Why Doing Life Alone Is Killing You

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True man, we love when we get asked to rise up.
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You wanna make a man happy, give him a challenge.
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And guess what, that's what our whole life is about.
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Steve White is 65 years old.
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At 57, he couldn't speak, couldn't walk 500 yards, and was sent home to die.
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Today, he runs a clinic helping people fight back.
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And this is his philosophy.
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You don't get anywhere incrementally.
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and getting better.
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You know, water is hot at 120, hotter at 147.
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It's very hot at 210, but it's still frigging water.
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At 212, it changes forms.
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It goes to a vapor, right?
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That's all in.
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25-year-old dude, lonely as s***.
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Where does that guy start?
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It's this simple.
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Go care for somebody.
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Anybody.
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Caring is the healthiest thing you can possibly do.
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And when you start learning that, you start to learn to care for yourself.
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Because our strength is our weakness.
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My independence of trying to do things yourself was my weakness.
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And if you ask me, I say, I'm good.
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I'm good.
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I'm good to go.
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Even my mom said that to me later, right before the last couple years she was alive.
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She said, we always knew you had it together.
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And I was like, no, I did not.
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How do you help someone who doesn't want to be helped?
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Frankly, you got to start with like, well, why do you not want to get well?
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Why do you not want to change?
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They'll come down to, I don't believe I can.
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I'm scared to try because everyone else is going to think I failed.
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Stop.
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Forget everyone.
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One of my favorite quotes that I've always had in the back of my head for a long time is, life's a one-player game.
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You're born alone, you die alone.
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Sometimes that's a little bit dark and depressing to think about, but at the end of the day, it is kind of true.
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When I say that, what comes to mind for you?
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It is dark.
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And for some of the people I've known, it's been the darkness that stopped them.
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With the post-concussion syndrome, you always hear on TV, a lot of people committing suicide.
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Well, I've had a lot of friends, had one friend do it while I was on the phone with them.
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And it can get very dark.
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And it rides the tide, right?
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It's always like things are going good.
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It's not dark.
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Things are going bad.
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Where do you go?
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So to me, I would say it's definitely true in that you have to take command of your own life and you got to be responsible for your bad things and your good things.
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You have to take responsibility.
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But at the same time, health is not an individual sport.
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It's a team sport.
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And this world is a team sport.
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If you study history at all, you know, go all the way back.
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It is a tribe.
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It is a group.
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And it is a team.
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And in this modern world, I like to say team because I think that's kind of what we're used to.
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Yeah.
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But we need each other.
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And like in your darkest times, I think back in my darkest situations, it was one person.
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people that really didn't know that they made that much of a difference in my life, but had the goal to go, Hey, well, why don't you fight this?
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I was thinking one guy that I talked to, so why don't you fight this?
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My sickness I was going through.
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And it was the first guy that I just went like, yeah, why don't I fight this?
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When was that?
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Believe it or not, I was, I think I was already 57, 58.
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It was not that I'm 65 now.
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When you think about back over your life, people who have stepped in to help you out, who's the first person that comes to mind in terms of, like, the first person to do that?
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Him.
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Fifty-something years old.
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Yeah, I have to say, it is crazy, because I did grow up in an era of, hey, just rub dirt on it, you're all right.
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Where'd you grow up?
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I grew up in eastern Washington.
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All my life had been traveling a lot.
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I was a business consultant for years, traveled a lot.
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But it was always that rub dirt on it kind of mentality.
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And I have to say, no offense to my friends because it's not their fault, but they didn't step up.
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Nobody stopped me and said, Steve, what are you doing?
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You know, I need to help you here.
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No one stepped in like that clear until later in life.
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I wonder if it's tough for people to look someone that they love or care about in the eye and be like, you need help.
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Versus when they're asked, like, hey, can I have some help?
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And then it's like a yes.
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Yeah, I think so.
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I always look like I had it together.
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And if you ask me, I say, I'm good.
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I'm good.
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I'm good to go.
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And so even my mom said that to me later, right before the last couple years she's alive.
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She said, we always knew you had it together.
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And I was like, no, I did not.
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So I think that men are good at putting a front up, probably a lot more than women.
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I don't know.
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I'm not going to go there, but you know what I'm saying?
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I think men are easily become an island more than anybody else.
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Where do you think that stemmed from?
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I mean, I'm sure there's like some evolution to it in biology and all of a sudden we're in this moment in time where like all of a sudden don't do that anymore.
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But it's always been that way.
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Yeah.
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How do we get here in your opinion?
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One thing people forget is that, at least this is my opinion, our strength is our weakness.
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You know, there is both ways.
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Our strengths are our weaknesses.
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It's like, yeah, I am strong.
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And yes, my mom ended up being right.
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I started fighting back.
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I've done stuff.
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I've helped the people I've taken over.
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A lot of great things have happened.
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So my independence of trying to do things yourself was my weakness.
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And the independence was my strength.
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I think a lot of us men are the same way.
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It's like we haven't put it to good use, if you will.
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Mm-hmm.
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But I think it is a part of us.
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And that's a strength as well.
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We like when people put it on our back and we're going to carry it.
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Yeah.
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I've been told by family and friends, like, I don't worry about you, Jake.
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Yeah.
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Like, you don't really worry about you.
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Yeah, every now and then something happens and you're having a hard time.
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But, like, I don't worry about you.
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And all I can really say is that sometimes it feels a little uncomfortable to hear.
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Like, I almost want someone to.
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worry about me.
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Not in the sense that like, I want a reason for them to worry about me, but like you want to, I don't know.
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It just feels a little weird to hear that sometimes.
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And you know, and again, being, being a man, you're not looking for the pat on the back, the support group.
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I mean, I'm not putting those down, but I'm just saying, you're not looking for that kind of mentality.
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Right.
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But having a friend or a mentor, and I really think there can be one in the same.
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It can even be somebody who's subordinate in a certain way that can step up, but can be truthful to you and go, dude, you do need help right now.
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Or what's up with you?
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Yeah.
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And really that honesty, that truth that can hit there, you know.
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And then you're the one who has to decide it's true or not.
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Yeah.
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It still comes down to, like you're saying, you're still on an island.
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You still have to be able to accept that.
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Yeah.
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That's the important part of it.
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Let's start with health.
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Because a few minutes ago before we hit record, you mentioned, let's say you go to a doctor and you're asking for some help with something that you're dealing with.
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And you, at the end of the day, you still need to realize this is your body, not the doctor's body.
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Yeah.
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So you're on an island in that regard.
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Like you can take their advice and you can follow their prescription.
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But at the end of the day, it's still, you're still on your own to figure this out.
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On the other hand, you also mentioned that this is a team sport that is dealing with health.
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It takes a village is what I, is what I heard.
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Say more about all that.
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Well, yeah, you have to be the captain of your own team or I like to say quarterback because I'm a quarterback still.
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But you have to be, you have to take the responsibility.
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And if you're going into the doctor's office and you're sitting, and we sit there and we blame everybody right now.
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Of course, that's America right now.
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It's everybody else's fault, right?
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And yes, our healthcare system is broken in a lot of ways.
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But we blame the doctor.
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Doctors don't have time for you.
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The doctors just did this.
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He just gave me a pill.
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And I want to say, and that's all you wanted.
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You didn't want to make any life changes.
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You wanted something to happen real quick.
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But the doctors, the insurance companies, you know,
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Whoever it is, you're going to blame everybody else.
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When you stop and go, okay, I'm in control of what I'm going to do.
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Now he's my mentor.
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This doctor is a mentor.
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He's a consultant.
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You know, he's an expert.
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And I'm going to get his information.
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I'm going to get other information.
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That's a change in attitude that makes a big difference.
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But it also comes down to a very weird thing that I discovered is you have to have faith.
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You have to have faith in yourself.
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You have to have faith.
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And there's something about faith that changes everything.
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Is that a religious thing to you or not so much?
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Well, you know, it is in a certain, in a lot of ways for me, but that's not the point I'm trying to get at right now.
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It's like, it's actually the actual process of what faith is.
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Because, you know, get this, I go into a doctor and the doctor says, Steve, you have a disease and you're going to die.
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Your first response or my first response, everybody's first response is strange.
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If you think about it, you'll just go like, I knew it.
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I knew it, I knew I failed.
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Also all these negative things, you start rushing in your head.
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I always jokingly say, you start thinking about your fourth grade teacher and she always told you you were not worthy, whatever it is.
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All these things come into your mind instantly.
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I go to the same doctor and I walk in and he says, Steve, you got this horrible disease, but I think we can beat it.
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You don't go, I knew it, I knew we could beat it.
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It doesn't even hit you.
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What hits you is, wait, why?
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Why do you think we can beat it?
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How would we beat it?
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What do you really think so?
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All of a sudden you take this jump of faith and you bring this faith into it, like you're trying to trust this guy.
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He's got a white coat on, he must know what he's talking about.
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You want him to believe everything this guy says now.
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Right?
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That's a very interesting thing.
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But when you take that camera and turn it on yourself,
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Can I have faith in myself?
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Can I have faith that I can get better?
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Can I have faith that I'm even going to go through a process to get better?
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That's different.
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It really is.
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So there's this thing that comes in when you become your own captain.
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You also have to build some tools, faith in yourself, faith in your effort of what you're doing.
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And realize, you know, one thing that I realized, because I did, I was at a point where I
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I had declined to where I was really struggling speaking.
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Um, I was having seizures like once a week or more.
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How old were you?
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57, 58.
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This is all not that long ago.
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Well, it started way back further.
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It started those, I didn't even realize I'd have blackouts clear back when I was like 40, 35, uh, many times I thought I was just drinking or whatever.
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I thought I gave all kinds of reasons.
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I was tired, whatever it was.
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I had one time they found me in a fast lane of a freeway sitting in my car.
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And somehow the guy knew I hadn't been drinking.
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I wasn't on drugs.
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I just blacked out sitting there.
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And he said, you take him to the hospital.
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I didn't go to the hospital.
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I was like, I'll be all right.
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I'm just tired, whatever, you know?
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So no, it was a, it was a lot of my life that these things were happening, but it came to a, to a screeching halt at about 55, 56, uh, where it started happening a lot.
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And then I got to where I just couldn't function.
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I tried to go, I was always, again, talent wise, I could go into business and make some things happen, but I couldn't finish.
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And then I'd fall apart.
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And, uh,
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So I hit a point at like 57-ish where I couldn't be on any more seizure medicine than I was.
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I couldn't be on any more antidepressants than I was on.
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My MOCA score, which is what they kind of see your cognitive, it's a Montreal cognitive score.
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had went down, down, down, down, down to the point where every time I'd go in, I like, why are we doing this test again?
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To see where you're at.
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And anyway, I go through these tests and I was down to like 16, which is almost nonverbal.
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I was 290 pounds.
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I was, I couldn't even hardly bend over.
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I was in the hospital two or three times with a pulmonary embolized, having all these problems.
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And it was just like, okay, I'm done.
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And I decided to go home to be with my mom and dad because I wanted to be with them, but I really thought I was done.
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What was the disease that they diagnosed you with?
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Well, I had PCS, which is post-concussion syndrome.
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So a lot of that was ranging from that.
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We found out that we had
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Really hurt my spine on that first run, 17, didn't realize it.
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So I ended up having discs replaced and some things to get the blood flow back in there.
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And I had lupus as well, which was strange.
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Mostly women have lupus.
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This is what I always thought.
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I had APS, which is, they used to call it sticky blood syndrome.
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Your clot's really weird.
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So, combination of the three and probably drinking too, you know.
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So, all these problems were accumulating and what I have realized with health, you know, when a six-year-old is sick, you say, you know, he's got a runny nose, he's got a cold and that's what he's got.
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When a 60-year-old is sick,
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there's all this confluence of things that you've done in your life that affect how it presents.
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Right.
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And I started to realize that.
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So, yeah, at that time, it was like I was pretty much done.
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And like I said, it took one guy and all he said was, you got to fight this.
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And I was like, I got to find him.
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Is a friend of yours or a doctor?
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Yeah, he's a guy I looked up to, a very successful businessman, actually has a company that develops EEG machines, so he knows the brain.
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So I respected him too.
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You need to respect whoever it is.
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That's one thing that's important.
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But it wasn't like he had an answer.
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He just said, fight.
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And at that point, I'd start turning things around.
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I started getting after it.
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How come that didn't even cross your mind prior to fight?
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Well, you know, I've always been really into research, by the way.
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That's one thing I did a lot of my life was I get hired to research businesses and what have you.
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And so I interviewed a thousand people on that question you're asking right now, on a lot of questions, but that was one of them.
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Why people don't do the things that I'm talking about.
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Why do they not care for other people?
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Why do they not care for themselves?
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And the number one thing always seems strange to me.
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Number one reason was intimidation.
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Isn't that weird?
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They're scared to.
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You're scared to try.
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You don't know what to do.
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You're intimidated by the thought of, you know,
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of like, okay, what, I'm going to become a health expert?
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Yeah.
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You know, whatever it is, what, I'm going to care for somebody.
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I don't know how to give an old lady a shower.
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You know, whatever it is.
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In every area, there's intimidation.
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And then, yes, there's inspiration.
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You know, you have to be able to get that spark.
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But what I learned very quickly is,
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is inspiration isn't going to get you there.
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It comes down to discipline.
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So my new addiction became discipline.
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I'm going to show up.
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That's it.
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Like it or not, when I first started, I was going down to Rivers and...
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and frozen lakes and getting in and doing the, you know, Wim Hof thing.
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And I started developing different routines out of it.
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I didn't just cold plunge.
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I'd get in and do an exercise routine in the water, and I'd do the grounding walk.
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I started building this whole system, which we call the Bray 100 now.
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I have clients say this all the time, I can't sleep at night.
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Start getting up at 4 a.m. Continue to get up at 4 a.m. You'll sleep.
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Especially if you do my program.
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They start doing these things and all of a sudden they're going, day six, they're sleeping.
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But I started getting up and I'd get after it.
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And I'd just show up.
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I don't feel like it.
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In those days, I'd have nights and...
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It's almost funny now to think back, but I mean, I hallucinate.
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I bought this little trailer.
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I'd wake up in the morning and the windows were kicked out of it.
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My dog's sitting in the corner going like, I had a service dog, beautiful dog.
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And she's sitting in the corner going, dude, you should have seen this thing last night.
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You know, I just had these weird experiences.
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But I'd show up.
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And I started developing a very simple program, which is show up, relentlessly pursue, and
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You got to get after whatever it is.
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And you just commit to yourself, I'm going to give it my all, right?
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Every day, don't feel like it, going to give it my all.
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And then the third one, which was the impossible one for me, finish.
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You got to finish.
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So if I lay out, I do it week by week, lay out these are the things I'm going to do.
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I'm going to finish.
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It's just that much.
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It's like, you know, we're talking about commitment.
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What I learned was that
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You don't get anywhere incrementally in getting better.
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You will slide, you'll have problems, things will go right or wrong.
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People that like they're lifting, they're saying I'm up 10 pounds.
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I'm, you know, all these things that we do to ourselves.
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Again, especially my generation, I want somebody to pat me on the back and say I did it.
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I learned that's not the way it worked.
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It wasn't incremental.
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The math was entirely different.
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It was what I call all in.
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Is that, and the example I usually use is water.
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You know, water is hot at 120.
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It's hotter at 147.
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It's very hot at 210.
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But it's still frigging water.
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It's still the same.
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It'll cool right back down if you don't keep the heat on it.
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At 212, it changes forms.
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It's entirely a different thing at 212, right?
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It goes away.
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You know, it changes.
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It goes to a vapor, right?
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That's all in.
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And when you're committed to all in, to change,
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then these incremental things don't matter.
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And now it's a process, it's loving the process of lifting and working out and dieting and stuff.
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It's not dieting because I'm on a diet, it's dieting because this is the new me.
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And even on my run, this is kind of a different story, but my dad had passed away and he was one of our first people we used in our software called Home Teams, it helps him.
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But in the last couple of days,
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I still think this is just amazing.
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Couple of days left in his life.
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He's laying in bed, 92 years old.
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He looks up and he says, welcome to the beginning.
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I was like, what?
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I mean, it was like this deep thought.
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Here's this guy who's lived his whole life and he always believed in eternal life.
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And he was like, welcome to the beginning.
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And I was like, that just stuck in my mind.
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And when I was running my 350 miles, I kept thinking about that over and over again.
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And the pain and the feeling he was going through.
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And I'm out there, you know, going through what I'm going through.
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I'm like, this is for fun, right?
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This is for life is what he was fighting.
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And then it would finally come back to me after, you know, I'd have a 50-mile day, 70-mile day.
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And I'd be like going, I got it.
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The experience is wonderful.
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And at the very end, the last day, it was funny, last day I had people who were coming out to run with me and stuff, and they're all celebrating.
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I'm dying, right?
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I can't even breathe.
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I can't even think.
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And I thought, welcome to the beginning.
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Because the truth is, is like, even when you're training, you're trying to improve, you're getting healthier.
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And that was, to me, a huge proof because I couldn't go more than 500 yards when I started.
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That's a true story.
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And now I'm doing 350 miles.
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What do I do now?
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Welcome to the beginning.
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I'm a new being.
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It's like, I have a new start on life.
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Where am I going to go now?
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And it's not like this esoteric, like, I'm going to change the world.
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I kind of think that way.
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But at the same time, it's just about living my life.
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Every single day has purpose.
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And that was the change.
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It's like, one of the biggest changes I had, Jake, is that is to realize I decided I was going to think on purpose.
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Think about that for a second.
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That's really strange.
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We don't think on purpose.
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We think on whatever's coming around, whatever we're responding to.
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You think somewhere between 12,000 and 40,000, or there's all these numbers, times a day.
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More than you breathe, you think.
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So what happens if I started every one of those thoughts on purpose?
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Now, you can't do it.
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I've tried.
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It's hard.
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But you can start changing a lot of it to where I'm going, everything I'm doing, I'm going to get up in the morning, I'm getting up on purpose.
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I'm stretching.
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I'm doing my stuff on purpose.
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I'm hitting the cold on purpose.
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I'm drinking the water on purpose.
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Everything's on purpose.
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And all of a sudden, your day starts kind of going in a different direction.
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No inspiration about it.
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It's the discipline of doing it.
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But then the inspiration comes, right?
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All of a sudden, it starts to, you start to feel the changes.
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It's a bicep.
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What the heck?
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You know, you get so used to being, you know, when you're way overweight, you can't even feel your muscles, right?
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Also, you know, like, hey, that's actually what it is.
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You know, talking about now brain to body, body to brain connection, all these things start to happen, right?
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But it's because it's on purpose.
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Let's talk about discipline.
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I know I've heard a lot of people say, oh, I'm just not that disciplined.
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I'm just not a very disciplined person.
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Right.
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What do you think they're saying?
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And what do we, how do we respond?
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I think discipline is something is, is, yes, there's some people are more disciplined by nature than others, but it's a learned thing.
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And you just got to start out and be simple.
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You know, one of the things I always tell people in our program is that you start out very simple, you know, and I actually don't believe in goals.
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I was trying to say, I shouldn't say don't believe in them, but it's not what I focus on.
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Let's put it that way.
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I think you, you, I use what they call way, what I call waypoints.
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I'm on a path.
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You know, if you're ever in the mountains, you're on a path and you're climbing up this hill and whatever.
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And you kind of get to the spot and you look out and you go, oh, I came from down there by the river and I'm going up there.
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That's the waypoint.
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And so constantly looking at your waypoints, not I'm going to get to this ledge.
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You name my company, the Bray, which is Scottish for side of the hill, because there is no, there's no plateau.
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in life, you're either going up or you're going down.
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So when you kind of have that philosophy, even you have a bad day.
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Yeah.
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Well, same thing when I'm up in the mountains, there's times where I got to go back down through the river to get back up to the other spot.
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It happens.
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But if you keep with just taking it one step at a time, discipline starts to happen.
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And discipline becomes, I think it takes about a hundred days.
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That's what we call the Bray 100.
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It takes a period of time to start to change.
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But again, at the end is the beginning.
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So discipline is something that's learned, it's grown, it's like a muscle that it evolves to.
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What's the Bray 100?
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Brain 100 is just something I made up, I guess.
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It's 100 days that you commit to.
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And I have people come to me that have Parkinson's, have Alzheimer's, have a lot of guys that have given up on life.
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A lot of people that have attempted suicide or are thinking about suicide or just got out of prison or even are in prison.
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And they're saying, man, my life sucks.
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I've ruined everybody.
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You know, it came from my conversation with Chris, this guy in my arm, because I had met with him and he had agreed he wasn't going to commit suicide.
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He had attempted once before.
468
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And then all of a sudden he calls me and he says, I'm out.
469
00:22:48.842 --> 00:22:54.467
And to this day, I can't wait to see him sometime in the afterlife to be able to say, dude, you weren't out.
470
00:22:54.607 --> 00:22:57.710
But his whole thing was he goes, I've hurt everybody, everybody.
471
00:22:57.730 --> 00:22:59.652
I'm a burden on everybody in my life.
472
00:22:59.832 --> 00:23:00.173
I'm out.
473
00:23:00.848 --> 00:23:01.669
I don't want to be a burden.
474
00:23:02.229 --> 00:23:06.833
But he didn't realize that it's just one step.
475
00:23:07.233 --> 00:23:08.374
It's one extra day.
476
00:23:08.774 --> 00:23:13.558
Now I have people come to me that are that way, and I say, okay, you said you try to commit suicide.
477
00:23:14.078 --> 00:23:21.444
And I know this is not probably right as far as a psychologist would say, but I'll tell him, okay, that option's there.
478
00:23:22.124 --> 00:23:23.045
Can you give yourself 100 days?
479
00:23:24.375 --> 00:23:24.936
What's the matter?
480
00:23:25.116 --> 00:23:26.177
You're gonna be out anyway.
481
00:23:26.797 --> 00:23:28.239
So what if you gave yourself a hundred days?
482
00:23:28.479 --> 00:23:30.901
What if you pretended to try to get well?
483
00:23:31.402 --> 00:23:38.448
It sounds crazy, but I literally say that to them because if you just put in the discipline, the time, and go for it.
484
00:23:38.728 --> 00:23:44.874
And so the Brain 100 started with this a hundred day, I'm gonna commit to a hundred days of changing my life.
485
00:23:44.994 --> 00:23:46.515
And so that's- Why 100?
486
00:23:48.345 --> 00:23:48.745
You know why?
487
00:23:48.805 --> 00:23:49.865
I did a lot of them.
488
00:23:50.246 --> 00:23:52.326
I've done a lot of them.
489
00:23:52.786 --> 00:23:55.147
And you don't see change in 30 days.
490
00:23:55.727 --> 00:23:55.887
Right.
491
00:23:56.167 --> 00:23:56.787
You're just starting.
492
00:23:56.807 --> 00:23:57.908
You don't see it in 60.
493
00:23:58.708 --> 00:24:08.511
And there's this spot where you start to, like, even in my book, I kind of use the Bray 100 as an analogy in the run.
494
00:24:09.271 --> 00:24:12.072
My run I went on was based on a Bray 100.
495
00:24:12.392 --> 00:24:14.052
You start up the mountain, right?
496
00:24:14.212 --> 00:24:15.533
Where I started with the mountain was like,
497
00:24:16.173 --> 00:24:16.834
bushwhacking.
498
00:24:16.874 --> 00:24:18.515
It wasn't even a trail to follow.
499
00:24:19.316 --> 00:24:21.378
And that's what it's like when you're starting to try to get better.
500
00:24:21.678 --> 00:24:24.741
You're just, you find yourself, you're all fired up, you're going to get better.
501
00:24:24.781 --> 00:24:28.304
And all of a sudden you're just like, how the hell did I get through these mountains here?
502
00:24:28.805 --> 00:24:31.587
And then there was like, you get to, you thought that was hard.
503
00:24:31.607 --> 00:24:36.031
And all of a sudden you get to these peaks that you have to climb and it's straight climbing.
504
00:24:36.772 --> 00:24:40.676
And for a 65 year old, at the time this arm didn't work.
505
00:24:41.196 --> 00:24:42.437
That's rough, right?
506
00:24:42.497 --> 00:24:44.158
And that's the same with the Brave 100.
507
00:24:44.278 --> 00:24:45.099
You hit these spots.
508
00:24:45.339 --> 00:24:46.600
And then you get spots where you're going downhill.
509
00:24:47.160 --> 00:24:49.022
And you're going like, man, actually, I feel pretty good.
510
00:24:49.402 --> 00:24:55.286
And I think of on my run, there was a spot where I had about a 25-mile downhill area.
511
00:24:55.706 --> 00:24:56.987
And I was like, man, I feel good.
512
00:24:57.307 --> 00:24:58.808
I couldn't believe it.
513
00:24:58.889 --> 00:25:04.793
I was looking at my heart rate because my heart rate, my resting heart rate is 110 when I started, my Brave 100.
514
00:25:05.333 --> 00:25:08.156
I'm out there running, and I'm looking down, I'm like 78.
515
00:25:08.416 --> 00:25:09.477
I'm like, dude.
516
00:25:10.118 --> 00:25:12.240
You know, so you get all euphoric.
517
00:25:12.860 --> 00:25:15.463
And then all of a sudden I had to come to a lake that I had to cross.
518
00:25:15.863 --> 00:25:23.810
You know, anyway, my point is, is like that's, the Bray 100 is because of that, is that 100 days, you kind of go through these different zones.
519
00:25:24.171 --> 00:25:27.414
And you finally get to this area where it's just one foot after another.
520
00:25:28.054 --> 00:25:30.056
And this is same in the 100 days.
521
00:25:30.076 --> 00:25:36.100
You get out there in day 70, and all of a sudden, it's this routine that's happening.
522
00:25:36.700 --> 00:25:37.861
And that's where you break.
523
00:25:39.022 --> 00:25:40.082
Or you don't.
524
00:25:41.363 --> 00:25:46.286
And that's this incredible feeling when you're like, I never could have gotten here, and I'm here.
525
00:25:47.087 --> 00:25:48.508
I got really, really sick.
526
00:25:48.648 --> 00:25:51.870
I had a bacterial infection from the water or something.
527
00:25:51.890 --> 00:25:52.310
Yeah.
528
00:25:53.277 --> 00:25:55.179
Won't go into the detail, but it was bad, right?
529
00:25:55.880 --> 00:26:01.565
And I was just, there was one night where I was just laying in the bushes, and I was trying to get up, and I couldn't get up.
530
00:26:01.585 --> 00:26:02.406
I kept falling down.
531
00:26:02.886 --> 00:26:05.709
I had missed the place that they were supposed to pick me up.
532
00:26:06.490 --> 00:26:07.571
And I was just like, okay.
533
00:26:07.591 --> 00:26:13.817
And I had this beacon, and twice I had my hand on the SOS thing where then they come get you.
534
00:26:14.918 --> 00:26:16.840
And finally I was like, I got to get down to water.
535
00:26:17.761 --> 00:26:21.063
And so I was trying to get up and walk down to the water.
536
00:26:21.263 --> 00:26:22.063
And I started walking.
537
00:26:22.563 --> 00:26:23.464
And I was like, I'm walking.
538
00:26:24.104 --> 00:26:26.325
And I just turned and I started down the path again.
539
00:26:26.685 --> 00:26:28.947
And I was like, you know what?
540
00:26:28.967 --> 00:26:30.407
I got this.
541
00:26:30.427 --> 00:26:34.969
And then about, I don't know how many miles later, it was lost.
542
00:26:35.009 --> 00:26:36.630
It was this crazy area.
543
00:26:37.050 --> 00:26:37.751
Where was it?
544
00:26:38.311 --> 00:26:42.213
I started in the Walao Mountains, went over the Walao Mountains, went down these rivers.
545
00:26:42.613 --> 00:26:45.415
Then you go down the Snake River, back to where I'm from.
546
00:26:45.435 --> 00:26:45.655
Yeah.
547
00:26:46.671 --> 00:26:49.333
And anyway, I was walking and also I see this bean out there.
548
00:26:49.353 --> 00:26:51.274
This is, I'm like, I was like, what is that?
549
00:26:51.294 --> 00:26:53.035
And then all of a sudden I realized it was my wife.
550
00:26:53.815 --> 00:27:00.159
Here she had spotted me on the other side of the river and she had coming up and she was walking up this river, she had water and everything.
551
00:27:00.539 --> 00:27:03.020
Talking about emotional, I was just like, you gotta be kidding me.
552
00:27:03.120 --> 00:27:04.421
This is just so amazing.
553
00:27:04.901 --> 00:27:07.763
But when I got to her, I was like, I'm gonna make it.
554
00:27:08.443 --> 00:27:09.564
I'm actually going to make it.
555
00:27:09.864 --> 00:27:18.487
And that, in my analogy or whatever, I call that a misogu, which is Japanese for water purification, something like that.
556
00:27:18.507 --> 00:27:21.488
But what it means to me is like, this is your purification thing you're going to do.
557
00:27:22.169 --> 00:27:24.349
And at that point, I was like,
558
00:27:25.870 --> 00:27:30.551
I actually came out here just to leave it all in the field, but I'm actually going to make it.
559
00:27:31.212 --> 00:27:32.852
It's like nothing's going to stop me.
560
00:27:32.932 --> 00:27:35.673
And I find the same thing happens within the Bray 100.
561
00:27:36.173 --> 00:27:45.556
I got people that are fighting horrible chronic diseases, even terminal, and they go through the Bray 100 and you watch they begin to thrive.
562
00:27:45.616 --> 00:27:47.216
All of a sudden, every day matters.
563
00:27:47.716 --> 00:27:50.357
And yes, I mean, I have some people that were terminal.
564
00:27:50.377 --> 00:27:53.258
They were supposed to die in days and live four or five years.
565
00:27:53.298 --> 00:27:53.398
Yeah.
566
00:27:54.178 --> 00:27:54.938
But they thrived.
567
00:27:55.779 --> 00:27:57.640
So it's 100 days to turn your life around.
568
00:27:58.300 --> 00:28:01.061
Is it the same day one, day two, day three for everybody?
569
00:28:01.081 --> 00:28:04.243
Or is it a custom plan for them based off what they're trying to do?
570
00:28:04.503 --> 00:28:05.283
Absolute custom.
571
00:28:05.924 --> 00:28:07.565
It's the whole system.
572
00:28:07.585 --> 00:28:10.406
You we're we're trying to get it to where you can do it on your own.
573
00:28:10.906 --> 00:28:14.148
At this point right now, I usually end up doing it for people.
574
00:28:14.648 --> 00:28:16.969
we've really focused on our home team software.
575
00:28:17.749 --> 00:28:19.889
And we do have a brace software that's just about done.
576
00:28:21.130 --> 00:28:22.170
But, yeah, it's custom.
577
00:28:22.550 --> 00:28:24.130
And a lot of it is research.
578
00:28:24.450 --> 00:28:25.251
I love research.
579
00:28:25.291 --> 00:28:26.851
I've got a group that loves research now.
580
00:28:27.351 --> 00:28:28.711
So they get in touch with them.
581
00:28:29.192 --> 00:28:37.294
Or I will find or people find our experts that find doctors who actually believe you can get better, who are willing to fight with you to get better.
582
00:28:38.034 --> 00:28:40.474
And we get out there on some stuff that we do.
583
00:28:40.814 --> 00:28:42.755
But it really comes down to the base of technology.
584
00:28:43.395 --> 00:28:44.437
starting to develop faith.
585
00:28:44.517 --> 00:28:52.089
And then probably the most important part, Jake, is you start to expect to get better.
586
00:28:52.109 --> 00:28:57.818
I was going to ask, which is actually kind of a segue into it, what are the core tenets in your mind of the 100 days?
587
00:28:58.533 --> 00:29:00.035
Well, we'll go two ways with that.
588
00:29:00.635 --> 00:29:04.219
But, you know, we have a really simple program that has what I call the seven essentials.
589
00:29:04.900 --> 00:29:11.067
But it's just, you know, you're going to do some amazingly creative things called sleep.
590
00:29:12.329 --> 00:29:13.910
We work on learning how to sleep.
591
00:29:15.372 --> 00:29:15.772
Water.
592
00:29:16.393 --> 00:29:23.637
You know, very simple things, proper nutrition, movement, learning how to move throughout the day, learning how to start to move.
593
00:29:23.717 --> 00:29:27.419
You know, we have these key little things like that are just very, very simple.
594
00:29:27.799 --> 00:29:38.965
And then there's some key parts, which is learning to take responsibility for your life and to expect to get better.
595
00:29:38.985 --> 00:29:41.387
And expectation is amazing.
596
00:29:42.087 --> 00:29:51.736
And I always tell people, you know, I can, and our doctors do this on accident in a lot of ways, or not an accident, but on the way the system's set up.
597
00:29:51.917 --> 00:29:56.501
You know, you go to a doctor, he's got 15 minutes to give you a CPT code and put initials on it.
598
00:29:57.182 --> 00:30:03.688
And in my, what I try to teach our clients is like, who gives a rat's ass what they put initials on it?
599
00:30:04.512 --> 00:30:06.253
How is it going to affect how you're going to get better?
600
00:30:06.814 --> 00:30:11.218
Even testing, people come, you know, when I was sick, they'd say, we're going to do the Montreal test again.
601
00:30:11.558 --> 00:30:12.058
I'd say, why?
602
00:30:12.459 --> 00:30:13.880
Well, we want to know where you're at, Steve.
603
00:30:14.480 --> 00:30:14.941
I'm in hell.
604
00:30:15.041 --> 00:30:15.601
That's where I'm at.
605
00:30:16.182 --> 00:30:19.244
I don't really know if I'm a 16 or a 17 or who cares?
606
00:30:19.865 --> 00:30:21.366
And same with a lot of the other tests.
607
00:30:21.666 --> 00:30:28.092
So I got to the point where it's like, okay, how is the test you're going to give me going to help you make me better?
608
00:30:29.287 --> 00:30:31.309
What is he going to do to change on how you're treating me?
609
00:30:31.989 --> 00:30:33.690
If you got that test, I'll take that test.
610
00:30:34.291 --> 00:30:40.535
And it's that kind of like taking responsibility of making sure everything is focused on getting better and expecting.
611
00:30:40.916 --> 00:30:47.461
And so, you know, we have all kinds of modalities we do at our clinic and I teach people to do wherever they're at.
612
00:30:47.821 --> 00:30:50.663
But, you know, the modalities are like this.
613
00:30:50.703 --> 00:30:51.243
It's like you have...
614
00:30:52.124 --> 00:30:53.846
I use the example of a hyperbaric chamber.
615
00:30:54.406 --> 00:30:56.548
I can take somebody and put them in our hyperbaric chamber.
616
00:30:57.268 --> 00:30:58.289
Get in the hyperbaric chamber.
617
00:30:58.669 --> 00:31:00.311
We're going to do this every day, five days a week.
618
00:31:01.411 --> 00:31:01.852
Ready, break.
619
00:31:02.372 --> 00:31:05.315
And they're not going to have the success they can have.
620
00:31:05.695 --> 00:31:07.536
And this sounds a little woo-woo, but it's not.
621
00:31:07.556 --> 00:31:08.937
There's a lot of research behind this.
622
00:31:09.378 --> 00:31:12.160
But I take the same guy and I say, okay, I'm going to have a hyperbaric chamber.
623
00:31:12.240 --> 00:31:13.661
You're going to get in the hyperbaric chamber.
624
00:31:14.121 --> 00:31:20.743
And University of Tel Aviv did all this research on how this affects your telomeres and how we're going to press this oxygen into your system.
625
00:31:21.023 --> 00:31:24.824
And we're going to get all this more oxygen into your brain than can normally go in there.
626
00:31:25.084 --> 00:31:30.266
And we're going to teach you to do certain drills while you're in there to work on your thought process.
627
00:31:30.426 --> 00:31:32.167
And I lay it all out for them.
628
00:31:32.907 --> 00:31:33.808
Every single day.
629
00:31:33.908 --> 00:31:35.270
Okay, you're getting in the hyperbaric chamber.
630
00:31:35.290 --> 00:31:36.111
Da-da-da-da-da-da-da.
631
00:31:36.211 --> 00:31:36.912
I go through it again.
632
00:31:37.332 --> 00:31:40.456
About week two or three, I walk up to the hyperbaric chamber.
633
00:31:40.476 --> 00:31:42.158
I say, why are you getting in the hyperbaric chamber?
634
00:31:42.718 --> 00:31:44.941
And the guy says, I'm getting in here because this is what it's going to do.
635
00:31:45.802 --> 00:31:46.923
That's when he starts to get well.
636
00:31:47.776 --> 00:31:50.858
And with everything you're doing, why are you doing cold therapy?
637
00:31:51.199 --> 00:31:52.620
Cold therapy doesn't really work.
638
00:31:53.120 --> 00:31:55.922
And I'll tell you, cold therapy means nothing.
639
00:31:56.383 --> 00:31:57.343
And it means everything.
640
00:31:57.644 --> 00:31:59.285
And that's the way each of these modalities are.
641
00:31:59.685 --> 00:32:04.249
If you focus on what cold therapy, and I say therapy because we do cold plunge.
642
00:32:04.269 --> 00:32:06.590
I have three cold plunges at my clinic.
643
00:32:07.091 --> 00:32:09.293
But it's so much more.
644
00:32:09.953 --> 00:32:16.896
than that and heat and trans-cranial photomodulation and all these different things.
645
00:32:17.556 --> 00:32:19.477
Resistance training, why are you doing resistance training?
646
00:32:20.217 --> 00:32:24.339
And we help them start to expect why these things are making them better.
647
00:32:24.939 --> 00:32:25.539
And guess what?
648
00:32:26.500 --> 00:32:28.360
If they're all in, they get better.
649
00:32:28.380 --> 00:32:29.941
I'm not saying they're cured.
650
00:32:30.441 --> 00:32:31.161
You know, we've had...
651
00:32:32.751 --> 00:32:39.439
Neuro researcher, neurologist, all these different people come to our clinic to see what we do because people do get better.
652
00:32:39.540 --> 00:32:44.005
And we're actually doing an IRB with University of California, San Diego right now.
653
00:32:45.467 --> 00:32:48.551
But what we find is it's this attitude.
654
00:32:49.392 --> 00:32:50.774
And it's not to put down the therapies.
655
00:32:51.924 --> 00:33:04.809
And it's not that, you know, these different experts, and I always say my expertise is not being an expert because I get a chance to look at everybody else's, but you take the guy on hyperbaric chambers and he can tell you all these things that are going to do and, but it's not it.
656
00:33:05.450 --> 00:33:11.632
I'm saying you got to stack them and it's not the two hours you're at the clinic, it's the 22 hours you're not at the clinic that make the difference.
657
00:33:12.032 --> 00:33:14.193
So that expectation is a real tenant for us.
658
00:33:14.993 --> 00:33:21.036
So let's recap, born alone, die alone, almost this element of like
659
00:33:22.744 --> 00:33:24.185
sad existence of independence.
660
00:33:25.466 --> 00:33:31.029
How do we as people or as men not think of that in such a negative way?
661
00:33:31.769 --> 00:33:33.170
Because I think you gotta modify it.
662
00:33:33.771 --> 00:33:41.115
It's like, yes, born with the responsibility of my life, living and dying with the responsibility of my own life, but I'm not alone.
663
00:33:41.815 --> 00:33:42.956
You're not alone.
664
00:33:43.156 --> 00:33:44.957
And don't let yourself think you're alone.
665
00:33:44.997 --> 00:33:45.738
That is wrong.
666
00:33:46.098 --> 00:33:50.981
If you're, you know, you don't get better, let's just say you get better by the environment.
667
00:33:51.976 --> 00:33:52.836
more than anything else.
668
00:33:53.736 --> 00:33:55.617
Surround yourself with an environment that's healthy.
669
00:33:56.597 --> 00:34:03.599
You have to be man enough to go, I'm not going down to the bar anymore, or whatever it is, I'm not hanging out with those guys anymore, that guy doesn't believe in me.
670
00:34:03.959 --> 00:34:13.241
That one, you know, you start looking around and you start, you know, I like to say, like on a home team, you have your family, but you have your family by sword.
671
00:34:14.541 --> 00:34:16.542
What I mean by that is that the people who fight with you,
672
00:34:17.673 --> 00:34:20.055
Those are your, that's your family, right?
673
00:34:20.636 --> 00:34:25.941
And you'll start to find these people around you who are like-minded, who are willing to support what you're doing.
674
00:34:26.421 --> 00:34:28.163
And yes, you're still responsible.
675
00:34:28.183 --> 00:34:31.266
So you're still alone, if you will, in your analogy there.
676
00:34:31.727 --> 00:34:33.748
But at the same time, you're a team.
677
00:34:34.409 --> 00:34:36.349
And it doesn't need to be 15, 20 people.
678
00:34:36.369 --> 00:34:39.190
It doesn't mean rah-rah, we can sit around and hold hands.
679
00:34:39.250 --> 00:34:42.491
And, you know, I'm not trying to make fun of people, but I'm just saying.
680
00:34:42.991 --> 00:34:45.032
It's that kind of a mentality.
681
00:34:45.052 --> 00:34:47.552
You've got to find your mentality that supports you.
682
00:34:48.052 --> 00:35:03.736
I think a lot about the, let's call it, 25-year-old dude who is lonely as s***, doesn't really have his team, and spends a lot of time playing video games, a lot of time watching porn, a lot of time talking to Chad GPT as his therapist, probably.
683
00:35:04.857 --> 00:35:07.300
and where does that guy start?
684
00:35:07.780 --> 00:35:08.581
It starts today.
685
00:35:10.103 --> 00:35:10.984
It's this simple.
686
00:35:11.965 --> 00:35:13.367
Again, you don't feel this?
687
00:35:13.707 --> 00:35:14.168
Pretend.
688
00:35:14.789 --> 00:35:15.409
Just try it.
689
00:35:15.450 --> 00:35:16.050
I dare you.
690
00:35:17.232 --> 00:35:18.133
Go care for somebody.
691
00:35:19.324 --> 00:35:19.724
Anybody.
692
00:35:20.084 --> 00:35:27.088
When I first started, it wasn't like, okay, I'm going to go work at the soup kitchen or I'm going to create a new charity.
693
00:35:27.848 --> 00:35:34.671
No, my first one, which I always bring up, I was at Walmart and a lady's thing tipped over at the door, getting out the door.
694
00:35:35.411 --> 00:35:36.932
I looked around and nobody was there.
695
00:35:37.452 --> 00:35:41.854
I walked over, I picked the stuff up, got her up, helped her in her thing, and she went out the door.
696
00:35:41.874 --> 00:35:42.975
And I walked out the car and said,
697
00:35:43.753 --> 00:35:46.055
wow, I was actually here for a reason today.
698
00:35:46.515 --> 00:35:49.897
That one stupid little thing, I went back and I wrote it down.
699
00:35:50.298 --> 00:35:51.238
That's why I was here today.
700
00:35:51.859 --> 00:35:52.639
I was the one person.
701
00:35:52.740 --> 00:35:52.900
Yeah.
702
00:35:53.180 --> 00:35:55.902
And so start today and then watch that grow.
703
00:35:55.922 --> 00:35:59.264
All of a sudden it's like, you know what, that neighbor lady can't even take out her stuff.
704
00:35:59.705 --> 00:36:03.487
And all of a sudden you start caring for other people and all of a sudden you start crawling out of this thing.
705
00:36:03.908 --> 00:36:08.031
Because, you know, even, it was a real weird thing just the other day, um,
706
00:36:10.090 --> 00:36:14.073
what is it called, clodbot, you know, like these AIs talking to each other.
707
00:36:14.814 --> 00:36:18.076
And the AIs came with this saying, memory is sacred.
708
00:36:19.057 --> 00:36:21.679
Which is, it's a whole other story how weird that is.
709
00:36:21.759 --> 00:36:22.940
But it is.
710
00:36:24.041 --> 00:36:27.644
In that create, you know, you can sit there and play your video games.
711
00:36:27.785 --> 00:36:31.328
You can't remember which day was what and what, you know, level you got to.
712
00:36:31.808 --> 00:36:32.509
Create a memory.
713
00:36:33.209 --> 00:36:35.110
And let the memory be positive.
714
00:36:35.651 --> 00:36:38.953
Not in a candy positive, just do something for somebody else.
715
00:36:39.313 --> 00:36:41.114
Caring is the healthiest thing you can possibly do.
716
00:36:41.474 --> 00:36:50.380
And when you start learning that, you start to learn to care for yourself, and you start to bridge these gaps of existing, if you will.
717
00:36:51.388 --> 00:36:53.310
I remember a couple years ago I was having a debate with a friend.
718
00:36:53.330 --> 00:36:58.654
We were talking about how being selfish is actually the most selfless thing you can do.
719
00:36:59.734 --> 00:37:04.618
The context was take good care of yourself first so you can take better care of others.
720
00:37:05.119 --> 00:37:09.342
And at one point in the conversation it actually switched around, which was by being selfless.
721
00:37:09.902 --> 00:37:11.964
It's actually the most selfish thing you can do as well.
722
00:37:12.624 --> 00:37:16.808
Because how good you feel about yourself when you are helping others essentially.
723
00:37:17.588 --> 00:37:19.710
And that came to mind for me when you were sharing that a little bit.
724
00:37:20.470 --> 00:37:25.834
Love your answer, which is like the first place to start is just go help somebody and like keep it a really make a really small thing.
725
00:37:26.134 --> 00:37:29.857
And then do another thing that's maybe a tiny bit bigger and just keep going from there.
726
00:37:29.937 --> 00:37:32.579
The momentum of that breeds results.
727
00:37:32.999 --> 00:37:36.822
What comes to mind for you in the notion of selfishness and selflessness?
728
00:37:37.254 --> 00:37:40.656
Well, I would agree with the fact that you got to put your own oxygen mask on first.
729
00:37:40.696 --> 00:37:40.936
Yeah.
730
00:37:41.496 --> 00:37:46.899
You know, getting healthier is, I don't even think it's an option.
731
00:37:47.499 --> 00:37:50.481
You want to talk about being selfish is not being healthy.
732
00:37:50.881 --> 00:37:52.862
You are going to weigh on everybody someday.
733
00:37:53.522 --> 00:37:55.363
if not right now.
734
00:37:55.703 --> 00:38:00.686
And frankly, you're limiting your ability to truly experience life.
735
00:38:01.407 --> 00:38:03.308
So yes, put on your own Octumask first.
736
00:38:03.808 --> 00:38:05.089
Get yourself together.
737
00:38:05.449 --> 00:38:09.951
And so that is a selfless move, right?
738
00:38:10.551 --> 00:38:20.917
And I would agree with the fact that the return, you know, in our home teams, let me tell you a quick story, but in our home teams, what we do is we help people develop relationships
739
00:38:22.185 --> 00:38:22.505
a team.
740
00:38:22.965 --> 00:38:26.787
And it's like, okay, grandma's sick and we're going to take care of grandma.
741
00:38:27.067 --> 00:38:29.188
And our software helps you kind of assemble the team.
742
00:38:29.208 --> 00:38:40.994
And it's always crazy, by the way, there's like also this lady down the street, somebody from the church, it's some guy from, you know, and all these people start coming together that say, I can't take care of her, but I could go get her a cup of coffee.
743
00:38:41.634 --> 00:38:43.718
Or I could, you know, all these things start to happen.
744
00:38:43.838 --> 00:38:44.640
I'd give her a shower.
745
00:38:44.660 --> 00:38:46.783
A lady down the street was an RN.
746
00:38:46.803 --> 00:38:47.344
I didn't know that.
747
00:38:47.364 --> 00:38:50.210
And she says, I can come over and put in her puric catheter or whatever it is.
748
00:38:50.851 --> 00:38:52.313
And all of a sudden, she started to go on this team.
749
00:38:52.774 --> 00:38:53.876
And the team has a purpose.
750
00:38:54.973 --> 00:39:03.100
And all of a sudden you see this kind of bridging of people coming together and because they have purpose, they start to function in a, in a different way.
751
00:39:03.120 --> 00:39:08.805
It's like, you can go all the way to whatever, New York, when the, when they hit the towers, you watch the whole city come together.
752
00:39:09.445 --> 00:39:12.028
And same thing starts having these little communities that come together.
753
00:39:12.748 --> 00:39:19.314
And, but in that, one of the things that we learned over the last four or five years is that, and I did it with my own mom.
754
00:39:19.694 --> 00:39:21.716
I said, okay, mom, so how are you going to care for people?
755
00:39:22.217 --> 00:39:22.437
What?
756
00:39:23.037 --> 00:39:24.478
Well, you're still on this earth for a reason.
757
00:39:24.518 --> 00:39:25.778
What are you, you're here for?
758
00:39:25.818 --> 00:39:26.398
What are you gonna do?
759
00:39:27.299 --> 00:39:32.380
And you watch this lady who couldn't move, had a Jefferson fracture, so she had a broken neck.
760
00:39:33.361 --> 00:39:37.082
She had, her GFR was at three, so her kidney function was gone.
761
00:39:37.102 --> 00:39:38.423
I mean, she couldn't do anything.
762
00:39:39.023 --> 00:39:42.444
All of a sudden, I'd go over there every morning for a workout, I'd go over at 4 a.m., and she'd say,
763
00:39:42.924 --> 00:39:43.905
Steve, we got a problem.
764
00:39:44.205 --> 00:39:45.446
That's how she started everything out.
765
00:39:45.986 --> 00:39:49.168
There's a lady that's coming to see me today and to take care of me.
766
00:39:49.208 --> 00:39:52.290
And her, she's going through a divorce and she thinks it's the end of the world.
767
00:39:52.351 --> 00:39:53.271
And I need to tell her.
768
00:39:53.832 --> 00:39:56.413
All of a sudden, this 90-year-old wisdom started coming out of her.
769
00:39:56.954 --> 00:39:59.515
And all of a sudden, she was caring for all the people who were caring for her.
770
00:40:00.096 --> 00:40:01.337
And you watch her start to thrive.
771
00:40:01.957 --> 00:40:04.879
Because all of a sudden she realized, I do have purpose today.
772
00:40:05.600 --> 00:40:05.800
Right?
773
00:40:05.840 --> 00:40:07.862
And it started to change this whole attitude.
774
00:40:08.262 --> 00:40:14.588
And so to me, yes, you know, and by the way, caring for somebody by yourself is the hardest thing you possibly do.
775
00:40:15.088 --> 00:40:15.929
It is ridiculous.
776
00:40:16.589 --> 00:40:19.111
But when you care as a team, it's like fusion.
777
00:40:19.131 --> 00:40:19.532
Yeah.
778
00:40:19.972 --> 00:40:22.354
The, all of a sudden the nephew never did anything.
779
00:40:22.394 --> 00:40:23.995
All of a sudden he's like rising up.
780
00:40:24.015 --> 00:40:27.557
The other guy who is, you know, having a problem in his life, the guy just got out of jail.
781
00:40:27.577 --> 00:40:31.179
It was like, no one, you know, thinks he, he thinks his life is over.
782
00:40:31.199 --> 00:40:32.880
All of a sudden all these people start getting purposed.
783
00:40:33.521 --> 00:40:43.307
So to me, the selfless kind of example is, let's say the actions of selflessness brings a lot more to yourself.
784
00:40:44.347 --> 00:40:44.748
Say it again.
785
00:40:45.914 --> 00:40:48.555
I think the actions of being selfless.
786
00:40:48.995 --> 00:40:49.195
Yeah.
787
00:40:49.675 --> 00:41:01.259
Bring so much to yourself that, you know, you could, you could make a case that it's being very selfish in a way that's like a, a boomerang thing that happens and like it or not, it's gonna happen.
788
00:41:01.879 --> 00:41:07.641
And yeah, there's no reason, you know, there's no reason I think about all the, the cocky things people are proud of in this world.
789
00:41:08.161 --> 00:41:10.161
You know, I'm going to be a rap star, whatever it is.
790
00:41:10.642 --> 00:41:12.462
If I could just do this thing, I'd be cool.
791
00:41:13.062 --> 00:41:15.603
I'll tell you what's cool is learning to care.
792
00:41:16.263 --> 00:41:18.663
And there's no reason why you can't take pride in that.
793
00:41:19.183 --> 00:41:22.824
Like, man, check us out as a little community, as a little group.
794
00:41:23.104 --> 00:41:28.585
You watch the pride just start to beam, you know, when they're accomplishing things.
795
00:41:28.625 --> 00:41:29.546
And why shouldn't it?
796
00:41:30.186 --> 00:41:30.906
This should be the thing.
797
00:41:31.206 --> 00:41:33.627
You know, when I was trying to play football, man, I worked hard.
798
00:41:34.127 --> 00:41:35.227
I worked very, very hard.
799
00:41:36.027 --> 00:41:40.190
And I took such pride in the fact that I would, you know, have a success or whatever it is.
800
00:41:41.091 --> 00:41:51.439
How stupid, I mean, nothing wrong with it, but I'm just saying how stupid is that compare and compared to saving a life, to caring for somebody making a difference in a person's life.
801
00:41:52.059 --> 00:41:56.603
You know, the old saying that, you know, no one's going to remember us two generations from now or whatever.
802
00:41:57.385 --> 00:41:57.885
It's true.
803
00:41:59.046 --> 00:42:02.989
But this day, this very day, that woman walked away and said, I knew that guy helped me.
804
00:42:03.450 --> 00:42:06.172
That dude over there, you know, the one ugly guy over there, that guy helped me.
805
00:42:06.572 --> 00:42:07.213
That's worth it.
806
00:42:07.833 --> 00:42:10.896
And that's 10 times of more value than anything else we get to do in life.
807
00:42:11.436 --> 00:42:12.817
So caring is huge.
808
00:42:13.097 --> 00:42:18.602
How do you help someone change they don't want to be helped to change?
809
00:42:19.387 --> 00:42:23.530
Well, you gotta get inside their minds and try to understand why that would be.
810
00:42:23.990 --> 00:42:33.456
And I have ran into a couple who just don't want, and I actually think it comes from, I've done it before, I've tried before, I can't do it, right?
811
00:42:34.016 --> 00:42:38.659
It's this whole attitude, you know, well, I know I've tried a diet before.
812
00:42:39.219 --> 00:42:43.680
My doctors said I couldn't do that because, and they started bringing all this stuff in a cynicism.
813
00:42:44.180 --> 00:42:48.581
It's this built-in cynicism that as we age, becomes stronger all the time.
814
00:42:49.142 --> 00:42:50.962
I use this example a thousand times.
815
00:42:50.982 --> 00:42:52.362
Probably people get tired of hearing it.
816
00:42:52.382 --> 00:42:55.823
But, you know, if I set that chair, you're a seven-year-old.
817
00:42:56.083 --> 00:42:58.124
I say, that chair is actually a spaceship.
818
00:42:58.864 --> 00:42:59.405
You didn't know that?
819
00:42:59.705 --> 00:43:01.267
And I start telling you, why is this spaceship?
820
00:43:01.727 --> 00:43:08.474
Your brain, the little seven-year-old starts going, whoa, pretty soon he's over there on this chair and he's trying to launch to the moon, right?
821
00:43:09.275 --> 00:43:11.477
Your 70-year-old, I say, that chair is a spaceship.
822
00:43:12.098 --> 00:43:13.019
Oh, it's not a chair.
823
00:43:13.599 --> 00:43:15.301
That's what's stopping your neuroplasticity.
824
00:43:15.802 --> 00:43:17.824
You think you know everything.
825
00:43:17.924 --> 00:43:19.466
You think you understand.
826
00:43:20.066 --> 00:43:21.207
And getting out of our...
827
00:43:21.848 --> 00:43:43.835
this mundane world that we live in you got to get into like a cartoon world you got to start experiencing like super this super vibe that goes on i i like to i always tell this story about when i was a kid i was i called myself white magic you know i really wanted to do magic um as a basketball player and to me magic was spinning balls and stuff and i just thought it was the coolest thing in the
828
00:43:44.655 --> 00:44:07.948
that white magic i needed him back i needed that feeling that i could be special right and who's steve white steve white's nobody but steve white's everybody he's he's me right he's all i got and so getting into that concept of of freeing myself and going like why can't i get better what if i got better and it gets in this whole what if
829
00:44:08.548 --> 00:44:10.229
It's like, what if this works, that works?
830
00:44:10.289 --> 00:44:12.731
And then you start believing and starting making these moves.
831
00:44:13.071 --> 00:44:15.834
But to do that, you got to get rid of the cynicism.
832
00:44:15.934 --> 00:44:20.477
It's like if I said to you, Jake, that some disaster just happened out here.
833
00:44:20.497 --> 00:44:22.238
There's an earthquake and this thing just happened.
834
00:44:22.759 --> 00:44:26.482
And you and I rush out there and there's something going on.
835
00:44:27.583 --> 00:44:28.703
Natural gas lines broke.
836
00:44:29.324 --> 00:44:31.966
We know nothing about it, but both of us would be over there trying to figure it out.
837
00:44:32.787 --> 00:44:34.148
And our brain is thinking.
838
00:44:35.093 --> 00:44:36.314
That's neuroplasticity.
839
00:44:36.794 --> 00:44:43.237
That's how you get better in our program with Brave 100 is you start to realize that I can start afresh.
840
00:44:43.458 --> 00:44:44.718
I've never been on a diet before.
841
00:44:44.738 --> 00:44:45.999
I've never been on all these things before.
842
00:44:46.119 --> 00:44:47.420
I've never tried before.
843
00:44:47.500 --> 00:44:48.760
Not all in.
844
00:44:49.481 --> 00:44:50.241
And now I'm all in.
845
00:44:50.281 --> 00:44:51.282
It's a different ballgame.
846
00:44:51.842 --> 00:44:54.584
And once you get that vibe, things start to change.
847
00:44:55.164 --> 00:44:58.086
So how do I get a person to get all in?
848
00:44:58.546 --> 00:45:00.067
They got to make their own lineup to do that.
849
00:45:00.107 --> 00:45:03.529
But sometimes you got to take them down a road step by step.
850
00:45:03.689 --> 00:45:07.671
And again, on the Braille 100, you don't just all of a sudden change.
851
00:45:08.471 --> 00:45:09.652
It's got to be step by step.
852
00:45:09.692 --> 00:45:11.153
And then they start to feel those successes.
853
00:45:11.759 --> 00:45:18.503
I mean, I've run into this scenario before many times, and I've even heard it said a million times, which is like, can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped.
854
00:45:18.944 --> 00:45:19.524
It's that simple.
855
00:45:19.684 --> 00:45:21.946
And then you kind of just like, all right, well, then I can't help you.
856
00:45:21.986 --> 00:45:23.907
And then I can't try.
857
00:45:23.967 --> 00:45:24.667
Why even try?
858
00:45:25.368 --> 00:45:25.868
So you don't.
859
00:45:25.988 --> 00:45:27.669
And then they're in their ways.
860
00:45:27.689 --> 00:45:31.552
And I feel like if it's someone at work, okay, whatever.
861
00:45:32.060 --> 00:45:35.101
If it's a friend, it's a bummer, but like, whatever.
862
00:45:35.121 --> 00:45:43.984
If it's your kid, if it's your spouse, a sibling, parent, like, it's like, you don't just give up on those people, I think.
863
00:45:44.364 --> 00:45:44.644
No.
864
00:45:45.225 --> 00:45:48.946
How do you help someone who doesn't want to be helped?
865
00:45:49.166 --> 00:45:58.909
I think every one of those people you just described, friend, whoever it is, someone you've never met before, is that, it still gets down to, why do you not want help?
866
00:45:59.389 --> 00:46:00.790
I mean, explain to me.
867
00:46:02.218 --> 00:46:08.501
And try to get someone to articulate what it is that has them stuck in this spot that they don't want help.
868
00:46:08.521 --> 00:46:09.421
They don't want change.
869
00:46:09.841 --> 00:46:12.863
And you'll find they're intimidated to change.
870
00:46:13.183 --> 00:46:14.984
They don't think they can really change.
871
00:46:15.024 --> 00:46:17.445
And they're so scared to try because they're scared to fail.
872
00:46:19.265 --> 00:46:28.949
Sometimes, you know, I've literally, like I said, okay, what we're going to do is I'm going to think for you the first week, the first two weeks.
873
00:46:29.590 --> 00:46:30.350
Would you commit to that?
874
00:46:30.922 --> 00:46:34.663
And I'm going to start you in a process of 100 days, but I'm going to help you think.
875
00:46:35.263 --> 00:46:42.605
I've even done that before, just to get them to start to feel the experience, right, and get those early successes.
876
00:46:42.665 --> 00:46:46.346
But frankly, you've got to start with, like, well, why do you not want to get well?
877
00:46:46.826 --> 00:46:47.847
Why do you not want to change?
878
00:46:48.587 --> 00:46:52.068
And they'll come down to, I don't believe I can, right?
879
00:46:52.088 --> 00:46:56.389
I don't believe I can, or I'm scared to try because everyone else is going to think I failed.
880
00:46:56.969 --> 00:46:58.930
It's like everyone, everyone.
881
00:46:59.390 --> 00:46:59.770
Stop.
882
00:47:01.028 --> 00:47:01.949
Forget everyone.
883
00:47:02.950 --> 00:47:03.930
That's not the gig.
884
00:47:04.791 --> 00:47:05.432
What about you?
885
00:47:06.232 --> 00:47:10.756
You know, maybe you're still, you know, I'm a religious person, especially now.
886
00:47:11.277 --> 00:47:14.359
And it comes down to why am I on this earth?
887
00:47:15.320 --> 00:47:15.660
Why?
888
00:47:16.301 --> 00:47:16.941
What are we doing?
889
00:47:17.382 --> 00:47:19.704
And so when you start to kind of break that down to that spot,
890
00:47:20.383 --> 00:47:22.805
that there must be a reason I'm still here.
891
00:47:23.405 --> 00:47:28.309
And you start going down that path, I call it a camino, going down your path, yours is different than my path.
892
00:47:28.829 --> 00:47:33.113
But I start going down that path and you start making some, like you said, some tenets, some things that are solid.
893
00:47:33.613 --> 00:47:35.674
Mine, I always laugh at this when I said,
894
00:47:36.495 --> 00:47:39.617
As soon as I got better, I said, I'm going to help everybody in my path.
895
00:47:39.677 --> 00:47:42.678
That was my second Camino or my second Bray 100.
896
00:47:42.698 --> 00:47:44.960
I'm going to help everybody in my path.
897
00:47:46.120 --> 00:47:51.563
I laugh now and say, be careful what you wish for because all of a sudden there's so many people I get help and it's beautiful.
898
00:47:51.603 --> 00:47:52.064
I love it.
899
00:47:52.424 --> 00:47:55.185
But it's so much more than I would have ever thought.
900
00:47:55.205 --> 00:47:57.246
I would have never dreamed that back then.
901
00:47:58.807 --> 00:48:00.248
But you start down this path.
902
00:48:00.328 --> 00:48:01.088
Everybody's different.
903
00:48:01.389 --> 00:48:05.671
But to get them down that path, they first got to go like, okay, what is it that I'm scared of?
904
00:48:06.553 --> 00:48:12.596
You know, and really get down to the brass tacks of that thought of what's holding you back.
905
00:48:13.237 --> 00:48:21.061
Basically, everything we talked about so far today and everything else you've ever thought about or done ever in your life, what do you think it means to be a man nowadays?
906
00:48:21.081 --> 00:48:22.982
That's deep, isn't it?
907
00:48:23.746 --> 00:48:31.877
Well, I think, you know, I go back to what I said earlier about your strength is your weakness, and your weakness is your strength.
908
00:48:33.079 --> 00:48:41.029
I think probably never before has the world needed true men the way it needs right now.
909
00:48:41.990 --> 00:48:48.392
We've got a right side of thinking that just seems to be kind of go almost too far.
910
00:48:48.872 --> 00:48:52.033
And a lot of men can relate to the right side, and I do too.
911
00:48:52.573 --> 00:48:55.955
And there's a lot of, like, I want a lot of the opportunity.
912
00:48:55.975 --> 00:49:01.556
And then you've got the left, you see the kindness or what at least they perceive as kindness if you're against them.
913
00:49:01.816 --> 00:49:03.017
They all have all these thoughts.
914
00:49:03.918 --> 00:49:04.158
Right?
915
00:49:04.358 --> 00:49:10.941
And Winston Churchill said everybody starts out when they're young as a liberal and then becomes a conservative.
916
00:49:10.961 --> 00:49:15.243
You know, all these deep thoughts, but in the middle there's this big chunk of men.
917
00:49:16.063 --> 00:49:23.687
They're just men that I think there's never been a time before where men need to rise up like they need to now.
918
00:49:24.287 --> 00:49:31.770
With all the changes that are gonna go on with jobs, all the things are changing in our society, there's never been more of a need to rise up.
919
00:49:32.550 --> 00:49:33.611
And I'll tell you what about men,
920
00:49:34.391 --> 00:49:37.933
true men, we love when we get asked to rise up.
921
00:49:38.594 --> 00:49:41.436
You want to make a man happy, give him a challenge.
922
00:49:41.756 --> 00:49:42.256
And guess what?
923
00:49:42.296 --> 00:49:43.597
That's what our whole life is about.
924
00:49:43.897 --> 00:49:46.099
Our body, our brains, you want your brain to get better?
925
00:49:46.159 --> 00:49:46.639
Challenge it.
926
00:49:47.019 --> 00:49:48.240
You want your bicep to get bigger?
927
00:49:48.400 --> 00:49:49.781
Beat it up, right?
928
00:49:49.861 --> 00:49:53.303
Everything, our whole system grows on challenge.
929
00:49:53.444 --> 00:49:55.065
And men, we need a challenge.
930
00:49:55.085 --> 00:49:55.805
And guess what, guys?
931
00:49:56.005 --> 00:49:57.326
There's a huge challenge out there right now.
932
00:49:57.346 --> 00:50:00.088
There's never been a better time to be a true man.
933
00:50:00.868 --> 00:50:00.969
So
934
00:50:03.370 --> 00:50:29.430
in the modern world right now is rise up what does that entail in your mind rise up and do what yeah that's that would be the point right is that rise up and do what i don't know what your path is i don't know what my path is different than your path i know that everybody's path different i can't tell you what you need to rise up for but i guarantee you you need to if you look to your right you look to your left you look around you right now there's people that need you
935
00:50:30.410 --> 00:50:32.372
And if they don't need you today, they're going to need you tomorrow.
936
00:50:32.852 --> 00:50:36.595
You know, some of the things that we do as men is we have to be ready for that time.
937
00:50:37.276 --> 00:50:39.738
That time is now and the time will be tomorrow.
938
00:50:40.358 --> 00:50:42.000
So are you ready?
939
00:50:42.660 --> 00:50:43.821
Are you ready as a man?
940
00:50:44.402 --> 00:50:46.423
Have you equipped yourself emotionally?
941
00:50:46.663 --> 00:50:48.065
Have you equipped yourself physically?
942
00:50:48.625 --> 00:50:50.467
You know, how are you going to get in the right position?
943
00:50:50.507 --> 00:50:56.952
Have you surrounded yourself with the right environment of people that support you and that you are willing to support, that they're worth supporting?
944
00:50:58.108 --> 00:51:01.671
Whatever it is for you, you gotta be ready to rise up.
945
00:51:02.171 --> 00:51:04.353
Someone actually asked me this question earlier today.
946
00:51:04.373 --> 00:51:05.233
I really liked it.
947
00:51:05.393 --> 00:51:07.315
And I wanna ask you this closing question here.
948
00:51:08.976 --> 00:51:14.180
If some people were gossiping about you, what would you want them to say after hearing this episode?
949
00:51:14.860 --> 00:51:17.182
I think I kinda always say the same thing.
950
00:51:18.510 --> 00:51:19.050
He got up.
951
00:51:19.811 --> 00:51:23.933
And I think that that's important, is that my life was a total train wreck.
952
00:51:24.714 --> 00:51:27.476
I can't sit here and try to justify parts of my life.
953
00:51:27.656 --> 00:51:31.158
I can't go back and change what happened in the past.
954
00:51:31.338 --> 00:51:32.559
I can't do anything about it.
955
00:51:33.059 --> 00:51:36.522
And I've learned that that's part of starting over in life, is that
956
00:51:37.402 --> 00:51:38.903
For me, I got to have God forgive me.
957
00:51:39.883 --> 00:51:40.864
I got to forgive myself.
958
00:51:41.444 --> 00:51:42.285
And I got to go forward.
959
00:51:42.805 --> 00:51:46.527
I can't put my whole judgment on whether that person is going to like me or not.
960
00:51:46.967 --> 00:51:52.230
If those gossipers are going to say good things about me or bad things, I can't put that out there.
961
00:51:52.370 --> 00:51:53.730
I took responsibility in my life.
962
00:51:53.790 --> 00:51:55.771
I'm going to stay in my responsibility.
963
00:51:56.112 --> 00:51:57.993
So whatever they're saying, they say.
964
00:51:58.533 --> 00:51:59.293
That's their problem.
965
00:51:59.833 --> 00:52:03.355
My problem is being myself and doing what I'm supposed to do.
966
00:52:03.715 --> 00:52:04.456
Thanks so much for coming on.
967
00:52:04.756 --> 00:52:04.956
Yeah.
968
00:52:04.976 --> 00:52:05.496
This was cool.
969
00:52:05.556 --> 00:52:06.537
How can people find you online?
970
00:52:06.957 --> 00:52:11.839
HomeTeams.io is a great place to learn about our software.
971
00:52:13.440 --> 00:52:17.462
Pacific Campus is our company, our clinic.
972
00:52:17.482 --> 00:52:23.185
But HomeTeams.io and then Bray100 on Instagram usually leads to whatever we're doing.
973
00:52:23.225 --> 00:52:25.086
And if anybody needs help, I don't know.
974
00:52:25.186 --> 00:52:28.967
I don't use social media, but I guess they can private, what do you call it, DM me.
975
00:52:29.528 --> 00:52:30.068
Sure.
976
00:52:30.228 --> 00:52:32.329
And one of our people answer when we get back to this.
977
00:52:32.349 --> 00:52:33.850
We don't turn anybody down helping them.
978
00:52:34.050 --> 00:52:34.190
Yeah.
979
00:52:34.731 --> 00:52:35.075
Thanks, man.
980
00:52:35.418 --> 00:52:35.822
Thank you.
981
00:52:35.842 --> 00:52:36.449
Appreciate you.
982
00:52:36.469 --> 00:52:37.196
A lot of fun.
983
00:52:37.317 --> 00:52:37.560
Thanks.