SELLEST OSAST
The voice holding you back isn't a lack of effort, it is the voice and operating system in your own head.
In Episode 50 of Remember You, Christina Olsen sits down with Kris Driskill of Gilded Within, a performance expert, self-sabotage specialist, and author of The Language of Pressure. Kris helps smart, driven people uncover self-sabotage, notice the words that create pressure, and stop working against themselves. She spent years as an international opera singer before turning her fascination with the inner mechanics of performance into an investigation of mental fitness and human behavior. Today she calls herself a "Mind Detective" and a "Private Why."
Kris shares the honest story of the time she was the sole provider, anxious and agitated, and close to separating from her husband. Two things turned it around. First, they read a John Gottman book together and talked about it only by text, so there was no tone to fight about. Second, she did the Positive Intelligence training, where she met her inner Judge and the "accomplice saboteurs" (Hyper-Achiever, Controller, Stickler, Avoider, Victim, Hyper-Vigilant). She never asked her husband to do the work, but his behavior shifted anyway: the ripple effect.
Together they talk about choosing joy from the inside out ("Today IS an amazing day"), "smart person syndrome" (knowing isn't doing), why rewiring your brain is like going to the gym, why your body has to agree with your words before affirmations work, and the "invisible sign" we all carry. Kris also shares lessons from nature, including her tree metaphor, and the "I am the one who…" reframe. Near the end, Marco the pit bull walks in right after Kris says nature is the greatest teacher.
Key takeaways:
- Joy is a decision made from the inside out. "Today IS an amazing day," not "today is going to be."
- Your saboteurs are trying to keep you safe. Meet them with empathy, the way you would a child.
- Smart person syndrome: knowing isn't doing. Rewiring your brain is a practice, like the gym. You have to actually use the machines.
- Align your body before your affirmations. If your posture says one thing and your words say another, your body wins.
- Everyone carries an invisible sign. Notice what yours is saying.
"Today IS an amazing day." Kris Driskill
Connect with Kris Driskill:
Website: https://www.krisdriskill.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/krisdriskill_official/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristinadriskill
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gildedwithin
Book: The Language of Pressure: 29 Everyday Phrases Secretly Sabotaging Your Success
Take the free 5-minute Pressure Profile: https://www.krisdriskill.com/pressureprofile
Ready to Practice Peace? Book a free 15-minute session with Christina: https://cal.com/christina-olsen-uwbd4k/15min
Learn more about Practice Peace: https://practicepeace.co/
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