00:00:16Opening Reflections
00:02:24The Cost of Impulse
00:03:58Choosing Prudence
00:05:07Role Model Duty
00:07:15Teaching by Example
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Episode 1681 of Blind Magic in Alice Springs features host Murray Stewart reflecting on how age and lived experience temper impulsivity. In this solo episode Murray explores the tension between immediate emotional reactions and long-term consequences, sharing a personal story about encountering someone who deeply wronged him and the visceral urge for revenge. He explains why he chooses pragmatism over violence, especially given his role coaching junior athletes and the responsibility to model good behavior.
Murray discusses the value of knowing yourself, relying on trusted friends—sometimes younger than him—for practical advice, and the importance of teaching young people not only athletic skills but also moral lessons: restraint, forgiveness (where possible), and non-violent conflict resolution. Key points include recognizing impulses, calling on pragmatic judgment, avoiding actions that would create more harm, and setting a positive example for the next generation.
Listeners can expect a candid, personal reflection on anger management, role-model responsibilities in sport, and practical guidance for choosing better outcomes in difficult emotional situations. This episode closes with Murray urging listeners to have these important conversations with young people, because they are watching and learning from our choices.
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Okay, folks, away we go. Welcome, welcome. This is episode 1681.
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It is Blind Magic in Alice Springs, and I am your presenter and host, Murray Stewart.
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You know, as we grow older, we become wiser, I would assume.
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And it's really on the basis of our lived-in experience.
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Yeah, without a doubt.
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And what are some of the main things that I have learnt?
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Well, as you know, I talk about knowing who you are, first and foremost,
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when you're talking about such matters.
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And the one thing that I know about me is that I can and have been impulsive
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in my life several times.
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Yeah, impulsivity has driven a lot of my good decisions, but also some of my
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not-so-good decisions.
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And so when I'm getting to the point of being impulsive these days, in my older age,
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I do rely upon those around me who will give me good, sage.
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Pragmatic advice.
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And I do have a couple of people in my life, fortunately, who I can rely upon,
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to deliver me that advice.
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And believe it or not, some of them are not as old as I am, but they just have this way about them.
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I told one of those people yesterday, actually, that she does offer me that
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quality and how grateful I am.
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Yeah, because without a doubt, I do have that quality of being impulsive And
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I say quality because it's not always to my detriment.
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But these days, I think it is something that we should really think about very,
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very carefully. And I'll tell you why.
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Because every bad decision can carry with it a consequence for our life going forward.
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Yeah, that's right, down the track.
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And I can remember that I said recently that if I come across this particular
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person who had wronged me,
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in a very bad way early in my life, if I come across him,
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I will give him a good smack in the mouth. Yeah, that's exactly what I said.
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And I was to the point whereby that was going to be a very, very possible situation.
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But I then had to call on that pragmatic side of myself to understand very,
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very clearly that that would have achieved absolutely nothing except misery.
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Yeah, that's right, except misery.
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Potentially, there would have been some police action.
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And in effect, he would have won. Yes, he would. He would have won again.
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He made me angry then and having the fire still burning within me,
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that anger, you know, come on.
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I've got to be better than that, particularly now that I'm an older gentleman.
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I've got to be far, far better than that.
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If possible, practice forgiveness, although I have to tell you,
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I'm not sure that I will be doing that in this case.
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But I will definitely be practicing pragmatism.
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Yeah, I won't be allowing that fierce side of me to dictate the terms because,
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as I said, he would win again.
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No way, no. I will do one thing and one thing only.
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When I hear his voice, a voice that annoys me completely, I will merely walk
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in the opposite direction. Yeah, that's what I'll do.
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I'll walk in the opposite direction.
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And the other thing about this is, is that inevitably, when this gentleman is
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in my company, it'll be on a sporting oval when I'm coaching,
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coaching junior athletes.
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And what a terrible message it would send to those under my tutelage if I did
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flip and if I did yield to my anger.
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Yeah, it would be a very, very bad message and it would mean that I would fall
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from grace as their role model.
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So yes, I now know that I can deal with this and although I have to tell you
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it would give me a great deal of satisfaction to do it exactly as I suggested
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at the beginning of this program.
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No, no, it's not the way to go. And it really is time that I grew up and moved on.
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And just got on with my job and left him to do what he does.
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And yeah, that's that really. And yeah, put a lid on the whole thing and close that lid nice and tight,
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and get on with doing the good things that I'm doing with these young junior athletes.
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And above all, be a great role model for them.
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Teach them not only how to become good athletes, but also how to be good young men and young women.
00:05:56.915 --> 00:06:03.748
And that certainly does not involve sorting out your problems with violence. No, it doesn't.
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That would be a very, very unsatisfactory situation.
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And I'm not going to allow it to happen. Not today, tomorrow, or any other day.
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All right, folks, I hope and I trust that today's episode has been of some value, not only to you,
00:06:24.225 --> 00:06:30.597
but also perhaps to the young people in your presence, because these are the
00:06:30.597 --> 00:06:37.678
foundations that we can lay down for our young people by having these conversations amongst ourselves,
00:06:38.321 --> 00:06:39.927
because they're listening.
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Their sponges and their learning, and guess who they learn from?
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Yeah, that's right, they learn from us.
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Okay, folks, this has been, and it always will be, episode 1,681,
00:06:57.120 --> 00:06:59.535
a Blind Magic Communications production.
00:00:00.529 --> 00:00:08.462
Okay, folks, away we go. Welcome, welcome. This is episode 1681.
00:00:09.084 --> 00:00:15.984
It is Blind Magic in Alice Springs, and I am your presenter and host, Murray Stewart.
00:00:16.568 --> 00:00:24.114
You know, as we grow older, we become wiser, I would assume.
00:00:24.555 --> 00:00:29.347
And it's really on the basis of our lived-in experience.
00:00:29.846 --> 00:00:30.926
Yeah, without a doubt.
00:00:31.612 --> 00:00:35.849
And what are some of the main things that I have learnt?
00:00:36.681 --> 00:00:43.537
Well, as you know, I talk about knowing who you are, first and foremost,
00:00:43.537 --> 00:00:45.526
when you're talking about such matters.
00:00:46.173 --> 00:00:52.852
And the one thing that I know about me is that I can and have been impulsive
00:00:53.154 --> 00:00:55.134
in my life several times.
00:00:55.732 --> 00:01:03.847
Yeah, impulsivity has driven a lot of my good decisions, but also some of my
00:01:03.847 --> 00:01:05.461
not-so-good decisions.
00:01:06.425 --> 00:01:13.872
And so when I'm getting to the point of being impulsive these days, in my older age,
00:01:14.575 --> 00:01:22.185
I do rely upon those around me who will give me good, sage.
00:01:23.057 --> 00:01:24.345
Pragmatic advice.
00:01:24.345 --> 00:01:30.181
And I do have a couple of people in my life, fortunately, who I can rely upon,
00:01:30.789 --> 00:01:33.158
to deliver me that advice.
00:01:33.973 --> 00:01:39.771
And believe it or not, some of them are not as old as I am, but they just have this way about them.
00:01:40.361 --> 00:01:46.035
I told one of those people yesterday, actually, that she does offer me that
00:01:46.035 --> 00:01:48.815
quality and how grateful I am.
00:01:49.676 --> 00:01:57.135
Yeah, because without a doubt, I do have that quality of being impulsive And
00:01:57.135 --> 00:02:01.505
I say quality because it's not always to my detriment.
00:02:01.505 --> 00:02:09.584
But these days, I think it is something that we should really think about very,
00:02:10.165 --> 00:02:12.435
very carefully. And I'll tell you why.
00:02:13.037 --> 00:02:21.629
Because every bad decision can carry with it a consequence for our life going forward.
00:02:22.151 --> 00:02:23.858
Yeah, that's right, down the track.
00:02:24.483 --> 00:02:33.065
And I can remember that I said recently that if I come across this particular
00:02:33.065 --> 00:02:36.123
person who had wronged me,
00:02:36.746 --> 00:02:40.355
in a very bad way early in my life, if I come across him,
00:02:41.075 --> 00:02:45.036
I will give him a good smack in the mouth. Yeah, that's exactly what I said.
00:02:45.975 --> 00:02:53.315
And I was to the point whereby that was going to be a very, very possible situation.
00:02:53.753 --> 00:03:00.118
But I then had to call on that pragmatic side of myself to understand very,
00:03:00.118 --> 00:03:07.032
very clearly that that would have achieved absolutely nothing except misery.
00:03:07.323 --> 00:03:09.285
Yeah, that's right, except misery.
00:03:09.976 --> 00:03:12.773
Potentially, there would have been some police action.
00:03:13.641 --> 00:03:19.135
And in effect, he would have won. Yes, he would. He would have won again.
00:03:20.889 --> 00:03:27.521
He made me angry then and having the fire still burning within me,
00:03:28.090 --> 00:03:30.518
that anger, you know, come on.
00:03:30.858 --> 00:03:35.888
I've got to be better than that, particularly now that I'm an older gentleman.
00:03:35.888 --> 00:03:38.093
I've got to be far, far better than that.
00:03:38.913 --> 00:03:42.489
If possible, practice forgiveness, although I have to tell you,
00:03:42.832 --> 00:03:45.281
I'm not sure that I will be doing that in this case.
00:03:46.144 --> 00:03:50.437
But I will definitely be practicing pragmatism.
00:03:51.021 --> 00:03:59.324
Yeah, I won't be allowing that fierce side of me to dictate the terms because,
00:03:59.515 --> 00:04:01.286
as I said, he would win again.
00:04:01.891 --> 00:04:08.099
No way, no. I will do one thing and one thing only.
00:04:08.659 --> 00:04:16.818
When I hear his voice, a voice that annoys me completely, I will merely walk
00:04:17.178 --> 00:04:19.943
in the opposite direction. Yeah, that's what I'll do.
00:04:20.326 --> 00:04:22.700
I'll walk in the opposite direction.
00:04:23.358 --> 00:04:29.298
And the other thing about this is, is that inevitably, when this gentleman is
00:04:29.298 --> 00:04:34.936
in my company, it'll be on a sporting oval when I'm coaching,
00:04:35.226 --> 00:04:36.759
coaching junior athletes.
00:04:37.420 --> 00:04:44.788
And what a terrible message it would send to those under my tutelage if I did
00:04:44.788 --> 00:04:48.739
flip and if I did yield to my anger.
00:04:49.058 --> 00:04:55.348
Yeah, it would be a very, very bad message and it would mean that I would fall
00:04:55.348 --> 00:04:57.605
from grace as their role model.
00:04:58.224 --> 00:05:03.998
So yes, I now know that I can deal with this and although I have to tell you
00:05:03.998 --> 00:05:10.058
it would give me a great deal of satisfaction to do it exactly as I suggested
00:05:10.058 --> 00:05:11.517
at the beginning of this program.
00:05:11.968 --> 00:05:18.552
No, no, it's not the way to go. And it really is time that I grew up and moved on.
00:05:19.441 --> 00:05:26.470
And just got on with my job and left him to do what he does.
00:05:27.311 --> 00:05:35.309
And yeah, that's that really. And yeah, put a lid on the whole thing and close that lid nice and tight,
00:05:36.112 --> 00:05:43.145
and get on with doing the good things that I'm doing with these young junior athletes.
00:05:43.855 --> 00:05:47.417
And above all, be a great role model for them.
00:05:47.870 --> 00:05:56.393
Teach them not only how to become good athletes, but also how to be good young men and young women.
00:05:56.915 --> 00:06:03.748
And that certainly does not involve sorting out your problems with violence. No, it doesn't.
00:06:04.288 --> 00:06:08.519
That would be a very, very unsatisfactory situation.
00:06:09.161 --> 00:06:14.612
And I'm not going to allow it to happen. Not today, tomorrow, or any other day.
00:06:15.462 --> 00:06:23.720
All right, folks, I hope and I trust that today's episode has been of some value, not only to you,
00:06:24.225 --> 00:06:30.597
but also perhaps to the young people in your presence, because these are the
00:06:30.597 --> 00:06:37.678
foundations that we can lay down for our young people by having these conversations amongst ourselves,
00:06:38.321 --> 00:06:39.927
because they're listening.
00:06:39.927 --> 00:06:44.966
Their sponges and their learning, and guess who they learn from?
00:06:45.453 --> 00:06:48.449
Yeah, that's right, they learn from us.
00:06:49.356 --> 00:06:54.627
Okay, folks, this has been, and it always will be, episode 1,681,
00:06:57.120 --> 00:06:59.535
a Blind Magic Communications production.
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