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All right.
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Welcome everyone to another episode of Peter reads me a book because I don't know how to read.
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So in this episode, come sit on my lap, Pablo.
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Let's read a book together.
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That's what I do with my son.
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So a great friend of ours, he recommended me this book U squared a million times.
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Not only that, he gifted me this book.
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And he reads this book every single day.
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Guess how many pages I read from this book?
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Zero.
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So, Peter, I need your help here.
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All right, I'm here to help.
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So I've read it so many times that it broke.
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I try and read it every day.
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So I probably read it, I don't know, 50% of days.
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So this book, U2, is by Price Pritchard, the PhD.
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It is a banger.
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Thanks to our buddy, Talora, for the intro.
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Here's a story that whenever I tell people they should read it, I start with.
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The first two pages, it says, I'll summarize it.
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It's a true story.
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I'm sitting at a quiet room at Millcroft Inn, a peaceful little place hidden among pine trees outside of Toronto.
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It's just past noon, late July, and I'm listening to desperate sounds of a life or death struggle going on a few feet away.
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There's a small fly burning out the last of its short life energies in a futile attempt to fly through the glass of the windowpane.
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The whining wings tell the poignant story of the fly's strategy, try harder, but it's not working.
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The frenzied effort offers no hope for survival.
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Ironically, the struggle is part of the trap.
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It is impossible for the fly to try hard enough to succeed at breaking through the glass.
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Nevertheless, the little insect has staked its life on reaching its goal through raw effort and determination.
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This fly is doomed.
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It will die there on the windowsill.
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Ten steps away, the door is open.
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Ten seconds of flying time and this small creature could read the outside world it seeks.
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With only a fraction of the effort now being wasted, it could be free of this self-imposed trap.
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The breakthrough possibility is there.
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It would be so easy.
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Why doesn't the fly try another approach?
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Something dramatically different.
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How did it get so locked in the idea that this particular route, the determined effort, offer the most promise for success?
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What logic is there in continuing until death?
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No doubt this approach makes sense to the fly.
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Regrettably, it's an idea that will kill the fly.
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Trying harder.
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So that's basically his story to kick off the book.
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It's boom, because we're all the fly.
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So then he goes into his book.
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So on page four, it's only like a 30-page book.
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So this will be really short and quick.
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He says, physicists studying quantum mechanics note that particles make the jumps without apparent effort and without covering all the bases between the starting and ending points.
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So this is a physicist's approach.
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Now, they don't understand how...
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quantum physics works where something will just move from here to there without any effort.
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And this Price Pritchard PhD is basically communicating we can do that as humans.
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So the first story about the insect.
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Yep.
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What's the point?
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To me, the point is we are all to fly in certain areas of our life.
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And we're choosing this try harder.
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We're told just keep pushing through.
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But our dumb little fly brain is just pushing its head against the clear glass window that we can see what we want, even though there's an impossible layer.
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Where if we just stepped backwards, freedom flip.
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We step back, fly backwards with our little fly brain, look around, we see an open door, and we exit.
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So it's a flip, right, to create freedom.
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It's literally the definition of what we're interested in.
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I definitely see that.
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I've done that a million times.
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Well, not a million, hopefully less.
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But yeah, we definitely do that as humans.
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Yeah, so page six, he gets into kind of what you're asking.
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He says, you two, the name of the book, you with the number two, implies an explosive jump in your personal performance that puts you far beyond the next logical step.
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It's a formula for stunning advances in achievement and realization of your dreams.
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The concept is one of exponential gains rather than incremental progress.
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You might compare it to multiplying instead of adding.
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It means a geometric progression in your effectiveness.
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That's exciting as well as provocative, but it gets even better.
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Remember, quantum leaps can come without apparent effort.
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These are high velocity moves that carry you to dramatically higher performance levels without a time consuming struggle.
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So then page eight, he gets in.
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He says quantum leaps require paradoxical behavior, which is flipping.
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It's doing the opposite of what you think.
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Usual moves, actions that on the surface often seem to contradict common sense, right?
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The fly going backwards contradicts common sense.
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It wants to go forwards.
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Lower on in page eight, he says there is a certain irony here.
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Your historically more dependable behaviors can become the major obstacles to future success.
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It's possible for them to cripple your progress.
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They may stand as a personal boundary lines that limit what you can accomplish with your life.
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So he says, page nine, quit trying harder.
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Quantum leaps cannot be achieved through incremental steps or through more of the same.
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So for me, I drew the stair steps versus just the exponential growth.
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Right.
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Stair steps is trying harder, like just get one more stair versus stepping back and thinking this kind of quantum leap on the bottom of page 10.
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He says, if you want to make a quantum leap, quit thinking about trying harder.
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More effort isn't the answer.
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And I wrote as my note, the donkey owns the farm.
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Right.
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Like if you're like, who owns the farm?
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Well, the farmer's thinking about everything.
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The donkey's actually carrying everything on its back, but it doesn't own the farm through just thinking harder.
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Page 12, he goes, look for a paradoxical move.
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For example, consider revising your field.
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Try being illogical.
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Ricochet.
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If you're trying to climb over the wall, open a door.
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Walk through.
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If you're pushing against the river, try going with the flow.
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Use finesse instead of effort.
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He says, faith in the familiar sets the trap.
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And I thought of that faith over fear, or instead we should have belief in the bizarre.
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Then he says, second guess your routines, overcome the addiction to your old methodologies, set a new pattern.
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I love that line.
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Overcome the addiction to the old methodologies.
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Like that's us all.
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So this is very similar, connected to the first episode of Peter Reed's Books to Pablo, when we did the Book of Philon, right?
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So he talks a lot about
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reasoning by analogy how that is a death trap.
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Totally.
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There is similarity here.
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Totally.
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I mean, I think these are fundamental truths of the universe explained in different ways.
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And I completely agree.
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If the things you're doing have quit working, stop doing them.
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That sounds smart.
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Quantum leaps come when you seek the elegant solution.
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So look for an approach characterized by simplicity, precision, efficiency, and neatness.
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What would be the definition of quantum leaps?
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Is it like an exponential growth?
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Yeah, exponential growth.
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On page 13, most of us can be found flying too close to the ground.
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Too often, we don't give ourselves permission to soar.
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So at the top of page 14, he goes in, it's time to start focusing on possibilities rather than on limits or obstacles.
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Make a quantum leap means moving outside your mental boundaries.
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So I thought about the loop you get stuck in of limiting obstacles or limiting beliefs and possibilities.
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It's like...
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You know, you go on a downward loop or upward loop, depending on if you break through those or not.
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Don't get the idea that absolutely anything you can think of is possible.
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It isn't.
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But in some areas of your life, what lies within your reach is enough to stagger the mind.
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You can double your level of success, triple it.
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Far beyond that, you can leverage up your performance to the second or third or fourth power or beyond.
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True, there are some limits, but you don't need to worry about them.
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Your real limits are far beyond your artificial mental boundaries.
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in your mind are a self-imposed prison.
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So how do you break out of the jail?
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Through surrender.
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You have to forfeit some of your old beliefs and sacrifice some of those sensible thinking patterns.
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So-called common sense can be a curse that puts a ceiling on how far you reach or how high you fly.
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So talk more about surrender.
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Yeah, I really like this.
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So my note below this page said you only have one option.
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You can only keep one of these.
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You can go to the sensible on the left or you can go to the right, which is two to three times your success.
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You only get to keep one of these paths.
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You can go on sensible path.
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Yeah, my mom always said I should be a doctor.
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Or you can go to the other path, which could have two to three times the success, but isn't considered sensible by family or friends or other conventional thinkers.
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So page 15, it says, you don't have to have hard proof that you can make a quantum leap.
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It says, instead of holding you back because you don't have hard proof that you can make a quantum leap, see if you end up with evidence proving you can't.
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Like we don't actually have proof we can't achieve these things, but we believe that.
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Like we just, we choose the negative path of sensible.
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Like, oh, I couldn't be happy, wealthy, successful, right?
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You know, without any proof, we just commit to this.
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If you must doubt something, doubt your limits.
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The experts generally agree, though, that people typically use only about 10% of their true potential.
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If you want to be skeptical of some ideas that truly deserve to be called into question, challenge the thoughts and beliefs that have argued against your quantum leap.
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Put those old inhibiting ideas to the test by going for it with everything you've got.
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Doubt is what does the most damage.
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So those were four bangers from the page that I underlined.
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So what he's saying is you have to be very careful and doubtful of your limiting beliefs.
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That's it.
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Like if you're going to challenge something, challenge not the potential goal or the potential thing that you can achieve, just challenge the beliefs that are holding you back.
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That's it.
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And I really like what he says where you kind of have one on one side, you have fear on the far other side of being reckless.
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We're trying to be courageous, which is right in the middle.
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And what he's saying is we're all kind of stuck in fear where we don't want to challenge these limiting beliefs at all.
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On page 17, he goes into focus on ends rather than the means.
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You don't have to know how you're going to get there, but you need to know where you want to go.
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And that reminds me of a quote from Seneca, if a man does not know which port he is sailing, no wind is favorable.
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So it is crucial to have a crystal clear picture of what you want to accomplish.
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Operate with a sharply defined mental image of the outcome you seek.
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People always get hung up on the how-to aspects regarding a quantum leap.
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And I really like that.
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So below that, I wrote, destination is greater than the effort.
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Purpose is greater than the speed.
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Clarity is greater than motivation.
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Quantum leap is greater than how to.
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The key is not to get in the way, he said.
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So I think that's great, right?
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As a reminder of kind of who, not how, or why, not how, what, not how.
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You can get to the how after you define that.
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The typical problem here is that we may want something.
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We may hear a little whisper in our ear saying like, I want XYZ.
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And it's like, oh.
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But how can I break free from this problem that I have right now?
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How can I achieve that thing because I don't have XYZ?
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And instead of just...
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So right now we are killing the dream when we go directly into the how.
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I kind of think of the shoulder you have.
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As you're saying this, it made me think of like the shoulder with the angel, the shoulder with the devil.
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Like we're listening to the devil's advocate, right?
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The devil on our left shoulder saying like, you can't do that, Peter.
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You can't do that, Pablo.
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All this book is saying, give at least as much, if not more attention to the other side.
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Because you're letting this data and this sensible sound logical and safe where it's not.
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It's a prison, self-imposed.
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Yeah, the way that I like to say it is we all have beliefs.
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You get to choose what you believe in.
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And whatever you believe in is made up.
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No, no, no.
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Whatever you believe in is made up.
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So at least make up something that is positive and great for you.
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I like that.
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I like it too when people are like, I can't do that.
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I just say, you're right.
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Whether you think you can or you can't, you're right.
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You get to choose, which is, we're saying the same thing with different words, but you're right.
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Like, make it a fun belief because it's made up regardless.
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On page 18, it says, skip it.
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The answers will come to you.
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And when they do, you probably will find them to be simple, streamlined solution.
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See, a quantum leap is a move you've already prepared to make.
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You just haven't done it yet.
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What has been missing is your decision to go for it.
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The quantum leap is something you've been keeping from happening.
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It is not something you have to struggle to make happening.
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You don't really force it into existence.
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You just let it occur.
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Lorani says, the formula does not involve getting everything neatly organized and all the risk eliminated before you make the move.
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Page 19, he goes into, this is a really good line of a freedom flip.
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Absence of evidence is not evidence of their absence.
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So it says, think of an iceberg where you see only the tip of what's really there.
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Just as real though, out of sight are invisible resources ready to make profound differences in what you can achieve.
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All you have to do is open up and let them in.
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So like you may only see a little iceberg.
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You don't see that full potential below the water is what he's saying of what the path leads to.
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So it says quantum leaps are merely the process of using yourself and your world differently, thus allowing other possibilities that exist to actually materialize.
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Your willingness to make a quantum leap is the enabler.
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So later on, he says, your bidding is also based on the power of your partner's cards.
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You don't really get to see those cards until it's time to play them, but you trust that they will bring valuable strength to your own hand.
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When you focus constantly on a clear picture of what you want to accomplish and move forward it confidently, the unseen forces will rally to your help.
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What I am hearing is there's a lot of believing.
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So changing your beliefs, going from limiting beliefs to empowering beliefs.
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And then there is a lot of trusting, surrendering, letting go, and trusting that things are going to play in the right way.
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And working harder is not the right move.
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Working smarter is the right move.
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Now, for those lazy people, you may need to work harder a little bit.
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So you need to find out where you are in the journey.
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Yeah.
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But most people, I think, are working really hard.
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And for most people, it's just working smarter or thinking about how they're working.
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So we're two-thirds of the way through the book.
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We only have 10 pages left.
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It's a really fast kind of 30, 34-page book.
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On page 21 and 22, I like this one.
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The biggest obstacle to overcoming the odds is never challenging them.
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It's like the biggest obstacle is we don't challenge these odds or these beliefs or these self-limiting prisons we have.
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The biggest obstacle to overcoming the odds is never challenging them.
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Why do you think that we don't challenge them?
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I think it comes back to what we talked about in the first episode around in school, we're trained to not question the question.
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We're told you can't do this.
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Why we are trained not to question?
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I think it's just a product of the factory-style education system that came out of Germany in the 1800s to produce...
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widgets that go in the factory to hit the hammer like you don't you don't want something questioning like hey dude i need you to hit the hammer 100 times a day on this nail to make the car that comes off the assembly line like it's just what we needed as a people i don't have as much of the negative view of evil bad horrible it just was what was needed at the time and we've outgrown that but we're holding on to it that's my own analysis of it yeah what do you think
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Yeah, I agree.
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I agree.
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We just have a retarded way of doing education.
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Is that what I said, right?
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So page 22, I wrote at the top, Pablo does this.
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So it says, the risks hit you as rather apparent and may be quite threatening, but you must stack them up against the hidden risks you accept when you decide to live with the status quo.
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All right.
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Translate.
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Dude, this is what you do every day.
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The risk hit you is rather apparent.
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So basically, when you want to make a change, move to a new country or a new city or whatever, most people just see those risks of like, I'll have to change my lease.
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Yeah.
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And what it says is, but you must stack them up, compare them against the hidden risk you accept by deciding to live with the status quo.
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I'll just stay in this city.
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Huge.
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That's why I said Pablo does this.
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It's a massive flip.
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And then after that, it says, ask yourself what you're risking if you do not go for the quantum leap.
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The risk is that you won't get what you really want out of life.
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That's a freedom flip.
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Yeah.
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So it says quantum leaps do mean that to some degree you must move beyond the zone of familiarity, security, and comfort.
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But you can make the jump to you too without being reckless or impulsive.
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Peter, it's you squared, not you two.
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Yeah, you're right.
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This is not a band, okay?
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Yeah, you're right.
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Pablo is teaching Peter how to read.
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We flipped.
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It's a massive flip.
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Came here for you to sit on my lap and me to read to you, and now you're teaching me how to read.
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I'm spanking you.
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Thank you, Pablo.
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Let's go.
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You abandon your excuses.
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You reframe the problem.
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You take a completely different chance.
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A quantum leap is risking...
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in a way that unmasks the truth.
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This isn't a case of taking a big chance.
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It's a matter of giving yourself a big chance.
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Boom!
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There's a flip.
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That is an interesting one because we want something different than whatever we have right now.
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We can see what's going to happen if we continue the way that we are.
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Yep.
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In fact, I don't think that we really understand how bad it will get.
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This is going to compound if we stay the way that we are.
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And we just do nothing.
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We just stay like the insect, just hitting our head against the crystal.
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I think you nailed it.
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And I think you do a great job of this, which is you have to create the comparison.
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And that's why I love there's no solution, only trade-offs.
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Is it forces us to think about as the fly, okay, I can keep hitting my head at the wall or I can risk just going backwards, which feels uncomfortable, and then look around.
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Right.
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That's a powerful shift.
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Or I could just stay in this city or country that doesn't feel aligned.
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But, you know, it's I don't have to cancel my rent.
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I don't I've got two good friends.
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Right.
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That's that's an option.
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Now, let's stack that up against the tradeoffs of imagining this other place and scenario.
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So it's a powerful hit.
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We've got five pages left.
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I actually mark up these last five pages the most.
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These were the ones that hit me the deepest.
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So page 23, it just says, most people confuse wishing and wanting with pursuing.
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So he says, the simple secret to seeking pursuit, dreams begin to crystallize into reality when they are pursued.
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I added a note I really like that I use a lot, which is API, like connecting between software systems.
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I say, action provides information.
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I heard that somewhere and I loved it.
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API, right?
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Action provides information.
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It's like tapping into the universe.
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So wishing, longing, wanting, desiring.
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These are not the same as pursuing a dream.
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These are mental states and can play an important role in the process of becoming you squared, but they are essentially passive.
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Pursuit, on the other hand, is active.
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Reaching your dreams is behaving, moving, and it shortens the distance between you and your desired objective.
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Most people confuse wishing and wanting with pursuing.
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Ask, dot, dot, dot, seek, dot, dot, dot, knock, dot, dot, dot, and your dream shall be yours.
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Okay, page 25 and 26 were two of my favorites.
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and then the next two as well.
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So these next four are my bangers for the book.
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Seek failure.
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Quantum leaps demand a willingness to make mistakes.
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You cannot hole up in a safe zone of behavior where you have beaten the odds of failing.
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An unwillingness to encounter defeat or run into problems outlaws quantum leaps.
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You must realize that if you're experiencing no difficulties, problems, or pain, you probably have aimed too low.
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You've leveled off in your growth and achievement.
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You probably are far from reaching your limits.
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I love that.
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That's also similar to what Elon said, right?
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That you need to have failures in your track record.
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If not, you're not doing enough.
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You are just playing it too small.
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Completely.
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I love it.
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It's the pause during which you poise for the jump, the temporary loss of momentum that occurs in the process of changing gears.
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And underneath that, it says failure is a resource.
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It helps you find the edge of your capabilities.
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Yeah.
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And I love that.
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So I call it fail-your-your-e, which stood for edge.
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So I thought like fail your edge, fail your e. So failure is just finding your edge.
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And I love that way to remember it of like when you fail, you just go, oh, this is an edge.
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Okay, great.
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We find a different way to go or we know we need to expand on that edge.
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My favorite three pages are this next one and the next two.
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So everything looks like failure in the middle.
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You can't bake a cake without getting the kitchen messy.
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The stress will seduce you toward the retreat to safety of the status quo.
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Actually, the struggle gives you strength.
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Failure is a resource that helps you find the edge of your capabilities.
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And then the next page, page 28, it hits really hard where it says,
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When you take the quantum leap, you ride the situation, but you don't really control it all that much.
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In fact, the only way you control it is by knowing where you're going, continuing the pursuit, and learning from your mistakes.
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So here's the final one.
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This is the banger that I think sums up the whole book.
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It has been said that if you do the thing you fear, death of fear is certain.
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Courage is not the absence of fear and anxiety.
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It's proceeding in spite of those feelings.
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So the big massive freedom flip here is if you do the thing you fear, death of the fear is certain.
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But we have a choice, right?
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We can continue to live with this fear.
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Like I have a fear of spiders.
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Like I hate spiders, right?
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I can live with that fear.
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Or I can just go up to the spider, kill it.
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Lean into it, work on it.
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Lean into it.
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And after I'm done with it, I'm freed.
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It's dead.
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The fear disappears.
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And then there was another sentence at the end.
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Courage is not the absence of fear and anxiety.
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It is it proceeding in spite of those feelings.
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Yeah, I love that one.
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This is important.
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It comes back to the quote that we said earlier that the book hits on a few times.
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It's all a spectrum.
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So on one side of the spectrum, you have feared like I'm scared.
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I'm standing behind my mom or dad.
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On the other side, you have full sin, like reckless.
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I'm going to die like, oh, yeah, I'll go on a motorcycle without a helmet.
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100 miles an hour.
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Both of those are paths that lead you in the wrong direction.
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It's going in the middle where you feel like you're going to die, but you recognize there's no real fear of death from this little spider or from asking for a raise or trying the job or asking a client or asking a mentor.
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But you have this feeling of fear and anxiety and you proceed anyway.
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That's courage.
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You're still going to have the feelings.
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And I think most of us, when I think about my own failures and a lot of people I see is they tell themselves, well, Pablo never had those fears.
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He just left.
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He didn't have those.
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And that's actually a victim mentality that I'm holding on to when I say that to convince myself he's different and I never had that opportunity.
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Rather than saying, no, he was peeing his pants.
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The dude was scared.
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He just powered through it, which was the courageous act.
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Yeah.
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And I think that what works for me a lot is I am way more afraid of what's going to happen if I stay, if I don't take action rather than taking the action.
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And I think that that part hits you and sums up one of the reasons I love having your influence, which is you do that as they said it in the book.
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They said you have to stack up.
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The status quo, which most of us just go with the status quo.
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You have to create an alternative outcome to the status quo.
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Compare it, right?
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There's no solution, only trade-offs.
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So I think if I had to summarize the whole book, I want to hit that line for you.
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It says, the risk hit you as rather apparent.
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And may be quite threatening, but you must stack them up against the hidden risk you accept when you decide to live with the status quo, which is just what you're already living with.
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Ask yourself what you're risking if you do not go for the quantum leap.
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The risk is what you won't get what you really want out of life.
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And so when you zoom out on the whole book, I think it's saying we are all the fly, right?
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We are all banging ourselves heads against the window.
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And it's comfortable.
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We know what it's going to feel like.
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We can kind of see what we want, even though it doesn't feel like we're going to get there.
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Rather than pause, go backwards a little bit, a flip, and look around, which is uncomfortable.
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It feels like we're going backwards to then find the true path forward.
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We're just going to bang our head against the glass, fall down, and die.
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And this book gives you practical ways to rethink this discomfort, this fear, these doubts, and how to practically pull yourself back from the glass, look around and find that door that takes you to places you could never dream of in a leap, not in a hard work, in a leap.
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That's basically a magical, instantaneous, you move from A to B.
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Boom.
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What a great book.
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Thank you, Taylor, for the recommendation.
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U squared.
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All right.
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Welcome everyone to another episode of Peter reads me a book because I don't know how to read.
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So in this episode, come sit on my lap, Pablo.
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Let's read a book together.
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That's what I do with my son.
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So a great friend of ours, he recommended me this book U squared a million times.
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Not only that, he gifted me this book.
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And he reads this book every single day.
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Guess how many pages I read from this book?
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Zero.
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So, Peter, I need your help here.
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All right, I'm here to help.
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So I've read it so many times that it broke.
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I try and read it every day.
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So I probably read it, I don't know, 50% of days.
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So this book, U2, is by Price Pritchard, the PhD.
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It is a banger.
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Thanks to our buddy, Talora, for the intro.
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Here's a story that whenever I tell people they should read it, I start with.
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The first two pages, it says, I'll summarize it.
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It's a true story.
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I'm sitting at a quiet room at Millcroft Inn, a peaceful little place hidden among pine trees outside of Toronto.
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It's just past noon, late July, and I'm listening to desperate sounds of a life or death struggle going on a few feet away.
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There's a small fly burning out the last of its short life energies in a futile attempt to fly through the glass of the windowpane.
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The whining wings tell the poignant story of the fly's strategy, try harder, but it's not working.
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The frenzied effort offers no hope for survival.
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Ironically, the struggle is part of the trap.
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It is impossible for the fly to try hard enough to succeed at breaking through the glass.
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Nevertheless, the little insect has staked its life on reaching its goal through raw effort and determination.
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This fly is doomed.
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It will die there on the windowsill.
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Ten steps away, the door is open.
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Ten seconds of flying time and this small creature could read the outside world it seeks.
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With only a fraction of the effort now being wasted, it could be free of this self-imposed trap.
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The breakthrough possibility is there.
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It would be so easy.
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Why doesn't the fly try another approach?
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Something dramatically different.
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How did it get so locked in the idea that this particular route, the determined effort, offer the most promise for success?
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What logic is there in continuing until death?
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No doubt this approach makes sense to the fly.
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Regrettably, it's an idea that will kill the fly.
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Trying harder.
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So that's basically his story to kick off the book.
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It's boom, because we're all the fly.
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So then he goes into his book.
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So on page four, it's only like a 30-page book.
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So this will be really short and quick.
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He says, physicists studying quantum mechanics note that particles make the jumps without apparent effort and without covering all the bases between the starting and ending points.
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So this is a physicist's approach.
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Now, they don't understand how...
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quantum physics works where something will just move from here to there without any effort.
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And this Price Pritchard PhD is basically communicating we can do that as humans.
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So the first story about the insect.
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Yep.
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What's the point?
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To me, the point is we are all to fly in certain areas of our life.
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And we're choosing this try harder.
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We're told just keep pushing through.
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But our dumb little fly brain is just pushing its head against the clear glass window that we can see what we want, even though there's an impossible layer.
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Where if we just stepped backwards, freedom flip.
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We step back, fly backwards with our little fly brain, look around, we see an open door, and we exit.
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So it's a flip, right, to create freedom.
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It's literally the definition of what we're interested in.
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I definitely see that.
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I've done that a million times.
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Well, not a million, hopefully less.
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But yeah, we definitely do that as humans.
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Yeah, so page six, he gets into kind of what you're asking.
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He says, you two, the name of the book, you with the number two, implies an explosive jump in your personal performance that puts you far beyond the next logical step.
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It's a formula for stunning advances in achievement and realization of your dreams.
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The concept is one of exponential gains rather than incremental progress.
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You might compare it to multiplying instead of adding.
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It means a geometric progression in your effectiveness.
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That's exciting as well as provocative, but it gets even better.
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Remember, quantum leaps can come without apparent effort.
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These are high velocity moves that carry you to dramatically higher performance levels without a time consuming struggle.
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So then page eight, he gets in.
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He says quantum leaps require paradoxical behavior, which is flipping.
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It's doing the opposite of what you think.
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Usual moves, actions that on the surface often seem to contradict common sense, right?
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The fly going backwards contradicts common sense.
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It wants to go forwards.
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Lower on in page eight, he says there is a certain irony here.
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Your historically more dependable behaviors can become the major obstacles to future success.
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It's possible for them to cripple your progress.
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They may stand as a personal boundary lines that limit what you can accomplish with your life.
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So he says, page nine, quit trying harder.
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Quantum leaps cannot be achieved through incremental steps or through more of the same.
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So for me, I drew the stair steps versus just the exponential growth.
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Right.
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Stair steps is trying harder, like just get one more stair versus stepping back and thinking this kind of quantum leap on the bottom of page 10.
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He says, if you want to make a quantum leap, quit thinking about trying harder.
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More effort isn't the answer.
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And I wrote as my note, the donkey owns the farm.
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Like if you're like, who owns the farm?
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Well, the farmer's thinking about everything.
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The donkey's actually carrying everything on its back, but it doesn't own the farm through just thinking harder.
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Page 12, he goes, look for a paradoxical move.
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For example, consider revising your field.
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Try being illogical.
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Ricochet.
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If you're trying to climb over the wall, open a door.
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Walk through.
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If you're pushing against the river, try going with the flow.
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Use finesse instead of effort.
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He says, faith in the familiar sets the trap.
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And I thought of that faith over fear, or instead we should have belief in the bizarre.
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Then he says, second guess your routines, overcome the addiction to your old methodologies, set a new pattern.
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I love that line.
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Overcome the addiction to the old methodologies.
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Like that's us all.
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So this is very similar, connected to the first episode of Peter Reed's Books to Pablo, when we did the Book of Philon, right?
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So he talks a lot about
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reasoning by analogy how that is a death trap.
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There is similarity here.
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Totally.
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I mean, I think these are fundamental truths of the universe explained in different ways.
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And I completely agree.
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If the things you're doing have quit working, stop doing them.
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That sounds smart.
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Quantum leaps come when you seek the elegant solution.
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So look for an approach characterized by simplicity, precision, efficiency, and neatness.
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What would be the definition of quantum leaps?
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Is it like an exponential growth?
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On page 13, most of us can be found flying too close to the ground.
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Too often, we don't give ourselves permission to soar.
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So at the top of page 14, he goes in, it's time to start focusing on possibilities rather than on limits or obstacles.
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Make a quantum leap means moving outside your mental boundaries.
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So I thought about the loop you get stuck in of limiting obstacles or limiting beliefs and possibilities.
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You know, you go on a downward loop or upward loop, depending on if you break through those or not.
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Don't get the idea that absolutely anything you can think of is possible.
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It isn't.
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But in some areas of your life, what lies within your reach is enough to stagger the mind.
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You can double your level of success, triple it.
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Far beyond that, you can leverage up your performance to the second or third or fourth power or beyond.
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True, there are some limits, but you don't need to worry about them.
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Your real limits are far beyond your artificial mental boundaries.
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in your mind are a self-imposed prison.
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So how do you break out of the jail?
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Through surrender.
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You have to forfeit some of your old beliefs and sacrifice some of those sensible thinking patterns.
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So-called common sense can be a curse that puts a ceiling on how far you reach or how high you fly.
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So talk more about surrender.
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Yeah, I really like this.
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So my note below this page said you only have one option.
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You can only keep one of these.
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You can go to the sensible on the left or you can go to the right, which is two to three times your success.
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You only get to keep one of these paths.
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You can go on sensible path.
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Yeah, my mom always said I should be a doctor.
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Or you can go to the other path, which could have two to three times the success, but isn't considered sensible by family or friends or other conventional thinkers.
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So page 15, it says, you don't have to have hard proof that you can make a quantum leap.
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It says, instead of holding you back because you don't have hard proof that you can make a quantum leap, see if you end up with evidence proving you can't.
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Like we don't actually have proof we can't achieve these things, but we believe that.
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Like we just, we choose the negative path of sensible.
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Like, oh, I couldn't be happy, wealthy, successful, right?
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You know, without any proof, we just commit to this.
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If you must doubt something, doubt your limits.
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The experts generally agree, though, that people typically use only about 10% of their true potential.
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If you want to be skeptical of some ideas that truly deserve to be called into question, challenge the thoughts and beliefs that have argued against your quantum leap.
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Put those old inhibiting ideas to the test by going for it with everything you've got.
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Doubt is what does the most damage.
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So those were four bangers from the page that I underlined.
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So what he's saying is you have to be very careful and doubtful of your limiting beliefs.
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That's it.
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Like if you're going to challenge something, challenge not the potential goal or the potential thing that you can achieve, just challenge the beliefs that are holding you back.
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That's it.
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And I really like what he says where you kind of have one on one side, you have fear on the far other side of being reckless.
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We're trying to be courageous, which is right in the middle.
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And what he's saying is we're all kind of stuck in fear where we don't want to challenge these limiting beliefs at all.
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On page 17, he goes into focus on ends rather than the means.
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You don't have to know how you're going to get there, but you need to know where you want to go.
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And that reminds me of a quote from Seneca, if a man does not know which port he is sailing, no wind is favorable.
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So it is crucial to have a crystal clear picture of what you want to accomplish.
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People always get hung up on the how-to aspects regarding a quantum leap.
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And I really like that.
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So below that, I wrote, destination is greater than the effort.
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Purpose is greater than the speed.
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Clarity is greater than motivation.
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Quantum leap is greater than how to.
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The key is not to get in the way, he said.
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So I think that's great, right?
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As a reminder of kind of who, not how, or why, not how, what, not how.
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You can get to the how after you define that.
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The typical problem here is that we may want something.
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We may hear a little whisper in our ear saying like, I want XYZ.
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And it's like, oh.
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But how can I break free from this problem that I have right now?
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How can I achieve that thing because I don't have XYZ?
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As you're saying this, it made me think of like the shoulder with the angel, the shoulder with the devil.
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Like we're listening to the devil's advocate, right?
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The devil on our left shoulder saying like, you can't do that, Peter.
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You can't do that, Pablo.
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All this book is saying, give at least as much, if not more attention to the other side.
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Because you're letting this data and this sensible sound logical and safe where it's not.
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It's a prison, self-imposed.
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Yeah, the way that I like to say it is we all have beliefs.
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You get to choose what you believe in.
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And whatever you believe in is made up.
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No, no, no.
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Whatever you believe in is made up.
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So at least make up something that is positive and great for you.
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I like that.
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I like it too when people are like, I can't do that.
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I just say, you're right.
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Whether you think you can or you can't, you're right.
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You get to choose, which is, we're saying the same thing with different words, but you're right.
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Like, make it a fun belief because it's made up regardless.
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On page 18, it says, skip it.
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The answers will come to you.
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And when they do, you probably will find them to be simple, streamlined solution.
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See, a quantum leap is a move you've already prepared to make.
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You just haven't done it yet.
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What has been missing is your decision to go for it.
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The quantum leap is something you've been keeping from happening.
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It is not something you have to struggle to make happening.
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You don't really force it into existence.
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You just let it occur.
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Lorani says, the formula does not involve getting everything neatly organized and all the risk eliminated before you make the move.
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Absence of evidence is not evidence of their absence.
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So it says, think of an iceberg where you see only the tip of what's really there.
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Just as real though, out of sight are invisible resources ready to make profound differences in what you can achieve.
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All you have to do is open up and let them in.
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So like you may only see a little iceberg.
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You don't see that full potential below the water is what he's saying of what the path leads to.
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So it says quantum leaps are merely the process of using yourself and your world differently, thus allowing other possibilities that exist to actually materialize.
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Your willingness to make a quantum leap is the enabler.
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So later on, he says, your bidding is also based on the power of your partner's cards.
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You don't really get to see those cards until it's time to play them, but you trust that they will bring valuable strength to your own hand.
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When you focus constantly on a clear picture of what you want to accomplish and move forward it confidently, the unseen forces will rally to your help.
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What I am hearing is there's a lot of believing.
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So changing your beliefs, going from limiting beliefs to empowering beliefs.
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And then there is a lot of trusting, surrendering, letting go, and trusting that things are going to play in the right way.
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And working harder is not the right move.
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Working smarter is the right move.
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Now, for those lazy people, you may need to work harder a little bit.
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So you need to find out where you are in the journey.
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Yeah.
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But most people, I think, are working really hard.
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And for most people, it's just working smarter or thinking about how they're working.
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So we're two-thirds of the way through the book.
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We only have 10 pages left.
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It's a really fast kind of 30, 34-page book.
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On page 21 and 22, I like this one.
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The biggest obstacle to overcoming the odds is never challenging them.
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It's like the biggest obstacle is we don't challenge these odds or these beliefs or these self-limiting prisons we have.
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The biggest obstacle to overcoming the odds is never challenging them.
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Why do you think that we don't challenge them?
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I think it comes back to what we talked about in the first episode around in school, we're trained to not question the question.
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We're told you can't do this.
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Why we are trained not to question?
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I think it's just a product of the factory-style education system that came out of Germany in the 1800s to produce...
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widgets that go in the factory to hit the hammer like you don't you don't want something questioning like hey dude i need you to hit the hammer 100 times a day on this nail to make the car that comes off the assembly line like it's just what we needed as a people i don't have as much of the negative view of evil bad horrible it just was what was needed at the time and we've outgrown that but we're holding on to it that's my own analysis of it yeah what do you think
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Yeah, I agree.
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I agree.
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We just have a retarded way of doing education.
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Is that what I said, right?
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So page 22, I wrote at the top, Pablo does this.
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So it says, the risks hit you as rather apparent and may be quite threatening, but you must stack them up against the hidden risks you accept when you decide to live with the status quo.
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All right.
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Translate.
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Dude, this is what you do every day.
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The risk hit you is rather apparent.
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So basically, when you want to make a change, move to a new country or a new city or whatever, most people just see those risks of like, I'll have to change my lease.
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Yeah.
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And what it says is, but you must stack them up, compare them against the hidden risk you accept by deciding to live with the status quo.
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I'll just stay in this city.
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Huge.
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That's why I said Pablo does this.
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It's a massive flip.
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And then after that, it says, ask yourself what you're risking if you do not go for the quantum leap.
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The risk is that you won't get what you really want out of life.
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That's a freedom flip.
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Yeah.
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So it says quantum leaps do mean that to some degree you must move beyond the zone of familiarity, security, and comfort.
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But you can make the jump to you too without being reckless or impulsive.
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Peter, it's you squared, not you two.
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Yeah, you're right.
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This is not a band, okay?
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Yeah, you're right.
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Pablo is teaching Peter how to read.
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We flipped.
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It's a massive flip.
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Came here for you to sit on my lap and me to read to you, and now you're teaching me how to read.
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I'm spanking you.
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Thank you, Pablo.
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Let's go.
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You abandon your excuses.
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You reframe the problem.
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You take a completely different chance.
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A quantum leap is risking...
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in a way that unmasks the truth.
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This isn't a case of taking a big chance.
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It's a matter of giving yourself a big chance.
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Boom!
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There's a flip.
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That is an interesting one because we want something different than whatever we have right now.
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We can see what's going to happen if we continue the way that we are.
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Yep.
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In fact, I don't think that we really understand how bad it will get.
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This is going to compound if we stay the way that we are.
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And we just do nothing.
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We just stay like the insect, just hitting our head against the crystal.
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I think you nailed it.
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And I think you do a great job of this, which is you have to create the comparison.
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And that's why I love there's no solution, only trade-offs.
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Is it forces us to think about as the fly, okay, I can keep hitting my head at the wall or I can risk just going backwards, which feels uncomfortable, and then look around.
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Right.
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That's a powerful shift.
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Or I could just stay in this city or country that doesn't feel aligned.
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But, you know, it's I don't have to cancel my rent.
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I don't I've got two good friends.
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Right.
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That's that's an option.
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Now, let's stack that up against the tradeoffs of imagining this other place and scenario.
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So it's a powerful hit.
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We've got five pages left.
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I actually mark up these last five pages the most.
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These were the ones that hit me the deepest.
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So page 23, it just says, most people confuse wishing and wanting with pursuing.
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So he says, the simple secret to seeking pursuit, dreams begin to crystallize into reality when they are pursued.
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I added a note I really like that I use a lot, which is API, like connecting between software systems.
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I say, action provides information.
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I heard that somewhere and I loved it.
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API, right?
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Action provides information.
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It's like tapping into the universe.
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So wishing, longing, wanting, desiring.
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These are not the same as pursuing a dream.
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These are mental states and can play an important role in the process of becoming you squared, but they are essentially passive.
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Pursuit, on the other hand, is active.
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Reaching your dreams is behaving, moving, and it shortens the distance between you and your desired objective.
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Most people confuse wishing and wanting with pursuing.
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Ask, dot, dot, dot, seek, dot, dot, dot, knock, dot, dot, dot, and your dream shall be yours.
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Okay, page 25 and 26 were two of my favorites.
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and then the next two as well.
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So these next four are my bangers for the book.
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Seek failure.
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Quantum leaps demand a willingness to make mistakes.
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You cannot hole up in a safe zone of behavior where you have beaten the odds of failing.
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An unwillingness to encounter defeat or run into problems outlaws quantum leaps.
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You must realize that if you're experiencing no difficulties, problems, or pain, you probably have aimed too low.
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You've leveled off in your growth and achievement.
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You probably are far from reaching your limits.
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I love that.
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That's also similar to what Elon said, right?
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That you need to have failures in your track record.
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If not, you're not doing enough.
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You are just playing it too small.
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Completely.
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I love it.
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It's the pause during which you poise for the jump, the temporary loss of momentum that occurs in the process of changing gears.
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And underneath that, it says failure is a resource.
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It helps you find the edge of your capabilities.
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Yeah.
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And I love that.
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So I call it fail-your-your-e, which stood for edge.
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So I thought like fail your edge, fail your e. So failure is just finding your edge.
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And I love that way to remember it of like when you fail, you just go, oh, this is an edge.
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Okay, great.
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We find a different way to go or we know we need to expand on that edge.
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My favorite three pages are this next one and the next two.
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So everything looks like failure in the middle.
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You can't bake a cake without getting the kitchen messy.
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The stress will seduce you toward the retreat to safety of the status quo.
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Actually, the struggle gives you strength.
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Failure is a resource that helps you find the edge of your capabilities.
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And then the next page, page 28, it hits really hard where it says,
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When you take the quantum leap, you ride the situation, but you don't really control it all that much.
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In fact, the only way you control it is by knowing where you're going, continuing the pursuit, and learning from your mistakes.
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So here's the final one.
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This is the banger that I think sums up the whole book.
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It has been said that if you do the thing you fear, death of fear is certain.
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Courage is not the absence of fear and anxiety.
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It's proceeding in spite of those feelings.
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So the big massive freedom flip here is if you do the thing you fear, death of the fear is certain.
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But we have a choice, right?
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We can continue to live with this fear.
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Like I have a fear of spiders.
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Like I hate spiders, right?
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I can live with that fear.
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Or I can just go up to the spider, kill it.
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Lean into it, work on it.
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Lean into it.
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And after I'm done with it, I'm freed.
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It's dead.
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The fear disappears.
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And then there was another sentence at the end.
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Courage is not the absence of fear and anxiety.
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It is it proceeding in spite of those feelings.
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Yeah, I love that one.
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This is important.
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It comes back to the quote that we said earlier that the book hits on a few times.
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It's all a spectrum.
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So on one side of the spectrum, you have feared like I'm scared.
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I'm standing behind my mom or dad.
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On the other side, you have full sin, like reckless.
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I'm going to die like, oh, yeah, I'll go on a motorcycle without a helmet.
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100 miles an hour.
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Both of those are paths that lead you in the wrong direction.
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It's going in the middle where you feel like you're going to die, but you recognize there's no real fear of death from this little spider or from asking for a raise or trying the job or asking a client or asking a mentor.
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But you have this feeling of fear and anxiety and you proceed anyway.
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That's courage.
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You're still going to have the feelings.
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And I think most of us, when I think about my own failures and a lot of people I see is they tell themselves, well, Pablo never had those fears.
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He just left.
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He didn't have those.
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And that's actually a victim mentality that I'm holding on to when I say that to convince myself he's different and I never had that opportunity.
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Rather than saying, no, he was peeing his pants.
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The dude was scared.
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He just powered through it, which was the courageous act.
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Yeah.
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And I think that what works for me a lot is I am way more afraid of what's going to happen if I stay, if I don't take action rather than taking the action.
427
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And I think that that part hits you and sums up one of the reasons I love having your influence, which is you do that as they said it in the book.
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They said you have to stack up.
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The status quo, which most of us just go with the status quo.
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You have to create an alternative outcome to the status quo.
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Compare it, right?
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There's no solution, only trade-offs.
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So I think if I had to summarize the whole book, I want to hit that line for you.
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It says, the risk hit you as rather apparent.
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And may be quite threatening, but you must stack them up against the hidden risk you accept when you decide to live with the status quo, which is just what you're already living with.
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Ask yourself what you're risking if you do not go for the quantum leap.
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The risk is what you won't get what you really want out of life.
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And so when you zoom out on the whole book, I think it's saying we are all the fly, right?
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We are all banging ourselves heads against the window.
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And it's comfortable.
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We know what it's going to feel like.
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We can kind of see what we want, even though it doesn't feel like we're going to get there.
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Rather than pause, go backwards a little bit, a flip, and look around, which is uncomfortable.
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It feels like we're going backwards to then find the true path forward.
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We're just going to bang our head against the glass, fall down, and die.
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And this book gives you practical ways to rethink this discomfort, this fear, these doubts, and how to practically pull yourself back from the glass, look around and find that door that takes you to places you could never dream of in a leap, not in a hard work, in a leap.
447
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That's basically a magical, instantaneous, you move from A to B.
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Boom.
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What a great book.
450
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Thank you, Taylor, for the recommendation.
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U squared.
