
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But it's like you
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Mm-hmm.
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thing that's like the standout and like obviously I'm like, we talk a lot about like having in my services with like a signature service, a signature offer.
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So it's like that to me made sense just being like, what's the one thing, you still allowed more, but you need to have one.
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That's the standout.
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Mm-hmm.
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Yeah.
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And then he, he sort of is diversifying this one thing concept a bit.
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And he says like, sometimes it's one person who like really believes in you and sets you on the right track.
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One passion, one skill, one life.
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Yeah,
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Um, I get a little distracted by these extra concepts, honestly.
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Like I, I feel like I'm like, well wait, now I have a lot more than just one thing.
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You know, I've got, like, I've got the one project at work.
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That's the one thing.
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And then, I don't know, I'm, I'm getting distracted a little bit when we apply this one thing concept so vastly across different parts of our lives.
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But, um, yeah, that's just me maybe.
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So part one of the book is the Lies that Mislead and Derail Us.
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Okay, so just maybe to set the scene here, there are six lies between you and success.
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Everything matters equally.
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Multitasking.
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A disciplined life, willpower is always on, will call a balanced life and big is bad.
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So maybe we could pick a few of these to dig into
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so I think
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which one stood out to you?
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obviously that everything, mattered equally was the one that I'd already spoken about a little bit before, but he really leans into this idea of like, I never say Paretos Paretos principle, which is the
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Pareto's principle.
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the 80 20 rule and like.
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Really what I liked about him on this though was he said you could take it further and further.
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So like looking at the 80 20, working out what's the 20% that makes, you know, the most results or the best output or whatever.
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And then digging into that again and then digging into that again.
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And so really, really forcing yourself to like push, I suppose like to the limits.
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Like what actually is what matters.
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And actually I think if you really embrace this concept actually is freeing because it will help you to drastically cut down your to-do list.
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Mm-hmm.
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just do it.
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Yeah.
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So hard.
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So hard, but he makes very good case for it.
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Another lie that stood out to me a lot was willpower is always on will call.
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And this is sort of about the idea that many of us, when we're trying to do something new or we have a goal that we're approaching, we just kind of feel like we have to summon the willpower and then it'll happen.
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Like we just have to kind of make ourselves do it.
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And inevitably, like when we are relying on all of this willpower, we fail, we like give up on the project or you know, January 9th, I think it is actually is National Quitter's day.
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I looked this up recently.
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It's the second Friday of January.
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By which date most people have already given up or failed on their news resolutions because I think of like the willpower that we're trying to depend on, and this reminds me of James Clear atomic habits.
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He says we can't always expect to have motivation, but we can rely on systems.
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And this is a little bit of a similar concept where like, we just can't always meeting our goals, can't be dependent on summoning a lot of willpower because it's just not always available to us.
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He says, when our willpower runs out, we will all revert to our default settings.
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This begs the question, what are your default settings?
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yeah.
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He mentions a bunch of the different things that tax your willpower, so.
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Implementing new behaviors, filtering out distractions, resisting temptation, suppressing your emotions, restraining aggression, suppressing impulses, tests, trying to impress others, coping with fear, doing something you don't enjoy selecting long-term over short-term results.
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So like, as you can imagine, maybe just like hearing those things, you can think of all these moments throughout your day where something is taxing your willpower and draining it, and eventually we just run out.
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So like, if you're one of those people who struggles with, I don't know, maybe you're, you find it easy to stick to your healthy habits in the morning and midday, but by the end of the day you struggle.
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That's a really good example of this.
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In practice, like you just run out, we deplete our willpower.
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And so I think my big takeaway here is like paying attention to how much of your life requires, exercising, willpower, trying not to drain it.
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Kind of staying in, in touch with like how much willpower you have and if you need to do something to replenish it, take a break or take, go for a walk or whatever it is.
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Do that.
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And then also he is really all about, and this comes up again and again in the book, like timing
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He's a
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your most important things so that they happen earlier in the day when you actually have the willpower, like when it's available to you.
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The other one I liked was a balanced life.
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And he talks about how work life balance and having or having a balanced life is a myth and actually there is like magic in the extremes rather than the middle.
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So actually sort of is saying like, if we are trying to balance, it's like you're not really giving anything possibly enough for it to really succeed.
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And so rather than searching for that, he actually says sometimes you are gonna have to like, make trade offs.
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Some things are gonna have to like not happen.
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And rather than balance where you're trying to juggle everything equally, he talks about counterbalance.
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And so there'll be phases where you like it's extreme.
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Like you are going really hard into one area, for example.
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And that will mean there is.
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A negative repercussion on another part of your life.
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But the point is when all, another part of your business forever.
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But we're not doing it forever.
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Like it's for a period of time.
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And so actually we want counterbalance across like years rather than thinking of like balance within a day or a week.
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Yeah, that resonates to me.
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Um, oh, I think the, the other one that I was thinking of is a disciplined life, which is similar, I think, to the willpower comment.
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But, um, he gives the example here of Michael Phelps, the Olympics swimmer, who is like.
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I think gotten more gold medals than any other Olympian still.
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And he actually apparently struggled as a child.
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Like he has not always been this like, super driven, I don't know, like success story that we think of him as today.
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He shares that.
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Like he basically had this one thing, which is that he decided he was gonna train seven days a week, 365 days a year.
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But this way he gets 52 training days extra than everyone else because most people take off a weekend day.
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So he's training on Sundays.
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Everyone else isn't.
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He gets 52 extra training days.
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And this was like his secret sauce that like, basically he credits to his results.
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You know, not all of us are gonna be doing something like that, but I think it's a good example of like.
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Finding that, that one angle of, of your edge.
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He also talked about disciplines and habits.
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This is connected to willpower in that like, I don't think if you needed the willpower, you could do 365 days a year for however many years he did it to train.
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Like eventually it has to become a habit.
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So you're just like
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That's what I
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defaulting to that, right?
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Instead of needing the willpower.
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And so he talks about there's this 21 days to form a habit.
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Thing that, like people talk about a lot.
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I'm, I'm sure I have like said that because that's what a lot of people report, but actually they've done studies on it and the average time that it takes to acquire a new habit is 66 days.
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So that's over two months.
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Like that is a while of sticking with something.
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But once it does become a habit, it takes a lot less discipline and willpower to keep it going.
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And so you just kind of have to be willing to go for 66 days.
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And this was kind of thought provoking for me because I feel like, yeah, that 21 day or 30 days is touted so often as like what it takes to form a habit.
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And if you were to feel like you didn't have it as a habit after that, I don't know, it'd be really easy to give up on.
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So I think this just kind of speaks to the value and sticking out of, sticking it out a bit longer.
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Even if it's still hard, like after a certain point it does become a habit.
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It just, it's gonna take longer than 21 days.
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Yeah.
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And he says, do this one at a time.
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Like don't try five new habits at a time.
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Trying to stick it out for six to six days on each, like build one habit at a time.
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Anything else on the lies?
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that's not enough of the lives.
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Now let's go into the truth.
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All right.
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So this is meant to be this simple path to productivity, and there's only three chapters in this one.
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So the first is around the focusing question, and the premise of this is around the quality of any answer is directly determined by the quality of the question.
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And so if we wanna get better answers, we basically have to ask ourselves better questions.
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And so the focusing question he talks about is, what's the one thing I can do such that by doing it, everything else will be easier or unneccessary.
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Yep.
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And this is a question that he comes back to over and over throughout the rest of the book in many different ways.
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So like, I'm gonna read it again so that you have it in your head.
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What's the one thing I can do such that by doing it, everything else will become easier or unnecessary.
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This to me is sort of the filter for helping you figure out like what your one thing is.
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Would you agree with that?
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Yeah, I think it's well, it's two things.
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Because the easier part of the question, I see it as that connects back to like what we're saying about where do you put your effort that gets the most resource and stuff.
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And then the unnecessary I see is you being able to get rid of stuff.
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So I feel like it's doing two things.
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It's helping you to get rid of some things and not, and then it's also helping you to try and focus on actually choosing the right thing.
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I think that's a really, like that last part, such that by doing it, everything else will be easier or unnecessary.
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I think that's the really important part because I don't know, maybe that's the part that can give you some confidence about letting other things go.
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You know, when you're narrowing down on one thing and just like going all in, that's one thing.
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But when you're like, okay, by doing this, I know that everything else either doesn't need to be done or is simplified or is irrelevant now, like, I don't know.
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That's a level of like comfort.
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I think that I, I haven't put this into practice yet, but I imagine like, it, it becomes easier to let go of all the other stuff when, when you understand
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Yeah,
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the context this way.
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like easy to say no when you know what you're saying yes to.
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It's that same thing, isn't it?
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By knowing this is what we're saying yes to, then we can say no to other things,
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Mm-hmm.
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so yeah.
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Okay.
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Um, the next chapter is the Success Habit.
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And this is where it goes further into the question, but starts to add in categories and timeframes, for example.
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So we start to look at the one thing I could do such that everything else would be easier or necessary for my personal life, for my key relationships, for my job, for my business, for my finances, for my spiritual life, for my physical health.
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And so it's really, and then the book, he asks a lot more questions he showed you, but I suppose it's really about how to start applying it to different areas.
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So the idea is that this can help us in all aspects of our life.
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It's not just, and I, I suppose it's what, um, a lot of'em was saying in the beginning, like, this is not a business book.
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Like yes, the techniques really will help you in business, but it can be applied to any area of your life.
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Mm-hmm.
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And then the timeframe thing could be that you could ask yourself like um, right now versus this week.
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What's my one thing overall is big picture and then what's my one thing right now is like day to day.
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Yeah.
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And then the last bit I think you
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Then
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I'm gonna put, I'm gonna put it out there.
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Liked this next
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I do,
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it a quadrant.
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it had a quadrant, it had something really visual.
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This final section in this, the second part is the path to great answers.
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And this is about basically the quality of your question leads to the quality of your answer.
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So if you have a great question, you can create a great answer.
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And there's this framework that he introduces, which I really like.
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He calls it the great question matrix.
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And across the X axis you have everything from broad to specific.
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So a broad question to a specific question.
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And the Y axis, the vertical axis at the top, it's big and small.
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So as examples, a small and broad question might be, what can I do to increase sales?
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A small and specific question is, what can I do to increase sales by 5% this year?
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A big but broad question would be, what can I do to double sales?
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And a big specific question is, what can I do to double sales in six months?
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And once he's gone through like all of these different options of types of questions between big, small, broad, specific, he believes that the best type of question, at least in this context of, you know, finding your, the one thing and your, your answer is big and specific.
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So again, the example there is what can I do to double sales?
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That's big doubling in six months specific.
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He finds these to be the elements of a great question.
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And so you can convert this into a focusing question, which Charelle introduced a couple chapters ago by something like the following, what is the one thing I can do to double sales in six months such that by doing it, everything else will be easier or unnecessary.
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And so you have your question.
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And then the second part here is finding a great answer.
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He says there are three types of answers here.
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Three categories, doable, stretch, and possibility.
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Doable is, you probably already know how to do it.
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You don't have to do much, you can just go do it.
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The next level up would be stretch, which is like within reach, but it's, it's gonna be a lot harder.
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You'll have to, he says, do research, figure out what others have done.
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And then finally the last one is, possibility.
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And he says that highly successful people choose to live at the outer limits of achievement.
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So they're going for this possibility
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Mm-hmm.
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ring on the, on the frame or the possibility category, I guess, of great answers.
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The way that he approaches this is he.
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Learns a lot from other people who have done it.
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So if there's something you wanna do and you find the answer to be that it's, it's gonna really stretch you outside of, it's not doable, it's not stretch, it's in this like possibility category.
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Like you're gonna have to look at someone who's done it or something similar and look for like the breadcrumbs and then the clues that have been left behind.
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And so, books, um, experts, mentors the internet, like looking at the clues left by other people who have done it is the best place to start with this.
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On the topic of possibilities, it leads us nicely into the third part of the book, which is extraordinary results, unlocking the possibilities within you.
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And very early on in this chapter, or this section of the book, we have a nice little diagram.
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We talks about, purpose, priority, and productivity.
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And so his thing is your big one thing is your purpose and your small one thing is a priority.
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You take action on to achieve it.
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And so in this diagram, it's like an iceberg.
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And so underneath at the bottom of the iceberg, we've got purpose.
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Then you've got priority on top, and both these layers are under the water.
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And then you have productivity, which is.
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The bit that's showing the iceberg above the water.
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And so it's like, actually so many of the people that you think are productive, we just see that and we are thinking, oh, they've learned how to do time management better, or they've learn some system better.
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But for him, he's like, no, actually, what you don't see underneath is they've got a really strong purpose.
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And so they understand what their priority is and that's what on the top makes it actually productive.
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Mm-hmm.
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Yeah.
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And then if you're a business on the top, top of the iceberg would be profit.
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So it's like if you wanna have a profitable business.
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And then he says it's purpose, priority, productivity, profit.
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Because people love A-P-P-P-P in a book, don't they?
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Mm-hmm.
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He says, yeah, great businesses are built one productive person at a time.
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Um, and so like the productivity is what leads to the profit, which is why profit's on top.
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But that has to be based on like these clear priorities and an underlying purpose, which brings us to the next chapter, live With Purpose.
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And here he tells the Ebenezer Scrooge story from a Christmas Carol, which, he actually tells the whole story in the book, but basically the Scrooge is like a mean, nasty, very money oriented person.
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He has this like apparition, possibly a dream you don't really know where he basically changes overnight and he's visited by his past, present, and future.
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And he realizes he's not on the right track.
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And then he kind of has this.
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New purpose to use his money for good and like immediately changes.
00:31:44.390 --> 00:31:51.729
And so it's kind of just, he, he is telling the story to give an example of like, when you have a purpose, it guides all of your behavior.
00:31:51.729 --> 00:32:03.209
And he's showing, he's telling all these stories about, once Ebenezer, Scrooge has transformed, he tells all these stories of ways he does good with his money through different acts, basically.
00:32:03.628 --> 00:32:10.479
And so when you have this underlying purpose, your priorities are clear and like your actions are guided kind of effortlessly.
00:32:11.128 --> 00:32:16.739
Yeah, I mean, I, I think the, the purpose conversation is a bit harder.
00:32:16.739 --> 00:32:20.818
Like, figuring out exactly what your purpose is is a challenge.
00:32:20.818 --> 00:32:26.249
I've always struggled with, with this concept of like having a super clear purpose.
00:32:26.848 --> 00:32:31.648
He says who we are and where we want to go, determine what we do and what we accomplish.
00:32:32.159 --> 00:32:44.519
And I think he does acknowledge, like in the end of this chapter, if you don't have a clear purpose to find, you can kind of like instead pick a direction to move in.
00:32:44.519 --> 00:32:48.838
So like, I may not know clearly like this is my life's purpose, but I can.
00:32:49.394 --> 00:32:57.374
I can sense it's about doing good for others or it's about teaching, or, you know, you can kind of give yourself a nudge in one direction.
00:32:57.554 --> 00:32:58.213
Play with it.
00:32:59.594 --> 00:33:03.913
You can change your mind, but yeah, I, I do like this concept.
00:33:04.064 --> 00:33:09.374
I see the power of it, but I think there are some of us who like, it's not cut and dry.
00:33:09.509 --> 00:33:10.920
I'm, I would agree I'm the same.
00:33:10.920 --> 00:33:11.730
And I think that's
00:33:12.013 --> 00:33:12.344
Yeah.
00:33:13.230 --> 00:33:25.980
I've read it in so many books, come across it so many times and I think it seems to be something that people either get and they know and it's really, really strong or other people seem to spend a lot of time trying to search and to find it for sure.
00:33:26.349 --> 00:33:35.650
I can absolutely see actually, probably more so in this book than some of the other reasons how it works, like why it really is important.
00:33:35.980 --> 00:33:36.309
But yeah,
00:33:36.459 --> 00:33:36.878
Mm-hmm.
00:33:36.910 --> 00:33:41.529
end, he does say this idea of like, purpose may sound heavy, but it doesn't have to be.
00:33:41.799 --> 00:33:46.000
Think of it simply as the one thing you want your life to be about more than any others.
00:33:46.299 --> 00:33:49.390
Try writing down something you'd like to accomplish and then describe how you do it.
00:33:49.869 --> 00:33:53.200
And so, and his actual purpose to me, I was like, oh, actually that's not.
00:33:53.980 --> 00:33:57.009
not as heavy and as hard and as like big mythical as we talk about.
00:33:57.279 --> 00:34:02.259
So we talked about how my purpose is to help people live their greatest life possible through my teaching, coaching, writing.
00:34:02.410 --> 00:34:03.309
Like actually
00:34:04.328 --> 00:34:04.749
Mm-hmm.
00:34:05.019 --> 00:34:06.130
that wasn't that intense.
00:34:07.128 --> 00:34:07.548
Mm-hmm.
00:34:07.809 --> 00:34:11.800
maybe it wasn't as specific as I expected, or just when you hear people talk about purpose.
00:34:12.670 --> 00:34:16.630
you know, when I think I hear people talk about these like big missions that are like to help a million people do whatever.
00:34:16.630 --> 00:34:18.760
And I think maybe my brain went into that realm.
00:34:19.030 --> 00:34:19.733
But yeah, I think
00:34:20.034 --> 00:34:20.423
Yeah.
00:34:20.440 --> 00:34:21.130
find something.
00:34:21.130 --> 00:34:22.809
And like you said, it doesn't have to be forever.
00:34:23.019 --> 00:34:24.699
It can be a direction for now.
00:34:26.063 --> 00:34:26.364
Right.
00:34:27.023 --> 00:34:28.853
Yeah, I agree.
00:34:28.853 --> 00:34:36.594
His example was less intimidating, but it's still kind of specific, like, you know, he, it, it's based on his profession.
00:34:36.789 --> 00:34:37.420
Yes.
00:34:37.793 --> 00:34:39.443
Now and like, yeah.
00:34:39.474 --> 00:35:03.043
So I, I would struggle to define it that clearly, but I understand, how having that as like a baseline grounding bottom of the iceberg type visual is, is very compelling, like baseline that your priorities are based on your purpose and your productivity is based on, well, like what you work on is based on your priorities.
00:35:03.094 --> 00:35:05.014
The iceberg format makes sense to me.
00:35:05.014 --> 00:35:07.173
I just personally struggle a little bit with that.
00:35:07.173 --> 00:35:11.793
So I guess I just share that in case anyone listening is like, well, geez, I don't know what my purpose is.
00:35:11.793 --> 00:35:12.724
Like you're not alone.
00:35:12.739 --> 00:35:13.280
you're not alone.
00:35:14.434 --> 00:35:15.364
Not alone at all.
00:35:16.204 --> 00:35:16.295
All
00:35:16.443 --> 00:35:17.043
Okay.
00:35:17.074 --> 00:35:20.014
is living by priority, which is much easier for me.
00:35:21.244 --> 00:35:21.844
Same.
00:35:21.905 --> 00:35:22.775
how purpose,
00:35:22.833 --> 00:35:23.884
the concept at least.
00:35:24.724 --> 00:35:27.605
the purpose we without priority is powerless.
00:35:27.934 --> 00:35:33.244
And so he comes around this idea shares called goal setting to the now.
00:35:33.724 --> 00:35:42.215
And so he talks about this idea if, if you have a Russian doll, so there's dolls that all go inside each other, one by one by one, you will start with like your Someday goal.
00:35:42.215 --> 00:35:44.224
So what's the one thing I want to do someday?
00:35:44.344 --> 00:35:47.344
And then you start bringing it closer and closer to now.
00:35:47.554 --> 00:35:48.905
So you have like a five year one.
00:35:49.114 --> 00:35:53.554
So based on my Sunday goal, what is the one thing I can do the next five years?
00:35:53.675 --> 00:35:57.784
Then a one year goal based on my five year goal, what is the one thing I can do this year?
00:35:58.114 --> 00:36:05.795
Then down to monthly, weekly, daily, until right at the end you get, based on my daily goal, what's the one thing I can do right now?
00:36:06.619 --> 00:36:13.070
And I really like this because I think, well, one, obviously it's a nice visual, but I think it makes sense.
00:36:13.070 --> 00:36:28.730
It really has this feeling of like moving towards something, um, but also enabling you to be able to break things down to a much easier, so like your Someday goal could be massive and feel very overwhelming, but you can break it really, really down to something that you wanna do right now.
00:36:30.168 --> 00:36:30.559
Yeah.
00:36:31.548 --> 00:36:43.969
Well, I think, um, I also really liked this and there is this paragraph where he is like explaining, the step by step of going from someday to five year goal to one year goal.
00:36:44.418 --> 00:36:48.648
And I was, I like, I, I understood what he was doing, so I skipped that.
00:36:48.648 --> 00:36:50.478
Most of it, I didn't read it word for word.
00:36:50.958 --> 00:36:54.559
And then he goes, I hope you hung in there and read the entire thing.
00:36:55.068 --> 00:36:55.818
And I was like, well shoot.
00:36:55.818 --> 00:36:58.998
Okay, now I'm gonna go read it and I'm actually gonna read it.
00:36:59.389 --> 00:37:04.849
It's gonna take me a minute, but I'm gonna read it because I think it does illustrate when you actually read the whole thing.
00:37:06.199 --> 00:37:14.208
Because on like on one hand, if I were to say, based on my someday goal, what's one thing I can do right now to move toward it?
00:37:15.768 --> 00:37:18.528
That's the shortcut that most of us want to do.
00:37:18.528 --> 00:37:22.068
And that to me loses all the power of this exercise.
00:37:22.144 --> 00:37:22.264
Oh.
00:37:22.489 --> 00:37:31.489
So here's, here's the thing I'm gonna read based on my Someday goal, what's one thing I can do in the next five years to be on track to achieve it?
00:37:31.878 --> 00:37:41.148
Now based on my five year goal, what's one thing I can do this year to be on track to achieve my five year goal so that I'm on track to achieve my Sunday day goal?
00:37:41.869 --> 00:37:45.559
Now, based on my goal this year, what's the one thing I can do this month?
00:37:45.619 --> 00:37:48.108
So I'm on track to achieve my goal this year.
00:37:48.259 --> 00:37:50.389
So I'm on track to achieve my five year goal.
00:37:50.418 --> 00:37:52.369
So I'm on track to achieve my someday goal.
00:37:52.998 --> 00:37:56.869
Now, based on my goal this month, what's the one thing I can do this week?
00:37:56.898 --> 00:38:01.759
So I'm on track to achieve my goal this month so that I'm on track to achieve my goal this year.
00:38:01.759 --> 00:38:06.498
So I'm on track to achieve my five-year goal so that I'm on track to achieve my Someday goal.
00:38:07.099 --> 00:38:10.548
Now, based on my goal this week, what's the one thing I can do today?
00:38:10.548 --> 00:38:12.768
So I'm on track to achieve my goal this week.
00:38:13.068 --> 00:38:15.228
So I'm on track to achieve my goal this month.
00:38:15.228 --> 00:38:17.239
So I'm on track to achieve my goal this year.
00:38:17.599 --> 00:38:21.918
So I'm on track to achieve my five-year goal so that I'm on track to achieve my someday goal.
00:38:22.248 --> 00:38:22.969
And last one.
00:38:23.478 --> 00:38:30.048
So based on my goal today, what's the one thing I can do right now so that I'm on track to achieve my goal today?
00:38:30.378 --> 00:38:34.878
So that I'm on track to achieve my goal this week so that I'm on track to achieve my goal this month.
00:38:35.208 --> 00:38:37.309
So I'm on track to achieve my goal this year.
00:38:37.309 --> 00:38:39.498
So I'm on track to achieve my five-year goal.
00:38:39.739 --> 00:38:41.778
So I'm on track to achieve my Someday goal.
00:38:42.108 --> 00:38:50.298
So that's the the monologue that I skipped through once I realized what was going on and then was be rated and the text immediately below.
00:38:51.079 --> 00:39:03.469
But yeah, when you say simply what's one thing I can do right now so I'm on track to achieve my someday goal, you can see how it loses all of the power of like, oh, I understand how these are all related.
00:39:03.889 --> 00:39:23.896
And I think for me, an exercise like this would help me to, well, to actually do things now that don't have a clear payoff now because it's so clearly step by step tied to all of this goal setting that you've done, like reverse engineered basically.
00:39:25.021 --> 00:39:31.981
I think like myself and many other people, like we really struggle to do things in the short term when the payoff is way down the road.
00:39:32.400 --> 00:39:36.690
Like I don't struggle to put my podcast out next week because it's pretty close.
00:39:37.380 --> 00:39:45.516
But if it was like, here, do something for your podcast growth that you won't see or experience till five years from now, that's so much harder.
00:39:45.751 --> 00:39:54.661
But an exercise like this, I think makes it really crystal clear how like your actions in the short term create your long term reality.
00:39:54.661 --> 00:40:06.701
So, I hope that I didn't lose any listeners in my long reading of that, but it was very powerful to me and so I just thought I would make sure you had the chance to soak that into.
00:40:07.192 --> 00:40:07.706
In the next
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All right.
00:40:08.817 --> 00:40:09.476
live for
00:40:09.581 --> 00:40:09.851
Yeah.
00:40:11.516 --> 00:40:21.327
And so this one, he goes through some, some tactics, some very specific tactics that not, I don't think if you've listened to us talk about some of the business books you won't come across.
00:40:22.016 --> 00:40:31.027
He talks about a typical day versus the productive day and the amount of time, basically you should be actually allocating to your one thing.
00:40:31.327 --> 00:40:37.237
And so in an ideal world, he says, you should be allocating four hours to your one thing.
00:40:37.476 --> 00:40:38.586
How did that make you feel, Lauren?
00:40:38.755 --> 00:40:41.766
Um, it felt like a lot.
00:40:41.963 --> 00:40:42.242
Yeah.
00:40:44.233 --> 00:40:44.623
Yeah.
00:40:44.893 --> 00:40:52.963
And the other thing, so he's suggesting four hours that are time blocked and he is also just suggesting that they're the first four hours of your workday, basically.
00:40:54.072 --> 00:40:58.393
And to me, I was like, my whole schedule is set up the opposite of this and.
00:40:58.588 --> 00:40:59.429
Mm.
00:41:00.657 --> 00:41:03.447
I think actually part of it is being on Pacific Time,
00:41:03.568 --> 00:41:03.809
Okay.
00:41:04.077 --> 00:41:04.797
um,
00:41:05.068 --> 00:41:05.278
up,
00:41:05.398 --> 00:41:10.467
which when I, well, when I wake up, my inbox is so full.
00:41:10.768 --> 00:41:20.398
Um, any meetings I do generally have to be in my morning or else I can't do them at all because other people that I'm meeting with aren't on Pacific Time.
00:41:20.577 --> 00:41:22.677
So it might be their afternoon, but it's not mine.
00:41:23.108 --> 00:41:35.717
Like you, Charelle, like our meetings for four years now have always been at like eight or 9:00 AM my time, which is not when I should be having meetings if I'm gonna follow this type of advice.
00:41:35.717 --> 00:41:38.527
So it really actually gave me a ton to think about with that
00:41:38.693 --> 00:41:39.023
a re
00:41:39.128 --> 00:41:39.668
of like,
00:41:39.954 --> 00:41:40.614
interesting thing.
00:41:40.614 --> 00:41:46.704
'cause obviously, I mean time zone's my favorite topic, not, but is a reality that,
00:41:47.108 --> 00:41:47.438
yeah.
00:41:47.543 --> 00:41:59.423
'cause I was thinking, obviously I know some people where they like will talk maybe like, because of how they've got children and so their responsibilities will mean actually they're like, no, the first thing they've got to do is get everyone up, get everyone up to school, et cetera.
00:41:59.423 --> 00:42:02.123
Like that's, they've only, that's the priority.
00:42:02.483 --> 00:42:03.233
But I've never thought of it
00:42:03.293 --> 00:42:03.532
Yeah.
00:42:03.713 --> 00:42:06.893
a, yeah, even from you, from a work perspective actually.
00:42:06.923 --> 00:42:10.673
'cause the way we, you overlap with people in other time zones that Yeah.
00:42:10.733 --> 00:42:11.603
Whereas actually for
00:42:11.813 --> 00:42:12.322
Yeah.
00:42:12.384 --> 00:42:13.554
would be, I could
00:42:13.748 --> 00:42:14.358
It's a benefit.
00:42:14.514 --> 00:42:15.054
could do it.
00:42:15.264 --> 00:42:20.869
Like, it's one of the things that I've said, I was wondering,'cause I was thinking my thing is I'm naturally night owl, so I.
00:42:21.639 --> 00:42:23.199
Always been like, I'll do the podcast in the unit.
00:42:23.228 --> 00:42:24.278
It doesn't make a difference to me.
00:42:24.309 --> 00:42:24.818
I'm fine.
00:42:24.818 --> 00:42:25.958
Like, and I remember when we was in
00:42:26.148 --> 00:42:26.568
Mm-hmm.
00:42:26.708 --> 00:42:27.639
she's up so late.
00:42:27.639 --> 00:42:28.449
I was like, yeah, that's fine.
00:42:28.509 --> 00:42:29.079
I don't mind,
00:42:29.588 --> 00:42:29.878
Yeah.
00:42:30.188 --> 00:42:30.478
Yeah.
00:42:30.668 --> 00:42:31.929
you are with this.
00:42:31.929 --> 00:42:35.108
So for me, try and do the morning, try and block out four hours would be hard work.
00:42:35.349 --> 00:42:39.219
But in terms of actual other people, it'd probably be easier.
00:42:39.219 --> 00:42:42.489
So yeah, sometimes it'cause of life or sometimes it's because of where
00:42:42.597 --> 00:42:42.887
Yeah.
00:42:43.119 --> 00:42:44.289
It's easier said than done.
00:42:45.782 --> 00:42:48.123
And this will depend on what type of work you do too.
00:42:48.123 --> 00:42:52.322
Like many people don't have to have meetings with people in other time zones.
00:42:52.322 --> 00:43:03.802
And you know, this will, this conversation might feel totally irrelevant to you, but I do remember, when I was in corporate, I worked for a British company whose marketing team was in New York.
00:43:04.222 --> 00:43:17.432
And so like, I would wake up and my inbox would be full of people who had been working for like, you know, six hours already so like I was always behind and I remember whenever I traveled to Europe for work, I loved it.
00:43:17.432 --> 00:43:26.643
Like I would wake up and no one, you know, I was like on top of everything I would, no one was like even online until I got all my work done.
00:43:26.643 --> 00:43:28.503
Like, it was just, it really did make a difference.
00:43:28.503 --> 00:43:32.713
So I don't really know if there's a workaround aside from moving, which.
00:43:33.327 --> 00:43:36.748
Seems a little extreme, but yeah, it is, it is a challenge.
00:43:36.838 --> 00:43:37.047
And
00:43:37.199 --> 00:43:37.259
hmm.
00:43:37.347 --> 00:43:46.648
I am also a morning person, so like morning is my best time by far to be thinking and using my brain and um, like doing important work.
00:43:46.648 --> 00:43:59.967
So this did long digression just to say like, this did gimme a lot to think about when it comes to, I think like, so many moments in the book adding up, like the willpower being drained by the end of the day.
00:44:00.027 --> 00:44:00.418
Okay.
00:44:00.418 --> 00:44:04.108
Well the end of the day is when I leave for anything that actually is important.
00:44:04.108 --> 00:44:18.117
And so not, not anything that actually is important, but the, the important thinking, the hard like working on longer term projects, that's the kind of stuff that I tend to have to leave or right now to the end of the day.
00:44:18.117 --> 00:44:19.768
And that doesn't always get done.
00:44:19.768 --> 00:44:30.358
So it, the whole book but kind of culminating in this chapter gave me a lot to think about regarding my own schedule and just can I protect my time better.
00:44:31.467 --> 00:44:37.827
In the hours where like I have the mental discipline, I resist distraction a little bit better.
00:44:37.827 --> 00:44:47.838
Like I can focus I probably need to be a little more careful with like the way that I use my mornings because they are precious and yeah.
00:44:48.137 --> 00:44:50.568
So that's, that was kinda my key takeaway.
00:44:50.568 --> 00:44:52.248
So he talks about time blocking
00:44:52.248 --> 00:44:52.608
he talks about
00:44:52.878 --> 00:44:53.898
four hours.
00:44:53.898 --> 00:44:55.128
four hours of your thing.
00:44:55.188 --> 00:44:56.688
But he also goes a little bit further.
00:44:56.688 --> 00:45:02.119
So he talks about time blocking your time off, which obviously I'm always gonna be a big advocate.
00:45:02.148 --> 00:45:05.358
Take some time off people time block your one thing.
00:45:05.358 --> 00:45:10.719
So this would be where Lauren, as you're saying, if we are trying to aim for that four hours, how do we put that in the schedule?
00:45:11.048 --> 00:45:19.389
And I think what I would say right now reading this book is you might genuinely be like, I cannot commit to that now, but can you start commit to one hour till one thing every day?
00:45:19.449 --> 00:45:20.349
Can you start commit to two
00:45:20.467 --> 00:45:20.768
Yeah.
00:45:20.829 --> 00:45:21.248
up from there?
00:45:21.548 --> 00:45:24.159
And then third one was time block your planning time.
00:45:24.646 --> 00:45:25.226
Did you love it?
00:45:25.367 --> 00:45:26.838
I did there three things.
00:45:26.838 --> 00:45:29.447
I literally was like, oh, you just like my best dean.
00:45:29.447 --> 00:45:30.378
And I just didn't realize.
00:45:30.467 --> 00:45:33.858
And then you start to think, is it just subconsciously went in like eight years ago?
00:45:33.858 --> 00:45:34.398
And I've forgotten.
00:45:34.458 --> 00:45:37.097
But yeah, I swear by that.
00:45:37.217 --> 00:45:38.688
Totally swear by time blocking anyway.
00:45:38.927 --> 00:45:44.148
But I think your time off when you're gonna concentrate on what really matter and time for other planning.
00:45:44.237 --> 00:45:44.478
Yeah.
00:45:45.498 --> 00:45:45.797
Do it.
00:45:46.367 --> 00:45:46.726
Yeah.
00:45:48.016 --> 00:45:48.376
Yeah.
00:45:49.257 --> 00:46:05.036
He has a visual in here of time blocking and just showing if you had a calendar and you were to mark off every day with an X that you had stuck to your four hours of the one thing, there's kind of this like, don't break the chain thing that happens where you see all these exes stacked up.
00:46:05.036 --> 00:46:11.666
I've worked every weekday for a whole month on my one thing, like I'm gonna keep doing it and do it another day.
00:46:11.666 --> 00:46:14.306
I mean, this is true with any sort of like habit or.
00:46:14.996 --> 00:46:23.547
Consistent thing you're trying to do, like having a visual of watching how many days in a row you've done it is one of the most powerful things that will get you to do it another day.
00:46:23.547 --> 00:46:25.016
Like,'cause you don't wanna break that streak.
00:46:25.168 --> 00:46:25.858
Yes.
00:46:25.887 --> 00:46:29.998
I used to have a calendar when I first years ago I did used to do it, tick, tick, tick, tick.
00:46:29.998 --> 00:46:30.898
Tick's not break the chain.
00:46:30.898 --> 00:46:32.338
It's a very powerful visual.
00:46:32.936 --> 00:46:33.536
yes.
00:46:33.536 --> 00:46:34.286
Super powerful.
00:46:34.378 --> 00:46:34.467
Mm.
00:46:35.342 --> 00:46:35.561
Um,
00:46:35.563 --> 00:46:36.043
The one or the
00:46:36.152 --> 00:46:36.806
okay then.
00:46:36.882 --> 00:46:37.753
could we do one last thing on time
00:46:37.827 --> 00:46:38.067
Yeah.
00:46:38.246 --> 00:46:38.697
Oh yeah.
00:46:39.043 --> 00:46:39.253
you said
00:46:39.387 --> 00:46:39.686
Mm-hmm.
00:46:40.003 --> 00:46:45.702
your time blocks and saying the best way to protect your time blocks is to adopt the mindset that they can't be moved.
00:46:46.182 --> 00:46:49.992
And if you do, if you need to erase it, you must replace it.
00:46:50.083 --> 00:46:51.733
And I just, I think that's the thing.
00:46:51.733 --> 00:46:57.222
'cause I think lots of people have great intentions then someone else will ask them to do something and then they just delete it.
00:46:57.313 --> 00:46:59.382
Like it's in your calendar and you just go, boop.
00:47:00.282 --> 00:47:02.233
And I'm like, no, this, you can't erase it.
00:47:02.233 --> 00:47:03.043
You must replace it.
00:47:03.103 --> 00:47:04.302
I would argue like, just move it.
00:47:04.572 --> 00:47:10.302
So you're just like, actually if you have, if someone wants that meeting, something else comes up, you have to move it.
00:47:10.302 --> 00:47:14.262
So you're still making sure you are time for your one thing.
00:47:15.822 --> 00:47:16.112
Yeah.
00:47:17.916 --> 00:47:24.217
The next chapter, the three commitments, these are three commitments that he is suggesting we each make.
00:47:24.217 --> 00:47:25.806
I'm trying to find another way to say that.
00:47:25.806 --> 00:47:38.376
And commitment is, is the way there's three commitments he's suggesting we each make to ourselves, to like help give ourselves the best chance possible of, of achieving this big lofty one thing goal that we have.
00:47:39.047 --> 00:47:42.436
The first is to follow the past path of mastery.
00:47:42.800 --> 00:48:00.074
And I think part of this is just putting in the hours is how, like understanding that all of these hours, these four hours a day, let's say you're gonna be putting in toward this goal that you have, inevitably there's gonna be a lot of mastery that gets built in that way.
00:48:00.074 --> 00:48:11.773
Just through like that 10,000 hour rule essentially where, in a study they found that, like basically the, the most talented musicians, I think they're violinists in the study.
00:48:12.268 --> 00:48:15.509
They had put in more than 10,000 hours of practice by age 20.
00:48:15.509 --> 00:48:19.889
It was not a gifted thing or they're a natural, or they have this like innate talent.
00:48:20.278 --> 00:48:25.367
It's that they had the people who were the most elite had just put in the most work.
00:48:25.367 --> 00:48:27.646
And so this applies obviously to all of us.
00:48:27.646 --> 00:48:34.666
Like you are gonna be putting in all of these hours every single day and like inevitably in that you are going to be on this path to mastery.
00:48:35.717 --> 00:48:40.907
And with mastery, like he says, the pursuit of mastery bears gifts, you get more confident.
00:48:41.266 --> 00:48:44.626
Both your self-confidence and your success competence will grow.
00:48:44.626 --> 00:48:47.327
He says, this what.
00:48:47.327 --> 00:48:49.543
gonna say, don't make me do, if I move from E to P.
00:48:51.181 --> 00:48:53.371
Oh, I like from E to P.
00:48:53.431 --> 00:48:56.942
Okay, so then the next one is from E to P.
00:48:57.211 --> 00:49:02.942
And this is about moving from an entrepreneurial approach to a purposeful approach.
00:49:03.481 --> 00:49:06.001
This I felt extremely called out on.
00:49:06.481 --> 00:49:11.913
An entrepreneurial approach is someone who just, like someone says, go cut some firewood.
00:49:11.913 --> 00:49:14.432
And the entrepreneurial person is like, yes on it.
00:49:14.672 --> 00:49:20.443
They pick up the ax, they start heading into the woods, chopping down trees and making firewood out of it.
00:49:20.443 --> 00:49:21.853
Like they get straight to it.
00:49:21.853 --> 00:49:22.603
They just go.
00:49:22.992 --> 00:49:26.952
And I think like if that's all I said, you might say, well, that sounds like a good thing.
00:49:27.672 --> 00:49:30.972
And that's kind of my instinct is like, yes, just get to work.
00:49:30.972 --> 00:49:31.873
Go take action.
00:49:32.273 --> 00:49:35.152
But he says we want to move toward purposeful.
00:49:36.202 --> 00:49:41.003
Which is in the same scenario, a purposeful person might say, where can I get a chainsaw?
00:49:41.512 --> 00:49:47.123
And therefore like, save all this time, be much more productive.
00:49:47.132 --> 00:49:48.003
Get a lot of results.
00:49:48.003 --> 00:49:50.432
And I, I find myself bumping into this all the time.
00:49:50.432 --> 00:49:52.472
I'm just like, I have a way of doing it.
00:49:52.713 --> 00:49:56.193
It may not be the most efficient, but like I'm doing it.
00:49:56.253 --> 00:49:57.992
You know, it may not save the most time.
00:49:57.992 --> 00:50:02.072
It may not even create the best results, but it's the way that I do it and that's how I'm doing it.
00:50:02.072 --> 00:50:06.766
And so I felt very called out by this and I'm, I'm just gonna think about it.
00:50:06.815 --> 00:50:14.436
He says too many people reach a level where their performance is good enough and then they stop working on getting better people on the path to mastery.
00:50:14.436 --> 00:50:21.425
Avoid this by continually upping their goal, challenging themselves to break through their current ceiling, and staying the forever apprentice.
00:50:21.965 --> 00:50:25.865
And so it's just about like constantly asking yourself, is there a better way to do this?
00:50:27.170 --> 00:50:30.170
Could I get different, bigger results if I made some changes?
00:50:30.170 --> 00:50:35.940
And I was, in many ways thinking about the podcast, I've done a ton with this podcast.
00:50:35.940 --> 00:50:37.440
I've gotten a lot of great results.
00:50:37.440 --> 00:50:39.300
It, a lot of people listens to it.
00:50:39.300 --> 00:50:39.960
It's great.
00:50:40.501 --> 00:50:52.740
But I think I have gotten into a bit of a, routine that like I'm maybe not often enough asking, like, is there bigger, better, more impactful ways to, to make this show?
00:50:53.101 --> 00:50:55.650
And so, yes, I'm thinking about this.
00:50:55.650 --> 00:51:01.096
Like, I think it's, it's challenging to like forever shift your mindset permanently, right?
00:51:01.275 --> 00:51:06.226
But because I do have this bias for action, like I just like to just do something.
00:51:06.735 --> 00:51:09.945
And I think I've thought that was good for a really long time.
00:51:10.275 --> 00:51:17.025
And so trying to be like, yes, do something, but like in the best way, that doesn't slow me down.
00:51:17.085 --> 00:51:20.565
Also, because I think there's a, there's a risk when you're.
00:51:21.331 --> 00:51:24.780
Pausing to be like, what's the best way to do this?
00:51:24.780 --> 00:51:28.471
That you can just not do it like it gets procrastinated or whatever.
00:51:28.471 --> 00:51:35.407
So I think there's this really fine line of like, yes, take action, but make sure your action is purposeful.
00:51:35.887 --> 00:51:37.867
So I will be thinking about this.
00:51:38.588 --> 00:51:40.597
Do you wanna talk about the accountability cycle?
00:51:40.764 --> 00:51:41.034
one.
00:51:41.034 --> 00:51:43.244
So live in the accountability circle.
00:51:43.853 --> 00:51:52.583
And this is about how taking complete ownership of your outcomes by holding no one but yourself responsible for them is the most powerful thing you can do to drive your success.
00:51:52.974 --> 00:51:57.713
So I suppose this is about like victim mentality versus accountable mentality.
00:51:57.713 --> 00:52:02.643
So when things happen, he talks about how a victim might be like avoiding reality.
00:52:02.643 --> 00:52:05.284
They don't ask any questions or they fight reality.
00:52:05.434 --> 00:52:06.393
That's not how I see it.
00:52:06.454 --> 00:52:12.184
They blame, so they'll blame someone else or they'll make personal excuses and they just sort of like wait and hope so.
00:52:12.664 --> 00:52:13.954
If it was meant to be, it'll happen.
00:52:14.974 --> 00:52:19.824
when someone who's accountable, they will seek out reality, like what's happening.
00:52:20.153 --> 00:52:21.594
They're like, knowledge the reality.
00:52:21.594 --> 00:52:23.003
So this is what it is.
00:52:23.244 --> 00:52:23.994
They'll own it.
00:52:24.293 --> 00:52:26.664
If it has to be, it's up to me.
00:52:26.844 --> 00:52:29.184
They find solutions like, what am I to do?
00:52:29.364 --> 00:52:30.264
And then they get on with it.
00:52:30.503 --> 00:52:31.463
Okay, let's do it.
00:52:32.184 --> 00:52:39.023
I, I think it's, I think this is a particularly, particularly one that's useful for business owners.
00:52:39.384 --> 00:52:39.804
'cause I think
00:52:39.952 --> 00:52:40.373
Mm-hmm.
00:52:40.733 --> 00:52:48.414
there's stuff that happens in the external environment all the time and it can be very, very easy to blame all of that.
00:52:49.193 --> 00:52:52.134
And I think actually taking full responsibility and being like.
00:52:53.503 --> 00:52:58.063
Whatever's happening outside like will continue to happen, but being a victim of mentality is not gonna help you.
00:52:58.304 --> 00:53:03.014
And actually really staying focused on being like, how am I accountable and what am I, what's the actual reality?
00:53:03.193 --> 00:53:04.634
And how, how am I gonna deal with that?
00:53:04.664 --> 00:53:07.634
What am I gonna do as a result of it, I think is super powerful.
00:53:08.744 --> 00:53:13.844
he talks about obviously as well, like, one of the fastest ways to bring accountability to your life is to have an accountability partner.
00:53:14.324 --> 00:53:20.893
So you don't have to try and do all of this by yourself, but either way, it's like cannot blame the world.
00:53:21.134 --> 00:53:21.853
Other people.
00:53:22.514 --> 00:53:23.054
you wanna go after
00:53:23.277 --> 00:53:23.757
Mm-hmm.
00:53:23.893 --> 00:53:25.184
own success, it's down to you.
00:53:25.492 --> 00:53:25.851
Yeah.
00:53:26.382 --> 00:53:26.742
Yeah.
00:53:27.105 --> 00:53:34.094
The next chapter is called The Four Thieves, and this is just really about the four things that get in the way of being productive.
00:53:34.635 --> 00:53:35.985
Inability to say no.
00:53:36.284 --> 00:53:45.244
Uh, I think we've talked about this a bit, but it's just like you have to protect your time and your focus and what you're working on, it's going to require you to say a lot of nos.
00:53:45.644 --> 00:53:50.235
He said, someone once told me that one, yes, must be defended over time by a thousand nos.
00:53:50.534 --> 00:53:59.264
So if you say yes to something, if you're taking something on, like you're one thing that's gonna require you to say no to a lot of other things, and you just have to be willing to do that.
00:53:59.894 --> 00:54:00.525
Fear of chaos.
00:54:00.525 --> 00:54:02.264
I found this such an interesting one'cause he says
00:54:02.833 --> 00:54:03.123
Yeah.
00:54:03.344 --> 00:54:05.264
thing has a guaranteed consequence.
00:54:05.505 --> 00:54:06.945
Other things don't get done.
00:54:08.175 --> 00:54:09.795
And like you have to be comfortable with that.
00:54:10.574 --> 00:54:11.264
I, I think
00:54:11.278 --> 00:54:11.338
Yeah.
00:54:11.474 --> 00:54:11.684
is,
00:54:12.003 --> 00:54:12.304
really hard.
00:54:12.375 --> 00:54:12.764
yeah.
00:54:16.514 --> 00:54:28.425
I think that's a really hard thing to do, I think to be able to be like, by me saying yes, by me focusing on my one thing here, this will mean other things are gonna be chaotic and I.
00:54:29.369 --> 00:54:34.079
I think that's a very hard thing for many people to deal with, so I've definitely not got a solution.
00:54:34.079 --> 00:54:35.969
But he says you just have to deal with it.
00:54:37.434 --> 00:54:41.153
A quote here, and I haven't read very many of my favorite quotes throughout the book, but
00:54:41.170 --> 00:54:41.559
I thought, oh, we
00:54:41.634 --> 00:54:42.534
this is a good one.
00:54:43.094 --> 00:54:49.304
If a cluttered desk is a sign of a cluttered mind of what then is an empty desk a sign?
00:54:49.320 --> 00:54:49.860
what is the
00:54:49.903 --> 00:54:50.563
Ooh.
00:54:50.699 --> 00:54:55.349
I spend every week trying to keep my desk not cluttered, which always surprises people.
00:54:55.349 --> 00:54:57.809
People think I'd have a, I do not have an a Mac desk at all.
00:54:58.050 --> 00:54:58.500
Never do.
00:54:59.503 --> 00:54:59.954
Yeah.
00:55:01.003 --> 00:55:01.514
I don't know.
00:55:01.514 --> 00:55:04.534
And I think there's a flip side argument to this for sure, which is like.
00:55:05.648 --> 00:55:07.929
External clutter creates internal clutter.
00:55:07.929 --> 00:55:12.009
Like I personally can't think very well when I'm looking at a bunch of junk.
00:55:12.728 --> 00:55:14.798
But that might be an exception, like a desk.
00:55:14.798 --> 00:55:24.509
The place you're actually sitting trying to do that super important work actually feels like it's worth like spending the time to actually keep it tidy and clean.
00:55:24.539 --> 00:55:26.608
If, if you find that it affects you.
00:55:27.088 --> 00:55:29.989
I can't work when I'm looking at chaos.
00:55:29.989 --> 00:55:43.028
Like I, it's like I, and not to say I am impeccably tidy, but sometimes I'll be like, okay, the reason I'm probably struggling so much is that I've got papers and receipts and like all this stuff to deal with.
00:55:43.568 --> 00:55:47.108
But maybe there are other things you have to overlook, like, I don't know.
00:55:47.518 --> 00:55:54.465
The dishwasher that needed to be unloaded or if you like being at inbox zero, you might just have to not be at inbox zero.
00:55:54.764 --> 00:56:04.034
Like there might be things that like, yeah, in an ideal world, maybe you would do all these like more minor things, but understanding where they stack up.
00:56:04.034 --> 00:56:12.764
Like, okay, is it more important for me to do this super important work on my one thing, or get to inbox zero by filtering out a bunch of junk mail.
00:56:12.795 --> 00:56:18.795
That's a waste of time relative to these super important tasks.
00:56:18.795 --> 00:56:28.204
So just putting it in context, but I think just addressing and acknowledging, yeah, you might have to drop the ball on some other things like that might be part of this.
00:56:28.594 --> 00:56:30.934
That's hard for people who don't like dropping the ball.
00:56:31.565 --> 00:56:33.726
Number three was poor health habits.
00:56:34.626 --> 00:56:35.945
and I, I don't think we need to go into this.
00:56:35.945 --> 00:56:38.795
I think we all know we need to look after our health if we want to be
00:56:38.945 --> 00:56:39.275
Yeah.
00:56:40.715 --> 00:56:40.985
Yeah.
00:56:41.065 --> 00:56:45.056
And then number four was environment doesn't support your goals.
00:56:45.835 --> 00:56:51.715
and it talks about how the people around you well as your action environment, so people and place.
00:56:52.481 --> 00:56:55.150
How both of these things have an impact on us.
00:56:55.601 --> 00:56:56.021
Mm-hmm.
00:56:56.592 --> 00:56:57.672
we've also talked about those
00:56:57.746 --> 00:56:58.016
Yeah.
00:56:58.032 --> 00:56:58.362
the past.
00:56:58.362 --> 00:56:58.572
So,
00:56:58.766 --> 00:57:00.295
Yeah, yeah.
00:57:00.615 --> 00:57:01.275
all right.
00:57:01.675 --> 00:57:02.786
The journey.
00:57:03.550 --> 00:57:07.000
yeah, I was gonna say, there's a couple more chapters kinda wrapping up.
00:57:07.099 --> 00:57:11.570
There's the journey and then putting the one thing to work.
00:57:12.719 --> 00:57:16.559
I guess those are the last two, so I know we've gone over.
00:57:16.559 --> 00:57:20.065
Is there anything that really stood out to you in these kind of wrap up chapters?
00:57:20.940 --> 00:57:29.340
I think the main thing was just like, I think I wrote, I could highlight a bit that was like, action build and action habits, build on habits, success build and success.
00:57:29.521 --> 00:57:31.351
And just really, like, you've gotta start, haven't you?
00:57:31.411 --> 00:57:34.621
We, it all goes back to that domino right from the beginning, just being
00:57:34.844 --> 00:57:35.385
Right.
00:57:35.731 --> 00:57:37.021
Gotta knock the first one over.
00:57:37.157 --> 00:57:37.907
not the first one over.
00:57:37.936 --> 00:57:42.706
You've gotta start taking the action and keep coming back to this.
00:57:42.706 --> 00:57:50.266
The one thing like, actually I think it's probably easy to start and then get distracted from enough again to like keep coming back to what is the one thing.
00:57:50.460 --> 00:57:50.641
Mm-hmm.
00:57:51.329 --> 00:57:51.599
Yeah.
00:57:51.701 --> 00:57:51.990
Yeah.
00:57:52.010 --> 00:57:54.090
And then, yeah, I think that was it.
00:57:54.420 --> 00:57:54.990
Yeah.
00:57:55.362 --> 00:57:59.262
So I said in the beginning like, I really liked it.
00:57:59.262 --> 00:58:01.413
I thought it was good.
00:58:02.898 --> 00:58:16.257
Kind of frame of mind to put my, put me in as I start thinking about next year and planning and you know, what to keep doing, what to stop doing, what to add or delete from my life and from my business.
00:58:16.257 --> 00:58:18.927
I think it was super, super useful.
00:58:19.827 --> 00:58:30.938
My biggest takeaway might be like a small thing, but just my schedule, and the fact that it's very hard for me to get super focused work done with the way that my schedule currently is.
00:58:31.427 --> 00:58:35.507
And so that probably needs some rethinking, which is a good time to do that.
00:58:36.617 --> 00:58:38.807
What would be any big takeaways for you?
00:58:39.449 --> 00:58:44.219
I know it, I know it, but it is such a good reminder thing of the dominoes.
00:58:44.579 --> 00:58:54.539
I just generally, and it's not very often that a very visual thing sticks in my mind, but I actually just think this, like the little one knocking something over a little bit bigger and a little bit bigger.
00:58:54.869 --> 00:59:06.298
I think that actually is a visual I'm really gonna remember and focus on, and being like actually like, yes, it's a chain reaction, but it's also a chain reaction that's gaining power as it goes along.
00:59:07.302 --> 00:59:14.293
Well, I think my takeaway for folks, like I could give you a small thing, a small go thing to go do, but I really think this book is worth reading.
00:59:14.842 --> 00:59:17.123
We said before, it's, it's not a hard read at all.
00:59:17.123 --> 00:59:18.382
It's not that long.
00:59:18.623 --> 00:59:20.952
And it's just, it's good.
00:59:21.132 --> 00:59:26.168
And I think the message was needed on both of our counts it sounds like.
00:59:26.543 --> 00:59:26.784
Yeah.
00:59:26.784 --> 00:59:26.963
I
00:59:26.978 --> 00:59:27.907
Um.
00:59:28.074 --> 00:59:31.523
it, not all the time I think go read the book, but I actually do.
00:59:31.614 --> 00:59:32.304
No, I don't.
00:59:32.364 --> 00:59:35.063
And sometimes they're like, long you like, it's a lot to go through.
00:59:35.153 --> 00:59:44.934
But I think it's a good balance of like practical tips, some good diagrams, a few nice stories, stuff to do like, I think, and not, and it didn't feel too hard to read.
00:59:44.934 --> 00:59:46.043
So I, I think this actually is
00:59:46.088 --> 00:59:46.447
Yeah,
00:59:46.554 --> 00:59:50.244
most people, I can't see anyone not gain anything out of it, even though
00:59:50.438 --> 00:59:51.007
same.
00:59:51.324 --> 00:59:53.844
of reminders, I just think it's done in a nice way.
00:59:54.460 --> 00:59:54.851
Yeah.
00:59:55.581 --> 00:59:57.440
Yeah, that's a good way to put it.
00:59:57.440 --> 00:59:59.751
I can't see anyone not being able to get something out of this.
00:59:59.811 --> 01:00:00.471
I agree with that.
01:00:01.731 --> 01:00:06.621
Okay, Charelle, we just wrapped up our final but club episode together.
01:00:06.740 --> 01:00:08.036
Tell us what's next for you.
01:00:08.036 --> 01:00:12.115
What, what are you going to use this new time for?
01:00:12.115 --> 01:00:20.050
And I'll just plug right now, we did an episode together really digging into Charelle and her her focus moving forward.
01:00:20.050 --> 01:00:22.481
So definitely go listen to our episode together.
01:00:22.510 --> 01:00:23.740
It'll be linked in the show notes.
01:00:24.021 --> 01:00:27.951
It was all about planning for 2026, so that's a great one.
01:00:28.460 --> 01:00:32.630
But tell us what your, tell us what your one thing is going to be.
01:00:32.811 --> 01:00:32.961
thing.
01:00:32.961 --> 01:00:41.302
I still dunno my purpose and I still haven't got my one thing, but you were right about me making a concentrated effort to focus on less.
01:00:41.572 --> 01:00:42.291
So,
01:00:42.471 --> 01:00:42.740
Yeah.
01:00:42.802 --> 01:00:50.632
I am giving, stepping Away from Making Good Book Club, but also I'm stepping away from my own book club that I run for 10 years and Propel
01:00:50.695 --> 01:00:51.115
Mm-hmm.
01:00:51.172 --> 01:00:55.461
so it's very much a moving away from a decade.
01:00:55.882 --> 01:00:56.661
I've been very book.
01:00:58.532 --> 01:00:58.652
And
01:00:58.655 --> 01:00:59.076
Mm-hmm.
01:00:59.371 --> 01:01:03.061
consuming and being like fooling as if I needed to get
01:01:03.215 --> 01:01:03.505
Yeah.
01:01:03.871 --> 01:01:06.061
And I'm like, you know, way, way, way enough now.
01:01:07.626 --> 01:01:07.916
Yeah.
01:01:08.041 --> 01:01:17.431
what you need is more time for implementing, more time for executing and to be focused because, you know, it was still was three things that I was, and everything.
01:01:17.431 --> 01:01:30.992
And I really wanna say this is people that are multi-passionate because I know a lot of people on the podcast, like I had quit for Figuring Out, which was a podcast that I'd had for like two and a half years, and I had this new space in my calendar and the love was like, do you wanna come and do this?
01:01:30.992 --> 01:01:31.742
And I was like, yes.
01:01:31.952 --> 01:01:41.851
And it's so, so tempting and to like, just, you give yourself a bit of space and you try and do like exactly what the book says and then you're like, ah, because you're just not used to it.
01:01:41.972 --> 01:01:42.601
And so
01:01:43.005 --> 01:01:43.425
Mm-hmm.
01:01:43.887 --> 01:01:44.282
and so,
01:01:44.346 --> 01:01:44.615
yeah.
01:01:44.615 --> 01:01:48.335
Sometimes saying No, you're saying no to things you want to do.
01:01:48.577 --> 01:01:48.637
I.
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That's the hard part that I think we don't talk about.
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It's like sometimes it sounds really great and it sounds fun and you want to do it,
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And that,
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so,
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thing, like I'm not stepping away'cause I don't enjoy doing this.
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I'm not stepping away from my own
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Hmm.
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'cause I don't enjoy doing them.
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I could happily continue to do both of them, but actually when I sit down and I look at like the time and the head space for both of them,
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Yeah.
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I, if I really wanna take my business to the next level, I need to try and follow what all the books seem to tell you, which is
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Yes.
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prioritize.
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Yeah.
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yes, so it's just gonna be about me pouring all my time, all my energy into charellegriffith.com.
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I'm very much leaning into planning.
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So as Lauren said, there is a podcast episode on annual planning and I'm really excited to, as if you've listened to the podcast, you'll probably see I'm a very organized person.
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I'm very disciplined.
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I know a lot about planning and I think actually having the conversations with you, Lauren, actually some of them made me really realize how much of their strength.
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had been, I knew it and not,
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Yeah.
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one of the services I'd offered for a long time, but I think I've definitely gained confidence to really try and lean into that now.
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So yeah, so definitely, if you wanna stay in my world, you can come over to my website, charellegriffith.com.
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I've got a newsletter.
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I also am on LinkedIn.
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It's just my name, Charelle Griffith.
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And on Instagram it's just my name.
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I'm super lucky'cause I've got a fairly
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Hmm.
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name, but there's no s on Griffith.
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The last podcast I was on, someone said, do you think you lose loads of people?
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Could you forget to tell people there's no S on Griffith?
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And I was like, oh, I never thought of it.
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So I'm telling people now, um, I'm like, okay.
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And yeah.
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And so I'm gonna be leading much more into planning, so you're gonna see much more me talking about annual planning, quarterly planning, just strategic business planning in general and just trying to help people be super organized so they get the results and business they really want.
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And totally right.
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I'm sure loving
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Yeah.
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crazy, does it?
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Not at all.
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It sounds like exactly how it should be.
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Yeah.
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And so I'm super excited.
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But definitely,'cause obviously I know this is a very American audience.
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There are some things in the pipeline for next year that I'm like looking at new virtual things and the time difference thing you're talking about.
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There's some stuff that I've got like planned, so I'm definitely looking to, like, I wanna help more and more business owners so things will be changing.
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So even if right now you feel I'm very British, it's not gonna be for long, that's for sure.
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No, and I've learned so much like I'm American and I've learned a lot from you.
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When I think about planning, like you are the person who comes to mind.
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So it sounds exactly right.
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And I am very excited to continue following along.
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I know we'll continue to have you back on the podcast because whether it's about a book or about your own expertise, like I love chatting with you and you always have a ton of value to offer.
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So, but thank you again for everything.
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I know it's been such a commitment and.
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It's been such a blast to get to talk with you every month and talk books and geek out.
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So, I know on behalf of all of our book club folks, just a huge thank you.
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thank you.
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I've really, really enjoyed it.
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I'm definitely going to miss it, so I'm sure I'll end up going back'cause I'll be like, I want do something.
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This space on my
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do books.
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I meant to do with it.
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Yeah.
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What do I do at 5:00 PM on Wednesdays every month.
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Well, thank you Charelle, for this great conversation about the one thing and for the dozens of other books we've covered.
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Yeah, I'll, I'll make sure that all the links to all you've got going on, your socials, your website newsletter, all the stuff is in the show notes.
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But yes, for one last time, thank you so much for joining me on this episode of Making Good Book Club.
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having me.
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All right, so there you have our conversation all about the one thing.
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Did you enjoy it?
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What were your takeaways?
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DM us on Instagram and let us know your thoughts.
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We would love to chat.
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I am@laurentilden and Charelle is@charellegriffith.
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Huge, huge, huge thanks to Charelle for four years of making good Book Club.
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It has been such a treat to cover all of these books with you, Charelle, and I am so grateful for the time, energy, thought, and tension that you've put into this.
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And listener.
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We have lots of book club episodes, dozens on so many different books that really will make a difference for your small business.
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Head to making good podcast.com to see all of our previous episodes.
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And so for the first time ever, I am not announcing a book for next month on the book club because that was Shell's last book club episode and possibly the last one forever, TBD.
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But I wanna hear from you.
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Do you listen to, do you love these book club episodes?
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Please DM me on Instagram and let's.
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Chat, I am totally open to continuing.
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If there is enough demand, I really want to hear from you.
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