Discovering Harmony, Self-Love, and Transformation with Sejal Thakkar

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So how are you doing? So nice to be here
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with you, to see you finally talk to you again,
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I know, thank.
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You so much. We've I know, we've had to reschedule
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because life has just been throwing us all kinds of curvolve.
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And then and then, as I mentioned to you yesterday,
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I was like afraid I was going to wake up
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with the swollen because I got my tooth pulled out,
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and so I was like, man, am I going to
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be able to have my camera on? Is it? But
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luckily I'm doing fine, So I'm glad to help out.
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Yes, yes, yes, And it's it's so nice. Yes, I'm
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happy you're doing very well. And I was thinking before
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because I'm here a little bit in the dark, because
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for me it's already evening and you are in the morning.
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And it's so incredible to be able to meet like this,
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to have a conversation like this and just been in
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one space no matter where we are or what time
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it is for us, as soon as we are able
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to make it. But because of night and day morning,
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it's so beautiful, so beautiful, and I'm very very grateful
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for you to be here also with you that you
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are not able to see anything. I'm not able to
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see anything but with your from yesterday, so I must
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heart a little bit.
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You know, you're starting off with that comment about the
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light in the dark is super interesting to me.
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Yeah.
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It just it resonates with where I am in my
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life right now and just things that are going on.
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So it's very interesting, you know, when you're in these
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kind of places of reflection when people say things that
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just you're like, wow, how did they How did she know?
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I mean, how did she know?
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Right?
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It's just one of those one of those things like
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even just this morning, I was about to post something
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on LinkedIn with this beautiful sunset mm hmm, and with
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just you know, I was trying to figure out for
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like a long time, like what did I want to
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say with that picture, and I just I was finally
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getting down to something and then I just deleted it.
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I was like, I'm not ready, I'm not ready to
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put that message out there right now. But it was
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like about finding the light in the darkness right now,
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and so yeah, yeah.
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Yeah, I love that. I love them. Coincidences, no how yes,
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how how life connects us We come here together in
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the same space, in the same space not being in
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the physically in the same space, but being being in
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the same space. So and it's so beautiful, like you
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were saying, and hard to see how how how how
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life inter mingles or in tugles. No, by us getting
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together and being one space here and having the time
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to be present and to share from the heart, two
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beautiful beings.
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Thank you for inviting me to be here and give
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me your you know, for sharing your energy and your
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space and your time with me. And I love that
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I can see the word love right behind you. Yes,
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and that's beautiful. I love that we all need more
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love in our lives. I know I definitely do. So
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thank you for reminding me that I need to give
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myself some love. That's what I'm feeling for this weekend
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is self love is a priority for me this weekend.
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Yes, Yes, it's important to take the time for ourselves
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to nurture ourselves, to love ourselves. No, nurtures through the
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love that we give to ourselves with the time, the space,
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the energy and being this. No, not the rushing, not
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the stressing, not having to the mast haves, because those
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things don't take us anywhere at the end, they deplete us.
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Yeah, for sure. I mean I started doing a lot
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of like nature walks, and the pandemic started, and I
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was homeschooling my son, and so I was like, I
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realized right away that I needed to start taking better
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care of myself, because you know, we can't pour from
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an empty cup, right, And so I started doing like
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fifteen thousand steps every day, and I did that all
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the way up until about like a few months ago
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they opened up a spin cycle class. So I'm like, okay,
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I want to start doing that now. And so I
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do that three times a week, but I'm going to
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go back to fifteen thousand steps on the days that
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I'm not doing that because I've noticed, like once I
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stopped doing that, that there was a difference inside of me,
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you know that I'm like, Okay, I'm more anxious, my
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you know, my creativity isn't as great as it was
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when I was doing walking, just my stress levels all
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of that stuff. So I still love doing the spin class.
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But it's funny how like as the seasons change, right,
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like what we need in loving and giving ourselves that
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self love changes too, and you've got to pay attention
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to that, right Yeah, And I just realized like I
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was sitting there a couple days ago and I was like,
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you know, i've been I haven't been walking as much
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as I used to, and I'm feeling a lot more
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stressed out like that. I need to get back to
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doing that, right and especially when life is throwing like
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you know, it's a crazy world. World, It's a really
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really crazy world right now. And that's where I think
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you need to do more of that, figuring out what
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works for you and then doing more of that, not
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less of that, which is what I think most of
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us tend to do the opposite. Right we're busy, we're
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stressed out, let's do less less of the self care.
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And it's you have the double down when you're feeling
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it even more right, so just weekend. But it's all about.
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Yes, and it's it's also contra how do you say
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the counterproducing Now that's a Spanish English world. It's like
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when you when you take less time, when you're doing
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less the walking, for instance, you are, like you were
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saying at the end, less creatives because you are less
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in yourself. Yeah, and so you're taking time away from
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that from what gives you the energy too to be received,
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million to have more creativity to everything else, just because
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this everything else is you think it's taking time out
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of well, it's taking time away of this walking not
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and in reality they're walking is what gives you the
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time and the space to do everything else, the creativity
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and to really walk into your path by being centered
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in yourself, by being self loving you because you're taking
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time for yourself.
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Mm hmmm, yeah, that's so true. Yeah, And I mean
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you could just feel the piece because fifteen thousands steps,
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that's no joke right now, that's like a two hours
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half hours, you know, two and a half three hours
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a day I was doing And that is a lot
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of time you're spending with yourself, yes, and it's it's
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most people don't even you know, you need to tell
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people like meditate and they're like, I don't even have,
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you know, fifteen minutes or twenty minutes. And so I
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was giving myself two and a half three hours a day.
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And and you know, when I first started doing it,
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I'm like, how am I going to fit this in
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into And you just kind of blended in with everything
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else that you're doing, and I just realized, like I
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needed that time. You know, I love the spin because
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it helps me take my physical fitness to the next level.
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So it gives me that challenge. But the walking I'm
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definitely bringing back into my at least of the days
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that I don't do the spin right, try to stop
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because I need that inward.
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No, they's staying work thing. It's staying work thing. Not
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because spinning. When you're spinning in reality with the music
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and everything, that you're rushing your body, but you're not
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looking inwards. You're it's for me. Then I take four
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days a week I swim and it takes me two hours,
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not that the whole time the swimming, but going to
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the swimming pool, swimming, showering and so two hours. Yeah.
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And I swim one hour, one hour and ten minutes
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one hole.
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Yeah.
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And it's really like you were saying, for me the swimming,
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it's because I'm looking inward and I'm centered, because I'm
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looking into the technique. I'm there, I'm not thinking of
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other things. I'm not listening to other things. I'm really
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in me and I've seen that that gives me a
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lot of energy, and especially it centers me to be
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able throughout the day to tackle anything because I'm centered
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that's it.
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Yeah, and then being in nature too, right, The groundingness
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for me is it's like you feel grounded, and it's
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all about there's so many different ways that you can
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find that time. You know, Like last year I started painting,
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you know, I got some I've never really been a painter.
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I've never seen some of those, like the number of
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things where you get the you know, the paint.
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Colors, the numbers, and that was a great time and
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I was like, oh, I really actually am enjoying this,
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you know, And I was like wow, and so always
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looking at like different ways to to like you said,
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just kind of stop, feel grounded, feel connected to yourself
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right and explore.
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And that's the fun part too, Like painting allowed me
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an outlet to be creative, yes, which again, like in
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our day, I think we need to build some of
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that time in is to play and too. You know.
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That's why I love like spending time with my son
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is that when he's here, because he's with his dad
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half the time and half the time with me. You know,
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it's like I get that playtime. I get to put
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everything else aside and turn the brain off and just
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be present with him, you know. But yeah, it's it's
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I was talking to a girlfriend. It was like two
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days ago, and you know, she's kind of supporting one
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of her friends who's battling with cancer right now, and
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she was telling me how her friend has all kinds
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of energy, like she just constantly wants to do things,
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and and in my head, I'm thinking, God, that would
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be the opposite with someone who's got like you know,
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at this it's like stage four and and but then
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when she was telling me, she's like, she's just got
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all this energy, she wants to do it all. And
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when I left that conversation, it just I was thinking
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about it later on, and I'm like, wow, that is
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that's just like she has dug deep and found that
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courage and that strength even with everything else that's going
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on right and created and so she's doing all kinds
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of creative things. She wants to travel and and so
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my girlfriend's like, I'm just going with the flow wherever
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whatever she wants to do. If I could be there
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for her, if I can be her partner in crime.
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And so it was really really nice to hear that, like,
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you know, you can make time for it no matter
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what's going on in your life, if you want to write,
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if you want to prioritize it, right, mm hmm.
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Like everything is willingness because there are so many things
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that also take effort for us, for instance, to change mindset, attitude, routines,
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so many things it's effort. So there must be there's
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a need or willingness to change to what we want.
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And and and I've seen these days. I've talked a
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lot about willingness to with friends and my mom and
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so because there's a lot of accommodation or or or
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saying it takes me too much effort. I don't like
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to do those things, even if it's for your health.
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It's no, no, no, that's too complicated for me. But
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it's at the end, that's a mindset. So it's really
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willingness to change it. Because once you change something, you
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change the perception perception of it, and the routine changes
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or whatever. So it's it doesn't become there's no effort
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anymore mm hmm. But the willingness has to be there
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too to continue until one day it's naturally new mm
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hmmm m hm. So, so willingness is something that I
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think nowadays is very important because also in what what
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we are fed with has to do a lot with
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not having to take effort. Like but you see smartphones.
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We are used to smartphones today, and so the calculator
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and everything is in there, and the notebook, the contacts.
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I remember when I was younger. No, I remember the
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phone numbers of my friends, so many things. Or the
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number places. Well I always believe with the number places,
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but still I love the numbers. But nowadays, no one
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has those things in their mind. No, because it's easy.
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So and I think because it's it's fed into us
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to just to let yourself go and not be willing
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to take an effort and maintain certain things in you. Yeah,
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so health is one thing you have to take an effort.
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But then really it's so worth no, because if we
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don't have health, we don't have life. It's true, we
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are if we are not here, we are not here
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at the end.
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Yeah, that's absolutely true. And I know, like in my life,
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like I've always I've always tried to make my health
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a priority, but I've also been the one to abuse
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it the most. You know, I've also been the one
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that hasn't taken the best care of it. I've tried,
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I've always had the intention. I've always worked out, I've
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always tried to eat healthy, but there were times in
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my life where you know, I didn't care, you know,
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or I just abused it, you know. And now when
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I like look at my future and like just the
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changes that I've made is I'm kind of getting older,
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and you know, I just turned fifty, So I'm like, Okay,
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what are the next fifty years of my life going
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to look like? And I know, I definitely don't want
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to be that person where someone has to take care
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of me, you know, and you know, I just it's
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really hard for me to to Well, first of all,
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I've just never had anybody take care of me like
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physically like that, you know, and so it would be
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really hard for me to let someone or be dependent
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on somebody in that way. But that's just not the
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vision I have, right And so if I don't want that,
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you know, what are the things that I'm willing, like
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you said, willing to do? You know, because we can't
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control everything, you know, No, no, we cannot control we
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can control everything, and so you can't. You can't just
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you know, like my mom for example, you know, whenever
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I talk to her about health. You know, She's like, well,
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whatever's going to happen is going to happen, So what
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difference does it make. Right, That's not the kind of
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mindset that I have.
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I believe there are things that I can control and
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you know, and I can learn from what I've done
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in the past and how it's impacted me, and then
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I can just do my best right now to do
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so that I don't get those outcomes. So it's almost
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like starting backwards, bring out, Okay, what are the things
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you don't want? Like for me, I don't want to
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be ridden. I don't want to be not you know, mobile.
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I need to be active. So if you want to
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figure out like what you want, which I think most
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of us want similar things towards the end of our life,
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then you have to go backwards and say in order
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for me to get that, what am I willing to do?
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Because it's not it's not going to just happen unless
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you put in the effort, and that especially you have
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to put more effort in. As you know, you can't
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do less effort when your body wants you to put
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in less effort. So it's going to be you're gonna
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be fighting that resistance automatically where you're like, I just
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rather just sit around and do nothing for the next
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like two days, right, But I know that what's good
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for me is getting out and walking because of all
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we've already talked about, and then you know, it's it's
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gonna help me get closer to that goal of what
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I want towards the end, you know, in the end
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of my life. So but it isn't easy, you know,
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and you really have to I don't know, like sometimes
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you're just like, you know, some days you may not
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want to and that's okay, too, right, give yourself that break.
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You don't have to be gone like you know, energizer
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Bunny all the time because it is a lot. But
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always like you know, get back up, get back in
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it as soon as you can, right and go in
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that direction. Don't go too far off.
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Extremes are not good. Extremes are not good. I've been
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in extremes. I've been in the extreme. I remember, many
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twenty years old. I've been in the extreme of waking
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up every morning five am, spinning in New York five
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am and not eating nothing that would be bad or something.
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I did it for many years. Some years. But that
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was an extreme because the day I didn't do it,
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I didn't feel good. No, and then there is the
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other extreme of not doing anything. So it's like you're saying,
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we have to be willing to do to take care
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of ourselves, but not the extreme. So if one or
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many days or the day you don't feel okay to
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go because you know your body. So if it's I'm
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swimming and swimming the water sometimes cold. So if I
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feel one morning all night before, I'm not so feeling
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so well as I'm very cold, so I don't go
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and it's totally okay, right, So it's this balance in life.
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Everything is about balance and harmony. M hm no. So
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also the light and the darkness, the balance or the harmony.
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We all have the light and the dark inside, and
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I might just I love it because I'm just seen
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you and me. We have green today. Yeah, you have
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a light background. I have a dark one. And it's
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so beautiful.
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I know, I know, I've been watching that too. Yeah,
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balance and harmony, those are those are really you know,
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beautiful concepts. And yeah, I'm curious, how do you define harmony?
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Harmony is being in peace? Mm hmm. It's it has
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to do for me, It has to do a lot
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with being mm hmmm. No, So really being in in
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in this, in this violence. But it's being in this,
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in this, in the middle, being in there, in the middle,
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being feeling being in peace, calm, being you, being in
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freedom m hmm, not feeling pushed, not pushing. So it's
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really this this middle point where like like a boat
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in an ocean, when it's everything is cone and you're
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it's the boat that it's between the sky and the ocean,
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and it's it's there moving. It's balancing in harmony in
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this in this space with this piece. You know. That's
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that's that's for me, harmony. Mm hmm.
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Yeah, that's that's that's the purpose of our call today.
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Was that right there? Harmony? Yeah, Because every year I
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go through this exercise and I'm going through it right now,
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where I pick an intention for the next year. I
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pick a word, one word, and I've been going, you know,
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I've this year my word was surrender, and it is
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really crazy of just how much I am surrendering right now.
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It's it's I'm going to get emotional. It's crazy. And
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I didn't realize when I set that intention that it
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meant everything, everything's gotta though, and it's not not in
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not in a bad way, not in a bad way.
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It's it's necessary, you know, for the next stage of
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my life. But I didn't realize it was gonna just
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just just this last month of all the things that
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I've just decided it's time to let this go. It's
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time to let this go, and it's time to let
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this go. And some things that that have I've had
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to surrender. It wasn't even my choice, but I had
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to let it go, you know, And I'm in that
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process right now. But I so I was thinking about
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my word for next year, and I've literally been thinking
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about this for like the last three months, you know,
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like you know, because my birthday, before my birthday, I
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started thinking about my birthday, and so like right around
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like October, I started this problem. And the word that
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I was I was going back and forth on was
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where I had landed before our conversation today, was receive received.
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You know.
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I just feel like I've given so much in my life.
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I keep giving, and I keep giving, and I'm just exhausted,
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and so I want to do I want to I
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just want to receive. But that just wasn't feeling right
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to me because it it just wasn't something about it,
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you know, it is kind of made it feel like
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I'm entitled, I'm a victor. I don't know, I haven't pinpointed.
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I'm still going to be reflecting a lot on why
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that word isn't just the right one. But as soon
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as you said harmony, and and that's why I asked you,
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I was like, that's more with where I'm that's that's
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that's more with where I'm at right now, where I
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want to go, where I want to be right where
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you want to be. And that's that's exactly it is.
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That's that's that's beautiful. Thank you for helping me. Just
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as soon as you said it, I was like, Yes,
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that's where That's where I want to focus on for
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twenty twenty five is being in harmony.
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Yes, I love it because you know, I use it.
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I use it. I'm treating a program and I'm using it,
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the word harmony. I'm using it in the giving and
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receiving because we have to learn to be in harmony
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in the giving and receiving, because usually we are as
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we service others, we are givers, and we give and
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give and give, and we deplete ourselves of this giving
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because many times we number one, we are sometimes we
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don't know how to receive, and number two sometimes we
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really don't receive back. No, especially because when we are
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serving others and it's part of our we wanted to
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make it a business also so to balance our lives
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and to have revenue out of it. Since we are givers,
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we don't know how to value the receiving and people
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don't value the receiving because we don't value our giving
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because it's so natural in us. So I use this
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word harmony in this, in this space of giving and receiving,
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because we have to MHM. It's part of us to
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learn to be in harmony and balance with those two things,
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to know where to set our boundaries, to know where
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we are giving too much, where we are receiving two
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less or or too much also, and where we are
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being deeply it also because people are pushing us in
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our giving, so taking advantage of us, so that the
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harmony is really for us to be in a space
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where we are giving and receiving imbalance. In this I
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call it the spiral or positive impact because it's it's
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it's like the ying and young. It has to it
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has to be the same, the same amount of even
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in receiving. And when we are in this middle, we
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are in harmony. And this is called creation. Mm hmm,
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because co creation is this harmony of giving and receiving,
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is this balance because I'm in wholeness, I'm complete, You
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are complete, and you and I are giving and receiving,
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for instance, in this conversation with the same whole heart
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at heart, which is nurturing us, and we are grown
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with it, because there's a harmony in the giving and
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then the receiving. M m.
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Yeah, that's it. That's my word.
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I love it. I'm so happy. I'm so happy.
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I've been doing a lot of meditating on that word,
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like what the word is, and reflecting on it. I've
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been writing about it, and that's it. That's the word.
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You know.
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As soon as you said it's it's just like that
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when you just feel it, you know, you know it
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because receiving, which just wasn't it wasn't you know that
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to me was feeling like I have to give away
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parts of who I naturally am and I'm a natural giver.
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You know, and I want to continue to do that,
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but I just I need to I need to change,
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you know, I need to do things differently because I'm
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I'm done. I'm like exhausted, and I'm not. It's not
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it's not feeling like reciprocated, you know, at that point
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in my life. And and that's that's both in personal
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and business. You know. I'm all of a sudden just
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the download where I'm like, Okay, I don't want to
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do my train extra stuff anymore. I just don't want
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to do that anymore. It's it's something I was passionate about.
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I still am, and obviously I'll keep doing it until
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I figure out what I want to do next. But
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I don't want to I am I'm done public speaking,
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I'm done training. I don't want to talk anymore, you know.
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Like in that way, I think it's like there's also
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a part of me that I'm a fixer. You know,
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I'm a giver and I'm a fixer. I like to
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fix things. I'm also an mpath you know, and so
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you put all these things together. They work really well
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in what I'm doing, but they just take everything out
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of me, you know. And I've been adding in things
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that fill up my cup, you know. But it's getting
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to the point where I'm like, if I keep talking
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about these things and I keep doing these things, it's
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just what I'm going to attract. I'm going to attract
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more uncivil behavior, more disrespectful behavior, I'm gonna be talking
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more about I'm going to be attracting. And I don't
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want to attract those things in my life anymore. I
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want to let all of that go, which is hard
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because my business, my baby. You know, I just had
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my seven year anniversary, and so it's like I'm letting
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my baby go, and you know, but I just I'm
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not feeling that passionate anymore. I need to do something
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00:29:42.240 --> 00:29:47.279
where I'm attracting more of you know, harmony, where it's
478
00:29:47.359 --> 00:29:49.880
feeling more you know, like I'm giving in, I'm getting
479
00:29:50.000 --> 00:29:53.839
and there's balance and there's just peace, you know. And
480
00:29:53.920 --> 00:29:55.440
I don't want to I don't want to keep having
481
00:29:55.519 --> 00:29:59.039
conversations around people and all the things they're doing and
482
00:29:59.319 --> 00:30:01.720
why they're doing and how do we help them. And
483
00:30:02.640 --> 00:30:04.480
I've done I've done that, you know, I've done that
484
00:30:04.640 --> 00:30:07.960
my whole life as a lawyer, as a business. What
485
00:30:08.039 --> 00:30:12.720
I do with train extra and fixing things, and you know,
486
00:30:13.039 --> 00:30:15.880
I'm just tired of fixing now I need to fix myself.
487
00:30:16.039 --> 00:30:17.640
Let's just say, let's just say I need to do
488
00:30:17.799 --> 00:30:24.119
more of fixing myself and figuring out like how to
489
00:30:24.240 --> 00:30:26.480
get to harmony. Right, So that's that's what I'm doing
490
00:30:26.519 --> 00:30:27.440
in twenty twenty five.
491
00:30:28.240 --> 00:30:33.759
Yes, yes, it's beautiful, sary, yeah, scary, but very every
492
00:30:34.279 --> 00:30:36.920
Every change is so scary because we don't know that
493
00:30:37.480 --> 00:30:41.759
what's coming. But when you know, you know, I know,
494
00:30:42.599 --> 00:30:48.400
you know, So it's the change that is for you
495
00:30:48.759 --> 00:30:52.640
there to walk your new path, whatever it is, because
496
00:30:52.680 --> 00:30:55.880
it will be amazing. It will be amazing because you
497
00:30:55.960 --> 00:30:59.880
are amazing. So it will be scary when you don't know.
498
00:31:00.039 --> 00:31:07.680
Oh, I just literally just had this download like in
499
00:31:07.799 --> 00:31:10.960
the last week. You know, you're actually the first person
500
00:31:11.799 --> 00:31:15.480
publicly you know that I'm telling this too. I've I've
501
00:31:15.519 --> 00:31:17.799
told a couple of my close, close girlfriends because they
502
00:31:17.839 --> 00:31:21.200
know what's going on in my life. But you know,
503
00:31:22.599 --> 00:31:25.119
when you know, you just know, and I'm just like,
504
00:31:25.319 --> 00:31:29.079
I'm done, I'm done. I've done, I've served, I've served,
505
00:31:30.400 --> 00:31:32.640
and it's time to It's time to find something that
506
00:31:32.960 --> 00:31:43.079
is going to bring more less resistance, less advocacy, less influence,
507
00:31:44.119 --> 00:31:48.359
less persuasion, less getting the buy in. You know, I
508
00:31:48.839 --> 00:31:52.559
have a lot of different skills, you know, and I
509
00:31:52.640 --> 00:31:56.000
want to do something that's not as emotionally taxing or
510
00:31:56.720 --> 00:32:00.480
I'm just getting exhausted, it's depleting, it's it's you know,
511
00:32:01.359 --> 00:32:04.000
there's days where I'm like, I'm taking ten steps forward
512
00:32:04.079 --> 00:32:07.000
and then I'm like in another meeting and I'm like, oh,
513
00:32:07.319 --> 00:32:10.279
you know, it's just like I'm kind of and when
514
00:32:10.279 --> 00:32:15.200
you're an EmPATH, you take on everybody else's stories, you know,
515
00:32:15.279 --> 00:32:17.759
and you do this all the time with these conversations.
516
00:32:17.880 --> 00:32:21.200
Right You're getting my story right now, and you're taking
517
00:32:21.319 --> 00:32:25.799
on my energy, my emotion, and you know how draining
518
00:32:26.200 --> 00:32:29.960
and tiring and exhausting that can be. That's not to
519
00:32:30.000 --> 00:32:32.000
say I don't ever like to do that, right, Like,
520
00:32:32.079 --> 00:32:35.359
there are times where I'm really enjoying our conversation. But
521
00:32:35.480 --> 00:32:38.400
it's by choice, you know. And my business has been
522
00:32:38.480 --> 00:32:40.799
by choice too, because I've tried to like put the
523
00:32:40.839 --> 00:32:43.680
boundaries on it. But I think it's time to just
524
00:32:43.799 --> 00:32:47.319
let it go, Okay. I want to attract something different,
525
00:32:47.839 --> 00:32:53.319
different type of energy now, a more loving energy, a
526
00:32:53.440 --> 00:32:59.920
more feminine energy, nurturing energy. You know, I just I
527
00:33:00.319 --> 00:33:04.799
don't want to be in such a male dominated space more.
528
00:33:05.839 --> 00:33:08.960
You know, I just kind of I don't know, I don't.
529
00:33:08.839 --> 00:33:10.880
Know what I want to do. And it will come
530
00:33:11.119 --> 00:33:14.119
and if it would come, Yeah, it will come because
531
00:33:14.119 --> 00:33:16.640
when you when you are in harmony, you're aligned to
532
00:33:16.759 --> 00:33:20.160
that one thing that has the picture of the boat
533
00:33:20.240 --> 00:33:22.720
with the ocean and the blue sky and the calmness
534
00:33:23.079 --> 00:33:28.799
has another thing and that's freedom. Yeah, freedom in the
535
00:33:28.960 --> 00:33:33.160
flowing in the in the being in the moment, not
536
00:33:33.359 --> 00:33:38.920
knowing where it's going, but in harmony with whatever comes
537
00:33:39.160 --> 00:33:43.440
because you are centered, you're okay, and you're just floating
538
00:33:44.160 --> 00:33:48.480
in the freedom. And the freedom for me is this
539
00:33:49.519 --> 00:33:52.319
being who you are and creating what you love, whatever
540
00:33:52.440 --> 00:34:00.400
it is. This is our purpose, is this calmness, money
541
00:34:02.000 --> 00:34:16.159
flowing and just going with it and it comes. You
542
00:34:16.239 --> 00:34:19.440
already have the intention, you have everything. So it's really
543
00:34:21.280 --> 00:34:24.239
and you are listening to yourself. You're hearing yourself and
544
00:34:24.320 --> 00:34:29.760
you are knowing, so you know it comes and you
545
00:34:29.840 --> 00:34:35.239
will take it whatever you will respond to it and
546
00:34:35.360 --> 00:34:38.079
it will show you the way. Yeah.
547
00:34:38.199 --> 00:34:42.199
And the word freedom was on the list, that word
548
00:34:42.280 --> 00:34:45.880
that was there and I actually just did the medicate meditation,
549
00:34:46.880 --> 00:34:49.800
and I was like, sometimes you feel trapped, you know,
550
00:34:50.360 --> 00:34:53.079
in everything, because again you have to pay the bills.
551
00:34:53.679 --> 00:34:55.639
You can't I wish I could just curl up in
552
00:34:55.719 --> 00:34:57.760
a ball in my bed and not move for the
553
00:34:57.840 --> 00:35:01.000
next year and figure this out. But fortunately I don't
554
00:35:01.079 --> 00:35:04.599
have that luxury. I'm a single mom. I'm the provider
555
00:35:04.679 --> 00:35:06.719
of my family, so it's not like I can just
556
00:35:08.000 --> 00:35:12.079
let go and ignore the realities of life. And so
557
00:35:12.920 --> 00:35:15.320
freedom was something that I was like, well, that's what
558
00:35:15.440 --> 00:35:17.360
I really want. I just want freedom, you know. And
559
00:35:17.400 --> 00:35:20.079
then I started looking at like everything, and I'm like,
560
00:35:20.159 --> 00:35:22.960
that's not the right word, because I actually have freedom,
561
00:35:23.840 --> 00:35:27.320
you know. And there was arguably a couple of things
562
00:35:27.480 --> 00:35:32.000
that would maybe not allow me to have as much freedom,
563
00:35:32.119 --> 00:35:36.119
and the universe has removed those about me even ever
564
00:35:36.280 --> 00:35:39.079
wanting or choosing that or asking for it, it's just
565
00:35:39.199 --> 00:35:41.239
taking it out of the picture for now.
566
00:35:41.960 --> 00:35:42.119
You know.
567
00:35:42.320 --> 00:35:44.280
And I keep just I just keep telling myself it's
568
00:35:44.320 --> 00:35:47.000
not permanent, it's temporary, because I don't want to lose
569
00:35:47.079 --> 00:35:47.599
those things.
570
00:35:47.719 --> 00:35:55.920
But so but it's something better comes, Yeah, something better comes,
571
00:35:55.960 --> 00:35:59.360
because in our mind we use so many things and
572
00:35:59.440 --> 00:36:03.840
we're at touch too many things because we don't know
573
00:36:03.960 --> 00:36:09.760
what's coming. But when when you are flowing this freedom
574
00:36:09.800 --> 00:36:13.880
and this harmony and something things come to you and
575
00:36:14.000 --> 00:36:17.320
you then look back and said, I understand now, I
576
00:36:17.519 --> 00:36:20.039
see why I had to let go of certain things
577
00:36:20.119 --> 00:36:22.920
because this is much greater than what I have ever thought.
578
00:36:22.960 --> 00:36:26.440
Because my mind doesn't my mind doesn't know where it's going.
579
00:36:26.760 --> 00:36:30.519
Where I'm going, Well, life takes me now with me flowing,
580
00:36:32.639 --> 00:36:36.320
loving myself and in my balance, in my harmony. In
581
00:36:36.440 --> 00:36:37.559
my inner.
582
00:36:38.960 --> 00:36:44.480
Response, mh, yeah, what was your I'd be curious to
583
00:36:44.599 --> 00:36:48.280
know kind of what was your journey to harmony because
584
00:36:48.280 --> 00:36:52.519
it sounds like you have founded you're living it, you're
585
00:36:53.280 --> 00:36:56.800
talking about it, you're breathing it. I can feel it
586
00:36:57.400 --> 00:37:01.239
from you during this conversation. I would love to hear
587
00:37:01.280 --> 00:37:03.400
about what your journey was to get.
588
00:37:03.519 --> 00:37:09.599
Yeah, for harmony, it's because I had I had a community,
589
00:37:10.440 --> 00:37:15.039
the Positive impact movement communities. Now it's the movement without community.
590
00:37:15.639 --> 00:37:20.320
But I've always been, like you, a giver over serving
591
00:37:20.400 --> 00:37:28.719
others personally, I've been in emotional control relationship, the giver
592
00:37:28.880 --> 00:37:36.119
the giver, and and then with my project, my projects
593
00:37:36.119 --> 00:37:39.320
also was giving back in the Positive Impact movement in
594
00:37:39.400 --> 00:37:45.159
the PM of communities I was having. I was there
595
00:37:45.320 --> 00:37:50.159
serving and giving and giving and giving and giving. I
596
00:37:50.360 --> 00:37:54.519
was seeing how how my members they were learning from me,
597
00:37:55.199 --> 00:37:58.800
they were applying those things in their projects, but there
598
00:37:58.960 --> 00:38:06.880
was no no feedback into the community. And in reality,
599
00:38:08.639 --> 00:38:12.400
I was successful because I was I was. What I
600
00:38:12.599 --> 00:38:16.679
was teaching was working, and they were applying it. But
601
00:38:16.880 --> 00:38:21.559
I wasn't successful in the way that I wasn't receiving.
602
00:38:23.599 --> 00:38:30.039
So I felt depleted and I felt I had to
603
00:38:32.000 --> 00:38:35.760
It's what gave me this understanding of the harmony, of
604
00:38:35.920 --> 00:38:39.400
the parallel of the positive impact, that it has to
605
00:38:39.519 --> 00:38:44.880
be equal, not more nor less, but equally. And then
606
00:38:45.079 --> 00:38:48.480
through the Positive Impact Movement, through the community the move,
607
00:38:48.599 --> 00:38:51.119
I also learned about co creation, so many things. So
608
00:38:51.559 --> 00:38:55.800
really PI move gave me many things that today I'm
609
00:38:57.000 --> 00:39:02.840
applying in my life and also at work. I'm also
610
00:39:02.920 --> 00:39:07.880
with you. I've just had my and on the thirty
611
00:39:07.920 --> 00:39:11.880
first of all shore and my seven year anniversary, and
612
00:39:12.679 --> 00:39:19.360
I'm also thinking of and not thinking it's my intention
613
00:39:19.719 --> 00:39:24.639
to do a change early next year and and jumping
614
00:39:24.719 --> 00:39:28.719
into the unknown. And I've seen how how that is
615
00:39:28.840 --> 00:39:35.639
bringing me lots of insights and which I'm responding to
616
00:39:35.880 --> 00:39:40.440
and I'm seeing how things are forming mm hmmm for
617
00:39:40.719 --> 00:39:44.119
me to work on them based on my what I
618
00:39:44.280 --> 00:39:47.679
love to do, what I love to create, and based
619
00:39:47.760 --> 00:39:50.920
on who I am with these conversations with the co
620
00:39:51.079 --> 00:39:58.000
creation part so beautiful, yes, and that's why I'm in
621
00:39:58.159 --> 00:40:02.280
harmony and learning to be harmony like you, I'm learning,
622
00:40:02.719 --> 00:40:06.400
but it's what what for me? I feel, and I
623
00:40:07.000 --> 00:40:10.679
am applying my my day two days.
624
00:40:13.960 --> 00:40:17.480
It's always, you know, it's a process. It's an ongoing. Yes,
625
00:40:18.079 --> 00:40:21.039
it's sometimes I feel like in my mind, like I
626
00:40:21.559 --> 00:40:24.119
when I get to that point, you know, it can
627
00:40:24.320 --> 00:40:27.119
just stay at that point where I feel that inner piece,
628
00:40:27.320 --> 00:40:29.880
you know, and that's just not how life is. You know,
629
00:40:30.039 --> 00:40:33.480
Life's going to throw you lemons all the time, and
630
00:40:35.519 --> 00:40:40.320
you know, figure out how to get make lemonade.
631
00:40:40.599 --> 00:40:40.920
I don't know.
632
00:40:42.280 --> 00:40:46.360
I love your story too, because like that was the
633
00:40:46.440 --> 00:40:49.679
question I asked myself when after I'm just like and
634
00:40:49.800 --> 00:40:51.280
this is completely so like.
635
00:40:53.119 --> 00:40:53.719
It minds you.
636
00:40:53.960 --> 00:40:57.599
Like the last three months I've spent on I'm going
637
00:40:57.639 --> 00:41:01.199
to go hardcore on train extras starting January. I've got
638
00:41:01.239 --> 00:41:06.159
like automations, I've got helps, I've got CRMs. Here's my strategy.
639
00:41:06.280 --> 00:41:08.000
Here's why I'm like, I'm ready to just hit it
640
00:41:08.039 --> 00:41:09.880
one hundred percent, and then all of a sudden, I'm like,
641
00:41:10.239 --> 00:41:14.559
full stop. No, I'll keep doing it because I have
642
00:41:14.639 --> 00:41:16.360
to pay the bills until I figure out what I
643
00:41:16.440 --> 00:41:20.000
want to do. But instead of putting all that extra
644
00:41:20.280 --> 00:41:23.119
effort that I was going to put on my business,
645
00:41:24.400 --> 00:41:26.320
use that on figuring out what it is that I'm
646
00:41:26.360 --> 00:41:28.760
really what I want to do next, you know. So
647
00:41:29.119 --> 00:41:30.840
it's I've loved it what I've done. So it's not
648
00:41:31.000 --> 00:41:33.079
like I didn't enjoy and I wasn't packing about it.
649
00:41:33.159 --> 00:41:36.239
I've made I've made a positive difference. I feel really
650
00:41:36.280 --> 00:41:39.039
really good about it. It's just time for a change,
651
00:41:39.159 --> 00:41:42.280
and it's time, you know when I made that change.
652
00:41:42.320 --> 00:41:45.239
And isn't there something I was gonna when you were talking,
653
00:41:45.320 --> 00:41:46.719
I just thought of that when you said you hit
654
00:41:46.760 --> 00:41:49.880
your seven year mark. Isn't there something that there is
655
00:41:49.960 --> 00:41:53.280
around that number seven years? Right? Like there's something that
656
00:41:53.360 --> 00:41:57.039
goes on in our bodies, in our minds and our soul.
657
00:41:57.119 --> 00:41:59.760
I mean, it's that number seven. And when I think
658
00:41:59.760 --> 00:42:03.920
about relationships that I've had, I haven't made it past
659
00:42:04.599 --> 00:42:07.480
the only relationship that I've had that's made it obviously
660
00:42:07.880 --> 00:42:09.920
with parents when you were growing up and things like that,
661
00:42:10.079 --> 00:42:14.400
but like, career wise, I've never made it past anything
662
00:42:14.480 --> 00:42:18.440
for more than seven years, and most relationships outside of
663
00:42:18.559 --> 00:42:21.840
family relationships haven't made it past the seven year mark.
664
00:42:22.000 --> 00:42:25.400
Like at that point, I'm like, Okay, I've tried this.
665
00:42:25.760 --> 00:42:29.079
You know, here's where we are, and for whatever reason,
666
00:42:29.119 --> 00:42:31.960
it could be any reasons, you know, we're just not
667
00:42:32.159 --> 00:42:34.480
aligned on the same energy at that point and the
668
00:42:34.599 --> 00:42:38.159
decision is made right. And so it's very interesting that
669
00:42:38.559 --> 00:42:40.320
you just had your seven year and I just had
670
00:42:40.400 --> 00:42:42.199
my seven year and we're both kind of like, yeah,
671
00:42:42.199 --> 00:42:43.679
we're kind of done with this now. We're kind of
672
00:42:43.719 --> 00:42:46.599
ready for something different, and we're both doing something where
673
00:42:46.599 --> 00:42:49.159
we don't know what that is. We don't I don't
674
00:42:49.199 --> 00:42:52.039
have a clue. So the first question I asked myself was, well,
675
00:42:52.079 --> 00:42:53.880
what do you like to do? Like what do you want?
676
00:42:54.199 --> 00:42:55.519
And my mind is blank?
677
00:42:56.039 --> 00:43:00.599
Yeah, because it's not for your mind to know. There's
678
00:43:00.679 --> 00:43:04.079
a lot of trust here. And that's why it's so
679
00:43:04.119 --> 00:43:10.239
important you're walking now because what we try whenever I've
680
00:43:10.280 --> 00:43:13.679
seen that us and all these years now with the
681
00:43:13.880 --> 00:43:19.400
entrepreneurship and every time, every time I put my mind,
682
00:43:19.840 --> 00:43:24.559
things don't work because I'm thinking of I'm doing, and
683
00:43:24.719 --> 00:43:28.280
then I hit the wall and I have to go
684
00:43:28.400 --> 00:43:32.480
back wherever it is. So I've learned to be patient.
685
00:43:33.159 --> 00:43:36.719
Many times we don't know what to do or what
686
00:43:36.920 --> 00:43:40.119
to create, but we know where we are. It's not
687
00:43:40.280 --> 00:43:43.960
right anymore because we have learned everything we had to learn.
688
00:43:44.360 --> 00:43:49.239
For me, that's what I am now, and I'm I'm
689
00:43:49.480 --> 00:43:53.840
learned to self value me, which I didn't before. So
690
00:43:54.000 --> 00:43:58.880
many things that now I've already every what I did,
691
00:44:00.239 --> 00:44:04.920
It's okay. It's ending because it's okay because I already
692
00:44:06.119 --> 00:44:09.320
to do it again. To continue would be to repeat.
693
00:44:09.440 --> 00:44:12.079
And there's I'm here to grow in my life. No,
694
00:44:12.320 --> 00:44:16.719
so this is not growing me anymore. But what to do?
695
00:44:18.920 --> 00:44:22.519
It comes, and that's the that where we always have
696
00:44:22.679 --> 00:44:26.800
the issue of what what what have I to? What
697
00:44:27.119 --> 00:44:31.239
must I do? What? I have to figure it out? No, No,
698
00:44:33.639 --> 00:44:40.159
because read books. I read not because of also for information,
699
00:44:40.400 --> 00:44:45.960
but books can give me information or so, but I
700
00:44:46.119 --> 00:44:49.360
take in whatever is for me to take in. But
701
00:44:49.519 --> 00:44:52.400
many times when I'm reading, I'm not in my mind,
702
00:44:53.199 --> 00:44:58.480
and then the intuition kicks in totally something else that
703
00:44:58.599 --> 00:45:01.320
I'm not even reading. It's not about the topic of
704
00:45:01.400 --> 00:45:04.880
the book. It's because I'm not there in my mind
705
00:45:06.000 --> 00:45:09.639
and I have an idea that then I respond to
706
00:45:09.719 --> 00:45:12.880
it and I ask upon that and it opens me doors.
707
00:45:14.239 --> 00:45:17.559
That's how it works. That's how it works, and that
708
00:45:18.079 --> 00:45:22.360
like the doors are. That's the thing I'm I'm scared
709
00:45:22.920 --> 00:45:27.239
because I don't know, but I do trust myself. I
710
00:45:27.400 --> 00:45:31.960
trust the universe. And sometimes this has happened in me before,
711
00:45:32.599 --> 00:45:36.639
where the universe just forces me to face like I'm
712
00:45:36.679 --> 00:45:39.719
not ready for this, you know, like I had a
713
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completely different plan in my mind of just let's go.
714
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I'm in the zone, you know, and the universe just
715
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its like, no, no.
716
00:45:48.559 --> 00:45:49.800
You're done. You're done with that.
717
00:45:49.920 --> 00:45:52.119
You've done enough of that. It's like you said, it's
718
00:45:52.159 --> 00:45:55.880
time to grow, and that's okay. If I don't know,
719
00:45:56.039 --> 00:45:58.239
I don't need to know the answers. I'll figure it out.
720
00:45:58.400 --> 00:46:01.480
It'll come to me. One thing you said that really
721
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I love what you said, and you're giving me a
722
00:46:04.519 --> 00:46:07.039
lot to think about. So thank you so much for
723
00:46:07.159 --> 00:46:13.320
this conversation. I'm feeling loved and supported right now. But
724
00:46:14.039 --> 00:46:16.760
something you said was really really important and I'm going
725
00:46:16.800 --> 00:46:18.920
to think about that when I go walking today later on.
726
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Is that you've learned what you've needed to learn, you know?
727
00:46:25.840 --> 00:46:29.639
And that's that's what I've been asking myself that question,
728
00:46:29.920 --> 00:46:32.239
is what am I supposed to be learning from what
729
00:46:32.400 --> 00:46:34.800
is happening in my life right now? And I don't know.
730
00:46:35.119 --> 00:46:38.079
I don't know, but I know I've learned. I don't
731
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know what I've learned yet. I just I just know.
732
00:46:40.519 --> 00:46:44.039
It was that clear that I'm done with extra. You know,
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It's like there was no like somebody could be looking
734
00:46:46.719 --> 00:46:49.880
from the outside in and they're like, you're having a meltdown.
735
00:46:49.960 --> 00:46:51.559
This is like a mid This is exactly what you
736
00:46:51.639 --> 00:46:53.679
call a midlife crisis, Like what are you doing? You
737
00:46:53.760 --> 00:46:56.280
just turned fifty, all the stuff is going on, and
738
00:46:56.360 --> 00:46:58.519
you're making these big decisions. It doesn't you know, just
739
00:46:58.920 --> 00:47:01.480
don't make any decisions. See it from the outside end,
740
00:47:01.559 --> 00:47:05.519
it looks that way, but it's it's it is a
741
00:47:05.559 --> 00:47:09.159
lot of these things have obviously played a factor in this.
742
00:47:09.519 --> 00:47:13.920
But I'm calm side with this decision, you know, like
743
00:47:14.079 --> 00:47:19.400
it's I'm I'm done with it, yeah, because I just know,
744
00:47:19.719 --> 00:47:22.079
I just know, and I don't know what I've learned,
745
00:47:22.199 --> 00:47:23.920
you know, and I'm thinking about all this stuff. I'm
746
00:47:23.960 --> 00:47:26.400
not going to like shut my door tomorrow, you know,
747
00:47:27.679 --> 00:47:31.079
but it's about continuing to talk about it and like
748
00:47:31.800 --> 00:47:34.320
having the conversation about I don't know, I just know
749
00:47:34.440 --> 00:47:36.559
I need to do something different and that alone will
750
00:47:36.599 --> 00:47:42.000
start attracting and manifesting and doing all of you know
751
00:47:42.320 --> 00:47:46.360
of the law of attraction, right, And that's kind of
752
00:47:46.440 --> 00:47:48.360
the whole reason behind all of this, is like I
753
00:47:48.480 --> 00:47:51.480
want a different kind of energy that's surrounding me. You know,
754
00:47:51.599 --> 00:47:53.960
I've been surrounded. There's a lot of reasons why I
755
00:47:54.079 --> 00:47:57.840
chose to do civility and creating more respect in the workplace.
756
00:47:57.880 --> 00:48:00.400
There's lots of reasons, right, Like I can go all
757
00:48:00.440 --> 00:48:03.719
the way back to childhood. It made all the sense
758
00:48:03.760 --> 00:48:05.920
when I made the decision, and it's it's it was
759
00:48:05.960 --> 00:48:09.360
a great calling for me. But now when my life
760
00:48:09.400 --> 00:48:12.960
has shifted and where I'm when I'm looking forward, it's
761
00:48:13.079 --> 00:48:18.039
not what I want to continue to surround myself, which
762
00:48:18.119 --> 00:48:20.920
is like, Okay, well you know what do you want
763
00:48:20.960 --> 00:48:23.599
to do it. I'm like, you'll figure, don't rush yourself too.
764
00:48:23.679 --> 00:48:27.280
That's the one thing rush be patient, like you said,
765
00:48:27.480 --> 00:48:29.920
is be patient with yourself. You know, you don't need
766
00:48:29.960 --> 00:48:32.480
to have all the answers right now, which is hard
767
00:48:32.559 --> 00:48:36.800
for someone like me to accept and say, slow down,
768
00:48:38.880 --> 00:48:42.320
it's gonna be fine. It's really hard, but I know
769
00:48:42.400 --> 00:48:44.880
it's exactly what I need to do right now and
770
00:48:45.480 --> 00:48:47.039
not have an answer and that's okay.
771
00:48:47.159 --> 00:48:52.400
And just trust, yeah, yes, trust and stay in this
772
00:48:52.880 --> 00:48:56.679
energy of the knowings. Yeah, because that's the one that
773
00:48:57.800 --> 00:49:03.519
supports you in truth and then in staying in integrity
774
00:49:03.599 --> 00:49:04.320
with who you are.
775
00:49:04.880 --> 00:49:08.119
Mm hmm, yeah, mm hmm.
776
00:49:08.719 --> 00:49:08.960
Yeah.
777
00:49:10.679 --> 00:49:16.800
Life. Life is fun. Yes, I wouldn't say fun. I
778
00:49:16.840 --> 00:49:21.599
would say it's a ride, right, it's a ride.
779
00:49:21.800 --> 00:49:26.320
But for me, it's it's beautiful, beautiful because, yeah, our
780
00:49:26.599 --> 00:49:30.039
the ups and downs and everything, they they show us
781
00:49:30.400 --> 00:49:35.480
so much about how powerful we are and our true potential,
782
00:49:36.119 --> 00:49:39.360
the beauty we have within each of us. It's not
783
00:49:39.599 --> 00:49:42.000
that I'm looking at me and I see myself. No, No,
784
00:49:42.159 --> 00:49:44.320
it's that I see myself and I see you, and
785
00:49:44.480 --> 00:49:49.559
I see your true potential. I see your your capacity,
786
00:49:49.840 --> 00:49:57.599
I see you that you are. You will be going
787
00:49:57.639 --> 00:49:59.000
to the peak, my friend.
788
00:50:00.079 --> 00:50:02.840
Thank you, thank you. I know it's the it's it's
789
00:50:04.000 --> 00:50:08.960
this year has had just a really weird, bizarre energy.
790
00:50:09.199 --> 00:50:09.360
You know.
791
00:50:09.440 --> 00:50:11.440
It's like almost like I feel like it's like the
792
00:50:11.519 --> 00:50:14.360
Twilight Zone, you know, but I felt I felt like
793
00:50:14.480 --> 00:50:16.599
the last few years have been like this. It's just
794
00:50:16.679 --> 00:50:20.079
been like all kinds of the world. It's just a
795
00:50:20.159 --> 00:50:23.440
different place, yes, in the last few years, you know,
796
00:50:23.679 --> 00:50:26.440
and some of the realities that we're dealing with, you know.
797
00:50:26.840 --> 00:50:30.719
And it's like you you when you start to accept,
798
00:50:32.079 --> 00:50:34.719
you know, the reality of what we're living in, and
799
00:50:34.760 --> 00:50:37.719
then you're like, Okay, I can change I can't change
800
00:50:37.800 --> 00:50:41.480
the world. I can't change what's going on everywhere, but
801
00:50:41.639 --> 00:50:44.639
I can't change my own reality. And what are the
802
00:50:44.719 --> 00:50:48.719
things that I can control, you know? And and so
803
00:50:49.079 --> 00:50:52.079
it's it's been just an uh I call it a
804
00:50:52.199 --> 00:50:53.480
season of unlearning.
805
00:50:53.840 --> 00:50:59.840
M m. Yes, yes, yes, that's beautiful. That's very beautiful. Yes,
806
00:51:01.679 --> 00:51:05.719
all right, thank you so much, Thank you so much,
807
00:51:06.280 --> 00:51:11.159
really be able to share with you and for us
808
00:51:11.199 --> 00:51:14.559
to do it more more time also, but not necessarily
809
00:51:15.800 --> 00:51:23.440
recording and co creating. But in this podcast, I'm here
810
00:51:23.480 --> 00:51:31.039
for you whatever you need and and harmony. You will
811
00:51:31.079 --> 00:51:31.679
be in harmony.
812
00:51:32.039 --> 00:51:35.440
Harmony. Yes, yes, you are the one that helped me
813
00:51:36.199 --> 00:51:38.840
get clear on that the word so you're going to
814
00:51:38.840 --> 00:51:42.639
be in my mind the word harmony.
815
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Like.
816
00:51:44.320 --> 00:51:46.320
So there you go. Pay it forward. That's what you
817
00:51:46.440 --> 00:51:48.400
just did, right, You just paid it forward. So thank
818
00:51:48.440 --> 00:51:49.559
you for that. I appreciate it.
819
00:51:51.159 --> 00:51:57.800
Thank you, stay well and all the best. Thank you
820
00:51:58.039 --> 00:52:01.599
for this new year and for everything that is to come,
821
00:52:01.800 --> 00:52:06.639
because it will be amazing. You will see that would
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00:52:06.639 --> 00:52:09.480
be my friends. Thank you so much,