Episode 612: What Does It Take to Win at Life, Business and Content Creation?

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You're going from asking God why things are happening to
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you to going to asking God what and who am
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I supposed to be, right? What am I supposed to do?
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And then who am I supposed to be? It's a
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different mentality. So you're going to be looking at those.
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You're going to be looking at things. If you take
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it all in, it's going to be too much. You
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just need a segmented course. So even in the courses
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that I offer are literally like by each chapter. and
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how I broke it down into into things so it's
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that way you're not taking on a whole bunch and
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once you can get it and and kind of become
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a master at that a game master that at that
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particular area and then move on you.
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Know so life life lessons by Donovan.
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Listen man uh I've gone through I think everybody's experienced
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life I know everybody's experienced life ups and downs the
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ins and outs but how we handle it are all
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is can be all different and I think that The
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reason why I wrote that book or wrote my book
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was to compartmentalize and simplify our life as all at once, right?
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Because life comes at us all. It's literally like it's compounding.
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There is no stopping for, you know, you got bills. Hey,
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you got bills. You got work. You got to balance
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a girl, a boyfriend, a husband, a wife, kids, whatever. Like,
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you know, things I want to do outside of work
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and things like my... my hobbies, my, like, all those things,
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and they all kind of go into, like, this pot.
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But then, like, how do you improve in all of
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those little areas? So you gotta, sometimes you gotta separate
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the peas and the carrots, and, like, take on just
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the peas and the carrots individually, and stop taking them
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on altogether.
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Brother, let me, let's just get into it, because we
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started the podcast, No Fancy Introduction, you know, it's the Mitchell,
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Port Unleashed podcast. Donovan, brother, how you, how have you,
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how have you been, brother. How you been?
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I've been great, man. I've been great, dude. Living life, man.
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Building and like really going on a journey of defining
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who I want to be and defining how I want
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to live my life and really trying to help people
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do the same.
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And you're doing it.
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Thank you.
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Doing it. You know, short story, you know, we met
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each other on I guess we'd say these free apps.
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You were in my, in my collective location of Toronto.
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I know you're from, you like to cheer from the
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LA teams and all that, but you know, we'll get
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to that in another day. Kendrick is still Kendrick and
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the boys, the boys. So be careful what you're doing here.
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You know, I, you know, I rock with both man,
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but I've always, it's just, it just be funny. It's
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all entertainment though.
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No, for sure. I love that. And just watching everything
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you're doing, man, like you're, You're a powerhouse.
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You're a trooper.
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You're doing some like exceptional things. We're all doing exceptional things.
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But to look at your baby that you created, like
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Game On, you know, how to win at life and business. Like,
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how does that feat feel to you? Because I feel
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like people write books, but they never get that question
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of like, how does that feel to write a book?
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Now it's all said and done. Yeah.
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So it took me four years, bro, to write that book.
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I have four iterations of the book. I literally scrapped
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it and redid it again and again. I kept a
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lot of the essence of it, but I think God
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was really telling me that I had to go through
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some things before I could actually birth it, right? You know,
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we all try to get to a point to where
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we want something to come out when we want it
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to come out. And sometimes we have to allow nature
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and allow time to just kind of like pass for
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it to come out for itself and to naturally birth it.
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And I think that's one of the... One of the
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principles in the book, it's the law of the farm,
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and it talks about how everything has a season. And
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I literally had to go through my principles from the
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book into birthing the book. We talk about seasons, seed, sow,
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and sacrifice. Inside of that, I had to go through
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the winter. I had to go through the assessment of
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realizing that I've been trying to plant and trying to
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grow certain things in the wrong season, and it just
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doesn't work that way. I can plant my seeds in
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the winter season, And hope that it will grow, but one,
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I can't dig deep enough because the dirt's too hard,
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the soil's too hard, and it's not truly ready for me, right?
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So I can only dig so deep and place those
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seeds on top of that. But then those seeds may
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die because they're in the wrong season. And, you know,
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I have to go through the winter. The winter was
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sitting down, assessing myself, analyzing and preparing and really being
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clear in what it is I wanted to do.
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Yeah.
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And I knew that I wanted to birth a book.
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And I really, I think the book really, it rebirthed me.
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When we hear about alignment, I feel like we can
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put it into seasons because there's four seasons, right? There's winter. Well,
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over here in Canada, we get winter. And sometimes it
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just feels like we skip one, you know what I mean?
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But you get winter, you get spring, you get summer,
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you got fall. Speak to that alignment from your perspective
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to the audience. Like, what is that? What does that
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mean for you? Like how to be alignment in whatever
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season you're going with? Yeah.
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So again, I'll give an example of an apple tree, right?
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If I'm a farmer and I plant an apple seed,
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I can't plant it in the winter because it's not
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going to take to the soil in the winter. I
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have to wait for the spring. But I can plan
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as to where I want to plant that tree, that
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apple tree. So in the spring when the soil softens
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and from the melting of the snow, right? Think about that.
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It nurtures the soil. So I have to, now I
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can dig deep. Now I can plant my seed. Now
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I can cover it back up and wait for it
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to grow. And it will grow before it grows up.
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It has to grow down. And I think that's what,
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that's the part where a lot of people, you know,
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don't really recognize like there's a, there's the, there's a
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root season, right. Of establishing your root and your root
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is your foundation. That is literally saying that, you know what,
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no matter what happens, when comes, you know, the wind
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will blow the, the, the, the seasons will change again. The,
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You know, the turbulence will happen or whatever it is.
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You have to establish yourself in that dirt and really
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dig down and allow it to grow down first before
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it grows up. So going through your root, your root season,
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you have to, again, it grows without one applause. Nobody's
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there cheering it on. Right. This is this is the
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stuff that you have to do by yourself, because I
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feel as though people look at like social media and,
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you know, They look at people who are successful and
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they see a product, but they don't see the process.
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And the process happens in the dark. The process happens
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when no one's looking. What are you doing? What does
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your discipline look like? How are you feeding yourself? How
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are you thinking? And to me, as a human being now,
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we have to realize that our seeds, they may not
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be an actual physical seed. They're not a physical seed,
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but there are words. There are ideas. There are actions.
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They're what we're listening to. Right. Because all these things
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have an impact over your brain and how you think.
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So when you start to understand those things, you start
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to be more careful of what you're feeding your brain,
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what you're feeding yourself.
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Right.
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And those things happen in the dark. Those things happen
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when no one else is around. So when we're looking
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at the root, the root is truly establishing itself when
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no one else is around. It's developing. It's it's it's
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solidifying a foundation so that it cannot be pushed or
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cannot be pulled or thrown away. And then it will
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peak above the dirt, right, to sprout itself. And it
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has to do, I know I love, I'm a big
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fan of Myron Golden. Myron Golden talks about intention and disruption.
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Without intention, there can be no disruption, right? So the
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intent of like, let's just say, and I know this
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is unfortunate, but the earthquakes are happening. That's intentional. There's
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an impact, right? You see it and it has an
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impact on it. So the same thing goes when you're
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growing something and planting something. There is intention for it
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to do its job. It has to come up. It
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has to push across, to push above the dirt. And again,
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that's the spring and that's your summer. That's your summer
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phase of growing. And then your fall is your harvest.
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That's when you will reap the benefits of the tree
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growing into an apple tree and producing a fruit. But
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the fruit, the thing, the fruit that the tree produces,
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think about this, an apple tree doesn't eat apples. It
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gives apples.
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Right?
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So therefore, It's not for the tree. And I had
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to realize those things and understand. So what I'm doing
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and what I've what I've what the seed that I've
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planted in this book as this book, it's now it's
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a it's a harvest. So now other people have the
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opportunity to take to pull from that book. And if
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it will change and impact and help them in some
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part of their lives, I've done my I've done what
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God has intended me to do.
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I love that. I love that. And you can see
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it because it's like this last night I was with
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four of my guys. Another gentleman came through and we
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were talking about the exact same thing. It's about, we
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were talking about this reminiscing from the times of high school.
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We all didn't go to the same high school, but
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playing basketball, seeing all the things three on three tournaments
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and how we kept still in alignment with each other.
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But then you meet all these other folks in whatever
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season that you're in. And some will either be there
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for the long haul and some will just disappear. And
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at the end of the day, you look at the
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ones that disappear and you're like, well, wait, What happened there?
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Was there any internal conflict? Was it beef? No, sometimes
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you still grow people. That's all it is. You can
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grow people, man.
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Very true. Even if you look, like I said, a
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lot of answers that we want in life are in nature.
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And if you even look, like I said, just continue
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to look at trees, right? A tree won't lose its
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leaves until it takes the nutrients from those leaves, and
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then it falls off, right? And then it starts over.
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So sometimes you have to go through a birthing season
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to go through a falling off season to rebirth, to
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birth again, to produce again.
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Right.
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And that's the typical part of it is like it
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goes through these cycles. But people, again, we're looking at
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it that people want to force things to happen and
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they want them to happen on their time. And that's
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not necessarily, that's not how it works. You wanted to
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force it. It will produce for that long, but you
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haven't established a route. Yeah.
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I know that you've had, you've been like around social
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media all your life. You had a little, little, little
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sprinkle from what we know. We don't have to share
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the show if you don't want to, but you had
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some reality TV when you were in that era. that
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season to now where you're at right now, writing books,
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motivating people, doing the things that you're doing, what was
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the biggest learning lesson that you felt you've given to yourself?
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That's a good question, man. I do embrace it. These
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are decisions I made, right? These are choices I made.
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There was a point in time where when I came
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off the show, I didn't really embrace it. Like I just,
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it was something I did. I didn't see the impact
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on it as much. impact it had on my kids,
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on myself, you know, walking through airports, people kind of
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knowing who I am. And if you, you know, if
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I sing the show and I didn't, I didn't even
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know what the show was, to be honest with you,
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until I was on it. And it was like, oh, okay.
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I didn't realize it was like a big thing. I
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was like, okay. And then it got word to my kids.
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It got word to, you know, just friends and family.
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And it just, like I said, it wasn't that big
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of a deal to me. And, but I think for me,
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like I said, coming off of that, I did develop
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some sort of like an anxiety because I'm like, I don't,
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I didn't know what to expect. I wasn't prepared for it.
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I think in, when we go on TV and we
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play a, and we do, I don't want to say
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play a role, but when we're on TV and we
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come off, there is a, an ideology from the fans
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that see you that, you know, like what's next. And
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I'm like, I have no fucking clue. I'm like, I
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don't know. I'm like, I literally, I was, I was like, like,
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like when they, when they, I would see people, like,
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they would go off and do things. I've seen a
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couple people blow up from social media. Like, they had
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a plan. I had no plan. I had no plan.
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So for me, it was about preparation. You know, it's
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learning to be prepared at all times. But I think
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that I had to go, again, I don't ask God why.
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I ask God what and who. So what was I
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supposed to learn from that? And then who am I
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supposed to be after that? And I think that this
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is the byproduct of those things. You know, because I
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had the idea of the book, but I didn't really...
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It was just an idea. I never thought I would
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be writing a book. I never thought that that would
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be something that I would be really, you know, pushing
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forward and telling people to, you know, go out and buy,
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you know, which is crazy for me. But then also
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developing a curriculum, also developing a mindset, also developing an academy,
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working with, you know, multitudes of people in different industries and,
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you know, going into rooms and being in rooms and
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talking on stages about this type of thing. I had
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no clue. No clue.
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Say we're at a networking event. You and I were
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at a networking event. I was going to pick a
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random place. Let's just say Boston.
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New England.
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You know why I did that.
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Chowder. Clam chowder.
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Yeah, clam chowder, right? Your goat works with the Raiders
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within the Raiders organization. My goat was on the football
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field slanging footballs. We're meeting at a network event. I
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come up to you. I see you the first time.
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I'm like, I don't have anything. You know, boundaries. How
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can I find and unlock boundaries? Speak to me on
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how you would do that.
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What do you mean by you don't have any boundaries
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in regards to that?
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I don't have any boundaries with anything like food, my
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relationships with my friends, my family dynamics. My love life
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is all out of sorts. What do I do? How
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do I get boundaries? I'm too accessible.
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Yeah, I think one of the bigger things is that
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sometimes you got to experience it. You got to go
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through the things to realize that you need them, right? Hell,
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I mean, I'll bring up the whole additive of why
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they put caution. You know, it's hot. Like certain things
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are hot on the side of, you know, on coffees
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and things like that, right? No shout out to anybody.
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These are not sponsors. But they have, you know, but
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they have caution signs on here that says it's hot
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because somebody had to burn their mouth on it. And,
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you know, even though we think, and I think this
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is one of the bigger things that people, we have
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an idea of like, oh, you're supposed to know. everybody
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doesn't know. So you have to remind people of your boundaries.
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So you have to be very clear in your communication.
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You have to be very, it's boundaries are there to
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protect you. They're protect you from you, but also other
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people from you, other people from you. And then also
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you from other people, right? They're, they're there for, they're
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there for a reason because there's a thing that, and
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I usually, I use this of, and I love using,
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I don't know why I love using the garden, but
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if you look at a rose garden, right? Typically you'll
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see roses, but you'll see like a small fence around
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the roses, right? Sometimes you see a little white fence
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around a rose or something to protect it around. And
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even though as beautiful as it is, it has thorns.
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So you would think the little fences protect you from
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the roses, but fall into the roses. It's actually there
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to protect you from the roses. Because if you do
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fall in, you could get poked. You could hurt yourself.
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So when we use that type of analogy, you got
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to understand that your boundaries are there to protect you,
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but also to protect them. Because once they're crossed, there
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is a version of you that either you've been growing
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away from that will resort back to that, that will
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make you go back to that person that you may
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not want to be. That's not conducive to who you
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say you are now. Right? Right. And I know, like,
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I'll say, like, I've always said my boundaries are, you know,
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I have abandonment issues. I tell a woman, it's like this.
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If you're dealing with me, if you leave, just stay gone.
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Because I'll say this is that, you know, if you
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get upset, you walk away. Make sure that you're telling
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me what you're doing so that way I know what's happening.
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Because there will be a version of me that's like, okay, cool,
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because I've done everything by myself my whole life. I've
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been on my own since I was 18, you know.
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And I even talk about in the book, the relationship
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between my father and my mother is like, we never
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really had one. And so I'm protective of my space.
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So if you leave, believe you, I'm going to lock
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the door. I'm going to change the locks. You're not
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allowed back in there. And that's to protect me. That's
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to protect me because it's one of two things. Either
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you don't listen or you don't care. But either way,
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both of those things are dangerous for me. Because I
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don't want to be that person anymore. That's not who
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I want to be. But I understand my boundaries. I
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understand those things will have a, it will make me
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act a certain way. And I don't want to do that.
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That's deep, man. That's deep. The only reason why I
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ask that question is because I feel like between both audiences,
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that comes up. People are like, oh, my boundaries and
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this and that. And folks get agitated. Like, I mean,
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I'm the king of boundaries. I'm like the Magneto to
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Thanos to Dr. Doom of boundaries. Like, it's not even funny. Like,
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you know, when you saw the trailer, I don't know
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if you watched trailer for doomsday when, when Dr. Doom
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did this to, to Thor, when he was coming with
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the ax or the hammer, whatever, that's just where I'm
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at right now. Because when you call people and you
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check them and you say, listen, we're no longer going
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to this space anymore. We've reached our destination. I'm taking
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a step away. It's, and they come up with all
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these narratives. I could, I could, send so many screenshots
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of just me doing this in real time or doing
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it on voice note. And then you see people get agitated.
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What they realize is now they can't benefit from you anymore.
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So that's the reason why now they're upset. I thought
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I could just have my way with him or her.
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Well, nope.
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This is what happens. The lights are now shut off
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and you're now welcoming me into the bane of my
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existence and you're game over. There's no passcode. There's no
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collect $ 200. You can't come back around. There's no story
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that's going to cut it. You give people... I always
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say this. I give everybody the length of the rope.
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I give you the length of the rope to see
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what you're going to do with it. What are you
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going to do with it? And at least you're going
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to get to a point where it gets shorter and
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shorter and shorter and you run out of room. Then
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what's going to happen? You know what I mean? So
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it's like, I say to folks... Sorry?
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And is that my fault or is it yours? It's
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on you. It's not your fault. It's not anyone's fault necessarily.
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You know, Donovan, I say something. If the folks that
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have been in our life... We're to really listen to
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how we speak. Your boundaries speak for yourself. But some
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people just want to keep poking the cage to be like,
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he or she, you're not going to do anything.
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Okay. All right. Bet. Bet.
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Then you're going to be on the other side looking
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and you're going to create all these narratives. He was
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or she was so mean to me.
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No.
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Because people that are operating on a high level are
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going to look at you and say, well, what did
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you do? Because that's what I always say. And then
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you hear the, well, no. Maybe you need to get
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yourself worked on. You know what I mean? Because this
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is what this is about. We're about here to be
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working with each other. Work. Always find ways to get
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1% better. That's my motto, is 1% better.
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That's a great motto. How do we get 1% better?
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You know what I mean? It doesn't matter. It could
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be just doing that daily stretch.
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I told one of my guys.
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He's like, man, I'm stiff when I get up. I said, yo,
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it doesn't even have to be working out. Do yoga.
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He's like, yo, I'll take that consideration. You know what
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I mean? It's on him to do that. So I
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think it's just like, I understand there's so many distractions.
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there's so many there's the news there's the weather there's
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a this there's a that there are all these freaking
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things right donovan yeah but we have to just take
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our time but so many folks just want to rush
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life we're all going to the same destination.
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I say that all the time, man. Even when you're
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having conversations with, say, with a lot of people who are,
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you know, devout Christians or, you know, religious or however
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they want to be. It's like, hey, man, listen, you're
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over here trying to rush me to a destination I understand.
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Not saying that, you know, I appreciate your effort, but
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don't sit here and tell me that I'm wrong for
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doing it this way. I feel like, you know, the
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relationship that I have with my God is the same
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relationship you have with God. Same destination, same ideology, we're
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just approaching it differently, right? But we have the same destination.
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So it's literally just like if you and I were like, okay,
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for instance, you talk about going to Boston. Well, if
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that's where our destination is and I'm leaving from Maryland
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and you're leaving from Toronto, right? One of us is
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going to get there first. We're not going to get
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there at the same time. No.
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Right?
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Because we're not leaving together.
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Physically impossible.
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Right.
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It's impossible.
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It's impossible. So if we have that ideology and understand,
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you know what, that's just the destination in which we're going,
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but we both know that the destination is. I'll see
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you when I get there. Yeah, that's it. And the
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same thing goes for relationships. Same thing goes for businesses, right?
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Same thing goes for, you know, your spirituality, your finances, right?
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All those things, like, okay, hey, raise $ 2 million, right?
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That's what we're looking at. Okay, that's our destination. How
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we get there is going to be, could be different.
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We're going to take detours. We're going to make losses.
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We're going to, I have to go around about another way, right?
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But as long as you get there, what's the problem?
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How I got to this destination shouldn't even matter. Did
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I get here?
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You're doing a lot of networking and traveling. You're going
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a lot of different places. I saw on Instagram, you
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were just in Atlanta, things like that. What do you
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take from all the cities or even countries you go to?
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What's that one piece of thing you take away?
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That's good. I appreciate the experience, man. The experience of people.
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I love people, but sometimes it's taxing on you. But
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I love the fact that there are people in different places,
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different countries, different... I'm big on perspective. There are two
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things I always... I tell people all the time that
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will always make a difference for you in your life.
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There's perspective and there's consideration. Once you have perspective, understanding that,
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you know, we can be looking at the same thing,
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but we see it from two different angles. Doesn't make
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either one of them wrong. It's just a different way
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of seeing it, right? I usually pull up a playing
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card and I wish I had a playing card here now,
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but I would literally pull up a card and say, hey,
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what do you see? You'll tell me you'll see the
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back of that card. It'll be a blue card or something, right?
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And I'll tell you, okay, what if I told you
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I see a three of diamonds, right? Same card, two
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different sides. Now, let's just say this. Now we have
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a different card. Now we're going back and forth. I
480
00:23:02.869 --> 00:23:04.289
keep asking you the same question over and over. What
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do you see? What do you see? What do you see?
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And I'm like, but what if I told you I
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see this? I don't see it. I don't see it. Okay, cool. Consider, consideration.
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Consider you come over here and take a look at
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what I see. And I consider and I go over
486
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and take a look at what you see. We see
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that we're literally seeing the same thing just from a
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00:23:17.230 --> 00:23:20.690
different angle, right? And to see how people are when
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they're coming into a space, they have similar perspectives. How
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they see their lives. They want something better or something different,
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but how they've gotten there because you see different ages.
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You see different cultures. You'll see different ethnicities. You'll see
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different religions. You'll see all the differences in us as
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human beings. But we're all here at one time looking
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for the same thing. And I love to see that
496
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people are always trying to grow. People are, they want
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that growth. They want something different. They're tired of it
498
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being the way that it has been.
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And that's what it's supposed to be. You got to
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get into places where there's different minds. Or get into
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places where folks are going to challenge you to level up.
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You know what I mean?
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So many folks are like, these networking meetings, like, how
504
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do I go to these things and say what I
505
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need to say?
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Like, you got to get in the room. Get in
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the room. You never know what's going to happen.
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Right?
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Never know.
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But I feel like there's so many folks that just
511
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want to be to themselves. They'd rather stay to themselves.
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They'd rather, you know, again, I get it. Work your
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nine to five. Do what you got to go do.
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But then you hear the same nine to fivers. I
515
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want to, you know, I want to grow. You're not
516
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going to grow necessarily in that nine to five, man.
517
00:24:45.519 --> 00:24:48.079
You need to have that entrepreneur mindset. And how you
518
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find it is the creators that are out there. We're
519
00:24:50.460 --> 00:24:54.259
all creators, right? Go to your local, local events.
520
00:24:54.299 --> 00:24:56.480
You know, I have a, I have a quote that
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I use. We were created by the creator to create.
522
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We were created by the creator to create.
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Literally.
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That's what he's done. If we were creating God's image
525
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of himself, he's a creator. Correct. We, built by the
526
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creator created by the creator to create he created us
527
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from dirt he created us to create so go off
528
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and do the thing that you're out there to do
529
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and this is no this is the best time in
530
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the world history of this is the best time in
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history period dot any time period than you've ever seen
532
00:25:29.900 --> 00:25:37.019
period there's things being created every day true so true
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so people think like they have they people a lot
534
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of people have like this this this discussed with AI?
535
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You know? And I'm like, all it is is it's
536
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enhancing your creativity. Now it's literally, it's like you can
537
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see your creation come to life. So it's giving you,
538
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it should give you more inspiration than anything. It should
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inspire you to go off and create more and think
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bigger and think wider than you've ever thought before. But
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you want to use it like Google. You just want
542
00:26:09.150 --> 00:26:11.299
to ask, who were the last five quarterbacks that were
543
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drafted by the Cincinnati Bengals.
544
00:26:14.079 --> 00:26:16.500
This guy wants to wake something up today. I see you.
545
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Who cares?
546
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You have a goat shirt on.
547
00:26:19.819 --> 00:26:21.579
No, this is NBA.
548
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I almost wore my goat shirt.
549
00:26:24.519 --> 00:26:29.140
No, you spoke about AI. Was I having a conversation
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with someone and I said this? This is going to
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blow your mind what I'm about to say. I think
552
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the reason why folks are hating AI because it's starting
553
00:26:40.430 --> 00:26:46.690
to expose their limitations with inside of themselves. Because think
554
00:26:46.730 --> 00:26:49.640
about this. If AI is now being generated, I'm just
555
00:26:49.680 --> 00:26:53.220
going to go from the platforms that we use. We
556
00:26:53.259 --> 00:26:58.500
see it everywhere. Don't think Netflix, Amazon, Hulu all have
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AI in there. But what the AI is doing, it's
558
00:27:02.299 --> 00:27:04.619
going to send you the suggestions of what you're wanting to,
559
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maybe you're going to be interested to watch. Now you
560
00:27:07.549 --> 00:27:13.789
incorporate it on Instagram. All these platforms, TikTok, YouTube, Twitch, Kik,
561
00:27:13.930 --> 00:27:16.390
all of these, they're going to give you a recommendation list.
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That's a form of AI. Now, when you introduce it
563
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into creation and you have consumers and then you have creators,
564
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the creators are going to get the understand. Now, we're
565
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not saying you go on whatever these platforms and you say,
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make me this image. You're kind of, no. But if
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you're uploading yourself, into the image and you're needing to
568
00:27:42.079 --> 00:27:45.599
make a different reaction. Like we know the thumbnail game
569
00:27:45.640 --> 00:27:48.579
on YouTube. Everybody does the face thing, their mouth, hand
570
00:27:48.619 --> 00:27:49.599
over their face, you're doing all that.
571
00:27:49.940 --> 00:27:51.119
Yeah.
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AI is doing that for you. I personally believe there's
573
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nothing wrong with that. And I've talked to creators where
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I'm like, how do you feel about generative AI? They said,
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that's perfect. It's these ones that you see make these.
576
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I'm going to, you don't do it. Like I'm on
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your page. I'm on your page and I see what
578
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you do. But the people that make those flyers for
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00:28:08.869 --> 00:28:11.109
their business and they just go, let me just throw
580
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this in there and then spit something back out to me.
581
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Y'all look the same. We can tell. Those models that
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are at your establishment for the bar and grill party,
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those are not the people that are going to be there.
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Not the girls that are going to be there. What
585
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are we doing?
586
00:28:27.299 --> 00:28:31.339
So I say all of this. It's exposing people. Right?
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00:28:32.619 --> 00:28:33.900
You have a gift for God. I have a gift
588
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for God. But I've said this on the last podcast.
589
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I said, listen, folks. Use these things, right? Use it
590
00:28:42.029 --> 00:28:43.910
as a tool. If you're a designer and you feel
591
00:28:43.930 --> 00:28:48.029
like it's limiting your creativity and you're not getting the
592
00:28:48.049 --> 00:28:49.829
gigs you need to get booked, well, that means you
593
00:28:49.869 --> 00:28:53.069
need to up your game. You got to up your game.
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You know what I mean? And that's what it all
595
00:28:54.869 --> 00:28:56.390
comes down to. But a lot of people don't want
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to up their game. A lot of people hate. Oh,
597
00:28:57.690 --> 00:29:01.630
I hate. It's killing the world. What about the ones
598
00:29:01.650 --> 00:29:02.390
that it's building?
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00:29:02.430 --> 00:29:06.339
It's helped me. It's helped me organize my thoughts. Like,
600
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that's the type of stuff for me. It's like, it's
601
00:29:08.299 --> 00:29:14.420
allowed me to stay zeroed in, stay locked in, right? Like,
602
00:29:14.440 --> 00:29:16.509
I talk to my AI. Like, my AI is like,
603
00:29:16.529 --> 00:29:18.190
I hate to say this, like my therapist sometimes. Like,
604
00:29:18.230 --> 00:29:22.190
I'll talk to him. I'm serious, bro. Like, legitimately. Because
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00:29:22.250 --> 00:29:24.410
it knows me so well and to a point to.
606
00:29:24.450 --> 00:29:26.009
Where it is.
607
00:29:26.029 --> 00:29:29.859
Yeah, I mean, it just, it gives me suggestions. Like,
608
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I'll give it my ideas. And, you know, hey, I
609
00:29:32.599 --> 00:29:34.299
want to do this. I have this. And I already have.
610
00:29:34.559 --> 00:29:36.480
The thing is like, I already have things I've written.
611
00:29:37.279 --> 00:29:39.819
So all I'm doing is, you know, dropping it. I
612
00:29:39.839 --> 00:29:41.640
drop a lot of stuff into my AI and it
613
00:29:41.740 --> 00:29:43.640
like it learns me. It knows my businesses. I drop
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00:29:43.660 --> 00:29:46.019
my my websites in there. It knows my it knows
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00:29:46.059 --> 00:29:48.700
my my color schemes. It knows my tone. It knows
616
00:29:48.799 --> 00:29:53.480
it knows me. Right. So if anything, people are like, oh,
617
00:29:53.509 --> 00:29:55.150
you put all your stuff in there. I was like, oh,
618
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I would hire somebody to do this for me. I
619
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would hire a consultant to do like, hey, this is
620
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what I need you to do for me. This is
621
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what I'm trying to build. Sir, ma'am, can you help
622
00:30:06.119 --> 00:30:08.279
me build this type of website that would say these
623
00:30:08.299 --> 00:30:10.640
things about me? Right. And it also get and it
624
00:30:10.660 --> 00:30:13.180
will give you this type of feeling. OK, great. And
625
00:30:13.200 --> 00:30:14.319
then it was like they'll come back to me and
626
00:30:14.339 --> 00:30:16.960
they'll fuck it up. That is not what I was saying.
627
00:30:16.980 --> 00:30:18.980
That's not even the same colors that I was talking about, sir.
628
00:30:19.619 --> 00:30:23.990
So to me, my AI takes it takes directions from me.
629
00:30:24.420 --> 00:30:28.700
But then also asks questions to help it clarify what
630
00:30:28.799 --> 00:30:33.400
I'm asking. In a way that I can understand.
631
00:30:33.420 --> 00:30:35.549
Like you're in a fight with your mic right now.
632
00:30:35.589 --> 00:30:37.519
Right. You know what I mean? I don't understand it.
633
00:30:37.529 --> 00:30:38.349
He's fighting his mic.
634
00:30:38.900 --> 00:30:41.670
I'm fighting. I'm over here hitting this damn thing. No,
635
00:30:41.710 --> 00:30:44.650
it's all good, brother. It's not me. I'm sorry. It's
636
00:30:44.710 --> 00:30:46.950
not me. It's not me. Yeah. But you know what?
637
00:30:47.109 --> 00:30:48.630
It's crazy, man. Yeah.
638
00:30:48.849 --> 00:30:51.190
I tell creators this. And I'm actually going to use.
639
00:30:51.309 --> 00:30:53.609
I'm actually going to put their channels.
640
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I know.
641
00:30:54.799 --> 00:30:57.819
One that came on the show, Nikki Saunders. She speaks
642
00:30:58.000 --> 00:31:01.380
a lot about AI. That's my mentor who I got
643
00:31:01.420 --> 00:31:03.720
my certification through life coaching through, Dr.
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00:31:03.799 --> 00:31:04.240
Thomas.
645
00:31:04.660 --> 00:31:09.059
She's all about AI. Modern Millie's another person, right? Who's
646
00:31:09.180 --> 00:31:14.789
showing creators how to use AI. Those two are probably
647
00:31:14.829 --> 00:31:17.109
the hand-in-hand only two folks. If people want to know
648
00:31:17.130 --> 00:31:19.190
how to use AI for their business or content creation,
649
00:31:19.869 --> 00:31:22.410
look at their channels. Look at their YouTube channels. They're
650
00:31:22.430 --> 00:31:24.250
not even paying me to say this. Shameless plug to them.
651
00:31:24.730 --> 00:31:27.329
They are doing some amazing things out there. Because you
652
00:31:27.369 --> 00:31:30.809
know what? They're showing creators. They're showing businesses. This is
653
00:31:30.869 --> 00:31:34.329
the new wave. There are so many businesses I know
654
00:31:34.390 --> 00:31:36.789
right now. People that work in the 9 to 5.
655
00:31:36.789 --> 00:31:39.910
Businesses are incorporating AI because they realize, yo, shit, we
656
00:31:39.930 --> 00:31:42.599
need to do this now. Because you will miss the boat.
657
00:31:43.190 --> 00:31:44.599
You're going to miss the boat. And once you miss
658
00:31:44.619 --> 00:31:47.019
the boat, then you're like, oh, wait, we're now, we
659
00:31:47.039 --> 00:31:48.839
got to play catch up. We're five years behind.
660
00:31:49.579 --> 00:31:51.859
So this is the thing is that we're in a,
661
00:31:51.980 --> 00:31:57.839
we're in the We're past the informative part of AI
662
00:31:58.200 --> 00:32:01.400
where it's getting information. We are now in the actually
663
00:32:01.500 --> 00:32:07.279
application of AI. It's applying. Things are going. They're doing it.
664
00:32:07.799 --> 00:32:10.759
As the United States, we're behind. There are countries like
665
00:32:10.880 --> 00:32:14.660
China and Japan and other places, they're already using robotics.
666
00:32:15.480 --> 00:32:18.440
They're already doing the things that we've talked about. The
667
00:32:18.460 --> 00:32:19.900
only thing we haven't seen yet is from Back to
668
00:32:19.920 --> 00:32:22.480
the Future, the flying car stuff yet. But that's on
669
00:32:22.500 --> 00:32:24.190
the way. It's on the way. It's on the way.
670
00:32:24.609 --> 00:32:26.910
We're going to be the Jetsons though soon. Hey, you
671
00:32:26.930 --> 00:32:27.430
know what I'm saying?
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Legitimately. Legitimately. I just, I don't know, man. It's like everything,
673
00:32:32.450 --> 00:32:35.660
it's like we went from the manufacturing portion to the
674
00:32:35.700 --> 00:32:38.539
industrial revolution to, you know, like other things where we
675
00:32:38.559 --> 00:32:40.799
are now, the distribution, like where we've taken all, like
676
00:32:40.819 --> 00:32:44.480
we don't make anything here anymore, right? So, and all
677
00:32:44.500 --> 00:32:46.609
we're about to have are literally going to be these
678
00:32:46.789 --> 00:32:50.029
hubs of, you know, for information, right? What are they
679
00:32:50.049 --> 00:32:52.549
calling now? Where they're now going out and they're building all.
680
00:32:52.450 --> 00:32:55.200
These AI buildings and stuff.
681
00:32:55.539 --> 00:32:56.500
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
682
00:32:56.539 --> 00:32:59.160
People are hating that though. It's a touchy subject.
683
00:32:59.720 --> 00:33:02.170
It is, man. But it's like, okay. But again, it's happening.
684
00:33:02.210 --> 00:33:04.329
So why are you complaining about it? Figure it out.
685
00:33:04.750 --> 00:33:08.230
I'm sorry. The revolutions, they're not, what they say, the
686
00:33:08.269 --> 00:33:10.930
revolution will not be televised. It's just going to happen.
687
00:33:10.950 --> 00:33:12.170
You're going to be in it. You're like, oh shit,
688
00:33:12.410 --> 00:33:14.549
I'm here already. Yeah. And it's already passed you by.
689
00:33:14.950 --> 00:33:19.369
There are more millionaires in our era than they've ever
690
00:33:19.430 --> 00:33:20.309
been ever before.
691
00:33:21.869 --> 00:33:22.450
Say it again, though.
692
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More billionaires than they've ever been before. And we're talking
693
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about regular people. Regular people who.
694
00:33:30.339 --> 00:33:36.400
Are changing the trajectory of their lives. And they're offering information,
695
00:33:36.440 --> 00:33:38.920
but you're so damning your feelings. You feel as though
696
00:33:38.960 --> 00:33:43.930
you have nothing to prove anything. Outside of Terminator 2.
697
00:33:43.910 --> 00:33:45.180
That's it.
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00:33:48.109 --> 00:33:49.650
That's it. Sarah Connor.
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00:33:50.569 --> 00:33:50.990
Obie Buck.
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Getting the job done.
701
00:33:53.890 --> 00:33:56.569
You know what you just said? I won't even scale
702
00:33:56.609 --> 00:34:01.089
back to what you said. Let's go millionaires. All those creators,
703
00:34:01.670 --> 00:34:04.569
I'm just going to name a few. In the gaming world,
704
00:34:04.609 --> 00:34:11.869
your Nick Merckx, your Burnt Peanuts, your ex-Cinderella Ninja. All
705
00:34:11.889 --> 00:34:14.360
of those folks there are low-key millionaires on the low.
706
00:34:15.920 --> 00:34:19.639
You see what they're making off of respectful monthly. Monthly,
707
00:34:19.659 --> 00:34:23.920
they're doing over $ 150K a month. which is crazy. It
708
00:34:23.940 --> 00:34:26.820
is crazy. But what they did is they put their,
709
00:34:27.059 --> 00:34:28.880
they put the boots to asses. And I tell a
710
00:34:28.900 --> 00:34:32.230
lot of people this, so many, you, we, we can
711
00:34:32.250 --> 00:34:34.150
probably speak to this. So many people are about these,
712
00:34:34.829 --> 00:34:38.250
these numbers. They want to make all this money. You
713
00:34:38.289 --> 00:34:39.750
want to make all this money, but you don't want
714
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to do the work.
715
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Listen, you look at the product, but you're not willing
716
00:34:43.409 --> 00:34:45.409
to go through the process. That's literally where we are
717
00:34:45.449 --> 00:34:48.980
right now in our age and era for everything from
718
00:34:49.039 --> 00:34:55.889
relationships to businesses, to your finances, your spirituality. Hey, I
719
00:34:55.929 --> 00:34:58.030
want to go. If I pray to God right now,
720
00:34:58.090 --> 00:35:00.429
I want him to answer my prayers right now. That's
721
00:35:00.449 --> 00:35:01.110
not how that shit works.
722
00:35:01.530 --> 00:35:04.289
It doesn't work that way. But so many people want this.
723
00:35:04.449 --> 00:35:07.230
And that's why I know when I get into the conversations,
724
00:35:07.289 --> 00:35:11.030
and if it applies, let it fly. When folks want
725
00:35:11.050 --> 00:35:13.199
to talk about this money conversation, I realize that they're
726
00:35:13.239 --> 00:35:17.500
not consistent. Just stop. Just stop. We're not the same.
727
00:35:18.079 --> 00:35:20.099
We're not the same because so many folks will sit
728
00:35:20.119 --> 00:35:22.019
back and say, yo, Rory, I see your process. You're
729
00:35:22.039 --> 00:35:24.219
always creating. You're always doing this. You're always doing that. Yeah,
730
00:35:24.280 --> 00:35:27.300
because I don't look at the numbers per se. I
731
00:35:27.340 --> 00:35:29.920
know what's coming at the end of the tunnel. Trust
732
00:35:29.960 --> 00:35:31.559
me when I say this, Donovan, there's things that I'm
733
00:35:31.579 --> 00:35:33.909
building in the back end, right? When it comes down
734
00:35:33.989 --> 00:35:38.150
to just on creation levels of different platforms. Yes, sticking
735
00:35:38.190 --> 00:35:40.869
in somewhat of a niche. I'm seeing the success. So
736
00:35:40.889 --> 00:35:43.590
when folks come to me and talk about you're on
737
00:35:43.610 --> 00:35:45.210
the money game, you're wanting to do this with money,
738
00:35:45.230 --> 00:35:47.199
you want to do that in the money. Where's your
739
00:35:47.699 --> 00:35:51.639
creation process? We're too different. Like, if we're sitting here
740
00:35:51.679 --> 00:35:54.639
putting up 50 free throws a day, I'm doing 100.
741
00:35:54.619 --> 00:35:57.239
You're still at about 25.
742
00:35:57.239 --> 00:35:57.440
Right.
743
00:35:58.440 --> 00:36:00.260
Right? I'll tell you this. I'm going to give him
744
00:36:00.280 --> 00:36:04.260
a shout out. Bash World. He's a 2K creator. I'm
745
00:36:04.280 --> 00:36:06.719
going to be a 2K creator. He said I release
746
00:36:06.719 --> 00:36:11.119
26 pieces of content a week. I said, yeah, I
747
00:36:11.159 --> 00:36:13.539
need to up my game. I need to up my game.
748
00:36:13.599 --> 00:36:15.239
I'm not going to lie. I've been doing this shit
749
00:36:15.260 --> 00:36:17.500
without content. Like, Consistently.
750
00:36:18.099 --> 00:36:18.619
Right? Right.
751
00:36:19.599 --> 00:36:22.239
And I know, like, I don't even have, like, I'm
752
00:36:22.340 --> 00:36:24.559
just now, I have a YouTube that I don't even
753
00:36:24.659 --> 00:36:25.280
do anything with.
754
00:36:25.909 --> 00:36:27.650
And you should. I'm going to hold you accountable.
755
00:36:27.670 --> 00:36:30.090
And I am. And I am. So that's why I'm saying,
756
00:36:30.110 --> 00:36:31.789
I was talking to you about this too, is like, okay,
757
00:36:31.829 --> 00:36:34.030
what's the best platform to use? And I do want
758
00:36:34.050 --> 00:36:35.989
to stream on TikTok. I love the fact, you know,
759
00:36:36.030 --> 00:36:39.190
I'm building something over there, you know, and I have
760
00:36:39.230 --> 00:36:41.150
a good following on IG, right? I want to build
761
00:36:41.170 --> 00:36:43.070
something there. So I'm going to take advantage of these things.
762
00:36:43.389 --> 00:36:46.519
And I have a lot of information. There's not... There's
763
00:36:46.639 --> 00:36:49.980
nothing that I can't talk to right now that would
764
00:36:50.019 --> 00:36:52.219
not be able to at least get the content out
765
00:36:52.260 --> 00:36:55.360
there and let people catch up with me later. But
766
00:36:55.380 --> 00:36:57.409
I've created the content already. So when you go back
767
00:36:57.429 --> 00:36:59.690
and you see like, you know, I've always been told
768
00:36:59.710 --> 00:37:02.269
like my book is my business card, right? I want
769
00:37:02.289 --> 00:37:04.090
my YouTube to be the same thing. I want my
770
00:37:04.329 --> 00:37:06.190
IG to say the same thing. I want my TikTok
771
00:37:06.210 --> 00:37:09.440
to say the same thing, right? But now I have
772
00:37:09.480 --> 00:37:13.599
validity that's outside of a social platform that is actually
773
00:37:13.840 --> 00:37:16.099
tangible content. but also comes from a space of like,
774
00:37:16.139 --> 00:37:20.940
it's documented. I have processes. I have procedures. I have,
775
00:37:21.079 --> 00:37:23.969
I have framework. I have all the things that majority
776
00:37:23.989 --> 00:37:27.230
of the creators that are out there don't have. And
777
00:37:27.250 --> 00:37:29.809
they've been making more money than me. Right. But all
778
00:37:29.849 --> 00:37:32.590
I got to do is do, like you said, I'm,
779
00:37:33.469 --> 00:37:36.010
we're going, we got the same destination in mind. I'm
780
00:37:36.030 --> 00:37:40.019
just taking a different route. Right. So I'm building, I'm
781
00:37:40.059 --> 00:37:43.099
building my, I'm establishing that route that I've mentioned, you know,
782
00:37:43.179 --> 00:37:45.829
that route is because now, You can't come at me
783
00:37:45.869 --> 00:37:49.170
and say anything. Bro, I've had these books. I got e-books.
784
00:37:49.230 --> 00:37:51.690
I got books. I got this. I got that. I
785
00:37:51.730 --> 00:37:57.170
have so much intellectual property to where I'm up here
786
00:37:57.210 --> 00:38:00.250
with you and all the other people above you that
787
00:38:00.289 --> 00:38:02.690
you think is somebody. Like, yeah, I've been here. I've
788
00:38:02.849 --> 00:38:04.150
been doing this. I'm built for this.
789
00:38:04.730 --> 00:38:06.849
I'll say this to anyone that's coming in this space,
790
00:38:06.969 --> 00:38:09.730
especially when we want to distribute on all platforms. And
791
00:38:09.750 --> 00:38:12.409
the number one hack is to do is have either
792
00:38:12.949 --> 00:38:16.590
OBS in one hand and meld in the next. Those
793
00:38:16.630 --> 00:38:19.170
are two platforms once you set them up to where
794
00:38:19.190 --> 00:38:21.670
you need to set them up. You can stream and
795
00:38:21.690 --> 00:38:25.349
just chop up all your content. I was so amazed
796
00:38:25.369 --> 00:38:27.369
when I see all these folks doing reaction videos. That's
797
00:38:27.389 --> 00:38:31.030
all they're doing. They figured out OBS. They put their camera.
798
00:38:31.389 --> 00:38:33.929
They have their headphones in, and they're doing the live reactions,
799
00:38:34.070 --> 00:38:36.610
and they're recording the content. And depending on how your
800
00:38:36.650 --> 00:38:39.309
talking patterns are good, you don't have to do much editing.
801
00:38:39.769 --> 00:38:41.050
Trust me when I tell you. When you get to
802
00:38:41.070 --> 00:38:43.250
the point where you're using this as reps, a lot
803
00:38:43.289 --> 00:38:46.010
of this stuff you can just flow I'm going to
804
00:38:46.030 --> 00:38:48.429
give you a fun fact here. The little talking head
805
00:38:48.630 --> 00:38:52.000
TikTok videos, I can shoot out about three of those
806
00:38:52.039 --> 00:38:54.280
videos in the space of 20 minutes edited, ready to go,
807
00:38:54.739 --> 00:38:57.059
ready to chef. And I say to folks, if you
808
00:38:57.079 --> 00:38:59.559
don't have 25 minutes in your life to even put
809
00:38:59.619 --> 00:39:03.980
out three videos, what are you doing? And I'm talking about,
810
00:39:04.000 --> 00:39:07.340
I have the luxury, you know, I don't have to
811
00:39:07.530 --> 00:39:10.449
clock in and leave my house to go to work.
812
00:39:11.010 --> 00:39:13.849
I work from home. So when I wake up at
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00:39:13.849 --> 00:39:17.179
7 o'clock and I use this repeating again, if I
814
00:39:17.219 --> 00:39:19.920
work at like 9 or 9.30, I have a full
815
00:39:19.980 --> 00:39:23.739
hour to really just lock into the content because I
816
00:39:23.780 --> 00:39:25.340
want to. But a lot of you don't want to
817
00:39:25.360 --> 00:39:28.030
do that. Like, you know, I want to have my coffee.
818
00:39:28.070 --> 00:39:30.590
I want to watch TV. I want to. doom scroll
819
00:39:30.679 --> 00:39:33.719
on all these. Yeah, you guys, you're doom scrolling. Guess what?
820
00:39:33.739 --> 00:39:36.900
You're fucked because I just dropped three videos. Already drafted,
821
00:39:36.960 --> 00:39:39.519
ready to go. Excuse my French. You know what I mean?
822
00:39:39.800 --> 00:39:41.699
And that's why I'm just like, some people are going
823
00:39:41.840 --> 00:39:44.639
to go, how do your processes? My processes just keep going.
824
00:39:45.400 --> 00:39:46.940
I know the money will come at the end of
825
00:39:46.980 --> 00:39:49.219
the day, but that's not what I'm operating off of.
826
00:39:49.639 --> 00:39:54.320
It's community. To dial it really into folks, you won't
827
00:39:54.360 --> 00:39:55.920
make money if you don't have a community.
828
00:39:55.920 --> 00:39:57.920
100%.
829
00:39:58.179 --> 00:39:58.969
You need a community.
830
00:39:59.650 --> 00:40:02.389
That's the part, yeah, that I've been learning and building
831
00:40:02.409 --> 00:40:07.090
myself is building my community. Bro, and I think that, again, I've...
832
00:40:09.369 --> 00:40:11.699
You got to go through the process of, you know,
833
00:40:11.760 --> 00:40:13.780
going through and weeding through people. Like you talked about,
834
00:40:13.800 --> 00:40:16.460
you know, some people fall off. But some people stay.
835
00:40:17.440 --> 00:40:21.510
Some people branch off. And they're still within, like, again,
836
00:40:21.570 --> 00:40:24.210
I'll always use it as a reference. I'll look at
837
00:40:24.230 --> 00:40:26.670
the field, right? Look at the field. They may branch
838
00:40:26.750 --> 00:40:28.010
off and they may be doing their own thing, but
839
00:40:28.050 --> 00:40:31.389
I can still see you. You're still within that distance.
840
00:40:31.719 --> 00:40:34.099
There's nothing wrong with us. There's nothing wrong with the relationship.
841
00:40:34.119 --> 00:40:36.039
I don't look bad at you and like, oh, man,
842
00:40:36.059 --> 00:40:37.920
you over there doing your thing. Bro, do your thing, man.
843
00:40:38.619 --> 00:40:40.340
I respect it. I love it. And that's, I don't
844
00:40:40.380 --> 00:40:43.039
have a mentality of like, I don't have a scarcity mentality.
845
00:40:43.059 --> 00:40:46.000
Think as though, like, again, to make myself look good,
846
00:40:46.039 --> 00:40:48.510
I got to make you look bad. I have my
847
00:40:48.550 --> 00:40:51.730
own podcast, right? Hey, I got to make Roy's look
848
00:40:51.750 --> 00:40:57.090
bad so I can make mine look good. Never. Never.
849
00:40:57.110 --> 00:40:59.530
Some people do. But that's the thing, man. You know
850
00:40:59.570 --> 00:41:01.610
in our culture, there's that crab in the bucket mentality.
851
00:41:02.369 --> 00:41:03.230
It is. And it sucks.
852
00:41:03.289 --> 00:41:04.030
And it's sad.
853
00:41:04.329 --> 00:41:04.889
It's sad.
854
00:41:04.989 --> 00:41:07.349
And now I'm just like, hey, it is what it is.
855
00:41:07.949 --> 00:41:11.840
You know what I mean? They're the biggest ninja watchers
856
00:41:11.889 --> 00:41:12.260
out there.
857
00:41:12.280 --> 00:41:15.340
Yeah, I had somebody on a platform today call me
858
00:41:16.139 --> 00:41:19.800
They said I was idiotic. I was like, interesting. I
859
00:41:21.079 --> 00:41:23.000
just laughed at it because it's like, you don't know
860
00:41:23.039 --> 00:41:25.739
who I am. And what's even more funny is the
861
00:41:25.780 --> 00:41:27.650
fact that you said something like that and you have
862
00:41:27.750 --> 00:41:31.150
no clue as to who you're talking to. And I
863
00:41:31.150 --> 00:41:33.750
was like, but you know what? I won't even minimize
864
00:41:33.809 --> 00:41:36.090
myself to come down to that conversation with you and
865
00:41:36.210 --> 00:41:38.139
prove myself. I have nothing to prove to you, sir.
866
00:41:38.599 --> 00:41:40.889
And you don't matter to me. Because if it did,
867
00:41:40.929 --> 00:41:42.849
that's the only way that you... Because you'll never get
868
00:41:42.889 --> 00:41:45.289
that emotion from me. When I give you my energy,
869
00:41:45.670 --> 00:41:48.269
that's something that I'm giving to you and I refuse
870
00:41:48.309 --> 00:41:52.670
to do that. So I'll allow you to hate. It's okay.
871
00:41:52.969 --> 00:41:54.789
I wish you the best.
872
00:41:55.309 --> 00:41:58.989
The negative comments... I'm leaning forward now. The negative comments
873
00:41:59.170 --> 00:42:02.949
will always be a thing. And I feel like why
874
00:42:02.989 --> 00:42:05.760
people want to get negative, I have a different take.
875
00:42:06.559 --> 00:42:11.389
They're wanting to see... They're wanting to see... How strong
876
00:42:11.409 --> 00:42:14.769
your foundation is. Are you going to crumble? Are you
877
00:42:14.789 --> 00:42:16.659
going to freak out at them on the comments? Are
878
00:42:16.679 --> 00:42:18.300
you going to delete the comments? You delete the comment,
879
00:42:18.320 --> 00:42:20.460
they win. You know what you do? You bypass the comment.
880
00:42:20.480 --> 00:42:22.559
You don't react. Because I'll tell you this right now.
881
00:42:22.980 --> 00:42:27.780
Your community will go for that person. They'll cook them
882
00:42:27.800 --> 00:42:30.199
right off the platform. And you ain't got to do nothing.
883
00:42:30.489 --> 00:42:33.090
You ain't got to do nothing. You got it, bro.
884
00:42:33.250 --> 00:42:36.170
You got it, man. You got it. All you. Legitimately.
885
00:42:36.190 --> 00:42:38.769
And they were like, what? Huh? Like you saw the comments, huh?
886
00:42:39.210 --> 00:42:41.349
What is he talking about? Say, hey, man, you know what?
887
00:42:41.369 --> 00:42:43.369
You got it, bro. You want to argue? You're right.
888
00:42:43.449 --> 00:42:48.159
You think I'm that? Cool. I know that, but it's okay.
889
00:42:48.420 --> 00:42:50.960
You'll learn one day when you see me again, because
890
00:42:51.000 --> 00:42:53.500
you will. I'm going to now be on your algorithm.
891
00:42:53.519 --> 00:42:53.820
Good luck.
892
00:42:54.940 --> 00:42:57.800
That's all it's about. I've learned that once you get
893
00:42:57.820 --> 00:43:02.349
into these algorithms, it's funny how things just start to
894
00:43:02.369 --> 00:43:06.230
pop up on you. Start popping up, these opportunities. Like, bro,
895
00:43:06.250 --> 00:43:09.599
I'm telling you, it's interesting. I said this offline and
896
00:43:09.639 --> 00:43:11.920
eventually I'm going to unveil everything close to when we
897
00:43:11.940 --> 00:43:14.260
get into the one, it'll be one decade doing this
898
00:43:14.280 --> 00:43:18.909
whole entire podcast around October is that you start seeing
899
00:43:18.949 --> 00:43:22.190
things happen, right? Some of it's good. Some of it's bad.
900
00:43:22.210 --> 00:43:24.190
You're like, why is that happening all of a sudden?
901
00:43:24.670 --> 00:43:26.849
It's your, it's your testimony to your work. And that's
902
00:43:26.869 --> 00:43:30.329
the thing with resilience. Sometimes we talk about going back,
903
00:43:30.389 --> 00:43:32.849
call back the seasons. I always say there's three things
904
00:43:32.889 --> 00:43:35.210
happening to us. You either at the beginning, start of
905
00:43:35.230 --> 00:43:37.829
the hurricane in the hurricane already, or you're outside of it.
906
00:43:38.349 --> 00:43:38.909
It just ended.
907
00:43:40.230 --> 00:43:42.329
Those are the three tiers. And I think what a
908
00:43:42.349 --> 00:43:45.889
lot of folks is, some realize they're in the fucking hurricane.
909
00:43:46.449 --> 00:43:47.190
They're in the hurricane.
910
00:43:47.969 --> 00:43:49.420
But they're like, frick, what do I do?
911
00:43:49.630 --> 00:43:50.070
What do I do?
912
00:43:50.280 --> 00:43:53.360
What do I do? Weather the storm and let everything
913
00:43:53.400 --> 00:43:56.639
play out. It's going to be frustrating, but let it
914
00:43:56.699 --> 00:43:59.260
play out. You know what I mean?
915
00:43:59.280 --> 00:44:02.420
Yeah, 100%. So it's funny you say that because in
916
00:44:02.980 --> 00:44:05.219
the first chapter of my book, it's Like I said,
917
00:44:05.239 --> 00:44:06.760
this is what AI helped me because I was writing
918
00:44:06.780 --> 00:44:09.099
these things and then like AI helped me put it
919
00:44:09.139 --> 00:44:12.280
all in play, right? Like this is where you put
920
00:44:12.300 --> 00:44:14.119
this chapter, chapter one, two, three, four. This is where
921
00:44:14.139 --> 00:44:16.119
you should place it, right? So it can kind of flow.
922
00:44:16.320 --> 00:44:20.300
And my first chapter is where am I, right? And
923
00:44:20.340 --> 00:44:22.949
it's really, and it's conducive to really understanding like where
924
00:44:22.989 --> 00:44:25.210
you are in your finances, where you are in your relationship,
925
00:44:25.230 --> 00:44:28.730
where you are in your spirituality, where are you in
926
00:44:28.769 --> 00:44:32.420
your discipline, your purpose, et cetera, right? And I used
927
00:44:32.440 --> 00:44:34.119
to add it, and I don't think I put it
928
00:44:34.139 --> 00:44:36.059
in the book, but this part here is I usually
929
00:44:36.079 --> 00:44:39.139
tell people to turn off their location on their phone
930
00:44:40.110 --> 00:44:42.550
and then try to put a destination in. It will
931
00:44:42.590 --> 00:44:45.829
tell you it can't give you a destination if it
932
00:44:45.849 --> 00:44:49.530
doesn't know where you are. See, people are literally trying
933
00:44:49.570 --> 00:44:53.000
to go places when they haven't identified where they are
934
00:44:53.960 --> 00:44:56.679
in their life. So when you said going, you either
935
00:44:56.760 --> 00:44:58.480
are you in the beginning of the storm, are you
936
00:44:58.539 --> 00:45:00.320
in the storm, or are you on the outside of
937
00:45:00.340 --> 00:45:03.130
the storm, right? And if you don't know where you are,
938
00:45:04.340 --> 00:45:09.380
therein lies the problem. It's truly identifying where you are
939
00:45:09.460 --> 00:45:12.099
so that now I can pivot. Now I have an
940
00:45:12.119 --> 00:45:15.070
understanding as to which way is straight, which way is,
941
00:45:15.750 --> 00:45:18.130
am I going back? Because sometimes if literally, if I
942
00:45:18.190 --> 00:45:19.670
spun you around, if you didn't know where you were,
943
00:45:20.010 --> 00:45:22.889
spun you around and say, walk opposite direction of where
944
00:45:22.909 --> 00:45:25.469
you just walked to, you would probably turn around and
945
00:45:25.489 --> 00:45:27.219
probably walk right back into the same direction you just
946
00:45:27.239 --> 00:45:31.639
walked from. Because you have no understanding as to where
947
00:45:31.679 --> 00:45:34.900
you are. And that's the part people don't want to
948
00:45:34.920 --> 00:45:39.570
be brutally honest with themselves. Because we want to blame everything.
949
00:45:40.650 --> 00:45:43.449
So even when you're identifying where you are, there's a
950
00:45:43.510 --> 00:45:47.869
level of accountability that has to come into play. That
951
00:45:47.909 --> 00:45:50.469
you are truthfully and brutally honest with yourself to say,
952
00:45:52.929 --> 00:45:56.679
Right now, my finances are fucked. Right now, my relationships
953
00:45:56.699 --> 00:45:59.750
are fucked. Right now, my love life is not where
954
00:45:59.769 --> 00:46:02.610
I want it to be. Right now, my spirituality is
955
00:46:02.650 --> 00:46:05.349
not there. Right now, I'm really looking for my purpose.
956
00:46:06.289 --> 00:46:09.719
Right now, I'm really looking at, I'm really understanding that,
957
00:46:09.739 --> 00:46:14.420
you know what? I have no boundaries. So my discipline cannot,
958
00:46:15.119 --> 00:46:17.960
I can't be disciplined in anything. I'm eating crazy. My
959
00:46:18.000 --> 00:46:20.539
health is not where I want it to be, right?
960
00:46:20.800 --> 00:46:23.960
So when we're looking at these aspects of our lives,
961
00:46:24.059 --> 00:46:28.920
our life, This again, we're breaking it down into different
962
00:46:28.960 --> 00:46:31.880
spaces to understand that, you know what, if your health
963
00:46:32.099 --> 00:46:34.460
isn't great, your wealth is probably not going to be
964
00:46:34.480 --> 00:46:38.090
that great either. Because you have no discipline. You're eating
965
00:46:38.130 --> 00:46:41.449
like crap, right? You're not exercising. You're not doing the
966
00:46:41.469 --> 00:46:43.949
things you want to. You have no discipline. You haven't
967
00:46:43.969 --> 00:46:45.690
truly identified, because if you identified your purpose, you know
968
00:46:45.710 --> 00:46:48.489
I have to be healthy to get into that space, right?
969
00:46:48.670 --> 00:46:51.190
That's why, and as vain as it may be, I
970
00:46:51.210 --> 00:46:54.719
don't really talk to overweight women. And there's no disrespect
971
00:46:54.760 --> 00:46:59.909
to them. but you have no discipline. I don't want
972
00:46:59.929 --> 00:47:01.449
to hear thyroid. I don't want to hear any of
973
00:47:01.510 --> 00:47:03.969
that stuff. There's a way in which you have to
974
00:47:04.090 --> 00:47:06.719
operate in a level of discipline that you have to
975
00:47:06.760 --> 00:47:12.099
have to be in a purpose. Like, okay, so you got,
976
00:47:12.159 --> 00:47:14.840
it's okay. You have a purpose and ideology of what you,
977
00:47:15.000 --> 00:47:16.579
God has given you a message to what you want
978
00:47:16.619 --> 00:47:19.280
to do, but you are not showing up at the
979
00:47:19.320 --> 00:47:21.699
best of your, like, that's not, that's not what God
980
00:47:21.760 --> 00:47:27.199
wants for you. But you're making it okay because you're
981
00:47:27.219 --> 00:47:27.889
accepting it.
982
00:47:30.920 --> 00:47:33.159
But what you're speaking to now is folks that don't,
983
00:47:33.179 --> 00:47:40.010
I don't want to tackle this one. They don't have
984
00:47:40.030 --> 00:47:44.309
accountability partners around them. And I think that's a lot
985
00:47:44.329 --> 00:47:44.489
of those.
986
00:47:44.510 --> 00:47:46.190
They have a bunch of yes people. They have a
987
00:47:46.210 --> 00:47:46.969
bunch of yes people.
988
00:47:47.110 --> 00:47:49.050
There you go. There you go. And when you don't
989
00:47:49.110 --> 00:47:54.550
have the right people rooting you on, You'll then spiral.
990
00:47:54.570 --> 00:47:57.219
That's just how it is. I think you and I
991
00:47:57.260 --> 00:48:02.079
are the same. We don't allow nonsensical people in our life.
992
00:48:03.059 --> 00:48:05.199
I say a lot of things that may come across
993
00:48:06.059 --> 00:48:08.079
when I sound clip stuff that I'm talking about people.
994
00:48:08.599 --> 00:48:10.469
And I always say this. If the shoe fits, wear it.
995
00:48:10.469 --> 00:48:12.730
I'm not talking about you. If we're talking about creators,
996
00:48:12.789 --> 00:48:13.670
I'm talking about getting better.
997
00:48:13.690 --> 00:48:15.170
That's not a me problem. That's you problem.
998
00:48:15.610 --> 00:48:16.389
I never say no names.
999
00:48:16.510 --> 00:48:18.449
I don't ever call out names. I don't ever point fingers.
1000
00:48:18.909 --> 00:48:21.670
Yeah. But I say all of that to say this.
1001
00:48:21.769 --> 00:48:24.920
If folks... Take more time just understanding stuff. That's why
1002
00:48:24.940 --> 00:48:27.420
I always sit back, Donovan, and I say this. How
1003
00:48:27.440 --> 00:48:30.159
did folks get from the age of 10 to 20
1004
00:48:30.159 --> 00:48:34.130
to 20 to 30 and so on? Because you clearly
1005
00:48:34.150 --> 00:48:37.630
were just coddled the whole entire time. Like, you know
1006
00:48:37.650 --> 00:48:39.429
when you go on the field, you see those kids
1007
00:48:39.489 --> 00:48:42.349
on the field trip, or you see mom or dad
1008
00:48:42.750 --> 00:48:45.429
have these kids attached to that, like, telephone cord thing?
1009
00:48:46.170 --> 00:48:48.340
You must have been going through from 10 to 20
1010
00:48:48.340 --> 00:48:52.090
with that on, because... Some folks ask some questions, or
1011
00:48:52.110 --> 00:48:56.230
you get into conversations, you're just like, you know the answer.
1012
00:48:56.429 --> 00:49:00.090
You know the answer. But you were so fucking handheld
1013
00:49:00.650 --> 00:49:03.989
for your whole entire life that you now have to
1014
00:49:04.050 --> 00:49:07.230
now go out and live life without that security blanket.
1015
00:49:08.150 --> 00:49:10.800
And then folks will, you can't be so hard on me.
1016
00:49:10.809 --> 00:49:13.309
I'm not being hard on you. Understand, if people are
1017
00:49:13.349 --> 00:49:16.070
hard on you, because they have love for you.
1018
00:49:16.090 --> 00:49:17.809
Yeah, they usually care.
1019
00:49:18.369 --> 00:49:18.789
They care.
1020
00:49:19.409 --> 00:49:20.679
And they see so much more for you.
1021
00:49:22.619 --> 00:49:24.260
It's hard for people to see for themselves.
1022
00:49:25.940 --> 00:49:32.829
Yeah. It's interesting to see like, you know, I'm 47. No,
1023
00:49:32.929 --> 00:49:35.070
I don't look it.
1024
00:49:35.090 --> 00:49:36.309
You don't look 47, brother.
1025
00:49:36.329 --> 00:49:42.909
Because I take care of myself. You don't have 47, brother.
1026
00:49:42.949 --> 00:49:45.760
Yeah, I know. 47 going on 32 tops.
1027
00:49:46.519 --> 00:49:47.780
Nah, and if it wasn't for this little bit of
1028
00:49:47.800 --> 00:49:49.030
gray in my beard, it would be a little bit.
1029
00:49:49.039 --> 00:49:49.699
What do you mean?
1030
00:49:49.719 --> 00:49:50.679
That's the vibe, though.
1031
00:49:50.719 --> 00:49:52.260
That's the vibe. I know. That's what I'm saying. But
1032
00:49:52.280 --> 00:49:53.719
it would be different. You wouldn't even think I was
1033
00:49:53.739 --> 00:49:58.099
that old. Don't keep that. But no. But like, no, man.
1034
00:49:58.119 --> 00:50:01.710
But it's legitimate, though. It's like we are in an
1035
00:50:01.849 --> 00:50:05.489
era where, you know, everybody wants, and I'll say it again,
1036
00:50:05.530 --> 00:50:07.909
everybody wants the product. but nobody's willing to go through
1037
00:50:07.929 --> 00:50:09.630
the process of what it gets there. And the process
1038
00:50:09.670 --> 00:50:13.000
is where you learn so much. The process is where you,
1039
00:50:13.179 --> 00:50:16.039
you were developed. The process is where you're forged. The
1040
00:50:16.079 --> 00:50:17.699
process is where you've got to go through the fire.
1041
00:50:17.719 --> 00:50:20.679
You got to get through the thing. So that's the storm, right?
1042
00:50:20.800 --> 00:50:23.119
You want the, you don't want to go through the storm.
1043
00:50:23.139 --> 00:50:24.780
You want to go around the storm and you, then
1044
00:50:24.800 --> 00:50:27.139
you want the products of all the things that the storm,
1045
00:50:27.219 --> 00:50:29.670
you know, has left behind, right? You want, you want
1046
00:50:29.690 --> 00:50:33.030
the beautiful sunrise and the sun, the beautiful calmness and
1047
00:50:33.150 --> 00:50:35.449
all the things after the storm, but you got to
1048
00:50:35.489 --> 00:50:38.699
go through the storm. Like you mentioned, you know, and
1049
00:50:38.739 --> 00:50:42.130
everybody wants the product, but not the process. But the
1050
00:50:42.150 --> 00:50:44.769
process is truly the gift because that's the part that
1051
00:50:45.329 --> 00:50:50.769
forges you. You learn so much through it. You have now,
1052
00:50:50.829 --> 00:50:54.320
you now have information that you can apply at any
1053
00:50:54.360 --> 00:50:57.440
point in time because you've been through it before. So
1054
00:50:57.480 --> 00:50:59.559
now I know how to handle those situations if they
1055
00:50:59.599 --> 00:51:03.530
come again. This is what you do. And it's like, hey,
1056
00:51:03.610 --> 00:51:05.730
it's uncomfortable. It's crazy because I just came back from
1057
00:51:05.750 --> 00:51:08.289
church and church talked, they talked about this. It's like
1058
00:51:08.429 --> 00:51:13.530
the pain, the pain that you experience is that when
1059
00:51:13.570 --> 00:51:16.590
you try to avoid it, but you avoid it by
1060
00:51:16.650 --> 00:51:19.349
medicating it, right? You medicate it and then it's still there.
1061
00:51:19.949 --> 00:51:21.250
And then you don't deal with it again. So you
1062
00:51:21.269 --> 00:51:22.510
look at it from a standpoint, it's like I got
1063
00:51:22.530 --> 00:51:25.750
to medicate again to get around. But the pain is
1064
00:51:25.849 --> 00:51:30.559
still there. You haven't dealt with it yet. You're too
1065
00:51:30.579 --> 00:51:33.019
busy worried about how it makes you feel as opposed
1066
00:51:33.039 --> 00:51:35.639
to like, I need to deal with this so I
1067
00:51:35.659 --> 00:51:37.760
can get over it. And that's how my mentality is.
1068
00:51:37.780 --> 00:51:39.059
It's like every time I see a problem, it's like,
1069
00:51:39.159 --> 00:51:41.440
I got to deal with this. And that's my choice
1070
00:51:41.460 --> 00:51:42.619
to say, I don't want to deal with it right
1071
00:51:42.659 --> 00:51:45.719
now because I have enough and I'll deal with it,
1072
00:51:45.739 --> 00:51:46.940
but I got to deal with it at some point.
1073
00:51:48.880 --> 00:51:50.400
And that's the most important part is that I have
1074
00:51:50.420 --> 00:51:54.730
to deal with it. It's on me. And right now,
1075
00:51:54.750 --> 00:51:56.530
I feel like even in this space of dating, and
1076
00:51:56.550 --> 00:52:00.309
you might see it too, people want... Like you've made
1077
00:52:00.349 --> 00:52:03.250
so many mistakes in your life. Now you're looking at
1078
00:52:03.409 --> 00:52:06.630
me to solve those problems for you. I'm not your
1079
00:52:06.650 --> 00:52:11.309
problem solver. You know what I'm saying? Like you think, wait,
1080
00:52:12.429 --> 00:52:14.150
you think I would want, I've been through that. You
1081
00:52:14.170 --> 00:52:17.769
think I want that again? No, I want you to,
1082
00:52:18.130 --> 00:52:21.360
you come to me, not a finished product, but at
1083
00:52:21.380 --> 00:52:23.380
least you've gone through what you've gone through and you've
1084
00:52:23.449 --> 00:52:28.400
learned something along the way. And you value me more
1085
00:52:28.460 --> 00:52:30.340
because you know what? You've been through it too. And
1086
00:52:30.380 --> 00:52:31.550
we both can understand each other.
1087
00:52:32.340 --> 00:52:34.170
So now you got it. I'm just going to keep you.
1088
00:52:35.190 --> 00:52:37.349
You feel the layout? I'm just going to come off
1089
00:52:37.369 --> 00:52:39.329
the put back, right? I'm going to put back on
1090
00:52:39.349 --> 00:52:44.949
like three of the defenders. Men and women, listen to
1091
00:52:44.989 --> 00:52:52.010
this real quick. When you're finding your mate, date someone
1092
00:52:53.190 --> 00:52:55.699
that is in the same orbit as you, if that
1093
00:52:55.739 --> 00:52:59.159
makes sense. See where I'm going with this. When I
1094
00:52:59.199 --> 00:53:04.699
say same orbit, if they're a creator and you're a creator,
1095
00:53:05.260 --> 00:53:08.909
they're going to understand your plight. A nine to five
1096
00:53:08.989 --> 00:53:13.329
person may not understand what dating a creator is like,
1097
00:53:14.110 --> 00:53:17.050
because even if we may work a nine to five,
1098
00:53:17.289 --> 00:53:19.489
our mindsets are straight on creating. So they're not going
1099
00:53:19.510 --> 00:53:22.119
to be able to support necessarily through that journey. And
1100
00:53:22.159 --> 00:53:24.909
that's where you're going to get a little rift. I've
1101
00:53:24.949 --> 00:53:28.570
seen this in my spaces of some great people that
1102
00:53:28.590 --> 00:53:31.969
I know, both creators, you know, I'm not going to,
1103
00:53:31.969 --> 00:53:33.329
I'm just going to remain them nameless because I know
1104
00:53:33.349 --> 00:53:36.829
people are just going to get weird, but they're celebrating
1105
00:53:37.510 --> 00:53:39.730
their one year now engaged. You know what I mean?
1106
00:53:41.070 --> 00:53:44.329
You see what they're doing. They're both creators. Creators should
1107
00:53:44.389 --> 00:53:47.929
stick with creators. Entrepreneurs should stick with entrepreneurs. I think
1108
00:53:47.989 --> 00:53:50.789
nine to fivers should stick with nine to fivers unless
1109
00:53:50.829 --> 00:53:53.989
you understand what's going on in the world with that person.
1110
00:53:54.780 --> 00:53:57.980
Because I've been there. You've been there. You've got to
1111
00:53:58.000 --> 00:54:00.800
be on board. You've got to be on board. Because
1112
00:54:00.840 --> 00:54:03.719
the tiffs will happen. Listen, there's things I've skipped out on.
1113
00:54:04.199 --> 00:54:05.670
On some dead ass shit I've skipped out on a
1114
00:54:05.730 --> 00:54:08.449
lot of things. And it could be a birthday or
1115
00:54:08.469 --> 00:54:10.030
you've got to be able to date somebody that understands
1116
00:54:10.050 --> 00:54:11.530
what's going on. I know some people are going to
1117
00:54:11.550 --> 00:54:12.730
hear this and they're going to try to come back
1118
00:54:12.769 --> 00:54:15.250
on it. But is that the reason why we didn't
1119
00:54:15.269 --> 00:54:16.809
work out? No, we didn't work out because you're an
1120
00:54:16.829 --> 00:54:18.329
airhead and you're a bozo and I didn't like you
1121
00:54:18.369 --> 00:54:20.429
after a while. Because I just realized you have some
1122
00:54:20.449 --> 00:54:25.760
bad tendencies. There I said it. Headshot. Bang. I just,
1123
00:54:26.070 --> 00:54:29.889
just keep it real, right? You have to support the
1124
00:54:29.949 --> 00:54:32.329
play because if I'm pouring out into you, you got to,
1125
00:54:32.429 --> 00:54:33.809
it's not, I'm not asking you to pour back out
1126
00:54:33.829 --> 00:54:37.110
into me because regardless of matter, like the Amtrak train
1127
00:54:37.150 --> 00:54:39.289
is going down the track and I'm a freight train going.
1128
00:54:40.010 --> 00:54:41.449
You got to figure out what destination you want to
1129
00:54:41.469 --> 00:54:43.389
get on and how far you want to stand. Buckle up,
1130
00:54:43.429 --> 00:54:46.690
strap yourself in. I don't care. Do something. Get duct tape.
1131
00:54:46.829 --> 00:54:51.760
I don't know. Super glue because I'm going here and
1132
00:54:52.179 --> 00:54:54.469
you're going to come with me. But if I feel
1133
00:54:54.530 --> 00:54:57.889
any rift or tiff, like, bro, I'll leave you. I'll
1134
00:54:57.909 --> 00:54:58.190
leave you.
1135
00:54:58.849 --> 00:55:04.489
Yeah. They don't. It's crazy because, you know, we don't. Like,
1136
00:55:04.550 --> 00:55:07.389
I'm realizing that, you know, even with my, like I said,
1137
00:55:07.489 --> 00:55:11.250
I still have a solid nine to five, you know,
1138
00:55:11.429 --> 00:55:13.429
and I still have. And people even ask me, why
1139
00:55:13.449 --> 00:55:15.429
do you still have it? Because you know what? It's
1140
00:55:15.449 --> 00:55:18.449
good money. It's a guaranteed paycheck. I get a paycheck
1141
00:55:18.489 --> 00:55:21.150
every two weeks. And I don't have to do, I
1142
00:55:21.300 --> 00:55:23.929
don't have, I don't, I literally, it's a nine to five.
1143
00:55:24.889 --> 00:55:27.429
I don't, I don't stress, I don't stress myself about it.
1144
00:55:27.989 --> 00:55:31.090
I don't, I don't physically or mentally become tied to it.
1145
00:55:31.510 --> 00:55:34.190
I do my job and I go home and I
1146
00:55:34.230 --> 00:55:35.969
do more work and I'll work because I guess what?
1147
00:55:35.989 --> 00:55:38.909
I'm single. I can do, I can work though. Like
1148
00:55:38.949 --> 00:55:43.030
I'll literally leave work and do more work for me.
1149
00:55:43.389 --> 00:55:46.789
Now I work on my stuff, right? And I'm lucky
1150
00:55:46.809 --> 00:55:48.730
enough to be working from home right now. So it
1151
00:55:48.769 --> 00:55:49.699
makes it a lot easier for me.
1152
00:55:51.420 --> 00:55:53.820
Work from home life is probably one of the secret
1153
00:55:53.840 --> 00:55:56.300
ingredients before we get out of here. That's probably, I
1154
00:55:56.340 --> 00:55:57.949
will say this to a lot of folks. It's not
1155
00:55:57.989 --> 00:56:00.469
because the powers that be. I know we'll watch this
1156
00:56:00.510 --> 00:56:03.469
and be like, oh, well, we work from home. We're
1157
00:56:03.530 --> 00:56:06.429
gallivanting and we're doing it. No, you get all your
1158
00:56:06.449 --> 00:56:09.449
hours back, ladies and gentlemen. When I used to go
1159
00:56:09.489 --> 00:56:12.809
into work where there was a particular food court, those
1160
00:56:12.809 --> 00:56:16.489
10 minutes going to go get a coffee or a
1161
00:56:16.630 --> 00:56:19.380
snack or those 30 minutes you're going to go eat
1162
00:56:19.409 --> 00:56:22.110
your lunch. When you can do everything within the comfort
1163
00:56:22.130 --> 00:56:24.429
of your own home, you accumulate all your hours back.
1164
00:56:25.449 --> 00:56:28.309
People don't realize this shit. I could probably do, I
1165
00:56:28.570 --> 00:56:31.489
might do this eventually, where I'll show people a day
1166
00:56:31.530 --> 00:56:34.949
in the life of when you work from home. When
1167
00:56:34.969 --> 00:56:37.219
you're on the clock, you're working. Straight up. That's just
1168
00:56:37.239 --> 00:56:40.639
how it is. Non-negotiables, right? Yeah, you may have audible
1169
00:56:40.780 --> 00:56:43.780
playing to listen to something, stimulate your mind or whatever.
1170
00:56:43.800 --> 00:56:45.719
Maybe you have some music. Cool. I don't feel like
1171
00:56:45.739 --> 00:56:48.610
there's anything wrong with that. But when it comes down
1172
00:56:48.650 --> 00:56:50.429
to getting all your hours back, I spoke about you
1173
00:56:50.469 --> 00:56:52.570
get up in the morning. You can create that piece
1174
00:56:52.590 --> 00:56:55.170
of content. You can draft everything. You get home when
1175
00:56:55.989 --> 00:56:58.139
you're done work and you're home now. You don't got
1176
00:56:58.159 --> 00:57:00.070
to worry about all that other shit. You see what
1177
00:57:00.090 --> 00:57:03.659
I'm saying? All your hours come back. You save literally
1178
00:57:03.699 --> 00:57:06.420
from what I was reading on a LinkedIn post. I
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believe you get, I think it's about two to three
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hours back when you really equal it out in a day.
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Because you think about your travel. And then when you travel,
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you may have to make a stop at the store
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or Walmart or do all that. You're not doing all
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00:57:17.110 --> 00:57:20.460
that starting and stopping anymore. Everything goes back to yourself.
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That's why when I say to folks, I can't create
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content because I'm just whatever. There's time to do it.
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You're overthinking. And I do the same thing, bro. I overthink.
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00:57:29.159 --> 00:57:30.960
I got so much. I know I've missed out on
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00:57:31.000 --> 00:57:32.949
so much content because I just don't pick up. Just
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00:57:32.969 --> 00:57:35.070
take my phone out and start recording. Or I may
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have a ton of content that's on my phone right
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now that I have not. Just give it to somebody.
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Just say, hey, look, can you create some real quick
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for me?
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But this is where AI comes back into play. All
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those floating head videos, ladies and gentlemen, that you see
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on podcasts, people are chopping that up. Yes, they may
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have editors, but I can tell you a lot of
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them are using AI to take out the important points.
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Right?
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That's all you got to do is just figure it out.
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Learn the technology. You know what I mean?
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100%, man.
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Donovan, before we get out of here, though, brother, I'm
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Like I said, I need the audio book soon. Yeah.
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I'm going to get the book. You feel what I'm saying?
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You called me out on that. You held me accountable.
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And I always say to support the fucking creator, man.
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Game on how to win business and life. Your baby,
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your passion. I need to get the audio book for.
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Sure, for sure. Yeah. I'm working on that. I'm working
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on that right now using, you know, our tools that
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we have in our toolbox, right? Yeah, bro. It's powerful.
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Everybody who I've... Who is... purchased it um they'll come
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back to me it's like man it was it was
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powerful it was uh inspirational it was uh motivational it
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was uh it had me crying it had me feeling
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a good family it helped me look at it a
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00:58:50.820 --> 00:58:53.340
different way never really thought about the game ology and
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the things in which they were used because i i
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think the biggest thing is as we've people forget you're
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only going to be a child for 18 years considered
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a child for 18 years right some a little older
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than that right or a That's a whole other conversation.
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but there was a point in time when they told
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us to stop playing games but when we played games
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we had we were brave we were you know i
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call it we were courageous we were we we didn't
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have we had no fear right of going to talk
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to people of of just we were creative We had
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so many great qualities when we went out and played games.
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That's with strangers. That's with our family. That's whatever it is.
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It's like we became competitive. It just changed who we are.
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And then we were told to stop playing games. But
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then we didn't realize that even though we stopped playing
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our game, we start playing someone else's game, right? You
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start going to work for somebody else. So now you're
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playing your own little game. You're playing their game on Monopoly.
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You're not playing yours. You pretty much became an NPC,
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non-player character, right? In your own life. And I even,
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like I said, I talk about that. And, you know,
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I even talk about like some of the games that
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we've played before in our lives. It should give us
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inspiration because the answers are right there. Look at Tetris.
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Look at the game like Tetris. You can get stacked up.
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Things can get stacked up against you. And all you
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01:00:14.969 --> 01:00:17.719
need is one good move. You need the right piece.
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You need one piece just to drop right down in
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01:00:20.219 --> 01:00:22.539
that one little area and it will change everything for you.
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You look at Monopoly. Right. Monopoly literally tells you how
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01:00:29.289 --> 01:00:31.909
to maneuver through finances and how to build your build
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your wealth. You don't but we don't look at that way. Right.
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I love this one. Zelda. Look at like games like
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adventure games like this. Right. We and in my chapter
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in chapter two, it's I call it the fog. Right.
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There are times in which because we don't see the
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full map of our plan that we have and we
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don't see how we're going to get there, we don't
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make a move. But you know, like in a video
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game is if you just take a step towards the fog,
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it will start to disappear. It will start to lift away, right?
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But we don't do anything. We won't make a move
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because we have an idea of like, oh, that business. Well,
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my family may not like it or who cares? It's
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not about your family. It's not about your friends. It's
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not about that. It's about you. What is it that
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you want to create? And I said it earlier. We
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were created by the creator to create. There's something inside
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of you that you really need to tap into and
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you really need to focus on. And I promise you,
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That this book will help you identify those things and
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help you get you to that point. I poured a
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lot into this, man. A lot of emotions, a lot
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of ups and downs. Like I said, four years to write,
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four different versions. And I had to go through the seasons.
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I had to go through the whole process of this
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book to get to finish it. And I think that's
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what God needed me, God wanted me to go through,
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was to go through the whole book. as myself, you know,
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it was, this is, I'm the player, I'm the game
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01:01:55.989 --> 01:01:58.210
master of this. And, uh, I really had to do
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01:01:58.230 --> 01:02:00.469
that and I appreciate it. So it, it had to
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happen when it, when it happened, I couldn't force it
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to happen. I could have forced this and just, I've
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heard people say, Oh, just release it. And this, you
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just be done with it. And you're like, you should
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be happy that you didn't. So I don't want to
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just put out something.
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I'm going to get a few copies on, on, on, on,
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on everything I'm saying. I made a few copies because
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01:02:20.079 --> 01:02:23.039
why that is, I know you, Two, I always love
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to support the creator. And three, I feel like these
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are things that you get to not only learn from,
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but if I can take that book and give it
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to someone and be like, hey, listen, I know someone
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01:02:35.550 --> 01:02:39.090
personally that wrote this. This is for you. You know
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01:02:39.110 --> 01:02:42.260
what I mean? And I feel like do with what
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01:02:42.280 --> 01:02:43.960
you want to do with it. If you want to
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01:02:44.000 --> 01:02:45.460
put it on your desk and do with all that,
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because we need to go back And I just say this,
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01:02:49.940 --> 01:02:52.800
we need to start being more giving these days. I
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01:02:52.820 --> 01:02:54.519
think a lot of the time, so many folks are
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01:02:54.539 --> 01:02:57.949
just individual mindsets. Oh, I don't want to do this.
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Oh, no.
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Dead ass. You're going to see. You're going to see.
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You're going to see. This is how much was purchased.
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You know what I mean? Because it needs to happen. Yeah.
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For sure.
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For sure.
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I appreciate that, brother. I really do.
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It's love.
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I'm not in the business of getting rich off my
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books at all, but I know my book is a
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business card. And if it can help somebody, and if
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I can even help change a curriculum- for schools, for
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01:03:19.289 --> 01:03:21.769
how people are thinking. If I can shift and help
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01:03:21.909 --> 01:03:25.170
somebody break through the things that have been holding them
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01:03:25.210 --> 01:03:30.769
back from their dreams and really take back their controller
1319
01:03:31.369 --> 01:03:33.630
to realize that you are truly in control of the
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things that you want in your life and allow them
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to help themselves become more of a game master, that's
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all I care about, bro, is the impact.
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I love that.
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01:03:45.309 --> 01:03:49.050
That's the impact. Money is a byproduct of what I do.
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It will show its way. I'll get it in contracts
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with teams or with schools or whatever it may be.
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I'll get it back through that. If I'm doing good,
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I know God will reward me for the things that
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I've been doing.
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Big facts. Big facts. Real rap. Brother, plug your social media.
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We're going to have everything in the show notes, 100%. Okay.
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And definitely all that good stuff. But plug your social
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media and wherever we can check you out.
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Sure. You can find me at, yeah, you can find me.
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You can purchase the book also at donovangaspar.com. That's donovangaspar.com.
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You can find me at Mr. Get On Point pretty
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01:04:25.829 --> 01:04:28.010
much on all of the, the Mr. Get On Point
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01:04:28.210 --> 01:04:31.690
on all of the socials from TikTok to IG to
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even think it's on Facebook and YouTube.
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Love that, definitely. We got to make sure when we
1341
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share everything out, it's all going to go right back around.
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You know what I mean?
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Absolutely, man. I appreciate it, brother. Thank you for having
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01:04:44.239 --> 01:04:46.050
me on, man. Dude, it's love, man. Come on.
1345
01:04:46.079 --> 01:04:48.539
Are we going to do this in person next time? Absolutely,
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01:04:48.559 --> 01:04:51.909
we will. That'll be dope. I'll try to play it
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01:04:51.949 --> 01:04:54.210
away game for that, maybe. Maybe I'll come down to
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01:04:54.250 --> 01:04:55.670
your place. You know what I mean?
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01:04:55.710 --> 01:04:58.530
Yeah, man. Anytime. You're welcome here anytime, man. This is
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my little setup here, and I got another one in
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01:05:00.750 --> 01:05:02.409
my garage that I'm building out, too.
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I love that. I love that. All right, brother. I
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appreciate you.
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All right, bro. I appreciate you, man. Thanks.