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Have you ever believed you're only worthy of attention when you're performing and perfect?
What if the thing you fear your kid will inherit is the exact thing you've never worked through yourself?
Tori Kelly, a Grammy-winning vocalist who's been sharing her voice with the world since she was a kid, sits down with Miles for a conversation about identity, motherhood, and what happens when the performance stops.
Tori opens up about growing up in a mixed-race householdwhere she often felt othered, getting signed at 12 and "shelved" before she'd lived enough life to have something to say, and the lie she quietly believed for years: that she wasn't worthy of attention unless she was singing. She talks about touring stadiums with Ed Sheeran while pregnant, writing her new album, God Must Really Love Me, in two weeks while holding her newborn son, and why his first cry made the record.
Tori and Miles go deep into the perfectionism she traces back to her earliest days on stage, the phone cleanses she uses to fight comparison, and why motherhood has made her want her son to see her mess up, say sorry, and be human. Miles shares a mentor's metaphor about gratitude that reframes how you see whatever you're circling right now, and Tori tells the story of the drive where the phrase "God must really love me" came out of her mouth before it became an album title.
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In this conversation, you'll learn:
- How to Trace Perfectionism Back to the Stage Instead of the Story You Tell Yourself
- How to Stop Performing for Approval and Start ActuallyFeeling It
- How Becoming a Parent Can Break a Pattern You Didn't Know You Were Repeating
- How to Use a Phone Cleanse to Get Your Voice Back FromComparison
- How to Write an Album in Two Weeks Once You Stop Editing Yourself
- How to Let Your Kids Watch You Mess Up on Purpose
- How to Reframe a Career "Setback" as the Setup for Something Better
- How Growing Up Feeling "Othered" Shapes the Way You Tell the Truth Later
- How to Turn Gratitude Into a Practice Instead of a Mood
- How to Know the Difference Between Being a Vocalist andBeing Yourself
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What We Discuss:
00:00:00 – Meet Tori Kelly
00:01:51 – Her Grand Ole Opry Debut, One Night Before ThisConversation
00:05:34 – Genre-less on Purpose
00:08:41 – The Vocalist Everyone Expects, the Storyteller She's Becoming
00:10:51 – The Soundtrack of Her Childhood
00:12:43 – Signed at 12 & Promised the World
00:23:05 – A Career Built on Slow Builds, Not Big Breaks
00:28:24 – How Becoming a Mom Rewired Her as an Artist
00:29:24 – Touring Stadiums With Ed Sheeran While Pregnant
00:31:13 – What Motherhood Cracked Open
00:36:29 – She Doesn't Want Her Son Thinking He Has to BePerfect
00:38:46 – Tracing Her Perfectionism Back to the Root
00:40:59 – How Approval Got Tangled Up With Her Voice
00:47:31 – The Phone Cleanse That Gave Her Mind Back
00:56:06 – The Story Behind "God Must Really Love Me"
01:01:46 – The Vulture Metaphor: Reframing Gratitude
01:04:41 – Congruence, Not Perfection
01:09:25 – Her Husband and Life on Tour
01:13:34 – Ending on the Only Line That Fits
