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Speaker 1: Hey, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Casual Chaos. I'm here with Al and we are continuing Monday's episode and now we're going to get into some chaotic questions. Are you ready? I guess, sir, what's the most unserious DM you've gotten recently?
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Speaker 2: Un serious? Most of them are pretty un serious. I don't know, that's like stupid memes.
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Speaker 1: I guess who spends the longest getting ready? Reality TV boys or influence influencers? For sure, there's a lot that goes into it. We have to do our get readies with me.
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Speaker 2: Hey, there's no judgment, there's no judgment. It's just I remember the shows that I've been on when they are are reality TV guys, were there's like three hours for the girls to get dressed, and we get dressed in twenty minutes, and we're napping, we're eating, you know, like we're not allowed to talk amongst ourselves and we wait for hours and hours and the girls look beautiful, and you guys deserve to take your time and take all the time you need and we'll wait patiently.
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Speaker 3: But influences, for.
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Speaker 1: Sure, that's right. What's your biggest dating red flag?
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Speaker 2: Someone that's not good at communicating. Communicating is really important to me. I cannot I've got very strong intuition, and I know when something isn't right, or when something changes, or there's a cadence or a pace change, like, just communicate it. We're all adults. I personally can take it a million times over if something isn't going right, or I've done something wrong, or you've got cold feet or vice versa. But there's no point leaving somebody in the dark or not communicating that. And I've worked really hard to be a better communicator, and so for me, it's a big red flag when somebody can't communicate.
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Speaker 1: I feel like communications key in a relationship. If you don't have that key, it just turns into all different directions.
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Speaker 3: But some people are terrible communicators.
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Speaker 1: I know. Sometimes it's hard to just express it. I feel like it's just and sometimes it doesn't come naturally to people. It really doesn't.
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Speaker 2: Sure, And it's the hardest thing in the world to communicate honestly in the moment. But you save so much of people's time and pain and all of that kind of stuff, and so it's nobody wants to do it. It's horrible to tell someone that you don't want to be with them, or that you know your feelings have changed, or you're not.
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Speaker 3: Sure about it.
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Speaker 2: But it is a nice way to do it because you save everyone's time and energy, and the hurt that it feels in that moment is a lot less than leading somebody on for longer and then hurting them even more.
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Speaker 1: If you had to survive on one reality show forever, which one are you picking?
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Speaker 2: Survive on a reality show forever? And I have to go back to my roots and just say Love Island. It's what I know the most, right, so you know, lock me in there. I guess I'll either meet somebody and we'll stay in a villa for the rest of our lives, or it would just be a constant flower me dating new people.
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Speaker 1: Either way, what's the funniest rumor you've heard about yourself?
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Speaker 2: The funniest rumor I've heard about myself? I honestly I try not to hear see look at anything. I mean, there was tiktoks going around that I was going back on Love Island All Stars. I think that was at the beginning of this year, which was just a funny rumor because it's just not going to happen, and.
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Speaker 1: I feel like you've made them very clear during this interview.
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Speaker 2: I have and like the producers call me and I love them and it's all great, but I'm like, I ain't coming, and then there's all these videos of speculation and I'm living my life, so it's not me.
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Speaker 1: What's your most toxic habit in relations? I feel like you're a very like not toxic guy, so I don't. I'm like curious what you're going to say.
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Speaker 2: And I think I can be intense and I love bringing people into my life and sharing my life with them, and that's my friends and my family, and sometimes I do that when I'm unsure if I want anything long term with that person. And at first I thought, well, it's fine, I'm just bringing them into my life and showing them my world. And I never always I didn't think about what those actions reflect to that person that's being brought in, And so I do less of that because I'm more mindful that, you know, me talking to my mom about someone and telling them or you know, introducing them to all my mates. We'll go into the beach or to somebody is like, oh, this is going really well, and definitely.
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Speaker 1: When you bring a girl around to meet your family or your friends, that is a good sign, and you know they think that it's moving forward and in a positive direction, because I mean, usually if you're bringing somebody around your friends or family, that means you really care for them.
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Speaker 3: For sure.
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Speaker 2: And it's not that I don't care for them. I'm just still figuring out whether, yeah, my idea is of vouta or maybe seeing if they fit in and I and if they mesh well.
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Speaker 1: And I know sometimes that could be you know, that's probably your way of thinking. This isn't so serious, because if you are so close with your family and your friends, it's like, oh, just come meet my friend that I'm talking to, see how it, see how it goes, see if they mesh well, and then yeah, I see both sides. But I can understand how sometimes that might be a little too soon for some people.
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Speaker 3: For sure.
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Speaker 2: I've realized that I should just be a bit more mindful and make sure that I'm communicating before bringing them around. And then maybe in a couple of weeks like, oh, this isn't working for me, and they're like, but I met all your friends and your sister was in town.
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Speaker 3: And I'm like, yeah.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, Hey, nobody's perfect.
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Speaker 1: No, you live, and you learn what's something that instantly gives you the eck?
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Speaker 3: You know?
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Speaker 2: I really I hate the whole dick movement. When you like someone, nothing's giving us an eck, and they're Okay.
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Speaker 1: That's not I don't think that's just fully true.
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Speaker 2: I think it is like we turn a blind eye to so much when we genuinely like someone, and as soon as we're looking for outs, then something will give us the eck.
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Speaker 1: So like, okay, fine, okay, Like what if your partner was sitting across from you and you really loved them so much, but they chewed with their mouth open.
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Speaker 3: I'd make a joke of it.
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Speaker 1: And every time you eat with your partner you had to look at that.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, but then that would give me an ick if it was something I didn't like, unless that became an endearing quality that like I liked, but just wouldn't couldn't happen everywhere because we need etiquette sometimes and then there's like a conversation around Hey, when it's just you and I like two with your mouth open, if you taste the flavors more whatever, But like if we're at a meeting or something maybe just you know, I don't know, I just.
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Speaker 3: I have a real.
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Speaker 2: I'm big on just us being human and like we all have igs and if we get caught up on everyone's dick. There's things that just put me off about people. You know, I like, I guess and I love the sunshine and I love blue skies as part of the reason I live in LA. But like, if somebody wants to spend the whole day in bed, or like doesn't wake up and get on with their day or isn't motivated by that, that gives me the ick.
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Speaker 1: Yes, okay, yeah, so you like someone that gets up is motivated, you know, even if it's going for a walk, just.
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Speaker 3: Like yeah, it's just like, let's enjoy the day. Yeah, let's just get up.
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Speaker 2: I can't land bed for very long in the morning often, you know, And so that that for me is is an it.
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Speaker 3: Yeah we got there. See.
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Speaker 1: Well, Yeah, what's one thing you miss about life before Reality TV?
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Speaker 2: The freedom to do whatever I wanted and not feel like anybody's watching. And I'm not saying people are watching, and you know, I don't know, you know, I'm not going to sit here and make out that I'm the most famous person in the world by any stretch, right, But it's the feeling that I feel when I don't know if somebody knows me or they don't, or I don't feel like I can be free because are they looking at me just because they're looking at me? Are they looking at me because they know me from somewhere like And I miss that freedom in myself to fly under the radar whether people know me or they don't. So it's like a personal thing that is now I'm more hyper aware of and I don't know if they know me or they don't.
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Speaker 3: It's irrelevant. It's how I feel.
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Speaker 1: I couldn't agree more. It's just the thought of you know, obviously you're in the public eye, so you're not you don't know who's around you, or who's watching, or who's looking. So it's that feeling within yourself that you do need to be very self aware. Maybe you know, when you're out at a bar, you don't get as drunk as maybe you typically would of if prior to being in the public eye. Just little things where it's you know, you do have to be a little more self aware of your actions, not in a way of changing your personality, but just doing things that wouldn't harm you or harm your you know, just harm harm things around you.
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Speaker 3: Sure. Yeah.
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Speaker 2: I used to travel on the London Underground after I did the TV whatever, and I it's very obvious when somebody is taking a picture of you on their phone and they're pretending like they're not. But equally maybe some people just use their phone in a weird way and so like so I'm on the train, just sat their headphones in going wherever I'm going, and like all I see is people around like you know, like this, and and I'm like, is this person trying to come in? Are they just taking a round and picture of me? Or are they just using their phone?
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Speaker 3: Different?
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Speaker 2: And that's a me problem unless they are taking a picture of me, And then I think that's weird because just like ask me and I'll be.
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Speaker 1: In the same way. I'm like, please just ask. I would I literally would appreciate you so much more if you just asked, rather than also just taking a photo of me. And I'm I look horrible. I rather look at least look good for the photo.
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Speaker 2: Sure, but again it's a personal thing where it's like I now look at everyone using their phone and I'm like, is that suspicious or is that not? And honestly, I would want the earth to swallow me up if God forbid. I there was somebody and I like called them out on it and they were like, what the F I know.
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Speaker 1: They go like this and it's like a game or something, friend.
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Speaker 2: And I'm just like, I've sat here, it's so paranoid thinking this, and so yeah, yeah.
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Speaker 1: Well, thank you so much. That is all I have for you today.
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Speaker 3: My pleasure. Thank you so much for having me, and.
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Speaker 1: Thank you for coming on casual chaos.
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Speaker 3: Of course, take care
Speaker 1: Hey, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Casual Chaos. I'm here with Al and we are continuing Monday's episode and now we're going to get into some chaotic questions. Are you ready? I guess, sir, what's the most unserious DM you've gotten recently?
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Speaker 2: Un serious? Most of them are pretty un serious. I don't know, that's like stupid memes.
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Speaker 1: I guess who spends the longest getting ready? Reality TV boys or influence influencers? For sure, there's a lot that goes into it. We have to do our get readies with me.
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Speaker 2: Hey, there's no judgment, there's no judgment. It's just I remember the shows that I've been on when they are are reality TV guys, were there's like three hours for the girls to get dressed, and we get dressed in twenty minutes, and we're napping, we're eating, you know, like we're not allowed to talk amongst ourselves and we wait for hours and hours and the girls look beautiful, and you guys deserve to take your time and take all the time you need and we'll wait patiently.
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Speaker 3: But influences, for.
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Speaker 1: Sure, that's right. What's your biggest dating red flag?
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Speaker 2: Someone that's not good at communicating. Communicating is really important to me. I cannot I've got very strong intuition, and I know when something isn't right, or when something changes, or there's a cadence or a pace change, like, just communicate it. We're all adults. I personally can take it a million times over if something isn't going right, or I've done something wrong, or you've got cold feet or vice versa. But there's no point leaving somebody in the dark or not communicating that. And I've worked really hard to be a better communicator, and so for me, it's a big red flag when somebody can't communicate.
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Speaker 1: I feel like communications key in a relationship. If you don't have that key, it just turns into all different directions.
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Speaker 3: But some people are terrible communicators.
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Speaker 1: I know. Sometimes it's hard to just express it. I feel like it's just and sometimes it doesn't come naturally to people. It really doesn't.
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Speaker 2: Sure, And it's the hardest thing in the world to communicate honestly in the moment. But you save so much of people's time and pain and all of that kind of stuff, and so it's nobody wants to do it. It's horrible to tell someone that you don't want to be with them, or that you know your feelings have changed, or you're not.
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Speaker 3: Sure about it.
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Speaker 2: But it is a nice way to do it because you save everyone's time and energy, and the hurt that it feels in that moment is a lot less than leading somebody on for longer and then hurting them even more.
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Speaker 1: If you had to survive on one reality show forever, which one are you picking?
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Speaker 2: Survive on a reality show forever? And I have to go back to my roots and just say Love Island. It's what I know the most, right, so you know, lock me in there. I guess I'll either meet somebody and we'll stay in a villa for the rest of our lives, or it would just be a constant flower me dating new people.
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Speaker 1: Either way, what's the funniest rumor you've heard about yourself?
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Speaker 2: The funniest rumor I've heard about myself? I honestly I try not to hear see look at anything. I mean, there was tiktoks going around that I was going back on Love Island All Stars. I think that was at the beginning of this year, which was just a funny rumor because it's just not going to happen, and.
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Speaker 1: I feel like you've made them very clear during this interview.
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Speaker 2: I have and like the producers call me and I love them and it's all great, but I'm like, I ain't coming, and then there's all these videos of speculation and I'm living my life, so it's not me.
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Speaker 1: What's your most toxic habit in relations? I feel like you're a very like not toxic guy, so I don't. I'm like curious what you're going to say.
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Speaker 2: And I think I can be intense and I love bringing people into my life and sharing my life with them, and that's my friends and my family, and sometimes I do that when I'm unsure if I want anything long term with that person. And at first I thought, well, it's fine, I'm just bringing them into my life and showing them my world. And I never always I didn't think about what those actions reflect to that person that's being brought in, And so I do less of that because I'm more mindful that, you know, me talking to my mom about someone and telling them or you know, introducing them to all my mates. We'll go into the beach or to somebody is like, oh, this is going really well, and definitely.
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Speaker 1: When you bring a girl around to meet your family or your friends, that is a good sign, and you know they think that it's moving forward and in a positive direction, because I mean, usually if you're bringing somebody around your friends or family, that means you really care for them.
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Speaker 3: For sure.
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Speaker 2: And it's not that I don't care for them. I'm just still figuring out whether, yeah, my idea is of vouta or maybe seeing if they fit in and I and if they mesh well.
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Speaker 1: And I know sometimes that could be you know, that's probably your way of thinking. This isn't so serious, because if you are so close with your family and your friends, it's like, oh, just come meet my friend that I'm talking to, see how it, see how it goes, see if they mesh well, and then yeah, I see both sides. But I can understand how sometimes that might be a little too soon for some people.
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Speaker 3: For sure.
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Speaker 2: I've realized that I should just be a bit more mindful and make sure that I'm communicating before bringing them around. And then maybe in a couple of weeks like, oh, this isn't working for me, and they're like, but I met all your friends and your sister was in town.
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Speaker 3: And I'm like, yeah.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, Hey, nobody's perfect.
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Speaker 1: No, you live, and you learn what's something that instantly gives you the eck?
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Speaker 3: You know?
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Speaker 2: I really I hate the whole dick movement. When you like someone, nothing's giving us an eck, and they're Okay.
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Speaker 1: That's not I don't think that's just fully true.
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Speaker 2: I think it is like we turn a blind eye to so much when we genuinely like someone, and as soon as we're looking for outs, then something will give us the eck.
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Speaker 1: So like, okay, fine, okay, Like what if your partner was sitting across from you and you really loved them so much, but they chewed with their mouth open.
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Speaker 3: I'd make a joke of it.
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Speaker 1: And every time you eat with your partner you had to look at that.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, but then that would give me an ick if it was something I didn't like, unless that became an endearing quality that like I liked, but just wouldn't couldn't happen everywhere because we need etiquette sometimes and then there's like a conversation around Hey, when it's just you and I like two with your mouth open, if you taste the flavors more whatever, But like if we're at a meeting or something maybe just you know, I don't know, I just.
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Speaker 3: I have a real.
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Speaker 2: I'm big on just us being human and like we all have igs and if we get caught up on everyone's dick. There's things that just put me off about people. You know, I like, I guess and I love the sunshine and I love blue skies as part of the reason I live in LA. But like, if somebody wants to spend the whole day in bed, or like doesn't wake up and get on with their day or isn't motivated by that, that gives me the ick.
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Speaker 1: Yes, okay, yeah, so you like someone that gets up is motivated, you know, even if it's going for a walk, just.
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Speaker 3: Like yeah, it's just like, let's enjoy the day. Yeah, let's just get up.
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Speaker 2: I can't land bed for very long in the morning often, you know, And so that that for me is is an it.
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Speaker 3: Yeah we got there. See.
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Speaker 1: Well, Yeah, what's one thing you miss about life before Reality TV?
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Speaker 2: The freedom to do whatever I wanted and not feel like anybody's watching. And I'm not saying people are watching, and you know, I don't know, you know, I'm not going to sit here and make out that I'm the most famous person in the world by any stretch, right, But it's the feeling that I feel when I don't know if somebody knows me or they don't, or I don't feel like I can be free because are they looking at me just because they're looking at me? Are they looking at me because they know me from somewhere like And I miss that freedom in myself to fly under the radar whether people know me or they don't. So it's like a personal thing that is now I'm more hyper aware of and I don't know if they know me or they don't.
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Speaker 3: It's irrelevant. It's how I feel.
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Speaker 1: I couldn't agree more. It's just the thought of you know, obviously you're in the public eye, so you're not you don't know who's around you, or who's watching, or who's looking. So it's that feeling within yourself that you do need to be very self aware. Maybe you know, when you're out at a bar, you don't get as drunk as maybe you typically would of if prior to being in the public eye. Just little things where it's you know, you do have to be a little more self aware of your actions, not in a way of changing your personality, but just doing things that wouldn't harm you or harm your you know, just harm harm things around you.
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Speaker 3: Sure. Yeah.
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Speaker 2: I used to travel on the London Underground after I did the TV whatever, and I it's very obvious when somebody is taking a picture of you on their phone and they're pretending like they're not. But equally maybe some people just use their phone in a weird way and so like so I'm on the train, just sat their headphones in going wherever I'm going, and like all I see is people around like you know, like this, and and I'm like, is this person trying to come in? Are they just taking a round and picture of me? Or are they just using their phone?
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Speaker 3: Different?
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Speaker 2: And that's a me problem unless they are taking a picture of me, And then I think that's weird because just like ask me and I'll be.
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Speaker 1: In the same way. I'm like, please just ask. I would I literally would appreciate you so much more if you just asked, rather than also just taking a photo of me. And I'm I look horrible. I rather look at least look good for the photo.
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Speaker 2: Sure, but again it's a personal thing where it's like I now look at everyone using their phone and I'm like, is that suspicious or is that not? And honestly, I would want the earth to swallow me up if God forbid. I there was somebody and I like called them out on it and they were like, what the F I know.
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Speaker 1: They go like this and it's like a game or something, friend.
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Speaker 2: And I'm just like, I've sat here, it's so paranoid thinking this, and so yeah, yeah.
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Speaker 1: Well, thank you so much. That is all I have for you today.
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Speaker 3: My pleasure. Thank you so much for having me, and.
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Speaker 1: Thank you for coming on casual chaos.
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Speaker 3: Of course, take care
