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Thank you for joining us on Therapy Unlocked, where we unlock the mind.
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One conversation at a time.
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I'm your host, Emily, Final Girl M, and this is local living legend, Katrina Mondragon.
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Yes, Katrina Mondragon.
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I'm a professional, not your professional, so nothing we're going to talk about to be today should be taken as legal, medical, or otherwise advice.
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This podcast is purely for education and amusement.
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Education, amusement, and because I would like to be famous, so like, comment, share, subscribe, and let us know if you'd like to be in a relationship with us.
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Parasexual relationship, of course.
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Not necessarily red flags, but keep an eye on that flags.
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Why gray and not yellow?
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Well, because yellow means caution, but gray is more neutral, in my opinion.
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So maybe you don't need caution on that, but uh it's something that exists.
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Be aware.
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Be aware that it exists.
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Like Eeyore.
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Eeyore is gray.
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Or he was gray.
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I heard they changed him.
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He's like periwinkle.
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Yes, they changed him to periwinkle and purple to be more marketable.
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Was he already?
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I have a first edit.
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He was gray with a first edition, Winnie the Pooh.
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We can go back to the source on this.
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And my memory, we'll check it.
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He was gray with a blue bow.
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I think he was always kind of periwinkle.
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Let's go get it.
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Um, well, I don't know exactly where it is.
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I'll have to find.
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Oh, okay.
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We will find it and we will bring that back on the next episode.
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What color was Eeyore?
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True fans will find out in our next episode because I have a first edition Winnie the Pooh.
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But that said, I think that he was kind of a periwinkle.
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Cool.
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I think he always has been.
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But that said, the gray flags would be the things to be aware of that aren't necessarily bad, they're not necessarily good.
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So they don't know how to work their phone, kind of a gray flag.
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They don't exercise at all.
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Gray flag.
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Yeah, but maybe they have a medical condition, so like that's why it's like gray.
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Yeah, gray flag.
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Just in general, not taking great care of their body or medical health might be kind of a gray flag.
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It's not necessarily disqualifying you from a relationship with that person.
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But are you seeing the Meet McDonald's three times a week?
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Yeah, that's something to be aware of, though.
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Like, are are you ready for the possibility of a shorter relationship?
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Oh, because of lifespan?
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Yeah.
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Yes.
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Because of lifespan.
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Because maybe they're gonna have medical issues later on in life.
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Yeah.
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You know?
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I mean, just being honest, it's a possibility.
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You know, that's that that's a possibility.
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Other gray flags, you know, maybe they have a lot of relationships and friendships, but you don't like all of them.
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They're friends with people where they say, like, keep your what what is the cliche?
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Keep your friends close, your enemies closer.
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Yeah.
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If they hate all their friends, eh.
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Oh.
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That's maybe.
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I would say that's a red flag.
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I'm saying if they have friends that you find.
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Oh, that they like they like their friends, but you maybe don't.
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That would be a gray flag because if somebody comes down to choose between me and your friends, they might choose the friends.
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That might be a great flag.
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Although I'm not saying maybe you hate them, but I'm saying maybe that you just wouldn't find them quite as entertaining as your partner does.
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And I'm not saying that's me.
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I like my I like my partner's friends.
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But I'm saying if you if if you were in that kind of scenario, I have been in that scenario before where my partner has had friends that I did not like.
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Me too.
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I would say that that that would be a gray flag because are you going to enjoy spending time with those people?
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Right.
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Because you're gonna end up spending time with those people.
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Lots of time, and time is one of those things that you could never ever get back.
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Think about that when you go.
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I know this was like a totally different episode where we're talking about job interviews, but you were giving the gift of time to an employer.
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That's an important thing.
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Giving the gift of time is a really good way to put that.
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Because you're never gonna get that back, and especially if you think about what is most jobs, 30 to 40 hours a week?
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Yeah.
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And that's seven days or six five to seven days a week that you're doing like 30 to 40 or sometimes even 50 hours of work per week.
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That's a lot of time to be around people, and a lot of time to be around somebody that maybe who clashes with your values, even.
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When you enter into a relationship with someone, you are giving them that gift of time.
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So the most time, yeah, because you're spending your off-work time with that person.
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Yeah, you want to consider do you like do you like their hobbies?
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What if you don't particularly care for their hobbies?
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So I think that would be a gray flag because that would be okay in my book to have two totally separate hobbies, one's a rock climber, one's a reader.
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Cool.
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And then you come together and do something fun that you want to do.
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What if you don't want to go to the rock climbing convention?
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I think it can actually be healthy to have those separate adventures.
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Like just go your separate ways, do your own thing.
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Even non-traditional relationships, sometimes people don't live together all year round.
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I've seen married couples who don't live together.
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Like, you don't have to live in any particular way.
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Here's a giant green flag.
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You love doing the same things together.
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Yes.
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You love to go walk around a motherboard market on Saturday.
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You love to go to to the movies.
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Yeah, to go to the movies.
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You love to go do those shops together.
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Go shopping, even window shopping.
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You don't need money for that.
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Those things are giant green flags.
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If you can find somebody who shares interests with you.
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In fact, my grandmother told me that when I was a teenager.
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She sat me down and she said, Find somebody who likes to do the same things that you do.
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Here's one that might sound a little bit a weird one, but a little bit of a green flag is how you argue.
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You argue well.
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Because if you don't argue ever, that's kind of a red flag.
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But if when you argue, you break the dishes and the lights out, that's a red flag.
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So the green flag would be how you argue well, meaning effectively communicating your thoughts and feelings without doing anything dangerous.
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That makes sense.
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That makes sense.
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So green flags in relationships can be anything as as little as, you know, do they meet you on your love languages, which I like to say my love languages are all of them.
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Right.
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Let me see if I can name them.
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Quality time, acts of service, words of affirmation, physical touch, and quality time.
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You said quality time twice.
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Okay, so what was the fifth one then?
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Quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service, that was.
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I don't think I said acts of service.
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Yeah, acts of service, physical touch, and gift giving.
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And gift giving.
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Yeah.
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So I like to say my love languages are all of them.
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So if somebody's meeting you on your love languages, that's a big, huge green flag.
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To you just really like the way they dress.
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They're aesthetic, yes.
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That's it, that can be a big, huge green flag.
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You just particularly like the way somebody dresses, that can be a big green flag because you if you don't like the way they dress, that can get old really fast.
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Not everybody's willing to change it.
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That's yeah.
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So I was gonna say that could be an opportunity.
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If you don't like the way somebody dresses, it's an opportunity to give them gifts of good clothes.
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If you do like what they're wearing, then you could maybe not have to buy them anything, but maybe you do want to buy them more cool clothes.
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Yeah, maybe you do want to give them more cool clothes, or maybe you want to borrow their cool clothes.
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That's a possibility too.
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Um so those are all good green flags.
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Sometimes we get hung up looking for red flags, and sometimes we can spend so much time looking for red flags we can disqualify people.
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So maybe spend some time looking for good green flags.
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Thanks for joining us.
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Thank you for joining us on Therapy Unlocked, where we unlock the mind.
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One conversation at a time.
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I'm your host, Emily, Final Girl M, and this is local living legend, Katrina Mondragon.
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Yes, Katrina Mondragon.
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I'm a professional, not your professional, so nothing we're going to talk about to be today should be taken as legal, medical, or otherwise advice.
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This podcast is purely for education and amusement.
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Education, amusement, and because I would like to be famous, so like, comment, share, subscribe, and let us know if you'd like to be in a relationship with us.
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Parasexual relationship, of course.
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Not necessarily red flags, but keep an eye on that flags.
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Why gray and not yellow?
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Well, because yellow means caution, but gray is more neutral, in my opinion.
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So maybe you don't need caution on that, but uh it's something that exists.
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Be aware.
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Be aware that it exists.
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Like Eeyore.
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Eeyore is gray.
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Or he was gray.
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I heard they changed him.
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He's like periwinkle.
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Yes, they changed him to periwinkle and purple to be more marketable.
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Was he already?
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I have a first edit.
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He was gray with a first edition, Winnie the Pooh.
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We can go back to the source on this.
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And my memory, we'll check it.
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He was gray with a blue bow.
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I think he was always kind of periwinkle.
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Let's go get it.
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Um, well, I don't know exactly where it is.
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I'll have to find.
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Oh, okay.
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We will find it and we will bring that back on the next episode.
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What color was Eeyore?
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True fans will find out in our next episode because I have a first edition Winnie the Pooh.
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But that said, I think that he was kind of a periwinkle.
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Cool.
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I think he always has been.
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But that said, the gray flags would be the things to be aware of that aren't necessarily bad, they're not necessarily good.
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So they don't know how to work their phone, kind of a gray flag.
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They don't exercise at all.
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Gray flag.
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Yeah, but maybe they have a medical condition, so like that's why it's like gray.
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Yeah, gray flag.
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Just in general, not taking great care of their body or medical health might be kind of a gray flag.
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It's not necessarily disqualifying you from a relationship with that person.
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But are you seeing the Meet McDonald's three times a week?
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Yeah, that's something to be aware of, though.
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Like, are are you ready for the possibility of a shorter relationship?
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Oh, because of lifespan?
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Yeah.
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Yes.
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Because of lifespan.
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Because maybe they're gonna have medical issues later on in life.
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Yeah.
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You know?
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I mean, just being honest, it's a possibility.
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You know, that's that that's a possibility.
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Other gray flags, you know, maybe they have a lot of relationships and friendships, but you don't like all of them.
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They're friends with people where they say, like, keep your what what is the cliche?
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Keep your friends close, your enemies closer.
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Yeah.
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If they hate all their friends, eh.
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Oh.
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That's maybe.
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I would say that's a red flag.
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I'm saying if they have friends that you find.
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Oh, that they like they like their friends, but you maybe don't.
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That would be a gray flag because if somebody comes down to choose between me and your friends, they might choose the friends.
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That might be a great flag.
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Although I'm not saying maybe you hate them, but I'm saying maybe that you just wouldn't find them quite as entertaining as your partner does.
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And I'm not saying that's me.
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I like my I like my partner's friends.
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But I'm saying if you if if you were in that kind of scenario, I have been in that scenario before where my partner has had friends that I did not like.
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Me too.
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I would say that that that would be a gray flag because are you going to enjoy spending time with those people?
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Right.
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Because you're gonna end up spending time with those people.
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Lots of time, and time is one of those things that you could never ever get back.
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Think about that when you go.
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I know this was like a totally different episode where we're talking about job interviews, but you were giving the gift of time to an employer.
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That's an important thing.
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Giving the gift of time is a really good way to put that.
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Because you're never gonna get that back, and especially if you think about what is most jobs, 30 to 40 hours a week?
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Yeah.
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And that's seven days or six five to seven days a week that you're doing like 30 to 40 or sometimes even 50 hours of work per week.
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That's a lot of time to be around people, and a lot of time to be around somebody that maybe who clashes with your values, even.
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When you enter into a relationship with someone, you are giving them that gift of time.
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So the most time, yeah, because you're spending your off-work time with that person.
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Yeah, you want to consider do you like do you like their hobbies?
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What if you don't particularly care for their hobbies?
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So I think that would be a gray flag because that would be okay in my book to have two totally separate hobbies, one's a rock climber, one's a reader.
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Cool.
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And then you come together and do something fun that you want to do.
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What if you don't want to go to the rock climbing convention?
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I think it can actually be healthy to have those separate adventures.
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Like just go your separate ways, do your own thing.
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Even non-traditional relationships, sometimes people don't live together all year round.
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I've seen married couples who don't live together.
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Like, you don't have to live in any particular way.
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Here's a giant green flag.
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You love doing the same things together.
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Yes.
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You love to go walk around a motherboard market on Saturday.
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You love to go to to the movies.
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Yeah, to go to the movies.
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You love to go do those shops together.
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Go shopping, even window shopping.
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You don't need money for that.
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Those things are giant green flags.
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If you can find somebody who shares interests with you.
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In fact, my grandmother told me that when I was a teenager.
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She sat me down and she said, Find somebody who likes to do the same things that you do.
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Here's one that might sound a little bit a weird one, but a little bit of a green flag is how you argue.
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You argue well.
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Because if you don't argue ever, that's kind of a red flag.
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But if when you argue, you break the dishes and the lights out, that's a red flag.
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So the green flag would be how you argue well, meaning effectively communicating your thoughts and feelings without doing anything dangerous.
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That makes sense.
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That makes sense.
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So green flags in relationships can be anything as as little as, you know, do they meet you on your love languages, which I like to say my love languages are all of them.
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Right.
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Let me see if I can name them.
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Quality time, acts of service, words of affirmation, physical touch, and quality time.
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You said quality time twice.
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Okay, so what was the fifth one then?
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Quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service, that was.
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I don't think I said acts of service.
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Yeah, acts of service, physical touch, and gift giving.
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And gift giving.
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Yeah.
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So I like to say my love languages are all of them.
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So if somebody's meeting you on your love languages, that's a big, huge green flag.
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To you just really like the way they dress.
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They're aesthetic, yes.
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That's it, that can be a big, huge green flag.
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You just particularly like the way somebody dresses, that can be a big green flag because you if you don't like the way they dress, that can get old really fast.
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Not everybody's willing to change it.
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That's yeah.
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So I was gonna say that could be an opportunity.
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If you don't like the way somebody dresses, it's an opportunity to give them gifts of good clothes.
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If you do like what they're wearing, then you could maybe not have to buy them anything, but maybe you do want to buy them more cool clothes.
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Yeah, maybe you do want to give them more cool clothes, or maybe you want to borrow their cool clothes.
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That's a possibility too.
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Um so those are all good green flags.
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Sometimes we get hung up looking for red flags, and sometimes we can spend so much time looking for red flags we can disqualify people.
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So maybe spend some time looking for good green flags.
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Thanks for joining us.
