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A mixed-ability couple coming up on 11 years of marriage share the exact systems they build so chronic illness doesn't break their relationship. Madelyn lives with multiple chronic illnesses — including hashimoto's, Celiac, and hEDS — while raising three kids with her husband Denham, and together they've turned their mixed-ability relationship into a life that works for both of them.
In this episode, you'll hear how they stopped chasing big dreams that no longer fit and scaled them down into something better: a paid off mortgage plan, chickens, a berry patch, and a life where everything in it is there because they chose it. Madelyn shares the monthly financial audit and weekly self-review that keep their decisions pre-made instead of decided in the moment, and the practice of saying no that she had to learn on purpose. Denham — the well partner — opens up about the year. he wasn't handling it well, the healthy thought patterns that pulled him out, and why the Golden rule isn't enough( he makes the case for the Platinum rule instead).
We also get into the hard stuff: preventing resentment from piling up in an inner enabled relationship, what Madelyn calls the invisible disability tax, the trust that lets her rest without guilt, and the one change they made to their kids' bedtime that gave their marriage its time back.
whether you're the chronically, ill partner, the well partner, or you love someone navigating chronic illness, this conversation is full of tools. you can use — value, filters, life, audits, and systems that hold a family together when energy is limited.
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