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Hi, this is Larry Wilson and this is How to Talk to Humans.
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This is the podcast that shows you how to improve your communication skills.
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Are you looking to get a better job?
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Are you looking to find a relationship?
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Are you trying to do things in your life that have frustrated you and improved you so far?
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I can show you so easily how to change that.
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Now, I can only do it with humans.
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If you're looking to deal with vampires with all of these extraterrestrials, this is not the show feel.
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But if you're really looking to improve your communication skills, I can show you what I've learned for 40 years in the show business working with the biggest celebrities and superstars in the world.
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And their secrets are unbelievable.
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What I'm going to be teaching you during the course of this podcast every week are tools that you can use to communicate toward success.
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Hi, thanks for joining me again for part two of last week's show.
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There was so much I wanted to share with you, I didn't want to take up too much of your time.
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So here's all the good stuff that follows up the good stuff from part one.
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It makes my brain hurt to think about learning a language at the level you have.
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When you tell me that you learned English in a year, it makes me simply want to weep.
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I mean, I I've said before, I I stand by this and I it's just my personal feeling.
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I don't know if I'm really right or not.
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But I think English is a very difficult language to learn.
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Yes.
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Yes.
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It's organic, as I frequently mention.
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It it changes in ways.
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Now I understand that French is um a little bit more rigid.
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Is that correct?
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It's very true.
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There are so many more rules.
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French is even harder than English, yes.
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Interesting.
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I mean, I'm told that French has not changed, the language has not changed uh so much in the last 500 years.
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That's right.
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That you can look at things written 500 years ago and read them easily.
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Yes, and that's because French is rooted in Latin.
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And so um, if you speak Latin, which is a language my dad also wanted me to learn, and I said, Dad, that's where I draw the line.
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I am not learning this archaic language, I just know.
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But um, he did manage to teach me why he wanted me to learn it, is because when you learn Latin, the etymology of the word comes to you very easily.
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Even if it's a word that you've never heard before, you will be able to guess easily the spelling easily because of the yeah, yeah.
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And so that's why it hasn't changed, is because it's so deeply rooted in in Latin.
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The etymology is from there.
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I mean, um most uh romance languages are written in Latin, Italian, Spanish, you know, but it is very true that French is, and that's why French is considered a classical language, because it's yeah, it's core is from is from Latin and yeah, it hasn't changed.
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It hasn't changed, it's pretty much the same.
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It's fascinating.
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Uh that son of mine actually did learn Latin in school.
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Okay.
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Uh and he did because he he's a character, but um he um he saw that uh exactly what you're saying, that on uh school tests, on college entrance exams, on things like that, even if you didn't know the correct answer, you might be able to determine what the meaning of a certain word was by its Latin roots.
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Yes.
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And it's fascinating.
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Uh you casually mentioned, but I want to hit it again so that people know, that Rachel is saying that uh French, Spanish, Italian are romance languages.
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Yes, and they evolved from Latin.
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Yes.
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Now obviously uh English heavily uh influenced by French.
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If you take a look at a map, you can see, oh, they're separated by the English Channel.
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Yeah, oh so and then of course, um I should know more of this history.
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I don't.
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I could pretend I do, but I really don't.
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But but uh Norman uh French uh conquerors coming to England, and and it's kind of the um it's the etymology of why in English there's some words that have two different words.
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In other words, you have uh uh the first word pops to my mind is mutton or lamb, but right uh but mutton is mouton, which is French, yeah.
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From the French.
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So in other words, the people who came and conquered the Brits who were you know royalty spoke French.
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Yeah, but I mean well, the servants spoke English, and so if I was better prepared, I could think of half a dozen examples, but there's a lot of words like that in English where there's a French word, a word that has a French origin, and then there's an English word, and so there's a tremendous, you know, uh there's words are popping into my head.
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Words like garage or uh restaurant, um déjà vu déjà vu rendez-vous, rendez-vous, resume, resume, resume.
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Yeah, I mean we could we could go on for hours.
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I mean, there's so many words, and of course, I've I've mentioned this time and again with uh my people, that in some ways it's what makes English so powerful is that we have no proscriptions against borrowing these words from other languages.
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Yeah, you know, I I mentioned this friend of mine, uh Shut Ogawa, and he said in Japanese, there's a lot of words that are English words because they just don't have a Japanese word.
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Okay.
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He said it to me at one point, he said, you know, if you take a lunch that's in a box or in a basket outside and sit on the ground and spread a cloth and put out all this food, he said, in Japanese that's a piku niku.
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Because they don't have the word picnic, they just don't have it, you know, and so in that same way, in English, we love, we see a word, oh, resume.
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I like that.
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We're taking that.
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Rendezvous, I like that.
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Yes, incredible.
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Now, I mean, uh the real the real question, uh, there's no answer for, I'm sorry.
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I I wish I could open the top of your head, Rachel Pierre.
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I I wish I could look at your brain because and again, maybe this is just a personal bias I have.
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The idea of being able to really communicate in a foreign language, terrifying to me.
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Terrifying.
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Um, the only good news is I don't seem to have a need to do it yet.
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But sometimes when people ask me about the Wilson method, I say, if you speak English well enough to understand what I'm saying, then I can definitely bring your communication up to a new level.
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But I think about it, I think about it all the time.
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Uh when I meet someone like you, I think, how can you make your brain do that?
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And I I know, having uh researched a little bit about uh Rachel's uh parlay method online, I saw that she has uh some very interesting techniques and some approaches to it.
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Yeah, and that's why I thought it was interesting that your um that your seven-day immersion is called a reset.
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Yes.
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I can't imagine.
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Can you tell me a little bit how do you make someone's brain reset to that?
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So, great question.
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Yes.
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So my my parlay method has three steps.
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It's it starts it's survive, function, command.
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And survive speaks exactly to what you mentioned because yes, at first people are terrified.
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And so it's like, okay, how do I survive in this other language that I know nothing about or that I know very little about?
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How will I be able to communicate?
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So, in that survival phase, that survival phase is the reset phase where is exactly what I mentioned before, where I have you change, you know, your laptop settings, your all your devices to to French.
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We and and I I don't add to your routine because I don't want you to feel like it's extra work, but I just change your existing routine to a French routine.
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So whatever you're accustomed to doing on a day-by-day, I have you put post-its everywhere with sentences that I know you'll be leveraging in a French environment.
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So if every morning you say, I'm going to make coffee, I have you write that in French on the coffee maker, right?
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Key conversations that you have in your English world that you would want to have with a francophone, I have you write those sentences so that by the time you're done with my program, you've practiced those sentences a million times that it'll come to you like water, right?
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So the immersion is actually an on-ramp to my 90-day method.
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So and it's a way for people to test the method, right?
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They're like, okay, I don't want to sign up for the full 90-day because I'm skeptical.
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I don't know if it'll work.
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So then you have an option, sign up for, you know, get the seven-day immersion reset and just to test it out.
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And you'll see, because you also have me in your ear every single day where I set the tone for you, I set the intention for the day, and then I give you tasks to accomplish.
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Um, and again, it's not, it's not additional homework, it's just what you do on a day-to-day basis that I have you switch over to uh French.
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For example, let's say every Tuesday night you like to watch a comedy show.
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So I give you a French comedy show to relax, to distress, right?
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Um and then when we meet um weekly, I have you talk to me about the French uh comedy that you watched.
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What did you like about it?
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What sentences resonated to you?
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And then I ask questions to assess your improvement on a week-by-week basis.
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And trust and believe, every single time people are shocked because they don't realize the new the neurological work that the brain is actually doing when you reset the basic structure from English to French.
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It adapts very quickly.
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And so, yes, that's how I remove the fear for my clients.
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Uh, because yes, it can be scary.
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Even when you change your settings to French, you can be like, oh my God, I don't understand anything.
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At first, it could be crazy, it could be, you know, um frightening, but you have me in your ear telling you, don't change the settings.
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Just stick with it, stick with it.
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If you don't understand something, just Google it.
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Don't, and I promise you, every single time after the first two weeks, after the first week or first two weeks, the fear is gone.
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People start feeling more comfortable because they've repeated the same words and the same sentences over and over, they've listened to the same show.
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So, you know, it those sentences are resonating.
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And then also because of the fact that English, 40% of the English vocabulary is based on French.
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So now they are hearing those words in the French settings.
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And they're like, oh, okay, I know this word.
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I don't, for example, if it's if you listen to the news and they talk about coup d'etat or you know, parliament, or these are words that you, you know, you hear in the English language, but now it's in the French settings.
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And so it helps you memorize, retain the information.
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Um, so yeah, so that's the survival phase.
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And then I take you to function phase where, okay, now you're getting, you know, more comfortable.
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Okay, so how do you function in a language?
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Can you actually have a conversation now?
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Yes, I can, because I've been repeating these sentences every every morning for the past two weeks.
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So now I can go into work.
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Let's say if I go to France, um, let's say your company has a branch in France or in Switzerland, Geneva, or, you know, a French-African country like Côte d'Ivoire, um, and you have a meeting with your friend, Francophone counterpart, and you're like, you know, would you like to get some coffee?
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Well, you've been repeating that sentence for the past, you know, several weeks at home.
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So you know exactly how to how to communicate, how to connect with your counterpart.
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So that's function.
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Now, everything that the basis that you've learned, you know, uh in a survival phase, you get to put in practice and function.
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Um, ordering coffee, ordering croissant, talk to your counterparts, um, and you know, how to order an Uber.
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Whatever you're used to doing at home, now you're doing in a francophone environment, you're functioning.
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And then so that's a second month.
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And then the last month, now that you've gotten comfortable functioning, we get to command, right?
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Because I say that all the time.
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Executives who are so used to commending rooms in English, but when you get to a French environment and the language in the room switches to French, then they feel, you know, smaller because they don't understand what's being communicated.
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And people have sub bars in French.
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And so they lose control of the room.
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And so that's not a great feeling, right?
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And so many times they hire me, they're like, Rachel, I don't ever want to feel like that again.
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Can you help me commend the room in in French?
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And so that's where we give you negotiation uh phrases that are commonly used in the language, in French.
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We give you boardroom uh uh phrases, we give you um I mentioned negotiation, dinner phrases, right?
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Like when you have uh a business dinner, what's typically communicated.
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And also I teach you about culture, for example, knowing that the French, for them, business starts with relationships, it's building relationships because they want to know who they do business with.
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So they're go you're going to find yourself making trips to friends and perhaps 10% business talk and 90% relational.
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Where did you grow up?
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What's important to you?
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What are your values?
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They want to get to know the person behind you know the business because it's like a marriage.
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Before I sign a contract with you, I want to know who I'm doing business with.
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So yeah, yeah.
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So um, all that factors in your ability to come in the room, knowing the culture, you know.
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Um, and yes, so I get you ready in 90 days.
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Some people renew for another 90 days.
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Sometimes because they're extremely busy, they can't commit to, you know, the schedule.
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And so we extend it out to, you know, 180 days uh just to accommodate their schedule, especially, you know, busy travelers.
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However, what I do love about my program is that you can do it from anywhere in the world.
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We can have one-on-one sessions from anywhere in the world because it's virtual, and I can create the immersion for you wherever you are because it's it, but it starts with you.
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You have to commit.
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And I also have that as a requirement in my program.
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I say, do you promise to commit to the program?
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Otherwise, it won't work.
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Yes.
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Well, yes.
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Now, you know, I've already I've gone longer with you than I'm supposed to, but I don't care.
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No, no, I don't care.
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I I'm gonna if if you're amenable at some point in the future, I'd love to have you back on to go on and on with this.
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But let me ask you something, because you touched on a really interesting thing.
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When you talked in the second phase of your three phases, you talked about um hearing these words and recognizing certain words.
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You know, uh about a million years ago, I took a couple of years of uh high school French.
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Okay.
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I was never uh able to speak uh in the way that you're able to speak English here, I was never able to do that.
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But uh what was interesting is I have a fairly good memory.
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Okay, and I have a an ability to uh mimic things, but I could not I don't know how to explain this, but when I would hear someone speaking French, I I I couldn't I couldn't process it if it was very simple, you know, and they were speaking slowly, yes, but I have friends, and I had friends then who were in class with me who could watch a French television show, they could get a lot of parts of it, you know.
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Um it makes sense, it makes sense because your brain, you know, is not a because you're listening to those French words in an English bubble.
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So that's why your brain is having a hard time um adapting, is because you're still in the English bubble and you're hearing the French, you're like, oh, it doesn't resonate.
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So that's why the reset starts with the immersion.
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The program starts with doing a reset because you really need to do a fundamental uh baseline reset in order to yeah, in order to really communicate.
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I remember uh again a million years ago seeing a a French film Borsolino with uh Jean-Paul Belmondo in it.
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Oh yes, Jean-Paul Belmondo.
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Of course, it was subtitled in English, so but I remember the very last line I think in the film when one of the main characters has been shot and dying, it's about gangsters and so he says, Chance, ça n'existe pas.
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And I literally thought, I have no idea what you said.
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He said it slowly.
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I thought, and then I saw the subtitle said there's no such thing as luck.
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Yes.
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Now, as soon as I saw the subtitle, I could say, Oh, chance, luck.
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Yes, n'existe pas, doesn't exist.
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Okay, but it's very interesting what you're saying about immersion, yes.
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Um very, very interesting.
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Uh, Rachel Pierre.
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Uh, this, you know, I have to say a couple things again.
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I have to cut this short because I'm gonna be tormented unmercifully by my producer.
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I'll also have to jump on a close soons, yes.
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Oh, good, all right.
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Well, but um could we do this again sometime?
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Absolutely.
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I'd love to.
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I'd love to.
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My I it makes me wish I had some reason to speak French.
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Um I'll have to try and see if I can come up with some excuse.
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But um, but the stuff you're talking about is so in line with Wilson method.
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And and what Rachel's talking about here when she's talking about immersion and putting these phrases, which I think is great, on all these items, on the mirror where you brush your teeth, on the coffee maker.
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It's so much in keeping with when I encourage people.
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I always say you have to learn the material so well that you don't have to think about it.
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And I'm I'm the most guilty person of all when it comes to another language.
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I've not yet been able to do that.
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I haven't fortunately had the pressing need to be able to do it, but uh it's so interesting to hear you say this.
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Now, I also have to ask you uh tell me in in English you have the faintest accent.
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Faintest.
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It sounds to me Haitian.
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Yes.
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It sounds, but it's very faint.
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It's almost undetectable.
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But tell me the couple of uh sentences you've rattled off in French in French sound like Parisian French.
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Okay.
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Um sounds like Parisian French, okay.
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Is that is that accurate or am I imagining that?
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Oh, you said this the sentences that you heard me say in French sounds like Parisian French.
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Yeah.
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Yes.
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So that is an amazing uh that's actually a a great compliment.
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And great observation because a lot of people ask me, but so if you're Haitian, then you speak Haitian French.
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And I can appreciate that comment because yes, it is true that most Haitians do not speak Parisian French or French French.
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It is very, and they do that on purpose, is because you know the history between Haiti and French, back when French colonized the country.
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And so for a lot of Haitians, they see speaking French as speaking the language of the colonizers.
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And so, yeah, so their French sounds a little different.
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It it sounds more um tropical, it sounds more Caribbean, right?
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And so it does make people skeptical where they're like, so you speak Haitian French, not Haitian French, not French French.
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And I say, no, I speak French French.
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As a matter of fact, in 2018, I was chatting with locals, and I had told them that I was from New York, which at this time I did live in New York for like 20 years.
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And um they said, Rachel, I I think you lied to us.
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You're not from New York because your French is better than most Parisians we know.
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That was such an amazing compliment.
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I wish my dad was there to hear it.
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And I laughed, but they weren't laughing.
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They're like, no, no, no, no, no.
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Don't tell us you're American because there's no American speaks French better than us.
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We're not gonna take that.
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And I said, well, guess what?
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I'm still not Parisian, I'm from Haiti.
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And there was this silence where it it felt like they saw me differently.
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You know, I felt so respected.
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Like, wow, this woman from the Caribbean, her French is like, you know, almost perfect.
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And that was the best appointment ever.
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And that's what encouraged me to do this because um I and then at the at the time, a businessman overheard the conversation, walked over to me, told me that he overheard the conversation and he has a business negotiation coming up in three months.
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Can I cook can I coach him?
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That's where this and turns out he was a billionaire that nobody knew.
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I mean, yes, yeah.
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So I'm so glad you picked up on that.
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Yes, my French is definitely Parisian French, French French.
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And because I I grew up, you know, in the school that I went to uh up until high school was a you know uh French Catholic school.
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So that's why.
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And also my dad made sure that I um spent my foundational years speaking just French, you know, no Creole, no other language.
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He wanted it to be impeccable.
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Also, my dad was a lawyer, a DA, a judge, and so he spoke French day in and day out, you know.
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Um, and he wanted to his daughter to be as eloquent as he is, and so he was very rigid, very, you know, about it, very strict about it.
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And that's why.
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Wow.
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Well, what a perfect bookend to this.
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Um I cannot tell you how delighted I am to find it.
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Me too.
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Me too.
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And I look forward very much to time.
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We can do this again.
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Yes.
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And I want to urge uh people who are listening who are watching, um, her website is parlay par l-e-z method.com.
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And if for no other reason, if you want to see what a website should look like, wow, uh go check that out.
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And if you have uh a need, if you know, the first thought that came to mind is if you're involved in anything to do with fashion, I would think this is a woman you probably need to connect with.
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Yes, because I would love that, absolutely.
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Well, I just think of the center of the fashion world, I think of Paris.
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So yeah, whether that's a cliche or whether it's true, I don't know.
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It's very true.
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It's very true.
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Yeah.
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Well, fantastic.
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Um, thank you so much, Rachel.
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My pleasure.
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Thank you for having me on your show.
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This was fun.
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Oh, God.
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I for me it was uh fantastic, absolutely fantastic.
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I hope that you'll all join us next week for another episode of How to Talk to Humans.
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This time it will be only in English, but should still be fantastic.
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I'm Larry Wilson.
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Thanks again.
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Thank you.
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Bye.
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Bye-bye.
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All right, and let's see uh if I actually was recording on my end.
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Uh hard to say.
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Well, I'm definitely recording.
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Uh so I'll send you, I'll send you a copy of my recordings just so you have it.
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Thank you, Fantasy.
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Well, because that will be the episode.
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There you go.
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So by all means, I you know, and don't you don't have to do any editing.
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If you just send me that raw file, my producer they'll go and do everything they do there.
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But uh what a fantastic experience.
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Thank you, thank you.
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I'm glad you enjoyed it.
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I'm glad that you know this was very uh beneficial to your audience, to you and your audience, yes.
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Oh wow.
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I I'm always trying to do things that you know are pushing the boundaries of it, and this is fantastic, absolutely fantastic.
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Awesome, awesome.
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It was so great meeting you, Larry.
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Thank you.
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Yes, yes, go, go, go.
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And I'll talk to you soon.
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I'll send you the definitely before the end of the day, I'll send you the recording.
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Oh, great, I'll keep an eye out for it.
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All right, thank you.
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Aviento.
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All right, a biento.
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Bye, au revoir.
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Au revoir.
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This has been Larry Wilson.
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I want to thank you for spending this time with me, and I hope you found this information useful.
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If you're looking for more, you can find it at thewilsonmethod.com.
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There's a ton of stuff there.
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That if you want, you can even speak to me because I'm human.
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Send me an email at info at WilsonMethod.com because I read every single one.
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I hope that you'll join us next week in this continuing journey.
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And you'll be with me for the next episode of How to Talk to You.
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Hi, this is Larry Wilson and this is How to Talk to Humans.
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This is the podcast that shows you how to improve your communication skills.
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Are you looking to get a better job?
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Are you looking to find a relationship?
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Are you trying to do things in your life that have frustrated you and improved you so far?
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I can show you so easily how to change that.
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Now, I can only do it with humans.
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If you're looking to deal with vampires with all of these extraterrestrials, this is not the show feel.
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But if you're really looking to improve your communication skills, I can show you what I've learned for 40 years in the show business working with the biggest celebrities and superstars in the world.
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And their secrets are unbelievable.
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What I'm going to be teaching you during the course of this podcast every week are tools that you can use to communicate toward success.
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Hi, thanks for joining me again for part two of last week's show.
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There was so much I wanted to share with you, I didn't want to take up too much of your time.
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So here's all the good stuff that follows up the good stuff from part one.
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It makes my brain hurt to think about learning a language at the level you have.
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When you tell me that you learned English in a year, it makes me simply want to weep.
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I mean, I I've said before, I I stand by this and I it's just my personal feeling.
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I don't know if I'm really right or not.
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But I think English is a very difficult language to learn.
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Yes.
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Yes.
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It's organic, as I frequently mention.
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It it changes in ways.
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Now I understand that French is um a little bit more rigid.
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Is that correct?
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It's very true.
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There are so many more rules.
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French is even harder than English, yes.
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Interesting.
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I mean, I'm told that French has not changed, the language has not changed uh so much in the last 500 years.
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That's right.
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That you can look at things written 500 years ago and read them easily.
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Yes, and that's because French is rooted in Latin.
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And so um, if you speak Latin, which is a language my dad also wanted me to learn, and I said, Dad, that's where I draw the line.
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I am not learning this archaic language, I just know.
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But um, he did manage to teach me why he wanted me to learn it, is because when you learn Latin, the etymology of the word comes to you very easily.
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Even if it's a word that you've never heard before, you will be able to guess easily the spelling easily because of the yeah, yeah.
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And so that's why it hasn't changed, is because it's so deeply rooted in in Latin.
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The etymology is from there.
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I mean, um most uh romance languages are written in Latin, Italian, Spanish, you know, but it is very true that French is, and that's why French is considered a classical language, because it's yeah, it's core is from is from Latin and yeah, it hasn't changed.
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It hasn't changed, it's pretty much the same.
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It's fascinating.
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Uh that son of mine actually did learn Latin in school.
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Okay.
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Uh and he did because he he's a character, but um he um he saw that uh exactly what you're saying, that on uh school tests, on college entrance exams, on things like that, even if you didn't know the correct answer, you might be able to determine what the meaning of a certain word was by its Latin roots.
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Yes.
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And it's fascinating.
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Uh you casually mentioned, but I want to hit it again so that people know, that Rachel is saying that uh French, Spanish, Italian are romance languages.
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Yes, and they evolved from Latin.
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Yes.
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Now obviously uh English heavily uh influenced by French.
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If you take a look at a map, you can see, oh, they're separated by the English Channel.
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Yeah, oh so and then of course, um I should know more of this history.
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I don't.
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I could pretend I do, but I really don't.
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But but uh Norman uh French uh conquerors coming to England, and and it's kind of the um it's the etymology of why in English there's some words that have two different words.
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In other words, you have uh uh the first word pops to my mind is mutton or lamb, but right uh but mutton is mouton, which is French, yeah.
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From the French.
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So in other words, the people who came and conquered the Brits who were you know royalty spoke French.
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Yeah, but I mean well, the servants spoke English, and so if I was better prepared, I could think of half a dozen examples, but there's a lot of words like that in English where there's a French word, a word that has a French origin, and then there's an English word, and so there's a tremendous, you know, uh there's words are popping into my head.
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Words like garage or uh restaurant, um déjà vu déjà vu rendez-vous, rendez-vous, resume, resume, resume.
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Yeah, I mean we could we could go on for hours.
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I mean, there's so many words, and of course, I've I've mentioned this time and again with uh my people, that in some ways it's what makes English so powerful is that we have no proscriptions against borrowing these words from other languages.
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Yeah, you know, I I mentioned this friend of mine, uh Shut Ogawa, and he said in Japanese, there's a lot of words that are English words because they just don't have a Japanese word.
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Okay.
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He said it to me at one point, he said, you know, if you take a lunch that's in a box or in a basket outside and sit on the ground and spread a cloth and put out all this food, he said, in Japanese that's a piku niku.
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Because they don't have the word picnic, they just don't have it, you know, and so in that same way, in English, we love, we see a word, oh, resume.
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I like that.
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We're taking that.
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Rendezvous, I like that.
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Yes, incredible.
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Now, I mean, uh the real the real question, uh, there's no answer for, I'm sorry.
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I I wish I could open the top of your head, Rachel Pierre.
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I I wish I could look at your brain because and again, maybe this is just a personal bias I have.
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The idea of being able to really communicate in a foreign language, terrifying to me.
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Terrifying.
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Um, the only good news is I don't seem to have a need to do it yet.
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But sometimes when people ask me about the Wilson method, I say, if you speak English well enough to understand what I'm saying, then I can definitely bring your communication up to a new level.
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But I think about it, I think about it all the time.
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Uh when I meet someone like you, I think, how can you make your brain do that?
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And I I know, having uh researched a little bit about uh Rachel's uh parlay method online, I saw that she has uh some very interesting techniques and some approaches to it.
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Yeah, and that's why I thought it was interesting that your um that your seven-day immersion is called a reset.
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Yes.
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I can't imagine.
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Can you tell me a little bit how do you make someone's brain reset to that?
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So, great question.
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Yes.
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So my my parlay method has three steps.
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It's it starts it's survive, function, command.
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And survive speaks exactly to what you mentioned because yes, at first people are terrified.
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And so it's like, okay, how do I survive in this other language that I know nothing about or that I know very little about?
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How will I be able to communicate?
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So, in that survival phase, that survival phase is the reset phase where is exactly what I mentioned before, where I have you change, you know, your laptop settings, your all your devices to to French.
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We and and I I don't add to your routine because I don't want you to feel like it's extra work, but I just change your existing routine to a French routine.
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So whatever you're accustomed to doing on a day-by-day, I have you put post-its everywhere with sentences that I know you'll be leveraging in a French environment.
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So if every morning you say, I'm going to make coffee, I have you write that in French on the coffee maker, right?
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Key conversations that you have in your English world that you would want to have with a francophone, I have you write those sentences so that by the time you're done with my program, you've practiced those sentences a million times that it'll come to you like water, right?
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So the immersion is actually an on-ramp to my 90-day method.
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So and it's a way for people to test the method, right?
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They're like, okay, I don't want to sign up for the full 90-day because I'm skeptical.
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I don't know if it'll work.
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So then you have an option, sign up for, you know, get the seven-day immersion reset and just to test it out.
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And you'll see, because you also have me in your ear every single day where I set the tone for you, I set the intention for the day, and then I give you tasks to accomplish.
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Um, and again, it's not, it's not additional homework, it's just what you do on a day-to-day basis that I have you switch over to uh French.
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For example, let's say every Tuesday night you like to watch a comedy show.
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So I give you a French comedy show to relax, to distress, right?
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Um and then when we meet um weekly, I have you talk to me about the French uh comedy that you watched.
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What did you like about it?
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What sentences resonated to you?
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And then I ask questions to assess your improvement on a week-by-week basis.
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And trust and believe, every single time people are shocked because they don't realize the new the neurological work that the brain is actually doing when you reset the basic structure from English to French.
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It adapts very quickly.
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And so, yes, that's how I remove the fear for my clients.
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Uh, because yes, it can be scary.
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Even when you change your settings to French, you can be like, oh my God, I don't understand anything.
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At first, it could be crazy, it could be, you know, um frightening, but you have me in your ear telling you, don't change the settings.
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Just stick with it, stick with it.
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If you don't understand something, just Google it.
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Don't, and I promise you, every single time after the first two weeks, after the first week or first two weeks, the fear is gone.
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People start feeling more comfortable because they've repeated the same words and the same sentences over and over, they've listened to the same show.
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So, you know, it those sentences are resonating.
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And then also because of the fact that English, 40% of the English vocabulary is based on French.
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So now they are hearing those words in the French settings.
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And they're like, oh, okay, I know this word.
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I don't, for example, if it's if you listen to the news and they talk about coup d'etat or you know, parliament, or these are words that you, you know, you hear in the English language, but now it's in the French settings.
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And so it helps you memorize, retain the information.
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Um, so yeah, so that's the survival phase.
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And then I take you to function phase where, okay, now you're getting, you know, more comfortable.
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Okay, so how do you function in a language?
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Can you actually have a conversation now?
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Yes, I can, because I've been repeating these sentences every every morning for the past two weeks.
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So now I can go into work.
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Let's say if I go to France, um, let's say your company has a branch in France or in Switzerland, Geneva, or, you know, a French-African country like Côte d'Ivoire, um, and you have a meeting with your friend, Francophone counterpart, and you're like, you know, would you like to get some coffee?
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Well, you've been repeating that sentence for the past, you know, several weeks at home.
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So you know exactly how to how to communicate, how to connect with your counterpart.
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So that's function.
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Now, everything that the basis that you've learned, you know, uh in a survival phase, you get to put in practice and function.
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Um, ordering coffee, ordering croissant, talk to your counterparts, um, and you know, how to order an Uber.
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Whatever you're used to doing at home, now you're doing in a francophone environment, you're functioning.
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And then so that's a second month.
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And then the last month, now that you've gotten comfortable functioning, we get to command, right?
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Because I say that all the time.
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Executives who are so used to commending rooms in English, but when you get to a French environment and the language in the room switches to French, then they feel, you know, smaller because they don't understand what's being communicated.
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And people have sub bars in French.
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And so they lose control of the room.
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And so that's not a great feeling, right?
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And so many times they hire me, they're like, Rachel, I don't ever want to feel like that again.
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Can you help me commend the room in in French?
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And so that's where we give you negotiation uh phrases that are commonly used in the language, in French.
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We give you boardroom uh uh phrases, we give you um I mentioned negotiation, dinner phrases, right?
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Like when you have uh a business dinner, what's typically communicated.
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And also I teach you about culture, for example, knowing that the French, for them, business starts with relationships, it's building relationships because they want to know who they do business with.
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So they're go you're going to find yourself making trips to friends and perhaps 10% business talk and 90% relational.
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Where did you grow up?
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What's important to you?
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What are your values?
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They want to get to know the person behind you know the business because it's like a marriage.
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Before I sign a contract with you, I want to know who I'm doing business with.
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So yeah, yeah.
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So um, all that factors in your ability to come in the room, knowing the culture, you know.
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Um, and yes, so I get you ready in 90 days.
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Some people renew for another 90 days.
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Sometimes because they're extremely busy, they can't commit to, you know, the schedule.
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And so we extend it out to, you know, 180 days uh just to accommodate their schedule, especially, you know, busy travelers.
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However, what I do love about my program is that you can do it from anywhere in the world.
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We can have one-on-one sessions from anywhere in the world because it's virtual, and I can create the immersion for you wherever you are because it's it, but it starts with you.
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You have to commit.
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And I also have that as a requirement in my program.
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I say, do you promise to commit to the program?
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Otherwise, it won't work.
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Yes.
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Well, yes.
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Now, you know, I've already I've gone longer with you than I'm supposed to, but I don't care.
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No, no, I don't care.
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I I'm gonna if if you're amenable at some point in the future, I'd love to have you back on to go on and on with this.
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But let me ask you something, because you touched on a really interesting thing.
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When you talked in the second phase of your three phases, you talked about um hearing these words and recognizing certain words.
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You know, uh about a million years ago, I took a couple of years of uh high school French.
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Okay.
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I was never uh able to speak uh in the way that you're able to speak English here, I was never able to do that.
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But uh what was interesting is I have a fairly good memory.
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Okay, and I have a an ability to uh mimic things, but I could not I don't know how to explain this, but when I would hear someone speaking French, I I I couldn't I couldn't process it if it was very simple, you know, and they were speaking slowly, yes, but I have friends, and I had friends then who were in class with me who could watch a French television show, they could get a lot of parts of it, you know.
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Um it makes sense, it makes sense because your brain, you know, is not a because you're listening to those French words in an English bubble.
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So that's why your brain is having a hard time um adapting, is because you're still in the English bubble and you're hearing the French, you're like, oh, it doesn't resonate.
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So that's why the reset starts with the immersion.
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The program starts with doing a reset because you really need to do a fundamental uh baseline reset in order to yeah, in order to really communicate.
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I remember uh again a million years ago seeing a a French film Borsolino with uh Jean-Paul Belmondo in it.
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Oh yes, Jean-Paul Belmondo.
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Of course, it was subtitled in English, so but I remember the very last line I think in the film when one of the main characters has been shot and dying, it's about gangsters and so he says, Chance, ça n'existe pas.
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And I literally thought, I have no idea what you said.
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He said it slowly.
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I thought, and then I saw the subtitle said there's no such thing as luck.
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Yes.
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Now, as soon as I saw the subtitle, I could say, Oh, chance, luck.
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Yes, n'existe pas, doesn't exist.
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Okay, but it's very interesting what you're saying about immersion, yes.
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Um very, very interesting.
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Uh, Rachel Pierre.
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Uh, this, you know, I have to say a couple things again.
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I have to cut this short because I'm gonna be tormented unmercifully by my producer.
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I'll also have to jump on a close soons, yes.
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Oh, good, all right.
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Well, but um could we do this again sometime?
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Absolutely.
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I'd love to.
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I'd love to.
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My I it makes me wish I had some reason to speak French.
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Um I'll have to try and see if I can come up with some excuse.
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But um, but the stuff you're talking about is so in line with Wilson method.
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And and what Rachel's talking about here when she's talking about immersion and putting these phrases, which I think is great, on all these items, on the mirror where you brush your teeth, on the coffee maker.
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It's so much in keeping with when I encourage people.
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I always say you have to learn the material so well that you don't have to think about it.
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And I'm I'm the most guilty person of all when it comes to another language.
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I've not yet been able to do that.
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I haven't fortunately had the pressing need to be able to do it, but uh it's so interesting to hear you say this.
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Now, I also have to ask you uh tell me in in English you have the faintest accent.
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Faintest.
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It sounds to me Haitian.
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Yes.
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It sounds, but it's very faint.
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It's almost undetectable.
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But tell me the couple of uh sentences you've rattled off in French in French sound like Parisian French.
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Okay.
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Um sounds like Parisian French, okay.
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Is that is that accurate or am I imagining that?
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Oh, you said this the sentences that you heard me say in French sounds like Parisian French.
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Yeah.
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Yes.
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So that is an amazing uh that's actually a a great compliment.
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And great observation because a lot of people ask me, but so if you're Haitian, then you speak Haitian French.
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And I can appreciate that comment because yes, it is true that most Haitians do not speak Parisian French or French French.
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It is very, and they do that on purpose, is because you know the history between Haiti and French, back when French colonized the country.
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And so for a lot of Haitians, they see speaking French as speaking the language of the colonizers.
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And so, yeah, so their French sounds a little different.
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It it sounds more um tropical, it sounds more Caribbean, right?
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And so it does make people skeptical where they're like, so you speak Haitian French, not Haitian French, not French French.
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And I say, no, I speak French French.
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As a matter of fact, in 2018, I was chatting with locals, and I had told them that I was from New York, which at this time I did live in New York for like 20 years.
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And um they said, Rachel, I I think you lied to us.
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You're not from New York because your French is better than most Parisians we know.
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That was such an amazing compliment.
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I wish my dad was there to hear it.
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And I laughed, but they weren't laughing.
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They're like, no, no, no, no, no.
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Don't tell us you're American because there's no American speaks French better than us.
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We're not gonna take that.
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And I said, well, guess what?
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I'm still not Parisian, I'm from Haiti.
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And there was this silence where it it felt like they saw me differently.
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You know, I felt so respected.
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Like, wow, this woman from the Caribbean, her French is like, you know, almost perfect.
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And that was the best appointment ever.
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And that's what encouraged me to do this because um I and then at the at the time, a businessman overheard the conversation, walked over to me, told me that he overheard the conversation and he has a business negotiation coming up in three months.
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Can I cook can I coach him?
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That's where this and turns out he was a billionaire that nobody knew.
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I mean, yes, yeah.
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So I'm so glad you picked up on that.
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Yes, my French is definitely Parisian French, French French.
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And because I I grew up, you know, in the school that I went to uh up until high school was a you know uh French Catholic school.
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So that's why.
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And also my dad made sure that I um spent my foundational years speaking just French, you know, no Creole, no other language.
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He wanted it to be impeccable.
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Also, my dad was a lawyer, a DA, a judge, and so he spoke French day in and day out, you know.
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Um, and he wanted to his daughter to be as eloquent as he is, and so he was very rigid, very, you know, about it, very strict about it.
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And that's why.
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Wow.
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Well, what a perfect bookend to this.
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Um I cannot tell you how delighted I am to find it.
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Me too.
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Me too.
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And I look forward very much to time.
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We can do this again.
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Yes.
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And I want to urge uh people who are listening who are watching, um, her website is parlay par l-e-z method.com.
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And if for no other reason, if you want to see what a website should look like, wow, uh go check that out.
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And if you have uh a need, if you know, the first thought that came to mind is if you're involved in anything to do with fashion, I would think this is a woman you probably need to connect with.
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Yes, because I would love that, absolutely.
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Well, I just think of the center of the fashion world, I think of Paris.
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So yeah, whether that's a cliche or whether it's true, I don't know.
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It's very true.
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It's very true.
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Yeah.
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Well, fantastic.
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Um, thank you so much, Rachel.
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My pleasure.
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Thank you for having me on your show.
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This was fun.
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Oh, God.
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I for me it was uh fantastic, absolutely fantastic.
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I hope that you'll all join us next week for another episode of How to Talk to Humans.
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This time it will be only in English, but should still be fantastic.
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I'm Larry Wilson.
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Thanks again.
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Thank you.
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Bye.
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Bye-bye.
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All right, and let's see uh if I actually was recording on my end.
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Uh hard to say.
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Well, I'm definitely recording.
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Uh so I'll send you, I'll send you a copy of my recordings just so you have it.
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Thank you, Fantasy.
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Well, because that will be the episode.
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There you go.
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So by all means, I you know, and don't you don't have to do any editing.
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If you just send me that raw file, my producer they'll go and do everything they do there.
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But uh what a fantastic experience.
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Thank you, thank you.
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I'm glad you enjoyed it.
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I'm glad that you know this was very uh beneficial to your audience, to you and your audience, yes.
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Oh wow.
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I I'm always trying to do things that you know are pushing the boundaries of it, and this is fantastic, absolutely fantastic.
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Awesome, awesome.
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It was so great meeting you, Larry.
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Thank you.
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Yes, yes, go, go, go.
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And I'll talk to you soon.
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I'll send you the definitely before the end of the day, I'll send you the recording.
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Oh, great, I'll keep an eye out for it.
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All right, thank you.
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Aviento.
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All right, a biento.
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Bye, au revoir.
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Au revoir.
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This has been Larry Wilson.
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I want to thank you for spending this time with me, and I hope you found this information useful.
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If you're looking for more, you can find it at thewilsonmethod.com.
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There's a ton of stuff there.
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That if you want, you can even speak to me because I'm human.
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Send me an email at info at WilsonMethod.com because I read every single one.
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I hope that you'll join us next week in this continuing journey.
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And you'll be with me for the next episode of How to Talk to You.
