405th Floor: Trust The Training

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Hey, it's Jen the Builder.
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And uh Corey.
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And it is so good to be here on a day that is not over 100 degrees, guys.
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It is raining in California.
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But there was a group back in the day that said it never rains in Southern California.
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Yeah, I was another group that said that I saw you and him standing in the rain.
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Oh my gosh.
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I don't think they're in California.
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How's everyone doing?
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How are you doing, Jen?
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I'm telling you.
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So waking up to the sound of rain, no AC on, thank goodness.
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Because that bill is outrageous.
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It was so comfy in bed.
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I got to sleep in a little bit.
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And I don't know what this was, but the rain made me feel super productive.
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Oh, nice.
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And I and I'm I'm not shocked that it made you feel I'm shocked because I wasn't here.
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I took off and had some errands to run bright and early this morning.
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So uh yeah, I'm glad that that happened for you because I kind of felt motivated too.
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But mine was a out of necessity.
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Yes, yes.
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How are you doing?
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Oh, body check, mind check.
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Mmm, I'm doing good.
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I've I've been focused.
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I've been uh staying on the course for the most part.
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I had a couple of little, but I I've been allowing myself a little bit of grace.
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So I'm I'm happy.
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That that's what the bottom line is.
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I'm happy and I'm on course.
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That's incredible.
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I love what you just did.
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Body check, mind check, and we can also add soul check.
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So that is such an amazing way to check in with yourself, to pause and say, okay, how's my mind?
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Because I'm I'm excited about this episode, and I'm gonna tie it to here the power of our thoughts um in muscle memory and how all that works.
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But, anyways, that's our tip number one.
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Do some check-ins throughout the day, mind check, body check, soul check, phenomenal practice.
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Yes, I I've been doing that more and more just like I love that kind of touching base with my my you know thoughts and my feelings.
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And uh, you know, men don't get too deep into their feelings, but it's nice to just go in there and say, wait, what am I feeling right now?
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What's going on?
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What's really happening deep inside of me?
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You know what?
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Can I say something about that?
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It just reminded me where you said men don't check in very much.
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I'd received an invitation to go to a men's suicide workshop, seminar, seminar type thing, sorry.
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Yeah.
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And I started looking into it, and there's so much there for mental health and men, and just them not reaching out if they need support or if they need help.
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So I just am glad that you brought that up because it's a very real thing.
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Yeah, it really is.
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And uh I'm as I get older, I'm realizing that men have things that they're carrying that it's really hard for them to let go.
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And again, this is gonna be one of those episodes that tap in in a lot of these different areas.
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So let's just jump right into it, Jen.
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Let's do it.
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So uh the title to this episode is Trust the Training.
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Your muscle memory is about to pay off.
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And that's good stuff because when you've done something repetitively and it begins to pay off, you see the results, you feel the results.
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It's something that's deep in you, and you're like, wow, this is really happening, and and it feels good and it looks good, you know, and and a lot of this is mental, physical, emotional, but we're gonna make it financial, we're gonna make it uh emotional and relational.
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So to be able to kind of weave in and out of all parts of life.
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How do you feel about that, Jen?
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Let's start with your check-in first with that, with the title of the show.
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I am excited um about the show and what we're gonna discuss.
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My hesitancy, if you can hear it in my voice, is this.
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Um, this is how Corey and I guys are the same yet different.
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So even in that intro, Corey, you can hear that your passions are in the results and the outcomes.
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My passions are on the journey itself.
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That's why I'm hesitating.
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Like, I wonder if we're gonna get to talk about that.
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And then also I think about the training that we receive that yes, leads us to those wins.
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Right.
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And I also think of the training or the habits that we have that lead us down the wrong path.
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So I think there's so much here.
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Right.
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So let me see if my first question uh kind of pushes in the in the right direction.
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So I believe that everyone has trained for something in their life, be it for a job, be it for a part in a movie, a part for a song, uh, a position on a on a uh sports team, a relationship, a relationship, or maybe even driving a car.
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And so there's that level of practice that you have to put into that thing that you're about to be uh in training for, and the pri well, practice is training, not quite, but I could see what some people would say they're similar.
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Um Jen, what is something that you've trained for that you were hoping to get some big result out of in the very near future?
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Oh wow.
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There's been quite a few things, and I'm gonna go ahead and body check, mind check, soul check in in answering this.
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Okay.
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So I think one of the first things um I think it's training.
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Let me go career, okay?
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Sure.
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I'll just go here.
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Yeah.
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Um, I knew I wanted to get into case management straight off when my family introduced nursing to me.
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I knew that I was gonna get trained to be a nurse, but I knew that was not my end result.
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Right.
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Um so Can I pause you?
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Yes.
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Okay, so you identify that you're going to go through the training to become a nurse.
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Before you even got into the training, tell me a couple of the obstacles that you were up against.
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Oh, and I can just be real, right?
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Realybody listening, I love you, and this is just real talk.
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I did not want to go to nursing.
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Biggest obstacle was because every Filipino goes into nursing, and that just really bugged me to be a stereotype or to fit the mold, but that's just me.
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Welcome to the club.
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And then another obstacle too was the time.
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Okay.
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You know, going back to school with kids, and we were fairly new-ish in our marriage.
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So I'm gonna call those two out for the obstacles and the barriers.
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And I'm gonna do an honorary call out for uh what Jen was going through.
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I remember specifically when you talked about becoming a case manager, that even some of your classmates um yes.
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You want to hear that?
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Yes, they said um, because back then, oh no, LVNs don't go into case management.
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That's RN only.
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RNs only do that.
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L VNs, like, we're gonna be working at skilled nursing facilities.
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You are not even gonna get into a hospital, much less case management at a hospital.
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Yeah, that was one of those mind-blowing moments where it's like, wait a minute, what?
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Yeah, and anyone who knows me knows that my response to stuff like that is challenge accepted.
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It's like, what did you just say?
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And then that just adds fuel to my fire.
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So, what did I just do right here?
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I set the stage to allow Jen to see that she's in the process of muscle building and muscle memory.
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Because every time we go through any kind of training, um, and and I'm sorry for saying the cuz, because every time we go through some kind of training, we're gonna hit an obstacle.
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And that trains our minds and our bodies and our emotions to be prepared for some kind of resistance that's gonna occur, something that's going to come again in opposition to what we're planning on doing before we even get started, before we're even in the classroom, before we even get into the job role.
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It's it's some kind of opposition that's ready to take you down.
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And if you haven't built that muscle memory, you're gonna fall for the old okie doke every single time.
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And that's the part of the training I love is the prep, right?
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That's like, what am I gonna jump into?
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What are the challenges?
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And I love where you're going because this is muscle memory for every part of our lives that we're going to train in.
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Absolutely.
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Is how we respond to it.
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Yeah.
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Do we do it?
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Do the barriers become so big that we don't do it?
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Yeah.
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And I think that's the part two that I'm talking about the the journey and what we build inhabits as far as do I train, do I not train?
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That leads us down a pathway.
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Right.
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And I'm I'm just gonna stay in this vein for a few more seconds, yeah, and then we'll we'll pivot and go somewhere else.
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But you know, there's uh a couple of oppositions.
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There, there's the I didn't want to be the stereotype, which is an opposition that you posed yourself, right?
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Yeah, very internal on that one.
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Right.
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So you you're dealing with that, and these are things that we as people do on a regular basis.
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We talk ourselves in or out of something.
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I want to say, I want to just explore the stereotype because I think that's another muscle memory that I've built too, is I'll do um a root cause analysis, and the first thing I come to is the thing.
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So, like in this case, I said, Oh, it's the stereotype.
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I don't want to fit the stereotype.
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And then you have to ask yourself why?
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Why, why?
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Keep asking why.
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I was upset with myself that I was going there, anyways, into nursing, and I had the opportunity to do it years ago and said no.
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So because like I had been fighting it, right?
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So now it's layered, yeah.
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Okay, keep keep going.
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I'm I'm interested.
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So I think that's a big part of that is going beyond what you say it's about as you're working through the barriers.
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Like it's so important to get to the nitty-gritty so that when your muscles are building memory, it's building it in a healthy way.
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Like, I know you are going through a phenomenal journey in your life, Corey, with workout, weightlifting, and stuff like that.
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And to equate it to that.
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It's like if you lift too much too fast too soon, you don't have the right diet, that kind of way is the same way this is.
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If you just go into training and you're not really looking at everything and taking time to go deeper and figure out what the barriers really are and who you are.
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I love that you brought up emotions because emotions play a big part, especially for me.
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Oh, yeah.
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Yeah.
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And so you you dealt with uh the personal obstacle, and then you have your uh external, but from your colleagues, your fellow classmates that pose this the naysayers, the this enormous mountain of uh no you can't, and and and adamant about it.
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They they didn't just pose it.
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Well, what if you can, or what if you run into a problem?
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Or did you ever think that maybe you couldn't do that?
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It was just a uh definitive you cannot do this.
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And so um I can think back to multiple times where people told me things I could not do.
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And and thank goodness that I had built up enough resistance and resistance training to be able to overcome those those mountains of no.
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And those mountains of no seem to come way too uh fast and too many in our lives about what things we're trying to do.
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I think back to the book writing.
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I I I can't tell you how many people told me, no, you can't write a book, no, you won't get published, no, you can't.
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And I just thought to myself, wow, I haven't even started yet.
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And let's talk about that real quick.
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Because if we were to root cause their no's, why were they saying no?
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I'm sure there were multiple reasons, but it's that's why we've got to question the social norms, if you will.
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Yeah.
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You can't do this because you don't have this.
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You oh no, you're not allowed to do that because only people who've done this can go there.
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Yeah.
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And I think that's been a part of our muscle memory, is the possibilities.
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Like we've seen one too many times in our lives and people that we're close to where things have happened for them without explanation, without following the regular criteria.
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Now it doesn't happen like that in everything.
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And maybe, you know, one could challenge that.
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It's a harder path to take.
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But my muscle memory says when something is gritty or something stretches your muscles or really expands who you are, the the journey, the payout, the outcomes, much bigger.
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Yeah, and I'm I'm gonna just very lightly brush on a victory portion of this.
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Anyone that's ever done any weight loss, muscle building, uh trying to learn to run faster or uh quicker time and and some kind of distance running.
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Everyone that has tried this knows that usually after a good night's sleep, complete rest and relaxation, the easing of the mind is when you wake up and it's like something changed last night.
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I feel a little different today.
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Yeah.
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That that's that muscle memory paying off.
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That's that muscle memory bouncing back, and and and you realize, like, okay, I think my body has learned something new.
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It's almost that matrix moment when they downloaded the program and they realize I know how to do, you know, I know how to fly a helicopter and never flew a helicopter before.
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But it's it's that kind of moment that happens.
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And so um, as we backtrack on that, because I just wanted to give I want I want people to feel like there's some victory.
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It's not all opposition, it's not all um negative stuff, although you're going to face some that's the thing I really get excited about is the negative resistance.
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See, there's a difference too with you and I.
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I don't see it as necessarily negative.
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I think it may make you feel like uh, but I eat I call it tension, creative tension, positive tension, elevated tension, because it's telling you something.
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Whenever something rises in you and you feel like, wait a minute, I think that's the power of like the newness of everything, the new neural pathways you're about to create because it's something new.
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Yeah, people intentionally do this stuff because it just is good for you from learning a new language, playing an instrument, it's that kind of way.
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Yeah, I agree a hundred percent.
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So as we move forward, Jen, um, let's address the pretend elephant in the room.
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And that's that every muscle needs building.
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And a lot of times we think we can go through life without building any muscle whatsoever.
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And and that's one of our biggest hurdles is is to think I don't have to work out, I don't have to train, I don't I can just go in here and do this.
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Speak to speak to the people, speak to me about that that assumption that you don't have to train.
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It almost makes me feel like I can just come in here and charm them with my good looks and all that kind of way.
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Yeah.
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Um, or I can read this book um and just get the beginning part and the end part that kind of way, right?
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So I think that there are people who learn that way, and especially with artificial intelligence, superintelligence, whatever it is, it's like a quick way to learn things, and people can get by with that, if I may.
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I think that's a part of training.
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I think it's new information and that's how you're receiving it, right?
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So then then there's the training where you put the effort and the energy and the stretch, and you do the research, you get the workout in.
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So you're basically talking about preparation, right?
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Yes.
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Would you would you say that some people would mistake preparation for punishment?
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I think so.
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I mean, it depends on the person.
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Like, oh, why why would you work that hard?
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Here's a shortcut.
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Right.
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Or learn through other people's experiences.
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You don't have to experience it yourself.
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And I think there is some truth behind that, especially if you're on the way to harming yourself or you're just finding yourself going in circles, like we can glean from each other and learn from each other's stories, right?
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But um there's something to be said when you've put in the work for yourself.
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It's it's easier to remember.
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We're talking about muscle memory.
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Yeah, you remember for a reason because there's the experience, there's the oh my body's feeling this.
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And if your body isn't feeling that or isn't being stretched, when you go do the heavy lifting, you're not gonna have anything there.
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Right because you know, it yeah.
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Um, I don't know if that answered your No, that answered the question perfectly because a lot of times uh we as individuals think that if I'm preparing, it's just so much work.
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Why do I have to put all this into this one little thing?
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It's not even, you know, that big of a deal.
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And and the bottom line is that that preparation is actually for a lot of a lot more parts of life than just that one simple portion that you're you're thinking you're training for or preparing for.
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And so the prep work is what really builds the muscle memory.
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Yeah, for sure.
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It keeps it sustainable.
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Yeah.
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I have a question for you.
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Sure.
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Has there ever been anything in life that you trained for and you realized I'm training for the wrong thing?
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What was that like?
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Oh my gosh, yes, Jen.
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And it's weird, but um that happens quite often.
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You know, you think you're training for one thing, and then you realize, you know, midstream, like, oh my goodness, and I'll give you a perfect example.
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So um in in recording, musical recording world, well, that's what we'll call it for now.
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Okay, um, I had this one particular piece of equipment in mind that I was going to use before I bought equipment.
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And so I did all the tutorials, all the videos, I had downloaded all the um what were the instructions and how to connect it, hook it to the computer, and make sure that everything was running smoothly.
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And once I was about to purchase, I was rerouted by an an additional piece of equipment that I would have had to have bought if I wanted that whole mechanism to work, which I couldn't afford.
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It was in the thousands of dollars.
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So I was like, oh my gosh, I I can't even do this.
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So I ended up buying a completely different piece of equipment.
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All that research I thought was about to go out the window.
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Here's the deal when you're recording, the basics are that you're gonna push a record button, right?
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Yeah.
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And it's gonna record whatever the uh the mic is hooked to.
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And so in that premise, everything was gonna work just fine.
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I just had to learn the different nuances.
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And so it the prep was still good, even though I couldn't use all the vital information that I had from the the original piece of equipment that I wanted to purchase.
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Yeah.
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Okay, that's a really good um story for me to associate that with because I'm thinking about the different things that I might have trained for.
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And even though the result wasn't what I was hoping for, I love when you train for something and you don't realize what the thing is.
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You know, that kind of way where like later on in life you have a huge aha moment, like, oh my goodness.
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That's why I did all that.
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Right.
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It was for this moment, and it becomes something so much bigger than you.
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And I think that for me is the beautiful of training.
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Yeah.
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That you think you know what it's for, and you maybe do, right?
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Like you you touch on it, but as you compound life and all your training, and then it all blends together for this one huge pivotal moment, you're like, I'm so glad I did that.
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I'm so glad I saw that.
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Climactic resolve.
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Yes, yeah, yes, and then you realize from this moment on the things that I train for, the things that I learn, the intentionality, the things I know by repetition, familiar and unfamiliar unfamiliar, all of that is not for no reason.
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Like it everything has a purpose, I feel.
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Yeah.
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I have one more question, Jen, and um we can go wherever you want to go, but I I just really wanna because we honed in on your uh nursing, we honed in on your obstacles, and then obviously you were successful and the muscle memory paid off from uh you graduated, you became a case manager, you had all these wins and successes, yeah, which is the payoff, the confidence that you did this in.
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Can you talk a little bit about that?
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Yeah, that's good.
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Because I'm sitting here smiling, just thinking of the payoff.
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The payoff, if you like look at it from a surface level, is the case management, the business, the registry, right?
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All that wonderfulness.
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The payoff ultimately was doing it.
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It was I don't want to say it was the discipline.
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It was everything along the way that even led past case management.
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It was giving us the experience of being business owners for the first time.
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It was creating our first contract and just kind of like, okay, I think this is, and this was before AI.
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And this is what I'm talking about.
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I think, oh, if I can just sidetrack a little bit, I think that's gonna be the missed opportunity if people just always plug in to the super intelligence type stuff to learn.
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Because again, there's something about learning on your own, like picking up a book, talking to people, networking.
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And let's just reverse those words.
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There's something about working out, and and working out is the same thing as working on your own or or finding it yourself.
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When when you find that nugget, and I'm gonna be very honest, like I looked at so many different contracts, so many different uh ways to write a contract and how to set a contract up and how to get a lawyer to sign off on it, and just all these different ways and mechanisms to achieve the the right kind of contract so that we didn't walk in there looking unprofessional and presenting something that was gonna get denied based on my lack of research, my lack of practice, my lack of working out.
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So yeah, it the payoff was incredible.
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I just felt like a I I don't know why, but I felt like a newborn baby.
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Like I just came into this world and and achieved life, you know.
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It was just amazing.
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So great.
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So great.
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And I think that's the payoff too.
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You and I can go back in time and like remember when we did that.
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We just this happened just last night, guys.
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We were on our way home from going to the George Lucas Museum in LA, and I don't know what led to us playing your songs, Corey, that you wrote for the shameless band.
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And I got to hear a song all over again that you wrote for me, and we had a trip down memory lane speaking of memories, and where you're like, remember the process and the back and forth and what we would do, and then you went into in detail, and then remember when we had it um produced and mastered, and then I'd play it, and you said, and then your your face would light up, and then I I just remembered muscle memory, how my body felt, how my mind felt, how my soul felt during that time, and it's good, and we think it's so good, and we were singing the song in the car, and that's another thing about muscle memory.
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Hadn't heard the song in a while, but it was just like it was yesterday.
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And then I remember you all playing it live, performing it.
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That's the payoff.
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Yeah, not that this song happened and was mastered and released, that's part of it, but it's even years after there's still payoff.
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Yeah, and that's why I talk about the multi-layers of a payoff.
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And if you're just looking for that one thing to happen, you're you're selling yourself so short.
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It's it's so much that's gonna happen.
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Yes, and I want to say this too.
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Uh well let's bring it to relationships, right?
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Because you're talking about career and that's all great.
00:29:23.839 --> 00:29:36.079
Um, you had put such a lovely post on LinkedIn last week, and if you're on LinkedIn, I highly recommend following Corey because you just put really cool stuff on there.
00:29:36.240 --> 00:29:36.720
Oh, thank you.
00:29:36.880 --> 00:29:39.680
It's like no LinkedIn um account I've ever seen.
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Well, I didn't re read the rules, so I just do what I'm saying.
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Right.
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That's the thing.
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The possibilities, right?
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Right.
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So um here's the payout.
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When you when you're in training, if you will, and I say that with quotes, when you're in a relationship, if the payoff is I want to feel good, I want someone to love me, I want someone to hold me, with all nice stuff.
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And then when the when that goes away, it doesn't mean the payoff's done.
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There's just a bigger payoff, and you gotta stay in it.
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And of course, I have to say this because I don't want anyone to scrutinize what I'm saying or taking it out of context, providing you're safe, okay, everybody.
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I but you're in a relationship and you hit a hump and it's like, oh, this is harder than I thought.
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The payoff is amazing when you get through those moments because your muscles are gonna get stronger.
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The memory is going to be there.
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And now, Corey, I think 20 years in, I think we finally hit a spot where when we I I've intentionally created new muscle memory, if I may.
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I used to be hot, I used to be like quick, witted, quick to respond, react, and was always on the defensive.
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And again, why?
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Why I had to go back to my childhood and heal from some things, and that's why this whole process of muscle memory is so important because having muscle memory also includes being healed, like your muscle memory is no good if your muscles aren't healthy, right?
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Right?
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Your muscles are gonna remember everything, yeah, and so you get to intentionally create memories or a space of healing so that when you do go through life, go through relationships, job changes, and all this stuff, your muscle memory is healthy, strong, and it's something that you can be confident in.
00:31:51.519 --> 00:31:52.079
Right.
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I'm gonna close with this, and I feel good about this because this is how I literally look at relationships in life.
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Traffic signs are there for a reason.
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They're not to send you home or to stop you from going on your journey, they're to help you.
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So when you see speed bumps, slow down.
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When you see the road is out ahead, turn around.
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Love that.
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When you see a detour, just know you're about to take a little bit longer to get to that next uh place that you're trying to travel to.
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But pay attention to all the traffic signs.
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That's beautiful.
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Thank you.
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That is beautiful.
00:32:35.359 --> 00:32:37.519
I think that's a wonderful way to close.
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Um, and I I have to say this.
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When Corey brought this episode up, by the way, Corey, you've been doing an amazing job producing these episodes.
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Well, thank you.
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I appreciate it well into the 400s.
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This has all been Corey's production.
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I just get to sit here for the ride and pay attention to the to the road signs.
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But um, I really enjoyed it.
00:32:59.759 --> 00:33:10.240
When you brought it to me, I was like, it sounds so left brain, it sounds so technical and so, you know, like manly.
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Yes.
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Do you work out and build your muscles?
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I knew you were thinking that.
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He's not in my face, huh?
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Yeah, but there's muscle memory because I'm like, I'm in for the ride.
00:33:21.519 --> 00:33:23.759
Yeah, this hasn't hurt me before.
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That's why I love Take the Elevator because it's dialogue, it's really us exploring and real time figuring things out.
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It's the best.
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And and so, guys, here's a part of my muscle memory.
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I know when we're having these kind of conversations, it's gonna take Jen just a little bit of time to warm up, and you can hear how the the conversation slowly changed to it.
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My energy changes, doesn't it?
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Yeah, and I love it.
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I I'm here for it every week.
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Every week, and but that I I have to say this because here's a muscle memory in this.
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Corey, you are so good at giving me space to explore what I'm thinking and feeling.
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And that is elevation in the way we communicate with each other, not just you and I, but with other people listening, having them come to their moments, yeah, and not saying, no, this is how it has to be.
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That's how you are as a producer, like, here's the topic.
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I'm like, oh, what?
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Like, and then you're like, okay, let's record.
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We don't even, guys, we don't even talk this out in the beginning.
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It's like, here's the general overview, yeah, and let's go.
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Yeah, that that's the best way possible.
00:34:48.719 --> 00:34:52.000
Yeah, it's the best elevator ride.
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You just never know where you're going till you get there.
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That's right.
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Well, we hope you have a wonderful week.
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Um, if you're in Southern California, enjoy this weather, enjoy it.
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Bring out them sweaters.
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We're so excited.
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We're like in our sweats, our hoodies.
00:35:13.760 --> 00:35:16.239
Corey walked in this today in a beanie.
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I was like, yes, yes, yes, yes.
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It's about time.
00:35:21.519 --> 00:35:30.159
And if you're wondering what all the um things we're saying in the beginning regarding rain, those are all songs.
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It's like one of our favorite things to do is reference a song in the middle of it all.
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Absolutely.
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Well, you know us that take the elevator.
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We say, look up and let's elevate.
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Take us on the road with you.
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Pay attention to those times.