White Horse

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Hello, this is Blank Space.
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We read between the lines of Taylor Swift lyrics one song at a time.
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I'm best a Swifty.
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I'm Adam, a Swifty in Training.
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Today we're pacing back and forth, cursing to ourselves.
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A stupid girl, should have known, should've known
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As we cry to White Horse, track five from Taylor's second album, Fearless.
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This is one of my all-time favorite songs by any artist.
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And this starts the track five
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like trend, right?
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Uh well the track five from the first album would be the one that starts it.
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But but this makes it like at starts to make it into
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Um, as an observable thing.
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Uh-huh.
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Okay.
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So so tell me about the song.
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I mean this is your favorite, so I'm gonna give you the stage here.
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I
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I don't actually know if it's about anyone really.
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Uh because I so far I haven't heard Taylor say much about
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you know who the subject of this song is, but I don't think it matters.
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The the secret message behind this was all I wanted was the truth.
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So she was probably
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like in the music video, hurt by someone getting cheated on.
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But if you were a third the the third person then does it count?
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Never mind.
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I mean I I She was lied to.
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Yeah, sounds like a very personal thing.
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It sounds like something that happened.
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Yeah.
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But
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I don't know.
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This was like this came out twenty thousand and eight, um, the the album.
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And by that time she wasn't known to date that many famous people yet.
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This is supposed to be a famous person.
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This was around like Joe Jonas
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Uh-huh.
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Um so anything before her dating celebrities would be hard to verify.
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And so far I haven't really seen
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any discussion about who it is.
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And also it doesn't matter.
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No, it doesn't matter.
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That's a universal experience.
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I feel like, you know, you have to
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have experienced this at one point in your life.
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I mean everyone well yeah and I yeah, I mean I think it did happen.
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We don't need to know who it is.
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That's fine.
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Yeah.
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Um but yeah this sounds very personal.
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I think the writing is very sharp.
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There's not that much going around in terms of like words, but
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everything she puts in there sounds extremely intentional and there's like some really nice workplay in this like a twist of
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Um like she would just tweak a few things and it would sound more meaningful.
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Like, you know, the Cora says so Cora says like I'm not a princess, this ain't a fairy tale
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But like in the last chorus, it becomes, I'm not your princess.
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This isn't our fairy tale.
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Uh it was nice.
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I don't know.
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I feel like this is the first song that I've heard
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So far when like by the time Fearless came out, this is the first song that really like struck me as excellent songwriting
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I really just like appreciated everything.
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Like the the the words that she used that were, you know, all like linked to fairy tales and like loss of innocence.
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And
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even the use of the word white horse without saying like you're a knight in shining armor.
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Mm-hmm.
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Yeah.
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Um at the time I was
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beginning to be a literature nerd, so I was I I I just like appreciate that this use of
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Meton m oh wait wait, what do you what do you call it?
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Um metonymy?
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Metonymy.
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Yeah.
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I think so.
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I think.
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Metonymy.
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And oh my.
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I forgot.
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But yes, this is a metonymy.
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And I was like, oh, this is so cool.
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Yeah.
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Did you relate to the lyrics?
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Oh, yeah
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I mean I I by 2008, I can't say that I had been cheated on.
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Right.
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But I just like I could relate to the disappointment that you feel in somebody who
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made you feel like they are somebody that they're not.
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Like I could relate to the sense of betrayal from getting manipulated.
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Yeah.
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I could relate to like the the earth shattering moment where, you know, everything you have dreamed of in your own Dululu
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Um, sort of like comes crashing down when you find out something that they didn't want you to find out.
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Mm.
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Do you I mean, do you want to share your example or
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Um well this was not two thousand and eight, right?
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But I would return to this song like over and over and over and over and over at the slightest inconvenience or
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Yeah by any man.
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Um, but I, you know, there was something um like in the last two relationships that I had that, you know
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kind of linked where we're kind of like allowed me to relate more lyrically to White Horst
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Um, like, you know, they were one person was cheating on me, was actually cheating on me.
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Um, but you know, um, and the other person had someone else.
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before me.
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Was having someone else at the same time as me.
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Oh oh you were the mistress.
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Yeah.
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Okay, okay.
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I was toward of the mistress because because I I d
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You know, they said they were separated.
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Right.
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No, I I know I'm not blaming you or anything.
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Um were you ever like a f like were were you paranoid of like your partner cheating on you before it ever happened?
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Like, was that a fear you always had?
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Never.
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Really?
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Until it happened the first time.
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Whoa.
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Yeah.
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But I think
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So my theory is I I think I've said this before, but people project a lot.
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So I always feel like super jealous people are the ones that tend to cheat more because they're
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like projecting what they what they would do to everyone else.
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Like liars always accuse everyone else of lying.
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Right.
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If you're someone that tells the truth all the time, like you don't usually accuse everyone of lying.
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'Cause it doesn't really enter your head as much.
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Yeah.
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So like I feel like
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If you're not worried about cheating, it's because you were never really thinking about cheating yourself.
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So that's good.
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Yay, green flag for me.
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Green flag, yes.
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Because if someone is like, well
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ultimately super paranoid all the time.
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Like usually they're the ones like doing that.
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It's projection.
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You know?
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Yeah.
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You know, this has happened to me twice in different circumstances.
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Uh and by this, not it's not the sheeting, it's the being let down by a person who was pretending to be someone else or That's life, maybe.
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I was basically manipulated into whatever.
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Uh yeah, and I love the lines that there are in the song, which is co-written by Liz Rose, by the way.
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Yay Liz, we love you.
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This one?
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Yeah.
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And there were lines that I keep coming back to almost 20 years after the song was released and I have highlighted them here.
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Please do, yes.
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It's um I was a dreamer before you went and let me down.
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Yeah.
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I was like, yeah, this this
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encapsul encapsulates like how it feels to be to to to be disappointed basically because I believed in you.
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I was a dreamer.
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I dreamed about all these things.
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that we would have, or this future that we would have, until you went and like tore it all apart and you let me down.
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Um and my mistake, I didn't know to be in love, you had to fight to have the upper hand
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Yeah.
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That was also something that I had to learn firsthand.
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Um like you can't be well I still don't play this game, but I am aware that people play it.
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Like you you have to be the one that loves less.
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Do you agree with this?
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I do agree that people think this.
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Well yes, I think people think that too.
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Do you think you sh should or think of or view it this way?
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Nah.
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I think it would be too hard
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for me to consciously try to do.
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I know people that's not who I am.
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Yeah, so people do consciously do this.
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Yeah.
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It's screwed up, I think.
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Yeah, but they've probably been hurt before and it's a defense mechanism mechanism.
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Oh absolutely.
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Does not excuse it because it's like not cool.
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Like, you know, when you're um if it's if you're leveraging anything, that's not love.
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That's transactional.
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And manipulation.
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And um the Well they would call it like self-protection, self-preservation.
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But it's a power imbalance.
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Yeah.
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You know, that's what that does.
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Like if you have leverage, you are more powerful that than that person.
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And like then that's not cool.
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That's not an even relationship.
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Yeah, like someone that I saw was basically keeping count on everything.
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And if I was upset about him uh if I was upset with him about one thing and I brought it up then he would say, Oh, but you also did this
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That upset me, but I didn't say anything about it because I was a bigger person than you.
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And then I would end up feeling really shitty about it.
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But then you're just like walking on eggshells and and and and everything you're doing is being kept to like some score.
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Yeah
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Which is the thing.
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It must be hard to live that way.
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But you know, there are people who do this.
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There are people who keep scores on you and as a way to
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protect themselves against being called out on whatever bullshit they do.
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Because that's what I'm saying.
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They are projecting.
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So they are keeping score of all the things the reason they're keeping score of your stuff is so that they know if they screw up they can pull that out.
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Yeah.
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That's why.
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That's their get out of jail cart.
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Correct.
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If they're not worried about fucking up all the time, then then they're not gonna like need to pull out, you know, a get out of jail free card and blame you and try to like
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Divert attention away.
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It's always projection.
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Yeah.
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If you're whis but you know what though, I've also gotten in a lot of trouble by the way of not being jealous enough.
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Like
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'Cause I'm very unjalous.
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That's good though, no?
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Fault I think 'cause but some people like you don't care.
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Do you not perceive threats?
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Look, to me, it takes two to tango.
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If if if I'm with a partner and she's flirting with the guy, yes, I'll be mad at her.
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Right.
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If a guy flirts with her, I won't be mad at her.
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If he doesn't know, right, like that she's like with someone or anything, like
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uh whatever, then I'm not really worried.
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I'm only worried if then she starts engaging with it or something.
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But like, you know, uh if flirting is fine, you know, and I but a lot of girls would get mad at me and perceive it as like you don't care
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Which I find hard to get over.
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Like do you want me to not trust you?
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That's what I keep that's what I would always come to is like I think they just want to feel like
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Like you are threatened by the fact that if they want to, they could.
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But that's not cool.
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Like I don't want to be with you.
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That's that's my point.
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Like
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If you do you want me to think you're gonna like go off with any guy that hits on you or something?
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Or like do you want me to be scared?
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And and if that's the case, like I don't really want to be in that relationship, like
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It's supposed to be secure.
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Sho
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S not that you're not threatened, but like show that hey, I'm not threatened because I trust you, you know.
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Um, I mean sure, yeah.
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And I I try to exp
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blame that.
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But like I d I do think if you're jealous it mean or if you have jealousy it means like you think your partner's gonna hurt you.
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And if you think that they're ever going to do that, you I don't you shouldn't be with them, I think
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If you don't trust them, if you think that you're gonna like m um purposefully and maliciously hurt you, then like honestly I don't think that's a good sign.
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Hmm.
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Why why why do you wanna be with someone that's like are that you
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Well it's not all black and white, right?
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Um you just need to have a conversation about it.
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It's not you you can't just decide that okay, if she says this, then that means this and I don't want to be with her if she thinks this
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No, I mean I I agree, but I'm saying from my point of view, I find jealousy, I find the insecurity that you think if you if you think your partner's like out there maliciously trying to hurt you, like that type of jealousy
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Then like, yes, you have to look inward, I think.
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Yeah, it's it's your problem.
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And also also, do you wanna be with someone if you think they're gonna do that to you?
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You know?
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Like you shouldn't.
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You should be with someone that makes you feel safe.
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Okay, but a lot of it could also come from your insecurity.
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Which you have to work on.
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I'm not saying you.
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Oh that's like general you.
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No, I know.
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Although no, insecure people are super I mean sorry, jealous people are super insecure.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, but that's what I'm saying, like
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They don't feel safe.
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Yeah.
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And and sorry, but no amount of safety is gonna come from any partner if if you don't work on yourself.
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Right.
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And I think it's self-fulfilling prophecy.
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I think if you start accusing someone of cheating enough, you put it in their head.
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Or like you you push them away in some way.
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Like if you keep bringing it up.
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Like I do think you should kind of create your own lobe of hell.
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Yeah.
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Because you won't let it you won't let imaginary stories go.
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You know?
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And so that's a huge turnoff for me when people are hyper jealous.
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Because one, I get suspicious.
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Like, what's wrong with you?
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Why do you think that I would shit on you if I could?
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Or are you just projecting?
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Are you gonna do that?
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Yeah.
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But then yeah, also like
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We I've talked about this with you, but like security in yourself is super sexy.
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Uh-huh.
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And jealousy is very insecure, and I view that as very unsexy.
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Okay.
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But that but it still gets me in a lot of trouble.
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Okay.
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Yeah.
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Would you like it if a guy was not jealous at whatsoever with you?
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Um the
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It's not how I feel about my partner not feeling jealous.
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I it's just that I want him to feel like not too
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secure that he doesn't feel like he needs to be nice to me or b do something to to to doesn't need to do things
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do special things for me anymore.
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It's it's not like a one off incident, but I just want to keep feeling desired.
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Oh, I agree with that.
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Yeah.
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And like a little performative drill jealousy doesn't hurt.
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Okay.
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As long as I know that, you know, you're not actually jealous.
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You're just like
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flirt flirtatiously trying to be protective.
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Sure.
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Yeah.
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I get I mean that type of comfortable, yeah, I don't agree with.
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I think you should always be really like, you know, nice and cool with your partner.
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Don't sleep on them because like they'll
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Yeah.
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Like don't be too sure that I won't just like up and leave.
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And and when I talk about security, I just mean like you you it's your you feel safe that your partner loves you.
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You know what I mean?
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Not that like you don't have to do shit.
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Yeah.
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But like
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That you know that, you know, your partner's just not gonna cheat on you and hurt you right away.
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And if you do think they're gonna do that, like dude, I don't know, maybe not be with them or something.
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Because you do see people that are like if he leaves, if he goes and drinks, like she's immediately gonna cheat.
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It's like well then fuck that guy.
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So what what's the option?
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Like keep him in a cage or like he's just gonna cheat on you every time he comes out
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Some people are treated as Yeah, then don't be in that relationship.
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Yeah, like work on yourself.
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What is it about this person that you enjoy then?
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Yeah, I don't know.
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How does he make you feel?
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I often find myself asking myself that when I see couples who seem complete mismatched.
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I'm like, why?
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Why?
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Why?
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Because being alone is harder than being And that's not true actually.
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I've been alone for five years.
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It's okay.
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I think it's quite alright.
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It's it's better.
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It I prefer this I prefer this to crying.
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Crying over some guy
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Being single is great.
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And if you're with someone that doesn't that isn't better than being single, horrible.
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Yeah.
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Not worth it.
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That's when it's an issue.
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I agree.
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Like yeah.
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Yeah, but you know, I keep I keep joking that the bar is low, but actually I think
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the bar has been higher than I thought, than I give myself credit for.
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Because now the next guy that I will be with
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if I will be with anyone has to make my life better than what it is.
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Correct.
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And it's pretty great without you, actually.
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That's exactly where you need to be.
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For real.
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Okay.
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That's perfect.
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And this is why I have no one and keep having no one.
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No.
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No no no no no.
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Disagree.
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That attitude is perfect.
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Keep telling me that when I'm fifty-five.
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No.
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Well look, if you're loving life at 55, if you know if life is as great as you say it is, that's kick ass.
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You know what I mean?
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Like
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Life should be really good.
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Like and and and again that you have to focus on what you can control.
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So if you are making your life as good as you can do it, you know, within reason
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And someone comes along and can make that even better together, that's great.
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But if anyone is making it worse, yeah.
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It's like when you if you have a company and you hire someone and then they make your job harder, like that's the opposite of what they're supposed to do
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The partner is supposed to make your life easier, not harder.
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Yeah, and honestly, I've been I've been doing life solo for so long that I kind of already forgot like what partnership feels like, but
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I do feel it very I do feel the absence of it very intensely sometimes.
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Like I'm not trying to apply for a Schengen visa to go to Europe for like two, three weeks.
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and it will be a solo trip and everything is so much more expensive when you do it alone.
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Is that true though?
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Yeah, like you cannot share hotel rooms and stuff and I have to worry about things that couples don't have to worry about, like
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Okay, uh who's gonna wash my back if I need to go to toilet?
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Or like if I can't put this twenty-five kilogram luggage in the overhead
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compartment of this train then how the fuck is it gonna go up there?
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You know?
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So now I have to go to the gym and try to like train myself to be able to lift twenty five kilos.
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Yeah, that's real.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, they should have suitcase training for people about to go on vacation.
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Yeah.
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Like life is so much harder right now.
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Now that, you know, uh I mean life is not that hard, but
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You know, there are things when there are things that will hit you right in the fucking gut when Yeah.
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It would be nice to have a partner
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And you don't.
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But also, if you had a bad partner, nothing is worse than going on vacation with them.
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That's true, but at least they can lift my luggage.
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That's true.
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But sometimes I've gone on vacation with people and it's been the worst time of my life, you know, because we didn't like each other or, you know, it wasn't working out.
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But traveling solo, I I agree it's rough too, you know?
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Yeah.
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I love it.
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I love traveling solo, but it definitely is a very different vibe than when you're with someone.
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Yes, as and and especi especially if you are a woman.
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Yeah.
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Traveling by yourself.
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I have to worry about shit like getting m robbed.
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And Europe is way more dangerous than Bangkok.
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I know, I've been told that.
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And now I'm a little bit nervous, but I guess I'm There are pickpockets and stuff.
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Yes.
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That's what I keep reading about.
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Yeah.
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And I am nervous.
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I'm gonna I'm not gonna lie.
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I'm I'm I'm extremely nervous.
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I just wish I had someone who would like have my back and you know be my second pair of eyes.
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Um it doesn't have to be like a boyfriend.
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I could also have
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It could it could also be a friend, but you know, it's it's hard when priorities people have different priorities and stuff and you can't like n your friends can't go on vacation the same days that you are free.
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They don't have to commit to doing it with you.
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You know?
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Right.
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Yeah.
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And in a way I choose this.
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I I could force people to go on this with me, but I I also chose
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You've gone on route trips before, and that's also, you know, not maybe as good as going alone sometimes.
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Yeah.
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Every t every time I do that, I'm like, fuck, I wish I could be alone.
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Right.
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So it's greener, the grass
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You have very special friends if you can travel with them.
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That's why when you're asking me, like there is a group so just for the listener, like I go on visa runs sometimes.
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Yeah, that's legal.
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I go on visa runs sometimes.
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Yeah.
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I have to, so it's okay.
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I could say this
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Um, I go on visa runs and it syncs up with some people I travel with.
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But it has taken me like a decade to find people I can comfortably travel with and like be on an airplane with and go to hotels with because I am hypersensitive to that.
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Like
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And I would much rather be alone and do what I want than like travel with people 'cause it's such a different dynamic.
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Yeah.
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Um so finding anyone you can travel with
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A partner.
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It's a blessing.
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You can't marry anyone until you travel with them.
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You don't see anyone at their worst, you know, until you're traveling with someone and you're in like close quarters and you're on an airplane together and like you're no one knows what to do.
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Right.
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Or like you're helping each other like overcome obstacles.
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You know, like you need that.
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And if you don't work out while you're traveling, that's a pretty big sign that you wouldn't work out.
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Yeah.
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This line near the end.
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I'm gonna find someone someday who might actually treat me well.
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I've been saying this shit for almost twenty years, man.
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How long did it take Taylor?
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Well, yeah.
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What sixteen years and you're younger.
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Sixteen years.
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So you're right on track.
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She's been singing it.
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Uh yeah, okay.
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Oh well.
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Yeah, but yeah, what I'm saying is like this song has like so many great lines.
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um, that really encapsulates what it feels like to be disappointed, to still hope for something better
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To shoes yourself.
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I love that the girl chooses herself in this one.
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You know, there you are on your knees, begging for forgiveness, begging for me, just like I always wanted, but I'm so sorry.
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And then she's like
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You know, this is a big world, that was a small town, they're in my rear view mirror, disappearing now.
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And it's too late for you and your white horse to catch me now
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Try and catch me now.
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It's too late to catch me now.
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I love that.
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So my question is, on your MSN Messenger days, how often was your away message, it's too late to catch me now?
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Um no, I think it was other lines from here
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Okay, like um, like these lines that I've highlighted.
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Okay.
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Like I wasn't dreamer before you went and let me down, like oh so emo.
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And like, I'm not a princess.
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This ain't a fairy tale
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Like as if being aware of that makes it hurt less.
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I love that you're kind of theorizing all this song at like an imaginary dude.
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No, this was back then when I was like dramatizing everything.
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No, that's what I'm saying.
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Even back then though, like your like relationships were pretty normal.
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Dramatizing is fun.
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And I have all these delusions, you know.
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I have had them
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Yeah, so does Taylor.
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I mean, you know, she has an imagination here.
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I feel like you have to have an overactive imagination in order to be some any kind of creator.
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do any creative work like writing or yeah I mean and and I think you have to be in touch with yourself, you know, somewhat and inquisitive, you know.
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Yeah.
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So do you like this song?
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Um as a s okay.
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As a song.
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I mean it's not the catchiest thing she's ever written, right?
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No.
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Right.
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But it's such a standout so far, I think.
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No, you don't agree.
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It doesn't like connect to me about, you know, not being a princess, the saying a fairy tale.
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Like all the I think all the lines that you connect with, I like just don't that much.
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Okay.
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Um, this is not
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something that I relate to.
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You don't think about knights and princesses and happy endings on a daily basis.
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And I could tell.
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I mean all these were on my AIM away messenger status, but you know, th that was the old me.
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Oh, you're better than that now, huh?
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I I mean it's a good song.
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I I totally get why you li I get I totally get why you like it.
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I get why it was your favorite song.
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I also think m you know you're at the right age as well.
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Yes.
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Of course.
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Back back in the days I still, you know, read the princess diaries and wanted to be a princess and all that stuff.
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Absolutely.
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Yeah.
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And I get that, and I'm so happy for you.
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And I'm so happy that you connected with the song.
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And I like it's not it's not a good it's not a bad song.
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It's fine, it's good.
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And and the the songwriting, I mean you're right, like
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At night.
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Liz.
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Yeah, Liz Rose, right?
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Yeah.
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There's some maturity in here that you see, uh, that comes from our girl Liz that I always enjoy.
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You know?
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Yeah.
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And I, you know, it's a good message for everyone of like, it's too late to catch me.
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Like You walk away from this.
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You messed up.
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Yeah.
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I hope people do resonate with that.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, like choose yourself.
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Like don't let them come back a second time and, you know, be an asshole twice, you know?
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You can choose to save yourself in this one.
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A lot of people do want someone in like a white horse.
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And and I think
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People come and they're like, hey, I know I messed up.
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I I can do better.
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Those are meaningless words.
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Yeah.
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I I was
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I'm watching a lot of reality TV and I'm watching Married at First Sight and all these people are making mistakes right now and they keep saying, you know, that's not me
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That's not the real me.
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You know, I'll do different.
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And that's just if someone ever says that's not me, that's a complete lie.
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Like of course who else did that?
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Like you did that.
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Like and maybe you regret it.
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Maybe it's not who you want.
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Want to be, but that's you.
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Yeah.
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So like own it and fix it.
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But you there what so you can switch personalities and you chose the asshole one?
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Like Bro, that's the
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Yeah.
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Yeah, it's you.
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It's not who you want to be, maybe.
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It's not who you think you are in in your best days, but bro, it's you.
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And and the further you separate yourself from that
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from those actions, then you can't fix it.
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So if you just keep saying that's not me, that's not me, then you'll never fix it or address it.
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Yeah.
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Because you're not gonna feel guilt or shame because that wasn't you.
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Yeah, and that's just like
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You getting getting possessed by a ghost of an asshole.
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Yeah, the cool me doesn't like that.
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Like that's not me.
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I don't know who did that.
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I don't know what happened.
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But uh so then you'll never fix it.
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So like
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If it literally if anyone says that to you, just fucking walk away because it's bullshit.
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Like that is you fix it.
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Like or don't do it again.
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Or like address it.
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But uh yeah, so I you know, it's a it's a good message.
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Like being in the rear view mirror, disappearing now.
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Yeah.
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Good messages.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Like, and again, she brought in the car.
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Even though this is like a horse on a princess, there's a rear view mirror.
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She's always in the car.
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Right.
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And I think it's a profound image.
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You know, you wait on a guy on a white horse, but you know, how is he gonna be able to catch up with a fucking four wheel car?
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Yeah, you're in a truck.
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Yeah
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No, probably car.
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But yeah, car is faster than horse.
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She likes to be in the passenger seat of a truck.
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I don't think he sh I don't think she
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rides a truck.
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But never mind, like not logistics.
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But yeah.
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How fast is this horse chasing this car?
00:27:16.480 --> 00:27:18.960
The thing is the horse cannot catch up with her because
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The girl decides that she can drive and she's gonna do it herself.
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Correct.
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She's putting her foot on the wheel and having agency
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Where do you put the hands?
00:27:29.559 --> 00:27:32.600
On the wheel, driving with agency.
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Yeah.
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Moving forward.
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Yeah, and you're the little asshole in her rearview mirror disappearing now.
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You're the little asshole disappearing.
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Yeah.
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I love this song.
00:27:44.820 --> 00:27:46.820
You know, I I first
00:27:47.519 --> 00:27:51.120
was inspired to pick up the guitar because of this song.
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And and you brought it today, I see.
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And you're ready to play.
00:27:54.240 --> 00:27:58.399
I can't I forgot how this struck I I forgot how I forgot how to do it.
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But I used to be able to do the intro, you know, with the
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core the strings like ding thing da da da da ding ding da da da da.
00:28:05.840 --> 00:28:10.559
I used to be able to do that and it took me like a whole day to practice and my fingers were like bleeding.
00:28:10.559 --> 00:28:11.039
Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Anyway, that was really fun.
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I'm proud of that.
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Um, but now I can't recreate it because I forgot how to do it.
00:28:17.760 --> 00:28:22.880
But I'm sure there's still like the YouTube tutorials that I saw 16 years ago are probably still there
00:28:22.700 --> 00:28:26.779
I'm left handed so I had to like restring guitars every time.
00:28:27.260 --> 00:28:31.260
I d I used to take guitar lessons and I played Beatles songs.
00:28:31.260 --> 00:28:31.580
Okay.
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Because my instructor was old.
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So y you're again good with the agency stuff.
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You find hobbies and you chase it.
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I was like forced to go to guitar school.
00:28:41.540 --> 00:28:42.820
Oh, you were forced.
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Damn.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, I wish I could go back to a lot of hobbies that I had picked up and abandoned.
00:28:49.039 --> 00:28:51.039
Uh like like guitar.
00:28:51.039 --> 00:28:55.120
Yeah, I want to take proper lessons, but you play piano?
00:28:55.120 --> 00:28:55.760
No.
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I don't play much.
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But you're not gonna be able to do it.
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Everyone listening, she is killer at rock band.
00:29:02.100 --> 00:29:04.980
Um I am not killer, I'm trying to be.
00:29:05.060 --> 00:29:06.340
What's your instrument?
00:29:06.340 --> 00:29:06.980
Guitar.
00:29:06.980 --> 00:29:07.540
Yeah, okay.
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Yeah.
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But it's not the same thing as playing in like.
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But it's pretty close.
00:29:12.580 --> 00:29:15.860
Yeah, okay, let's let's let's go with that.
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I play on expert now.
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That's amazing for you.
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Do you play White Horse?
00:29:20.740 --> 00:29:22.020
I don't think they have it.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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I play other Taylor songs though.
00:29:25.060 --> 00:29:28.500
So any uh closing thoughts on your favorite song?
00:29:28.580 --> 00:29:30.180
Well it's one of my favorite songs.
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Okay, okay, fine.
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Of all time.
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Sure.
00:29:32.500 --> 00:29:36.260
Yeah, so there's a little bit of um you know, hedging room.
00:29:36.260 --> 00:29:40.020
We did notice uh you notice it's in ten of your playlists.
00:29:39.720 --> 00:29:40.840
Yes!
00:29:40.840 --> 00:29:41.480
Right.
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Um it's in ten of my Spotify playlists out of a hundred and fifty-two.
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What are the playlist names?
00:29:47.400 --> 00:29:49.320
Okay, let's look it up right now.
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It's unhinged
00:29:50.860 --> 00:29:57.019
Sorry, so every time I encounter an inconvenience or something that hurts me, I create a new playlist for that situation.
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And then I would um name it something vague that reminds me of that situation.
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Okay.
00:30:05.520 --> 00:30:07.840
Wait, you wanna relive this?
00:30:07.840 --> 00:30:09.200
Yeah, it's fun.
00:30:09.200 --> 00:30:15.440
Okay, so it's in a playlist called Mario is the first playlist this this appears on.
00:30:15.320 --> 00:30:18.920
Mario is a code name that I had for one of my exes.
00:30:19.320 --> 00:30:28.280
You remember the guy I told you I who used like a Super Mario um line theme for his messaging app
00:30:28.900 --> 00:30:29.620
Okay.
00:30:29.620 --> 00:30:30.180
Yeah.
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Okay.
00:30:30.580 --> 00:30:32.180
Yeah, so I call it Mario.
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Okay.
00:30:32.420 --> 00:30:35.540
And this these are like angry play or like sad playlists?
00:30:35.540 --> 00:30:36.580
It's mostly sad.
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Okay.
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Yeah.
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And it's in another playlist I had about being depressed during COVID after I broke up with that Mario.
00:30:46.580 --> 00:30:47.540
Oh, okay.
00:30:47.540 --> 00:30:50.020
Called I Had It Almost
00:30:50.780 --> 00:30:57.820
That's that's a line from another song called Repeat Until Death by Novo Amor, which I loved at the time.
00:30:57.820 --> 00:30:59.820
I'm I I really like um that
00:30:59.860 --> 00:31:03.380
You somehow remember like with these names like what this is from.
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And yeah.
00:31:03.700 --> 00:31:06.899
And briefly, how many songs are on these playlists?
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On Mario?
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Yeah.
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It's 140.
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Holy shit.
00:31:12.760 --> 00:31:21.480
So every time I'm in like one of these moons, I would create a playlist and I would like add every song that comes to mind and I would play it on repeat for like five, six weeks
00:31:21.260 --> 00:31:24.620
Yeah, no shit, that's that would take a whole week to play that.
00:31:24.620 --> 00:31:25.260
Yeah.
00:31:25.260 --> 00:31:25.660
Okay.
00:31:25.660 --> 00:31:28.780
And I had it almost had 169 songs.
00:31:28.780 --> 00:31:29.580
Oh my god.
00:31:29.580 --> 00:31:31.179
I thought this was like ten tracks.
00:31:31.580 --> 00:31:32.220
Alright, alright.
00:31:32.220 --> 00:31:33.020
What else?
00:31:33.020 --> 00:31:33.340
Um
00:31:34.200 --> 00:31:37.640
Um there's one called Angry Friday evening.
00:31:37.640 --> 00:31:39.160
I don't know what that's about.
00:31:40.840 --> 00:31:42.280
What what what what year?
00:31:42.280 --> 00:31:43.080
What date?
00:31:43.080 --> 00:31:44.680
Um, I can't see.
00:31:44.680 --> 00:31:45.960
Uh hang on.
00:31:45.960 --> 00:31:47.880
Angry Friday evening.
00:31:48.820 --> 00:31:50.580
How many socks?
00:31:50.580 --> 00:31:52.260
Uh that one has 50.
00:31:52.260 --> 00:31:53.139
Okay, not bad.
00:31:53.139 --> 00:31:54.179
Short night.
00:31:54.179 --> 00:31:56.019
I think it was from last year.
00:31:56.019 --> 00:31:56.980
Oh, okay.
00:31:56.980 --> 00:31:57.700
Yeah.
00:31:57.700 --> 00:32:00.899
Yeah, and there's uh there's one called What If It's Us
00:32:00.940 --> 00:32:03.659
This is probably when I was crushing on somebody.
00:32:03.659 --> 00:32:04.460
Probably.
00:32:04.460 --> 00:32:06.059
Oh, actually I remember this.
00:32:06.059 --> 00:32:09.019
It was um it was two years ago when
00:32:09.780 --> 00:32:20.500
I had I went on well, I was hanging out with this guy and then he invited me on a date and then we went on a date and then like things were going really well for us and then one day he's like
00:32:20.660 --> 00:32:27.060
So he messaged me and he said, hey, this might come out of the left field, but I can't do this.
00:32:27.060 --> 00:32:30.740
I I'm not ready to be in a relationship.
00:32:31.380 --> 00:32:34.500
He broke up with me while I was on the BTS.
00:32:36.260 --> 00:32:42.340
Um you know it was because one day I showed up at his place
00:32:42.640 --> 00:32:43.680
when we had a plan.
00:32:43.680 --> 00:32:47.920
We had a plan to like had dinner have dinner and like watch TV together.
00:32:47.920 --> 00:32:50.160
But it was raining while I was on the way there.
00:32:50.160 --> 00:32:53.600
And so I got there soaked and he was like, Wow, you're so intense.
00:32:53.600 --> 00:32:54.240
Like
00:32:54.240 --> 00:32:57.040
Like why did you like go through the rain for me?
00:32:57.040 --> 00:32:59.520
Like, wow, you must be so serious about me.
00:32:59.520 --> 00:32:59.840
What?
00:32:59.840 --> 00:33:02.080
And I was like, dude, it was literally
00:33:02.160 --> 00:33:04.640
Like started to rain when I was already on the motorbike.
00:33:04.800 --> 00:33:06.080
What were you supposed to do?
00:33:06.080 --> 00:33:12.400
Like yeah, I was like, I could turn back, but I was already wet, so uh and I was almost at your place, so uh can I have a shower?
00:33:12.480 --> 00:33:13.680
What a loser.
00:33:13.680 --> 00:33:16.960
And that's when he realized that he was not ready for something serious.
00:33:16.919 --> 00:33:18.440
I fucking kid you not.
00:33:18.440 --> 00:33:19.320
Dude, this guy.
00:33:19.320 --> 00:33:20.600
Fucking kid you not.
00:33:20.600 --> 00:33:21.320
Yeah.
00:33:21.320 --> 00:33:21.799
Damn.
00:33:21.799 --> 00:33:24.679
So you how many- I'm not angry that I made a playlist about him.
00:33:24.919 --> 00:33:26.919
So how many tracks on this one?
00:33:26.919 --> 00:33:28.520
Um 300?
00:33:28.840 --> 00:33:29.480
No.
00:33:30.120 --> 00:33:30.440
Um
00:33:31.600 --> 00:33:32.720
29.
00:33:32.720 --> 00:33:33.600
Wow.
00:33:33.760 --> 00:33:35.120
The shortest one.
00:33:35.120 --> 00:33:35.600
Yeah, it is.
00:33:36.080 --> 00:33:37.039
Disrespect.
00:33:37.120 --> 00:33:37.919
The shortest.
00:33:37.919 --> 00:33:38.960
Yeah, like what the fuck?
00:33:38.960 --> 00:33:39.840
I'm so angry about that.
00:33:40.000 --> 00:33:41.600
But what was the playlist called again?
00:33:41.600 --> 00:33:43.440
What if it's a So you were
00:33:44.220 --> 00:33:44.700
Yeah, you can't.
00:33:49.260 --> 00:33:51.500
Yeah, I'm glad I'm glad that's over now.
00:33:51.660 --> 00:33:53.420
This was two years ago, I believe.
00:33:53.420 --> 00:33:54.300
Okay.
00:33:54.140 --> 00:33:55.180
Yeah.
00:33:55.500 --> 00:33:57.340
That was so fucking stupid.
00:33:57.340 --> 00:34:02.380
And I had been single for four three, four years up until then.
00:34:02.380 --> 00:34:03.660
And then he was like
00:34:03.940 --> 00:34:05.620
He said all the right things.
00:34:05.620 --> 00:34:11.220
He was like, hey, I have also been single for as long as you I don't you know I don't play games.
00:34:11.220 --> 00:34:12.020
I don't
00:34:11.840 --> 00:34:15.440
I'm I'm very intentional and I think I see a future with you.
00:34:15.440 --> 00:34:20.800
I want to meet your friends, I want to meet your family, I want to you like yeah, I said all the right things and then
00:34:21.139 --> 00:34:23.859
Suddenly couldn't handle me getting rained on.
00:34:26.819 --> 00:34:27.299
Yeah.
00:34:27.299 --> 00:34:28.099
Exactly.
00:34:28.099 --> 00:34:29.059
No, that's crazy.
00:34:29.059 --> 00:34:30.020
That is crazy.
00:34:30.020 --> 00:34:30.500
Yeah.
00:34:30.500 --> 00:34:31.220
Yeah.
00:34:31.220 --> 00:34:32.099
Thank you
00:34:32.159 --> 00:34:32.560
Yeah.
00:34:32.960 --> 00:34:37.360
And I was like, I I did not intentionally like walk through fire or rain for you.
00:34:37.360 --> 00:34:39.120
It's just that I was on a motorbike.
00:34:39.280 --> 00:34:41.440
I was like on a motorbike and it rained on me, dude.
00:34:41.600 --> 00:34:42.000
Like I'm not
00:34:43.940 --> 00:34:45.060
Almost there.
00:34:45.060 --> 00:34:45.540
Yeah.
00:34:45.540 --> 00:34:48.099
You didn't like walk a mile to go see him or anything.
00:34:48.099 --> 00:34:48.500
Exactly.
00:34:54.740 --> 00:34:57.940
He was mad at like the sign of any slight
00:34:58.520 --> 00:35:00.200
Uh i intention.
00:35:00.200 --> 00:35:02.520
Like he we wow what a freak.
00:35:02.520 --> 00:35:04.680
While preaching that he was intentional.
00:35:04.680 --> 00:35:06.440
That's because you should never listen to again.
00:35:06.440 --> 00:35:07.240
Don't listen.
00:35:07.240 --> 00:35:11.400
When anyone says anything, you just plug ears and go blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah.
00:35:11.160 --> 00:35:13.800
And then, you know, just see what they do.
00:35:13.800 --> 00:35:15.160
Total BS.
00:35:15.160 --> 00:35:17.320
That was wow, that was just yeah.
00:35:17.800 --> 00:35:19.160
What's the next playlist
00:35:19.460 --> 00:35:20.420
I closed it.
00:35:20.420 --> 00:35:20.980
Hang on.
00:35:20.980 --> 00:35:22.260
Why are you so interested?
00:35:22.260 --> 00:35:23.380
Because these are amazing.
00:35:23.700 --> 00:35:24.260
God.
00:35:24.260 --> 00:35:27.539
Now it makes it reminds me of things that I forgot had happened.
00:35:27.539 --> 00:35:28.980
What's the point of these?
00:35:29.960 --> 00:35:31.319
What what's the point of what?
00:35:31.319 --> 00:35:34.279
To live in this and stew in it like you do.
00:35:34.279 --> 00:35:37.480
Um, there's one called Future History
00:35:37.640 --> 00:35:40.680
And there's another one called No, It's For the Better.
00:35:40.680 --> 00:35:47.319
But you know, I gotta say, like some of these titles are actually lines from some of the songs that are also on that playlist.
00:35:48.059 --> 00:35:48.619
Yeah.
00:35:48.619 --> 00:35:57.420
Yeah, so I I guess at some point I stopped naming it after a person and I just named it after whatever inconvenience I was feeling at the time, which
00:35:57.820 --> 00:35:59.980
happens quite frequently.
00:35:59.980 --> 00:36:00.620
Yeah.
00:36:00.620 --> 00:36:04.540
Do you write journals with song accompaniments?
00:36:04.540 --> 00:36:06.860
Like you should read this with this song.
00:36:06.860 --> 00:36:09.340
This journal entry matches with this song?
00:36:09.340 --> 00:36:09.740
No.
00:36:09.980 --> 00:36:10.940
Okay.
00:36:10.500 --> 00:36:13.140
Are you trying to get me to talk about my life journal?
00:36:13.140 --> 00:36:15.220
No, no, not even live journal, no.
00:36:15.220 --> 00:36:17.060
Oh, but people did use to do that, right?
00:36:17.060 --> 00:36:19.220
Because I do put like song lyrics in the title.
00:36:19.460 --> 00:36:20.500
Well, no, it was not about that.
00:36:20.500 --> 00:36:23.060
I mean like, you know, this song matches with this
00:36:23.280 --> 00:36:24.160
No.
00:36:24.160 --> 00:36:28.320
Not intentionally, but because I don't write in journals anymore.
00:36:28.320 --> 00:36:32.640
But now if I write like posts on, you know, Facebook.
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I used to write posts on Facebook, like long ass ones
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I would um put it in the status update that this is the song I'm listening to or something.
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Right.
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And now on Instagram I when I write posts I can add songs
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Right.
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I don't normally well I don't normally do it until it unless it's like a post that was inspired by the song.
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Yeah
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Hm.
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Okay, cool.
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Yeah.
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Well, thanks for sharing your playlists and your heart.
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I feel very d
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vulnerable right now.
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Yeah, that's a lie.
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You know, that's why I don't title anything or save anything.
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I chuck everything out.
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Oh.
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Um, are you avoidant?
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Absolutely
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Um okay and on that no we're up gonna talk about it obviously bye okay bye