DW 112: Chronically Online: Don't Scam Your Friends!

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Hans and I'm gonna hit record as
we talk about things. January seventeen,
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talk about things, very exciting,
very excited to get my bloody Mary and
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I've got my thing. Okay,
I think we're ready. Are you just
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enough space for space? I am
feeling amazing right now. Gat we went
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on a beautiful walk in the sun
and the snow. Is it recording?
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I hit a button and I was
like, oh, but it's I guess.
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Okay, Yeah, I'm really proud
of us. I'm proud of you.
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I'm proud of you too. Let's
intro. Oh yeah, hey guys,
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well, hey to another episode of
Let's Get Drunk talk about your wedding.
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The NPR version. That's my NPR
voice. Is it good? Yeah?
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What's your fear? Let's try our
NPR Oh that's good. Okay,
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Now I'm jealous. Is so now
I'm gonna pull out chins and voice.
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Yeah, you just have to get
real sultry. Welcome to Let's Get Drunk
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and talk about your wedding. Here
we are on NPR Channel CPR, which
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is what it is here in Denver, right, even though we're definitely not
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affiliated with them, for sure,
definitely not don't sue us. Yeah,
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if you're gonna go drunk talk about
weddings, because we're gonna get drunk and
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talk about your wedding. Yay.
I don't know. Should we reshoot or
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just let it fly? I like
this version. I think it's my favorite
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version. I hope we repeat it
the same way forever until the bitstay.
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I love about that. This is
what are we drinking today. It's late
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afternoon and we are enjoying ourselves.
A good morning cocktail. Yeah, a
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bloody man, a bloody Mary.
Yeah, my favorite cocktail. I think
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like just a good soup. It's
my favorite brunch cocktail. I can only
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d one at a time. This
is a tomato. It really gets you,
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like in the heart burden. Yeah. But to make sure the listeners
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feel okay about me saying one at
a time, we did bring in soda,
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water and vodka in case we need
to re up in something. So
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don't you stress. Yeah, don't
drink as much. We're still drinking.
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I know you guys can concern are
always concerned about us making sure that we
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drink enough for the name of this
podcast. Yeah, I do feel like
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that's like the hardest cell in the
podcast trying to get people to do interviews.
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Yes, is you tell them the
title and I'm like, you do
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not have to get drunk at all. But and there's plenty of episodes that
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we don't get drunk on, and
we are always drinking. Sometimes we lie
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to you and pretend we're drinking and
then we actually just have water. You
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just ruined it. Sometimes I literally
cut that out, Nick, don't tell
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the people we've lied to. I
literally just said, but we are always
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spoilers. Skip that part from seconds. Okay, we're kidding. But the
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thing about these Bloody Mary's it's special
is not the Tito's vodka in it.
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That's whatever. It's the mix,
and it's made here in Colorado, and
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it's called the real dill. Thank
you what you had, but yours get
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really panicked. I was like,
oh no, Well at first I was
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like, oh, I'll let her
say the name of it, but then
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I actually forgot the name of it. See, I thought the way that
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you were going with, like,
what makes it so special is that skewer
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Mallory made of all the pickles,
random pickles in her it is so there's
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so many pickles. What do we
got here, let's talk about pickles free.
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I pickle a lot of things,
you guys. I have a Costco
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membership, and I use that power
to pickle my vegetables because pickling is hilarious.
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She's very exciting. It's the funniest
food preparation. I think we can
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all agree comedy wise. It's pickling. It's the way you said, it's
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the way you described it for Costco. Let's talk about all the pickles tell
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me, okay, yeah, yeah. First off, we got a little
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corny cone, a corny shown,
as the fringe might say, but I
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like to call it a corny comb, which is just a little French pickle
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that's not from me, that's from
the store. And then we have those
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like like little sliver like Hamburger pickles, also not for me. The ones
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that are for me are pickled carrot
and pickled Brussels sprout. I'm worried about
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the Brussels sprout. I'm not gonna
lie. It's a little it's spicy.
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It doesn't look as appetizing as I
would think it was. Yeah, so
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I pickled this one with clove,
which did give it a lovely muddy brown
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color to the pickling liquid. Well
that's how I know it's gonna taste really.
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Yeah, so it is like,
uh yeah, I mean it looks
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pickled for sure. Yeah. Yeah. You look at it and you're like,
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that's pickle, that's pickled. Yeah, let's put us on a plate
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and you'd say that's pickle. That's
the carrot I already know is delicious,
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but a lot of them. Yeah, the carrot is so sharp. I'm
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still figuring out my pickling process.
Yeah. So that's on my other pickling
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podcast, Can You Pickle It?
Can You pick And we talked about pickleball
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exclusively. First of all, I'll
be your guest to talk about pickleball because
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I don't know anything about pickleball.
Yeah, I've been told podcast about pickleball.
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Yeah, podcast, we're just going
to rename this podcast, Can You
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pick And then Mallory will talk about
she's pickling and her livers as we like
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you're talking talk about a wedding.
I also would like to say that Mallory
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will come on and talk about all
the things that she pickles, because that
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seems like an NPR kind of a
subject matter. What did you pickle today?
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What did you pickle today? Yeah? Yeah, just my inside eh
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Man, we are hilarious today a
couple of I think this is when we're
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just on our own, you know, when we don't have any guests to
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like sort of like slowly our listenership
drops episode by episode, but our joy
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shoots to the top. So that's
all that matters to me. Yeah,
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that's yeah, We're for the love
of the sport, truly, truly,
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that's the problem with the drinking.
Yeah, So today we are doing a
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another chronically online, my favorite kind
of episode honestly because I love to gossip
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and it's really the only like,
I don't know, it's the only like
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format I have for it that feels
totally like guilt free. Yes, true
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diet gossip, diet gossip, sugar
free. And we haven't had one in
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a while. We have had hard
in the in the movies, and you
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know, for the record, you
guys, we are absolutely still open to
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having amazing interviews and guests, and
we have one book. One book.
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Yes, we've done it. Getting
excited, get excited. It is harder
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than you think, especially I think
in the winter, I think people get
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a little bit more you know,
cozy. Yeah, And I think the
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issue we run into a lot is
like one person in a couple is really
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into it and one is really not, like really against it. And it's
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just tough because we kind of like
want both members of a couple. We
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really like them both, so we
need We're waiting for those people to get
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di worest so we can go in
for the one who's where's looking at you
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guys, Yeah, rooting for your
downfall to get you on the podcast,
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like we could have them on,
but it just feels weird. Yeah,
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I don't. It does feel odd
to me to have one person from a
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couple sit and talk about a wedding
that was about two of them. Yeah,
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And I don't know if that's just
my own I understand, I totally
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get it. Not everybody is like
as outgoing and like I'd be interested in
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the listener's take on this too.
Yeah, if you guys want to shoot
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us an email at Drunk Wedding Pod
at gmail dot com, yeah, or
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write us on Instagram. I don't
know that I've ever checked that email.
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It's been a minute since I checked
it. I get notified here and there
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one of us is getting I gotta
be honest, everyone, it's all trash,
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So I feel like if I saw
something cool, but maybe a DM
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on Instagram is the better way to
go Drunk wedding pod. Yeah, you
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can find us and follow us if
you haven't yet. Yeah, we signed
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up for Mailchimp ones and now we
get a ton of like emails that are
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spamming, and to our credit,
that was a bad idea. Turns out
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people hate newsletters. If that's any
part of your business plan, I have
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to tell you. You can't believe
it. But people don't want it.
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Yeah. I at some point I
go through all of my things and just
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say, please mark all of these
a spam on a regular basis. Yeah,
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like, don't ever talk to me
again. That's why I have a
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hard time believing when people and even
friends, wonderful friends who know what they're
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talking about, say the email is
where it's at, because I'm always like,
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the last time I read an email
newsletter? Yeah, the last thing
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was years. It's been years,
and even for my work, when good
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things are coming through on email and
don't read them. Yeah, there's no
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part of me that's ever been convinced
to do something from an email. So
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yeah, but you know it's fine. One thing continuing on, we are
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getting a guest, and we're very
excited for our guests, and we are
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still open to guests. So if
you know anyone and you want to recommend
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or you yourself or you yourself are
ready, you send them to our Instagram
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and our dms and share info and
we would love to make it happen.
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In the meantime though, we are
you know, gear Intogo, and we
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love all parts of this podcast.
So today we're going to do the chronically
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online because if we haven't done it
in a while. Yeah, I have
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all the versions that we do.
I'm excited. Like we keep talking about
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this idea of like the friendship spent
off one that we're gonna or like not
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spin off or like the how do
you describe it, Like it's just like
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a I don't know, the prequel
episode. I don't know. Yeah,
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it does feel like that a little
bit, but like those friendships, like
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relationships in general, like the friend
relationship, and yeah, we're still in
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the same anthology, it's just like
a different story from a different perspective.
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It will be coming and we'll have
a really good intro that actually explains better
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than we just did. I think
you guys, you know you're getting it.
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So that'll be coming too, once
we you know, find some people
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to interview and but for now,
I have heard from many of you that
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the chronically online episodes are your favorite. Yeah, so because it's like that
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am I the asshole stuff? Like, it's just so it's so fun to
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watch. It really gets said,
like the gossip thing like scratched for your
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brain without you feeling shitty for it, unlike the other ones. My husband
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Eric has provided the content for today. Eric has done most of the research.
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It's all the heavy lifting and we
just get to read it out loud
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and yeah. And I don't even
know if that was the intention. I
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think he just like read funny Redd. It's like, yeah, I think
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so too. He just was like, oh, this is for these guys.
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Yeah. So he's been texting them
to us, and we have a
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couple that we want to read today. Do you want to start? I
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was going to say, do you
want me to read the first one?
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Because I have it open for it. Okay, let's go with it.
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And this is a live reaction.
I have not read this one. Sorry,
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Eric. I know I did a
laugh on this text message, but
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the reality was I was in a
meeting, and I didn't have time to
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go back to it. Yeah,
I forgot to. So, okay,
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this is on the Bridezilla's read it
nice? Should I read the subject as
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well? Or just jump in?
What's up to you? What do you
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feel is the subject going to give
too much away? Yeah? Oh it
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gives too much away? Starting the
year strong, I swear so. My
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friend Dana female twenty nine, was
supposed to be getting married this past Sunday,
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January fourteenth. The wedding got canceled
and things have gotten becaut. Oh
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sorry, and things had gotten very
crazy. Dana was getting married to Josh
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Mail, thirty two. She's still
in college with me, and asked a
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few friends from college myself included,
to be in her bridal party. Now,
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from the start, this wedding has
been a disaster. I'm going to
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just point out a few of the
crazy stuff we dealt with. First,
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she refused to invite my best friend, who she supposedly is good friends with,
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because she thinks that were lesbian lovers. We are not. Second,
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she has us go to the dress
fitting and then demanded each of us pay
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two thousand dollars each for our dresses. No, apparently she had a specific
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style she wanted. I can afford
it, but won't pay for a two
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thousand dollars dress for one event.
Some of the girls in the bridal party
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also don't even have that flexibility with
money. Who does good for you?
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Apparently Josh couldn't invite any single females
that were not blood relatives of his,
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so if he had any female friends, they were axed. One of the
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girls in the bridal party doesn't drink
because of her religion. Dana accused her
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of being pregnant in front of her
parents and almost got her kicked out of
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the house. First of all,
if you don't know your friend well enough
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to be in your bridal party to
know that they don't drink because of religious
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beliefs, why are they in your
bridal party. Yeah, that's such a
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good point. I don't understand that
at all. Like that doesn't make a
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She was not pregnant, and she
dropped from the bridal party. She is
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a class act, though, and
never bad talk. Dana, that's so
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nice, just said she couldn't make
it. We found out about it pretty
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much on the day of the wedding. She tried to make us cancel the
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last one is she tried to make
us cancel our holidays with our families to
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instead go with her to a destination
bachelorette party. I work full time even
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during the holidays, so I told
her that was not happening. Most more
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of the bridesmaids had similar things,
and she dropped it. So that's just
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five things of countless drama this wedding
has had far before the actual wedding day.
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Now, the meat of the story
comes on the wedding day. So
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do we want to take a second
and talk about those five things before we
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get into the meat of the story. I mean, other than this is
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bad, those are all very shitty
big asks, Like two thousand dollars for
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a dress. There's no listen.
I mean some people, yeah, sure
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can afford it, but like that's
like something that you're gonna wear forever,
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Like that's the maximum you would spend
on a dress that you would wear daily,
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Like that you would wear maybe like
once a month, oh to like
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events and stuff. Yeah, I
maybe five hundred maybe five hundred, right,
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that's somewhere under one thousand for sure, and well under a thousand,
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Like if I am like mad in
love with it, maybe five hundred,
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like usually dresses for me or between
the one and two. Yeah, and
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then it's going to be like that
broad City dress where you wear it every
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three times anytime there is anything where
you need to wear a dress until there's
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a whole dress. Yeah, right, yeah, and then you go to
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a steam stress and she fixes it
h two thousand for like no for a
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single event. Now it's her.
If it was a wedding dress, maybe,
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but like, yeah, differently,
like I spent I spent what fourth
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thout, I spent a lot,
but that's your wedding. That's a wedding
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dres exactly, very different. Yeah, but the brides maid dresses should never
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be I think like three hundred is
tops tops And you're kind of being a
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little bit of a dick about it. Yeah, I agree, Like I
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think I think one hundred and fifty
is reasonable. Yeah, and I think
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most brides maid except expect that.
And I realize that there's inflation, but
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that's that's including inflation, because before
all of this time, I would have
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said like seventy five to one hundred. Yeah, one hundred and fifty is
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you know, a nicer thing.
Yeah, I feel like it should cost
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like a trip to like a grocery
store. Yes, not your rent.
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Oh my gosh, I couldn't have
anymore. Like this is a friend but
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and it's a special day for everyone
involved, but like that's a lot.
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Yeah, it's big. There,
nobody cares about your wedding as much as
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you do. And have to remember
that. Yeah, even your fucking bridesmaids
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and best men do not care about
your wedding as much as you do.
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Like, this is a fun party
for them, and they want to support
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you, and they're very excited you're
getting wed married, but like they are
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not as excited about your dumb relationship
as you are. Yeah, you can't
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ask your friends to go into debt
for your thing, Like all right,
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you ready? Yes, The meat
of the story comes on the wedding day.
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The day started horribly. Dana was
having a meltdown. I'm fixing some
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grammar things as I read. Dana
was having a meltdown because apparently the flower
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girl had to cancel because she had
chicken box chicken pox. I think I
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said chicken box, so excuse me, different disease. Yeah, I don't
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know what that is, but that
does not sound good. But she was
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threatening to sue the mother unless she
brought the sick three year old to the
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wedding. Holy shit. Josh apparently
was able to calm her down from this
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starter outburst and we began preparations.
Wow, the flower girl's not that important.
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And it's a child. It's a
child. It's a sick child.
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Like you're abusing it. You want
to abuse a sick child to like for
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your day? Yeah, I hope
they don't have kids. Yeah, most
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people don't even want kids at their
weddings, you know, yeah, like
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honestly, like yeah, if you
like were like family members are insisting,
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like you know, little Mitzy has
got to be in this wedding, and
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you're like fine, I don't want
to cause a fight, and then Mitzy
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gets chicken box, Like oh thank
fucking god, like the weather real,
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Yeah, the only kids wedding were
the kids in our wedding exactly. They
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had they went to bed, Yeah, you would have been like, okay,
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that's sorry that they chicken pox.
I don't know. Yeah. The
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whole day she had constant outbursts.
She made people cry, like the wedding
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staff and the bridesmaids. They made
staff. Yeah, if you're being mean
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enough to staff to make them okay, Like you can be mean enough to
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you're stressed out friends and get them
but worked up. Sure that I feel
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like that's like enough of like a
big day that could happen. Yeah,
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if you're going after people just there
to do business, fucking bitch, I
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can't, like never treat staff like
shit. Yeah, I don't give a
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ship what is going on. The
human beings causing are not causing it.
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Ninety percent of the time they are
there to help. I will I will
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die on the hill of treating human
beings doing their job well. Yeah,
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Like I don't even care if they're
rude to you. Ye, honestly,
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Like they are being paid to be
there, and sometimes they're not being paid
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enough, so calm the fuck down
and walk away. Honestly, if I
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had a partner who was doing that
to staff, I mean immediately it's over.
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Yeah, we're done, uh immediately. Yeah. And there's no way
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this woman has not yelled at a
restaurant at a certain like, you don't
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treat your wedding day staff badly unless
you've treated other people in the workforce badly.
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Yeah, Like I'm out you're a
bad person, yes it Yeah,
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you're a horrible person. Yep.
Like weddings okay, the mother, oh
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sorry, the maid of honor deserves
a medal for the amount of diplomacy and
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bullshit control she had to do.
I, for for the most part,
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took the easy route and decided to
work outside the bridal suit sweet like checking
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flowers, making sure food was okay, basically any excuse not to be around
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the bride. Eventually I had my
makeup and hair done, and then the
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bride asked for a little bit of
mine of time alone to decompress from the
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stress. We didn't even fight fight
it. Sorry, I'm having a heart
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time reading. No, we're doing
They had half of a thing. We
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didn't even fight it. You could
not see a group of women run faster
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away. Wedding was starting in thirty
minutes, so we figure she would be
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fine alone for a little while.
I spent those thirty minutes just sitting in
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the chapel with my phone. It
had to be about five minutes before the
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start of the wedding when the maid
of honor came over to me and the
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wedding was canceled. I asked her
what happened. Dana was having a quickie
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with Josh's uncle in the room.
What and Josh caught them? Oh my
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god, I'm sorry, I need
to take that in. So she was
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fucking the groom's uncle. Why what? I'm so sorry. I know we're
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supposed to talk on a podcast,
but I am. I think it's all
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first to take a moment of silence
to says that, Wow, this is
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a first for me. I am
completely flooris okay because I'm like imagining too,
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like this couple getting married minimum nerve
Twentiesah did they say at the beginning
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twenty nine and thirty two? Twenty
old? Too old for this shit?
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That means I mean, like,
yeah, family structures can be different,
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but like the uncle is like gonna
be in his forties, right or fifties,
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fifties, I would think if it's
like a normal I guess, unless
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it's a weird one of those interesting
families where like the uncle is younger than
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the I guess, guy, I
don't know. But still, but also,
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can we just take a second and
say, like, the way that
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this has read so far is just
your typical bridezilla bullshit, Like, honestly,
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I did not see this coming.
I thought this was just gonna be
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some like she threw a fit and
the groom finally was like fuck you and
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walked out. Right. I did
not see this coming because was she having
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an affair with the uncle the whole
time or is this like just the first
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time? Well, what are weird? That'd be such a weird first time
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ry in your wedding dress. Yeah, this is a porn. You've seen
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those porns, right, Sorry,
not that specific about that, that's specific,
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but I've seen them like advertised,
Yeah, like bride fucks whatever or
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whatever. Yeah, that doesn't just
happen, guys, that's not a thing.
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It's not a real This is not
a real real Yeah. And even
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if people are cheating on each other
at the wedding day, it is not
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a real scenario for them to do
it on the wedding day. Yeah,
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Like I mean, like if if
people are fucking other people, the wedding
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day is not where they're going to
do it, is how I meant to
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say that, Like that's wild.
Yeah, that's that seems like a mental
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breakdown to me, right, Like
that is not somebody whose faculties can be
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trusted. Yeah, I think like
maybe they need to go get some help
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a twenty nine year old woman fucking
her groom's uncle on the day before the
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after threatening a parent to sue them
because their child was sick. Yeah,
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this person is is a super villain, I guess. Yeah. If to
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me, like they might be on
the on the borderline personality space. Yeah,
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to me, this is so bad
it almost feels fake, like it's
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too bad, like this is that's
what makes me think too much like a
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shitty person. I can't believe that
somebody exists like this that doesn't have a
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major mental illness problem. Like,
like, to me, it seems like
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she's on a manic space and like
I could definitely see some borderline personality in
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that kind of aggression space. You
don't like tank your life like that or
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like risk tanking it like that,
dude, if you have any that's just
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not a self control Yeah, not
good. I mean I'll keep reading.
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Yeah, I just stared at the
maid of honor with my mouth pretty much.
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She's about to reach the floor.
She told me to run and that
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she was trying to get as many
people out before things exploded. So I
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quickly got my purse, gathered the
two bridesmaids that were carpooling with me and
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we left like the devil was after
us. I checked with the other bridesmaids
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and all had had a skin aped
that night. I called the maid of
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honor to check what happened, and
the tea was bad. Apparent apparently and
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rightfully. Josh called off the wedding, called her a few names, told
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off the uncle, and has since
left with his mates to I hope have
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the biggest single man party ever.
I hope so too. Yeah, me
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too, Josh, Huh. I
feel so bad for him, and I'm
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sure a lot of this is his
money too. He's an absolute gem of
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a man. I mean, he's
with this woman like maybe, but I
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I, how do I say this? Like, I understand that being with
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somebody like this you have to be
a good like you have to be above
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and beyond a gem of a man. But honestly, I'm concerned for his
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mental health, yeah, and his
found down. Yes, he also needs
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to be in therapy, like the
fact that he's allowed this woman to act
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like this until this point and not
said anything or done anything or called anything
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off. Yeah, because this thing, like I don't know, this to
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me doesn't feel like an action that
like, these are not actions that come
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out of nowhere. They're not like
occurring in back, you know. And
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this is not obviously not a well
balanced relationship. She runs runs over the
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top of him, you know,
I mean, has more power in the
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yeationship and like abuses it. He
apparently also told Dana and his parents that
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she will be paying the cancelation fees. Agree. According to the Maid of
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Honor, Dana's father told her to
in front of everyone that she was paying
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it on her own for being a
slut. Whoa dad, So we don't
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need a slush shame, I'm kidding. This is what this is. This
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is when you slush. This is
not about her being a slut, but
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this is when you shame. This
is consequences. Yes, this is like
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a poor Yeah. I thought that
was the end of it. I made
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the choice to separate myself from the
mess until I got a call from Dana
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not even an hour ago, demanding
five thousand dollars to help pay her cancelation
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fees. According to Dana, it
was our duty as a bridal party to
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pay her cancelation fees. I obviously
told her her no and that she might
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as well lose my number. I
am never speaking to this woman again.
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This has pretty been pretty much the
reaction of all bridesmaids and the maid of
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honor. By the way, the
Maid of Honor, you ready to know
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who it is? This is a
big reveal Josh's older sister. What the
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fuck? Data, what the fuck? What? Wow? What? Oh
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my god? He must like I
really held that one back. She knew
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we'd get she knew we'd have a
good reaction. There's like, okay,
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the fact that Josh is the way
he is, and Maid of Honor has
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been like you know, she's like
been above board and like not talking about
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shit. Yeah, it seems like
they're both maybe from like a really nice
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family. I was actually thinking they
might be from a rougher family, so
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clear giving me some people pleasing attitude
Like from now, my family is lovely
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and I love them, but I
there was like some you know, anger,
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like we had some temper problems and
uh and being raised in that environment,
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like I became I'm over the top
making sure everybody's happy. Would you
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say something about like facilitating or like
making sure everybody is like helping people calm
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down. That is one hundred percent
what I do. Yeah, That's interesting
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because I was like, in my
mind, I'm thinking, like this is
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just like the nicest little Midwestern family
that you've ever met. I think they're
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fucked up. Yeah, it's fucked
up. I'm seeing like fucked up people
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like being terrified. I think that
both of them were terrified. You're still
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taking it, uh huh wow,
that's I mean, that's I mean everybody
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reads and sees something differently, but
there have been updates. I love that.
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That's how she ended it. By
the way, Josh's older sister boom
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boom, mic drop. Yeah,
she came in with some updates. I'm
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assuming after you know, hey,
guys, I know a lot of people
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want to know what happened. Oh
we know, oh after I assume.
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After talking to Josh yesterday, he
asked me to only say that he's okay.
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Oh. I love that she called
and was like, I put this
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on a reddity. How you do
it because like, you know, everybody's
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word. Yeah, everyone on reddit's
really concerned for real. After talking to
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Josh yesterday, asked me'd only say
that he's okay, figuring things out and
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moving on. We're going to stay
friends with him and his sister. Fuck
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yeah, I'm sorry. How does
this bride'smaid know the bride? Did?
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She say? No, okay,
they all went to college. They were
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in college together. Got okay,
And I think it's interesting, she said,
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like we are all in college together
because the bride's twenty nine might be
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like grad program. So I'm wondering
either a grad program or they they're like
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later going back. And I'm wondering
if all of the bridesmaids are younger,
407
00:27:34.759 --> 00:27:37.920
could be that would make sense like
she met them. Oh, so the
408
00:27:37.920 --> 00:27:41.240
bride is like returning student maybe,
and then they're all like varying ages of
409
00:27:41.400 --> 00:27:45.759
student. Yeah. Dana was told
that no one in the group wants to
410
00:27:45.759 --> 00:27:51.039
interact with her, and since then
it's been mostly radio silence. I would
411
00:27:51.039 --> 00:27:56.000
block her number, I can't share
more, and I'd block her on all
412
00:27:56.000 --> 00:27:59.680
social media and email. Yabye,
can you block any mail? I don't
413
00:27:59.680 --> 00:28:02.759
know. I would, Yes,
you can, yes, thank you.
414
00:28:03.079 --> 00:28:06.599
I can't share more about Josh's future
plans, as he asked me not to.
415
00:28:07.279 --> 00:28:10.400
He did have a good laugh at
some of the comments I show him
416
00:28:10.799 --> 00:28:15.519
and appreciates the support. Baby.
Oh, I love that this this redditor
417
00:28:15.559 --> 00:28:21.599
didn't take somebody else's story and then
like make it their own and like just
418
00:28:21.640 --> 00:28:25.079
like I love yeah, I love
that she's like sharing all of this with
419
00:28:25.200 --> 00:28:27.119
Oh, I hope they fall in
love. What if they fall in love?
420
00:28:29.359 --> 00:28:33.279
The one detail I did get corrected
on for those curious was about his
421
00:28:33.440 --> 00:28:38.799
uncle. He's actually the younger brother
of Josh's mother and he's fifty five years
422
00:28:38.799 --> 00:28:42.119
old. I thought he was married
into a family. Oh, she must
423
00:28:42.119 --> 00:28:45.920
have already updated it, but I
got the detail wrong. I also found
424
00:28:47.519 --> 00:28:51.799
out the most disgusting detail is that
the uncle knew Dana since she was a
425
00:28:51.799 --> 00:28:56.680
teenager. Oh no, and Dana
and Josh are high school sweethearts. Oh
426
00:28:56.920 --> 00:29:02.720
no. Yeah, I think this
is like a grooming thing that this has
427
00:29:02.759 --> 00:29:04.079
been going. I feel kind of
gross knowing that. Yeah, me too.
428
00:29:06.279 --> 00:29:08.799
I don't know. That's fucked.
She's Other than that, I got
429
00:29:08.799 --> 00:29:11.839
a major hall of cake. So
at least I got something good out of
430
00:29:11.839 --> 00:29:19.039
the next. Okay, wow,
wow, wow, wow wow, Dana.
431
00:29:21.119 --> 00:29:23.359
I mean, at this point,
I feel like I feel like I
432
00:29:23.400 --> 00:29:29.720
could talk about this one for like
another hour. I mean, there's a
433
00:29:29.720 --> 00:29:32.480
lot of we'd have to draw a
out of conclusions, but I mean,
434
00:29:32.640 --> 00:29:34.480
to me, it's giving. I
mean this is making a huge assumption.
435
00:29:34.720 --> 00:29:38.240
It's kind of giving like a grooming
situation. Yeah, it's like I'm now
436
00:29:38.279 --> 00:29:42.680
wondering if she's abused for since high
school. I'm wondering if all of them
437
00:29:42.720 --> 00:29:47.119
are in variant ways. Right,
So she married a guy who grew up
438
00:29:47.119 --> 00:29:51.279
in an angry household, who was
like over the top caring, and then
439
00:29:51.680 --> 00:29:55.839
she has been groomed by his uncle
since high school. And and also it
440
00:29:55.839 --> 00:30:00.200
makes sense like why Josh has been
in this for this long? You know,
441
00:30:00.240 --> 00:30:03.480
It's like it's just like a different
they've been together since high school.
442
00:30:03.559 --> 00:30:06.640
Yeah, I mean, by the
way, if she's twenty nine and he's
443
00:30:06.720 --> 00:30:10.640
thirty two, that means that this
relationship has been they've been together for like
444
00:30:10.680 --> 00:30:14.680
fifteen years yeah, or like you
know, ten plus years. I mean
445
00:30:14.680 --> 00:30:17.920
that's wild to me in and of
itself. Yeah, to not be married
446
00:30:18.079 --> 00:30:22.240
up to this point. Yes,
Yeah, And I just wonder. I
447
00:30:22.279 --> 00:30:25.799
just have a lot. I just
need a lot more questions answered that we're
448
00:30:25.839 --> 00:30:30.720
not gonna get. But it just
feels like, you know, Josh obviously
449
00:30:30.759 --> 00:30:37.359
didn't excuse me, didn't know about
how my god, there's no way in
450
00:30:37.559 --> 00:30:44.960
hell I know. Sorry, But
like there's no, I lost my train
451
00:30:45.000 --> 00:30:48.680
of thought, but I just there's
a resolution. Really he doesn't know about
452
00:30:48.680 --> 00:30:52.279
the uncle, but it does have
me concerned. But also I just wonder
453
00:30:52.880 --> 00:30:56.440
if the uncle's always been creepy to
her. And then something clicked, like
454
00:30:56.599 --> 00:31:00.400
she was like bombing her life and
she was just like, hey, you
455
00:31:00.480 --> 00:31:03.240
that's always been creepy. Yeah,
you've always been lurking on that. So
456
00:31:03.640 --> 00:31:06.079
you're cute enough, I guess let's
do this. Yeah, you know,
457
00:31:06.559 --> 00:31:10.480
in a fifty five year old way, like why on the wedding day again?
458
00:31:10.799 --> 00:31:15.160
Yeah, that feels I really worry. Now, I'm sorry sabotage now,
459
00:31:15.200 --> 00:31:18.160
I'm worried about Dana. I do
think Dana is having a spiral.
460
00:31:18.200 --> 00:31:19.200
And I think she's also kind of
a dick about it. Like you can
461
00:31:19.240 --> 00:31:22.880
be going through something and still be
a piece of shit too, but maybe
462
00:31:22.880 --> 00:31:25.839
not treat other people badly and do
consider going to hurt them. Yeah,
463
00:31:25.880 --> 00:31:29.400
but I mean, depending on the
mental health issue that's going on, like
464
00:31:29.559 --> 00:31:33.119
she's helped, for sure control it
and like and everyone just abandoned it was
465
00:31:33.160 --> 00:31:37.839
like fuck you. But the fact
that she calls for the money that indicates
466
00:31:37.839 --> 00:31:42.799
to me that she's well enough in
her mind. Yeah, to be like
467
00:31:44.000 --> 00:31:48.160
an actual asshole as well as having
a mental health breakdown. Yes, that's
468
00:31:48.480 --> 00:31:53.200
that's the thing she's about this,
it's asking for the money. Yep.
469
00:31:53.359 --> 00:31:56.200
Yeah for me. I mean,
to me, I'm like making the day
470
00:31:56.200 --> 00:32:00.839
all about her and be making some
stupid, like disgusting decisions like I'm going
471
00:32:00.920 --> 00:32:04.240
to sue you for your sick kid, and like all these things I could
472
00:32:04.240 --> 00:32:07.799
see if you were having if you
really were borderline and the world revolves around
473
00:32:07.839 --> 00:32:12.640
you, yeah, like which often
borderline can cause. Right, everything's about
474
00:32:12.680 --> 00:32:19.359
you. Everyone is there to cow
to your needs in when it's bad,
475
00:32:19.519 --> 00:32:22.000
right, when that illness is I
mean, I think that's what I think.
476
00:32:22.039 --> 00:32:24.160
It's borderline that I'm talking about.
Guys, I'm not a psychiatrist.
477
00:32:24.279 --> 00:32:30.119
I don't know the DNS. Yeah, classifications off the top off the doom.
478
00:32:30.240 --> 00:32:34.319
The only people I know who have
family that is borderline, that's what
479
00:32:34.480 --> 00:32:38.319
the issues with their family. So
I can see all of that. But
480
00:32:38.400 --> 00:32:42.319
the money. Yeah, Like,
now we're getting into a space where I'm
481
00:32:42.359 --> 00:32:45.920
just like you and for it to
be days after the wedding, that to
482
00:32:46.160 --> 00:32:52.720
me is the space where she is. She's not in a spiral in the
483
00:32:52.759 --> 00:32:55.960
moment, this is continued. This
is something where she is just a bad
484
00:32:57.000 --> 00:33:00.559
person, Like there's no way I
guess it's like none of this was just
485
00:33:00.599 --> 00:33:06.359
like in the moment, this is
all like yeah she said and thought about
486
00:33:06.359 --> 00:33:10.119
it. Yeah that's yeah, that
was calculated. That's calculated to do that
487
00:33:10.240 --> 00:33:15.160
to me. And then I just
to like have so little self awareness to
488
00:33:15.200 --> 00:33:21.119
be like, yeah, I fucked
this up, but you have to pay
489
00:33:21.160 --> 00:33:23.359
for this. You need to like
atone for the thing. Like that's like
490
00:33:23.440 --> 00:33:28.079
somebody who's not able to accept fault. I right, Like, well,
491
00:33:28.200 --> 00:33:30.920
that's just like that's why I keep
this is again why I keeping like there
492
00:33:30.920 --> 00:33:35.480
has to be something mentally wrong with
her. She is unstable because she has
493
00:33:35.519 --> 00:33:37.720
an inability to see fault. She
has an inability to make, you know,
494
00:33:37.839 --> 00:33:44.680
to see anybody else's story about her
own. Yeah okay, but even
495
00:33:44.680 --> 00:33:47.359
if she had called him in like
I fucked up you guys, I don't
496
00:33:47.359 --> 00:33:51.920
know how I'm gonna pay for these
cancelation fees. Is there any way you
497
00:33:51.920 --> 00:33:54.759
could lend me money? Yeah?
Or can we crowdfund a little bit?
498
00:33:54.839 --> 00:33:58.759
Yeah? I'm desperate. I'm gonna
lose my house. Yeah, there's like
499
00:33:58.880 --> 00:34:02.440
no pology from her only moment where
she's like, I fucked up. I
500
00:34:02.559 --> 00:34:06.799
need but I still need help,
Like I made a mistake, but I'm
501
00:34:06.839 --> 00:34:09.719
like begging, well, and you
noticed this. The bridesmaids didn't say that
502
00:34:09.800 --> 00:34:15.039
mistake were out. Yeah, they
didn't say anything until she was like I
503
00:34:15.199 --> 00:34:17.199
was still there and answered her call. You're right, yeah, and tell
504
00:34:17.280 --> 00:34:21.360
that money. And then that's when
you're just like, okay, whatever.
505
00:34:21.519 --> 00:34:24.360
I just want to know. Has
she never acted like this before? Yeah?
506
00:34:24.719 --> 00:34:28.760
Like all these people seems Yeah,
she had like a huge wedding party.
507
00:34:28.840 --> 00:34:31.119
She's got this guy, like people
have seen this ship yeah before.
508
00:34:31.159 --> 00:34:35.400
Now this has come out of nowhere
for a wedding. That's yeah, come
509
00:34:35.440 --> 00:34:37.679
on. There had to be signs
that you were like this, she's going
510
00:34:37.719 --> 00:34:40.000
to be the worst, you know, and y'all are too old for this
511
00:34:40.039 --> 00:34:45.320
shop. Yeah. Okay, So
this, like little the money detail like
512
00:34:45.519 --> 00:34:49.119
jogged my memory of something else that
i'd read about a bride thing. So
513
00:34:49.159 --> 00:34:51.960
I'm going to read that story real
fast. It's a little shorter the one
514
00:34:52.000 --> 00:34:53.400
that Eric sent. I think maybe
we could finish on you reading. This
515
00:34:53.400 --> 00:34:55.519
can be a bridge, yeah,
a little bridge. Yeah, Because we
516
00:34:55.559 --> 00:34:59.920
started with the super intense one.
This one is also a little ten,
517
00:35:00.280 --> 00:35:02.599
but also like, it's not a
Bridezilla situation. It's an in my asshole
518
00:35:02.599 --> 00:35:07.599
situation. I love it. Yeah. Uh, let's see. So here's
519
00:35:07.639 --> 00:35:09.599
the here's the title. Okay,
am I the asshole for kicking my maid
520
00:35:09.639 --> 00:35:15.199
of honor out of my wedding with
five days? Notice? Yes, yeah
521
00:35:15.239 --> 00:35:17.159
you think yes, well I always
think that though, Yeah, and then
522
00:35:17.280 --> 00:35:22.320
the details come out. I'm always
like, oh no, she was a
523
00:35:22.360 --> 00:35:23.480
mom. That's what's so fun about
these is like guess they'd be like,
524
00:35:23.559 --> 00:35:28.320
nope, you really. I do
like us making a decision based on the
525
00:35:28.400 --> 00:35:30.880
name. Yeah, Like I do
love that. I want us all to
526
00:35:30.920 --> 00:35:34.159
alwait, you and I have a
map decision and then be like, nope,
527
00:35:34.159 --> 00:35:37.079
I was wrong. I was wrong. That's my favorite. We're like
528
00:35:37.280 --> 00:35:39.599
new it. Yeah, I call
it. I'm so smart, I'm intuitive
529
00:35:39.639 --> 00:35:44.920
as folk. Okay, so here
we go. And then there's an update
530
00:35:45.000 --> 00:35:45.800
on a profile. So I'm gonna
go through this, and then I have
531
00:35:45.840 --> 00:35:49.360
never I haven't read the update.
I only read the OG. We'll see
532
00:35:49.360 --> 00:35:53.320
what's gonna happen. Okay, I'm
twenty three female getting married in a couple
533
00:35:53.360 --> 00:35:57.440
of days. Most of this is
in the last two weeks. My maid
534
00:35:57.480 --> 00:36:02.119
of honor twenty six female was IM. She's going by M was in charge
535
00:36:02.159 --> 00:36:07.039
of planning my bachelorette party, which
I wanted to be a surprise. We
536
00:36:07.119 --> 00:36:08.440
live in a city, but none
of us live downtown, so I was
537
00:36:08.440 --> 00:36:12.719
hoping for a hotel room downtown and
having a fun night out with friends,
538
00:36:12.760 --> 00:36:15.960
maybe a brunch. You read this
month keep going Okay, Yeah, most
539
00:36:15.000 --> 00:36:19.360
of the bridal party live locally,
but two girls flew in for it.
540
00:36:19.920 --> 00:36:22.760
When M picked me up two weeks
ago on Friday, I was excited to
541
00:36:22.760 --> 00:36:27.000
see where we were going and what
we were doing. We ended up going
542
00:36:27.000 --> 00:36:30.280
to M's one bedroom town home and
spent the whole weekends there. There are
543
00:36:30.360 --> 00:36:35.239
eight of us, so it was
cramped and we kept running into issues with
544
00:36:35.280 --> 00:36:38.480
only one bathroom. So they went
to her town hall because she had at
545
00:36:38.519 --> 00:36:45.239
least gotten an airbnb. Yeah.
Continue, so her own personal home that
546
00:36:45.280 --> 00:36:47.599
she has already paid for. Wow. Yeah. On Friday night we had
547
00:36:47.639 --> 00:36:51.960
games and ordered pizza. Saturday,
we had a Mimosa bar when shopping,
548
00:36:52.079 --> 00:36:54.639
ordered food, and watched a movie
before partying ways on Sunday, it wasn't
549
00:36:54.679 --> 00:36:59.719
the bachelorette party of my dreams or
particularly fun weekend. But it was okay,
550
00:36:59.760 --> 00:37:01.599
and I I appreciated it. But
heems sweet, like she's you know,
551
00:37:02.000 --> 00:37:06.719
yeah, honest about it. Last
week in My fiance thirty two mail,
552
00:37:07.000 --> 00:37:09.119
Jay had just returned from a work
trip. I hadn't caught him up
553
00:37:09.119 --> 00:37:13.639
to speed on the party, which
there wasn't much to report. But when
554
00:37:13.679 --> 00:37:15.480
he returned, we were chatting and
I told him about the party. He
555
00:37:15.559 --> 00:37:21.360
looked confused and said but said said
nothing else that evening. Okay, okay.
556
00:37:21.440 --> 00:37:22.880
The next day I get a message
from M asking to meet up to
557
00:37:22.880 --> 00:37:28.400
talk about something. M revealed that
Jay had given her a significant amount of
558
00:37:28.440 --> 00:37:30.800
money over a year ago, with
the intention that it was used to pay
559
00:37:30.840 --> 00:37:35.719
for a bachelorette party. It would
have been enough to pay for the entire
560
00:37:35.800 --> 00:37:39.639
bridal party to do a week long
vacation out of town, including airfare,
561
00:37:39.880 --> 00:37:44.760
hotel, food, drinks, and
fun. So like one hundred thousand dollars
562
00:37:44.840 --> 00:37:49.960
for sure, I for eight women? Yes, like at least fifty Yeah,
563
00:37:50.239 --> 00:37:52.280
that's also get it, Jake,
get it, Jake, Jay seems
564
00:37:52.559 --> 00:37:55.559
very like what a good nailing,
What a sweet little thing to do for
565
00:37:55.599 --> 00:38:00.320
your bride, right, like honestly, that's incredible to me. Back to
566
00:38:00.320 --> 00:38:01.719
that going, uh, we can
talk about now. I don't know.
567
00:38:01.800 --> 00:38:05.360
Oh, that's just the one like
when I first read this, and it's
568
00:38:05.360 --> 00:38:08.519
all coming back to me slowly though
you're reading, listening to things out loud.
569
00:38:08.519 --> 00:38:12.599
I always read. I always hear
things, yes, because I'm bad
570
00:38:12.599 --> 00:38:15.519
at I'm a skimmer right right.
I have a hard time like processing details,
571
00:38:15.559 --> 00:38:21.079
so ay, like auditorially yea details. But I even the first time,
572
00:38:21.119 --> 00:38:22.920
I was like, this is a
fucking keeper, this guy. And
573
00:38:23.000 --> 00:38:25.679
he didn't even want to tell her. Yeah, he didn't want to tell
574
00:38:25.719 --> 00:38:29.159
her. He literally was like,
well if he was going to made a
575
00:38:29.199 --> 00:38:30.639
weird face, but he didn't say
anything. I liked that. He's like,
576
00:38:30.760 --> 00:38:34.119
no, em was the one who
sucked her over, needs to be
577
00:38:34.159 --> 00:38:37.079
the one who like he probably called
him and it is like, you have
578
00:38:37.159 --> 00:38:38.679
two choices. I'm going to tell
her or you're gonna tell her. So
579
00:38:38.920 --> 00:38:42.920
there we go. Uh. I
wasn't expecting this type of event. A
580
00:38:42.920 --> 00:38:45.679
week in downtown would have been wonderful
and would have even though the party at
581
00:38:45.679 --> 00:38:49.840
her home a prince, I know, was it what I hoped for?
582
00:38:50.159 --> 00:38:52.519
I was fine with it because I
got to be with all my friends,
583
00:38:52.039 --> 00:38:57.719
and she instead used the money to
pay off credit card debt and hoped that
584
00:38:57.840 --> 00:39:05.360
no one would notice. Go fuck
it americandebt Relief dot com and they can
585
00:39:05.400 --> 00:39:09.000
help you. Yeah they helped me. Yeah, may helped ya. We
586
00:39:09.039 --> 00:39:15.039
are not sponsored. They can help
me, they can help you. Yeah.
587
00:39:15.039 --> 00:39:19.119
How everybody knows my financial position,
right, We're all in fucking debt.
588
00:39:19.199 --> 00:39:21.960
That is the state of it.
It's like ninety percent or some shit.
589
00:39:22.079 --> 00:39:24.519
Yeah, it's I'm still working on
this. Go oh, I apparently
590
00:39:24.679 --> 00:39:29.840
drank real fast, can keep going? Uh? Since then, let's see.
591
00:39:29.960 --> 00:39:31.840
I told her I needed some time
to process and went home. After
592
00:39:31.880 --> 00:39:36.760
talking to Jay about it, I
decided that the best action would be to
593
00:39:36.800 --> 00:39:38.559
remove her from the wedding. Absolutely. I came to this decision because I
594
00:39:38.559 --> 00:39:40.960
don't feel like and trust her and
don't want her standing next to me at
595
00:39:42.000 --> 00:39:45.199
my wedding. I slept on it
overnight and sent her a text saying this
596
00:39:45.320 --> 00:39:47.480
on Monday. This girl sounds so
mature for twenty three. Yeah, dude,
597
00:39:47.519 --> 00:39:52.079
like she really got her shit together, Dana. Well, Jay is
598
00:39:52.119 --> 00:39:54.800
thirty two, so he's like,
you know, Jay is appropriately mature,
599
00:39:54.840 --> 00:39:59.320
I think, But like Dana was
twenty nine. Yeah, like what the
600
00:39:59.360 --> 00:40:01.480
fuck exactly? You're doing so good
girl, Yeah, I hope you're listening
601
00:40:01.559 --> 00:40:04.840
to this. You're doing a great
job. Really proud of you. I'm
602
00:40:04.840 --> 00:40:07.320
like, really, yeah, your
auntie's over here it let's get your emotional
603
00:40:07.360 --> 00:40:13.000
growth is like really solid. We're
so proud. Good job. Let's see.
604
00:40:13.039 --> 00:40:15.440
Since then, I've been getting text
from her mom and boyfriend telling me
605
00:40:15.480 --> 00:40:19.960
how awful I am for doing this
since I don't need a big party and
606
00:40:19.960 --> 00:40:24.239
and was able to financially benefit.
What the fuck? Like, so sorry,
607
00:40:28.159 --> 00:40:31.960
yeah, so EM's mom and boyfriend
are harassing this woman now after she
608
00:40:32.159 --> 00:40:36.480
was like very like yeah, like
yeah, I can't trust you, Like
609
00:40:36.559 --> 00:40:38.320
this is a big breach done,
Like I think she needs to be done
610
00:40:38.360 --> 00:40:42.559
with those people. I think she
needs to sue em. Yeah, Like
611
00:40:43.320 --> 00:40:46.440
that's a lot of money. I
mean that's minimum fifty K. Yeah,
612
00:40:46.519 --> 00:40:53.079
I M yeah, I for people
to decide on No, Yeah, that
613
00:40:53.199 --> 00:40:55.800
means that you know what it is. I bet that Jay is just so
614
00:40:57.000 --> 00:41:00.519
wealthy that they're just like, yeah, she should pay for her credit card,
615
00:41:01.199 --> 00:41:05.239
Like it's fine, what's happened is
what happened? Yeah, scammers be
616
00:41:05.280 --> 00:41:07.599
scamming. Yeah, and they're just
like, but she's important in our lives.
617
00:41:07.719 --> 00:41:10.199
Yeah, you know what, Like
I think that we should just brush
618
00:41:10.239 --> 00:41:13.920
it off and go on. Yeah, Which it's like I get it,
619
00:41:14.000 --> 00:41:19.280
Like Jay apparently is wealthy, but
like that doesn't mean that, like it
620
00:41:19.320 --> 00:41:22.440
doesn't mean the consequences of lying,
yeah, when she obviously could have just
621
00:41:22.519 --> 00:41:27.239
asked Jay for help maybe, yeah
exactly. And it seems like Jay has
622
00:41:27.320 --> 00:41:30.400
the wells and this is like a
good enough friend of his soon to be
623
00:41:30.440 --> 00:41:31.760
wife that I feel like he'd be
open to being like, yeah, we
624
00:41:31.760 --> 00:41:34.960
could, like I could get you
a lower interest rate loan, yes,
625
00:41:35.039 --> 00:41:37.960
you know exactly, Like we we're
definitely going to do a loan here.
626
00:41:37.039 --> 00:41:39.599
Yeah, but you can pay me
back in this much time and we'll do
627
00:41:39.679 --> 00:41:44.119
this interest and like, yeah,
come on, But she was sneaky,
628
00:41:44.360 --> 00:41:46.079
She was fucking sneaky, and she
like did this thinking she wasn't going to
629
00:41:46.119 --> 00:41:50.960
get caught. So she's sneaky and
dumb. That's the problem. It's lying
630
00:41:51.079 --> 00:41:54.239
and stupid and like, yes,
scammers be scamming, but this is her
631
00:41:54.280 --> 00:41:58.760
best friend. I mean, here's
a deal. This is enough money you
632
00:41:58.800 --> 00:42:01.320
could have shaved off the top and
nobody would have ever found out exactly.
633
00:42:01.480 --> 00:42:06.000
I mean, I'm not saying that, like I'm not honestly, she could
634
00:42:06.039 --> 00:42:09.000
have shamed five k. Nobody would
have probably taken half. It's still done
635
00:42:09.000 --> 00:42:14.360
a really nice like vacation thing.
Get the right deals. Yeah, if
636
00:42:14.400 --> 00:42:16.519
you found the right deals, you
could do that trip for twenty five k.
637
00:42:16.719 --> 00:42:22.519
Yeah, take twenty five k off
half of your deck. Jesus Christ,
638
00:42:22.719 --> 00:42:25.719
you're so stupid. Yeah, you
don't have to take all of it.
639
00:42:25.880 --> 00:42:29.239
Yeah, be a scammer, but
be smart. Don't be a dumb
640
00:42:29.239 --> 00:42:32.840
scammer. Listen to your auntie.
Yeah, dum, I like this idea
641
00:42:32.840 --> 00:42:37.519
of us being your friends. Yeah, you scam people, you barely big
642
00:42:37.599 --> 00:42:42.360
businesses scam Walmart. Yes. Oh, by the way, watched Okay,
643
00:42:42.400 --> 00:42:45.000
we'll talk later. There's a new
movie on Netflix. Maybe it's not new
644
00:42:45.199 --> 00:42:52.360
new with Kristen Oh shit. Anyways, she's married to Stewart Deck Stewart or
645
00:42:52.960 --> 00:42:57.360
Kristen Bell. Yes, and it's
all about that woman that scammed all of
646
00:42:57.400 --> 00:43:04.000
the big companies by making fake coupons
stores and she like made she like created
647
00:43:04.039 --> 00:43:07.960
like billions of dollars nice of fake
coupons. Yeah. She anyways, she
648
00:43:08.000 --> 00:43:12.559
got caught. My favorite fairy fun
movie. Yeah, my favorite Sam was
649
00:43:12.599 --> 00:43:17.400
this guy who he would invoice big
companies with like something like uh, printer
650
00:43:17.599 --> 00:43:21.599
repair, like a thousand dollars or
something, and he would just like invoice
651
00:43:21.599 --> 00:43:24.480
them and then they would just pay
it because like they like the bureaucracy was
652
00:43:24.519 --> 00:43:29.400
so like bad that they didn't even
catch him. I think it was just
653
00:43:29.440 --> 00:43:31.800
like eventually somebody. He did this
for years. He got like millions from
654
00:43:31.800 --> 00:43:35.480
it from just like here and there, go to various ones like no,
655
00:43:35.719 --> 00:43:38.000
even if a company is like do
we that's not real, that company could
656
00:43:38.079 --> 00:43:40.960
go after him and he could be
like here's your thousand bucks back. Yeah,
657
00:43:42.000 --> 00:43:44.760
like no big deal. Like how
did they all talk to each other.
658
00:43:44.880 --> 00:43:45.960
I don't know that they did talk
to each other. I think one
659
00:43:45.960 --> 00:43:51.320
company probably caught on that. It
was like caught the discrepancy, and I
660
00:43:51.320 --> 00:43:54.039
think he was like recurring billing.
Oh that's that's see. He made that
661
00:43:54.079 --> 00:43:58.800
mistake. Yeah, never, but
he got years and millions out of it.
662
00:43:58.840 --> 00:44:01.440
So it's like, yeah, so
scamming companies, guys and scam corporations,
663
00:44:01.639 --> 00:44:04.880
just make sure that whatever you're doing, you're putting enough away that you
664
00:44:04.920 --> 00:44:07.480
can repair. Yeah, they're not
going to make you pay it all back.
665
00:44:07.559 --> 00:44:08.960
Yeah. And also these guys are
very re litigious, so like,
666
00:44:09.199 --> 00:44:12.840
yeah, that's what drives me crazy. It's like, you're gonna make them
667
00:44:12.840 --> 00:44:15.960
pay it all back because I just
feel like if you were smart enough to
668
00:44:15.000 --> 00:44:19.199
make this like work for so long, yeah, I'm like, give them
669
00:44:19.199 --> 00:44:21.480
a little bit. This is a
piece of it. This is my thing
670
00:44:21.480 --> 00:44:25.239
why I'm not mad about Annadelmai because
she only went after like big companies,
671
00:44:25.679 --> 00:44:30.000
like big banks. Honestly, I
think you do your prison time. Yeah,
672
00:44:30.159 --> 00:44:34.119
no need to pay it back.
Yeah. The companies already are cool.
673
00:44:34.400 --> 00:44:36.639
It's fine, they're fine. They're
already and they're already scamming the rest
674
00:44:36.639 --> 00:44:38.559
of us to give away the end
of that movie. But you you have
675
00:44:38.599 --> 00:44:42.320
to watch it. Yeah, and
so do you listeners. This is I've
676
00:44:42.320 --> 00:44:45.639
seen it. Yeah yeah, Okay, then you like you know that that's
677
00:44:45.639 --> 00:44:46.599
how it is. In the end, they were just like, you guys
678
00:44:46.599 --> 00:44:51.159
are only going to get a few
months because it was just like we don't
679
00:44:51.199 --> 00:44:53.880
care, we don't want our names
to be even in the press as being
680
00:44:53.960 --> 00:44:58.199
scammed. Yeah, and we're just
gonna sweep because then it's like a big
681
00:44:58.480 --> 00:45:01.159
security risk. Yeah exactly. Yeah, anyway, okay, sorry, back
682
00:45:01.199 --> 00:45:06.559
to this, back to this bride
off something we should not be scammed because
683
00:45:06.559 --> 00:45:10.239
she's an individual. Yeah, don't
scam your friends, yeah, or like
684
00:45:10.280 --> 00:45:15.079
the small people back, like the
big people, the big guys. Come
685
00:45:15.119 --> 00:45:20.840
on. That's just that's just revolution. It's revolution. One scam at a
686
00:45:20.880 --> 00:45:23.599
time, one scam at a time. Yeah, okay, let's see.
687
00:45:23.920 --> 00:45:28.960
Okay. My mom is also against
removing her from the wedding, as she's
688
00:45:29.000 --> 00:45:31.159
like a sister to our family and
it would be tragic for me to get
689
00:45:31.159 --> 00:45:36.119
married without him. There. That's
fucked. I don't I don't think her
690
00:45:36.159 --> 00:45:38.840
mom knows the context to like say
that, like knows how much money?
691
00:45:39.400 --> 00:45:42.960
Right, Maybe that says she's like
it's a few hundred bucks or something.
692
00:45:43.079 --> 00:45:46.280
Yeah, I just looks like that
between friends who would say she's she's family,
693
00:45:46.840 --> 00:45:51.320
when she did not treat you guys
like family. If you are my
694
00:45:51.440 --> 00:45:54.480
family, I'm coming to you and
saying I'm in trouble. Can you either
695
00:45:54.559 --> 00:45:58.519
help me with money or help me
figure out what I could do because I
696
00:45:58.559 --> 00:46:02.320
don't know what to do? Yeah, right, Like you don't treat family
697
00:46:02.400 --> 00:46:06.559
like that, Yes, exactly.
So she's obviously not your family, Like
698
00:46:06.639 --> 00:46:09.679
she's already like proven that's what you're
not her family said, so yes,
699
00:46:09.840 --> 00:46:14.760
yeah, yes, that's fucked yeah. Like to me, the thing that's
700
00:46:14.760 --> 00:46:17.679
crazy is like, like em is
lucky at this point, she's not being
701
00:46:17.719 --> 00:46:22.400
immediately sued. Yes, right,
and like for anybody else to be like,
702
00:46:22.440 --> 00:46:23.280
no, put her back on the
wedding and like, if you like
703
00:46:23.679 --> 00:46:25.679
EM should be like don't look at
me, like, don't pay attention to
704
00:46:25.679 --> 00:46:29.199
back. Yeah, she should be
hiding under her life. She should be
705
00:46:29.280 --> 00:46:31.559
hiding under a FuG and rock.
Yeah yeah, and she should tell like
706
00:46:31.840 --> 00:46:36.039
her family to shut the fuck out. Yeah, you like, do not
707
00:46:36.079 --> 00:46:37.960
say anything, it's fine, Yeah, Like I don't want to be in
708
00:46:38.000 --> 00:46:42.599
the wedding. I obviously fucked up
and just walk away and see if everybody
709
00:46:42.639 --> 00:46:45.960
will just ignore it and not demand
the money back, like apologize and like
710
00:46:45.119 --> 00:46:49.599
yeah, oh my god, I'm
so sorry and then just hope that asks
711
00:46:49.800 --> 00:46:52.440
that's the money. But to like
be aggressive and be like no, well,
712
00:46:52.440 --> 00:46:55.400
and she may maybe has nothing to
do with it, but I like,
713
00:46:55.480 --> 00:46:58.920
if you fuck up like this,
you got to actively get in front
714
00:46:58.920 --> 00:47:02.440
of the family that loves you.
Yeah, immediately, yes, exactly Okay.
715
00:47:02.440 --> 00:47:07.000
So the rest of the bridal party
is split, with half saying I
716
00:47:07.039 --> 00:47:09.800
shouldn't have kicked her out and the
other half agreeing with me kick out that
717
00:47:09.960 --> 00:47:13.639
other hat. I feel like they
can't know how much I's got to lose
718
00:47:13.639 --> 00:47:15.400
all these people in her life.
Yeah, I'm sorry. Yeah, okay.
719
00:47:15.559 --> 00:47:20.719
Em has called me crying because she
already has her dress, Jay and
720
00:47:20.800 --> 00:47:24.760
I paid for all the dresses and
she can't wear it anywhere else. Am
721
00:47:24.840 --> 00:47:30.880
shut the fuck up, you dumb
shit? Like god, this girl and
722
00:47:30.159 --> 00:47:32.679
is the stupid? Yeah, is
the stupid? There are these people dumb,
723
00:47:32.880 --> 00:47:37.840
so dumb. At this point,
I want the wedding to be over
724
00:47:37.920 --> 00:47:39.599
with so I can be on my
honeymoon and I have to deal with these
725
00:47:39.639 --> 00:47:44.079
people. So was my action to
extreme. I love that her husband's on
726
00:47:44.119 --> 00:47:46.239
her side. Yeah, there was
no part of this where he has said
727
00:47:46.239 --> 00:47:49.920
that she would say, Oh,
this is one of the first Like,
728
00:47:50.559 --> 00:47:52.320
am I the asshole posts from a
bride that I'm like, you should marry
729
00:47:52.320 --> 00:47:57.679
this man? Yeah? Yeah?
Like this man is gold. Yeah,
730
00:47:57.719 --> 00:48:00.199
this guy is an angel. Yes
he's like a rich yes, like handsome
731
00:48:00.199 --> 00:48:05.320
angel. I assume I assume he's
rich. He's probably a prince. Yeah,
732
00:48:05.320 --> 00:48:08.880
probably a prince. This is Hallmark. We're creating a Hallmark on a
733
00:48:08.960 --> 00:48:13.000
scam. Do you watch K pop
drama or dramas ka dramas? Ever,
734
00:48:13.119 --> 00:48:16.199
this is a very K drama like
plotline where it's like a very rich,
735
00:48:16.239 --> 00:48:20.679
handsome guy who's just like anything for
you, my lady, Like, yeah,
736
00:48:20.719 --> 00:48:23.239
but that's they're all. They're like, this isn't real. We actually
737
00:48:23.320 --> 00:48:27.519
stole that from K drama. Yeah, and everybody else around her is bullying
738
00:48:27.519 --> 00:48:30.480
her and scamming her, and he's
like, no, not my girl.
739
00:48:30.519 --> 00:48:34.559
It's very K drama. So I
love that. Yeah, I love that.
740
00:48:34.760 --> 00:48:37.079
Okay, So here's the ridder for
the update. Yes, okay,
741
00:48:37.639 --> 00:48:39.360
hey read it. I'm here with
an update to my am I the asshole
742
00:48:39.360 --> 00:48:44.719
post. First, thank all of
thank you all so much for being so
743
00:48:44.800 --> 00:48:47.320
nice on my previous post. I
know this is she sounds so sweet,
744
00:48:47.440 --> 00:48:51.039
this cral I just want to like
put her in my pocket. No,
745
00:48:51.159 --> 00:48:54.320
she sounds like a little baby made
an adult baby. It's like the most
746
00:48:54.400 --> 00:48:58.639
like you are not an asshole story. Yeah, and she's just like somebody
747
00:48:58.679 --> 00:49:01.440
disagreed with me and now I'm worried. Am I well like her whole like
748
00:49:01.639 --> 00:49:05.880
half of her friend group, her
whole family. It sounds like and then
749
00:49:06.519 --> 00:49:09.679
and like everybody is yeah, so
she's like yeah, I would also question
750
00:49:09.760 --> 00:49:14.800
it, like to be open enough
to even yeah, she's not to me.
751
00:49:15.039 --> 00:49:16.320
It sounds like she's not asking it
like a lot of them I the
752
00:49:16.320 --> 00:49:21.480
assholes where they're just like fuck you. I'm obviously I am not the asshole,
753
00:49:21.559 --> 00:49:24.599
and what they obviously are right,
this one seems very like I'm open
754
00:49:24.679 --> 00:49:27.639
to it. Am I like,
I don't know what to do. I
755
00:49:27.679 --> 00:49:30.000
feel so uncomfortable. Yeah, I
don't want everybody to hate me. Yeah,
756
00:49:32.000 --> 00:49:35.639
let's see. I know this is
delayed, but I hope it answers
757
00:49:35.679 --> 00:49:39.400
any lingering questions you may have and
what and I was somewhat waiting to have
758
00:49:39.440 --> 00:49:44.400
an update that would answer questions.
I had no idea my previous post would
759
00:49:44.440 --> 00:49:47.119
get so much attention and so many
people would be interested to answer the most
760
00:49:47.159 --> 00:49:52.880
pressing question. I removed my maid
of honor from my wedding along and disinvited
761
00:49:52.920 --> 00:49:55.760
those who continued to support her after
I shared the amount she stole. Okay,
762
00:49:55.760 --> 00:49:59.119
I think we're gonna winto comments because
I think she might mention in the
763
00:49:59.119 --> 00:50:02.760
comments how much was actually my husband
and I had a lovely wedding and honeymoon,
764
00:50:04.079 --> 00:50:06.760
and when we got back, we
got in contact with his lawyer and
765
00:50:06.800 --> 00:50:09.760
began to begin compiling information like this
is a happy ending of a movie right
766
00:50:09.800 --> 00:50:14.519
now, Yeah, her update.
This is the first time I got drama
767
00:50:15.360 --> 00:50:17.880
update. I'm like you, I
think you need to watch k dramas because
768
00:50:17.880 --> 00:50:21.519
this is kind of this is exactly
what happens. It's just a nice little
769
00:50:21.559 --> 00:50:27.360
bow justice for the first time a
Reddit story ends up how we want it
770
00:50:27.400 --> 00:50:30.360
to. Yeah, we're like,
you should suit. I sued. I
771
00:50:30.519 --> 00:50:34.199
suit should kick those people out.
I kicked I did. They were bad,
772
00:50:35.400 --> 00:50:37.519
Like, oh my god, sare
not real friends. Real friends wouldn't
773
00:50:37.519 --> 00:50:42.480
do me like that. Yeah,
she's doing it, yeah with her name
774
00:50:42.519 --> 00:50:45.079
is Kaylee something, kay kl ninety
nine is the is her handle? So
775
00:50:45.159 --> 00:50:51.719
kl. Yeah, you're doing it
baby. Your auntie's Malan jen Well and
776
00:50:51.760 --> 00:50:54.679
I'm so proud of you. See, let's see, I'm a for a
777
00:50:54.719 --> 00:50:59.400
civil suit. Okay, this is
still in the early stages, but as
778
00:50:59.480 --> 00:51:02.719
so many did point out, we
do have a responsibility to ensure she faces
779
00:51:02.760 --> 00:51:08.119
some kind of consequence to prevent this
from happening to someone else. That's such
780
00:51:08.119 --> 00:51:10.320
a good way to look at it, Like it kind of sounds like Jay's
781
00:51:10.440 --> 00:51:14.039
good no matter what, Like that's
this was kind of a drop in the
782
00:51:14.039 --> 00:51:16.599
bucket if he was like okay with
suspending it. But yeah, for them
783
00:51:16.599 --> 00:51:20.440
to be like, yeah, she
came after us, like who knows how,
784
00:51:20.519 --> 00:51:22.800
who knows who else she scammed and
not been caught? Yep, you
785
00:51:22.840 --> 00:51:28.440
know? Okay, Well we don't. We won't be pressing criminal charges.
786
00:51:28.519 --> 00:51:32.639
We'll cooperate with law enforcement should the
DA wish to bring charges after information is
787
00:51:32.639 --> 00:51:38.159
brought forth in our civil suit.
I honestly don't think believe my ex friend
788
00:51:38.199 --> 00:51:42.920
has money to repay us, but
we will be donating anything we received from
789
00:51:42.960 --> 00:51:45.079
the trial. I'll try to respond
to comments below if there are any other
790
00:51:45.159 --> 00:51:50.639
questions. Heroes, rich heroes,
these cheople, These are the kind of
791
00:51:50.639 --> 00:51:54.400
people that should be rich, rich
people, but these are the people that
792
00:51:54.480 --> 00:51:58.719
deserve it. Yeah, I'm gonna
like start scrolling and try to find Okay,
793
00:51:59.079 --> 00:52:04.000
twenty five k is all, Oh
that was taken? Yeah, I
794
00:52:04.039 --> 00:52:07.400
mean I guess if you're going somewhere
low like in America, you can yeah
795
00:52:07.440 --> 00:52:08.519
what happened? Yeah, I bet
if you were like say you were in
796
00:52:08.639 --> 00:52:12.920
a like Illinois and you're flying to
Nashville. We should do the math.
797
00:52:13.239 --> 00:52:15.760
Yeah, that's books some plights later
for eight people. Let's say it's like
798
00:52:15.800 --> 00:52:20.519
four hundred bucks for each person's flight, which is like it might be six
799
00:52:20.599 --> 00:52:23.400
hundred for some but that's fine.
Yeah, that's thirty two hundred. Yeah
800
00:52:23.480 --> 00:52:28.000
okay, and then we talk about
hotels day, Yeah, a big airbnb
801
00:52:28.159 --> 00:52:30.199
is a nice house, like those
are for eight days, that thousand to
802
00:52:30.559 --> 00:52:34.679
thousand, yeah, right, or
like let's say eight thousand. Let's say
803
00:52:34.679 --> 00:52:37.440
eight thousand, thirty two hundred.
That's around a ten thousand because fees and
804
00:52:37.440 --> 00:52:40.000
shed Yeah, for the for like
well no, this is a yeah,
805
00:52:40.039 --> 00:52:45.159
this is a weekend. Well but
she said that it was enough money that
806
00:52:45.239 --> 00:52:47.840
it would go for eight days and
for her whole party. Yeah, so
807
00:52:49.119 --> 00:52:52.000
I'm assuming he probably just made like
eight thousand is like around oh yeah,
808
00:52:52.039 --> 00:52:55.119
so okay, so that's only thirty
that's thirteen thousand, two hundred, yeah,
809
00:52:55.159 --> 00:52:58.800
and the food and stuff. But
I still think twenty five thousand is
810
00:52:58.840 --> 00:53:01.480
probably doable. Yeah, they're going
to like Europe still, yeah, but
811
00:53:01.599 --> 00:53:06.800
yeah, okay, all right,
taking like five k over we overshot the
812
00:53:06.840 --> 00:53:08.039
cost of things. I think,
oh, yeah, inflation has really wrecked
813
00:53:08.039 --> 00:53:13.039
our brains. Really how much things
cost? Like it's a hundred thousand.
814
00:53:13.239 --> 00:53:15.360
Yeah, there's no way could do
that for less than three hundred k.
815
00:53:15.199 --> 00:53:19.039
And people with families are like,
we just paid for our whole family to
816
00:53:19.039 --> 00:53:22.519
go to Disneyland for a week.
And I'm like, that's like four hundred
817
00:53:22.039 --> 00:53:29.920
a million dollars for a vacation.
Vacations are a million. That's all it
818
00:53:30.000 --> 00:53:32.480
can be. Yeah, sorry,
continue, So I'm just kind of like
819
00:53:32.599 --> 00:53:36.960
that's a lot. We were just
so overshot that we're like that's nothing,
820
00:53:37.000 --> 00:53:38.559
and I'm like, no, that's
a ship ton of money. Yeah,
821
00:53:38.599 --> 00:53:44.199
it's a shit ton of money.
Yeah, yeah, he makes significantly more.
822
00:53:45.719 --> 00:53:47.199
I think he gave it to her
under the assumption that a week long
823
00:53:47.280 --> 00:53:52.119
party would take a while to plan, and that way she could start booking
824
00:53:52.239 --> 00:53:55.920
things that may have limited space,
as well as dispersing money to coordinate flights.
825
00:53:57.039 --> 00:53:59.280
Absolutely, she is a person who
has been in my life since I
826
00:53:59.360 --> 00:54:01.760
was eighteen and typically comes over to
her house. Yeah, at least once
827
00:54:01.800 --> 00:54:06.119
a week. My fancy. Yeah, they've all considered. Yeah, she's
828
00:54:06.119 --> 00:54:08.280
twenty three and they've only been friends
in theody. Yeah, family is somebody
829
00:54:08.280 --> 00:54:13.400
that you literally like the parents took
them under their wing when she was like
830
00:54:13.440 --> 00:54:15.719
a child. Yeah, I have
people in my life that I would consider
831
00:54:15.760 --> 00:54:19.239
that. And I'm like, nah, And it sounds like her mom sucks.
832
00:54:19.400 --> 00:54:22.840
M's mom sucks. So she's never
been a great person, no surprise.
833
00:54:22.000 --> 00:54:23.960
Yeah. By the way, I'm
trying to figure out, like,
834
00:54:24.199 --> 00:54:28.320
uh, with her mom, why
her mom was like okay with it.
835
00:54:28.719 --> 00:54:34.320
She must have just not told her. Yeah yeah, so she Oh and
836
00:54:34.400 --> 00:54:37.440
this is crazy. I didn't pay
so for this is for the night of
837
00:54:37.559 --> 00:54:40.159
the actual party. Oh yeah,
she's saying, I didn't pay for anything
838
00:54:40.199 --> 00:54:44.960
other than some drinks I had delivered
because there wasn't anything to drink Friday night.
839
00:54:45.000 --> 00:54:46.639
Oh my god. But everything was
split seven ways between us, so
840
00:54:46.679 --> 00:54:51.400
she didn't even like pay for Like
she could have just taken some money just
841
00:54:51.440 --> 00:54:54.079
to make sure the bride didn't pay
for anything. She left her stranded.
842
00:54:54.119 --> 00:55:00.559
She took the full twenty five K
towards her debt. That's incredible, fucking
843
00:55:00.639 --> 00:55:04.039
bitch. Well, what a dumb
bitch, What a dumb bitch. M
844
00:55:04.400 --> 00:55:07.280
again, skim off the top out
of twenty five k. You could have
845
00:55:07.280 --> 00:55:12.119
taken five K yeah, down on
a nice little trip for yourself. Yeah,
846
00:55:12.280 --> 00:55:15.079
bought some new things or paid some
of your credit card debt down.
847
00:55:15.760 --> 00:55:19.199
I'm not saying you should, I'm
just saying you could. Yeah. That's
848
00:55:19.320 --> 00:55:23.280
like, uh, that's fucked okay, Okay, here we go. Uh,
849
00:55:23.559 --> 00:55:29.039
people realize it. Let's see,
like the prevailing statement is in the
850
00:55:29.039 --> 00:55:31.559
case of my bridal party, they
don't particularly care, and my mom feels
851
00:55:31.559 --> 00:55:36.840
it's okay because it got her out
of debt. Your mom's a problem.
852
00:55:36.880 --> 00:55:40.239
Yeah, my mom is just disregarding
the entire situation because the mom has she
853
00:55:40.320 --> 00:55:43.840
cares about him. So mom does
know how much money. And I have
854
00:55:43.920 --> 00:55:47.960
to say that mom doesn't like you. Yeah, Mom likes them. Mom
855
00:55:49.199 --> 00:55:52.239
has literally adopted them as her own. Yeah, because she's disappointed and doesn't
856
00:55:52.280 --> 00:55:58.079
like you. And so at this
point she's choosing to support somebody who's not
857
00:55:58.159 --> 00:56:01.400
her blood over you, and it's
an obvious space of that. Yeah.
858
00:56:01.519 --> 00:56:06.480
Really, this to me feels like
her mom has some jealousy issues with her
859
00:56:06.559 --> 00:56:08.480
daughter. Yeah, so that's exactly
what I was thinking. So she's like,
860
00:56:08.599 --> 00:56:12.800
yeah, trying to drag Kale and
you probably deserve this, or like
861
00:56:12.880 --> 00:56:15.920
what about m she goes, she's
out of debt. Now that's exactly how
862
00:56:15.000 --> 00:56:20.199
like narcissist mothers act. Yeah,
it sounds like very okay, she's got
863
00:56:20.199 --> 00:56:23.159
to like a shitty. I really
love being on this podcast doing chronically online
864
00:56:23.159 --> 00:56:29.760
where I get to just throw mental
illness terms out and just like diagnose everyone
865
00:56:29.800 --> 00:56:32.800
like it's my favorite arm cher diagnosed. Yes, yes, but as a
866
00:56:32.920 --> 00:56:38.760
little point of correction, I am
not a mental health care specialist. And
867
00:56:38.840 --> 00:56:42.079
all of this is just for shits
and giggle. This is all made up.
868
00:56:42.119 --> 00:56:44.320
I'm pretty sure this all came to
the plot of the k drama.
869
00:56:44.360 --> 00:56:46.800
So yeah, honestly it could actually
be written by AI for all we know.
870
00:56:46.960 --> 00:56:51.400
Yeah, already, are we read? Ready for the final one?
871
00:56:51.440 --> 00:56:53.199
Final one? Where are we at
at an hour? Yeah? Great,
872
00:56:53.239 --> 00:56:57.320
all right, we'll do one last
one? And well this is gonna be
873
00:56:57.320 --> 00:57:02.079
good. Yeah, I'm a bridesmaid. It is on Bridezilla's Can I have
874
00:57:02.119 --> 00:57:05.960
a reality check? Am I dealing
with a Bridezilla? Or am I just
875
00:57:06.039 --> 00:57:08.679
being touchy? That's a subject this
time it felt like a good one to
876
00:57:08.679 --> 00:57:14.800
read. Hey, Bridezilla's community,
my brother, My brother's wedding is very
877
00:57:14.840 --> 00:57:17.159
close on the horizon. And I
agreed to be a bridesmaid. I'm having
878
00:57:17.199 --> 00:57:22.119
a hard time figuring out what's reasonable
and unreasonable. Here, really lovely way
879
00:57:22.159 --> 00:57:29.199
to start. Frankly, I am
very very serious, seriously considering dropping out
880
00:57:29.239 --> 00:57:31.559
of the bridal party. But I
really want a gut check before I do
881
00:57:31.639 --> 00:57:37.639
anything nuclear. Okay, some background. The wedding will be an exclusive at
882
00:57:37.639 --> 00:57:42.079
an exclusive social club in Palm Beach, where her folks live there. I
883
00:57:42.119 --> 00:57:45.800
love Palm Beach. The bride and
groom both live in Manhattan and work in
884
00:57:45.880 --> 00:57:50.079
finance. My brother and I come
from a middle class family and we have
885
00:57:50.119 --> 00:57:55.119
a big, ethnic, not wealthy
family. The bride's parents grew up middle
886
00:57:55.159 --> 00:57:59.719
class and are now exorbitantly wealthy.
How do you get out of that?
887
00:58:00.360 --> 00:58:04.239
Like usually it's very hard to jump
classes. I'm want to read their book
888
00:58:04.599 --> 00:58:14.519
so I can't learn property something evil. I'm sure the bride's parents grew up
889
00:58:14.559 --> 00:58:19.760
middle class and are now exorbitantly wealthy. The bride grew up exorbitantly wealthy,
890
00:58:19.800 --> 00:58:23.519
and Frankly is not used to hearing. No. I went to art school
891
00:58:23.920 --> 00:58:29.360
and have a couple of tattoos on
my arm. Think plants and animals,
892
00:58:29.480 --> 00:58:34.800
oh sweat and the middle class and
am a middle class earner. Jeez,
893
00:58:35.039 --> 00:58:37.880
I'm sorry. This is her brother
is the groom. Yes, I'm going
894
00:58:37.960 --> 00:58:43.960
to refer that's what I was thinking. I'm going to refer to the bride
895
00:58:44.000 --> 00:58:47.920
as Jay. She she hadn't asked
me for anything during the planning process.
896
00:58:49.760 --> 00:58:52.679
She has demanded it. Oh at
first, she's like, oh, that's
897
00:58:52.760 --> 00:58:58.239
nice. Nope, I admitted I
admittedly bristle at this in general. So
898
00:58:58.280 --> 00:59:02.159
I'm trying to untangle that feeling from
the requests themselves, which is very smart
899
00:59:02.159 --> 00:59:07.679
and wise. So here are the
demands. One. I get all the
900
00:59:07.719 --> 00:59:14.480
lists. Before they even got engaged. My brother warned me that she wants
901
00:59:14.519 --> 00:59:19.320
me to wear sleeves to the wedding, So before they were even engaged,
902
00:59:19.800 --> 00:59:22.760
he said he tried to convince her
otherwise, but she steadfast. It's a
903
00:59:22.800 --> 00:59:30.679
black tie engagement. She picked my
bridesmaid dress and had my brother give it
904
00:59:30.679 --> 00:59:34.800
to me without saying anything. All
of the bridesmaids are wearing different dresses.
905
00:59:34.920 --> 00:59:38.960
Mine has full length, sheer polyester
sleeves. That sounds bad. That sounds
906
00:59:38.960 --> 00:59:45.599
like my mom's like bridesmaid dress from
the seventies. Yes, it's very mumsy.
907
00:59:45.719 --> 00:59:49.000
That dress looks bad. Okay,
the dress looks bad on me and
908
00:59:49.159 --> 00:59:52.360
is uncomfortable, which seems par for
the course for the bridesmaid dresses. But
909
00:59:52.480 --> 00:59:58.800
I'm really upset about the sleeves.
Nobody else has sleeves, and they don't
910
00:59:58.840 --> 01:00:02.639
even hide my tattoo completely. Yeah, you can get like a beautiful,
911
01:00:02.800 --> 01:00:07.800
long, kind of vampy sleep.
Yes, there's so many other options that
912
01:00:07.920 --> 01:00:13.000
actually cover the to the sleeves if
that's like what you're going for. Yeah.
913
01:00:13.159 --> 01:00:16.039
I offered to help her find another
dress and wear body makeup to cover
914
01:00:16.119 --> 01:00:22.119
my tattoos. Nope, she wants
me in sleeves. I'm deeply hurt by
915
01:00:22.159 --> 01:00:24.480
this, and my parents and husband
are both upset on my behalf. Yeah
916
01:00:24.519 --> 01:00:29.639
that's nice. I love that we're
all on board. I have the dress
917
01:00:29.639 --> 01:00:31.840
in my office to take to the
tailor, and every time I look at
918
01:00:31.880 --> 01:00:36.280
it, I just see a burning
reminder that she is so embarrassed by my
919
01:00:36.360 --> 01:00:39.639
body that eighteen months in advance she
wanted me to cover it up on her
920
01:00:39.639 --> 01:00:46.760
big day and she's not even covering
it well or completely. Second the wedding
921
01:00:46.800 --> 01:00:52.920
weekend, I Tenerary Jay just sent
her bridesmaids a detailed wedding itinerary, and
922
01:00:53.000 --> 01:00:59.519
every waking moment after my plane lands
will be spent being her bridesmaids bridesmaid they
923
01:00:59.559 --> 01:01:01.440
are back to back events for two
days leading up to the wedding, and
924
01:01:01.480 --> 01:01:05.639
on the wedding day, I'm expected
to be with her from seven thirty until
925
01:01:05.679 --> 01:01:09.800
one am. So seven thirty am
until one am. What what chaps me
926
01:01:09.840 --> 01:01:14.559
here is that it's my brother's wedding. Family is coming from all over,
927
01:01:14.719 --> 01:01:17.840
many of whom I only get to
see on weekends, are at weddings and
928
01:01:17.880 --> 01:01:22.719
funerals nowadays. And I don't want
to dut I'm sorry Jesus, and I
929
01:01:22.760 --> 01:01:27.679
don't want anyone to die soon,
so I better enjoy am at this wedding.
930
01:01:28.320 --> 01:01:31.000
And it's my brother's wedding, it
sounds like I'll never even really get
931
01:01:31.079 --> 01:01:37.639
to spend time with him, much
less relax and enjoy the scenery. Three.
932
01:01:37.920 --> 01:01:40.599
Here are some minor demands. I'm
expected to arrive in Florida with a
933
01:01:40.599 --> 01:01:45.039
spray tan and pale pink mannipetti.
We're not allowed to wear any jewelry.
934
01:01:45.360 --> 01:01:50.559
Here's what I want to say.
I would spray tan orange just fi fick.
935
01:01:50.960 --> 01:01:52.199
I'd be like, yeah, you
want me in a spray can I
936
01:01:52.239 --> 01:01:58.119
am surrange? No jewelry. I
have a brass bangle on my wrist that
937
01:01:58.239 --> 01:02:00.320
hasn't come off in five years because
it's molded to my arm, and she
938
01:02:00.360 --> 01:02:04.840
expects me to take it off.
We're having our hair and makeup done by
939
01:02:04.880 --> 01:02:07.000
an artist, which is pretty normal, but I never wear a full face
940
01:02:07.039 --> 01:02:12.239
of makeup or heat treat my hair, and she's made it clear that I
941
01:02:12.320 --> 01:02:15.840
will. It will be her way, involving full foundation and a flat iron.
942
01:02:16.320 --> 01:02:21.239
There are also dress codes for every
minor event, including a branch at
943
01:02:21.280 --> 01:02:25.119
a conservative country club Florida. I
guess, I bet I could guess whose
944
01:02:25.159 --> 01:02:30.320
fucking wedding this is. With strict
codes where they don't let girls wear pants,
945
01:02:31.000 --> 01:02:36.599
she I just lost it. She
provided a vibes a list of vibes
946
01:02:36.719 --> 01:02:42.280
to build our outfits around for each
event, such as elevated Island cocktail attire,
947
01:02:42.840 --> 01:02:45.440
and has provided colors she would like
us to dress in. I consider
948
01:02:45.480 --> 01:02:50.480
myself pretty fashionable, but my sense
of style is my own. My wardrobe
949
01:02:50.519 --> 01:02:52.880
has a very limited overlap with any
of the outfits she wants us to wear.
950
01:02:53.519 --> 01:02:59.800
There are at least seven events with
their own dress codes. Holy shit.
951
01:03:00.119 --> 01:03:06.079
I buy clothes intentionally think of a
capsule style wardrobe, and the idea
952
01:03:06.119 --> 01:03:08.519
of having to go spend my money
on a bunch of clothing for individual events
953
01:03:08.559 --> 01:03:14.400
really bothers me, especially because she's
made it clear she's not looking for my
954
01:03:14.559 --> 01:03:19.159
interpretation of the style. She wants
me to fit the mold. There's more
955
01:03:19.199 --> 01:03:22.320
things, but those are my big
personal hang ups. There are similar issues
956
01:03:22.360 --> 01:03:28.320
with other folks. Jay's gotten upset
with my family because nobody booked rooms in
957
01:03:28.320 --> 01:03:30.599
the hotel block, and now they
have to pay. The rooms cost four
958
01:03:30.719 --> 01:03:34.440
hundred to nine hundred and fifty dollars
a night, by the way, so
959
01:03:34.519 --> 01:03:38.280
nobody can afford that. Jay and
my brother told my parents to pay for
960
01:03:38.320 --> 01:03:43.320
the rehearsal dinner. It's going to
be fifteen to twenty thousand dollars minimum.
961
01:03:43.639 --> 01:03:47.679
My mom has stopped paying into her
retirement savings to afford it. I can't
962
01:03:47.679 --> 01:03:52.159
believe he did that to his mom. My family's I feel like this she's
963
01:03:52.199 --> 01:03:55.559
saved all the worst shit for last. My family's Jewish, and she's made
964
01:03:55.599 --> 01:04:00.719
comments indicating she doesn't want too much
Jewish stuff at the wedding. What the
965
01:04:00.760 --> 01:04:04.440
fuck? She's insisted that she's going
to take everyone's chairs away during the reception
966
01:04:04.920 --> 01:04:09.840
so everyone has to dance. When
I pressed, she clarified that she was
967
01:04:09.920 --> 01:04:14.719
not joking, and yes, she
will even take away my ninety one year
968
01:04:14.760 --> 01:04:18.480
old grandmother's chair. Oh no,
that one really pissed me off. That's
969
01:04:18.519 --> 01:04:23.639
elder abuse. Jesus, you don't
even joke about that much. Lessonsists that
970
01:04:23.679 --> 01:04:28.360
you're not joking. Her attitude about
all of this seems to be that she
971
01:04:28.519 --> 01:04:30.559
is the star, which is totally
fair on your wedding day, and that
972
01:04:30.599 --> 01:04:35.360
everybody else is an accessory, including
me. I'm just not sure how normal
973
01:04:35.400 --> 01:04:40.639
that part is. It feels awful, and I am honestly dreading the whole
974
01:04:40.639 --> 01:04:44.400
event. I feel dehumanized. Frankly, the main reason I haven't pushed back
975
01:04:44.480 --> 01:04:47.280
or dropped out until now is that, in the event my brother ever needs
976
01:04:47.280 --> 01:04:53.039
my support, like marital struggles,
I don't want him to hesitate to come
977
01:04:53.039 --> 01:04:56.360
to me. If I start to
fight now, I could one hundred percent
978
01:04:56.400 --> 01:05:00.119
see Jay making him choose me or
her, and I think he would have
979
01:05:00.159 --> 01:05:04.039
to pick her, especially with the
money behind the wedding. On the other
980
01:05:04.079 --> 01:05:06.960
hand, if I drop out of
the wedding party, the wedding weekend sounds
981
01:05:08.000 --> 01:05:12.599
super fun without all of these constraints. What do you think is she a
982
01:05:12.599 --> 01:05:15.559
bridezilla or am I just being overly
sensitive? Yeah, she's definitely a bridezillow.
983
01:05:16.320 --> 01:05:19.800
This one is mean and possibly racist. Yeah, like a fucking uh
984
01:05:20.199 --> 01:05:27.480
you know, fucking problem. Yeah, sounds like they're voters. Yeah.
985
01:05:27.519 --> 01:05:29.800
Oh man, that sucks. I
mean, yeah, she's got she should
986
01:05:29.880 --> 01:05:33.119
drop out. I hope she did, and I hope that the bra updated
987
01:05:33.159 --> 01:05:39.280
all No no updates that I see. It'd be at the top, right,
988
01:05:39.840 --> 01:05:43.960
it depends some people just like post
to a separate thing she has.
989
01:05:44.199 --> 01:05:47.159
She has responded to people's comments.
Okay, so that's a little hard for
990
01:05:47.199 --> 01:05:53.920
me to get through. She was
thinking about tailoring it to have the flutter
991
01:05:53.960 --> 01:06:01.360
sleeve to her elbow. Anyways,
there's a few, but no actual updates.
992
01:06:03.280 --> 01:06:10.519
So yeah, fucking just wild.
Yeah, that fucked. Yep.
993
01:06:10.719 --> 01:06:16.280
I just I guess to me,
I'm like, well, you know how
994
01:06:16.280 --> 01:06:20.079
I think about the tattoo stuff.
Yeah, and the jewelry thing, Like
995
01:06:20.119 --> 01:06:23.840
I know a lot of people who
have that now where it's like a permanent
996
01:06:23.880 --> 01:06:27.400
jewelry piece. Yeah, oh yeah. I would never be like insist on
997
01:06:27.400 --> 01:06:30.679
like no jewelry, but I don't
understand is no jewelry. I don't understand
998
01:06:30.760 --> 01:06:34.480
that from a bridal party. I
guess you could say, like I could
999
01:06:34.599 --> 01:06:38.800
understand saying like I don't want a
bunch of costume jewelry, right, I
1000
01:06:38.800 --> 01:06:42.119
wanted to be classy, and then
I would probably just buy all the brides
1001
01:06:42.159 --> 01:06:46.800
made a nice like pendant necklace so
nobody looked alike. But like she should
1002
01:06:46.800 --> 01:06:48.840
know these people well enough to be
like, oh, this person has a
1003
01:06:48.880 --> 01:06:53.559
permanent piece of jewelry that they always
wear. That's fine, just don't wear
1004
01:06:53.559 --> 01:06:57.800
anything else. But why does a
bracelet even matter when she has sleeves?
1005
01:06:57.920 --> 01:07:00.199
Yeah, well they're obviously see through
and know about Like you know, I
1006
01:07:00.320 --> 01:07:04.360
just be like, I'm covering up
my tattoos. This, this is covering
1007
01:07:04.480 --> 01:07:06.800
up my bangle, right, Like
that's what I would say. Yeah,
1008
01:07:06.840 --> 01:07:11.480
I feel like this feels like the
sleeve thing is more about shaming her than
1009
01:07:11.519 --> 01:07:18.320
actually covering anything. These guys are
rich white people who see tattoos as a
1010
01:07:18.360 --> 01:07:24.039
class problem and they think that people
with tattoos are poor and not as good
1011
01:07:24.039 --> 01:07:27.880
as them. And same with like
the we don't want jewelry because that has
1012
01:07:27.920 --> 01:07:30.920
too much, like it gives you
too much personality. They like things to
1013
01:07:30.960 --> 01:07:34.119
be very like mob. Yeah,
this girl sounds like the bride sounds like
1014
01:07:34.119 --> 01:07:38.079
a mean girl. Like, oh
yeah, fucking hatter, he's a mean
1015
01:07:38.159 --> 01:07:42.079
lady. Yeah, Like I just
i'd be really sad that my brother's marrying
1016
01:07:42.079 --> 01:07:45.000
somebody like that, honestly, But
I would also be like I can't,
1017
01:07:45.039 --> 01:07:47.280
like I don't support that. It's
care of yourself. Yeah, that's the
1018
01:07:47.320 --> 01:07:50.639
other thing too, Like the way
that she's worded these things, this isn't
1019
01:07:50.679 --> 01:07:58.280
even like she's obviously having a really
hard time with this, Like this is
1020
01:07:58.280 --> 01:08:01.199
not just about dealing with a bridezilla. She's feeling ashamed for her body,
1021
01:08:02.000 --> 01:08:05.280
Like, yeah, you gotta take
care of yourself and back the fuck out,
1022
01:08:05.960 --> 01:08:12.079
Like this is not you are taking
this as as is understood. I'm
1023
01:08:12.119 --> 01:08:14.920
not telling you this. It's wrong
to take it this way, but you
1024
01:08:14.960 --> 01:08:18.640
are taking this very personally and very
deeply. Yeah, some people could just
1025
01:08:18.720 --> 01:08:21.479
be like fuck you, roll it
off. I'll just like suffer through this
1026
01:08:21.560 --> 01:08:26.079
and whatever because they don't. But
because they're able to sing, Yes,
1027
01:08:26.560 --> 01:08:28.880
they're able. Like if that happened
to me, i'd just be like whatever,
1028
01:08:28.920 --> 01:08:31.520
I don't care, like I would
leave the bridal party, but like,
1029
01:08:31.960 --> 01:08:34.039
or I'd suffer through. I don't
care, Like, but it's not
1030
01:08:34.039 --> 01:08:38.560
going to make me feel ashamed for
my body. But like the fact that
1031
01:08:38.600 --> 01:08:42.800
you are in that headspace, you
gotta pull out for your own safety.
1032
01:08:43.640 --> 01:08:48.039
Yeah, exactly. I think it's
uh, it's just wild that you are
1033
01:08:48.079 --> 01:08:50.359
in this situation. Like to me, like, these are a lot of
1034
01:08:50.359 --> 01:08:55.640
situations where people are in a bad
place and not feeling like they can advocate
1035
01:08:55.680 --> 01:08:59.159
for themselves because it's like it's a
wedding, Like it's a big deal.
1036
01:08:59.279 --> 01:09:01.840
So like I don't know how much
freedom I have to say I'm not comfortable
1037
01:09:01.880 --> 01:09:04.760
and I don't all put up with
some of that. Right, We've all
1038
01:09:04.800 --> 01:09:09.279
been in a wedding where we're just
like I don't really want to do that,
1039
01:09:09.399 --> 01:09:11.960
but I will. To me,
that's like every girl's trip. Ever,
1040
01:09:12.079 --> 01:09:15.479
it's such a tough balance. You're
just like, all right, everybody
1041
01:09:15.479 --> 01:09:19.039
wants to go super my comfort.
Yeah, but like I, you know,
1042
01:09:19.159 --> 01:09:24.000
I go the group. Yeah,
yeah, it's exactly. But I
1043
01:09:24.000 --> 01:09:27.359
think there's a line that borders on
it, and it's tough, right,
1044
01:09:27.399 --> 01:09:31.840
because I think this is reaching into
some abusive behaviors like it's like financial abuse,
1045
01:09:31.960 --> 01:09:38.720
it's you know, bodily abuse,
emotional Yeah, yeah, so I
1046
01:09:38.760 --> 01:09:43.079
think it's it's it's tough, and
it's really tough in the moment, I
1047
01:09:43.159 --> 01:09:45.439
think to call it out and be
like this is really bad, like I'm
1048
01:09:45.560 --> 01:09:48.399
yeah, I need to get out. Proud of her for even thinking enough
1049
01:09:49.439 --> 01:09:53.279
to be like I'm just I'm out. Yeah. Good for these people to
1050
01:09:53.319 --> 01:09:56.399
for like reaching out to Reddit to
be like I need a little help,
1051
01:09:56.520 --> 01:09:59.960
like I don't know if this is
okay, and it's interesting they're all very
1052
01:10:00.079 --> 01:10:03.000
nice people, like, yeah,
we had three really nice people. Yeah,
1053
01:10:03.079 --> 01:10:06.600
pure heroes in these am I the
assholes? I'm like, you're the
1054
01:10:06.640 --> 01:10:10.359
asshole, and then in the end
you're like, you're the asshole. The
1055
01:10:10.359 --> 01:10:14.439
asshole. Actually everyone's an asshole.
Turns out there's a lot of those.
1056
01:10:14.520 --> 01:10:15.840
Yeah, it's like, nah,
you are the asshole, but so is
1057
01:10:15.880 --> 01:10:19.000
that guy? Ye, so is
that lady. Everyone sucks here. Yeah,
1058
01:10:19.720 --> 01:10:23.720
this is a fucked up situation.
No, this one is like all
1059
01:10:23.760 --> 01:10:26.560
three of these, I've just been
like, oh man, sweet babies.
1060
01:10:27.479 --> 01:10:30.760
Fuck. I still can't get over
Dana and the uncle though. Yeah,
1061
01:10:30.840 --> 01:10:34.159
that one's gonna I'm gonna think about
that for a while. I'm very worried
1062
01:10:34.199 --> 01:10:40.119
about I think Dana needs some time. I'm concerned about the way, you
1063
01:10:40.159 --> 01:10:42.720
know, like, oh yeah,
she needs to be put in Yeah,
1064
01:10:43.079 --> 01:10:45.920
just for some time. Takes the
time, you need some very specific therapy,
1065
01:10:46.119 --> 01:10:49.800
yes, very intense intense therapy.
Yeah, just fine, we all
1066
01:10:49.880 --> 01:10:53.199
you know, all of us have
gone through it. I just the problem
1067
01:10:53.239 --> 01:10:58.960
with her is that whatever she's going
through, is not able to admit or
1068
01:10:59.039 --> 01:11:01.479
see any kind of issue. Yeah, and so it's gonna be hard to
1069
01:11:01.520 --> 01:11:05.199
get her there. Yeah. To
me, I'm thinking, thank god that
1070
01:11:05.399 --> 01:11:09.520
Josh walked in on her fucking his
uncle. Oh my god, can you
1071
01:11:09.560 --> 01:11:14.760
know? And like literally if she
had waited just like, oh my god,
1072
01:11:14.840 --> 01:11:16.479
an hour to do that, it
makes it a little more difficult for
1073
01:11:16.560 --> 01:11:19.079
him to walk out, do you
know what I'm saying? Yes, yes,
1074
01:11:19.199 --> 01:11:23.560
yes, yes, and yes,
like it just every minute makes it
1075
01:11:23.600 --> 01:11:26.399
more difficult. And the fact that
they were able to at least get can
1076
01:11:26.439 --> 01:11:29.560
you imagine though, like they Okay, so the Maid of Honor is clearing.
1077
01:11:29.640 --> 01:11:30.520
I'm back to this story. Sorry. Yeah, yeah, out of
1078
01:11:30.520 --> 01:11:32.720
all the reddits, this one's still
on my mind. This one is so
1079
01:11:32.880 --> 01:11:36.920
fuck this is gonna haunt me.
Yeah, the maid of honor comes out
1080
01:11:36.920 --> 01:11:40.760
and is like, I'm trying to
get everyone cleared out before it hits the
1081
01:11:40.840 --> 01:11:44.279
fan. Yeah, And I kept
thinking, like, so she came out
1082
01:11:44.399 --> 01:11:46.159
right as it happened, like she
had to have been right there and been
1083
01:11:46.159 --> 01:11:50.000
like what the fuck? Maybe seen
it herself as well, and she just
1084
01:11:50.159 --> 01:11:54.159
ran out to take care of the
guests. That was her first step.
1085
01:11:54.560 --> 01:11:59.479
But what's crazy to me is like
what if you were in the bathroom right
1086
01:11:59.520 --> 01:12:03.399
and you came to find your seat
and then like you just overheard like I
1087
01:12:03.560 --> 01:12:08.800
just like I would die to be
a fly on that wall, that's all.
1088
01:12:08.920 --> 01:12:11.600
Yeah, yeah, And then like
you get the tea for everyone,
1089
01:12:11.680 --> 01:12:13.960
You're like, I didn't even mean
to. Well, I was in the
1090
01:12:14.000 --> 01:12:15.439
bathroom and I came in and then
there was all this yelling. Can you
1091
01:12:15.600 --> 01:12:20.199
imagine the catharsis for those wedding vendors
who like who that woman made cry?
1092
01:12:20.880 --> 01:12:25.840
And then just see her downfall like
that, Oh oh that must have been
1093
01:12:25.880 --> 01:12:29.199
so sweet. I'm so happy for
this. What is its two hours before?
1094
01:12:29.239 --> 01:12:31.560
An hour before the wedding? Right? Yeah? I am like I
1095
01:12:31.600 --> 01:12:36.560
guess I just wish I had sometimes
sometimes now, not in reality, But
1096
01:12:36.640 --> 01:12:43.359
this is when I wish I had
less healthy friends because I have still yet
1097
01:12:43.760 --> 01:12:46.760
gone to a wedding that canceled the
day of the hour before. I've never
1098
01:12:46.800 --> 01:12:50.520
seen it canceled the and I've seen
so many movies. Yeah, I feel
1099
01:12:50.520 --> 01:12:54.960
like this happens all the time a
lot of dramas and reddits, yes,
1100
01:12:55.560 --> 01:12:59.279
but never in my life. Yeah, I want that tease built now.
1101
01:12:59.439 --> 01:13:01.600
Yeah, a friend friend, just
like one of those like casual kind of
1102
01:13:01.680 --> 01:13:04.520
casual friends where you go to like
a friend friend. I'd feel horrible,
1103
01:13:04.760 --> 01:13:09.439
right, but like a casual you
know, like, oh we've become like
1104
01:13:10.039 --> 01:13:14.199
drinking friends here and there and the
wedding you want the tea from the source.
1105
01:13:14.800 --> 01:13:18.239
Yes, it would kill me anyways. Yeah, that's what we got
1106
01:13:18.279 --> 01:13:21.159
you guys. Really proud of us
today. I thought that we did.
1107
01:13:21.319 --> 01:13:25.680
I thought that this was a fun
episode. If I was going to rate
1108
01:13:25.720 --> 01:13:30.479
this episode and these reddits, I'd
give it a five out of five Bloody
1109
01:13:30.520 --> 01:13:34.000
Mary's Yeah, same, five out
of five. Too many pickles, things
1110
01:13:34.079 --> 01:13:39.920
cure. I like that every one
of them had a happy ending day.
1111
01:13:39.960 --> 01:13:44.640
Me too. Everybody really showed growth
in these reddits and proud of them.
1112
01:13:44.680 --> 01:13:46.560
A lot of maturity. Yeah.
Yeah, good job babies, good,
1113
01:13:46.880 --> 01:13:51.039
good job everybody. And with that, yeah, I have a little cheers
1114
01:13:54.039 --> 01:13:55.159
and I do