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Welcome to the Harnessing Happiness Podcast.
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Hello and welcome to Harnessing Happiness with myself
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Sarah J Naylor.
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Thank you again for joining me.
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It's great to be back with another Sarah's
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Soundbite.
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So what am I going to talk about
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today?
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Well, there's a thing because I was mulling
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over all the things that were running through
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my mind and all the things I want
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to talk about and there is just so
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much.
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But really, I guess it comes down to
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a blend of things from the conversations I've
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been having lately with podcast guests, if you've
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listened to the conversation I've had with Carol
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and Louise of late about curiosity and about
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being true to yourself, and then I've had
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a host of meetings with other people.
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And it all comes back to this need
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to be true to ourselves.
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And so that's what I thought I really
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wanted to talk about, because we live in
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a world that is so noisy with mainstream
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media, marketing, we've got stuff coming at us
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from all angles, telling us that we need
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to be like this, like that, own this,
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do that to be seen as successful, which
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actually is a load of rubbish.
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Success comes from within.
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It comes from yourself.
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It comes from feeling happy and content within
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any amount of products and things that you
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can buy.
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Yeah, they're nice.
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Don't get me wrong.
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I think, you know, having a nice piece
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of artwork, a nice bit of jewellery.
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Oh, look, I have a nice silver necklace
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for those of you watching on video.
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Do you know what?
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Bought it in a charity shop.
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It was a pound.
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I thought that's silver.
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That is, you don't get many gems these
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days in a charity shop.
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And actually, though, to be truthful, I'll share
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with you the dress I've got on at
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the moment.
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Again, charity shop, because I'll be honest, I
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can't bear spending proper money on clothes unnecessarily.
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So much has been manufactured en masse that
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goes and ends up in landfill.
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And this isn't supposed to be a ranty,
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ranty podcast, but it's too much.
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There is too much out there.
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And I'm sure all of you listening, well,
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I hope all of you listening will agree
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with me to a degree on that.
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There's been too much that's been overproduced.
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We're sold constantly to buy all this stuff.
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And all we're doing is making other people
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rich and actually making ourselves more miserable in
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the meantime, because all we keep on wanting
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to do is to consume, to work to
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the narrative that's telling us that that's what
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it is.
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And actually, when you understand that that is
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the narrative, once you can hear what's going
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on, once you can see what's going on,
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you can distance yourself from it.
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I mean, even as early this year as
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I was, well, Christmas time, I say early
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this year, but you know, the seasonal stuff,
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going into the local supermarket and, you know,
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you're bombarded with all the seasonal produce and
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your brain saying, oh, I ought to be
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buying that.
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And your financial mind's going, you don't need
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that rubbish.
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Then you've got this argument inside going, well,
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actually, are you being tight?
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And why are you?
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No, I'm not being tight, but the conditioning's
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telling you you're being tight for not buying
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the stuff that you're being sold to, which
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you don't actually need.
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And it's just packaging and it's full of
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calories anyway.
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So I know that the noise and I
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hear what you are thinking and you are
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saying, and I don't want to add to
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that, which is why as a coach, I
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don't go out there and promote myself particularly
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because there's so much noise in the coaching
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sector as well.
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To be honest, I very much believe in
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energetics and allowing things to flow, the quantum
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and trusting the process and believing that everything
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is working out wonderfully because it is, because
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what we perceive, we believe, what we think
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about is, because life is an illusion of
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our own creation.
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Once we can step away from, as I
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said, the noise, once we can see what
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it is, when we move away from mainstream
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media, the marketing and all the stuff that's
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going on and separate ourselves from it and
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start to dig in and find out, you
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know, about us, about what floats your own
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boat and you take a step into that.
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That's when all the magical stuff starts to
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happen.
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I have always embraced, I like the treasure
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actually, I've always embraced sort of loving going
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to my grand straw and finding out, you
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know, what's in there.
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And that sort of has replicated itself throughout
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my life.
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And actually, if you start to think about
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what it was that you loved doing as
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a child before potentially you then got funnelled
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into a career that might not been of
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your choosing or you've chopped and changed from
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job to job to job because you've never
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found your feet, it's about coming back to
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the self.
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What is it?
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What floats your boat?
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What really excites you?
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Not what other people think that you ought
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to be doing or you should be doing,
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what your family think, your friends think, your
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children think or what have you, but what
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floats your boat.
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And when you step into the power of
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that, that's when, as I said, the magic
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starts to happen.
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Hey, it's not easy.
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And sadly, I'm estranged from my son and
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have been for over three and a half
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years because I'm living my life on my
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terms.
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I'm hoping at some point in the future,
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things will change.
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But at the moment, we haven't spoken for
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three and a half years, which is sad.
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I'm not going to dwell upon it, but
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I have to live my life for me,
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not to make somebody else happy, if that
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makes sense.
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And part of me enjoying my life was
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when I created my Lucy Loves Latex Instagram
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account because I discovered a love of latex
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in my mid 50s.
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You know, it doesn't look like it at
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the moment.
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For those of you watching as I'm wearing
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a sea salt summer dress, but you know
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what, every so often it's lovely getting dressed
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up and creating content and having a bit
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of fun.
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And, you know, if that's part of my
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life, that's part of my life.
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It's who I am.
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It's permission to be yourself.
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So what is it that you love doing?
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It could be that you enjoy wearing kilts.
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It could be enjoying that you like having
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a packed lunch every day when you're sitting
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in the garden.
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I don't know.
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We've all got different things that we enjoy
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doing.
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But how often do we look into that?
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How often do we embrace it?
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How often do we get stuck in a
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narrative that has been brainwashing us for forever
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and a day?
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But how often do we step away from
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it and then start to give ourselves permission
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to be less should, more you?
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You know, I'll repeat again.
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It's magical.
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You know, we moved to the coast, my
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husband and I, coming up for three years
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ago, and it was a big shift from
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living in the Midlands in the UK.
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But it's been brilliant.
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We're part of a community here now that
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has just really just keeps on unfolding.
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The more we do what we enjoy doing,
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the more connections we make, the more conversations
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we have, the more we do as a
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result.
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But hey, you know, I understand as well
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how you can get to being and feeling
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stuck.
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Because I was, well, I got divorced 21
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years ago now, and I really hadn't got
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a life at that time because I'd got
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caught up into a relationship whereby I went
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to work, came home from work, and really
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didn't do anything else.
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Whereas over the last 21 years, I've had
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this curiosity, this open mind, and I've really
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dug deep into discovering and rediscovering who I
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am and reawakening what is already within me.
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And it just keeps on expanding, expanding, expanding.
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I mean, I've had all nature of experiences
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and opportunities presented to me.
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And, you know, I keep on looking at
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and rediscovering things.
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Like I said earlier about what floated your
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boat as a child, what you've done in
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the past, what you've let go, because life
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happens.
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We know life happens, and we can end
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up, I say, getting stuck, and we need
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to get out of that.
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But it's only when we change our behavior,
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because it always comes back to the self
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and how we can change what we do
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and how we think.
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Because we aren't our behavior, you know, we
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have that control over the mindset, and we
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can change the words that we use, the
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dialogue we use, and we can do things,
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and we keep it in the present moment.
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And instead of saying, I want to be
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doing this in the future, or I will
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be doing this, I will be doing that,
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say, I am.
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This is what I am.
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This is what I'm doing, because that brings
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it into the present moment.
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One of the things I've started to do
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just recently is refurbishing handbags and doing some
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refurb on some old bits of furniture.
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To be honest, I get excited about too
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many different things, and I'm always doing something.
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And actually, I need to stop a little
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bit more often, spend some time meditating.
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But then I'm going, oh, I could be
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doing this, and I could be doing that.
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But it's about leaning into who you are
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and what works for you, and that's the
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beauty of it.
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You know, I've covered rather a lot of
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ground in this episode, and I'm sure maybe
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some of you would want to hear more
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about one subject than another.
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You know, and if you do, please let
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me know, because for me, that helps me
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create the content that I can share with
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you through my short soundbites, because I've got
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so much I can talk about.
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And I don't want to spend too much
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time just going on one subject, because I
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know there's so many different things that I
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can talk about.
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But I'm also acutely aware that there are
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certain things that people do want to hear
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more of than others.
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But what I would like to finish on
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is just be yourself.
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Be true to yourself.
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Find out what that means.
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Hello and welcome to Harnessing Happiness with myself
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Sarah J Naylor.
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Thank you again for joining me.
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It's great to be back with another Sarah's
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So what am I going to talk about
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today?
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Well, there's a thing because I was mulling
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over all the things that were running through
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my mind and all the things I want
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to talk about and there is just so
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much.
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But really, I guess it comes down to
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a blend of things from the conversations I've
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been having lately with podcast guests, if you've
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listened to the conversation I've had with Carol
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and Louise of late about curiosity and about
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being true to yourself, and then I've had
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a host of meetings with other people.
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to be true to ourselves.
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wanted to talk about, because we live in
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a world that is so noisy with mainstream
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media, marketing, we've got stuff coming at us
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from all angles, telling us that we need
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to be like this, like that, own this,
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do that to be seen as successful, which
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actually is a load of rubbish.
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Success comes from within.
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It comes from yourself.
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It comes from feeling happy and content within
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any amount of products and things that you
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can buy.
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Don't get me wrong.
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I think, you know, having a nice piece
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of artwork, a nice bit of jewellery.
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for those of you watching on video.
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It was a pound.
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I thought that's silver.
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days in a charity shop.
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the moment.
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can't bear spending proper money on clothes unnecessarily.
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goes and ends up in landfill.
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ranty podcast, but it's too much.
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I hope all of you listening will agree
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with me to a degree on that.
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rich and actually making ourselves more miserable in
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the meantime, because all we keep on wanting
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the narrative that's telling us that that's what
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the narrative, once you can hear what's going
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this year, but you know, the seasonal stuff,
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going into the local supermarket and, you know,
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actually, are you being tight?
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telling you you're being tight for not buying
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the stuff that you're being sold to, which
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you don't actually need.
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calories anyway.
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hear what you are thinking and you are
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saying, and I don't want to add to
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that, which is why as a coach, I
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don't go out there and promote myself particularly
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because there's so much noise in the coaching
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sector as well.
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energetics and allowing things to flow, the quantum
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and trusting the process and believing that everything
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is working out wonderfully because it is, because
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what we perceive, we believe, what we think
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about is, because life is an illusion of
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our own creation.
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said, the noise, once we can see what
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it is, when we move away from mainstream
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media, the marketing and all the stuff that's
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going on and separate ourselves from it and
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start to dig in and find out, you
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know, about us, about what floats your own
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boat and you take a step into that.
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happen.
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I have always embraced, I like the treasure
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actually, I've always embraced sort of loving going
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to my grand straw and finding out, you
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know, what's in there.
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my life.
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what it was that you loved doing as
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a child before potentially you then got funnelled
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into a career that might not been of
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your choosing or you've chopped and changed from
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job to job to job because you've never
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found your feet, it's about coming back to
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the self.
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What floats your boat?
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What really excites you?
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to be doing or you should be doing,
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what your family think, your friends think, your
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children think or what have you, but what
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floats your boat.
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that, that's when, as I said, the magic
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starts to happen.
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Hey, it's not easy.
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And sadly, I'm estranged from my son and
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have been for over three and a half
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years because I'm living my life on my
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terms.
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I'm hoping at some point in the future,
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things will change.
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three and a half years, which is sad.
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I'm not going to dwell upon it, but
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I have to live my life for me,
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not to make somebody else happy, if that
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makes sense.
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when I created my Lucy Loves Latex Instagram
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account because I discovered a love of latex
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in my mid 50s.
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You know, it doesn't look like it at
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the moment.
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For those of you watching as I'm wearing
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a sea salt summer dress, but you know
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what, every so often it's lovely getting dressed
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up and creating content and having a bit
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of fun.
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life, that's part of my life.
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It's who I am.
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It's permission to be yourself.
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So what is it that you love doing?
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It could be that you enjoy wearing kilts.
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a packed lunch every day when you're sitting
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in the garden.
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doing.
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How often do we embrace it?
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narrative that has been brainwashing us for forever
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and a day?
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it and then start to give ourselves permission
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to be less should, more you?
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You know, I'll repeat again.
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It's magical.
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husband and I, coming up for three years
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ago, and it was a big shift from
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living in the Midlands in the UK.
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has just really just keeps on unfolding.
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the more connections we make, the more conversations
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we have, the more we do as a
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result.
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how you can get to being and feeling
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stuck.
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years ago now, and I really hadn't got
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a life at that time because I'd got
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caught up into a relationship whereby I went
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to work, came home from work, and really
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didn't do anything else.
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this curiosity, this open mind, and I've really
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dug deep into discovering and rediscovering who I
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am and reawakening what is already within me.
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I mean, I've had all nature of experiences
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and opportunities presented to me.
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and rediscovering things.
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boat as a child, what you've done in
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the past, what you've let go, because life
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happens.
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up, I say, getting stuck, and we need
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to get out of that.
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because it always comes back to the self
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and how we can change what we do
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and how we think.
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have that control over the mindset, and we
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can change the words that we use, the
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dialogue we use, and we can do things,
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and we keep it in the present moment.
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doing this in the future, or I will
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be doing this, I will be doing that,
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say, I am.
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This is what I am.
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This is what I'm doing, because that brings
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it into the present moment.
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One of the things I've started to do
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just recently is refurbishing handbags and doing some
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refurb on some old bits of furniture.
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many different things, and I'm always doing something.
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bit more often, spend some time meditating.
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doing this, and I could be doing that.
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But it's about leaning into who you are
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and what works for you, and that's the
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beauty of it.
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You know, I've covered rather a lot of
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ground in this episode, and I'm sure maybe
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some of you would want to hear more
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about one subject than another.
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You know, and if you do, please let
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me know, because for me, that helps me
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create the content that I can share with
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you through my short soundbites, because I've got
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so much I can talk about.
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And I don't want to spend too much
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time just going on one subject, because I
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know there's so many different things that I
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can talk about.
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But I'm also acutely aware that there are
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certain things that people do want to hear
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more of than others.
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But what I would like to finish on
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is just be yourself.
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Be true to yourself.
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Find out what that means.
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Be curious.
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Have an open mind.
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Explore.
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Try new things.
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Do different things.
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And make today the first day of the
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rest of your life, every day, and just
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do something different.
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And in the meantime, just please do subscribe
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wherever you're listening to, be it on YouTube
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or on any of your podcast platforms, to
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make sure that you get the next episode
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of Sarah's Soundbite on Harnessing Happiness.
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And thank you all for listening.
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Take care for now and have a great
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week.
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Bye.
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Thanks for listening to the Harnessing Happiness podcast
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with Sarah J Naylor.
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mindset, visit sarahjnaylor.com.
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