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Hey y'all.
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Welcome back to another episode of Bless Us Mess.
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It's your new bestie Tay Ray.
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And today we're just going to talk about not telling everyone what you're building while you're building it or your plans or knowing like who to tell and who not to tell.
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Because I feel like you really need to be strong in what you're building and believe in it, or else you'll be talked out of it.
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I wanted to start this podcast three years ago.
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And I told people really near and dear to me.
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And um they were just kind of like, huh?
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Like, why do you want to start a podcast?
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Like they didn't understand it.
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And it was something that like I obviously had the idea.
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And I was like, oh, let me go share with people I think are going to be really excited for me.
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And they weren't.
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And then that discouraged me.
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And, you know, when God tells you to do something, it's going to keep showing up.
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So here we are three years later.
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And I'm actually doing the podcast.
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But think about like how far ahead I would have been if I would have not listened to everyone else, really listen to myself, um, and not always ask everyone for their approval because you don't need people's permission and you don't need approval from others.
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You literally just need to do what you feel like you should do and run with it.
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Get the ball and run with it.
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Because you just don't know what's on the other side of trying new things and risk.
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Like I always see this quote over and over again.
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It says, no risk, no story.
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And I just think, like, yeah, all the risk I took, good and bad, like really got me where I'm at right now.
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And it's such a good story.
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And I feel like if you're kind of doing the same thing over and over again, the same results, and like you're just like not the main character of your story, then you need to figure out what you're good at and what you enjoy doing, and then go do that and then be the main character of your story.
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But how will you know what you're good at if you don't try things?
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So you have to try, you have to fail, you need to try all sorts of things.
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You might be good at a lot of things.
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Like, you gotta really figure out in your soul for yourself like what do you want to do?
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What do you want to spend your time on?
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What brings you joy?
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And also make sure it's like aligned with what God wants you to do.
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Because if you're over here doing all this and you're not going anywhere and you're not making money and you're not super, super happy or fulfilled, then it's probably because you're supposed to be doing something else or exploring other things because what God's plan looks like for one person might not look the same for you.
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Um, and it's very easy to go and like do what they're doing, but you've got to like figure out what it is you're supposed to be doing and study.
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I feel like whatever you feel like you should be doing, you should also be studying it and implementing the things that you study into the work and really focusing.
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There's so much um information now.
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You can get so much.
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I'm learning so much online about building a business and um, you know, just things to do with influencers and brands and all this stuff.
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It's all pretty much free online.
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So we kind of don't have an excuse anymore.
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We really just got to focus.
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But with that being said, our focus is so like the minute I open up the phone, y'all, I'll be like, okay, I'm gonna go do this on my phone.
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Open it up, great video, forget what I was doing, get off the phone.
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Like, what?
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What is this?
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It's so bad.
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I'm gonna get better, but I'm just like, yeah, I can definitely see where I'm kind of struggling there.
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But yeah, when I'm saying, like, don't tell people what you're building.
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I'm not saying don't be secretive.
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I'm just saying be a little protective.
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Like, notice when you tell people their reactions.
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You know, naturally, sometimes we just don't mean to, but we'll just like, oh, they're gonna do that.
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I should do that.
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Or like it, it's weird.
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The people that love you and and they're there for you the most, like they will eat you tell them and they'll even be like, huh, I need to do that, or like something goes off and they don't even mean to, and they're not bad people.
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It's just it's not really everyone's business to know.
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So I I don't think that you're being um like so much secretive, you're just being selective.
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Like maybe tell the people that you can do business with, or tell a stranger that doesn't care whether you do that or you don't do that.
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But don't tell the people closest to you because they're gonna have the loudest opinions.
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And they're really doing it from a place of love, or they're doing it from um a place of their projections of their own failures.
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Like maybe they tried to do that and they remember the heartbreak of it that didn't work out.
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So now you're telling them and they're like, oh no, I I need to save them.
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I need to tell them how bad that's a bad idea, bad idea.
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And, you know, then you don't do it.
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It's like, no, you need to go live life and and figure it out for yourself and not take everyone else's advice.
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I will say, yes, it is good to take some people's advice, but when God is really calling you to do something, you need to make sure that you're listening to God more than you are people.
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You that's called obedience, right?
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So it's like 5,000 people might be telling you no, but if you just keep getting this like urge and this this little like hint to do this thing over and over and over again, just go do it.
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Just go do it.
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Also, it's like when you're telling people, see why you're telling them.
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Have you ever asked yourself, like, am I telling them because I generally want to inform them?
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Like, why are you telling, are you seeking approval?
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You know, you should really approve of the things you want to do for you, for yourself.
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Um, and you are the only one that matters.
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Your opinion's the only one that matters.
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They're your choices, they're your decisions.
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So to really go ask people or tell them, it's like before you do ask, why am I telling them this?
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While I'm building, like you're building something, you need that positive affirmation.
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It's hard to build.
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You're being very courageous to start a business or do something on your own or do something you never tried before.
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You are putting yourself out there too fell.
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So it's already scary enough.
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So don't scare yourself out of it by going and telling everybody your plans.
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Like majority of the people love them, love them so much, but they are somewhat in the scarcity mindset.
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So you got to build your faith with God and your belief in what you're doing and really believe it.
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Like, believe in what you're doing and enjoy it and have fun in the process while you're figuring out the do's and the don'ts and you're making the trials and errors, really enjoy it because you're building something for you that no one else can take away from you.
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And I think that's where your confidence is gonna come in because you're gonna keep showing up for yourself and you're the only one that can do it.
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So who no one else can do it for you?
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You gotta show up.
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And then when you keep doing that, girl, that like needy girly energy is gonna go away, and you are gonna be such a boss, babe, and you're gonna be respected, and you're gonna have, you know, you're still gonna be playful, but that that maturity around you because you are the main character in your show because you are owning your space and taking the time on yourself, girl.
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That is powerful.
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So I think the thing is to really observe and don't absorb.
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I will tell you, I am such like people will tell me things and I'm just like and I like absorb it all.
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And I'm like, no, I need to just observe.
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Observe, not take everything straight to heart and really um pray about things more and just not completely take everything what everyone says is the truth.
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Because, girl, I will do that.
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You tell me something, I'm like, oh my gosh, it must be true.
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Like, I just but I'm I'm working on it.
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I have discernment now and I'm getting better.
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But I mean, three years later, it's insane.
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Um, but yeah, just really make sure that you're not taking on other people's fears.
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Sometimes you're carrying other people's stuff that's not even yours.
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And um, working from old belief systems, and you gotta realize like that was for them, but you have God's favor.
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You have lived through so much and gone through so much, and right now is your winning season.
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So don't take on what other people, you know, lived in their different seasons.
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Right now, you're in your winning season.
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So take the brakes off, go, believe in yourself, and just know that everything you do is is gonna be favored.
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So get that real delulu going.
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Also, like a lot of people will always try to give you advice.
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And I will say, really think about the advice, don't just take it to heart, like I said, but also know that you can still love them, but you can think about things or question what they're saying.
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You don't have to take everything that they say to be true.
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You can really think for yourself.
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And I think thinking for yourself is one of the strongest things that you can do in this world.
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And it's also maybe one of the hardest things, especially if you're an overthinker.
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I have dealt with overthinking my whole life.
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I'm an overthinker and I'm an overlover.
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It's just who I am, and I'm an overgiver, probably too.
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But as I'm maturing and getting closer to God, all these things are kind of working themselves out, right?
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That's what happens when you get the Jesus glow.
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You just start seeing the things that you need to work on, and he just really starts helping you overcome those things.
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So it's okay to be an overthinker.
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It's okay to think out every little possibility and do all this.
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But when you really put your faith in God and you just are like, okay, I know I'm overthinking, I know I'm doing the worst case scenario, but then you sit there and you're like, no, let's like I like to flip everything opposite.
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So it's like when my brain is going, what if this happens?
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What if this happens?
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What if this happens?
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And it wants to do that, I stop it.
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I'm like, but what if this happens?
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But then what if this happens?
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Oh my gosh, but then what if that happens?
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And it, I just keep trying to fight my own brain because somewhere during the system, I got scared or something happened, and now I'm sitting here like, oh my God, and I'll go down.
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It's like, no, but what if we reframe that and we just went up?
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And so I love to think of best case scenarios before I leave the house.
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Best case scenario, what could happen good today?
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Like, really believe God for bigger.
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That is so important in our brains.
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We just like, I don't know.
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We we really don't think big enough.
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Like, I pray to God, God bless me beyond my wildest dreams.
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So, yeah, my dreams might be wild.
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Bless me beyond that.
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Bless me for something that I can't even think of right now.
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Like, just bring me your goodness because he knows what we need more than we do.
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We love to be control freaks, but God really knows what we need.
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So, yeah, I know when we get excited too, we just want to tell people, oh, I got this audition, oh, I have this really big project coming up, oh, I thought of this idea.
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And you want to go tell everyone, you get like super excited.
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That is like the temptation to tell everyone.
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Fight it, fight it and keep it to yourself.
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I think, you know, telling people who really don't care what you do, like strangers and all that is fine.
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But when you are telling people close to you, I just don't think it's a good idea.
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I think to keep things toward you because you're also reflecting back to them what they don't have going on or where they might be lacking.
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So keep it to yourself, pray about it, journal, visualize what you want, but do not go around and just tell everyone around you because it's just, I don't know, people say it's like they they put their energy on it or something.
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And I'm like, it is something though.
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I haven't figured out exactly what it is, but there is something about keeping things to yourself.
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And um, I have friends that won't tell people that they're traveling, they won't tell people that they're, you know, speaking at a panel or in a movie.
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They'll tell me, but I notice they keep it hush, hush.
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And I'm like, huh.
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I should probably learn from that because they're traveling, they always have the best times.
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Like they they come back and they tell me stories of just everything going well.
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Um, they're talking on Forbes panels and things, and their interviews and everything look so good.
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I'm like, you know, it's probably because they're not announcing to the world, hey, look at me, I'm doing this.
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They just go do it, and then after you see the results, there's also something very classy about that.
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Um, so yeah, I think that's the way to be.
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I've seen a bunch of people do it, and I think it's just probably the winner, the winner's way.
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Yeah, so I think it is just the a classy way to be, and also probably the best for your manifestations.
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Just protect your vision, build in silence, let the work do the talking, and be consistent even when no one's watching.
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Um I will say though, it is good to film content, but you don't have to show them everything you're building.
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You can show them, you know, if you do days in life or you know, everyone does, you can show them some, but don't give everything.
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I think when you're giving everything is when it's kind of too much.
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Stay consistent, keep pushing through, keep things to yourself, keep building, do not give up, keep going.
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You have no idea how big God will bless you if you stay consistent and do what's right and always make the right choices and stay humble and excited for life and in prayer and always think about the best case scenario and give thanks for the best case scenario.
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Thank you so much for that.
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Before it's even happened, just thank you so much.
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Thank you so much, and really praise him for it.
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Like any time I'm feeling uneasy or I'm going through the day and I feel like I have so much going on.
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I just am like, thank you, Jesus, thank you, Jesus.
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Because it keeps me in a gratitude state.
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And when I'm giving thanks for everything around me, it's a little bit harder for me to be overwhelmed.
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Um, taking responsibility for myself and pushing myself and getting out of my comfort zone, and that can be a lot.
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So to stay in this gratitude state is really life-saving.
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And having my girl community, which I love y'all so much, and I can't wait to do our next event.
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Um, it's just really helping while I'm building because we need that.
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We need community.
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We need um, we need God, we need our faith, but we also just need that that time with ourselves while while we build.
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So yeah, I love talking to y'all.
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I'm just gonna pray for you because I love you so much.
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Um, dear Lord, I pray that the girl listening on the other side of the screen just knows and has a sermon when to tell people her dreams and visions and when to keep them to herself and when to be social and when to be in building mode, and that she just understands the assignments that you give her and she executes them in a timely manner, and that she does everything with joy and she gets what she wants done.
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She manifests what she wants and she stays in a happy, happy state and gratitude, thanking you throughout the whole thing.
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In Jesus' name I pray.
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So thank you for joining us on Bless this mess, and I will see y'all next time.
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Hey y'all.
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Welcome back to another episode of Bless Us Mess.
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It's your new bestie Tay Ray.
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And today we're just going to talk about not telling everyone what you're building while you're building it or your plans or knowing like who to tell and who not to tell.
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Because I feel like you really need to be strong in what you're building and believe in it, or else you'll be talked out of it.
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I wanted to start this podcast three years ago.
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And I told people really near and dear to me.
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And um they were just kind of like, huh?
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Like, why do you want to start a podcast?
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Like they didn't understand it.
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And it was something that like I obviously had the idea.
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And I was like, oh, let me go share with people I think are going to be really excited for me.
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And they weren't.
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And then that discouraged me.
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And, you know, when God tells you to do something, it's going to keep showing up.
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So here we are three years later.
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And I'm actually doing the podcast.
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But think about like how far ahead I would have been if I would have not listened to everyone else, really listen to myself, um, and not always ask everyone for their approval because you don't need people's permission and you don't need approval from others.
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You literally just need to do what you feel like you should do and run with it.
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Get the ball and run with it.
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Because you just don't know what's on the other side of trying new things and risk.
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Like I always see this quote over and over again.
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It says, no risk, no story.
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And I just think, like, yeah, all the risk I took, good and bad, like really got me where I'm at right now.
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And it's such a good story.
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And I feel like if you're kind of doing the same thing over and over again, the same results, and like you're just like not the main character of your story, then you need to figure out what you're good at and what you enjoy doing, and then go do that and then be the main character of your story.
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But how will you know what you're good at if you don't try things?
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So you have to try, you have to fail, you need to try all sorts of things.
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You might be good at a lot of things.
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Like, you gotta really figure out in your soul for yourself like what do you want to do?
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What do you want to spend your time on?
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What brings you joy?
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And also make sure it's like aligned with what God wants you to do.
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Because if you're over here doing all this and you're not going anywhere and you're not making money and you're not super, super happy or fulfilled, then it's probably because you're supposed to be doing something else or exploring other things because what God's plan looks like for one person might not look the same for you.
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Um, and it's very easy to go and like do what they're doing, but you've got to like figure out what it is you're supposed to be doing and study.
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I feel like whatever you feel like you should be doing, you should also be studying it and implementing the things that you study into the work and really focusing.
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There's so much um information now.
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You can get so much.
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I'm learning so much online about building a business and um, you know, just things to do with influencers and brands and all this stuff.
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It's all pretty much free online.
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So we kind of don't have an excuse anymore.
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We really just got to focus.
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But with that being said, our focus is so like the minute I open up the phone, y'all, I'll be like, okay, I'm gonna go do this on my phone.
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Open it up, great video, forget what I was doing, get off the phone.
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Like, what?
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What is this?
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It's so bad.
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I'm gonna get better, but I'm just like, yeah, I can definitely see where I'm kind of struggling there.
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But yeah, when I'm saying, like, don't tell people what you're building.
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I'm not saying don't be secretive.
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I'm just saying be a little protective.
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Like, notice when you tell people their reactions.
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You know, naturally, sometimes we just don't mean to, but we'll just like, oh, they're gonna do that.
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I should do that.
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Or like it, it's weird.
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The people that love you and and they're there for you the most, like they will eat you tell them and they'll even be like, huh, I need to do that, or like something goes off and they don't even mean to, and they're not bad people.
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It's just it's not really everyone's business to know.
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So I I don't think that you're being um like so much secretive, you're just being selective.
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Like maybe tell the people that you can do business with, or tell a stranger that doesn't care whether you do that or you don't do that.
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But don't tell the people closest to you because they're gonna have the loudest opinions.
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And they're really doing it from a place of love, or they're doing it from um a place of their projections of their own failures.
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Like maybe they tried to do that and they remember the heartbreak of it that didn't work out.
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So now you're telling them and they're like, oh no, I I need to save them.
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I need to tell them how bad that's a bad idea, bad idea.
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And, you know, then you don't do it.
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It's like, no, you need to go live life and and figure it out for yourself and not take everyone else's advice.
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I will say, yes, it is good to take some people's advice, but when God is really calling you to do something, you need to make sure that you're listening to God more than you are people.
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You that's called obedience, right?
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So it's like 5,000 people might be telling you no, but if you just keep getting this like urge and this this little like hint to do this thing over and over and over again, just go do it.
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Just go do it.
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Also, it's like when you're telling people, see why you're telling them.
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Have you ever asked yourself, like, am I telling them because I generally want to inform them?
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Like, why are you telling, are you seeking approval?
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You know, you should really approve of the things you want to do for you, for yourself.
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Um, and you are the only one that matters.
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Your opinion's the only one that matters.
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They're your choices, they're your decisions.
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So to really go ask people or tell them, it's like before you do ask, why am I telling them this?
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While I'm building, like you're building something, you need that positive affirmation.
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It's hard to build.
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You're being very courageous to start a business or do something on your own or do something you never tried before.
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You are putting yourself out there too fell.
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So it's already scary enough.
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So don't scare yourself out of it by going and telling everybody your plans.
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Like majority of the people love them, love them so much, but they are somewhat in the scarcity mindset.
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So you got to build your faith with God and your belief in what you're doing and really believe it.
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Like, believe in what you're doing and enjoy it and have fun in the process while you're figuring out the do's and the don'ts and you're making the trials and errors, really enjoy it because you're building something for you that no one else can take away from you.
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And I think that's where your confidence is gonna come in because you're gonna keep showing up for yourself and you're the only one that can do it.
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So who no one else can do it for you?
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You gotta show up.
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And then when you keep doing that, girl, that like needy girly energy is gonna go away, and you are gonna be such a boss, babe, and you're gonna be respected, and you're gonna have, you know, you're still gonna be playful, but that that maturity around you because you are the main character in your show because you are owning your space and taking the time on yourself, girl.
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That is powerful.
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So I think the thing is to really observe and don't absorb.
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I will tell you, I am such like people will tell me things and I'm just like and I like absorb it all.
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And I'm like, no, I need to just observe.
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Observe, not take everything straight to heart and really um pray about things more and just not completely take everything what everyone says is the truth.
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Because, girl, I will do that.
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You tell me something, I'm like, oh my gosh, it must be true.
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Like, I just but I'm I'm working on it.
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I have discernment now and I'm getting better.
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But I mean, three years later, it's insane.
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Um, but yeah, just really make sure that you're not taking on other people's fears.
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Sometimes you're carrying other people's stuff that's not even yours.
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And um, working from old belief systems, and you gotta realize like that was for them, but you have God's favor.
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You have lived through so much and gone through so much, and right now is your winning season.
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So don't take on what other people, you know, lived in their different seasons.
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Right now, you're in your winning season.
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So take the brakes off, go, believe in yourself, and just know that everything you do is is gonna be favored.
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So get that real delulu going.
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Also, like a lot of people will always try to give you advice.
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And I will say, really think about the advice, don't just take it to heart, like I said, but also know that you can still love them, but you can think about things or question what they're saying.
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You don't have to take everything that they say to be true.
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You can really think for yourself.
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And I think thinking for yourself is one of the strongest things that you can do in this world.
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And it's also maybe one of the hardest things, especially if you're an overthinker.
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I have dealt with overthinking my whole life.
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I'm an overthinker and I'm an overlover.
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It's just who I am, and I'm an overgiver, probably too.
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But as I'm maturing and getting closer to God, all these things are kind of working themselves out, right?
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That's what happens when you get the Jesus glow.
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You just start seeing the things that you need to work on, and he just really starts helping you overcome those things.
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So it's okay to be an overthinker.
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It's okay to think out every little possibility and do all this.
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But when you really put your faith in God and you just are like, okay, I know I'm overthinking, I know I'm doing the worst case scenario, but then you sit there and you're like, no, let's like I like to flip everything opposite.
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So it's like when my brain is going, what if this happens?
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What if this happens?
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What if this happens?
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And it wants to do that, I stop it.
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I'm like, but what if this happens?
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But then what if this happens?
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Oh my gosh, but then what if that happens?
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And it, I just keep trying to fight my own brain because somewhere during the system, I got scared or something happened, and now I'm sitting here like, oh my God, and I'll go down.
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It's like, no, but what if we reframe that and we just went up?
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And so I love to think of best case scenarios before I leave the house.
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Best case scenario, what could happen good today?
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Like, really believe God for bigger.
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That is so important in our brains.
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We just like, I don't know.
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We we really don't think big enough.
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Like, I pray to God, God bless me beyond my wildest dreams.
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So, yeah, my dreams might be wild.
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Bless me beyond that.
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Bless me for something that I can't even think of right now.
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Like, just bring me your goodness because he knows what we need more than we do.
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We love to be control freaks, but God really knows what we need.
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So, yeah, I know when we get excited too, we just want to tell people, oh, I got this audition, oh, I have this really big project coming up, oh, I thought of this idea.
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And you want to go tell everyone, you get like super excited.
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That is like the temptation to tell everyone.
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Fight it, fight it and keep it to yourself.
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I think, you know, telling people who really don't care what you do, like strangers and all that is fine.
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But when you are telling people close to you, I just don't think it's a good idea.
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I think to keep things toward you because you're also reflecting back to them what they don't have going on or where they might be lacking.
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So keep it to yourself, pray about it, journal, visualize what you want, but do not go around and just tell everyone around you because it's just, I don't know, people say it's like they they put their energy on it or something.
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And I'm like, it is something though.
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I haven't figured out exactly what it is, but there is something about keeping things to yourself.
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And um, I have friends that won't tell people that they're traveling, they won't tell people that they're, you know, speaking at a panel or in a movie.
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They'll tell me, but I notice they keep it hush, hush.
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And I'm like, huh.
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I should probably learn from that because they're traveling, they always have the best times.
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Like they they come back and they tell me stories of just everything going well.
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Um, they're talking on Forbes panels and things, and their interviews and everything look so good.
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I'm like, you know, it's probably because they're not announcing to the world, hey, look at me, I'm doing this.
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They just go do it, and then after you see the results, there's also something very classy about that.
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Um, so yeah, I think that's the way to be.
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I've seen a bunch of people do it, and I think it's just probably the winner, the winner's way.
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Yeah, so I think it is just the a classy way to be, and also probably the best for your manifestations.
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Just protect your vision, build in silence, let the work do the talking, and be consistent even when no one's watching.
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Um I will say though, it is good to film content, but you don't have to show them everything you're building.
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You can show them, you know, if you do days in life or you know, everyone does, you can show them some, but don't give everything.
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I think when you're giving everything is when it's kind of too much.
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Stay consistent, keep pushing through, keep things to yourself, keep building, do not give up, keep going.
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You have no idea how big God will bless you if you stay consistent and do what's right and always make the right choices and stay humble and excited for life and in prayer and always think about the best case scenario and give thanks for the best case scenario.
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Thank you so much for that.
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Before it's even happened, just thank you so much.
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Thank you so much, and really praise him for it.
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Like any time I'm feeling uneasy or I'm going through the day and I feel like I have so much going on.
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I just am like, thank you, Jesus, thank you, Jesus.
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Because it keeps me in a gratitude state.
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And when I'm giving thanks for everything around me, it's a little bit harder for me to be overwhelmed.
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Um, taking responsibility for myself and pushing myself and getting out of my comfort zone, and that can be a lot.
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So to stay in this gratitude state is really life-saving.
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And having my girl community, which I love y'all so much, and I can't wait to do our next event.
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Um, it's just really helping while I'm building because we need that.
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We need community.
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We need um, we need God, we need our faith, but we also just need that that time with ourselves while while we build.
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So yeah, I love talking to y'all.
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I'm just gonna pray for you because I love you so much.
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Um, dear Lord, I pray that the girl listening on the other side of the screen just knows and has a sermon when to tell people her dreams and visions and when to keep them to herself and when to be social and when to be in building mode, and that she just understands the assignments that you give her and she executes them in a timely manner, and that she does everything with joy and she gets what she wants done.
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She manifests what she wants and she stays in a happy, happy state and gratitude, thanking you throughout the whole thing.
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In Jesus' name I pray.
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So thank you for joining us on Bless this mess, and I will see y'all next time.
