Strict Programs Only ft. Kevin Achampong

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Speaker 2: Don't you feel like you're in like the nineteen only something crazy?
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Speaker 3: When I landed, I'd be more here's the thing, I'd actually be more worried, not so much about me and to tell other people know these.
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Speaker 2: Days, I don't want to be outside.
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Speaker 3: Obviously, with women, it's good to like set your boundary stuff naturally and like say some things. But some guys would alter their personality a little bit to like, yeah, a bit close up, unless you say y'all got sick, Like oh yeah, obviously, like that's a weird thing to look at me.
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Speaker 4: She's like, no, no, no, I've got the I.
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Speaker 3: I what's up?
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Speaker 2: What's up? What's up? Guys?
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Speaker 1: And welcome to another episode of the Bittersweet podcast. It's Your Girl Within Tana and we're here today. Look, guys, I'm gonna be honest. We're redoing a whole episode. Okay, we had a whole episode recorded and everything, and then the audio was off.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, so happens.
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Speaker 2: It happens.
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Speaker 1: So today we have one of your favorite content creators. He's got over eight hundred thousand followers across his socials.
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Speaker 2: We have keV punk in the building. What's up?
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Speaker 4: What's up? How are we doing today?
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Speaker 2: I'm good? How are you?
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Speaker 3: I'm good, I'm good. How do you be? Like in Melbourne?
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Speaker 2: So thank you for making the time.
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Speaker 3: Of course, the way I was like, you don't.
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Speaker 2: Get it, Kevin, I was recalled. I was editing the episode that was supposed to drop.
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Speaker 1: This week for the people, and then I'm just like I'm listening to the audio and I'm like, wait, maybe this is the wrong one. Next one, next one, and it's just not coming up. And I'm like, oh my god.
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Speaker 2: Like we had a whole episode. It's gone. I hit him up.
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Speaker 1: I'm like Kevin, like, you don't get it. The episodes going da dam Like I'll be in Sydney. I'm thinking of coming to Sydney in I think end of April yeah, so I was like, you know, can we do it then, and he was like, I'm actually in melbourn I love this for us.
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Speaker 4: One of the chances of that.
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Speaker 3: So yeah, when you hear me, I was like, oh, yeah, I'll be around, we'll make we'll make the time working.
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Speaker 2: I love that you did that.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, of course for sure.
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Speaker 2: Why are you back in Melvin again? Yeah, we have to discuss coming back.
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Speaker 3: I mean, well, first obviously, like I said before, I love that, I love Melbourne, I do. Yeah, I just want to see some family and I had some work staff have to do on here, so I probably spent maybe about a week here.
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Speaker 2: Okay, when did you get in last night?
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Speaker 3: I got in a eight thirties something like that. Yeah, yeah, I call it late flat. But yeah, I came in actually actually went to the Avalon Airport though, so the trip back into the city was a bit much.
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Speaker 1: But you know what though, you told me last time, you told me your family's the west Yeah, Avlon was not too crazy from the west side.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's not too crazy. But I didn't go home straight away. I want to go see some friends and stuff, and then I went.
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Speaker 2: To much and anyway, Yeah, it was a bit dragged.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, it was a bit like I knew it was far from the city, but I didn't think those skybuses and stuff like that. I don't really operate like.
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Speaker 2: That late at Avalon.
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Speaker 3: Not really.
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Speaker 2: Avalon gives me ghost town vibes, like the airport I went to Sydney.
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Speaker 1: Last time I went to Sydney, I caught a flight from Avalon and then like landed back in Tellmarine.
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Speaker 2: It is so it takes me back in time. Don't you feel like you're in like the nineteen something? Crazy?
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Speaker 3: When I landed, I was like, because I've never been to this airport before really, but still I was like, I feel like there's no one here.
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Speaker 2: There's literally no one there.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, people like the customer service just feels weird, the vending machines, and I.
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Speaker 2: Don't know, I was just clocking.
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Speaker 1: I'm like, this feels like like this was made a long time ago and they never Yeah, they never did anything about it.
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Speaker 4: What you're saying. I didn't even see anyone behind the registers. No one was there. That's how I was working.
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Speaker 3: I was like, I don't really know, and it kind of, you know, like most airports that have like I guess big signs saying you know, your bags this way, baggage.
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Speaker 4: Claim and stuff like that.
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Speaker 3: That these really really small signs and stuff, and I was just like, this is a really small airport. I think that was like one uh like baggage carry on. Yeah, I got old the luggage badges like yeah, there was just one. Man. I was just like, oh, but it's not the one I'm looking for. So I had to walk to the other side, which is what a two minute walk because small.
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Speaker 4: From here to your other side of this studio.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know.
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Speaker 2: That's I mean, you made it.
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Speaker 3: We made it. Yeah.
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Speaker 1: On the podcast, we're going to switch up the the.
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Speaker 2: Way we do this today.
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Speaker 1: Like I'm going to start off with the bidder or sweet game, so you know how the game goes.
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Speaker 4: Right, yeah, to be like no and then yes.
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: So first one is going through your partner's phone bitter or sweet.
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Speaker 3: Like bidders and like, now, I wouldn't do that.
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Speaker 2: You wouldn't do that.
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Speaker 3: Uh nah, I wouldn't do that personally really well, I think in my experience is like I would want to be with someone I trust. So that's so I'm like, I'm not really going to go through it. But I feel like I have like the intuition if I know something's up, like I would just sort of feel it and then I think the truth had just kind of come out either way. So I want to say I won't do it.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 4: But on the other end of that, let's say my partner want to go through my phone.
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Speaker 3: I'm like, yeah, sure, Oh.
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Speaker 2: So you would let your partner go through your.
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Speaker 4: Phone they really wanted to, Yeah, you would you care.
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Speaker 2: If they went through your phone when you when you weren't like around.
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Speaker 3: I would, Yeah, sure, I feel like it's being strange, like you can just talk to me. We're together, do you know what I mean? So if you suspect something like sure, But I don't think I would just go through the phone like that personally.
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Speaker 1: Really, Nah, you know you don't give me like crash out anything vibes like you seem very very calm, like yeah, but.
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Speaker 4: For the most part. Yeah, I mean obviously everyone knowsed you feel emotional and stuff.
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Speaker 3: But nah, like I don't.
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Speaker 2: Really you don't be doing that. No, I can't lie. I've done that. I've done that before.
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Speaker 1: Oh, like, well they weren't while they went around, like they got up to go to the bathroom real quick, and I just did a little.
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Speaker 3: Sneaky little did you follow what you're looking for?
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Speaker 1: I found some things that I wasn't happy with, Yeah, like a little bit of like too much. And I feel like I did it because I was a little bit like I feel like when you're when you fully trust someone, you're not going to look through their stuff. Yeah, when you can really sense, okay, this is a type of partner. They're not on bullshit like there's nothing. But then when you kind of can sense that this person could be a little bit funny, sneaky, or maybe not even sneaky, just a bit too friendly or whatever like that, which is the vibe I got I wanted to.
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Speaker 2: See okay, or like I went digging and then.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, so like when when you went through this phone in that sense, like I'm assuming you had a conversation. I would have to go into it, but yeah, we can go to it. I mean you had a conversation after I how.
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Speaker 4: Did that go?
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Speaker 1: I mean I would just bring it up, like I'll just be like, oh, like I wouldn't be afraid to bring up something that I saw. It wouldn't that part of like them finding out that I went through their phone wouldn't be something that stops me from going through someone's phone, you know.
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Speaker 3: What I mean.
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Speaker 2: But it's like I don't know. I guess.
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Speaker 1: I guess it is a violation. But also if you know, yeah, I don't know. I think for me, it was like at the time I did it, it was just like, yeah, I need to find what I'm looking for, and I don't feel like I can. Sometimes I feel like I can be in situations I'm like, you're not going to tell me if I ask you?
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Speaker 3: Do?
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Speaker 2: You know what I mean?
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Speaker 3: I hear that. Yeah, I think it just depends on the person though, you know, I mean I think, yeah, of course. I mean like i'd like to think in a relationship, in a relationship at least these days, like how I think now, Yeah, i'd probably let like I guess the panel look to the I've always have a problem just like, okay, you went through it, sure, but like you can just talk to me too. Yeah, you know, I like, you know, I feel.
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Speaker 4: X y Z do you minify?
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Speaker 3: Yeah, sure, I'd be more Here's the thing, I'd actually be more worried not so much about me entertaining other people know, like I'd be saying the weirdest stuff like content wise, so I'll be taking like some weird ass photos in a sense where it's like just something funny to my friends. I'd be worried about you saying that, and you'll.
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Speaker 2: Be like, well, give me an example of what you're talking about.
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Speaker 1: Like.
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Speaker 3: Probably like oh, would be good example, probably like mame sort of stuff that I might have just sent to my friends, like of myself that I just find funny in my friendship grip or whatever. Yeah, so I think i'd be more worried about that, Like, no, that's a bad thing. I mean, like cav like, what are you doing in your spare time something like that. I'm more worried about that.
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Speaker 1: Than like me, Actually you actually like doing the most. You actually like over like entertaining other people.
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Speaker 3: Nah, No, I think I don't know how my mind works, but I think i'd be more worried about that. Then. You know, you got my phone about some other girl being friendly? Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah does that even make sense?
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Speaker 2: That does make sense.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, You're just you're more concerned about like the like the other yeah, yeah, just over her, like seeing some shit that makes you.
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Speaker 2: Look a little bit weird. Yeah, feeling expossed.
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Speaker 4: Not exposed, but like.
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Speaker 3: I don't know, like just just saying and I won't say exposed. I wouldn't say that, but I feel like like some FiOS I would take nothing like crazy or anything like that, but just something really stupid I find funny.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I would prefer that.
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Speaker 1: Actually, Okay, next one is bitter or sweet? Are you the type of person to cancel plans last minute, last minute, as in like the very hour before. No.
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Speaker 3: No, but unless it's like a serious emergency, like and about family thing, I don't know, the hour of nah, actually no, a bit crazy. I'd probably say if it's an emergency, maybe the day of Yeah, but like the hour of nah, I.
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Speaker 4: Think that's a bit well, I don't. I'll probably be a bit late if.
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Speaker 1: It's Yeah, like I was, Yeah, do you know what, I kind of be salty because I'm late.
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Speaker 2: I'm a late person. Yeah, I just can't be late here, you know what I mean.
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Speaker 1: But in general I'm usually like it's so bad, but I'm getting better.
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Speaker 3: Same.
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Speaker 2: Are you a late person?
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Speaker 1: Yeah?
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Speaker 2: See, I feel like late people just understand late people.
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Speaker 4: Exactly, you know what I mean.
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Speaker 3: Sometimes things happen and stuff with my friends begin in my background all the time.
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Speaker 1: My friends hate it, like they really like I have a friend, one friend, I love her and she's probably gonna listen to this. I love her so much, but she gives me anxiety sometimes because she's like she'll text me before she's leaving, like hey, just heading there now, and I already know what that means, like don't be late, you know, And then it's just like she'll give me updates. But now she's she's kind of chilled. Now she's more like text me when you're leaving your house so that she knows, you know. But it used to give me so much stress because I don't know in my mind, I guess for me and I'm I'm like understanding what.
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Speaker 2: People are saying these days.
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Speaker 1: But like if I'm twenty minutes early and I'm waiting for you for you're twenty minutes late, I just go on my phone or just kind of like kill time in the car or course, you know what I mean. Like I'll do stuff like that. But then so I guess I justify Like with other ones, I'm like, oh, it's calm, it's twenty minutes thirty minutes.
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Speaker 3: It's not that deep.
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Speaker 1: But no, people, it's really like people, it's people's time.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I hear that. Yeah, by that sense, you know, like, would you ever cancel plans like that?
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Speaker 4: Are of il time to do that?
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Speaker 2: You feel like I'm the type of girl.
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Speaker 4: No, I feel like you're not at the time.
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Speaker 2: No, I wouldn't, but like.
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Speaker 1: I would feel really like I would feel relief if someone canceled an hour of sometimes if I like not.
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Speaker 2: That, I do you ever feel like that?
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Speaker 1: It's like I don't want to be outside these days. I don't want to be outside.
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Speaker 2: I don't know what it is.
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Speaker 1: I think I'm going through a phase right now. This is how I was telling you right before the podcast, like I'm having an off day. I feel like I'm having an off like first quarter of the year, like I've just been like I want to be in my own space.
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Speaker 2: I can't be bothered with being outside.
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Speaker 1: I can't be bother socializing with people like just on some like I want to chill and I feel really tired. Yeah, and so when people cancel on me or whatever, I'm just.
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Speaker 2: Like, thank you very much. I don't even want to leave my house. I don't want to leave my house.
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Speaker 1: Like I just go through periods of time where I'm just like I don't like I don't know, maybe because I'm always like extroverted or something that like when I get time to just be on my own, like I'm just rinsing it right now.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, now that's so fair. I think I'm the same too, Like, yeah, i'd be good to like see people stuff, but like some days like when people are oh you know, like maybe the other.
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Speaker 4: Day or good, thank you, it's so fun, you know what do what you gotta do?
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I love it.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, and like I'll it's messed up to same, but like I'll get happier in that sense where like the plans are canceled not because I'm hanging with them.
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Speaker 2: No, no, it has nothing to do with them.
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Speaker 1: It just means that I have my time back, Like I don't know. Now, I have a whole night that I could really just it could go anywhere. Yeah you know what I mean, I could just chill. I can just be in my own space. So I don't know, I'm kind of but no, I don't think I wouldn't unless something came up. I don't think I would cancel like the plans last minute, or if it was like I was really feeling off and it was a whole group thing, then I would tap out if I really can't make it, do you know what I mean?
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Speaker 2: Because then I'm just like, Okay, well, at least they're not just waiting on me. Everybody's going to be there.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, Kevin, So you've been doing social media since I want to say, twenty twenty. You've been doing your thing and you've killed it online. Like I feel like you've got a lot of people obviously know you for your skits, your comedies. I just want to do a little backstory of like how you got into it. It was during COVID era, what made you? Were you ever wanting to be a comedian or social media? I think for you or had it all star?
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Speaker 3: So look, I'll be honest, like I definitely didn't plan to like be a content creating that sense. Like I think with that that COVID lockdown time, I you know, the times where you couldn't leave the house and had like the curfews and stuff like that. So I just tried to feel in the time with what I had.
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Speaker 4: So yeah, I couldn't leave the house.
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Speaker 3: I mean I didn't leave the house to go for like a run, like early in the morning or something. But after that, I'm like, what am I gonna do in this house? I'm home all the time. I can't work, I can't do nothing or anything. So I just started making these videos just for fun. I wasn't thinking that it's gonna blow up or anything. I usually just send it to my friends in a group chat.
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Speaker 2: So you used to make funny videos and say it to your friends.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, like in this group chat, like there was like a group of us that was just sending this dumb shit. Yeah, and then I was just posting because I'm like, you know, it's COVID, no one's inside. Like I think social media is like the only way we could really interact with other people in that sense if you think about it. And then things blow up very quickly, and like I didn't know how to manage at the time. So I'm like, oh, okay, like a lot of people are watching.
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Speaker 1: But did you feel did it ever feel like confronting or was it always just like this is like it's cool, Like I like that people are.
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Speaker 2: Like engaging, you know how.
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Speaker 1: Sometimes people have like that social anxiety from posting Yeah.
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Speaker 3: For some reason, I didn't have it then because I was just like, you know what, I'm just saying, whatever, if I find it funny, I find it funny, and that's good enough for me. So at first I was confronting in a sense where like, Okay, I guess people are really like engaging with this stuff, because like I said, I never was. I wasn't like, oh I want to wake up be a content creator, Noah.
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Speaker 2: I kind of just just just fell into it.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, I kind of fell into it.
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Speaker 1: So yeah, and you were doing basketball before that, right, Yeah, So I was mostly doing basketball.
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Speaker 3: So I played for a club a place in Penrith, and then my last few years basketball I played in like that shy area like place called Sutherling, the team Suddling Sharks. That was mainly where like I I'll go playing basketball and basketball all my life, so I think that's where my passion was. I was still there, but like not as much playing So yeah, so playing basketball and the content stuff was a weird mix of things because like, now I'm finding something different that I enjoyed as much as I do basketball.
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Speaker 1: And for you, but basketball was actually like you were trying to go pro, right, or you were like going in that direction.
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Speaker 3: Honestly, I mean I think everyone that plays at a certain level, yeah for sure, But for me personally, like there was a certain point. I think any player that's played and hasn't like taken those next steps, you get to the point in like, oh there's levels to the stuff. Maybe that's age, there's levels to it.
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Speaker 2: Maybe that ain't for me really what what was that?
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Speaker 1: Like?
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Speaker 2: Why did you think that.
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Speaker 3: There was some players I had played against that doing well in the NBA now And I was like, first obviously verst before they went I'm like, okay, this is levels to this stuff. So or even just traveling over says to play basketball too for a bit, so you.
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Speaker 2: Can kind of see like the people that are like really in it.
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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, So as much as I still love basal love that, like, I think everyone gets a point where they's just like, okay, this is you know, let me leave this.
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Speaker 2: To the people that are really really well.
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Speaker 1: So now what's crazy is you're actually doing like you're hosting now for n B for the MBL, which is kind of like both your passions mixed in one.
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Speaker 4: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: See, that's the that's the weird thing, Like I'm doing veered off a bit from playing basketball and doing social media and stuff, but I'm still around basketball, So I think it's the best of both worlds.
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Speaker 2: Where do you like with content now?
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Speaker 1: Because it's like you've grown it to such a big point and I think a lot of people it's so crazy because it's like we were I was having conversation with my friend about this the other day, like there are certain things that you can do on social media, and it's like it kind of not that it caps, but it gets to a point of like what's next, you know what I mean? And I think a lot of creatives like try to figure out, like are you going to start a brand? Are you going to go into like you're doing hosting now from like creating content, or like what's another skill that you're going to And I feel like sometimes creators, like all of us, feel a little bit like don't know what the next step is?
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Speaker 2: Like did you ever feel.
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Speaker 3: That, Yeah, one hundred percent, I honestly feel the way from I think I felt away from the start, like it's always just a trial and everything. I would ask you the same thing, like we feel the same, like you know, after you've done it, for a while, you kin't think, Okay, what I want what do I want to do next? Like you're just saying that it's very hard to like know what the next step is all the time. But I feel like when you do know, they're like, oh, okay, this is it. I'm going to say what this is about?
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: And it's also really like I guess, rewarding, like when you're stepping into something a little different, Yeah, and it's going well, even if it doesn't go well, like it's our catch you try it. Yeah. Yeah.
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Speaker 1: And it's also like it's I don't know, it's so exciting when there's something that you can see that's right there that you can try, you know what I mean. Like when you're just trying to figure it out, you're just like in this space of like what, so is that what hosting is like for you now?
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Speaker 3: Yeah? Absolutely, like there's some Yeah, for sure, it's I'm still getting used to it. It's still taking a bit of time because I can't say I'm the most extroverted person all the time. So in terms of like being around on social media, like I guess, helping host events or just being around that scene, i'd have to what's the word. I feel like I have to kind of switch it on and off when I'm working or when i'm doing something. So so yeah, I don't know. I think I think it's a learning curve, but I'm enjoying it. I'm joining the processing away.
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Speaker 1: So okay, I love that for you. Is there anything else you're like trying to step into?
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Speaker 3: Yeah, we're talking before. Honestly, I want to see what the filmmaking is about, too, whether it's like being in producing and directing or whatever it is. Like, I want to learn and do as much.
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Speaker 2: As I can with it, like actual films, documentaries.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, film documentary shows, whatever it is you.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, watch this face.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I.
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Speaker 1: Wanted to talk about so I don't know if you've seen I wanted to talk about running a strict program. Okay, I don't know if you've heard about this theater or whatever, but the girlies have been talking, and I fully the current dating climate that we're in right now. Your dating economy is really like in hell, you know, Okay, it's in hell, and it's scary. It's really like everybody is on game, everybody's on strategy, this, this, that, and I feel like the girls need to start being really strict, Okay, because it's and when I say strict, I mean like I'm talking just like not giving as much access. Need to be more strict with your boundaries a lot of things. The reason I want to talk about this topic is because there was a recent like not documentary but like series called Blue Therapy on Netflix that came out.
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Speaker 2: Have you seen it.
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Speaker 3: I've seen a bit of it. I know what he's talking about, but like, I haven't seen too much of it.
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Speaker 2: I'm so scared, Kevin. I'm so scared of what women are going through in this life.
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Speaker 3: You'd be hearing some stuff online and you just think, oh, like people actually do this. People?
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Speaker 2: Actually you know who?
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Speaker 3: Who? Do you know? Who?
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Speaker 2: SCHERA seven is the Sprinkle Sprinkle Lady?
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Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, okay, so obviously like her when you take away all her like because sometimes people will listen to her and be like, oh, she's like too much, she's just too much.
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Speaker 2: She's teaching girls how to be gold diggers, d da da. When you take.
00:21:41
Speaker 1: Away the gold digger element and really listen to what she's saying, she actually has some really valid points about like just value yourself more like if you have a certain standard.
00:21:50
Speaker 2: Don't go below that.
00:21:51
Speaker 1: Because people would just kind of like people will tolerate, we will give you what you tolerate, basically, right, She's basically asking girls, what do you needed?
00:22:00
Speaker 2: So on, let me know in the comments so I can make videos on it.
00:22:02
Speaker 1: I was reading the comments in that video that she made, like the bar is actually in hell. Like women are saying things like he stole my car, Like.
00:22:12
Speaker 2: Do you know what I mean?
00:22:13
Speaker 1: We're talking about small small He hasn't paid the bill. No, people, it's so bad. He's got a credit card under this my name. It's so bad. So let me tell you Blue Therapy. Okay, I had to. I had to write a little bit of it. I had to give you a summary of some of the things I've seen. I haven't watched the whole series, but one of them was like.
00:22:31
Speaker 2: This lady had a baby.
00:22:33
Speaker 1: She just had a baby, and her man had a tattoo appointment that he scheduled prior to her having the baby.
00:22:39
Speaker 2: Right, So the next day he.
00:22:41
Speaker 1: Decides to go to his appointment to get his tattoo while his wife is at home by herself with the baby. She just had the baby the day before. She's just come home from the hospital. What's going on? Another couple?
00:22:52
Speaker 3: Ok, oh my god.
00:22:54
Speaker 2: Another couple.
00:22:54
Speaker 1: This one was the scariest one actually. So the guy's in debt, right, he does. She doesn't know he's in debt. He just knows that she's a teacher. He's like some banking banker or something. He talks about how he's not happy that she earns a lot more than him, and he's really like, as a man, He's like, as a man, it doesn't feel good.
00:23:16
Speaker 2: I think he's Nigerian. I'm not sure. I think he's Nigerian. So he's like, you know, she's already making a lot more than me, Like I don't. I don't feel good. I feel emasculated.
00:23:28
Speaker 1: Basically, he talks about how like she yeah, so she's earned, she earns twice as much.
00:23:36
Speaker 2: She pays seventy percent.
00:23:37
Speaker 1: Of all the things in the house, like the rent, and then this guy on top of her paying more. This guy goes and every time she buys groceries, he goes and he wants to buy organic groceries. So with the money that she's he has money to go and buy organic groceries. Right, but she's paying seventy percent of the mortgage plus the groceries. But he's decided, I want to be healthy, so instead of eating your groceries, I'm going to go buy my own expensive groceries.
00:24:02
Speaker 3: Okay.
00:24:02
Speaker 2: On top of that, he lost his job. Okay, but he didn't tell her.
00:24:06
Speaker 1: He also didn't tell her that he was in debt, so a lot of his money that he's earning goes straight towards paying off his debt. Ok So every time she goes to work. He goes to work in the morning too. He'll just drive around the corner.
00:24:25
Speaker 2: He will wait five minutes. I swear, I have to kill somebody at that point. Somebody has to die at that point.
00:24:35
Speaker 1: Yeah, because what do you mean you're driving around the corner. He'll wait five minutes and he'll come back home, play PlayStation all day, chill in the house.
00:24:43
Speaker 3: It's not that hard to find a job, to be honest. I mean, I guess I'm thinking a sense of living here in Australia. But let's I don't know where house. Jobs are so easy to get in my mind, So if you lose, you know, is what it is your job? Things happen, it's life, life gets away. Whatever. But to just drive around the block and come in and play place. I think that's disrespectful.
00:25:01
Speaker 1: I think that's so you're actually playing in my face. Now, yeah, you while I'm running around working all day, all night, whatever, I come home, I'm paying seventy percent of what is going on in this household, and you're playing PlayStation and paying off your debt.
00:25:15
Speaker 2: With the money, and then you want to eat organic food.
00:25:22
Speaker 3: I think over the years, but like I feel like at that point, it's just not serious. That's just not serious at all.
00:25:29
Speaker 2: Thank you.
00:25:30
Speaker 1: And this is what I mean by like women need to start running a strict program. It's not like, oh he didn't do that early enough, like that, oh no, he didn't, like, you know, open my door for me.
00:25:40
Speaker 2: Like I'm not going to be with the man that doesn't open your door for me. I don't take a man.
00:25:44
Speaker 1: To But I feel like there are things that you can do that set the tone, you know what I mean. It's like I feel like the moment maybe as well, like women and men think so differently. Like I think that if you have certain boundaries, like even when it comes to like paying in the household, like you need to let the man know what it is and I feel like the minute they start bending and doing this and doing that.
00:26:08
Speaker 3: I don't know.
00:26:09
Speaker 2: I do think that men take advantage of that, like they kind of.
00:26:11
Speaker 1: See it as like, oh, she's flexible, so if I push a little bit more, then it's fine, you know, or just like even there's sometimes there's this access for women. I feel like when we have that you can sit down with a man and talk to him and this, and that there's like that emotional access that you give him.
00:26:29
Speaker 2: For us, it's like we're getting closer.
00:26:30
Speaker 1: I don't think that they see it the same way. And then I feel like women tend to like, I don't know, it's like when you give someone too much access. In my opinion, it kind of becomes like this, like you feel like you're closer to them, you feel like you've opened up to them all these things. But I don't know if they necessarily and this can be like applied with anyone really, like they don't necessarily deserve that. Investing your time into someone, it's still investing into them. It might not be financially or like your body in any way, but it's still an investment. And I just feel like even that in itself to me, you can't just give that to somebody.
00:27:06
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, absolutely, Yeah, like I think I would say, I mean, you can ply to anyone, but like I do think how I think about things now, you're definitely going to be really selective about who you give that sort of.
00:27:19
Speaker 4: Energy to, even I know, like quality.
00:27:24
Speaker 3: Time and like finance, all that stuff is investment as well. Sure, but I think that emotional side of things, it's people don't view it as a big thing, and like I most peoplen't view as a big thing. But it takes a lot for someone to, like, I guess, open up in that sense. So when people take advantage of it or when like when people.
00:27:49
Speaker 2: Don't even appreciate it, Yeah, I.
00:27:51
Speaker 3: Think that's where issue comes in for sure, because like you're showing a part of yourself to someone, and if they're taking it for a joke because something like that, I'm not taking you seriously, And that's it's pretty messed up.
00:28:03
Speaker 1: When I'm giving full access to someone and they're not really like giving me enough to give it to them, or like not on the same level as me, I just feel like that's to waste my energy.
00:28:15
Speaker 3: Yeah, well, at least you can think about it a sense where it's like, yeah, it's definitely like I guess you feel like it's a waste of time to give to that person. But I guess would you think it doesn't really say so much about oh I should have done that. It's more so like I am who I am, I love for I am, and that's not all you're about. That's cool and you move on.
00:28:34
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, But then I feel like that's when you start.
00:28:36
Speaker 1: That's when you like you can be your full authentic self right you step into the room. But I think it's important to like realize when people are not on the same level as you, and that just could be like maturity or like in terms of just reciprocating appreciation, you know what I mean, like even respecting you.
00:28:54
Speaker 2: Then you can be like, all right, cool.
00:28:56
Speaker 1: This is where I cut it off because I feel like there's you should be able to walk in and be cool with everybody. But then when you kind of can clock that someone is not on that same vibe, I'm not going to continue to be like that person because then I feel like, yeah, you're going to be taking for a ride. Yeah, And I'm not like I just I don't know, I just think, yeah, that's how I see. I just feel like a lot of times, I don't know. I think a lot of times back to this, even this conversation, I feel like women can sometimes see the potential in someone and be like, oh, but he's great, like this, he's got all these qualities, and he's like, you know, like he's just yeah, like he's the type of man that I could see myself being with. Once he gets to the point where he's making this march, or when he's consistent, or when he's just like with me, then I'm like cool.
00:29:45
Speaker 2: But men don't do that. I feel like men will see the version.
00:29:50
Speaker 1: That they like, which it should be in, that it should be that way, and then they'll invest into that.
00:29:56
Speaker 3: Yeah, for sure, I think yeah with men, like I could say the version they're like, sure, but I think.
00:30:02
Speaker 4: This is each of their own. There's not every guy out there.
00:30:04
Speaker 3: But I think I like to think we do see potential in people too, do you think not as much as what women would, that's for sure, but a little bit for sure at least like in a sense for like, oh, you know, like she's cool, she's and like I can see she's really talented at what she's doing and I know she's going to go far, you know, like I want to try to help this person. I can like this seems like a good vibe of good people.
00:30:27
Speaker 1: Do you think that men behave differently when women set their boundaries?
00:30:32
Speaker 4: I'm doing for sure.
00:30:33
Speaker 3: Yeah, some I want based on stories like girls, friends that I have told me. Yeah, Like though obviously with women it's good to like set your boundaries and stuff naturally and like say some things, but some guys would alter their personality a little bit to like get a bit closer and then switch on a bit after. I'm just saying a sense for like I've heard women say, oh, he was so great to be made on mini blah, and now they show all this stuff. So I do think men, some men can behave differently. No, I know that's for sure. No, I know that, but some do some do. Yeah, we're just a bittersweet thing.
00:31:10
Speaker 2: No, this was just me asking you questions. No, I get what you're saying. I do feel like yeah, but I also feel like men. I feel like men will.
00:31:18
Speaker 1: Always try to test it from what I've seen and what I've experienced from the people around me, like they'll test the grounds a little bit and see what they can get away with, and then if they can see okay, she's really like serious, then they'll I feel like, then they'll I don't know, I feel like most of the times they kind of see it as a game.
00:31:38
Speaker 2: And as much as they.
00:31:41
Speaker 1: I feel like men like a little bit of a chase, they like to see, okay, cool, if she has she has her boundary set whatever they tend to, which is annoying, like they'll tend to take her more seriously.
00:31:52
Speaker 3: Yeah, like, oh no, they know what they're trying to do. They know what they're trying to get out for sure.
00:31:57
Speaker 2: Yeah, but.
00:32:00
Speaker 3: Yeah, at some point the mustle of slips a little bit, you know.
00:32:03
Speaker 1: So yeah, so with this show, be honest, why do you think that they Why do you think they get away with doing the bare minimum?
00:32:13
Speaker 2: When you hear these stories of like seven years.
00:32:15
Speaker 1: Or like you're you're going around the corner, you know what I mean, You're going around the corner to just what, like, why do you think that they.
00:32:26
Speaker 2: Why do you think they do that?
00:32:27
Speaker 4: I think it's like you said before, with.
00:32:31
Speaker 3: The dating pool being in hell already, so it's like if I just if you do the bare minimum, a little bit. Even though it's not like a crazy thing, someone doing a bare minimum, it's still gonna seem better than the ones that are doing the most. Why.
00:32:51
Speaker 4: I don't know why it's like that?
00:32:52
Speaker 3: What do you mean like I look thinking about like this, like like you just said, some guy driving around like you're pretending to go to work, driving around whatever, and then a guy doing a bare minimum. I don't know what that'd be like being a respectful person, the partner a con person. It sounds crazy to say, because that's just the bare Minium's how it should be anyway. But there are people doing wild, wild, wild stuff. So I like to think subconsciously men and women would think, oh, you know, like even though this is them, I think it's them doing a lot. Yeah, but some women would think, oh, it could be worse, like someone could be doing this, they could be doing that. I think they's not making excuses for you.
00:33:33
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, but why do you think the guys know I'm saying, why do you think the guys end up doing like what that guy's doing the whole driving around the corner and doing this and doing it, or like you know, going to get a tattoo on you like, how do we get here?
00:33:50
Speaker 2: Is what I'm trying to say.
00:33:52
Speaker 3: I think that's subject to the person, because some things you're even telling me, like I don't understand it, Like driving around the block, I don't the people around me, they're not doing that much.
00:34:03
Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. I feel like I've heard stories. I definitely have heard stories.
00:34:08
Speaker 1: From people around me, and it's just like they'll they'll be with a great person and then.
00:34:13
Speaker 2: Out of nowhere, like I've got I had one girl.
00:34:15
Speaker 1: Because usually it's like we always come back to you know what, like there was a sign or you know, there was something that you're like, you weren't really one hundred percent. And then there was one story where I can't even say it fully here, I'm not gonna say it, but I was just like.
00:34:29
Speaker 2: I couldn't even give her advice. I couldn't give her advice because she was.
00:34:32
Speaker 1: Blindsided, you know, And I was just like, at some point, you actually just have to choose. You have to really just bring me back, be strict with your program, because at the end of the day, if everything just goes to shit, at least you, I don't know, at least you had your boundaries and at least you didn't give up too much, and I feel like I kind of do. I'm I'm very much a lover girl. Okay, I don't want to preach just get the bag, get the bag at the back. I don't want to preach that because at the end of the day, I still believe women should have their own money as well, like always, because you don't ever want to be relying on a man at all or anyone if that.
00:35:11
Speaker 2: But I just I just feel like there has to be.
00:35:14
Speaker 1: More to what you get out of this relationship than purely just love.
00:35:19
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, that's true. I'm sorry.
00:35:21
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just feel like, obviously there's respect, there's a good time, there's love, but there's like longevity, it's not just love.
00:35:26
Speaker 2: It just won't be.
00:35:27
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I really agree. Yeah, I mean I having love in a lationship is great, but yeah, it's not. Unfortunately, it's not the end of bai or There's got to be more things that come into it.
00:35:38
Speaker 2: Because when he's running away getting a tattoo and you just get.
00:35:42
Speaker 3: Birth love, Yeah, like you can book a tattoo another time, it's always going to be there.
00:35:49
Speaker 2: You can rebook your appointment.
00:35:50
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's not that it's one phone called hey look I just had a kid. Oh no, this has come for me, Like I at least me and my friends were I don't see them. I don't see them doing any of that stuff, which is yeah.
00:36:06
Speaker 2: It's pure stupidity.
00:36:07
Speaker 1: It's like, actually, like this is the type of ship that would make me crash out, you know, And I feel like I'm trying not to be a crash out these days, but I do feel like I am one.
00:36:16
Speaker 4: So yeah, you have an issue of being like, no, not a.
00:36:18
Speaker 1: Crash I'm the type of person that lets I kind of let it like it's brewing, you know what I mean, Like it's just when but I just I hate stupid stuff, Like I hate when people do stupid things and then when you're just acting like yeah, I don't feel like I have patience.
00:36:33
Speaker 2: For it, so I do crash out.
00:36:34
Speaker 3: Yeah a little bit.
00:36:37
Speaker 4: I respect that, I think a little bit.
00:36:39
Speaker 3: Yeah.
00:36:40
Speaker 4: I think I think it's healthy in a sense.
00:36:41
Speaker 2: If you need you need you need to really, where's it going to go? Yeah, it's going to stay inside me and then.
00:36:46
Speaker 3: See that's a bad thing keeping it in like that a little bit. Nah, I mean I'm a I don't really be yelling.
00:36:51
Speaker 4: And stuff, but.
00:36:55
Speaker 3: Nah, like I don't like nah you know, I mean like, yeah, obviously I've raised my voice like in certain situations for sure, but like I don't. If I could go to the rest of my life without doing, that'd be great. I'm fine with them, yeah, but I will still say what I just say in like a fairly stern way. But I think it'll be more and it comes to like, hey, look like I don't I don't like this, I don't like that, or I don't know.
00:37:23
Speaker 4: Let's say like I let's say I went, Let's.
00:37:26
Speaker 3: Say I found out somebody didn't like I. I'll be mad like with in my own space, like I'll crash out then, but like when I have the conversation, I'll become Look, this is what.
00:37:42
Speaker 2: I love that, and I wish I could. I'm trying to be more.
00:37:46
Speaker 1: Like that because what I've clocked is when you're someone that I grew up with, I'm with four girls in my house like sisters, so it's like who can go like the loudest you know what I mean, Like you want to go, let's keep going.
00:37:58
Speaker 2: But I realized that when.
00:38:00
Speaker 1: You're calm it really, Like one of my sisters is the most calm one, right, so yeah, she's just really And the thing is she could be wrong, dead wrong in the conversation, but because of the way she speaks, people be like, oh yeah, like obviously, like she's you're crazy, You're the crazy one. And then that makes me even more like get you know, but she's just there, like I don't.
00:38:23
Speaker 2: Know why you're yelling right now.
00:38:27
Speaker 1: She radeads you and you're just like so I really I feel like when you're calm and you can get your point across, like you get I mean, you you can get your point across more, people receive it more when you can say it in a calm way. If you're screaming and doing the most, no one's listening to you.
00:38:44
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, look, don't get me wrong, Like I can't say I'm the most calm all the time.
00:38:49
Speaker 1: You like to contain your emotions or like at least control yourself.
00:38:53
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, look the early years, some people have tried me for sure, but like, yeah, I try to just say things is in a calm way because like I like to think, yeah, you can crash out and stuff like that, and the point is going to get across, for sure, But I don't know something about saying in a calm way. It's like, oh, is this personal upset. It's a personal I'm not like it's a tactic or anything like that. But I've had my crash out by myself.
00:39:16
Speaker 4: I don't want to you don't want to do it.
00:39:17
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm a very expressive person. Yeah, an emotional person. I feel like I have to, but I want to be like, no, it's good. But then also it's like good to be someone that purely to get my point across. Like I don't like walking away from a situation and looking crazy or looking like when you're screaming, you can't even get your point across because you're like you're.
00:39:37
Speaker 2: Not even saying the right words. Yeah, you know what I mean, you're just going crazy.
00:39:41
Speaker 4: Have you ever like it's unrelatable?
00:39:43
Speaker 3: Have you ever been so mad and like you started while you're going off or something?
00:39:46
Speaker 2: Oh, forget it, I would be so yeah, I've done that.
00:39:48
Speaker 4: I'm just imagine like, let's say you're going off for your sister or something.
00:39:51
Speaker 1: You start it right, Yeah, Oh should drag dirroast you for that.
00:39:55
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I'm assumed, I'll make it even more angry that she's like smirking now that.
00:39:59
Speaker 1: You just she was, oh, and then I'm just like, are you to Then it'll be like are you dumb?
00:40:06
Speaker 2: Are you really that?
00:40:07
Speaker 3: Like?
00:40:07
Speaker 1: Then we'll just go again. One of my sisters is really scary. She's she's so scary. She's the youngest, and her tactic is like she when she gets mad, Like usually when we get angry at each other, it's like we forget about it within like the hour.
00:40:24
Speaker 2: Two hours, like you know, we move on with sisters.
00:40:27
Speaker 1: But that one, like she she she really wants to take it there she can, and she'll be like and you will never speak to me again until you apologize. And I'm thinking shut up, you know, but that she will need an apology. I don't care if three days goes by, wee goes but she wants her apology. Otherwise you could try and make a joke walk into her room, because you'll do some dumb shit as siblings.
00:40:45
Speaker 2: Yeah, and she'll just stare you down on some like what do you want?
00:40:49
Speaker 1: But one day we were together, we're catching a fly, and she was telling me about she was annoyed at a friend and then I was like, oh, how are you feeling about it? Like I'll really because for me, it's like I sometimes talk to people based on like I guess like how I would process the situation. So I'm like, are you upset? Like is everything okay? What are you gonna do about it? And she's like, oh, nothing, And then she looks at me. She's like she had something that really scared me. It's like this person doesn't realize I'm the worst person to do this too.
00:41:21
Speaker 2: I am the she's looking at me deadn'ties.
00:41:24
Speaker 1: And it's say, the threat to that person because I am the worst, the worst person to do this too, and they don't know that. And she's like smirking, but you can tell she's like feel full of rage, but she's not showing it.
00:41:38
Speaker 3: She just can't care. I don't care.
00:41:41
Speaker 2: I'm the worst person to do this too. I'm just like, actually, really scary.
00:41:47
Speaker 3: You like that as well? Like I'm like mostly like, well, I've obviously brothers and stuff and sisters. Yeah, the youngest one, Yeah, most people, most of us don't really want.
00:41:58
Speaker 2: To try, and yeah, you don't try the youngest one.
00:42:00
Speaker 3: Because she's mad. Sometimes, like I can'd of stay clear, she's mad about something, I'm gonna lie yeah yeah, Like I might not say too much until she's more chill and then behave So.
00:42:11
Speaker 2: Hey, how are you you good? Sometimes I just test in the morning, like what the vibe is?
00:42:15
Speaker 1: I want to finish this episode off with one of your famous segments that you'd like to do.
00:42:19
Speaker 2: Do you know what I'm talking about?
00:42:22
Speaker 3: Uh? Not exactly?
00:42:24
Speaker 2: Okay, it's your TikTok.
00:42:25
Speaker 1: It's one of your TikTok series that I personally am obsessed with.
00:42:29
Speaker 4: But it's all.
00:42:32
Speaker 2: So guys.
00:42:32
Speaker 1: If you don't know about Ken's content, he has like a whole like what do you call it on TikTok?
00:42:37
Speaker 2: An album?
00:42:38
Speaker 3: Like I think they call like a playlist or something.
00:42:41
Speaker 1: That's the one of all the IX. And I die because every single time. First of all, I'm like, I don't even know how this guy comes up with all these IX, but they're so funny.
00:42:53
Speaker 3: I appreciate. Yeah, no, Like, I I think just having like women as friends over the years. And I read the comments sections a lot too, so that's why I hear some wild things like and the first video I made was an actual real life situation happened to one of my friends.
00:43:10
Speaker 2: So I was like, what was the first one you made?
00:43:13
Speaker 3: I think it was. She was telling me like, oh, I can't. I'll give the backstory out. It'll happen. So we had a conversation or we used to go to university again and stuff, and I was like, oh, hey, how's that guy saying haw's been going as you're doing good. She's like, nah, I don't think I can see him. And I'm like why, and she said that she saw his ass cracked, like when he got a car. That's right, you know what I mean. And then she told me, oh, yeah, like I got the ig from them. I didn't know what an ick was. Yeah, time somewhere you got what like you're I would you said, y'all got sick? Like, oh yeah, obviously, like that's a weird thing to look at. She's like, no, no, I've got the ick ick. So then she kind of explained to me what it was. And then I'm like, maybe like a year or two down the line, like when I made that video, I was like, I remember she told me about it. I emulate like what that would feel like and look like. And I guess that people responded to a well, women were like, oh yeah, like that's actually how it is. It's exactly what happens, Like, okay, dope, it's so funny.
00:44:12
Speaker 1: It's what you know what, Like its are so funny to me because obviously during that time, like a bunch of people were having like X and they were just saying the funniest ship like he walked past an automatic door and it didn't open for him, which like or like he's calling the waitress and she doesn't respond to him. You know, yeah, you just see him, oh excuse me, trying to get the attention that just never came.
00:44:34
Speaker 2: And the thing is they're so petty, but I fully get it.
00:44:38
Speaker 3: Yeah, some things like that one was I think one was telling me like a pulling a push door or something along those lines. Yeah. Yeah, it's like it's a genuine mistake or whatever. But like I guess, I guess it only happens with women where they kind of iffy about the.
00:44:57
Speaker 1: Person, but you're just kind of like, I don't mind if I Yeah, I I feel like ed a guy that has a guy that you're into can kind of do no wrong.
00:45:03
Speaker 2: What are some of your eggs?
00:45:05
Speaker 3: Yeah, I've always felt this way, but This is very specific though, Like I've come across some women where who are very obsessed with, like I guess, celebrities lifestyle, and not in essense of like oh like this person did this, YadA YadA, YadA. But I kind of just come across people that just talk about, oh, I know this person, I know that person, and that's all they really talk about, just knowing people knowing, Like I guess, I don't know. There was this one girl that kept talking about how much she hangs out with Tiger or something. I'm like, that's cool. I don't really care, but that's that's cool. But I've noticed i'd say that's something that's one of mine, because I feel like I've heard that a couple of times. But when I just keep hearing it, then I'm like.
00:46:00
Speaker 1: It's so it's like you think that that gives you I hate because men do that too, and men do it, and it's like that doesn't make you Drake though, like you know Drake's DJ. You know, just that type of thing is so it's like a it's such an eg. It's such an egg because it's like I feel like they do it to kind of flaunt their status. But you're not the person that has the status. You're affiliated with someone that knows that person.
00:46:27
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know what I mean, Yeah for sure, And like, yes, I'll probably say that or how do I put this, I'd probably say women that are quite rude to hospitality workers or like waitresses or whatever the case they be. Yeah, Like, I don't know. I've come across some people that are like they were seeing like na, she's talking to them, but they're really nasty to some people. And I'm just like, I don't know, I like being around people that respect for you. If you're let's say we're out on a day or whatever it is, right and you know the woman she's being really rude and nasty to like watching something, It's gonna look bad on me. They're gonna think I'm either I'm like that or I condarn that stuff or whatever. It is. So like those situations like years years years years ago, whereas in that I guess that predicament. But I kept looking at watress.
00:47:30
Speaker 2: I'm like, sorry, how was she?
00:47:33
Speaker 3: Like?
00:47:33
Speaker 2: What was rute?
00:47:34
Speaker 3: She did this? Excuse me?
00:47:42
Speaker 4: I was just just I.
00:47:44
Speaker 3: Stopped chewing Australia. Yeah yeah, yeah, like I literally stoped chewing and I was just like, and she's saying, like, you know, like let's say they get the order on whatever. What right, It's like, oh, hi, sorry, I asked for salad inesteat of chips.
00:48:04
Speaker 4: I don't know, could I that's cool?
00:48:05
Speaker 3: Whatever? He excuse me, I didn't ask for this. Play then that's a play. And I'm like she would have to play here, yeah, excuse me, I didn't ask this. I was like, I'm looking at the way she's looking at and she was she seemed like a nice person, but like she actually seemed like she was just used to that kind of bs. Anyway. She's like, oh, okay, look, I'm really sorry, picks up the plate to like that.
00:48:37
Speaker 2: But I don't know just what did you say.
00:48:42
Speaker 3: I was spaces for a little bit, but in my mind, like I kept calm, I had a conversation. But in my mind, I'm like, this person never see me again? Yeah?
00:48:52
Speaker 4: This is yeah, this person, this person I see.
00:48:54
Speaker 3: Me again for sure. Yeah. So I think things like that, like I'm very like that's something if I happens once.
00:49:00
Speaker 2: I'm like, yeah, that's crazy.
00:49:04
Speaker 3: Yeah, I've got a few others. Two.
00:49:06
Speaker 4: I think those two.
00:49:07
Speaker 3: Are like the main series can I hear more? Yeah, of course I remember that that same thing where it was like kill all men sing, Wait you.
00:49:22
Speaker 4: Didn't see it on social media?
00:49:23
Speaker 2: Kill all men?
00:49:24
Speaker 4: Yeah, they were having this whole anyway.
00:49:26
Speaker 3: Like I know, women have that sense where it's like, oh like men, this men now, and the stories I've heard fair enough, but when it gets to an extreme.
00:49:37
Speaker 2: Where like you just hate men.
00:49:40
Speaker 3: It's not just hating men, but like it's something like even deeper than that, where they're just disrespectful off rip, like if you just don't like me, it's cool whatever, but they're just stray, disrespectful for no reason, for no reason.
00:50:00
Speaker 1: Yeah, I get that where it's just like when you were just hating on someone.
00:50:03
Speaker 3: Yeah that I don't like that either, you know, Like, but that's why I say it's very specific in a sense for like it's not women like oh I just can't stand man, no, no, my vibe.
00:50:15
Speaker 4: Yeah, I just come across people like that.
00:50:17
Speaker 2: I hear it. I hear that one.
00:50:18
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean just in general, it's kind of like you don't want to be around someone that like hates on you or hates you, doesn't like you, or like doesn't like Yeah, it's just like not a nice energy to be around.
00:50:30
Speaker 3: Yeah, because like I wouldt to be friends with guys that say they hate women all the time, you know, so I guess the other way around. Yeah, if I kept hearing stuff okay, why are we talking?
00:50:40
Speaker 2: Then yeah.
00:50:40
Speaker 1: It's honestly, it's like when I hear so I've heard men talk, and I've heard them say things like like the minute a guy says that, I'm just like because why okay, I was sitting with someone and then they were like, oh, yeah, you know, because there are like.
00:50:56
Speaker 2: Stupid bitches mm hmm.
00:50:59
Speaker 1: Mediately to me, that is a red flag because you saying that is weird to me, Like why do you feel comfortable to randomly like.
00:51:09
Speaker 2: Address women like that.
00:51:11
Speaker 1: I think it's weird, like unless you had not even unless like for a man to say it just sounds way too aggressive for a man to say about a generalization about women. Oh yeah, you go, yeah, you know, because there are some stupid bitches out there.
00:51:22
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, what's going on.
00:51:25
Speaker 2: Here, sir? Like you need to chill with all that language.
00:51:27
Speaker 1: I think that's the biggest turn off for me when a guy says that it's just weird.
00:51:32
Speaker 3: I think that anyone that speaks like that and like really really feels that way, like it.
00:51:36
Speaker 2: Tells it shows me how you view women. I'm not gonna lie.
00:51:39
Speaker 3: Yeah for sure. Yeah.
00:51:41
Speaker 1: Other eggs for me that I had, like long nails, dirty nails, long or dirty nails like a man, your nails should be cut cut completely short.
00:51:48
Speaker 2: Actually, I don't want to see the nets coming out. I feel like it's scary.
00:51:52
Speaker 1: Loud guys, loud guys, center of attention. The guy that's talking too much.
00:51:57
Speaker 2: I don't like.
00:51:58
Speaker 3: It, like just yelling for like people like.
00:52:02
Speaker 2: You could be out of function. He's just loud. He's loud for no reason. He wants to be everybody look at me, everybody I'm in.
00:52:10
Speaker 3: There's some people that call the mind. When you said, I'm just like, yeah, I don't know. I don't want to names of him right now, but like I'm just thinking about him.
00:52:17
Speaker 4: I'm like, you are always always.
00:52:19
Speaker 3: You don't know him, I think, So, I don't know.
00:52:24
Speaker 2: I'll beef it up.
00:52:27
Speaker 3: Okay, here's Ganya as well. So like he's the one I went to Gune with. Actually, that brother is so loud.
00:52:33
Speaker 2: I can't stand a loud guy.
00:52:35
Speaker 1: I cannot stand a man, that's just allowed, because what are we going to do now?
00:52:38
Speaker 3: Yeah, I love him, I love him over sure.
00:52:40
Speaker 2: But I can cut that out, don't worry.
00:52:42
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you can. You can never lose him because you always hear him. Yeah, that's loud. Guys.
00:52:49
Speaker 1: I want you there as a friend. I like to be there with you. I like to have a Kiki laugh. I think we can have a good time together by man.
00:52:57
Speaker 2: Sorry, yeah, sorry. My man needs to be quiet. He needs to be in the background, he needs to just be like he's you know what I mean.
00:53:03
Speaker 1: It's like you you know he's there because you feel his presence.
00:53:07
Speaker 2: You don't hear him.
00:53:09
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah. Is there some particular people that come to mind when I think of that, you don't have the names of it, like like loud people in that sense.
00:53:17
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I've seen guys that are just loud, like like not any that we might not like saying mutuals. But it's like, yeah, guys that are just you could tell they want to be the center of attention.
00:53:29
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, you know what I mean.
00:53:31
Speaker 1: And to me, that is just like I can't I can't do that. But the list of the list is funny. The list of eggs.
00:53:36
Speaker 2: I could really go on and on about it, but I'm just gonna keep it there.
00:53:39
Speaker 3: You can tell me you do I have one more? Yeah, tell me. I might make a video about it. I don't know, I might.
00:53:46
Speaker 1: You might make a video about it. You should make a video trying to think about. What's another ick that I have? Like an unreasonable ick?
00:53:52
Speaker 3: Oh?
00:53:53
Speaker 1: This one, this one, this one, it's not just an ick. It literally fills me with rage.
00:53:57
Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, what is it?
00:54:00
Speaker 2: Oh my god? You should make a video about this one. When a man asks you, have you eaten yet?
00:54:04
Speaker 4: So what's that about?
00:54:05
Speaker 3: Exactly?
00:54:06
Speaker 2: Let me also like.
00:54:07
Speaker 1: Give context a man that doesn't really a man that just you just just started talking or whatever. I feel like, first of all, the fact that it's happened multiple times with different people already shows you.
00:54:17
Speaker 2: I feel like this is this tactic.
00:54:19
Speaker 1: Okay, it gives off I care about you because I think that's how they're thinking.
00:54:25
Speaker 2: Oh, just randomly, randomly, okay, randomly, just.
00:54:29
Speaker 4: Like I was thinking in a sense of like IV and let's go get some date.
00:54:32
Speaker 1: No, okay, just chatting or like have you eaten today? By the way, don't because if I tell you no, what are you sending me money to eat?
00:54:43
Speaker 2: What are we doing? If I tell you now, I haven't eaten yet?
00:54:45
Speaker 3: No?
00:54:45
Speaker 4: Okay, no, that's so fair.
00:54:47
Speaker 1: That to me, it makes me so upset because it's like, I don't know, don't ask me that. It's such an irrelevant question. And I know what you're trying to do that you're trying to come across like you care. Yeah, you're trying to show that you're a caring man. You know, you want me to eat, you want me to look after myself, but like you're not doing anything about it.
00:55:07
Speaker 2: You're actually just asking me the question.
00:55:09
Speaker 3: Because when you're an answer, it's like, yeah, have and what good?
00:55:13
Speaker 1: Oh my god, what did you eat? Trying to make conversation okay? Or if I haven't, it's like, oh my god, why.
00:55:21
Speaker 3: I haven't had time? We always say so charring.
00:55:25
Speaker 1: It's such a even I'm getting mad now, I'm getting.
00:55:31
Speaker 2: So yeah, like that one pisss me off.
00:55:33
Speaker 3: Okay, pisses me off.
00:55:35
Speaker 2: I'm telling you it happens to people.
00:55:37
Speaker 3: I'll make a bit, why not.
00:55:39
Speaker 2: I want to see the responses? Actually, please make one?
00:55:41
Speaker 1: Yeah, girls really, like are you guys experiencing that as well? Like when a guy tells you or asks you if you eat in what are you telling him? Because yeah, that one, that one's too much.
00:55:50
Speaker 3: Yeah. Now because now when I clocked, like what you were how you were saying, I was.
00:55:54
Speaker 2: Like, yeah that have you ever asked the girl she's eating?
00:55:58
Speaker 4: Not like that? Maybe if like, have you hey look like this?
00:56:02
Speaker 3: It's cool like restaurants in that sense, yeah, I have for sure, But in terms of just saying have you eaten? Save like randomly, Nah, you're normal. Yeah, but that's a normal thing. I shouldn't be like a it's a common thing.
00:56:18
Speaker 1: I feel like it's such a it's such a weird thing to ask people like I think for me, it doesn't come off genuine.
00:56:23
Speaker 2: I don't like it.
00:56:24
Speaker 4: That's a yeah, yeah, I don't think that's crazy.
00:56:27
Speaker 2: So yeah, but it's it's an and I want to know if people have experienced it.
00:56:31
Speaker 3: So I'm curious too. I want to make this video and we'll see what.
00:56:33
Speaker 1: We'll see what people say. Yeah, but Kevin, thank you so much for coming back. It's been a time having you.
00:56:39
Speaker 4: Thank you so much for having me. Had a great time.
00:56:40
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00:56:43
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00:56:56
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