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Welcome to her comeback and boy do I have something
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special for you today. I'm so excited. This is
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a bonus episode and it's a little different from
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our usual format. What we're going to hear is
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footage from a live talk I gave last week at
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a women's networking event that I co -hosted.
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So I brought the mic and the message and honestly
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the energy in the room was everything. It was
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a really wonderful time with some wonderful people.
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The talk is about dreams delayed, not denied,
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and it pulls directly from chapter three in my
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book, Courageously You, Seven Simple Frameworks
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to Create the Life You Love. If you've been curious
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what the book is about, consider this a first
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real taste of it. And speaking of the book, this
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is another reason that I'm so excited. I've been
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waiting to say this. Courageously U officially
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launches June 25th. It will be available for
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purchase on Amazon. And I could not be more excited
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to finally get this book into your hands. So
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settle in, listen to the talk in the room with
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me. And when it's over, ask yourself the question
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that I close with. It might just be the most
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important one you sit with all week. Here we
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go. So it was intentional that I ask you about
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your dreams as an icebreaker. I want to talk
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a little bit more about that. And you have some
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pretty powerful, amazing dreams, some of the
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things that you guys are thinking about. And
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I love that. Did you notice that a lot of us,
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myself included, a little bit whiter, maybe a
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little bit tentative about the dream? It's that
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feeling of giving ourselves permission to have
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it. permission to do it. And I am that same space.
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I do have the permission to step into this space
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and take whatever action in that direction where
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I want to go. But sometimes with dreams, here's
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the thing, they don't always just show up on
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a silver platter. You want a free car? You want
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the lottery? No. At least in my experience, I
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haven't had any nice dreams like that show up
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on a silver platter. My dream... A big one that
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I had, and I talk about this in my book, Courageously
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You, in one of my chapters. It's devoted to dreams.
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And the big one that I had was living at the
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beach, believe it or not. So I'll just tell you
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a little bit about my story and then I'll talk
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more about you. The way I knew you in my late
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20s, I was married at the time. I had my first
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son. We were able to move, I was with Anne in
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North Carolina, and we were able to move from
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the middle of the state in North Carolina to
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the coast. This little town called Southport,
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North Carolina. Beautiful town. Loved it. As
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soon as I got there, it was something, the air,
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the feel. It was just like, it felt like I was
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home. And I had never felt that way. Living somewhere
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just helped, just loving the place so much and
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just felt like it was me. So I knew then that...
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This is where I'm staying. I'm not going anywhere
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else. This is me. So life happens. I ended up
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getting a divorce from the boy's dad. And then
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there was another marriage that happened that
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ended up ending abruptly. But that second marriage.
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did take me away from the coast. Actually, by
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the way, I was in Shenandoah Valley, Virginia
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for a short period of time, and was willing to
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do it at the time for this marriage that I had
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entered into. When that ended, I was a single
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mom again, two boys, and I had to go where I
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had the support, right? As much as I wanted to
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go right back to the Wilmington area of North
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Carolina, it's just like... family was back in
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Greensboro like right in the center of the state
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and their father was there so it just didn't
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make sense so went and there I was stayed in
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Greensboro for the next 15 years so here I am
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and I'm just like I really want to get back to
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the beach and I knew that there just wasn't a
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way to get there but this 15 year period about
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halfway through it was in 2012 I had an opportunity
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that I thought I was about to get a big break
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I had applied for a job at the hospital. I was
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doing project management and health care at the
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time for the hospital in Wilmington where I had
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worked previously before, before I had moved.
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I applied for it, got the job. I was ecstatic.
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Me and the boys will move to Wilmington. They're
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just like three hour drive from their dad and
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everybody here, but I thought that it was going
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to work out. I talked to their father. Anyway,
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everything's lined up, have my apartment where
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I'm going to move in. And then the day, the Friday
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before, I'm supposed to start on Monday, the
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Friday before I got a call from the HR guy at
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the hospital. And he said, Michelle, I've got
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a little problem here. I've been going over some
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stuff in your paperwork. And yeah, we feel that
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there was like a DWI that you had 20 years ago
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that happened in 1991. And I'm like, yeah, that
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happened 20 years ago. You didn't disclose that.
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And because she didn't disclose that, really
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sending the job off. And so just like that, just
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like that, the job in Wilmington was gone. I
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was devastated, devastated. So here it goes.
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And I had already quit my other job, the whole
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nine yards. Anyway, so here is like having brains
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for all it is. So it was my opportunity to go
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back to the coach and there it is gone. It was
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really hard to get through that period because
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I did go through some rough times. But with support
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and friends and mentors, I got through it. And
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what happened after that door closed? It was
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that next year, my parents started coming down
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here to Southwest Florida. They became snowbirds
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where they rented a place for a couple of months
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and would stay. I had an aunt and uncle that
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lived down here, so family was in the area. And
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so we started coming down and they were cheering.
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This is awesome because what's great about this
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place is because if you don't have the Colts,
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be in North Carolina, you can be at the coast,
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but you still have all the weather. Yeah, down
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here, it's beautiful. It's paradise and we don't
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have bad weather. It was like, oh, this is my
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dream. This is elevated. This is better. So,
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Southwest Florida became my new place and it's
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okay. The boys, they've got to get out of school.
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So I know I can't go anywhere if the boys get
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out of school. And then after that, where am
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I going to find a job? How will I find a job
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in Southwest Florida? So like I had this whole
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thing of all these other things that hadn't happened
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before I could get down here. OK, fast forward.
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2020. COVID hits. 2020 also happens to be the
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year that my youngest son graduated from high
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school. Now there was a period of time where
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I wasn't sure if he was going to go to college
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right away or what he was going to do. So that
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was always iffy by where that was going to land.
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I was also in a relationship with a boyfriend
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and I was like, okay, either we're going to move
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in together or this isn't going to work. It was
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going to go one way or the other. I wasn't sure
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which way. And then by June, my son had decided,
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yes, I am going to go to college in August. The
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relationship did not work out. They bite it and
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it did not work out. I'm working from home because
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of COVID and like, all right, everything around
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me just cleared out. And I'm like, I'm going
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to Southwest Florida. And I knew, okay, at some
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point they're gonna call us back into the office.
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I did have to go back and forth into an office,
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but. I told myself, you know what, I'm going
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and I'll figure it out. When they tell me that
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I gotta go back into an office, it's me, I'll
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have to quit and I'll find something else. It's
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that whole saying of something about flying,
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you build your wings on the way down, I don't
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know. But that's exactly what I did though. I
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took off and just figured I'll figure it out
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once I need to figure it out. And so here I am.
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I came down and it has been the most amazing
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thing. It is truly living my dream. I had to
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wait 15 years and there was an exhibit in there.
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where I thought I wanted to be in North Carolina,
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but no, really getting down here. And to me,
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it's just, I love it. And I feel so blessed to
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be able to be here today. And the interesting
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thing about the job is I actually kept that job
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for four years. I continued to work remotely
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for four years until the year and a half, two
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years ago when I now launched my own business
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as a life coach and author and podcaster and
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building my own brand. So that's a little bit
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about my story. Now you have a story too. You
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have a dream yourself that maybe the fear that's
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holding you back and maybe it's been the kids
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or the marriage or the relationship or the job
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or whatever. You have your reasons as well that
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have kept you where you are. So what is it today
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that continues to hold you back? Now's the time.
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Author of Holly Lyle. She said, if you have dreams
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to pursue, now's the time to do it. The only
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thing you're gonna lose is the time you do making
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the excuses. And it's so true. And think about
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the cost of sitting on that dream. Mark Plain
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said, 21 years from now, you're gonna be more
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disappointed by the things you didn't do than
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by the things you did. So think about the cost,
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the regret. Regret is far more painful than failure.
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And the thing about failure, if it is a failure,
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you learn. You try to, you did what you could
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do and you learned from it. And maybe that failure
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also can be the pivot. It was a huge failure
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for me. I thought I was gonna move into Wilmington
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and had a new job. That was a pretty big deal.
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But no, that failure was really a redirection
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to something better that I had to wait for. And
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that whole time in the middle. It was just preparing
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me. Things had to happen. There were other things
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that needed to come into place before I was prepared
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and ready to do and be where I am today. So on
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for you, I have surrounded the framework. It's
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what I have also in this chapter of the book.
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And this is what you can do in looking at your
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group. As you look at the framework, what is
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it that you desire deeply? What is the cause
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to your soul? And then the resilience, how do
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you rebuild? What's the doorstep? There are going
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to be things that may happen along the way, but
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that's not going to work out. Having that resilience
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to pivot and just rebuild and see where are there
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other opportunities? Where are there other ways
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to go about it? Embracing the way. Hopefully,
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maybe yours is not going to be 15 years. You
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know, I don't wish that on anybody. Hopefully,
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there's not a really long waiting period. But
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whatever that looks like. Knowing that the way
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is it's beyond your control and it's okay and
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whatever happens in that process, it's just going
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to prepare you for what happens next. Adapting,
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staying flexible. Again, talked about that. And
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then when you get the opportunity, take it. Move
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boldly. Figure it out. The door's open. The opportunity's
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there. Just go. Get into it. It's so important.
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So what is it? One small action. that you guys
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could do today, either with the dream you shared,
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or maybe there's another dream that you didn't
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want to share. What is one action that you could
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take today that would just be a step in that
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direction? What have you been postponing? What
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have you been putting aside? Know that you're
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worth it. I look at my book as a permission slip.
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I wrote it for you to give yourself the permission
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to pursue all that you're capable of. And whatever
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that looks like, whatever form that takes for
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you, you're here tonight and this is your first
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step. Commit to taking that action in the direction
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of your dream. You'll be glad you did. I really
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appreciate you guys listening to me and I hope
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that you can take something away with the framework
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and use that as you leave from here tonight.
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So thank you. I hope that something landed for
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you today because you were meant to hear it.
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Now, if that conversation stirred something in
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you, I just can't wait until you get your hands
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on the full book, Courageously You. We go deeper
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into every single one of those frameworks with
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stories and reflection questions and tools to
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actually do the work, not just be inspired by
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it. Here's what I need you to do right now while
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it's fresh. Go to the link in the notes, Her
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Comeback, sign up for the updates, hercomebackpodcast
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starting June 25th. Set a reminder, mark it on
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your calendar, and tell a friend who needs this
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information as much as you do. Thank you for
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being part of this community. Thank you for showing
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up here week after week. It's exactly the kind
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of courage this book is talking about. Keep coming
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back. Your comeback is happening. Until next
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time, I'm Michelle Thompson, and this is her
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comeback.
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Welcome to her comeback and boy do I have something
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special for you today. I'm so excited. This is
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a bonus episode and it's a little different from
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our usual format. What we're going to hear is
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footage from a live talk I gave last week at
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a women's networking event that I co -hosted.
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So I brought the mic and the message and honestly
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the energy in the room was everything. It was
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a really wonderful time with some wonderful people.
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The talk is about dreams delayed, not denied,
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and it pulls directly from chapter three in my
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book, Courageously You, Seven Simple Frameworks
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to Create the Life You Love. If you've been curious
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what the book is about, consider this a first
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real taste of it. And speaking of the book, this
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is another reason that I'm so excited. I've been
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waiting to say this. Courageously U officially
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launches June 25th. It will be available for
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purchase on Amazon. And I could not be more excited
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to finally get this book into your hands. So
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settle in, listen to the talk in the room with
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me. And when it's over, ask yourself the question
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that I close with. It might just be the most
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important one you sit with all week. Here we
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go. So it was intentional that I ask you about
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your dreams as an icebreaker. I want to talk
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a little bit more about that. And you have some
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pretty powerful, amazing dreams, some of the
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things that you guys are thinking about. And
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I love that. Did you notice that a lot of us,
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myself included, a little bit whiter, maybe a
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little bit tentative about the dream? It's that
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feeling of giving ourselves permission to have
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it. permission to do it. And I am that same space.
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I do have the permission to step into this space
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and take whatever action in that direction where
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I want to go. But sometimes with dreams, here's
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the thing, they don't always just show up on
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a silver platter. You want a free car? You want
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the lottery? No. At least in my experience, I
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haven't had any nice dreams like that show up
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on a silver platter. My dream... A big one that
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I had, and I talk about this in my book, Courageously
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You, in one of my chapters. It's devoted to dreams.
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And the big one that I had was living at the
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beach, believe it or not. So I'll just tell you
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a little bit about my story and then I'll talk
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more about you. The way I knew you in my late
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20s, I was married at the time. I had my first
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son. We were able to move, I was with Anne in
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North Carolina, and we were able to move from
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the middle of the state in North Carolina to
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the coast. This little town called Southport,
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North Carolina. Beautiful town. Loved it. As
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soon as I got there, it was something, the air,
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the feel. It was just like, it felt like I was
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home. And I had never felt that way. Living somewhere
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just helped, just loving the place so much and
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just felt like it was me. So I knew then that...
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This is where I'm staying. I'm not going anywhere
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else. This is me. So life happens. I ended up
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getting a divorce from the boy's dad. And then
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there was another marriage that happened that
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ended up ending abruptly. But that second marriage.
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did take me away from the coast. Actually, by
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the way, I was in Shenandoah Valley, Virginia
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for a short period of time, and was willing to
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do it at the time for this marriage that I had
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entered into. When that ended, I was a single
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mom again, two boys, and I had to go where I
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had the support, right? As much as I wanted to
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go right back to the Wilmington area of North
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Carolina, it's just like... family was back in
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Greensboro like right in the center of the state
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and their father was there so it just didn't
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make sense so went and there I was stayed in
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Greensboro for the next 15 years so here I am
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and I'm just like I really want to get back to
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the beach and I knew that there just wasn't a
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way to get there but this 15 year period about
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halfway through it was in 2012 I had an opportunity
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that I thought I was about to get a big break
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I had applied for a job at the hospital. I was
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doing project management and health care at the
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time for the hospital in Wilmington where I had
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worked previously before, before I had moved.
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I applied for it, got the job. I was ecstatic.
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Me and the boys will move to Wilmington. They're
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just like three hour drive from their dad and
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everybody here, but I thought that it was going
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to work out. I talked to their father. Anyway,
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everything's lined up, have my apartment where
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I'm going to move in. And then the day, the Friday
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before, I'm supposed to start on Monday, the
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Friday before I got a call from the HR guy at
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the hospital. And he said, Michelle, I've got
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a little problem here. I've been going over some
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stuff in your paperwork. And yeah, we feel that
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there was like a DWI that you had 20 years ago
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that happened in 1991. And I'm like, yeah, that
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happened 20 years ago. You didn't disclose that.
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And because she didn't disclose that, really
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sending the job off. And so just like that, just
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like that, the job in Wilmington was gone. I
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was devastated, devastated. So here it goes.
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And I had already quit my other job, the whole
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nine yards. Anyway, so here is like having brains
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for all it is. So it was my opportunity to go
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back to the coach and there it is gone. It was
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really hard to get through that period because
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I did go through some rough times. But with support
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and friends and mentors, I got through it. And
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what happened after that door closed? It was
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that next year, my parents started coming down
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here to Southwest Florida. They became snowbirds
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where they rented a place for a couple of months
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and would stay. I had an aunt and uncle that
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lived down here, so family was in the area. And
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so we started coming down and they were cheering.
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This is awesome because what's great about this
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place is because if you don't have the Colts,
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be in North Carolina, you can be at the coast,
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but you still have all the weather. Yeah, down
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here, it's beautiful. It's paradise and we don't
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have bad weather. It was like, oh, this is my
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dream. This is elevated. This is better. So,
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Southwest Florida became my new place and it's
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okay. The boys, they've got to get out of school.
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So I know I can't go anywhere if the boys get
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out of school. And then after that, where am
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I going to find a job? How will I find a job
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in Southwest Florida? So like I had this whole
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thing of all these other things that hadn't happened
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before I could get down here. OK, fast forward.
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2020. COVID hits. 2020 also happens to be the
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year that my youngest son graduated from high
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school. Now there was a period of time where
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I wasn't sure if he was going to go to college
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right away or what he was going to do. So that
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was always iffy by where that was going to land.
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I was also in a relationship with a boyfriend
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and I was like, okay, either we're going to move
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in together or this isn't going to work. It was
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going to go one way or the other. I wasn't sure
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which way. And then by June, my son had decided,
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yes, I am going to go to college in August. The
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relationship did not work out. They bite it and
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it did not work out. I'm working from home because
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of COVID and like, all right, everything around
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me just cleared out. And I'm like, I'm going
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to Southwest Florida. And I knew, okay, at some
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point they're gonna call us back into the office.
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I did have to go back and forth into an office,
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but. I told myself, you know what, I'm going
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and I'll figure it out. When they tell me that
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I gotta go back into an office, it's me, I'll
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have to quit and I'll find something else. It's
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that whole saying of something about flying,
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you build your wings on the way down, I don't
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know. But that's exactly what I did though. I
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took off and just figured I'll figure it out
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once I need to figure it out. And so here I am.
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I came down and it has been the most amazing
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thing. It is truly living my dream. I had to
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wait 15 years and there was an exhibit in there.
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where I thought I wanted to be in North Carolina,
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but no, really getting down here. And to me,
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it's just, I love it. And I feel so blessed to
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be able to be here today. And the interesting
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thing about the job is I actually kept that job
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for four years. I continued to work remotely
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for four years until the year and a half, two
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years ago when I now launched my own business
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as a life coach and author and podcaster and
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building my own brand. So that's a little bit
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about my story. Now you have a story too. You
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have a dream yourself that maybe the fear that's
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holding you back and maybe it's been the kids
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or the marriage or the relationship or the job
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or whatever. You have your reasons as well that
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have kept you where you are. So what is it today
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that continues to hold you back? Now's the time.
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Author of Holly Lyle. She said, if you have dreams
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to pursue, now's the time to do it. The only
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thing you're gonna lose is the time you do making
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the excuses. And it's so true. And think about
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the cost of sitting on that dream. Mark Plain
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said, 21 years from now, you're gonna be more
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disappointed by the things you didn't do than
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by the things you did. So think about the cost,
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the regret. Regret is far more painful than failure.
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And the thing about failure, if it is a failure,
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you learn. You try to, you did what you could
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do and you learned from it. And maybe that failure
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also can be the pivot. It was a huge failure
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for me. I thought I was gonna move into Wilmington
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and had a new job. That was a pretty big deal.
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But no, that failure was really a redirection
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to something better that I had to wait for. And
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that whole time in the middle. It was just preparing
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me. Things had to happen. There were other things
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that needed to come into place before I was prepared
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and ready to do and be where I am today. So on
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for you, I have surrounded the framework. It's
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what I have also in this chapter of the book.
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And this is what you can do in looking at your
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group. As you look at the framework, what is
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it that you desire deeply? What is the cause
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to your soul? And then the resilience, how do
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you rebuild? What's the doorstep? There are going
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to be things that may happen along the way, but
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that's not going to work out. Having that resilience
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to pivot and just rebuild and see where are there
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other opportunities? Where are there other ways
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to go about it? Embracing the way. Hopefully,
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maybe yours is not going to be 15 years. You
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know, I don't wish that on anybody. Hopefully,
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there's not a really long waiting period. But
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whatever that looks like. Knowing that the way
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is it's beyond your control and it's okay and
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whatever happens in that process, it's just going
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to prepare you for what happens next. Adapting,
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staying flexible. Again, talked about that. And
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then when you get the opportunity, take it. Move
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boldly. Figure it out. The door's open. The opportunity's
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there. Just go. Get into it. It's so important.
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So what is it? One small action. that you guys
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could do today, either with the dream you shared,
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or maybe there's another dream that you didn't
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want to share. What is one action that you could
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take today that would just be a step in that
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direction? What have you been postponing? What
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have you been putting aside? Know that you're
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worth it. I look at my book as a permission slip.
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I wrote it for you to give yourself the permission
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to pursue all that you're capable of. And whatever
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that looks like, whatever form that takes for
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you, you're here tonight and this is your first
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step. Commit to taking that action in the direction
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of your dream. You'll be glad you did. I really
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appreciate you guys listening to me and I hope
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that you can take something away with the framework
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and use that as you leave from here tonight.
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So thank you. I hope that something landed for
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you today because you were meant to hear it.
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Now, if that conversation stirred something in
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you, I just can't wait until you get your hands
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on the full book, Courageously You. We go deeper
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into every single one of those frameworks with
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stories and reflection questions and tools to
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actually do the work, not just be inspired by
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it. Here's what I need you to do right now while
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it's fresh. Go to the link in the notes, Her
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Comeback, sign up for the updates, hercomebackpodcast
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You'll be the first to know when it drops and
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And trust me, you don't want to miss launch day.
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Courageously, you will be available on Amazon
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starting June 25th. Set a reminder, mark it on
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your calendar, and tell a friend who needs this
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information as much as you do. Thank you for
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being part of this community. Thank you for showing
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up here week after week. It's exactly the kind
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of courage this book is talking about. Keep coming
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back. Your comeback is happening. Until next
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time, I'm Michelle Thompson, and this is her
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comeback.
