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Welcome to the Mama Mudra podcast.
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I'm Kate Thompson-Duwe, and I believe that the wellness industry has a joy problem.
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So we're aiming to fix it.
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This podcast is where we bring in experts to challenge beliefs and tools to feel good,
stay consistent and build a life that works.
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Because in this community, joy is the new performance metric.
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Anyone that knows me personally will know this guest that I have in studio with me today.
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He is my uncle.
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Chris Thompson and someone that I just adore and have so much respect for.
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And when I was first thinking about this episode, the topic was, is discipline the enemy
of joy or is it the enabler of joy?
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Because when I think of Uncle Chris, and I'm going to struggle to not call you Uncle Chris
the whole way through, when I think of Chris, um I think of extreme discipline.
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But then when I was discussing the episode with him,
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He involved Jean, his incredible wife, into the conversation.
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And Jean corrected me with regards to it not necessarily being a discussion about
discipline, but being a discussion about passion, which I love um because there is no
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real, well, there can be discipline without passion, but there certainly is no joy without
passion and discipline in equal parts.
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So Chris, thank you so much for being here today.
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First happy birthday for yesterday, you're gorgeous and I'm so blessed to be here.
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Thank you.
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Thank you.
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I'm going to read this off because I don't want to get this wrong.
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So, Chris, the reason that I think of him when I think of discipline and passion is
because of his incredible lifelong commitment to his art, which is karate.
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He spent his entire life just so dedicated and so invested in this world.
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You hold the rank of Shiha 9th Dan in Kimura Shokukai karate.
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and you also serve as a world joint chief instructor.
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And as you approach your 80th birthday, which is hard to believe, you are still traveling
internationally to teach, demonstrate, and inspire karate students all around the world,
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which is quite incredible.
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um So yeah, what I wanna discuss with you is long before there was this focus on wellness
and karate even was that mainstream, long before everyone was invested in longevity.
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you know, way before it was as widely known as it is today, this was your life.
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You found your passion for it and you chose to dedicate everything to it.
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You were sleeping on benches and dojos, apparently, according to Jean.
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And, you know, you really were studying how to optimize your own wellness and human
performance at a time when it wasn't a thing.
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um So I think that it's so incredibly interesting to talk to you about discipline and
passion.
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because you just did it just because of how you felt about this sport that you love so
much.
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It wasn't something that you were doing in a performative way.
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It wasn't even specifically with a goal in mind.
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You just did it because you couldn't not do it.
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So talk to us about how considering you've spent your life being this focused on one
thing, did it feel like a hard slug and like hard discipline to you or is it just is it
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purely that passion that's always driven you?
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Kate, it's...
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I think I was very blessed to have an engagement with a lady that fell apart, came back to
South Africa, opened a dojo in 1969, and it was kind of irresponsible.
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I was living in the dojo on a wooden bench, but I had this absolute fascination with
karate.
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Mom and dad were out of the country, and I could just be myself and follow exactly what I
wanted without letting anybody else down.
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Although your mom saw me in the street and I think she thought I was a bit weird, which I
was.
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I found the karate, something appealed to me, something challenged me about it, and it was
just an automatic thing.
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And so when I was in the dojo, I wanted to focus everything on the karate.
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So I was living on 10-round a month, bench, sleeping bag, cold water, noise, vagrants in
the front door.
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Every morning was a bit of a mess, you can imagine.
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but I was absolutely happy and thrilled to do it.
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I don't remember any difficulty.
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We had more cockroaches than anybody had ever seen in any one building in life, but it was
just an absolute treat.
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And of course, then I wasn't eating enough, and so I needed to get a job at the night
clubs to look after people and be a shepherd.
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em then of course, I was feeling that my health might be compromised.
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So I think that was the beginning of many things, but it gave me the opportunity to say,
put life on hold.
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I don't care, and I don't care what the world thinks.
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I don't care about what anybody else thinks.
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I'm just gonna do what my heart is telling me to do.
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So when I find other people doing
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something that they have a passion, it might not be financially sensible, but they've
decided to do it, then I'm always with them in spirit, because who knows what it can lead
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to.
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And then of course I fell in love with the possibility of representing South Africa, but I
had to really teach myself almost entirely.
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I had a real challenge to do that, so I needed the nutrition to fuel me.
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And I was looking for any micro detail that I could have, so that I could just gain,
because I wasn't making
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I was close, but not quite.
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Close, but no coconut.
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And so I had to improve, I had to get better.
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And I had to, I had to, so it was really many of those things I think that led to what
looked like discipline, but it was actually just.
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I think people need to make, first of all I think everybody needs to find something to be
passionate about.
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Something, you know that, something to be excited about.
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And then that can lead you.
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And the next thing, you're disciplining yourself, but you're actually just following your
joy, I think.
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And I mean, obviously there were sacrifices, you you speak about sleeping on the bench, et
cetera, et cetera, which even though they didn't feel like sacrifices then, in hindsight,
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obviously you are, you you can acknowledge that there were.
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So what do you think making those sacrifices in order to achieve the bigger goal taught
you that you kept on using in life?
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I think a lot of people think that they have discipline.
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They certainly think that they have a passion for something.
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and they are prepared to work towards it, but I don't necessarily think that a lot of
people are prepared to sacrifice for it.
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think, you know, we're quite, people have become quite, we expect instant gratification,
you know, if it takes too long, by great, I'm not gonna, I couldn't be bothered.
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And also they're not prepared to sacrifice now to win later.
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You, I think you, it sounds like you learned that without having to sort of teach it to
yourself, it just happened because of how strong your passion was for what you were doing.
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So.
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Do you think that that was something that you then consciously put into place in the rest
of your life in terms of understanding when sacrifice is needed?
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Or is it just something that you've always done really without thinking?
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I think first of all looking back, I think it was, if I look back and pretend it was
tough, if we think of all the people in South Africa that are living in just as tough a
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condition as a normal everyday life, and I think we have to always remember that and
respect that.
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And no matter how tough things are, actually get over it and wake up.
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And also the respect every day for the people that we meet.
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We must never forget that.
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But I do think that everything I've done
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in a way looking back was perhaps a self-defense.
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Because you either prepare for the future or the future will prepare for you.
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And you'll either make a choice or the world will choose for you.
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But if you're ahead of the game, a bit like what coaching in the karate, be ahead all the
time.
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And to be preparing for any eventualities so that you're safe.
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I'm bit of a challenge to the family because it's constantly no mistakes, no mistakes.
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And I think we make the right choices.
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the minute in our life as to what we are allowed to come into our mind, what we put in our
body, the way we treat people, we treat other people, the way we see ourselves.
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We're making choices all the time.
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So I think that's all to a degree discipline because it's self-preservation.
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It's being sensible.
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Otherwise, we will pay the price.
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Absolutely.
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The one thing that I will always think of when I think about you is, you know, everyone
assumes martial arts is about fighting.
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And obviously, you know, I grew up around you and it's always been your life.
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So I'm very aware of it.
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In fact, I remember trying to start studying karate when I think I was about, I don't
know, three or four, and I was teaching you ballet in exchange for you teaching karate.
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And the perception that people have of karate being about fighting.
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But it's so not.
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It's actually karate, think, specifically um is more about knowing that if you need to
fight, you can take that guy down, no problem.
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But it's more about avoiding the fight and actually deflecting or, you know, trying to
find a way to sort of subdue your opponent as opposed to being forced to fight.
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based on that and the analogy or, you know, the sort of the example that sits in one's
life.
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How do you think that has impacted your approach to things in life, to challenges and
situations that perhaps could have been more confrontational, but you had that sort of
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restraint?
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Because from what I've heard, you didn't have much restraint when you were younger.
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I'll tell you where I got the best experience was looking after other people.
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Yeah.
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If I saw somebody being bullied.
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As a bouncer.
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I can't watch.
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Not just as a bouncer.
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If you're driving along the road and somebody's in trouble, if somebody's being hurt,
somebody's being abused, I can't watch.
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Yeah.
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And so you would get involved to help them, which was great for practice because the more
you look after people, the more chances you get.
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He's again, he's practicing for a tournament, damn it!
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And so I think it was a responsible thing.
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It wasn't an irresponsible thing to do, but yeah, I think the practice was very valuable.
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But you know, the martial arts, very often, I think nearly all of the martial arts will
work with the idea of what they call tori and uke.
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You're tori, you're practicing.
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I'm uke, I'm the receiver.
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And I must accommodate you, but you must also not abuse me.
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And so we will work together and I will work with you to the level that is good for you,
not good for me.
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I'll push it to a level that'll be a benefit for you.
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I might push you, but at the same time, it's all about that looking after each other.
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And so although it looks violent, it's actually a beneficial uh level of potential
violence.
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And then you take that through into relationships.
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What I've learned, the one thing I've learned that I'm so excited about is I'm just in
love with the idea of love.
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know, Master Ueshiba, the founder of Aikido, was the first person, I think the only one I
ever saw that said, Aiki is love.
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And that's because it's all about yielding.
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It's all about the yielding.
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And that's all, as you mentioned just now, rather let the power go past, rather deflect,
avoid, et cetera.
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That's very much what they do.
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So it's a very beautiful art like that.
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And in the karate, after many years of training, you can learn to do that.
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Most of the time it's a bit forced.
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A of the karate is actually too forced, too mechanical, almost muscular level.
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And there are levels beyond level, beyond level, beyond level.
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It's the beauty of training a long time that you learn.
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And then there are compensations for age.
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So now you have to learn because you're not gonna be able to do what you did and then you
find that you've been wasting time.
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So yeah.
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That's amazing.
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um You, as you said m earlier, became very interested in nutrition and, you know, wellness
and making sure that you were taking the best care of yourself in order to improve your
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performance to represent South Africa um way before it was as big as it is now.
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So what did that study of um your own body, but nutrition and wellness and everything,
what did that teach you in terms of how
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sort of your lifestyle, I would imagine you were way ahead of the curve.
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I mean, I know, you know, just your way of eating and the way that you do, know, the level
of consciousness you have with regards to what you put into your body.
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What has that sort of taught you in terms of nutrition and lifestyle outside of the dojo?
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And how has that affected your way of life and what you've taught to family and, you know,
grandchildren?
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know, the early days, the pioneers that I, the only pioneers I knew of was a company
called Rodale.
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And Rodale were saying things that nobody else was taking note of, which they're making
more and more of a fuss of now, 55, 60 years later.
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The pollutants, all of the bad stuff, and all of the food industry, and how they're taking
advantage of the world in that way.
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But I was looking for any micronutrients.
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I went to the health shops
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and I found this form of yeast and that form of molasses and this and this and this and
this.
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And I was putting together concoctions.
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But again, I was looking at the labels and going, okay, there's even more here.
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That can maybe just help you to be 1 % better.
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But I think the secret of the nutrition for me now is that we should avoid the load.
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that food can put through your body.
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Everything we put into our body is to a degree a load.
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It's either a plus or a minus.
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And of course the body can cope to a degree.
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It's a marvelous coping mechanism.
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But eventually it's gonna add up.
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So that whole bioavailability of food, what you're eating, how long will it take to
digest.
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for consuming.
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All of those things, you know.
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And of course now the microbiome is becoming so important.
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We got involved more than 30 years ago with health products and that's been a boost for
us.
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again, that science is evolving and the tailoring to individuals.
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saw that Jean said you posted something about this.
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Which Herbalife has just bought.
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Incredible.
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We're all individuals, we're all special, unique, individual human beings, but it's
difficult to know what to put through the body.
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So if in doubt, it's that reduce the load and just try and make it easy for the body so
that you can have the energy for yourselves to thrive.
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Yeah, I mean it kind of leads from the nutrition into the self-preservation, know um Jean
also mentioned when we were discussing today's episode how you you were always like years
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ago very conscious of when you had to travel a lot, know How is the travel going to affect
you?
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How can you make sure that you're traveling in a way that's comfortable enough that you
can still be at optimal levels when you land and say true, it's a head try which I can
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just imagine the situations she must have had to deal with
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on route traveling with you.
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Why do you think it is, know, considering this is always just been how you are and who you
are, why do you think that so many people struggle to do that, to prioritize themselves
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and their wellbeing until something goes wrong, until they reach a point that they're
like, oh, now I've got to, you know, now I'm in hospital for three months and I can't
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train for three months or whatever it is.
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You know, what do you think it is and how?
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probably the bigger question is how would one try and change people's mindsets to
understand that to be like you in the year that you're turning 80 is not something that
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you start at the age of 78.
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It's something that you start in your 20s or younger.
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And why the hell don't more people prioritize that from when they have the time?
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know, how, like, how do you change that mindset?
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It baffles me.
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I think.
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I think everybody's trying to survive.
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Life is a challenge.
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I think it's what people are investing in.
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If they're investing in their pleasures, if they're investing in their careers, in their
jobs, and they just can't cope, and so they are just taking anything for fuel to go
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through the day, you've got to understand.
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So we have to appreciate that.
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The challenge is, of course, you get behind, and if you're behind, you're in trouble.
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To get back to the norm is not easy.
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A very beautiful Frenchman many years ago said to me, you never fall behind.
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He was an incredible specimen and you must never get behind, especially when you get
older, don't get behind.
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So if you are getting behind, you need to catch up as quickly as you can.
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And so I think we have to just say that people don't maybe understand what they're doing
or they're doing it because they don't feel they've got a choice, but of course they have
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got a choice and it's not actually difficult.
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It's just new habits.
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It's just make something, for example, somebody is overweight, you make the result you're
looking for more attractive than the taste.
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And that's a mind change.
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You just make it more attractive.
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And you fixate on how wonderful it's going to be to improve.
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And then that will make the choices for you.
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This is our intention machine.
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Our intentions are so powerful.
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But you need to clarify the intention and then just follow that thread.
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hook out there and just go towards your aim and I think then anybody can change.
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And then it's also just minor changes.
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Which again, sounds on principle like discipline, but ultimately you've got to find the
passion for wanting that end result in order to keep yourself, you know, sticking with it.
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but I guess one can paint a picture that is, we all move away from pain towards pleasure.
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But then you need to say what pain is coming for you.
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So the inconvenience of doing the training or changing the habit is a pain, but it's a
minor pain.
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So shift your mind, get to what is potentially in store for you, and really abhor that,
and then come back.
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And I think the choices can be much easier.
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But I think once again, people are just wanting to survive.
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They're trying to by.
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And wanting to be kind to themselves so they can get up and do it again.
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Yeah.
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You, as we've said, are approaching 80.
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I hope we're having a party, by the way.
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um You're still teaching around the world.
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You still travel all the time.
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You're still such an inspiration and an icon to so many people and so many people look up
to you.
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How have you remained relevant?
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I mean, obviously your credentials speak for themselves and in your world, especially, you
know, it's, I remember walking around with dad when he was still alive and
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having everyone stop and be like, oh, Sensei, oh, Sensei.
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And he was, you he wasn't even in the karate world.
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It's a, it's a very respectful world in terms of the people that have been doing it for a
long time.
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But still, how have you remained relevant and also avoided becoming too fixed in your
thinking?
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Because I would imagine the world's have changed, you know, quite a lot since you started.
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And, and how, yeah, how, how have you remained relevant, but also
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engaged and evolved enough to still be able to relate to the 20-something students that
you engage with.
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You know, I've been blessed that I've trained with some of the very best people in the
world and in different disciplines.
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I've been graded in three different styles, but the teacher that I fell in love with in
1971 had been taught by a man who was challenging the norm.
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He had a research institute and he was looking after the past, respecting the heritage,
but at the same time, challenging the norm and looking at different
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different mechanisms with the body to test the body and see what was actually happening,
which of course has been carrying on in all the different disciplines since then.
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But because he was challenging, then my teacher was also challenging the norm.
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and expanding understanding and discarding certain things that most people are still
following and saying this is a better way.
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And so that history, and then of course 30 years ago he passed.
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And so it was then up to the four of us that were asked to lead the group to then carry on
the research.
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And so the stimulus is to say that there is no limit and we must keep looking.
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A bit like Krishnamurti said, freedom from the known.
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And so that's what we've been doing as a group.
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And then what my great teacher said was in an interview once was, I am responsible to my
students.
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Somebody thinks you have knowledge and they buy into you.
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can't disappoint.
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You can't disappoint and you cannot let them down.
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And so you're constantly making sure that you're giving them the absolute best you can
give.
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Which means you've got to stay open and on top.
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But fortunately, the karate we're doing has now evolved into being able to borrow from
other arts, largely from learning to be softer.
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And when you're softer, you can tap into the soft arts, which are deeper, et cetera, and
not lose what you've got.
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So it's really just been an absolute joy.
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to feel responsible, therefore research, and then get the blessing of what you're finding,
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You, I'm quite sure you're going to say no, but are you planning at any stage to slow
down?
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I know that you, mean, I think you were doing yoga since before I started yoga.
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mean, you've, you've always, you know, it's, never only been about your karate practice.
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It's been, you've always, you know, been very intentional with waking up and exercising
and moving your body and you've got your rituals and your things that you always do at
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home.
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know.
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So I doubt those will ever stop.
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But do you plan to slow down at any stage?
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If I don't change my habit of sitting at a desk too many hours, my body will stop me.
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And it creaks occasionally.
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But if I move enough, then it's okay.
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I need to do the hot yoga that you do.
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Yeah, but I'd rather do it in private, because I don't want to embarrass myself.
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You can come do a class with Sean, so anyway I'll get him to come, I promise you.
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But yeah, no, it's, I will never.
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Never stop training.
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Actually really funny, I know it sounds shocking.
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I've already got planned when I can practice in a hospital bed if I'm ever in one.
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Amazing.
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No, absolutely.
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And that's not difficult to do because it's all internal.
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Yeah.
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And so, um yeah, but fortunately, hopefully that will be a long time.
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Yeah.
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And no, cannot stop training, but I do need to adjust the training.
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I need to do a lot more of the yoga.
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Yes.
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And I'm working my karate towards a softer and softer level.
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It's more flexibility than strength.
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flexibility and using your mind to direct energy.
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The Tai Chi concept, the Aikido concept.
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And so that's been a blessing as well to say, okay, now you're getting older, now you're
learning that actually the intention shapes everything, shapes our life, shapes the way
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your body performs, shapes everything.
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And so I'm so glad that had the teacher I had, the influences I had, which led me to the
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exploration which has uncovered what I'm finding.
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I say for myself, guided by but finding.
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So yeah, never, training forever.
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Teaching as long as they will want to listen and if I'm still valuable I'm there and if
I'm not valuable I will move away quickly.
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Good.
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Yeah.
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What do you believe that younger generations possibly misunderstand about building a life
sort of driven by passion and discipline and how to create a meaningful life?
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I mean, you really have for anyone that doesn't know you and isn't lucky enough to have
visited where you live and the fact that you're surrounded by family and it's just, you
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know, it really is.
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mean,
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you set an example for those of us that are in your life of, know, this is how you grow
up, this is what you grow into, not that I'm not growing up, but you know what I mean,
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like this is, it's the dream just being surrounded by those that you love and just, you
know, having the marriage that you have, and it's just, you know, being in the shape that
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you're in.
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It's beautiful, but so intentionally cultivated, it didn't just happen to you, you know,
so.
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What do you think that younger generations potentially either don't understand or need to
learn about creating a really meaningful life, whether it's driven by discipline, passion,
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intention, whatever?
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I feel for the younger generation so much, think many of us feel that they're entering an
era which is going to be potentially very challenging.
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Changes are happening that are perhaps going to be wonderful, but I think we are venturing
to a degree into the unknown.
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And I think the youth have got the passion.
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If they find something that turns them on, whether it's a video game or whatever it is
that does turn them on, they can be so focused.
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um
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and God willing they find something that can endure.
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That's the beauty of finding something like a physical art, no matter what it is.
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I mean if we look at the surfers, they become totally obsessed.
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And obsession I think is a wonderful thing, a healthy obsession.
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And I think they should AI healthy obsession, and then they should be guided by and put in
the things that turn them on, but to find a healthy obsession.
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Because when they are obsessed, I'm sure that they can be as disciplined, focused,
passionate.
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they can be everything they need to be.
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And then it's the upside of addiction.
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It's kind of like it's the equivalent of, you know, like it's a mental craving of
something that you love, but if it's good for you, my God.
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Yeah, yeah, and then I think everything in life, the good old word balance, there's always
got to be the balance.
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And no man is an island.
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So if the young people, the other challenge at the moment I think is so sad is the social
media, which is basically lying to people.
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It's a misrepresentation of the truth and the kids take it as if it is true and then they
expect things too easily because it looks like it's easy.
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And so all of those aspects I think are
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the challenge but I think also the youth are starting to see through the whole facade m
and I think we must just have faith in the fact that they'll either learn from learning or
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they'll learn from the school of hard knocks but they'll learn, they'll survive and God
bless them because they are the future.
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Absolutely.
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If someone listening is feeling overwhelmed or really stuck um on their own journey and
watching this is taking inspiration out of you know someone looking at really having put a
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lot into creating the life that they want to be living where would you suggest what would
be like the one thing whatever it is one thing is probably too simple but you know like
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what small changes would you suggest they make that are potentially going to have an
exponential impact on their lives?
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Really, I'm not qualified to make a recommendation, but I think relationships are
everything.
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And that's the relationship with every other human being on the planet.
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I saw a beautiful piece on a podcast recently where the gentleman was talking about the
fact that we are spirit, which of course we are, and that we're linked to every other
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spirit on the planet, and that we must just get over all the prejudice, all of the
nonsense of what you, I mean, if I took the skin off, my skin off,
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Exactly, You're gonna see that behind it, we are all the same, we're all linked.
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And so that respect.
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And then respect for who?
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Respect for the people with the least.
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And the generosity of spirit to the people with the least.
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You don't realize that people sitting behind a cashier's desk, very often nobody has
spoken to them for the entire day.
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I went through Seapoint once and I went to a delicatessen three o'clock in the afternoon
and I
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Hi, how are you to the cashier?
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And she said you realize you're the first person who spoke to me today So if they realize
that the more we give the more we receive that's almost like a safety net you just love
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love love give give give make other people important and And if you can add value you add
value you don't move on Without adding the value because it's gonna come back the karma
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the whole concept.
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It's it's going to come back to you So we've got to make the world a better place
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It also opens doors.
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You never know who's watching.
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You never know who's going to be able to open a door for you.
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And so, yeah, we never know where we're opening a door or closing it.
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you say in closing is the one thing that you are the most grateful for out of everything
that you've experienced.
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relationships, friends, students, mean the people that have taken the trouble to want to
listen have given me the platform to be able to make a difference.
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I mean that's the joy, you you give, you're the lucky one.
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And so, and then you look at family, mean goodness, you you and Sean, my kids are
unbelievable.
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em And then, you know, we have to finish with the most important person, that's Jean.
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I mean she's a diamond.
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She's an absolute blessing so you don't get better.
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you.
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Thank you so much.
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I'm so thanks Kate for everyone listening I wish that you got a chance to meet this man
because he really is just the best of the best and I'm so grateful for you to be here
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because I really like and not just because you are my family and
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I think outside of that, you really do.
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You live such an intentional, beautiful life and it genuinely is such an example to
everyone that knows you.
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So thank you for giving us your time and trying to give a little bit of that to everyone
listening.
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I appreciate it so much.
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a privilege.
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don't see you enough.
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So thank you so much for allowing me the time.
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gonna have to record lots of episodes just so we can hang out.
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Thank you.
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Thank you.
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Welcome to the Mama Mudra podcast.
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I'm Kate Thompson-Duwe, and I believe that the wellness industry has a joy problem.
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So we're aiming to fix it.
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This podcast is where we bring in experts to challenge beliefs and tools to feel good,
stay consistent and build a life that works.
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Because in this community, joy is the new performance metric.
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Anyone that knows me personally will know this guest that I have in studio with me today.
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He is my uncle.
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Chris Thompson and someone that I just adore and have so much respect for.
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And when I was first thinking about this episode, the topic was, is discipline the enemy
of joy or is it the enabler of joy?
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Because when I think of Uncle Chris, and I'm going to struggle to not call you Uncle Chris
the whole way through, when I think of Chris, um I think of extreme discipline.
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But then when I was discussing the episode with him,
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He involved Jean, his incredible wife, into the conversation.
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And Jean corrected me with regards to it not necessarily being a discussion about
discipline, but being a discussion about passion, which I love um because there is no
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real, well, there can be discipline without passion, but there certainly is no joy without
passion and discipline in equal parts.
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So Chris, thank you so much for being here today.
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First happy birthday for yesterday, you're gorgeous and I'm so blessed to be here.
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Thank you.
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Thank you.
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I'm going to read this off because I don't want to get this wrong.
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So, Chris, the reason that I think of him when I think of discipline and passion is
because of his incredible lifelong commitment to his art, which is karate.
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He spent his entire life just so dedicated and so invested in this world.
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You hold the rank of Shiha 9th Dan in Kimura Shokukai karate.
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and you also serve as a world joint chief instructor.
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And as you approach your 80th birthday, which is hard to believe, you are still traveling
internationally to teach, demonstrate, and inspire karate students all around the world,
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which is quite incredible.
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um So yeah, what I wanna discuss with you is long before there was this focus on wellness
and karate even was that mainstream, long before everyone was invested in longevity.
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you know, way before it was as widely known as it is today, this was your life.
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You found your passion for it and you chose to dedicate everything to it.
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You were sleeping on benches and dojos, apparently, according to Jean.
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And, you know, you really were studying how to optimize your own wellness and human
performance at a time when it wasn't a thing.
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um So I think that it's so incredibly interesting to talk to you about discipline and
passion.
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because you just did it just because of how you felt about this sport that you love so
much.
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It wasn't something that you were doing in a performative way.
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It wasn't even specifically with a goal in mind.
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You just did it because you couldn't not do it.
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So talk to us about how considering you've spent your life being this focused on one
thing, did it feel like a hard slug and like hard discipline to you or is it just is it
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purely that passion that's always driven you?
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Kate, it's...
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I think I was very blessed to have an engagement with a lady that fell apart, came back to
South Africa, opened a dojo in 1969, and it was kind of irresponsible.
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I was living in the dojo on a wooden bench, but I had this absolute fascination with
karate.
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Mom and dad were out of the country, and I could just be myself and follow exactly what I
wanted without letting anybody else down.
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Although your mom saw me in the street and I think she thought I was a bit weird, which I
was.
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I found the karate, something appealed to me, something challenged me about it, and it was
just an automatic thing.
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And so when I was in the dojo, I wanted to focus everything on the karate.
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So I was living on 10-round a month, bench, sleeping bag, cold water, noise, vagrants in
the front door.
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Every morning was a bit of a mess, you can imagine.
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but I was absolutely happy and thrilled to do it.
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I don't remember any difficulty.
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We had more cockroaches than anybody had ever seen in any one building in life, but it was
just an absolute treat.
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And of course, then I wasn't eating enough, and so I needed to get a job at the night
clubs to look after people and be a shepherd.
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em then of course, I was feeling that my health might be compromised.
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So I think that was the beginning of many things, but it gave me the opportunity to say,
put life on hold.
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I don't care, and I don't care what the world thinks.
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I don't care about what anybody else thinks.
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I'm just gonna do what my heart is telling me to do.
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So when I find other people doing
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something that they have a passion, it might not be financially sensible, but they've
decided to do it, then I'm always with them in spirit, because who knows what it can lead
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to.
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And then of course I fell in love with the possibility of representing South Africa, but I
had to really teach myself almost entirely.
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I had a real challenge to do that, so I needed the nutrition to fuel me.
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And I was looking for any micro detail that I could have, so that I could just gain,
because I wasn't making
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I was close, but not quite.
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Close, but no coconut.
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And so I had to improve, I had to get better.
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And I had to, I had to, so it was really many of those things I think that led to what
looked like discipline, but it was actually just.
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I think people need to make, first of all I think everybody needs to find something to be
passionate about.
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Something, you know that, something to be excited about.
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And then that can lead you.
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And the next thing, you're disciplining yourself, but you're actually just following your
joy, I think.
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And I mean, obviously there were sacrifices, you you speak about sleeping on the bench, et
cetera, et cetera, which even though they didn't feel like sacrifices then, in hindsight,
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obviously you are, you you can acknowledge that there were.
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So what do you think making those sacrifices in order to achieve the bigger goal taught
you that you kept on using in life?
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I think a lot of people think that they have discipline.
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They certainly think that they have a passion for something.
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and they are prepared to work towards it, but I don't necessarily think that a lot of
people are prepared to sacrifice for it.
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think, you know, we're quite, people have become quite, we expect instant gratification,
you know, if it takes too long, by great, I'm not gonna, I couldn't be bothered.
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And also they're not prepared to sacrifice now to win later.
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You, I think you, it sounds like you learned that without having to sort of teach it to
yourself, it just happened because of how strong your passion was for what you were doing.
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So.
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Do you think that that was something that you then consciously put into place in the rest
of your life in terms of understanding when sacrifice is needed?
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Or is it just something that you've always done really without thinking?
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I think first of all looking back, I think it was, if I look back and pretend it was
tough, if we think of all the people in South Africa that are living in just as tough a
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condition as a normal everyday life, and I think we have to always remember that and
respect that.
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And no matter how tough things are, actually get over it and wake up.
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And also the respect every day for the people that we meet.
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We must never forget that.
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But I do think that everything I've done
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in a way looking back was perhaps a self-defense.
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Because you either prepare for the future or the future will prepare for you.
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And you'll either make a choice or the world will choose for you.
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But if you're ahead of the game, a bit like what coaching in the karate, be ahead all the
time.
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And to be preparing for any eventualities so that you're safe.
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I'm bit of a challenge to the family because it's constantly no mistakes, no mistakes.
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And I think we make the right choices.
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the minute in our life as to what we are allowed to come into our mind, what we put in our
body, the way we treat people, we treat other people, the way we see ourselves.
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We're making choices all the time.
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So I think that's all to a degree discipline because it's self-preservation.
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It's being sensible.
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Otherwise, we will pay the price.
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Absolutely.
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The one thing that I will always think of when I think about you is, you know, everyone
assumes martial arts is about fighting.
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And obviously, you know, I grew up around you and it's always been your life.
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So I'm very aware of it.
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In fact, I remember trying to start studying karate when I think I was about, I don't
know, three or four, and I was teaching you ballet in exchange for you teaching karate.
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And the perception that people have of karate being about fighting.
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But it's so not.
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It's actually karate, think, specifically um is more about knowing that if you need to
fight, you can take that guy down, no problem.
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But it's more about avoiding the fight and actually deflecting or, you know, trying to
find a way to sort of subdue your opponent as opposed to being forced to fight.
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based on that and the analogy or, you know, the sort of the example that sits in one's
life.
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How do you think that has impacted your approach to things in life, to challenges and
situations that perhaps could have been more confrontational, but you had that sort of
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restraint?
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Because from what I've heard, you didn't have much restraint when you were younger.
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I'll tell you where I got the best experience was looking after other people.
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Yeah.
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If I saw somebody being bullied.
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As a bouncer.
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I can't watch.
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Not just as a bouncer.
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If you're driving along the road and somebody's in trouble, if somebody's being hurt,
somebody's being abused, I can't watch.
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Yeah.
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And so you would get involved to help them, which was great for practice because the more
you look after people, the more chances you get.
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He's again, he's practicing for a tournament, damn it!
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And so I think it was a responsible thing.
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It wasn't an irresponsible thing to do, but yeah, I think the practice was very valuable.
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But you know, the martial arts, very often, I think nearly all of the martial arts will
work with the idea of what they call tori and uke.
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You're tori, you're practicing.
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I'm uke, I'm the receiver.
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And I must accommodate you, but you must also not abuse me.
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And so we will work together and I will work with you to the level that is good for you,
not good for me.
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I'll push it to a level that'll be a benefit for you.
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I might push you, but at the same time, it's all about that looking after each other.
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And so although it looks violent, it's actually a beneficial uh level of potential
violence.
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And then you take that through into relationships.
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What I've learned, the one thing I've learned that I'm so excited about is I'm just in
love with the idea of love.
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know, Master Ueshiba, the founder of Aikido, was the first person, I think the only one I
ever saw that said, Aiki is love.
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And that's because it's all about yielding.
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It's all about the yielding.
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And that's all, as you mentioned just now, rather let the power go past, rather deflect,
avoid, et cetera.
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That's very much what they do.
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So it's a very beautiful art like that.
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And in the karate, after many years of training, you can learn to do that.
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Most of the time it's a bit forced.
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A of the karate is actually too forced, too mechanical, almost muscular level.
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And there are levels beyond level, beyond level, beyond level.
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It's the beauty of training a long time that you learn.
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And then there are compensations for age.
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So now you have to learn because you're not gonna be able to do what you did and then you
find that you've been wasting time.
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So yeah.
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That's amazing.
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um You, as you said m earlier, became very interested in nutrition and, you know, wellness
and making sure that you were taking the best care of yourself in order to improve your
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performance to represent South Africa um way before it was as big as it is now.
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So what did that study of um your own body, but nutrition and wellness and everything,
what did that teach you in terms of how
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sort of your lifestyle, I would imagine you were way ahead of the curve.
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I mean, I know, you know, just your way of eating and the way that you do, know, the level
of consciousness you have with regards to what you put into your body.
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What has that sort of taught you in terms of nutrition and lifestyle outside of the dojo?
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And how has that affected your way of life and what you've taught to family and, you know,
grandchildren?
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know, the early days, the pioneers that I, the only pioneers I knew of was a company
called Rodale.
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And Rodale were saying things that nobody else was taking note of, which they're making
more and more of a fuss of now, 55, 60 years later.
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The pollutants, all of the bad stuff, and all of the food industry, and how they're taking
advantage of the world in that way.
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But I was looking for any micronutrients.
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I went to the health shops
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and I found this form of yeast and that form of molasses and this and this and this and
this.
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And I was putting together concoctions.
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But again, I was looking at the labels and going, okay, there's even more here.
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That can maybe just help you to be 1 % better.
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But I think the secret of the nutrition for me now is that we should avoid the load.
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that food can put through your body.
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Everything we put into our body is to a degree a load.
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It's either a plus or a minus.
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And of course the body can cope to a degree.
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It's a marvelous coping mechanism.
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But eventually it's gonna add up.
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So that whole bioavailability of food, what you're eating, how long will it take to
digest.
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for consuming.
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All of those things, you know.
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And of course now the microbiome is becoming so important.
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We got involved more than 30 years ago with health products and that's been a boost for
us.
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again, that science is evolving and the tailoring to individuals.
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saw that Jean said you posted something about this.
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Which Herbalife has just bought.
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Incredible.
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We're all individuals, we're all special, unique, individual human beings, but it's
difficult to know what to put through the body.
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So if in doubt, it's that reduce the load and just try and make it easy for the body so
that you can have the energy for yourselves to thrive.
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Yeah, I mean it kind of leads from the nutrition into the self-preservation, know um Jean
also mentioned when we were discussing today's episode how you you were always like years
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ago very conscious of when you had to travel a lot, know How is the travel going to affect
you?
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How can you make sure that you're traveling in a way that's comfortable enough that you
can still be at optimal levels when you land and say true, it's a head try which I can
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just imagine the situations she must have had to deal with
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on route traveling with you.
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Why do you think it is, know, considering this is always just been how you are and who you
are, why do you think that so many people struggle to do that, to prioritize themselves
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and their wellbeing until something goes wrong, until they reach a point that they're
like, oh, now I've got to, you know, now I'm in hospital for three months and I can't
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train for three months or whatever it is.
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You know, what do you think it is and how?
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probably the bigger question is how would one try and change people's mindsets to
understand that to be like you in the year that you're turning 80 is not something that
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you start at the age of 78.
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It's something that you start in your 20s or younger.
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And why the hell don't more people prioritize that from when they have the time?
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know, how, like, how do you change that mindset?
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It baffles me.
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I think.
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I think everybody's trying to survive.
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Life is a challenge.
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I think it's what people are investing in.
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If they're investing in their pleasures, if they're investing in their careers, in their
jobs, and they just can't cope, and so they are just taking anything for fuel to go
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through the day, you've got to understand.
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So we have to appreciate that.
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The challenge is, of course, you get behind, and if you're behind, you're in trouble.
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To get back to the norm is not easy.
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A very beautiful Frenchman many years ago said to me, you never fall behind.
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He was an incredible specimen and you must never get behind, especially when you get
older, don't get behind.
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So if you are getting behind, you need to catch up as quickly as you can.
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And so I think we have to just say that people don't maybe understand what they're doing
or they're doing it because they don't feel they've got a choice, but of course they have
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got a choice and it's not actually difficult.
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It's just new habits.
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It's just make something, for example, somebody is overweight, you make the result you're
looking for more attractive than the taste.
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And that's a mind change.
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You just make it more attractive.
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And you fixate on how wonderful it's going to be to improve.
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And then that will make the choices for you.
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This is our intention machine.
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Our intentions are so powerful.
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But you need to clarify the intention and then just follow that thread.
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hook out there and just go towards your aim and I think then anybody can change.
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And then it's also just minor changes.
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Which again, sounds on principle like discipline, but ultimately you've got to find the
passion for wanting that end result in order to keep yourself, you know, sticking with it.
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but I guess one can paint a picture that is, we all move away from pain towards pleasure.
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But then you need to say what pain is coming for you.
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So the inconvenience of doing the training or changing the habit is a pain, but it's a
minor pain.
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So shift your mind, get to what is potentially in store for you, and really abhor that,
and then come back.
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And I think the choices can be much easier.
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But I think once again, people are just wanting to survive.
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They're trying to by.
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And wanting to be kind to themselves so they can get up and do it again.
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Yeah.
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You, as we've said, are approaching 80.
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I hope we're having a party, by the way.
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um You're still teaching around the world.
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You still travel all the time.
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You're still such an inspiration and an icon to so many people and so many people look up
to you.
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How have you remained relevant?
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I mean, obviously your credentials speak for themselves and in your world, especially, you
know, it's, I remember walking around with dad when he was still alive and
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having everyone stop and be like, oh, Sensei, oh, Sensei.
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And he was, you he wasn't even in the karate world.
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It's a, it's a very respectful world in terms of the people that have been doing it for a
long time.
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But still, how have you remained relevant and also avoided becoming too fixed in your
thinking?
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Because I would imagine the world's have changed, you know, quite a lot since you started.
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And, and how, yeah, how, how have you remained relevant, but also
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engaged and evolved enough to still be able to relate to the 20-something students that
you engage with.
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You know, I've been blessed that I've trained with some of the very best people in the
world and in different disciplines.
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I've been graded in three different styles, but the teacher that I fell in love with in
1971 had been taught by a man who was challenging the norm.
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He had a research institute and he was looking after the past, respecting the heritage,
but at the same time, challenging the norm and looking at different
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different mechanisms with the body to test the body and see what was actually happening,
which of course has been carrying on in all the different disciplines since then.
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But because he was challenging, then my teacher was also challenging the norm.
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and expanding understanding and discarding certain things that most people are still
following and saying this is a better way.
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And so that history, and then of course 30 years ago he passed.
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And so it was then up to the four of us that were asked to lead the group to then carry on
the research.
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And so the stimulus is to say that there is no limit and we must keep looking.
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A bit like Krishnamurti said, freedom from the known.
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And so that's what we've been doing as a group.
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And then what my great teacher said was in an interview once was, I am responsible to my
students.
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Somebody thinks you have knowledge and they buy into you.
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can't disappoint.
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You can't disappoint and you cannot let them down.
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And so you're constantly making sure that you're giving them the absolute best you can
give.
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Which means you've got to stay open and on top.
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But fortunately, the karate we're doing has now evolved into being able to borrow from
other arts, largely from learning to be softer.
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And when you're softer, you can tap into the soft arts, which are deeper, et cetera, and
not lose what you've got.
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So it's really just been an absolute joy.
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to feel responsible, therefore research, and then get the blessing of what you're finding,
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You, I'm quite sure you're going to say no, but are you planning at any stage to slow
down?
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I know that you, mean, I think you were doing yoga since before I started yoga.
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mean, you've, you've always, you know, it's, never only been about your karate practice.
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It's been, you've always, you know, been very intentional with waking up and exercising
and moving your body and you've got your rituals and your things that you always do at
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home.
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know.
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So I doubt those will ever stop.
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But do you plan to slow down at any stage?
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If I don't change my habit of sitting at a desk too many hours, my body will stop me.
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And it creaks occasionally.
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But if I move enough, then it's okay.
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I need to do the hot yoga that you do.
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Yeah, but I'd rather do it in private, because I don't want to embarrass myself.
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You can come do a class with Sean, so anyway I'll get him to come, I promise you.
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But yeah, no, it's, I will never.
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Never stop training.
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Actually really funny, I know it sounds shocking.
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I've already got planned when I can practice in a hospital bed if I'm ever in one.
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Amazing.
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No, absolutely.
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And that's not difficult to do because it's all internal.
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Yeah.
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And so, um yeah, but fortunately, hopefully that will be a long time.
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Yeah.
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And no, cannot stop training, but I do need to adjust the training.
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I need to do a lot more of the yoga.
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Yes.
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And I'm working my karate towards a softer and softer level.
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It's more flexibility than strength.
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flexibility and using your mind to direct energy.
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The Tai Chi concept, the Aikido concept.
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And so that's been a blessing as well to say, okay, now you're getting older, now you're
learning that actually the intention shapes everything, shapes our life, shapes the way
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your body performs, shapes everything.
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And so I'm so glad that had the teacher I had, the influences I had, which led me to the
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exploration which has uncovered what I'm finding.
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I say for myself, guided by but finding.
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So yeah, never, training forever.
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Teaching as long as they will want to listen and if I'm still valuable I'm there and if
I'm not valuable I will move away quickly.
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Good.
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Yeah.
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What do you believe that younger generations possibly misunderstand about building a life
sort of driven by passion and discipline and how to create a meaningful life?
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I mean, you really have for anyone that doesn't know you and isn't lucky enough to have
visited where you live and the fact that you're surrounded by family and it's just, you
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know, it really is.
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mean,
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you set an example for those of us that are in your life of, know, this is how you grow
up, this is what you grow into, not that I'm not growing up, but you know what I mean,
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like this is, it's the dream just being surrounded by those that you love and just, you
know, having the marriage that you have, and it's just, you know, being in the shape that
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you're in.
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It's beautiful, but so intentionally cultivated, it didn't just happen to you, you know,
so.
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What do you think that younger generations potentially either don't understand or need to
learn about creating a really meaningful life, whether it's driven by discipline, passion,
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intention, whatever?
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I feel for the younger generation so much, think many of us feel that they're entering an
era which is going to be potentially very challenging.
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Changes are happening that are perhaps going to be wonderful, but I think we are venturing
to a degree into the unknown.
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And I think the youth have got the passion.
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If they find something that turns them on, whether it's a video game or whatever it is
that does turn them on, they can be so focused.
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um
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and God willing they find something that can endure.
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That's the beauty of finding something like a physical art, no matter what it is.
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I mean if we look at the surfers, they become totally obsessed.
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And obsession I think is a wonderful thing, a healthy obsession.
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And I think they should AI healthy obsession, and then they should be guided by and put in
the things that turn them on, but to find a healthy obsession.
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Because when they are obsessed, I'm sure that they can be as disciplined, focused,
passionate.
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they can be everything they need to be.
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And then it's the upside of addiction.
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It's kind of like it's the equivalent of, you know, like it's a mental craving of
something that you love, but if it's good for you, my God.
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Yeah, yeah, and then I think everything in life, the good old word balance, there's always
got to be the balance.
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And no man is an island.
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So if the young people, the other challenge at the moment I think is so sad is the social
media, which is basically lying to people.
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It's a misrepresentation of the truth and the kids take it as if it is true and then they
expect things too easily because it looks like it's easy.
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And so all of those aspects I think are
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the challenge but I think also the youth are starting to see through the whole facade m
and I think we must just have faith in the fact that they'll either learn from learning or
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they'll learn from the school of hard knocks but they'll learn, they'll survive and God
bless them because they are the future.
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Absolutely.
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If someone listening is feeling overwhelmed or really stuck um on their own journey and
watching this is taking inspiration out of you know someone looking at really having put a
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lot into creating the life that they want to be living where would you suggest what would
be like the one thing whatever it is one thing is probably too simple but you know like
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what small changes would you suggest they make that are potentially going to have an
exponential impact on their lives?
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Really, I'm not qualified to make a recommendation, but I think relationships are
everything.
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And that's the relationship with every other human being on the planet.
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I saw a beautiful piece on a podcast recently where the gentleman was talking about the
fact that we are spirit, which of course we are, and that we're linked to every other
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spirit on the planet, and that we must just get over all the prejudice, all of the
nonsense of what you, I mean, if I took the skin off, my skin off,
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Exactly, You're gonna see that behind it, we are all the same, we're all linked.
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And so that respect.
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And then respect for who?
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Respect for the people with the least.
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And the generosity of spirit to the people with the least.
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You don't realize that people sitting behind a cashier's desk, very often nobody has
spoken to them for the entire day.
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I went through Seapoint once and I went to a delicatessen three o'clock in the afternoon
and I
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Hi, how are you to the cashier?
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And she said you realize you're the first person who spoke to me today So if they realize
that the more we give the more we receive that's almost like a safety net you just love
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love love give give give make other people important and And if you can add value you add
value you don't move on Without adding the value because it's gonna come back the karma
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the whole concept.
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It's it's going to come back to you So we've got to make the world a better place
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It also opens doors.
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You never know who's watching.
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You never know who's going to be able to open a door for you.
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And so, yeah, we never know where we're opening a door or closing it.
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you say in closing is the one thing that you are the most grateful for out of everything
that you've experienced.
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relationships, friends, students, mean the people that have taken the trouble to want to
listen have given me the platform to be able to make a difference.
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I mean that's the joy, you you give, you're the lucky one.
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And so, and then you look at family, mean goodness, you you and Sean, my kids are
unbelievable.
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em And then, you know, we have to finish with the most important person, that's Jean.
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I mean she's a diamond.
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She's an absolute blessing so you don't get better.
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you.
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Thank you so much.
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I'm so thanks Kate for everyone listening I wish that you got a chance to meet this man
because he really is just the best of the best and I'm so grateful for you to be here
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because I really like and not just because you are my family and
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I think outside of that, you really do.
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You live such an intentional, beautiful life and it genuinely is such an example to
everyone that knows you.
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So thank you for giving us your time and trying to give a little bit of that to everyone
listening.
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I appreciate it so much.
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a privilege.
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don't see you enough.
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So thank you so much for allowing me the time.
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gonna have to record lots of episodes just so we can hang out.
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Thank you.
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Thank you.
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