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She asks how you feel about something that matters — and your mind goes blank. Completely empty. You've got a hundred things you want to say, and you tell yourself it's fine, you don't need to say any of it. So you give her nothing.
In this episode I break down what's actually happening in your nervous system when you shut down. It isn't weakness, and it isn't a lack of feeling — it's a protection strategy you built long before this relationship.
You'll learn the belief that keeps you numb, why your silence reads as abandonment to her, and the five steps I used to come back out — catch it, ground it, name it, say it, and build the capacity.
This is episode 3 of the Avoidant Men series.
chapters:
00:00 Why You Go Quiet When It Matters Most
00:54 The Deer In The Headlights Moment
01:29 I Lost My Voice — How I Destroyed 3 Relationships
02:49 The Belief That Keeps You Numb: "Your Feelings Are Too Much"
05:11 Where It Comes From — Emotional Neglect
07:37 The Damage: To You, To Her, To The Relationship
09:00 The New Belief: Your Feelings Do Matter
10:00 I Used To Lie To Avoid Her Tears
12:22 1. Catch It — Notice The Shutdown
12:50 2. Ground & Breathe — Regulate Your System
13:25 3. Name It — "I Feel Numb / Tight Chest"
14:10 4. Say What's Happening — Speak The Struggle
15:15 5. Build Capacity Daily — Like Learning A Language
16:00 6 & 7. Safe Spaces & Why Mistakes Are The Practice
17:06 Where To Go From Here
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