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Chapter 7.
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Maintaining Confidence in Yourself It's easy to lose confidence in yourself.
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We all have off days and have had moments where we don't feel our best, but it's important to remember that these moments are just a part of life and they don't define who you are as a person or an athlete.
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It's also important to remember that your confidence is something that you have to work on every day.
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When it comes to winning, Marc Messier knows a thing or two.
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A six-time Stanley Cup champion, Messier is the second most prolific playoff point scorer of all time.
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He's also a two-time most valuable player in the NHL, a 15-time All-Star, and the only person to ever captain two different teams to Stanley Cup Championships.
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The Edmonton Oilers, even after the departure of his great friend Wayne Gretzky and the New York Rangers.
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Simply put, Messier is a winner.
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But he's also so much more than that.
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He's a leader, a motivator, and an inspiration to everyone who has ever had the privilege of playing with him or watching him play.
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He is the epitome of class, competitiveness, and character.
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In other words, he's everything you want in a hockey player and more.
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So it's no wonder that when it comes to winning, Marc Messier is always at the top of his game.
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But even players as prolific as Messier struggle with confidence.
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Everyone struggles with developing and maintaining confidence.
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Quote, even at the peak of my career, I would struggle at times.
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I was fortunate enough that we had sports psychology seminars at a very early age, basically the first year of my career when I was 18 years old.
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I kept it with me my whole career.
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End quote.
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Messier then continued, Self-confidence is huge and a big part of that is self-talk.
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When things aren't going well, not to be negative, you have to figure out what went wrong so you're able to move on from any failure.
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End quote.
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Confidence comes from within.
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Confidence is a state of mind that allows you to trust yourself and your abilities.
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When you are confident, you feel good about yourself and your abilities, and this inner feeling shows through in your interactions with others.
00:02:32.240 --> 00:02:37.360
Maintaining confidence can be challenging, especially when things don't go your way.
00:02:37.599 --> 00:02:42.879
However, it is important to remember that everyone experiences setbacks and failures.
00:02:43.039 --> 00:02:45.439
What matters is how you respond to them.
00:02:45.599 --> 00:02:49.280
But here are some ways to maintain confidence in yourself.
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Believe in yourself.
00:02:51.199 --> 00:02:57.759
This may sound like common sense, but it is important to remind yourself that you are capable and competent.
00:02:58.000 --> 00:03:05.439
When you catch yourself doubting your abilities, reframe your thinking and remind yourself of your past successes.
00:03:05.759 --> 00:03:06.800
Be prepared.
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One way to build confidence is to be prepared for whatever situation you find yourself in.
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If you know what to expect and you are ready for it, you will feel more confident and less likely to be thrown off by unexpected challenges.
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Practice.
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Another way to build confidence is to practice.
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If you can master a skill or task through repetition, you will feel more confident when it comes time to use that skill or perform that task in a real-world setting.
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Be positive.
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Confidence is also linked to your outlook on life.
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If you focus on the negative, you will tend to see yourself in a negative light.
00:03:46.000 --> 00:03:52.560
However, if you focus on the positive, you will be more likely to see yourself in a positive light.
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Keep learning.
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Finally, one of the best ways to maintain confidence is to keep learning.
00:03:59.199 --> 00:04:05.520
When you are constantly learning and expanding your knowledge base, you will feel more confident in your abilities.
00:04:05.759 --> 00:04:09.840
Maintaining confidence is something that you have to work on every day.
00:04:10.000 --> 00:04:16.160
It doesn't come naturally to everyone, and even the most successful people have to work at it.
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In the face of defeat, maintain confidence and preserve.
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This is a quality that all great athletes possess.
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When they lose, they don't let it get them down.
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They use it as motivation to come back stronger than next time.
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Michael Jordan said, quote, I've missed more than 9,000 shots in my career.
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I've lost almost 300 games.
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26 times I've been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed.
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I've failed over and over and over again in my life, and that is why I succeed.
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End quote.
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The same goes for life in general.
00:04:54.399 --> 00:04:59.279
When you're facing tough times, maintain confidence in yourself and don't give up.
00:04:59.519 --> 00:05:05.360
Remember, success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.
00:05:05.600 --> 00:05:07.759
So keep at it and don't give up.
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Confidence is the key to success.
00:05:10.639 --> 00:05:15.759
Look back at the mindsets you want to work on from the self-assessment.
00:05:16.000 --> 00:05:20.639
Think about any negative self-talk that causes you to doubt yourself.
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What steps can you take to improve self-confidence and how can you incorporate those in your daily habits and rituals?
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Overcome adversity.
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Any difficult situation or event that causes emotional pain or difficulty.
00:05:36.959 --> 00:05:44.240
Adversity can come in many different forms, such as personal loss, illness, or financial hardship.
00:05:44.399 --> 00:05:50.480
It can be tough to get through tough times, but it is also important to remember that you are not alone.
00:05:50.720 --> 00:05:54.319
Many people have faced and overcome adversity.
00:05:54.560 --> 00:05:56.639
Lean on your support system.
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When you're going through tough times, it is important to lean on your support system.
00:06:01.680 --> 00:06:05.839
This can include family, friends, or a professional counselor.
00:06:06.240 --> 00:06:11.600
These people can offer you love, comfort, and practical help when you need it most.
00:06:11.759 --> 00:06:18.879
Messier said, Everybody needs help no matter what position you're in, no matter where you are in life.
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The biggest thing to come out of all of this is that there's no shame in admitting any problem and seeking help and seeking help has been very productive and helpful for a lot of folks.
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End quote.
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While it may feel like the end of the world, it is important to remember that there are people who have it worse off than you.
00:06:41.920 --> 00:06:49.600
This doesn't minimize your own pain, but it can help you put things into perspective and give you some perspective of your own.
00:06:49.839 --> 00:06:55.199
Finally, one of the best ways to deal with adversity is to find a positive outlet.
00:06:55.360 --> 00:07:02.160
This can be anything from writing in a journal to taking up a new hobby to giving your all on the field.
00:07:02.480 --> 00:07:06.800
Doing something that makes you happy can help you get through tough times.
00:07:06.959 --> 00:07:12.079
No one is immune to adversity, but how you deal with it matters the most.
00:07:12.319 --> 00:07:17.600
Take a moment and think of what types of adversity you're facing right now.
00:07:18.560 --> 00:07:22.800
Now take a moment to reflect upon how it makes you feel.
00:07:23.199 --> 00:07:28.079
When you're going through a tough time, it is important to accept how you feel.
00:07:28.319 --> 00:07:33.120
Don't try to bottle up your emotions because that will only make things worse.
00:07:33.360 --> 00:07:40.000
Accept that you are feeling pain, sadness, or anger, and allow yourself to feel those emotions.
00:07:40.240 --> 00:07:43.439
It is also important to remember that you are not alone.
00:07:43.680 --> 00:07:46.800
Many people have faced and overcome adversity.
00:07:46.959 --> 00:07:52.079
There is no shame in admitting that you need help and seeking help can be very productive.
00:07:52.399 --> 00:07:54.800
Embrace the feeling of adversity.
00:07:54.959 --> 00:07:59.360
It can be tough, but it is also a sign that you are alive.
00:07:59.600 --> 00:08:05.360
Feeling pain means that you care about something and that you are invested in your life.
00:08:05.519 --> 00:08:09.279
Don't try to numb yourself to the feeling of adversity.
00:08:09.519 --> 00:08:14.240
Instead, embrace it and use it as motivation to become stronger.
00:08:14.480 --> 00:08:17.600
Use this feeling of adversity to your advantage.
00:08:17.759 --> 00:08:22.720
It can be a powerful motivator to push yourself harder and achieve your goals.
00:08:22.959 --> 00:08:26.639
Let it motivate you to become the best version of yourself.
00:08:26.800 --> 00:08:33.519
Take a moment and think about how you can channel your feelings into motivation to achieve your goals.
00:08:34.639 --> 00:08:39.440
Now take a moment to think about what lessons you can take from your experience.
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How can you use these lessons to become a better person?
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Chapter 7.
00:00:01.120 --> 00:00:06.240
Maintaining Confidence in Yourself It's easy to lose confidence in yourself.
00:00:06.480 --> 00:00:19.600
We all have off days and have had moments where we don't feel our best, but it's important to remember that these moments are just a part of life and they don't define who you are as a person or an athlete.
00:00:19.760 --> 00:00:25.359
It's also important to remember that your confidence is something that you have to work on every day.
00:00:25.519 --> 00:00:29.679
When it comes to winning, Marc Messier knows a thing or two.
00:00:29.920 --> 00:00:37.200
A six-time Stanley Cup champion, Messier is the second most prolific playoff point scorer of all time.
00:00:37.359 --> 00:00:49.200
He's also a two-time most valuable player in the NHL, a 15-time All-Star, and the only person to ever captain two different teams to Stanley Cup Championships.
00:00:49.439 --> 00:00:55.920
The Edmonton Oilers, even after the departure of his great friend Wayne Gretzky and the New York Rangers.
00:00:56.079 --> 00:00:59.039
Simply put, Messier is a winner.
00:00:59.200 --> 00:01:01.359
But he's also so much more than that.
00:01:01.520 --> 00:01:10.239
He's a leader, a motivator, and an inspiration to everyone who has ever had the privilege of playing with him or watching him play.
00:01:10.400 --> 00:01:14.400
He is the epitome of class, competitiveness, and character.
00:01:14.640 --> 00:01:18.959
In other words, he's everything you want in a hockey player and more.
00:01:19.200 --> 00:01:25.599
So it's no wonder that when it comes to winning, Marc Messier is always at the top of his game.
00:01:25.760 --> 00:01:29.760
But even players as prolific as Messier struggle with confidence.
00:01:29.920 --> 00:01:33.359
Everyone struggles with developing and maintaining confidence.
00:01:33.599 --> 00:01:38.000
Quote, even at the peak of my career, I would struggle at times.
00:01:38.159 --> 00:01:48.000
I was fortunate enough that we had sports psychology seminars at a very early age, basically the first year of my career when I was 18 years old.
00:01:48.159 --> 00:01:50.480
I kept it with me my whole career.
00:01:50.719 --> 00:01:51.359
End quote.
00:01:51.599 --> 00:01:57.680
Messier then continued, Self-confidence is huge and a big part of that is self-talk.
00:01:57.840 --> 00:02:07.359
When things aren't going well, not to be negative, you have to figure out what went wrong so you're able to move on from any failure.
00:02:07.599 --> 00:02:08.560
End quote.
00:02:15.360 --> 00:02:17.439
Confidence comes from within.
00:02:17.680 --> 00:02:23.120
Confidence is a state of mind that allows you to trust yourself and your abilities.
00:02:23.280 --> 00:02:32.000
When you are confident, you feel good about yourself and your abilities, and this inner feeling shows through in your interactions with others.
00:02:32.240 --> 00:02:37.360
Maintaining confidence can be challenging, especially when things don't go your way.
00:02:37.599 --> 00:02:42.879
However, it is important to remember that everyone experiences setbacks and failures.
00:02:43.039 --> 00:02:45.439
What matters is how you respond to them.
00:02:45.599 --> 00:02:49.280
But here are some ways to maintain confidence in yourself.
00:02:49.520 --> 00:02:50.960
Believe in yourself.
00:02:51.199 --> 00:02:57.759
This may sound like common sense, but it is important to remind yourself that you are capable and competent.
00:02:58.000 --> 00:03:05.439
When you catch yourself doubting your abilities, reframe your thinking and remind yourself of your past successes.
00:03:05.759 --> 00:03:06.800
Be prepared.
00:03:07.039 --> 00:03:12.639
One way to build confidence is to be prepared for whatever situation you find yourself in.
00:03:12.879 --> 00:03:21.039
If you know what to expect and you are ready for it, you will feel more confident and less likely to be thrown off by unexpected challenges.
00:03:21.360 --> 00:03:22.159
Practice.
00:03:22.400 --> 00:03:25.520
Another way to build confidence is to practice.
00:03:25.680 --> 00:03:35.840
If you can master a skill or task through repetition, you will feel more confident when it comes time to use that skill or perform that task in a real-world setting.
00:03:36.159 --> 00:03:36.879
Be positive.
00:03:37.360 --> 00:03:40.879
Confidence is also linked to your outlook on life.
00:03:41.120 --> 00:03:45.759
If you focus on the negative, you will tend to see yourself in a negative light.
00:03:46.000 --> 00:03:52.560
However, if you focus on the positive, you will be more likely to see yourself in a positive light.
00:03:52.879 --> 00:03:54.319
Keep learning.
00:03:54.639 --> 00:03:59.039
Finally, one of the best ways to maintain confidence is to keep learning.
00:03:59.199 --> 00:04:05.520
When you are constantly learning and expanding your knowledge base, you will feel more confident in your abilities.
00:04:05.759 --> 00:04:09.840
Maintaining confidence is something that you have to work on every day.
00:04:10.000 --> 00:04:16.160
It doesn't come naturally to everyone, and even the most successful people have to work at it.
00:04:16.399 --> 00:04:20.399
In the face of defeat, maintain confidence and preserve.
00:04:20.639 --> 00:04:23.680
This is a quality that all great athletes possess.
00:04:23.920 --> 00:04:26.879
When they lose, they don't let it get them down.
00:04:27.040 --> 00:04:30.879
They use it as motivation to come back stronger than next time.
00:04:31.120 --> 00:04:37.120
Michael Jordan said, quote, I've missed more than 9,000 shots in my career.
00:04:37.279 --> 00:04:39.839
I've lost almost 300 games.
00:04:40.079 --> 00:04:44.879
26 times I've been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed.
00:04:45.040 --> 00:04:50.720
I've failed over and over and over again in my life, and that is why I succeed.
00:04:50.959 --> 00:04:51.759
End quote.
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The same goes for life in general.
00:04:54.399 --> 00:04:59.279
When you're facing tough times, maintain confidence in yourself and don't give up.
00:04:59.519 --> 00:05:05.360
Remember, success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.
00:05:05.600 --> 00:05:07.759
So keep at it and don't give up.
00:05:08.000 --> 00:05:10.399
Confidence is the key to success.
00:05:10.639 --> 00:05:15.759
Look back at the mindsets you want to work on from the self-assessment.
00:05:16.000 --> 00:05:20.639
Think about any negative self-talk that causes you to doubt yourself.
00:05:20.800 --> 00:05:28.240
What steps can you take to improve self-confidence and how can you incorporate those in your daily habits and rituals?
00:05:28.480 --> 00:05:30.480
Overcome adversity.
00:05:32.079 --> 00:05:36.800
Any difficult situation or event that causes emotional pain or difficulty.
00:05:36.959 --> 00:05:44.240
Adversity can come in many different forms, such as personal loss, illness, or financial hardship.
00:05:44.399 --> 00:05:50.480
It can be tough to get through tough times, but it is also important to remember that you are not alone.
00:05:50.720 --> 00:05:54.319
Many people have faced and overcome adversity.
00:05:54.560 --> 00:05:56.639
Lean on your support system.
00:05:56.959 --> 00:06:01.519
When you're going through tough times, it is important to lean on your support system.
00:06:01.680 --> 00:06:05.839
This can include family, friends, or a professional counselor.
00:06:06.240 --> 00:06:11.600
These people can offer you love, comfort, and practical help when you need it most.
00:06:11.759 --> 00:06:18.879
Messier said, Everybody needs help no matter what position you're in, no matter where you are in life.
00:06:19.120 --> 00:06:30.240
The biggest thing to come out of all of this is that there's no shame in admitting any problem and seeking help and seeking help has been very productive and helpful for a lot of folks.
00:06:30.480 --> 00:06:31.279
End quote.
00:06:34.560 --> 00:06:41.759
While it may feel like the end of the world, it is important to remember that there are people who have it worse off than you.
00:06:41.920 --> 00:06:49.600
This doesn't minimize your own pain, but it can help you put things into perspective and give you some perspective of your own.
00:06:49.839 --> 00:06:55.199
Finally, one of the best ways to deal with adversity is to find a positive outlet.
00:06:55.360 --> 00:07:02.160
This can be anything from writing in a journal to taking up a new hobby to giving your all on the field.
00:07:02.480 --> 00:07:06.800
Doing something that makes you happy can help you get through tough times.
00:07:06.959 --> 00:07:12.079
No one is immune to adversity, but how you deal with it matters the most.
00:07:12.319 --> 00:07:17.600
Take a moment and think of what types of adversity you're facing right now.
00:07:18.560 --> 00:07:22.800
Now take a moment to reflect upon how it makes you feel.
00:07:23.199 --> 00:07:28.079
When you're going through a tough time, it is important to accept how you feel.
00:07:28.319 --> 00:07:33.120
Don't try to bottle up your emotions because that will only make things worse.
00:07:33.360 --> 00:07:40.000
Accept that you are feeling pain, sadness, or anger, and allow yourself to feel those emotions.
00:07:40.240 --> 00:07:43.439
It is also important to remember that you are not alone.
00:07:43.680 --> 00:07:46.800
Many people have faced and overcome adversity.
00:07:46.959 --> 00:07:52.079
There is no shame in admitting that you need help and seeking help can be very productive.
00:07:52.399 --> 00:07:54.800
Embrace the feeling of adversity.
00:07:54.959 --> 00:07:59.360
It can be tough, but it is also a sign that you are alive.
00:07:59.600 --> 00:08:05.360
Feeling pain means that you care about something and that you are invested in your life.
00:08:05.519 --> 00:08:09.279
Don't try to numb yourself to the feeling of adversity.
00:08:09.519 --> 00:08:14.240
Instead, embrace it and use it as motivation to become stronger.
00:08:14.480 --> 00:08:17.600
Use this feeling of adversity to your advantage.
00:08:17.759 --> 00:08:22.720
It can be a powerful motivator to push yourself harder and achieve your goals.
00:08:22.959 --> 00:08:26.639
Let it motivate you to become the best version of yourself.
00:08:26.800 --> 00:08:33.519
Take a moment and think about how you can channel your feelings into motivation to achieve your goals.
00:08:34.639 --> 00:08:39.440
Now take a moment to think about what lessons you can take from your experience.
00:08:39.600 --> 00:08:42.720
How can you use these lessons to become a better person?
