Step into the Flow to Create Peace & Everyday Miracles with Laurie Smith

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Grab a cup of tea or a glass of wine
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and tune in for inspired Conversations with publisher Linda Joy
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on Tuesdays at two pm Eastern. Linda creates sacred space
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for leading female luminaries, empowering authors, heart centered female entrepreneurs,
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coaches and healers. A soulful venue where guests openly share
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the fears and obstacles they've overcome, wisdom and lessons learned,
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and the personal journey that led them to the transformational
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work they do in the world. Inspired conversations to empower
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you on your path to authentic, soulful living.
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Welcome to Inspire Conversations. I'm your host, mindset elevation coach,
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Linda Joy, publisher of the beloved Aspire magazine, which is
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celebrating twenty years of inspiring, empowering, and supporting women to
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live their best lives. If you haven't grabbed your free subscription,
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and yes it's still free, my friends, you can go
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to subscribe to Aspire dot com. You know, if you've
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been with me on this journey in listening to this
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show for the decade that I've been on the air,
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you know one of my favorite sayings is life unfolds
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for me with ease, grace, and flow. And it's one
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of my favorite sayings because it's helped me recalibrate my
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whole life. I used to be one that needed to
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micro manage the divine and really control things, and all
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that did was bring me out of alignment with my peace,
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my joy and more so, I am so excited about
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today's topic, which is flow and with me Today is
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Laurie Smith, an inspirational author, speaker, and intuitive coach who
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has been working in the fields of creativity and personal
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growth for twenty five years. She's the author of several books,
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in only the one I have in my hand right now,
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the Flow Habit, Creating Peace, Passion, Purpose in Everyday Miracles,
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which was just released by Hayhouse, which is an imprint
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of Penguin Random House. Since two thousand, Laurie has led
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hundreds of people around the world and her free twenty
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eight day flow challenges. She's currently on a mission to
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spread the word about the transformational power of everyday flow. Laurie, welcome,
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my friend.
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Thank you.
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I am so happy to be here.
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I'll tell you there's a beautiful energy you know.
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When I got your book in the meal and I
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get so many in the mail. There's a beautiful energy
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in this book along with the wisdom and the message.
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But I can feel your intention and as I was
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reading through, I'm like, girl, she's getting on my show.
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We got to talk about this. So let's talk and
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define what flow is for the listeners who may be going,
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I want that, but I don't really know what it is.
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How do you define flow?
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Well, there's two ways I define flow, and they're really
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one and the same. But the first is very personal,
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and it's how we feel when we are doing something
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where we're fully locked into what we're doing, and it's
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been called the flow state. It was first identified by
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a psychologist called me High Cheeks sent me High. But
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that's the feeling when the rest of the world falls
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away and we lose track of time and we sometimes
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forget where we are. We're not feeling self conscious at all,
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or if we are a lot less than we usually
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do and we're doing something often that brings us joy.
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It's what little kids feel when they're playing and they're
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just completely oblivious to the people around them. They're building blocks.
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Where we might feel it when we're painting or doing
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our favorite or talking to a friend. So it's that
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that intimate individual experience of flow and what I have
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found in my own journey and in leading these twenty
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eight day flow challenges, which I know we'll get into,
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but in talking to people all around the world about
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when we do that more intentionally, when we seek out
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experiences like that and we follow our intuition and flow.
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The intimate experience of flow is a very very intuitive
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one because for your listeners, if they know that feeling
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when they're doing something that brings the joy. Often we're
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not thinking about what to do next, right we know
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where to move our paint brush. We don't know how
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we know where to move it next, but we just do.
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Or the little kid knows exactly what it's going to
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take to keep that pile of blocks balanced just so.
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And we take that intuitive. The more we nurture and
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seek experiences like that where we feel flow, the flow state,
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it filters out. And what I've found in my groups
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and all the people I've been interviewing and experimenting with
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this in my own life, that's when we feel this
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greater flow, this flow Linda that you are describing, it's like,
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you know, that ease, that joy where synchronicities happen, like
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the synchronicities that led to me being on this call,
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the synchronicities that led me to publishing my book, the
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synchronicities that lead us to find each other. I like
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to say, you know, to remember that the world is
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big and there are so many amazing, magnificent people out there,
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and sometimes we can feel stuck in our lives. And
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when we're feeling stuck, you know, our experience has oft
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been very small and very dark, and we think that
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what we see before our eyes is it, you know,
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or the people in our lives, this finite group.
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That's it.
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And then when we get into the state of flow
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in little moments, we start to feel more expansive just
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in that those few moments. And the more that we
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experience flow and invite flow into our lives and work
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with the flow state, we start to discover that, oh,
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my gosh, you know this is it's an innate experience
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that has all the rules that we need to get
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our lives to flow, to find each other, to find
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those just right friends that might be on the other
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side of the world but are also resonating with their
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own intuition and somehow that's what I call the circle
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of flow. And that's when life really starts to pick
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up speed and feel miraculous and lead to little what
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I call and it's in the subtitle of the book
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Everyday Miracles.
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I One of my things that lights me up is
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I believe that miracles are within reach for all of
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us have experienced many. And it goes back to what
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you just said is when we're in flow. My definition
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is flow is I like to use the infinity symbol, right,
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that's universal flow.
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And when we.
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Are caught up in our ego, fears, et cetera, and
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we pinched that infinity symbol, right, we pinch it and
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stop the flow, that's when all the fears and the
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critic stuff all comes up. For me, what I noticed
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was when I trust in that flow and I step
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into it, what le ends up happening is all the
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synchronicities that you mentioned start to flow in. Have you
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noticed that too?
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Absolutely so.
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Now feels like a good time to just tell you
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a little bit about how the flow challenge is started
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because they're personal and that's sort of when the synchronicities
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started flowing in. I was at a point in my
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life at the start of the pandemic, as I know
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so many of us were, where I was feeling very anxious.
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It was in those first days of the lockdown where
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we didn't know what would happen. And when you mentioned ego,
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you know, my ego was screaming loud. You know, that's
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what happens when we get into fight or flight. But
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I also was at a point in my life where
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I was feeling very stuck. I was feeling even though
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I was still coaching and teaching and had been writing courses,
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I felt like I was separate from my very best self.
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And it was very practical. My kids were coming up
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to me asking questions, and I was feeling all center,
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like I couldn't show up for them the way I
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wanted to. And so I decided that I was going
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to do something every day, just a few minutes a
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day that helped me get into flow. Flow was a
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concept that I was very aware of from my early
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days of training as a coach and studying human performance
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and potential. And so for me, that activity was writing.
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When I was a little girl, even at age six,
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I remember, you know, writing writing fiction books, and it
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was core to who I was, And often that's a clue.
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The activities that get us into flow might seem impractical
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or unrelated, but they're often really get to the core
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of our purpose and that sparkle that makes us who
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we are. And so I just started writing just five
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to ten minutes, and I didn't tell my parents. I
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didn't tell my husband, I didn't tell my kids, I
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didn't tell my family. I just did it for me.
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I kept it really sacred in the beginning. And after
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the first few days, though, I started realizing how much
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better I was feeling. I started feeling this lightness, this brightness,
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and I started getting excited about life again and feeling
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more empowered. And so not only did I tell my family,
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but I also I told some of my best friends,
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people that were also creative and I knew would understand.
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And then friends told friends, and slowly we had this
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community of people that were all experimenting with flow. We
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were all doing that by choosing a five to ten
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minute activity that we each intuitively felt led to do,
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and the only criteria was that we enjoyed doing it.
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We loved doing it. It made us sparkle, and it
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had a high chance of getting us into flow. We
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might not have gotten into the flow state ever as
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we were doing it during the challenge, but that's okay.
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It still had everything that we needed, It had the
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potential of that. And then over time I started sharing
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it on Facebook, and then I started sharing it on Instagram,
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and soon before I knew it, I had hundreds of people,
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mostly women, all around the world participating in my twenty
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eight day Flow challenge. But what was so magical, because
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your question was about synchronicities, was the people that showed up.
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You know, the people I had people from India and Kenya,
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and I have a beautiful woman who's still part of
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my community from Ireland who now I can't imagine my
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flow community not having her in it. And she sang,
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she has a beautiful melodious voice, and she sang at
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my Zoom launch party for the book. And somehow that's
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what happens. That's what happens where you know, we just
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we put it out there and then we work with
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our own you know, we really get in the minutia.
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We look at ourselves and we feel vulnerable and we're
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honest with ourselves about those areas that aren't flowing. And
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we see stuckness as a seed for miracles, and we
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stay with the stuckness and work with the stuckness, and
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we do something that I call find your way, find
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your way in the way that works for you when
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it comes to getting back into flow. And when we
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do that, it's absolutely amazing. And there's these connections. So
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during one flow challenge, there was a woman who was
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a musician and she chose to do always her activity
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was always something with music. And one day I got
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an email from her and she said, you know, this morning,
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I woke up to do my flow habit, and for
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whatever reason, I felt like I wanted to sketch, and
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so I sketched these little drawings. And I always invite
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people to share share their stories with me, and I say,
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I won't tell anyone unless you give me permission. And
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she says, I, please do not share this photo of
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my drawing with your community. But it just felt important
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to show you. And what she didn't know was that
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earlier that day on Instagram, a woman from another part
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of the world had messaged me who was also doing
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the flow challenge, and she was working through a very
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difficult experience in her life and she had had a
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dream night before, a breakthrough dream, one of those miraculous dreams,
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and she told me the dream in the message, and
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that the imagery in her dream was exactly what the
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other woman, the musician felt called to draw when she
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woke up that morning. And the two had never met,
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They didn't even know of each other, They didn't know
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that they were each doing the twenty eight day Flow Challenge.
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But that is that infinity of flow that you're talking about,
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that there is this invisible connection and invisible flow connecting
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us all. When we make that choice that we're going
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to show up and we're going to do the next
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best thing. We're just going to do a little baby step.
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That's a line.
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I love divine synchronicities. I lived my life that way,
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and that one was powerful. It tells you that we're
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all connected. My friend, We're going to take our first break,
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and I want you to visit Laurie at Laurismith dot com,
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grab a copy of the Flow Helloa habit while you're
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there and learn more about everything she is bringing forth
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into the world.
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We can all use a little of affluent on life's
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my friends, We'll.
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Welcome magre listening to inspired conversations you're circling up with
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me host Linda Joy and Laurie Smith, author of The
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Flow Habit, and when you were sharing that story about
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these two members of your flow community not even being
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connected in the physical realms right of knowing each other
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and being connected that way. But I believe, as it
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sounds like you do, we are all connected in the
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source of flow, which is divine source energy.
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And when we.
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Step into it and remain in that energy, those are
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the synchronicities that happen, and then you know we're human.
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Life happens. Sometimes we find ourselves out of flow. Right,
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that's when the fears, the inner critic, the I call
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it the muck. Right, the mut comes up to say hey,
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I used to look at When the mut comes up,
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Lauri as oh, I'm failing at figuring this out. Now,
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I go, oh, thank you for showing me another unhealed
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layer so I can get back into flow.
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Thoughts on that.
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Too, well, I love I love this, and you know
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I am in studying flow. There's something that Herbert Benson
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identified and he called it the breakout principle, and he
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noticed he looked at peak states like flow, the flow state,
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the actual intimate experience of being in flow, and what
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he noticed in his research was that there's a cycle
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that we all go through and it starts with feeling
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this stuck feeling, and then he said, there's a release
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that leads to a peak state and then we have
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to recalibrate and integrate what just happened into the new normal.
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And this was embraced as the flow cycle, and so
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it's been repopularized as the flow cycle. But as I
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was looking at it and all of the data that exists,
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I love research. You probably noticed my book is filled
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with foot notes and I reviewed hundreds and hundreds of
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peer reviewed research. But my primary focus in everything is
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I'm a coach, and I'm also looking for how to
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apply all of this information in my own life to
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make my life better. So as I was looking at
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the flow cycle, I realized that a few things. One
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that we can get stuck in the struggle, we can
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start to the more we fight it, right, the more
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we our ego gets involved. I know a lot of
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people and I know times in my own life where
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struggle became my new normal and I didn't go through
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the phases, and I realized the key to how to
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get from struggle to finding our way to flow is acceptance.
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And it's kind of like what you what you're saying.
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We take a beat and we notice mindfully that we're
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in struggle, and the mind wants to analyze and figure
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out why we're in struggle, and you have a five
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point strategy for how to get ourselves out. But the
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key to changing our state is acceptance. And in my
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research of flow and also my own work as a coach,
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this idea of emotional safety is something that has been
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overlooked and often dismissed even when it comes to the
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flow state. How important it is in helping us get
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into flow. And sometimes we don't have the blessing of
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being in a situation where we feel emotionally safe. But
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the key to getting our lives to flow is to
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learn how to create that emotional safety for ourselves. And
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so I came up with a new version of Herbert
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Benson's breakout principle, which is I call it the safer
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flow cycle. And I use the word safer because not
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only to remind ourselves that emotional safety is key when
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it comes to flow, because we're often taught, you know,
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push stretch, like that's the way of the world, right,
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a place of feeling emotionally safe within ourselves. But also
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I believe that, you know, as Herbert Benson's Herbert Benson's
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principle showed that it's a new the rest phase, which
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is at the end, is when we integrate our new normal,
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because we're all always evolving and the purpose of life
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is to grow, and so we feel stuck and we
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have those stuck moments in our lives and those struggle
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moments when we're fighting ourselves or fighting other people, because
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there's some spark, there's some sparkle in us whatever we
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want to call that, that's calling to us to grow
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right and calling to us that there's something more that
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you have to offer to the world than fighting in
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the muck with in this way right. And so the
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the safer flow cycle is it starts with struggle, because
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that's part of life, being in a seed. You know,
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we have to break out of seeds. Struggle happens when
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we're learning a new skill. It doesn't necessarily have to
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be a bad struggle, but it can be uncomfortable. Right
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when we're doing something where we don't completely have the
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skill mastered yet it can be hard to get into flow,
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so it struggle can take many forms, and then we accept.
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And in that acceptance phase, I developed what I call
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an I Feel meditation. That's just saying, you know, I feel,
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I feel angry and it's okay, and we sit with it.
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And then we say I feel and we see how
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the feeling evolves. I feel frustrated and it's okay. So
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it's really accepting where we are is how we create
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the springboard for flow, because that's where we create the
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emotional safety for ourselves to allow that soft, still voice
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within to guide us. And the next phase in the
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safer flow cycle is find a way. And this is
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another thing that often gets missed in how flow is
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communicated about, and it is that the key to flow
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is intrinsic motivation, which means that flow is an inside job.
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Flow requires listening to our own spark and following where
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it leads. And so find a way is find a
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way your way. I mean, I have so much information
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about the in the book about all different ways we
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can get into flow, and I include so many stories,
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and that's with purpose, because we each have our own
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unique formula for flow. We each have our own unique pathway.
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We each have our own unique activities that make us sparkle,
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like writing for me, but some and we each have
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our own unique activities that will work in different situations
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and in different moments of our lives. Right, And that's
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why I always encourage people choose your own activity, listen
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to your own intuition. So the find a way starts
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with an F. That's the F in the safer flow cycle,
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and then the E is enjoy the moment. Eventually, if
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we stay with ourselves enough and we listen to our intuition,
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we can find bliss in the present moment and whether
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that happens as a flow experience or another peak state,
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as Herbert Benson described, even mindfulness and just feeling like
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this moment is it an everyday moment? Because the sun
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shining so brightly, and you know, the leaves are waving
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in such a way in the wind that it just
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feels miraculous. So the enjoy the moment is just being
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here now and enjoying the fruits of having you know,
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gone through the other two phases. And then we rest
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and that's the R. But I really believe that we
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rest with purpose. We remind ourselves that the reason we're
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resting is to recalibrate and integrate all the amazing things
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that we just achieved when we were in flow. With
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that e that's enjoy flow as well if it did
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indeed lead to a flow state, and we recalibrate, and
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then our soul often calls to us that, you know,
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we're ready to grow in a new way, and you know,
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we might go into what feels like struggle, but really
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it's that call to stretch a little bit out of
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our comfort zone. And then we do it all again
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and again and again, and this, you know, this is
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what life is, right, This is the seasons, This is
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the cycle of the life cycle of a plant from
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a seed, and you know, this is the crazy ride.
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That we're all on here on the world.
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So so that's you know, as far as struggle, you know,
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that's kind of the big picture of struggle. We could
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certainly talk about. You know, I call myself a recovering perfectionist,
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and so I am constantly working with the inner voices
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and the inner critic, and I think that's why I'm
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doing this and why I'm teaching this you know, I'm
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very much. You know, for many many years I taught
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and positioned myself more as an expert in my field
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as far as all the different modalities, and I always,
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you know, my coaching practice is designed to help people
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uncover that spark and follow where it leads in the world.
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And I love doing that, and I believe that everyone
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is an expert and everyone knows already the answers.
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That they're seeking.
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And so that's why all throughout the book, I say
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again and again and again, it's the title of the
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exercises at the end of each chapter. You're already a
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flow expert. And that is true because flow is innate.
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It's nothing that we need to learn. It's nothing that
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an expert teacher needs to teach us necessarily. It's to
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awaken what we already know within. It's helpful to have
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the framework for flow. But really that's just you know,
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I say again and again, it's like, when we make
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conscious what we're already doing unconsciously, that's when we have
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the power to dramatically change our lives. And so that's why, yeah,
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that's that's why, it's like, that's what that's the key
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to flow, right is uncovering our own unique formula for flow.
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And finally, I.
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Love that you say everyone is a flow expert, because
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it's just us remembering that we're going to take our
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next break, Laurie, and.
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the holistic, spiritual and conscious world. Om Times Radio IOMFM, Welcome.
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Back to listening to inspired Conversations. I'm with Laurie Smith,
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author of The Flow Habit. She's an inspirational author, speaker,
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and intuitive coach. So, Laurie, I love that because I
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believe the same thing. It's really a remembering we've forgotten
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that we're part of the flow that I call divine
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source energy. There's so many different words for it, and
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it sounds as if in your language, you're just reminding
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everyone that they have this connection to flow too, even
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though they may think they don't. So I think that's
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so important for women to realize. So, how can we
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develop a flow habit change right or how can it
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change our lives? When we create that habit You've touched
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a little bit about it about it opens up to
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divine synchronicities, It opens u up to trusting more of
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our own wisdom.
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What else would you like to share about that?
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Well?
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I think the first is noticing, right, noticing those moments
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when we or other people are in flow. And I
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like to say, look for the sparkles, you know, look
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for the sparkle in people's eyes when they're talking about
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things that they're passionate about. We can see the light
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right or look for the sparkle, you know, visit a
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playground or you know, attend a musical performance, or and
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look for the sparkle of the performance for the performer's eyes.
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You know, they might or the sound of their music
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might shift. You know, I went to an incredible jazz performance,
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and you know, they're not always in flow, the performers,
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but you can see the shift when they are, and
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you can feel the difference in the magic. And so
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pay attention to that in yourself as well. I mean,
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I think a great question is how does flow feel
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for you? I don't know even if you want to
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answer that, Linda, you know how flow feels for you.
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It's an ease, it's a trust, it is.
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I don't know.
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It feels in my body like an energetic opening, like
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I am living in alignment with all that is, and
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I don't know.
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It just brings me such peace.
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We are when in the other aspects of myself right,
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it feels constricted, pushing, chasing, striving, which tells me, oops,
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you're out of the flow of life right because you're
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trying to make things happen flow is allowing and trusting.
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That's the words I use to teach.
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Yes, beautiful, yeah, and you know, for me it also
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I love that you use the word piece.
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Yeah.
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There's so many I know, we don't have time to
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go through all of them. There's so many beautiful stories
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in the book to that point. But just for myself,
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one of my favorite flow activities is doodling. And so
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for many months I chose writing. But then for one
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month I decided, you know, I'm going to try something different.
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And I come from a long line of amazing artists,
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and I did not get the right the drawling gene.
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You know, I did not get that gene. But when
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I doodle, I realized as I a day, you know,
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day after day, for five to ten minutes a day,
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I started doodling, and I had forgotten that I had
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my own unique formula for doodling. And it was a
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game that I used to play when I would be
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listening to my professors in college and be in these
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big auditoriums and it would be, you know, hard to focus,
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and so in the margin of my notebook, to help
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me listen, to help me lock in, I used to
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doodle and my doodling often looked like the waves of
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it's they're curly and they don't cross. I play a
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game with myself where the lines can't cross, and I
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have to keep moving my pen and try to It's
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almost like when you're in amaze, you know, try to
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draw in this way. So there's just enough challenge to
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keep it interesting. And what I realize is I fall
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into flow so immediately with doodling. And I think one
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thing that really helps is that I don't care if
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people think I'm a good doodler. I have my ego
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has no attachment in the game whatsoever, you know, Whereas
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if I might be doing other forms of art, I
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might think, ooh, you know, I'm not as good as
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her or him or But doodling I bypass that all completely.
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And when I'm doodling and I'm in this state, I
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fall into flow immediately. It's such a deep form of meditation.
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Flow for me. I feel such deep peace. It's almost
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like I can feel my energy dropping from that gripping
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that's just above the heart in the body, and a
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tightness to down, down, down, like lower in my body,
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my home. All my muscles relax, and what I realize.
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I I came up with this word, which is playful
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and fun.
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All of this.
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I have found if we reconnect to our child within
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that doesn't take things so seriously. That also is a
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very great way to access flow. And I came up
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with this word called flow of eate, which is those
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things that we do to help us find flow that
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are unique to us. And I found that doodling is
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a great way to floativate. And so now before I
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do anything, before I came on this call, before I
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sit down to write an article, I doodle and that
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helps me to connect with this deep feeling. So I
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think that to create more flow in our lives, I
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think it's really really important to make it practical because
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we you know, we talk about the universal flow, and
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we know when we're struggling, but we can still stay
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stuck in the conversation about that and be really high
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up in our body, in our brains. And I think,
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if we can find those things and this I don't think.
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I know because I've seen the magic of this. I've
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seen this happen for hundreds and hundreds of people and
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myself again and again and again, so I know it
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works and it's that there is a direct connection between
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the biological state of flow and stepping into what you
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call universal flow, and it begins with activity. It's an
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actual biological innate state. For a reason, we have the
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formula to get our lives to flow, and it begins
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with picking up the pen or picking up the paintbrush,
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or getting on the swing, or remembering what you did
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as a child that brought you joy and doing it
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for one minute, for sixty seconds, and then your body
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will start to remember and remind you how to experience
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more of that. And this is directly related to how
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neuropathways form in our brain. They start with baby steps,
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They start with one minute a day. They start with
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a softness, not a rigidity. Because what happens in flow,
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in the flow state, which is so amazing, is that
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when we're in flow, the parts of our brain that
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rule the inner critic, that rule the ego, they go offline.
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They literally do not light up. And so by you know,
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swinging for one minute or by dancing. One of my
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favorite things to do is to just put on the
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Pandora Best Day of your Life, a music channel and
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dance to one song, which is usually about three minutes
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and just follow where my body wants to lead. Don't worry,
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it's in my kitchen, nobody can see me. Don't worry
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about what people think. To create a safe way to experience, experiment.
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With flow.
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Where you don't have to worry at all about what
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people think, that you are not engaged in that conversation
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at all. And that is how the flow habit forms.
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That's how we help ourselves kinesthetically to develop flow and
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create flow miracles in our lives because we're all on board.
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Our whole body is on board, our brain is on board,
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our inner child is on board, and part of the
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leadership team. You know, we're playful. We use words like
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flow to eate. We let ourselves choose activities that don't
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seem practical at all, and those are the ones that
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are actually going to open something up inside of us
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so that we go out into the world sparkling and
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playful and fun and we have that magnetic energy about
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us because we're talking about something, or we're doing something,
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or we're living our lives from this passionate state that
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and that is so powerful. Nobody can take that away
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from us. And it doesn't start from the brain. It
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starts from the from that inner child, it starts from play,
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and that's all inside us already. You know, that's that's
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the beautiful thing as we were all children, so you
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that's that's in you. Nobody can ever take away from
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you that you already know right now in this moment,
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your unique formula for flow. It's in there. You just
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have to find your way to reclaim it. And that's
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what my book is all about. I mean, I wrote it.
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I put I love Linda that you said that. You
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know when you opened it, you you know you felt
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the energy because I put so much energy in how
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I created the book so that not only does it
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have hundreds and hundreds of footnotes. I researched this book
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for six years, but it also has stories. So if
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you don't see yourself in my story, that's okay. There's
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another story in this book that might re ignite a sparkle.
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And it's filled with tips and facts and experiments flow
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experiments you can try, ways you can uncover your own
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strategies to flowtvate. I put so much energy in making
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it a really practical hand handbook for reclaiming what you
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already know.
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M I got to tell you.
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That's what I feel in the book, and I love
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all the exercises and everything that we can incorporate in
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because to me, nothing changes without inspired action. Inspired means
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from spirit right, So it's like, take action, get into
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the divine flow of life. We're going to take a
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final break and come back for the last segment, my friends,
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and if you're ready to step into flow, grab a
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We'll be right back the best of the holistic, spiritual
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I'm sorry, I'm afraid I don't know that.
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Welcome back and listening to inspired conversations. Today we're talking
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about flow, everyday, miracles.
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And flow to vate. So one of my.
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We'll watch the time on this last segment, but could
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you quickly identify those four steps of getting into a
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flow state? So I make sure we capture.
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Those absolutely so they correspond to the acronym feel, which
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reminds us to feel our way into flow, not to
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think our way into flow. And the first is focus,
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and the question with focus is what is my top
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priority in this moment? And then the second is E.
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The first E is engage and this is the one
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that often gets missed, but it's what can I do
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to make this more fun and meaningful for me? It
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brings it back to intrinsic motivation and what sparks your light.
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And then the next E is equalized and this comes
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from my scuba diving days, where when we scuba dive
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we have to equalize the outer pressure of the water
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with our own inner airways, and so it's finding that
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sweet spot. So we're not being too hard on ourselves
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and we're not bored. And so the question for that
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is do I need to lighten up a little? Or
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do I need to push myself harder? Do I need
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to challenge myself more? And then finally the L is
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listen and let go and these are sort of one
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in the same action, and this is where we become
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willing to become partners with flow and follow where we
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are feeling guided to go and also staying very closely
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attuned to the listening is what where is flow guiding me,
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and how can I let go and follow? So those
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are the four simple steps to flow, and they're a
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great way to live our lives too. I find that,
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you know, if I ever feel stuck, just by asking
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that first question, what is my top priority in this moment?
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Kind of brings it back to home right, and then
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we can start to almost like a domino effect, start,
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we can click back into that flow within ourselves.
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One of the things you share too is, first off,
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I love that acronym because as soon as you hear
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the word feel, there's a vibration to that. And then
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as you broke it down, I wrote them all down.
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I was like, when you see that acronym feel, it's like, Okay,
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get out of your head right now, Linda, come drop down.
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That's the first thing I felt when you said the acronym,
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and then as you went through it when you said
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engage and make it funny, meaningful. I think so many
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have forgot what fun means because so many of us
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and I've been there and can still fall into that state,
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are so in our heads we're not even present in
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our own lives that we don't know. We've kind of
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forgotten that that child like energy, And so I love
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that your book is reminding everyone that within you is
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all that innate wisdom and truth because you were born
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with it as.
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Child, you lived it and experienced it.
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And then as we grow into our adulthood and life
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gets lifey, we become disconnected from that truth. So I
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see your book as a silful reminder for us to
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come back to center, to come back to that joyful
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part of us that many of us have forgotten.
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Thank you.
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Yeah, that's really what it's all about, is the playfulness
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and remembering the sparkles, you know, and following the sparkles and.
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Remembering that we have sparkles, right.
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I mean, I think sometimes when we get stuck and
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we feel stuck, just that alone can help shift our state,
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you know. And in my coaching, I remind people, you know,
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you have a spark. You have a unique gift that
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no one else on the face of the earth has,
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has had, or ever will have again. So even when
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there are you know, hundreds of people coaching or hundreds
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of people you know, making widgets or whatever it is,
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no one can do it quite like you. And the
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key to our success and the key to creating miracles
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and magnetizing those those soon to be new best friends.
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To us is all about connecting with that sparkle, that sparkly, playful,
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fun part of ourselves. And we don't have to think
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our way into it. We can experiment and we can
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try a flow activity and say, you know what, that
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didn't work for me swinging on the swing. I started,
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you know, my twenty eight day flow challenge and started
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swinging on the swing.
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It just doesn't do it.
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But my doing it helped make me remember how much
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I love to paint, you know, And so I'm going
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to get a paint a box of water colors from
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the from CBS, and I'm going to start to just
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play around with water colors today and then see where
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that leads us, you know. And it can be playful
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and fun. And the key is, you know, leaning into softness.
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I do twenty eight day flow challenges still, they're still free.
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People can sign up on my website and I send
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out an email every single day for twenty eight days,
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so you have support as you do this if you want.
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And each email has a word of the day and
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a question of the day, and the word that people
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resonate with most is softness, And I think that kind
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of sums up the best way to find flow is
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through an energy of softness and playfulness and being like,
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you know, and I'll try this, and experimenting, you know,
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and curiosity. And that's all what I call the flow mindset,
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which is in the book. But yeah, it's just about following, following,
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going through life from one little flow or miracle to
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the next, and being playful about it.
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And we can have that word too.
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Curiosity is a big one, right, Yes, we can become
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so close minded and stop stop stretching ourselves into like
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the beauty of life. We think, Okay, this is who
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I am, this is what I do, and we kind
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of like put blinders on, like the horses.
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I grew up with horses, and I used to always
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say to my family, why do we have to put them?
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It's like so they can block out everything else and
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they can stay focused ahead. And I think sometimes we
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get into that rut. So when you said curiosity, it
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really spoke to me because I have grand children now,
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one's fourteen year old girl and one's twenty five. And
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my fourteen year old granddaughter we call the little Goddess,
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and she is the most magical, mystical, creative soul a
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child or adult that I've ever met. And she has
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no fear about trying new things. And in the last
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I'd say new things to create. And I'd say in
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the last four years, I've been witnessing and watching that
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and saying, Okay, how many of my clients are always
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complaining or mentioning that they feel disconnected from the creativity
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of Flow, And I'm like, the difference is she's willing
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to be curious. And I think a lot of us
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adults are become so set in our ways that we
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lose that desire to be curious, and I think that
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closes us off from so much.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, I mean, I think it's great to remember that
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we have many parts. I talk about that in the
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book a lot. And while our goal is to reconnect
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with that piece, that experience of our true self, or
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what I call the flowing self, you know, these other
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little parts pipe up, but they're just parts. They're not
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our identity. And it's important to remember that that child
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is within us, you know, and that is one of
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our parts, you know. In the research I did, I
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interviewed a lot of kids about Flow, and they hadn't
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heard of the word flow or flow state before. But
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when I said, you know, it's that feeling we get
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when we're so into what we're doing that we lose
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track of time, they light up and they're like, oh,
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I know that, And I say, oh, well, you know,
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what does that feel like? Or how do you do that?
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And they know exactly how they do that, you know,
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And all the stories are in the book about you know,
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ways they make what they're doing a little bit harder
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and a little bit harder, and a little bit harder
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to engage themselves. And if it's too hard, you know,
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ways they make it simpler or you know, ways that
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they they just do what they do in that magical
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way that only they can do. And I like to
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remind all of us we have that within It's not
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gone because we're whatever age we are, it's within us,
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just like this flowing, peaceful experience is within us ready
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to be tapped, you know, And and that there is
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no one way that anybody can teach us well, But
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but it begins by asking ourselves those four questions, and
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it just begins by being willing to play and experiment.
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And notice, you know, there's such a connection between emotional intelligence,
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which is self awareness and knowing how we're feeling and flow.
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And the more we come to know ourselves in a
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really deep, accepting way, and we can be more compassionate
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with ourselves in those moments that we are stuck and
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know that. You know, I like to think when we're
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feeling stuck and when our ego is screaming loudly, I
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think I like to think back to that that safe
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flow cycle that I mentioned, and I like to think
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about you know, wow, that just means there's a creative
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breakthrough coming because we don't we're not meant to stay stuck,
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you know. And if we just accept how we're feeling
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in this moment, look out world, like look out world,
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look out you know all the joy and bliss that
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could be ahead where we just experiment, experience the moment
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and we enjoy the moment that e and the safer
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flow cycle, you know, and all those miraculous moments that
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are going to happen. And no, we're not going to
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stay in that state all the time. We're going to
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need to rest, we're going to need to be quiet,
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We're going to need to listen to what's growing and
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where we're being called to flow next, And that's all
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part of it, but even just a beautiful reframe. If
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anybody is listening right now and you're feeling stuck, how
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about you know if we reframe that. This is a
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trick I use a lot in my own life. Is like,
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oh my gosh, I'm so excited because that means that soon,
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you know, I'll be flowing again, you know, because what
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comes after stuck is that experience of enjoying the moment
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and flow and miracles. So this is just a sign
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that something good is about to come.
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I love that reframe.
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Excuse me, so one of the things that you just
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said is you know about us being stuck, that reframe
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takes us out of the energy of what is and
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puts us back into the field of possibility, which to
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me is flow.
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So I love that reframe for anyone because we do.
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We all go through that right those moments we have
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but one minute left, I want to share. Are you
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hosting a twenty eight day flow challenge now? Or can
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they get the details right on your website for the
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next one.
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Yes, So whenever you're listening to this, I do periodically
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throughout the year host these where we go through it
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all as a community and all of us on day
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one on the same day. However, what I have on
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my website I swore when I saw how much these
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were changing people's lives during the pandemic, I swore that
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I would always offer these for free for as long
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as I possibly could, And so on my website Laurie
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Smith L A U, R I, E, SMI T H
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dot com. On every subscription box, if to sign up
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for my newsletter, there's a little checkbox and it's self
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guided flow challenge And if you want to receive the
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twenty eight day twenty eight emails, you just click that
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box and you can hit reply to any of those
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emails and share your story with me. I want to
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hear what activity or choosing, what your intention is for
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doing it. And I am always doing these right now
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and this month on substack, I'm actually posting fragments from
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my own flow writing. So I'm always doing twenty eight
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day flow challenges and I lead flow circles, so for
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those who are ready to take their journey with flow deeper,
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I lead group coaching containers that are just for one
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month at a time, and each month we have a
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different theme.
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Yeah, but people.
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And the other thing is also if you want to
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find out more about what I'm offering in my book,
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and you can also just type in the Flow Habit
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into Google or my name Laurie Smith Flow. Everything I
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do is called the Flow Habit. My podcast is called
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the Flow Habit. The book is called The Flow Habit.
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If you can't remember my name and you want to
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find me, Theflowhabit dot com will also take you to
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my website. So yeah, so there's lots of ways to
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get in touch, and I'm really passionate about yeah, sharing
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this with as many people as I can.
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I am so excited for everyone to take advantage of
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all your sacred offerings and especially grabbing a copy of
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your book, The Flow Habit. Laurie, thank you for joining me.
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I am honored, and until next time, my friends, choose
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low to joy, truth, happiness, blessings everyone.
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