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Hi, my name is Sidney and
I got covid a few weeks ago while
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fully vaccinated and with no known exposure. She also did not give it to
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me, even though we were in
the room together. I know, like
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I didn't give it to anyone,
which was good. I was like keeping
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it all for myself. Hi,
I'm shelby and yesterday I made a fake
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bumbled to see if I'm marketed myself
differently, if I would match with different
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people to avoid getting messages like this
one. I've always wanted to take a
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mustang shelby for a ride, and
I'm not talking forward either. You.
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Yeah, what a weird thing.
Yeah, first thing to say to anybody
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else. I feel like the and
I'm not talking forward either, was really
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unnecessary. It's like I could tell
your horney already. Like. Well,
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like, because I sent a bunch
to a group message with like Nick,
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my roommate, my sister's and my
sister's girlfriend, and I was like which
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one of these should I read tomorrow
for a recording, and they were like
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that one is the least Horny,
so I that one's the least horny.
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That was the least horny message that
I had. Scared to see the others.
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Oh my God, people are aggressive
when they message me sometimes. I
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also really love that he like you
have to have some understanding of like cars
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in order to get that reference,
and he just assumed you know that.
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You're any girl. I'm a cool
girl. I know cars. It's really
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bad. I actually like when I
drive anywhere with somebody and we get out
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of the car and go do something
and go back, I don't remember what
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their car looks like. I like, I'm like, you're gonna have to
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find it and I'll just follow you
around because I've no idea. That's literally
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all my friends when we're waiting for
an uber. They're like we're looking for
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a Chevy Malibu. What the fuck
is that? And then I'm like,
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okay, I'm also gay, but
like how are you the kind of guy
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who doesn't know any cars? Like
I'll go up to just any car and
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I'm like, did you even look
at the license plate? That's not our
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Uber. Like that's what I do. Yeah, license plate and car color
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and the rest, like I'll figure
it out, you know. Yeah,
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I feel like every uber that was
like a Chevy Malibu or like a Nissan
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sentrame. Oh my God, yeah, my Um recently, emily and nick
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got a Tesla for there. I've
heard Tesla Uber once too. I was
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Tesla. I think it was when
Jackie and I were in Denver and we
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had taken some gummies. It's so
I was like what the fuck, is
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this really happening right now? This
is so surreal. You get in an
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uber and it's a Tesla and Elon
Musk is driving it and he's doing that
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thing that celebrities do where they pretend
to be regular people. They're like look
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at me. Oh my God,
that reminds me of when you and I
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had that really chaotic uber. I'm
like, I like that woman. Yeah,
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remember what happened, but I know
it's she just had the thickest New
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Jersey accident you've ever heard and she
kept talking about quaffee, quaffee. Yeah,
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she was wat like the way that
her like brother in law, who
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died, used to make coffee.
Remember she like brought something. Yeah,
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yeah, she was somehow like instant
coffee came up and she was like now,
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I don't know if you're my age, but back in my day instant
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quaffee was everywhere and this woman was
probably s or s and I was like,
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you'd think we're that old. Yeah, it was a short car ride,
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but I feel like I learned so
much about her. Yeah, it
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was like fun at first, but
then she just kept talking. There was
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like no breath in between the words
that she was saying. Now and she'll
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be and I were just like shelby
was high as fuck. I was just
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so tired for good. It's like
this is a mess and it only happened
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because I left my keys and Jackie's
car. Yeah, yeah, it was
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quite an adventure. I feel like
just being in an Uber when you're high
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is very jarring in general. Yeah, that's always when the crazy shit happens.
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Oh, absolutely. I feel like
every I don't know if it's because
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I'm high or if it's because like
every time I get high, something ridiculous
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ends up happening, and I feel
like this happens so frequently we're like,
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I'm just way too high to deal
with it. Yeah, I remember back
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in the good days when you could
do like Uberpool. I am I took
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an Uber Pool with my friend Greg
and I guess he didn't remember that it
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was an Uberpool, and so we
were like on our way to our destination,
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but then we stopped somewhere and people
started getting in and he was convinced
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that we were getting kidnapped, but
I was like, no, that's just
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the other pool guests. So that's
so funny. No, I think I'd
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freak out too, like what's going
on? Oh God, I have you
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ever almost been kidnapped or like been
in a situation like that? Oh God,
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I don't think so, but I
think it's just because I'm like very
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hyper aware of my surroundings all the
time, like in an annoying way.
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Yeah, like even during the daytime, I'm like always looking behind me making
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sure that nobody's following me or anything. And even if, like I'm driving
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in a car is behind me and
they are behind me for like two blocks
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and we'd make the same turns,
I'm like, I do that too.
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Yeah, that sounds like anxiety.
said it's I mean, yeah, I
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definitely like I have clinical anxiety.
Oh okay, yeah, I didn't,
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I didn't know. I was like
maybe it's just like no, I'm on
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like Sepro I did need to go
to therapy, though. Therapy is amazing.
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Therapy is the best thing that's ever
happened. I'm so bad at therapy,
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like, I don't know, I
just really want my therapist to like
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me. I want them to think
that I'm cool. You don't want them
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to know you have problem, right, and I'm like so, I'm trying
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to make them think that I'm cool
and funny, and then they'll be like
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how are you, and I'm like
I'm good, how are you? I
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did that, honestly, when I
first started with my therapist. Every time
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I brought up my trauma, I
would like giggle about it. Yeah,
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Ha, ha ha, you know
trauma. And then she was like what
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would it be like to say that
without laughing, and I'm like, Whoa,
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you're like wow, I I literally
said I don't think I can.
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But yeah, I recommend therapy to
everybody, men in particular, but everybody.
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Yeah, I I don't know.
I also just really minimize my problems,
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which is annoying. Yep, a
good reason to go to therapy.
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Yeah, like I'll be like miserable
as fuck and then I'll go to therapy
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and they'll be like so, what's
going on? I'm like, well,
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this, but it's not really that
bad. Yeah, exactly. You have
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to learn to make space for yourself
true, speaking of I don't know,
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I feel like we just went down
like seven different conversations. Know, so
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they has diagnosed add. I have
self diagnosed add. Yeah, he's but
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literally like, I don't know.
I know there's a lot of discourse about
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self diagnosis, but even if I
don't have add I definitely have trouble focusing
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on one thing at once. Yeah, you should definitely just go see a
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psychiatrist and be like these are the
reasons I think I have add and then,
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you know, see what happens.
That's because I got like a psychological
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evaluation and they there was a bunch
of issues with like insurance and stuff,
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so I didn't get it back for
a long time and when I finally got
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it back, they were like,
well, she does. She is anxious.
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I don't know if it's an anxiety
disorder, but that probably causes like
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her inability to pay attention. Yeah, reading your own psych evaluation is the
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most painful process. I was like, I feel like I'm being attacked.
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Yeah, Oh my God, I
want to get one. Also scared that.
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Yeah, it really will hurt your
feelings. Yeah, there reminded me
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of like when I had covid a
couple weeks ago I went to the urgent
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care to get tested and then I
was looking at my patient notes after and
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it said like patient looks normal,
she does not appear ill. Like okay,
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thank you. Think I'm lying.
Literally I was. And then the
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test came back positive. I was
like, I was just surprised that they
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said I looked normal and not ill, because I was certainly dying. Yeah,
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patient's chair, but yeah, I'm
totally fine now. I'm just like
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it was very bizarre because I still
don't know where I got it from and
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obviously, thankfully, I didn't give
it to anyone else, but it was
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I don't know, I feel like
I had a pretty mild case because I'm
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vaccinated, but for the first few
days it was like really rough, just
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like bad body pain. Yeah,
and I did lose my smell like completely.
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My taste was pretty normal, but
those are both back now. Oh
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good, but I was like,
Oh my God, what if my smell
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doesn't come back and then I just
like never cherished smells. I know a
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lot of people who's like smell still
hasn't come back or like just barely came
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back, although the other day,
because I got covid and July. I
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have last year when it was really
big still. I didn't even know about
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that until like months ago. I
say that like a pop star. Back
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in the one thousand nine hundred and
seventy five was really big and lovely.
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That's how I felt. I was
like, Oh my God, I'm getting
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covid after it's main street, like
it's not even cool anymore. Sow and
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cool of me. Yeah, yeah, I got it in July of last
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year and I also didn't give it
to anybody and I wouldn't have known that
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I had it unless my friend's boyfriend
didn't get a fever. And then when
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he got a fever and I had
been hanging out with her, I was
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like, Oh shit, I should
go get tested. But yeah, it
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wasn't. It wasn't bad at all, like I was just really, really
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tired. Yeah, for a couple
of days and then it was over.
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And but I was I was cleaning
my trash can the other day and it
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smelled so bad and I was like
one of the Times I was covid had
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just taken the sense away. Yeah, it was like it was really weird
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because I had never lost my smell
before and like because the day I got
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my positive test back, Jackie and
I got some Thai food delivered and she
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was like this curry smells so good
and I was like what smell? I
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literally like had my nose all up
and it. I was like, oh
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no, I couldn't smell anything.
So that I started freaking out and I
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went to the kitchen and I was
smelling like peanut butter and like honey,
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like you know, things that have
a very distinct smell, and I was
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like I can't fucking smell anything.
Oh No, I was like fully inhaling,
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but thankfully it's back now, but
it was really scary. Yeah,
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Oh, I can believe that.
I feel like losing any of your senses
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would really like freak you. Yeah, and I thought it would like heighten
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other things, HMM, but nothing
was heightened. They always say that Shit.
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They're like if you close your eyes
you can hear better. I do
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think that sound and site are linked. Sometimes, you know, like when
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you're driving and you really need to
focus on parking, you're like, I've
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got to turn off the music.
Yeah, that's true, but okay,
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to be fair, because I have
add I can't listen to music and do
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anything else at the same time,
really, like literally anything, like driving,
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obviously, but like if I have
to focus on anything, I have
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to turn the music off. Really
I feel like I'm kind of the opposite,
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really like the silence will distract me. Oh what really interesting. I
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also just need like any sound to, you know, stop the thoughts from
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coming. Yeah, there's, I
don't know, a lot of people on
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twitter and tick tock or like me, listening to like to podcast, one
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album and a TV show at the
same time to stop any semblance of a
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thought from happening. I was like, yeah, sounds like me. Yeah,
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I'm like, we are very off
the beaten past today. I think
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I forgot to take my legs of
pro I know I did take my vivance,
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but I might. I'm just a
scatter brained from like work and just
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as weak in general for some reason. So too, I moved last week,
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which was another thing. Like I
moved while I while I had covid.
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It's also weird because Jackie didn't get
covid and we were like wet,
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Jackie didn't have it. It was
just you. Yeah, and like she
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lives with me, so we were
and we were like quarantine together. She
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got a sinus infection, but that
was like unrelated, which was like Super
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Weird. The odds, I know. But yeah, so we had to
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like do all of our moving it
just us dawn, not like our other
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roommates. So, yeah, it's
just been moving is so stressful already,
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and I'm very like I've been in
like serious cleaning mode. I don't know,
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like I'll see a speck of dirt
on the floor and I'm like I
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need a vacuum this whole place now. So and like my room still isn't
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complete yet, and I'm just like
I've literally been like insane. It'll it
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just takes time, you know.
Yeah, like one thing on a tie.
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is just so hard to like make
your brain focus on one thing at
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a time, you know. Yeah, I'm like I'm going to do laundry
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and then I'm like, Oh,
wait, I forgot to do dishes the
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other day and then I'm like,
Oh, I need to water the plants.
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That's how I leave my laundry in
the wash for too long. Every
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time. I'm like, Oh,
I should take that out and as I
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go to do it, I'm like
I don't watered my plants yet. Like
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I gotta go. Yeah, that, you gotta pet my cat. Gonna
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throw the ball. What was I
doing? That fucking bad damn cat in
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her ballhansy, my baby. I
got her more balls because she keeps losing
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them, like I literally don't know
where they're going. They have to be
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in the house, but I can't
find them. So I just got her
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oh my God, that's so funny. Whenever I came to your place like
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a couple months ago, I was
wearing some kind of like button up that
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was, I guess, lace,
and I like left it on the floor
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because I put something else on to
go to bed, and then I woke
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up in the morning and her cat
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Liked mate it with it, I
guess. Yeah, she decided. She
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decided that was her partner. She
loves doing that. Yeah, so I
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had to like push her off the
shirt and the morning to get in and
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then she was just staring at me
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Love my wife. I love her
so much. He's so cute. Okay,
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we did have things we wanted to
talk about today, I think.
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Are we turning into red scare podcast? I okay, I just kind I
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know I drama about that and I
don't know. I don't know what the
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red scared podcast is. It's just
like two girls that he's really funny if
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they heard this, but they're just
like millennial leftist with like really bad vocal
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fry, like they talked like this. Bee. We shoul start adding vocal
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fry to our show so like more
people be attracted to us. I think
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so. But they have like their
leftist but they also have a lot of
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really bad takes, like all the
time. I felt like Jackie hate watches
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it, hate lessons, I guess, but then she subjects me to it
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and literally just it's always just like
fuck lip trd. I love listening or
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like hate watching anything. Yeah,
I feel so gratifying. But, yeah,
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they just ramble about random shit.
Yeah, which we're not doing.
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No, we're a dating podcast and
we're going to get into that. But
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first it's time for our very first
dear Jacob. Hey, everybody, my
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name is Jacob. Welcome to this
new episode segment, I guess, of
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Dear Jacob, where I read questions
from my lovely audience and do my best
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to give helpful advice. I'm recording
here in my bathroom where the acoustics are
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awesome, having a little sparkling water
cranberry flavored. Hold on, I think
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there's a knock at the door.
Hello, okay, false alarm. We'll
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just leave that in. Just roll
with it, all right. Well,
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you know, my dear friend,
she'll be came to me and said we're
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going to have a segment called Dear
Jacob. I said Dear Jacob, but
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I'm a Human Jacob. I did
know his steps. Let's get into the
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questions, shall we? Okay,
today's question comes to us for a first
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time riter long time listener Jackson Barton, who says dear Jacob. What,
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in your opinion, is the most
romantic scent? Is it freshly lit lavender
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scented candle flowers picked fresh from the
garden, or maybe a home cooked meal?
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Please specify what kind of meal,
if so. Everyone has their own
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personal favorites, but if you had
a blind date coming over, what would
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you use to really set or maybe
scent the mood? Well, thanks for
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asking, Jackson. That's a very
nice question. To think about it,
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I think the food angles not bad. I personally have never found like I
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think candle scent is relaxing but I've
never gotten a whiff of the old Mahogany
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teak would and been like MMM,
now I'm ready to get get my rumpus
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on, you know what I mean. Like. But maybe that's not what
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romantic means either. I don't know. But yeah, like, I definitely
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think candles can be like soothing,
which maybe then can lead to romantic because
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you're relaxed and you feel comfortable.
So I think that's nice. I think
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food angle is good, but I
think again, like with the candles,
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I think you want to go for
something more comforting rather than something kind of
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like, you know, like if
you lay out like a citrusy fish spread,
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like a salmon with a lemon crushed
over it or something, that might
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be a nice light airy meal for
you and your and your sweetoms. But
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I feel like the citrusy kind of
Tang is going to like it's more of
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a sting to the nostrils, you
know, and you want something soft and
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comforting that makes you say hey,
come on in, the water's fine,
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I'm I ain't gonna hurt you.
That sounded worse than I wanted it to,
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frankly, gang but yeah, let
you know. Maybe I don't know,
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because at the same time people say
on dates you don't want to eat
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something heavy because it makes you feel
sluggish and gross. But I think like
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comforting as like like Stew, like
a shepherd's pie, something that you eat
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in a in a tavern with exposed
rafters. You know what I mean,
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like I feel like that's I want
to come home and smell something warm on
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a winter's Day. Or flip the
gender norms. If my doctor wife,
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who provides for me because I didn't
get a useful degree in school, is
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coming home, maybe I'll have,
I don't know, a Nice Cut Soud
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on Japanese Comfort Bowl. Ready.
That's fried pork cutlet atop rice with eggs
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and mushroom and onion. It's very
delightful. You'RE gonna want to use a
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rice cooker for that one, though, none of this uncle Ben Bullshit.
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I do like Uncle Ben, put
some respect on his name, but I
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like a rice cooker for dishes from
the land of the rising sun. All
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right. So so, yeah,
I think those are both good relaxing soothing.
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could be romantic since, like I
said, perhaps romance comes from a
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place of trust and comfort and you
can you can help achieve that first of
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all by being a good person.
I don't want to understate that. But
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if we're going to do it with
food smells, with something homey and nourishing,
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something that sticks to your ribs and
makes you feel warm inside, that's
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me patting my stomach. Flowers.
You this might be a controversial opinion.
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I personally have never smelled a flower
and gone like, Oh, yeah,
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that's a good smell. I kind
of always just like this smells like a
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plant that came from outside, which, if you think about it, is
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what a flower is. So,
but flowers look nice, they can definitely
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set the mood visually, but we're
talking about smells here. We're talking about
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the nose, boys and girls and
non binary friends, a little sparkling water
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there, but yeah, anyway,
we've had a lot of fun here today.
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I think this doesn't really fit with
Jackson's blind date scenario. But what
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my real answer to this is?
I think, and it might sound,
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I don't mean this to sound weird
or like a, you know, some
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kind of sex pervert, but I
think something about like our ape brains and
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like being animals from the brush,
like smell is a really strong sense and
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I think honestly, just the way
that your beloved smells. There's a really
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nice romantic smell, like whether that's
their perfume or deodorant or Cologne or natural
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musk of the wild. I think. Yeah, I said it might.
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It might sound weird, but I
think it is something in our mammal brains
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that's just like that. They are
like and you can smell it on your
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clothes or as they walk by you. It's just nice. I think it
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reminds you that they're there. Yeah, I think that might be pretty much
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all I have to say about romantic
smells at the moment. Are there any
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other romantic smells? I like,
I guess, places that are romantic,
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like. I'm a big movie Guy, so maybe like you're in the dark
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with your with your beloved and the
smell of popcorn and you know the way
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that your nose kind of tingles when
you put it over a fizzing soda.
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That could be romantic. I think
maybe I'm just hungry. HMM. Anyway,
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enjoy the rest of the episode.
This has been dear Jacob, with
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me, Jacob Sanger, please write
in. Bye. Bye. Exactly,
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and more specifically, we're talking about
okay, we're talking about micro labels,
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but there are some some things we
need to establish before the conversation, such
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as were only talking about micro labels
in which you can label yourself, but
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you're still straight, right, and
I also read somewhere that, like,
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micro labels are really beneficial to neurodivergent
people. So, like, obviously,
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if that's you, we're not roasting
you, but everybody else is getting roasted
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today. Absolutely. I just think
it's I always talked to my sister about
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this, because she delaney. She
just likes to debate, like for the
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fun of it, and I I'm
always like, demisexuals really get on my
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nerves because they act like they're part
of the LGBT community. It's like,
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just because you need to have a
connection to have sex with somebody doesn't mean
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that you're part of the queer community. Like you're still straight, you know.
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Obviously, if you're queer and demisexual, I mean it's still like whatever
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do you but if you are straight
and you're trying to seem like, quote
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unquote, spicy straight by just saying
you don't like Cook ups, that's also
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I feel like it's pretty common to
not like hookups, especially among straight women.
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There's just so much more at stake
with women when it comes to having
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a hookup. One, two,
it's like your needs are rarely ever going
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to be met. So it's really
not even that gratifying. And those are
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my only two points. But but, like it makes sense that you're like,
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Oh, I need to have a
connection or a relationship with somebody before
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I can be physically intimate with them. Because, like, yeah, because
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you could get yourself in a dangerous
situation if you're not really vetting people out
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well enough. so that feels like
a silly really you. You know,
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it feels like a silly label to
me at all. Yeah, I agree.
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It's just like you can just say
you don't like Hookups, you know.
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Yeah, the these labels that were
talking about are literally just like preferences.
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You know. It's not about your
identity or who you love, it's
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about like what you prefer in relationships. And I brought up sapiosexuals to God
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because I was thinking of when Mark
Ronson, okay, I think this was
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around the same time when Sam Smith
came out as nonbinary, and then not
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very long later, Mark Ronson was
like, I'm a sapio sexual. Oh
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my God, I did not even
hear that. It was like town funk
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Mark Rock. Yeah, like he
was on Valerie with amy winehouse. They
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did like a cover together or they
sing it together something. That's how I
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know him. Yeah, but yeah, he came out of stapiosexual and he
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was like, basically, it just
means I'm only attracted to intelligent people.
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Was He trolling? No, no, he was serious. Well, and
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because like it was kind of a
big topic in the media. I'm pretty
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sure this was around the same time
because it was such a big topic in
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the media with Sam Smith coming out
as nonbinary, with another celebrity coming out
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and being like, Oh, I'm
this thing that you've never heard of.
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My God. Yeah, it was
getting a lot of coverage. Like what's
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a sabiosexual will? And it's even
worse because imagine if you didn't know what
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it was and you like clicked to
read the article and you're like, oh,
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it's just a bunch of bullshit.
Yeah, like, I don't know,
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I'm assuming Mark Ronson is straight,
right, I'm think so, let
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me Google it real fast. We
don't want to be wrong on hit on.
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Ever, know we're always a hundred
percent right. Yeah, about everything.
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We say we're not interested in discourse
because we know we're right. Yeah,
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I'm gonna Google Mark Rons and sexuality
and I swear off. Sabiosexual comes
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up. Vomit. This rolling stone
article is titled Mark Ronson courageously comes out
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of the closet as sapio sexual.
I think I just had an aneurism.
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Yeah, the Oh my God,
the says Mark Ronson courageously came out to
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ITV's good morning Britain. A sapiosexual
a term used to describe when someone is
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more attracted to intelligence over other factors
such as physical appearance or gender. But
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I don't think that's a true definition, you know, because like, okay,
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I but I believe he is still
straight. Yeah, that that's confused.
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Okay, that makes it confusing,
because attraction includes intelligence. You know
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what I mean? Right, like
you're attracted to people for a variety of
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reasons, not just for one reason. I mean like physically. Obviously it's
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easy to just look at somebody and
be like, Oh, you're hot,
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I'm attracted to you, but like, actual attraction to people includes personality.
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Right. Also updates September twenty seven, two thousand and nineteen. CNS said
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that Mark Ronson isn't sabiosexual after all
and apologizes for identifying as such. That
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was literally like a week. I
ate it. I hate it, I
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so much. Yeah, it's like
very pretentious in so many ways, because
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it's like, okay, what are
you, you know, identifying as Sabiosexual?
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Like, what is your definition of
intelligence? Because it's also, you
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know, very subjective. It could
also definitely get into like classism and ableism
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a hundred percent. Yeah, so
does that mean you're not attracted to people
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with learning disabilities? Yeah, fuck
you, I guess. Yeah, or
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like, I don't know, did
they have to go to like an Ivy
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League or something? Yeah, or
like what you want standard. Are they
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more intelligent than you? I feel
like probably not. Yeah, yeah,
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exactly. I hate dating people who
are smarter than me, right, like
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being the smartest one. Yeah,
relationship, exactly. It's also like,
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I don't know, they're intelligence is
so subjective. Yeah, like you can
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be really intelligent about like one subject
or like in one facet, you know,
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more book smart or more street smart
or whatever. Yeah, and it's
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also just like okay, that's just
your type, you know, like you
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like some people who are smarter.
Yeah, it's like it's not an identity.
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thing if that was in response to
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Sam Smith coming out as non binary, is like, okay, you're just
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diminishing these actually valid labels and identities
with like stupid shit like this. Yeah,
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people, like uninformed straight people,
are going to see this would be
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like, oh my God, those
damn queers are coming out with the new
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gender every day or whatever, and
it's like no, yeah, exactly.
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I think. I think that's the
other thing that's really annoying about these,
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like these preference esque labels. Are
like, okay, you're you coming up
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with these words and then telling your
parents, are like somebody who's more ignorant
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about queerness, that your demisexual and
it means that you only want to have
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sex with somebody that you know,
or your sapiosexual, and you only are
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attracted to people who you think are
smart. They're going to be like that's
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stupid, you know right, like
okay, but are you still straight?
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Like yeah, okay, wait,
but do you? Yeah, exactly,
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so then, but what's your sexual
identity? Yeah, like, I don't
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know. I feel like in the
way that queerness is perceived to like take
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precedent over everything else is kind of
the same. Like with straightness. It's
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like, okay, you can say
that you're sabiosexual or whatever, but you're
406
00:29:23.640 --> 00:29:26.920
still straight, like you're not,
you're not part of the plus. That's
407
00:29:27.039 --> 00:29:32.319
yeah, I mean like, and
I honestly don't really even care if it's
408
00:29:32.440 --> 00:29:37.200
like I'm having a conversation with somebody
and they like explain basically what the identity
409
00:29:37.279 --> 00:29:41.710
is and I like or like sometimes
I say I'm demisexual, like whatever.
410
00:29:41.869 --> 00:29:45.509
Okay, sure, but if you're
leading with that, anyone who says they're
411
00:29:45.509 --> 00:29:48.309
sabiosexual and any of their BIOS on
any dating APP, it's a left I
412
00:29:48.430 --> 00:29:52.339
don't want to interact with you.
It's also typically likes a setman. It's
413
00:29:52.460 --> 00:29:56.619
always so set, like they're I
don't know. This was obviously a long
414
00:29:56.619 --> 00:30:00.660
time ago, since I've been on
tender or bumble, especially looking for men,
415
00:30:02.339 --> 00:30:06.579
but I remember like there's a little
category where you can put like your
416
00:30:06.619 --> 00:30:12.210
gender identity and your sexuality and it
would always say like straight, sabiosexual,
417
00:30:12.730 --> 00:30:17.769
demisexual, and like, Oh my
God God, yeah, anybody trying to
418
00:30:17.809 --> 00:30:22.119
get that word count of I know
exactly and yeah, I'm not. I
419
00:30:22.160 --> 00:30:26.519
can't deal with people. I just
feel I know that, like I said
420
00:30:26.960 --> 00:30:32.480
on our first episode of this new
season, that gatekeeping is part of the
421
00:30:32.559 --> 00:30:36.069
reason that it took me so long
to come out. But and I know
422
00:30:36.150 --> 00:30:38.509
that's kind of what we're doing right
now. Yeah, I just gonna be
423
00:30:38.670 --> 00:30:42.829
honest, like that's just part of
the LGBT community. Is gatekeeping, like
424
00:30:42.910 --> 00:30:48.470
that's just the reality of it.
Yeah, I also feel like I don't
425
00:30:48.470 --> 00:30:52.940
know, it's one thing to gate
keep something that's not inherent to the fabric
426
00:30:53.539 --> 00:30:57.339
of the LGBT community. Like it's
one thing to be like, oh,
427
00:30:57.460 --> 00:31:00.819
she'll be's getting a coal from my
dad. I just changed this profile,
428
00:31:02.019 --> 00:31:06.970
or literally, but like was that
man? I'll message him later, but
429
00:31:07.009 --> 00:31:11.130
yeah, like it. It's definitely
one thing to be like okay, saying
430
00:31:11.210 --> 00:31:19.119
that you're demisexual while you are still
only attracted to the opposite gender is not
431
00:31:19.359 --> 00:31:23.519
being queer. Like that is,
I think, a valid argument, whereas
432
00:31:23.519 --> 00:31:26.599
a lot of gatekeeping in the lgbt
community is like, Oh, like,
433
00:31:27.240 --> 00:31:32.599
trans and onbinary people aren't part of
our community. Yeah, like that,
434
00:31:32.759 --> 00:31:36.470
which is not okay enough to be
part of some you know. Yeah,
435
00:31:36.869 --> 00:31:41.470
I like there's like specifically lately,
but a lot of like non binary rasure?
436
00:31:41.390 --> 00:31:47.299
Yeah, Oh, for sure,
and I in defensive gatekeeping. I
437
00:31:47.339 --> 00:31:53.779
think it's necessary, especially for the
LGBT community, because you I mean having
438
00:31:55.339 --> 00:32:00.849
people infiltrate a space that is meant
to be a community for like people who
439
00:32:00.849 --> 00:32:05.490
are different or, you know,
have to deal with oppression and can like
440
00:32:05.650 --> 00:32:08.009
relate to other people who are dealing
with those same things. Like having someone
441
00:32:08.130 --> 00:32:13.089
come into that community not having to
deal with any of those things and being
442
00:32:13.210 --> 00:32:16.000
like I'm one of you, like
that's fucking annoying and I'm like I understand
443
00:32:16.079 --> 00:32:21.319
wanting to like weed those people out. So I just think gatekeeping is so
444
00:32:21.440 --> 00:32:23.839
nuanced because, yeah, the it
does get to a point where it's like,
445
00:32:23.960 --> 00:32:27.799
okay, well, now you're just
being an asshole. Right. I'm
446
00:32:27.920 --> 00:32:31.950
like we appreciate allies, of course, but I don't know, to me
447
00:32:32.069 --> 00:32:35.869
personally, I don't think that allies
or, you know, part of the
448
00:32:35.990 --> 00:32:38.789
community. No, not at all. They can have their own community lgbt
449
00:32:38.950 --> 00:32:43.829
allies. I was also the other
day I saw, I think it's a
450
00:32:43.910 --> 00:32:45.859
tick, talk about like realizing that
you're bisexual, and part of it was
451
00:32:45.940 --> 00:32:51.299
like being an aggressive ally of the
LGBT. No, that was definitely me
452
00:32:51.700 --> 00:32:55.140
I was me, I was always
like I love the gays, but I'm
453
00:32:55.220 --> 00:32:59.609
not one of them. Know.
I was like so aggressive. I was
454
00:32:59.650 --> 00:33:04.450
like gay people should be able to
get married. Yeah, and now it's
455
00:33:04.529 --> 00:33:07.210
so funny because back in like two
thousand and eleven or two thousand and twelve,
456
00:33:08.089 --> 00:33:10.450
I'm gonna have to find this tweet
so I can hear that happened,
457
00:33:12.049 --> 00:33:15.960
but chick fil a tweeted like what's
one menu item you would like to see,
458
00:33:15.039 --> 00:33:21.640
and I responded to them gay rights, literally like eleven. If you
459
00:33:21.799 --> 00:33:25.680
tweeted that today, though, it
be so funny, still timeless. I
460
00:33:25.880 --> 00:33:30.829
actually was the main reason gay marriage
was legalize. Yeah, no, since
461
00:33:30.869 --> 00:33:34.710
twitter really is just timeless, all
the tweets are always relevant literally. Oh,
462
00:33:34.750 --> 00:33:37.150
speaking of gay marriage, I know
we also wanted to talk about marriage
463
00:33:37.190 --> 00:33:44.140
jinks. Yeah, we like talked
about marriage a little bit on the previous
464
00:33:44.180 --> 00:33:50.099
episode with Jackie, but I don't
know, creakiest chareable times. We were
465
00:33:50.180 --> 00:33:52.420
talking earlier about how cool it is
that yout really invest a lot of money
466
00:33:52.460 --> 00:33:57.529
into, yeah, communications college,
into the chairs. Yeah, I think
467
00:33:57.569 --> 00:34:00.650
in the chairs, the equipment,
the building. The Fun part about this
468
00:34:00.809 --> 00:34:06.250
recording studio is that you have to
sit absolutely still. Seriously, maybe it's
469
00:34:06.250 --> 00:34:08.369
good for us because we can't set
stuff. I know both of us.
470
00:34:08.409 --> 00:34:12.880
This whole time have been swiveling or
really trying not to move my mouth so
471
00:34:13.079 --> 00:34:16.599
you can't hear it in the Oh, I hate that. But Yeah,
472
00:34:17.320 --> 00:34:22.519
you asked me about marriage. Yes, I I like don't have a lot
473
00:34:22.559 --> 00:34:25.269
of thoughts, but I also have
a lot of thoughts. So I yes,
474
00:34:25.590 --> 00:34:30.230
I feel like you could provide a
really unique perspective because you are from
475
00:34:31.989 --> 00:34:36.349
more conservative area, like you grew
up in a very conservative area, but
476
00:34:36.909 --> 00:34:44.900
without religious influence. Yeah, and
with siblings who, like aren't traditionally raising
477
00:34:44.940 --> 00:34:49.219
families the way that you would of
like get married, have kids, have
478
00:34:49.300 --> 00:34:51.940
a little domestic life. Yeah,
so I feel like I would love to
479
00:34:51.980 --> 00:34:55.010
hear your opinions on marriage. Yeah. Well, so, just in background,
480
00:34:55.010 --> 00:34:59.250
I have three siblings, two sisters
and a brother, and actually my
481
00:34:59.289 --> 00:35:02.250
middle sister is definitely like the most
you know, traditional one of us,
482
00:35:02.369 --> 00:35:07.239
like she is married, has a
baby, Henry. He's so cute.
483
00:35:08.159 --> 00:35:12.719
But yeah, and then my other
sister is single, and then my brother
484
00:35:13.079 --> 00:35:16.079
is actually getting married in December.
Who congrats? Yeah, but I think
485
00:35:16.159 --> 00:35:22.510
he's like diddy turn he just turned
twenty seven and his fiance's like twenty four,
486
00:35:22.750 --> 00:35:28.949
twenty five, and they are very
much like not interested in having kids
487
00:35:28.989 --> 00:35:32.389
right now at last. Yeah,
and and they're like or just too selfish,
488
00:35:32.869 --> 00:35:37.019
and I'm like, I really appreciate
that. Yeah, I feel like
489
00:35:37.059 --> 00:35:42.619
a lot of people don't realize that
they're too selfish to have kids or that
490
00:35:42.780 --> 00:35:45.019
like, you know, maybe that's
not for me. I just think that
491
00:35:45.139 --> 00:35:50.210
that's, you know, something they
have to do. Yes, and like
492
00:35:51.010 --> 00:35:54.889
I'm definitely like that. I am
not really I think I'm more interested in
493
00:35:55.010 --> 00:36:00.570
marriage than having kids, just because, like, I feel like a wedding
494
00:36:00.570 --> 00:36:04.250
would be really fun. That's the
only reason I'm interested in hard yeah,
495
00:36:04.599 --> 00:36:07.920
like wedding. I feel like the
fun stuff with the kid is before they're
496
00:36:07.039 --> 00:36:12.360
for yeah, like the baby shower
and song and picking out a name,
497
00:36:12.760 --> 00:36:16.079
and that comes and you're like,
oh, eighteen years less, it's a
498
00:36:16.199 --> 00:36:19.789
lot of time to be spending with
this thing. Yeah, I'm like,
499
00:36:19.909 --> 00:36:22.909
I do think that I would be
a cool mom, because I definitely like,
500
00:36:24.070 --> 00:36:27.670
I don't know, it's all so
tough, though, because I would
501
00:36:27.750 --> 00:36:31.030
want to raise my child like,
you know, I don't know if I
502
00:36:31.070 --> 00:36:36.420
would raise my child like genderless or
like I just you know, wouldn't put
503
00:36:37.219 --> 00:36:39.940
yeah, and another like my sister. I've and I've told her, like
504
00:36:40.019 --> 00:36:44.460
I didn't like this before, but
she is to like put my nephew and
505
00:36:44.500 --> 00:36:49.010
stuff that would say like sorry,
Lady's, my mom's crazy or shit like
506
00:36:49.130 --> 00:36:52.690
that. Or like, you know, they always put like little kids and
507
00:36:52.769 --> 00:36:57.889
stuff like that. That's always like
sorry, La He's, I'm taken or
508
00:36:57.969 --> 00:37:00.760
whatever. And then, like,
you know, the little girl stuff says
509
00:37:00.880 --> 00:37:07.360
like heart breaker. Yeah, heartbreaker, Daddy's little girl, like my dad
510
00:37:07.440 --> 00:37:10.480
has a gun, Shit like that, like and it's like, okay,
511
00:37:10.559 --> 00:37:15.199
they are two years old, they
don't know anything. But then those same
512
00:37:15.750 --> 00:37:17.949
parents are going to turn around and
say that like the queers were forcing their
513
00:37:17.989 --> 00:37:23.829
agenda and their sexuality and everyone hmm, as if sexuality and gender aren't forced
514
00:37:23.909 --> 00:37:28.230
on you from a very young age. Oh, absolutely, yeah, that
515
00:37:28.429 --> 00:37:32.260
is like I definitely would it want
my child to be like a part of
516
00:37:32.340 --> 00:37:36.260
stuff like that, you know,
but it's also hard because, like how
517
00:37:36.340 --> 00:37:39.980
do you raise them and like a
genderless world when the world is still very
518
00:37:40.139 --> 00:37:45.130
gender shared? Yeah, like my
suggestion, you know, those very specific
519
00:37:45.250 --> 00:37:50.610
t shirts that you can have ones
for your baby and it's a specific t
520
00:37:50.730 --> 00:37:59.480
shirt about you. My mom is
a bad bitch without Badass. She raised
521
00:37:59.519 --> 00:38:05.079
me without gender and now I am
here to tell you my story some shit
522
00:38:05.199 --> 00:38:08.840
like that. These are there stories. But yeah, like, I think
523
00:38:08.880 --> 00:38:15.429
that's definitely something I always think about
because, you know, I like if
524
00:38:15.469 --> 00:38:19.469
I had a child, you know, who is, well, we perceived
525
00:38:19.510 --> 00:38:22.429
to be like a boy or girl, like I I don't know, it's
526
00:38:22.510 --> 00:38:27.380
just like I don't really want to
deal with that. Yeah, like I
527
00:38:27.420 --> 00:38:30.739
also, like I would hope that
my child would be comfortable telling me if
528
00:38:30.820 --> 00:38:34.980
they were queer or a trans or
anything, but it's also like, Hmm,
529
00:38:35.659 --> 00:38:38.420
I'm not that passionate about motherhood.
Yeah, exactly. I feel like
530
00:38:38.500 --> 00:38:42.530
the only thing you can really do, like you can try as hard as
531
00:38:42.570 --> 00:38:46.409
you want to raise your child genderless, but you know, as soon as
532
00:38:46.409 --> 00:38:51.530
they get mainstream schooled and or schooled
at all, you know, unless you're
533
00:38:51.530 --> 00:38:53.570
home schooling them, which don't do
that. Yeah, because they'll be fucked
534
00:38:53.570 --> 00:38:58.519
up that way too. Yeah,
like they are. They will be exposed
535
00:38:58.559 --> 00:39:01.119
to like gender norms and I think
at that point you just kind of have
536
00:39:01.199 --> 00:39:06.360
to let them figure it out.
Yeah, and I think that's that's kind
537
00:39:06.400 --> 00:39:13.070
of a nice aspect of the queer
community is we all had to figure it
538
00:39:13.110 --> 00:39:17.070
out for ourselves because we were raised
in a society that's very like heterosexual and
539
00:39:17.429 --> 00:39:23.230
patriarchical and sussisst yeah, assist society. Yeah. I also it reminds me
540
00:39:23.340 --> 00:39:28.619
of Elon Musk and grimes, which
don't have time to get into today.
541
00:39:29.219 --> 00:39:31.460
It's so tragic because I love grimes, like her music is so good,
542
00:39:31.619 --> 00:39:35.980
especially art angels, like such a
good album. But I just have to
543
00:39:36.099 --> 00:39:40.090
pretend like she has never like done
anything else, like she's not a person,
544
00:39:40.170 --> 00:39:45.849
she's just an AI. But anyway, like whenever grimes was pregnant with
545
00:39:45.210 --> 00:39:49.809
her an Elon musks baby, she
was like, Oh, we're not gonna
546
00:39:49.929 --> 00:39:52.119
like, you know, talk about
the sack because of the baby or anything.
547
00:39:52.480 --> 00:39:57.719
We're gonna like raise them like genderless. And then the second it's born,
548
00:39:57.880 --> 00:40:00.760
Elon must cops on twitter is like
it's a boy. Yeah, and
549
00:40:00.960 --> 00:40:06.280
the disrespect, yeah, which is
also like obviously I don't think I would
550
00:40:06.280 --> 00:40:08.829
have a husband, but oh yeah, definitely, but like if that happened
551
00:40:08.829 --> 00:40:13.909
I would be like what the fuck? I yeah, it's just like also,
552
00:40:14.030 --> 00:40:17.070
that's like a big thing, you
know, like a big conversation.
553
00:40:19.110 --> 00:40:22.340
It's almost like if you were like
our kid is named Charles and then your
554
00:40:22.380 --> 00:40:27.820
husband tweets like baby Trent is here. Yeah, we talked about this.
555
00:40:28.380 --> 00:40:30.059
Yeah, grimes at Elon were like, Um, I thought we were named
556
00:40:30.099 --> 00:40:36.889
the kid x a twelve or whatever
the fuck's name is. Oh, yeah,
557
00:40:37.010 --> 00:40:40.090
ridiculous. But yeah, I feel
like I went more of like a
558
00:40:40.489 --> 00:40:45.570
we went more into the route of
children and yeah, but I don't know,
559
00:40:45.809 --> 00:40:50.280
like marriage. Like I said,
I'm very jaded by the concept of
560
00:40:50.320 --> 00:40:53.880
marriage because my parents got divorce when
I was like seven. Pretty much everyone
561
00:40:53.880 --> 00:40:59.280
else in my family has been divorced, like all my grandparents have been divorced.
562
00:40:59.320 --> 00:41:01.360
So I have like not a shit
ton of grandparents, but like I've
563
00:41:01.400 --> 00:41:07.590
more than four. And like my
sister is married, but she's the only
564
00:41:07.630 --> 00:41:12.750
one who's like still married and her
family, like I feel like everyone has
565
00:41:12.750 --> 00:41:15.829
been divorced. Like both my mom
and dad have had a few, or,
566
00:41:17.150 --> 00:41:22.820
let me think they've both had to
know one divorce since like divorcing each
567
00:41:22.860 --> 00:41:29.059
other. Okay, so yeah,
like both my parents have multiple divorces under
568
00:41:29.139 --> 00:41:32.090
their belts. Um, I don't
know. I used to think that I
569
00:41:32.170 --> 00:41:37.730
had commitment issues and like I don't
think I do anymore, but it definitely
570
00:41:37.730 --> 00:41:40.210
still scares me, just the concept
of marriage, the like finality of it.
571
00:41:40.489 --> 00:41:45.369
Yeah, and it's like, okay, you might not be, you
572
00:41:45.489 --> 00:41:49.960
know, actually bound to them forever, because you can always get a divorce,
573
00:41:50.039 --> 00:41:53.159
but that's expensive. It is also
expensive and like traumatic. Yeah,
574
00:41:53.559 --> 00:41:59.599
yeah, marriage is expensive. Divorce
as expensive also. I don't know.
575
00:41:59.880 --> 00:42:04.349
I think like so my mom and
her current boyfriend have been together like five
576
00:42:04.389 --> 00:42:08.150
or six years. It's also funny
because they met on Matchcom. I don't
577
00:42:08.150 --> 00:42:10.510
know if this is true, but
she says that it was like her last
578
00:42:10.510 --> 00:42:14.710
day of her free trial on match
and she wasn't going to renew it and
579
00:42:14.829 --> 00:42:19.219
then she met her boyfriends. That's
crazy, which I'm like, that might
580
00:42:19.300 --> 00:42:22.460
not be true, but it's cute. It is cute, but yeah,
581
00:42:22.500 --> 00:42:25.219
and I was like they lived together
and everything, and I was like,
582
00:42:25.300 --> 00:42:28.780
do you think y'all get married?
She was like no, neither of US
583
00:42:28.820 --> 00:42:31.489
really want to get married, just
because it kind of like ruins everything,
584
00:42:31.690 --> 00:42:35.650
you know, like everything can be
the same, you know, you can
585
00:42:35.690 --> 00:42:39.690
still live together have the same routine, but like the dynamic and the context
586
00:42:40.329 --> 00:42:44.090
of the relationship changes a lot,
I think. So I don't know,
587
00:42:44.360 --> 00:42:47.719
it's like a very small thing but
also a very big thing that I'm just
588
00:42:47.880 --> 00:42:52.159
like. Well, I also like
there's not really any point anymore, like
589
00:42:52.239 --> 00:42:57.000
all of her children are grown.
It's not like she needs a partner to
590
00:42:57.079 --> 00:43:00.349
raise kids with or anything. So
that that also makes sense in that regard.
591
00:43:00.429 --> 00:43:02.909
That like what, what's the point? You know, why would we
592
00:43:02.989 --> 00:43:08.150
get married? Yeah, and like, I don't know, obviously, being
593
00:43:08.269 --> 00:43:13.219
divorced three times, I don't think
that you want to feel like I'm good,
594
00:43:13.619 --> 00:43:16.139
yeah, done it before. Yeah, like, I don't know,
595
00:43:16.699 --> 00:43:21.860
I think that if I would have
grown up and a more like, you
596
00:43:21.980 --> 00:43:25.460
know, stable marriage environment, I
would probably wouldn't be I probably wouldn't have
597
00:43:25.460 --> 00:43:30.250
the same feelings that I do.
But I'm just like so much work and
598
00:43:30.489 --> 00:43:37.289
like there's no guarantee that it's going
to work. And Yeah, and I
599
00:43:37.530 --> 00:43:43.079
and I think the worst part is
because you're in such an intense commitment and
600
00:43:43.800 --> 00:43:46.440
it's going to be so expensive to
like end the relationship, you're willing to
601
00:43:46.599 --> 00:43:52.239
like sacrifice way more and deal with
way more bullshit to make it work instead
602
00:43:52.280 --> 00:43:55.429
of, you know, just breaking
up and ending it right and then when
603
00:43:55.429 --> 00:44:00.670
you add kids into the equation.
Yeah, yeah, like that. That
604
00:44:00.829 --> 00:44:06.949
sounds so stressful and it's like fifty
percent likely to happen. So, yeah,
605
00:44:07.230 --> 00:44:09.980
is that a risk I'm willing to
take? Yeah, I just I
606
00:44:10.059 --> 00:44:15.179
don't know even like, I don't
know. I feel like I probably will
607
00:44:15.219 --> 00:44:19.420
end up getting married one day.
I guess. I don't know. I'm
608
00:44:19.460 --> 00:44:22.099
not, you know, counting on
it, are yeah, you're twenty one,
609
00:44:22.260 --> 00:44:24.210
you don't yet to know. But
I think also a stressful part,
610
00:44:24.250 --> 00:44:28.889
which I'm sure, like a lot
of queer people, also feels like just
611
00:44:29.530 --> 00:44:35.610
having to have like family at the
wedding and you know, yeah, that's
612
00:44:35.650 --> 00:44:37.090
true, dealing with all the shit
that comes with that and then being like
613
00:44:37.170 --> 00:44:40.079
are you sure you want to do
this, like are you sure it's not
614
00:44:40.119 --> 00:44:45.480
a phase, and like just yeah, you don't need to hear that on
615
00:44:45.599 --> 00:44:49.159
your wedding day, right. And
like I think that, like most of
616
00:44:49.239 --> 00:44:52.710
my family is pretty accepting, but, you know, it would be their
617
00:44:52.750 --> 00:44:55.869
first gay wedding, probably. Yeah, so I don't know. I just
618
00:44:57.070 --> 00:45:01.989
like it just sounds like a lot. I want to have a wedding like
619
00:45:02.190 --> 00:45:07.019
so badly. Yeah, I feel
like a wedding like a fake wedding would
620
00:45:07.019 --> 00:45:09.579
be fun, like, I know, but here's that. My concern is,
621
00:45:09.659 --> 00:45:15.980
like nobody would take it seriously.
I mean, like I like I
622
00:45:15.179 --> 00:45:20.380
just need a day where, like
everyone's obsessed with me for the entire day.
623
00:45:20.420 --> 00:45:22.690
Yeah, like the center of attention. Yeah, I think you would
624
00:45:22.690 --> 00:45:28.929
definitely be a bride Zilla. Oh, I absolutely would. I get stressed
625
00:45:28.969 --> 00:45:34.050
out and overwhelmed so easily and I'm
obsessed with myself. So, yeah,
626
00:45:34.929 --> 00:45:37.960
as you should be, as I
should be. My parents are like in
627
00:45:37.000 --> 00:45:42.000
the opposite position, where like they're
still married. The fact that your parents
628
00:45:42.000 --> 00:45:44.679
are still married like always throws me
off. I'm like, wait, there
629
00:45:45.360 --> 00:45:49.920
together, not needs like everyone's parents
are divorced. I feel like I know
630
00:45:50.230 --> 00:45:54.309
and I yeah, I mean there's
probably a million reasons that they haven't ended
631
00:45:54.349 --> 00:45:58.789
it yet, but like they're out. They're unhappy together, you know,
632
00:45:58.989 --> 00:46:02.030
and it's like very apparent and they
trying to get us involved and that's always
633
00:46:02.030 --> 00:46:07.460
super fun. But that, I
mean, that also kind of like skewed
634
00:46:07.500 --> 00:46:09.860
my perspective of marriage too, because
it's like, if this is what it's
635
00:46:09.900 --> 00:46:14.980
like, I don't want this.
This sucks, you know. To be
636
00:46:15.099 --> 00:46:17.769
fair, they did get engaged after
dating for two months and then they got
637
00:46:17.809 --> 00:46:22.449
married after nine months of dating.
Holy Shit. So they didn't really know
638
00:46:22.610 --> 00:46:24.530
each other that well when they got
married. But it's there any pregnancy?
639
00:46:24.929 --> 00:46:29.050
No, it was just they were
both like kind of older, like my
640
00:46:29.130 --> 00:46:34.599
mom was thirty for when she met
my dad, and they both knew that
641
00:46:34.599 --> 00:46:36.760
they wanted to have a family.
So they were kind of like, well,
642
00:46:36.800 --> 00:46:39.599
we should do that then because we're
like losing years. And like,
643
00:46:40.239 --> 00:46:43.639
you know, they had Riley,
my youngest sister, when my mom was
644
00:46:43.760 --> 00:46:46.590
forty. So well, I I
get it, but at the same time
645
00:46:46.590 --> 00:46:52.110
it's also like, I don't know, I guess it's more common like with
646
00:46:52.349 --> 00:46:55.949
straight people, like especially straight women. It's like Oh, you better,
647
00:46:57.630 --> 00:47:00.389
you know, get it done before
you lose your fertility. You're like your
648
00:47:00.659 --> 00:47:05.300
you lose your golden years, and
it's like okay, but in the grand
649
00:47:05.300 --> 00:47:08.460
scheme of things, thirty four is
still pretty young. Yeah, yeah,
650
00:47:08.500 --> 00:47:12.699
yeah, that is true. When
I started saying it out loud, I
651
00:47:12.780 --> 00:47:14.940
was like actually, thirty four is
not even that old. Yeah, I
652
00:47:14.980 --> 00:47:17.170
don't even know if I'll be married
by thirty four. Yeah, but I
653
00:47:17.409 --> 00:47:24.250
really really don't want to have kids. So I I'm pretty certain that age
654
00:47:24.289 --> 00:47:29.849
wouldn't be a factor for that reason, and I really the other. So
655
00:47:29.929 --> 00:47:32.679
I'm a nanny, which I know
I like Shit on children a lot,
656
00:47:34.599 --> 00:47:37.360
and that's because they're really hard to
take care of, but I get to
657
00:47:37.440 --> 00:47:39.760
go home at the end of the
day and, like they do have their
658
00:47:39.840 --> 00:47:44.079
moments, but like the moments,
I just feel like, if I had
659
00:47:44.159 --> 00:47:47.550
to spend all of my time with
them, are not worth spending all of
660
00:47:47.710 --> 00:47:52.309
my time with right they're so stressful
and people, I almost tweeted this the
661
00:47:52.389 --> 00:47:54.909
other day, I just put it
in my draft. But people are always
662
00:47:54.949 --> 00:47:58.820
like my kids are going to be
cool, like I'm my kids are going
663
00:47:58.860 --> 00:48:01.940
to be different, you know,
and it's like you're already like setting standards
664
00:48:01.980 --> 00:48:05.579
for them, you know, like
you're already projecting things on too your kid
665
00:48:05.659 --> 00:48:07.539
that doesn't exist, and like you're
going to be let down if they're not
666
00:48:07.739 --> 00:48:10.940
exactly how you think they're going to
be, and you can't guarantee how they're
667
00:48:10.940 --> 00:48:15.849
going to be either, and that
frets are going to be annoying regardless.
668
00:48:15.010 --> 00:48:17.730
That's the thing. Is like kids
are going to be kids. You cannot
669
00:48:17.730 --> 00:48:22.769
expect your kid to be cool,
like it's gonna act like a child because
670
00:48:22.809 --> 00:48:27.639
it is. Yeah, so I
know I'm so bad, I really do.
671
00:48:27.880 --> 00:48:30.960
If anyone who I nanny for is
listening, I love your kids,
672
00:48:31.000 --> 00:48:35.079
I promise, and I take great
care of them. I just don't want
673
00:48:35.079 --> 00:48:37.159
any of my own ever. Yeah, it's always funny, I feel like
674
00:48:37.239 --> 00:48:40.789
this. This kind of discourse goes
around twitter all the time and it's like
675
00:48:42.429 --> 00:48:46.269
people who like act like they hate
kids so much or so fucking annoying.
676
00:48:46.389 --> 00:48:51.030
They're like the most vulnerable group of
people and they can't do anything about it.
677
00:48:51.550 --> 00:48:53.389
I'm like, I'm not doing this
to be quirky. I straight up
678
00:48:53.469 --> 00:48:58.820
just doll like kids. Yeah,
like, I'm not at a personality trade
679
00:48:58.940 --> 00:49:02.300
right, like, and I think
it's good to admit that you don't like
680
00:49:02.500 --> 00:49:07.260
kids if you don't want them.
Oh, that's like there's so many people
681
00:49:07.579 --> 00:49:12.409
who have kids when they didn't want
them and then they end up being horrible
682
00:49:12.489 --> 00:49:15.690
parents. Yeah, Oh, like, certainly, and like Parenti doesn't is
683
00:49:15.769 --> 00:49:22.769
like a really like I'm I'm losing
the words today. It's a very,
684
00:49:22.969 --> 00:49:25.639
like hard job to be a parent. You know, when I go and
685
00:49:25.719 --> 00:49:30.480
nanny the kids that I nanny,
I'm so tired by the end because I
686
00:49:30.760 --> 00:49:34.679
you're constantly doing things you like constantly
have to be paying attention to them.
687
00:49:35.239 --> 00:49:38.190
You you know, have to make
sure they're entertained and satisfied and that they
688
00:49:38.269 --> 00:49:42.070
eat at the right times and you
have to pick up after them. So
689
00:49:42.269 --> 00:49:45.750
everything's days. Like it's hard to
take care of children and I don't think
690
00:49:45.750 --> 00:49:50.469
I ever want to do that.
Like that doesn't sound enjoyable to me or
691
00:49:50.710 --> 00:49:54.539
rewarding in any regard. Yeah,
and especially if you're like, I mean,
692
00:49:55.219 --> 00:49:59.659
a normal parent and you don't have
a nanny, like you know,
693
00:49:59.699 --> 00:50:02.340
you probably take your kids a daycare
or whatever, and then you work all
694
00:50:02.380 --> 00:50:06.500
day and then you pick up your
kids and go home and like entertain them
695
00:50:06.579 --> 00:50:07.730
for the rest of the night and
then you go to bed. Them dinner
696
00:50:08.090 --> 00:50:10.969
and then you entertain them and you
take them to bed and then you have
697
00:50:12.050 --> 00:50:15.289
to deal with bathtime or you know. There's just like I'm lazy, like
698
00:50:15.769 --> 00:50:19.329
I yeah, when I'm done with
the Work Day, I want to smoke
699
00:50:19.369 --> 00:50:22.920
a fuck ton of weed and not
think. Yeah, no thoughts. I
700
00:50:22.079 --> 00:50:25.559
literally just want to dissolve into the
floor. Yes, exactly, and I
701
00:50:25.639 --> 00:50:29.199
can't do that. When you've got
it a toddler. Yeah, when you
702
00:50:29.239 --> 00:50:31.519
have a toddler like Mimsy, love
of my life. I would, you
703
00:50:31.599 --> 00:50:36.349
know, kill. She's a cat
and I'd kill for her. Like I
704
00:50:37.349 --> 00:50:40.590
I sometimes get overwhelmed taking care of
her and I just can't imagine if that
705
00:50:40.710 --> 00:50:45.550
was a human being that I had
to take care of. Yeah, not
706
00:50:45.710 --> 00:50:50.820
at all. Yesterday, I nannied
yesterday and I drove. I went to
707
00:50:50.860 --> 00:50:53.539
go pick up this little girl from
her grandparents because she was staying there while
708
00:50:53.539 --> 00:50:57.860
her mom was on vacation, and
so we like met somewhere in Texas.
709
00:50:57.940 --> 00:51:00.900
It was like an hour outside of
here and I picked her up and I
710
00:51:00.940 --> 00:51:04.530
was driving her back in her IPAD
died almost immediately. So he had like
711
00:51:04.570 --> 00:51:08.409
an hour drive and she did not
stop talking the whole time and she kept
712
00:51:08.489 --> 00:51:10.449
being like, Michelley, look at
me, like, look at what I'm
713
00:51:10.449 --> 00:51:14.329
doing, and I'm like, I
cannot turn around, I'm driving a car.
714
00:51:15.250 --> 00:51:19.239
I'm sorry, like you know,
after the first time you should,
715
00:51:19.480 --> 00:51:23.239
but kids, kids are a lot
of work. But I will say that
716
00:51:23.400 --> 00:51:27.559
this is probably the easiest time to
raise a kid because you could just give
717
00:51:27.599 --> 00:51:30.320
them an IPAD. Yeah, but
like what's that doing to their development?
718
00:51:30.559 --> 00:51:35.070
Like you're probably, you know,
really fucking up your kids development if you're
719
00:51:35.150 --> 00:51:39.230
just relying on technology to yeah,
I like, we definitely had technology when
720
00:51:39.230 --> 00:51:43.750
we were kids, but it was
like leap frog and Barbie Laptop and shit
721
00:51:43.949 --> 00:51:46.219
like. Yeah, it was like
kind of inaccessible, you know. It
722
00:51:46.260 --> 00:51:49.539
wasn't like an ipad where we could
just take it to dinner. It was
723
00:51:49.659 --> 00:51:52.139
like on a big ASS computer.
Yeah, so you had to be in
724
00:51:52.260 --> 00:51:55.059
one room of the house in order
to play your games, and that was
725
00:51:55.179 --> 00:52:00.139
the most like that our parents could
do as far as like watch TV or
726
00:52:00.300 --> 00:52:04.250
sure, I get that, whereas
now it's like so easy and that's yeah,
727
00:52:04.289 --> 00:52:07.329
definitely that's going to be interesting to
see that generation grow up and see
728
00:52:07.329 --> 00:52:12.489
how they handle conflict and handle genuinely
anything. selfsoothing. Their only method of
729
00:52:12.530 --> 00:52:15.800
self soothing is getting on and IPAD. I'm just interested, okay, but
730
00:52:15.880 --> 00:52:20.400
I act like that isn't me too
like, yeah, that's true. No,
731
00:52:20.639 --> 00:52:23.079
I actually if I need to soothe
myself, I can't get on any
732
00:52:23.159 --> 00:52:27.159
social media because I'll get overwhelmed.
I'm like, there's too many people in
733
00:52:27.199 --> 00:52:31.469
the world. Music. Go lay
down, like we're not supposed to know
734
00:52:31.590 --> 00:52:35.429
as many people. That's a literally
what I think. I'm like, I'll
735
00:52:35.469 --> 00:52:37.949
get on Youtube, though. I'll
get on Youtube and I'll watch some like
736
00:52:37.429 --> 00:52:42.630
drama about whatever influencers do you oh
my God, like that Shit and the
737
00:52:42.750 --> 00:52:47.179
beauty youtuber. I'm obsessed with beauty
youtuber drama and I'm obsessed with Gabby Hannah
738
00:52:47.260 --> 00:52:51.739
in a bad way. I hope
I have watched I don't watch her videos,
739
00:52:51.780 --> 00:52:55.500
but I watched a lot of videos
about like, yeah, I am
740
00:52:55.579 --> 00:53:00.010
obsessed with keeping up with Gabby Hannah
because every at least every six months,
741
00:53:00.010 --> 00:53:04.369
there's going to be a new like
explosion of something that's her fault and I
742
00:53:04.570 --> 00:53:07.210
need to know every detail. Yeah, so, but, yeah, I
743
00:53:08.449 --> 00:53:12.730
don't know about marriage. I think
I would be fine with marriage. I
744
00:53:12.809 --> 00:53:15.639
think I would be okay with like
a life partner. We'd have to we
745
00:53:15.760 --> 00:53:19.679
have to date for a long time
beforehands like I think sure need to be
746
00:53:19.800 --> 00:53:23.320
absolutely certain that this is the person
if I was going to get married to
747
00:53:23.440 --> 00:53:27.630
them. And even then, I
feel like if we're just going through the
748
00:53:27.710 --> 00:53:30.389
motions of being married already, it's
kind of like, unless we want to
749
00:53:30.469 --> 00:53:32.869
have a wedding that badly, what's
the point? Yeah, it's also just
750
00:53:32.989 --> 00:53:37.590
like I think that this is probably
just my the fatalistic part of my brain.
751
00:53:37.710 --> 00:53:40.539
But I'm like, what if we
get married and then stopped loving each
752
00:53:40.579 --> 00:53:46.059
other and then, you know,
either we have an expensive divorce or we
753
00:53:46.300 --> 00:53:51.539
just stay together hating each other,
like you said your parents do. HMM.
754
00:53:51.739 --> 00:53:55.010
It's like, I that's a concern
I have too, but I also
755
00:53:55.329 --> 00:54:01.570
think that relationships aren't I just feel
like it's not as simple as like we
756
00:54:01.730 --> 00:54:06.250
just fell out of love, which
I mean, I'm I'm certain that happens,
757
00:54:06.289 --> 00:54:07.610
but I feel like, okay,
you fell out of love and there
758
00:54:07.650 --> 00:54:13.480
were also multiple other factors, you
know, like this person stopped try actually
759
00:54:13.760 --> 00:54:17.400
this. This is what really freaked
me out about marriage, because I still
760
00:54:17.400 --> 00:54:22.119
date men, which is embarrassing,
but they're the only ones who message me
761
00:54:22.199 --> 00:54:25.630
back on dating APPS. So it's
what we're going with. Take what you
762
00:54:25.670 --> 00:54:31.590
can get. But, Um,
I watch this video like analyze. It
763
00:54:31.670 --> 00:54:36.829
was called harnessing female rage and it
was about gone girl and I I've seen
764
00:54:36.909 --> 00:54:39.539
that video. It's good and it
was and it talked about social loafing,
765
00:54:39.619 --> 00:54:43.380
which is something men do a lot
when they get married, which is they
766
00:54:43.380 --> 00:54:47.019
are really great partners up until marriage
and then they're like cool, I can
767
00:54:47.099 --> 00:54:52.650
stop trying now and then it becomes
the woman man's responsibility to maintain that relationship
768
00:54:53.010 --> 00:54:59.690
among everything else, you know,
and that's something that's super common. Yeah,
769
00:54:59.690 --> 00:55:02.130
I've seen that first hand, and
so I think that's the only thing,
770
00:55:02.210 --> 00:55:06.369
if I end up with a man, that would really, you know,
771
00:55:07.280 --> 00:55:10.960
I would make me hesitant about,
you know, marriage, because I
772
00:55:12.119 --> 00:55:15.360
don't trust men to not behave like
children after a certain amount of time if
773
00:55:15.400 --> 00:55:21.079
a woman is taking care of them
right. And also, regarding gone girl
774
00:55:21.949 --> 00:55:24.869
and this house, we believe a
me done was justified amy. She did
775
00:55:25.030 --> 00:55:29.590
nothing, absolutely she did nothing wrong. Literally. I it's funny because I
776
00:55:30.190 --> 00:55:31.269
think that movie came out like two
thousand and fourteen, so I was like
777
00:55:31.349 --> 00:55:36.619
fourteen or fifteen, and I remember
seeing out at the time and, you
778
00:55:36.739 --> 00:55:39.980
know, I guess I just had
a lot of internalized misogyny and stuff and
779
00:55:40.019 --> 00:55:45.059
I was like she's fucking crazy,
like what the fuck, but then watching
780
00:55:45.059 --> 00:55:47.539
it again at like nineteen, I
was like no, she's such a girl
781
00:55:47.619 --> 00:55:52.610
boss, she's such a girl boss, like she was so right for that,
782
00:55:52.769 --> 00:55:57.610
because Ben Affleck was so shitty.
He was cheating on her and also
783
00:55:57.730 --> 00:56:01.130
not doing anything to salvage the marriage, like not at all. She sacrifice
784
00:56:01.210 --> 00:56:05.679
so much for him and he was
like well, you could sacrifice more,
785
00:56:06.079 --> 00:56:09.880
you know. But on top of
that, like I, I, I
786
00:56:10.000 --> 00:56:14.599
think it's fine to defend amy because
she's a villain. Like that's the point.
787
00:56:14.679 --> 00:56:16.719
She's supposed to be a villain,
right. We see male villains all
788
00:56:16.800 --> 00:56:20.630
the time and you're allowed to like
male Llans, but as soon as like
789
00:56:21.030 --> 00:56:23.710
a female villain emerges and does like
the what the video was saying is like
790
00:56:23.829 --> 00:56:28.909
everything she does is so purely feminine, you know, like only women have
791
00:56:29.150 --> 00:56:35.460
that kind of like patience and emotional
control to not come across as hysterical when
792
00:56:35.460 --> 00:56:40.340
they do become emotional, you know, and so seeing that utilized against a
793
00:56:40.420 --> 00:56:45.099
man really freaks people out, I
think. But I don't know, I
794
00:56:45.300 --> 00:56:50.250
like her as a villain. She's
really smart. She Killed Neil Patrick Harris
795
00:56:50.289 --> 00:56:53.690
spoilers. She's hot. She's hot, I because of gone girl. I'll
796
00:56:53.690 --> 00:56:57.369
watch anything. Rosamond Pike, is
it? Yeah, how she was in
797
00:56:57.489 --> 00:57:01.320
that like Lesbian Netflix movie that I
did it really care for, but I
798
00:57:01.519 --> 00:57:06.000
saw that it was a roller coaster. Yeah, like it was good and
799
00:57:06.079 --> 00:57:07.960
then it was confusing and then it
was bad and then it was good.
800
00:57:08.519 --> 00:57:13.400
That's how I felt. Yeah,
I just like, obviously, in the
801
00:57:13.440 --> 00:57:15.789
same way that you'll watch anything Rosemond
Pike is and I'll watch anything that's lesbian
802
00:57:15.949 --> 00:57:21.590
just for like a Chromam of representation. But everything is bad. Oh my
803
00:57:21.789 --> 00:57:24.550
God, yeah, I know that's
absolutely true. They'll just kill you off.
804
00:57:24.909 --> 00:57:31.340
Yeah, absolutely. Or like the
only really the only like explicitly lesbian
805
00:57:31.380 --> 00:57:35.340
show is the l word, and
it's so bad. Jackie and I watched
806
00:57:35.340 --> 00:57:37.019
all of that. You want a
couple, all of it. There's like
807
00:57:37.139 --> 00:57:40.260
six seasons and it's really bad,
but it's a really good hate watch.
808
00:57:40.500 --> 00:57:45.329
But there's a reboot of it now. I saw that generation Q. that's
809
00:57:45.369 --> 00:57:50.849
also getting pretty bad, like the
new gossip girl. I've heard is like
810
00:57:51.010 --> 00:57:52.610
Oh my God. Yeah, I
watched a little bit of that and I
811
00:57:52.809 --> 00:57:58.289
was like no, I can't do
this. Yeah, it just I people
812
00:57:58.329 --> 00:58:04.320
are trying so hard to market to
gen Z by having like shallow representation of
813
00:58:04.679 --> 00:58:10.039
different demographics and like making their content
more like socially woke. But the whole
814
00:58:10.360 --> 00:58:15.269
point of gossip girl is is a
fantasy of these rich people doing stupid things
815
00:58:15.309 --> 00:58:17.389
and never learning from it. Because
I so rich, there's no consequence,
816
00:58:17.389 --> 00:58:21.630
and I also don't think that anyone
was asking for gossip girl to be more
817
00:58:21.670 --> 00:58:24.070
progress progressive. I didn't. I
don't want to progressive. Guy Didn't really.
818
00:58:24.110 --> 00:58:28.099
I didn't see the original gossip girl. But, like, I feel
819
00:58:28.139 --> 00:58:30.780
like a lot of it is just
escapism. You know, it's exactly what
820
00:58:30.820 --> 00:58:35.860
it is. Yeah, I think
we're also in that weird gap between Gen
821
00:58:35.860 --> 00:58:39.579
Z and millennial to like obviously on
the side of millennials. We're not gonna,
822
00:58:40.139 --> 00:58:44.250
you know, fall for like Harry
Potter and friends. God, no,
823
00:58:44.570 --> 00:58:47.289
and you know, but then millennial
or Gen Z. whenever I was
824
00:58:47.289 --> 00:58:51.809
watching the gossip girl reboot, it's
all about like instagram likes, and I'm
825
00:58:51.849 --> 00:58:54.449
like, I don't think anyone my
age gives a talk about that. Yeah,
826
00:58:54.960 --> 00:58:58.800
like, at least not in the
real world. No, people genuinely
827
00:58:58.840 --> 00:59:01.239
have no idea how to market gens. Yeah, at all. And it's
828
00:59:01.320 --> 00:59:06.079
very funny to be in that little
gap between the annuals and Gen Z and
829
00:59:06.400 --> 00:59:09.150
and kind of have an outside perspective
of Oh, you, you are so
830
00:59:09.269 --> 00:59:13.590
dumb. Yeah, you don't know
anything. This is, this is,
831
00:59:14.070 --> 00:59:16.309
Oh my God, I don't know
what happened. I think I glitch.
832
00:59:17.510 --> 00:59:23.150
This is definitely our most like off
topic episode. I know this is fully
833
00:59:23.190 --> 00:59:29.019
a stream of consciousness because we I
think, as the weeks go by,
834
00:59:29.139 --> 00:59:32.739
we're like preparing less and less,
which is good and bad. But yeah,
835
00:59:32.940 --> 00:59:36.300
well, I feel like with this
one in particular, because we haven't
836
00:59:36.300 --> 00:59:37.730
had an episode of just the two
of US right. That's true. So
837
00:59:37.809 --> 00:59:42.130
we were like we'll get in there, we have great chemistry, will chat,
838
00:59:42.409 --> 00:59:45.289
it'll be good. So we don't
really think of any topics. Yeah,
839
00:59:45.489 --> 00:59:47.570
like that hard. And so,
yeah, I think our episodes were
840
00:59:47.570 --> 00:59:51.489
we have guests are a little bit
more put together because we already know what
841
00:59:51.610 --> 00:59:53.679
we're going to say going into it
and it also takes the pressure off of
842
00:59:53.760 --> 00:59:59.599
us to be entertaining for an hour
through ask questions. It's true, related
843
00:59:59.639 --> 00:60:02.400
to the topics. Okay, but
speaking of like one of our guest episodes,
844
00:60:02.480 --> 00:60:05.800
whenever you said you were going to
Grill Jackie on dating me, I
845
00:60:05.840 --> 00:60:07.550
thought it would be a lot worse, but it really was pretty mild.
846
00:60:07.550 --> 00:60:12.190
I yeah, I mean, I
know you said that I could be like
847
00:60:12.670 --> 00:60:15.110
more aggressive with it, but I
that was my second time meeting Jackie's yeah,
848
00:60:15.190 --> 00:60:20.550
really was not, like it's like
I don't want to scare her,
849
00:60:20.869 --> 00:60:24.699
like make the whole situation super weird. So okay, that's valid. Maybe
850
00:60:24.739 --> 00:60:27.900
if I knew Jackie a little bit
more. Also, I think if I
851
00:60:27.900 --> 00:60:30.900
knew Jackie better it would be easier
for me to ask questions too, because
852
00:60:30.900 --> 00:60:32.820
I would already have an understanding of, like right, how she thinks.
853
00:60:32.860 --> 00:60:37.769
Yeah, so if you were disappointed
by that, sorry, no, I'll
854
00:60:37.809 --> 00:60:40.329
just have to have her back.
Oh, a hundred percent, and you
855
00:60:40.409 --> 00:60:45.210
can grill her harder. Yes,
yes, I love that. I would
856
00:60:45.210 --> 00:60:47.530
love that. I found out she's
from Jersey shore, Jersey Shore, well,
857
00:60:47.610 --> 00:60:53.559
Jersey village. I was like,
no, she's not, Jersey Village,
858
00:60:53.960 --> 00:61:00.440
Texas Jackie is actually snooky Jack Mmm
I. But I don't know who
859
00:61:00.440 --> 00:61:05.429
else she would be in that show. HMM. I feel like she's like
860
00:61:05.789 --> 00:61:07.909
pretty, not like conflict avoided,
but she's not going to start drama.
861
00:61:08.030 --> 00:61:14.349
So yeah, she's probably more of
like a like a Dina or like she's
862
00:61:14.389 --> 00:61:16.550
yeah, she's very like relaxed,
and I feel nobody on that show is
863
00:61:16.590 --> 00:61:20.820
real through. I feel like Dina
created the least drama, though. So
864
00:61:21.019 --> 00:61:27.019
yeah, that's what we'll say.
Yeah, I would be. WHO WOULD
865
00:61:27.019 --> 00:61:30.900
YOU BE? I could be J
wow. Okay, then I guess I'll
866
00:61:30.900 --> 00:61:32.809
be snooky. Oh Look, how
Q, I don't think I actually have
867
00:61:32.969 --> 00:61:39.010
snoky personality, but I have.
I actually wasn't allowed to watch a Jersey
868
00:61:39.050 --> 00:61:43.130
shore as a kid, really,
but I don't really have any context.
869
00:61:43.289 --> 00:61:45.809
Besides, like my mom watched e
news every night, so like whatever she
870
00:61:45.889 --> 00:61:50.000
did on e News, I knew
about her. And I did see one
871
00:61:50.039 --> 00:61:52.800
interview with her where she was talking
about wanting to get a boob job because
872
00:61:52.800 --> 00:61:55.400
when she lays down, her boobs
like go to the side. I do
873
00:61:55.559 --> 00:62:01.550
too, like gravity, and I
was like interesting, weird, like God
874
00:62:01.590 --> 00:62:06.510
speaking. Like, on the note
of kids, I've I think I'd also
875
00:62:06.510 --> 00:62:10.429
be a horrible mom because I would
probably like let my kids watch anything because
876
00:62:10.550 --> 00:62:16.699
I I had fully on supervised Internet
access from a young age. Would certainly
877
00:62:16.780 --> 00:62:22.619
gave me brain damage. Dang.
Yeah, my I was the fourth kid,
878
00:62:22.900 --> 00:62:25.820
so by that point, like it
was kind of different because I was
879
00:62:25.900 --> 00:62:30.530
my mom's fourth kid, but I
was my dad's like first, you know,
880
00:62:31.010 --> 00:62:35.610
born child. Yeah, because he
was a Stepdad to my three siblings,
881
00:62:35.650 --> 00:62:39.409
because they're half siblings. But yeah, like, especially with my mom,
882
00:62:39.530 --> 00:62:45.199
like she was hitting the fuck.
She was like I've already raised three
883
00:62:45.280 --> 00:62:49.960
kids like you can do whatever.
So I definitely was allowed to do a
884
00:62:50.000 --> 00:62:52.599
lot of stuff that like my siblings
couldn't do. I remember whenever I was
885
00:62:52.679 --> 00:62:58.710
a kid, my dad threw away
my oldest sister's Emm an MCD and wold
886
00:62:58.829 --> 00:63:04.110
let her listen to it. No, and she was very pissed. But
887
00:63:04.190 --> 00:63:07.670
yeah, I would probably just be
like just, you know, watch whatever
888
00:63:07.710 --> 00:63:09.630
you want. Yeah, it was
also like a lot of dumb shit that
889
00:63:10.789 --> 00:63:14.860
a lot of parents didn't let their
kids watch, like spongebob. Yeah,
890
00:63:14.860 --> 00:63:17.099
I wasn't allowed to watch I I
wasn't not allowed to watch spongebob, I
891
00:63:17.139 --> 00:63:21.380
just couldn't watch it if my dad
was home because he really hated it.
892
00:63:21.699 --> 00:63:23.699
So it couldn't be on the TV
of dad was home because it would get
893
00:63:23.699 --> 00:63:28.170
on his nerve. I don't like, I don't understand the logic behind not
894
00:63:28.329 --> 00:63:31.090
letting your kids watch spongebob. I
he didn't want US watching stupid television.
895
00:63:31.090 --> 00:63:35.889
We weren't allowed to watch the teletubbies
because they wouldn't speak proper words and we
896
00:63:36.010 --> 00:63:39.969
weren't allowed to watch drake and Josh
because it was too misogynistic. I was
897
00:63:40.010 --> 00:63:43.760
kind of progressive of them actually.
I know, I feel like I had
898
00:63:43.840 --> 00:63:46.760
something. Oh, I was allowed
to watch punch, like I was allowed
899
00:63:46.760 --> 00:63:51.800
to watch Punchbob, but I remember
when I was even past the age of
900
00:63:51.840 --> 00:63:54.679
watching spongebob. Was probably like eleven
or twelve, and my grandma was telling
901
00:63:54.710 --> 00:63:59.110
me that, like she heard on
the news that spongebob was giving kids seizures
902
00:63:59.949 --> 00:64:01.630
and I was like Os, yeah, probably Fox. I'm like, I
903
00:64:01.710 --> 00:64:05.150
don't know that that's true, but
now I want to watch it. You
904
00:64:05.230 --> 00:64:10.260
know what part of Spongebob is giving
you with Tezer, like, like can't
905
00:64:10.380 --> 00:64:15.739
your body deal with I'm like,
I don't even remember. They're being like
906
00:64:15.059 --> 00:64:20.699
flashing lights or anything on Spongebob.
I don't know. But yeah, I
907
00:64:21.019 --> 00:64:29.369
am just in conclusion. Marriage and
kids are a lot and I've already got
908
00:64:29.409 --> 00:64:31.090
a lot going on right now.
Yeah, yeah, I think what we
909
00:64:31.570 --> 00:64:35.530
what we came to through this conversation, is neither of us are ready for
910
00:64:35.730 --> 00:64:40.599
either of those things. No,
and so, while and then have opinions
911
00:64:40.639 --> 00:64:44.159
on them, it doesn't really matter. Yeah, it's okay for us to
912
00:64:44.320 --> 00:64:46.599
not be ready because we're twenty one
and twenty three. Yeah, exactly.
913
00:64:46.920 --> 00:64:50.280
I don't want. I I'm glad
I have this time in my life to
914
00:64:50.400 --> 00:64:54.710
be single and experience being on my
own. Yeah, you know, and
915
00:64:55.510 --> 00:64:58.389
not. I'm glad I'm not married
with kids right now. Oh, no,
916
00:64:58.789 --> 00:65:01.949
like very glad. Yeah, I
like, I don't know a lot
917
00:65:01.949 --> 00:65:05.389
of people I went to high school
with are married and or have kids,
918
00:65:05.429 --> 00:65:09.940
and I'm like yeah, same,
I think I would live my that's really
919
00:65:09.980 --> 00:65:14.179
solve these Texas culture? I think
it is. Absolutely most of my friends
920
00:65:14.219 --> 00:65:16.699
got mutton friends, but most people
I know got married right out of college.
921
00:65:16.699 --> 00:65:19.659
So I have a lot of friends
that are married now and then some
922
00:65:19.780 --> 00:65:24.130
of them just started having a family, like right after high school they got
923
00:65:24.170 --> 00:65:27.570
married and started having kids, and
it's like okay, yeah, like good
924
00:65:27.610 --> 00:65:30.929
for you, but not couldn't be
me. Yeah, for me, I
925
00:65:30.090 --> 00:65:33.250
wouldn't ever do that. No,
all right. Well, we're at an
926
00:65:33.329 --> 00:65:35.920
hour right now. I don't know
how the how we talked for so long.
927
00:65:35.920 --> 00:65:39.480
I don't know if we made any
points or not. I'd feel like
928
00:65:39.599 --> 00:65:43.400
we probably did it. You don't
listen to head on for discourse. You'd
929
00:65:43.440 --> 00:65:45.920
done. You listen to hit on
so you don't have to think. Exactly,
930
00:65:46.119 --> 00:65:48.280
my God, we do hit on
so we don't have to think.
931
00:65:48.440 --> 00:65:53.630
I forgot. I made an chlist
of the last several guys that I talked
932
00:65:53.670 --> 00:65:56.829
to. So we should read that
on another God. Yes, should we?
933
00:65:56.949 --> 00:65:59.710
Okay, we need to do an
open letter, so let me write
934
00:65:59.710 --> 00:66:01.070
one really, really quick. I
totally forgot. That's how we end this
935
00:66:01.150 --> 00:66:06.940
show, an open letter to sapiosexuals. Literally, shut the fuck up,
936
00:66:06.980 --> 00:66:15.579
hit on. I got all right, we'll see y'all next time. Next
937
00:66:15.579 --> 00:66:19.170
time, yeah, next week,
next month, who knows? Next year?
938
00:66:19.329 --> 00:66:23.289
We don't have a we have no
schedule. Yeah, just do this.
939
00:66:23.849 --> 00:66:24.050
We just
1
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Hi, my name is Sidney and
I got covid a few weeks ago while
2
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fully vaccinated and with no known exposure. She also did not give it to
3
00:00:22.059 --> 00:00:24.699
me, even though we were in
the room together. I know, like
4
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I didn't give it to anyone,
which was good. I was like keeping
5
00:00:27.820 --> 00:00:35.539
it all for myself. Hi,
I'm shelby and yesterday I made a fake
6
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bumbled to see if I'm marketed myself
differently, if I would match with different
7
00:00:39.570 --> 00:00:45.609
people to avoid getting messages like this
one. I've always wanted to take a
8
00:00:45.729 --> 00:00:50.280
mustang shelby for a ride, and
I'm not talking forward either. You.
9
00:00:51.799 --> 00:00:55.880
Yeah, what a weird thing.
Yeah, first thing to say to anybody
10
00:00:55.920 --> 00:00:58.960
else. I feel like the and
I'm not talking forward either, was really
11
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unnecessary. It's like I could tell
your horney already. Like. Well,
12
00:01:03.590 --> 00:01:07.069
like, because I sent a bunch
to a group message with like Nick,
13
00:01:07.150 --> 00:01:11.909
my roommate, my sister's and my
sister's girlfriend, and I was like which
14
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one of these should I read tomorrow
for a recording, and they were like
15
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that one is the least Horny,
so I that one's the least horny.
16
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That was the least horny message that
I had. Scared to see the others.
17
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Oh my God, people are aggressive
when they message me sometimes. I
18
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also really love that he like you
have to have some understanding of like cars
19
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in order to get that reference,
and he just assumed you know that.
20
00:01:34.209 --> 00:01:40.409
You're any girl. I'm a cool
girl. I know cars. It's really
21
00:01:40.450 --> 00:01:42.730
bad. I actually like when I
drive anywhere with somebody and we get out
22
00:01:42.730 --> 00:01:45.769
of the car and go do something
and go back, I don't remember what
23
00:01:45.890 --> 00:01:48.200
their car looks like. I like, I'm like, you're gonna have to
24
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find it and I'll just follow you
around because I've no idea. That's literally
25
00:01:51.400 --> 00:01:55.359
all my friends when we're waiting for
an uber. They're like we're looking for
26
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a Chevy Malibu. What the fuck
is that? And then I'm like,
27
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okay, I'm also gay, but
like how are you the kind of guy
28
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who doesn't know any cars? Like
I'll go up to just any car and
29
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I'm like, did you even look
at the license plate? That's not our
30
00:02:09.949 --> 00:02:14.710
Uber. Like that's what I do. Yeah, license plate and car color
31
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and the rest, like I'll figure
it out, you know. Yeah,
32
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I feel like every uber that was
like a Chevy Malibu or like a Nissan
33
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sentrame. Oh my God, yeah, my Um recently, emily and nick
34
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got a Tesla for there. I've
heard Tesla Uber once too. I was
35
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Tesla. I think it was when
Jackie and I were in Denver and we
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had taken some gummies. It's so
I was like what the fuck, is
37
00:02:38.050 --> 00:02:44.360
this really happening right now? This
is so surreal. You get in an
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00:02:44.439 --> 00:02:47.840
uber and it's a Tesla and Elon
Musk is driving it and he's doing that
39
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thing that celebrities do where they pretend
to be regular people. They're like look
40
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at me. Oh my God,
that reminds me of when you and I
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had that really chaotic uber. I'm
like, I like that woman. Yeah,
42
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remember what happened, but I know
it's she just had the thickest New
43
00:03:01.430 --> 00:03:07.110
Jersey accident you've ever heard and she
kept talking about quaffee, quaffee. Yeah,
44
00:03:07.150 --> 00:03:10.349
she was wat like the way that
her like brother in law, who
45
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died, used to make coffee.
Remember she like brought something. Yeah,
46
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yeah, she was somehow like instant
coffee came up and she was like now,
47
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I don't know if you're my age, but back in my day instant
48
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quaffee was everywhere and this woman was
probably s or s and I was like,
49
00:03:25.659 --> 00:03:30.009
you'd think we're that old. Yeah, it was a short car ride,
50
00:03:30.009 --> 00:03:31.930
but I feel like I learned so
much about her. Yeah, it
51
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was like fun at first, but
then she just kept talking. There was
52
00:03:36.289 --> 00:03:38.409
like no breath in between the words
that she was saying. Now and she'll
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be and I were just like shelby
was high as fuck. I was just
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so tired for good. It's like
this is a mess and it only happened
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because I left my keys and Jackie's
car. Yeah, yeah, it was
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quite an adventure. I feel like
just being in an Uber when you're high
57
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is very jarring in general. Yeah, that's always when the crazy shit happens.
58
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Oh, absolutely. I feel like
every I don't know if it's because
59
00:04:05.789 --> 00:04:10.659
I'm high or if it's because like
every time I get high, something ridiculous
60
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ends up happening, and I feel
like this happens so frequently we're like,
61
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I'm just way too high to deal
with it. Yeah, I remember back
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in the good days when you could
do like Uberpool. I am I took
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an Uber Pool with my friend Greg
and I guess he didn't remember that it
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was an Uberpool, and so we
were like on our way to our destination,
65
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but then we stopped somewhere and people
started getting in and he was convinced
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that we were getting kidnapped, but
I was like, no, that's just
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the other pool guests. So that's
so funny. No, I think I'd
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freak out too, like what's going
on? Oh God, I have you
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ever almost been kidnapped or like been
in a situation like that? Oh God,
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I don't think so, but I
think it's just because I'm like very
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hyper aware of my surroundings all the
time, like in an annoying way.
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sure that nobody's following me or anything. And even if, like I'm driving
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in a car is behind me and
they are behind me for like two blocks
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and we'd make the same turns,
I'm like, I do that too.
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said it's I mean, yeah, I
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definitely like I have clinical anxiety.
Oh okay, yeah, I didn't,
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like Sepro I did need to go
to therapy, though. Therapy is amazing.
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Therapy is the best thing that's ever
happened. I'm so bad at therapy,
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like, I don't know, I
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me. I want them to think
that I'm cool. You don't want them
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to know you have problem, right, and I'm like so, I'm trying
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to make them think that I'm cool
and funny, and then they'll be like
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how are you, and I'm like
I'm good, how are you? I
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did that, honestly, when I
first started with my therapist. Every time
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I brought up my trauma, I
would like giggle about it. Yeah,
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Ha, ha ha, you know
trauma. And then she was like what
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would it be like to say that
without laughing, and I'm like, Whoa,
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you're like wow, I I literally
said I don't think I can.
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everybody, men in particular, but everybody.
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Yeah, I I don't know.
I also just really minimize my problems,
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which is annoying. Yep, a
good reason to go to therapy.
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Yeah, like I'll be like miserable
as fuck and then I'll go to therapy
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and they'll be like so, what's
going on? I'm like, well,
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this, but it's not really that
bad. Yeah, exactly. You have
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to learn to make space for yourself
true, speaking of I don't know,
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I feel like we just went down
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they has diagnosed add. I have
self diagnosed add. Yeah, he's but
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literally like, I don't know.
I know there's a lot of discourse about
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self diagnosis, but even if I
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on one thing at once. Yeah, you should definitely just go see a
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psychiatrist and be like these are the
reasons I think I have add and then,
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you know, see what happens.
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evaluation and they there was a bunch
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so I didn't get it back for
a long time and when I finally got
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it back, they were like,
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I don't know if it's an anxiety
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her inability to pay attention. Yeah, reading your own psych evaluation is the
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most painful process. I was like, I feel like I'm being attacked.
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Yeah, Oh my God, I
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Yeah, it really will hurt your
feelings. Yeah, there reminded me
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of like when I had covid a
couple weeks ago I went to the urgent
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care to get tested and then I
was looking at my patient notes after and
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it said like patient looks normal,
she does not appear ill. Like okay,
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thank you. Think I'm lying.
Literally I was. And then the
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test came back positive. I was
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said I looked normal and not ill, because I was certainly dying. Yeah,
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patient's chair, but yeah, I'm
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it was very bizarre because I still
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obviously, thankfully, I didn't give
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I don't know, I feel like
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vaccinated, but for the first few
days it was like really rough, just
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like bad body pain. Yeah,
and I did lose my smell like completely.
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My taste was pretty normal, but
those are both back now. Oh
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good, but I was like,
Oh my God, what if my smell
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doesn't come back and then I just
like never cherished smells. I know a
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lot of people who's like smell still
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have last year when it was really
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that until like months ago. I
say that like a pop star. Back
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in the one thousand nine hundred and
seventy five was really big and lovely.
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That's how I felt. I was
like, Oh my God, I'm getting
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covid after it's main street, like
it's not even cool anymore. Sow and
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cool of me. Yeah, yeah, I got it in July of last
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year and I also didn't give it
to anybody and I wouldn't have known that
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I had it unless my friend's boyfriend
didn't get a fever. And then when
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he got a fever and I had
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like, Oh shit, I should
go get tested. But yeah, it
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wasn't. It wasn't bad at all, like I was just really, really
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tired. Yeah, for a couple
of days and then it was over.
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And but I was I was cleaning
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smelled so bad and I was like
one of the Times I was covid had
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just taken the sense away. Yeah, it was like it was really weird
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because I had never lost my smell
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my positive test back, Jackie and
I got some Thai food delivered and she
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was like this curry smells so good
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literally like had my nose all up
and it. I was like, oh
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no, I couldn't smell anything.
So that I started freaking out and I
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went to the kitchen and I was
smelling like peanut butter and like honey,
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like you know, things that have
a very distinct smell, and I was
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like I can't fucking smell anything.
Oh No, I was like fully inhaling,
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but thankfully it's back now, but
it was really scary. Yeah,
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Oh, I can believe that.
I feel like losing any of your senses
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would really like freak you. Yeah, and I thought it would like heighten
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other things, HMM, but nothing
was heightened. They always say that Shit.
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They're like if you close your eyes
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think that sound and site are linked. Sometimes, you know, like when
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you're driving and you really need to
focus on parking, you're like, I've
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got to turn off the music.
Yeah, that's true, but okay,
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to be fair, because I have
add I can't listen to music and do
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anything else at the same time,
really, like literally anything, like driving,
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obviously, but like if I have
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to turn the music off. Really
I feel like I'm kind of the opposite,
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really like the silence will distract me. Oh what really interesting. I
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also just need like any sound to, you know, stop the thoughts from
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coming. Yeah, there's, I
don't know, a lot of people on
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twitter and tick tock or like me, listening to like to podcast, one
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album and a TV show at the
same time to stop any semblance of a
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thought from happening. I was like, yeah, sounds like me. Yeah,
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I'm like, we are very off
the beaten past today. I think
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I forgot to take my legs of
pro I know I did take my vivance,
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but I might. I'm just a
scatter brained from like work and just
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as weak in general for some reason. So too, I moved last week,
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which was another thing. Like I
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Jackie didn't have it. It was
just you. Yeah, and like she
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lives with me, so we were
and we were like quarantine together. She
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got a sinus infection, but that
was like unrelated, which was like Super
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like do all of our moving it
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roommates. So, yeah, it's
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like I'll see a speck of dirt
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need a vacuum this whole place now. So and like my room still isn't
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complete yet, and I'm just like
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just takes time, you know.
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is just so hard to like make
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a time, you know. Yeah, I'm like I'm going to do laundry
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and then I'm like, Oh,
wait, I forgot to do dishes the
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other day and then I'm like,
Oh, I need to water the plants.
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That's how I leave my laundry in
the wash for too long. Every
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time. I'm like, Oh,
I should take that out and as I
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go to do it, I'm like
I don't watered my plants yet. Like
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I gotta go. Yeah, that, you gotta pet my cat. Gonna
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throw the ball. What was I
doing? That fucking bad damn cat in
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her ballhansy, my baby. I
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them, like I literally don't know
where they're going. They have to be
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in the house, but I can't
find them. So I just got her
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oh my God, that's so funny. Whenever I came to your place like
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a couple months ago, I was
wearing some kind of like button up that
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was, I guess, lace,
and I like left it on the floor
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because I put something else on to
go to bed, and then I woke
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up in the morning and her cat
was like cuddled up to that shirt.
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Liked mate it with it, I
guess. Yeah, she decided. She
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decided that was her partner. She
loves doing that. Yeah, so I
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had to like push her off the
shirt and the morning to get in and
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then she was just staring at me
like I had taken something from her.
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Love my wife. I love her
so much. He's so cute. Okay,
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we did have things we wanted to
talk about today, I think.
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Are we turning into red scare podcast? I okay, I just kind I
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know I drama about that and I
don't know. I don't know what the
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red scared podcast is. It's just
like two girls that he's really funny if
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they heard this, but they're just
like millennial leftist with like really bad vocal
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fry, like they talked like this. Bee. We shoul start adding vocal
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fry to our show so like more
people be attracted to us. I think
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so. But they have like their
leftist but they also have a lot of
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really bad takes, like all the
time. I felt like Jackie hate watches
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it, hate lessons, I guess, but then she subjects me to it
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and literally just it's always just like
fuck lip trd. I love listening or
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like hate watching anything. Yeah,
I feel so gratifying. But, yeah,
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they just ramble about random shit.
Yeah, which we're not doing.
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No, we're a dating podcast and
we're going to get into that. But
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first it's time for our very first
dear Jacob. Hey, everybody, my
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name is Jacob. Welcome to this
new episode segment, I guess, of
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Dear Jacob, where I read questions
from my lovely audience and do my best
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to give helpful advice. I'm recording
here in my bathroom where the acoustics are
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awesome, having a little sparkling water
cranberry flavored. Hold on, I think
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there's a knock at the door.
Hello, okay, false alarm. We'll
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just leave that in. Just roll
with it, all right. Well,
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you know, my dear friend,
she'll be came to me and said we're
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going to have a segment called Dear
Jacob. I said Dear Jacob, but
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I'm a Human Jacob. I did
know his steps. Let's get into the
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questions, shall we? Okay,
today's question comes to us for a first
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time riter long time listener Jackson Barton, who says dear Jacob. What,
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in your opinion, is the most
romantic scent? Is it freshly lit lavender
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scented candle flowers picked fresh from the
garden, or maybe a home cooked meal?
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Please specify what kind of meal,
if so. Everyone has their own
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personal favorites, but if you had
a blind date coming over, what would
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you use to really set or maybe
scent the mood? Well, thanks for
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asking, Jackson. That's a very
nice question. To think about it,
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I think the food angles not bad. I personally have never found like I
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think candle scent is relaxing but I've
never gotten a whiff of the old Mahogany
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teak would and been like MMM,
now I'm ready to get get my rumpus
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on, you know what I mean. Like. But maybe that's not what
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romantic means either. I don't know. But yeah, like, I definitely
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think candles can be like soothing,
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you're relaxed and you feel comfortable.
So I think that's nice. I think
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food angle is good, but I
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I think you want to go for
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like, you know, like if
you lay out like a citrusy fish spread,
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like a salmon with a lemon crushed
over it or something, that might
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be a nice light airy meal for
you and your and your sweetoms. But
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I feel like the citrusy kind of
Tang is going to like it's more of
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a sting to the nostrils, you
know, and you want something soft and
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comforting that makes you say hey,
come on in, the water's fine,
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I'm I ain't gonna hurt you.
That sounded worse than I wanted it to,
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frankly, gang but yeah, let
you know. Maybe I don't know,
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because at the same time people say
on dates you don't want to eat
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something heavy because it makes you feel
sluggish and gross. But I think like
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comforting as like like Stew, like
a shepherd's pie, something that you eat
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in a in a tavern with exposed
rafters. You know what I mean,
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like I feel like that's I want
to come home and smell something warm on
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a winter's Day. Or flip the
gender norms. If my doctor wife,
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who provides for me because I didn't
get a useful degree in school, is
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coming home, maybe I'll have,
I don't know, a Nice Cut Soud
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on Japanese Comfort Bowl. Ready.
That's fried pork cutlet atop rice with eggs
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and mushroom and onion. It's very
delightful. You'RE gonna want to use a
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rice cooker for that one, though, none of this uncle Ben Bullshit.
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I do like Uncle Ben, put
some respect on his name, but I
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like a rice cooker for dishes from
the land of the rising sun. All
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right. So so, yeah,
I think those are both good relaxing soothing.
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could be romantic since, like I
said, perhaps romance comes from a
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place of trust and comfort and you
can you can help achieve that first of
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all by being a good person.
I don't want to understate that. But
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if we're going to do it with
food smells, with something homey and nourishing,
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something that sticks to your ribs and
makes you feel warm inside, that's
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me patting my stomach. Flowers.
You this might be a controversial opinion.
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I personally have never smelled a flower
and gone like, Oh, yeah,
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that's a good smell. I kind
of always just like this smells like a
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plant that came from outside, which, if you think about it, is
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what a flower is. So,
but flowers look nice, they can definitely
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set the mood visually, but we're
talking about smells here. We're talking about
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the nose, boys and girls and
non binary friends, a little sparkling water
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there, but yeah, anyway,
we've had a lot of fun here today.
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I think this doesn't really fit with
Jackson's blind date scenario. But what
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my real answer to this is?
I think, and it might sound,
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I don't mean this to sound weird
or like a, you know, some
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kind of sex pervert, but I
think something about like our ape brains and
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like being animals from the brush,
like smell is a really strong sense and
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I think honestly, just the way
that your beloved smells. There's a really
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nice romantic smell, like whether that's
their perfume or deodorant or Cologne or natural
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musk of the wild. I think. Yeah, I said it might.
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It might sound weird, but I
think it is something in our mammal brains
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that's just like that. They are
like and you can smell it on your
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clothes or as they walk by you. It's just nice. I think it
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reminds you that they're there. Yeah, I think that might be pretty much
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all I have to say about romantic
smells at the moment. Are there any
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other romantic smells? I like,
I guess, places that are romantic,
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like. I'm a big movie Guy, so maybe like you're in the dark
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with your with your beloved and the
smell of popcorn and you know the way
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that your nose kind of tingles when
you put it over a fizzing soda.
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That could be romantic. I think
maybe I'm just hungry. HMM. Anyway,
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enjoy the rest of the episode.
This has been dear Jacob, with
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me, Jacob Sanger, please write
in. Bye. Bye. Exactly,
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and more specifically, we're talking about
okay, we're talking about micro labels,
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but there are some some things we
need to establish before the conversation, such
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as were only talking about micro labels
in which you can label yourself, but
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you're still straight, right, and
I also read somewhere that, like,
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micro labels are really beneficial to neurodivergent
people. So, like, obviously,
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if that's you, we're not roasting
you, but everybody else is getting roasted
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today. Absolutely. I just think
it's I always talked to my sister about
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this, because she delaney. She
just likes to debate, like for the
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fun of it, and I I'm
always like, demisexuals really get on my
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nerves because they act like they're part
of the LGBT community. It's like,
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just because you need to have a
connection to have sex with somebody doesn't mean
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that you're part of the queer community. Like you're still straight, you know.
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Obviously, if you're queer and demisexual, I mean it's still like whatever
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do you but if you are straight
and you're trying to seem like, quote
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unquote, spicy straight by just saying
you don't like Cook ups, that's also
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I feel like it's pretty common to
not like hookups, especially among straight women.
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There's just so much more at stake
with women when it comes to having
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a hookup. One, two,
it's like your needs are rarely ever going
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to be met. So it's really
not even that gratifying. And those are
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my only two points. But but, like it makes sense that you're like,
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Oh, I need to have a
connection or a relationship with somebody before
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I can be physically intimate with them. Because, like, yeah, because
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you could get yourself in a dangerous
situation if you're not really vetting people out
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well enough. so that feels like
a silly really you. You know,
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it feels like a silly label to
me at all. Yeah, I agree.
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It's just like you can just say
you don't like Hookups, you know.
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Yeah, the these labels that were
talking about are literally just like preferences.
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You know. It's not about your
identity or who you love, it's
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about like what you prefer in relationships. And I brought up sapiosexuals to God
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because I was thinking of when Mark
Ronson, okay, I think this was
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around the same time when Sam Smith
came out as nonbinary, and then not
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very long later, Mark Ronson was
like, I'm a sapio sexual. Oh
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my God, I did not even
hear that. It was like town funk
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Mark Rock. Yeah, like he
was on Valerie with amy winehouse. They
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did like a cover together or they
sing it together something. That's how I
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know him. Yeah, but yeah, he came out of stapiosexual and he
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was like, basically, it just
means I'm only attracted to intelligent people.
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Was He trolling? No, no, he was serious. Well, and
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because like it was kind of a
big topic in the media. I'm pretty
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sure this was around the same time
because it was such a big topic in
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the media with Sam Smith coming out
as nonbinary, with another celebrity coming out
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and being like, Oh, I'm
this thing that you've never heard of.
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My God. Yeah, it was
getting a lot of coverage. Like what's
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a sabiosexual will? And it's even
worse because imagine if you didn't know what
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it was and you like clicked to
read the article and you're like, oh,
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it's just a bunch of bullshit.
Yeah, like, I don't know,
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I'm assuming Mark Ronson is straight,
right, I'm think so, let
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me Google it real fast. We
don't want to be wrong on hit on.
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Ever, know we're always a hundred
percent right. Yeah, about everything.
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We say we're not interested in discourse
because we know we're right. Yeah,
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I'm gonna Google Mark Rons and sexuality
and I swear off. Sabiosexual comes
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up. Vomit. This rolling stone
article is titled Mark Ronson courageously comes out
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of the closet as sapio sexual.
I think I just had an aneurism.
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Yeah, the Oh my God,
the says Mark Ronson courageously came out to
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ITV's good morning Britain. A sapiosexual
a term used to describe when someone is
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more attracted to intelligence over other factors
such as physical appearance or gender. But
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I don't think that's a true definition, you know, because like, okay,
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I but I believe he is still
straight. Yeah, that that's confused.
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Okay, that makes it confusing,
because attraction includes intelligence. You know
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what I mean? Right, like
you're attracted to people for a variety of
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reasons, not just for one reason. I mean like physically. Obviously it's
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easy to just look at somebody and
be like, Oh, you're hot,
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I'm attracted to you, but like, actual attraction to people includes personality.
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Right. Also updates September twenty seven, two thousand and nineteen. CNS said
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that Mark Ronson isn't sabiosexual after all
and apologizes for identifying as such. That
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was literally like a week. I
ate it. I hate it, I
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so much. Yeah, it's like
very pretentious in so many ways, because
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it's like, okay, what are
you, you know, identifying as Sabiosexual?
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Like, what is your definition of
intelligence? Because it's also, you
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know, very subjective. It could
also definitely get into like classism and ableism
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a hundred percent. Yeah, so
does that mean you're not attracted to people
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with learning disabilities? Yeah, fuck
you, I guess. Yeah, or
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like, I don't know, did
they have to go to like an Ivy
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League or something? Yeah, or
like what you want standard. Are they
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more intelligent than you? I feel
like probably not. Yeah, yeah,
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exactly. I hate dating people who
are smarter than me, right, like
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being the smartest one. Yeah,
relationship, exactly. It's also like,
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I don't know, they're intelligence is
so subjective. Yeah, like you can
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be really intelligent about like one subject
or like in one facet, you know,
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more book smart or more street smart
or whatever. Yeah, and it's
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also just like okay, that's just
your type, you know, like you
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like some people who are smarter.
Yeah, it's like it's not an identity.
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And also, like another really irritating
thing if that was in response to
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Sam Smith coming out as non binary, is like, okay, you're just
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diminishing these actually valid labels and identities
with like stupid shit like this. Yeah,
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people, like uninformed straight people,
are going to see this would be
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like, oh my God, those
damn queers are coming out with the new
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gender every day or whatever, and
it's like no, yeah, exactly.
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I think. I think that's the
other thing that's really annoying about these,
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like these preference esque labels. Are
like, okay, you're you coming up
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with these words and then telling your
parents, are like somebody who's more ignorant
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about queerness, that your demisexual and
it means that you only want to have
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sex with somebody that you know,
or your sapiosexual, and you only are
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attracted to people who you think are
smart. They're going to be like that's
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stupid, you know right, like
okay, but are you still straight?
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Like yeah, okay, wait,
but do you? Yeah, exactly,
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so then, but what's your sexual
identity? Yeah, like, I don't
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know. I feel like in the
way that queerness is perceived to like take
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precedent over everything else is kind of
the same. Like with straightness. It's
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like, okay, you can say
that you're sabiosexual or whatever, but you're
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still straight, like you're not,
you're not part of the plus. That's
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yeah, I mean like, and
I honestly don't really even care if it's
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like I'm having a conversation with somebody
and they like explain basically what the identity
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is and I like or like sometimes
I say I'm demisexual, like whatever.
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Okay, sure, but if you're
leading with that, anyone who says they're
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sabiosexual and any of their BIOS on
any dating APP, it's a left I
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don't want to interact with you.
It's also typically likes a setman. It's
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always so set, like they're I
don't know. This was obviously a long
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time ago, since I've been on
tender or bumble, especially looking for men,
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but I remember like there's a little
category where you can put like your
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gender identity and your sexuality and it
would always say like straight, sabiosexual,
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demisexual, and like, Oh my
God God, yeah, anybody trying to
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get that word count of I know
exactly and yeah, I'm not. I
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can't deal with people. I just
feel I know that, like I said
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on our first episode of this new
season, that gatekeeping is part of the
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reason that it took me so long
to come out. But and I know
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that's kind of what we're doing right
now. Yeah, I just gonna be
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honest, like that's just part of
the LGBT community. Is gatekeeping, like
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that's just the reality of it.
Yeah, I also feel like I don't
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know, it's one thing to gate
keep something that's not inherent to the fabric
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of the LGBT community. Like it's
one thing to be like, oh,
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she'll be's getting a coal from my
dad. I just changed this profile,
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or literally, but like was that
man? I'll message him later, but
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yeah, like it. It's definitely
one thing to be like okay, saying
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that you're demisexual while you are still
only attracted to the opposite gender is not
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being queer. Like that is,
I think, a valid argument, whereas
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a lot of gatekeeping in the lgbt
community is like, Oh, like,
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trans and onbinary people aren't part of
our community. Yeah, like that,
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which is not okay enough to be
part of some you know. Yeah,
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I like there's like specifically lately,
but a lot of like non binary rasure?
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Yeah, Oh, for sure,
and I in defensive gatekeeping. I
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think it's necessary, especially for the
LGBT community, because you I mean having
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people infiltrate a space that is meant
to be a community for like people who
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are different or, you know,
have to deal with oppression and can like
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relate to other people who are dealing
with those same things. Like having someone
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come into that community not having to
deal with any of those things and being
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like I'm one of you, like
that's fucking annoying and I'm like I understand
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wanting to like weed those people out. So I just think gatekeeping is so
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nuanced because, yeah, the it
does get to a point where it's like,
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okay, well, now you're just
being an asshole. Right. I'm
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like we appreciate allies, of course, but I don't know, to me
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personally, I don't think that allies
or, you know, part of the
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community. No, not at all. They can have their own community lgbt
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allies. I was also the other
day I saw, I think it's a
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tick, talk about like realizing that
you're bisexual, and part of it was
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like being an aggressive ally of the
LGBT. No, that was definitely me
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I was me, I was always
like I love the gays, but I'm
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not one of them. Know.
I was like so aggressive. I was
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like gay people should be able to
get married. Yeah, and now it's
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so funny because back in like two
thousand and eleven or two thousand and twelve,
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I'm gonna have to find this tweet
so I can hear that happened,
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but chick fil a tweeted like what's
one menu item you would like to see,
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and I responded to them gay rights, literally like eleven. If you
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tweeted that today, though, it
be so funny, still timeless. I
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actually was the main reason gay marriage
was legalize. Yeah, no, since
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twitter really is just timeless, all
the tweets are always relevant literally. Oh,
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speaking of gay marriage, I know
we also wanted to talk about marriage
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jinks. Yeah, we like talked
about marriage a little bit on the previous
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episode with Jackie, but I don't
know, creakiest chareable times. We were
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talking earlier about how cool it is
that yout really invest a lot of money
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into, yeah, communications college,
into the chairs. Yeah, I think
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in the chairs, the equipment,
the building. The Fun part about this
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recording studio is that you have to
sit absolutely still. Seriously, maybe it's
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good for us because we can't set
stuff. I know both of us.
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This whole time have been swiveling or
really trying not to move my mouth so
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you can't hear it in the Oh, I hate that. But Yeah,
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you asked me about marriage. Yes, I I like don't have a lot
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of thoughts, but I also have
a lot of thoughts. So I yes,
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I feel like you could provide a
really unique perspective because you are from
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more conservative area, like you grew
up in a very conservative area, but
476
00:34:36.909 --> 00:34:44.900
without religious influence. Yeah, and
with siblings who, like aren't traditionally raising
477
00:34:44.940 --> 00:34:49.219
families the way that you would of
like get married, have kids, have
478
00:34:49.300 --> 00:34:51.940
a little domestic life. Yeah,
so I feel like I would love to
479
00:34:51.980 --> 00:34:55.010
hear your opinions on marriage. Yeah. Well, so, just in background,
480
00:34:55.010 --> 00:34:59.250
I have three siblings, two sisters
and a brother, and actually my
481
00:34:59.289 --> 00:35:02.250
middle sister is definitely like the most
you know, traditional one of us,
482
00:35:02.369 --> 00:35:07.239
like she is married, has a
baby, Henry. He's so cute.
483
00:35:08.159 --> 00:35:12.719
But yeah, and then my other
sister is single, and then my brother
484
00:35:13.079 --> 00:35:16.079
is actually getting married in December.
Who congrats? Yeah, but I think
485
00:35:16.159 --> 00:35:22.510
he's like diddy turn he just turned
twenty seven and his fiance's like twenty four,
486
00:35:22.750 --> 00:35:28.949
twenty five, and they are very
much like not interested in having kids
487
00:35:28.989 --> 00:35:32.389
right now at last. Yeah,
and and they're like or just too selfish,
488
00:35:32.869 --> 00:35:37.019
and I'm like, I really appreciate
that. Yeah, I feel like
489
00:35:37.059 --> 00:35:42.619
a lot of people don't realize that
they're too selfish to have kids or that
490
00:35:42.780 --> 00:35:45.019
like, you know, maybe that's
not for me. I just think that
491
00:35:45.139 --> 00:35:50.210
that's, you know, something they
have to do. Yes, and like
492
00:35:51.010 --> 00:35:54.889
I'm definitely like that. I am
not really I think I'm more interested in
493
00:35:55.010 --> 00:36:00.570
marriage than having kids, just because, like, I feel like a wedding
494
00:36:00.570 --> 00:36:04.250
would be really fun. That's the
only reason I'm interested in hard yeah,
495
00:36:04.599 --> 00:36:07.920
like wedding. I feel like the
fun stuff with the kid is before they're
496
00:36:07.039 --> 00:36:12.360
for yeah, like the baby shower
and song and picking out a name,
497
00:36:12.760 --> 00:36:16.079
and that comes and you're like,
oh, eighteen years less, it's a
498
00:36:16.199 --> 00:36:19.789
lot of time to be spending with
this thing. Yeah, I'm like,
499
00:36:19.909 --> 00:36:22.909
I do think that I would be
a cool mom, because I definitely like,
500
00:36:24.070 --> 00:36:27.670
I don't know, it's all so
tough, though, because I would
501
00:36:27.750 --> 00:36:31.030
want to raise my child like,
you know, I don't know if I
502
00:36:31.070 --> 00:36:36.420
would raise my child like genderless or
like I just you know, wouldn't put
503
00:36:37.219 --> 00:36:39.940
yeah, and another like my sister. I've and I've told her, like
504
00:36:40.019 --> 00:36:44.460
I didn't like this before, but
she is to like put my nephew and
505
00:36:44.500 --> 00:36:49.010
stuff that would say like sorry,
Lady's, my mom's crazy or shit like
506
00:36:49.130 --> 00:36:52.690
that. Or like, you know, they always put like little kids and
507
00:36:52.769 --> 00:36:57.889
stuff like that. That's always like
sorry, La He's, I'm taken or
508
00:36:57.969 --> 00:37:00.760
whatever. And then, like,
you know, the little girl stuff says
509
00:37:00.880 --> 00:37:07.360
like heart breaker. Yeah, heartbreaker, Daddy's little girl, like my dad
510
00:37:07.440 --> 00:37:10.480
has a gun, Shit like that, like and it's like, okay,
511
00:37:10.559 --> 00:37:15.199
they are two years old, they
don't know anything. But then those same
512
00:37:15.750 --> 00:37:17.949
parents are going to turn around and
say that like the queers were forcing their
513
00:37:17.989 --> 00:37:23.829
agenda and their sexuality and everyone hmm, as if sexuality and gender aren't forced
514
00:37:23.909 --> 00:37:28.230
on you from a very young age. Oh, absolutely, yeah, that
515
00:37:28.429 --> 00:37:32.260
is like I definitely would it want
my child to be like a part of
516
00:37:32.340 --> 00:37:36.260
stuff like that, you know,
but it's also hard because, like how
517
00:37:36.340 --> 00:37:39.980
do you raise them and like a
genderless world when the world is still very
518
00:37:40.139 --> 00:37:45.130
gender shared? Yeah, like my
suggestion, you know, those very specific
519
00:37:45.250 --> 00:37:50.610
t shirts that you can have ones
for your baby and it's a specific t
520
00:37:50.730 --> 00:37:59.480
shirt about you. My mom is
a bad bitch without Badass. She raised
521
00:37:59.519 --> 00:38:05.079
me without gender and now I am
here to tell you my story some shit
522
00:38:05.199 --> 00:38:08.840
like that. These are there stories. But yeah, like, I think
523
00:38:08.880 --> 00:38:15.429
that's definitely something I always think about
because, you know, I like if
524
00:38:15.469 --> 00:38:19.469
I had a child, you know, who is, well, we perceived
525
00:38:19.510 --> 00:38:22.429
to be like a boy or girl, like I I don't know, it's
526
00:38:22.510 --> 00:38:27.380
just like I don't really want to
deal with that. Yeah, like I
527
00:38:27.420 --> 00:38:30.739
also, like I would hope that
my child would be comfortable telling me if
528
00:38:30.820 --> 00:38:34.980
they were queer or a trans or
anything, but it's also like, Hmm,
529
00:38:35.659 --> 00:38:38.420
I'm not that passionate about motherhood.
Yeah, exactly. I feel like
530
00:38:38.500 --> 00:38:42.530
the only thing you can really do, like you can try as hard as
531
00:38:42.570 --> 00:38:46.409
you want to raise your child genderless, but you know, as soon as
532
00:38:46.409 --> 00:38:51.530
they get mainstream schooled and or schooled
at all, you know, unless you're
533
00:38:51.530 --> 00:38:53.570
home schooling them, which don't do
that. Yeah, because they'll be fucked
534
00:38:53.570 --> 00:38:58.519
up that way too. Yeah,
like they are. They will be exposed
535
00:38:58.559 --> 00:39:01.119
to like gender norms and I think
at that point you just kind of have
536
00:39:01.199 --> 00:39:06.360
to let them figure it out.
Yeah, and I think that's that's kind
537
00:39:06.400 --> 00:39:13.070
of a nice aspect of the queer
community is we all had to figure it
538
00:39:13.110 --> 00:39:17.070
out for ourselves because we were raised
in a society that's very like heterosexual and
539
00:39:17.429 --> 00:39:23.230
patriarchical and sussisst yeah, assist society. Yeah. I also it reminds me
540
00:39:23.340 --> 00:39:28.619
of Elon Musk and grimes, which
don't have time to get into today.
541
00:39:29.219 --> 00:39:31.460
It's so tragic because I love grimes, like her music is so good,
542
00:39:31.619 --> 00:39:35.980
especially art angels, like such a
good album. But I just have to
543
00:39:36.099 --> 00:39:40.090
pretend like she has never like done
anything else, like she's not a person,
544
00:39:40.170 --> 00:39:45.849
she's just an AI. But anyway, like whenever grimes was pregnant with
545
00:39:45.210 --> 00:39:49.809
her an Elon musks baby, she
was like, Oh, we're not gonna
546
00:39:49.929 --> 00:39:52.119
like, you know, talk about
the sack because of the baby or anything.
547
00:39:52.480 --> 00:39:57.719
We're gonna like raise them like genderless. And then the second it's born,
548
00:39:57.880 --> 00:40:00.760
Elon must cops on twitter is like
it's a boy. Yeah, and
549
00:40:00.960 --> 00:40:06.280
the disrespect, yeah, which is
also like obviously I don't think I would
550
00:40:06.280 --> 00:40:08.829
have a husband, but oh yeah, definitely, but like if that happened
551
00:40:08.829 --> 00:40:13.909
I would be like what the fuck? I yeah, it's just like also,
552
00:40:14.030 --> 00:40:17.070
that's like a big thing, you
know, like a big conversation.
553
00:40:19.110 --> 00:40:22.340
It's almost like if you were like
our kid is named Charles and then your
554
00:40:22.380 --> 00:40:27.820
husband tweets like baby Trent is here. Yeah, we talked about this.
555
00:40:28.380 --> 00:40:30.059
Yeah, grimes at Elon were like, Um, I thought we were named
556
00:40:30.099 --> 00:40:36.889
the kid x a twelve or whatever
the fuck's name is. Oh, yeah,
557
00:40:37.010 --> 00:40:40.090
ridiculous. But yeah, I feel
like I went more of like a
558
00:40:40.489 --> 00:40:45.570
we went more into the route of
children and yeah, but I don't know,
559
00:40:45.809 --> 00:40:50.280
like marriage. Like I said,
I'm very jaded by the concept of
560
00:40:50.320 --> 00:40:53.880
marriage because my parents got divorce when
I was like seven. Pretty much everyone
561
00:40:53.880 --> 00:40:59.280
else in my family has been divorced, like all my grandparents have been divorced.
562
00:40:59.320 --> 00:41:01.360
So I have like not a shit
ton of grandparents, but like I've
563
00:41:01.400 --> 00:41:07.590
more than four. And like my
sister is married, but she's the only
564
00:41:07.630 --> 00:41:12.750
one who's like still married and her
family, like I feel like everyone has
565
00:41:12.750 --> 00:41:15.829
been divorced. Like both my mom
and dad have had a few, or,
566
00:41:17.150 --> 00:41:22.820
let me think they've both had to
know one divorce since like divorcing each
567
00:41:22.860 --> 00:41:29.059
other. Okay, so yeah,
like both my parents have multiple divorces under
568
00:41:29.139 --> 00:41:32.090
their belts. Um, I don't
know. I used to think that I
569
00:41:32.170 --> 00:41:37.730
had commitment issues and like I don't
think I do anymore, but it definitely
570
00:41:37.730 --> 00:41:40.210
still scares me, just the concept
of marriage, the like finality of it.
571
00:41:40.489 --> 00:41:45.369
Yeah, and it's like, okay, you might not be, you
572
00:41:45.489 --> 00:41:49.960
know, actually bound to them forever, because you can always get a divorce,
573
00:41:50.039 --> 00:41:53.159
but that's expensive. It is also
expensive and like traumatic. Yeah,
574
00:41:53.559 --> 00:41:59.599
yeah, marriage is expensive. Divorce
as expensive also. I don't know.
575
00:41:59.880 --> 00:42:04.349
I think like so my mom and
her current boyfriend have been together like five
576
00:42:04.389 --> 00:42:08.150
or six years. It's also funny
because they met on Matchcom. I don't
577
00:42:08.150 --> 00:42:10.510
know if this is true, but
she says that it was like her last
578
00:42:10.510 --> 00:42:14.710
day of her free trial on match
and she wasn't going to renew it and
579
00:42:14.829 --> 00:42:19.219
then she met her boyfriends. That's
crazy, which I'm like, that might
580
00:42:19.300 --> 00:42:22.460
not be true, but it's cute. It is cute, but yeah,
581
00:42:22.500 --> 00:42:25.219
and I was like they lived together
and everything, and I was like,
582
00:42:25.300 --> 00:42:28.780
do you think y'all get married?
She was like no, neither of US
583
00:42:28.820 --> 00:42:31.489
really want to get married, just
because it kind of like ruins everything,
584
00:42:31.690 --> 00:42:35.650
you know, like everything can be
the same, you know, you can
585
00:42:35.690 --> 00:42:39.690
still live together have the same routine, but like the dynamic and the context
586
00:42:40.329 --> 00:42:44.090
of the relationship changes a lot,
I think. So I don't know,
587
00:42:44.360 --> 00:42:47.719
it's like a very small thing but
also a very big thing that I'm just
588
00:42:47.880 --> 00:42:52.159
like. Well, I also like
there's not really any point anymore, like
589
00:42:52.239 --> 00:42:57.000
all of her children are grown.
It's not like she needs a partner to
590
00:42:57.079 --> 00:43:00.349
raise kids with or anything. So
that that also makes sense in that regard.
591
00:43:00.429 --> 00:43:02.909
That like what, what's the point? You know, why would we
592
00:43:02.989 --> 00:43:08.150
get married? Yeah, and like, I don't know, obviously, being
593
00:43:08.269 --> 00:43:13.219
divorced three times, I don't think
that you want to feel like I'm good,
594
00:43:13.619 --> 00:43:16.139
yeah, done it before. Yeah, like, I don't know,
595
00:43:16.699 --> 00:43:21.860
I think that if I would have
grown up and a more like, you
596
00:43:21.980 --> 00:43:25.460
know, stable marriage environment, I
would probably wouldn't be I probably wouldn't have
597
00:43:25.460 --> 00:43:30.250
the same feelings that I do.
But I'm just like so much work and
598
00:43:30.489 --> 00:43:37.289
like there's no guarantee that it's going
to work. And Yeah, and I
599
00:43:37.530 --> 00:43:43.079
and I think the worst part is
because you're in such an intense commitment and
600
00:43:43.800 --> 00:43:46.440
it's going to be so expensive to
like end the relationship, you're willing to
601
00:43:46.599 --> 00:43:52.239
like sacrifice way more and deal with
way more bullshit to make it work instead
602
00:43:52.280 --> 00:43:55.429
of, you know, just breaking
up and ending it right and then when
603
00:43:55.429 --> 00:44:00.670
you add kids into the equation.
Yeah, yeah, like that. That
604
00:44:00.829 --> 00:44:06.949
sounds so stressful and it's like fifty
percent likely to happen. So, yeah,
605
00:44:07.230 --> 00:44:09.980
is that a risk I'm willing to
take? Yeah, I just I
606
00:44:10.059 --> 00:44:15.179
don't know even like, I don't
know. I feel like I probably will
607
00:44:15.219 --> 00:44:19.420
end up getting married one day.
I guess. I don't know. I'm
608
00:44:19.460 --> 00:44:22.099
not, you know, counting on
it, are yeah, you're twenty one,
609
00:44:22.260 --> 00:44:24.210
you don't yet to know. But
I think also a stressful part,
610
00:44:24.250 --> 00:44:28.889
which I'm sure, like a lot
of queer people, also feels like just
611
00:44:29.530 --> 00:44:35.610
having to have like family at the
wedding and you know, yeah, that's
612
00:44:35.650 --> 00:44:37.090
true, dealing with all the shit
that comes with that and then being like
613
00:44:37.170 --> 00:44:40.079
are you sure you want to do
this, like are you sure it's not
614
00:44:40.119 --> 00:44:45.480
a phase, and like just yeah, you don't need to hear that on
615
00:44:45.599 --> 00:44:49.159
your wedding day, right. And
like I think that, like most of
616
00:44:49.239 --> 00:44:52.710
my family is pretty accepting, but, you know, it would be their
617
00:44:52.750 --> 00:44:55.869
first gay wedding, probably. Yeah, so I don't know. I just
618
00:44:57.070 --> 00:45:01.989
like it just sounds like a lot. I want to have a wedding like
619
00:45:02.190 --> 00:45:07.019
so badly. Yeah, I feel
like a wedding like a fake wedding would
620
00:45:07.019 --> 00:45:09.579
be fun, like, I know, but here's that. My concern is,
621
00:45:09.659 --> 00:45:15.980
like nobody would take it seriously.
I mean, like I like I
622
00:45:15.179 --> 00:45:20.380
just need a day where, like
everyone's obsessed with me for the entire day.
623
00:45:20.420 --> 00:45:22.690
Yeah, like the center of attention. Yeah, I think you would
624
00:45:22.690 --> 00:45:28.929
definitely be a bride Zilla. Oh, I absolutely would. I get stressed
625
00:45:28.969 --> 00:45:34.050
out and overwhelmed so easily and I'm
obsessed with myself. So, yeah,
626
00:45:34.929 --> 00:45:37.960
as you should be, as I
should be. My parents are like in
627
00:45:37.000 --> 00:45:42.000
the opposite position, where like they're
still married. The fact that your parents
628
00:45:42.000 --> 00:45:44.679
are still married like always throws me
off. I'm like, wait, there
629
00:45:45.360 --> 00:45:49.920
together, not needs like everyone's parents
are divorced. I feel like I know
630
00:45:50.230 --> 00:45:54.309
and I yeah, I mean there's
probably a million reasons that they haven't ended
631
00:45:54.349 --> 00:45:58.789
it yet, but like they're out. They're unhappy together, you know,
632
00:45:58.989 --> 00:46:02.030
and it's like very apparent and they
trying to get us involved and that's always
633
00:46:02.030 --> 00:46:07.460
super fun. But that, I
mean, that also kind of like skewed
634
00:46:07.500 --> 00:46:09.860
my perspective of marriage too, because
it's like, if this is what it's
635
00:46:09.900 --> 00:46:14.980
like, I don't want this.
This sucks, you know. To be
636
00:46:15.099 --> 00:46:17.769
fair, they did get engaged after
dating for two months and then they got
637
00:46:17.809 --> 00:46:22.449
married after nine months of dating.
Holy Shit. So they didn't really know
638
00:46:22.610 --> 00:46:24.530
each other that well when they got
married. But it's there any pregnancy?
639
00:46:24.929 --> 00:46:29.050
No, it was just they were
both like kind of older, like my
640
00:46:29.130 --> 00:46:34.599
mom was thirty for when she met
my dad, and they both knew that
641
00:46:34.599 --> 00:46:36.760
they wanted to have a family.
So they were kind of like, well,
642
00:46:36.800 --> 00:46:39.599
we should do that then because we're
like losing years. And like,
643
00:46:40.239 --> 00:46:43.639
you know, they had Riley,
my youngest sister, when my mom was
644
00:46:43.760 --> 00:46:46.590
forty. So well, I I
get it, but at the same time
645
00:46:46.590 --> 00:46:52.110
it's also like, I don't know, I guess it's more common like with
646
00:46:52.349 --> 00:46:55.949
straight people, like especially straight women. It's like Oh, you better,
647
00:46:57.630 --> 00:47:00.389
you know, get it done before
you lose your fertility. You're like your
648
00:47:00.659 --> 00:47:05.300
you lose your golden years, and
it's like okay, but in the grand
649
00:47:05.300 --> 00:47:08.460
scheme of things, thirty four is
still pretty young. Yeah, yeah,
650
00:47:08.500 --> 00:47:12.699
yeah, that is true. When
I started saying it out loud, I
651
00:47:12.780 --> 00:47:14.940
was like actually, thirty four is
not even that old. Yeah, I
652
00:47:14.980 --> 00:47:17.170
don't even know if I'll be married
by thirty four. Yeah, but I
653
00:47:17.409 --> 00:47:24.250
really really don't want to have kids. So I I'm pretty certain that age
654
00:47:24.289 --> 00:47:29.849
wouldn't be a factor for that reason, and I really the other. So
655
00:47:29.929 --> 00:47:32.679
I'm a nanny, which I know
I like Shit on children a lot,
656
00:47:34.599 --> 00:47:37.360
and that's because they're really hard to
take care of, but I get to
657
00:47:37.440 --> 00:47:39.760
go home at the end of the
day and, like they do have their
658
00:47:39.840 --> 00:47:44.079
moments, but like the moments,
I just feel like, if I had
659
00:47:44.159 --> 00:47:47.550
to spend all of my time with
them, are not worth spending all of
660
00:47:47.710 --> 00:47:52.309
my time with right they're so stressful
and people, I almost tweeted this the
661
00:47:52.389 --> 00:47:54.909
other day, I just put it
in my draft. But people are always
662
00:47:54.949 --> 00:47:58.820
like my kids are going to be
cool, like I'm my kids are going
663
00:47:58.860 --> 00:48:01.940
to be different, you know,
and it's like you're already like setting standards
664
00:48:01.980 --> 00:48:05.579
for them, you know, like
you're already projecting things on too your kid
665
00:48:05.659 --> 00:48:07.539
that doesn't exist, and like you're
going to be let down if they're not
666
00:48:07.739 --> 00:48:10.940
exactly how you think they're going to
be, and you can't guarantee how they're
667
00:48:10.940 --> 00:48:15.849
going to be either, and that
frets are going to be annoying regardless.
668
00:48:15.010 --> 00:48:17.730
That's the thing. Is like kids
are going to be kids. You cannot
669
00:48:17.730 --> 00:48:22.769
expect your kid to be cool,
like it's gonna act like a child because
670
00:48:22.809 --> 00:48:27.639
it is. Yeah, so I
know I'm so bad, I really do.
671
00:48:27.880 --> 00:48:30.960
If anyone who I nanny for is
listening, I love your kids,
672
00:48:31.000 --> 00:48:35.079
I promise, and I take great
care of them. I just don't want
673
00:48:35.079 --> 00:48:37.159
any of my own ever. Yeah, it's always funny, I feel like
674
00:48:37.239 --> 00:48:40.789
this. This kind of discourse goes
around twitter all the time and it's like
675
00:48:42.429 --> 00:48:46.269
people who like act like they hate
kids so much or so fucking annoying.
676
00:48:46.389 --> 00:48:51.030
They're like the most vulnerable group of
people and they can't do anything about it.
677
00:48:51.550 --> 00:48:53.389
I'm like, I'm not doing this
to be quirky. I straight up
678
00:48:53.469 --> 00:48:58.820
just doll like kids. Yeah,
like, I'm not at a personality trade
679
00:48:58.940 --> 00:49:02.300
right, like, and I think
it's good to admit that you don't like
680
00:49:02.500 --> 00:49:07.260
kids if you don't want them.
Oh, that's like there's so many people
681
00:49:07.579 --> 00:49:12.409
who have kids when they didn't want
them and then they end up being horrible
682
00:49:12.489 --> 00:49:15.690
parents. Yeah, Oh, like, certainly, and like Parenti doesn't is
683
00:49:15.769 --> 00:49:22.769
like a really like I'm I'm losing
the words today. It's a very,
684
00:49:22.969 --> 00:49:25.639
like hard job to be a parent. You know, when I go and
685
00:49:25.719 --> 00:49:30.480
nanny the kids that I nanny,
I'm so tired by the end because I
686
00:49:30.760 --> 00:49:34.679
you're constantly doing things you like constantly
have to be paying attention to them.
687
00:49:35.239 --> 00:49:38.190
You you know, have to make
sure they're entertained and satisfied and that they
688
00:49:38.269 --> 00:49:42.070
eat at the right times and you
have to pick up after them. So
689
00:49:42.269 --> 00:49:45.750
everything's days. Like it's hard to
take care of children and I don't think
690
00:49:45.750 --> 00:49:50.469
I ever want to do that.
Like that doesn't sound enjoyable to me or
691
00:49:50.710 --> 00:49:54.539
rewarding in any regard. Yeah,
and especially if you're like, I mean,
692
00:49:55.219 --> 00:49:59.659
a normal parent and you don't have
a nanny, like you know,
693
00:49:59.699 --> 00:50:02.340
you probably take your kids a daycare
or whatever, and then you work all
694
00:50:02.380 --> 00:50:06.500
day and then you pick up your
kids and go home and like entertain them
695
00:50:06.579 --> 00:50:07.730
for the rest of the night and
then you go to bed. Them dinner
696
00:50:08.090 --> 00:50:10.969
and then you entertain them and you
take them to bed and then you have
697
00:50:12.050 --> 00:50:15.289
to deal with bathtime or you know. There's just like I'm lazy, like
698
00:50:15.769 --> 00:50:19.329
I yeah, when I'm done with
the Work Day, I want to smoke
699
00:50:19.369 --> 00:50:22.920
a fuck ton of weed and not
think. Yeah, no thoughts. I
700
00:50:22.079 --> 00:50:25.559
literally just want to dissolve into the
floor. Yes, exactly, and I
701
00:50:25.639 --> 00:50:29.199
can't do that. When you've got
it a toddler. Yeah, when you
702
00:50:29.239 --> 00:50:31.519
have a toddler like Mimsy, love
of my life. I would, you
703
00:50:31.599 --> 00:50:36.349
know, kill. She's a cat
and I'd kill for her. Like I
704
00:50:37.349 --> 00:50:40.590
I sometimes get overwhelmed taking care of
her and I just can't imagine if that
705
00:50:40.710 --> 00:50:45.550
was a human being that I had
to take care of. Yeah, not
706
00:50:45.710 --> 00:50:50.820
at all. Yesterday, I nannied
yesterday and I drove. I went to
707
00:50:50.860 --> 00:50:53.539
go pick up this little girl from
her grandparents because she was staying there while
708
00:50:53.539 --> 00:50:57.860
her mom was on vacation, and
so we like met somewhere in Texas.
709
00:50:57.940 --> 00:51:00.900
It was like an hour outside of
here and I picked her up and I
710
00:51:00.940 --> 00:51:04.530
was driving her back in her IPAD
died almost immediately. So he had like
711
00:51:04.570 --> 00:51:08.409
an hour drive and she did not
stop talking the whole time and she kept
712
00:51:08.489 --> 00:51:10.449
being like, Michelley, look at
me, like, look at what I'm
713
00:51:10.449 --> 00:51:14.329
doing, and I'm like, I
cannot turn around, I'm driving a car.
714
00:51:15.250 --> 00:51:19.239
I'm sorry, like you know,
after the first time you should,
715
00:51:19.480 --> 00:51:23.239
but kids, kids are a lot
of work. But I will say that
716
00:51:23.400 --> 00:51:27.559
this is probably the easiest time to
raise a kid because you could just give
717
00:51:27.599 --> 00:51:30.320
them an IPAD. Yeah, but
like what's that doing to their development?
718
00:51:30.559 --> 00:51:35.070
Like you're probably, you know,
really fucking up your kids development if you're
719
00:51:35.150 --> 00:51:39.230
just relying on technology to yeah,
I like, we definitely had technology when
720
00:51:39.230 --> 00:51:43.750
we were kids, but it was
like leap frog and Barbie Laptop and shit
721
00:51:43.949 --> 00:51:46.219
like. Yeah, it was like
kind of inaccessible, you know. It
722
00:51:46.260 --> 00:51:49.539
wasn't like an ipad where we could
just take it to dinner. It was
723
00:51:49.659 --> 00:51:52.139
like on a big ASS computer.
Yeah, so you had to be in
724
00:51:52.260 --> 00:51:55.059
one room of the house in order
to play your games, and that was
725
00:51:55.179 --> 00:52:00.139
the most like that our parents could
do as far as like watch TV or
726
00:52:00.300 --> 00:52:04.250
sure, I get that, whereas
now it's like so easy and that's yeah,
727
00:52:04.289 --> 00:52:07.329
definitely that's going to be interesting to
see that generation grow up and see
728
00:52:07.329 --> 00:52:12.489
how they handle conflict and handle genuinely
anything. selfsoothing. Their only method of
729
00:52:12.530 --> 00:52:15.800
self soothing is getting on and IPAD. I'm just interested, okay, but
730
00:52:15.880 --> 00:52:20.400
I act like that isn't me too
like, yeah, that's true. No,
731
00:52:20.639 --> 00:52:23.079
I actually if I need to soothe
myself, I can't get on any
732
00:52:23.159 --> 00:52:27.159
social media because I'll get overwhelmed.
I'm like, there's too many people in
733
00:52:27.199 --> 00:52:31.469
the world. Music. Go lay
down, like we're not supposed to know
734
00:52:31.590 --> 00:52:35.429
as many people. That's a literally
what I think. I'm like, I'll
735
00:52:35.469 --> 00:52:37.949
get on Youtube, though. I'll
get on Youtube and I'll watch some like
736
00:52:37.429 --> 00:52:42.630
drama about whatever influencers do you oh
my God, like that Shit and the
737
00:52:42.750 --> 00:52:47.179
beauty youtuber. I'm obsessed with beauty
youtuber drama and I'm obsessed with Gabby Hannah
738
00:52:47.260 --> 00:52:51.739
in a bad way. I hope
I have watched I don't watch her videos,
739
00:52:51.780 --> 00:52:55.500
but I watched a lot of videos
about like, yeah, I am
740
00:52:55.579 --> 00:53:00.010
obsessed with keeping up with Gabby Hannah
because every at least every six months,
741
00:53:00.010 --> 00:53:04.369
there's going to be a new like
explosion of something that's her fault and I
742
00:53:04.570 --> 00:53:07.210
need to know every detail. Yeah, so, but, yeah, I
743
00:53:08.449 --> 00:53:12.730
don't know about marriage. I think
I would be fine with marriage. I
744
00:53:12.809 --> 00:53:15.639
think I would be okay with like
a life partner. We'd have to we
745
00:53:15.760 --> 00:53:19.679
have to date for a long time
beforehands like I think sure need to be
746
00:53:19.800 --> 00:53:23.320
absolutely certain that this is the person
if I was going to get married to
747
00:53:23.440 --> 00:53:27.630
them. And even then, I
feel like if we're just going through the
748
00:53:27.710 --> 00:53:30.389
motions of being married already, it's
kind of like, unless we want to
749
00:53:30.469 --> 00:53:32.869
have a wedding that badly, what's
the point? Yeah, it's also just
750
00:53:32.989 --> 00:53:37.590
like I think that this is probably
just my the fatalistic part of my brain.
751
00:53:37.710 --> 00:53:40.539
But I'm like, what if we
get married and then stopped loving each
752
00:53:40.579 --> 00:53:46.059
other and then, you know,
either we have an expensive divorce or we
753
00:53:46.300 --> 00:53:51.539
just stay together hating each other,
like you said your parents do. HMM.
754
00:53:51.739 --> 00:53:55.010
It's like, I that's a concern
I have too, but I also
755
00:53:55.329 --> 00:54:01.570
think that relationships aren't I just feel
like it's not as simple as like we
756
00:54:01.730 --> 00:54:06.250
just fell out of love, which
I mean, I'm I'm certain that happens,
757
00:54:06.289 --> 00:54:07.610
but I feel like, okay,
you fell out of love and there
758
00:54:07.650 --> 00:54:13.480
were also multiple other factors, you
know, like this person stopped try actually
759
00:54:13.760 --> 00:54:17.400
this. This is what really freaked
me out about marriage, because I still
760
00:54:17.400 --> 00:54:22.119
date men, which is embarrassing,
but they're the only ones who message me
761
00:54:22.199 --> 00:54:25.630
back on dating APPS. So it's
what we're going with. Take what you
762
00:54:25.670 --> 00:54:31.590
can get. But, Um,
I watch this video like analyze. It
763
00:54:31.670 --> 00:54:36.829
was called harnessing female rage and it
was about gone girl and I I've seen
764
00:54:36.909 --> 00:54:39.539
that video. It's good and it
was and it talked about social loafing,
765
00:54:39.619 --> 00:54:43.380
which is something men do a lot
when they get married, which is they
766
00:54:43.380 --> 00:54:47.019
are really great partners up until marriage
and then they're like cool, I can
767
00:54:47.099 --> 00:54:52.650
stop trying now and then it becomes
the woman man's responsibility to maintain that relationship
768
00:54:53.010 --> 00:54:59.690
among everything else, you know,
and that's something that's super common. Yeah,
769
00:54:59.690 --> 00:55:02.130
I've seen that first hand, and
so I think that's the only thing,
770
00:55:02.210 --> 00:55:06.369
if I end up with a man, that would really, you know,
771
00:55:07.280 --> 00:55:10.960
I would make me hesitant about,
you know, marriage, because I
772
00:55:12.119 --> 00:55:15.360
don't trust men to not behave like
children after a certain amount of time if
773
00:55:15.400 --> 00:55:21.079
a woman is taking care of them
right. And also, regarding gone girl
774
00:55:21.949 --> 00:55:24.869
and this house, we believe a
me done was justified amy. She did
775
00:55:25.030 --> 00:55:29.590
nothing, absolutely she did nothing wrong. Literally. I it's funny because I
776
00:55:30.190 --> 00:55:31.269
think that movie came out like two
thousand and fourteen, so I was like
777
00:55:31.349 --> 00:55:36.619
fourteen or fifteen, and I remember
seeing out at the time and, you
778
00:55:36.739 --> 00:55:39.980
know, I guess I just had
a lot of internalized misogyny and stuff and
779
00:55:40.019 --> 00:55:45.059
I was like she's fucking crazy,
like what the fuck, but then watching
780
00:55:45.059 --> 00:55:47.539
it again at like nineteen, I
was like no, she's such a girl
781
00:55:47.619 --> 00:55:52.610
boss, she's such a girl boss, like she was so right for that,
782
00:55:52.769 --> 00:55:57.610
because Ben Affleck was so shitty.
He was cheating on her and also
783
00:55:57.730 --> 00:56:01.130
not doing anything to salvage the marriage, like not at all. She sacrifice
784
00:56:01.210 --> 00:56:05.679
so much for him and he was
like well, you could sacrifice more,
785
00:56:06.079 --> 00:56:09.880
you know. But on top of
that, like I, I, I
786
00:56:10.000 --> 00:56:14.599
think it's fine to defend amy because
she's a villain. Like that's the point.
787
00:56:14.679 --> 00:56:16.719
She's supposed to be a villain,
right. We see male villains all
788
00:56:16.800 --> 00:56:20.630
the time and you're allowed to like
male Llans, but as soon as like
789
00:56:21.030 --> 00:56:23.710
a female villain emerges and does like
the what the video was saying is like
790
00:56:23.829 --> 00:56:28.909
everything she does is so purely feminine, you know, like only women have
791
00:56:29.150 --> 00:56:35.460
that kind of like patience and emotional
control to not come across as hysterical when
792
00:56:35.460 --> 00:56:40.340
they do become emotional, you know, and so seeing that utilized against a
793
00:56:40.420 --> 00:56:45.099
man really freaks people out, I
think. But I don't know, I
794
00:56:45.300 --> 00:56:50.250
like her as a villain. She's
really smart. She Killed Neil Patrick Harris
795
00:56:50.289 --> 00:56:53.690
spoilers. She's hot. She's hot, I because of gone girl. I'll
796
00:56:53.690 --> 00:56:57.369
watch anything. Rosamond Pike, is
it? Yeah, how she was in
797
00:56:57.489 --> 00:57:01.320
that like Lesbian Netflix movie that I
did it really care for, but I
798
00:57:01.519 --> 00:57:06.000
saw that it was a roller coaster. Yeah, like it was good and
799
00:57:06.079 --> 00:57:07.960
then it was confusing and then it
was bad and then it was good.
800
00:57:08.519 --> 00:57:13.400
That's how I felt. Yeah,
I just like, obviously, in the
801
00:57:13.440 --> 00:57:15.789
same way that you'll watch anything Rosemond
Pike is and I'll watch anything that's lesbian
802
00:57:15.949 --> 00:57:21.590
just for like a Chromam of representation. But everything is bad. Oh my
803
00:57:21.789 --> 00:57:24.550
God, yeah, I know that's
absolutely true. They'll just kill you off.
804
00:57:24.909 --> 00:57:31.340
Yeah, absolutely. Or like the
only really the only like explicitly lesbian
805
00:57:31.380 --> 00:57:35.340
show is the l word, and
it's so bad. Jackie and I watched
806
00:57:35.340 --> 00:57:37.019
all of that. You want a
couple, all of it. There's like
807
00:57:37.139 --> 00:57:40.260
six seasons and it's really bad,
but it's a really good hate watch.
808
00:57:40.500 --> 00:57:45.329
But there's a reboot of it now. I saw that generation Q. that's
809
00:57:45.369 --> 00:57:50.849
also getting pretty bad, like the
new gossip girl. I've heard is like
810
00:57:51.010 --> 00:57:52.610
Oh my God. Yeah, I
watched a little bit of that and I
811
00:57:52.809 --> 00:57:58.289
was like no, I can't do
this. Yeah, it just I people
812
00:57:58.329 --> 00:58:04.320
are trying so hard to market to
gen Z by having like shallow representation of
813
00:58:04.679 --> 00:58:10.039
different demographics and like making their content
more like socially woke. But the whole
814
00:58:10.360 --> 00:58:15.269
point of gossip girl is is a
fantasy of these rich people doing stupid things
815
00:58:15.309 --> 00:58:17.389
and never learning from it. Because
I so rich, there's no consequence,
816
00:58:17.389 --> 00:58:21.630
and I also don't think that anyone
was asking for gossip girl to be more
817
00:58:21.670 --> 00:58:24.070
progress progressive. I didn't. I
don't want to progressive. Guy Didn't really.
818
00:58:24.110 --> 00:58:28.099
I didn't see the original gossip girl. But, like, I feel
819
00:58:28.139 --> 00:58:30.780
like a lot of it is just
escapism. You know, it's exactly what
820
00:58:30.820 --> 00:58:35.860
it is. Yeah, I think
we're also in that weird gap between Gen
821
00:58:35.860 --> 00:58:39.579
Z and millennial to like obviously on
the side of millennials. We're not gonna,
822
00:58:40.139 --> 00:58:44.250
you know, fall for like Harry
Potter and friends. God, no,
823
00:58:44.570 --> 00:58:47.289
and you know, but then millennial
or Gen Z. whenever I was
824
00:58:47.289 --> 00:58:51.809
watching the gossip girl reboot, it's
all about like instagram likes, and I'm
825
00:58:51.849 --> 00:58:54.449
like, I don't think anyone my
age gives a talk about that. Yeah,
826
00:58:54.960 --> 00:58:58.800
like, at least not in the
real world. No, people genuinely
827
00:58:58.840 --> 00:59:01.239
have no idea how to market gens. Yeah, at all. And it's
828
00:59:01.320 --> 00:59:06.079
very funny to be in that little
gap between the annuals and Gen Z and
829
00:59:06.400 --> 00:59:09.150
and kind of have an outside perspective
of Oh, you, you are so
830
00:59:09.269 --> 00:59:13.590
dumb. Yeah, you don't know
anything. This is, this is,
831
00:59:14.070 --> 00:59:16.309
Oh my God, I don't know
what happened. I think I glitch.
832
00:59:17.510 --> 00:59:23.150
This is definitely our most like off
topic episode. I know this is fully
833
00:59:23.190 --> 00:59:29.019
a stream of consciousness because we I
think, as the weeks go by,
834
00:59:29.139 --> 00:59:32.739
we're like preparing less and less,
which is good and bad. But yeah,
835
00:59:32.940 --> 00:59:36.300
well, I feel like with this
one in particular, because we haven't
836
00:59:36.300 --> 00:59:37.730
had an episode of just the two
of US right. That's true. So
837
00:59:37.809 --> 00:59:42.130
we were like we'll get in there, we have great chemistry, will chat,
838
00:59:42.409 --> 00:59:45.289
it'll be good. So we don't
really think of any topics. Yeah,
839
00:59:45.489 --> 00:59:47.570
like that hard. And so,
yeah, I think our episodes were
840
00:59:47.570 --> 00:59:51.489
we have guests are a little bit
more put together because we already know what
841
00:59:51.610 --> 00:59:53.679
we're going to say going into it
and it also takes the pressure off of
842
00:59:53.760 --> 00:59:59.599
us to be entertaining for an hour
through ask questions. It's true, related
843
00:59:59.639 --> 00:60:02.400
to the topics. Okay, but
speaking of like one of our guest episodes,
844
00:60:02.480 --> 00:60:05.800
whenever you said you were going to
Grill Jackie on dating me, I
845
00:60:05.840 --> 00:60:07.550
thought it would be a lot worse, but it really was pretty mild.
846
00:60:07.550 --> 00:60:12.190
I yeah, I mean, I
know you said that I could be like
847
00:60:12.670 --> 00:60:15.110
more aggressive with it, but I
that was my second time meeting Jackie's yeah,
848
00:60:15.190 --> 00:60:20.550
really was not, like it's like
I don't want to scare her,
849
00:60:20.869 --> 00:60:24.699
like make the whole situation super weird. So okay, that's valid. Maybe
850
00:60:24.739 --> 00:60:27.900
if I knew Jackie a little bit
more. Also, I think if I
851
00:60:27.900 --> 00:60:30.900
knew Jackie better it would be easier
for me to ask questions too, because
852
00:60:30.900 --> 00:60:32.820
I would already have an understanding of, like right, how she thinks.
853
00:60:32.860 --> 00:60:37.769
Yeah, so if you were disappointed
by that, sorry, no, I'll
854
00:60:37.809 --> 00:60:40.329
just have to have her back.
Oh, a hundred percent, and you
855
00:60:40.409 --> 00:60:45.210
can grill her harder. Yes,
yes, I love that. I would
856
00:60:45.210 --> 00:60:47.530
love that. I found out she's
from Jersey shore, Jersey Shore, well,
857
00:60:47.610 --> 00:60:53.559
Jersey village. I was like,
no, she's not, Jersey Village,
858
00:60:53.960 --> 00:61:00.440
Texas Jackie is actually snooky Jack Mmm
I. But I don't know who
859
00:61:00.440 --> 00:61:05.429
else she would be in that show. HMM. I feel like she's like
860
00:61:05.789 --> 00:61:07.909
pretty, not like conflict avoided,
but she's not going to start drama.
861
00:61:08.030 --> 00:61:14.349
So yeah, she's probably more of
like a like a Dina or like she's
862
00:61:14.389 --> 00:61:16.550
yeah, she's very like relaxed,
and I feel nobody on that show is
863
00:61:16.590 --> 00:61:20.820
real through. I feel like Dina
created the least drama, though. So
864
00:61:21.019 --> 00:61:27.019
yeah, that's what we'll say.
Yeah, I would be. WHO WOULD
865
00:61:27.019 --> 00:61:30.900
YOU BE? I could be J
wow. Okay, then I guess I'll
866
00:61:30.900 --> 00:61:32.809
be snooky. Oh Look, how
Q, I don't think I actually have
867
00:61:32.969 --> 00:61:39.010
snoky personality, but I have.
I actually wasn't allowed to watch a Jersey
868
00:61:39.050 --> 00:61:43.130
shore as a kid, really,
but I don't really have any context.
869
00:61:43.289 --> 00:61:45.809
Besides, like my mom watched e
news every night, so like whatever she
870
00:61:45.889 --> 00:61:50.000
did on e News, I knew
about her. And I did see one
871
00:61:50.039 --> 00:61:52.800
interview with her where she was talking
about wanting to get a boob job because
872
00:61:52.800 --> 00:61:55.400
when she lays down, her boobs
like go to the side. I do
873
00:61:55.559 --> 00:62:01.550
too, like gravity, and I
was like interesting, weird, like God
874
00:62:01.590 --> 00:62:06.510
speaking. Like, on the note
of kids, I've I think I'd also
875
00:62:06.510 --> 00:62:10.429
be a horrible mom because I would
probably like let my kids watch anything because
876
00:62:10.550 --> 00:62:16.699
I I had fully on supervised Internet
access from a young age. Would certainly
877
00:62:16.780 --> 00:62:22.619
gave me brain damage. Dang.
Yeah, my I was the fourth kid,
878
00:62:22.900 --> 00:62:25.820
so by that point, like it
was kind of different because I was
879
00:62:25.900 --> 00:62:30.530
my mom's fourth kid, but I
was my dad's like first, you know,
880
00:62:31.010 --> 00:62:35.610
born child. Yeah, because he
was a Stepdad to my three siblings,
881
00:62:35.650 --> 00:62:39.409
because they're half siblings. But yeah, like, especially with my mom,
882
00:62:39.530 --> 00:62:45.199
like she was hitting the fuck.
She was like I've already raised three
883
00:62:45.280 --> 00:62:49.960
kids like you can do whatever.
So I definitely was allowed to do a
884
00:62:50.000 --> 00:62:52.599
lot of stuff that like my siblings
couldn't do. I remember whenever I was
885
00:62:52.679 --> 00:62:58.710
a kid, my dad threw away
my oldest sister's Emm an MCD and wold
886
00:62:58.829 --> 00:63:04.110
let her listen to it. No, and she was very pissed. But
887
00:63:04.190 --> 00:63:07.670
yeah, I would probably just be
like just, you know, watch whatever
888
00:63:07.710 --> 00:63:09.630
you want. Yeah, it was
also like a lot of dumb shit that
889
00:63:10.789 --> 00:63:14.860
a lot of parents didn't let their
kids watch, like spongebob. Yeah,
890
00:63:14.860 --> 00:63:17.099
I wasn't allowed to watch I I
wasn't not allowed to watch spongebob, I
891
00:63:17.139 --> 00:63:21.380
just couldn't watch it if my dad
was home because he really hated it.
892
00:63:21.699 --> 00:63:23.699
So it couldn't be on the TV
of dad was home because it would get
893
00:63:23.699 --> 00:63:28.170
on his nerve. I don't like, I don't understand the logic behind not
894
00:63:28.329 --> 00:63:31.090
letting your kids watch spongebob. I
he didn't want US watching stupid television.
895
00:63:31.090 --> 00:63:35.889
We weren't allowed to watch the teletubbies
because they wouldn't speak proper words and we
896
00:63:36.010 --> 00:63:39.969
weren't allowed to watch drake and Josh
because it was too misogynistic. I was
897
00:63:40.010 --> 00:63:43.760
kind of progressive of them actually.
I know, I feel like I had
898
00:63:43.840 --> 00:63:46.760
something. Oh, I was allowed
to watch punch, like I was allowed
899
00:63:46.760 --> 00:63:51.800
to watch Punchbob, but I remember
when I was even past the age of
900
00:63:51.840 --> 00:63:54.679
watching spongebob. Was probably like eleven
or twelve, and my grandma was telling
901
00:63:54.710 --> 00:63:59.110
me that, like she heard on
the news that spongebob was giving kids seizures
902
00:63:59.949 --> 00:64:01.630
and I was like Os, yeah, probably Fox. I'm like, I
903
00:64:01.710 --> 00:64:05.150
don't know that that's true, but
now I want to watch it. You
904
00:64:05.230 --> 00:64:10.260
know what part of Spongebob is giving
you with Tezer, like, like can't
905
00:64:10.380 --> 00:64:15.739
your body deal with I'm like,
I don't even remember. They're being like
906
00:64:15.059 --> 00:64:20.699
flashing lights or anything on Spongebob.
I don't know. But yeah, I
907
00:64:21.019 --> 00:64:29.369
am just in conclusion. Marriage and
kids are a lot and I've already got
908
00:64:29.409 --> 00:64:31.090
a lot going on right now.
Yeah, yeah, I think what we
909
00:64:31.570 --> 00:64:35.530
what we came to through this conversation, is neither of us are ready for
910
00:64:35.730 --> 00:64:40.599
either of those things. No,
and so, while and then have opinions
911
00:64:40.639 --> 00:64:44.159
on them, it doesn't really matter. Yeah, it's okay for us to
912
00:64:44.320 --> 00:64:46.599
not be ready because we're twenty one
and twenty three. Yeah, exactly.
913
00:64:46.920 --> 00:64:50.280
I don't want. I I'm glad
I have this time in my life to
914
00:64:50.400 --> 00:64:54.710
be single and experience being on my
own. Yeah, you know, and
915
00:64:55.510 --> 00:64:58.389
not. I'm glad I'm not married
with kids right now. Oh, no,
916
00:64:58.789 --> 00:65:01.949
like very glad. Yeah, I
like, I don't know a lot
917
00:65:01.949 --> 00:65:05.389
of people I went to high school
with are married and or have kids,
918
00:65:05.429 --> 00:65:09.940
and I'm like yeah, same,
I think I would live my that's really
919
00:65:09.980 --> 00:65:14.179
solve these Texas culture? I think
it is. Absolutely most of my friends
920
00:65:14.219 --> 00:65:16.699
got mutton friends, but most people
I know got married right out of college.
921
00:65:16.699 --> 00:65:19.659
So I have a lot of friends
that are married now and then some
922
00:65:19.780 --> 00:65:24.130
of them just started having a family, like right after high school they got
923
00:65:24.170 --> 00:65:27.570
married and started having kids, and
it's like okay, yeah, like good
924
00:65:27.610 --> 00:65:30.929
for you, but not couldn't be
me. Yeah, for me, I
925
00:65:30.090 --> 00:65:33.250
wouldn't ever do that. No,
all right. Well, we're at an
926
00:65:33.329 --> 00:65:35.920
hour right now. I don't know
how the how we talked for so long.
927
00:65:35.920 --> 00:65:39.480
I don't know if we made any
points or not. I'd feel like
928
00:65:39.599 --> 00:65:43.400
we probably did it. You don't
listen to head on for discourse. You'd
929
00:65:43.440 --> 00:65:45.920
done. You listen to hit on
so you don't have to think. Exactly,
930
00:65:46.119 --> 00:65:48.280
my God, we do hit on
so we don't have to think.
931
00:65:48.440 --> 00:65:53.630
I forgot. I made an chlist
of the last several guys that I talked
932
00:65:53.670 --> 00:65:56.829
to. So we should read that
on another God. Yes, should we?
933
00:65:56.949 --> 00:65:59.710
Okay, we need to do an
open letter, so let me write
934
00:65:59.710 --> 00:66:01.070
one really, really quick. I
totally forgot. That's how we end this
935
00:66:01.150 --> 00:66:06.940
show, an open letter to sapiosexuals. Literally, shut the fuck up,
936
00:66:06.980 --> 00:66:15.579
hit on. I got all right, we'll see y'all next time. Next
937
00:66:15.579 --> 00:66:19.170
time, yeah, next week,
next month, who knows? Next year?
938
00:66:19.329 --> 00:66:23.289
We don't have a we have no
schedule. Yeah, just do this.
939
00:66:23.849 --> 00:66:24.050
We just
