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Speaker 1: Hi, I'm Adele and welcome to Pretty Sure, the podcast where we talk about the things everyone thinks about but nobody says out loud. Each week I'll be sharing my Pretty Sure opinions, unpacking the internet's biggest conversations and figuring out the things I'm not so sure about right alongside you. And if a conversation ever feels a little too heavy, we'll always include support resources in the show notes. Please take care of yourselves, seek professional help if needed, or skip the entire episode if it's not for you. Now, let's get into the show. Hey, Kitchy.
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Speaker 2: Morning. Morning, morning, morning.
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Speaker 1: Before we start, can we just talk about the fact that we were at the same event and we didn't see each other, which was crazy because you think that we like come together at these things. There's so many people in that room. I kind of got a little bit overstimulated, but I was like so happy for my friend for this collaboration.
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Speaker 2: Yeah. I saw you at the back at one point and I was like, there's my girl. And I went to get a.
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Speaker 1: Drink and then gone, gone. I think I had people like the problem with me at these events is like I, someone will come up to me. I'll just yap and yap and yap and yap and yap. I'll get distracted by someone else and yap and yap and yap. And I slowly make my way through the room and all I'm doing is talking the entire time. And then I get in my car and I'm like dead silent. That's what it sounds like to not have me, to not have me yap away. I want to give a shout out to Liz because she is a really cool content creator. But not only that, she's a really fucking good person. When we speak about Liz as a makeup artist, Elizabeth C will pop her name in the description. I'm going to give her kudos notes because whenever I want to shop around for something new or try something new in terms of the makeup category, it's really nice to have another makeup artist that you can bounce off and you can yap about. She introduced me to the Half Magic Lip Liners. Have you used them?
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Speaker 2: No.
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Speaker 1: No. I'm wearing them today. Okay. Stunning. When I say I've unboxed them this morning, unboxed them this morning and I used one of them last night.
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Speaker 2: Yep.
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Speaker 1: But I got three of them and I'm loving them.
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Speaker 2: Yeah. It looks really good. I feel like the tone's amazing. So thanks for the makeup tips because actually we do get a lot of Auntie Adele questions of people who come to you for makeup tips and advice. So hopefully they found that helpful.
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Speaker 1: I'll throw out my recs. As I like things, I'll naturally throw them out, you know, and then we can yap about them together. All right, shall we get into Pretty Sure?
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Speaker 2: Let's do it.
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Speaker 1: Okay, this week we're talking about how I'm pretty sure not everything has to be a business. All right. You don't have to turn a hobby into a side quest, a business. You don't have to turn the thing that you most love into money and commercialize it somehow. I am not... the rule of thumb to follow for this because I fear after I wanted to speak about this, I looked internally and I was like, oh my God, I am really, really, really terrible at this. The idea is that you can just get into pottery, if that's your hobby, and you can love the fact that you do pottery and you don't have to share it. You don't have to sell it. You don't have to turn it into this thing where you're like commercializing it, right? But if I look at my life, every single hobby that I have Put time and effort. I don't want to say naturally excel in because you don't naturally excel in anything. It's time, effort, practice, skill set that you grow over time. I have turned into a job. Yep. I've turned it into a job.
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Speaker 2: Give us the rundown.
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Speaker 1: Okay. So I've always loved makeup ever since a kid. I've loved makeup. I've loved beauty. So then whilst I was at uni, I was like, why don't I do a beauty degree so I can work in retail makeup and have that on the side and then be a makeup artist? And then I started working at Napoleon Pertus as a casual employee. I then made my way through Napoleon Pertus, ended up as a head educator for the brand. And I was a head educator for Napoleon Pertus. I turned being a makeup artist into a job. Yep. Which then I was like, well, I'm doing this and I finished uni now and I've got a full time job. So I'm going to stick in this. And then I moved it to freelance and then I moved into corporate marketing. But I still was doing makeup artistry on the side and I turned this full blown passion into a job. Then I got so busy with content down the track that I ended up being like, I can't take clients anymore because my job has now reformed itself from being like a makeup artist in store and having bridal clients consistently, which very blessed love my clients, into content, right? So I'm now making money off makeup artistry through content, which is fabulous. If we move into my next hobby, which was then Pilates, I discovered Pilates. I was like, oh my God, I love Pilates. I love Pilates so much. I love what it's done for my body. I love how much I love how much it's affected my polycystic ovary syndrome in a positive way and I'm able to like reduce my stress. I want to have that imprint on other women. I want to become a Pilates instructor. So what do I do? I go do a course. I become a Pilates instructor and now I'm a Pilates instructor. Okay. And then we move into painting. Okay.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, this one was new for me.
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Speaker 1: This is new. I don't really speak about this often. I love painting. I love textural painting. I love playing. I'm very creative, right? I love that aspect of it. I started painting and then people were asking for commission pieces at one point. So then I started doing commission pieces at one point and I was like, hang on a second. I've now turned all of these hobbies into businesses and I'm not doing it just for the love of doing it, right? The one thing that I have for the love of doing it was cooking, right? I found that cooking in my kitchen was something that I could do myself. And no, I didn't turn into a catering business or anything like that. But if you think about it, guys, I cook in a lot of my content. And then a lot of brands want to throw me in some ads if they're like, selling a dishwashing tablet or if they're selling, they want me to do an ad for a particular chopping board or a knife set or a pair of pans or a spice mix or a particular rice or a noodle or a milk or whatever it is. Without knowing instinctually what I'm doing, I've now turned cooking into a job. So I don't think I have a single hobby that's not a job. Can I speak about something that is very isolated to the job that we're in? The question that I'm getting now is so when are you going to start a brand? And it's like something that's just like, hey, so when are you going to start your own brand? What are you going to do? Is it going to be makeup? Yeah. Is it going to be fashion? Is it going to be beauty? Is it going to be hair? Shoes maybe?
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Speaker 2: Cooking line.
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Speaker 1: Cooking? Are you going to have a set of pots and pans? You know, you're going to have girly pink pots and pans. Like what's your next brand? What is it? What are you doing? I don't think people actually understand what it takes to create a brand.
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Speaker 2: The energy.
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Speaker 1: The time. Forget about content creation. Forget about this podcast. I don't know how I would fit it all in. And that in itself gives me so much anxiety. It's the expectation. Oh, yeah, they'll come up with a brand soon. Yep, she'll do a brand. It's the next thing, right? It's the next thing. She'll come up with her own line of lip liners, right? It's very overwhelming to like sit here and know that people are constantly asking you that, constantly assuming that you're going to come out with your own brand and Just like you're being fed this question constantly about like, what are you doing next? What are you doing next? Babes, we just launched a podcast.
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Speaker 2: This is not enough.
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Speaker 1: This is a lot.
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Speaker 2: It kind of reminds me of the like, as soon as you get married, when.
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Speaker 1: You have a baby. When you're having kids. How many are you having? Do you want a boy or a girl? Yeah. Have you done the nursery yet? Oh my God, Babes. Calm down.
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Speaker 2: Can I just be married?
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Speaker 1: Calm down.
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Speaker 2: Can I just have a podcast? I know.
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Speaker 1: Anyways, I just find it interesting. I find it interesting how people think 10 steps ahead and you're not even at that place. Yeah. But then you're feeling this external pressure of needing to be there. Who is putting that pressure on you, babes? No one's putting that pressure on you. You can't say no. That's not for me. I don't think, now I'm not saying this. I don't know what the future holds. I actually don't. And there's no plans in the future, by the way. Yeah. There's no, this is not me teasing. I'm not teasing shit.
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Speaker 2: Nothing's in the pipeline. Nothing's in the pipeline.
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Speaker 1: I'm just focusing on this for the moment. But it does add all of this external pressure that then we pipe onto and there is no need to.
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Speaker 2: But I think also you are, like, someone who, like, I really admire because you are.
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Speaker 1: Oh, kitchy. So cute.
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Speaker 2: Yeah. Because you really do care about what you do and you would not just want to put your name to anything.
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Speaker 1: Oh, absolutely not.
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Speaker 2: And if you were to start a brand, which, yeah, to be honest, I do see that in your future at some point later down the line, not right now, you would want to be involved in every touchpoint of it and be perfect.
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Speaker 1: Every little piece.
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Speaker 2: And there would need to be a need for it. Yeah. You wouldn't just do it for fun.
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Speaker 1: I would think about every, because I've been brand side before, that's why I know so much about like what it takes to bring a single SKU into the world. When we say SKU, like, This particular coffee cup is this shade. That's one SKU of this coffee cup. If this coffee cup comes in black, it's another SKU. Because I said that the other day and someone was like, what the fuck are you talking about? And I was like, oh, shit. SKU. SKU. I would think about everything down to the tissue paper that it's fucking packed in, down to like the unboxing experience, down to like how are they revisiting the website to check out our other SKUs? Yeah. How do I then follow up with the customer to make sure that they're loving the product? Is there any faults in the product? Do we need to know? Like I think about these things.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: And I get overwhelmed and I don't know how I would be able to do that. And it scares me. Yeah. I'm scared.
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Speaker 2: So we don't need to worry about that right now. Let's move on.
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Speaker 1: Anyways, I just find it interesting. So we move on to as of late.
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Speaker 2: As of late.
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Speaker 1: Okay.
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Speaker 2: And we're talking food.
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Speaker 1: We are chit-chatting food. I asked everybody the question online because I had this thought, right, that if you had to have one takeaway for the rest of your life, what would that takeaway be? Because I wanted to come to the podcast with like takeaway recommendations because when we recommended all of those restaurants in Melbourne, it popped off and everyone was like, oh my God, adding it to the list. Oh my God, being there. Love it. Amazing. Cool. And I was like, what can I do? for takeaway recommendations? And then I wrote down all these recs and I was like, hang on a second. If I had to have one meal for the rest of my life that was a takeaway, what would that takeaway be?
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Speaker 2: And did you find out what that would be for yourself?
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Speaker 1: I was stuck. Yeah. I couldn't pick.
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Speaker 2: Couldn't limit yourself.
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Speaker 1: I couldn't pick. So I asked the crew. I asked everyone online. What would their recommendations be? And if we go here, I asked on Instagram and then I also asked on TikTok and it exploded. I was not expecting it to explode so much.
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Speaker 2: People really had opinions.
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Speaker 1: People had opinions about their one takeaway that they could not live without.
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Speaker 2: Yep.
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Speaker 1: We had pizza, GYG. We had charcoal chicken shop.
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Speaker 2: Yum.
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Speaker 1: Your local charcoal chicken fucking slaps.
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Speaker 2: I can smell it.
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Speaker 1: Fucking slaps. Mmm. I reckon I would do a charcoal chicken and chips over a fish and chips.
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Speaker 2: Oh, yeah, 100%. Fish and chips makes me feel, like, greasy as.
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Speaker 1: I know, but I will say I'll do a fish and chip burger over a charcoal chicken. Not fish inside. They'll do, like, a beef burger.
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Speaker 2: What?
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Speaker 1: But at the fish and chip shops, they make the best burgers with a lot. Has to be with a lot. Maybe it's, like, bread in me because all the Greeks just owned fish and chip shops.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay.
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Speaker 1: And, like, that's what we used to have.
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Speaker 2: It's a family thing.
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Speaker 1: It's a family thing. Let's get back to the Rex because we had– someone wrote down coffee.
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Speaker 2: What?
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Speaker 1: But technically it is a takeaway. I more wanted to know about food.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: We had KFC. We had grilled. We had Zeus. Mad Mex. Pizza. Thai. Anything Mexican. Thai for sure. Yeah. We had El Janna.
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Speaker 2: Oh, my God. Oh.
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Speaker 1: El Janna.
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Speaker 2: Where have you been all our lives?
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Speaker 1: TGI Fridays.
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Speaker 2: I've never had that.
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Speaker 1: Me either. Someone said Indian and I love Indian food. Same. Same.
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Speaker 2: I also like to think naively that I make quite good dal.
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Speaker 1: I don't know where to get good Indian in Melbourne.
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Speaker 2: We should get some Rex, if anyone. We should.
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Speaker 1: If you guys have Indian Rex, let us know. Korean fried chicken.
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Speaker 2: Yum.
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Speaker 1: I don't think I could live off that, though. And we had grilled.
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Speaker 2: Yum.
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Speaker 1: Grilled. Oh, the Simon Says from grilled.
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Speaker 2: It's the herb mayo for me. And did you know they're selling the sauce now in the supermarket? I bought it. It's so good. It's a game changer.
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Speaker 1: Oh, I need to get it. I didn't know that. Thai food, hot chippies. I fucking love hot chips. It's so good. We had a lot. What would your takeaway be? Thai. Thai?
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Speaker 2: Thai.
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Speaker 1: I reckon mine would be Vietnamese. Yum. No one wrote down Vietnamese in this. No one. A Vietnamese I just think fucking slaps.
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Speaker 2: And there's such a broad range of food.
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Speaker 1: Oh, I'm going to say this. I'm going to butcher the fucking soup name the fuck.
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Speaker 2: Offer, yeah. Yum.
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Speaker 1: To die for.
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Speaker 2: Is that good takeaway though?
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Speaker 1: I would say.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: Or like how they do chicken and like they do chicken and noodles and it's just like charcoal-y but there's like this sweet, chilli, ginger, garlic sauce. I'm just, I'm salivating. I love Vietnamese food.
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Speaker 2: It's really good.
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Speaker 1: It's so fresh.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: Whereas I find sometimes Chinese food, love Chinese food, but sometimes it can feel a little bit oily.
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Speaker 2: I think it's... Well, it so depends because we live in a Western country. They'll often only sell what the Western palate is asking for.
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Speaker 1: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: And China is such a huge... I even shudder to call it a country because to me it's like a continent.
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Speaker 1: It is.
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Speaker 2: It's so large. It is. And there's probably so many different cuisines depending on the region that we don't even get here.
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Speaker 1: We don't even know about.
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Speaker 2: And we've just... gone too hard on like the lemon chicken of it all.
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Speaker 1: Yes.
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Speaker 2: Give us something like authentic.
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Speaker 1: Give us something like we can have something else other than fried rice.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, like I believe in us guys. I think if we start diversifying our orders.
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Speaker 1: How do you feel about dumplings?
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Speaker 2: I'll eat a vegetable dumpling. Okay.
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Speaker 1: Oh.
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Speaker 2: I'll eat a vegetable dumpling. Okay, interesting.
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Speaker 1: You? So I love dumplings. I love dumplings but I'm not able to have them all the time. I'm like I just feel a bit sick after a while, you know, and I'm not one for like a dim sim. I do love a South Melbourne market dim sim.
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Speaker 2: Oh, okay.
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Speaker 1: I'm salivating again.
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Speaker 2: We need to go there now. One thing I want to clarify on this though. Okay.
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Speaker 1: Oh yeah.
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Speaker 2: So what is my rec? What was your rec?
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Speaker 1: So I had five, five options.
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Speaker 2: Okay.
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Speaker 1: Vietnamese. Yeah. This is what I can't beat. Fish and chips.
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Speaker 2: Yep.
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Speaker 1: Either like it has to be grilled fish or a fish and chip burger.
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Speaker 2: Okay.
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Speaker 1: Then I had grilled.
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Speaker 2: Yep.
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Speaker 1: Simon says specifically.
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Speaker 2: Yum.
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Speaker 1: I had GYG, chippies, chippies to die for chips and charcoal chicken. Yum. Yum. They're my five. So you can't pick it to one. I can't pick.
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Speaker 2: Maybe Vietnamese.
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Speaker 1: That means I'm getting rid of GYG chips.
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Speaker 2: Oh, fuck.
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Speaker 1: And I'm getting rid of, like, the charcoal chicken. It's so hard. I can't do it. Anyways, shall we move on?
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Speaker 2: Yeah. Let's move on to my two cents. My stomach's going to, like, gurgle.
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Speaker 1: I know. Start rumbling now.
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Speaker 2: Okay. My two cents. So I'm an op shop girly. And you told me you wanted to talk about this on the pod. I was like.
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Speaker 1: Kitchy said to me, I've got this two cents. I'm not going to share it with you because we do all of this stuff live, right? We share the two cents here and I give my opinion. And she's like, I've got my opinion. She's like, I'm an op shop girlie. And you know, you're an op shop girlie too. And I was like, um, am I? Am I an op shop girlie? I love the concept of an op shop. I love that the cool girls go to the op shop and they find these quirky things. And I'm like, wow, where'd you find that? Like an op shop. I'm like, that's unreal. I go into the op shop and I get this like musky smell that hits my face. And then I imagine dead people wearing the clothes. And then I'm like, whose feet have been in these shoes? Okay. Whose nipples have been touching this top? You know?
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Speaker 2: Well, that's your first mistake.
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Speaker 1: I don't, I don't, I don't really, I'm out of here. The first secondhand purchase I made was my vintage Chanel in Japan.
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Speaker 2: Oh, okay.
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Speaker 1: And that's my version of upshoming is when I was in Japan. And I bought a vintage Miu Miu and a vintage Chanel.
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Speaker 2: From a very nice vintage bag store.
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Speaker 1: From a very nice vintage bag store where everything smelled immaculate and it didn't smell like dead people. And it's funny because I admire the fact that you can walk into an op shop and find something really fucking sick.
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Speaker 2: Thanks.
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Speaker 1: You're like, yes, I'm judging you.
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Speaker 2: No, I'm not.
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Speaker 1: I promise.
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Speaker 2: No, I think a lot of people have the same opinion. Okay. And like, I do think op shopping is kind of like, there's an art to it.
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Speaker 1: Yes.
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Speaker 2: Like you've got a rummage in there and fine. And like, that's why I love it. It's like, it kind of reminds me of like the dopamine of a blind box.
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Speaker 1: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: You never know what you're going to get in there.
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Speaker 1: Like, what are you going to find?
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Speaker 2: What am I going to find? And sometimes you're not happy with it and you leave.
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Speaker 1: Wait, so what was the two cents?
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Speaker 2: Okay, so I will pretty much buy anything from the op shop. Love. That's my two cents, okay? I'm fine with buying towels and bedding from an op shop. And I talked about this with a friend of mine and she was like, that's where I draw the line. Yeah. So I was going to ask you, do you draw the line there too?
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Speaker 1: Like you wouldn't purchase towels? She wouldn't.
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Speaker 2: She was like, I think that's too far. I'll buy clothes and shoes and a bag.
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Speaker 1: I really like and appreciate the fact that like towels, bedding, it can be popped in the washing machine. You can take it to the dry cleaners and also like I think we spoke about this last week or the week before. I can't remember which episode. But like some people can't afford to buy a thousand thread cotton bloody linen. And if they find it at the op shop, pop off.
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Speaker 2: Pop off.
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Speaker 1: Give it a good wash. Take it to the dry cleaner if you need. And then lay that shit on your bed. And that's fine. For me, I think if I can't handle buying a shirt from the op shop, I'm really going to struggle with a towel. Yeah.
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Speaker 2: When was the last time someone stayed at a hotel? Think about how many people not only have slept in those sheets. But done the deed in those sheets. And you're staying in a hotel.
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Speaker 1: And they're just getting washed, babes.
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Speaker 2: They're getting washed regular style.
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Speaker 1: They're getting washed and then getting laid back on the bed.
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Speaker 2: And think about the hotel turnover. Oh.
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Speaker 1: Hundreds of people. I'm not going to want to sleep in a hotel now, bitch.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, sorry.
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Speaker 1: Give me a hotel ick. Right?
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Speaker 2: Oh, God.
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Speaker 1: That's so true.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: That's so true. I think if you give them a wash, it's fine.
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Speaker 2: It's fine. Wash them really hot. And then I thought about underwear.
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Speaker 1: Okay.
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Speaker 2: And I won't be buying underwear from the op shop. So where is the underwear going when we're done with it? It's going in the bin, isn't it?
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Speaker 1: I think so.
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Speaker 2: There's nothing else we can do with it. I was just thinking about it. Like everything we've ever owned in life is still on the earth and I've owned a lot of underwear in my life and I've thrown a lot of it out and I was like.
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Speaker 1: It's in the ground.
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Speaker 2: It's just sitting there.
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Speaker 1: It's just sitting there in the ground. It's kind of creepy to think about. Alrighty.
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Speaker 2: Anyway, that's a nice little chat. Shall we move on?
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Speaker 1: Yes.
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Speaker 2: Okay, so time for Auntie Adele. We've got some good ones that I put some extras in today.
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Speaker 1: Fabulous.
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Speaker 2: And one thing that someone said, give us an Auntie Adele backstory, how Auntie Adele began.
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Speaker 1: I just started calling myself Auntie Adele on socials when I was raging about things that I think that needed to be said. One of them being, we've spoken about it before, about people going on peptides. I'm like, that's fucked. Heroin shake is back.
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Speaker 2: That's fucked.
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Speaker 1: Listen to Auntie Adele. Because sometimes through the horse crap that happens online, we've lost our marbles and we all need to touch some fucking grass. And then from then on, I think I said it in one video, and then from then on it just like kicked off and everyone was like, thank you, Auntie Adele. Or whenever I used to like talk smack online, thank you, Auntie Adele. And then it just, that's how Auntie Adele became.
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Speaker 2: It stuck.
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Speaker 1: It stuck. So let's read the first Auntie Adele.
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Speaker 2: Let's go.
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Speaker 1: Hi, Adele. I have a great background as well. Welcome. Welcome. We're happy to have you here. I want to know if your yacht is as gritty as mine, Romeo.
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Speaker 2: That's funny.
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Speaker 1: She hasn't worked a day in her life and is a hoarder, of course.
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Speaker 2: What?
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Speaker 1: I've had her taken. from me and then claim that she hasn't got it. I know when the time comes, I'm going to find many things that I've been looking for for years.
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Speaker 2: P.S.
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Speaker 1: I've been loving the episode. This is hilarious. This is really funny. Okay. Can I just say that not every yaya is the same. And I think that What people tend to forget is our ya-ya-das are human beings and they have all different types of personalities. Some ya-ya-das are really, really sweet and really kind. Some ya-ya-das are like, fuck you, bitch. I'm going to take you down. I'm going to take you down.
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Speaker 2: And steal your stuff.
00:20:26
Speaker 1: And steal your stuff. Some ya-ya-das like to stir the pot. Some ya-ya-das like to tell you to bish off. Some ya-ya-das are just like, they're just different. They're just girly pops trying to live their life. The fact that this is your ya-ya-da I'm going to say it probably stems from the fact that like as a child, she didn't have much. And this isn't uncommon for a lot of this generation to hoard. They didn't grow up with much. And it either goes one or two ways. They didn't grow up with much, so they feel the need to not really have much. Or they didn't grow up with much, so then they feel the need that whenever they find something, they want to hold it close to them, as close to them as possible. And then they begin to hoard. So I think it probably stems from that.
00:21:06
Speaker 2: Baby grower.
00:21:07
Speaker 1: I think like your hoard.
00:21:08
Speaker 2: You'll get it back eventually.
00:21:10
Speaker 1: And when the time comes and you're snooping in the closet, you know, when she's in the kitchen making something or she's out in the garden, you just maybe put it back in your pocket and like, you know, maybe slowly take those things back. Okay. We have the second little Auntie Adele. Very short and very sweet. And it says pressure of going on a Zempik, et cetera, to try to be thin like everyone else. And oh, I just spoke about this.
00:21:34
Speaker 2: Yeah, we just touched on it.
00:21:35
Speaker 1: I understand the pressure. We're living in a world where people are getting smaller and smaller and smaller and smaller and smaller. It's now becoming the norm. It is not normal, guys. It's really not normal. I understand the feeling of the pressure, but all I can say is just be as healthy as you can in any way that you can. Try and avoid it as much as possible. There are long-term implications, but also... There is no judgment if you are on it, if your doctor has prescribed it for you, for whatever the reason being. I do know that it is an option for many girls that have polycystic ovary syndrome and diabetics, for instance, to be able to control insulin levels. And it is a lifesaver for those that might be overweight or have food noise in their head. So there's no judgment around it. But I understand the pressure. I get it. But also... There's pressure about a lot of things in life. There's pressure to look a certain way. I don't know. To wear a certain piece of clothing because everyone's wearing capris. I must put capris on my ass. It's just buying into the trend.
00:22:40
Speaker 2: Yeah.
00:22:41
Speaker 1: Make it a considered choice. Make it a thought-out choice, an educational choice, and speak to your doctor about it. Please, just get professional advice. All right. Let's move on to the next one. Hi, Auntie Adele, long-time listener.
00:22:54
Speaker 2: Oh!
00:22:56
Speaker 1: If you count having listened to every podcast up until now, long time fan. I'm going to count it as a long time fan. Side note, really enjoying. People are like coming up to me and being like, oh my God, I love the podcast. And I'm like, oh my God, people listen?
00:23:10
Speaker 2: Yes, they do.
00:23:11
Speaker 1: People are listening to this?
00:23:12
Speaker 2: It's wild. That's so good.
00:23:14
Speaker 1: That's so wild. I love it. Okay. I'm in a bit of an emotional state at the moment. I'm 23 and my parents are about to divorce. Okay. Okay. They've been married for 29 years and about five months ago, I told my mom that I think she needs to divorce my dad. My dad is quite volatile and unfortunately has no relationship with my younger brother. I'm so sorry to hear. That's really sad. I'm the only child that continues to talk to him, but I'm reluctant to continue this post-divorce given the relationships he's burnt and how he has treated me previously. He doesn't know that I was a catalyst for my mom's decision for divorce and I don't think he ever will. I'm going interject here. Before I read the rest of this, Auntie Adele, you are not a catalyst for your mom's divorce. First of all, you're not at fault for the marriage breakdown. You're not at fault for your dad's behavior. He is his own person, as is your mother. And your mom's probably been thinking about this for years and years and years and years and years. And one thing that happens to a lot of women in these situations is that the mom guilt about breaking apart, I use quotation marks here, breaking apart a family through divorce is something that many women experience and fathers as well. I would say it's not isolated to just mothers. This has probably been cemented in the back of your mom's mind for many years. And you've just gone, Hey mom, it's okay if you do this. And she's probably gone, Oh, okay. Big sigh of relief. It's okay. And then she started to put things in place. So you're not You're not at fault. You're not the reason why they're getting a divorce. She is her own person. She has made this decision on her own. Okay. Let's just, let's just say that. When I think about future life events, weddings, et cetera, I'm not sure how involved I will be with him. I have guilt over telling my mom to get a divorce, but I know that I wasn't the only reason.
00:25:07
Speaker 2: Okay, here we go.
00:25:08
Speaker 1: As to why she came to that decision. That's good. That's good. I'm glad that you know that. And don't really know how to go about my relationship with my dad anymore. Can you please help? This is really sticky. This is really sticky. I would say do whatever feels right in your gut for you. Maybe just let this time settle a little bit. Let things fall how they need to fall. And you just do whatever you think is right in the moment where you can hold on to those relationships, hold on to them. If you feel like you need to separate from those relationships, separate from the relationships. Maybe you might just distance yourself. Don't do it for any other reason other than your own mental health. Don't do it because your dad said this about your mom and you're pissed off that he said that about your mom and, you know, he might be volatile towards your brother and fuck him because he did this to your brother. You need to make your own decisions based on how you feel with your relationship with your father. If you decide to sustain a relationship with your dad... Just because your brother and dad aren't speaking doesn't mean that you and your dad can't speak. This is not like an all-round fuck you party. It is different. You have a different relationship with your dad than your brother would with your dad. This is not me telling you to sustain a relationship with him. This is me saying, maybe get some therapy. Talk about this whole new life chapter because it is one. Even though you are an adult, 23, it's still a big change, life change. talk about it with someone professional, talk about it with someone who's unbiased and they can give you advice on how to deal with this new chapter that will come with a lot of different emotions and it'll be triggering for the rest of your life, I will say. You might find that when they separate, your dad might find a whole new lease on life and might be a different person. You just don't know. You don't know. We're not in the relationship with our parents. We don't know the ins and outs, the intricacies. We don't know We went there when they met. We went there when they have all these little layers that happen when you come into a relationship about how you met and how you discover who each person is and what makes them tick. So just let the leaves fall where they need to fall and then get some therapy and good luck with this next chapter in your life, baby girl. Also, thanks for listening. Friend or enemy?
00:27:37
Speaker 2: What would you do?
00:27:41
Speaker 1: Hey, Auntie Adele. My dilemma is that I have a friend of around seven years. For the most part, the friendship is solid. We don't see each other too frequently, but when we do, it's a good time. Aha. Okay.
00:27:54
Speaker 2: We love.
00:27:54
Speaker 1: Over the last year or so, every few weeks, she seems to find something to have a problem with me and will cause an argument. The most recent one being that I asked if she was going to come to a run she signed up for with me in honor of my mom who has terminal cancer. The fight began because I asked if perhaps she needed new runners as she was talking about a bunch of pain in her hip. This went on saying she felt me asking meant I didn't want her there.
00:28:22
Speaker 2: Oh, so because you brought up the runners, the friends like, oh, were you bringing that up to imply that?
00:28:28
Speaker 1: That I don't want to run with you.
00:28:29
Speaker 2: Yeah, that you don't want me to come.
00:28:30
Speaker 1: Okay. It continued for a few days and then it just kind of fizzled. She also went and got new runners and said her hip was good after the run. Lol.
00:28:38
Speaker 2: Okay.
00:28:40
Speaker 1: Another big one, being over that I wasn't very present when my son, he was one and a bit at the time, was in hospital for months and needing surgery. My mum's cancer was worsening and myself getting tested for cancer after them finding out I had a lump on my pancreas. I hope you're okay now, my angel pie.
00:28:58
Speaker 2: So much to go through all at once.
00:28:59
Speaker 1: So much to go through. I simply didn't have the capacity for anything as my life was truly a nightmare.
00:29:04
Speaker 2: Okay.
00:29:06
Speaker 1: These are only two issues out of, I'm not even kidding, 10 or so over the last 12 months. That's a lot of fucking issues to have.
00:29:13
Speaker 2: Yeah, in a friendship.
00:29:14
Speaker 1: Are they of that calibre, do you think?
00:29:16
Speaker 2: They mustn't be that bad, else they probably would have made it into this list. Like, these must be the two worst offenders, I guess.
00:29:21
Speaker 1: Okay. I hope. I fucking hope so.
00:29:23
Speaker 2: I hope.
00:29:24
Speaker 1: I'm starting to feel as though I can't do anything right by her, and everything I'm doing is being, as it means to be brought up later on, to argue about. It is causing a heap of anxiety, and I'm not really sure where to go from here. This is a lot.
00:29:37
Speaker 2: That is a lot.
00:29:38
Speaker 1: I would bin this person.
00:29:39
Speaker 2: What the fuck?
00:29:41
Speaker 1: I've said to myself the friendship isn't serving me anymore and I've tried to distance myself but I'm a pushover and I don't like doing that to people that I generally care about. I feel like I'm reading this story about myself.
00:29:53
Speaker 2: Aww.
00:29:55
Speaker 1: I've tried speaking to her about it, but it falls on deaf ears. And I met with chat GPT responses as she struggles to communicate effectively. So what would you do?
00:30:04
Speaker 2: Oh, that's the worst.
00:30:06
Speaker 1: This is really tricky and really sticky. I think that morally this person isn't able to sit back and say, my friend is really struggling. Mum's got cancer. I'm testing myself from cancer. I'm struggling with my one-year-olds. I've communicated all of this to this person. This person knows that this is happening. It's not like if you're silent about that and you're struggling, you haven't said anything, I'm sorry, but that's on you. If you have communicated that you're struggling with all of that and you need some time and space and your friend hasn't gotten that and the penny hasn't dropped on that end, I would say morally you're not aligned. And it's not a fuck you, you didn't know. Like my life was hard. Everyone's life's hard, babe. Everyone, everyone has something going on. It's not isolated to you. It's not isolated to her. It's not isolated to Gary, Sarah, and Bob. It's just, everyone's got shit going on. It's how we reach out. Okay. It's how we go, Hey, are you okay? Can I help you in this situation? Is there anything I can do to help you? When my friends, if I ask them what's going on, I say, I'm struggling because The first thing that will happen will be like, how can I help you? If I reach out to my girlfriends and we do this thing where it's like we say welfare check, if we haven't heard from them in a while and they might be drowning, we literally just text each other, welfare check, XX. And they'll be like, I am drowning. Cool. What can I do? Do we have dinner tonight? Do I need to drop off some dinner? Are we okay? Can I Uber Eats you something? Is there anything that I can do to help? And it's something that I always ask anybody. And if it just means that they need me to pick up the phone so they can yap to me for half an hour, great. So maybe this just isn't the person for you.
00:31:44
Speaker 2: Yeah. But good luck.
00:31:46
Speaker 1: I would say have a conversation about it. Try and work out if there's something bigger going on. And if there's not, maybe just take a beat. Yeah. Hi, Auntie Adele. Thank you for being here and creating this beautiful space for us girly pops. Oh, you are most certainly welcome, my angel fairy princess pie. I need some advice. My ex and I broke up three years ago. Congratulations. Congratulations. How are you loving the single life? I hope you're thriving, baby boo.
00:32:13
Speaker 2: Don't speak too soon.
00:32:14
Speaker 1: Keep reading. Oh, really?
00:32:16
Speaker 2: Oh, God.
00:32:16
Speaker 1: Oh, God.
00:32:17
Speaker 2: Okay.
00:32:17
Speaker 1: Well, it's okay if you're not single anymore. And then a year later became my situationship.
00:32:22
Speaker 2: Okay.
00:32:25
Speaker 1: Oh, back to dating situation. A year before, he dumped me a week before my birthday last year before leaving for a boys' trip.
00:32:34
Speaker 2: We hate this man.
00:32:35
Speaker 1: I see red flags.
00:32:38
Speaker 2: Okay.
00:32:39
Speaker 1: Okay. Anyways, it's been a year. I feel better, but can't seem to get back out there. And I recently moved to the Gold Coast, but don't know how to talk to guys anymore. So we've binned the ex-boyfriend that we went back to, and then he dumped you before your birthday for a boy's trip, aka that's code for I want to fuck people overseas.
00:32:57
Speaker 2: And I'm a fuck boy.
00:32:58
Speaker 1: And I'm a fuck boy. And I'm a walking red flag.
00:33:00
Speaker 2: So well done for getting rid of him.
00:33:02
Speaker 1: So I'm going to say congratulations now. Good job.
00:33:05
Speaker 2: Congrats.
00:33:07
Speaker 1: I love being single, but would love some advice on not being scared of just complimenting an attractive man. Oh my God. I actually love, I love this Auntie Adele question.
00:33:18
Speaker 2: It's so different to everything we've had so far.
00:33:20
Speaker 1: Oh, I love this. Okay. So I love the fact that like you're single, you're happy being single, but like you just want some advice on like how to talk to people. This is cool. Okay, and I'm struggling with all my roommates being in long-term committed relationships and sometimes question what's wrong with me as I know I'm not any man's type physically as a mixed British, Asian and Indigenous Torres Strait Islander woman. Okay, I want you to absolutely abolish that from your brain. That is your insecurity talking and I want you to grab that insecurity and throw it in the fucking trash can. Throw that away because that is, I'm telling you right now, that is not true. By the way, Auntie Adele, we share a birthday week and I love sharing a birthday week with a queen. That's beautiful. It's mutual. Thanks for listening to my rant. I appreciate it. Okay.
00:34:10
Speaker 2: Okay.
00:34:10
Speaker 1: I'm excited about this one. First of all, there's nothing wrong with you. Okay. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. I want to start there. It is very hard because when you're single, you see everyone in relationships around you like, what's wrong with me? How isn't anybody attractive to me? What's going on? There must be something wrong with my appearance. There must be something wrong with my energy. There must be something wrong. There's nothing wrong with you. Absolutely nothing wrong with you. But I will say confidence is key. Whether it's fake confidence or real confidence, confidence is key. And I want to say that, let's say, let's paint a picture. We're in a bar.
00:34:49
Speaker 2: We're in a bar.
00:34:50
Speaker 1: Did we say we're at the Gold Coast? Yep.
00:34:51
Speaker 2: She said the Gold Coast.
00:34:52
Speaker 1: We're at the PAV. Okay. Right? We're at the PAV.
00:34:56
Speaker 2: Locked in.
00:34:57
Speaker 1: Locked in. We're there. We're having bevvies with our friends. Easy breezy. You clock. you clock a tall, dark, and handsome in the background. It might not be tall, dark. If your type is tall, petite, blonde, and geeky looking, you clock your energy from across the room. You think, my God, how I would like a slice of that hunky chunk, right? All you have to do is just remind yourself that is just a human being. That is just another human being, whether they're tall, dark, and handsome, whether they're blonde and geeky, it's just a human being. I think a lot of the time we forget this. We forget this and we internally build up this like fangirly moment that happens. And it's like very common for the girly pops. It's the same when we see someone that we idolize online or a celebrity, we're like, oh my God, oh my God, Beyonce's in the corner. And I would, I would, I would shit myself with excitement. I would soil my pants. I'm not going to lie. But I know that That is just a human being living on the same earth that I'm living on. It's actually not that deep. When you start to think that way and you start to also consider that they're here having drinks with their friends. I'm here having drinks with my friends. It's not that deep. That's a person. I'm a person. Let's just get rid of this like idealization that goes on in the head. Let's just have a yeah. And I would say it's going to be really fucking scary the first time that you do it. The second time you do it, it might be a little less scary. The third time that you do it, it might be even less scarier than that. Okay. The 20th time that you do it, you're just meeting another person. We have forgotten how to interact with people individually. in real life. Instead, we focus towards apps. We slide into the DMs and people are getting sick of it so much that we're creating run clubs where we meet people because as we're running, we can yap to a stranger that we've never met before. So if we can do it in a run club, why can't we do it at the path? Go in just to have a good night. See how it happens. Practice maybe talking to someone that you might not find that attractive. Just a random.
00:37:09
Speaker 2: Like non-threatening.
00:37:10
Speaker 1: Non-threatening. And just practice the art of yap, I would say. Practice the art of like standing next to someone in the bar. You say something random like, hey, you having a good night? Yep, having a good night. That's great. Grab your beer. Walk away. Okay. Just practice having random small talk, saying a couple of sentences and then leaving.
00:37:30
Speaker 2: Okay.
00:37:31
Speaker 1: Sit with it. See how that feels in your gut and in your belly. See if maybe the next time you can continue that conversation a little further. And it doesn't have to be romantic. Just because you speak to someone of the opposite sex doesn't mean you have to end up in bed with them. You can just speak to someone. Learn about Fred from The Pav, who's 26, who's a finance bro and loves playing... Astro Bot on the weekends.
00:37:54
Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't know.
00:37:56
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know what the hobbies are. Maybe, maybe he likes to crochet. Learn a little bit about that dude and walk the fuck off.
00:38:05
Speaker 2: I feel like the crochet Gold Coast Pav intersection must be an interesting type.
00:38:11
Speaker 1: I think, I think, is that your type? It's not my type, but is that your type?
00:38:15
Speaker 2: I don't think that type exists. I don't know.
00:38:17
Speaker 1: But you never know if you never ask.
00:38:19
Speaker 2: Exactly.
00:38:19
Speaker 1: If you never ask, you never know.
00:38:21
Speaker 2: I think that's great advice.
00:38:23
Speaker 1: Thanks.
00:38:23
Speaker 2: 10 out of 10. Thanks.
00:38:24
Speaker 1: Auntie Adele's here for play.
00:38:26
Speaker 2: And please report back. It was like, you try this and it works.
00:38:29
Speaker 1: If you learn about a Fred that crochets and plays Astro Bot at the path, I would love to know. I'd love to know if that type exists. I think we have time for one more Auntie Adele. One more.
00:38:38
Speaker 2: Let's squeeze it in.
00:38:39
Speaker 1: So we're going to squeeze her in. Okay. My best friend just isn't a friend anymore. Oh. She will criticize what I wear and my life choices. Throw her in the bin. Ew. Throw her in the bin.
00:38:51
Speaker 2: Ew.
00:38:52
Speaker 1: Usually in front of other people.
00:38:54
Speaker 2: Oh, fuck that.
00:38:55
Speaker 1: Yuck. Are you joking? She started treating me differently since we started working together. I love her to bits, but she's choosing this behavior. Did you get that on the mic? Can you hear that?
00:39:09
Speaker 2: That stomach rumble? Did you hear that rumble?
00:39:11
Speaker 1: Guys, my stomach just rumbled and grumbled. I think it's time for those corn chips.
00:39:15
Speaker 2: I'm ready.
00:39:16
Speaker 1: I'm ready for that drive-through corn chip saga. Thank you. Okay, let's go back to this. She started treating me differently since we worked together, since we started working together. I love it a bit, but she's choosing this behavior and I've broken up with men for less. Well, if you're broken up with men for less, why aren't you breaking up with her? I'm sorry is that all right is she all right she's putting you down in front of other people that's disgusting behavior like literally that's gross I would say bin her she's not your type of person and that's the end of the auntie Adele vice I don't think it's any more complicated than that how dare she did we hear it again wait get the microphone down You're like doing an ultrasound with the mic. Oh, no, it's gone. It's gone. My tummy grumbled again, guys. It's ready for breakfast. We're in the studio a lot earlier than we would traditionally be.
00:40:00
Speaker 2: Hence the hunger pains.
00:40:01
Speaker 1: Hence the hunger pains. It's just grumbling, grumbling, grumbling. I need to eat. I'm ready for some corn chips. Guys, that's the end of our episode. Thank you for joining us today. If you love the ep, let us know. If you hate the ep, don't let me know. I don't think my confidence can handle that.
00:40:17
Speaker 2: Love you.
00:40:17
Speaker 1: I'll see you next week. Bye.
Speaker 1: Hi, I'm Adele and welcome to Pretty Sure, the podcast where we talk about the things everyone thinks about but nobody says out loud. Each week I'll be sharing my Pretty Sure opinions, unpacking the internet's biggest conversations and figuring out the things I'm not so sure about right alongside you. And if a conversation ever feels a little too heavy, we'll always include support resources in the show notes. Please take care of yourselves, seek professional help if needed, or skip the entire episode if it's not for you. Now, let's get into the show. Hey, Kitchy.
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Speaker 2: Morning. Morning, morning, morning.
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Speaker 1: Before we start, can we just talk about the fact that we were at the same event and we didn't see each other, which was crazy because you think that we like come together at these things. There's so many people in that room. I kind of got a little bit overstimulated, but I was like so happy for my friend for this collaboration.
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Speaker 2: Yeah. I saw you at the back at one point and I was like, there's my girl. And I went to get a.
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Speaker 1: Drink and then gone, gone. I think I had people like the problem with me at these events is like I, someone will come up to me. I'll just yap and yap and yap and yap and yap. I'll get distracted by someone else and yap and yap and yap. And I slowly make my way through the room and all I'm doing is talking the entire time. And then I get in my car and I'm like dead silent. That's what it sounds like to not have me, to not have me yap away. I want to give a shout out to Liz because she is a really cool content creator. But not only that, she's a really fucking good person. When we speak about Liz as a makeup artist, Elizabeth C will pop her name in the description. I'm going to give her kudos notes because whenever I want to shop around for something new or try something new in terms of the makeup category, it's really nice to have another makeup artist that you can bounce off and you can yap about. She introduced me to the Half Magic Lip Liners. Have you used them?
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Speaker 2: No.
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Speaker 1: No. I'm wearing them today. Okay. Stunning. When I say I've unboxed them this morning, unboxed them this morning and I used one of them last night.
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Speaker 2: Yep.
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Speaker 1: But I got three of them and I'm loving them.
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Speaker 2: Yeah. It looks really good. I feel like the tone's amazing. So thanks for the makeup tips because actually we do get a lot of Auntie Adele questions of people who come to you for makeup tips and advice. So hopefully they found that helpful.
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Speaker 1: I'll throw out my recs. As I like things, I'll naturally throw them out, you know, and then we can yap about them together. All right, shall we get into Pretty Sure?
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Speaker 2: Let's do it.
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Speaker 1: Okay, this week we're talking about how I'm pretty sure not everything has to be a business. All right. You don't have to turn a hobby into a side quest, a business. You don't have to turn the thing that you most love into money and commercialize it somehow. I am not... the rule of thumb to follow for this because I fear after I wanted to speak about this, I looked internally and I was like, oh my God, I am really, really, really terrible at this. The idea is that you can just get into pottery, if that's your hobby, and you can love the fact that you do pottery and you don't have to share it. You don't have to sell it. You don't have to turn it into this thing where you're like commercializing it, right? But if I look at my life, every single hobby that I have Put time and effort. I don't want to say naturally excel in because you don't naturally excel in anything. It's time, effort, practice, skill set that you grow over time. I have turned into a job. Yep. I've turned it into a job.
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Speaker 2: Give us the rundown.
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Speaker 1: Okay. So I've always loved makeup ever since a kid. I've loved makeup. I've loved beauty. So then whilst I was at uni, I was like, why don't I do a beauty degree so I can work in retail makeup and have that on the side and then be a makeup artist? And then I started working at Napoleon Pertus as a casual employee. I then made my way through Napoleon Pertus, ended up as a head educator for the brand. And I was a head educator for Napoleon Pertus. I turned being a makeup artist into a job. Yep. Which then I was like, well, I'm doing this and I finished uni now and I've got a full time job. So I'm going to stick in this. And then I moved it to freelance and then I moved into corporate marketing. But I still was doing makeup artistry on the side and I turned this full blown passion into a job. Then I got so busy with content down the track that I ended up being like, I can't take clients anymore because my job has now reformed itself from being like a makeup artist in store and having bridal clients consistently, which very blessed love my clients, into content, right? So I'm now making money off makeup artistry through content, which is fabulous. If we move into my next hobby, which was then Pilates, I discovered Pilates. I was like, oh my God, I love Pilates. I love Pilates so much. I love what it's done for my body. I love how much I love how much it's affected my polycystic ovary syndrome in a positive way and I'm able to like reduce my stress. I want to have that imprint on other women. I want to become a Pilates instructor. So what do I do? I go do a course. I become a Pilates instructor and now I'm a Pilates instructor. Okay. And then we move into painting. Okay.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, this one was new for me.
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Speaker 1: This is new. I don't really speak about this often. I love painting. I love textural painting. I love playing. I'm very creative, right? I love that aspect of it. I started painting and then people were asking for commission pieces at one point. So then I started doing commission pieces at one point and I was like, hang on a second. I've now turned all of these hobbies into businesses and I'm not doing it just for the love of doing it, right? The one thing that I have for the love of doing it was cooking, right? I found that cooking in my kitchen was something that I could do myself. And no, I didn't turn into a catering business or anything like that. But if you think about it, guys, I cook in a lot of my content. And then a lot of brands want to throw me in some ads if they're like, selling a dishwashing tablet or if they're selling, they want me to do an ad for a particular chopping board or a knife set or a pair of pans or a spice mix or a particular rice or a noodle or a milk or whatever it is. Without knowing instinctually what I'm doing, I've now turned cooking into a job. So I don't think I have a single hobby that's not a job. Can I speak about something that is very isolated to the job that we're in? The question that I'm getting now is so when are you going to start a brand? And it's like something that's just like, hey, so when are you going to start your own brand? What are you going to do? Is it going to be makeup? Yeah. Is it going to be fashion? Is it going to be beauty? Is it going to be hair? Shoes maybe?
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Speaker 2: Cooking line.
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Speaker 1: Cooking? Are you going to have a set of pots and pans? You know, you're going to have girly pink pots and pans. Like what's your next brand? What is it? What are you doing? I don't think people actually understand what it takes to create a brand.
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Speaker 2: The energy.
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Speaker 1: The time. Forget about content creation. Forget about this podcast. I don't know how I would fit it all in. And that in itself gives me so much anxiety. It's the expectation. Oh, yeah, they'll come up with a brand soon. Yep, she'll do a brand. It's the next thing, right? It's the next thing. She'll come up with her own line of lip liners, right? It's very overwhelming to like sit here and know that people are constantly asking you that, constantly assuming that you're going to come out with your own brand and Just like you're being fed this question constantly about like, what are you doing next? What are you doing next? Babes, we just launched a podcast.
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Speaker 2: This is not enough.
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Speaker 1: This is a lot.
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Speaker 2: It kind of reminds me of the like, as soon as you get married, when.
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Speaker 1: You have a baby. When you're having kids. How many are you having? Do you want a boy or a girl? Yeah. Have you done the nursery yet? Oh my God, Babes. Calm down.
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Speaker 2: Can I just be married?
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Speaker 1: Calm down.
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Speaker 2: Can I just have a podcast? I know.
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Speaker 1: Anyways, I just find it interesting. I find it interesting how people think 10 steps ahead and you're not even at that place. Yeah. But then you're feeling this external pressure of needing to be there. Who is putting that pressure on you, babes? No one's putting that pressure on you. You can't say no. That's not for me. I don't think, now I'm not saying this. I don't know what the future holds. I actually don't. And there's no plans in the future, by the way. Yeah. There's no, this is not me teasing. I'm not teasing shit.
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Speaker 2: Nothing's in the pipeline. Nothing's in the pipeline.
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Speaker 1: I'm just focusing on this for the moment. But it does add all of this external pressure that then we pipe onto and there is no need to.
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Speaker 2: But I think also you are, like, someone who, like, I really admire because you are.
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Speaker 1: Oh, kitchy. So cute.
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Speaker 2: Yeah. Because you really do care about what you do and you would not just want to put your name to anything.
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Speaker 1: Oh, absolutely not.
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Speaker 2: And if you were to start a brand, which, yeah, to be honest, I do see that in your future at some point later down the line, not right now, you would want to be involved in every touchpoint of it and be perfect.
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Speaker 1: Every little piece.
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Speaker 2: And there would need to be a need for it. Yeah. You wouldn't just do it for fun.
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Speaker 1: I would think about every, because I've been brand side before, that's why I know so much about like what it takes to bring a single SKU into the world. When we say SKU, like, This particular coffee cup is this shade. That's one SKU of this coffee cup. If this coffee cup comes in black, it's another SKU. Because I said that the other day and someone was like, what the fuck are you talking about? And I was like, oh, shit. SKU. SKU. I would think about everything down to the tissue paper that it's fucking packed in, down to like the unboxing experience, down to like how are they revisiting the website to check out our other SKUs? Yeah. How do I then follow up with the customer to make sure that they're loving the product? Is there any faults in the product? Do we need to know? Like I think about these things.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: And I get overwhelmed and I don't know how I would be able to do that. And it scares me. Yeah. I'm scared.
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Speaker 2: So we don't need to worry about that right now. Let's move on.
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Speaker 1: Anyways, I just find it interesting. So we move on to as of late.
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Speaker 2: As of late.
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Speaker 1: Okay.
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Speaker 2: And we're talking food.
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Speaker 1: We are chit-chatting food. I asked everybody the question online because I had this thought, right, that if you had to have one takeaway for the rest of your life, what would that takeaway be? Because I wanted to come to the podcast with like takeaway recommendations because when we recommended all of those restaurants in Melbourne, it popped off and everyone was like, oh my God, adding it to the list. Oh my God, being there. Love it. Amazing. Cool. And I was like, what can I do? for takeaway recommendations? And then I wrote down all these recs and I was like, hang on a second. If I had to have one meal for the rest of my life that was a takeaway, what would that takeaway be?
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Speaker 2: And did you find out what that would be for yourself?
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Speaker 1: I was stuck. Yeah. I couldn't pick.
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Speaker 2: Couldn't limit yourself.
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Speaker 1: I couldn't pick. So I asked the crew. I asked everyone online. What would their recommendations be? And if we go here, I asked on Instagram and then I also asked on TikTok and it exploded. I was not expecting it to explode so much.
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Speaker 2: People really had opinions.
00:10:30
Speaker 1: People had opinions about their one takeaway that they could not live without.
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Speaker 2: Yep.
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Speaker 1: We had pizza, GYG. We had charcoal chicken shop.
00:10:40
Speaker 2: Yum.
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Speaker 1: Your local charcoal chicken fucking slaps.
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Speaker 2: I can smell it.
00:10:44
Speaker 1: Fucking slaps. Mmm. I reckon I would do a charcoal chicken and chips over a fish and chips.
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Speaker 2: Oh, yeah, 100%. Fish and chips makes me feel, like, greasy as.
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Speaker 1: I know, but I will say I'll do a fish and chip burger over a charcoal chicken. Not fish inside. They'll do, like, a beef burger.
00:11:02
Speaker 2: What?
00:11:02
Speaker 1: But at the fish and chip shops, they make the best burgers with a lot. Has to be with a lot. Maybe it's, like, bread in me because all the Greeks just owned fish and chip shops.
00:11:12
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay.
00:11:13
Speaker 1: And, like, that's what we used to have.
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Speaker 2: It's a family thing.
00:11:14
Speaker 1: It's a family thing. Let's get back to the Rex because we had– someone wrote down coffee.
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Speaker 2: What?
00:11:20
Speaker 1: But technically it is a takeaway. I more wanted to know about food.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
00:11:24
Speaker 1: We had KFC. We had grilled. We had Zeus. Mad Mex. Pizza. Thai. Anything Mexican. Thai for sure. Yeah. We had El Janna.
00:11:34
Speaker 2: Oh, my God. Oh.
00:11:36
Speaker 1: El Janna.
00:11:36
Speaker 2: Where have you been all our lives?
00:11:38
Speaker 1: TGI Fridays.
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Speaker 2: I've never had that.
00:11:40
Speaker 1: Me either. Someone said Indian and I love Indian food. Same. Same.
00:11:45
Speaker 2: I also like to think naively that I make quite good dal.
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Speaker 1: I don't know where to get good Indian in Melbourne.
00:11:52
Speaker 2: We should get some Rex, if anyone. We should.
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Speaker 1: If you guys have Indian Rex, let us know. Korean fried chicken.
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Speaker 2: Yum.
00:11:59
Speaker 1: I don't think I could live off that, though. And we had grilled.
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Speaker 2: Yum.
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Speaker 1: Grilled. Oh, the Simon Says from grilled.
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Speaker 2: It's the herb mayo for me. And did you know they're selling the sauce now in the supermarket? I bought it. It's so good. It's a game changer.
00:12:15
Speaker 1: Oh, I need to get it. I didn't know that. Thai food, hot chippies. I fucking love hot chips. It's so good. We had a lot. What would your takeaway be? Thai. Thai?
00:12:26
Speaker 2: Thai.
00:12:26
Speaker 1: I reckon mine would be Vietnamese. Yum. No one wrote down Vietnamese in this. No one. A Vietnamese I just think fucking slaps.
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Speaker 2: And there's such a broad range of food.
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Speaker 1: Oh, I'm going to say this. I'm going to butcher the fucking soup name the fuck.
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Speaker 2: Offer, yeah. Yum.
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Speaker 1: To die for.
00:12:40
Speaker 2: Is that good takeaway though?
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Speaker 1: I would say.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: Or like how they do chicken and like they do chicken and noodles and it's just like charcoal-y but there's like this sweet, chilli, ginger, garlic sauce. I'm just, I'm salivating. I love Vietnamese food.
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Speaker 2: It's really good.
00:12:57
Speaker 1: It's so fresh.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: Whereas I find sometimes Chinese food, love Chinese food, but sometimes it can feel a little bit oily.
00:13:04
Speaker 2: I think it's... Well, it so depends because we live in a Western country. They'll often only sell what the Western palate is asking for.
00:13:13
Speaker 1: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: And China is such a huge... I even shudder to call it a country because to me it's like a continent.
00:13:18
Speaker 1: It is.
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Speaker 2: It's so large. It is. And there's probably so many different cuisines depending on the region that we don't even get here.
00:13:24
Speaker 1: We don't even know about.
00:13:25
Speaker 2: And we've just... gone too hard on like the lemon chicken of it all.
00:13:29
Speaker 1: Yes.
00:13:30
Speaker 2: Give us something like authentic.
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Speaker 1: Give us something like we can have something else other than fried rice.
00:13:34
Speaker 2: Yeah, like I believe in us guys. I think if we start diversifying our orders.
00:13:38
Speaker 1: How do you feel about dumplings?
00:13:39
Speaker 2: I'll eat a vegetable dumpling. Okay.
00:13:41
Speaker 1: Oh.
00:13:42
Speaker 2: I'll eat a vegetable dumpling. Okay, interesting.
00:13:44
Speaker 1: You? So I love dumplings. I love dumplings but I'm not able to have them all the time. I'm like I just feel a bit sick after a while, you know, and I'm not one for like a dim sim. I do love a South Melbourne market dim sim.
00:13:55
Speaker 2: Oh, okay.
00:13:57
Speaker 1: I'm salivating again.
00:13:58
Speaker 2: We need to go there now. One thing I want to clarify on this though. Okay.
00:14:02
Speaker 1: Oh yeah.
00:14:03
Speaker 2: So what is my rec? What was your rec?
00:14:04
Speaker 1: So I had five, five options.
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Speaker 2: Okay.
00:14:07
Speaker 1: Vietnamese. Yeah. This is what I can't beat. Fish and chips.
00:14:11
Speaker 2: Yep.
00:14:11
Speaker 1: Either like it has to be grilled fish or a fish and chip burger.
00:14:14
Speaker 2: Okay.
00:14:15
Speaker 1: Then I had grilled.
00:14:16
Speaker 2: Yep.
00:14:16
Speaker 1: Simon says specifically.
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Speaker 2: Yum.
00:14:19
Speaker 1: I had GYG, chippies, chippies to die for chips and charcoal chicken. Yum. Yum. They're my five. So you can't pick it to one. I can't pick.
00:14:29
Speaker 2: Maybe Vietnamese.
00:14:30
Speaker 1: That means I'm getting rid of GYG chips.
00:14:32
Speaker 2: Oh, fuck.
00:14:33
Speaker 1: And I'm getting rid of, like, the charcoal chicken. It's so hard. I can't do it. Anyways, shall we move on?
00:14:39
Speaker 2: Yeah. Let's move on to my two cents. My stomach's going to, like, gurgle.
00:14:42
Speaker 1: I know. Start rumbling now.
00:14:46
Speaker 2: Okay. My two cents. So I'm an op shop girly. And you told me you wanted to talk about this on the pod. I was like.
00:14:54
Speaker 1: Kitchy said to me, I've got this two cents. I'm not going to share it with you because we do all of this stuff live, right? We share the two cents here and I give my opinion. And she's like, I've got my opinion. She's like, I'm an op shop girlie. And you know, you're an op shop girlie too. And I was like, um, am I? Am I an op shop girlie? I love the concept of an op shop. I love that the cool girls go to the op shop and they find these quirky things. And I'm like, wow, where'd you find that? Like an op shop. I'm like, that's unreal. I go into the op shop and I get this like musky smell that hits my face. And then I imagine dead people wearing the clothes. And then I'm like, whose feet have been in these shoes? Okay. Whose nipples have been touching this top? You know?
00:15:42
Speaker 2: Well, that's your first mistake.
00:15:44
Speaker 1: I don't, I don't, I don't really, I'm out of here. The first secondhand purchase I made was my vintage Chanel in Japan.
00:15:53
Speaker 2: Oh, okay.
00:15:54
Speaker 1: And that's my version of upshoming is when I was in Japan. And I bought a vintage Miu Miu and a vintage Chanel.
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Speaker 2: From a very nice vintage bag store.
00:16:04
Speaker 1: From a very nice vintage bag store where everything smelled immaculate and it didn't smell like dead people. And it's funny because I admire the fact that you can walk into an op shop and find something really fucking sick.
00:16:16
Speaker 2: Thanks.
00:16:18
Speaker 1: You're like, yes, I'm judging you.
00:16:20
Speaker 2: No, I'm not.
00:16:21
Speaker 1: I promise.
00:16:21
Speaker 2: No, I think a lot of people have the same opinion. Okay. And like, I do think op shopping is kind of like, there's an art to it.
00:16:27
Speaker 1: Yes.
00:16:28
Speaker 2: Like you've got a rummage in there and fine. And like, that's why I love it. It's like, it kind of reminds me of like the dopamine of a blind box.
00:16:35
Speaker 1: Yeah.
00:16:36
Speaker 2: You never know what you're going to get in there.
00:16:37
Speaker 1: Like, what are you going to find?
00:16:38
Speaker 2: What am I going to find? And sometimes you're not happy with it and you leave.
00:16:41
Speaker 1: Wait, so what was the two cents?
00:16:42
Speaker 2: Okay, so I will pretty much buy anything from the op shop. Love. That's my two cents, okay? I'm fine with buying towels and bedding from an op shop. And I talked about this with a friend of mine and she was like, that's where I draw the line. Yeah. So I was going to ask you, do you draw the line there too?
00:16:57
Speaker 1: Like you wouldn't purchase towels? She wouldn't.
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Speaker 2: She was like, I think that's too far. I'll buy clothes and shoes and a bag.
00:17:03
Speaker 1: I really like and appreciate the fact that like towels, bedding, it can be popped in the washing machine. You can take it to the dry cleaners and also like I think we spoke about this last week or the week before. I can't remember which episode. But like some people can't afford to buy a thousand thread cotton bloody linen. And if they find it at the op shop, pop off.
00:17:22
Speaker 2: Pop off.
00:17:22
Speaker 1: Give it a good wash. Take it to the dry cleaner if you need. And then lay that shit on your bed. And that's fine. For me, I think if I can't handle buying a shirt from the op shop, I'm really going to struggle with a towel. Yeah.
00:17:35
Speaker 2: When was the last time someone stayed at a hotel? Think about how many people not only have slept in those sheets. But done the deed in those sheets. And you're staying in a hotel.
00:17:43
Speaker 1: And they're just getting washed, babes.
00:17:44
Speaker 2: They're getting washed regular style.
00:17:45
Speaker 1: They're getting washed and then getting laid back on the bed.
00:17:48
Speaker 2: And think about the hotel turnover. Oh.
00:17:50
Speaker 1: Hundreds of people. I'm not going to want to sleep in a hotel now, bitch.
00:17:53
Speaker 2: Yeah, sorry.
00:17:53
Speaker 1: Give me a hotel ick. Right?
00:17:57
Speaker 2: Oh, God.
00:17:58
Speaker 1: That's so true.
00:17:59
Speaker 2: Yeah.
00:17:59
Speaker 1: That's so true. I think if you give them a wash, it's fine.
00:18:01
Speaker 2: It's fine. Wash them really hot. And then I thought about underwear.
00:18:05
Speaker 1: Okay.
00:18:06
Speaker 2: And I won't be buying underwear from the op shop. So where is the underwear going when we're done with it? It's going in the bin, isn't it?
00:18:13
Speaker 1: I think so.
00:18:14
Speaker 2: There's nothing else we can do with it. I was just thinking about it. Like everything we've ever owned in life is still on the earth and I've owned a lot of underwear in my life and I've thrown a lot of it out and I was like.
00:18:24
Speaker 1: It's in the ground.
00:18:24
Speaker 2: It's just sitting there.
00:18:25
Speaker 1: It's just sitting there in the ground. It's kind of creepy to think about. Alrighty.
00:18:28
Speaker 2: Anyway, that's a nice little chat. Shall we move on?
00:18:34
Speaker 1: Yes.
00:18:34
Speaker 2: Okay, so time for Auntie Adele. We've got some good ones that I put some extras in today.
00:18:40
Speaker 1: Fabulous.
00:18:41
Speaker 2: And one thing that someone said, give us an Auntie Adele backstory, how Auntie Adele began.
00:18:48
Speaker 1: I just started calling myself Auntie Adele on socials when I was raging about things that I think that needed to be said. One of them being, we've spoken about it before, about people going on peptides. I'm like, that's fucked. Heroin shake is back.
00:19:03
Speaker 2: That's fucked.
00:19:04
Speaker 1: Listen to Auntie Adele. Because sometimes through the horse crap that happens online, we've lost our marbles and we all need to touch some fucking grass. And then from then on, I think I said it in one video, and then from then on it just like kicked off and everyone was like, thank you, Auntie Adele. Or whenever I used to like talk smack online, thank you, Auntie Adele. And then it just, that's how Auntie Adele became.
00:19:26
Speaker 2: It stuck.
00:19:27
Speaker 1: It stuck. So let's read the first Auntie Adele.
00:19:31
Speaker 2: Let's go.
00:19:32
Speaker 1: Hi, Adele. I have a great background as well. Welcome. Welcome. We're happy to have you here. I want to know if your yacht is as gritty as mine, Romeo.
00:19:42
Speaker 2: That's funny.
00:19:43
Speaker 1: She hasn't worked a day in her life and is a hoarder, of course.
00:19:46
Speaker 2: What?
00:19:48
Speaker 1: I've had her taken. from me and then claim that she hasn't got it. I know when the time comes, I'm going to find many things that I've been looking for for years.
00:19:58
Speaker 2: P.S.
00:19:58
Speaker 1: I've been loving the episode. This is hilarious. This is really funny. Okay. Can I just say that not every yaya is the same. And I think that What people tend to forget is our ya-ya-das are human beings and they have all different types of personalities. Some ya-ya-das are really, really sweet and really kind. Some ya-ya-das are like, fuck you, bitch. I'm going to take you down. I'm going to take you down.
00:20:25
Speaker 2: And steal your stuff.
00:20:26
Speaker 1: And steal your stuff. Some ya-ya-das like to stir the pot. Some ya-ya-das like to tell you to bish off. Some ya-ya-das are just like, they're just different. They're just girly pops trying to live their life. The fact that this is your ya-ya-da I'm going to say it probably stems from the fact that like as a child, she didn't have much. And this isn't uncommon for a lot of this generation to hoard. They didn't grow up with much. And it either goes one or two ways. They didn't grow up with much, so they feel the need to not really have much. Or they didn't grow up with much, so then they feel the need that whenever they find something, they want to hold it close to them, as close to them as possible. And then they begin to hoard. So I think it probably stems from that.
00:21:06
Speaker 2: Baby grower.
00:21:07
Speaker 1: I think like your hoard.
00:21:08
Speaker 2: You'll get it back eventually.
00:21:10
Speaker 1: And when the time comes and you're snooping in the closet, you know, when she's in the kitchen making something or she's out in the garden, you just maybe put it back in your pocket and like, you know, maybe slowly take those things back. Okay. We have the second little Auntie Adele. Very short and very sweet. And it says pressure of going on a Zempik, et cetera, to try to be thin like everyone else. And oh, I just spoke about this.
00:21:34
Speaker 2: Yeah, we just touched on it.
00:21:35
Speaker 1: I understand the pressure. We're living in a world where people are getting smaller and smaller and smaller and smaller and smaller. It's now becoming the norm. It is not normal, guys. It's really not normal. I understand the feeling of the pressure, but all I can say is just be as healthy as you can in any way that you can. Try and avoid it as much as possible. There are long-term implications, but also... There is no judgment if you are on it, if your doctor has prescribed it for you, for whatever the reason being. I do know that it is an option for many girls that have polycystic ovary syndrome and diabetics, for instance, to be able to control insulin levels. And it is a lifesaver for those that might be overweight or have food noise in their head. So there's no judgment around it. But I understand the pressure. I get it. But also... There's pressure about a lot of things in life. There's pressure to look a certain way. I don't know. To wear a certain piece of clothing because everyone's wearing capris. I must put capris on my ass. It's just buying into the trend.
00:22:40
Speaker 2: Yeah.
00:22:41
Speaker 1: Make it a considered choice. Make it a thought-out choice, an educational choice, and speak to your doctor about it. Please, just get professional advice. All right. Let's move on to the next one. Hi, Auntie Adele, long-time listener.
00:22:54
Speaker 2: Oh!
00:22:56
Speaker 1: If you count having listened to every podcast up until now, long time fan. I'm going to count it as a long time fan. Side note, really enjoying. People are like coming up to me and being like, oh my God, I love the podcast. And I'm like, oh my God, people listen?
00:23:10
Speaker 2: Yes, they do.
00:23:11
Speaker 1: People are listening to this?
00:23:12
Speaker 2: It's wild. That's so good.
00:23:14
Speaker 1: That's so wild. I love it. Okay. I'm in a bit of an emotional state at the moment. I'm 23 and my parents are about to divorce. Okay. Okay. They've been married for 29 years and about five months ago, I told my mom that I think she needs to divorce my dad. My dad is quite volatile and unfortunately has no relationship with my younger brother. I'm so sorry to hear. That's really sad. I'm the only child that continues to talk to him, but I'm reluctant to continue this post-divorce given the relationships he's burnt and how he has treated me previously. He doesn't know that I was a catalyst for my mom's decision for divorce and I don't think he ever will. I'm going interject here. Before I read the rest of this, Auntie Adele, you are not a catalyst for your mom's divorce. First of all, you're not at fault for the marriage breakdown. You're not at fault for your dad's behavior. He is his own person, as is your mother. And your mom's probably been thinking about this for years and years and years and years and years. And one thing that happens to a lot of women in these situations is that the mom guilt about breaking apart, I use quotation marks here, breaking apart a family through divorce is something that many women experience and fathers as well. I would say it's not isolated to just mothers. This has probably been cemented in the back of your mom's mind for many years. And you've just gone, Hey mom, it's okay if you do this. And she's probably gone, Oh, okay. Big sigh of relief. It's okay. And then she started to put things in place. So you're not You're not at fault. You're not the reason why they're getting a divorce. She is her own person. She has made this decision on her own. Okay. Let's just, let's just say that. When I think about future life events, weddings, et cetera, I'm not sure how involved I will be with him. I have guilt over telling my mom to get a divorce, but I know that I wasn't the only reason.
00:25:07
Speaker 2: Okay, here we go.
00:25:08
Speaker 1: As to why she came to that decision. That's good. That's good. I'm glad that you know that. And don't really know how to go about my relationship with my dad anymore. Can you please help? This is really sticky. This is really sticky. I would say do whatever feels right in your gut for you. Maybe just let this time settle a little bit. Let things fall how they need to fall. And you just do whatever you think is right in the moment where you can hold on to those relationships, hold on to them. If you feel like you need to separate from those relationships, separate from the relationships. Maybe you might just distance yourself. Don't do it for any other reason other than your own mental health. Don't do it because your dad said this about your mom and you're pissed off that he said that about your mom and, you know, he might be volatile towards your brother and fuck him because he did this to your brother. You need to make your own decisions based on how you feel with your relationship with your father. If you decide to sustain a relationship with your dad... Just because your brother and dad aren't speaking doesn't mean that you and your dad can't speak. This is not like an all-round fuck you party. It is different. You have a different relationship with your dad than your brother would with your dad. This is not me telling you to sustain a relationship with him. This is me saying, maybe get some therapy. Talk about this whole new life chapter because it is one. Even though you are an adult, 23, it's still a big change, life change. talk about it with someone professional, talk about it with someone who's unbiased and they can give you advice on how to deal with this new chapter that will come with a lot of different emotions and it'll be triggering for the rest of your life, I will say. You might find that when they separate, your dad might find a whole new lease on life and might be a different person. You just don't know. You don't know. We're not in the relationship with our parents. We don't know the ins and outs, the intricacies. We don't know We went there when they met. We went there when they have all these little layers that happen when you come into a relationship about how you met and how you discover who each person is and what makes them tick. So just let the leaves fall where they need to fall and then get some therapy and good luck with this next chapter in your life, baby girl. Also, thanks for listening. Friend or enemy?
00:27:37
Speaker 2: What would you do?
00:27:41
Speaker 1: Hey, Auntie Adele. My dilemma is that I have a friend of around seven years. For the most part, the friendship is solid. We don't see each other too frequently, but when we do, it's a good time. Aha. Okay.
00:27:54
Speaker 2: We love.
00:27:54
Speaker 1: Over the last year or so, every few weeks, she seems to find something to have a problem with me and will cause an argument. The most recent one being that I asked if she was going to come to a run she signed up for with me in honor of my mom who has terminal cancer. The fight began because I asked if perhaps she needed new runners as she was talking about a bunch of pain in her hip. This went on saying she felt me asking meant I didn't want her there.
00:28:22
Speaker 2: Oh, so because you brought up the runners, the friends like, oh, were you bringing that up to imply that?
00:28:28
Speaker 1: That I don't want to run with you.
00:28:29
Speaker 2: Yeah, that you don't want me to come.
00:28:30
Speaker 1: Okay. It continued for a few days and then it just kind of fizzled. She also went and got new runners and said her hip was good after the run. Lol.
00:28:38
Speaker 2: Okay.
00:28:40
Speaker 1: Another big one, being over that I wasn't very present when my son, he was one and a bit at the time, was in hospital for months and needing surgery. My mum's cancer was worsening and myself getting tested for cancer after them finding out I had a lump on my pancreas. I hope you're okay now, my angel pie.
00:28:58
Speaker 2: So much to go through all at once.
00:28:59
Speaker 1: So much to go through. I simply didn't have the capacity for anything as my life was truly a nightmare.
00:29:04
Speaker 2: Okay.
00:29:06
Speaker 1: These are only two issues out of, I'm not even kidding, 10 or so over the last 12 months. That's a lot of fucking issues to have.
00:29:13
Speaker 2: Yeah, in a friendship.
00:29:14
Speaker 1: Are they of that calibre, do you think?
00:29:16
Speaker 2: They mustn't be that bad, else they probably would have made it into this list. Like, these must be the two worst offenders, I guess.
00:29:21
Speaker 1: Okay. I hope. I fucking hope so.
00:29:23
Speaker 2: I hope.
00:29:24
Speaker 1: I'm starting to feel as though I can't do anything right by her, and everything I'm doing is being, as it means to be brought up later on, to argue about. It is causing a heap of anxiety, and I'm not really sure where to go from here. This is a lot.
00:29:37
Speaker 2: That is a lot.
00:29:38
Speaker 1: I would bin this person.
00:29:39
Speaker 2: What the fuck?
00:29:41
Speaker 1: I've said to myself the friendship isn't serving me anymore and I've tried to distance myself but I'm a pushover and I don't like doing that to people that I generally care about. I feel like I'm reading this story about myself.
00:29:53
Speaker 2: Aww.
00:29:55
Speaker 1: I've tried speaking to her about it, but it falls on deaf ears. And I met with chat GPT responses as she struggles to communicate effectively. So what would you do?
00:30:04
Speaker 2: Oh, that's the worst.
00:30:06
Speaker 1: This is really tricky and really sticky. I think that morally this person isn't able to sit back and say, my friend is really struggling. Mum's got cancer. I'm testing myself from cancer. I'm struggling with my one-year-olds. I've communicated all of this to this person. This person knows that this is happening. It's not like if you're silent about that and you're struggling, you haven't said anything, I'm sorry, but that's on you. If you have communicated that you're struggling with all of that and you need some time and space and your friend hasn't gotten that and the penny hasn't dropped on that end, I would say morally you're not aligned. And it's not a fuck you, you didn't know. Like my life was hard. Everyone's life's hard, babe. Everyone, everyone has something going on. It's not isolated to you. It's not isolated to her. It's not isolated to Gary, Sarah, and Bob. It's just, everyone's got shit going on. It's how we reach out. Okay. It's how we go, Hey, are you okay? Can I help you in this situation? Is there anything I can do to help you? When my friends, if I ask them what's going on, I say, I'm struggling because The first thing that will happen will be like, how can I help you? If I reach out to my girlfriends and we do this thing where it's like we say welfare check, if we haven't heard from them in a while and they might be drowning, we literally just text each other, welfare check, XX. And they'll be like, I am drowning. Cool. What can I do? Do we have dinner tonight? Do I need to drop off some dinner? Are we okay? Can I Uber Eats you something? Is there anything that I can do to help? And it's something that I always ask anybody. And if it just means that they need me to pick up the phone so they can yap to me for half an hour, great. So maybe this just isn't the person for you.
00:31:44
Speaker 2: Yeah. But good luck.
00:31:46
Speaker 1: I would say have a conversation about it. Try and work out if there's something bigger going on. And if there's not, maybe just take a beat. Yeah. Hi, Auntie Adele. Thank you for being here and creating this beautiful space for us girly pops. Oh, you are most certainly welcome, my angel fairy princess pie. I need some advice. My ex and I broke up three years ago. Congratulations. Congratulations. How are you loving the single life? I hope you're thriving, baby boo.
00:32:13
Speaker 2: Don't speak too soon.
00:32:14
Speaker 1: Keep reading. Oh, really?
00:32:16
Speaker 2: Oh, God.
00:32:16
Speaker 1: Oh, God.
00:32:17
Speaker 2: Okay.
00:32:17
Speaker 1: Well, it's okay if you're not single anymore. And then a year later became my situationship.
00:32:22
Speaker 2: Okay.
00:32:25
Speaker 1: Oh, back to dating situation. A year before, he dumped me a week before my birthday last year before leaving for a boys' trip.
00:32:34
Speaker 2: We hate this man.
00:32:35
Speaker 1: I see red flags.
00:32:38
Speaker 2: Okay.
00:32:39
Speaker 1: Okay. Anyways, it's been a year. I feel better, but can't seem to get back out there. And I recently moved to the Gold Coast, but don't know how to talk to guys anymore. So we've binned the ex-boyfriend that we went back to, and then he dumped you before your birthday for a boy's trip, aka that's code for I want to fuck people overseas.
00:32:57
Speaker 2: And I'm a fuck boy.
00:32:58
Speaker 1: And I'm a fuck boy. And I'm a walking red flag.
00:33:00
Speaker 2: So well done for getting rid of him.
00:33:02
Speaker 1: So I'm going to say congratulations now. Good job.
00:33:05
Speaker 2: Congrats.
00:33:07
Speaker 1: I love being single, but would love some advice on not being scared of just complimenting an attractive man. Oh my God. I actually love, I love this Auntie Adele question.
00:33:18
Speaker 2: It's so different to everything we've had so far.
00:33:20
Speaker 1: Oh, I love this. Okay. So I love the fact that like you're single, you're happy being single, but like you just want some advice on like how to talk to people. This is cool. Okay, and I'm struggling with all my roommates being in long-term committed relationships and sometimes question what's wrong with me as I know I'm not any man's type physically as a mixed British, Asian and Indigenous Torres Strait Islander woman. Okay, I want you to absolutely abolish that from your brain. That is your insecurity talking and I want you to grab that insecurity and throw it in the fucking trash can. Throw that away because that is, I'm telling you right now, that is not true. By the way, Auntie Adele, we share a birthday week and I love sharing a birthday week with a queen. That's beautiful. It's mutual. Thanks for listening to my rant. I appreciate it. Okay.
00:34:10
Speaker 2: Okay.
00:34:10
Speaker 1: I'm excited about this one. First of all, there's nothing wrong with you. Okay. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. I want to start there. It is very hard because when you're single, you see everyone in relationships around you like, what's wrong with me? How isn't anybody attractive to me? What's going on? There must be something wrong with my appearance. There must be something wrong with my energy. There must be something wrong. There's nothing wrong with you. Absolutely nothing wrong with you. But I will say confidence is key. Whether it's fake confidence or real confidence, confidence is key. And I want to say that, let's say, let's paint a picture. We're in a bar.
00:34:49
Speaker 2: We're in a bar.
00:34:50
Speaker 1: Did we say we're at the Gold Coast? Yep.
00:34:51
Speaker 2: She said the Gold Coast.
00:34:52
Speaker 1: We're at the PAV. Okay. Right? We're at the PAV.
00:34:56
Speaker 2: Locked in.
00:34:57
Speaker 1: Locked in. We're there. We're having bevvies with our friends. Easy breezy. You clock. you clock a tall, dark, and handsome in the background. It might not be tall, dark. If your type is tall, petite, blonde, and geeky looking, you clock your energy from across the room. You think, my God, how I would like a slice of that hunky chunk, right? All you have to do is just remind yourself that is just a human being. That is just another human being, whether they're tall, dark, and handsome, whether they're blonde and geeky, it's just a human being. I think a lot of the time we forget this. We forget this and we internally build up this like fangirly moment that happens. And it's like very common for the girly pops. It's the same when we see someone that we idolize online or a celebrity, we're like, oh my God, oh my God, Beyonce's in the corner. And I would, I would, I would shit myself with excitement. I would soil my pants. I'm not going to lie. But I know that That is just a human being living on the same earth that I'm living on. It's actually not that deep. When you start to think that way and you start to also consider that they're here having drinks with their friends. I'm here having drinks with my friends. It's not that deep. That's a person. I'm a person. Let's just get rid of this like idealization that goes on in the head. Let's just have a yeah. And I would say it's going to be really fucking scary the first time that you do it. The second time you do it, it might be a little less scary. The third time that you do it, it might be even less scarier than that. Okay. The 20th time that you do it, you're just meeting another person. We have forgotten how to interact with people individually. in real life. Instead, we focus towards apps. We slide into the DMs and people are getting sick of it so much that we're creating run clubs where we meet people because as we're running, we can yap to a stranger that we've never met before. So if we can do it in a run club, why can't we do it at the path? Go in just to have a good night. See how it happens. Practice maybe talking to someone that you might not find that attractive. Just a random.
00:37:09
Speaker 2: Like non-threatening.
00:37:10
Speaker 1: Non-threatening. And just practice the art of yap, I would say. Practice the art of like standing next to someone in the bar. You say something random like, hey, you having a good night? Yep, having a good night. That's great. Grab your beer. Walk away. Okay. Just practice having random small talk, saying a couple of sentences and then leaving.
00:37:30
Speaker 2: Okay.
00:37:31
Speaker 1: Sit with it. See how that feels in your gut and in your belly. See if maybe the next time you can continue that conversation a little further. And it doesn't have to be romantic. Just because you speak to someone of the opposite sex doesn't mean you have to end up in bed with them. You can just speak to someone. Learn about Fred from The Pav, who's 26, who's a finance bro and loves playing... Astro Bot on the weekends.
00:37:54
Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't know.
00:37:56
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know what the hobbies are. Maybe, maybe he likes to crochet. Learn a little bit about that dude and walk the fuck off.
00:38:05
Speaker 2: I feel like the crochet Gold Coast Pav intersection must be an interesting type.
00:38:11
Speaker 1: I think, I think, is that your type? It's not my type, but is that your type?
00:38:15
Speaker 2: I don't think that type exists. I don't know.
00:38:17
Speaker 1: But you never know if you never ask.
00:38:19
Speaker 2: Exactly.
00:38:19
Speaker 1: If you never ask, you never know.
00:38:21
Speaker 2: I think that's great advice.
00:38:23
Speaker 1: Thanks.
00:38:23
Speaker 2: 10 out of 10. Thanks.
00:38:24
Speaker 1: Auntie Adele's here for play.
00:38:26
Speaker 2: And please report back. It was like, you try this and it works.
00:38:29
Speaker 1: If you learn about a Fred that crochets and plays Astro Bot at the path, I would love to know. I'd love to know if that type exists. I think we have time for one more Auntie Adele. One more.
00:38:38
Speaker 2: Let's squeeze it in.
00:38:39
Speaker 1: So we're going to squeeze her in. Okay. My best friend just isn't a friend anymore. Oh. She will criticize what I wear and my life choices. Throw her in the bin. Ew. Throw her in the bin.
00:38:51
Speaker 2: Ew.
00:38:52
Speaker 1: Usually in front of other people.
00:38:54
Speaker 2: Oh, fuck that.
00:38:55
Speaker 1: Yuck. Are you joking? She started treating me differently since we started working together. I love her to bits, but she's choosing this behavior. Did you get that on the mic? Can you hear that?
00:39:09
Speaker 2: That stomach rumble? Did you hear that rumble?
00:39:11
Speaker 1: Guys, my stomach just rumbled and grumbled. I think it's time for those corn chips.
00:39:15
Speaker 2: I'm ready.
00:39:16
Speaker 1: I'm ready for that drive-through corn chip saga. Thank you. Okay, let's go back to this. She started treating me differently since we worked together, since we started working together. I love it a bit, but she's choosing this behavior and I've broken up with men for less. Well, if you're broken up with men for less, why aren't you breaking up with her? I'm sorry is that all right is she all right she's putting you down in front of other people that's disgusting behavior like literally that's gross I would say bin her she's not your type of person and that's the end of the auntie Adele vice I don't think it's any more complicated than that how dare she did we hear it again wait get the microphone down You're like doing an ultrasound with the mic. Oh, no, it's gone. It's gone. My tummy grumbled again, guys. It's ready for breakfast. We're in the studio a lot earlier than we would traditionally be.
00:40:00
Speaker 2: Hence the hunger pains.
00:40:01
Speaker 1: Hence the hunger pains. It's just grumbling, grumbling, grumbling. I need to eat. I'm ready for some corn chips. Guys, that's the end of our episode. Thank you for joining us today. If you love the ep, let us know. If you hate the ep, don't let me know. I don't think my confidence can handle that.
00:40:17
Speaker 2: Love you.
00:40:17
Speaker 1: I'll see you next week. Bye.
