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Hi there. How are you? So it's 4 p.m. on Wednesday.
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I should have published a podcast episode and sent a newsletter a few hours
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ago, and I'm writing them now instead, which means that you will get them one
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day later than expected.
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Why have I been dilly-dallying? I'm asking myself.
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Usually, I am kind of the queen of following through. I decide I'm going to
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do something and I just do it.
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But of course, following through isn't always easy. And that's actually been
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the subject of several conversations I've had recently.
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And it is also what most of my clients struggle with. in fact.
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They are amazing, brilliant human beings, so why do they get stuck?
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And why you and I get stuck too? Well, of course, there can be so many reasons.
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So why don't we use my own example to identify a few?
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To start, let me share what's happening to me.
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First, since my partner and I adopted that cute fluffy rescue dog one month
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ago, my routines are all over the place and I am freaking tired.
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Second, I have been working on repositioning my work and my offerings and I
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can't seem to stop focusing on that.
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It feels exciting and novel, and it matters to me a lot, because as I've learned
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from Teresa Sullivan, positioning is about the presence you have in the hearts
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and minds of your people,
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and I want to make sure I am showing up in the most helpful, valuable way.
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Plus, I am curious about what I will uncover, and I am also eager to get it
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over with so I can start a new cycle in my business.
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Okay, so now let's analyze those two main things happening to me. What do they tell us?
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So for starters, they remind us that it takes time to build routines.
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And even if they work well, when they fall through, it's hard to get back to
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them, especially if they haven't been in place for a long time.
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And also building new ones requires energy, which leads me to the second part
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of the first thing happening. I am freaking tired.
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And when we are tired, of course, we need to save energy.
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We revert back to the path of least resistance. And my writing routine isn't part of that yet.
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It hadn't had enough time to become second nature.
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Then novelty, meaning, and the need for completion are driving my focus away from everything else.
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It's very hard to compete with this kind of quote-unquote hyperfocus It makes
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switching tasks and contexts complex,
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And everything is made even more challenging by the fact that I am tired.
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So to recap, in my situation, it's about capacity, systems, and how my mind works.
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But of course, those are just a handful of reasons why following through can
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sometimes feel impossible, even when we care about the work we want to build,
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the ideas we want to turn into reality, or the conversations we want to have.
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It can be about fear, it can be about confusion, or utter depletion, or many other factors.
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And that's exactly why I do not believe in cookie cutter solutions.
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You know, the ultimate hacks, formulas, or blueprints really,
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truly, incredibly irk me.
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Because there is no single way of doing things that works for everybody.
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What works instead is identifying your specific reason for not following through
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and finding a way to work with it.
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Maybe even embracing it rather than fighting against it.
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And a pinch of self-compassion never hurts. No one will die if we're missing
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a deadline above all a self-imposed one.
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But also, you will need to reconnect with the meaning, the why behind the thing
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that you want to follow through on.
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And then you have to find your way to
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Actually do the thing, if that's what you want, of course.
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So, this episode matters to me a lot.
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It is my way to nurture our connection, offer you a space to reflect and spark
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action, and offer myself a space to build my body of work.
00:05:43.549 --> 00:05:48.149
So, here I am, creating it, even though I just missed the deadline.
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I picked up my laptop, sat in bed where I tend to feel safer and allowed myself
00:05:55.289 --> 00:05:57.549
to start with just a few words.
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You know, I told myself, okay, if I can't keep going, if what I'm writing won't
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make sense, I'll just stop.
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But I kept going because starting without pressuring myself is what usually helps me break through.
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So as you can see, this is my awareness, my why, my way to get unstuck and my
00:06:17.120 --> 00:06:18.640
self-compassion at work.
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And I know it can sound like a formula, right? But until you make it actually
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yours, it won't work its magic.
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So what's your relationship with following through? Is it hard for you or does it come easily?
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What prevents you from following through and what helps you instead?
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Are your actions always rooted in your why or do you sometimes just keep going out of habit,
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Take some time to ponder these questions and see if any good insights emerge.
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I would love to hear what comes up for you, so feel free to reach out or come
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join me at the October Compass Circle to talk about it.
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You know, the circle is a free Zoom gathering on Fridays around the new moon
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where we use an Oracle spread to help you clarify what you want to create in
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the new cycle of your work, what can help you take action, and what your next step is.
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And then we share in the circle to get even more insights and inspiration.
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So the next one is on October 9th at 11 a.m. Central Time, and you will find
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the link show notes, and I really hope to see you there.
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Well, thank you so much for spending some time with me today.
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I will see you in the next episode.
00:00:46.080 --> 00:00:51.110
Hi there. How are you? So it's 4 p.m. on Wednesday.
00:00:51.680 --> 00:00:55.780
I should have published a podcast episode and sent a newsletter a few hours
00:00:55.780 --> 00:01:02.260
ago, and I'm writing them now instead, which means that you will get them one
00:01:02.260 --> 00:01:03.960
day later than expected.
00:01:04.549 --> 00:01:08.849
Why have I been dilly-dallying? I'm asking myself.
00:01:09.540 --> 00:01:15.070
Usually, I am kind of the queen of following through. I decide I'm going to
00:01:15.070 --> 00:01:17.270
do something and I just do it.
00:01:17.750 --> 00:01:21.920
But of course, following through isn't always easy. And that's actually been
00:01:21.920 --> 00:01:26.190
the subject of several conversations I've had recently.
00:01:26.829 --> 00:01:31.249
And it is also what most of my clients struggle with. in fact.
00:01:31.970 --> 00:01:38.690
They are amazing, brilliant human beings, so why do they get stuck?
00:01:39.390 --> 00:01:44.920
And why you and I get stuck too? Well, of course, there can be so many reasons.
00:01:45.490 --> 00:01:50.090
So why don't we use my own example to identify a few?
00:01:50.780 --> 00:01:53.700
To start, let me share what's happening to me.
00:01:54.440 --> 00:02:01.430
First, since my partner and I adopted that cute fluffy rescue dog one month
00:02:01.430 --> 00:02:08.600
ago, my routines are all over the place and I am freaking tired.
00:02:10.169 --> 00:02:16.669
Second, I have been working on repositioning my work and my offerings and I
00:02:16.669 --> 00:02:18.979
can't seem to stop focusing on that.
00:02:19.700 --> 00:02:27.740
It feels exciting and novel, and it matters to me a lot, because as I've learned
00:02:27.740 --> 00:02:33.110
from Teresa Sullivan, positioning is about the presence you have in the hearts
00:02:33.110 --> 00:02:34.620
and minds of your people,
00:02:35.090 --> 00:02:39.540
and I want to make sure I am showing up in the most helpful, valuable way.
00:02:40.219 --> 00:02:45.979
Plus, I am curious about what I will uncover, and I am also eager to get it
00:02:45.979 --> 00:02:49.809
over with so I can start a new cycle in my business.
00:02:50.480 --> 00:02:56.390
Okay, so now let's analyze those two main things happening to me. What do they tell us?
00:02:56.980 --> 00:03:02.100
So for starters, they remind us that it takes time to build routines.
00:03:02.500 --> 00:03:07.170
And even if they work well, when they fall through, it's hard to get back to
00:03:07.170 --> 00:03:11.490
them, especially if they haven't been in place for a long time.
00:03:12.100 --> 00:03:18.039
And also building new ones requires energy, which leads me to the second part
00:03:18.039 --> 00:03:21.359
of the first thing happening. I am freaking tired.
00:03:21.789 --> 00:03:25.149
And when we are tired, of course, we need to save energy.
00:03:25.459 --> 00:03:31.609
We revert back to the path of least resistance. And my writing routine isn't part of that yet.
00:03:32.229 --> 00:03:36.329
It hadn't had enough time to become second nature.
00:03:37.000 --> 00:03:45.479
Then novelty, meaning, and the need for completion are driving my focus away from everything else.
00:03:46.190 --> 00:03:52.550
It's very hard to compete with this kind of quote-unquote hyperfocus It makes
00:03:52.550 --> 00:03:56.080
switching tasks and contexts complex,
00:03:56.740 --> 00:04:01.420
And everything is made even more challenging by the fact that I am tired.
00:04:02.150 --> 00:04:09.330
So to recap, in my situation, it's about capacity, systems, and how my mind works.
00:04:09.979 --> 00:04:13.579
But of course, those are just a handful of reasons why following through can
00:04:13.579 --> 00:04:18.489
sometimes feel impossible, even when we care about the work we want to build,
00:04:18.829 --> 00:04:24.179
the ideas we want to turn into reality, or the conversations we want to have.
00:04:24.569 --> 00:04:31.169
It can be about fear, it can be about confusion, or utter depletion, or many other factors.
00:04:31.800 --> 00:04:35.940
And that's exactly why I do not believe in cookie cutter solutions.
00:04:36.370 --> 00:04:40.870
You know, the ultimate hacks, formulas, or blueprints really,
00:04:41.190 --> 00:04:43.780
truly, incredibly irk me.
00:04:44.270 --> 00:04:49.150
Because there is no single way of doing things that works for everybody.
00:04:49.840 --> 00:04:54.980
What works instead is identifying your specific reason for not following through
00:04:55.340 --> 00:04:57.980
and finding a way to work with it.
00:04:58.310 --> 00:05:02.170
Maybe even embracing it rather than fighting against it.
00:05:02.739 --> 00:05:08.109
And a pinch of self-compassion never hurts. No one will die if we're missing
00:05:08.109 --> 00:05:10.779
a deadline above all a self-imposed one.
00:05:11.379 --> 00:05:16.389
But also, you will need to reconnect with the meaning, the why behind the thing
00:05:16.389 --> 00:05:18.179
that you want to follow through on.
00:05:18.709 --> 00:05:20.549
And then you have to find your way to
00:05:21.249 --> 00:05:25.249
Actually do the thing, if that's what you want, of course.
00:05:25.900 --> 00:05:29.679
So, this episode matters to me a lot.
00:05:30.099 --> 00:05:38.389
It is my way to nurture our connection, offer you a space to reflect and spark
00:05:38.389 --> 00:05:43.099
action, and offer myself a space to build my body of work.
00:05:43.549 --> 00:05:48.149
So, here I am, creating it, even though I just missed the deadline.
00:05:48.759 --> 00:05:55.289
I picked up my laptop, sat in bed where I tend to feel safer and allowed myself
00:05:55.289 --> 00:05:57.549
to start with just a few words.
00:05:58.139 --> 00:06:02.289
You know, I told myself, okay, if I can't keep going, if what I'm writing won't
00:06:02.289 --> 00:06:03.809
make sense, I'll just stop.
00:06:04.259 --> 00:06:10.159
But I kept going because starting without pressuring myself is what usually helps me break through.
00:06:10.790 --> 00:06:17.120
So as you can see, this is my awareness, my why, my way to get unstuck and my
00:06:17.120 --> 00:06:18.640
self-compassion at work.
00:06:19.200 --> 00:06:25.540
And I know it can sound like a formula, right? But until you make it actually
00:06:25.540 --> 00:06:28.200
yours, it won't work its magic.
00:06:28.860 --> 00:06:35.220
So what's your relationship with following through? Is it hard for you or does it come easily?
00:06:35.799 --> 00:06:40.269
What prevents you from following through and what helps you instead?
00:06:40.989 --> 00:06:47.729
Are your actions always rooted in your why or do you sometimes just keep going out of habit,
00:06:48.630 --> 00:06:54.080
Take some time to ponder these questions and see if any good insights emerge.
00:06:54.689 --> 00:06:59.499
I would love to hear what comes up for you, so feel free to reach out or come
00:06:59.499 --> 00:07:03.109
join me at the October Compass Circle to talk about it.
00:07:03.750 --> 00:07:08.330
You know, the circle is a free Zoom gathering on Fridays around the new moon
00:07:08.720 --> 00:07:14.350
where we use an Oracle spread to help you clarify what you want to create in
00:07:14.350 --> 00:07:20.920
the new cycle of your work, what can help you take action, and what your next step is.
00:07:21.350 --> 00:07:25.520
And then we share in the circle to get even more insights and inspiration.
00:07:26.050 --> 00:07:31.880
So the next one is on October 9th at 11 a.m. Central Time, and you will find
00:07:31.880 --> 00:07:34.850
the link show notes, and I really hope to see you there.
00:07:35.490 --> 00:07:39.290
Well, thank you so much for spending some time with me today.
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I will see you in the next episode.
