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Grief touches all of us—so why are we so rarely given permission to feel it fully? On this moving episode of M.E.S.H., Dr. Pamela Brewer welcomes Dr. Shalanda, a licensed psychotherapist whose expertise spans both the loss of loved ones and the quieter griefs that accompany major life changes. 💛 Together they unpack why grief is at once universal and deeply individual, how rigid "recovery boxes" at work can do more harm than good, and what happens when one partner needs to talk while the other stays silent. Dr. Shalanda generously shares her own story of loss and the single conversation that helped both her and her husband begin to heal. Whether you're grieving a person, a pet, a career, or a chapter of your life that's quietly closed, this conversation offers compassion, perspective, and gentle, practical ways to move toward healing on your own terms.
🌟 Topics Covered:
Why grief is universal yet completely individual
The "mediator of mourning" and what shapes how we grieve
Grieving a pet, a career, a home, or a major transition
What happens when couples grieve on different timelines
How stuffed emotions show up as physical pain
Practical ways to process loss—journaling, talking, recording
Finding support systems, groups, and affordable help
Key Takeaways:
Grief has no universal timeline—your process is valid even if it looks different from others'.
Letting emotions out, in whatever form works for you, is healing, not weakness.
Unexpressed grief can settle into the body as real physical pain.
One honest conversation can open the door to mutual healing.
Loss isn't only about death—career change, moving, and even "positive" change can bring grief.
If you feel alone, support exists: people, groups, and sliding-scale help are within reach.
Some questions I ask:
Are there really stages of grief, or is that a myth?
What do you say to someone given only two weeks to grieve a profound loss?
Could coming back to work too soon actually hurt productivity more than being absent?
What do you tell couples where one wants to talk constantly and the other never?
How were you able to access your husband's willingness to talk?
What can you say to the person who insists they're "done" and won't talk?
What would you say to someone feeling completely alone in their loss?
Can a positive change still bring real grief?
Learn more about our guest:
YouTube: @tookeswilderguidance
Instagram: ShalandaSays
Resource List:
Programs mentioned: GriefShare support groups (volunteer-led, often church-based, possible small supply fee with affordability accommodations)
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