Benedicte Kalala: So after you, you've not taken your marriage commitment. You come back in my house, in my dwelling place. Let's plug it in podcast. I'm your host, Benny. And we are back in the living room. We are back in the living room because we're still watching. Love is blind. You get them in its people. Y'all when I tell you, I literally recorded episode three and four in my last watch my colleague, the last review that I posted. But tell me why somehow, somehow, somewhere I don't deleted everything accidentally that is. And I was aggravated, but I was like, you know what? We just can't bring it back. Obviously I can't rewatch it. So y'all just gonna have to trust my word in replying to y'all what I had said. But before we do that, please go ahead and subscribe. Okay, turn on the notification bell so that you always don't wanna upload and go ahead and subscribe and follow me on the Apple Podcast and on the Spotify. Do all of the things, I appreciate it. And I know it's a lot of things happening. I wanna weigh my thoughts on a lot of things. We got a good brother, a watch more cally. Dijon mustard love that was out here scamming the women of God. I have so many thoughts on that because anyway, the insecure tofu will be canceled and we got our good sister over here. Dota was on herself, Amanda Seals, celebrating that the wash them up, it the insecure tofu will be canceled. So we got to talk about that a little bit. We got to talk about all of the things that's happening. We got a wash them up, call it lab grown meat that they are here trying to feed the people of God. It's a lot of. things happening and I think my next video is gonna be just you know catching up on all of the thoughts that I have all of the thoughts that's been brewing okay so my next video is gonna be about that and then we're gonna come back to the love is blind UK people just to kind of like you know let it do what it do okay so please subscribe Turn on the notification bell so that you always know when I upload, follow and rate me on Apple podcasts and on Spotify. I appreciate it. I appreciate it. Okay. So we're done left off with episode two where we had our good sister, Kiara, who was letting us know that Jack Bean told her that things was no longer going to work out between the two of them because he wanted to go ahead and follow up his relationship. Okay. And his connection, his WIFI connection with friend, okay, the former housekeeper. It was a mess, could not tell that baby's name. He caught an attitude with Kiara and Kiara went down there in the lounge, letting Faye know. And you have Faye over here talking about her like, ⁓ I'm not going you know, be with somebody that ain't trying to be with me, blaze, blaze. Have no interest in getting to know someone who isn't genuine. And I remember in the original video that I lost, I remember Lily saying like, dang, I know she's talking a good talk, but she gonna go in there, jargon, tell her a whole bunch of nothing. Okay. And she's going to fall for it because the reality is she really just wants to live this experiment with somebody. So she's going to take, you know, Kiara's words, no matter how, you know, truthful they are, no matter how valid she knows they actually are, because way in the beginning, before Kiara even knew that the two of them were kind of like fitting the same man, she done came into the pot, not the past, the lounge. She done came into the lounge talking about how like, Hey, This guy Jack, you know, told me he loved me jokingly and Fay had to come out and be like, wait a minute, he told me the same thing. So based off of that alone, Fay, really ain't got no reason for real, for real, to not trust the words of Kiara. Granted, people can be truffling, people can do a one, two, one, three, but based off of that, you can at least tell that, what's his name? That Jack is somebody that's saying certain things to other people. that he's not only saying to you. So if he was down there in the past letting you know that you was his number one, based off of that experience alone, there should be something in your mind that's gonna be like, what if it's actually true that he also went and told other people that they were his number one? So you really have, you don't have enough grounds to essentially doubt Ciara, but yet and still, our girl system walked into the pot. She ain't really pressed Jack for real for real. Jack was out here talking about how, like, know, Ciara finna be a hater, blaze, blaze. And of course, falls for Ray. You know, he had flowers for her and the two of them, carry on. You're my match in here. I also think you're my match in here as well. When she goes back into the lounge, Ciara is a girl. You know, when I was down there, he ain't even knew your name, blaze, blaze. She apologised, hey, I'm sorry. I shouldn't have kind of like, you know. I shouldn't have snuck up on you like that after my date because I feel like my reaction may have been overwhelming. I shouldn't have come out there, you know, blabbing my mouth because I should have, you know, respected your feelings a little bit more given that you were still also, you know, dating Jack. Like I shouldn't have come and just kind of like dumped on you like that, which I appreciated her doing. ⁓ by the way, actually, wait, actually that was before Faye went on her date with Jack. And so even after that conversation, she was essentially just kind of like, Hey, be careful. I don't think Jack is being genuine. She goes into the dates, Jack tells her a whole bunch of nothing. She falls for it and the two of them carry on. The spiritual ginger people, they love each other. They're connecting. They're not trying to hurt their kids. Go down there to, watch them call it to public schools because public schools is evil and all of the things they want to do the things the natural way, the spiritual way. They're going to hug the trees together. And then they're going to go down there in, I watch them call it in India. And the woman going to, I watch them call it teach our good sister Cuba. okay, about meditation and all of the things. So all the couples get engaged. And the other thing that happened that was, you know, kind of like a little drama that was brewing, you had, you know, Joseph who was struggling between picking between Francesca and our good sister, Chevronique. I'd made a decision. I think Francesca is my priority. And so he then went on one of the dates, you know, to essentially end things with our good sister, Chevronique. And Chevronique was like, uh-uh. I'm finna fight for you. I'm finna get in the ring and fight for my love. She was like, give me a chance. We finna make it work, blazey, blazey. I don't wanna leave here with regrets. Everything else aligns. And I'm like, why we doing ourself a disservice? So now Joseph was confused and he was gonna be like, okay, I'm going, you know, let me, let's have another date and let it do what it do. Is it worth us having another date and then seeing how we both feel? So now... I watched my holy chevron. He comes back in the pot. And so now Francesca, she's fighting for her life and she's fighting for her virginity. Right. And so now the next date that was her name that Francesca had with Joseph Francesca gon send a watch. McCauley pancakes on the other side. And I was just kind of like, one hand, I appreciate the girl is, you know, trying to be a little bit more intentional about like these men and gave you a nothing and a half. Okay. The man was giving, we want the princess treatment. We're not finna do a little one, two, one, three. The man gave nothing. You have Francesca over here sending the cupcakes, she sending the rolls and all of the things. And now you have Svaneek down there in the lounge fighting for her virginity too because she knew she had one more day with, watch my call here, her good brother Joseph the Christian, right? And so she was like, okay, I guess I got to do something. And you know, one of the, the, the, the, the, the, girlies in the land was like, yeah, you should write a poet. So she was down there trying to draft up a poem, getting her Maya Angelou on, fighting for her virginity and her coochie juice to go ahead and secure the relations with Joseph. you, Joseph didn't give nothing and a half to none of the girlies. A lot of the men. they just be giving princess treatment. They not even actually courting the girlies for real. nobody send no flowers, ain't nobody send no poem, and nobody did nothing. The man sat there, okay, waiting for the girlies to be courting them and waiting for the girlies to be doing the gestures to secure the relations. And I'm just kinda like, men used to hunt and gather. Okay? Men, they used to hunt and gather. They used to start fire by grabbing two rocks together. Men used to fish. Fishers of men and fishers of women. Men used to do a lot of one, two, one, two, but these days, the men got way too long of a skincare routine and they're not doing nothing for the girlies. It just was not giving. Hello? I was aggravated, but nonetheless. watched my colleague, Francesca was out here fighting for her virginity and her cootie juice to go on and secure the relations with our good brother Joseph the Christian, the man of God, okay? Finally, he gone go back to Shevonique and he was like, uh-uh, I think Francesca Finn will be it for me. And Shevonique was like, you know what, I tried, I was vulnerable, I gave my best shot, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, They really got close with the relations with the other women, right? And so they did a little archy thingy for good sister Chevronie to essentially walk out and do a little one-two-one-three. It was cute. And so obviously now you have Joseph. You leaving, mama? Okay, bye, y'all. So then you had Joseph with Francesca. Then you have the spiritual ginger people. Then you had, what you might call him, I'm gonna have sex 10 times a night ⁓ and Sophie together. I don't know what that baby is. I think it's gonna be Taylor and Sophie. Then you had a good sister, what you might call him. What's her name? The girl with Jordan, I'm forgetting her name. The girl that's dating Jordan, the name not coming to my mind right now. Yasmin, Yasmin and Jordan. And then you had, who else we had child? The way this people not memorable. You had Jack with them proposed to Faye, they together too. And then you had, what's his name? ⁓ You had AJ with Kiara, because Kiara after things ended with Jack, she done went back and was like, okay, I'm from the far from my virginity and also secure my relations with AJ. And AJ was like, okay, we together blaze, blaze. And so we had six couples that went off to whatever vacation they went down to. And down at the vacation, we see how some of them, they're feeling a little bit more intimate with each other already. Sophie and Taylor, they were just touching, touching, touching, touching. Jordan and Yasmin, they were taking their time because again, our good sister Yasmin, she's like, uh-uh, I ain't been with nobody. My parents are gonna be African. And what you might call it, rabbi. It's not even we'll be doing boyfriends and the things. You gonna be married to your both until you done. That's why she gonna be a physician associate. They had that going on. Everybody's connection seems to be nice. Jack is still talking out of the side of his mouth. And so that's where I left off. And now we gonna watch it together and let it do what it do. Okay. All right, child. That was a lot. Trying to summarize two episodes in a little quickie. That was a lot. But anyways, Now this is gonna be episode, this is gonna be episode five. All right, they down there, and it be the child, and that looks so good. That looks so good, I'm about to go ahead and apply to Love is Wrong. Is they gonna come, yes or no? And everybody bonding, everybody bonding, you got Francesca out here, the breasticles are out, making a debut. The view for the people of God. Jack is still talking out of his booty hole, but he gonna go ahead and bring fruit to Fay. And Fay out here just laughing, enjoying the whole dog on town. Girl, your edges gonna be go down there and be left in the waters of Ibiza. Okay, what's waiting for you on the horizon? I feel you be good. Okay? The spiritual people, they in the pool and all of the things. And now you got AJ. By the way, he's gonna have a skincare routine that's gonna be about 75 different steps. And while he gonna do the pull-ups, and then you have Kiara out here lifting him up and down. What's going on? The sexual people, they down there, I guess they call, did they do sexual activities, yes or no? They ain't said nothing, but let's see. ⁓ Now you gotta go see, so you ask me out here talking about how she comfortable with Jordan, and I'm like Jordan, so far everything seems nice, but it's like dang, what is gonna come on the horizon? And you got Jack over here laughing and it's like, Faye, did you give him the goodies already? Like what, what, happened last night? ⁓ Lord. She laughing too much for me, Cher. That you liked her the most. Kiara is telling the truth. I'm sure when you see this, you're going to be annoyed. You trying to say something like, ⁓ Kiara thought it's those such and such. No, she wasn't thinking this out of the blue. Jack said she was the number one. Let's show that in his confessionals, he don't let the people of God know that if he don't propose to Kiara, that he has the strongest connection with Kiara and nobody comes close. You sort of kind of do the one, two, one, three to him, but his connection has always been Kiara. Kiara ain't lying about that. Just a bird. Your bird house is made of premium feathers, beloved. Just premium. The feathers is premium. And the crazy thing is the way he's talking about Kiara is just so disrespectful and so distasteful. And you got fed over there laughing. It is always weary to me whenever you have the girlies that will watch another man insult a woman and they laughing. There's nothing about you as a girlie that should make you feel comfortable enough to be laughing when a man gonna be disrespectful about another woman, especially a woman. who's essentially a guest-pissed-im-off. Because what lets me know is that when I now piss you off, you gonna talk to me the same way you talking about such and such. He gonna be like, ⁓ if she's, you know, talking up her ass, I'm gonna tell her about herself. And you got favor, like, kakakakak ⁓ If a man gonna be this combative and this argumentative, or I'm gonna go ahead and tell her about herself, blah, blah, blah, because he's upset and annoyed at her, when he's upset and annoyed at you, what kind of treatment you think you finna get? Again, some of y'all be thinking that the fetus that try to use for your bird house makes you special. It does not. It does not. Immediately, Kiara is annoyed. As soon as she sees that man, immediately annoyed. And I don't know why they made Jack and whatchamacallit and Faye be the last couple. Because typically, love is blind beyond this thing where it's like they're going to have almost like the power couple sort of kind of be the ones to kind of like come last. I don't know why they would think it's going to be Jack and Faye. But coming down to that, me know. Kiara immediately, she's like, ⁓ my God, here comes this lie. look for something. ⁓ she said the mustache is not giving it's good for some people but not for me okay it's just I don't know why I be trying to rock or what you might call it a mustache by itself like it just the undertones don't be raw. There's a late finish and there's no start. And so they have their necessary awkward conversation where everybody got to explain to the class like what y'all did last night did y'all touch and agree and if so how much it just be awkward. Their own group is even more awkward because I don't think the girlies that are over here legitimately like themselves, not themselves. They don't even like each other like that, like that, for real, for real. So it's just giving really awkward. It's just giving like, okay, what are we really talking about? But of course, yapping about all the things that they did. Jack was down there doing a little one, two, one, three. Whatchamacallit. Honey Taylor. Honey Taylor was out here doing a whole lot of two-story rolling. Ciao everybody, honny, ⁓ So now it's gonna be a predicament. And also, Kiara not really drinking. So everybody taking shots, Kiara is like, I'm a Pilates girlie. I take my health very seriously. Thank you very much. I'm gonna pulse. Okay, as soon as we done this, I'm gonna pulse. I'm gonna pulse my neck like this. So I can't handle alcohol out here just like terrorizing my spirit and my watchman colleague. What's the alcohol gonna do? Is it to your liver or to your lungs? What's the other thing? Lever now. This was, I knew it was an L thing. Just trying to judge me. So she's like, ain't no, it ain't going to be no alcohol down my liver now. Okay. But so now she going to be standing with the great leads and she going to be like, you know, Jack says something about me that was untrue when Jack essentially went into the lounge, to to the male lounge and told everybody that Kierra done said that, you know, that he was her number one. And remember, had played it back. Kiara said, she didn't say that because she had said, you know, you are, you know, you're very much like up there. She didn't say that you are my number one. And so now you got Joseph over here on something like, well, you know, he came in the lounge and told everybody that you said he was your number one. So I'm not sure what the conversation went like that made him think that you said he was your number one. So now it's just kind of like we're leaning on semantics and I really just want maybe at the reunion or something for somebody to actually play the fullness of the conversation to see if in fact, Kiara said that that baby was, you know, her number one. But from what we saw, Kiara never said that. Comment down below, let me know. I don't care. I feel like it does annoy you. Girl, it's something for you. It is an issue. Stop lying. ⁓ you know, it's a non-issue for me. gonna be Kiara. Girl, it's an issue. You know you is annoyed. You know you're annoyed. Cause Joseph is like, yeah, it feels like this is something that's bothering you. So maybe I have the conversation. Somebody had the conversation. Tell me one, two, one, three. Let me see. It's of like an attack on my character. It's like I was a fake person. Is Jack okay? Like, is he aware? Like, does he know the cameras were on? Like we heard, like we literally heard him say all of the things. ⁓ it's going to be an attack on my character character. I my character, say some lies about me to say there is nothing here was said to, to, say that's actually like, there's literally nothing. She said I was a lot. And of course you got Joseph of like, you know, that's my guy, blaze, blaze. And I don't want anybody speaking badly of him. The bro's gonna stick by the bro's. I understand that. Like he don't know the story. He hasn't seen anything. based off of what he knows, He only knows Jack's side of the story. But it's like, Kiara hasn't lied. Like, comment down below, me know. I've watched the show. And because I've been watching and stopping at every sentence, that baby literally did not say that at all. At all. There's nothing she said about Jack that's a lie. Because you are fake though. Because that baby's name is Faye and you called her friend, okay? You called her friend after all this time letting everybody know that Kiara was the one. The only time Kiara stopped being the one is that one time when you didn't remember that Kiara was gonna be a vegan. Okay, she don't like no cheese. The cheese that she likes is gonna be made with, what she's gonna call it, cashew and almonds. She don't like cheddar, okay? She don't like. know, what you know, call it mozzarella. She don't like that. You didn't remember that because you actually do more talking than you do listening. And so once she was annoyed at you at the date, you left the path and was like, you know what, nevermind on Kiara, I'm going to focus on Fay. Or should I say Fran? There's nothing that she lied about. You are fake. You are dishonest. You talk too much. And you do not pay attention to nobody by yourself. Like, is he okay in the head? Like, you do realize there were cameras. Is he crack? ⁓ And even Joseph tries to bring it up to him or something like, from what she's saying, and I remember you coming into the party like, hey, Kiara said that I am her number one. And she said that that was fake. He doesn't really address that. ⁓ that was a miscommunication. Then explain the miscommunication. Explain that then. It ain't no explanation. ⁓ I'm just gonna go ahead and talk to Kiara. Let's see how the talk feel girl. And again, now he going to try to hang up on semantics. Like, ⁓ I kind of said it. Jokey. Jokey. It wasn't Jokey. Jokey. You set all the boys in the lounge and you were literally like, she said, you're my number one. Like, and you know, everyone's like, ⁓ my gosh, hyping you up. Literally like it wasn't a Jokey Jokey conversation. You went to an even before you went into the part with Kiara, you were basically saying like, ⁓ to definitely be like decision day for me. And so because of that, you went into the pot first with, know, Faye, and I think, you know, after with Kiara. I'm not sure if was Kiara first or, you know, Faye after. But you were like, okay, this is decision day for me. And so you went and asked the girlies how they felt about you. Because it's like, whoever felt about you the most strongly, you are gonna focus your attention on them. So the conversation was never a jokey-jokey. You literally said it to her. Several times in your confessionals, to the boys when you came out of the path that you said it over and over and over again, that Kiara has always been your number one from day one. That's what you said. Now you wanna lie and mince the words around on something like, ⁓ technically sort of kind of, no, you were lying. Literally you're lying and you're trying to gaslight this girl, gaslighting her as though she's imagining this conversation. You said it. And she never said that about you. You're not even addressing that part because you know she never said that. the dates that he's referring to as boring was the dates where again, he came over here asking this baby if she likes wine and she was like, I do like wine. And then he gonna be like, do you like a little cheese with it? And she was like, no. And he was like, you don't like cheese? And she was like, no Jack, I can't have cheese. And it took him the whole of three to five business days to remember that Kiara is in fact vegan. That was after that, that now he left the conversation on some like, Hey, you know what? guess things are not working with Kiara because Kiara got upset at him. This is a lie. This guy is lying. This guy gonna stand on a technicality to sort of kind of gaslight somebody into a predicament. Cause now he gonna talk about how like, when I came into the date, I had meant to break up with you. I believe him on that because he had come secondly to that date. I believe him because after the whole, I'm vegan and you didn't know about it. He literally went back and was like, okay, I guess I'm going to go with Faye. And if you watch my review, I literally said after this date, he's going to go now pursue things full on with watch my colleague Faye because he's seen a side of Kiara on some like, Hey, if you're not paying attention to me and the conversations that we're having, I'm actually going to call you out on it and it's going to be uncomfortable and it's going to be unpleasant. So it was only after that date that he came back on some like, Hey, I guess I actually want to pursue things with Fay, who mind you, Fay being let us know that she's somebody that men walk all over her so much so that one of the boyfriends that she was dating introduced her to his mother as the housekeeper. This ⁓ Leave this baby with his stache and the lies that he wants to go ahead and build up with Faye. We not gonna pick up an argument over the word boring from a person that's con la. And tweet, do a whole lot of toosie rolling, a whole lot of Simone Biles gymnastics to come up out of the things that he said repeatedly over and over again. Kiara, please, ⁓ Please. Why are hugging? Why are hugging? Yab is so fake with it. Why are hugging? And the whole class is watching. Why are hugging? Like what? I think the boy likes to stretch the truth a little bit. Yes. So you have that down. Move on. Kiara, please. I don't want to hear nothing about this no more. Let Faye find out who exactly she's with on her own. Literally. Because remember I had also said that I'm telling you, a lot of the women, whenever people be like, ⁓ if I find out that your man is cheating, I'm going to come and tell you no. Because a lot of your girlies don't be liking to hear the truth from other girlies. In fact, you guys will even clown. The girlies are trying to come and tell you the truth to just maintain the man that you want to build your birdhouse together with. I literally said, I hope Kara doesn't go in the lounge and say a doggone thing. But her saying this is why we're now here in this whole predicament. Because things over there just start laughing. ⁓ she felt this dough. Jack is disingenuous. Disingenuous. Hey, what's the word? Disingenuous. Jack is disingenuous. Wait. Jack is disingenuous. I can't say that word fast. See, I'm slow with my words now. Yeah, now be happy folks on your fucking mind leave me alone Focus on your man and leave me alone. What the hell did she do to you? You pulled her up for a chat Even this as a truth, you should not like twisted around you see how upset he really got? Say you should be careful now. You should be careful. Yeah, we're really really good. Yeah, like really good So now you got what's her name? ⁓ spiritual cube but down there visiting. What's her name? ⁓ Kiara And I'm like, those are things that typically don't be happening for the most part, the couples, they stay together because it's supposed to be their honeymoon. Okay. Not the friends getaway. This was supposed be the honeymoon. We go meet up with the group. Whenever we meet up with the group, it don't ever really be like one on one time amongst the girlies. What if we're talking about again, the whole boring thing, like girl, let it go. I don't know if Joseph has been a hundred percent honest with Francesca. ⁓ ⁓ hey, Kiara, Kiara girl, you are messy now. Now we are entering the messy territories. Yes, Jack, Jack, Jack, Jack is dishonest. Joseph is friends with Jack. Joseph met you 2.5 seconds ago. Joseph as a man, he's most likely going to go ahead and side with his fellow bro. Why we may sometimes be so conniving. Cause y'all started this on some like, ⁓ you know, they look so awesome together. This came from what's her name? I think it was, I think Cuba maybe said it first, but like, ⁓ they look so amazing together and she agrees. But like, ⁓ I don't know if he's, you know, 100 % honest with Francesca about her connection with Chez Vanique. What that got to do with you? You said you're happy with AJ. Be happy with AJ. Why are we doing all this socialing and gyrating, trying to stir up the pot about relations that ain't got nothing to do with you? Focus on AJ. The truth gonna come out about Jack. Now you trying to find the truth about everything. Let Francesca figure things out by herself. It's almost as though because Joseph had a thought about the whole situation between her and Jack that now she has to come and start creating a little bit more drama. Enjoy this relationship for no reason. A bro gonna stick by their bro and this man met you 2.5 seconds ago. Obviously, realistically, the words that he's gonna go most with is the words of his bro that he's actually spent more time with than you. And he has said nothing badly about you. He literally just reiterated what was said in the lounge. Now, as a man, I feel like he should have removed himself from that conversation and carried on. Cause he said, why are you in a group of women You're the one having opinions. He shouldn't have said anything. I can agree with that from just the perspective of a girly. But there's nothing that he said that should not warrant you, Kiara, to want to be doing investigative work about the honesty of Joseph with his relations to Francesca. That ain't got nothing to do with you, ⁓ AJ. Mercy boots, mercy boots, girl. uh-uh. I know the connection was strong. How you know? Was you on the dates with them? How you know? How you know? ⁓ I know the connection was strong. Was you there? Was you the one connecting the Wi-Fi? How you know? Messy boots. I've spoke to me in the pods about it. Joseph was open, still getting to know her. I just care about how Francesca feels as well. No, you don't. Or at the end of the day, I just care about how Francesca feels. No, you don't. If you did, you'd mind your business and leave her the hell alone. And leave her the hell alone. I can understand you wanting to maybe tell what's her name. Fair, because you literally interacted with Jack firsthand, But you've never been on a date with Joseph. You were not on a date with Joseph and Chevronique. What? Why? ⁓ That's not your main concern. Your main concern is to get back at Jack for getting, not Jack, is to get back at Joseph for having an opinion about the whole thing that happened between you and Jack. Stop long. Y'all be messy. Messy boots. What animals are those? All packers? So now you're going to have Jack and Faye. They're going to feed the animals directly from their mouth. Mm-hmm. Blessed be the fruit. Now you got everybody doing their dates and of course it's gonna come time for the spiritual dreams of people and they're doing like a sound bath thingy and they're dancing and of course Ryan is off beat and I'm like how you gonna find the love rhythm in you and you can't even find the beat of the low banging thing that the lady was doing but it's like hey you found your person that's gonna be willing to do these things here with you I wish are the best okay they're doing a little one two one three You got what's her name, Francesca and Joseph are here eating. One thing about black people, we gonna find us a place to eat now. We gonna bond over food, okay? We gonna bond over some good to eat. My weight does fluctuate. As long as you're happy, for me that's not the priority. And so we have, I watched my colleague, Francesca and Joseph talking about just like, know, weight fluctuating and she's never felt really comfortable in past relationships. because the men are guiding her path. So I just trying to watch how many cookies she was going to eat, what she was going to gain, you know, a pound and a half, like all of the things. And so he was just kind of like reassuring her. So I'm like, hey, you know, I do love the gym and all of the things, but I also love my treats. I love my sugars. I love all of the things. And I like you as a person. whatever, you know, whatever you're working with, I'm down for the things. And now we're back to, you know, Cuba and what you might call it, spiritual Ryan. Okay, why me spiritual Ryan down there dancing with the sound bath that they're doing for them? Yes. Baby, would you do a sound bath with me to see how we gonna connect? You don't want to do a sound bath. You're not trying to flow like they're flowing. Look at them. They're flowing with it. Maybe that could be a natural thing. Listen. They intertwining and they becoming one through the dance, know, beautiful skin, you know, very beautiful skin. The exercise that they're doing right now where they're like looking, you know, at each other and you know, to connect with each other's souls. I think that's such a beautiful, you know, exercise for like couples to just like sit and actually make eye contact and actually just like look at each other for real, for real. It do be nice. It would be nice with it a little bit. I'm a lot better suited to you. Absolutely. And one thing I agree with them is that they are suited for each other because it's like Faye is down for the wild ride. She's more, you know, she's more just like we feel feed the animals from our mouth. Like that's not something Kiara is down there with AJ. Kiara is down there with AJ getting massages. So they do match each other really well. But the ways in which it took for them. to come together, it was dishonest. It was very dishonest on its part. And it's okay to admit that like, hey, I rushed a bit too much, I rushed too fast, the experiment is fast-paced, and I thought I knew what I knew, and I said some things, but looking back, you were the better choice for me. There's nothing wrong with that because again, with more time, with more information, you will know more. But to sit over here and then laugh, and pretend like you didn't say the things that you said, it makes no sense. From the beginning, before even his relationship with what you call her, with Kiara will go down the drain. I remember saying, Kiara is more suited for AJ. AJ just sounded a little bit more calmer, a little bit more, you know, self assured, a little bit more, you know, a little bit more Kiara space. He just did. And the two of them, they make sense. But the ways in which I came to be, it was dishonest on his part. Admit that being a man and admit that instead of to see rolling and gaslighting everybody and just long anyway. So now you have a watch more colleague, Kiara and AJ who tell each other they love each other. They appreciative of all the tests and all of the things. And you know, we have Sophie and Taylor talking about how like, you know, they're so happy. They haven't had any argument. Whenever they celebrate that. I just be like, how ignorant are you guys? Cause it's like, not that relationships need arguments per se, but it's like, you do need to see how you guys can disagree. Right? Cause as much as even back to Jack, as much as Jack is talking about how like, you know, Faye is my person, I have so much fun with Faye, Blase, Blase and all of the things. He hasn't seen Faye be upset at him. If he's going to react the same way he reacted when Kiara got upset at him over the whole vegan thing. then that lets me know you just don't know you're very much conflict avoidant. As soon as somebody disagrees with you, it's going to be a problem. Do you regret it? Yeah. It's not great having girls names. So you as a grown man, you drove, you entered your car, you drove, found parking, you reverse parked or you parallel park. Okay? You parked. Entered into somebody's building. Showed them the name, spelled it out for them. And then now you took your pants down. You took your own underwear down. And then you lay with your ding along on the other side of the bed. So you could get a tattoo of a girl's name. ⁓ Hey, Taylor, men used to go to war. ⁓ Men, men they used to go to war. You people are now scheduling tattoo appointment for your Bam Bam. Hey, hey. It's not anyone I've slept with though. So it's not anyone I've slept with. So it was just like random girls and you decide to go ahead and undress yourself as a man of God to get a tattoo on your Bam Bam. ⁓ now you have Taylor over here. Not Taylor. You got Sophia over here like, Welcome to your first argument. Please welcome to your first argument. I guess that makes it a little bit better. No. You need get them lasered off when we get home. She's like, uh-uh. Immediately, as soon as we land, immediately you need to get them removed. Immediately. I'm talking about yesterday at 12 p.m. Pacific time. Eastern Standard Time. Immediately. Idiots get tattoos of random people on their bum, don't they, but... Only idiots. Only idiots get tattoos of a random person they met in a night, yes. And the person that you're engaged to is an idiot. Is. Because somebody who has brain cells would have been goddamn removed at least five years ago. Because if it was a drunken mistake, when you sobered up, what is it about you that made you feel as though now you need to have random girls' names that you don't even have rapport or relations with down to your bum? You know what saying? Like, you are not like the idiot. It's not in the past since you are currently an idiot. I'm talking about we don't found Bouboudou Fou right there. Right now he's in Ibiza. Engage to Sophie. party boy anymore. ⁓ I hope he's not a party animal anymore. Okay this is something you knew in the past though. The bubble of the past people always present themselves one way. Literally they present themselves one way. Also Ibiza is absolutely gorgeous. ⁓ my gosh I want to go. ⁓ us already into that. Now we have a good sister, Yasmin and what's his name? Jordan over here. And they're talking about, you know, how they, they're not really into PDA, blaze, blaze. And a part of me doesn't really believe that a little bit. I feel like they're struggling to get really comfortable, connecting their emotional intimacy with their physical intimacy. They just feel a little bit more, I don't want to say awkward, but like they don't feel very much just like settled in with each other. Right. Comment down below and let me know. She's never been in relationship with nobody. And so this is like her first, that was something literally. I'm like, girl, like for your very first relations, you chose the TV. Like, okay, girl, I hope, I hope this works out, I feel like it's not gonna do, but I hope it works out. ⁓ Personally, like the stuff she was saying. know. I guess I'll speak to them both, but. About what? Now he gonna be like, all the things that Kiara said left a sour taste in my mouth. What did she say that left like, what the hell? Like, ⁓ my God. What did she say that left a sour tasting? Like what exactly did this girl say? ⁓ now I'm gonna go and have a conversation with her and AJ for what? Yeah, I'm gonna do like that. And so now you have Jack and what's his name and Joseph bonding over, know, know falling in love with their partners and all of the things and I'm like, can we just focus on that and leave Kiara and AJ alone and Kiara, can you focus on AJ and leave Joseph, Fran, Faye and everybody alone, please? now Kiara gonna ask Faye like, are you happy, beloved? Please! You are beginning to irritate, like you are beginning to irritate my spirit. Girl, maybe a drink would help you relax and calm the hell down. Please. That should not be your main concern. ⁓ Cause now she tried to like, you know, tied up. think she wanted to say more, but she was like, you know what? Let me shut the hell up. She was like, ⁓ you know, he said what he needed to say. said what I needed to say. And it's like my main concern is for you to be happy. Girl, that should not be your main concern. Your main concern should be that AJ is happy. Okay. That you and AJ are on the track to be in a relationship on my screen. That should be your main concern. All these passive, aggressive commentary that people are trying to do is too much. Shut the hell up and focus on yours. Please. ⁓ so now obviously spiritual Cuba going to bring up the conversation to Francesca explained it exactly how it happened. know, ⁓ Kiara was upset obviously about the whole thing with Joseph trying to like bring up the whole drag conversation, blah, blah, blah. And in that moment, she told me that, you know, chef had told her that Joseph had said that, you know, he had wanted a little bit more. you know, more from her essentially. Now, as an outsider looking in, unless again, something was edited to be one way or the other, that's actually not how we went. Joseph went in there trying to break things off with Chevronique. Chevronique was like, you know, I'm gonna, I guess, you know, take a chance on something like, hey, you know, I'm gonna fight. I'm gonna really express my feelings. You know, you and I. We had a little bit more, you know, depth, you know, to our connection, blah, blah, blah. And then you had Joseph who was like, yeah, think, you know, Francesca is still it for me. And Chevronique again came back on some like, you know, I don't want you to feel like you're rushing, you know, take your time, this experiment, blah, blah, blah, blah, so that we can see. After he left that date, he was all confused on some like, okay, am I making the right decision? Am I overthinking this? Blase, blase. At no point did he switch on some like, ⁓ I think I actually want Chez Vanique more. The conversation with Chez Vanique only made him pause, at least from what we're seeing. The conversation with Chez Vanique made him pause on some like, okay, let me take a second and actually think like, do I really legitimately want Francesca? If she is out here trying to file for her virginity to essentially be with me. And so after that, he ends up going on a date with what's the name with Francesca where Francesca had the pancakes and the rolls. Now when Francesca had the pancake and the rolls, what's his name immediately was like, okay, this is it for me. You're it for me. I'm going to solidify things with you. After that, when he went into the pot, he immediately ended things with Chevronique. So the whole thing of like, ⁓ Joseph said to Shefani that he wants more from her. That happened before he officially ended things. And he only said that because Shefani came over here fighting for her virginity and fighting for her Kutri juice to go ahead and end up with Joseph. Joseph didn't tell her, so I'm like, hey, I want you now instead of Francesca. He said, let's have another date. He thought he had made his decision. The conversation with Shevonik, with Shevonik fighting for their relationship, for their connection to pursue even more, made him feel as though, okay, do I maybe need an additional time with both of them to actually decide? After leaving that date, as soon as he entered the date with, I watched my colleague Francesca, he was like, you know what, Francesca is it for me. And the second time around when he goes to end things with Shevonik. He doesn't choose to roll. He literally just says like, Hey, I think Francesca is it for me. I'm so sorry. Blase, Blase. And Shevonik was like, you know what, you know, I put my feelings forth Blase Blase. I hope you and Francesca have a great time. That is it. So this whole conversation, they're twisting it and turning it around as an outsider looking in. That ain't really what happened. Unless again, what we saw wasn't all that we saw. But from what we saw, Joseph chose Francesca. Comment down below, me know. So now you're going to have Jack pulling AJ on the side again to discuss what? what are we talking, like what, are we actually talking about for real? For real, like what are we, what are we actually talking about? ⁓ And so AJ is trying to shut things down on something like, it ain't nothing to clear. We good. Of course I was upset because again, you and I was dating the same person and he was out here in the lounge singing that, you know, that's what you're supposed to blase, blase. But obviously things are good. I found the person that I'm supposed to be with. It ain't nothing to clear. Let's move along. But no, Jack has more to say. So let's listen. Let it go. Now you got Kiara. I thought we was gonna hear more from Jack, but now we gonna hear Kiara on something like, ⁓ my issue is that if he went in the lounge and told everybody that I said he was my number one, that that was gonna go ahead and upset AJ. Evidently, it didn't upset AJ enough because AJ went back in the pot, asked you to marry him, and they're here together on my screen saying how much they love each other. Let it go. My God. ⁓ been detrimental to our relationship. My sister, wasn't. The sky is blue and it wasn't detrimental to our relationship. Let it go. Let it go. My God in heaven. Yeah, I just understood. One of the things that truly close to you, isn't it? And of course, now we have Blabbermouth Jack, who won't shut up about it either. And at this point, I'm like, dang, as much as you people like to hear each other talk, maybe you and Kiara make a better match because Fay has shut the hell up. AJ has shut the hell up. Kiara and Jack won't shut the hell up. What the hell, the toffee not gonna shut the hell up, please. Plan a date for your leaves. So, a date. So now AJ gonna go back and Kiara gonna ask what he said. So AJ's like, ⁓ he essentially apologized and I told him we all good. Kiara seems like she's still mad. girl please yeah i'm okay but i just feel like him acknowledging that conversation for that conversation happening first base therefore let it go let it go ⁓ he's acknowledging this and then the third but then he's saying he's not acknowledging blase blase let it go beloved let it go mark like let it go where is amat please somebody give this baby a mat get down there and stop pulsing okay Do a Pilates move. your toes, pulse your brows, pulse something and let this go. Please. ⁓ he called me boring yesterday. So now why are you trying to impress a man that you know he's a liar? The man that you don't even find attractive. You are still worried about that man, what he thinks about you. Mind you, you have your exact type over here who's already in love with you, carrying on a... she loves you but you won't let go of Jack and he's lying behind. ⁓ he called me boring and so what? The person that wants to find you fun has already found you fun and he's with you. Let let it go. And so now we have Joseph out here feeding Jack. Joseph why are you feeding Jack as a grown man with the fiance that's on the other side of the horizon? Why are you feeding Jack? My God, like father God in heaven, God of Jerusalem. Like this man is going to be like, ⁓ you got my back, right? And she's like, always. And he's like, I got your back too. ⁓ yeah. My boring back. He did not call you boring. How are you going to let, how are you going to have Why you gonna let Jack have so much real estate in your mind? Girl, go pause, please. And so now you got Jack over here trying to romance Faye. He done pulled the rose petals. It's gonna be candles all around the pool. Blase, blase. I love to see it, okay? I love to see when men do a little one, two, one, three. He got her flowers. You know, the paper half broken, but like Jack gonna try. He tried and you know. And Faye's over here like, yo, I'm not used to being treated like this, blaze, blaze. Like I said, the two of them make sense. The way they came about this, he lied. He didn't really recognize who Faye was to him, like who Faye actually is as a person. He was busy focusing on, what's her name? Kiara, because I guess he imagined that because Kiara finna be a Pilates girlie, maybe her booty was gon' be a little one, two, one, two, like, maybe you didn't see all these things about Faye, or Fran. Maybe you didn't but she's better suited for you. Just admit how things went about wasn't the right way. deserves better than this. I love you too. The crazy thing is like ⁓ my gosh this man gonna break her heart. Jack loves me just the way I am. No he does not. He loves an idea of you. He doesn't he doesn't actually love you like he loves an idea of you. As soon as you aggravate him he feeling be gone. He feeling be gone. He literally feel to be gone. He was still open to get into Nochev. I said, yeah, I did. I said, maybe let's explore it. But I doubled back and said, but Francesca is my proser. And that's actually the truth. See how he admitted. Yes. I did tell Shev like, okay, maybe we can come back to have another date, which they ended up doing. And at the date that they had said they were going to have, that's when he doubled back and said, Francesca is actually my person. But he had needed to at least telling Shev like, hey, let's have another date. Because when he tried to break things off with Shev, Shev fought for her virginity and her coochie juice to be with him. He had needed what actually happened and told her like, hey, this did happen. But ultimately I still say like, okay, Francesca was my person. Joseph is telling the truth. Now I don't know why Kiara had to bring this up. Messy boots for no reason. This was vindictive. Literally this was vindictive for no reason. The fact that you had things with you and Jack being all over the place and him just being a broad, like him just being a bro. Honestly, that's all, that's all Joseph has been. He's being a bro and he met you two per five seconds ago. Obviously he's going to take the words of somebody he's known longer, which in this case is Jack. and a man gon' side with a man the same way the girl is gon' side with the girlies. Right? But you ain't never said none of this to Francesca before this. The only reason you brought this up is because you felt vindictive. If Joseph gon' get involved with my situation with Jack and all of the things, I'm finna go ahead and mess up yours with Francesca. That is vindictive behavior for no reason. The trail, cause now he's like, okay, I'm glad that, you know, after Kiara had the conversation with you, that you brought this to me. And she's like, no, Kiara had the conversation with me. Kiara had the conversation with Cuba and then Cuba had the conversation with me. And Joseph is like, huh? Because I'm sitting over here on some like, huh? Unless again, we're not seeing all of the things. Kiara, you are messy for this. Way too messy for this. Because again, Joseph is telling the truth from what we've seen. Unless again, it's other things that we haven't seen. But from what we've seen, Joseph is telling the truth. He actually, he admitted like, okay, things ended weird or something like, you know, maybe sort of kind of, but like ultimately I came back and I was like, you are the person. And it had always been Francesca. We shared for Nick, they had a sexual connection and that's it. And so now we got spiritual Ryan and spiritual Cuba out here talking about all of the things moving in together and all of the things. And he gonna let us know like, okay, he'd be very, you know, mouthful about what he gonna put in his, ⁓ his body in terms of food and all of the things. And I'm like, yes, cause now they're trying to sell us a, what you might call it, lab grown meat. Yes. Spiritual, spiritual, spiritual Ryan teach me your ways. Yes. Where do I buy all of the things? Because it's like, yeah, I want to feed us any old thing. ⁓ I realized through that the importance of me having... Now you got spiritual Ryan talking about how like he gonna need some alone time for, know, at least an hour and some change or whatever the case is. And spiritual Cuba doesn't seem to have lacked that a little bit. And I don't think that's an unfair request, right? He's communicating his need that he needs sometimes, you know, sometimes just like recharge. And I think that's healthy, right? I just came from a vacation, you know, with my sisters and, you know, I'm married and it's like, My husband will go and chase by himself with these boys and I'll do the same like, you know, with my sisters, with my friends. It's it's healthy. And throughout the day, like, sometimes you need that moment to just like allow your partner to just be. So hopefully this was just editing. Hopefully she didn't receive it in a negative light because it's not a bad thing to just wanna have a moment to yourself. Like when you do things that pour into you, you're then able to come back. and be even stronger in the relationship. You know what I'm saying? So if having at least an hour or two by himself allows him to be a better version of himself, that's not a bad thing necessarily. So I'm hoping that it was just the editing, that she's not actually upset or maybe she's not taking that to mean like, he doesn't want to be with her because that's not what he said, you know? And so now you have Augusta Sayaz been showing, what's his name, showing Jordan, know, pictures of her when she was, you know, when she was essentially at university and all of the things. And you see how much like she used to cover, you know, her little lago with her makeup and all of the things. So just like seeing how far she's come, like I really hope she's proud of herself. I really hope she feels free, you know, not that she looked bad with the makeup or anything like that, but like. to use makeup as a way to hide such a big part of yourself, that must have been daunting. And so he's gonna show her pictures of himself to when he was going down there in the armies and all of the things. Wait, hold on, hold on, hold on. So Yasmin gonna ask Jordan, let's see your DMs. Cause it's like, they're gonna go on his page. It's gonna be like two and a half photos. It's gonna be him with the grandma and the grandpa. When he was going down there at the military base and the things. Where the pictures at? Did you archive them? Let's go ahead and see your DMs. What's finna be? Cause he goes down in the DM. Okay. What, what, what, what, what's, what's finna be in the DM, child? ⁓ Who is Amy? Huh, it's gonna be spams in his DMs. Who is Amy? He say he don't know. Yasmin don't know. Me too, I don't know. But suddenly it's gonna be spams. River of Jordan! The way the music changed, I'm not liking that. Who is Amy? Who the hell is Amy? That's cute. So we got our good sis over here, Francesca, whose back was hurting and you got Josef who did like a little bat for her. Yes, that's the first thing we seen him do. Praise the Lord. ⁓ Now we have a good sister, Kiara, they're having a conversation about like, you know, so AJ gonna ask, are there anything that maybe you have reservations about? And she's like, ⁓ I have no current reservation. I got to just know the financial situation. You say you was in between the jobs. What does in between the jobs mean? Like where in between are you? And he's going to be like, you know, I want to open my fitness, you know, gym, my fitness center, whatever the case is. But like, if I need to go back to banking, I can't. And she's going to reiterate again rightfully. So like, Hey, I need a financial situation to make sense because I like having money to spend on myself. And, know, and when we do have kids, I to make sure that we do have, you know, money, blaze, blaze. And for a second there, starts detailing the kind of house that she wants to live in. It's going to have this many bedrooms. It's going to have this, it's going to have that. It's going to be this and that and the third. And I'm just kind like, as much as I like. a girlie with the plan and a girlie with the vision, she's beginning to sound just a little bit more, not inflexible, but like, girl, we don't even know if we're gonna get married for sure, right? Like, can we just live? Can we just have a little bit more, you know, a little bit more fun, whereas in like, it sounds as though she's not even allowing herself to be in the present. Like, she has this specific vision and it's like, we're just gonna keep talking about it over and over again. And... I don't know. I just want her to be a little bit more present with what's actually happening. And he has to get his finances together because she did mention that, I grew up with my dad paying for everything. So that's kind of like what I'm hoping for my, you know, for my children and for myself, like I need you to be able to buy certain things and what not, but like, let's have a little bit more fun instead of just like, spending all of our time, energy, discussing the dream home, the dream kitchen, it's gonna have this, it's gonna have that. And it's like, I think maybe for me, it's almost like, whenever you dream of certain things, when it comes to like a marriage and a partnership, allow for the other person's dream to also have room. Cause like, what if he wants something a little bit different? Like have a plan, but like, Be little bit more flexible with that plan. Hearing her describe the dream house, it sounds as though there's no room, like for nothing. Like everything has been planned, everything has been decided. And the thing about life is like sometimes we just have to leave a little bit more room for things to just kind of like flow. Now that you shouldn't have a plan, now that you shouldn't have, you know, conversations around finances, because again, those are important, but like I just want us to breathe a little bit. right, and allow for, allow for there to be room for both of those dreams, right, to the dreams of the future to kind of like naturally also come together. Allow yourself to dream together with the man that you're with. Like they literally did a rendition of all the things that she wants and he's just kind of like, yeah, yeah, yeah. And I'm just kind of like, okay, this is this, this is this, this is this. And like that can be a little bit more rigid and that can be a little bit more restrictive, you know? so now you have Jordan and Yasmin talking about the pace of their relations and he's basically sharing like things are moving. Just a little bit more slow. I think that ties to like what I had said earlier, as far as like the physical connection just feels a little. I don't want to they seem awkward around each other, but like they don't feel, they don't feel like they're in a relationship. Sometimes I feel like they're talking to each other as though they're in a meeting of some sort, right? But he's also a military man, so maybe he's just not used to like the, you know, being all PDA, very sexy, blasey, blasey, but it's like, on screen they're not giving. we are attracted to each other a little bit on screen is kind of like giving a little bit more like it's giving brother and sister in Christ a little bit with it. Comment down below if it's just me noticing that. And so him talking about how like the pace seems a little bit more slower for him. I think he's trying to make sure that, you know, she's comfortable, which we, you know, we love that. And I think I just want to see more from both of them a little bit. Like they just seem a little bit more stiff around each other. Like We don't have to be tonguing each other down, like a little grabbing on the waist, like a little, you know, a pulling in, like a little kiss. And then now it's not giving like the physical chemistry really has, has really become a little bit more sexual. And you need that sexual physical chemistry. Like you need that. And I'm not reading that from them. And I did love her response on something like, like I also want your needs to be met. And so maybe to me, I think maybe you should try to initiate a little bit more physical intimacy, right? Since he's been very respectful of you when you do feel, you know, when you do feel like, you know, when you feel a little bit more comfortable, go touch up on him a little bit more to kind of like help bridge that gap because he's trying to make sure that you're comfortable. But like somebody has to make the first step because otherwise it's just kind of like brother and sister in Christ, you know? ⁓ And so now you have, you know, spiritual Ryan who's going to be talking about how like, you know, he got to be traveling and all of the things and you know, spiritual Cuba, you know. just says like, hey, you know, I'm happy for you. This is your job. But like, you know, we got to navigate that. So that's fair. He'd be talking about how he'd be speaking, like what he'd be speaking on. He'd be speaking on nature and the things. Now we're seeing conflict between AJ and what's her name? Kiara Lowe Big. Kiara is very much just like, know, Kiara needs a maid. Like Kiara needs a maid in the house for her to be able to do all of the things that she wants to do. And you have AJ on some like, ⁓ you know, you're fantastic to live with Blase Blase, but like he's getting annoyed. They're discussing the bed making and he ain't got no space for his socks and all of the things. I'm gonna call it, they're not gonna work. They're not going to work. ⁓ And so now you have, you know, the girl is meeting up, I think they meeting up at like, you know, Sophie's house or whatever. And then the boys are also out and about. And you know, everybody's talking about, you know, the relationship and you know, Yasmin was joking like, ⁓ you know, can y'all tell y'all man to also tell my man to buy me something because you know, Joseph bought. you know, Francesca some, some booze and it's like Sophie getting flowers and she not getting nothing from, you know, she not getting no nothing from Jordan, apparently. And so now you got, you know, Francesca who essentially brings up the conversations about how Kiara said to Cuba, who then said to her and then she said to Joseph and how that whole thing came about. And I'm just going to like, Kiara, you were really messy with that because that was so un-called for. strong with Jack. And so now we see Kiara trying to position herself as some kind of a victim instead of just like sitting with the fact like hey that wasn't a necessary thing to then bring up about with Chevronique and what's her name and now Francesca and Joseph. There was literally nothing nothing should have led you there but she's sitting over all you know ⁓ everybody didn't want to talk to me at the party blaze blaze girl that's now you cannot continuously You cannot make yourself at the center of everybody's relationship. Nobody came there trying to talk to you. Everybody came there to have conversations and have fun with their fellow partners and everybody in the group. Nobody isolated you. So that's just kind of like, you're making things even more dramatic than they have to be. What actually say to you though? What did she actually say to you though? Cause it's like now we trying to two-sit around and something like, ⁓ I didn't want you to be blindsided that this and that girl worried about your relationship. Kiara you are messy. You are so messy. Like you need to find you a mat, lay down and start pulsing. Please you, you're aggravating my spirit. Go down and start pulsing on somebody's pilates mat. Okay, please. Joseph was open to still getting to. Shevonik said to me that Joseph was still open to getting to know her. You all are on an experiment about people being open to dating each other until they for sure know. What is there to be blindsided about? He was still open to getting to know her. Okay, after he got to know her, he still chose Francesca. What is the problem? There is none. You are trying to create drama because again, you didn't like the fact that Joseph was low key siding with Jack again, as an outsider looking in Joseph, probably should have just like, you know what? This is a conversation about the ladies. I'm not going to say not a damn thing. He didn't drive forth no conversation. He said what he heard in the lounge. He shouldn't have again, but he didn't say anything to attack. Like he didn't say nothing to attack you at all. You are, you are, you are just messy. I don't want to have like drama with anyone yet. And still you've continuously put yourself in drama and created drama that ain't had nothing to do with you. I could understand going to tell Faye because again, you Faye and Jack had a whole dynamic going on. couldn't, I couldn't understand that. Again, I said she shouldn't have, but the whole thing with Fran, what are you the savior of the world? If you were such an expert at relationships and honesty, what the hell are you doing on my screen trying to find your love blindly? All your expertise. You should have found your man on the outside. Why are you on my screen? Just mercy. Kiara, please. You are mercy. it wasn't intentional at all. And you got Francesca on something like ⁓ on behalf of both of us if you feel isolated like ⁓ it wasn't intentional or something like whatever the case is you ain't got to apologize to that lady enough for a damn thing. The world does not revolve around Kiara and her pilates palsy self. Please. He gave it all his attention and I think now he has to do work but I just have to get used to it. But is that what you want though? And so now you have ⁓ whatchamacallit ⁓ Cuba. And Francesca, who can I go to the side and you have Cuba letting Francesca know like, you know, the distance is a little bit more hard and she doesn't feel as though things are the same with her. And I watched my call spiritual Ryan the same way it was in the pot or even in Ibiza. And so, you know, Francesca was just kind of like, Hey, like, you know, getting there, you know, I've spoken about this, like the bubble that is love is blind really doesn't number to them because it's like they be in full bliss. until they come back home. That real life shocker do be taking them a lot of adjusting in a way that everyday couple really don't be having to deal with. ⁓ And on the other side, you're going to have Jordan down there. know, everybody was talking about how much they love their partner, how much, you know, things are moving along, blah, blah, blah. And you got Jordan over here talking about how like, you know, when, you know, Yasmin asked about the whole, you know, let's go into your DMs. You know, he felt as though that was like an invasion of privacy, blah, blah. And I'm like, okay, fair. Everybody's entitled to their feelings, but like, did you have that conversation with Yasmin as well? because if that's something that feels to you like an invasion of privacy, like you want her to trust you more, blaze, blaze, have that conversation with her as well. You can have the conversation with your boys, but also have the conversation with the person that's actually invading your privacy and all of the things. And then he comes back on some like, ⁓ you know, I can understand because this is like her first relationship. And so I just want things to be a little bit more comfortable, know, blaze, blaze for her. I've maybe stepped back a little bit since the pods. I'm not sure. And on the other side of town, you guys been out here talking about how like, ⁓ you know, I don't think he's as obsessed with me as he was in the pot. And so now I feel like I'm finding myself pulling back again. The bubble of the pots really does something. And if they do get married, like I don't know that they're going to last. They're giving to me very much like, you know, brother in Christ. Like she speaks about how like, you know, he's not as obsessed with me. And some of the other guys seem to be obsessed with their partners. And I think that, you know, that, that physical chemistry, like that sexual chemistry, they haven't really gotten there with each other to some degree. And so, you know, she breaks down and, know, she talks about how like, you know, he ain't even be getting me no flowers, nothing. What I told y'all, the men in these here seasons, they just kind of like... It's not giving like we're not doing nothing for real for at least he's not doing nothing for real for real in the past. Okay. I can understand, like we out in the road or like bring home a little chocolate dollar one, two, one, three. it's like, so far she hasn't experienced that. And it's just kind of like, it's causing her to feel like, Hey, this man is now he's not really obsessed with me the way I want my man to be obsessed with me. that is valid. don't necessarily feel that you feel that. And you have Yasmin who now brings up the conversation to Jordan on something like, hey, you know, I was down there at the house. It was flowers. OK, Joseph was out here buying boots and the things for Francesca. I come home and no flower and no boots and no chocolate and no nothing. And you got Jordan on the other side on something like, let's not compare. Uh-uh. We don't want compare ourselves to other couples. It's not comparison. It's her voicing the things that she too desires. Okay. That she's seeing very much be possible with her fellow people in the experiment. Okay. It ain't no comparison. And she very much read a read it on some like, Hey, I want my man to be obsessed with me. I'm not going to beg. Nobody to love me. Literally. I'm not begging. Nobody to love me. Yes. She communicated her needs and hopefully next time pull up with the low one, two, one, three. Yes. And we see him bring home a little flower and a little chocolate. Was that so hard? Was that so hard? I love that she communicated her needs and that, you know, that moved him to do something about it. But like a part of me just kind of like think like you, you didn't even think to yourself, like, let me buy this woman flowers. Like, let me do a little one. there's nothing like you're not raised like you don't be thinking about romance a little bit, like nothing. And you told you like, Hey, let me do something nice for her. Like nothing. Like nothing? ⁓ I feel like I'm pushing boundaries at the moment. Just see how much he can take, you know, the banter. Now we have Kiara down here trying to coach AJ on how to essentially do the socks. And she's going to talk about how like, hey, you know, I'm trying to raise up the banter a little bit more, you know, test some boundaries to see like, you know, how much he's going to be able to take. And I'm just going to go, what? Like. I'm not saying that this experiment that the girl should be like, you know, walking on eggshells or anybody should be walking on eggshells, but it's like, the experiment is already just kind of like very tight, very much just kind of like, you don't really know somebody for real, for real. Allow for things to just like naturally happen, like to try to manufacture things just to aggravate this man's spirit. is lowkey childish and I feel as though, I feel as though AJ is lowkey getting annoyed at how, I don't wanna say bossy, but like just how neat-peaky she is about everything. I don't know if he's really content with the ways in which she is to live with. I don't know. And so now we see, you know, spiritual Ryan and Cuba just struggling with the distance of the relationship. Rightfully so. Already we got 2.5 seconds to get to know each other, get engaged and get married. And now you're going to be traveling. And so now we're cutting that 2.5 seconds into a half of a second to do all of those things. It's not going to work. If the two of them say I do, this is not going to last. Honestly, at this point, is there anybody that I think on really last? I'm not, I don't know, I just, I don't know. You are dragging this, please, and get off my screen. Please, y'all are dragging this a bit too much for my liking. Again, unless we're missing something, you went in the pot. This man told you twice, I think I wanna focus on Francesca. You said, this is all about, you know, exploring. I really feel like my connection with you was giving a little one, two, one, three, like. if somebody's gonna get hurt at the end of this experiment anyway, but like, you need to give yourself a chance to sort of kinder see how things go along. You, I don't wanna say you begged that man, but like, he was out there fighting for the man to give y'all's relation and y'all's connection his second chance. It just felt natural. We really connected on a deeper level. When he did, now you are coming over and acting as though... The second chance was out of his own evolution, where the way it was edited at least, it wasn't. You was in there fighting for your life and your virginity for him to give Yas connection a second chance. And what he did now, you people are trying to clown him for it. I don't understand that. We're dragging this. Your connection with Joseph came up in conversation. And again, look at her trying to gloss over this. And I'm just going to like, Kiera, please, ⁓ Jack is an ass, but like, so are you. I'm talking about, are you. She gonna be like, ⁓ know, Joseph didn't give me the warmest of welcome. What did you want that man to do? Like what exactly was you expecting that that man was gonna do? What did you expect him to do? Or he was asking about Jack. He wasn't. Yeah, we're talking about Jack. He chimed in, which he shouldn't have. And even himself, even himself, he was saying, Francesca, I probably should not have. Or now I was having a conversation with Cuba, obviously your connection with Joseph came up. No, you brought her connection with Joseph up. The conversation didn't come up about a thing, ⁓ You brought it up. You brought it up. You see how she's trying to sanitize things and just be like very dainty and very like, like, no, you brought it up because you were trying to be messy for no reason, literally no reason whatsoever. Go somewhere and start passing your list. Maybe that's gonna help you shut the hell up. Do a little pulse for your lips. Maybe it's going to be sore enough. You're going to want to shut the hell up sometimes. What, a month this year or next year? And so now you have, you know, Francesca and Joseph meeting, you know, meeting Francesca's family. And this is how, you know, this is how parents are supposed to meet candidates. When they were like, ⁓ you know, the wedding's going to be in four weeks. The daddy was like four weeks of which year. Like is this, is it the calendar year right now for our Lord and savior? Like absolutely not. And the mama is like, we don't know you. We literally just don't know you. And you got Joseph over here on some like, know, I'm only going to get married once I've seen what a marriage, you know, what a failed marriage can look like. Blase, Blase. I don't want you to think that I'm not genuine. And it's like, the reality is Everybody goes into a marriage with the best of intentions, but intentions not to know last, a damn thing. Only time, okay, enough time to learn the person, enough time to navigate conflict, enough time to navigate all these different, you know, decisions that can actually, you know, make or break the relationship. So you can go in with all the intentions, all the best intentions in the world. It doesn't mean not a damn thing. It doesn't mean not a damn thing. Unless, you know, with time, we don't know you. That's what the mama said. We don't know you, beloved. Like, it don't matter. It don't matter what your intentions are. We do not know you. You don't have the time, okay? You've not had the time to actually know what it will take to be with our daughter. You don't know her. She don't know you. I'd say it's a little bit too early. I mean, it'd be good if we could just speak with Francesca for a bit. This man... This man was like, I just want to get your blessing. The mama said, not right now. I ain't got no blessing for you. The blessing might be on Benny's couch, but let's check. Blessing. the blessing's not here either. Okay? We ain't got the blessings. Please. We do not, we do not have the blessings. Absolutely not. Yes. Let us speak to our daughter first, but like we ain't got no blessings for you. We ain't got no blessings on the horizon. Please. Yes. That's how you meet. That's how you meet the, the, potential in-laws. Some of y'all be out here, too much on my screen. Yes. But we're talking about marriage. I know. Mama is like, you happy right now, but like we talking about marriage, beloved. And you got Joseph from the other side talking about how like, this is the first time we've actually heard a little bit more, you know, pessimism, pessimism, and pessimism towards the wedding. Yes, you need to hear that. You need to hear that. You can't have everybody telling y'all, like, I just got it down the park, because you don't. You don't. You know, you're still living in the bubble. And we still have four weeks to kind of make that decision. Girl, shut the hell up. Shut the hell up. The mama going to be like, girl, you still in the bubble. Francesca going to be like, ⁓ you know, but we still got four weeks. Four weeks to do what? This ain't a package you expecting from FedEx. Four weeks to do what? For the rest of your life, you think four weeks is enough? Shut the hell up, please. So after you get married, you come back here. Hey, hey, so the dad go ask, so, so walk me through when we plug in the numbers, how is this going to work after like, after now you, you are in a marital commitment. How is it going to work? Francesca going to open her mouth on my screen. gonna let the people of God know that after the marriage, after they now get their finances together, that now they will go and figure out where they're gonna go. So that that gonna ask. So after you, you've not taken your marriage commitment. You come back in my house, in my dwelling place. ⁓ Francesca, please, we have to manage these things. So this man is ready for marriage, but he's not even ready for like a home to where people are going. That's what the experiment is not. Experiment. You want to experiment with homelessness. You have no plan for you people. You have no plan for you people to live. You should not go back to your papa's house by you telling us about the experiment and the love. Francesca, please. Please don't raise my blood pressure, please. ⁓ Please, I like your love. Please don't do this. You gonna get married first. Come back to your papa's house, his dwelling place. sort yourself out and then you people will now be moving. Why not sort yourselves out? Then you get married and then now you come and be living in your papa's house. You people are mad. In it. Proper mad. In it. What do mean why are you doing this? Their parents are asking questions now you want to be like why are you doing this? So you come back into our dwelling place. Now Joseph, he himself, he will go back to his mama's house. Francesca, shame as a mustard seed. Shame. Shame the size of a mustard seed. Mommy, why are you doing this? She's doing it because she's your mother. You have decided to go ahead and leave your brain down there in the past. It doesn't mean that your mama has to join you. Shame has a master's hit, Francesca. The practicality of all these things is going forward after that marriage date doesn't seem to be well planned or even planned. The dad is like, forget well planned, it ain't no plan in place. How can your plan, how can your marital plan be my dwelling place? My property, where I pay my taxes. Francesca, please. I did not expect my mom to come in so hot and heavy. I was so bored to kind of hear. I did not expect my mom to come in so hard and heavy. Girl, you should be grateful that you got you some parents that's gone come in so hard and heavy about one of the dumbest decisions that you're about to make. And then called you boo boo the fool, cause that's what I'm finna do. Hopefully after you leave, they're gonna call you everything but a child of God. I'm glad they not send that shit to your face. Francesca, you mad? Already all that sit on me. I'm going to end it right here. I'm tired. If you haven't yet, please go ahead and subscribe to the notification bell so you always want to upload. I'm going to try to edit this as best as possible, but we're probably going to have this come out a little late. My apologies. 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