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Hi, I'm Mark.
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Hi, I'm Cappy.
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And if you want half an hour of freedom from the hinges of life, then this podcast is for you because you can never be too unhinged.
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Well, I had a question that I wanted to get out.
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And I actually do want to know the answer to this.
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I've I've I've thought about this because you are a little you're a little bit older than me, gently.
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Well, there's no you're a little bit old wiser as well.
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You know, you have Oh, you just dig in that hole deeper, aren't you?
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Oh no, I don't care.
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I have many jobs.
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Well, I wouldn't look at it.
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I don't think I look.
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No, you tell you you're as old as you feel.
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I told you that.
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Um my question is, well, I want to know what does it what does aging mean to you?
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How do you feel at this age now?
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What have you learned?
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Who are you?
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Yeah, actually that's a very good question.
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And I think what it is is when you're going through the first third, you know, up to say 30 years old, yeah.
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You're living your life and trying to work out who you are, what you want to do, where you stand in life.
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And then usually from 30 to say 60, you give all of your life.
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You give all of your life to other people, like you'll give it to your children, you'll give it to your parents if they're sick.
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Um, it's not your life.
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And I think when you get into like that over fifties and heading into the sixties, you realise your children are usually grown up.
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You've got grandchildren coming along, you know, you hope you can still be looking after your parents if you're lucky enough, but I've lost both of my parents.
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Um, and you sort of realize, well, shit, it's just me.
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My kids don't need me, my family don't need me, where do I fit in life?
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And I think when you get older, that's where a lot of the uh people in the later part of their life, it's like, okay, so I went on a cruise ship.
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Yeah.
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Okay, because you know I like to go away on holidays.
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And I went on a cruise ship and I met this lovely, lovely lady.
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She was 72 years old, her name was Chris.
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We'll have to have her on one day, and uh she was a pensioner, yeah, and she said, I've had the most amazing life, I gave up work, I'm now retired, and she goes, and I realized I was getting up and doing the same thing every day, I was watching TV, I do the crosswords.
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As a retiree.
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As a retiree.
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I was having lunch with a couple of friends every now and then, you know, but people have their lives, people go on.
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She goes, and then I realized I'm sitting here looking at the wall, bored, waiting to die.
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Yeah, yeah.
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She goes, 'cause I had nothing to look forward to.
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Um and I just think that in life you've got to have a purpose.
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Yeah.
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To get up for a purpose, you've got to have love, because it's always nice having love.
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Yeah.
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Um, and and I think she realized that she didn't have any of that.
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So she well, apparently her auntie died, which was not a good thing, but it was a good thing because she left us some money.
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So she went and spent$38,000 on a four and a half month holiday.
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Oh, yeah.
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And you know, that gives her photos, gives us something to talk about when she comes home.
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Yeah.
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And I just realized that's when I thought, you know what, there's all these beautiful diamonds sitting at home, because we met her at the singles night.
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Uh, because I went along to that, and I had an absolute ball.
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I've never laughed so much in my life, and she was just so funny.
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And then we end up on the cruise ship, she would come out with us every day, and she goes, Oh, you two are rap pegs, aren't you?
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You find these papers, they gravitate.
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So lovely, and I just um and we're still in touch, and I I think she's amazing.
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Oh, good for her.
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So she went on a big cruise.
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She went on a big cruise and she spent some money, and now she's back in her apartment.
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And you know, she said, Now that I'm back, I'm gonna start getting out more, I'm gonna start walking, I'm gonna catch up with my friends.
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Doing stuff, doing stuff, yeah.
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And that's what I think when you get older, you've gotta get a purpose.
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You've got to say, okay, I'm gonna get up on Thursday morning and go swimming and meet up with the swim group.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Play bridge or whatever you like.
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You know, I screw the days of knitting and crocheting.
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Who fucking does that these days?
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But hey, if that's your thing, that's all good too.
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But you know what I learned the other day.
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What?
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I learned another thing off TikTok because I learned so much from TikTok.
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Now, once again, speaking another language.
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Boomer!
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There's some Japanese sort of saying or whatever, or you know, the thing that they live by, and that is if you do when you lose purpose in life, this is true.
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When you lose we must we'll have to Google it and find out what it is.
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When you lose purpose in life, you just need to get up and go out and like pick up rubbish, or get up and go do something really, really simple to give yourself like purpose, meaning, and motivation to get up.
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And there's like a whole Japanese term or proverb or whatever they call it, I don't know what.
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And I because I get that I get, and I have had this conversation a lot recently with my mum, who's my mum's 76.
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We're talking about my mum again, but she still works, and she works three days a week in mum you're telling me off the tap of the desk, because that'll be good.
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She works in the background, don't tap the desk.
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Sit back, sit forward.
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Keep going, so yes, now go back.
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Your mother's seventy.
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So mum's 76.
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So mum seventy-six, and she works three days a week in school, and so they have this wonderful programme in Victoria, which is called the Stephanie Alexander program, where little kids in primary school um grow vegetables in the garden, and then the other lesson they cook what they've uh sort of you know grown, sort of thing.
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And mum does the cooking side of things.
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Now, 76 years old, she works, and it's like a full-time job within the space of three days, so it wears her out.
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But does she get paid or is that oh no, she's she's just a paid job.
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She doesn't have to do it.
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If she didn't do that, she'd probably get more money from the government through her pension or whatever.
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But she does it because it gives her purpose, it's something to get up in the morning.
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She's around these beautiful kids, and so it keeps it keeps her young, keeps her, you know, so just like your friends, whatever her name was, um Chris.
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Chris, with the you know, the purpose going just travelling the world or seeing the world.
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Something to get up every morning for.
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Correct.
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And she said that when she looked back at that time, she didn't realise it, but she felt that she looks back now and she thought, I was depressed then.
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Yeah.
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And I think sometimes when when you get older you can fall into depression and actually not realise you're in it.
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Yeah.
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And then she said, I just needed to get out of it.
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And she said, Now I got out of that rut.
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Yeah.
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She said, Now I'm I know when I go back, I'm gonna do things.
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And I think um if our podcast can reach anyone and help them to reach out to somebody to to live their life and have a better life, I think we'll we'll that's all I want to achieve with this and um and have some fun.
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Get out there and do stuff.
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Yeah, I mean, like, you know, um see I love to dance.
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I love to can I just say I love to dance.
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I did ballroom dancing when I was younger, and I got up to my goal no, my brass medal.
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Yeah.
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Bronze.
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I got copper.
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I got my brass.
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You must have been a shit dancer.
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I'm actually a very good dancer.
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And can I say that ballroom dancing is a dying art?
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Now, even though it's come back on television, is it?
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Well, yeah, you know, dancing with the stars.
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I mean, look at how amazing and wonderful it is, but everyone's too scared to do that.
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Oh, is that Robert Irwood?
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Is it Robert Irwitt?
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Yeah, isn't he sexy?
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He's amazing, yeah.
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And it's creepy saying that because he's how old he's young.
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He's like my old pedophile.
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But can I just say, I wish we had more classes to do that.
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You know, like let's start up ballroom classes in our area, let's get things going, or or start up that's how my parents met ballroom dances.
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That's true, absolutely true.
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No, I think it's a dying form.
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And when I can I tell you, when a man picks you up in his arms and he swings you're gonna do it.
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He sweeps you off your feet.
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I swear it's like Fredister and Ginger Rodney, I'm dancing on air.
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Oh, I love it.
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Let's bring back ballroom dancing.
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You think?
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Absolutely.
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Well, that's your take on aging.
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Is that what you think you need to have a purpose in life?
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Is that you?
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I think you need a purpose in life.
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And I'm gonna ask you that, Mark.
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What do you feel like aging at 47?
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Like you're so young.
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Well, I'm 48.
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So, no, the reason I asked that, I suppose because maybe because I am that age, and so 50 is it's I can see it coming, sort of thing.
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I'm like, I'm already saving up for my 50th birthday, isn't that sad?
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But like, well, not sad, but Well, it's better than saving up for your funeral.
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Do people do that?
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Yes! That's what I'm saying.
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They save their money.
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What are they?
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I'd spend the money on myself.
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Do you know a funeral can cost$30,000?
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Oh, I don't really care.
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Just shove me in a box and put me in the Oh have a big party.
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Oh, I'm not paying for the party though.
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Well, someone's got to pay for something.
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Anyway, go on.
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So they save the money.
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No, but because I think that um because I'm getting obviously as I'm getting gold and getting 50, and because I'm a single guy now as well, this is a big part of this equation.
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So I was in I'll tell you my life story, man.
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I was gonna say there's Peter.
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He does.
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To my uh ex Peter, who I'm still very, very close with.
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We only broke up because uh we were in the UK and I had to come back to Australia and he wanted to stay.
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And I I said to him, if he and he had a good job over there as well, and I had a good job in Australia to come back to, and I said to him, if you want to stay in Australi in the UK, and that's what you want, I want you to get what you want in this life.
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I loved him, that's how much I loved him.
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That's how much I loved him.
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And so and so he, you know, that's where he is.
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So we wouldn't have broken up if not for that.
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And it was a good thing in the end because it sort of made me um it sort of, you know, made me it shook me up a little bit, put a bit of a fire in my pants, if that makes sense, to you know, get get off your ass and do something.
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Yes, get off your ass and do something a little bit.
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Um so yeah, I'm acutely aware of the fact that I am 48.
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I'm a single gay guy who's still a trolley dolly.
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Um and am I doing anything different to what I was doing when I was in my twenties?
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I don't know.
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I think that's a whole other episode.
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That's a crisis, isn't it?
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Oh my god, it makes a crisis.
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Yeah, so well that's really um, you know.
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Not that interesting.
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Pretty fucking boring.
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It's all pretty bloody serious shit, isn't it?
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Getting old.
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So it's for the screw the golden years.
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Um, yeah, well, you know, not being single, that's not such a bad thing.
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No, no, I don't think it's time for isn't that funny?
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A friend once said to me, uh, when you're in a relationship, all you think about is how good it'd be to not be in one.
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I know.
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And then when you're not in one, all you think is, oh, it'd be so good to be in a relationship.
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Why do we always think being in a relationship to be valid?
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Like, are we not valid on our own?
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I am.
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What about you, Mark?
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What about you, Mark?
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Are you valid?
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Did you do you think that when you were when you were flying, if that helped, I know it's sort of jumping around a little bit, if that helped your relationships because you had that forced time away?
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I absolutely do think that that was I don't know if the word was helped or prolonged.
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Yeah.
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Delayed the inevitable.
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Delayed the inevitable.
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I think, yeah, you know, like I used to come back from trips and it'd all be wonderful and it's like.
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Yeah, because you missed each other.
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Yeah, and then in the middle it'd be like, Oh, is this what normal life is like, and by the end it's like, get me the hell out of here and let me get back to work so I can come back and love you again.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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There's I believe there's like studies about this that they about like you people who spend time away from their partner and the longevity of their life.
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Bit of bit of info for you there.
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Yeah, and apparently, um, you know, like you'll always find policemen, firemen, hosties, and nurses, they all gravitate to each other because they understand that.
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A shift to work sort of thing.
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And that the last minute's like, boom, you gotta go.
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And it's like, oh, okay, they've got to go.
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They can't be there all the time, or they're not gonna be there for major things.
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Yeah, yeah.
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I wanted to be a paramedic for a while.
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I thought that would be I can't hear you whispering.
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Oh, because it's a secret.
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What did you say?
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I wanted to be a paramedic there for a while.
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I had that thing in the back meet.
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I thought that would be a good job.
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Thank God I didn't.
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I think I'd be terrible.
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I couldn't do that.
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I don't I can't send blood.
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Makes me faint.
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I just think that they are oh god, that that's a terrible job.
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That's a hard job, that's a full-on one.
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Let's not go down that road.
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No, uh let's go back over here, let's make some laughter.
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So we the the reason why we were going to talk about aging though, because I wanted to learn a little bit more about you.
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I don't know everything about you, because I want to go down the road of Kathy a little bit.
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I'm opening up the the like for the Pandora's box here.
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I want to know what you were like in your teens and your twenties, your thirties and your forties, and you know, I I know who you are now, sort of thing.
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Yeah, and I think these are future episodes, maybe we can talk about it.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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But I'd like to know who because I think you would have been a nightmare as a kid.
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You bitch.
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It's true though.
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My mother said I asked way too many questions.
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Um, but I was a lovely child.
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I used to pick up flowers on my way home and give them to my mum and say, I love you.
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And I said to my daughter, Do you think you could do that for me?
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And again, we got the old Gen Z no.
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Um just no.
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Um, I I was a very vibrant little child.
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Did you know that I used to do?
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Um, we used to charge people money to come into my friend's garage and we'd sing songs.
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And I used to remember sing the two uh we charge them five cents, then we go down and buy lollies.
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You know, you remember when you used to buy uh cobbers, five cobbers for a cent?
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No, mate, we're a different generation.
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Yeah, you're looking at me as if I should know what that is.
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A cobber?
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What's a cobber?
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A cobber is like a a caramel with chocolate around it, and you chew it, and it was really chewy.
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Oh god.
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I feel like people in my days now a cobber would be a penis.
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Okay.
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Oh gosh, I mean, yeah, you flew me on that.
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Those Gen Z, everything's chewy.
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Cobber on him.
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Oh, maybe that's what that means.
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Well, we did eat them, but I was a child.
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Five covers for a cent.
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And I used to be able to get half a bag of chips for ten cents, and I used to have vinegar on it.
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And I'd go home and my mother'd go, I told you you're not allowed to buy hot chips on your way home from school.
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And I used to think, how does she know?
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Because I used to put vinegar on it, and she used to smell the vinegar vinegar on me.
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Um, so Mark, you know, tell me something about you.
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When you were a teenager, I reckon you would have been a naughty little boy.
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When I was a teenager, well, I can tell you a little thing about not when I was a teenager, when I was a child, and this is I think it's quite formative.
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It maybe tells the story about who I am.
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When I was you reminded me when you talk about the vinegar and the smell of the vinegar, when I was like like a baby.
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Um your mother had vinegar tits.
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Yeah, she had a dreadful thing to say.
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Oh, vinegar tits.
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Remember that in prisoner?
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Hey, vinegar tits and Lizzie.
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I met her, I met that woman from Prisoner.
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What's her name?
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Lizzie.
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Was it Lizzie?
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Oh.
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Oh, I'm I think in Cell Block 8.
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Well, I she was on my flight.
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So when I was a baby, I would have been, I think I was about two or something like that.
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And it was really, really hot down in Melbourne.
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The weather was like 40 plus degrees.
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And I was thirsty, and I'd been eating Mars bars or whatever that day, or chocolate, whatever it was.
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And my mum had like um you know the cask of wine?
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You we all know I know you all know what a cask of wine is.
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Class of wine.
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A goon bag.
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A goon bag.
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But I think back in those days it was called a cask.
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So she had this cask, and I've been eating these chocolates, and somehow I'd said to mum, I want to drink, I want to drink, and she's gone, there's only water in the house.
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And I didn't want water because I was a kid.
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And at some point I have figured out who wants water, I want Coca-Cola.
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Absolutely.
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Well, I figured out how to open the cask and I drank from the cask.
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No.
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So how old were you, sorry?
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Three, I think.
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I was only really, really little.
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So then I subsequently fast learner.
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Such a fast learner, such a early drunk.
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So I got drunk and I was I fell down on the floor, flopping about, fell asleep.
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My mum finds me and she panics.
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She thinks, oh my god, he's got a disease.
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This is the first episode.
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Rushes me to hospital.
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And if she can't smell the booze because I've been eating chocolates, all she can smell is chocolate's on my breath.
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So anyway, she takes me to the hospital, they text me with the doctors, the doctors are like picking me up, sort of thing, and I'm flopping about.
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I can't figure out what's wrong with me.
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So they say, Well, just take him home and let him let him rest, you know.
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Let him sober up.
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Let him slip it off.
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So I go home and and I say anyway.
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I think a couple of days went past, and then um it was another hot day.
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And I've gone to Mum, Mum, I want to drink, I want to drink, I want a gink, I used to say, I want a gink.
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And she's gone, well, you know, there's nothing in the house but water, and I pointed to the wine cast.
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No, I want this one, kink, mum, I want this one kink.
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And that's when she put two and two together.
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I've got a little P said for a kid.
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You were a bit drunk at the age of three.
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It must have been like about three or something like that.
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Drinks are so expensive these days.
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I've turned I've started pregaming again.
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Yeah.
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Let's have a few drinks at the house because it costs you.
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Threes.
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We us Gen Zeds love.
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I know, and it makes sense.
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I get it.
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It's so good.
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Because it's a lot cheaper than going out.
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That's another.
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And didn't you have more don't you have more fun when you're getting ready, having a few drinks at the house?
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Yeah.
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With your girls, you've got the music playing, you're doing shots with each other that aren't costing 15 fucking dollars.
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Yeah.
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Get one drink at the club and you sit club, licks me to club.
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When's the last time you went to a nightclub?
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Excuse me, I go out a lot.
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So when was the last time you went to a nightclub?
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I repeat the question.
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I should know I is it well, I don't know, is it Tarrant Point Hotel?
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Is that a club?
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You'll find Kathy at the Vinning Room, maybe.
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Oh, the Vina Room! Alright, so okay, I want to say thank you everyone for listening to us today, and we are going to look forward to giving you another fun and exciting episode next week.
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Well, that concludes our episode of Too Unhinged.
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Hi, I'm Mark.
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Hi, I'm Cappy.
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And if you want half an hour of freedom from the hinges of life, then this podcast is for you because you can never be too unhinged.
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Well, I had a question that I wanted to get out.
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And I actually do want to know the answer to this.
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I've I've I've thought about this because you are a little you're a little bit older than me, gently.
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Well, there's no you're a little bit old wiser as well.
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You know, you have Oh, you just dig in that hole deeper, aren't you?
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Oh no, I don't care.
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I have many jobs.
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Well, I wouldn't look at it.
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I don't think I look.
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No, you tell you you're as old as you feel.
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I told you that.
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Um my question is, well, I want to know what does it what does aging mean to you?
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How do you feel at this age now?
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What have you learned?
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Who are you?
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Yeah, actually that's a very good question.
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And I think what it is is when you're going through the first third, you know, up to say 30 years old, yeah.
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You're living your life and trying to work out who you are, what you want to do, where you stand in life.
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And then usually from 30 to say 60, you give all of your life.
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You give all of your life to other people, like you'll give it to your children, you'll give it to your parents if they're sick.
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Um, it's not your life.
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And I think when you get into like that over fifties and heading into the sixties, you realise your children are usually grown up.
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You've got grandchildren coming along, you know, you hope you can still be looking after your parents if you're lucky enough, but I've lost both of my parents.
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Um, and you sort of realize, well, shit, it's just me.
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My kids don't need me, my family don't need me, where do I fit in life?
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And I think when you get older, that's where a lot of the uh people in the later part of their life, it's like, okay, so I went on a cruise ship.
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Yeah.
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Okay, because you know I like to go away on holidays.
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And I went on a cruise ship and I met this lovely, lovely lady.
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She was 72 years old, her name was Chris.
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We'll have to have her on one day, and uh she was a pensioner, yeah, and she said, I've had the most amazing life, I gave up work, I'm now retired, and she goes, and I realized I was getting up and doing the same thing every day, I was watching TV, I do the crosswords.
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As a retiree.
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As a retiree.
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I was having lunch with a couple of friends every now and then, you know, but people have their lives, people go on.
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She goes, and then I realized I'm sitting here looking at the wall, bored, waiting to die.
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Yeah, yeah.
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She goes, 'cause I had nothing to look forward to.
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Um and I just think that in life you've got to have a purpose.
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Yeah.
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To get up for a purpose, you've got to have love, because it's always nice having love.
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Yeah.
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Um, and and I think she realized that she didn't have any of that.
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So she well, apparently her auntie died, which was not a good thing, but it was a good thing because she left us some money.
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So she went and spent$38,000 on a four and a half month holiday.
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Oh, yeah.
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And you know, that gives her photos, gives us something to talk about when she comes home.
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Yeah.
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And I just realized that's when I thought, you know what, there's all these beautiful diamonds sitting at home, because we met her at the singles night.
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Uh, because I went along to that, and I had an absolute ball.
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I've never laughed so much in my life, and she was just so funny.
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And then we end up on the cruise ship, she would come out with us every day, and she goes, Oh, you two are rap pegs, aren't you?
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You find these papers, they gravitate.
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So lovely, and I just um and we're still in touch, and I I think she's amazing.
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Oh, good for her.
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So she went on a big cruise.
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She went on a big cruise and she spent some money, and now she's back in her apartment.
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And you know, she said, Now that I'm back, I'm gonna start getting out more, I'm gonna start walking, I'm gonna catch up with my friends.
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Doing stuff, doing stuff, yeah.
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And that's what I think when you get older, you've gotta get a purpose.
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You've got to say, okay, I'm gonna get up on Thursday morning and go swimming and meet up with the swim group.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Play bridge or whatever you like.
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You know, I screw the days of knitting and crocheting.
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Who fucking does that these days?
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But hey, if that's your thing, that's all good too.
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But you know what I learned the other day.
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What?
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I learned another thing off TikTok because I learned so much from TikTok.
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Now, once again, speaking another language.
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Boomer!
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There's some Japanese sort of saying or whatever, or you know, the thing that they live by, and that is if you do when you lose purpose in life, this is true.
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When you lose we must we'll have to Google it and find out what it is.
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When you lose purpose in life, you just need to get up and go out and like pick up rubbish, or get up and go do something really, really simple to give yourself like purpose, meaning, and motivation to get up.
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And there's like a whole Japanese term or proverb or whatever they call it, I don't know what.
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And I because I get that I get, and I have had this conversation a lot recently with my mum, who's my mum's 76.
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We're talking about my mum again, but she still works, and she works three days a week in mum you're telling me off the tap of the desk, because that'll be good.
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She works in the background, don't tap the desk.
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Sit back, sit forward.
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Keep going, so yes, now go back.
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Your mother's seventy.
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So mum's 76.
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So mum seventy-six, and she works three days a week in school, and so they have this wonderful programme in Victoria, which is called the Stephanie Alexander program, where little kids in primary school um grow vegetables in the garden, and then the other lesson they cook what they've uh sort of you know grown, sort of thing.
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And mum does the cooking side of things.
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Now, 76 years old, she works, and it's like a full-time job within the space of three days, so it wears her out.
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But does she get paid or is that oh no, she's she's just a paid job.
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She doesn't have to do it.
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If she didn't do that, she'd probably get more money from the government through her pension or whatever.
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But she does it because it gives her purpose, it's something to get up in the morning.
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She's around these beautiful kids, and so it keeps it keeps her young, keeps her, you know, so just like your friends, whatever her name was, um Chris.
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Chris, with the you know, the purpose going just travelling the world or seeing the world.
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Something to get up every morning for.
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Correct.
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And she said that when she looked back at that time, she didn't realise it, but she felt that she looks back now and she thought, I was depressed then.
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Yeah.
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And I think sometimes when when you get older you can fall into depression and actually not realise you're in it.
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Yeah.
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And then she said, I just needed to get out of it.
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And she said, Now I got out of that rut.
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Yeah.
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She said, Now I'm I know when I go back, I'm gonna do things.
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And I think um if our podcast can reach anyone and help them to reach out to somebody to to live their life and have a better life, I think we'll we'll that's all I want to achieve with this and um and have some fun.
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Get out there and do stuff.
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Yeah, I mean, like, you know, um see I love to dance.
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I love to can I just say I love to dance.
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I did ballroom dancing when I was younger, and I got up to my goal no, my brass medal.
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Yeah.
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Bronze.
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I got copper.
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I got my brass.
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You must have been a shit dancer.
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I'm actually a very good dancer.
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And can I say that ballroom dancing is a dying art?
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Now, even though it's come back on television, is it?
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Well, yeah, you know, dancing with the stars.
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I mean, look at how amazing and wonderful it is, but everyone's too scared to do that.
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Oh, is that Robert Irwood?
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Is it Robert Irwitt?
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Yeah, isn't he sexy?
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He's amazing, yeah.
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And it's creepy saying that because he's how old he's young.
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He's like my old pedophile.
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But can I just say, I wish we had more classes to do that.
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You know, like let's start up ballroom classes in our area, let's get things going, or or start up that's how my parents met ballroom dances.
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That's true, absolutely true.
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No, I think it's a dying form.
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And when I can I tell you, when a man picks you up in his arms and he swings you're gonna do it.
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He sweeps you off your feet.
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I swear it's like Fredister and Ginger Rodney, I'm dancing on air.
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Oh, I love it.
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Let's bring back ballroom dancing.
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You think?
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Absolutely.
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Well, that's your take on aging.
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Is that what you think you need to have a purpose in life?
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Is that you?
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I think you need a purpose in life.
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And I'm gonna ask you that, Mark.
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What do you feel like aging at 47?
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Like you're so young.
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Well, I'm 48.
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So, no, the reason I asked that, I suppose because maybe because I am that age, and so 50 is it's I can see it coming, sort of thing.
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I'm like, I'm already saving up for my 50th birthday, isn't that sad?
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But like, well, not sad, but Well, it's better than saving up for your funeral.
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Do people do that?
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Yes! That's what I'm saying.
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They save their money.
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What are they?
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I'd spend the money on myself.
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Do you know a funeral can cost$30,000?
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Oh, I don't really care.
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Just shove me in a box and put me in the Oh have a big party.
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Oh, I'm not paying for the party though.
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Well, someone's got to pay for something.
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Anyway, go on.
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So they save the money.
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No, but because I think that um because I'm getting obviously as I'm getting gold and getting 50, and because I'm a single guy now as well, this is a big part of this equation.
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So I was in I'll tell you my life story, man.
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I was gonna say there's Peter.
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He does.
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To my uh ex Peter, who I'm still very, very close with.
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We only broke up because uh we were in the UK and I had to come back to Australia and he wanted to stay.
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And I I said to him, if he and he had a good job over there as well, and I had a good job in Australia to come back to, and I said to him, if you want to stay in Australi in the UK, and that's what you want, I want you to get what you want in this life.
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I loved him, that's how much I loved him.
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That's how much I loved him.
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And so and so he, you know, that's where he is.
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So we wouldn't have broken up if not for that.
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And it was a good thing in the end because it sort of made me um it sort of, you know, made me it shook me up a little bit, put a bit of a fire in my pants, if that makes sense, to you know, get get off your ass and do something.
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Yes, get off your ass and do something a little bit.
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Um so yeah, I'm acutely aware of the fact that I am 48.
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I'm a single gay guy who's still a trolley dolly.
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Um and am I doing anything different to what I was doing when I was in my twenties?
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I don't know.
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I think that's a whole other episode.
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That's a crisis, isn't it?
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Oh my god, it makes a crisis.
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Yeah, so well that's really um, you know.
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Not that interesting.
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Pretty fucking boring.
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It's all pretty bloody serious shit, isn't it?
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Getting old.
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So it's for the screw the golden years.
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Um, yeah, well, you know, not being single, that's not such a bad thing.
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No, no, I don't think it's time for isn't that funny?
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A friend once said to me, uh, when you're in a relationship, all you think about is how good it'd be to not be in one.
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I know.
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And then when you're not in one, all you think is, oh, it'd be so good to be in a relationship.
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Why do we always think being in a relationship to be valid?
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Like, are we not valid on our own?
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I am.
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What about you, Mark?
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What about you, Mark?
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Are you valid?
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Did you do you think that when you were when you were flying, if that helped, I know it's sort of jumping around a little bit, if that helped your relationships because you had that forced time away?
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I absolutely do think that that was I don't know if the word was helped or prolonged.
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Yeah.
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Delayed the inevitable.
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Delayed the inevitable.
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I think, yeah, you know, like I used to come back from trips and it'd all be wonderful and it's like.
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Yeah, because you missed each other.
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Yeah, and then in the middle it'd be like, Oh, is this what normal life is like, and by the end it's like, get me the hell out of here and let me get back to work so I can come back and love you again.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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There's I believe there's like studies about this that they about like you people who spend time away from their partner and the longevity of their life.
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Bit of bit of info for you there.
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Yeah, and apparently, um, you know, like you'll always find policemen, firemen, hosties, and nurses, they all gravitate to each other because they understand that.
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A shift to work sort of thing.
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And that the last minute's like, boom, you gotta go.
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And it's like, oh, okay, they've got to go.
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They can't be there all the time, or they're not gonna be there for major things.
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Yeah, yeah.
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I wanted to be a paramedic for a while.
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I thought that would be I can't hear you whispering.
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Oh, because it's a secret.
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What did you say?
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I wanted to be a paramedic there for a while.
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I had that thing in the back meet.
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I thought that would be a good job.
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Thank God I didn't.
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I think I'd be terrible.
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I couldn't do that.
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I don't I can't send blood.
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Makes me faint.
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I just think that they are oh god, that that's a terrible job.
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That's a hard job, that's a full-on one.
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Let's not go down that road.
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No, uh let's go back over here, let's make some laughter.
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So we the the reason why we were going to talk about aging though, because I wanted to learn a little bit more about you.
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I don't know everything about you, because I want to go down the road of Kathy a little bit.
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I'm opening up the the like for the Pandora's box here.
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I want to know what you were like in your teens and your twenties, your thirties and your forties, and you know, I I know who you are now, sort of thing.
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Yeah, and I think these are future episodes, maybe we can talk about it.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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But I'd like to know who because I think you would have been a nightmare as a kid.
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You bitch.
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It's true though.
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My mother said I asked way too many questions.
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Um, but I was a lovely child.
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I used to pick up flowers on my way home and give them to my mum and say, I love you.
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And I said to my daughter, Do you think you could do that for me?
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And again, we got the old Gen Z no.
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Um just no.
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Um, I I was a very vibrant little child.
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Did you know that I used to do?
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Um, we used to charge people money to come into my friend's garage and we'd sing songs.
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And I used to remember sing the two uh we charge them five cents, then we go down and buy lollies.
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You know, you remember when you used to buy uh cobbers, five cobbers for a cent?
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No, mate, we're a different generation.
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Yeah, you're looking at me as if I should know what that is.
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A cobber?
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What's a cobber?
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A cobber is like a a caramel with chocolate around it, and you chew it, and it was really chewy.
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Oh god.
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I feel like people in my days now a cobber would be a penis.
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Okay.
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Oh gosh, I mean, yeah, you flew me on that.
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Those Gen Z, everything's chewy.
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Cobber on him.
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Oh, maybe that's what that means.
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Well, we did eat them, but I was a child.
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Five covers for a cent.
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And I used to be able to get half a bag of chips for ten cents, and I used to have vinegar on it.
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And I'd go home and my mother'd go, I told you you're not allowed to buy hot chips on your way home from school.
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And I used to think, how does she know?
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Because I used to put vinegar on it, and she used to smell the vinegar vinegar on me.
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Um, so Mark, you know, tell me something about you.
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When you were a teenager, I reckon you would have been a naughty little boy.
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When I was a teenager, well, I can tell you a little thing about not when I was a teenager, when I was a child, and this is I think it's quite formative.
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It maybe tells the story about who I am.
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When I was you reminded me when you talk about the vinegar and the smell of the vinegar, when I was like like a baby.
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Um your mother had vinegar tits.
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Yeah, she had a dreadful thing to say.
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Oh, vinegar tits.
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Remember that in prisoner?
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Hey, vinegar tits and Lizzie.
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I met her, I met that woman from Prisoner.
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What's her name?
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Lizzie.
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Was it Lizzie?
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Oh.
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Oh, I'm I think in Cell Block 8.
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Well, I she was on my flight.
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So when I was a baby, I would have been, I think I was about two or something like that.
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And it was really, really hot down in Melbourne.
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The weather was like 40 plus degrees.
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And I was thirsty, and I'd been eating Mars bars or whatever that day, or chocolate, whatever it was.
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And my mum had like um you know the cask of wine?
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You we all know I know you all know what a cask of wine is.
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Class of wine.
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A goon bag.
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A goon bag.
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But I think back in those days it was called a cask.
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So she had this cask, and I've been eating these chocolates, and somehow I'd said to mum, I want to drink, I want to drink, and she's gone, there's only water in the house.
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And I didn't want water because I was a kid.
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And at some point I have figured out who wants water, I want Coca-Cola.
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Absolutely.
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Well, I figured out how to open the cask and I drank from the cask.
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No.
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So how old were you, sorry?
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Three, I think.
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I was only really, really little.
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So then I subsequently fast learner.
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Such a fast learner, such a early drunk.
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So I got drunk and I was I fell down on the floor, flopping about, fell asleep.
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My mum finds me and she panics.
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She thinks, oh my god, he's got a disease.
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This is the first episode.
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Rushes me to hospital.
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And if she can't smell the booze because I've been eating chocolates, all she can smell is chocolate's on my breath.
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So anyway, she takes me to the hospital, they text me with the doctors, the doctors are like picking me up, sort of thing, and I'm flopping about.
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I can't figure out what's wrong with me.
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So they say, Well, just take him home and let him let him rest, you know.
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Let him sober up.
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Let him slip it off.
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So I go home and and I say anyway.
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I think a couple of days went past, and then um it was another hot day.
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And I've gone to Mum, Mum, I want to drink, I want to drink, I want a gink, I used to say, I want a gink.
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And she's gone, well, you know, there's nothing in the house but water, and I pointed to the wine cast.
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No, I want this one, kink, mum, I want this one kink.
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And that's when she put two and two together.
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I've got a little P said for a kid.
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You were a bit drunk at the age of three.
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It must have been like about three or something like that.
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Drinks are so expensive these days.
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I've turned I've started pregaming again.
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Yeah.
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Let's have a few drinks at the house because it costs you.
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Threes.
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We us Gen Zeds love.
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I know, and it makes sense.
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I get it.
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It's so good.
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Because it's a lot cheaper than going out.
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That's another.
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And didn't you have more don't you have more fun when you're getting ready, having a few drinks at the house?
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Yeah.
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With your girls, you've got the music playing, you're doing shots with each other that aren't costing 15 fucking dollars.
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Yeah.
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Get one drink at the club and you sit club, licks me to club.
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When's the last time you went to a nightclub?
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Excuse me, I go out a lot.
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So when was the last time you went to a nightclub?
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I repeat the question.
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I should know I is it well, I don't know, is it Tarrant Point Hotel?
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Is that a club?
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You'll find Kathy at the Vinning Room, maybe.
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Oh, the Vina Room! Alright, so okay, I want to say thank you everyone for listening to us today, and we are going to look forward to giving you another fun and exciting episode next week.
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Well, that concludes our episode of Too Unhinged.
