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Social media is a huge component for these young athletes to really get seen.
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Maybe you can elaborate a little bit on that.
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I was studying the landscape.
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I had done social media marketing for local businesses, knowing that your social media can't just be hype.
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It has to convert to sales.
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Otherwise, why have it?
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Building the trust with a young person who thinks they know it all, who doesn't want to look cringe on Instagram, how you build that trust.
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The hardest lesson that I'm trying to teach them is you're not posting for your friends.
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It will be cringe because you've never tried to post for a college.
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But if you're wanting to and only willing to be a leader in that space and really go after your goals, then it's gonna feel cringe.
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If you can speak on any of the challenges with either the children or kids or the parents or both.
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Every program I have with each athlete is customized.
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Every college is different.
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They might want the same skills, but you have to communicate more than skills and stats.
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I tell the kids, your stats will get you in the door, but your character is what makes sure you stay.
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It's amazing to have you on the show, okay?
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I just want to welcome you and maybe you can introduce yourself to the audience and tell them a little bit about yourself.
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Of course.
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I'm so happy to be here, Mark.
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I mean, we had such a fun online coaching relationship for the last four years.
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That blows my mind how fast time has gone by.
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Where do I start?
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I am a founder, mom, serial entrepreneur, and my biggest mission in life is to provide professional and financial opportunities for youth, especially athletes.
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So I found myself in the space where I was just a mom with a camera.
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And now I'm doing media coaching for athletes, high school athletes in particular.
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But the really fun thing is I get to bridge the gap.
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So these young athletes who are all about the cool lingo and the Gen Z hype actually get to connect with their parents and their grandparents.
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So we're also creating some generational bonding and cohesion.
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That's me in a nutshell.
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Yeah.
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There's a whole hell of a lot more to you, but we'll take that for for today's show.
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Perfect.
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Thank you for sharing.
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I I just love this because I've known you for long enough now to see how many ventures you've gone on.
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And the biggest thing that I've noticed is that just that heart-centered part of you.
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And so I'm sure that this is very fulfilling, being that you're working with children.
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And, you know, something that people don't really understand that we talked about is that Hawaii is kind of off the grid in the sense that you are not on the mainland, you know, and and social media is a huge component for these young athletes to really get seen.
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And so I'm just curious, maybe you can elaborate a little bit on that and what it looks like working with some of them.
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For sure.
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So back in 2022-ish, I was helping my son get into club volleyball.
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And the coach was very progressive in how he wanted to position the boys so that they could be seen by college recruiters.
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And I thought, perfect.
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Cost of living is astronomical in Hawaii.
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So we'll take any kind of scholarship we can get.
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And he traveled with the boys to Florida and he was talking to us about writing letters.
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And I thought, okay, that's one way.
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Then my daughter got into competitive volleyball, and her coaches are saying, okay, now you write the emails and you post to social media and you download Huddle.
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And I'm like, okay, this is a thing, right?
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There's a whole like course and world in this athlete's life.
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And then, you know, I was studying the landscape.
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I had done social media marketing for local businesses, knowing that your social media can't just be hype.
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It has to convert to sales.
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Otherwise, why have it?
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Otherwise, why have a business?
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It's just a hobby, right?
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And one of the dads I came across, he has a sophomore at Colorado State.
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And he's like, hey, so are you gonna go get a second job?
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And I was like, no, I don't want a second job just to pay for my kids' college.
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He's like, then let me in, let me, let me give you an in on a secret.
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And I was like, sure, give it to me.
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He said, if you go hard and all in one year for your kids' film and communication and that whole college recruiting process, he's like, you can sit pretty at home and not have to go get a second job.
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And for me, that's a huge plus because I'm an entrepreneur.
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I've never been a good nine to fiver, I've never been the traditional corporate growing.
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And I know this.
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So I said, My typical manifesting generator.
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I like it.
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I just cannot.
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I cannot.
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So he's like, this is what I did.
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His boy's in football.
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So he showed me his back end of how football colleges and coaches like to recruit with Twitter.
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My social media marketing brain is like, I see this.
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Boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom.
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You built him a brand, you built all the different funnels and connections.
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I get it.
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So I'm like, oh, I should try this with volleyball.
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Because that's my sport, what my two kids are in.
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So I started doing that on Instagram while doing professional photography and video highlights for a bunch of clubs and clinics and families.
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I just told a few of them, like, hey, I know you're all in on this for your kid.
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I know you're giving up holidays, they're giving up dinners out, they're giving up so much and even doing the whole two jobs thing for their kids' athletic career.
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That I said, let me just experiment with a few things.
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Are you cool at that?
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And they're like, sure.
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Make some videos, create the posts, create the connections, and we'll just track it.
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So we started doing that.
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And the Colorado state dad tells me, girl, do it.
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I just got my son a five-year full ride, which is a hundred and fifty thousand dollar scholarship.
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Crazy.
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And I'm like, oh my gosh, even if I did a second part-time job, it would never amount to that much money unless it's like drugs and other illegals, right?
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So also not willing to go that route.
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Exactly.
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We like a clean slate here.
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So I went, I went all in on it in the last five months, really started to understand, not just look at a college and be like, ooh, that'd be great on my resume, but looking at their branding and understanding their ethos, their messaging, and their mission, you can backwards engineer exactly what they're looking for.
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If you're smart and you're really studying the school as a whole, and then the athletic program that your child wants to get into, you just start communicating like that.
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And I tell my athletes, it's like finding the right boyfriend.
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Your parents are never gonna let you bring home the man who's not what?
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Loyal, kind, family-oriented.
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They'll tell you a list of 500 things that a boyfriend needs to have.
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They just need to be acclimated to see that through branding and through the lens of what a school wants.
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And so the hardest lesson that I'm trying to teach them is you're not posting for your friends.
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It will be cringe because you've never tried to post for a college.
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But if you're gonna just stay at the level where your friends are at, you can post for them all day, every day, do all the trends they do, say all the same things they do.
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But if you're wanting to and only willing to be a leader in that space and really go after your goals, then it's gonna feel cringe, but we're gonna do it because only you can determine your scholarship and your acceptability into that college.
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So you know, it it has to be a huge advantage having that wisdom at such a young age.
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I mean, first of all, I I think about like, you know, I think some people might look at this and be like, oh, my kids already got to be a brand, right?
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And you could, I could see that.
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But the reality is if your kids are playing sports, they're already sacrificing most of their childhood.
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I mean, if they really want to be the best and they want to get into a college, they have to make all kinds of sacrifices.
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And as the world moves today, this is the the the world we're in.
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Like this is our calling card.
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It's it's it's very interesting.
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I'm curious if you can speak on any of the challenges with either the children or kids, I should call them at this point, or the parents or both.
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I think the biggest requirement that all of my business relationships need, whether it's with the kid or the parent, is now with my media coaching, is how much do they trust me?
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Because you know, branding and marketing and NIL rules can change on the flip of a dime.
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Alabama State just went for the yes this week.
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So all of those kids in Alabama, boom, they're probably thinking of how do I get Nike to sponsor me?
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How do I get Bose to sponsor me?
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How do I get my free socks?
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Like their brains are going crazy, but we all know you can't build a brand overnight.
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It takes relationships, it takes grit, it takes trust.
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And for me, I tell the parents I have a curriculum, I'll draw you out, I'll draw you out an entire month's plan with content, expectations, and education.
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But if something changes, if there is a big fallout in our volleyball community, if there's a big law change with NIL, do you trust me enough to pivot so that your child can stay at the forefront of where we need to be for their brand first and foremost, and then for what they they want for their scholarships and their futures.
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And so every program I have with each athlete is customized.
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Um, it makes my work harder, but I believe that's what each child deserves.
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And every college is different.
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They don't want, you know, GCU and Stanford don't want the same kid.
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Duke and UCLA don't want the same kid.
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They might want the same skills, but you have to communicate more than skills and stats.
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I tell the kids, your stats will get you in the door, but your character is what makes sure you stay.
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And there's always nuances in that, you know, from working with various clients.
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Clients are always nuanced.
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Curious, you know, two questions I had, and we'll start with the first one, which was building the trust with a young person who thinks they know it all, who doesn't want to look cringe on Instagram.
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I'm just curious how how, I mean, I know your heart.
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I've known you long enough.
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You've such a kind, like I I can just see these kids melting around you, but maybe there's us kids that are a little difficult.
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I'm curious how how you build that trust.
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The really fortunate thing I have is because my daughter got us into this volleyball world three, four years ago.
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I was anti first to them.
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They have so much free media for me.
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They have free photo shoots here, type pictures there.
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They see me as a mother first and a wife because I sit in those seats all day.
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I was at uh the convention center yesterday for 14 hours.
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My daughter was gone after 12 p.m.
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But I stayed for my kids and I sit with the parents and I I, you know, I'm a mom, so I know it takes a village to raise a child.
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So we're not always talking about sports in college, we're talking about how grandma's doing after she, you know, took that fall or did they fix the boat?
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You know, it's it's so much more when you realize people when you realize athletes are whole people, and if you respect that, you give so much more to the landscape versus it's kind of a Jerry Maguire.
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You're in the bathroom and you're like, help me help you, help me help you.
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And sometimes we make happy mediums where my athlete's like, Auntie, that's really cringe.
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You know, like, okay, tell me, can we make a deal?
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Can you maybe do your favorite one?
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Do your version on your personal page and do my version on your professional page.
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Are we okay with that deal?
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Because I also start all of our relationships with them owning their goals.
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This is not my goal to get into Stanford and Harvard.
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I'm way past wanting to go to college again.
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I I did my time, I am good.
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And I understand their goals and how badly they want them.
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And so everything is intentional.
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And I say, okay, if we sacrifice this one video, this is gonna affect all of these steps.
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There's a ripple effect.
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And I said, if we if we don't do this one thing, June 16th is a big day for volleyball players, and in particular NCAA, registered volleyball players, college coaches can start to talk to them on June 16th in their sophomore year.
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So I said, if you sacrifice this, we are also sacrificing this.
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And then they own that.
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I said, It's, you know, I am working for you.
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Do you want to sacrifice both?
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I think too, it's do you want to get the result?
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You know, like you paid me to do this, and I'm working for you, but do you want to get the result?
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You know, I think it's really beautiful.
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Something I want to point out.
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You know, I'm a huge fan of you.
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I think you're elegant and classy and beautiful and tall, and you have all these feminine qualities of like a woman that any man would want to be a wife or to have a wife.
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But you also have this dragon fire, like, I'm gonna kick ass as an entrepreneur.
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And I just think it's really important that the world sees that we are multifaceted human beings.
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And I think we live in this really interesting era.
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I you probably don't know much about this because your algorithm is different than mine, but just kind of the red pill, like women need to be this way, traditional wife, like at home, cooking, clean, or no, we're boss babes.
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And it's like, no, we're humans, and we have so much capacity.
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And I just think it's beautiful to see somebody that can truly embody both of those qualities at such a high level.
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And I'm just curious if you can share with the audience like what that's really like, because there's a lot of noise okay right now.
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I mean, you've got just straight up, I am a traditional wife and I stay at home and I cook and clean and I keep my mouth shut.
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And it's like coming back, it's popularized.
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And you have this like, I am a boss babe bitch, and I crush the world and and super masculine.
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And I don't think I think we're really here to balance, like we talked about our feminine and masculine energies, you know?
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That means a lot.
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Thank you.
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Because I know you've traveled the world, worked with thousands of different people from all walks of life, professional athletes included.
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And I had to heal a lot of my people pleasing.
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There's a lot of different cultural influences we have here in Hawaii, and one of it is be seen, not heard.
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And I am culture.
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Exactly.
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I'm half Japanese, Hawaiian, Chinese.
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And so having all the different influences of how I should be a woman, I kind of stomped on and just like threw out the window in high school because I saw how the traditional ways, not that this was entirely that reasoning, but the traditional ways led to my mom being in an abusive relationship for 15 years and her sacrificing a lot of her own dreams and not owning her voice and knowing the impact she has with that.
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And as a daughter in that immediate direct impact of that, internally, the small little girl in me that was the fighter, like my, you know, that middle school defiant mini warrior.
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I was like, no, I am never letting a man abuse me and take advantage of me again.
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But at the same time, in high school, I won Miss What 18 because I was very fluid and soft and elegant and poised.
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But there comes a time, and athletes know this, there comes a time in a championship game where it's not about the poise and the softness.
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It's about make the effing point, apply all of your skills and everything you have, funnel all of your energy at that one target and win the championship trophy.
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And so for me, entrepreneurship balances motherhood out.
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I can be very soft and structured with my kids and with my husband, but and I'm happy to receive gifts.
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But when it comes to business, business is business.
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We're following the plan.
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My price is my price, and my standards are my standards.
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We do not compromise our standards.
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I love that.
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That's so beautiful.
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And I mean, I know you're a woman of faith, and you know, I know that you know, you have the idea of serve my husband, serve my family, be supportive.
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And I just think that you can be both, you know?
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And I I just think it's beautiful.
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So thank you for sharing that.
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I hope that I hope that helps a lot of women in the audience realize that like we are these multifaceted beings and we're all so unique and we can serve our partners and our families because I think a man's there to serve as well for sure.
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And we can also be badasses, you know?
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A hundred percent.
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And this is something we touched on while we were coaching together is that women are so in touch with their intuitive nature that often they can lead in a way that a man could never do, but it's the partnership that is the magic where how the family can thrive.
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And so, you know, it's the nurturing that I do as a mother is 500 times as important as the leadership and guidance that my husband has in our households.
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And you really just have to have those conversations with your partner, not leaving anything off the table, like talk about everything that you possibly could even feel insecure about, put it all out there so that you can stand with each other and not like try to hide things from each other.
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I did that mistake for years, thinking, well, I'm the entrepreneur, I'm the only one that knows how to take risks, I'm gonna be spending all this money, not tell my husband until later, and then that blows up in my face.
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It has to be a joint leadership in a family.
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I agree.
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I think that communication is so important.
00:17:52.960 --> 00:18:03.519
And I think, you know, there's a book, it's it's about business, but it's called Getting Naked, and it's just about business partners really like just openly, vulnerably communicating and operating as a team, you know.
00:18:03.680 --> 00:18:09.519
I do think men in a general perspective are designed to lead, you know, and and I think women are designed to nurture.
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But I think that leadership is unique for both.
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I see some really nurturing men and I see some really powerful leaders in women.
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And I think that, you know, it's it's it's a very taboo subject, so I won't go into it too much because a lot of people have strong opinions about this.
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But the reality is we're humans, we work better as a team, we communicate and we make up each other's weaknesses, and we just operate with with both people's best interests in mind.
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I was listening to Brene Brown, and she sits down with the family, like the family.
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And husband's like, This is what I got.
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She's like, Okay, you got to drop one of those things.
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And she's like, Okay, I got a book tour in this.
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And he's like, Well, you got to drop half of that.
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He's like, Okay, and the kids are like, Well, I want to do ballet and soccer.
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And she's like, Okay, you can pick one.
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And and you, everyone gets together and they're like, This is what we can actually do as a team.
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And there's four people in that team.
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And the kids are old enough now that they get to have opinions and views.
00:18:58.079 --> 00:19:03.119
And I think that when you operate that way instead of this iron fist, you get so much more collaboration done.
00:19:03.279 --> 00:19:08.400
And I will admit, just like Brene Brown talks about, it's all about vulnerability, and vulnerability is really hard.
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And I think that's probably one of the skills that you're really good at is being vulnerable and open.
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And I think that's probably why you develop so much trust with the kids.
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And I just want to share this with you.
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You have such an awesome skill, and I want you to know that there's gonna come a time when you're not gonna know these girls at all that you're taking on or boys as you keep growing.
00:19:26.319 --> 00:19:28.960
You know, they're not gonna be part of Hawaii, they're not gonna be part of the team.
00:19:29.119 --> 00:19:35.039
But I think that your accolades and your your beauty of like how you show up will definitely connect with them.
00:19:35.119 --> 00:19:36.960
Um, and that's already kind of happening, right?
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I have two things I want to point out too, in a statement you just made is that you and I are both hermit opportunists.
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So we would much rather work by ourselves.
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And we're strong personalities.
00:19:47.920 --> 00:19:50.559
I'm a fire fire, Leo Pisces Leo.
00:19:50.799 --> 00:19:54.079
You're a Taurus with like mad leadership skills.
00:19:54.319 --> 00:19:59.599
The tendency I've always had is let me just do this by myself because it'll get done better.
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Right.
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But through our wisdom and experience, we know it actually will be better if we bring people into this world and and learn and grow together.
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Otherwise, society is a society as community is just gonna collapse.
00:20:16.480 --> 00:20:18.480
Everyone's gonna be on their own island, right?
00:20:18.799 --> 00:20:40.559
Second is I love that whole example that Brene Brown gave because every Fortune 500 company has an executive board that meets as a leadership team frequently, not just sporadically, on a schedule to determine goals, capabilities, and progress.
00:20:40.799 --> 00:20:43.279
So why not do that in our families?
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Totally.
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You're Japanese.
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I mean, these are the people that actually literally plan out.
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No, no, no.
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If you know about the Japanese, they plan out a hundred years.
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So like Toyota's got a hundred-year plan.
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Yeah.
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Like that's crazy.
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And something I wanted to point out, right?
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It can change.
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Why not?
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Yeah.
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Something I wanted to point out too, just whoever's listening is that like the number one bottleneck in all of business is the founder.
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And what I've noticed is that what I work on the most is getting them to go from the IC role, the individual contributor role, to actually being a leader and trusting people.
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And I hear all the time, everyone sucks.
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I can't find any good employees.
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I'm like, well, if everyone sucks, how did Apple build themselves?
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You know what I mean?
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Like if everyone sucks, how how did how did Tesla build itself?
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And so what you realize is that ability to work as a unit and lead others is what really separates.
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I have a what was I gonna ask you?
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I have it written down.
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You know, there's a book every entrepreneur needs to read.
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Please.
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John Maxwell's 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership.
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That's rule number one, the law of the lid.
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The company will never surpass the capabilities of its founder.
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Okay.
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Yeah.
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No, I agree.
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I you know, it's and it's just a fact.
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And so many founders are you know, people like, oh, you work so much on personal development.
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I'm like, that's the problem though.
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Yeah, but but yeah, it's not a tool, it's not a strategy.
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Is that all that stuff can be but if you are uncertain, your team's uncertain.
00:22:04.160 --> 00:22:05.920
If you're not focused, your team won't be focused.
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If you're not settled and solid, your team won't be settled.
00:22:08.960 --> 00:22:13.759
I am curious if you want to elaborate a little bit on on what has been coming your way.
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Uh, because I'd like to push this a little bit into the NIL conversation.
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Okay, let's go.
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But I'm curious, like you I know you've had some people come to you recently and say, hey, like, I really need my girls to get into these schools.
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And so I guess I'll I'll break it up in a couple questions.
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How is that going, people coming to you now?
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I'm curious what when they say, because you this is, you know, I want Stanford and this, so now you've got to play these double roles, like like what are both schools looking for?
00:22:38.079 --> 00:22:40.319
And then just the component of NIL as as a whole.
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There's no NIL in in Hawaii, you said, right?
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Correct.
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So we'll start with that, because the law's the law.
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NCAA doesn't allow NIL deals in Hawaii for high schoolers.
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Okay.
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So the HHSAA governing body in Hawaii is pretty strict about no exorbit gifts, no sponsorship deals, and no exchange of money for an athlete's athletic capabilities.
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So nothing around this makes me run faster, this makes me hit harder, this makes me train longer.
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Nothing to do with their athletic capabilities can be highlighted and thus be the reason they're receiving gifts.
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So we want to steer far and clear from that because I really don't want the opportunities for my kids to be a sacrificed thing in their future that can really lead down like a really bad path.
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So I'm very strict about that.
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And we have conversations with the families that, you know, if you're already receiving gifts as a young middle schooler, we're gonna have to turn that faucet off.
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Because the interesting thing is it's prohibited for high schoolers, it is not prohibited for eight, 10, and 11-year-olds, which is wild.
00:24:00.400 --> 00:24:02.559
Wow, that is crazy.
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Yes.
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So in Hawaii, too, I'm saying, you know, we all know the median household income is near a million dollars.
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Median, average is the required need to survive in Hawaii.
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That's not what we make, that's what we need.
00:24:18.880 --> 00:24:25.039
So families are constantly thinking of like this fundraising thing I've got to do on Friday.
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The whole we're selling squares for Super Bowl.
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Everybody's selling squares for Super Bowl.
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Everybody's trying to sell Zippy's tickets for chili and Portuguese bean soup.
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But there's gotta be a better way.
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And that was my first thing as a team mom.
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I was like, there's gotta be a better way.
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I really don't want to be selling any more chili tickets.
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And I said, okay, let me just sit on this and really think.
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The companies who track the best success often have the best branding, which includes marketing, and product so that their customers are happy on the front end and the back end.
00:25:01.279 --> 00:25:02.720
That gives them longevity.
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You deliver what you promise and you take good care of us, right?
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And so I'm like, okay, I'm racking my brain.
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How do I do this?
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How do I do this?
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How do I do this?
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And so, you know, I'm talking to these athletes and I'm like, tell me, tell me about you.
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Don't talk about your sport and the ones that can communicate, like, Auntie, I love at school, I volunteer and I sit with these kids during lunch because they don't have friends, and then I go to tutoring with them.
00:25:26.799 --> 00:25:31.359
And I was like, you, you are the kid that every college really wants.
00:25:31.599 --> 00:25:38.000
You may have amazing stats, but I don't have to give you direction on how to take care of other people and your classmates and your teammates.
00:25:38.160 --> 00:25:45.359
I don't have to give you direction on what moves the needle when you're talking about staff, employee, or peer happiness.
00:25:45.599 --> 00:25:48.880
And I just find these kids and I'm like, I'll work with you.
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Whatever you can pay.
00:25:50.079 --> 00:25:52.720
So there's a few kids, I'm like, whatever you can pay, I'll work with you.
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Like, okay.
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I coach them.
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We change their social media around.
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They start getting followed by key people in their goals list.
00:26:02.160 --> 00:26:10.079
And two girls in particular, they know me as just a photographer, and they said, Auntie, can you do our brand photography for this project we're doing?
00:26:10.400 --> 00:26:10.960
Of course.
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Freshman.
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Brand photography?
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Of course.
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That sounds so fun.
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They have a nonprofit that gives back to the community to help underserved youth get free volleyball clinics.
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That is that was my story as a kid.
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I had a single mom who couldn't afford all the extra training and all the extra camps that I needed to go to to be seen as a volleyball player.
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So I just volunteered.
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I said, sure, let me do this with you.
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Started training them, did their brand photography.
00:26:42.319 --> 00:26:44.960
And a dad in the gym goes, What are you doing?
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in like the way where I know he's been watching for a while.
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I was like, Hi, dude.
00:26:50.559 --> 00:26:52.720
Well, you know, just some brand photography.
00:26:52.880 --> 00:26:54.720
He goes, but that's not what you're doing over there.
00:26:54.880 --> 00:26:57.359
And I was like, well, that's social media marketing.
00:26:57.440 --> 00:26:58.880
He's like, and then what are you doing over there?
00:26:58.960 --> 00:27:00.160
And I was like, well, coaching.
00:27:00.319 --> 00:27:05.119
He's like, so you do coaching, social media marketing, and brand photography.
00:27:05.279 --> 00:27:06.079
And I was like, yeah.
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And he's like, why?
00:27:07.440 --> 00:27:10.640
He said, well, some of my kids have big goals.
00:27:10.799 --> 00:27:21.279
And if you look at it like a business, if you are a business person, you see that every college recruiter is not recruiting on aesthetics or just stats.
00:27:21.599 --> 00:27:24.720
Every recruiting decision is a business deal.
00:27:24.880 --> 00:27:35.039
If you're not bringing value to the team with an idea of like how you impact, so we're talking like legacy, how you impact a program, it's an easy no for the college.
00:27:35.200 --> 00:27:49.359
But if you do show up with this is the value I bring, I understand that's important to your brand, I can apply that in these areas of my life because I speak on mental health, athletics, family values, giving back to my community.
00:27:49.519 --> 00:27:53.119
The college is gonna say, come to a free clinic, I'll work with you.
00:27:53.279 --> 00:27:54.240
Come to this camp.
00:27:54.400 --> 00:27:55.839
I want my coach to see you.
00:27:56.000 --> 00:27:56.640
It's like dating.
00:27:57.119 --> 00:27:57.680
Dating is rough.
00:27:57.759 --> 00:27:58.480
We're not gonna go there.
00:27:58.559 --> 00:27:59.039
But anyway.
00:27:59.200 --> 00:28:02.079
Yeah, it can be like dating, but it's a lot like business.
00:28:02.240 --> 00:28:06.960
And so I just tell them you've got to start thinking like a businesswoman or a businessman.
00:28:07.200 --> 00:28:07.599
I love that.
00:28:07.680 --> 00:28:14.880
It's just it's crazy to me that these young women that are teenagers are trying to build nonprofits to help people that are less fortunate than them.
00:28:15.039 --> 00:28:17.279
I think that that is just what the world needs more of.
00:28:17.519 --> 00:28:24.160
I think another thing too is there's so much negativity out there in the social media and the news, and it's just beautiful to hear things like this.
00:28:24.480 --> 00:28:28.079
I think that as we both know, most of the time it's exasperated.
00:28:28.160 --> 00:28:31.519
It's really not as bad or as good as everyone makes it out to be.
00:28:31.599 --> 00:28:34.880
So it's nice to see young ladies that are operating at that capacity.
00:28:35.200 --> 00:28:44.880
Yeah, one of one of my thoughts and getting into all of this was I see how much my kid, kids, I see my own kids and their screen time hours.
00:28:45.039 --> 00:28:47.920
If they're gonna be on it, why not just join them?
00:28:48.079 --> 00:28:50.160
Why not make it the place where they're learning?
00:28:50.319 --> 00:28:52.319
Why not make it the place where they're thriving?
00:28:52.480 --> 00:28:54.640
We can complain about it all day, every day, right?
00:28:54.799 --> 00:28:58.640
Simon Sinek is like the millennials will always it's not going anywhere.
00:28:58.720 --> 00:29:04.160
And the millennials can always complain about the Gen Zers or we can actually partner with them and make shit happen.
00:29:04.400 --> 00:29:04.799
100%.
00:29:05.200 --> 00:29:07.039
Like we're not a victim to this, guys.
00:29:07.200 --> 00:29:08.400
And we created it.
00:29:08.720 --> 00:29:09.839
We created it.
00:29:10.079 --> 00:29:10.880
Literally.
00:29:11.119 --> 00:29:12.240
We invented it.
00:29:12.480 --> 00:29:17.759
And how many of those millennials are still shopping on TikTok shop and Instagram shop anyway?
00:29:17.920 --> 00:29:21.039
So you can't say it's just the kids' fault.
00:29:21.279 --> 00:29:22.880
We're contributing to it just as much.
00:29:22.960 --> 00:29:25.279
And I'm speaking on behalf of the millennials and the genre.
00:29:25.440 --> 00:29:26.160
I'm Gen X.
00:29:26.319 --> 00:29:29.440
I mean, it's definitely it is a thing now.
00:29:29.599 --> 00:29:33.920
In the next 10, 20 years, there won't be a person that doesn't even it's just it's all what it is.
00:29:34.079 --> 00:29:34.720
So yeah.
00:29:34.880 --> 00:29:44.720
Unless we're all willing to shut all of our accounts off, none of us millennials, gen, gen Xers, and boomers can say that it's just the kids' fault.
00:29:44.960 --> 00:29:45.359
I agree.
00:29:45.519 --> 00:29:45.920
I agree.
00:29:46.160 --> 00:29:55.680
I'm curious, you know, as you start to expand this part of your business, because of of the four years I've known you, this seems like one of the most it's it's it's a huge opportunity for you.
00:29:55.839 --> 00:29:57.599
It seems like something you have a lot of passion for.
00:29:57.759 --> 00:29:59.599
It kind of checks a lot of boxes.
00:29:59.759 --> 00:30:03.200
And I'm just curious, like, what what do you see for the future for yourself?
00:30:03.359 --> 00:30:10.960
Because I know this is you've had multiple businesses in the past, but out of all of them that I've seen you do, this one seems like it fits very well.
00:30:11.119 --> 00:30:13.200
So what's the what's the future goals with this?
00:30:13.519 --> 00:30:15.359
Gosh, that's a loaded question.
00:30:15.599 --> 00:30:19.599
If we have time, if we have all the time, I mean, I'm happy to explain.
00:30:19.759 --> 00:30:25.359
I think I've had about seven careers and two of them you've been directly related to.
00:30:25.519 --> 00:30:38.480
When I launched Hi Hard Academy, I enrolled in October and I launched my online coaching with 12 people signed on, 12 amazing clients signed on on December 6th.
00:30:38.640 --> 00:30:40.559
And I think we were all blown away, right?
00:30:40.720 --> 00:30:41.839
We were all like, What?
00:30:42.000 --> 00:30:42.960
What just happened?
00:30:43.200 --> 00:30:43.839
You crushed it.
00:30:43.920 --> 00:30:44.559
That's what happened.
00:30:44.720 --> 00:30:52.240
And when you and G asked me like how I did it, I remember I I said, I literally followed spirit on this.
00:30:52.480 --> 00:30:59.759
I prayed so hard because the message that year God had planted in my heart was we need to take care of our brothers and sisters.
00:30:59.920 --> 00:31:07.119
And my coaching was, it sounded so fluffy and so, you know, I taught people how to love again.
00:31:07.359 --> 00:31:14.559
And it wasn't about dating, it was all about coming back home to yourself and understanding yourself as a whole being.
00:31:14.880 --> 00:31:17.200
For women in particular, I only coached women.
00:31:17.279 --> 00:31:19.680
It was how to understand your cycles in life.
00:31:19.759 --> 00:31:24.640
So you're not downward spiraling instead, you're learning and doing the upward spiral.
00:31:24.799 --> 00:31:36.559
And I utilized every tool in my toolbox from owning a sewing school, from teaching preschool, from being a mother, a businesswoman, the craziest and most amazing testimonial.
00:31:36.880 --> 00:31:42.079
Because my message was once you figure out how to love yourself, everything else falls into place.
00:31:42.319 --> 00:31:48.720
By year one, I had a graduate who had broke her 100K ceiling and made over 100K.
00:31:49.279 --> 00:32:02.480
And just this past year, so we're on year 24, my second woman from cohort one broke 100K and made 140K in revenue this past year.
00:32:02.640 --> 00:32:06.559
And yeah, it took four years, but that's only her pocketbook.
00:32:06.720 --> 00:32:09.119
What happened to her relationship with your kids?
00:32:09.279 --> 00:32:10.799
What happened to her marriage?
00:32:10.960 --> 00:32:12.640
What happened to her community?
00:32:12.799 --> 00:32:17.119
The reason people come back and give you more business is because they love being in your community.
00:32:17.200 --> 00:32:20.000
And these two women are shining examples.
00:32:20.160 --> 00:32:21.440
I'm so proud of them.
00:32:21.599 --> 00:32:36.720
Like we literally would cry on the floor about our ex-boyfriends and, you know, like the nerves in our body giving out like it it was such small things that we reframed as important cornerstones to healing our hearts and our lives.
00:32:36.880 --> 00:32:38.480
Now they're making 140k.
00:32:38.559 --> 00:32:40.160
And she's like, I kind of forgot about it.
00:32:40.480 --> 00:32:48.240
So, to your point, like you have to own the feminine and masculine aspects of yourself to be an evolved entrepreneur.
00:32:48.400 --> 00:32:51.440
You have to understand it, address all the insecurities.
00:32:51.599 --> 00:32:57.119
Hopefully, you have an amazing partner to help you grow personally while you're doing things professionally.
00:32:57.359 --> 00:33:04.880
But now in this business, the evolved message God put in my heart was I can't just focus on the mothers.
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I have to help the youth.
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Because if the youth don't get it, who's gonna make our social security policies next generation?
00:33:13.599 --> 00:33:16.559
Who's gonna be running the White House in the next generation?
00:33:16.799 --> 00:33:21.680
Who's gonna be making rules on gun control and all these other controversial things?
00:33:21.839 --> 00:33:22.799
It's our kids.
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But the only message our kids are getting right now is skibby toilet riz.
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Like, what?
00:33:28.640 --> 00:33:32.480
I will not let that happen to our future generations.
00:33:32.640 --> 00:33:36.000
Like they have to know better than what's cool or cringe.
00:33:36.079 --> 00:33:38.160
Like they have to understand these things.
00:33:38.319 --> 00:33:43.920
So, I mean, it's a huge task, but maybe there's a reason why I went into early childhood ed.
00:33:44.000 --> 00:33:53.680
Maybe there's a reason why I became a mother at 22 and was stressed out of my mind for 10 years, and a reason why I became a stay-at-home mom and an accidental entrepreneur.
00:33:53.839 --> 00:33:58.799
I believe everything is a breadcrumb to the wisdom that you are going to receive in your life.
00:33:58.960 --> 00:34:02.319
So you own it and you ride with it, or you play victim to it.
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I love it.
00:34:03.119 --> 00:34:03.519
I love it.
00:34:03.599 --> 00:34:05.680
It's it reminds me what you just said everything's a breadcrumb.
00:34:05.759 --> 00:34:08.159
I always say the thing that leads to the thing leads to the thing.
00:34:08.239 --> 00:34:10.719
And I'm just gonna say, okay, I think this is your thing.
00:34:10.880 --> 00:34:11.360
I love it.
00:34:11.840 --> 00:34:13.199
I'm so stubbed for you.
00:34:13.440 --> 00:34:15.039
I'm just super stoked for you.
00:34:15.519 --> 00:34:20.320
Yeah, I, you know, like classically, you write out the five-year business plan.
00:34:20.480 --> 00:34:29.119
You so in my case, like if I were being the traditional entrepreneur, I would say, by end year one, I want Oakley to sponsor me.
00:34:29.280 --> 00:34:35.199
By end year two, I want Adidas to sponsor me because that elevates me and it elevates all my kids' opportunities, right?
00:34:35.360 --> 00:34:45.360
And I understand all the nuances of what sponsorship, brand deals, and collaboration looks like in those particular nuanced industries.
00:34:45.440 --> 00:34:50.000
Because within athletics, there's a lot of niche industries, how I view it.
00:34:50.159 --> 00:35:02.159
So by partnering with key people who have the same brand messaging, if I can align with them by year one, year two, then I have all these, I can make all these quarterly benchmarks of success.
00:35:02.320 --> 00:35:09.679
But this at the same time, God's teaching me this lesson of you don't know the conversations that are happening behind closed doors.
00:35:09.840 --> 00:35:12.320
So if I say no tomorrow, it's a no.
00:35:12.480 --> 00:35:18.480
And I'm like, okay, God, there's a post right now that's a lot of entrepreneurs and mindset creators, right?
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D, dot, dot.
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But with me this time, sign God.
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I could build 20 other businesses and have fun in it.
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I could make money with it, but I would much rather in this season of life partner with God and know that He is the ultimate maximizer of my time, my energy, my impact, and time, money, and impact for my clients too.
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And when he knows we're done, we're done.
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Prune it.
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When he says go, we go.
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It takes a lot of faith.
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I love it.
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My gosh, constantly praying.
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I know.
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I know.
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That's beautiful.
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I appreciate you sharing.
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I have uh I just want to kind of wrap it up with something I think is really important, and is that this is a big deal, okay, for almost every parent who cares about their kids and is somewhat on point with their lives.
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What advice or wisdom do you have to the parents?
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Because we've got parents trying to get their kids into Harvard, Cambridge, Stanford, Oxford.
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We've got kids just trying to get their parents trying to get their kids into just a regular school.
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It's not always even athletics.
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I'm just curious if you have any wisdom for them or what you think kids should be focusing on.
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I think there's two things I really want to stress with all parents who have strong willed and big gold athlete.
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One, teach them leadership skills and the plethora of skills that fall under that umbrella.
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But you can start by letting them own parts of their routine and their life, giving them a voice, holding family meetings so that they own their schedule for the week.
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That was one thing I needed to do with my kids.
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I said, stop.
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You're not gonna drag me around to three different tryouts, three different workouts, and then tell me, oh mom, by the way, I want to go to the arcade tonight.
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No, that drives a mother crazy, okay?
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You're gonna own your request, the responsibility around it to fulfill it, and the consequence of if it doesn't happen.
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Or if it does happen, great.
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I celebrate you.
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So we started doing family Sunday meetings, and every Sunday, everyone has to report their schedule, their budget, their relationship updates.
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It's a business meeting on Sundays at 8 p.m.
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And if they don't show up, they don't get to do what they want to do.
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Sorry, I got lots to do.
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If you didn't make a choice, it's okay.
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You have next Sunday to try again.
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So teach your kids leadership skills and two, remember they're whole people.
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Like if your 40-hour week was just full of meetings, what do you want to shoot yourself?
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So like lean, right, lean into your kid.
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If they have not, if you know they love the beach and haven't gone in two weeks, surprise them with a beach outing.
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Like let them frolic and be silly and be wild and be ratchet if they need to for two hours.
00:37:52.639 --> 00:37:55.360
Like that's only two percent of their day.
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Wait, do the math better, can 15 minutes is one percent.
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Don't worry about it.
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It's we get the point of the day.
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Yeah, just let them let them be goofy.
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If they're 12, they should be running them up, getting wild like for two hours a week, you know.
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Let them be kids because the world will forever tell them to grow up better.
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Like, let them be kids while they're kids under your protection.
00:38:19.519 --> 00:38:21.119
Yeah, that's beautiful wisdom.
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Thank you so much.
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I appreciate you.
00:38:23.119 --> 00:38:23.599
My pleasure.
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Is there anything you want to share that's coming up next?
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And can you also share where we can find you?
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Sure.
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Um, as an advocate for all the kids in Hawaii, we are four inches shorter, four hours farther away from all the recruiters that need to see them.
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So I'm just gonna pitch it now.
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If you want a strong, cultured, family-oriented athlete from the most beautiful state, I'm gonna say it, the most beautiful state in our United States of America, then you need to bring one of our Hawaii athletes to your camp and just get to know their families.
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GCU does an amazing, and you know, maybe there's a lot of other colleges, but I've been working with Grand Canyon University in the last two weeks, and they do an amazing bring one parent and one athlete for a week.
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They build them like a mock program schedule, and the kid goes to the classes.
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They stay on campus in a door, and the families and the kids get to experience it because we all know experiential learning is five times better than all the other methods of learning.
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But they actually feel it, they experience it, and then you know, our kids come in with everything they have, which is amazing, and that's what I want for more Hawaii kids.
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So, recruiters, call me, uh-huh, connect you with, you know, programs and people.
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But really, we need to elevate our kids with the leadership skills so that they don't start fighting each other.
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There's too much animosity and violence in the world.
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And if we don't teach the kids to own their insecurities and communicate well through them, we're just gonna create mini wars everywhere.
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And that's not what we want.
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We don't want shouting of flurs and you know, unnecessary things across the net or across the field.
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We don't need parents to keep fighting on the sideline, like grow-up parents.
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Okay.
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Our kids, we can't expect more of our kids if we're not doing the same.
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So I love that that radical responsibility.
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Radical responsibility.
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Yeah.
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Find me on Instagram.
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Yeah, tell me where people can find you.
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Find me on Instagram.
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That's my second home, wakea.media.
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And if you ever want to reach out for special collabs, email me at wakia.media at gmail.com.
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I'll have all that in the show notes, and I just really appreciate you.
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We need more women in the world like that.
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Thank you so much, Mark.
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And more men like you.
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Thank you.
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Yeah, I appreciate it.
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Yeah.
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Coach, coach all those guys, please, Mark.
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I'm working on it.
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I'm working on it.
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All the men.
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Make all the strong men for the strong girls growing up.
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It's true.
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Like the level.
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So if you take that the first law of leadership, a company can only go as high as its leader is willing to grow and elevate.
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A marriage, a family, and a program can only go as high as its leaders are willing to grow.
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So, men, if you want amazing women, get there with your leadership skills.
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We're all waiting.
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I have so many single friends waiting.
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Just get there, guys.
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I'll push back on that and tell you I have struggled on the other ends.
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I talk to all my high-level women, and I'm like, I don't know what y'all are talking about, but I can't seem to find this at all.
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And they tell me the same things.
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I'm like, we have the same problems.
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I'm like, why is it that we don't find each other?
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It's so interesting.
00:41:33.840 --> 00:41:39.519
But I just think the reality is it's just obviously if we're unique and we're higher level, it's just not the norm, you know, and that's okay.
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I like being a unicorn.
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Yeah, it's coming.
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Good things are coming, Zoomark.
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I know it.
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I agree.
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Well, thank you.
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I appreciate you.
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Thank you.
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You're amazing.
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You too.
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Thank you.
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Social media is a huge component for these young athletes to really get seen.
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Maybe you can elaborate a little bit on that.
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I was studying the landscape.
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I had done social media marketing for local businesses, knowing that your social media can't just be hype.
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It has to convert to sales.
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Otherwise, why have it?
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Building the trust with a young person who thinks they know it all, who doesn't want to look cringe on Instagram, how you build that trust.
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The hardest lesson that I'm trying to teach them is you're not posting for your friends.
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It will be cringe because you've never tried to post for a college.
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But if you're wanting to and only willing to be a leader in that space and really go after your goals, then it's gonna feel cringe.
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If you can speak on any of the challenges with either the children or kids or the parents or both.
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Every program I have with each athlete is customized.
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Every college is different.
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They might want the same skills, but you have to communicate more than skills and stats.
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I tell the kids, your stats will get you in the door, but your character is what makes sure you stay.
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It's amazing to have you on the show, okay?
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I just want to welcome you and maybe you can introduce yourself to the audience and tell them a little bit about yourself.
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Of course.
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I'm so happy to be here, Mark.
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I mean, we had such a fun online coaching relationship for the last four years.
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That blows my mind how fast time has gone by.
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Where do I start?
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I am a founder, mom, serial entrepreneur, and my biggest mission in life is to provide professional and financial opportunities for youth, especially athletes.
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So I found myself in the space where I was just a mom with a camera.
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And now I'm doing media coaching for athletes, high school athletes in particular.
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But the really fun thing is I get to bridge the gap.
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So these young athletes who are all about the cool lingo and the Gen Z hype actually get to connect with their parents and their grandparents.
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So we're also creating some generational bonding and cohesion.
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That's me in a nutshell.
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Yeah.
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There's a whole hell of a lot more to you, but we'll take that for for today's show.
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Perfect.
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Thank you for sharing.
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I I just love this because I've known you for long enough now to see how many ventures you've gone on.
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And the biggest thing that I've noticed is that just that heart-centered part of you.
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And so I'm sure that this is very fulfilling, being that you're working with children.
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And, you know, something that people don't really understand that we talked about is that Hawaii is kind of off the grid in the sense that you are not on the mainland, you know, and and social media is a huge component for these young athletes to really get seen.
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And so I'm just curious, maybe you can elaborate a little bit on that and what it looks like working with some of them.
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For sure.
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So back in 2022-ish, I was helping my son get into club volleyball.
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And the coach was very progressive in how he wanted to position the boys so that they could be seen by college recruiters.
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And I thought, perfect.
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Cost of living is astronomical in Hawaii.
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So we'll take any kind of scholarship we can get.
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And he traveled with the boys to Florida and he was talking to us about writing letters.
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And I thought, okay, that's one way.
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Then my daughter got into competitive volleyball, and her coaches are saying, okay, now you write the emails and you post to social media and you download Huddle.
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And I'm like, okay, this is a thing, right?
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There's a whole like course and world in this athlete's life.
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And then, you know, I was studying the landscape.
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I had done social media marketing for local businesses, knowing that your social media can't just be hype.
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It has to convert to sales.
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Otherwise, why have it?
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Otherwise, why have a business?
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It's just a hobby, right?
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And one of the dads I came across, he has a sophomore at Colorado State.
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And he's like, hey, so are you gonna go get a second job?
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And I was like, no, I don't want a second job just to pay for my kids' college.
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He's like, then let me in, let me, let me give you an in on a secret.
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And I was like, sure, give it to me.
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He said, if you go hard and all in one year for your kids' film and communication and that whole college recruiting process, he's like, you can sit pretty at home and not have to go get a second job.
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And for me, that's a huge plus because I'm an entrepreneur.
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I've never been a good nine to fiver, I've never been the traditional corporate growing.
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And I know this.
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So I said, My typical manifesting generator.
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I like it.
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I just cannot.
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I cannot.
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So he's like, this is what I did.
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His boy's in football.
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So he showed me his back end of how football colleges and coaches like to recruit with Twitter.
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My social media marketing brain is like, I see this.
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Boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom.
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You built him a brand, you built all the different funnels and connections.
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I get it.
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So I'm like, oh, I should try this with volleyball.
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Because that's my sport, what my two kids are in.
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So I started doing that on Instagram while doing professional photography and video highlights for a bunch of clubs and clinics and families.
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I just told a few of them, like, hey, I know you're all in on this for your kid.
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I know you're giving up holidays, they're giving up dinners out, they're giving up so much and even doing the whole two jobs thing for their kids' athletic career.
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That I said, let me just experiment with a few things.
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Are you cool at that?
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And they're like, sure.
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Make some videos, create the posts, create the connections, and we'll just track it.
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So we started doing that.
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And the Colorado state dad tells me, girl, do it.
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I just got my son a five-year full ride, which is a hundred and fifty thousand dollar scholarship.
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Crazy.
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And I'm like, oh my gosh, even if I did a second part-time job, it would never amount to that much money unless it's like drugs and other illegals, right?
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So also not willing to go that route.
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Exactly.
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We like a clean slate here.
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So I went, I went all in on it in the last five months, really started to understand, not just look at a college and be like, ooh, that'd be great on my resume, but looking at their branding and understanding their ethos, their messaging, and their mission, you can backwards engineer exactly what they're looking for.
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If you're smart and you're really studying the school as a whole, and then the athletic program that your child wants to get into, you just start communicating like that.
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And I tell my athletes, it's like finding the right boyfriend.
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Your parents are never gonna let you bring home the man who's not what?
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Loyal, kind, family-oriented.
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They'll tell you a list of 500 things that a boyfriend needs to have.
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They just need to be acclimated to see that through branding and through the lens of what a school wants.
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And so the hardest lesson that I'm trying to teach them is you're not posting for your friends.
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It will be cringe because you've never tried to post for a college.
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But if you're gonna just stay at the level where your friends are at, you can post for them all day, every day, do all the trends they do, say all the same things they do.
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But if you're wanting to and only willing to be a leader in that space and really go after your goals, then it's gonna feel cringe, but we're gonna do it because only you can determine your scholarship and your acceptability into that college.
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So you know, it it has to be a huge advantage having that wisdom at such a young age.
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I mean, first of all, I I think about like, you know, I think some people might look at this and be like, oh, my kids already got to be a brand, right?
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And you could, I could see that.
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But the reality is if your kids are playing sports, they're already sacrificing most of their childhood.
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I mean, if they really want to be the best and they want to get into a college, they have to make all kinds of sacrifices.
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And as the world moves today, this is the the the world we're in.
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Like this is our calling card.
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It's it's it's very interesting.
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I'm curious if you can speak on any of the challenges with either the children or kids, I should call them at this point, or the parents or both.
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I think the biggest requirement that all of my business relationships need, whether it's with the kid or the parent, is now with my media coaching, is how much do they trust me?
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Because you know, branding and marketing and NIL rules can change on the flip of a dime.
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Alabama State just went for the yes this week.
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So all of those kids in Alabama, boom, they're probably thinking of how do I get Nike to sponsor me?
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How do I get Bose to sponsor me?
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How do I get my free socks?
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Like their brains are going crazy, but we all know you can't build a brand overnight.
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It takes relationships, it takes grit, it takes trust.
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And for me, I tell the parents I have a curriculum, I'll draw you out, I'll draw you out an entire month's plan with content, expectations, and education.
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But if something changes, if there is a big fallout in our volleyball community, if there's a big law change with NIL, do you trust me enough to pivot so that your child can stay at the forefront of where we need to be for their brand first and foremost, and then for what they they want for their scholarships and their futures.
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And so every program I have with each athlete is customized.
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Um, it makes my work harder, but I believe that's what each child deserves.
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And every college is different.
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They don't want, you know, GCU and Stanford don't want the same kid.
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Duke and UCLA don't want the same kid.
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They might want the same skills, but you have to communicate more than skills and stats.
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I tell the kids, your stats will get you in the door, but your character is what makes sure you stay.
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And there's always nuances in that, you know, from working with various clients.
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Clients are always nuanced.
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Curious, you know, two questions I had, and we'll start with the first one, which was building the trust with a young person who thinks they know it all, who doesn't want to look cringe on Instagram.
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I'm just curious how how, I mean, I know your heart.
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I've known you long enough.
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You've such a kind, like I I can just see these kids melting around you, but maybe there's us kids that are a little difficult.
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I'm curious how how you build that trust.
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The really fortunate thing I have is because my daughter got us into this volleyball world three, four years ago.
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I was anti first to them.
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They have so much free media for me.
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They have free photo shoots here, type pictures there.
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They see me as a mother first and a wife because I sit in those seats all day.
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I was at uh the convention center yesterday for 14 hours.
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My daughter was gone after 12 p.m.
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But I stayed for my kids and I sit with the parents and I I, you know, I'm a mom, so I know it takes a village to raise a child.
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So we're not always talking about sports in college, we're talking about how grandma's doing after she, you know, took that fall or did they fix the boat?
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You know, it's it's so much more when you realize people when you realize athletes are whole people, and if you respect that, you give so much more to the landscape versus it's kind of a Jerry Maguire.
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You're in the bathroom and you're like, help me help you, help me help you.
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And sometimes we make happy mediums where my athlete's like, Auntie, that's really cringe.
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You know, like, okay, tell me, can we make a deal?
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Can you maybe do your favorite one?
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Do your version on your personal page and do my version on your professional page.
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Are we okay with that deal?
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Because I also start all of our relationships with them owning their goals.
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This is not my goal to get into Stanford and Harvard.
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I'm way past wanting to go to college again.
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I I did my time, I am good.
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And I understand their goals and how badly they want them.
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And so everything is intentional.
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And I say, okay, if we sacrifice this one video, this is gonna affect all of these steps.
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There's a ripple effect.
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And I said, if we if we don't do this one thing, June 16th is a big day for volleyball players, and in particular NCAA, registered volleyball players, college coaches can start to talk to them on June 16th in their sophomore year.
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So I said, if you sacrifice this, we are also sacrificing this.
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And then they own that.
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I said, It's, you know, I am working for you.
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Do you want to sacrifice both?
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I think too, it's do you want to get the result?
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You know, like you paid me to do this, and I'm working for you, but do you want to get the result?
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You know, I think it's really beautiful.
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Something I want to point out.
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You know, I'm a huge fan of you.
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I think you're elegant and classy and beautiful and tall, and you have all these feminine qualities of like a woman that any man would want to be a wife or to have a wife.
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But you also have this dragon fire, like, I'm gonna kick ass as an entrepreneur.
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And I just think it's really important that the world sees that we are multifaceted human beings.
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And I think we live in this really interesting era.
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I you probably don't know much about this because your algorithm is different than mine, but just kind of the red pill, like women need to be this way, traditional wife, like at home, cooking, clean, or no, we're boss babes.
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And it's like, no, we're humans, and we have so much capacity.
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And I just think it's beautiful to see somebody that can truly embody both of those qualities at such a high level.
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And I'm just curious if you can share with the audience like what that's really like, because there's a lot of noise okay right now.
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I mean, you've got just straight up, I am a traditional wife and I stay at home and I cook and clean and I keep my mouth shut.
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And it's like coming back, it's popularized.
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And you have this like, I am a boss babe bitch, and I crush the world and and super masculine.
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And I don't think I think we're really here to balance, like we talked about our feminine and masculine energies, you know?
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That means a lot.
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Thank you.
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Because I know you've traveled the world, worked with thousands of different people from all walks of life, professional athletes included.
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And I had to heal a lot of my people pleasing.
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There's a lot of different cultural influences we have here in Hawaii, and one of it is be seen, not heard.
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And I am culture.
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Exactly.
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I'm half Japanese, Hawaiian, Chinese.
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And so having all the different influences of how I should be a woman, I kind of stomped on and just like threw out the window in high school because I saw how the traditional ways, not that this was entirely that reasoning, but the traditional ways led to my mom being in an abusive relationship for 15 years and her sacrificing a lot of her own dreams and not owning her voice and knowing the impact she has with that.
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And as a daughter in that immediate direct impact of that, internally, the small little girl in me that was the fighter, like my, you know, that middle school defiant mini warrior.
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I was like, no, I am never letting a man abuse me and take advantage of me again.
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But at the same time, in high school, I won Miss What 18 because I was very fluid and soft and elegant and poised.
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But there comes a time, and athletes know this, there comes a time in a championship game where it's not about the poise and the softness.
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It's about make the effing point, apply all of your skills and everything you have, funnel all of your energy at that one target and win the championship trophy.
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And so for me, entrepreneurship balances motherhood out.
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I can be very soft and structured with my kids and with my husband, but and I'm happy to receive gifts.
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But when it comes to business, business is business.
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We're following the plan.
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My price is my price, and my standards are my standards.
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We do not compromise our standards.
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I love that.
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That's so beautiful.
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And I mean, I know you're a woman of faith, and you know, I know that you know, you have the idea of serve my husband, serve my family, be supportive.
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And I just think that you can be both, you know?
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And I I just think it's beautiful.
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So thank you for sharing that.
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I hope that I hope that helps a lot of women in the audience realize that like we are these multifaceted beings and we're all so unique and we can serve our partners and our families because I think a man's there to serve as well for sure.
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And we can also be badasses, you know?
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A hundred percent.
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And this is something we touched on while we were coaching together is that women are so in touch with their intuitive nature that often they can lead in a way that a man could never do, but it's the partnership that is the magic where how the family can thrive.
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And so, you know, it's the nurturing that I do as a mother is 500 times as important as the leadership and guidance that my husband has in our households.
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And you really just have to have those conversations with your partner, not leaving anything off the table, like talk about everything that you possibly could even feel insecure about, put it all out there so that you can stand with each other and not like try to hide things from each other.
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I did that mistake for years, thinking, well, I'm the entrepreneur, I'm the only one that knows how to take risks, I'm gonna be spending all this money, not tell my husband until later, and then that blows up in my face.
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It has to be a joint leadership in a family.
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I agree.
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I think that communication is so important.
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And I think, you know, there's a book, it's it's about business, but it's called Getting Naked, and it's just about business partners really like just openly, vulnerably communicating and operating as a team, you know.
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I do think men in a general perspective are designed to lead, you know, and and I think women are designed to nurture.
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But I think that leadership is unique for both.
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I see some really nurturing men and I see some really powerful leaders in women.
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And I think that, you know, it's it's it's a very taboo subject, so I won't go into it too much because a lot of people have strong opinions about this.
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But the reality is we're humans, we work better as a team, we communicate and we make up each other's weaknesses, and we just operate with with both people's best interests in mind.
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I was listening to Brene Brown, and she sits down with the family, like the family.
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And husband's like, This is what I got.
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She's like, Okay, you got to drop one of those things.
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And she's like, Okay, I got a book tour in this.
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And he's like, Well, you got to drop half of that.
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He's like, Okay, and the kids are like, Well, I want to do ballet and soccer.
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And she's like, Okay, you can pick one.
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And and you, everyone gets together and they're like, This is what we can actually do as a team.
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And there's four people in that team.
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And the kids are old enough now that they get to have opinions and views.
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And I think that when you operate that way instead of this iron fist, you get so much more collaboration done.
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And I will admit, just like Brene Brown talks about, it's all about vulnerability, and vulnerability is really hard.
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And I think that's probably one of the skills that you're really good at is being vulnerable and open.
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And I think that's probably why you develop so much trust with the kids.
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And I just want to share this with you.
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You have such an awesome skill, and I want you to know that there's gonna come a time when you're not gonna know these girls at all that you're taking on or boys as you keep growing.
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You know, they're not gonna be part of Hawaii, they're not gonna be part of the team.
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But I think that your accolades and your your beauty of like how you show up will definitely connect with them.
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Um, and that's already kind of happening, right?
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I have two things I want to point out too, in a statement you just made is that you and I are both hermit opportunists.
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So we would much rather work by ourselves.
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And we're strong personalities.
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I'm a fire fire, Leo Pisces Leo.
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You're a Taurus with like mad leadership skills.
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The tendency I've always had is let me just do this by myself because it'll get done better.
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Right.
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But through our wisdom and experience, we know it actually will be better if we bring people into this world and and learn and grow together.
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Otherwise, society is a society as community is just gonna collapse.
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Everyone's gonna be on their own island, right?
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Second is I love that whole example that Brene Brown gave because every Fortune 500 company has an executive board that meets as a leadership team frequently, not just sporadically, on a schedule to determine goals, capabilities, and progress.
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So why not do that in our families?
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Totally.
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You're Japanese.
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I mean, these are the people that actually literally plan out.
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No, no, no.
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If you know about the Japanese, they plan out a hundred years.
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So like Toyota's got a hundred-year plan.
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Yeah.
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Like that's crazy.
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And something I wanted to point out, right?
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It can change.
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Why not?
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Yeah.
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Something I wanted to point out too, just whoever's listening is that like the number one bottleneck in all of business is the founder.
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And what I've noticed is that what I work on the most is getting them to go from the IC role, the individual contributor role, to actually being a leader and trusting people.
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And I hear all the time, everyone sucks.
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I can't find any good employees.
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I'm like, well, if everyone sucks, how did Apple build themselves?
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You know what I mean?
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Like if everyone sucks, how how did how did Tesla build itself?
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And so what you realize is that ability to work as a unit and lead others is what really separates.
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I have a what was I gonna ask you?
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I have it written down.
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You know, there's a book every entrepreneur needs to read.
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Please.
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John Maxwell's 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership.
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That's rule number one, the law of the lid.
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The company will never surpass the capabilities of its founder.
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Okay.
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Yeah.
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No, I agree.
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I you know, it's and it's just a fact.
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And so many founders are you know, people like, oh, you work so much on personal development.
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I'm like, that's the problem though.
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Yeah, but but yeah, it's not a tool, it's not a strategy.
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Is that all that stuff can be but if you are uncertain, your team's uncertain.
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If you're not focused, your team won't be focused.
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If you're not settled and solid, your team won't be settled.
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I am curious if you want to elaborate a little bit on on what has been coming your way.
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Uh, because I'd like to push this a little bit into the NIL conversation.
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Okay, let's go.
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But I'm curious, like you I know you've had some people come to you recently and say, hey, like, I really need my girls to get into these schools.
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And so I guess I'll I'll break it up in a couple questions.
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How is that going, people coming to you now?
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I'm curious what when they say, because you this is, you know, I want Stanford and this, so now you've got to play these double roles, like like what are both schools looking for?
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And then just the component of NIL as as a whole.
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There's no NIL in in Hawaii, you said, right?
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Correct.
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So we'll start with that, because the law's the law.
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NCAA doesn't allow NIL deals in Hawaii for high schoolers.
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Okay.
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So the HHSAA governing body in Hawaii is pretty strict about no exorbit gifts, no sponsorship deals, and no exchange of money for an athlete's athletic capabilities.
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So nothing around this makes me run faster, this makes me hit harder, this makes me train longer.
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Nothing to do with their athletic capabilities can be highlighted and thus be the reason they're receiving gifts.
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So we want to steer far and clear from that because I really don't want the opportunities for my kids to be a sacrificed thing in their future that can really lead down like a really bad path.
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So I'm very strict about that.
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And we have conversations with the families that, you know, if you're already receiving gifts as a young middle schooler, we're gonna have to turn that faucet off.
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Because the interesting thing is it's prohibited for high schoolers, it is not prohibited for eight, 10, and 11-year-olds, which is wild.
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Wow, that is crazy.
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Yes.
00:24:03.359 --> 00:24:10.880
So in Hawaii, too, I'm saying, you know, we all know the median household income is near a million dollars.
00:24:11.039 --> 00:24:16.480
Median, average is the required need to survive in Hawaii.
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That's not what we make, that's what we need.
00:24:18.880 --> 00:24:25.039
So families are constantly thinking of like this fundraising thing I've got to do on Friday.
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The whole we're selling squares for Super Bowl.
00:24:28.640 --> 00:24:30.720
Everybody's selling squares for Super Bowl.
00:24:30.880 --> 00:24:35.680
Everybody's trying to sell Zippy's tickets for chili and Portuguese bean soup.
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But there's gotta be a better way.
00:24:37.279 --> 00:24:39.680
And that was my first thing as a team mom.
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I was like, there's gotta be a better way.
00:24:42.640 --> 00:24:45.839
I really don't want to be selling any more chili tickets.
00:24:46.079 --> 00:24:49.440
And I said, okay, let me just sit on this and really think.
00:24:49.680 --> 00:25:01.119
The companies who track the best success often have the best branding, which includes marketing, and product so that their customers are happy on the front end and the back end.
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That gives them longevity.
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You deliver what you promise and you take good care of us, right?
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And so I'm like, okay, I'm racking my brain.
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How do I do this?
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How do I do this?
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How do I do this?
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And so, you know, I'm talking to these athletes and I'm like, tell me, tell me about you.
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Don't talk about your sport and the ones that can communicate, like, Auntie, I love at school, I volunteer and I sit with these kids during lunch because they don't have friends, and then I go to tutoring with them.
00:25:26.799 --> 00:25:31.359
And I was like, you, you are the kid that every college really wants.
00:25:31.599 --> 00:25:38.000
You may have amazing stats, but I don't have to give you direction on how to take care of other people and your classmates and your teammates.
00:25:38.160 --> 00:25:45.359
I don't have to give you direction on what moves the needle when you're talking about staff, employee, or peer happiness.
00:25:45.599 --> 00:25:48.880
And I just find these kids and I'm like, I'll work with you.
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Whatever you can pay.
00:25:50.079 --> 00:25:52.720
So there's a few kids, I'm like, whatever you can pay, I'll work with you.
00:25:53.039 --> 00:25:53.599
Like, okay.
00:25:53.759 --> 00:25:54.640
I coach them.
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We change their social media around.
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They start getting followed by key people in their goals list.
00:26:02.160 --> 00:26:10.079
And two girls in particular, they know me as just a photographer, and they said, Auntie, can you do our brand photography for this project we're doing?
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Of course.
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Freshman.
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Brand photography?
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Of course.
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That sounds so fun.
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They have a nonprofit that gives back to the community to help underserved youth get free volleyball clinics.
00:26:23.680 --> 00:26:26.000
That is that was my story as a kid.
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I had a single mom who couldn't afford all the extra training and all the extra camps that I needed to go to to be seen as a volleyball player.
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So I just volunteered.
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I said, sure, let me do this with you.
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Started training them, did their brand photography.
00:26:42.319 --> 00:26:44.960
And a dad in the gym goes, What are you doing?
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in like the way where I know he's been watching for a while.
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I was like, Hi, dude.
00:26:50.559 --> 00:26:52.720
Well, you know, just some brand photography.
00:26:52.880 --> 00:26:54.720
He goes, but that's not what you're doing over there.
00:26:54.880 --> 00:26:57.359
And I was like, well, that's social media marketing.
00:26:57.440 --> 00:26:58.880
He's like, and then what are you doing over there?
00:26:58.960 --> 00:27:00.160
And I was like, well, coaching.
00:27:00.319 --> 00:27:05.119
He's like, so you do coaching, social media marketing, and brand photography.
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And I was like, yeah.
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And he's like, why?
00:27:07.440 --> 00:27:10.640
He said, well, some of my kids have big goals.
00:27:10.799 --> 00:27:21.279
And if you look at it like a business, if you are a business person, you see that every college recruiter is not recruiting on aesthetics or just stats.
00:27:21.599 --> 00:27:24.720
Every recruiting decision is a business deal.
00:27:24.880 --> 00:27:35.039
If you're not bringing value to the team with an idea of like how you impact, so we're talking like legacy, how you impact a program, it's an easy no for the college.
00:27:35.200 --> 00:27:49.359
But if you do show up with this is the value I bring, I understand that's important to your brand, I can apply that in these areas of my life because I speak on mental health, athletics, family values, giving back to my community.
00:27:49.519 --> 00:27:53.119
The college is gonna say, come to a free clinic, I'll work with you.
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Come to this camp.
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I want my coach to see you.
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It's like dating.
00:27:57.119 --> 00:27:57.680
Dating is rough.
00:27:57.759 --> 00:27:58.480
We're not gonna go there.
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But anyway.
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Yeah, it can be like dating, but it's a lot like business.
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And so I just tell them you've got to start thinking like a businesswoman or a businessman.
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I love that.
00:28:07.680 --> 00:28:14.880
It's just it's crazy to me that these young women that are teenagers are trying to build nonprofits to help people that are less fortunate than them.
00:28:15.039 --> 00:28:17.279
I think that that is just what the world needs more of.
00:28:17.519 --> 00:28:24.160
I think another thing too is there's so much negativity out there in the social media and the news, and it's just beautiful to hear things like this.
00:28:24.480 --> 00:28:28.079
I think that as we both know, most of the time it's exasperated.
00:28:28.160 --> 00:28:31.519
It's really not as bad or as good as everyone makes it out to be.
00:28:31.599 --> 00:28:34.880
So it's nice to see young ladies that are operating at that capacity.
00:28:35.200 --> 00:28:44.880
Yeah, one of one of my thoughts and getting into all of this was I see how much my kid, kids, I see my own kids and their screen time hours.
00:28:45.039 --> 00:28:47.920
If they're gonna be on it, why not just join them?
00:28:48.079 --> 00:28:50.160
Why not make it the place where they're learning?
00:28:50.319 --> 00:28:52.319
Why not make it the place where they're thriving?
00:28:52.480 --> 00:28:54.640
We can complain about it all day, every day, right?
00:28:54.799 --> 00:28:58.640
Simon Sinek is like the millennials will always it's not going anywhere.
00:28:58.720 --> 00:29:04.160
And the millennials can always complain about the Gen Zers or we can actually partner with them and make shit happen.
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100%.
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Like we're not a victim to this, guys.
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And we created it.
00:29:08.720 --> 00:29:09.839
We created it.
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Literally.
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We invented it.
00:29:12.480 --> 00:29:17.759
And how many of those millennials are still shopping on TikTok shop and Instagram shop anyway?
00:29:17.920 --> 00:29:21.039
So you can't say it's just the kids' fault.
00:29:21.279 --> 00:29:22.880
We're contributing to it just as much.
00:29:22.960 --> 00:29:25.279
And I'm speaking on behalf of the millennials and the genre.
00:29:25.440 --> 00:29:26.160
I'm Gen X.
00:29:26.319 --> 00:29:29.440
I mean, it's definitely it is a thing now.
00:29:29.599 --> 00:29:33.920
In the next 10, 20 years, there won't be a person that doesn't even it's just it's all what it is.
00:29:34.079 --> 00:29:34.720
So yeah.
00:29:34.880 --> 00:29:44.720
Unless we're all willing to shut all of our accounts off, none of us millennials, gen, gen Xers, and boomers can say that it's just the kids' fault.
00:29:44.960 --> 00:29:45.359
I agree.
00:29:45.519 --> 00:29:45.920
I agree.
00:29:46.160 --> 00:29:55.680
I'm curious, you know, as you start to expand this part of your business, because of of the four years I've known you, this seems like one of the most it's it's it's a huge opportunity for you.
00:29:55.839 --> 00:29:57.599
It seems like something you have a lot of passion for.
00:29:57.759 --> 00:29:59.599
It kind of checks a lot of boxes.
00:29:59.759 --> 00:30:03.200
And I'm just curious, like, what what do you see for the future for yourself?
00:30:03.359 --> 00:30:10.960
Because I know this is you've had multiple businesses in the past, but out of all of them that I've seen you do, this one seems like it fits very well.
00:30:11.119 --> 00:30:13.200
So what's the what's the future goals with this?
00:30:13.519 --> 00:30:15.359
Gosh, that's a loaded question.
00:30:15.599 --> 00:30:19.599
If we have time, if we have all the time, I mean, I'm happy to explain.
00:30:19.759 --> 00:30:25.359
I think I've had about seven careers and two of them you've been directly related to.
00:30:25.519 --> 00:30:38.480
When I launched Hi Hard Academy, I enrolled in October and I launched my online coaching with 12 people signed on, 12 amazing clients signed on on December 6th.
00:30:38.640 --> 00:30:40.559
And I think we were all blown away, right?
00:30:40.720 --> 00:30:41.839
We were all like, What?
00:30:42.000 --> 00:30:42.960
What just happened?
00:30:43.200 --> 00:30:43.839
You crushed it.
00:30:43.920 --> 00:30:44.559
That's what happened.
00:30:44.720 --> 00:30:52.240
And when you and G asked me like how I did it, I remember I I said, I literally followed spirit on this.
00:30:52.480 --> 00:30:59.759
I prayed so hard because the message that year God had planted in my heart was we need to take care of our brothers and sisters.
00:30:59.920 --> 00:31:07.119
And my coaching was, it sounded so fluffy and so, you know, I taught people how to love again.
00:31:07.359 --> 00:31:14.559
And it wasn't about dating, it was all about coming back home to yourself and understanding yourself as a whole being.
00:31:14.880 --> 00:31:17.200
For women in particular, I only coached women.
00:31:17.279 --> 00:31:19.680
It was how to understand your cycles in life.
00:31:19.759 --> 00:31:24.640
So you're not downward spiraling instead, you're learning and doing the upward spiral.
00:31:24.799 --> 00:31:36.559
And I utilized every tool in my toolbox from owning a sewing school, from teaching preschool, from being a mother, a businesswoman, the craziest and most amazing testimonial.
00:31:36.880 --> 00:31:42.079
Because my message was once you figure out how to love yourself, everything else falls into place.
00:31:42.319 --> 00:31:48.720
By year one, I had a graduate who had broke her 100K ceiling and made over 100K.
00:31:49.279 --> 00:32:02.480
And just this past year, so we're on year 24, my second woman from cohort one broke 100K and made 140K in revenue this past year.
00:32:02.640 --> 00:32:06.559
And yeah, it took four years, but that's only her pocketbook.
00:32:06.720 --> 00:32:09.119
What happened to her relationship with your kids?
00:32:09.279 --> 00:32:10.799
What happened to her marriage?
00:32:10.960 --> 00:32:12.640
What happened to her community?
00:32:12.799 --> 00:32:17.119
The reason people come back and give you more business is because they love being in your community.
00:32:17.200 --> 00:32:20.000
And these two women are shining examples.
00:32:20.160 --> 00:32:21.440
I'm so proud of them.
00:32:21.599 --> 00:32:36.720
Like we literally would cry on the floor about our ex-boyfriends and, you know, like the nerves in our body giving out like it it was such small things that we reframed as important cornerstones to healing our hearts and our lives.
00:32:36.880 --> 00:32:38.480
Now they're making 140k.
00:32:38.559 --> 00:32:40.160
And she's like, I kind of forgot about it.
00:32:40.480 --> 00:32:48.240
So, to your point, like you have to own the feminine and masculine aspects of yourself to be an evolved entrepreneur.
00:32:48.400 --> 00:32:51.440
You have to understand it, address all the insecurities.
00:32:51.599 --> 00:32:57.119
Hopefully, you have an amazing partner to help you grow personally while you're doing things professionally.
00:32:57.359 --> 00:33:04.880
But now in this business, the evolved message God put in my heart was I can't just focus on the mothers.
00:33:04.960 --> 00:33:06.640
I have to help the youth.
00:33:06.799 --> 00:33:13.359
Because if the youth don't get it, who's gonna make our social security policies next generation?
00:33:13.599 --> 00:33:16.559
Who's gonna be running the White House in the next generation?
00:33:16.799 --> 00:33:21.680
Who's gonna be making rules on gun control and all these other controversial things?
00:33:21.839 --> 00:33:22.799
It's our kids.
00:33:23.039 --> 00:33:27.680
But the only message our kids are getting right now is skibby toilet riz.
00:33:27.759 --> 00:33:28.480
Like, what?
00:33:28.640 --> 00:33:32.480
I will not let that happen to our future generations.
00:33:32.640 --> 00:33:36.000
Like they have to know better than what's cool or cringe.
00:33:36.079 --> 00:33:38.160
Like they have to understand these things.
00:33:38.319 --> 00:33:43.920
So, I mean, it's a huge task, but maybe there's a reason why I went into early childhood ed.
00:33:44.000 --> 00:33:53.680
Maybe there's a reason why I became a mother at 22 and was stressed out of my mind for 10 years, and a reason why I became a stay-at-home mom and an accidental entrepreneur.
00:33:53.839 --> 00:33:58.799
I believe everything is a breadcrumb to the wisdom that you are going to receive in your life.
00:33:58.960 --> 00:34:02.319
So you own it and you ride with it, or you play victim to it.
00:34:02.559 --> 00:34:02.960
I love it.
00:34:03.119 --> 00:34:03.519
I love it.
00:34:03.599 --> 00:34:05.680
It's it reminds me what you just said everything's a breadcrumb.
00:34:05.759 --> 00:34:08.159
I always say the thing that leads to the thing leads to the thing.
00:34:08.239 --> 00:34:10.719
And I'm just gonna say, okay, I think this is your thing.
00:34:10.880 --> 00:34:11.360
I love it.
00:34:11.840 --> 00:34:13.199
I'm so stubbed for you.
00:34:13.440 --> 00:34:15.039
I'm just super stoked for you.
00:34:15.519 --> 00:34:20.320
Yeah, I, you know, like classically, you write out the five-year business plan.
00:34:20.480 --> 00:34:29.119
You so in my case, like if I were being the traditional entrepreneur, I would say, by end year one, I want Oakley to sponsor me.
00:34:29.280 --> 00:34:35.199
By end year two, I want Adidas to sponsor me because that elevates me and it elevates all my kids' opportunities, right?
00:34:35.360 --> 00:34:45.360
And I understand all the nuances of what sponsorship, brand deals, and collaboration looks like in those particular nuanced industries.
00:34:45.440 --> 00:34:50.000
Because within athletics, there's a lot of niche industries, how I view it.
00:34:50.159 --> 00:35:02.159
So by partnering with key people who have the same brand messaging, if I can align with them by year one, year two, then I have all these, I can make all these quarterly benchmarks of success.
00:35:02.320 --> 00:35:09.679
But this at the same time, God's teaching me this lesson of you don't know the conversations that are happening behind closed doors.
00:35:09.840 --> 00:35:12.320
So if I say no tomorrow, it's a no.
00:35:12.480 --> 00:35:18.480
And I'm like, okay, God, there's a post right now that's a lot of entrepreneurs and mindset creators, right?
00:35:18.639 --> 00:35:19.440
D, dot, dot.
00:35:19.840 --> 00:35:22.400
But with me this time, sign God.
00:35:22.559 --> 00:35:25.119
I could build 20 other businesses and have fun in it.
00:35:25.199 --> 00:35:38.079
I could make money with it, but I would much rather in this season of life partner with God and know that He is the ultimate maximizer of my time, my energy, my impact, and time, money, and impact for my clients too.
00:35:38.239 --> 00:35:40.239
And when he knows we're done, we're done.
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Prune it.
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When he says go, we go.
00:35:42.559 --> 00:35:43.440
It takes a lot of faith.
00:35:43.519 --> 00:35:43.840
I love it.
00:35:44.159 --> 00:35:46.480
My gosh, constantly praying.
00:35:46.800 --> 00:35:47.360
I know.
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I know.
00:35:48.000 --> 00:35:48.639
That's beautiful.
00:35:48.719 --> 00:35:49.599
I appreciate you sharing.
00:35:49.760 --> 00:36:00.880
I have uh I just want to kind of wrap it up with something I think is really important, and is that this is a big deal, okay, for almost every parent who cares about their kids and is somewhat on point with their lives.
00:36:01.119 --> 00:36:02.880
What advice or wisdom do you have to the parents?
00:36:02.960 --> 00:36:06.079
Because we've got parents trying to get their kids into Harvard, Cambridge, Stanford, Oxford.
00:36:06.239 --> 00:36:09.679
We've got kids just trying to get their parents trying to get their kids into just a regular school.
00:36:09.840 --> 00:36:11.199
It's not always even athletics.
00:36:11.360 --> 00:36:15.119
I'm just curious if you have any wisdom for them or what you think kids should be focusing on.
00:36:16.079 --> 00:36:24.000
I think there's two things I really want to stress with all parents who have strong willed and big gold athlete.
00:36:24.320 --> 00:36:30.079
One, teach them leadership skills and the plethora of skills that fall under that umbrella.
00:36:30.320 --> 00:36:41.360
But you can start by letting them own parts of their routine and their life, giving them a voice, holding family meetings so that they own their schedule for the week.
00:36:41.599 --> 00:36:43.840
That was one thing I needed to do with my kids.
00:36:44.000 --> 00:36:44.800
I said, stop.
00:36:45.280 --> 00:36:53.519
You're not gonna drag me around to three different tryouts, three different workouts, and then tell me, oh mom, by the way, I want to go to the arcade tonight.
00:36:53.679 --> 00:36:56.000
No, that drives a mother crazy, okay?
00:36:56.239 --> 00:37:03.119
You're gonna own your request, the responsibility around it to fulfill it, and the consequence of if it doesn't happen.
00:37:03.280 --> 00:37:04.639
Or if it does happen, great.
00:37:04.800 --> 00:37:06.000
I celebrate you.
00:37:06.159 --> 00:37:13.760
So we started doing family Sunday meetings, and every Sunday, everyone has to report their schedule, their budget, their relationship updates.
00:37:14.000 --> 00:37:16.400
It's a business meeting on Sundays at 8 p.m.
00:37:16.639 --> 00:37:19.119
And if they don't show up, they don't get to do what they want to do.
00:37:19.360 --> 00:37:21.440
Sorry, I got lots to do.
00:37:21.599 --> 00:37:23.519
If you didn't make a choice, it's okay.
00:37:23.599 --> 00:37:25.199
You have next Sunday to try again.
00:37:25.280 --> 00:37:29.119
So teach your kids leadership skills and two, remember they're whole people.
00:37:29.280 --> 00:37:34.960
Like if your 40-hour week was just full of meetings, what do you want to shoot yourself?
00:37:35.280 --> 00:37:38.880
So like lean, right, lean into your kid.
00:37:39.039 --> 00:37:45.519
If they have not, if you know they love the beach and haven't gone in two weeks, surprise them with a beach outing.
00:37:45.760 --> 00:37:52.480
Like let them frolic and be silly and be wild and be ratchet if they need to for two hours.
00:37:52.639 --> 00:37:55.360
Like that's only two percent of their day.
00:37:55.519 --> 00:37:59.199
Wait, do the math better, can 15 minutes is one percent.
00:37:59.440 --> 00:38:00.079
Don't worry about it.
00:38:00.159 --> 00:38:02.079
It's we get the point of the day.
00:38:02.320 --> 00:38:04.559
Yeah, just let them let them be goofy.
00:38:04.639 --> 00:38:10.960
If they're 12, they should be running them up, getting wild like for two hours a week, you know.
00:38:11.119 --> 00:38:16.400
Let them be kids because the world will forever tell them to grow up better.
00:38:16.480 --> 00:38:19.440
Like, let them be kids while they're kids under your protection.
00:38:19.519 --> 00:38:21.119
Yeah, that's beautiful wisdom.
00:38:21.280 --> 00:38:22.000
Thank you so much.
00:38:22.159 --> 00:38:22.880
I appreciate you.
00:38:23.119 --> 00:38:23.599
My pleasure.
00:38:23.840 --> 00:38:25.840
Is there anything you want to share that's coming up next?
00:38:26.000 --> 00:38:28.320
And can you also share where we can find you?
00:38:28.719 --> 00:38:29.119
Sure.
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Um, as an advocate for all the kids in Hawaii, we are four inches shorter, four hours farther away from all the recruiters that need to see them.
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So I'm just gonna pitch it now.
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If you want a strong, cultured, family-oriented athlete from the most beautiful state, I'm gonna say it, the most beautiful state in our United States of America, then you need to bring one of our Hawaii athletes to your camp and just get to know their families.
00:38:56.639 --> 00:39:08.719
GCU does an amazing, and you know, maybe there's a lot of other colleges, but I've been working with Grand Canyon University in the last two weeks, and they do an amazing bring one parent and one athlete for a week.
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They build them like a mock program schedule, and the kid goes to the classes.
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They stay on campus in a door, and the families and the kids get to experience it because we all know experiential learning is five times better than all the other methods of learning.
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But they actually feel it, they experience it, and then you know, our kids come in with everything they have, which is amazing, and that's what I want for more Hawaii kids.
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So, recruiters, call me, uh-huh, connect you with, you know, programs and people.
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But really, we need to elevate our kids with the leadership skills so that they don't start fighting each other.
00:39:46.559 --> 00:39:49.519
There's too much animosity and violence in the world.
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And if we don't teach the kids to own their insecurities and communicate well through them, we're just gonna create mini wars everywhere.
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And that's not what we want.
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We don't want shouting of flurs and you know, unnecessary things across the net or across the field.
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We don't need parents to keep fighting on the sideline, like grow-up parents.
00:40:08.559 --> 00:40:08.880
Okay.
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Our kids, we can't expect more of our kids if we're not doing the same.
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So I love that that radical responsibility.
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Radical responsibility.
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Yeah.
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Find me on Instagram.
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Yeah, tell me where people can find you.
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Find me on Instagram.
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That's my second home, wakea.media.
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And if you ever want to reach out for special collabs, email me at wakia.media at gmail.com.
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I'll have all that in the show notes, and I just really appreciate you.
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We need more women in the world like that.
00:40:34.960 --> 00:40:35.920
Thank you so much, Mark.
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And more men like you.
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Thank you.
00:40:38.559 --> 00:40:39.599
Yeah, I appreciate it.
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Yeah.
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Coach, coach all those guys, please, Mark.
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I'm working on it.
00:40:44.960 --> 00:40:45.679
I'm working on it.
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All the men.
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Make all the strong men for the strong girls growing up.
00:40:50.960 --> 00:40:51.519
It's true.
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Like the level.
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So if you take that the first law of leadership, a company can only go as high as its leader is willing to grow and elevate.
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A marriage, a family, and a program can only go as high as its leaders are willing to grow.
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So, men, if you want amazing women, get there with your leadership skills.
00:41:13.280 --> 00:41:14.159
We're all waiting.
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I have so many single friends waiting.
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Just get there, guys.
00:41:17.679 --> 00:41:20.480
I'll push back on that and tell you I have struggled on the other ends.
00:41:20.639 --> 00:41:26.320
I talk to all my high-level women, and I'm like, I don't know what y'all are talking about, but I can't seem to find this at all.
00:41:26.400 --> 00:41:27.360
And they tell me the same things.
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I'm like, we have the same problems.
00:41:28.960 --> 00:41:32.639
I'm like, why is it that we don't find each other?
00:41:32.800 --> 00:41:33.679
It's so interesting.
00:41:33.840 --> 00:41:39.519
But I just think the reality is it's just obviously if we're unique and we're higher level, it's just not the norm, you know, and that's okay.
00:41:39.760 --> 00:41:40.880
I like being a unicorn.
00:41:41.199 --> 00:41:42.159
Yeah, it's coming.
00:41:42.239 --> 00:41:43.519
Good things are coming, Zoomark.
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I know it.
00:41:44.159 --> 00:41:44.639
I agree.
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Well, thank you.
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I appreciate you.
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Thank you.
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You're amazing.
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You too.
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Thank you.
