283. Reimagining Postpartum Essentials with Courtney Boylan

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Hey, mamas, and welcome to the Entering Motherhood podcast.
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I'm your host, Sarah Marie Bilger, a wife, mom of two, VBAC mama, and doula.
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and moms just like you, ensuring that you know what you need to know and discover
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things that you didn't know before.
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I believe in you. Let's doula this, and let's navigate the transition of Entering Motherhood together.
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In this episode, we chat with Courtney, who is the founder of Lay Lolo.
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Courtney shares her personal motherhood journey, including struggles with body
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image, confidence, and emotional challenges that she had in the postpartum period.
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She explains how she felt like a patient due to the very clinical looking and
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feeling type of postpartum products that she was using.
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That inspired her to create Le Lolo, which has seriously just transformed sterile
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necessities into these beautiful functional accessories.
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We discuss self-care, social media pressures, and why it's just so important
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to give yourself grace during this time period.
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Courtney encourages moms to embrace their unique journey, document their experiences,
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especially through photos, and remember that these difficult moments are temporary.
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We had such a light, casual conversation that you'll enjoy listening to,
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and with that, let's jump into the episode.
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Hello, and welcome to Entering Motherhood. I am super excited to get started
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and have this conversation. But before we do, how about you go ahead and introduce
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yourself for the listeners?
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Absolutely. First of all, thank you so much for having me. I'm so excited to be here. I am Courtney.
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I am the founder of Leilolo, and we are a modern postpartum company that is
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turning stale and sterile products into beautiful postpartum accessories for
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new moms, the women who deserve pretty accessories the most.
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Yes, I love that. And there is something about like, you know,
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making it pretty and cute and having things that, you know, you like to have
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around. And it is sometimes like maybe not the most pleasant things.
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And so adding that little touch to it can make all the difference in that postpartum period.
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Yeah, absolutely. When I was going through postpartum, I, especially with my
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first, not really understanding what postpartum was like until I was actually
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in it. I just wanted a little bit,
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a small piece of myself back. I kind of felt out of body. And I know a lot of
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moms feel that and don't really understand that feeling.
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And as I looked around at all of the products I used, they just made me feel like a patient.
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They were so stale and sterile and clinical.
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And I just wanted a little bit of my old self back. And at that point,
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I was like, wait a second, Why are these products like this?
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We just went through a ginormous transformation in our life,
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probably the biggest one ever.
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And if there's anyone who is more deserving of pretty things, it is a new mom.
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Yes. Yeah. So let's kind of then backtrack into your entrance to motherhood
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and kind of give us a little insight on, you know, how old your kids are now
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and then what it was like when you first became a mom.
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Yes, absolutely. So I have three kids.
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My stepdaughter is almost 11. My son is six and my littlest daughter is four.
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And I was so lucky to be a stepmom before I actually became a mom of my own children.
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And I was so excited to give her a sibling.
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And but with that
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being said I didn't realize what postpartum
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was like until I was actually in it
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and going through it I like I had mentioned before you know I did my research
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I thought I knew what I was getting into but until you actually have that feeling
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and you're going through postpartum for the first time you can't really explain
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what it's like and it's so different for every single mom.
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You can listen to stories and hear feedback from everyone else,
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but until you're in it in your own experience, that's really important.
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When you start understanding what postpartum is and what it's going to be like for you and your story.
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And it was really hard for me. I felt really uncomfortable in my new body.
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I just felt like I wanted a little piece of my old self back.
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I didn't know what I was doing. I felt really scared. I didn't want to make
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any mistakes with my baby. He was so precious.
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And so, you know, it's like that mama bear instinct kicks in and you'll do anything
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to protect your baby and you want to keep them so at peace and do everything right.
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And you don't want to disturb them or who they are as a little human,
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right? Like all the pressure's on you.
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And I just really struggled through those first few months of postpartum and
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kind of understanding what motherhood was and who I was going to be and who
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this new little baby was.
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How was pregnancy for you? I had an easy pregnancy, but I did not enjoy it.
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I just didn't enjoy my body changing and it just wasn't my...
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Favorite thing, to be honest. Yeah. Yeah.
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Now it's so crazy to me. And I always say, once the baby's out, it's so weird.
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Like your body just feels like it goes back to kind of like it's a normal thing.
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Obviously, it doesn't look the same, but it's such an odd feeling that one night
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you're sleeping and you're super uncomfortable and the next night you're sleeping
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and there's no belly there anymore. It's just, it's such a wild thing.
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But yeah, pregnancy was not my favorite.
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Yeah it is like such a weird sensation and it's
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like right now like with my older two being six
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and four with this baby being born right after she
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was born they were like wait I don't understand like you
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still kind of have a belly but like here's the baby like how
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did the baby come out of you and like my son was like do
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you have another baby in there like are you pregnant again and
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I was like no like you know like it's gonna get smaller
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and then like he was like you know watching the progression of
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that change and he would be like oh like you know
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your belly is getting smaller mommy like now
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like and like baby's getting bigger so it's it's cool
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for them to see that progression and like
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that change but yeah like going through it and seeing
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your body just shift so dramatically in such a short period of time it can be
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a lot and like something that like maybe you don't see other women go through
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because you're not with them those initial first two weeks even when so much
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change is drastically happening.
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Yeah. I also think that there's a lot of pressure put on pregnant women and
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mothers to just really enjoy the experience and love pregnancy.
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And you hear all these stories about, oh, I just loved so much when I was pregnant.
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And that's not always reality. And that's okay.
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Not everyone's story is going to be the same. I mean, you don't have to love
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being pregnant. But I think a lot of what we see as pregnant moms is women loving
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this stage and loving their belly and...
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I just want other moms to know that if you don't feel like that, that's okay.
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Yeah. What do you feel like you, I guess, struggled with the most in postpartum?
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For me, I think it was definitely my body image for sure.
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And just really being confident in who I was. Like when my baby came out,
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I was terrified. I was so scared.
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I didn't know how to hold him or I was like scared to change his diaper.
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I just wasn't comfortable in who I was and wasn't exactly sure how I should feel.
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And as that time goes on, you start building your confidence and realizing that
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you can do it and that you are capable.
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And that's just the progression. I was so grateful that my husband had been
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through it before with my stepdaughter and he knew what he was doing because
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the moment I left the hospital,
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I did not want to leave. I was terrified to leave.
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And the moment I got into the car, I started bawling my eyes out because I was
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so scared to take this little baby home.
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Because they literally just, you know, you walk out of the hospital and they
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expect you to take care of this human that you've never done this before in
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your life and there's no manual and you just have to figure it out.
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And I was so so grateful in
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that moment that he had been through it before and that he
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could support me and support us through
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the transition and bringing the baby home but yeah it
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was just anytime I go back to those thoughts and where I was in those first
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few days of postpartum it was just such a crazy feeling yeah it is a really
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wild experience you know you're having this baby and then all of a sudden now
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if you are having a hospital birth like you're traveling with them And that
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was our first was a hospital.
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And then our second was like still in hospital, but I was completely unmedicated
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that time. And then this third one was at home.
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And that difference between like she never went into a car seat,
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our youngest, until she was two weeks old.
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And so like thinking back on my first and hearing like even like my own self
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say like, okay, like two days like after she was born, she was in a car seat
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driving, you know, home.
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And they're so itty bitty and they are like so fragile. and you're like, is this okay?
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Like it's, and most of the time, you know, you're probably like sitting in the
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back seat with them and like, just like completely attached to them because
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they were so much a part of your body and now they're not.
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And, and that can be, you know, like there's all these what ifs and unknowns
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when they're inside our womb and, and we're trying to like process that.
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But then when they're out, there's like all these other things that you think
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about that You're like, wait, like, how do I how do I manage them?
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How do I change the diaper? Am I holding them right?
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So I think like a lot of those thoughts just kind of like continue and build
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upon each other in now them being out here in the real world.
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Yeah, yes, absolutely. Absolutely.
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It's so crazy. And, you know, I took the classes and I took the birthing classes.
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But until you're actually going through it, you know, it's a completely different ride.
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And now that I look back on my postpartum journey, I, you know,
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I was so worried about the baby sleeping or is he sleeping too much?
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He's not going to sleep at night.
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You know, he's not feeding every two hours. Like I was so regimented in his
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schedule and because I didn't want anything to happen to him.
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And I was like, okay, well, if I stick to a schedule, then everything should go perfect.
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But now looking back at it, I wish I just would have enjoyed that time a little
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bit more and been more at ease and at peace with the process and understanding that,
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he's a baby and not everything's going to go perfect and that's okay.
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And I just wish I would have given myself a little bit more grace in that period
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to enjoy a little bit more and not try and be so strict on what I was supposed
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to be doing or I should be doing based on what other people were telling me.
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Yeah. How did things differ with your youngest then?
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I think when anytime you become a mom of two, you feel a little bit more confident
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because you've been through it before and you kind of know what's going to happen for the most part.
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Like they always say, with baby two, it's, you know, the baby one,
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you're making all their food by, you know, in the blender and baby two got food pouches.
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It becomes more trying to manage a toddler and a baby versus just understanding
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how to take care of a baby. So...
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Yeah, it was definitely it was definitely a different mindset.
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My my son has always been very energetic and a wild and crazy boy.
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So I just wanted to make sure that I was able to keep up with him and give him
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the attention I needed, knowing that the baby was going to be OK.
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Yeah, it was going to be fine doing what she was doing. Yeah,
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it is a lot when you have to now divide your attention between multiple children
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and when they are still so little and you do have to make sure,
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you know, they're not getting into something or they're not, you know.
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Falling over or eating something that they shouldn't or whatever it might be.
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And having, yeah, that closer age gap can be really challenging because they're
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still working out the kinks and very much, you know, dependent on you as well.
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And now here you are with this little newborn that is also demanding and needing
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attention and you want to cuddle them and love on them and be there.
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But you have, you know, to divide that and split that.
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So yeah, that can be a lot. So when did you, you know, start getting into the
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business mindset of what you do now? And how was that process?
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Yes, so I came up with the idea when I
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had my son and I never acted on it And
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then the same idea came up when I had my daughter And
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I was lucky enough to be a stay-at-home mom for the first three years while
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my son was born and then while I had my daughter but I was really Looking to
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get back into into work and kind of having my own thing but I I went back to corporate and And...
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I was not home enough. And I hated being away from my kids and feeling like
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I had to be at the office from 7 a.m.
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To 4 a.m. and I was only getting three hours with them. And I still wanted to
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be a mom and be a part of their life, but I still wanted to have something on my own.
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And I had, you know, thrown the idea out to my husband several times about wanting
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to do this, but I was so scared and terrified to go for it.
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I don't have any background in entrepreneurship whatsoever.
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I have never done anything like this. So to start something completely new that
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I had never done before felt very scary for me.
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And he really urged and pushed me to take the leap and go for it.
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And so I did. And that's when I started Lay Lolo.
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I started with our first product, which was the colored nipple shield.
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And when I was designing it, I wanted to make it a beautiful accessory for new moms.
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And from there, it sparked the idea of, you know what, everything that we use
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can be made to be beautiful.
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And if there's anyone who is deserving of beautiful accessories, it's a new mom.
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So I started taking products that moms use and just making them,
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first of all, number one, they had to be functional and then changing them to
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be a little bit more beautiful.
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And that's really how Lelolo started and how we are continuing to grow.
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It's become so much more than just products to me.
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It's really become a mission to put the focus back on mom and make sure that
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we are caring for moms because if a well-cared-for mom is a well-cared for baby.
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And that's really important. And I think we're at the point now that we really
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need to shift the culture and understand that moms are number one and moms should be number one.
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Yeah, I think that's super important because a lot of times,
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especially, you know, on baby showers and things like that, you know,
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you're putting all these things on your registry and you're thinking, what do I need for baby?
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And oftentimes it's very overlooked. What do I need for me?
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And so we hear a lot about, you know, baby's going to need this and baby's going
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to need that. And, you know, how are you feeding your baby or where are they
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going to sleep? And, you know, you're beautifying the nursery and you're making
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all those things look cute.
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And baby's got all these cute little clothes and and things like that.
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And it's like, OK, like maybe you get a pair of pajamas that are super comfy
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and like splurge on on something that's going to, you know, make you feel a
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little bit nicer postpartum.
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But you're not thinking like all those little details of what am I going to
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need and how is that going to make me feel? And what are these products that
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they're giving us that are very useful and helpful and need it?
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But, yeah, you're not getting that, you know, like extra special little care at it on.
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And most of the time you're probably not even hearing about these products like
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a nipple shield until you need it.
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Yes. And somebody is maybe suggesting it or if you're having latch issues and whatnot.
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And so, yeah, it's really awesome to see that being brought into the space.
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And like you said, like we're we're just as important and we need cute stuff
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and we need practical, useful things also.
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Absolutely, absolutely. And that is 100% the goal with Lelelo is that moms feel
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confident putting these products on their registry,
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maybe because they're a little bit prettier and they don't look like sterile
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clinical medical items.
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It can be packaged in a nice box, and the product can be functional and beautiful,
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and it gives you a little bit more confidence in putting it on your registry.
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Or when you have guests over at your house to see the baby, you don't feel like you have to hide them.
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They are a part of your surrounding and you're okay with being confident in
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how you are taking care of your baby and taking care of yourself and you don't
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feel like you have to throw all your stuff in a drawer because that's how I felt.
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I was just embarrassed by the products I had to use to take care of myself because
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of the way they looked and I don't ever want a mom to feel that way.
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I want her to feel confident in what she's doing and confident in the products
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that she's using that she's okay if everyone around her sees that.
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Is there a story behind the name? So there actually is a story behind the name.
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I had another name and I went to go get it trademarked and the lawyer was like,
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no way, that's way too common. You cannot trademark that.
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So my husband and I went back to the drawing board and we were just,
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I was like, oh my goodness, what am I going to name this company?
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And we came across the word Le Lolo and it actually means the boob or a woman's
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breast in French, which is like a nice play on words.
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And to be honest, I don't know that we're probably not saying it the proper
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way that, you know, a beautiful French accent would say le lo lo.
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But for us Americans, it's le lo lo.
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I love it. Yeah. It's so interesting, like how, you know, names and things and
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such that develop and how they come.
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And even, you know, with like naming our babies, like your company is
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almost like another little baby that like you got to
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like name and have like a name picked out for
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yeah and so yeah it was certainly a
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blessing in disguise that the first name did not
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work out yeah very cool so
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what have you enjoyed the most about creating
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these products and and what have you kind of
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gotten as far as like feedback like if you had close friends and family use
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these products as well yeah those two are very similar in my answer as to the
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best part about this is hearing mom's.
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And how we are impacting their journey of bringing them just a little bit more
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beauty to their postpartum journey.
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I hope and my goal is that every single time a mom uses a Leilolo product,
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that it's a physical reminder to her that she is beautiful, worthy,
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strong, and that if she's feeling down in that moment or that she's feeling
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like this is really hard, it's just a reminder to her that she can do it and
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it's just a moment in time.
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And every time she picks up one of our accessories, I hope she is reminded exactly of that.
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And to hear stories of moms using our products and having those experiences
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is just so heartwarming to me and really what keeps me going because it's definitely
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not easy and we're certainly learning as we go.
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But when I feel like anytime I'm down or I'm feeling like, oh my goodness,
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I'm just kind of in a really tough spot, I get a piece of feedback like that
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or an amazing story from a mom and it just keeps me going every single day. It's incredible.
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Yeah. How do you feel like these products would have changed your postpartum?
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Yeah, I just, I think it would have brought a little bit of more peace and care.
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And just understanding to how I was feeling and being okay with how I was feeling.
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I think a lot of moms, and including myself, can feel bad for having thoughts
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of not loving this experience or not being at peace or happy with where they
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are in postpartum. And it's,
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that's okay. It's okay to feel that way. And it's okay if it's not perfect.
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And if you don't love it, you shouldn't feel bad about that whatsoever.
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And that's my hope for Le Lolo is that they are feeling that way,
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that they understand that nothing's wrong with you.
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It's very normal and it's okay.
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Yeah. Yeah. I think, you know, like there's so much,
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even just, I mean, our kids are like our six and
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four-year-olds are right at the same age and so there's so much now too I think
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in this mom culture whether you know it's because I've dove into it more and
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you know I have an older older kid and stuff but like there's there's a lot
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of just like conversation like you said like,
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sometimes we're we're having these feelings and having these
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emotions and we think like we're all alone in it or nobody else
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is feeling like this or we can't open up
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and and talk about those feelings or it seems
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different like there's a lot of I guess
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just like polarized sort of it needs to be this way or that way and and I think
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it's like one it's great that like more people are are talking and opening up
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about it and and having these conversations but two like it can just be It can
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be a lot and a lot like overwhelming.
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And so to just be reminded of that, I think is is really important.
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And that like mental side of it and our identity and and really discovering,
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you know, like who we are in this journey and in this process.
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Absolutely. Hit it right on the nail.
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That's 100%. A lot of our lives have become pictures and Instagram stories or
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TikTok videos. And it's easy to see the happy things. And then you feel like you have to be that way.
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And that's not necessarily the truth. And you can be happy one minute and sat
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the next. And that's fine, too.
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Right. There's so many emotions and ups and downs.
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And and there's no right way or right story or right way to be.
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You just have to own how you're feeling and be at peace with that. Yeah, yeah.
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And I love how you said worthiness like earlier too, and like just feeling like
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we do deserve these things and it's okay to also care for ourselves and have that attention on us.
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And it's a big shift after birth and coming into the postpartum period and having
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all these new feelings and sensations and emotions and things going on.
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Yes. Yeah. No, absolutely. You gave me goosebumps when you said that because it's so true.
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The moment you become a mom, you are 1000% locked into baby.
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That's just the instinct we have as mothers is to take on that new role and
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do it the best that we can.
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But we also have to remember that in order to be the best caretaker for our
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baby, we really have to put ourselves first and make sure that we are putting
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self-care at the top of our priority list.
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Yeah, and that can look different for everybody. What, I guess,
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is your favorite form of self-care as a mom?
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Yeah, so it's changed a little bit as my kids have gotten older.
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But when I was postpartum, journaling was absolutely a game changer for me,
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which is why I created the journal,
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the postpartum journal that we have at Leilolo, because it was such a huge piece
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of my mental health that kept me going and just kept me on track.
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Now for me, I...
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Really like exercise is my thing.
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Like it's really important for me to move my body and that keeps my energy high
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and keeps me feeling great.
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And I do still journal because it's so important to me, but I also listen to,
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there's this amazing app called Activations that I am absolutely obsessed with.
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It's basically just small activations of motivation and you can listen to.
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Different little snippets to kind of increase your motivation or your productivity
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or get you ready for bed or think about your day or manifest,
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whatever that looks like.
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And I just love those. But you're so right. It's so different for everyone.
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You just have to find what that piece is for you and what works for you and makes you feel great.
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Yeah. What would be one piece of advice or something that you would want a new
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mom to know, whether they're currently pregnant or newly postpartum and going through this stage?
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Yeah, your journey is your journey.
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And don't compare your journey to anyone else. For myself and for me postpartum,
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like I mentioned before, just give yourself grace, give yourself peace.
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And just remember this time in your life is so short.
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There are probably every single day, I just wish that my babies could be small again.
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And And even on the really, really hard days, just try and give yourself a little
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bit of grace and remind yourself that one day you'll wish these days were back again.
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I know. It's like, it's so hard. Like, it's like, it's such a common thing that
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like people are like, yes, like, you know, like try to like embrace it and see
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how little they are. But it's also so hard.
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And like, it feels like the days are so long, like in the beginning,
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like I remember just, you know between my first and now our third it just felt
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like everything lasted so much longer it was like you know they were going through
00:27:25.236 --> 00:27:30.256
a fussy phase and it was it was taking forever or you know like it just even like,
00:27:30.757 --> 00:27:33.517
the littlest cries and things like that you're like
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oh my gosh like it needs to like be fixed immediately
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like it can just like feel like so much and then
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yeah like it's looking back on it and sometimes it
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takes like you know like a step back to really
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get in that moment and embrace
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it but yeah I know I know it's so much
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easier said than done right it's so easy to say
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enjoy this moment it's not gonna last I I
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feel like I feel like an old woman now
00:28:00.877 --> 00:28:05.117
because you know that you know the grandparents are like oh just enjoy every
00:28:05.117 --> 00:28:10.997
moment it goes by so fast that's like me now but and it goes by faster with
00:28:10.997 --> 00:28:15.817
each kid too like this is you know like our youngest is already four months
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and I'm like how in the world have we already you know.
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Got through that like initial postpartum period and
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where has time gone and like I
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said like just like looking back on our first that felt like we were
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in that stage forever I know I know I know I don't I I give that advice but
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I'm at the same time like is that good advice because I understand how tough
00:28:40.936 --> 00:28:45.716
it is when you're in it you are in the trenches to really take a step back back
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and be like, Oh, I love this.
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You know what I mean? Like, I don't know if that's really realistic,
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but if you do need to, you know, step away for 30 seconds and just take a deep
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breath to try and reconnect with yourself,
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sometimes that can be exactly what you need to keep yourself going.
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Yeah. I think it really is like, yeah, like being able to just be in that present
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moment, no matter what it is.
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And just like kind of take that snippet and that screenshot of the moment And
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just remember what it's like, whether it's, you know, ups, downs, everywhere in between.
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You know, this is so random. I don't know why I just had this thought.
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But for the pregnant moms out there, take pictures of yourself because you are
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going to want those pictures. I promise.
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Even if you're not comfortable in your body in this exact moment,
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you will appreciate those.
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And because of because I wasn't comfortable and I didn't enjoy pregnancy that
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much, I didn't take very many pictures. And now I wish that I had more of me and my belly.
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And even in those first postpartum moments when like you're feeling soft and
00:29:54.996 --> 00:29:57.876
you don't feel great about yourself, you will want those.
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So don't miss out on the moment to be in the picture, even if you're not feeling good.
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Like your best self yeah i love that yeah
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that's such a good thing to be reminded of because
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a lot of times yeah like maybe we don't want to be in the
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picture because we don't like how we currently look or we're not like feeling
00:30:15.529 --> 00:30:20.489
ourselves or whatnot but you will want to like you know look back and have those
00:30:20.489 --> 00:30:25.209
images and you know even like little video clips or something like it doesn't
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have to be like a whole bunch of things but just little like i said like that
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like those moments in time.
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Absolutely. Absolutely. I definitely wish I had more of those.
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Yeah. Awesome. Well, how can we get in touch with you? How can we reach you?
00:30:38.869 --> 00:30:41.989
How can we, you know, get your products? Tell us a little bit more about that.
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Absolutely. So our website is www.wearelelolo.com. That's W-E-A-R-E-L-E-L-O-L-O.
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And we are on Instagram and TikTok at wearelelolo. And we would love for you
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to join us over there and be friends.
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Awesome. Yeah, I'll definitely put all that in the show notes for everybody to get and check you out.
00:31:09.349 --> 00:31:12.929
And yeah, I just thank you so much for being here and really,
00:31:13.009 --> 00:31:18.269
you know, sharing a little bit about your story and the start of your company
00:31:18.269 --> 00:31:21.309
and what all kind of went into that.
00:31:21.909 --> 00:31:25.249
Thank you. Thank you so much for having me. It was lovely to
00:31:25.249 --> 00:31:28.229
to talk with you and that sweet baby look at
00:31:28.229 --> 00:31:31.149
her i know oh my goodness i know i've been saying she's my
00:31:31.149 --> 00:31:36.769
little co-host in all these episodes i love it because you want i mean if that's
00:31:36.769 --> 00:31:41.129
not the best co-host i've ever i've ever seen i don't know who is she loves
00:31:41.129 --> 00:31:47.389
it too she has been our chillest baby yet that is so oh my goodness hey sweet
00:31:47.389 --> 00:31:50.269
girl oh give me another one,
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keep on having babies.
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