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(Transcribed by TurboScribe.ai. Go Unlimited to remove this message.) With everything that's happened to you, you can
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feel sorry for yourself or treat what has
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happened as a gift.
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Everything is either an opportunity to grow or
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an obstacle to keep you from growing.
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You get to choose.
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That's a quote from Wayne Dyer.
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You may have heard this idea before, that
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our problems are really blessings that are here
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to teach us something new and help us
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to grow.
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It's a lovely idea, yes, but pretty difficult
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to put into practice.
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Can you imagine how nice it would be,
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though, if every challenge or problem that we
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experienced, we were able to embrace it instead
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of fearing it because we trusted that it
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was here for a reason?
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It was here to teach us something and
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to help us to grow and expand?
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Think back to a time in your life
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when you were going through something really difficult.
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What was the situation?
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How did you feel?
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So actually take a moment, you can pause
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this podcast and think of a situation that
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you found really, really challenging and think about
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how you were feeling at the time.
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Okay, are you back?
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Okay, good.
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So first of all, did you survive that
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situation?
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Obviously you did because you're here.
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And how did you survive?
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How did you get through it?
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I'll give you an example from my life.
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When I first went to college, I went
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to UC Davis.
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It was my first time living in California.
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Before that, I had grown up on a
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naval base in Japan.
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And so coming to California, I didn't know
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anybody.
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I didn't know anyone at my school.
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I had never visited the campus.
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Within a few weeks of being there, my
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boyfriend broke up with me and I didn't
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have any friends.
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And I was just really overwhelmed by all
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the change, by the breakup and just this
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transition from being in the same place for
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years and years and having the same group
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of friends and being with my family to
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being somewhere completely new and to experiencing all
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these new challenges.
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It was the first time in my life
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that I'd ever felt depressed.
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And it lasted for several months.
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And it was really, really scary.
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At the time, I was so deep in
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sadness that I couldn't see a way out.
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I didn't know what was going to happen.
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It was really hard for me to see
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a different or brighter future.
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But here I am years later.
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I survived that experience.
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And looking back, I can see how even
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though it wasn't something I wanted to happen,
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I can see how much I learned and
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how much I grew.
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For example, I guess one of the biggest
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things that I learned was what depression felt
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like.
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And I'd never woken up before feeling a
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complete lack of joy, feeling like nothing in
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the world, even things that I used to
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love doing, would make me happy or change
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how I felt.
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There was nothing that I looked forward to.
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There was nothing that could cheer me up.
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There was just a sense of feeling really
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numb.
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And that was really scary for me.
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I am glad, however, that I went through
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that because I've known people who were depressed.
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And I actually had a relative who experienced
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a lot of depression throughout her life.
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And going through that experience, I feel, made
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me a lot more understanding and empathetic to
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other people who are depressed and who are
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depressed for much longer periods of time.
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And I just feel like I have a
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lot more understanding and compassion for people who
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are going through something like that.
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I also learned the importance of having a
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social network.
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And making friends.
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And I also learned that even though it
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felt terrible in the moment, that not everything
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lasts forever.
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That the way I felt when my boyfriend
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at the time broke up with me, it
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wasn't going to last forever.
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That time does heal.
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And that things change.
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And so, that problem was really hard to
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go through.
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But looking back, I'm glad that I went
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through it.
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I feel like it made me a different
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and stronger person.
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And a more wise person.
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And a more compassionate person.
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And that is, I feel like, what a
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lot of our lives are about.
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We're not here to just stay the same.
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We're here to experience life.
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All the ups and downs.
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To learn and to grow.
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And to become more interesting, wise, and strong
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human beings.
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So looking back at whatever problem that you
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chose to think about, what did you learn
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from that?
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How did it change you as a human
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being?
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Are you going through a problem right now?
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Because if you are, let's talk about some
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ways that we can start to implement this
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idea into our lives.
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This idea that our problems are not here
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to defeat us, they're here for us to
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learn from and to grow.
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And if we can embrace our opportunities, then
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we won't walk around being afraid of life
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or uncertainty or quote-unquote problems, because we'll
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know that we can handle them.
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And if we have some tools in our
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tool belt, then we can pull out those
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tools anytime we come across a challenge, and
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we can use those tools to help us
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get through it.
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So are you going through any problems right
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now that you want to practice these tools
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with?
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If so, think about that problem.
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You can pause for a moment and think
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about the problem and think about how it's
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making you feel.
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So first of all, let's put things into
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perspective.
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So whatever you're going through, remind yourself that
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things will be different in time, that things
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will change, and it's going to feel really
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different in just a few days, a month,
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a year from now.
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Everything changes.
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Not everything lasts forever.
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Nothing lasts forever.
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Change is a constant of our lives.
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And so just put things in perspective and
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know that this problem will be different in
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time.
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So number two, trust that even though you
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may not know exactly how, that everything is
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going to work out and that you are
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never given anything that you cannot handle.
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Okay, number three, having gratitude for your problem.
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So say to yourself, I am willing to
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see this experience as an opportunity to learn.
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I am grateful for the opportunity to grow
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as an ever-changing, ever-expanding human being.
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Remember that we're all here to learn and
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grow.
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It's human nature.
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And finally, ask yourself these questions.
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What can I learn from this experience?
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How am I being asked to level up?
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How is this experience actually helping me?
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So I know that was kind of a
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lot.
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You can go back through these tools and
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through these questions and just pause after each
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one and really kind of work out and
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answer these questions in your head and see
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if that helps you to shift the energy
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of just being stuck in a problem and
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see if it helps you to reframe it
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as an opportunity and start looking for solutions
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and ways that you can move through it
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and reframing the problem as an opportunity.
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So I hope that was helpful for you.
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I know this was kind of a quick
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episode and it was a lot in a
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short period of time.
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So go back, go through it, listen again
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and just pause after each tool, after each
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question and take some time to reflect.
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Okay, so have a beautiful day.
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Put these into practice.
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It's not something that we do really easily
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and quickly.
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It's something that we have to kind of
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continuously remember to practice.
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So use these tools and see how they
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work for you.
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Week three, hallelujah.
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(Transcribed by TurboScribe.ai. Go Unlimited to remove this message.) With everything that's happened to you, you can
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feel sorry for yourself or treat what has
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happened as a gift.
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Everything is either an opportunity to grow or
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an obstacle to keep you from growing.
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You get to choose.
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That's a quote from Wayne Dyer.
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You may have heard this idea before, that
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our problems are really blessings that are here
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to teach us something new and help us
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to grow.
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It's a lovely idea, yes, but pretty difficult
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to put into practice.
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Can you imagine how nice it would be,
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though, if every challenge or problem that we
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experienced, we were able to embrace it instead
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of fearing it because we trusted that it
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was here for a reason?
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It was here to teach us something and
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to help us to grow and expand?
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Think back to a time in your life
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when you were going through something really difficult.
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What was the situation?
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How did you feel?
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So actually take a moment, you can pause
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this podcast and think of a situation that
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you found really, really challenging and think about
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how you were feeling at the time.
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Okay, are you back?
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Okay, good.
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So first of all, did you survive that
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situation?
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Obviously you did because you're here.
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And how did you survive?
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How did you get through it?
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I'll give you an example from my life.
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When I first went to college, I went
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to UC Davis.
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It was my first time living in California.
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Before that, I had grown up on a
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naval base in Japan.
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And so coming to California, I didn't know
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anybody.
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I didn't know anyone at my school.
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I had never visited the campus.
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Within a few weeks of being there, my
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boyfriend broke up with me and I didn't
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have any friends.
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And I was just really overwhelmed by all
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the change, by the breakup and just this
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transition from being in the same place for
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years and years and having the same group
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of friends and being with my family to
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being somewhere completely new and to experiencing all
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these new challenges.
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It was the first time in my life
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that I'd ever felt depressed.
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And it lasted for several months.
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sadness that I couldn't see a way out.
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I didn't know what was going to happen.
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It was really hard for me to see
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a different or brighter future.
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But here I am years later.
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I survived that experience.
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though it wasn't something I wanted to happen,
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I can see how much I learned and
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how much I grew.
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things that I learned was what depression felt
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like.
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And I'd never woken up before feeling a
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complete lack of joy, feeling like nothing in
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the world, even things that I used to
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love doing, would make me happy or change
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how I felt.
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There was nothing that I looked forward to.
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There was nothing that could cheer me up.
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There was just a sense of feeling really
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numb.
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I am glad, however, that I went through
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that because I've known people who were depressed.
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a lot of depression throughout her life.
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And going through that experience, I feel, made
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me a lot more understanding and empathetic to
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other people who are depressed and who are
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depressed for much longer periods of time.
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And I just feel like I have a
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lot more understanding and compassion for people who
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are going through something like that.
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I also learned the importance of having a
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social network.
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And making friends.
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And I also learned that even though it
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felt terrible in the moment, that not everything
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lasts forever.
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That the way I felt when my boyfriend
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at the time broke up with me, it
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wasn't going to last forever.
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That time does heal.
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And that things change.
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And so, that problem was really hard to
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go through.
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But looking back, I'm glad that I went
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through it.
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I feel like it made me a different
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and stronger person.
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And a more wise person.
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And a more compassionate person.
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And that is, I feel like, what a
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lot of our lives are about.
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We're not here to just stay the same.
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We're here to experience life.
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All the ups and downs.
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To learn and to grow.
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And to become more interesting, wise, and strong
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human beings.
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So looking back at whatever problem that you
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chose to think about, what did you learn
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from that?
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How did it change you as a human
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being?
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Are you going through a problem right now?
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Because if you are, let's talk about some
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ways that we can start to implement this
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idea into our lives.
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This idea that our problems are not here
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to defeat us, they're here for us to
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learn from and to grow.
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And if we can embrace our opportunities, then
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we won't walk around being afraid of life
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or uncertainty or quote-unquote problems, because we'll
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know that we can handle them.
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And if we have some tools in our
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tool belt, then we can pull out those
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tools anytime we come across a challenge, and
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we can use those tools to help us
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get through it.
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So are you going through any problems right
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now that you want to practice these tools
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with?
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If so, think about that problem.
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You can pause for a moment and think
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about the problem and think about how it's
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making you feel.
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So first of all, let's put things into
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perspective.
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So whatever you're going through, remind yourself that
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things will be different in time, that things
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will change, and it's going to feel really
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different in just a few days, a month,
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a year from now.
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Everything changes.
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Not everything lasts forever.
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Nothing lasts forever.
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Change is a constant of our lives.
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And so just put things in perspective and
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know that this problem will be different in
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time.
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So number two, trust that even though you
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may not know exactly how, that everything is
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going to work out and that you are
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never given anything that you cannot handle.
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Okay, number three, having gratitude for your problem.
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So say to yourself, I am willing to
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see this experience as an opportunity to learn.
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I am grateful for the opportunity to grow
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as an ever-changing, ever-expanding human being.
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Remember that we're all here to learn and
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grow.
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It's human nature.
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And finally, ask yourself these questions.
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What can I learn from this experience?
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How am I being asked to level up?
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How is this experience actually helping me?
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So I know that was kind of a
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lot.
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You can go back through these tools and
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through these questions and just pause after each
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one and really kind of work out and
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answer these questions in your head and see
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if that helps you to shift the energy
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of just being stuck in a problem and
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see if it helps you to reframe it
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as an opportunity and start looking for solutions
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and ways that you can move through it
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and reframing the problem as an opportunity.
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So I hope that was helpful for you.
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I know this was kind of a quick
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episode and it was a lot in a
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short period of time.
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So go back, go through it, listen again
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and just pause after each tool, after each
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question and take some time to reflect.
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Okay, so have a beautiful day.
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Put these into practice.
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It's not something that we do really easily
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and quickly.
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It's something that we have to kind of
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continuously remember to practice.
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So use these tools and see how they
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work for you.
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Week three, hallelujah.
