S5 E4

Big Mama: does weak dick feel from a woman's perspective?
Victoria: How does weak dick feel from a woman's... What? Okay.
Big Mama: But I wanna ask niggas I wanna ask niggas too, like, do you feel like your shit wasn't hit in one time? You know what I mean? Like I wanna dive into that too, 'cause y'all need to be honest about yourselves. Just like I even we had some moments, it wasn't a good day. So
Victoria: So, honestly, I ain't gonna lie. Out of the few men that I have had sex with, I've only had one, like, bad experience, which is fucked up because my one bad experience ended me with a fucking child. So, I mean, you know, hey, what the fuck?
Naye: And you know what, Vic, it be like,
Harvito: Okay.
Naye: it be the words that's not supposed
Victoria: That's fucked up!
Naye: to have the evidence that got evidence.
Victoria: That's fucked up. That's fucked up. Why it couldn't be
Naye: It's messed up!
Victoria: one of the ones that was getting it in. You know what mean? Like, take me through that. They was taking me through that. This nigga did not, and I ended up with a baby. But my baby is a blessing, okay? My blessing came from chaos, from a bad situation, but bad situation led to a blessing. So, I'm mad, but I'm not too mad.
Big Mama: And and on that I'ma sip the drink of the night 'cause
Victoria: I got a jello shot somewhere. I don't know where my bag went.
Big Mama: So the drink of the night is called Morning Regret. So it's got gin, it's got triple stack pineapple juice and cranberry juice. Welcome to season five, episode four of Sit and Speak Sessions. We got the girls back and then we got and we got
Victoria: Hey!
Big Mama: my mean Harvey. AK Harvito
Victoria: her man, her man, her man.
Big Mama: Yeah, so how y'all doing tonight?
Victoria: I missed you motherfucking bitches. I missed y'all so bad.
Big Mama: Well then we missed you too, nigga. Shit.
Victoria: I felt so abandoned and then they made me mad because how you gonna send me a real and I've been calling you and you gonna send me
Naye: you
Victoria: a real when I answer my phone call? You know how sensitive it is.
Naye: I'm so sorry. I was sleeping. I woke up. I sent her a little back to sleep. And I was like, why these motherfuckers keep calling me?
Victoria: Because I'll be missing you.
Big Mama: It it's the fact that you had you was confused why the fuck we was calling you.
Naye: No, I was trying to sleep. I
Victoria: We can't just call you just because we miss you. Damn.
Naye: knew y'all missed me. was just, would ignore y'all
Big Mama: Make it on the phone and be like, hey.
Naye: call. Y'all would call right back and I was trying to sleep.
Big Mama: And 'cause you was ignorant, which means your fingers was working. You didn't text us, nothing after
Naye: You know what? But you know what? You know what?
Big Mama: the fact.
Naye: I did kind of feel bad because I know when Vic's gonna be answering her phone, I'll be ready to blow her up. And I was just like, why the fuck are y'all calling me?
Victoria: Right, I be getting cussed out. I be getting cussed out. The other
Big Mama: Wait a minute.
Victoria: day, the other day both y'all, not even the other day, last week, both y'all was blowing me up because y'all seen my Facebook post about me being injured or whatever and because I didn't
Naye: Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
Victoria: answer, I got a text talking about answer the damn phone. What? Call me back now. Not now, but now.
Big Mama: And I I said what I said. At least I talked to myself.
Naye: and I was ready to pull up.
Big Mama: I have had bad allergies for the last two weeks.
Victoria: Right, you threaten to pull up on me!
Big Mama: I was. And
Naye: Sorry.
Big Mama: I've had allergies the last two weeks, but I still answered and at least let y'all know I felt like shit.
Victoria: Yeah, Lex, Lex, Lex answer her phone. Lene, you had me feeling real abandoned.
Naye: text message hours later but I just text message
Big Mama: Hours later is hilarious. It was more like two business days. Yeah, it was
Victoria: already feeling abandoned at that point. It was too late.
Big Mama: more like two business days.
Naye: The way I was sleeping it was like a hours.
Victoria: You can't put that there!
Big Mama: It was in a days, nigga.
Naye: I was, yeah, I didn't even take you to school yesterday. That's how bad it was. I woke up
C -: All right.
Naye: to get her dress. said, give me 30 more minutes. I woke up about nine o'clock. I was like, yeah. I looked at the time, we're right back this week.
Victoria: What the hell is wrong with you?
Big Mama: Exactly.
Naye: don't know, was just, maybe it was just me not taking a break and how we talked about when you need to sit down, you're gonna get sat down. I think it was one of those moments that I slept like that for two days.
Victoria: not gonna lie to you, I think that was me this whole month. Because this whole month, I've been nothing but it, like, I've had two ER trips. I got, I got hit in the head at work on Friday. Or Thursday. And then yesterday, I fucking.
Naye: It was all through my head turning and looking away. We all just looked. You got
Big Mama: For it.
Naye: hit in the head.
Victoria: Yes, I was
Big Mama: Right.
Victoria: at work on Thursday and the kids was playing basketball and the ball, I turned around, turned back around, boom, got hit. So yeah, that happened. And then my voice, I'm losing it because I was at my nephew football game, screaming and hollering. So yeah, this month is just not my month at all. I fucking twisted my ankle earlier. Like, it's just a lot going on.
Naye: think that's a big ass bitch show ass down.
Big Mama: This is what I said. This is why I call her I'm about to start calling you head, shoulders, knees and toes. I ain't got time. Sit down. There's no
Naye: huh.
Big Mama: reason. That's that's right that's back to back. Three weeks.
Victoria: Alexis, I'm already, look, if I, I'm trying to like keep it to where I don't injure myself the month of our cruise, because if I get injured any time in October, this cruise is done for. You know what mean?
Big Mama: Nigga, be s now be more specific. We don't need no injuries in September either. The fuck? We we not
Victoria: True that, true that, but you know.
Naye: Thank you.
Big Mama: no spring chickens. Our healing process
Harvito: Just stay in the house.
Big Mama: our healing
Victoria: I'm
Big Mama: process is a little bit longer. Don't
Victoria: Well, I gotta go
Harvito: Just stay
Victoria: to work.
Harvito: in the house.
Victoria: I gotta, I gotta go to work, Harvey.
Big Mama: But don't be trying to lift nothing fifty
Harvito: All right, yeah, do that, but yeah, don't do nothing. Don't overreact nothing.
Big Mama: I don't need you talking about nigga. I I nah. No, I'm not gonna say it out loud. No.
Harvito: Yeah, even.
Big Mama: No. You
Victoria: But check me out, my second ER trip to the fucking ER was
Harvito: It's a ski.
Victoria: not even my fault. Like that shit came out of nowhere.
Harvito: I love how she said her second E.R. like it's a normal thing. Like,
Big Mama: Right.
Harvito: yeah, you know, yeah, big. You know my second.
Victoria: Look check me out. This is not a look this ain't as bad as it used to be at one point I was in the hospital like Three days out the week every week Ask Alexis I had
Big Mama: That's almost sound like me.
Victoria: I had cast on damn near my whole high school career because I was always fucking
Big Mama: Yeah.
Victoria: injured So this ain't as bad as it used to be
Big Mama: Nick would have her skin Nick would have her skinny jeans on with her her leg brace and shit. I remember
Victoria: The whole shit, crushes and everything.
Harvito: What's it was instant, man?
Big Mama: Do it too much.
Victoria: I'm no, I'm just accident pro for I'm really just actually
Naye: Nah, listen,
Harvito: That's great.
Naye: I understand why you would like notice some funsies bitches because that would make no sense Vic. And I thought I was funsie but...
Big Mama: You ain't got no room to talk. You ain't got no room to talk, Cookie Bear. so we
Naye: I haven't been that bad.
Big Mama: clumsy too. Don't don't let Nate be over here trying to get on Vic. No, no, no. I'm I'm even this out. Nay is clumsy as fuck too. So when she was like, I stub my toe, I was like, here we go. It's gonna be a damn domino effect. It's gonna be between her and Vic every time. Like, I listen when I'm told to sit my ass. Both of my hips hurt right now. You think I've been moving a lot?
Harvito: Okay.
Naye: I'm not that clumsy.
Big Mama: This sciatica is kicking my ass. I need to be ready. I might do a Pilates class next month for some flexibility. Cause something gotta pop back in place. I can't do it.
Naye: Well let me know when you book your appointment so we can go together.
Big Mama: Yeah. They're not even expensive. They like thirty thirty six bucks or something out here to take
Naye: I didn't go last Sunday like I was supposed to.
Big Mama: It's cool. We might be like, I like doing things virtually with my friends that are not here. Like, I like being on the phone going to the gym. I'd like, all right, what machine you on? Okay.
Naye: Speaking of that, when are we going? I just paid my bills,
Big Mama: How many reps we
Naye: so when we going?
Big Mama: As soon as I can breathe.
Naye: I'm looking at you almost as hard as not in a gym.
Big Mama: 'Cause I just feel like sort
Victoria: That's it.
Big Mama: of I feel like sneezing in the gym is just not not the vibe. I don't need people thinking I'm sick. It's like no boo boo.
Naye: I don't judge in the gym, but if you see me the gym, I'm looking at you like, go home.
Big Mama: Yeah, like it's like why are you here? Like I don't even want you on a bicycle or the treadmill. Like go home. The gym ain't going nowhere.
Naye: So.
Victoria: Okay.
Naye: Uh-uh.
Big Mama: Go home. So like I've I'm gonna drink my mucus buster tea tonight. So I should definitely be ready sometime next week to hop back in into the jimmy.
Victoria: Freezer. I'm going to this right now. Actually, give me this.
Big Mama: But sometimes it would
Naye: That's cool, because I'm about to order some museum outfits.
Victoria: This was supposed to be a jello shot, but it melted.
Big Mama: Is that ever clear?
Naye: It's What's in it?
Victoria: Honestly, I don't know.
Big Mama: So you just drink and shit?
Naye: the mystery.
Victoria: They were passed out at the baby's birthday party.
Naye: These babies can never have
Victoria: All the adults-
Naye: no birthday party to themselves. It's always turned into a function of the words.
Big Mama: Wait, don't don't judge it. But jello can
Harvito: I love this. I love this.
Big Mama: jello can go back to its original form.
Harvito: video.
Victoria: All you gotta do is put it in the free either refrigerator or freezer
Big Mama: But like yeah, I guess 'cause the heat,
Naye: If it slips out, yeah.
Victoria: I'm about to just drink it though. I don't even, I am, because
Big Mama: Girl, don't do that. I know that just
Victoria: honestly I had one at the party and it was jello and it was strong as fuck. And I was like,
Big Mama: did it taste like Everclear?
Victoria: No, that shit tasted like apple something.
Big Mama: My baby Vaka.
Victoria: Honestly, I had already been drinking because I had a couple shots of some Don Julio. So, it-
Harvito: I make apple pie jello shots.
Victoria: Smells like lemon and dish soap.
Big Mama: Those like
Victoria: That's that's that what the fuck you smell like. Let me play.
Big Mama: I wanna get back to hosting Friends Givings again. Remember Chase? We I used to have him at my last friend.
Naye: This is Dr.
C -: Real.
Naye: about the friends giving that he's deaf.
Big Mama: Code.
Victoria: That was actually kind of, that was actually fucking
Big Mama: I did it, but I'm I'm assuming they're gonna have one once
Victoria: delicious. Okay.
Big Mama: they move into their new place.
Victoria: up
Big Mama: I'm assuming he gonna
Naye: That's what he said because I told him about how I took him out there for my birthday and he was like, well, still, if you can, still come for the friend giving. And so I told him I will.
Big Mama: Yeah, like still come through 'cause and just fly into Austin and we'll ride together.
Victoria: Okay, wait, hold on, pause. Can we, like, get back to these questions? Because my brain is brain-ing. Can we get back on it?
Big Mama: Sure. Okay.
Victoria: You did it.
Big Mama: First question out the out the park. how does
Naye: Wrap that shit up, okay bitch?
Big Mama: Said you have thirty seconds. Look, she started smoking. She she a whole new woman. Go ahead, Sherlock. So the first question is, how does weak dick feel from a woman's perspective? But I also want to hear from a man's perspective. How you know your shit was weak that that that session? But we're gonna start with Nay.
Naye: Well, I'll start with me. I wanted to hear all what Vic was saying earlier. I was ready to start with her.
Big Mama: Are we trying to run? How d how does weak dick feel?
Naye: Okay, okay, okay. It don't feel like nothing. Let me see, who can I talk about? What can I talk about? I don't care if anybody see this, but like I say, I'm in the same boat as you. I don't know how the hell I got pregnant. I don't know who the hell pregnant. When I tell you, I was like... That's the kindest way I can say this. trying to find it.
Victoria: It take you that long? It does. You remind
Big Mama: I think I think I think I think sometimes
Naye: Evo.
Harvito: It's a get along it does it does
Victoria: me of that sound. I'm finding it. I'm
Naye: Bye bye.
Victoria: finding it. It taking a minute.
Big Mama: Don't be trying to spare feeling.
Harvito: That's crazy word.
Naye: I'm not you know, I could give school
Harvito: Thank
Naye: About those feelings but Just being real like I say every time if you think and I'd be learning I was a Y'all know a point. I was a cardboard box. I was just there. I Don't remember nothing. I don't remember feeling nothing. I just remember rolling back over and wonderful
Victoria: Okay, so not even for me it was like, it was like one thing led to another and then it was done.
Naye: I'm sorry, it's Alexis' face.
Victoria: It was like one thing led to another and then it was like boom, done. Like when I say not even
Naye: You said what?
Victoria: a whole two minutes, not even a whole two minutes, bro. Like how to, and then for me it was like, mind you, I still had the mindset of it was only one time. Motherfucker, that's all it takes, it's one time. One time! Denise said, whoop! One time! Whoop! Ha! Look! Whoop!
Naye: Literally just one time cuz I promise you it was I got the text message like you pregnant I said, nope, don't even work like that. I don't know how the hell I will be pregnant whole time
Victoria: Mind you, I found out I was pregnant.
Big Mama: No, I'm sorry.
Naye: Baby, I don't remember you going in, coming out. I don't remember a stroke. I don't remember nothing.
Victoria: When I found out I was pregnant, mind you, I was all the way in North Carolina. I was on the East Coast when I found out I was pregnant, and I was already two and a half months along. Everybody's like, how you didn't know you went two and a half months with no period? Because my period was so irregular. Like I would go two, three months with no period. It did not be an issue because that's what I was used to. You know what mean? So when the doctor came and said, you're pregnant. I was really confused. Like what? And he was like, yeah. And I said, well, you, I'm gonna need you to test that again. He said, ma'am, I tested it three times. I did two blood, two. P test and a blood test. I was like, shit that blood test. You can't deny that. And then I'm sitting here like when I tell you it was that quick, it really like, I really had to sit here and go, how the fuck, who the fuck, what the fuck, when the fuck, how in the fuck? Like I went through all of the, what, like I went through all of that.
Big Mama: I remember you calling me too, but I no, but it was just funny because like back then Vic's gotten better at it, but back then Vic would drag out telling you what she called to tell you. So she'll be like, so it's like a long ass pause. I'm like, nigga, get to the fucking point. You called me to ask me a question or tell me something, and she'll drag it out. So before she could even tell me
Victoria: be dramatic.
Big Mama: Every time. So before she could even tell me, she was like, I gotta tell something. I said, my gosh, you're pregnant. And she was like, Yeah.
Victoria: Yeah! How the fuck did you know that?
Big Mama: have that sense. I know when my friends or somebody is pregnant.
Victoria: Look, back then when my grandmother was alive, right, she, when I got home and she was like, I knew your ass was pregnant. She was like, I knew you was pregnant because you slept way more than you used to. I was like, what? I slept more. She said, yeah, because your body is getting heavier, so you get tired more. I felt like I slept the same amount that I did my whole life, because sleeping has never been an issue for me. Well, it is now that I'm an adult, but. When I was younger, sleeping you said bedtime. Bedtime was like my favorite time of the day. What does you mean? You know how you got to
Big Mama: Every time we gotta call you early.
Victoria: beat kids in the bed? You didn't have to beat me. You don't have to tell me once, maybe twice, maybe depending on what I was doing. What?
Big Mama: Yeah. I had to call you on at a certain time.
Victoria: Yeah, you know I'll be in the bed. Night night.
Harvito: I was the worst game, I couldn't even go to sleep for shit.
Big Mama: You still can't.
Victoria: So you was one of them kids who got beat to bed?
Harvito: Bro or like I just be up and maybe like 6 o'clock more to have me get ready for school and I'm like
Big Mama: So what's changed since then? Cause you still like that.
Harvito: Not really, not really. No, not really. I've kind of been a lot better. Thank you, Inspector,
Victoria: Hahaha!
Harvito: Supervisor. I have my moments. I
Victoria: Alexis's face be killing me, bro
Harvito: can have my moments. I have my moments of time. I've been the default of my night out period. When it's like that time and I got that inspiration to do some artsy stuff. Yeah, I can be a for a little bit. But you know, see, I've been trying to chill it out on there. I'm going to be.
Big Mama: Then Okay.
Harvito: That was that, but I've been doing a lot better though. I know what you're about to say. But I've been over
Big Mama: Say nothing.
Harvito: the line. Okay, thank you. But we're going a lot better.
Victoria: At one point, just a couple years ago, yeah, just a couple years ago, I was a night owl. I would fucking be, I would literally be up for days. Like I would go to the bar and then be at the bar till it closed, then parking lot pimp, and then be at a friend's house till six, and then I had to be working at 10. So I went home, took a shower, got dressed, rode around the streets for a little bit, and then went to work. After work, did it all over again. Like. It was a thing for me. I would be at the bar every day of the week. Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday. Every day. Thank the bartenders.
Big Mama: I know you I know you had it all multiple times.
Victoria: Huh? yeah, me and Randall, yeah.
Big Mama: I think I don't know.
Victoria: The first time I ran into Randall at the bar, he was like, he was hella drunk too. He was like, Vicky Beatle! He was like, my nigga, my nigga. He was like, this family, bruh, this right here, this family. I was like, bruh, you're gonna me in my chest and shit? Like, what the fuck is wrong with you? You big ass motherfucker.
C -: No.
Big Mama: I got them.
Victoria: Yeah, me and Randall, we used to kick it at the bar all the time. Parking lot, pimp, the whole shit. We used to be up till the hours in the morning. I was doing that for like two years straight.
Big Mama: I can't do that shit no more, but I definitely Yeah.
Harvito: Okay.
Naye: Take me home. I want to get in my bed. I don't.
Victoria: Now I'm a I ain't gonna lie. went last year. I didn't drink. I didn't.
Big Mama: Right. Tell me so I know I I can nap. I need a nap before I go out.
Victoria: That's me now. I didn't drink at all last year.
Naye: Is that us being older, getting older? Because we're not getting, hold on, getting older because I need to know what time we're going out and please don't let it be at no 10 o'clock. It needs to be before 10 because if it's at 10, my feet is getting rubbed in that bed. I'm not going.
Big Mama: Like these kids
Victoria: You rubbin' your feet.
Naye: I said I'm rubbing my feet. Y'all is hella funny.
Big Mama: Hmm there's nobody
Victoria: I thought you said...
Big Mama: so nobody's rubbing your feet or won't be.
Naye: No, I don't have nobody rubbing my feet,
Victoria: I'm getting my feet wet.
Naye: but maybe. You hella
Big Mama: Yet
Naye: funny, Alexis.
Big Mama: Sprinkle, sprinkle.
Victoria: See, I can't, I can't, even if I have somebody who really just wanted to rub my feet, I cannot, you cannot touch my feet. I can't, I can't, I can't, I can't.
Big Mama: Chase, do you mind doing giving footrubs? What about you thank you?
Harvito: I don't mind. I don't mind, brother. It's just like, that's not like my go-to. Like, I don't have to, shit, me suck the toes. Like, I'm just, it's just not.
Big Mama: We didn't say nothing about sucking up a little.
Naye: Wait, you said you'd be stuck as hoes!
Harvito: But here's the thing, no hear me out. Let's let me just clear the air. I'm not that's like not my first spot to go
Victoria: Alexis, Alexis, stop it.
Harvito: All right, you know, I feel like I feel like this was this was orchestrated to be more
Big Mama: Insane that means.
Harvito: than what it was right now.
Victoria: You feel like you've been set up?
Harvito: I feel like this was a hard setup, big story. Yeah, so we were at.
Victoria: Yep, be careful, be careful how you answer these questions, my guy.
Harvito: yeah, alright, look.
Victoria: Be careful.
Harvito: Okay.
Victoria: Yeah, no, I can't, I'm sorry. I've had people that I've been in relationship with. Every time I come home, I'll be like, all my feet hurt. They'll be let me rub your feet. Nah, I'm good. You can't touch my feet. And it's not like, I don't like feet, so I'm not gonna have you rub my feet. Like, no, don't touch my feet. Uh-uh.
Big Mama: Yeah. But to get back on top of the baby, how does in your opinion, how do you feel like damn my shit wasn't hitting that that session?
Harvito: this was, I remember that time. I definitely remember that instance. That was years, but I was in college.
Victoria: my god. Look at that dog.
Harvito: It was way,
Big Mama: Always called.
Harvito: it was way too much liquor. My sister and that day, I don't know what I was thinking. I should have took my ass back to the door. I
C -: Yeah.
Harvito: don't know why I really said to myself, I could do this. Yeah.
C -: You too drunk too drunk should be
Harvito: He be gummy worm as fuck. He be just like, all right. And then you try to go to the... And then like, I literally, like, I never thought I had to do that that day, but I literally went to the bathroom and was like trying
Victoria: It's like,
Harvito: to pep talk myself. Like, hey, come on, come on, come on, let's get this going. Come on, come on.
Big Mama: You gotta talk to you, Dick.
Harvito: Hey, I was lit. I was trying to do it. Whatever came to my brain, my brain was like, go talk to him. All right, let's go talk. Let's have a conference in the bathroom.
Victoria: That's why they say men talk with
Naye: Do that be working though? When
Victoria: men talk with that head except this one.
C -: What do you mean?
Naye: y'all be having to give it a little pep talk? Do it be working? Do it help?
C -: Not all not all the time.
Harvito: I've done the peptide and it worked. I thought it work this time, but it was like, yeah, he's too drunk for this.
C -: For me is it like
Naye: Mmm.
C -: Yeah, it's definitely not happening.
Harvito: And then she would just, and then during the time period, she was like, mean, you know, I could help you. All right. Yeah, it wasn't, wasn't, wasn't working.
Victoria: Can I ask a question?
Naye: Wait, she couldn't help either?
Harvito: Yeah, it wasn't working. I was too lit, bro.
Naye: it wasn't meant for her. It wasn't meant for her, cause...
Harvito: I was way too lit. it's like, yeah, I just like this way too lit. My head was spinning.
Big Mama: Ain't no way you could fuck with your head.
Naye: That was that you needed a nap.
Harvito: You know how like,
Naye: You needed sleep.
Harvito: lay down and then like your body start doing that thing where it's it's like spinning or
Big Mama: Yeah.
Harvito: whatever? Yeah, it kept doing
Victoria: Yeah.
Harvito: that.
Big Mama: Yeah, I wouldn't even wanna get on top 'cause I'd be scared that you're gonna throw up
C -: Woo!
Victoria: Yeah, that part. Because you throw up on me, I'm fighting you.
Big Mama: 'Cause you know what I mean? Like too much motion 'cause like to ride.
Victoria: If I hear it, I'm pushing you off me.
Big Mama: Don't go crazy if you really like Make sure your stomach bouncing with all that lick weak dick 'cause I've had the experience of a big one and a and a peewee. So like the pee we it was weak just for the sake of it ain't going nowhere. Like at that point it's just tickling. It's just tickling you.
Victoria: Ha!
Big Mama: Like at that point you ain't like you can't like I'm talking peewee. I'm not talking about like the four inch, five inch no no no, I'm talking like
Victoria: Is it bigger than this or smaller?
Big Mama: Mm.
Victoria: Damn!
Big Mama: Yeah.
Naye: about to say shake the nail off.
Big Mama: And yeah, don't include my nails. That's that's that's generic.
Naye: Because the way that Alexis described it to me at that time when we were talking about it, the way she described it to me was the most disrespectful.
Big Mama: I wasn't trying to be, but it's just like it was one of those things of like we just gonna have to I couldn't even do oral. Or I like oral, but I couldn't even muster up the confidence to do it because it just felt kid-like. And I was just like, I can't do that. Like
Naye: And that's the kid the kid like is what gets it. That's what gets it. It's like that
Big Mama: Yeah, like it was too much. I was like, no.
Naye: is I mean, as a I mean, I understand, you know, we are all human. You gotta try to get it off how you can, but boy, how disrespectful is that. Like, you know you not even going inside, nothing.
Big Mama: And it wasn't like I'm not saying I'm not saying it's his fault 'cause obviously you you born with what you born with. But Yeah. That like the personality traits. It's
Naye: God said fuck him. sh I get it.
Big Mama: like the personality traits didn't even match up to what you got packaged. It's like you trying to move around with big dick energy and on some toxic shit while you over. Anyway, so from a big from a big dick perspective,
Naye: For that. For that.
Big Mama: I don't like niggas that know they got a big dick that still try to like slam up into I really hate that. Because that to me means like you don't care about the female anatomy. Like you can't just ram your shit and you know your shit is big into a woman. Like I hate that shit. That shit like just like changed everything. And it's like, no, don't try to sit here and say that I can't take nothing because it ain't never been that. But it's how you do
Naye: I know you have that A.
Big Mama: it that and like work your way into it that can get a woman to take that. But you just starting off up in that shit, no, that'll piss me off.
Naye: I don't care who you go to help you. I'm never going to check my power. say how is it for y'all if it's weak, but how is it with a female that's just it is trash.
Big Mama: She ain't giving. It ain't giving. The pum poom don't bring life. How does it how does it feel?
Harvito: It's it's not given. I I I I
Naye: And what do you like what do you do in the situation when you experience it?
Harvito: I let I'll let C go. I'll let C go. I'm
Big Mama: What'd you say?
Harvito: I'm gonna let check I'm gonna let what did what did
Naye: Say and what do you do? face.
Big Mama: No, no, no, yeah. Actually, I mean.
Naye: Yeah, what do you do when you it's like what do you feel? And then what do you do when you're experiencing it? Is it like you you fake it or is you like, all right, I'm done. It it just
Harvito: I'ma let I'm gonna let I'm gonna let Bro go first and then I'm gonna go.
Naye: Chase out Chase looked like he got something juicy. We cannot spare feelings.
Big Mama: No, not tonight.
C -: It's kind of just like what y'all said. Like you just, you don't feel like nothing. Like you just, like.
Big Mama: Really? Cool shouldn't feel like nothing when it ain't good.
C -: that and then like it could also be
Victoria: Hell no!
C -: response to like I guess taking it I guess because like I don't know I've been turned off in the middle of sex before so like so where the experience ended up being a little wackier than what it could have been I guess like it's like I don't know I don't know I don't know I think it's really Everybody's different.
Big Mama: Like is it like a wetness or dryness or that's not even passion, it's just wax.
Harvito: For me it was a roughness. I ain't gonna lie. It was kinda rough. It
C -: Ism
Big Mama: It was fine.
Harvito: was kinda rough. I was like, like, hey, you know like, mm-hmm. Hey.
Big Mama: What do you mean rough? Like it was rough?
Harvito: Yeah, like that my head was like, whoa, hey, nah, this is friction. No no no no no no no no no no I'm like,
Big Mama: Yeah.
Harvito: real quick. I'm like, now I was like, nah, you just you just type line but You know, that's when like I guess it's like and that that was deaf that was that was college of course.
Big Mama: Why you didn't just tell her the truth though? Why you didn't just say, Hey, cooks, you shit dry. Go eat some more fruit.
Harvito: Be because of who it was.
Victoria: Honey and vinegar Lexus, honey and vinegar.
Harvito: Honey and vinegar it's crazy.
Big Mama: Hey nigga, this college. No feelings. The fuck? It's college.
Victoria: He's still eating vinegar, but...
Big Mama: Nah, I'm talking my mindset
Harvito: Honey and vinegar?
Big Mama: back in college now, nigga. I'm finna tell you the fuck. I didn't give a fuck back then.
Harvito: No, I was just like not 'cause who it was, I was just like, nah, don't don't don't do that. Don't do that. So
Big Mama: But that's not hurting nobody. You tell Hey, poof, your shit a little dry. You need some assistance or do we need to go get some loop? But you if you didn't really wanna fuck her then then I mean shit it really don't matter. But you should be able to be honest with somebody else you have. If you comfortable enough to get naked in front of this person, you should be comfortable enough to tell the truth with this person. Even regardless of a one night
Harvito: Right, by
Big Mama: stand. Like you bold enough to fuck on a one night stand, but you can't tell them, hey, yo, shit might need a stick.
Harvito: Right. But it was like that person wasn't how can I put it? It
Naye: I mean
Harvito: was like nah, no man. They were one
Big Mama: No huh?
Harvito: night stand. Like they were a one night stand, but that was like one night every every week. Like it was like that was one of those type of situations. When we kinda
Victoria: It wasn't a one night stand, it feels like a one night stand every week.
Naye: It was a one it was a once time that it was tried like that, or was it
Big Mama: So you kept fucking
Harvito: Yeah.
Big Mama: you kept fucking a whack pussy or it was just one?
Harvito: After it was just after that, after like once it started to go down, I put like that. Like it was cool, then like it just started to just go it's it was repetitive.
Victoria: You got bored. You got bored. Or she got bored. Either she got bored or you got bored. She got bored.
Harvito: That's what it was? So that's what it was. I got bored. Okay. So it wasn't it wasn't
Big Mama: Yeah you had you had a you had a super
Harvito: me. All right.
Big Mama: soaker.
Harvito: So it was me. So it was me. It was a me thing. All right, babe.
Big Mama: It was both it was a both of y'all thing. You didn't get
Victoria: Yeah.
Big Mama: your super soaker and she didn't have the balls, no pun intended. To be honest, that her co that her coochie dry. She
Naye: Yeah.
Victoria: You
Big Mama: knows her coochie dry. She knows that shit felt uncomfortable when you went in. A any female that's dry, you know that shit
Naye: Can we like the keyboard?
Big Mama: is uncomfortable with when you try to put it in. Cause I've had instances where I didn't like a nigga that
Naye: Okay,
Big Mama: Like it's very selfish when it comes to oral, like they just
Naye: Yeah.
Big Mama: wanna put their shit in. They wanna, you know, tickle your clip and that's it. It's like no nigga, you got to eat the cookie. This is not just the cause once I see like you lazy like that, that's gonna make me dry 'cause I'm like, you ain't adventurous. You ain't like you ain't considerate of the other be might be. Chase might be at the BDSM.
Victoria: It look like a mask. like, is that a ski mask on your shelf, bro?
C -: What happened?
Victoria: Is that a ski mask on your show? it looked like it.
Big Mama: Well you gotta punch nice. That's all we playing Captain Robert.
Victoria: Nay, what are you over there cracking up about?
Naye: Like you call it what Alessand said. Alessus is being, Alessand is saying Alexa says what what she said about the BDSM that had me a little tickled because you know.
Big Mama: I didn't say nothing crazy.
Naye: No, it wasn't crazy, but I also I
Big Mama: Like are you
Naye: also know you and I also know how Mm. You're petty. You're very petty. I took it too. We all took it.
Harvito: Yeah, I know she had me yeah, y'all know she had me take sex.
Victoria: Yo, yo little crazy, you wasn't saying nothing crazy, but you was saying something crazy.
Big Mama: I made I made all of them take the BDS entry.
Naye: Huh. who says I'm crazy? Me.
Big Mama: Chase, have you taken the BDSM test?
Naye: I don't understand.
C -: Wait, no?
Big Mama: Have you taken the D S test?
Naye: I'm gonna finally get them to use.
Big Mama: There you go. It's quite informative. Like Yeah.
Naye: It's fun. Alexis has been teaching me things and it's been fun. It's been fun.
Big Mama: Yeah.
C -: Yes, it is.
Naye: Yeah.
Big Mama: Yeah, like it it shows you
Harvito: Yes, exactly.
Big Mama: like there's different levels and keys to BDSM. So it tells you like, you know, what's your ranking prosthetic wise with all of the categories like so I we also like test. We didn't do the full out test, so this is a lot of questions. But like mine, I was back and forth with being a brat and also a brat tamer.
Naye: reset to his knuckles. In the same team.
Big Mama: Which makes sense. I like to exchange powers when it comes to the bed. Like there's times I like to be dominant, and I like to be feminist.
Naye: Let's just stick your nose out when we do that.
Harvito: show that had a bit of bread in me and I thought that was kinda interesting. Then again I was like, you know what? No, it's not. I had a little and then first idea, I was like, that's interesting. Then I thought about it, you know what? It's not. It's not.
Naye: Welcome to the playing game. Which is something I hope to some days later. I'm wondering there's not my mouth. Wait, fuck.
Big Mama: You find you find that interesting?
Naye: We need to figure out where knuckles
Big Mama: It's not far fetched at all.
Naye: thinks on the key to finding the master emerald. And why did it mention
Harvito: Right, it's not far fetched, not it's not off. Like, all right, makes it.
Naye: long ago? There
Big Mama: 'Cause you do shit on purpose.
Naye: must be a connection. Wait a minute,
Harvito: Do I
Naye: there is. Look! There's an emerald symbol under the phone call. I never knew what it meant before.
Harvito: Yeah, finish that cosmos. Good girl.
Big Mama: Yeah. How much?
Harvito: I'm just jumping. I'm just jumping. Calm down. Geez Louise.
Big Mama: So you cutting up on Beyonce's internet today?
Harvito: Nah, a little bit.
Big Mama: 'Cause you know, if you go law, I'm gonna take it to hell.
Naye: I'm gonna make four.
Harvito: Yeah, you're right. Never mind, I'm done.
Naye: If you're watching this, then something has happened
Big Mama: You know?
Naye: to me. And I pray that you've needed to earn my heart.
Harvito: I'm done. I'm done. I'm good. Ain't that yeah,
Big Mama: I like the tango. You sure?
Harvito: I don't like that dance. I'm good. You got it.
Big Mama: I love the tango.
Naye: He critically.
Harvito: Nah, you got it, Chief. I'm good.
Naye: Victoria.
Big Mama: Hmm.
Harvito: What's that next question?
Big Mama: question so do people who stay single longer have a tougher time dating?
Victoria: Okay.
Naye: Sometimes I think so.
Big Mama: Mm-hmm.
Naye: Because you can sometimes people get so used to just being single. Or just get used to it and then having to adapt to being in a relationship again sometimes to be an issue for people.
Big Mama: So what does singlehood look like to you? Like when you're in your era of singlement?
Naye: of being single, Hmm.
C -: on to.
Big Mama: Like are you just are you strictly to yourself or are you single and just going out with you?
Naye: Thank you.
Big Mama: You know what I mean? Like but you make the middle? Like what does that look like?
C -: So maybe you want to...
Naye: I've had a moment in my singleness. 'cause I've been single I have been single for five and a half years, five and a half is years. five, five years. Six six months. Yeah, five years. a portion of that time it was really just to myself because I had to relearn who I was like outside of relationship, outside of motherhood. I had to really learn who I was and then for a brief moment I did have a point in time where I was getting to know other people but it wasn't anything trying to get to know them serious. It was just not necessarily entertainment but also it was like a a mix between, you know, I wasn't I wasn't looking for no relationship or nothing like that. It was just Hey, I met somebody, we talking, it's whatever.
Big Mama: Okay. But your mindset wasn't like, let's see where this goes, kinda like you here,
Naye: A support and fine.
Big Mama: I'm here.
Naye: No. Well, for me because I felt like I was very, very traumatized within my last situation. So with that it was I'm going into things or going into talking to people with zero attachments. Like I don't want no type of attachments to nobody. So it was just
Big Mama: Mm-hmm.
Naye: it was just what it was. It was no if it moves forward to something, I didn't want it to move forward to nothing. It was just no attachments whatsoever.
Big Mama: Okay. And how was that transition for you where you're like, okay, I'm ready to have, to start having like an open mind?
Naye: actually
Big Mama: Mm-hmm.
Naye: the transition happened not that long ago. I think more so when I started
Big Mama: It
Naye: talking to you a little bit more and I started being a little bit more open about what I was really feeling and where I'm
Big Mama: Yeah.
Naye: at. Like I d I feel like I've done more healing than what I have back then. So with getting to know myself in this new era it's I'm okay with it, but then I'm still like I'm still a little bit sheltered because of how traumatized I was and I still feel like I am a little bit traumatized. So it's like I'm not I'm not far fetched from it. Like I'm okay with the thought of it. But I'd be scared to do so, you know, 'cause it's been it's been it's been so long for one. Two, I was so traumatized, it's like it scares the hell out of me sometimes, but I'm not I'm not closed minded.
Big Mama: And it's always that question
Naye: Ringbear has been taking her channel.
Big Mama: of okay, I know I have to get past this eventually, like I can't sit in it. You know what I mean? Like
Naye: Uh-huh.
Big Mama: that's when you have to have that type of serious conversation with yourself.
Naye: Was that a question? I'm sorry. I'm listening to you but
Big Mama: Kinda like kind of like a statement slash question. You know what I mean? Like, have
Naye: Yeah, no.
Big Mama: you had that moment with yourself of like, okay, I know this is here, but that still doesn't mean that I I I'm not supposed to move forward. Like I have to move past this trauma at some point.
Naye: Yeah, most definitely. And I think one another thing that kind of did put my perspective a little differently was your niece was talking to Alexa. And baby girl was like, Alexa, my mommy need husband. Seriously, these exact words. See?
Big Mama: And
Naye: So just to see even like my baby is paying attention, and she's like, nah, mommy need mommy needs somebody, like, you know. So it was like, okay, maybe it wouldn't hurt to actually see what's up, but being picky, being very I wouldn't say cautious, but I'm being very, very mindful and very intentional about it. So are you sure not this? Mm-hmm.
Big Mama: Hmm. So Chase, what about you? Why do you think people stay single longer and have a tougher time dating?
C -: I'll see the comments A lot of self-reflection, you you kind of just think of what could have went wrong and kind of just spend time with justifying
Big Mama: Yeah.
C -: like, okay, these are the alternatives resolutions that could have happened, know, should, you know, these would have happened, but it didn't. I, you know, and I think a level of accountability as well, I think we kind of grow into that, you know, okay, next time if I, you know, find myself in a situation I need to do better, you know?
Big Mama: Uh-huh.
C -: but people just, yeah, they just spending, you know, time just kind of just figuring their selves out and kind of get into where they need to be at in life. Because let's be clear, like people are really kind of like out here talking about talking like they ready for a finished product, you know? So when everybody's kind of like that, they own situation going on in a way, it's just like unfair for a lot of people who you know, really are genuine lovers, you know, to where they feel like they're putting them in where they're feeling like they're not good enough, I guess. And a lot of people... So it's like, kind of just, know, all right, let me just be the best version of myself and build my confidence. So maybe I might dip my toe in the pond again, but however, if it's still looking like piss in the water, I'm gonna kind of just, you know, stay dry.
Big Mama: And something like really like it was deep, but it was simple that I heard recently was like, especially when it comes to the whole closure thing of the person that traumatized you, a lot of times you don't have leftover unfinished business because of them. A lot of times it's you needing to forgive yourself and how and how you showed up during that time and the things that you allowed yourself to not only do but receive. And I think that's the part where a lot of closure comes into play because sometimes you feel like you gotta have that conversation or something to get that closure. Sometimes true, but not all the time. It's that case. Sometimes it's just you need to forgive yourself and how you were showing up during that season. Like regardless of how much you may love somebody or care
Naye: Yeah.
Big Mama: for somebody. If you are over loving them and under loving yourself, then that's really not a win-win situation in the first place. All for the sake of somebody just still being present in your life.
Naye: That is that, yeah.
Big Mama: Okay.
Naye: I mean that that that's it right there. Cause I would say when I say I'm traumatized, I'm not. Yeah, the thing he did was was lag, but then it's like it's me. It was like, girl, you allowed that. Because somebody can only do to you what you're allowing them to do to you. So it was like
Big Mama: Mm-hmm.
Naye: I accepted that I did that, and it was like, girl, you knew better, but you didn't do better. So it leaves me to be like, okay, so That's why I say when I was working on myself, it was all those things that I noticed that I was like, No, I lost myself because of myself. And I used to admit that a lot. I used to be like, Well, I see this or I see that and I know I shouldn't but I I'm looking towards not now, but what is the word? Your your can't even think of word but I wasn't looking at the person for what they were in that moment. I was looking for what they could be, the potential of what they could
Big Mama: They're potentially
Naye: be. Yeah, and so I think that was something that really that really messed me up because I was like, You're balking the shit out of me but you're gonna be great one day. No, it was like girl if you would have just stayed aware to what you did already know and let that be that, you wouldn't be going through what you're going through now. But you're
Big Mama: Say V.
Victoria: the question originally was do people who stay single longer have a hard time dating? It depends on the person for me. Yes, the
Big Mama: Mm-hmm.
Victoria: longer I stay single The more I The more I stay single the more I get in tune with me and the more I it's like I want what I want I know what I want and I'm not gonna settle for nothing less than what I want and a lot of people When you start dating When you set those boundaries and you set those expectations, they are not ready for that. You know what mean? So it's like, if you can't meet me where I'm at
Big Mama: Yep.
Victoria: and progress forward together, then I'd just be single. I'd rather be single and happy and live my life than get with somebody and settle for less than what I want and be miserable. Right, that's not okay.
Big Mama: Goodbye, baby.
Harvito: I think I think it it depends on the person and also depends on what their style of or what dating is, quote unquote. some people they are single, they are dating. They just not dating one particular person, you know, they dating multiple people or, you know, here and there. I think what kind of keeps them single too, which is something Vicky has said about like, you know, you get in tune with yourself so much that, you know, you know what you like and what you don't like. Cool. The drawback about that is in a relationship is you know what you like and what you don't like, but then you wanna br but somebody else brings themselves on and they have what they like and what they don't like. And now there's a there's a sh there's there's friction. There's a, you know what I'm saying? There's there's friction in that. But then that's where compromise comes in. You know what I'm saying? About so when that, when there's no compromise, then there's no real life relationship. Cause y'all not gonna always be, y'all not gonna fit a groove. Y'all not always gonna be missing puzzle pieces of each other. It's not, it's not it's never gonna work like that. they're not gonna always like automatically fit each other like that. There's a compromise that has to go in place. And I think that's one of the biggest things I think that that kinda keeps people single people from, you know, say having relationships is they get so much into what they wanna do that the idea of compromise gonna really kinda already be in here. Now I heard so many people talk about like what they want, what they sticking with and what's on their list. And then to the point is just like, okay, cool. That was like eight years, nine years down the line, you still got this list, but nobody that filled it up. Or you had people that filled out majority of the list because but because they didn't fill fix all of it. That was enough. Sucks. You know what I'm saying? So yeah.
Victoria: There are certain things that you should expect, but there are times to compromise, like you said. For an actual relationship to be a relationship, yes, there has to be compromises on both ends. And so...
Big Mama: I we used to sneak into the movie theaters. We buy one ticket for one movie and we go into the next one for free. Buy one get one too.
Victoria: I ain't gonna lie, I did that with my niece and my nephew and my daughter. We went to go see two movies but I only paid for one.
Big Mama: That's what I'm saying. That's why I'm like, it's hard for me to like be like, yes, it's wrong. why don't people wanna grow together anymore and just want a finished product relationship?
Victoria: I personally think it's because a lot of people are lazy. A lot of people don't want to put in the effort to grow with somebody, but then complain about
Big Mama: Yeah. Yeah.
Victoria: there being no growth. Y'all got it. You you honestly
Big Mama: Yeah.
Victoria: I don't think you you can't really expect a finished product because you're you're growing every day. You're every second
Big Mama: Exactly.
Victoria: of every day, you're growing, you're learning something new, you know, things about you change as you grow. So to ask for a finished product, I feel like it is unrealistic as fuck.
Big Mama: Yeah, it's like I would never
Victoria: Mm-hmm.
Big Mama: ask of myself to be a finished product in a relationship because I if I understand the laws of the world, I understand that I'm forever evolving, forever changing. So I'm not gonna stop a blessing for simply being in my head that I'm not where I want to be yet. Because
Victoria: Right.
Big Mama: if we already in it deep. I'm not gonna walk back to the shallow part for the sake of that I'm uncomfortable. 'Cause if you chose
Victoria: And I feel like
Big Mama: if you chose me and you like you
Victoria: Well
Big Mama: who I wanna do life with, that means the good, the bad and the ugly. Like
Victoria: Till death do you part?
Big Mama: exactly.
Victoria: Like come on now. I feel like it it it it it it makes me
Big Mama: I want to see all of you.
Victoria: mad. It makes me mad when people get in relationships and then somebody like you have a baby and then the dude is all like, you didn't got fat. I'm my body went through a lot of changes and instead of you telling me I'm fat, why don't you like make it make it to where encouragement to change to help me change with me and like you feel me? But
Big Mama: Mm-hmm.
Victoria: For or even vice versa. Like, you know, a dude starts gaining weight or, you know, you know, whatever the case may be. Like, if you don't like what you
Big Mama: Yeah.
Victoria: see, grow with your man or your person
Big Mama: Mm-hmm.
Victoria: and and change it together. Don't down
Big Mama: Yeah.
Victoria: down talk that person or or anything like that, 'cause that's how relationships fail. Like, what?
Big Mama: Great. What you think, May?
Victoria: Okay.
Big Mama: Yeah.
Naye: the question was why do people not want to grow together?
Big Mama: And just want a finished product, uh-huh, with the relationship.
Naye: I just want to finish products. I think one of the biggest
Big Mama: Yeah.
Naye: things right now is social media. People like to portray things that is really not true. So they they look at social media and be like, if you ain't got this, this, this, then you know, I don't want you. And ain't nobody got everything on your list. Like Everybody don't have, you know, all of these things that you you want as a finished product. And nine times out of ten, the person that's in that, I want a finished product, you're not a finished product yourself. You probably are further
Victoria: Right.
Naye: from what you're asking for. And a lot of people ask for qualities in a partner that they don't have within themselves. So in growing growing with people, I feel you Victoria when you say it's a laziness, but it's also selfishness too, because people they just they don't they're comfortable where they are. Some people don't wanna grow. Some people don't wanna better themselves and and progress more in
Victoria: Yeah, I think and that
Naye: life. They're comfortable. I got I got my place, I got my I got this, I got that. I'm good. I don't need nothing more than that. I don't wanna be nothing more than what I am. So it's just it's comfortability and it's social media.
Victoria: And To add on to what Nay was saying as far as like people not people being stuck in, you know, their ways or whatever. I feel like when people are stuck in their ways and don't wanna change and in a relationship and the other person is like is changing and is realizing like, you know, they want other things and they wanna do better and be better and they they they know that there's more out there, it causes friction because you have one person who's like, I'm cool where I'm at, and the other ones are like, I I I'm cool where we at, but we can be better. We can do better. You know what I mean? And when
Big Mama: Very small.
Victoria: that when the person who wants to do better starts doing better and making more money and, you know, feeling better about themselves,
Big Mama: Yeah.
Victoria: it causes friction in a relationship because they're like the person who's stuck in their ways is like, well You think you better than me. It's like, no, I want you to grow with me, but you're so stuck in your ways and we can't you think I'm trying to outshine you when I'm not. I want you to be right with I'm I want us to be right here. But we can't be here if you here. You know what I mean? Like
Big Mama: And sometimes individuals also get in their own way and you may have a supportive partner that's like, hey, I'm fine with you growing with me as well. Where you feel like, and this goes back to the previous like you know, like, do you feel like you always have to get somewhere on your own? And that's the part I think that happens in relationships is they're still focused on the mindset of singlehood. of they have to figure it out by themselves versus you're in a partnership where it's like now we speak French. We need to come up with a plan. Don't just do something for your comfortability and thinking in a place of singlehood.
Victoria: That also goes to in relationships like When you've been so used to doing everything back to what you were saying, Alexis, you're so used to doing everything on your own. Like, even when it comes to like dealing with the kids or or, you know, doing household tours and this and this and that. When you do have somebody in a r in that relationship with you who's like, What do you need? Tell me what you need, you know, ask for help. They're so like, I need, I have, I have to do this, I gotta do this, I gotta go here. And it's like You don't have to do everything. You know what I mean? And sometimes being the person who's wanting to help and not really knowing how to help because you're not asking for help,
Big Mama: Mm.
Victoria: it causes a conflict because it to the person who's not asking for help, they have this mindset of you should know what I need, but I can't
Big Mama: Right.
Victoria: read minds. You know what I mean? Like I can see you need help,
Big Mama: Yeah.
Victoria: but I don't wanna help you thinking that I know what you need help with and then you get mad because you needed help over here, but I'm thinking I go help over here and it's like you get mad. I need this. Well you didn't say that. So now I'm assuming and then you get mad because I made the assumption when you could have just said, Hey, can you help me with this while I do this? Absolutely not.
C -: think it's just more of like a sense of. I think it's just more like a character thing really like nobody wants to you know It's like I mean, I think we said it earlier It's just like people are kind of just lazy with it people kind of just don't want to go through the process of you know going through you know, guess The building part they kind of want to already have that
Victoria: They don't wanna they don't
Big Mama: Yeah.
Victoria: they don't wanna compromise.
Big Mama: Or are you saying like for
C -: biggest
Big Mama: example somebody somebody that's self sabotaging, they think it's easier to to deal with their troubles on their own versus dealing with the troubles of somebody else because now they have to consider somebody else's thoughts?
C -: I was just saying, I think it has to do with like, I think it has to do with pride. Like no one wants to put their pride aside to like give anything, you know, or submit to each
Big Mama: Mm-hmm.
C -: other in certain degrees. Like, damn, you know, I think no one wants to settle as,
Big Mama: Mm-hmm.
C -: you know, so like, yeah, I think it's just a character with pride and like, you know, and laziness. to where it's just like, know, shit just don't feel genuine anymore, to where like no one, people who are genuine are kind of just, you know, staying single and just like, you know. They can't, they stay single because their trust in... is just kind of like cracked in a way. They can't really
Big Mama: Okay.
C -: fuck with nobody.
Big Mama: Baby, what you think?
Harvito: Say I kind of point back to Nate point about social media being a part of the problem, honestly. especially when you listen to some of these podcasts, cause they kinda tell they try to tell you what you should have. He has to have this, this and that. She gotta have this, or she has to have that. But it's but majority of things that they're telling me that some a person needs to have is in a sense material and not like actual emotional and like psychological shit they should kinda have. I think that because of that they think that's the finished product. So that's what that's what I'm aiming for. That's what you should have. It's not gonna work like that. And then on top of that too with what Victoria was talking about was was I think like some people they just don't have that passion to like get to where they wanna go for real for real. So they think that the finished product what or they feel like the finished product is I think sometimes some people feel like their finished product is unattainable. So they don't even try to go for it. So it's like so that they like, nah, never mind, cool, I'm straight on it. Like and then they get in their and then they get into their own in their own way for real, for real. I would say for me, when it came to d me getting out of my own way, it was definitely about like coming out of the It's me, like worried about just me, like and my survival way of living to realize like it's about to be a we, so you gotta gear the fuck up. Understand that's not just you. But
Big Mama: It already is it already is a weed, that's the thing.
Harvito: Right, you know what I'm saying? But it's like I have to really get myself more into it forever because that time I I'm I'm I'm mentally be in my own and it be me, you know? And then on top of that, it's like I think what kinda place partner is 'cause I'm here. You know what I'm saying? So it's like it is just me. You know what I'm saying? It's my brother here too, but it's like, and I gotta make sure I'm straight. I make sure like I'm doing it. I think one of the key things for me is making sure that I'm doing what I'm doing for us. It's like That to me is part of my we. It's like I'm not trying to negate, you know what I'm saying, take take myself out and just say, it's a totally a me thing. It's like, nah, it's a me thing trying to make sure that we straight, type of thing. Like, yeah. That's why I feel like, you know, people want that. And then on top of that, it's just like people don't understand how like
Big Mama: Yeah.
Harvito: that stuff they see on social media that people won't. People have or they show on social media and it looks great. That took a lot. You don't know what type of emotional or mental like state they had to go through prior to actually getting whatever it is that they wanted.
Big Mama: And also too, I think social media tries to paint the picture of these influencer couples and all the things like they both came to the table with something when sometimes that partner came with nothing but a vision and this person came with something in a vision. You know what I mean? So this person had to rub off on them on how to manifest it versus saying, we can't come together until you got all those things that are, you know, just set up and fixed before we come to this table. Sometimes when you come to the table, it's with some baggage too. And you gotta sort through the shit of what do we need to get rid of as a as a couple. And what do we keep? Because we in order to grow, you don't want dead weight. But
Victoria: Right.
Big Mama: you don't have to be, you don't have to come to the table with everything at once. Sometimes a a couple comes together where a partner is struggling in some area of their life, but that doesn't change the fact that they are still moving forward. versus
Victoria: Yeah.
Big Mama: getting in your way and delaying forward motion. Because the moment you start trying to delay forward motion is the moment you start delaying the rest of your blessings that requires that pathway anyways. Well
Victoria: rather go through my relationship with somebody and struggle and become successful together than get into a relationship with somebody who feels like they are the finished product and then not want to progress past what they have. You know what I mean? Because
Big Mama: Uh-huh.
Victoria: somebody who is broke and has
Big Mama: Yeah, that's good.
Victoria: the ambition to go further and knows if you can keep going
Big Mama: Yeah.
Victoria: That that does something to my spirit. I the hell? I I love Like there's some things that I've actually finally healed from that where I'm at in my life now, I'm in such a better place. Like back when we first started this back up, I was remember telling y'all like back six years ago when we started this, like for the first time started this, none of us were in a really a a head a good headspace. None of us were in a
Big Mama: Right.
Victoria: a a good place in life, you know what I mean? And then six years passed and now I personally gone through a lot of things and experienced a lot of things and I'm in a better place mentally, physically, emotionally, financially. Like I'm happier because I've finally shed off some of the trauma that I've been holding on to.
Big Mama: I love it So that goes to my next question. That's actually a perfect transition. Do you believe self-healing can only happen alone or also in a partnership?
Harvito: But a partner. It can't happen with a partner.
Victoria: Only if you allow it to happen with your partner though. You have to you have to be willing
Harvito: Yeah. You gotta allow that.
Victoria: and open to letting that partner in to your trauma so that they can understand you. Because of you can't expect the person that you're with to to understand your meltdowns if you never actually explain why you're having this meltdown. Yeah I mean like
Big Mama: Because then that means you start to become an avoidant.
Victoria: Right.
Big Mama: Because, you know.
Naye: And you know what? I think here. Can you get us to Zayan? I think that kind of goes back to how a couple episodes ago we talked about would you rather be deeply loved or would you rather be understood? And I think that's where that I'd rather be understood come in from. Like if you truly understand like certain things that I go through, you understand certain like triggers or anything, that could be a that's like a way to be there for your partner to to allow you in that space to be able to heal with them. 'Cause if you don't understand you don't understand your partner, you can be like, What the
Victoria: Yeah.
Naye: hell? This bitch crazy, dude, you know?
Big Mama: But but Nay, I think you're missing the other side of that question that was asked as well. Because
Naye: What about it?
Big Mama: yes, you're saying you would rather be understood, but the whole question was, would you back would you rather be loved and misunderstood or understood and not loved deeply?
Naye: Wait, that question back then or now?
Big Mama: Back then that was the question. It was like it was a double sided question.
Naye: I never knew it was that because when we when we talked about it it was a would you I all I heard would you rather be loved or deeply loved or so?
Big Mama: We did well we we did, remember? That's what we did though, because that's what we were elaborating because I was on the other side of it of I would rather be loved deeply and misunderstood. And then y'all was like, Well, no, it's this I would rather be
Naye: Yeah.
Big Mama: understood, 'cause that was when we were like, so is it integrity or love that matters
Naye: Mm-hmm.
Big Mama: more? Not saying that that one has to be out of the equation, but this one supersedes the other. That's like what like the whole
Victoria: Let's see, I feel like
Big Mama: debate was. And and the guys, y'all can chime in too, because I don't neither of y'all were in on that conversation of would you rather be loved deeply and misunderstood or understood and not loved deeply?
Harvito: And not love deeply. Well I'm loved though, regardless, right?
Big Mama: It's shallow.
Harvito: Mm. It kinda I don't know. To me like the whole like thing about being like to be understood. You understand like my feeling, my action, or wherever like that goes, like you got that part. I I don't know. I don't know. I kind of feel like the deeply to the deeply love. But then yeah, I can see why deeply love. Yeah, I can see the I can see the thing.
Big Mama: versus love on the shallow like versus love on a shallow level.
Harvito: Actually, 'cause by the deeply love part, I could see like it's like whether they understand me or not. So they love me for the partners. So
Big Mama: They still love you and are here for you. Yeah.
Victoria: Okay, so right, they
Harvito: okay.
Victoria: still love you deeply. They still love you, but how can you my thing is is how can you truly love someone deeply if you don't understand them?
Naye: Is it high?
Harvito: Or you don't got to really un that's something like I think that my brother kinda does, right? I don't fully understand why he does those things.
Naye: Here we go. Here we go. Here we go.
Harvito: But I love him just the same still cause whatever like whatever he does, it's not hurting nobody. It ain't hurting himself. That's like my key thing. As long as they hurt himself, hurt nobody and he good, he straight. I bet, whatever.
Victoria: Okay, that that's different. You're talking about your you're talking about your brother. I'm talking about being in a relationship with somebody. Can you truly say you love me, but you don't you you don't understand me? Like not even a little bit.
Big Mama: See, I didn't look at it as I don't I you're misunderstood in totality. I looked at it as there are some things I get about you and there's some things I I will never get about you. So like
Harvito: That would not. Yeah.
Big Mama: I look at that, that's how relationships are, anyways. There are certain actions all of y'all in here may take, and I may not understand it, but I still love you. We ride at dawn. You know what I'm saying? Like It doesn't change the depth of my love because the depth of my love for somebody, I'll do anything for that person. So I s even though I may misunderstand you in certain aspects, I understand love is still sacrifice. I will always be there for you. It doesn't change that, but to just understand me, but you giving me shallow ass love, that means I can't go deep with you when some shit hit the fan because, I understand your problem, but I can't walk with you in the problem through the problem. You know what I'm saying? That's how I look at it as shallow love versus deep love. Just because I don't understand certain aspects, I'm still gonna get in the trenches with you. It's still sa understanding sacrifice. Cause that's what that's a part of what love is. But you gotta love somebody deeply to want to make that.
Victoria: Now, are you gonna sacrifice now do you sac when you deeply love somebody you do you sacrifice yourself?
Big Mama: depends on the situation. I don't sacrifice myself to the point of losing myself, but I do believe in the ideology of this person's on fire. I'm not. Although I have an issue, I need to handle getting rid of this flame that is on this person's body. So sometimes I will be like, this matters more in this moment. But that doesn't mean I'm going to neglect whatever it is that's on my mind either. I just know I have the understanding of there's a time and a place. So that's a part of sacrifice. I I have to get, I'm still in line. I'm just not first in line. But he on fire, let me fix this before we get some third degree burns and there's a point of no return. Versus me, I'm perfectly fine. I'm not on fire. It it comes with moments of selflessness. Yes, I feel like there has to be some pieces of selfishness even in relationships because you can't lose yourself in a relationship. You should still have a sense of individuality to yourself. We don't always have to be up under each other. I feel like there's something healthy about having other relationships outside of your relationship.
Victoria: I'm so glad you said that. I'm so glad you said that. Because I
Big Mama: I'm not gonna you can't consume me like that. Like that's that then that becomes codependency.
Victoria: So I've been on both ends
Big Mama: Yeah.
Victoria: of that. I've been on the end of being the being the one codent codependent and I've also been the one that has someone who's codependent on me. That makes sense. So and it's it it sucks
Big Mama: Mm-hmm.
Victoria: either way. It sucks either either way. I've been in a relationship
Big Mama: You're gonna
Victoria: the in fact my last relationship was like that. It was like I was codependent on her and she was codependent on me. So it was like it was just not good. It was not good. That's where that whole are you dating your trauma or your type that was that was my trauma. Yeah.
Harvito: Why do men would say they want to go a woman but can't keep her?
Big Mama: Mhm. Like they asked for it, then you got it. But now you don't know how to maintain it after you got it.
Harvito: immaturity one. could be self-sabotage. A lot like that kinda falls into the whole immaturity thing, I think, honestly. yeah, that's one key thing, just immature. Like you get it, but you don't know what you're doing with it, so you just be immature, you be immature shit. Do just real immature shit with it.
Big Mama: Or do you do you feel not worthy of it after you've gotten it? Like, you know, sometimes we ask for shit. We'd be like, Yeah, this is what I want. We held a confident in the prayer. But then once it's here, it's like, wait, wait, wait, was serious? I was just playing. Like I I I wasn't there
Harvito: Y
Big Mama: yet. But you asked for it.
Harvito: Right. We ask it's the thing too, it's like that's what they that's what I do. That's what I say, be careful what you pray like, you know what I'm saying? Like be careful what you pray for. It's also something that somebody says this bless you. That like, you know, be careful when you pray for it too, because you might not be you pray for what you want, right? And you ain't in the season for it whatsoever, right? But boom, here you got it. You ask for it though. This is what you asked for. And guess what? You're not even in the season to do nothing with this right here. So now it's a really a test of what you gonna do. You gonna put up and shut up and you know what I'm saying, try your actual best, you know what I'm saying, with the whole situation? Or are you gonna flop it all together, like and just run it amok? And usually that's what it'll happen, you know what I'm saying?
Big Mama: Yeah, no.
Harvito: Mugs end up running it, like they end up running amok with it, and it just it's it it gets That beautiful thing that she just had, that was actually kinda right there. It was all nice and shiny for you. Now you you messed it up. You fucked it up. Now it's all yeah. That's your fault though, because you didn't you wasn't true with the moment.
Big Mama: What about you, Jay? Yeah. What?
Victoria: Some gone on with his speaker.
Big Mama: Either that or background noise. It just sounds like somebody spinning.
Victoria: Honestly, p
Big Mama: just walk all over either.
Victoria: Well yeah, I don't want I don't wanna be with nobody who's gonna let me walk over them, but let let me be in my feminine my feminine air, you know what I mean? Like just like just like a man wants to come home and have, you know, a soft place to come to and a like a female wants that too. You know what I mean? And
Big Mama: Yeah. Cause sometimes they think there is no softness if you're an alpha woman. They don't think you you possess those things because they think of it as something rough. Something like, you know what I'm saying? Like that's the image they have in their mind because they look at it as the perspective of an alpha male. But I really am curious about people's definition of both of those because that lets me know if you're living in toxic masculinity.
Naye: I was just about to say something and said and I feel like a lot of people or a lot of men feel like that with women because nowadays a lot of women is very masculine and it's it's just pure masculinity
Big Mama: Mm.
Naye: in these women. It's it's they wanna be the the nigga and and I I see too often where females are calling men bitches and degrading men and saying, these men because a man wants flowers, he's a bitch. Because a man wants his he wants to be courted. men isn't chasing women anymore. They're bitches. No, it's men want the same thing as women. And a lot of men are becoming comfortable with being able to express these wants that they that they want. But these females are out here just men are gay for the simplest things and they're just These females done grew dicks and balls out of nowhere. It's like your clip your clips
Big Mama: Mm-hmm.
Naye: done grew ten inches and you wanna be like that, but then you wonder why
Big Mama: Yeah.
Naye: a man isn't treating you as a woman should be treated. You wanna be that you wanna be his nigga.
Big Mama: It's a it's an imbalance on both sides. It's like women are living in their toxic masculinity era because they have no no they haven't like mended their issue with their feminine energy. Same way like
Naye: Mm-hmm.
Big Mama: men who live in toxic feminine energy because they're neglecting improving their masculinity.
Naye: Mm-hmm.
Big Mama: And it's like it's learning how to become one with both. Men and women
Naye: Mm-hmm.
Big Mama: both possess masculine and feminine energy. It's just a matter of when it decides to come out or if you neglect one completely. Like I grew up around a bunch of women that were in, in my opinion, toxic masculinity because there was no sense of softness or nurturing because it was like survival. Gotta be rough. Like, like especially if it's sing if it's a single parent. You know what I mean? I got responsibilities because this child relies solely on me. You know what I mean? So it's that toxic masculinity of look, I ain't got the energy nor the time to tend to why you're crying right now because I'm trying to make sure you got a roof over your head. You know what I'm saying? It's that imbalance of they're not in their feminine energy because they don't feel like they have the space or capacity to tend to it. So then you as a result become the said thing that you grew up in. So like me, I had a toxic masculinity, but because I was neglecting my feminine side. So I was very guarded. Growing up, but also especially when I went away to college. Definitely garden.
Victoria: You know, a lot of people because of the way I dress, they f they automatically assume I'm hella masculine. But I'm I'm so soft. I'm so I'm so girly. I'm so girly.
Big Mama: Because it's not a it's not an image, it's an energy.
Victoria: It's ridiculous I'm so girly.
Naye: She loves me submissive too 'cause
Big Mama: Exactly.
Naye: you see the way she reacting when I be like, Where that earring at? Where that earring at? And she like she ran and go get it.
Big Mama: Mm-hmm.
Victoria: Little bit, little bit. If you if you look, if you hey, I'ma f I'ma find it and if I don't find it, I'm gonna buy another one. Quit playing with me.
Naye: Please, 'cause I'll buy you another one if you don't find it. That earring, that earring
Victoria: Quit playing with me 'cause one
Naye: was it.
Victoria: it was it and it's making me look, it's knocking points off my my cuteness.
Naye: not do one hat but it's it's it was definitely like she just she just wanted to hear us give her a compliment.
Big Mama: Right. We didn't even go that far. Damn.
Victoria: It is. It is. I was a ten with that. I was a ten with that damn earring.
Big Mama: Yeah.
Victoria: I was a ten with that damn earring. Now I'm a eight. I don't I don't like that.
Big Mama: Cause aren't what's your song? Aren't you a dancer?
Naye: You still attend. She's a fucking cancer.
Victoria: I'm a catheter.
Big Mama: Yeah, that's why. Cancer cancers are a are a soft
Victoria: Thank you.
Big Mama: launch of a Leo.
Victoria: What the fuck is that me?
Big Mama: You know what that means. Leo. Leo's Leo's like to take
Naye: Chase out on here. I can't s I can't stand on Leo, but I love a Leo. I have a lump hate with Leo's.
Big Mama: they like to take center stage. They are very like you feel their presence. They're gonna make sure you feel their presence. Just both out. Like a cancer is the
Victoria: Who? You have to take up her. Who?
Naye: Mm. My rising is Odeo.
Big Mama: version of that. Y'all, y'all like the same shit, but y'all just like be gentle with me. I'm a delicate flower. You
Naye: huh.
Victoria: Me? Yes,
Big Mama: know what I mean? Like
Victoria: yes. Okay, so look, I
Naye: Okay.
Victoria: I'm a shit talker. I'm a shit talker, but don't talk shit to me, 'cause I'm soft. I'm
Big Mama: I'm delicate.
Naye: Yeah.
Victoria: I'm sensitive. Yes, I can't. I
Big Mama: Like Lord, my dad. My dad is a like, how did I you know what's happening?
Naye: I'm a physical gangster.
Victoria: can be a sensitive gangster.
Big Mama: It just dawned on me, how the fuck did I inherit two water signs as as parents? And they created the earth.
Victoria: Fighter, Nick. Are you a lover or a fighter?
Naye: What what's your mom and dad?
Big Mama: My mom's a Pisces, my dad is a cancer.
Victoria: I'm a lover but I'll fuck you up. Yeah, how can you you not so
Naye: Mm.
Victoria: what is it? How can you
Big Mama: Yeah, yeah.
Victoria: not fight Are you a lover or a fighter?
Big Mama: Pumi. Bofa.
Victoria: Yah i all
Big Mama: Bofo.
Naye: I'm a I'm a lover, but you pushed me, I'm a fighter too. I'm a lion.
Victoria: y'all. How can you not fight for what you love? No, facts. How can you not fight for what you love? Is it is it's quick.
Big Mama: I I'm a lover, but these hands can give you some TLC.
Naye: Right.
Victoria: E for everybody. These hands is ready can't honestly, these
Big Mama: If you do if if you need that
Victoria: hands is rated E for everybody, but these hands right now is rated K K for kids.
Big Mama: Right now it's
Naye: I feel like people who are lovers
Victoria: All the kids.
Naye: are lethal when it comes to f like fighting them lovers because I love so hard. I'm just I'm really a lover. Don't don't push me there. And then when you get me there, it's over with.
Big Mama: As a lover, I understand the other side of me because everything is a polar opposite. As hard as I'm a lover, I understand that I'm not going to battle. I'll go to war. There's a difference. You worried about beating the battle, nigga. I'll take it. I'll take it somewhere you wasn't ready to go and you ain't got the stem.
Victoria: Burnin' this bitch down.
Big Mama: Every bit of it. Do you understand me? That's all I'm like. There's just certain shit. There's
Victoria: Burning this bitch down!
Big Mama: just certain shit I don't play about. Do not. fuck with the people that I love and
Victoria: The store big to cut out too.
Big Mama: care about because I I will take it somewhere you not ready for it. Like you can ask family members. I I've been a millisecond for whooping they bitches ass. Cause what you're not
Victoria: No facts.
Big Mama: gonna do is disrespect mine in my face
Naye: Uh-huh.
Big Mama: and think I'm gonna let you fly with that. But you know
Victoria: That's how I f
Naye: Everything?
Victoria: that's how I feel when it comes to my mama. Like when it comes that, I'm burning this bitch down. I don't care. I don't care who you are. Jesus himself can be standing in front of me. You disrespect
Big Mama: Okay.
Victoria: my mama, it's a rap. Period. When it comes to my baby,
Big Mama: But
Victoria: it's a rap. I don't care. I spat look, even at my nephew's birthday party earlier, it was like fucking ten older kids, right? It was ten of them. And they were all walking off. walking off. They were getting ready to go to the basketball courts up the street. My three year old
Big Mama: Mm-hmm.
Victoria: was following all these bigger kids. And instead of making sure that she was safely brought back, they kept walking, knowing that she's walking with them. So I'm screaming, Ay, ay and then they all looked. My niece was like, go back, Zariah. It's okay. We're you know, go ahead and go back, but kept walking and didn't make sure she made it back to me safely. So I spazzed on all of them. Like, all you fucking big ass kids didn't think to make sure this little girl made it back over here with the adults.
Big Mama: Muito obrigado.
Victoria: Y'all know she's following y'all. Y'all know she wanna go. And y'all didn't think to make sure she was with an adult. And that all of them
Big Mama: It makes me wonder like how are they missing the mark? Like what have haven't the parents instilled in them? Because one thing that we were always taught,
Victoria: Yeah, do you too?
Big Mama: y'all leave together, y'all come back together. That's why it's like I don't really have like tight-knit friends like that. Like I have a couple out here in Texas, but who I would trust to go out somewhere with. Like if we going out to hit the town, I only feel comfortable with my Cali friends because we have the understanding of You gotta go to the bathroom, I'm going with you going here, I'm going there. I'm not finna be like, hey, where's Waldo in this motherfucking establishment? Because it's just looking like that's why it's like I'm typically when I go out with friends, I'm the most sober motherfucker there. Because somebody gotta be looking out. Consider it cock blocking, but I know a nigga that be on some bullshit and they either just want to smash or they trying to get you fucking lit to where you loose enough to want to smash back. I don't like niggas like that. That's very predatorial to me and that's very manipulative and leech like energy. I don't like that for my friends. So you can call me a cock blocker all you all the fuck you want, but your safety was looked out for.
Victoria: Hey, hey, Harvey, I got a question. Let's say you single, right? And you at a bar and you with your homeboys and you peep across the room, random female, and you can tell she's uncomfortable, right? With this dude talking to her. Would you walk over and pretend to be her boyfriend to get dude away?
Harvito: yeah. You know what's funny? baby
Big Mama: We just talked.
Harvito: we yeah, we talked about that. yeah, I would.
Big Mama: Yeah.
Harvito: funny thing, it was a situation in college. Swear college is the shit, right? But no, it was
Victoria: Ha ha
Harvito: situation. I feel like I feel like that I feel like American Power the Band Camp when she was just like at one time in band camp. Yeah, that's what I feel like. Don't do that. Don't do that. 'Cause now you're about to Leave it alone. Leave it alone. Anyway. But no, like, there's one time in college and then my she had she made a post about it recently. And I didn't know about it for real, for real, because I was lit. But she made a post. She was talking about somebody that we both went to college with. And basically something was about to happen to her. And it was with somebody that I actually like, I really like knew. I knew dude. Like that was kind of the homie for real for real at one point. So she said he was trying to make his move on her and force into this room and it was gonna go black. But she said I she had rolled to both the post. She said, I I came, I busted in, and I was like, nah, she gonna roll with me. And like we left. Like, and she she said, Thank you for that. And I was just like, I don't remember that, but yeah, like somebody feels uncomfortable at a at a sh at a party. No, especially like my thing is everybody here to kick and have a good time and go home. Ain't nobody here to be on no like to have no type of shit like that happen whatsoever. So yeah. And even then, I ain't even gotta play that. I'ma just be like, hey, she don't feel comfortable, G. Go move around. Like, you can tell in her face, she don't feel comfortable. I need you to know what I'm saying, go hit and move.
Big Mama: What's
Victoria: Wax, you gonna pretend to be somebody's girlfriend if a dude is uncomfortable?
Harvito: I ain't gotta do that. No, yeah, I ain't gotta do all that. I just gotta do it.
Big Mama: I'm not finna do all that. I'm just gonna tell you straight up, hey motherfucker, she says she ain't interested. He said he not interested. I I'm like that. Like I I was very straightforward even with bullies. Like, no, I'ma tell you straight up, I ain't gotta pretend a motherfucking thing. And who are you, nigga then?
Victoria: Nah, I've had I've I've had to
Big Mama: No, you are
Victoria: I've had to step in between two people at the b at the bar. I was watching this dude harass the fuck out of this girl. And I got tired of watching and so I walked up and was like, Are you good? And she was all like, yeah, he just won't leave me alone. And I was like, Yo, bro, like she don't want to talk to you and I've been watching you talk to her and she keeps trying to diss you, like, leave her alone. He was all like, I just wanna get to know her a little bit, like she's cute or whatever and I was like, I understand that. But she's not interested in you. So what I need you to do is I need you to
Big Mama: Yeah.
Victoria: bounce or I'm gonna have the or I'm gonna have the bartenders and and the the the security bounce you up out of here completely because it's not fair for her to come here and have a good time and you in here harassing her. He was all like he was like he was like
Big Mama: Yeah, or I I like if I if it they don't I could tell the energy of the girl, like if she doesn't like all the attention drawn to her, then I'ma I'ma figure out a sly way to pivot. Okay, she looks uncomfortable. I'm gonna grab her hand and be like, girl, let's go. We go to the dance floor, dance that shit off, keep it moving the niggas away from her at that point because now you in my territory. So if you come over here, that to me says you're a threat. So if I pop you because you're doing too much, then I pop you. But I just I could tell if somebody don't like the attention because like I'll be rough with it. I ain't gonna even hold you. Hey motherfucker, she said, ain't interested. You know what I mean? But if I can tell like they very shy and they're just like, no, like, you know what I mean? Like, you know that people please their energy of like they know they uncomfortable, but they don't wanna hurt nobody's feelings for it to escalate. I'ma just naturally
Victoria: excuse me.
Big Mama: move her out the way. It's gonna take more work for me to move him.
Victoria: Now I told him straight up, I'ma have
Big Mama: Yeah.
Victoria: security move you about the building. Either move to the other side of the room and leave her the fuck alone or I'ma call security over here and they gonna remove you from the building. And he stepped back, he stepped back and
Big Mama: And perhaps that's the yeah.
Victoria: was like, My bad, bro. Alright, I'll leave her alone. And I was like, Thank you.
Big Mama: Yeah, and perhaps there's some pride I'm still working on because part of me like I ain't gonna even go to them. I'm a fan of it myself, but I need to learn from that too sometimes. I'm sorry, I'm not I'm not a
Victoria: the call i i remember one time to call random
Big Mama: I'm gonna call security. Like I'm not there yet. I'm gonna get there. I'm not there yet.
Harvito: Yeah, I'm not there yet. Yeah, I'm not there. I'm not there
Victoria: I remember
Harvito: at the I'ma call security park. I'm like, man.
Victoria: But see,
Big Mama: The Lord is still working on me.
Victoria: for me, I told him that. I told him that because he was a big dude. You know what I mean? And I'm a small motherfucker. So I know I can't do it. I'ma have security do it. Like this this lady told you to leave her alone. You won't do it. I'ma call security. Period. You know what mean? I've even had Randall come over
Big Mama: Or you don't get jumped.
Victoria: one time. Randall and his homeboys come over. Like, 'cause I remember I was being harassed by this dude and I was like, bro, leave me alone. And then Randall walked over he was like, You good? And I was like, nigga won't leave me alone. I'm gonna need you to handle that for me. Cause I didn't told him a nice couple times and now he fucking with me. So hell Randall was like, Hey bro.
Big Mama: Yeah, Rand Randall's definitely like Randall's definitely like
Victoria: Randall, Tevin, Shane, they was all like, Hey bro, hey bro, back back up. Yeah, they was all they was not playing.
Big Mama: Shenanigans. Shenanigans, he we always in my stuff.
Victoria: They was not playing.
Big Mama: 'cause Ramba grabbed a mother Ramba grabbed a nigga by the ear. I done seen him do it.
Victoria: Hey, nah, I ain't gonna lie. I ain't gonna lie. Them was my niggas though. Randall, Shannon, fucking, they them was all my niggas, but like, bro. And I remember one time when me and Randall had gotten into it and and it was like we stopped talking for a minute because and it was because of a mutual friend. And I I had to tell him like, bro, like that shit lightweight hurt my feelings. Like you and I, we've been, we've been family for years, bro. Like your niece is my best fucking friend, bro. You know what mean? Like and for you and I to go at odds over a over another person is not cool. Like you if you had a problem or if you felt like I did something wrong, you could have came to me and we could have talked about it. But the fact that you just cut me off a off of an assumption, off of a lie, like that's not cool, bro. And he was like, you know what, you right, my bad. I should've I should have did that a little bit differently. And for a minute I was not fucking with him for a cool minute 'cause I really I was really hurt. But then I went through that healing stage and then I started talking to him again. I was like, It's good bro, but don't do that shit again.
Big Mama: So final question of the night, unless y'all have some more. What are some things you wish black men understood about black women and vice versa? Like the vice versa.
Victoria: I wish men understood the women's
Big Mama: Yeah.
Victoria: menstrual cycle. I hate when a man tells a I hate when a woman I hate when a man tells a woman, it ain't that bad. What? Let me punch you in your balls and tell you it ain't that bad. Cause that's how he feels. Look, Harvey on here
Big Mama: Yeah.
Victoria: by himself now, so he
Big Mama: No, I no, I had to he he gets it now because I did have to explain it to him. I'm like, I don't just have regular cycle, I got PCOS. So my mood swings and the way my cycle operates is totally different from an average bitch. So please under
Victoria: Average period.
Harvito: That's right. Yeah.
Big Mama: please understand mood swings happen.
Harvito: to understand like that the woman's menstrual cycle is however that rel that that menstrual cycle is is relative to them specifically and it can be very, very specific down to PCOS. Like it could be okay, they on for it could be on for a week. It could be just two days, one day. It could be months. It could be a while. It it can it can it it happens like that. So it's like I I really had to n I I really kinda like understood it more when it came to us for so it was like, you know, I but I was like, okay, I get I understand. Agent, but the way they like if but the way it fluctuates, that was just a new a new thing for me 'cause in my head I'm like, damn, like that's a like my brain, my in my in my man my man brain, I was thinking, damn, that's lot of blood. But I was like, that's not how all that come out, bro. So this this It's not that she's not just a whole he's not just but all the time. It it's it's other shit. So yeah. I'm getting it now. You know what I'm saying?
Victoria: Yeah. When dudes when dudes make it make females feel like they they overdoing it or over exaggerating. And it's like, bro, bro, if you only you
Harvito: No.
Victoria: understood. Let your bot let your dick bleed for a week. And you and you and your your fucking mood swings. One minute you you cool and next minute you wanna kill everything and burn everything the fuck down. And then you wanna eat everything and then you
Big Mama: Well.
Harvito: And then it's like you shouldn't
Victoria: don't wanna eat shit and then you wanna sleep, but then you can't sleep. And then you got fucking kids bugging you and a and a partner that don't understand what the fuck you're going through and you're just in a meltdown. Let that shit happen to you, tell me it ain't that bad.
Harvito: And ain't that like ain't that like shedding, y'all shedding a lining too and all that, right?
Victoria: Yes.
Harvito: So it's a about it's a it's a literally your body is going through an evolution an evolution part every time. So and shedding a
Big Mama: We'll taught you that.
Harvito: lining ain't ain't that's not that don't seem like that's no easy shit. I kinda knew that. I kinda knew that. I kinda knew
Victoria: That's not that's that's painful as fuck.
Harvito: that. That sounds that sounds kind of crazy. So it's it's not like shedding skin on top of your skin. I know this is a whole different type of thing, brother.
Victoria: Yeah.
Harvito: Yeah. Yeah, I'm hip. I'm hip.
Big Mama: Yeah, two hits.
Naye: It takes a it
Victoria: Also w
Naye: takes a real good man to know, and to be able to understand. Somebody I was dealing with, he has five approximately thirteen, twelve, thirteen sisters. So it explained it to him, like, yeah, his daddy was a rolling stone. Forgive me if you
Victoria: God damn.
Naye: see this. But yeah, he do he has a lot of sisters and he'll always tell it to He'd be like, You ain't gotta I used to be like, yeah, I'm cramping today and I'll just leave it at that. And then he'll go deeper into it. Like, what do you need? Like, what are you feeling? How is your translate? Really getting deep down into trying to see how
Victoria: Yeah.
Naye: I am to for him
Harvito: That's how we know you like music.
Naye: to be able to understand. Yeah. So I was like, he was last I was looking at him like, What the fuck? Like nigga, what you mean? You know, like what what level my cramps is and you understand? And then he was I got 13 sisters, so and I'd be like, Okay, I I get that. You got to experience it with multiple women plus the mama. So you see it. And when you have somebody that's supportive of you during that time, it's ri it makes it a little bit easier to get to because
Victoria: It it's
Naye: Alexis knows. Alexis was my partner. When I was in Texas, baby, she was I was on the floor, hands and knees. And Alexis would breathe me, breathe, rubbing my back, rubbing my stomach. Like I compare
Big Mama: 'Cause I get how that shit hurt.
Naye: I compare my period to childbirth.
Big Mama: Yeah, good thing.
Naye: And people look at me crazy when I say I will do childbirth twenty times over the to be having a period every month. Because then it's not just the it's not just the the weekly bleeding. It's also we don't have we have approximately four to five fucking days to ourselves to barely feel normal. We still don't even feel normal because our body is then readjusting. We got PMS. We got the whole like right now I'm two weeks out. That's why I say I don't know if I'm sleeping because my cycle is coming. I'm in a loot lutheal p phase or what. But I go through the sleepy phase. I'm crying for no reason. I'm angry for no reason. Then I'm bleeding for a week. Then I'm
Big Mama: Yeah.
Victoria: I understand all of that because that and that honestly when I'm going through the stage of my crying and I'm crying out of nowhere, that's how I'll be like my period must be coming. Because I'll literally go and it sometimes it makes me feel like I'm literally going crazy because I'll I'll have moments where I'll be laughing and it'll it'll I'll laugh so hard to the point where I'm crying But it started off as laughter and then that crying turns into a meltdown. And everybody was like, What the fuck just happened? You went from laughing to seriously crying and I'm now I'm crying and I don't even know what the fuck I'm crying about. You know what I mean? And then I go from that to being angry, wanting to fucking fight everybody, like, ooh, yes. Uh-huh. Look at my eyes.
Big Mama: one thing I would say is for men not to get dismissive when they're going through something.
Victoria: My jello shot that I put well, I didn't put in the freezer, but
Big Mama: So that because it feels like a woman
Victoria: It'll last longer.
Big Mama: doesn't like to feel like you're giving up when you have to have those tough conversations. So I would say have the courage to fully express yourself in depth with the woman that you actually care about.
Victoria: They'll be watching. I can still see you through the window.
Big Mama: What about you, Nate?
Victoria: It's it's like a frozen jello. It's called a slushy. It's a y you literally
Big Mama: So that's what we got.
Naye: What was the question? I'm sorry, I was yelling at kids.
Big Mama: what are some things you wish black men understood about black women? And then I'm gonna ask.
Naye: Even though You answer that. I'm gonna sit and
Big Mama: Yeah.
Naye: think for a second.
Victoria: That's still hard to teach.
Big Mama: I just I just answered.
Naye: I didn't hear your answer. Sorry, I was yelling at kids. My
Victoria: This wrong?
Naye: bad.
Big Mama: no you good. I'm gonna be
Victoria: It's good.
Naye: But
Big Mama: I'm gonna Harvey. How do you feel? What are some things you wish black women understood about black
Harvito: That is really not a there's there's it's not a fight between me and you. It's us gets the problem. Yeah, see I
Victoria: Wait. You said it's not us it's not me against you, it's us against what?
Harvito: The problem, whatever the issue is.
Victoria: Problem. Okay. His accent kind of lightweight threw me out.
Harvito: Yeah.
Naye: I was about to say something of that sort too, 'cause it it's really sh I think black women and black men have that issue of thinking it's us like we're against each other and the whole time. It's really us together. But some people again, I feel like it goes back to the social media of the way people portray things on social media that really sucks up the reality of things. it's no. Black women and black men they do want the same thing. We all want the same thing. It's just the way things are going about and social media and these three fours, how they post certain things. It it it's just it's it's in these these Y Ns or however these things are called these days, but it it it's it's a lot of that.
Big Mama: 304, 510, all different area code.
Naye: You know, all over.
Big Mama: It sounds like everybody's getting tired.
Victoria: I feel like no.
Naye: I'm a little overstimulated.
Victoria: So like
Naye: It this last hour was just hectic with somebody spilled a juicy couch on me, somebody keeps kicking my baby off of bed. Somebody keeps jumping on the trampoline. I'm ready to ring next. Everybody getting melatonin in a second.
Big Mama: Hey, can you slide some my way?
Naye: Hm.
Big Mama: Can you slide some my way? Shit, I'm gonna do it.
Naye: Mm-hmm. Not Amazon you will order.
Big Mama: been real. We were congested a little bit, but hey nigga, we fucking made it. So we will see y'all. You liked it?
Harvito: This was fine.
Victoria: Yeah, bear look, we made it. Look, we I made it. I made it this far. Look, I made it I didn't have all these injuries, but I'm here. No more. No more I promise.
Big Mama: Okay.
Victoria: No more.
Harvito: glad to be here. I'm glad I actually did it. Like for for she was trying to get me to do this. Yeah, she trying to give me to d be on here
Big Mama: I tell you that.
Harvito: for a minute now. So
Naye: We've definitely been waiting and it was
Harvito: You ain't gotta do you ain't gotta.
Big Mama: Okay.
Naye: it was a real pleasure for to have you on here and you should definitely do it again.
Harvito: Yeah, for sure, for sure, for sure. I might, you know, invite somebody else. That's cool with one of the homeboys, you know what I'm saying?
Big Mama: Yeah, and make sure they
Naye: Most definitely.
Big Mama: understand the construct of the black diaspora.
Victoria: What?
Harvito: no, they gonna be black. So there's there's that. I'm I'm I'm
Big Mama: Okay.
Harvito: writing the niggas. I I know I'm saying strictly for the niggas. This is for the niggas, strictly for the niggas. The real niggas.
Victoria: Wait, wait, wait, wait. Look. Look. I be okay, so look. And I'm gonna say this with you look, so look.
Naye: Me and Alexis faces was crazy.
Harvito: But I heard about that one. That one was crazy.
Naye: We were sifting to
Victoria: Look, I have
Harvito: heard that I I heard I what I heard hold on wait wait wait
Victoria: y'all not even listening to me. Damn it, my thirty second.
Harvito: I just wanna say this from what I heard Victoria that was wild
Victoria: What was why? Wait, hold on. What just happened?
Big Mama: Malibu's most wanted.
Harvito: Be rad.
Naye: called him nothing else but Malibu more funny, I was like, uhuh.
Victoria: I'm confused. What what happened?
Big Mama: Malibu's most wanted.
Victoria: What are we talking about?
Big Mama: The one the guest who was Malibu's Most Wanted.
Victoria: Well on the last episode
Big Mama: Remember the one my grandma was on? I'm finna clip farm the fuck out of that episode. I just hope you prepared.
Naye: my god. That shit was so funny. Me and Alexis kept making faces. We was looking at each other through the damn camera. Every time I took a I'm gonna take a sip, okay?
Big Mama: No. No, you know what it was? I knew I was like the way he was talking, I'm like, he liked to be the loudest one in the room. So I was like, if this motherfucker tries to say all people and don't acknowledge if somebody in here says black people, I said that's about tell everything I need to know. Well, all people go all couples go to this motherfuckers. My grandmama said black. What? She said that.
Victoria: Okay, so look, I ain't gonna lie, overall, overall he's a cool dude. But I had made I had I be forgetting that he is a white boy. I be forgetting that because
Big Mama: Yeah.
Victoria: him and his girl are both white people, but I be forgetting that, okay? I be forgetting that, and I had made a comment about black love to
Big Mama: Yep.
Victoria: them, about them, and Michelle was like, black where? I was like, my bad, my bad.
Big Mama: But it it it's not even in you know what it you know what it was that let me know I can't have him. But what it it it's not even
Victoria: forgot. They be around us, so I'll be forgetting. But I love them today.
Big Mama: it's not even that because he's white. What what told me I can't rock with him
Victoria: Love these niggas.
Big Mama: was when he basically dismissed how racism isn't present. Like what the moment he said the bay is not racist, that told me everything I needed to know. Because that lets me know
Victoria: Ev racism is everywhere.
Big Mama: You live in a box because if you think the bay ain't racist.
Naye: Can you stop chilling on the damn charger?
Victoria: Somebody said to me black somebody
Big Mama: Yeah.
Victoria: said somebody told me black people can't be racist to their own kind. And they're ignorant to see it.
Big Mama: We're not, it's prejudice because to be racist means that you can just disconstruct like their reality.
Naye: Not on a charger.
Big Mama: We can't do that as black people. Can we be prejudiced towards another
Naye: All right.
Big Mama: party? Yes, but white people can actually
Victoria: Why do I feel like I
Big Mama: deconstruct a black person's livelihood.
Victoria: I watched a whole video of this dude breaking down the word racism. And he said that exact thing, something about how racism is where you can't men. Right, and
Big Mama: You're dis you're able to dismantle a pe a people.
Victoria: and and prejudice is is whatever the fuck you just said. But yeah, I'm I watched a whole video on that.
Big Mama: You just it's a it's prejudices are more of a feeling. Racism is an action and a feeling. I can do this to you and it affects you because I don't like your kind. Versus prejudice, I just don't like your kind. That don't mean I'm gonna do something or bother you about it, but just know I'm not fucking with you. Because I know it because I know it comes with you.
Victoria: So if I say so if I say so if I say I don't like this white bitch next to me, I'm not a racist, I just don't like this white bitch next to me. What if something wrong with a racist?
Big Mama: Right. But are are you gonna but are you gonna do something to her to make her
Victoria: Shut the fuck up. I just heard what you said.
Big Mama: Are you gonna do something to her to fuck up her day or are you just gonna be like, Why the fuck this bitch next to me?
Victoria: No, I'm not of course I'm not gonna fuck up they well, I might fuck up their day and say something to to fuck
Big Mama: Exactly. Credit.
Victoria: up their day, but to like like physically fuck up their day? No. Like physically fuck them up? No.
Big Mama: Exactly. Prejudice versus racism.
Victoria: And I'm mad if you sound peace I'm not next to her. Because I wasn't even talking about you. You said white bitch. I'm the only white bitch here. my god.
Big Mama: Like, like you could be, you could be fishing. You could be fishing in a private neighborhood. A black person will look at you like, hey, I hope that nigga catch something today. White person, you're not allowed to come over here and fish. This is not your neighborhood, and not even knowing you two blocks up the road and living in this neighborhood. You, there's no way you can live here. You don't live here. I'm calling the cops. So let me let me inconvenience you because I'm uncomfortable. That's some racist shit. And then the fact that you can counteract it. The
Victoria: Take your ass back in the house, bitch!
Big Mama: fact that you can counteract the feeling and then whoever you include in the problem is now a part of the problem too? Fuck no. That that that's what makes the difference all the all right there. That's why I can't. Here's my thing. I don't fuck with no white people that ain't woke. That's it. I ain't got no issue.
Victoria: So you only fuck with the white people that you can invite to the barbecue.
Big Mama: No, I might not even want to invite you to the barbecue, but do you have awareness?
Harvito: it must be.
Big Mama: You're not eating my potato salad, nigga. No. No. You're not gonna fuck up this electric slide.
Victoria: Fuck the potato side. You can have the potato. You can't touch my ribs. Can't touch the ribs.
Big Mama: You not finna fuck up this electric slide all for the sake of you no. No, no. I fuck with you though. You wanna go out to the bar, whatever the fuck, go to dis nigga, we can do that. But my cookout, no, because I gotta draw a fine line.
Victoria: You're not invited to a cookout. We can go to the bar. You can't come to the cookout. Sorry.
Big Mama: You can you cannot come to the place I call home.
Victoria: Hey, I got a question. What's one thing that gets your black card revoked?
Big Mama: We ask this a lot. there's so many things. get your black card revoked. if you celebrate
Harvito: I do not like
Victoria: Harvey
Big Mama: the fourth of July and not Juneteenth, twelve lashes.
Harvito: yeah, for sure. So yeah, for sure. I thought she
Big Mama: Twelve years a slave, nigga. Twelve laugh.
Harvito: was asking what's something that that I personally for me that get my that would get my black car revolt. I thought that was the question.
Victoria: Yeah. Yeah.
Harvito: I I don't really care if she was at the pot.
Victoria: What?
Harvito: it's pumpkin pie over sweet potato pie.
Victoria: I'm sorry, my brain is not computing. Wait, my brain. Hold on.
Big Mama: He ain't he ain't he ain't been in the south that long. Let him let him get a t he ain't been in the south that long.
Victoria: My right. My brain is not computing.
Harvito: I grew up with a southern I grew up under a southern grandmother from Greenville, Mississippi.
Victoria: D did you just say you prefer pumpkin pie over sweet potato pie?
Harvito: Yeah. Yeah. Yes.
Victoria: We can't be friends. Lexus, we can't I can't be friends with him.
Big Mama: And I told him I'm not gonna cook a pumpkin pie, but I will cook pumpkin something. Like I'll cook the little pumpkin squares. You know what I mean? Like shit, you're
Harvito: That's totally and I tell her that's totally fine. Like I'll just make my own fucking bath.
Big Mama: gonna be eating it by yourself, nigga. Just make one.
Harvito: Okay.
Big Mama: Don't waste no pie crust.
Victoria: He said, okay, Anne.
Big Mama: And and I and I cut and I bake pies. I'll make you know what I'll do. If you wanna make a funky ass pumpkin pie, I'll at least make crust free.
Victoria: I got four kills and thirteen assists.
Harvito: You'll make the crust for me? Alright,
Big Mama: Yeah.
Harvito: appreciate that.
Victoria: Pumpkin pie
Big Mama: Okay, but
Victoria: over sweet potato. Hey you know, I ain't gonna lie. When I was a kid, and of course, don't
Harvito: I'll get power with super terrified.
Victoria: laugh at me. When I was a kid, I thought I thought pumpkin pie was really made
Big Mama: Yeah.
Victoria: like from pumpkin and carrots.
Harvito: There's recipes that have included carrots. Now that that's I don't I draw my line with that. I draw the
Victoria: The only reason why I thought that was because it was
Harvito: line.
Big Mama: you draw the line with carrots.
Harvito: Yes, I draw the line with carriage, 'cause don't do that. Like what is wrong with What's up?
Victoria: Can I can I ask you a question? Do you put corn do you put corn in your cornbread?
Harvito: I've seen people that do it, no.
Big Mama: Don't piss me off.
Harvito: I seen people that do that. No. Don't no. No.
Victoria: My my brother my brother did that once and I wanted to punch him I
Big Mama: I'm playing
Harvito: You put a card? Wow.
Victoria: wanted to punch him in his nose.
Harvito: What kind of corn?
Big Mama: It that matters?
Victoria: It right. It don't matter.
Harvito: I just wanna know. I just wanna know.
Big Mama: Sweet corn.
Harvito: I just wanna know. I just wanna know. I just wanna know right now if it was cream corn nah, if it was cream for it, he was wild for that one. Nah, cream corn, he wow. He wild as cream corn.
Victoria: Creamy corn, like what the f whole corn corn on the cob, like what the fuck
Big Mama: One on the top. They're corn before.
Victoria: Fuck that. Ugh. Corn in your cornbread.
Big Mama: Cream corn is cream corn is good though, don't you?
Victoria: Cream corn is good, but not in your corn in your cornbread is not good. That's a white person.
Big Mama: I don't you know what insults me is when motherfuckers put jalapenos in their cornbread and say that shit that I'm not eating it.
Victoria: Jalapenos and your cornbread? Who
Naye: And cornbread, I could see that though.
Big Mama: I'm not doing it.
Victoria: wants spicy bread?
Big Mama: Nay, did you say you could see that?
Naye: I could see that though. Yeah, I could see that one such
Big Mama: Right.
Naye: I could see jalapenials in the cornbread, I could see that. I can see that.
Victoria: Yeah. No. No. That's right.
Harvito: Nah bro. Nah bro. You got it.
Big Mama: So this is another w this is this so this is another week of Crazy Eats with Nay,
Harvito: You take the whole pan with you.
Big Mama: basically.
Naye: Maybe we could start a new
Victoria: Ayy my a
Naye: s a new
Victoria: brother mate.
Naye: new new thing, you know.
Victoria: Look, my brother made a peach cobbler rib. Peach cobbler rib? That's not yummy. Mm-hmm.
Naye: Explain 'cause
Harvito: Come on, man. All right, all right. You
Big Mama: Yeah.
Harvito: have a good night. I'll talk to y'all later.
Victoria: even really I can't even really explain it but he this
Naye: Shoot, get napped. I don't want to hear any
Victoria: fool took a peach collar he made a peach collar rib and then
Big Mama: Yeah.
Victoria: he put now this is where he threw me this is where he threw me
Big Mama: Yeah.
Naye: Yeah,
Victoria: he put ice cream he
Harvito: Did it that that's where it threw you?
Victoria: put ice cream on it
Naye: A rib?
Victoria: on the rig with the with the
Harvito: Like an actual rib, like
Victoria: peach cobbler sauce and everything.
Harvito: On a me.
Victoria: Yeah.
Naye: And
Victoria: It was fire though. I ain't gonna lie, it was fire. Mind you, I was high, but it was fire. It was weird, but it was fire.
Naye: Ice cream though? I was I was low-key trying to understand the peach problem with the rib because I I could you know my taste buds they kinda taste buddy, but to add the ice cream on top of a fucking rib
Victoria: It's like it's like a sweet and savory it it's actually it's actually it's actually really good. Yeah.
Naye: But the ice cream? It's
Harvito: My stomach would be my stomach would be sound like Rack City. Really good.
Naye: crazy, be careful. what's here? They
Victoria: Yeah.
Naye: spilled the
Big Mama: Mm-hmm.
Harvito: Ooh doo doo like night.
Naye: they spilled a pouch.
Victoria: Yeah.
Big Mama: I can't even laugh.
Harvito: I'm so serious.
Victoria: You should put that on there. Doo doo doo. Right, racks it bitch.
Harvito: That's exactly what it said.
Naye: Is that good? Maybe a little more. A little more.
Big Mama: Mm-hmm.
Victoria: Boo roo
Naye: It won't go like that.
Big Mama: If that nigga loves to go to bottom.
Harvito: Somebody just churning for no reason.
Naye: it's not even it on the third one too. How's that? That's cute like that. Sparkle, sparkle.
Big Mama: He loves to go to Baltimore, Vic. He loved to go to Baltimore. Yeah. That blip boop.
Victoria: Huh? He loved to go to Baltimore. Yes, child.
Harvito: Love selling somebody that shit, huh?
Big Mama: Good, you like one.
Victoria: What? I'm gonna lie.
Naye: Mm-hmm. Like blanket up
Harvito: Let's try to tell somebody, let's go to the bottom, well.
Victoria: It's it's Demoni.
Naye: Baby
Victoria: cream. Look at this.
Big Mama: y'all. I'm about to I'm about to cut it off. this has been great. We'll we'll see y'all next time. Stay tuned.
Victoria: Strawberries and cream. Strawberries and buttercream,
Naye: You can