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Virgin.
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Beauty.
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Bitch.
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Podcast.
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Inspiring women to overcome social stereotypes and share unique life experiences without fear
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of being defiantly different.
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Your hosts, Christopher and Heather.
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Let's talk, shall we?
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Even your average therapist, Guru or coach will tell you that you are born with everything
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you need to thrive.
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But your tribe will program you to focus on the things that guarantee your struggle and
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your failure.
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Adoration, massive wealth, material success and power over others.
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They sound so obvious like the happiness we're searching for.
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But our guest today has been there, done that, and found a different truth.
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We welcome Daune Thompson to Virgin Beauty Bitch.
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Thank you so much.
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I appreciate you having me.
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It's a pleasure.
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Thank you for doing this.
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Now Daune, Heather, and I have declared 2026 the Year of the Bitch.
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It's the evolution of a word used to punish women, transformed into an archetype for women's
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self-development and personal growth through five powerful themes.
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Betrayal, Identity, Trust, Change, and Healing, B-I-T-C-H.
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All important steps I'm sure will touch on today.
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It's starting with B, Betrayl, which is a process of being conditioned from childhood to overwrite
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our own innate sense of self and trust instead that happiness in the world comes through
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what we can possess on the outside, not what we are on the inside.
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And no one born is ever exempt from that programming, including you, I would imagine.
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Including me.
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What does that look like for you?
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You know, can I just say I'm like all the letters, every letter in the word, I've been there
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done that.
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And so it's like I love talk, like when you invited me, I was like, yes, because this is
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everybody.
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This isn't just me, but we're all there, right?
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And honestly, if I could just say how I started with my entire journey, it began as this.
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And I love because the first word is betrayal because that was one of my inner wounds, right?
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And I came with programming and lessons to master and that category and it fell through
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under the rest of it.
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But, you know, I've become known as the soul CEO activator, and a lot of people in, you
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know, business world is like CEO and like, no, the Chief Energy Officer, right?
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Like, I have to be a master of my energy.
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And I was really a master of everybody else's energy.
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And I'm very good at seeing what you can't see in making it seen.
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And so it never really occurred to me what I did until you start seeing a pattern of this
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replication.
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And so, I mean, the best answer is I've spent my entire life obsessed with what's underneath
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the hood, what's under the surface of most people.
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And that's not how the real world works.
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And so even as a little girl, I used to crack open rocks at my grandma's house and I might
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be an ugly rock, but I knew there were really beautiful crystals inside.
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And then I moved to that curiosity.
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It kind of followed me through life and into college.
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And then I studied physiology and kinesiology and I'm going into med school prep and thinking,
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okay, well, if we know what's happening in the body, that will help them.
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And then I realized very quickly that the body doesn't change until the mind does.
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And so you start getting into this mind body spirit.
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And I hadn't yet that sole spiritual aspect of our soul yet.
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And then I realized that even though people know what to do and you teach them and you give
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them tools and lessons, they still don't do it.
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And so that's when I became kind of obsessed with what's kind of running the show.
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And then it became personal for me.
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And I built everything, which is the external world that I thought I was supposed to do.
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The marriage and the family and the businesses and I wrote the books and the image and the
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body.
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And then I realized internally I was exhausted and disconnected from myself.
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And so that I had a personal moment.
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Some people, it's it's, you know, health.
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Some people it's well.
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But for me, it was a personal moment that pretty much changed everything in my life.
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And it was the moment my daughter said to her dad in the other room, "how come mommy never
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laughs?"
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Like a three-year-old saying that it was like this dagger in my heart, and it woke me up.
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And so you ask how do you get there?
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It's always a moment in all of our lives where the energy of something is a reflection of
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who you are.
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And it kind of just cracked me open.
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My health was really honestly answered to myself was my health was crashing my marriage,
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you know, it was falling apart.
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Motherhood was heavy.
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And I realized I didn't need to change everybody else.
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And then I had to change me.
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And when people start waking up to that, I realized I can't teach what I don't know.
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And so that was the journey where it created the work I do today, which is helping leaders
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and drivers to stop repeating the same old story, different costume, different drama, same
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betrayal, same repeating habits and give them a manual for their own soul so that they
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could excel in health, wealth and love without compromising burnout.
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But I was burnt out.
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And I watched everybody else doing the same thing.
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And so when you understand your own soul blueprint, you stop outsourcing your power.
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You start leading your life from this authentic truth to the life you deserve.
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So I mean, there's my short version of a long, there is a 30 year journey.
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But I 100% agree with you that we live from the outside in for so long.
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We will crash and burn at some point.
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Yeah, when I hear what you just shared there, so much of what we've been doing on this journey
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with year of the bitch, what hits me in what you said is what happens when all the strategy
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of what the world has told you to be that picture perfect or all the success leaves you emotionally
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exhaustive, exhausted, emotionally reactive, disconnected in relationships and still wondering
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quietly why I don't feel fulfilled.
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And something that I saw in your work was success doesn't fix your patterns.
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It exposes them.
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And honestly, to me, that feels like one of the most year of the bitch statements that I've
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heard this season because I feel like this season was about confronting our unconscious patterns
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that especially women inherit with people pleasing, over functioning, performing perfection,
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abandoning your intuition and outsourcing to fill a void and mistaking productivity with
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self love.
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So to hear where you came from and what got you to the point that you're at now is so aligned
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with the work that Christopher and I are doing and why we're so excited to have you here.
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Yeah, I love that.
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And you're spot on.
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I mean, I see it daily with clients, corporate America, and stay-at-home moms.
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It doesn't matter who you are.
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I watch it everywhere, every day.
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And it's the same thing you just shared in a nutshell.
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It's and it's time to change.
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It's time for us to wake up.
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I want to reveal something that you already know.
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I'm sure a lot of women already know, but they don't know that they're aware of it on
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a conscious level.
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This idea of back in the 50s, 40s when women emancipation and the Second World War women
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got into man's world.
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They were called on to pay too much, save the economy as men were off to war.
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And they infused themselves.
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There was a little crack in man's little private room that they got a chance to see.
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And since then they've been crashing that door wider and wider.
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And they had to adopt a lot of what men believe are priorities in order to succeed and disconnect
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from the heart and the soul in order to achieve what men have achieved.
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I think what you are doing is putting that focus back on the heart and the soul and still
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achieving.
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Would I be right in my observation of that?
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100%.
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Here's a thing that I think people are waking up to.
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And I think they want to wake up to it.
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I just don't think they have the tool, which is where I created tools to not take forever.
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And people ask me this question all the time when other I'm speaking or on a podcast.
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And a habit on my website is you don't need 20 years of therapy.
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You need clarity now.
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I'm not in a don't debunk therapy for their scenarios where we need to try and talk and
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get it out.
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But we have focused so much on what's wrong with us, what the problem is and why we need to
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be fixed and why is that?
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It's because we have taken on so much trying to fix it with strategy.
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And when I try to explain to people is you don't have a strategy problem.
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You don't even have a communication problem.
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I deal with this in relationship coaching and couples all the time.
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Like he doesn't talk right.
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And like you don't have a communication problem.
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The problem that people are struggling with changes that they have an understanding and
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an honesty problem.
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We have an honesty problem.
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We're not being honest with this is who I am.
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This is my authentic self.
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This is my blueprint.
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And my soul thrives and is empowered here.
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But we have this go back in history.
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A pattern of programming that has set us up to say, but that's all I know.
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And so we keep doing more.
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We keep learning more.
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We try harder.
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We got the books.
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We got the classes.
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I mean, it's a tsunami of information overload.
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And who wouldn't be overwhelmed?
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Like maybe I'll try this and we're trying so much.
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And so we keep doing the same thing and running the same pattern.
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And then it keeps repeating and we can't figure out why.
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And so the best way from stumbling off what you just said, it's well said.
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It's just not in the right way.
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I look at it or the same way I look at it.
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I should say is the brain is wired for familiarity.
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It is not wired for transformation.
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It is not wired for soul.
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It is wired to look at things in a logical reasoning of saying, okay, zero to seven, nine years
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of age.
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That's what I learned.
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That's what my nervous system does.
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That is the patterning.
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And so if something isn't working, even, right, if it feels familiar, your system will keep
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choosing it.
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So now we go back to social patterning, parental patterning, you know, all the wiring within
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the subconscious below.
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And we're like, but I know better.
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This was where I was getting tripped up with people.
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It's like we know what to do and we still don't do it.
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Because until we go below the surface of the subconscious and know that we all came here.
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And the best way I can describe it is because I do use astrology and not to predict your
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future to kind of show you your user's manual.
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And the user's manual fascinates me because in the logical world, if you had a new car and
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there was a light going off, you go in the glove compartment, you get the user's manual,
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you find out how to turn the button that turns the red light off and you're good.
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But we have a user's manual for our soul and we don't look at it to say, how do I put these
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fires out that I came to master.
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And so if something isn't working, we go into what we know how to protect ourselves
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from instead of stepping into the fire, turning the fire off and go, oh my gosh, I’m
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a badass.
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I do know what to do, but we don't have the tool to look at it.
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So you're spot on.
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We're repeating patterns of, I mean, you go back far enough, our parents taught us productivity,
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work hard, you know, do more and it's not working anymore.
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We have to have a be a line with our soul, body, mind, soul, body, mind.
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Another thing that I've glimmered from your work, you know, when we're just going through
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the pieces because of this programming and society or programming from how relationships
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functioned off of need rather than kind of the new age of where we're at and being able
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to, as you said, really finally focus in on what is true to us to the honesty complex
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if we want to call it that and then articulate that because I think that when we can't be
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honest with ourselves and we want all of the things that we've been told will fulfill
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us, I've seen this in my own life, I've seen this in a lot of lives of women of achievement
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as a type of avoidance.
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So you know, it's like sometimes this idea of high achievers use success as camouflage,
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right?
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Like people on the outside say she's thriving or, you know, whatever it looks like from
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the outside looking in, but in your work with women in particular who have, you know, some
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pieces that look from the outside looking in like your life that you described, they're
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still secretly detached and not happy with their lives.
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What have you found to be helpful for people to tap into that honesty complex and really
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try to deep dive down into the root?
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So this happened more by accident for me to learn and I mentioned to that, nothing's an
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accident, but it was really kind of again, I mean, after thousands of clients you start
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to see these patterns and I would have clients coming to me that are as you suggested, women
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who are over successful, you know, they have the money, they have the things and they're
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like, I'm miserable and I watch this with high achievers or people who are overdriven
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and wanting to look at the strategies and like, I've done it all now, I'm still miserable
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and I'll ask them, how are your relationships and they lock up and you can see an energy
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lock up, right?
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Like this is an immediate, I'm not at peace and so I would have clients coming to me and
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saying, look, I was referred to you, I've been to psychiatrists, psychologists, I've been
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on the meds, I've taken the classes, I've done the books, I've done everything and nothing
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works in your it and I kind of felt this pressure like, whoa, whoa, whoa, and what I realized was
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is that once they got to me, I'm like, cool, because now we're going to talk about the truth
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and so they came to me to get once they got validated, you could see that lock up, just
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calm down and I didn't catch it until I was like, wow, that really was peaceful, right?
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And they're like, thank you for making me feel like I'm not crazy and a lot of women start
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to think that they're crazy, like the fact that they want to feel loved and at peace
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and the femininity, I should say, within them because we are feminine by nature, it's a natural
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press of world masculine feminine, but we have the ability to use that intuitive, the feminine
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and intuitive and we've shut that off, but that's part of the soul and so when you get validated
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and going, you're absolutely supposed to do great in your career, but you came here and
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the work I teach is Lighthouse Mastery, which is just imagine you're a lighthouse, right?
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And you're the sun in the center and you have 12 rooms around you represent the 12 categories
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of menstrual, dual and or the 12 categories of life, right?
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Career, success, money, health, security, intimacy, children, spiritual beliefs, whatever
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it is.
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And you just came here to master these four classes that you're avoiding and I bet if
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you just focused on those four and stopped looking at something wrong with you, you'd
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feel a lot better and there's not as much for you to feel like nothing's working anymore.
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So they allow their guard to come down, I see the pattern realizing, so I only have to fix
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a couple things and they're not even broken, you just haven't been avoiding them because
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they're pretty hot because they're uncomfortable and they're like a teach people, like I didn't
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want to go to geometry when I was a kid because it was terrible and I could barely pass
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me with a D, you know, but I did it.
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Same applies to women especially because just because you can, doesn't mean you should
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be doing it all, but we try to do it all and then it burns us out as I did and, you know,
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I've had two, you know, brushes with death because of that because I thought I was stronger
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than that until my body said, nope, I'm going to shut you down for you because you won't
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say no, I'll say no for you.
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Well, I'm watching women, the pattern is this, when they can't look at it, they can at least
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get the validation, their body shut them down first.
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I don't like it.
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I don't like watching it, but you can at least give them the validation of why it's happening
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so they can get out.
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It's something that's quite prevalent right now, especially with women because of all the
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things you just shared.
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You know what I'm saying?
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We've started this process of the year of the bitch in January.
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We've spoken to dozens of women and there are patterns.
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We just recited, we purgitated the pattern.
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It seems universal to that struggle for sure.
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That's where we want to introduce the bitch.
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For us, that is just something that is innate, that you're not allowed to show the world,
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you're not allowed to let her out of her cage ever.
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But we don't see it as something bad or something wrong.
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We see it as something strong and necessary.
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Do you see what we're coming from with that?
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I have 100% support that.
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I agree 100%.
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When you can start seeing your soul on a map, on a piece of paper and seeing that there is
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nothing wrong with you, you just been avoiding a couple of things and thought, if I really
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succeed in this career and this money and have all the success, they'll see me and yet
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you're the only person that needs to see you.
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If you don't see, I've just made it faster to see you.
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Don't get me wrong.
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There are some people who still avoiding it till like me, a health scare or a divorce or
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I've had some embezzlement in a company and I'm like, okay, so we've avoided seeing the
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couple spots that you need to see within you and when you know that, you won't let it
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happen again.
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So you take back your power and you're absolutely right.
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It's these patterns that just keep repeating it and if we could see them more visually on
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a piece of paper or at least clearly, we have a path.
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We have a direction to go to instead of focusing on the past, what's wrong with us and this is
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where I call BS on everybody.
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There is nothing wrong with us.
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We are perfect.
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We're divine.
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God consciousness, perfection.
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I just want to say I so resonate with what you shared and something that's a deep piece
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of our path on this podcast is very much what you had to say about the feminine.
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We truly, you know, there's no words to really capture everything that the feminine is and
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that we do have feminine and masculine in us.
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But I think it's very comfortable to say that the world, starting with ourselves, has diminished
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or demeaned the feminine in so many areas.
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So, you know, to us, Virgin Beauty bitch and so much more is part of the feminine and for
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this year, the year of the bitch is exploring that fierce energy that's part of the feminine
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and is so important to be able to be honest about what you want to yourself.
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First, I love that you just said, you know, we spend all this time harvesting success so
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people will see us when really, you know, you really want to see yourself.
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And I want to dive in a little bit more to the patterns that you talked about because
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I'm sure there's a lot of patterns that you've seen with the clients that you work with.
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But one of the ones that I think I think kind of stifles a lot of women is perfectionism.
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And when I pick that apart, oh yeah, I feel that too.
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You know, when I try to dismantle it a little bit, I see perfectionism really kind of being
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rooted in fear.
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And I would love to just hear your experience personally or with clients in understanding
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their perfectionism and being able to move through it.
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So you're spot on, it's rooted in fear and if anyone's like, you know, understanding of
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it, even the consciousness scale below fear a little bit is also shame is where most of
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this perfectionist comes from, I'm ashamed to say I want, I want to stay home with my
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children or I, and then it moves into that something triggers it and then that fear locks
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you up and we're like, block from it.
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So these two things are holding all this emotional debris down below yet women are so powerful
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in their intuitiveness which needs to feel, right?
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So we've like blocked our own source of like power by doing that.
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So you're 100% right.
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We're so afraid to just again speak truth until you're validated of who you are.
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Now again, through my Lighthouse Mastery and looking at your soul's blueprint, which
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is just tattooed on your soul, it's an energy frequency of you.
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I look at four as I call them BS spots, right?
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Your four bullshit, I call a bullshit but it's really not, it stands for blind spots.
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And what happens is is it represents your blocks, your baggage, which we'll talk about your
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emotional baggage, your bruises where we were wounded as a child and we're very protective.
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And then our breakthroughs, which I think the one part of that fascinates me the most
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is that we avoid the very thing that will actually give us peace, enjoy, and what we love and
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what we're drawn to but we're following into this strategy structural society.
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And so the fascinating piece is when we look at these four bees and I can look at anyone's
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map, right?
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And I can say, here's your soul map and this is where I'm watching you.
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This is where you're blocked.
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And they're like, oh, absolutely.
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I'm totally blocked with my belief system.
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I feel like I can't do that even though and I go, but what do you want?
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And they'll tell me something completely different but that belief system holds a block
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in it.
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So there's energy blocks.
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We have emotional baggage.
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So I try to share with people like Saturn in your chart represents where you're blocked,
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where your father wound is.
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Your mother wound, which is, it represents men and women, right?
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They all have it, right?
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But the mother wound is where your moon sits and the mother wound, fascinating enough for
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women, is like where we have a money cap.
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So I'm just like, you actually can make a lot of money work and a lot less because women
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are so powerful at multitasking and pulling all together.
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But we have this mother wound that if you think about where that energy is in your life,
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like, you know, for me, it was self-expression.
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So I always held back to finally I was like, screw it.
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I'm just going to be me and speak me, right?
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But it took me a while until I did my own work on myself.
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And so the mother wound, if you think of it from this perspective, and especially women,
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the mother is where you've received your first bank account.
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We got the first current of energy from our mother, the her mill, her mill, her attention,
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her love or control or contritism or restriction or abandonment, whatever it was.
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So that first form of currency is a very big indicator, which I like people to see as
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like, but is it true for you now?
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Maybe at nine it was, but is it true for you now?
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They're like, oh, so I have to grow there.
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Yes.
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And they break the glass ceiling of that money, the currency, the receiving energy, but they
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can do less because they realize it's okay to receive.
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And what you were going with this is this is the big piece I watch is they make it real
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good.
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They make it fine.
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It's keeping it and holding it.
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That's the challenge.
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I really find it fascinating.
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The tool I use is that simple.
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I just was tired of people taking 20 years to figure things out.
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And why can't we just look at these four, you know, your four BS spots and step into them
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and say, you're right.
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I was pretty bruised there.
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That does hurt when I do that.
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But actually if I do it, it's my super power.
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There it is.
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You can find fascinating, you speak of astrology and I get a sense from reading a little bit
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about you that it's something you were reserved in putting up front to represent yourself.
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Just as women are reserved in that bitch being up front to represent them.
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I find that fascinating.
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Well, you want to know what's fascinating about is because I am, I'm not a big, I'm little.
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I'm like five to the small blonde, right?
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And I was in corporate America for quite a bit.
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Now let's please, let's go back to, you know, 20 years when astrology was woo, woo, when
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with spirituality was weird.
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Like, I was such an anomaly.
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And so I'm kind of one of those like, tell me I can't personalities, which was great.
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It was a great quality within me.
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And so, right, like, we don't want the woo, we just want the strategy.
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And I was like, all right, I'll come in and coach your executives, but I still need
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to know the virtual.
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I'll never bring it up again.
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I don't even speak it, but I need their information because then when I would get into private
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coaching with them in the, you know, in the conference room, they'd be like, how do you
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know this about me?
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And so it just kept getting validated for me.
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You have to use this because you make people validated today instead of this ongoing strategy
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stuff.
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So I did hold it back until finally I was like, you want me to do this about what we're
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using, right?
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And I made it into Lighthouse Mastery, which is, you know, another aspect of I don't really
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care about the tea leaves in your crystal ball because what happens is that we do, you'll
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see a lot of astrology online or, you know, a lot of spiritual terror or whatever it is.
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And they're trying to tell you your future is going to be this.
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And I keep trying to let people know is your future is going to look exactly like it
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did last year and the last 20 years.
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If you don't know who you are right now and how you're stepping into that power to move
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forward.
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And so I'm more about validating who you are as a lighthouse that never moves in any storm.
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And that includes receiving and self love and resting, which is not something women think
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that they're allowed to do anymore is like, just lay down and take a nap and I'm like achieving
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women clients are like, I don't know, I'm time.
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I'm like, well, you do have time.
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So it does overlap quite a bit into that field.
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Now I don't hold back.
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But yes, I'm glad you caught that because it was definitely a good example of where my
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emotional baggage sat in self expression and I held back.
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So I just set a lot right there.
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I apologize, but that was a whole dump right there.
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I'm looking at ourselves and looking at like where we came from and how it influences
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us today and how we decide to move past it.
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It's great to hear that transition for you from the corporate world that you're in and
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still staying true to who you were.
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Feeling like, you know, being reserved actually served you in certain ways at the time.
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And now how you fully stepped into what resonates with you and what you see as like your inner
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light, right, your lighthouse being able to shine bright because it knows itself.
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There's one piece that I wanted to chat on around another pattern if we can go back to that
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for a moment because I think another one that I see really commonly with women today is
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women who became the strong one, right?
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We're strong.
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We're resilient.
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We can take on the world.
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And it's the woman that everyone can depend on.
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And I don't mean her family.
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I mean her friends, you know, the networks that she really treasures, the fixer, the
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emotionally intelligent one.
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So the one that takes that on because she's the high capacity woman.
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And to me, it seems that there's so much of our identity being built around, being needed,
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but not necessarily about being known for who you really are.
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And I just think that the rhetoric around being strong can be both so empowering and so
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useful.
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To me is part of the bitch, right, is that she is freaking strong and she is freaking
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fierce.
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But I think there's, there's, there's, you know, the flip side to that coin of, I think
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to me, it's the other pieces of the feminine that come in, right?
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Like the softness, the not needing to work as hard will still reaching the goals that you
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want to reach or, you know, just not burning yourself out to reach those things to let
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there be a flow of what really moves you and to lean into that.
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But have you seen that with, with women that you work with, the strong one and how, like,
456
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how have you seen that work for them or maybe, maybe cripple them?
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I really shouldn't have to say anything.
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You just said it brilliantly.
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It's, it's all day long.
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I see this, right?
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Especially in women.
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Now here's the thing.
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I try to explain to people and again, please, please know I'm all about, I practice what I
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preach.
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So this has been a big shift energetically on the planet within the last several years.
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And take all the external riffraff out of it, just an energetic shifting on all of us
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waking up and go, what am I doing?
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Like this doesn't seem logical, right?
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So I try to explain to people how you start to shift all this, which is what I had to do
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is stop.
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You have to start by by stopping fixing yourself.
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Because we think some, we got to keep fixing this and fixing our health and fixing our body
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and fixing our career and getting it in your credit and we're constantly fixing.
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And we have to start by observing.
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And most people skip that step, right?
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So for me, it was observing exactly I have to do, I am the, I am the picture.
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I'm the poster child of the person you just described.
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Like, I am the best friend.
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I was showing up for everyone.
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I am, you know, running for a while.
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I was running two companies.
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Like, my husband was struggling.
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Like, everyone was struggling and I was the rock.
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And I had to look and observe myself and say, what part of this they are grown as adults
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with grown as journeys that you need to let them, your lighthouse, let them be a boat.
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They can get out and kick the boat to shore.
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If they're really ready to meet you at common ground, but I was allowing everyone to bring
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their trash into my lighthouse, I would light them up.
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They'd walk away great and I was going for me.
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And this is a big deal for women because they all do that again, this whole, just because
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I can't, doesn't mean I should concept.
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And so I try, I try to teach people is you've got to take something in your reality and say,
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is this a pattern?
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And most women you were talking about that are doing this.
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There's a pattern of them doing it not just at work.
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They're doing it at home.
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They're doing it with the friends.
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They're doing, there's that person that's holding it all together for everyone.
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And so I teach your relationships reflect, your reality reflects your relationships.
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And so if you have all these people pulling on you, who's the commonality here?
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It's me.
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And becoming a workaholic was my excuse that I couldn't be available to them.
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And I thought, wow, I found something else to make my excuse instead of just stopping.
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So I did in this last year, I put myself on a work detox and I teach this in my soul masters,
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my soul masters community and my private courses.
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I was challenging everybody to see could they find one of those wounds or those four
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bees and figure out if they could push past their discomfort because we're here to the
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more uncomfortable you can make yourself.
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It's just a big dose of courage to go, I can do this.
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And so I took myself off of like 15 to 17 hour work days, which is stupid.
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But in my mind, I'm like, oh, I got to get it done.
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And I put myself down to 5-hour work days.
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And just for a week, I tested myself to see, could I do it?
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What's fascinating is I'm pretty, I'm pretty good multitasker.
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I was getting it all done in five hours.
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The problem was I didn't know what to do with myself.
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I think women struggle with this.
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What will I do with myself?
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Because they don't know who they are.
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And this was a big deal.
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So I put all of my leaders in my soul masters on this slow down detox.
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They didn't like it either.
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They we didn't like it.
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But on my point was it made a huge awakening to us saying, what have you been doing?
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You've been fixing it for everybody else.
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And when it's your turn, you don't know what to do.
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With yourself.
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So I see that pattern all day long.
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It was in me.
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And it's really awakening of, of course, there are days you've got to do more little.
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But are we even observing ourselves with the pattern that's truly present in front of us?
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And I think women are doing this because they want to be seen.
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They want to be wanted.
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They're ashamed.
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There's that shame and fear.
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I'm ashamed to ask for what I want because I'm afraid you're going to criticize me or
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tell me I'm so afraid of what's going to come back out of us.
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I think you just took the words right out of my mouth because I think for women nature has
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given you nurture.
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And now life has supersized your nurture.
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And without people feeding on that nurture, who are you?
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What good are you?
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What value are you?
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It's a very big deep dive for a lot of people.
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And like I said, I'm grateful because I have this product or tool that I was like, okay,
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you're going to deep dive into these four wounds of yourself.
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Versions and wounds.
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But challenges in saying, Kate, who are you?
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And when I took off my label, took off the title, took off all the accolades, all the plaques
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on the wall.
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I was like, who are you done?
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And I had to sit with it for quite a while to say, it's a really good question.
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And as you were sharing earlier, it took, I don't want it to take these health scares and
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death scares and divorces to hurt people enough to wake them up.
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I want you to be able to see it now and just start taking baby steps to grow that.
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I'm going to challenge you.
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Are we capable of that?
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I mean, as human beings, it seems like we only grow once we are faced with death and destruction.
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As a humanity and as an individual, it seems that's our pattern.
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Is there actually a way out of that?
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Well, you have, there are two ways that the nervous system psyche can change through trauma
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or through repetition.
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My goal is to get them on the repetition road, which was, again, I just put many challenges.
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I can go back to work and I mean, don't give me a wrong.
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I've had some good long days, you know, for certain things that were coming up.
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But I did know I could go back to something I was starting to get used to, which is having
567
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some free time I've never had.
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So it was, it's these baby steps of repetition that I started putting into myself knowing that
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something I had to grow in because I chose to.
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I think we're waking up enough now to say, "I really do want to change.
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Just help me do it not so painfully.
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Don't get me wrong.
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There are people who are going to get hit hard.
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I eat my clients who show up and go, "I think I'm getting divorced."
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Or, you know, "I just lost all this money or I got this health scare."
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And again, your body will say, "No, if you don't."
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So we have a happy medium to find both.
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But we do, that's why I called the blind spot, right?
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Because we avoid this hot.
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It's hot.
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It's uncomfortable.
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Don't go in that room.
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It's uncomfortable.
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Don't go in that partnership room.
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Don't go in the partnership room.
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They're going to hurt me.
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It's going to be bad.
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And then we avoid avoiding.
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We get blindsided by that same relationship in different pants and different environments.
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With a different person, every time when we keep getting blindsided, because we didn't
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want to go in the room and learn geometry or partnership or whatever it is.
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And it's that simple.
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So walking in the room is really my gift to people is just walk in.
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I'm not telling you to make massive changes.
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Just start somewhere.
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Don't go to speak with you for hours.
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There's...
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I know.
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I can speak with you too.
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You guys are so fun.
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I'm like, "Thank you for getting it."
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There's so much depth, such richness that is necessary to get in front of individuals.
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So they become aware.
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I think that's where you and us really resonate is awareness.
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We want to bring awareness.
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The things that are...
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We already own these things.
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We're just not aware of them.
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To get us out and get us fully active in life.
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This has been a enriching conversation.
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Truly has.
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I want to give people an opportunity to connect with you.
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How would they do that if they were listening to this?
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I want to connect.
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00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:49,760
You know that the easiest place to start is to go on to my website.
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I have a reality check quiz.
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Like, free.
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You just go check yourself.
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Like, how's my reality look right now?
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And you know, it's easy.
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It's where you can kind of start seeing your patterns, you know, blindly instead of waiting
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five years from burnout as we started this call on.
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And so, you know, they can go there and start there and get into my reality check, reality
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to check class gosh, I'm getting like, loose my tongue.
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And if not, then I have the all-in soul masters, right, which is where we deep dive into every
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aspect of your soul but from truth.
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And you can just go to my homepage.
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I deserve it now.com.
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My name, my name, Daune Thompson dot com works too.
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But I deserve it now seems to be easier to remember.
631
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Spell like name, because it's different.
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So my name is spelled D-A-U-N-E.
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I know it looks like Dwayne, even the computer wants to swap the A and the U and turn it into
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Dwayne, but it's really DAUNE and e Thompson dot com.
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So I have to say this, yeah, this has been, it's for Heather and I, it's amazing for us,
636
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because we live in our own little world.
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We have our, you know, we have our podcasts and we have the BITCH, of the bitch and we're
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working on these things and we talk to women individually.
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And we find such soulmates.
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It's amazing to us.
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Yeah, I'm grateful to you too, because thank you.
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This has been just a pleasure to get you get it.
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It's when I used to talk to people who get it and like, thank you.
644
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You see what I see.
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And honestly, it's kind of what gives me peace because I see enough of us.
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I'm on enough podcasts, speak with enough groups and we're waking up and realizing we can have
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it all.
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It's the name of my company.
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I Deserve It Now, right?
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And my point is, is we can have it all.
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We just have to have the right tools to help us see that it shouldn't be overwhelming to
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have it all.
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And the right people to show their experiences.
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Absolutely.
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And it's because of people like you that I get to, to remind them myself, don't stop.
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They're right.
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We're all together.
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Thank you so much.
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Yeah.
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I appreciate it.
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It's been an absolute pleasure.
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Yes.
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And you have been listening to the Virgin, the beauty and the bitch, B-I-T-C-H in her year.
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Find us.
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Like us.
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Share us.
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If you enjoy this conversation, come on back.
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To become a partner in the V-B-B community, we invite you to find us at virginbeautybitch.com.
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Like us on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn, and share us with people who are Defiantly Different
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like you.
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Until next time, thanks for listening.
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Virgin.
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Beauty.
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Bitch.
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Podcast.
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Inspiring women to overcome social stereotypes and share unique life experiences without fear
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of being defiantly different.
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Your hosts, Christopher and Heather.
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Let's talk, shall we?
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Even your average therapist, Guru or coach will tell you that you are born with everything
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you need to thrive.
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But your tribe will program you to focus on the things that guarantee your struggle and
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your failure.
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Adoration, massive wealth, material success and power over others.
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They sound so obvious like the happiness we're searching for.
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But our guest today has been there, done that, and found a different truth.
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We welcome Daune Thompson to Virgin Beauty Bitch.
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Thank you so much.
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I appreciate you having me.
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It's a pleasure.
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Thank you for doing this.
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Now Daune, Heather, and I have declared 2026 the Year of the Bitch.
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It's the evolution of a word used to punish women, transformed into an archetype for women's
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self-development and personal growth through five powerful themes.
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Betrayal, Identity, Trust, Change, and Healing, B-I-T-C-H.
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All important steps I'm sure will touch on today.
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It's starting with B, Betrayl, which is a process of being conditioned from childhood to overwrite
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our own innate sense of self and trust instead that happiness in the world comes through
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what we can possess on the outside, not what we are on the inside.
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And no one born is ever exempt from that programming, including you, I would imagine.
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Including me.
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What does that look like for you?
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You know, can I just say I'm like all the letters, every letter in the word, I've been there
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done that.
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And so it's like I love talk, like when you invited me, I was like, yes, because this is
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everybody.
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This isn't just me, but we're all there, right?
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And honestly, if I could just say how I started with my entire journey, it began as this.
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And I love because the first word is betrayal because that was one of my inner wounds, right?
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And I came with programming and lessons to master and that category and it fell through
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under the rest of it.
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But, you know, I've become known as the soul CEO activator, and a lot of people in, you
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know, business world is like CEO and like, no, the Chief Energy Officer, right?
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Like, I have to be a master of my energy.
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And I was really a master of everybody else's energy.
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And I'm very good at seeing what you can't see in making it seen.
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And so it never really occurred to me what I did until you start seeing a pattern of this
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replication.
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And so, I mean, the best answer is I've spent my entire life obsessed with what's underneath
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the hood, what's under the surface of most people.
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And that's not how the real world works.
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And so even as a little girl, I used to crack open rocks at my grandma's house and I might
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be an ugly rock, but I knew there were really beautiful crystals inside.
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It kind of followed me through life and into college.
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okay, well, if we know what's happening in the body, that will help them.
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And then I realized very quickly that the body doesn't change until the mind does.
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And I hadn't yet that sole spiritual aspect of our soul yet.
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And then I realized that even though people know what to do and you teach them and you give
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them tools and lessons, they still don't do it.
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And so that's when I became kind of obsessed with what's kind of running the show.
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And then it became personal for me.
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And I built everything, which is the external world that I thought I was supposed to do.
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The marriage and the family and the businesses and I wrote the books and the image and the
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body.
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And then I realized internally I was exhausted and disconnected from myself.
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Some people, it's it's, you know, health.
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Some people it's well.
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But for me, it was a personal moment that pretty much changed everything in my life.
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And it was the moment my daughter said to her dad in the other room, "how come mommy never
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laughs?"
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Like a three-year-old saying that it was like this dagger in my heart, and it woke me up.
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And so you ask how do you get there?
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It's always a moment in all of our lives where the energy of something is a reflection of
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who you are.
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And it kind of just cracked me open.
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My health was really honestly answered to myself was my health was crashing my marriage,
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you know, it was falling apart.
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Motherhood was heavy.
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And I realized I didn't need to change everybody else.
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And then I had to change me.
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And when people start waking up to that, I realized I can't teach what I don't know.
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And so that was the journey where it created the work I do today, which is helping leaders
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and drivers to stop repeating the same old story, different costume, different drama, same
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betrayal, same repeating habits and give them a manual for their own soul so that they
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could excel in health, wealth and love without compromising burnout.
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But I was burnt out.
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And I watched everybody else doing the same thing.
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And so when you understand your own soul blueprint, you stop outsourcing your power.
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You start leading your life from this authentic truth to the life you deserve.
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So I mean, there's my short version of a long, there is a 30 year journey.
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But I 100% agree with you that we live from the outside in for so long.
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We will crash and burn at some point.
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Yeah, when I hear what you just shared there, so much of what we've been doing on this journey
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with year of the bitch, what hits me in what you said is what happens when all the strategy
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of what the world has told you to be that picture perfect or all the success leaves you emotionally
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exhaustive, exhausted, emotionally reactive, disconnected in relationships and still wondering
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quietly why I don't feel fulfilled.
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And something that I saw in your work was success doesn't fix your patterns.
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It exposes them.
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And honestly, to me, that feels like one of the most year of the bitch statements that I've
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heard this season because I feel like this season was about confronting our unconscious patterns
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that especially women inherit with people pleasing, over functioning, performing perfection,
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abandoning your intuition and outsourcing to fill a void and mistaking productivity with
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self love.
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So to hear where you came from and what got you to the point that you're at now is so aligned
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with the work that Christopher and I are doing and why we're so excited to have you here.
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Yeah, I love that.
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And you're spot on.
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I mean, I see it daily with clients, corporate America, and stay-at-home moms.
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It doesn't matter who you are.
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I watch it everywhere, every day.
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And it's the same thing you just shared in a nutshell.
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It's and it's time to change.
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It's time for us to wake up.
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I want to reveal something that you already know.
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I'm sure a lot of women already know, but they don't know that they're aware of it on
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a conscious level.
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This idea of back in the 50s, 40s when women emancipation and the Second World War women
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got into man's world.
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They were called on to pay too much, save the economy as men were off to war.
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There was a little crack in man's little private room that they got a chance to see.
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And since then they've been crashing that door wider and wider.
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And they had to adopt a lot of what men believe are priorities in order to succeed and disconnect
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from the heart and the soul in order to achieve what men have achieved.
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I think what you are doing is putting that focus back on the heart and the soul and still
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achieving.
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Would I be right in my observation of that?
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100%.
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Here's a thing that I think people are waking up to.
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I just don't think they have the tool, which is where I created tools to not take forever.
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And people ask me this question all the time when other I'm speaking or on a podcast.
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And a habit on my website is you don't need 20 years of therapy.
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You need clarity now.
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I'm not in a don't debunk therapy for their scenarios where we need to try and talk and
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get it out.
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But we have focused so much on what's wrong with us, what the problem is and why we need to
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be fixed and why is that?
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It's because we have taken on so much trying to fix it with strategy.
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And when I try to explain to people is you don't have a strategy problem.
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You don't even have a communication problem.
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I deal with this in relationship coaching and couples all the time.
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Like he doesn't talk right.
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And like you don't have a communication problem.
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The problem that people are struggling with changes that they have an understanding and
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an honesty problem.
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We have an honesty problem.
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We're not being honest with this is who I am.
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This is my authentic self.
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This is my blueprint.
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And my soul thrives and is empowered here.
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A pattern of programming that has set us up to say, but that's all I know.
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We keep learning more.
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We got the books.
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We got the classes.
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I mean, it's a tsunami of information overload.
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Like maybe I'll try this and we're trying so much.
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And then it keeps repeating and we can't figure out why.
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And so the best way from stumbling off what you just said, it's well said.
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It's just not in the right way.
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I look at it or the same way I look at it.
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I should say is the brain is wired for familiarity.
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It is not wired for transformation.
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It is not wired for soul.
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It is wired to look at things in a logical reasoning of saying, okay, zero to seven, nine years
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of age.
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That's what I learned.
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That's what my nervous system does.
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That is the patterning.
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choosing it.
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So now we go back to social patterning, parental patterning, you know, all the wiring within
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the subconscious below.
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This was where I was getting tripped up with people.
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It's like we know what to do and we still don't do it.
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Because until we go below the surface of the subconscious and know that we all came here.
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And the best way I can describe it is because I do use astrology and not to predict your
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future to kind of show you your user's manual.
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And the user's manual fascinates me because in the logical world, if you had a new car and
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there was a light going off, you go in the glove compartment, you get the user's manual,
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you find out how to turn the button that turns the red light off and you're good.
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But we have a user's manual for our soul and we don't look at it to say, how do I put these
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fires out that I came to master.
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And so if something isn't working, we go into what we know how to protect ourselves
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from instead of stepping into the fire, turning the fire off and go, oh my gosh, I’m
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a badass.
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I do know what to do, but we don't have the tool to look at it.
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So you're spot on.
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We're repeating patterns of, I mean, you go back far enough, our parents taught us productivity,
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work hard, you know, do more and it's not working anymore.
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We have to have a be a line with our soul, body, mind, soul, body, mind.
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the pieces because of this programming and society or programming from how relationships
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functioned off of need rather than kind of the new age of where we're at and being able
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to, as you said, really finally focus in on what is true to us to the honesty complex
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if we want to call it that and then articulate that because I think that when we can't be
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honest with ourselves and we want all of the things that we've been told will fulfill
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us, I've seen this in my own life, I've seen this in a lot of lives of women of achievement
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as a type of avoidance.
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right?
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Like people on the outside say she's thriving or, you know, whatever it looks like from
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the outside looking in, but in your work with women in particular who have, you know, some
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pieces that look from the outside looking in like your life that you described, they're
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still secretly detached and not happy with their lives.
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What have you found to be helpful for people to tap into that honesty complex and really
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try to deep dive down into the root?
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So this happened more by accident for me to learn and I mentioned to that, nothing's an
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accident, but it was really kind of again, I mean, after thousands of clients you start
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to see these patterns and I would have clients coming to me that are as you suggested, women
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who are over successful, you know, they have the money, they have the things and they're
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like, I'm miserable and I watch this with high achievers or people who are overdriven
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and wanting to look at the strategies and like, I've done it all now, I'm still miserable
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and I'll ask them, how are your relationships and they lock up and you can see an energy
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lock up, right?
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Like this is an immediate, I'm not at peace and so I would have clients coming to me and
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saying, look, I was referred to you, I've been to psychiatrists, psychologists, I've been
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on the meds, I've taken the classes, I've done the books, I've done everything and nothing
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works in your it and I kind of felt this pressure like, whoa, whoa, whoa, and what I realized was
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is that once they got to me, I'm like, cool, because now we're going to talk about the truth
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and so they came to me to get once they got validated, you could see that lock up, just
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calm down and I didn't catch it until I was like, wow, that really was peaceful, right?
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to think that they're crazy, like the fact that they want to feel loved and at peace
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and the femininity, I should say, within them because we are feminine by nature, it's a natural
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press of world masculine feminine, but we have the ability to use that intuitive, the feminine
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and intuitive and we've shut that off, but that's part of the soul and so when you get validated
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and going, you're absolutely supposed to do great in your career, but you came here and
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the work I teach is Lighthouse Mastery, which is just imagine you're a lighthouse, right?
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And you're the sun in the center and you have 12 rooms around you represent the 12 categories
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of menstrual, dual and or the 12 categories of life, right?
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Career, success, money, health, security, intimacy, children, spiritual beliefs, whatever
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it is.
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you just focused on those four and stopped looking at something wrong with you, you'd
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feel a lot better and there's not as much for you to feel like nothing's working anymore.
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So they allow their guard to come down, I see the pattern realizing, so I only have to fix
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a couple things and they're not even broken, you just haven't been avoiding them because
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they're pretty hot because they're uncomfortable and they're like a teach people, like I didn't
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want to go to geometry when I was a kid because it was terrible and I could barely pass
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me with a D, you know, but I did it.
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Same applies to women especially because just because you can, doesn't mean you should
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be doing it all, but we try to do it all and then it burns us out as I did and, you know,
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I've had two, you know, brushes with death because of that because I thought I was stronger
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than that until my body said, nope, I'm going to shut you down for you because you won't
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say no, I'll say no for you.
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Well, I'm watching women, the pattern is this, when they can't look at it, they can at least
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get the validation, their body shut them down first.
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I don't like it.
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I don't like watching it, but you can at least give them the validation of why it's happening
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so they can get out.
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It's something that's quite prevalent right now, especially with women because of all the
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things you just shared.
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You know what I'm saying?
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We've started this process of the year of the bitch in January.
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We've spoken to dozens of women and there are patterns.
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We just recited, we purgitated the pattern.
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It seems universal to that struggle for sure.
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That's where we want to introduce the bitch.
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For us, that is just something that is innate, that you're not allowed to show the world,
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you're not allowed to let her out of her cage ever.
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But we don't see it as something bad or something wrong.
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We see it as something strong and necessary.
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Do you see what we're coming from with that?
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I have 100% support that.
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I agree 100%.
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When you can start seeing your soul on a map, on a piece of paper and seeing that there is
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nothing wrong with you, you just been avoiding a couple of things and thought, if I really
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succeed in this career and this money and have all the success, they'll see me and yet
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you're the only person that needs to see you.
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If you don't see, I've just made it faster to see you.
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Don't get me wrong.
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There are some people who still avoiding it till like me, a health scare or a divorce or
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I've had some embezzlement in a company and I'm like, okay, so we've avoided seeing the
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couple spots that you need to see within you and when you know that, you won't let it
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happen again.
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So you take back your power and you're absolutely right.
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It's these patterns that just keep repeating it and if we could see them more visually on
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a piece of paper or at least clearly, we have a path.
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We have a direction to go to instead of focusing on the past, what's wrong with us and this is
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where I call BS on everybody.
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There is nothing wrong with us.
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We are perfect.
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We're divine.
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God consciousness, perfection.
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I just want to say I so resonate with what you shared and something that's a deep piece
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of our path on this podcast is very much what you had to say about the feminine.
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We truly, you know, there's no words to really capture everything that the feminine is and
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that we do have feminine and masculine in us.
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But I think it's very comfortable to say that the world, starting with ourselves, has diminished
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or demeaned the feminine in so many areas.
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So, you know, to us, Virgin Beauty bitch and so much more is part of the feminine and for
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this year, the year of the bitch is exploring that fierce energy that's part of the feminine
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and is so important to be able to be honest about what you want to yourself.
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First, I love that you just said, you know, we spend all this time harvesting success so
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people will see us when really, you know, you really want to see yourself.
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And I want to dive in a little bit more to the patterns that you talked about because
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I'm sure there's a lot of patterns that you've seen with the clients that you work with.
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But one of the ones that I think I think kind of stifles a lot of women is perfectionism.
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And when I pick that apart, oh yeah, I feel that too.
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You know, when I try to dismantle it a little bit, I see perfectionism really kind of being
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rooted in fear.
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And I would love to just hear your experience personally or with clients in understanding
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their perfectionism and being able to move through it.
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So you're spot on, it's rooted in fear and if anyone's like, you know, understanding of
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it, even the consciousness scale below fear a little bit is also shame is where most of
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this perfectionist comes from, I'm ashamed to say I want, I want to stay home with my
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children or I, and then it moves into that something triggers it and then that fear locks
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you up and we're like, block from it.
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So these two things are holding all this emotional debris down below yet women are so powerful
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in their intuitiveness which needs to feel, right?
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So we've like blocked our own source of like power by doing that.
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So you're 100% right.
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We're so afraid to just again speak truth until you're validated of who you are.
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Now again, through my Lighthouse Mastery and looking at your soul's blueprint, which
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is just tattooed on your soul, it's an energy frequency of you.
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I look at four as I call them BS spots, right?
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Your four bullshit, I call a bullshit but it's really not, it stands for blind spots.
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And what happens is is it represents your blocks, your baggage, which we'll talk about your
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emotional baggage, your bruises where we were wounded as a child and we're very protective.
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And then our breakthroughs, which I think the one part of that fascinates me the most
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is that we avoid the very thing that will actually give us peace, enjoy, and what we love and
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what we're drawn to but we're following into this strategy structural society.
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And so the fascinating piece is when we look at these four bees and I can look at anyone's
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map, right?
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And I can say, here's your soul map and this is where I'm watching you.
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This is where you're blocked.
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And they're like, oh, absolutely.
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I'm totally blocked with my belief system.
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I feel like I can't do that even though and I go, but what do you want?
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And they'll tell me something completely different but that belief system holds a block
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in it.
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So there's energy blocks.
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We have emotional baggage.
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So I try to share with people like Saturn in your chart represents where you're blocked,
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where your father wound is.
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Your mother wound, which is, it represents men and women, right?
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They all have it, right?
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But the mother wound is where your moon sits and the mother wound, fascinating enough for
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women, is like where we have a money cap.
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So I'm just like, you actually can make a lot of money work and a lot less because women
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are so powerful at multitasking and pulling all together.
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But we have this mother wound that if you think about where that energy is in your life,
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like, you know, for me, it was self-expression.
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So I always held back to finally I was like, screw it.
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I'm just going to be me and speak me, right?
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But it took me a while until I did my own work on myself.
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And so the mother wound, if you think of it from this perspective, and especially women,
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the mother is where you've received your first bank account.
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We got the first current of energy from our mother, the her mill, her mill, her attention,
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her love or control or contritism or restriction or abandonment, whatever it was.
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So that first form of currency is a very big indicator, which I like people to see as
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like, but is it true for you now?
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Maybe at nine it was, but is it true for you now?
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They're like, oh, so I have to grow there.
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Yes.
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And they break the glass ceiling of that money, the currency, the receiving energy, but they
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can do less because they realize it's okay to receive.
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And what you were going with this is this is the big piece I watch is they make it real
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good.
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They make it fine.
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It's keeping it and holding it.
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That's the challenge.
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I really find it fascinating.
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The tool I use is that simple.
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I just was tired of people taking 20 years to figure things out.
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And why can't we just look at these four, you know, your four BS spots and step into them
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and say, you're right.
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I was pretty bruised there.
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That does hurt when I do that.
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But actually if I do it, it's my super power.
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There it is.
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You can find fascinating, you speak of astrology and I get a sense from reading a little bit
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about you that it's something you were reserved in putting up front to represent yourself.
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Just as women are reserved in that bitch being up front to represent them.
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I find that fascinating.
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Well, you want to know what's fascinating about is because I am, I'm not a big, I'm little.
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I'm like five to the small blonde, right?
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And I was in corporate America for quite a bit.
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Now let's please, let's go back to, you know, 20 years when astrology was woo, woo, when
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with spirituality was weird.
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Like, I was such an anomaly.
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And so I'm kind of one of those like, tell me I can't personalities, which was great.
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It was a great quality within me.
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And so, right, like, we don't want the woo, we just want the strategy.
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And I was like, all right, I'll come in and coach your executives, but I still need
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to know the virtual.
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I'll never bring it up again.
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I don't even speak it, but I need their information because then when I would get into private
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coaching with them in the, you know, in the conference room, they'd be like, how do you
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know this about me?
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And so it just kept getting validated for me.
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You have to use this because you make people validated today instead of this ongoing strategy
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stuff.
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So I did hold it back until finally I was like, you want me to do this about what we're
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using, right?
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And I made it into Lighthouse Mastery, which is, you know, another aspect of I don't really
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care about the tea leaves in your crystal ball because what happens is that we do, you'll
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see a lot of astrology online or, you know, a lot of spiritual terror or whatever it is.
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And they're trying to tell you your future is going to be this.
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And I keep trying to let people know is your future is going to look exactly like it
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did last year and the last 20 years.
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If you don't know who you are right now and how you're stepping into that power to move
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forward.
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And so I'm more about validating who you are as a lighthouse that never moves in any storm.
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And that includes receiving and self love and resting, which is not something women think
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that they're allowed to do anymore is like, just lay down and take a nap and I'm like achieving
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women clients are like, I don't know, I'm time.
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I'm like, well, you do have time.
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So it does overlap quite a bit into that field.
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Now I don't hold back.
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But yes, I'm glad you caught that because it was definitely a good example of where my
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emotional baggage sat in self expression and I held back.
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So I just set a lot right there.
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I apologize, but that was a whole dump right there.
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I'm looking at ourselves and looking at like where we came from and how it influences
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us today and how we decide to move past it.
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It's great to hear that transition for you from the corporate world that you're in and
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still staying true to who you were.
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Feeling like, you know, being reserved actually served you in certain ways at the time.
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And now how you fully stepped into what resonates with you and what you see as like your inner
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light, right, your lighthouse being able to shine bright because it knows itself.
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There's one piece that I wanted to chat on around another pattern if we can go back to that
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for a moment because I think another one that I see really commonly with women today is
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women who became the strong one, right?
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We're strong.
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We're resilient.
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We can take on the world.
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And it's the woman that everyone can depend on.
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And I don't mean her family.
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I mean her friends, you know, the networks that she really treasures, the fixer, the
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emotionally intelligent one.
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So the one that takes that on because she's the high capacity woman.
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And to me, it seems that there's so much of our identity being built around, being needed,
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but not necessarily about being known for who you really are.
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And I just think that the rhetoric around being strong can be both so empowering and so
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useful.
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To me is part of the bitch, right, is that she is freaking strong and she is freaking
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fierce.
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But I think there's, there's, there's, you know, the flip side to that coin of, I think
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to me, it's the other pieces of the feminine that come in, right?
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Like the softness, the not needing to work as hard will still reaching the goals that you
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want to reach or, you know, just not burning yourself out to reach those things to let
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there be a flow of what really moves you and to lean into that.
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But have you seen that with, with women that you work with, the strong one and how, like,
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how have you seen that work for them or maybe, maybe cripple them?
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I really shouldn't have to say anything.
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You just said it brilliantly.
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It's, it's all day long.
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I see this, right?
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Especially in women.
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Now here's the thing.
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I try to explain to people and again, please, please know I'm all about, I practice what I
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preach.
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So this has been a big shift energetically on the planet within the last several years.
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And take all the external riffraff out of it, just an energetic shifting on all of us
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waking up and go, what am I doing?
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Like this doesn't seem logical, right?
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So I try to explain to people how you start to shift all this, which is what I had to do
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is stop.
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You have to start by by stopping fixing yourself.
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Because we think some, we got to keep fixing this and fixing our health and fixing our body
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and fixing our career and getting it in your credit and we're constantly fixing.
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And we have to start by observing.
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And most people skip that step, right?
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So for me, it was observing exactly I have to do, I am the, I am the picture.
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I'm the poster child of the person you just described.
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Like, I am the best friend.
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I was showing up for everyone.
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I am, you know, running for a while.
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I was running two companies.
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Like, my husband was struggling.
483
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Like, everyone was struggling and I was the rock.
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And I had to look and observe myself and say, what part of this they are grown as adults
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with grown as journeys that you need to let them, your lighthouse, let them be a boat.
486
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They can get out and kick the boat to shore.
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If they're really ready to meet you at common ground, but I was allowing everyone to bring
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their trash into my lighthouse, I would light them up.
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They'd walk away great and I was going for me.
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And this is a big deal for women because they all do that again, this whole, just because
491
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I can't, doesn't mean I should concept.
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And so I try, I try to teach people is you've got to take something in your reality and say,
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is this a pattern?
494
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And most women you were talking about that are doing this.
495
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There's a pattern of them doing it not just at work.
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They're doing it at home.
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They're doing it with the friends.
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They're doing, there's that person that's holding it all together for everyone.
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And so I teach your relationships reflect, your reality reflects your relationships.
500
00:32:42,400 --> 00:32:46,880
And so if you have all these people pulling on you, who's the commonality here?
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It's me.
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And becoming a workaholic was my excuse that I couldn't be available to them.
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And I thought, wow, I found something else to make my excuse instead of just stopping.
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00:33:00,520 --> 00:33:07,960
So I did in this last year, I put myself on a work detox and I teach this in my soul masters,
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my soul masters community and my private courses.
506
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I was challenging everybody to see could they find one of those wounds or those four
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bees and figure out if they could push past their discomfort because we're here to the
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more uncomfortable you can make yourself.
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It's just a big dose of courage to go, I can do this.
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And so I took myself off of like 15 to 17 hour work days, which is stupid.
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But in my mind, I'm like, oh, I got to get it done.
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And I put myself down to 5-hour work days.
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And just for a week, I tested myself to see, could I do it?
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What's fascinating is I'm pretty, I'm pretty good multitasker.
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I was getting it all done in five hours.
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The problem was I didn't know what to do with myself.
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I think women struggle with this.
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What will I do with myself?
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Because they don't know who they are.
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And this was a big deal.
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00:33:58,400 --> 00:34:05,920
So I put all of my leaders in my soul masters on this slow down detox.
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They didn't like it either.
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They we didn't like it.
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00:34:08,720 --> 00:34:13,800
But on my point was it made a huge awakening to us saying, what have you been doing?
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You've been fixing it for everybody else.
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And when it's your turn, you don't know what to do.
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With yourself.
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So I see that pattern all day long.
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It was in me.
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00:34:21,840 --> 00:34:27,160
And it's really awakening of, of course, there are days you've got to do more little.
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But are we even observing ourselves with the pattern that's truly present in front of us?
532
00:34:32,400 --> 00:34:37,280
And I think women are doing this because they want to be seen.
533
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They want to be wanted.
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They're ashamed.
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There's that shame and fear.
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I'm ashamed to ask for what I want because I'm afraid you're going to criticize me or
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tell me I'm so afraid of what's going to come back out of us.
538
00:34:49,560 --> 00:34:54,560
I think you just took the words right out of my mouth because I think for women nature has
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given you nurture.
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And now life has supersized your nurture.
541
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And without people feeding on that nurture, who are you?
542
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What good are you?
543
00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:12,600
What value are you?
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It's a very big deep dive for a lot of people.
545
00:35:16,120 --> 00:35:21,320
And like I said, I'm grateful because I have this product or tool that I was like, okay,
546
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you're going to deep dive into these four wounds of yourself.
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Versions and wounds.
548
00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:27,640
But challenges in saying, Kate, who are you?
549
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And when I took off my label, took off the title, took off all the accolades, all the plaques
550
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on the wall.
551
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I was like, who are you done?
552
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And I had to sit with it for quite a while to say, it's a really good question.
553
00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:50,560
And as you were sharing earlier, it took, I don't want it to take these health scares and
554
00:35:50,560 --> 00:35:56,360
death scares and divorces to hurt people enough to wake them up.
555
00:35:56,360 --> 00:36:00,080
I want you to be able to see it now and just start taking baby steps to grow that.
556
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I'm going to challenge you.
557
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Are we capable of that?
558
00:36:02,080 --> 00:36:10,640
I mean, as human beings, it seems like we only grow once we are faced with death and destruction.
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As a humanity and as an individual, it seems that's our pattern.
560
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Is there actually a way out of that?
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Well, you have, there are two ways that the nervous system psyche can change through trauma
562
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or through repetition.
563
00:36:30,040 --> 00:36:34,560
My goal is to get them on the repetition road, which was, again, I just put many challenges.
564
00:36:34,560 --> 00:36:36,920
I can go back to work and I mean, don't give me a wrong.
565
00:36:36,920 --> 00:36:40,440
I've had some good long days, you know, for certain things that were coming up.
566
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But I did know I could go back to something I was starting to get used to, which is having
567
00:36:44,680 --> 00:36:46,800
some free time I've never had.
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00:36:46,800 --> 00:36:51,880
So it was, it's these baby steps of repetition that I started putting into myself knowing that
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something I had to grow in because I chose to.
570
00:36:54,680 --> 00:36:58,920
I think we're waking up enough now to say, "I really do want to change.
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Just help me do it not so painfully.
572
00:37:01,840 --> 00:37:02,840
Don't get me wrong.
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There are people who are going to get hit hard.
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I eat my clients who show up and go, "I think I'm getting divorced."
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Or, you know, "I just lost all this money or I got this health scare."
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And again, your body will say, "No, if you don't."
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00:37:19,000 --> 00:37:21,960
So we have a happy medium to find both.
578
00:37:21,960 --> 00:37:25,480
But we do, that's why I called the blind spot, right?
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Because we avoid this hot.
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00:37:26,560 --> 00:37:27,560
It's hot.
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It's uncomfortable.
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Don't go in that room.
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It's uncomfortable.
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Don't go in that partnership room.
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00:37:31,560 --> 00:37:32,560
Don't go in the partnership room.
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00:37:32,560 --> 00:37:33,560
They're going to hurt me.
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00:37:33,560 --> 00:37:34,560
It's going to be bad.
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00:37:34,560 --> 00:37:35,560
And then we avoid avoiding.
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00:37:35,560 --> 00:37:38,960
We get blindsided by that same relationship in different pants and different environments.
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With a different person, every time when we keep getting blindsided, because we didn't
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00:37:42,600 --> 00:37:47,840
want to go in the room and learn geometry or partnership or whatever it is.
592
00:37:47,840 --> 00:37:48,840
And it's that simple.
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00:37:48,840 --> 00:37:53,920
So walking in the room is really my gift to people is just walk in.
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I'm not telling you to make massive changes.
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Just start somewhere.
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Don't go to speak with you for hours.
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There's...
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I know.
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00:38:02,600 --> 00:38:03,600
I can speak with you too.
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00:38:03,600 --> 00:38:04,600
You guys are so fun.
601
00:38:04,600 --> 00:38:05,600
I'm like, "Thank you for getting it."
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00:38:05,600 --> 00:38:13,640
There's so much depth, such richness that is necessary to get in front of individuals.
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So they become aware.
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00:38:14,640 --> 00:38:19,840
I think that's where you and us really resonate is awareness.
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We want to bring awareness.
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The things that are...
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We already own these things.
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We're just not aware of them.
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To get us out and get us fully active in life.
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00:38:34,080 --> 00:38:38,080
This has been a enriching conversation.
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Truly has.
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I want to give people an opportunity to connect with you.
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00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:43,880
How would they do that if they were listening to this?
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I want to connect.
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00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:49,760
You know that the easiest place to start is to go on to my website.
616
00:38:49,760 --> 00:38:51,760
I have a reality check quiz.
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Like, free.
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00:38:52,760 --> 00:38:53,760
You just go check yourself.
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Like, how's my reality look right now?
620
00:38:56,480 --> 00:38:57,480
And you know, it's easy.
621
00:38:57,480 --> 00:39:01,360
It's where you can kind of start seeing your patterns, you know, blindly instead of waiting
622
00:39:01,360 --> 00:39:04,160
five years from burnout as we started this call on.
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00:39:04,160 --> 00:39:10,240
And so, you know, they can go there and start there and get into my reality check, reality
624
00:39:10,240 --> 00:39:15,680
to check class gosh, I'm getting like, loose my tongue.
625
00:39:15,680 --> 00:39:20,640
And if not, then I have the all-in soul masters, right, which is where we deep dive into every
626
00:39:20,640 --> 00:39:23,120
aspect of your soul but from truth.
627
00:39:23,120 --> 00:39:24,320
And you can just go to my homepage.
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00:39:24,320 --> 00:39:26,360
I deserve it now.com.
629
00:39:26,360 --> 00:39:28,800
My name, my name, Daune Thompson dot com works too.
630
00:39:28,800 --> 00:39:31,920
But I deserve it now seems to be easier to remember.
631
00:39:31,920 --> 00:39:34,160
Spell like name, because it's different.
632
00:39:34,160 --> 00:39:36,520
So my name is spelled D-A-U-N-E.
633
00:39:36,520 --> 00:39:40,360
I know it looks like Dwayne, even the computer wants to swap the A and the U and turn it into
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00:39:40,360 --> 00:39:44,520
Dwayne, but it's really DAUNE and e Thompson dot com.
635
00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:51,760
So I have to say this, yeah, this has been, it's for Heather and I, it's amazing for us,
636
00:39:51,760 --> 00:39:53,760
because we live in our own little world.
637
00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:59,360
We have our, you know, we have our podcasts and we have the BITCH, of the bitch and we're
638
00:39:59,360 --> 00:40:03,720
working on these things and we talk to women individually.
639
00:40:03,720 --> 00:40:06,680
And we find such soulmates.
640
00:40:06,680 --> 00:40:08,720
It's amazing to us.
641
00:40:08,720 --> 00:40:10,920
Yeah, I'm grateful to you too, because thank you.
642
00:40:10,920 --> 00:40:13,840
This has been just a pleasure to get you get it.
643
00:40:13,840 --> 00:40:16,440
It's when I used to talk to people who get it and like, thank you.
644
00:40:16,440 --> 00:40:18,440
You see what I see.
645
00:40:18,440 --> 00:40:23,520
And honestly, it's kind of what gives me peace because I see enough of us.
646
00:40:23,520 --> 00:40:29,440
I'm on enough podcasts, speak with enough groups and we're waking up and realizing we can have
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it all.
648
00:40:30,440 --> 00:40:31,440
It's the name of my company.
649
00:40:31,440 --> 00:40:32,440
I Deserve It Now, right?
650
00:40:32,440 --> 00:40:34,640
And my point is, is we can have it all.
651
00:40:34,640 --> 00:40:38,480
We just have to have the right tools to help us see that it shouldn't be overwhelming to
652
00:40:38,480 --> 00:40:39,480
have it all.
653
00:40:39,480 --> 00:40:42,320
And the right people to show their experiences.
654
00:40:42,320 --> 00:40:43,320
Absolutely.
655
00:40:43,320 --> 00:40:48,440
And it's because of people like you that I get to, to remind them myself, don't stop.
656
00:40:48,440 --> 00:40:49,440
They're right.
657
00:40:49,440 --> 00:40:50,440
We're all together.
658
00:40:50,440 --> 00:40:51,960
Thank you so much.
659
00:40:51,960 --> 00:40:52,960
Yeah.
660
00:40:52,960 --> 00:40:53,960
I appreciate it.
661
00:40:53,960 --> 00:40:55,480
It's been an absolute pleasure.
662
00:40:55,480 --> 00:40:56,480
Yes.
663
00:40:56,480 --> 00:41:03,680
And you have been listening to the Virgin, the beauty and the bitch, B-I-T-C-H in her year.
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Find us.
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00:41:04,680 --> 00:41:05,680
Like us.
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