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00:00:05.804Hey everyone and welcome to the podcast Real talk with me.
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00:00:06.708It's Val Frank.
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00:00:07.783It's been a hot minute.
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00:00:13.849Since I have done a podcast episode, I've been really feeling like I need to relaunch it again.
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00:00:20.448You guys have been asking for it to be relaunched and, honestly, I have pretty decent numbers for considering I haven't done this in a while.
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00:00:27.946The Virgo in me was stuck in a perfectionism loop and I was like I can't show up yet.
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00:00:35.490I want to have my studio done, I want to have this done, I want to have that done and I'm like F it, let's just launch it back again.
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00:00:40.348And I was with somebody last week and they've literally been like why are you not doing an episode?
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00:00:49.982They're like why are you not doing episodes?
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00:00:51.648And I'm like all right, universe, I got the sign let's launch the podcast.
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00:00:52.911And, plus, I love interviewing people and talking to people.
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00:00:54.356So I'm sure I will work out the studio aspect of things.
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00:00:55.944But for now you just get me.
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00:00:58.697And if you don't know who I am, my name is Isabel Frank.
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00:01:01.686I am a spiritual intuition coach, psychic medium.
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00:01:12.451I help people just align with their purpose, their passion, their authenticity to heal, to let go of doubts and fears and all of that crap we carry around.
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00:01:19.873Anyways, that's me, that's who I am.
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00:01:27.733So to that we'll say welcome back to the podcast, and it feels good to sit here with you again.
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00:01:46.393I have gone through so much since our last episode like a lot and so I'm sure that some of this will come up in today's episode, because today we're going to talk about, like, opening up your heart and when it's time to pull back your energy.
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00:01:51.311I had this client actually today because I've been like what is my episode going to be about?
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00:02:00.789I had this client today who is I think she's like 73 or something like that, but she asked a question like what does it mean to open up your heart?
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00:02:13.362I'm like, dang, that's a really good question, because I think a lot of us ask that question as well, as we, let's say, open our heart up and then when do we pull our energy back, right?
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00:02:16.973So a lot of us overly give to people time and time again.
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00:02:39.044So if you've ever felt torn between wanting to stay open, loving and compassionate, but also needing to protect your energy and not give it away to the wrong people, then this episode is probably for you, because I'm going to dive into what it really means to open up your heart and how to know when it's time to pull back your energy without shutting yourself down.
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00:02:42.050So let's just kind of dive into the whole opening up your heart a little bit, and she asked a question.
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00:02:47.406She's like when people the whole opening up your heart a little bit and she asked a question.
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00:02:50.549She's like when people say to open up your heart, like is that talking about?
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00:02:52.747Like your literal beating heart?
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00:03:16.949And I'm like you know, it's funny, it's that a lot of people probably would take it that way, considering they maybe don't have the full understanding of this and opening up your heart really means that you're allowing yourself to be emotionally open, right, you're allowing yourself to feel joy, love, compassion and connection without, like, the walls of fear, the walls of control or defense.
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00:03:23.493And I know that's really, really scary, and you might be like well, I do, I do do that, and I'm like to what extent, though?
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00:03:26.222To what extent do you really open yourself up?
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00:03:31.312Because when you fully surrender and allow yourself to open up your heart.
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00:03:34.486That means that you're going to feel every single emotion.
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00:03:46.308You're going to feel anger, you might feel confusion, you're going to feel that, maybe mixed with joy and compassion, but you don't have the fear in it or the need to control it and even, at times, maybe even the need to understand it.
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00:03:52.264It's just allowing yourself to be present in the moment and that's really, really vulnerable.
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00:04:01.313And that's where vulnerability also comes in, because vulnerability is being willing to show your true feelings, even if it risks hurt.
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00:04:06.330And I'm saying that because that is one of the hardest things.
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00:04:15.435And I think that is where a lot of people get stuck in, where they are vulnerable or they have maybe been vulnerable in relationships or friendships or in some shape, way or form.
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00:04:24.668And then something happens and they put these walls up around themselves and they're like this is my protective layer, human nature totally understandable.
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00:04:35.353But what we don't understand is that when we build these walls around ourselves to protect ourselves from maybe getting hurt or opening up more, we also build walls around our own individuality.
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00:04:43.526So if you can't be vulnerable with yourself, you're not going to be able to be vulnerable with other people, like literally, think about that.
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00:04:57.572So if you built walls around your heart to protect yourself around this layer, to not let yourself go this far or to not let yourself feel certain things, then that's going to be evident in a lot of areas in your life.
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00:05:01.369You may feel like why can't I take this leap over here in my life?
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00:05:02.973Why can't I pursue this career?
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00:05:04.786Why can't I pursue this passion?
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00:05:06.072Why can't I pursue this passion?
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00:05:39.213Because if you haven't really had an emotional openness with yourself, as well as not allowing yourself to be vulnerable with yourself and this also means that, in spirituality, being receptive, right, letting that divine, God, universe, whatever you want to call it, just letting that love in letting yourself surrender to guidance and instead of, like I said, closing yourself off in self-protection, you are letting yourself flow, you're letting yourself surrender, and that it's really hard.
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00:05:47.242But I will say that when you do choose and you start moving into opening up your heart, you will meet some of the most amazing people.
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00:05:54.285You're going to meet others with presence and empathy and honesty, instead of like guarding or numbing.
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00:05:57.312You know, this reminds me like last week I was.
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00:06:00.201I think I have a pretty open heart.
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00:06:04.646Maybe it's a weakness of mine, I don't think so, but in a way, it's like I'm able to see people's truths.
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00:06:06.641It's it's like I'm able to see people's truths.
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00:06:15.848I'm able to see who you really are, past your shadows, past your fears and your doubts, and I live life in my own.
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00:06:17.112I am vulnerable.
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00:06:19.117I allow myself to be vulnerable.
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00:06:27.892It's taken a lot of work and this last weekend not this weekend, but maybe like two weekends ago I had a really hard last couple of weeks.
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00:06:43.531Right, I kind of had a change in a relationship and I'm sitting though, in this pool, in this jacuzzi, with some friends that I have made during the relationship and they're just amazing people, like really dope individuals.
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00:06:56.505And we're in this pool, it's late at night and we're having the most amazing talks about like spirituality and love and joy and what really makes you happy and purpose and passion.
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00:07:00.161And other people in the jacuzzi had nothing to do with our group.
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00:07:04.283We're like listening in and they're like can we join your conversation, can we be a part of this?
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00:07:05.387And we're like, yeah, come on.
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00:07:07.728And that's what I'm talking about.
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00:07:17.408When you have an open heart, you begin to like really meet amazing other people and you're not guarded with it.
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00:07:21.319So it's not about like forcing those connections, right.
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00:07:27.122It's just allowing yourself to kind of remove that armor that you've built up over time.
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00:07:32.934But I understand like this is completely, completely a hard thing to do.
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00:07:37.127It's hard because we got our parents' crap.
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00:07:49.166We got wounds from old relationships, maybe childhood traumas, just whatever it was that you have been carrying on your back for all of these years.
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00:07:59.300You've been betrayed, you've been abandoned, criticized, and your heart naturally builds up these walls so that you're not hurt again.
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00:08:02.286It's self-protection, it's what you're doing.
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00:08:14.081So, in order to move past these walls, you have to face those wounds, you have to face these issues, you have to look at them and you have to see them for what they are.
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00:08:19.279I will tell you, I will say this I'm going to be completely raw and honest with you.
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00:08:29.447Recently, moving out of the situation that I was previously in okay, this is me being on real I realized why I was so hurt by it.
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00:08:35.931Because it made me feel irrelevant, right, I say that because my father and my parents got divorced.
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00:08:40.466My father left, which made me feel irrelevant, like we didn't really matter for you to stay.
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00:08:41.850I was married.
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00:08:46.282I chose to leave my marriage because I was irrelevant, he didn't really see me.
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00:08:53.364I went into another relationship where there was words that said that basically I was irrelevant to him.
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00:09:01.331And then I go into a relationship where I don't feel that at all, only to be shown that it feels like I'm irrelevant to you as well.
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00:09:07.702All of that, none of that, matters, because my own relevancy matters within myself.
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00:09:15.847My own security is in myself, and it was easier for me to see this time around that I'm good because I have security in myself.
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00:09:21.284I'm not going to put those walls again so that I'm protecting myself from being hurt again.
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00:09:23.107No, it's vulnerability.
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00:09:30.004It's knowing that the universe, god divine, is always going to align you for the highest and best.
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00:09:38.048But it's also hard because you do have right, there is people or we all face the fear of loss, we face the fear of rejection.
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00:09:44.023So being open means that you're risking that others may not meet you with that same love.
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00:09:47.826Like that is the hardest thing, I think.
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00:09:50.748To really really feel Like, let's like really think about that.
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00:09:52.769I'm going to be open with you.
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00:09:56.312Right, you are your own journey, your own individual person.
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00:09:58.953I cannot control you, I can only control myself.
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00:10:03.937But in doing so, you may not be able to meet me with the same love.
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00:10:10.331So I'm going to keep you away, like, don't do that, don't do that, just know that everybody is part of your journey some way.
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00:10:11.581Somehow they really are.
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00:10:20.445It's also hard because in that, like I said, you don't have control right, like I can't control another person, I can't, I can only troll myself.
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00:10:29.706So that means that I'm going to stay closed off, because then I don't have to worry about unpredictability, I don't have to worry about that.
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00:10:55.808The other one is shame, or self-judgment, because if you carry belief right, how many times have you had people walk away from you or tell you you're too much, like, you do too much, you're way, way too much, you're asking for too much, you're too needy, right, don't know you're, you don't don't ever do that right, or, and so you form this belief of thinking I'm not enough, I'm not enough.
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00:11:01.383Why am I going to open up my heart for these individual people to tell me a, b, c, d and e?
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00:11:06.716The other one is why it's hard is that you over-responsibility.
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00:11:14.337The heart learned love and survival together, right.
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00:11:31.296So you learn that if opening it now means it's risking, everything can collapse around me if that love isn't reciprocated if that love isn't reciprocated.
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00:11:41.610And that's why I will always, always go back to saying you have to love yourself, you have to know who you are, you have to really, really understand and be secure in you.
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00:11:45.759And it's really interesting that a lot of you don't know how to do that.
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00:11:47.288A lot of you don't even know.
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00:11:56.809Like, when I sit with people and I ask them, like what are your values, what brings you joy, what are these things, people are like I don't know, I don't know.
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00:12:04.413And that is where it's like you have abandoned yourself and we all have done it right, we all have done it.
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00:12:12.549Somebody asked the other day on the live, like why do we abandon ourselves when we go into relationships?
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00:12:15.880But true heart opening isn't about self-abandonment, it's not about you abandoning yourself.
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00:12:18.006It's about authentic connection.
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00:12:26.470Because when your heart is open, like I said before, you're connected to love, you're connected to compassion, you're connected to source divine God.
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00:12:36.615But that doesn't mean you hand over your peace, that doesn't mean that you hand over your time, that doesn't mean that you let go of your boundaries to anyone who's asking.
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00:12:45.269It's not about pouring yourself out to somebody else until you are empty, because that is where you guys need to learn balance.
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00:12:48.197You need to learn balance.
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00:12:56.971It doesn't mean that you're immediately going to say yes to everything and allowing access to everyone, to the deepest self.
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00:13:01.412That's boundaries, the misconception that we have.
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00:13:04.193Right, we've been conditioned, especially as women.
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00:13:07.307I'm a woman, so that's what I identify as, so that's what I'm going to speak.
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00:13:11.116As If you a man and you're identifying this, great, please keep listening.
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00:13:22.809But I will say that, as a woman, mother, healer and even a giver, um, a lot of you guys equate having an open heart with self-sacrifice.
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00:13:30.311Like, if you have an open heart, then you are self-sacrificing your own individuality, and that is so, not true.
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00:13:39.312We think that to always be the one, like, we're always the one who's understanding, forgiving, we're caring others, but that's not spiritual openness.
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00:13:41.852That is people-pleasing.
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00:13:44.354That is a totally different issue.
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00:13:46.653That is people-pleasing.
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00:13:52.453Allowing yourself to be open doesn't mean you're letting anyone into your sacred space.
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00:13:53.397Are you kidding me?
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00:13:56.445I am a Virgo, 100%.
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00:14:08.854I say this because I was talking with somebody this last week and it was funny because he was like oh, I know you and I'm like what We've talked, and he was like well, I see you at events and stuff, and I was like what the heck?
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00:14:28.221And he was like yeah, you're always in the corner, you're really quiet and I'm like, if you know me, by the way, like, like, really know me, I'm nothing, I'm not quiet, but I am in like big, open spaces because I like to take everything in and I also have to kind of fill you out before I let you into my sacred space.
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00:14:32.534Once I kind of learn or see what your vibe is like, I will open that up.
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00:14:37.994So I say that because openness doesn't mean letting just anyone into your sacred space.
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00:14:45.433Not everyone has earned the right to sit at your table, let alone drink from your cup.
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00:14:52.346So please stop giving it to every freaking person that is giving you attention.
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00:14:59.549Just because Bobby is giving you attention doesn't mean you have to like, be like, come on in, have discernment.
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00:15:03.337Have discernment because a true open heart has discernment.
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00:15:16.230Really really having heart opening is really about you being rooted enough in your own self-love that you can choose wisely where your energy flows and that's where protection is right.
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00:15:17.921You're like well, what about protecting myself?
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00:15:19.086What about protecting my heart?
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00:15:20.371What about protecting who I am?
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00:15:21.697That's called discernment.
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00:15:24.066Love, that's literally called discernment.
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00:15:26.192Do you have discernment?
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00:15:28.336I fully think we all have discernment.
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00:15:32.216It's just the fact that we've all learned, like, not to listen to it.
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00:15:41.653You guys have you guys all have that little voice or that little feeling in your head that's like it doesn't feel right, like something feels off, like don't trust yourself, don't do that.
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00:15:52.416And you're like but they asked me to, but this feels okay, but I'm going to give them the benefit of the doubt, like girls, guys, don't get me wrong, I do the same shit.
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00:15:58.772I am constantly like I know I shouldn't be doing this, but I'm going to do it anyways.
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00:16:01.033And I'm like oh my God, this is so stupid.
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00:16:02.129Like that's not discernment.
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00:16:04.386So have discernment Also.
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00:16:05.490Know that you can.
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00:16:11.914Discernment is also knowing you can hold compassion for someone without giving them unlimited access to you.
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00:16:15.214You are not going to have access to me.
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00:16:17.051You have to earn access to me.
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00:16:20.393You have to earn it and I will tell you 100% you do me wrong.
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00:16:21.950You do me wrong.
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00:16:24.465You are not going to have full access to me.
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00:16:27.192You are going to see a completely different version of me.
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00:16:27.913You will.
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00:16:33.296It's not harsh, it's still compassionate, but it's going to be a different version of you, of me.
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00:16:34.589That's just me.
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00:16:41.716That's just how I am so allowing yourself, too, to stay open to love, guidance, new experiences, right?
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00:16:47.767So just don't close yourself up, but really have discernment for what nourishes you Choose you Like seriously.
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00:16:50.099So just don't close yourself up, but really have discernment for what nourishes you Choose you Like, seriously.
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00:16:51.125Choose you, please choose you, keep choosing you.
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00:16:54.125I don't care if you're in a relationship, I don't care if you're single.
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00:16:58.917I always tell people you didn't sign up for the spiritual journey for somebody else.
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00:17:02.296You signed up for this spiritual journey, for this life journey for yourself.
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00:17:11.934You literally chose to live this life for your highest and best, not for someone else's highest and best, and I say that as somebody that coaches people every day.
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00:17:20.075My purpose in life is to literally help you find your passion and purpose is to literally help you find your most authentic truth and yourself.
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00:17:23.594But, at the end of the day, my journey is about me.
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00:17:25.076My journey is about me.
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00:17:28.925I am not going to sacrifice myself for someone else's betterment.
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00:17:33.119I'm not, I'm not and I'm not going to people.
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00:17:40.436Please and do all of these things because I know who my worth is, I know my value and I know what I bring to the table Now.
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00:17:58.710I may not be for everybody, I may not, but that is okay, because having an open heart means that I'm completely available for love, I'm available for joy, I'm available for divine guidance, I'm available for soul aligned connections, like I said this last week.
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00:18:18.173Soul aligned connections, like it's crazy to me that I have been sitting with people the last couple weeks that I have known for a while now and really getting to know them, and I'm like, dude, this makes sense to me why you were put in my life Like we, you have depth, people that I didn't realize had so much depth, have depth.
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00:18:30.888And I'm like, okay, this was soul line connections, like you guys are 100% real, but it doesn't mean that now I'm gonna open up the door for everyone that wants to take whatever they want to take from me.
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00:18:32.311I'm not.
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00:18:34.936So just think about that.
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00:18:39.411Think about it like this your heart, right, your heart's this garden.
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00:18:45.886And openness means that the gate to the garden is there, right?
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00:18:54.650So the flowers are blooming, your sun is shining, everything is beautiful in this garden, but it's your garden, it's not anyone else's.
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00:18:58.575It's yours, so you get to decide who enters there, right?
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00:19:06.172Or I don't know, an amazing, freaking nightclub that everybody wants to get in and everything is crazy good there, but you decide who enters.
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00:19:14.209Some people are going to come into your space to admire it and to nurture the garden.
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00:19:16.713Others are going to come in and just trample the shit out of it.
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00:19:19.019They're going to pull the flowers out.
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00:19:22.787They're going to step on the stuff, all of that.
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00:19:28.618Being open doesn't mean I'm removing the gate completely.
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00:19:33.672It means that I'm going to keep it there.
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00:19:38.692But now I'm going to have discernment into who steps into my space, and I'm going to discern it myself with that love.
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00:19:41.829Right, that's what I'm going to do.
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00:19:45.070All right, are you following me now?
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00:19:46.650I don't even know what my time is.
00:19:46.650 -->
00:19:52.657I don't want to go too crazy long on all of this, but we're going to go into now, so it's like all right.
00:19:53.086 -->
00:19:56.395You tell me it's about having an open heart.
00:19:56.395 -->
00:19:59.527What does that mean then?
00:19:59.527 -->
00:20:02.130When do I decide like enough is enough?
00:20:02.130 -->
00:20:11.421When do I decide like I need to pull back, like it's time for me to pull back my energy?
00:20:11.421 -->
00:20:34.179When you're tired, when you're exhausted, when you are overgiving and it's not being met, when you're not being seen and you're fighting to be seen, when they're not hearing you and you feel like they can't hold you anymore.
00:20:34.179 -->
00:20:42.465And that's where you have to sit in the space and say am I, am I staying this for the benefit of others?
00:20:42.465 -->
00:20:49.929And maybe in a relationship at work, um, anything, am I staying here for the benefit of you or am I staying here for the benefit of me?
00:20:49.929 -->
00:20:56.967Because being open doesn't mean I'm going to let myself be drained.
00:20:56.967 -->
00:21:00.553I'm not love.
00:21:00.853 -->
00:21:01.673Love is infinite.
00:21:01.673 -->
00:21:13.613It's it infinite, it's infinite and that's the best way I can say I don't even know if that word's enough like love is infinite, but your energy, your energy is not infinite.
00:21:13.613 -->
00:21:15.457Your heart is powerful.
00:21:15.457 -->
00:21:23.758I'm going to say the fact that, like working on people as an energy healer, I look at it this way.
00:21:23.758 -->
00:21:25.590We have like a tank.
00:21:25.590 -->
00:21:33.257It almost to me looks like a thermometer, honestly and if that thermometer is full, I don't have any more that I can give.
00:21:33.257 -->
00:21:40.557I don't have any more energy to give, and that energy is about not just giving to you but also giving to myself.
00:21:40.557 -->
00:21:45.637So if I'm giving you so much energy, I'm not able to pour back into myself.
00:21:45.637 -->
00:21:49.894So remember, love is infinite, but your energy is not.
00:21:49.894 -->
00:22:00.474Your heart is so powerful, like I said, but it's not meant to be an endless supply for people who can't see or receive you.
00:22:00.474 -->
00:22:02.586Like it's not meant to be an endless supply for people who can't see or receive you Like.
00:22:02.586 -->
00:22:04.431It's not balanced.
00:22:04.431 -->
00:22:06.175You guys, it's not balanced.
00:22:06.224 -->
00:22:10.313Do you know how many lives I do a week Like I do so many TikTok lives?
00:22:10.313 -->
00:22:14.970And there's so many questions of you know does so-and-so like me?
00:22:14.970 -->
00:22:15.750Do they love me?
00:22:15.750 -->
00:22:16.551Is this where I'm at?
00:22:16.551 -->
00:22:17.373Is this where I'm at?
00:22:17.373 -->
00:22:21.598And the reality is it's like yes, no, whatever.
00:22:21.598 -->
00:22:22.480I can answer these questions.
00:22:22.500 -->
00:22:43.545I do psychic readings, I do healings, but you can't force somebody to see you, you can't force somebody to receive you and at the end of the questions I always like to say you want them to see you, but do you see yourself?
00:22:43.545 -->
00:22:46.997Do you see yourself?
00:22:46.997 -->
00:22:47.900Do you see yourself?
00:22:47.900 -->
00:22:52.826And that's really hard for me.
00:22:52.826 -->
00:22:53.528That really hits me, to be honest.
00:22:53.528 -->
00:22:56.718Honestly, I'm really really hit with that because I think recently I haven't been feeling seen.
00:22:56.718 -->
00:22:58.342I haven't.
00:22:58.342 -->
00:23:02.000I realized I wasn't being seen for who I truly am.
00:23:02.000 -->
00:23:08.434I wasn't really being seen in my power, in my voice, and that's my fault.
00:23:08.434 -->
00:23:14.979That's my fault because I think I was looking at them like you don't see me, but in that same truth.
00:23:14.979 -->
00:23:17.185I wasn't allowing myself to see myself.
00:23:17.185 -->
00:23:24.205I wasn't allowing myself to see myself, and that's the most important thing, right?
00:23:24.205 -->
00:23:28.056If you can't see yourself, other people aren't going to see you.
00:23:28.056 -->
00:23:31.645So when should you pull back?
00:23:32.287 -->
00:23:41.751Like I said, when you feel unseen or you're unappreciated, you show up, you give, you pour your energy into someone, or even something.
00:23:41.751 -->
00:23:48.417By the way, you guys, this can go, like I said career, relationship, friendships, even family.
00:23:48.417 -->
00:23:53.856You're pouring your energy over in a direction and it's just hitting a wall.
00:23:53.856 -->
00:23:55.741It's hitting a wall.
00:23:55.741 -->
00:24:00.641There's no balance, there's no giving back to you.
00:24:00.641 -->
00:24:06.769There's no, there's no balance, there's no giving back to you, there's no acknowledgement, and you're just like you're heavy, you're tired.
00:24:06.769 -->
00:24:12.494That's like your soul is literally screaming at you hey, you know what?
00:24:12.494 -->
00:24:14.215This doesn't feel good anymore.
00:24:14.215 -->
00:24:16.678This doesn't feel good anymore.
00:24:16.678 -->
00:24:18.019And we're, we are the ones.
00:24:18.019 -->
00:24:20.082I hear you, but I'm going to do it again.
00:24:20.082 -->
00:24:27.588I hear you, but I'm going to do it again.
00:24:27.588 -->
00:24:28.651I hear you, but I'm going to keep going.
00:24:28.651 -->
00:24:30.875It's like the soul is like okay, but it doesn't feel good.
00:24:30.875 -->
00:24:33.181The other one is you're always the giver.
00:24:33.181 -->
00:24:34.363You're always the giver.
00:24:34.624 -->
00:24:43.951Relationships, romantic friendships, romantics, or I was going to say romantic friendships I don't know what I'm thinking, relationships, but I mean like romantic, or friendships or even, like I said, families.
00:24:43.951 -->
00:24:44.673They all need balance.
00:24:44.673 -->
00:24:49.772Every relationship that you are in has to have a balance and I know, even family wise.
00:24:49.772 -->
00:24:52.987There's a lot of times in family where I love my family.
00:24:52.987 -->
00:25:06.444I'm a big, big, big, big family person, but there are some people in my family I'm not going to mention names who I'm not very close to because the relationship is very one-sided.
00:25:06.444 -->
00:25:07.709It it's always.
00:25:07.709 -->
00:25:15.173It's always me giving, giving, giving, giving, and it's never them giving towards me or even trying to understand.
00:25:15.173 -->
00:25:16.689I'm not asking someone to carry my weight.
00:25:16.689 -->
00:25:20.769I just understand me, just listen to me, like whatever if it's one, even in friendships.
00:25:20.790 -->
00:25:34.316I'm in a phase right now I feel like friendships are shifting and changing and if you're always the one reaching out, like you're always the one fixing or holding space or carrying the weight, that's a sign that the energy is one-sided.
00:25:34.316 -->
00:25:36.766Okay, so pay attention to that.
00:25:36.766 -->
00:25:40.049We talked about times, times to talked about signs to pull back right.
00:25:40.049 -->
00:25:42.212Unseen or unappreciated, you're always the giver.
00:25:42.212 -->
00:25:45.116What's another one?
00:25:45.116 -->
00:25:47.058You feel emotionally exhausted.
00:25:47.058 -->
00:25:56.767That's so real when you're like this is freaking heavy, I'm so tired, I am exhausted from that Energy.
00:25:56.787 -->
00:26:00.289Mind, body, soul we are all connected as one.
00:26:00.289 -->
00:26:01.550Do not ignore it.
00:26:01.550 -->
00:26:06.394If your body is heavy and tired and you are being drained, that is real.
00:26:06.394 -->
00:26:15.981Pay attention to how your body feels after leaving a conversation, after leaving a situation or a place, what is your body feeling Like?
00:26:15.981 -->
00:26:17.061Are you feeling lighter?
00:26:17.061 -->
00:26:19.048Are you drained?
00:26:19.048 -->
00:26:19.511Do you feel heavy?
00:26:19.511 -->
00:26:25.455Because our bodies will tell us the truth before our minds want to admit it.
00:26:25.455 -->
00:26:26.699Like, think about that.
00:26:26.699 -->
00:26:38.164Your body will literally speak to you before your mind wants to admit it, because your body will show up in a way, right, anxious and all these different, weird feelings, and your mind is like talking another story.
00:26:38.164 -->
00:26:40.393So pay attention to what your body is.
00:26:41.205 -->
00:26:43.252We are not meant to separate body, mind and spirit.
00:26:43.252 -->
00:26:44.095We all work at one.
00:26:44.095 -->
00:26:47.733The other one is your intuition keeps nudging you.
00:26:47.733 -->
00:26:54.313So maybe you've had this quiet voice saying like this doesn't feel right, like step back.
00:26:54.313 -->
00:26:58.996But guilt, fear or attachment has made you ignore it.
00:26:58.996 -->
00:27:04.828Your intuition doesn't neg you for a reason, like people always are.
00:27:04.828 -->
00:27:05.750Like how do you know?
00:27:05.750 -->
00:27:11.939Like if I give a reading to somebody and I'm reading you, I will hear it's like a broke spirit, like a broken record.
00:27:11.939 -->
00:27:17.566They will say the same thing over and over, and over and over again, until it's like are you getting this message?
00:27:17.566 -->
00:27:18.106Do we got it?
00:27:18.106 -->
00:27:20.211Okay, cool, I'll tell spirit they understood the message.
00:27:20.211 -->
00:27:20.892Let's move on.
00:27:20.892 -->
00:27:34.739Even to me, in my life, spirit's like we keep telling you, we keep telling you, we keep telling you and I'm like okay, so your intuition, your spirit guide, your team, they're not nagging you for just no reason at all.
00:27:34.739 -->
00:27:36.625They're literally trying to protect you.
00:27:36.625 -->
00:27:47.939So if you keep getting a thought, you keep getting a feeling, please allow yourself the time and space to really sit down with it and really really feel it.
00:27:49.702 -->
00:27:56.607People think that when you're pulling back your energy, that it's mean that you're shutting someone out, but it's actually the opposite.
00:27:56.607 -->
00:28:01.365You pulling back isn't about punishing others, it's really about protecting yourself.
00:28:01.365 -->
00:28:08.526It's really saying I am so done pouring into a dry well, like I am done pouring into a dry well.
00:28:08.526 -->
00:28:10.087I can love you.
00:28:10.087 -->
00:28:17.039I can love you, but I can't and I don't have to exhaust myself for you.
00:28:17.039 -->
00:28:21.051Like I don't have to do this this way, like I.
00:28:21.051 -->
00:28:24.347If you're not balancing this out, I can't.
00:28:24.347 -->
00:28:32.866I can't create the balance for the both of us, like you literally cannot create balance for both of you, because you're not their body, you're not their soul, you're not their mind, you're not their person.
00:28:32.866 -->
00:28:34.810Like you can only create balance for yourself.
00:28:34.810 -->
00:28:42.336Your energy is sacred and you get to really choose how you use it, like where you want it to flow.
00:28:42.336 -->
00:28:49.516So you're not closing your heart, you're just creating boundaries that are going to really keep your heart safe.
00:28:49.516 -->
00:28:52.472You know, it's crazy.
00:28:52.472 -->
00:28:58.395Like I'm going to be really honest In my situation that just ended, it was like I don't know the right words.
00:28:58.444 -->
00:28:59.589I don't even know what I'm calling it.
00:28:59.589 -->
00:29:01.507By saying situation Like I'm so know the right words.
00:29:01.507 -->
00:29:02.429I don't even know what I'm calling it.
00:29:02.429 -->
00:29:04.093By saying situation Like I am I'm so lost for words still.
00:29:04.093 -->
00:29:09.083But I realized that that was kind of where I was at.
00:29:09.083 -->
00:29:19.249I felt like I was, I was pouring and it was like you're not hearing me, like the universe was like okay, we got, we got to protect you, like this is what we have to know how we have to move.
00:29:19.368 -->
00:29:20.592But I'm not closing my heart.
00:29:20.592 -->
00:29:32.685There's just boundaries, there's literally boundaries, right?
00:29:32.685 -->
00:29:36.184So it's like these damn metaphors If you know how I channel, the spirit uses weird stories sometimes that I'm like this doesn't make sense, but I'll go with it.
00:29:36.184 -->
00:29:38.971Right, your energy is like water, right.
00:29:38.971 -->
00:29:39.632There's like.
00:29:39.632 -->
00:29:42.006There's like this video that goes around I can't.
00:29:42.006 -->
00:29:48.476I've seen it on like Instagram where there's like these cups of water and then these people like are pouring in like water into the cup, right?
00:29:48.476 -->
00:29:56.678So if you keep pouring all your water out for everyone else and you never refill your own cup, you're going to be empty, right?
00:29:56.678 -->
00:30:09.991So pulling back is simply like freaking, refilling your own cup, turning the faucet on, turning it back towards yourself, like you still can offer everyone water, but you get to decide who gets a sip and who doesn't, and that's not selfish.
00:30:09.991 -->
00:30:11.855That's not selfish, it's survival.
00:30:11.855 -->
00:30:15.029It's literally self love.
00:30:15.029 -->
00:30:18.977So just know, when I say, hey, you might have to pull back or you should pull back your energy, I'm not telling you to close your heart.
00:30:18.977 -->
00:30:22.810I'm say, hey, you might have to pull back or you should pull back your energy, I'm not telling you to close your heart.
00:30:22.810 -->
00:30:25.654I'm never, ever, ever going to tell you to close your heart.
00:30:25.654 -->
00:30:26.670I will always push.
00:30:26.710 -->
00:30:52.998Being vulnerable and having an open heart, because I think when we're vulnerable we have an open heart, is where we actually live our truth, where we actually get to see ourselves for how freaking, amazing and whole that we are, where we give ourselves that compassion and that grace, where we realize I can do all of this, I'm truly limitless which is a whole other conversation for another day but honor your energy enough that you stop pouring into spaces where it's not valued.
00:30:52.998 -->
00:30:56.288Really honor that, because you can still stay open.
00:30:56.288 -->
00:30:56.849Just not wide open.
00:30:56.849 -->
00:30:57.230Don't be wide open.
00:30:57.230 -->
00:30:59.534Just not wide open, right?
00:30:59.534 -->
00:31:01.837Don't be wide open, ladies and gentlemen.
00:31:01.837 -->
00:31:03.420Don't be wide open.
00:31:03.420 -->
00:31:08.998Allow yourself to kind of look at everything, right, you get to pick and choose.
00:31:11.266 -->
00:31:19.429Anyways, that's kind of where, like I was thinking of everything today and going, you know, allow yourself a little bit.
00:31:19.429 -->
00:31:26.790Like I'm sitting, I'm asking the guides right now, like are you feeling, like you are in an expansive space?
00:31:26.790 -->
00:31:38.628If you're, if you're staying open and you're guarding your energy, just ask yourself do I feel expansive in the space that I am in, these people and situations or place?
00:31:38.628 -->
00:31:40.713Am I expansive or is it draining me?
00:31:40.713 -->
00:31:50.686Like, literally, do that.
00:31:50.686 -->
00:31:52.757So I want to tell yourself too, like you guys are, you guys can always call your energy back to you too.
00:31:52.757 -->
00:32:00.798So, like I tell people, like close your eyes, put your hands on your heart, take a couple of deep breaths, like you guys can do this with me if you want.
00:32:00.798 -->
00:32:10.153Just breathe in and out and you can tell yourself for one I call back all energy back to me with healing.
00:32:10.153 -->
00:32:14.359And just imagine all this beautiful light and energy coming back to you with healing.
00:32:14.359 -->
00:32:33.398I always say with healing, and remember in this to say to yourself I choose to keep my heart open to love, joy and truth and I choose to pull back my energy from places that cannot receive me and are not meant for me.
00:32:33.398 -->
00:32:41.798I choose to pull back my energy from places that cannot receive me and are not meant for me.
00:32:44.786 -->
00:32:48.134Anyways, I encourage you guys to sit with this journal.
00:32:48.134 -->
00:32:54.916I don't know, are you forcing yourself into situations and places and you're staying open, even when it's hurting you Like?
00:32:54.916 -->
00:32:55.479Are you?
00:32:55.479 -->
00:33:03.066And what would it look like to stay open, to have an open heart but also to really protect your energy?
00:33:03.066 -->
00:33:12.747All right, if you guys need any help with this, literally you guys shoot me a DM, shoot me a message.
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00:33:38.837Welcome back everybody.
00:33:38.837 -->
00:33:46.638We're definitely going to have interviews and people coming in and I'm so excited I, freaking, ripped my bandaid off.
00:33:46.638 -->
00:33:55.566I did this, I put this out, but it's kind of my way of like sharing a little bit about me without sharing all of it for right now.
00:33:55.566 -->
00:34:01.051But remember you know having an open heart is a gift, but remember you know having an open heart is a gift but it's also sacred.
00:34:01.051 -->
00:34:04.576So please protect your energy, but never dim your light.
00:34:04.576 -->
00:34:06.798Never, ever, ever dim your light.
00:34:06.798 -->
00:34:09.601So, all right, hopefully this resonated.
00:34:09.601 -->
00:34:19.793Share with somebody who might need this reminder too, and I hope you guys have an amazing freaking day night evening and I will hit you back soon.
