Dr David Gruder Interviews - MICHAEL BONAHAN - Reimagining Your Sacred Responsibility (Kuleana)

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Welcome back to the Reimagining Humanity's Future and your show
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that make it possible for humanity's most spiritually elevated future
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to at last emerge. The title of this episode is
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Reimagining Your Sacred Responsibility Culliana, which we'll get into what
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that means living gift in service to life. In this conversation,
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we explore the deeper meaning of Kuliana, a Hawaiian understanding
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of sacred responsibility that is not about obligation or duty,
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but about relationship, reciprocity and care. We'll look at how
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purpose isn't something you manufacture or chase, but something that
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emerges when you become clear about what you are responsible
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for in your life, your work, your community, and your
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relationship with the living world. This episode will help you
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clarify your unique gifts, discern where they are meant to serve,
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and understand how living your sacred responsibility can become a
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stabilizing force for integrity, meaning, and impact in a time
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of widespread disorientation and divisiveness. Joining me is Michael Bonahan,
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a transformational leader, teacher, and longtime practice tisher of purpose
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lived in service. Michael is a founding partner of Windom
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wind Fall, Sorry about that of Wisdom Windfall, and a
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contributor to its core curriculum. He is a former national
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board chair of Boys to Men USA, a certified leader
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trainer for The Mankind Project, and a seasoned business coach
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and facilitator trained in deep, transformational and systemic approaches to
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human development. Across decades of work, including leading and more
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than a dozen successful companies, Michael has consistently focused on
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one central inquiry, how human beings discover what they are
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here to serve and how they live that responsibility with humility, coherence,
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and integrity. In this episode, Michael brings grounded wisdom and
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lived experience to exploration of Kuliana, helping us reconnect purpose
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with responsibility and responsibility with love for life itself. Michael,
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I'm delighted you're here with me on RHFY. Welcome.
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Thank you, David, it's great to be here.
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Well, thank you, And I wanted to add that Michael
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and I know each other for a number of years,
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and it's really such a pleasure to collaborate with you.
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In this first segment, we'll look at the symptoms and
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challenges people have that are clues alerting them to a
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need to develop or elevate their clarity about or their
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embodiment of their Kuliana. But first, Michael, how did your
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passionate about Kuliana first emerge?
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I was fortunate enough to grow up in Hawaii. Kuliana
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is a Hawaiian word. I my definition is acrid responsibility.
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Hawaiian meanings responsibility, duty, privilege, and also writes, writes and
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privileges that come with those responsibilities. So it's been a
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word that's sacred to me. My whole life was immersed
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in Hawaiian culture, and to me, this particular idea is
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fascinates me and I've been captivated by it for years.
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I would say that the thing that really drew me
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to it was my adverse early childhood experiences. You know,
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I began asking, due to a lot of early trauma
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that as early as the age of nine, why am
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I here? What's it all about? You know, usually the
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meaning of life questions don't come and tell maybe the
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midlife crisis, which I've already been through, but you know,
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those that particular piece was always because of some of
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the undesired childhood experiences which were great teachers to me.
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I started asking that question early and been trying to
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find the answer ever since. So discovering my purpose it
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was really it came to a head I think when
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I was turned about forty forty five, right in that space.
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It's also the same time I was drawn into the
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mankind project. But it's a calling. So the thing that
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to me is if something happens for a lot of
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men it's midlife crisis, they go, you know, what the hell,
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I've ticked all the boxes. I've got a great job,
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I have the partner or the spouse, the kids, you know,
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whatever it is, the white picket fence, whatever your particular
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idea of what the American dream is or if you
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know not, if you're not in America, what the dream
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is of success that was modeled to us by our
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parents and our ancestors in the in Western culture. And
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a lot of it has to do with, you know,
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acquiring things, achieving things that have to do with sort
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of building up our own personal silos of power and
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containment and disconnection. And then when it comes to a
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head when I realized, wow, you know, I've ticked all
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the boxes, but something's missing. That's when the question of
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what is my cooliana and how can I discover it
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and how can I live it with grace and ease,
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especially considering the life I've built for myself up to
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this point, which is about acquiring achieving more, you know,
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kind of more ego based based on the external and
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less on the internal. Thank you.
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And by the way, as you lean forward, you're the
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top of your head gets cut off, so you might
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want to watch that. Uh, that's that's great, And for
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many of us, I want to really underscore that for
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some of us, we don't really ask these deeper questions
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about higher purpose until middle age, and for some of
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us who grow up under adverse circumstances, we start asking
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those questions as children. I like you did starting at
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around age nine, I was really asking these questions quite
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quite directly inside myself, without a framework for having an
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answer to them. So in this episode's next segment we'll
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get into root causes of why we don't necessarily know
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our Kooliana, or we know it, but we're out of
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integrity with it. But for the rest of this segment,
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as I already said, I want to find out from you, Michael,
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about the symptoms that most trouble people when they're not
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living in alignment with Kooliana. What symptoms did they notice?
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Malaise, A lack of interest, a lack of passion in life.
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No passion is fleeting and kuliana or purpose will get
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you out of bed every morning. Passion comes and goes,
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but understanding my purpose doesn't. So feeling that I don't
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like asking the question why am I hear? What's life
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all about? Begin to ask those questions, Taking less pleasure
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in the things that used to be either pleasurable or
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comforting to you, some folks begin to use substances more,
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try to medicate away the feeling of an emptiness or
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something's not happening in my life. So those are some
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of the symptoms. For men, it's the classic, you know,
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sports car, new partner. That's that's sort of like an
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overarching stereotype. And for those who are on a spiritual
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path or journey, often what will happen is I call
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it spiritual bypass as in like, if I can just
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keep meditating, if I can just keep diving deep into
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being less, less connected to the outside world, more connected
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to my spiritual center, and that all sounds great. If
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we all lived in little bubbles or isolations are up
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in Bobajee's cave somewhere, so you'll it's it's really it's
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you'll find yourself pushing back against the norm and also
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you'll find yourself possibly experiencing mild, if not severe depression.
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Mm hmm, yeah, absolutely, I want to I want to
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underscore some of what you just identified. In addition to
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malaise and lack of interest and feeling less passion or pleasure,
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and and of course lack of purpose, there's there's substitution.
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It's it's like that emptiness then calls us to instinctively
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fill that emptiness with stuff. It might be. It might
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be addiction, or it might be a sports car for example,
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or it might be spiritual bypass. It might be psychological
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bypass as well. Right, Yeah, which is interesting because I
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hear a lot about spiritual bypass because of the circles
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I travel in, but as a psychologist, I rarely hear
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the term psychological bypass. And you know, the bypass of
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dealing with our baggage, our wounds, are our limiting beliefs,
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et cetera. Another part is about being unfocused, where if
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we notice that we're spread too thin or chaotic, or
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fear of missing out, that that kind of lack of
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a central focus, I think is a big symptom of
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Kuliana deficit.
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That's a good point. Yeah, find finding yourself signing up
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for all of these things, taking on more responsibilities than
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you have the bandwidth for. Right. These are these are
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other symptoms as well. You know, it's interesting because the
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the uh, the magician energy, which is really just like
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our risk manager that sort of needs to figure things
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out what comes into play big time when we are
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in our midlife crisis, in that middle space. And also
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and that's then that's where that psychological bypass is stemmed
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from archetypically about avoiding the things that are painful, right,
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that we don't want to discuss. And so yeah, you
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can go into spiritual bypass or into psychological bypass compartmentalizing emotions,
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not listening to what my body and spirit are telling me. Yeah,
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it's a very it's a very powerful archetype.
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Mm hmmm. Yeah. You know, it's interesting because as as
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you're you're talking, I realized that the word bypass is
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probably under used because it's only referred to as spiritual bypass,
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but they are psychological bypass. And then there's physical bypass,
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people who are dissociated from their bodies. They don't know
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how to recognize a sensation if they stumbled over it.
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Yeah, yeah, that our bodies really keep the score. They
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do tell us almost everything we need to know listening
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to them. And you know, we are really raised in
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a culture that disconnects us from our bodies. We you know,
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today it's all on the devices, and it's all happening
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in our heads, and and it's the only real things
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we tend to use are our fingertips and our visual
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cortex and everything else we're disconnected from and and learning
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about disease which appears in the body as illness listening
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to those pieces of what is my body trying to
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tell me? You know, someone who's trying to fill that
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emptiness for that whole with food, for example, will gain
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a lot of weight and not lies that their health
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is at risk. Or maybe they're trying to fill that
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hole with substances, alcohol, drugs, et cetera, or anything, work, sex,
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all the things that simulate us and keep us occupied.
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Indeed, and so all of these things really are symptoms
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of disconnection from our lack of clarity about Cooliana, and
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the rest of this episode will dive into the root
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causes of the symptoms. Michael and I just described what
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to look for in a solution and Michael's version of
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that solution. In the final segment, after a short break,
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my guest Purpose Clarification catalyst Michael Bonahan. I just gave
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you a new moniker and I will dig beneath the
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surface to expose the root causes of Cooliana, cluelessness and deficits.
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I'm doctor David Gruder. This is the Reimagining Humanity's Future
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and your show on the Cancom Broadcast Network proudly broadcasting
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from Canada to the world. And stay tuned because we're
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about to dive deep. Welcome back. Before the break, my
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guest Cooliana illuminator Michael Bonahan and I discussed symptoms people
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experience when they're unclear about their higher purpose, their higher responsibility,
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or are out of integrity with it. And in this segment,
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as you already know, we'll delve into underrecognized root causes
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of Koliana, confusion and deficits. So let's just jump straight
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into it. Michael, what what are those underrecognized root causes?
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Wow? So it's I would say, not knowing oneself or
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not being on a personal development journey. So if you
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don't know that then that's the place where or you
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aren't gonna you're going to be in that space of
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not even maybe being aware that there's a deeper purpose
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in your life that's waiting for you. It really takes
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I believe that that the personal development journey, which I'm
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sure that all your listeners are on in some form
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or another, and getting to know yourself and uncovering those
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belief systems that we developed in childhood. I would call
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them a leaden shadows, uh, parts of beliefs about myself
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that are often unconscious. That's why they're shadows that I hide,
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repressed an eye and project onto others. So, for example,
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if you're you're something happens traumatic to you. Let's say
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an adult, a parent that was supposed to that you
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expected love and care from instead did something the opposite.
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When we're children, we don't blame the adults in our lives.
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a very early stage in our lives. Shame is is taught,
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and it's also I call it a generous a generous
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decision made by a child's mind to choose to blame
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them oneself instead of others and this, and so the
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beliefs that may be adopted is I'm unlovable, or if
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you are abandoned, I'm worth abandoning, or I have to
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earn my right to exist. All these beliefs that are
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instilled in us, that we take on identifying them as
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we get older, especially as we start to do our
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personal development journey and knowing, wow, you know that really
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kept me safe, that helped me make sense of a
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traumatic world when I was young. But this particular shadow
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belief no longer serves me in my adult life, and
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it's actually holding me back from my true potential. So
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I think I think that's a precursor very necessary to
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be able to dive into unpacking all of the trauma
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and the shadow messages that don't serve you any longer
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before you can begin to discover your Kuliana, sacred responsibility,
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your life's purpose.
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Yes, yes, absolutely, And so for those who might be
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watching or listening who aren't familiar with the term shadow,
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let's just briefly define that. You know, the parts of
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us that we deny, repress, ignore, or we project onto others,
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or we unjustifiably justify in ourselves too, right, we are
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disconnected from the impacts. And before I reflect on a
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couple of things other things you've just said, is there
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anything you want to add around the definition of shadow
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that you want people to know about.
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Well, just the death that shadow is that is neither
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good nor bad. There are a lot of positive elements
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that exist in shadows, some shadow beliefs that do support
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us that we adopted we were young, that do support
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us in our our older years. I think it's the
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shadow is something I encourage you to read up on it.
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Carl Jung coined the term the Swiss psychologist. It was
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a contemporary of Freud, and uh, there's and we talk
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about how they interact with archetypes, which I mentioned a
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little bit earlier. But ultimately, shadow is basically what I
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don't know about myself. You know you I think you've
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mentioned Johari's window in this particular pod cast before, and
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you know, it's like there's there's in the four Things,
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there's some things that I don't know about me that
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others do. And that's the place part of personal development
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is seeking out, Hey, what can you tell me about
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myself that I may not be aware of? And so
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that's just something I'd like to throw out. It's a
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great way to do some shadow mining.
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Yes, perfectly said. And for those who aren't familiar with
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that term, Johari window j O, H A. R. I.
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It's a combination of of Joe and Harry organizational development
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psychologists decades ago who created kind of a comparison table
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having to do with things we know and don't know
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about ourselves and others know and don't know about us.
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know about me that you know about me. Things I
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know about me that you don't know about me, maybe
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because I'm keeping secrets, but often because it's just never
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come up in conversation, Things you know about me or
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my impacts that I don't know. And then things about
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me that neither I nor you know. And so this
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is the shadow is things I don't know about me
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that you might not know, or things that neither of
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us know about me. And you're also pointing out that
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there is golden and leaden shadow, that there are parts
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of me that for survival purposes I put into hiding
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that I because I judged them or I have been
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told they're negative, but also parts of me that I
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put into hiding that are golden, that are parts of
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my light that I learn are too much for the
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people around me. And the other thing that I want
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to underscore, and what you've said so far is about
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not unpacking what you were calling and I often call
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limiting beliefs. And what I want to refine around that
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that I know you'll agree with, is that as a
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root cause of being disconnected from Kuliana, we often haven't
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unpacked the survival beliefs we adopted in childhood that became
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limiting shadow beliefs that hold us back in adulthood. And
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the other thing I want to really underscore, because it's
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not talked about enough in my circles at least, is
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the gift of shame in the beginning. It becomes a
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huge liability later, but when it first emerges, it's what
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you refer to as a generous decision I would call
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an empowering decision by a child's mind, in our mind
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as children, to blame ourselves for the disconnection that we're experiencing,
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because if we blame ourselves, then we can do something
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about it, whereas if we don't blame ourselves as little kids,
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we're stuck. There's nothing we can do. So it's shame
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as a child's version of empowerment.
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That's a really good way to look at it. It's
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I love that because because it shifts, it allows the
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victim part of ourselves to shift into the creator, which
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is like the have the empowerment dynamic around the drama triangle. However,
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as you as you said, it can become toxic and
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become something that when we're kids young, it helped us
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make sense, it made us take control and responsibility for it. However,
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later on it can become debilitating if we if we
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if we don't express it, we don't speak to it.
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The most beautiful way to get rid of shame is
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to actually give it voice and to be witnessed in
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your shame by others. And there's nothing more relieving than that.
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Of course, as children, you know where our lips are sealed.
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to lean into that.
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Yes, absolutely, so you used another term that some who
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are viewing or listening to the show aren't familiar with,
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the trauma triangle. So you want to go ahead and
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name the three parts of that triangle.
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Yeah. Actually, I call it the drama triangle and trama
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drama triangle. Yeah, so there's the there's the victim, the perpetrator,
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and the rescuer. And in the in the binary sense,
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the rescuer is also a form of a perpetrator because
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the rescuer reinforces the victims of victim. Other was, you
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can't help yourself, I have to help you, so I'm
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the rescuer. And yeah.
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Well, the interesting thing about the Cartman triangle for those
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who are familiar with the kar P m a N.
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This drama triangle, is that in my experience, whether someone's
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in the perpetrator role, the victim role, or the rescuer role,
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all of those people in my experience self identify as victims.
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Yeah, exactly right.
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So, now, what about societal influences that are less understood
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or less recognized root causes of Koliana confusion or being
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out of integrity with it? What kind of societal influences
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are there on that?
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Well, our entire culture and society and economy are actually
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based upon folks' ability to produce and deliver and to
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to play the game, so to speak, you know, through
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whether it's through earning or or what's what's expected of
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you in various gender roles. Uh. Thankfully, a lot of
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that is starting to be over overcome. People are being
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able to see through some of those old stereotypical gender roles.
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For men, it's still a challenge because there's a lot
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put on men. Uh. For in the past, women just
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had to show up to reveal their gift, you know,
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whether it's whether it's beauty or personality or coyness or intelligence,
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whereas men had to do and in many ways many
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forms still have to do. I'm not saying that women
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don't have to do as well. It's a tremendous amount
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of pressure put on women, especially to conform to older
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gender sance stereotypes. And but for men, it's like our
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gift isn't revealed. Our gift is like based upon doing.
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What are we doing to to contribute? How are we
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how much are we earning, how many people are we influencing?
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How many likes? This is for everybody am I getting
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on my social media and so forth? So Uh, it's
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it's a very ego based accomplishment, acquisition, power over based
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dynamic that's put into us by our culture and uh,
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and that does that does make us go after the
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brass ring, makes us go after the physical as opposed
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to the more the emotional, the mental, or the spiritual
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aspects of our lives. And so yeah, the society has
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a lot to do with we set it, We set
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ourselves up for that. I have some theories around that
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about what why it was done and how we contribute
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to to the destruction of families and so forth around that,
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but maybe that's for another podcast.
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Yeah, it most likely is you're you're dropping some great
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truth bombs that I again want to underscore that there
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are societal contributors to people being unclear about Cooliana.
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And though, among other things, those include misdefinitions where where
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societal rules or societal norms misdefine earning as contributing. There's
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nothing wrong with earning, but that in and of itself
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is not necessarily contributing. And uh and misidentifying power over
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as contributing.
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These these are shadow if they're such a thing as
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shadow Cooliana, which there probably is. Oh, yes, that that
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goes to to the shadow side of Koliana, right.
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Indeed, it certainly does. And and we're using the term
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shadow as a leaden shadows in the shadows that don't
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serve us or others.
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Yes, absolutely, thank you for that clarification. I don't want
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to go into detail about what I'm about to say,
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but for those who have listened to another episode of
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this show on Ikey Guy, a I K I G
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A I Ikey Guy might be a Japanese it's from
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a Japanese worldview, kind of semi parallel, not completely identical too,
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but a semi parallel to Kuliana.
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Indeed, Ikey Guy is it's it's it's a great goal,
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you know. It's it combines passion, mission, profession and vocation,
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what you love, what you're good at, what the world needs,
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and what you could be compensated for. If you can
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get all those to overlap, you are you are definitely
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in a sweet spot.
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Absolutely. So after the upcoming break, we'll get to the
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heart of the matter, which is what to look for
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in a solution that in you to clarify and embody
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your Cooliana more fully. I'm doctor David Gruder. This is
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the Reimagining Humanity's Future and your show on the Cancom
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Broadcast Network proudly broadcasting from Canada to the world. And
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stay right where you are because we'll continue momentarily and
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we're back before the break. A shining example of living
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one's koliana. Michael Bonahan and I delved into less recognized
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but vitally important root causes of cooliana confusion and embodiment challenges.
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And what I will add also before going into the
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heart of this segment is something that I've mentioned in
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other episodes from the field of linguistics, that a term
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called empty category and what that means in the field
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of linguistics is that a phenomenon is occurring that has
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no name, and when it's not named, we can't develop
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conscious relationship with it. So koliana is an example of
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an empty category. It's a term that understood in the
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heart of Hawaiian culture, but not very much around the
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rest of the world, even though it's good for all
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of us. And so I just wanted to add that too. So,
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as I mentioned in this segment, will reveal ingredients to
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look for when you've decided to fully discover and embody
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your highest purpose, your cooliana. So, Michael, what ingredients should
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we be looking for when we want to discover or
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clarify or kooliana and live it more fully and consistently.
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Wow. So I'd say probably the intersection of two things
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has to occur. One is for you to understand what
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it was that you didn't get when you were a child,
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what it was, what was the unfulfilled need that your
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childhood need. And then the other is what problems in
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the world do you think need to be solved? What
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where does if you if if you have your own
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special medicine to heal yourself and the world, how and
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where do you administer that medicine? And so I think
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when those two things intersect, you are well on the
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way to discovering your Koliana, your sacred purpose and responsibility
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you might be. It's also an important way to get
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started on a mission that is part of your over
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arching cooliana, something you want to accomplish, that may be
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something that you know requires you to take specific steps
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smart goals to achieve. And so I think the intersection
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of those two things is critical. Mm. Yes, okay.
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So the first couple of ingredients to be looking for
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in a resource would be a resource that can help
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you understand what you didn't get in childhood, your unfulfilled
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childhood needs, and on top of that, what problems in
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the world need to be solved, so that you can
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then be helped to identify, identify your part in helping
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those problems get solved, your medicine, if you will, your
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unique gifts, your unique calling, and where you're called to
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provide that medicine.
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Yes, exactly. I call it discovering your maximum and transformative purpose.
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And the reason I call it transformative because it's about
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transforming myself as well as what's in front of me.
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It's not my job to change the world. It's my
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job to change my world, myself and what's in front
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of me. Otherwise that's just that's putting way too much
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pressure on any individual that it's up to them, and
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that's a great way to avoid missiac complex as well.
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So yeah, I think the key is the intersection of
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those two elements to help discover something that might be
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at least a mission like for me, I had. I
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didn't have a lot of positive masculine role models growing up,
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and it was one of my unfulfilled needs in childhood
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and adolescence. And so yeah, and so after doing a
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lot of personal work, internal work, and seeing what needed
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to needed to change in the world or at least
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in my world. That's when I started Boys to Men
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Mentoring Network in Hawaii, which has been going strong now
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for going on thirteen fourteen years.
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And an international nonprofit. And you started that nonprofits chapter
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in Habaii.
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Correct, and then and then two years later took it
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national with a group of men. So it started something
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called Boys to Men USA, which essentially mentors mostly fatherless
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teen boys who lack positive funeral models in their lives.
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And so that's that's a need that I had unfulfilled
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in childhood and adolescence, a problem I saw in the world,
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and it manifested because I was able to identify those
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two things. It manifested itself in helping our youth and
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that organization. And it's not my primary focus any longer
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because when when part of discovering your mission and purpose
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is also engaging and enrolling others who have common beliefs
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and wants into it. And so I still serve on
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the local on the local board and the base of development,
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and on the national board as a as an advisor,
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right right.
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And that's a great example of identifying where you're called
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to bring your medicine. What I'm fond of saying is
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that what the world needs in order to heal, in
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order to elevate its health is far more than any
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one person could ever do. And when each of us
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is doing our unique part that we're called to do
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in helping that transformation and transcendence occur, all bases that
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need to be covered are covered collectively, and that's the antidote.
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Part of the antidote as well to the Messiah complex.
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Healing the world, Repairing the world is not only on
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our shoulders. The only part that's on our shoulders is
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to know what we're called to do, what our gifts
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are in helping that happen, and the spheres of influence
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that we're called to bring that medicine to.
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Indeed, and just to reflect back on what I said earlier,
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the most important thing we can do before we dive
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headfirst into a mission or something that we know is
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aligned with our purpose is to do our personal work.
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Because if I'm doing it because I need to be seen,
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or if I'm doing it because of an unhealed child
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childhood wound, then I could be doing it for the
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wrong reasons. I could be I could be I could
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be driven by motives that aren't altruistic right. So, that's
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the thing to think about, is heal myself before I
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can begin to support the healing of others?
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Right right? Absolutely? And what I would what I would offer, Well,
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let me backtrack for a moment. We're really talking about
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two categories that are both really important in what to
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look for if when you're ready to step into your
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cooliana in a fuller and clearer way. The first ingredient
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to look for is a resource that helps you discover
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or clarify or maybe even upgrade what your koliana is.
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And the second ingriden to look for is assistance in
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how you get to consistently embody your cooliana once you're
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clear about it. Are those before I double back to
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a couple of other things you said, would you say
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that those are the two main ingredients in what to
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look for, how to discover yours and how to consistently
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embody it.
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Yeah, when it comes to discovery and embodiment for certain Yeah,
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those are the things to definitely be aware of and
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to be continually working on. It's not like, oh, I'm
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healed or my work is done. So as long as
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I'm still breathing or my heart is beating, my work
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goes on. Yes, there's.
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A quote from a book by Richard Bach, who people
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most know his most famous book, Jonathan Livingston Seagull, But
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in another book of his called Illusions, there's a line
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from it that I'm paraphrasing now, but I'm capturing honorably
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his intention, which is, here's a test to find out
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if your growth on Earth is finished, if you're still here,
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it's not. So this is ongoing. It's not a one
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and done thing around doing our inner work. Here. You
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and I are in the second half of life, and
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we're still doing our inner work. I'm seventy two years old.
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I'm far from done with my inner work. So it
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is an ongoing process. The other thing I wanted to
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underscore that you said earlier was your phrase discovering your
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maximum transformative purpose. And I agree with that, and I
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view Cooliana as going a step beyond transformation that I
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want to bring into this and get your perspective on.
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I would call it discovering your maximum transformative and transcendent purpose.
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Transformative is about me and my self actualization. Transcendence is
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about greater than just me.
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Indeed, Yeah, so it starts off with the transformative purpose
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because it has to begin with myself, right. And also,
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and when I can find a way to effectively deliver
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without attachment, to outcome, without expecting something in return that's external,
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all the returns have to be internal, have to be
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coming from the wellspring of love, life, passion, power, the
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gift of humanity that is me and that is you. Then,
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by all means, but to move it to a place
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where your medicine is delivered, then that certainly is a
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space of transcendence. I appreciate that. And also I can
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transform the world, my external world. It's incredible by just
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changing the lens through which I view what's in front
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of me, which is essentially about changing the belief systems. Right,
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then I can transform what's in front of me without
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anything changing objectively from the outside.
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I want to run something else past you to see
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if I'm tracking this accurately or if you have something
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to add to it, which is that I see us
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as having two missions that inform each other and comprise Koliana.
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One is what I call our soul growth mission and
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the other is what I call our impact mission. And
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how do how do those two missions translate into or
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support Koliana?
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If you agree with that well, I think those two
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missions are critical. You know, one is the internal, one
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is the transformative, and the other is the transcendent. I
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love it so that my sole growth mission and my
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impact mission, it starts with soul growth and it never ends.
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The soul growth continues because as the successes or failures,
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or the hits or misses happen in the actions that
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I take, both internally and externally, there's that's an opportunity
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for me to do the sole growth work. And then,
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of course koliana is about being in relationship. It's about
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being in community. Kuliana in Hawaiian was about reciprocity and
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in mutual relationship, not just with other individuals but with everything.
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So if your koliana is to care for the aina,
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the land that you know, you're doing that because the
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reciprocity the land will provide and care for you. It's
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also about a holistic responsibility. So everything from a personal
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accountability one hundred percent personal accountability to the broader duty
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of caring for what's outside of myself right and those
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are in alignment because I have to have that level
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of accountability and integrity in order to be able to
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to honestly and without inserting my ego into the outcomes
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that I pray.
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For, said, I want to tie this in with something
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else that I've brought up in other episodes, term that
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I coined back in two thousand and eight called free
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responsibility the intersection of personal freedom and social responsibility, because
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I think it's tied to Koliana, because if I'm only
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about personal freedom, then I'm only about me. Freedom without
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responsibility is narcissism and entitlement and responsibility without freedom is tyranny.
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So it's got to be the both and of where
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personal agency personal free will, if you will, intersects with
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responsibility to the groups that we are part of. So
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after our upcoming break, we'll return for this episode's final segment,
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during which I'll be asking Michael Bonahan to reveal how
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he provides. It's Koliana up leveling ingredients that we just unpacked,
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and so that's coming up shortly. I'm doctor David Gruder.
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This is the Reimagining Humanity's Future in your show on
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the Cancom Broadcast Network, proudly broadcasting from Canada to the world,
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and will return shortly well before the break. The Koliana doula.
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There you go, there's another phrase for you. Michael Bonahan
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and I unpacked ingredients to look for when you want
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to develop up level or more fully embody your sacred purpose,
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your sacred responsibility. As I already mentioned during the final
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segment of this episode called Reimagining your Sacred Responsibility Cooliana,
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living your gift in service to life. Michael will reveal
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how he provides what he's suggested or we suggested in
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the last segment that you look for. I'll then let
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you all know how to access his great ways of
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facilitating this, and after that we'll each share the big
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takeaways we hope you've gained from this episode, followed by
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my closing comments. So, Michael, how do you help people
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develop up level or more fully embody their Cooliana.
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Well, it's a process very similar to what I talked
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about earlier, as far as discovering the belief systems, the
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shadow of belief systems that no longer serve you, unpacking those,
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finding their origins, doing some maybe some therapies around or
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some processes around discovering how they developed and how you
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can hold those beliefs in front of you as opposed
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to them living in your unconscious and keeping you back.
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So my coaching sessions I call it purpose management is
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what we do at Wisdom Windfall or purpose management sessions
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always start with a deep dive into discovery, ring what
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it is about yourself and getting to know yourself. And
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I call it there are three selves. I call them
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the original self, that's my personality, the God spark that
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lives in me, that I came into this incarnation with.
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That's the wounded self. No matter how much we think
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we have our acts together, how perfect our life was,
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we are all wounded in some way. Even the act
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of being born, being separated from our mother, our source,
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is a wounding in itself. And then finally to understand
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our defended selves, you know, the beliefs and behaviors that
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we had adapted to get the gumption to take our
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original and wounded selves out into the world and begin
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to interact with the world. Our defended selves, the masks
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that we wear, the cloak that we hide our true selves,
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our emotional selves in. And I call that that's a
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process called reclaiming yourself, which is the foundation of Wisdom
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wind Falls work. Once I begin to truly understand those
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three parts, of myself and understand that none of them
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are greater or lesser than they are all holistically me
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as the human being, and be able to integrate, integrate
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them and be aware who's online and everything from self
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care to what I do in interacting with others in
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the world and how I approach my purpose. That's the
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first step. And then I go into areas of deep listening,
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asking powerful and reflective questions, and finally I do. What
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we do is what most coaches do not do. We
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help people set smart goals and help them be accountable
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to achieving those goals.
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Right, Okay, yeah, so let's unpack those a little bit.
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Purpose management is uncovering our shadow beliefs and getting freedom
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from those so that we're not they're not the boss
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of us anymore, not that they disappear entirely, but they're
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not running us anymore.
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Right, Yeah, they'll hold us, they hold us back for
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reaching our potential.
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Yes, and getting really clear about our three selves. And again,
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I'm going to reiterate what you said, because I don't
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want it to just disappear into the ethers. Our original self,
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which is basically our our authentic self, the higher self
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that we came in with that that we were endowed
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with our wounded self that comes from adverse childhood experiences
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that we don't know how to process in helpful ways
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when we're growing up, and our defended self, the mask
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that we learned to wear to cope with our woundedself
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and to cope with the the the gap between how
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we're showing up and who we actually are. So integrating
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those and then the other part that you were talking
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about is about smart goals, And of course not everyone
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who's watching or listening to this episode knows what a
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smart goal is, So can you briefly say what those
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five ingredients are?
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Right? Smart is an acronym for specific, measurable, achievable relative
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to my mission or purpose and time bound. M hm yep.
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So you might want to re listen to that little
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SoundBite again because all of those ingredients have to be
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included if a goal is going to be what I
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refer to as accountability capable.
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Yeah, and the idea is to make them simple to
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start with and build on your successes. People tend to
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set I'm going to set this huge, almost unacheap ale
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smart goal and then feel like they a failure or
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they didn't hit their mark. So make it simple, right, So.
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A too large smart goal is not smart.
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Well put?
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Yeah, yeah, And so what I want to also underscore
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is that what you're identifying as being the way that
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you and your colleagues at Wisdom Windfall. I don't know
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why I keep calling it Windom. I'm thinking of William Windham,
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the old actor from decades ago, Wisdom Windfall. That you
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all are are doing your version of something that you
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and I are saying to our listeners and viewers to
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look for. No matter who you utilize, there's got to
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be a purpose management component. There's got to be a
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recognition of your three selves and integrating them and turning
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what was a wound into a blessing. I call that
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harvesting skills, harvesting gifts from the undesired and even unacceptable
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in our lives and smart goals. And accountability. So accountability
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is one of those words that is misused a lot,
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especially in business, where what gets mislabeled us accountability is
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shaming and coercion. And that's not the accountability you and
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I are talking about. So would you offer your definition
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of accountability?
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Sure? Accountability to me is taking responsibility for the impact
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of my action or inaction, whether it's done consciously or unconsciously,
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that's account of the So yeah, so it's it's as
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opposed to you know, did I get this thing done?
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You know, we all enter into agreements and some of
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us can't keep those agreements. And the question is do
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I enter into the agreement because there's a shadow, a
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need or a lack like did I over commit or
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did I enter into an agreement knowing I wasn't going
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to fulfill it just to be able to have that
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moment of like, yeah, I can do this, and and
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and these are all pointers and lessons in definding shadows
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that no longer serve me. Right. So communication, If I
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can't keep an agreement, communication is re negotiating agreement. There's
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nothing wrong with that. Staying in relationship and communicating with
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those who you are who are in agreement with is critical.
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So that's an important thing I do with my clients
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as well. Our purpose management sessions are all about you know,
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what what did you set out to do? What did
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what was the deliverable? What was the smart goal that
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you and did you achieve it? And if not, what
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was the shadow belief that kept you from doing it,
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And how can you get back and right relationship with
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your yourself by setting a new agreement and being accountable.
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To that m I think that's really important, having to
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do with the fact that sometimes I've certainly done this
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where in the joy of a particular moment or in
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the passion of a particular moment, I've said I'll do something,
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only to discover afterwards that I had a good intention.
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But I don't have enough bandwidth to follow through on
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what I said I would do or on the timeline
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I said I would do it within. And so learning
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the art of transparent agreement renegotiation as needed is really important.
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And then the other part of what you said, and
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I want to move on to the final part of
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this segment momentarily, but I can't let this pass, which
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is making sure that there is coherence between my intentions
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and my impacts. A lot of people have good intentions
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and their impact isn't aligned with those good intentions, and
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some people think that they should be let off the
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hook about their negative impact because they had positive intention
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and that's mistaken, that's not helpful. So much of what
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we've explored today, Juliana sacred responsibility and living your gifts
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in service beyond only yourself isn't just something to understand intellectually.
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It's something that has to be experienced in our body
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and our relationships, in our and in real time. For
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those of you who feel that pull, Michael offers a
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deeply experiential program called Dancing the Archetype. This isn't a
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workshop about concepts or personality types. It's an immersive process
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that uses movement, presence and archetypal intelligence to help you
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embody the forces shaping your life and clarify what you're
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being called to take responsibility for at this stage of
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your journey. As we record this, the next Dancing the
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Archetype's immersion will take place on April tenth through twelfth,
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twenty twenty six, in Asheville, North Carolina. And if you're
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watching or listening to this episode after those dates, I
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still encourage you to visit the page to see when
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and where it'll be held next. So if today's conversation
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stirred something in you, not urgency, but recognition, you're welcome
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to further explore that opportunity through this forwarder link I've
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created to make it easier for you to remember, and
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that is www dot the SESS for the Center for
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Enlightened Self Sovereignty thchgc ess dot com, slash Dancing for
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Dancing the Archetypes. Michael, what is in a short, non
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run on sentence, what's the big takeaway that you're hoping
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people got from this episode?
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Well, the understanding that they may be feeling some angst
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or something and there's something you can do about it.
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You may be feeling there's something missing in your life.
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You've ticked all those boxes I talked about at the
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beginning of our session, and something still still missing. So
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what can I do about it? I can begin to
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go deeper under my journey of self discovery, find out
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what is my special medicine to help heal the world,
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and work out a plan to deliver it with grace
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and ease. And the hope is that people feel inspired, awesome.
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So mine is don't underestimate the impact you can have.
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Every single one of us can make a huge difference
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in our chosen spheres of influence by knowing and living
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our Cooliana again. Discover the programs that Michael Bonahan and
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Wisdom Windfall offer at through the forwarder link thesess dot
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com slash Dancing and get in touch with him through
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the contact page on that website. Thank you so very much,
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Michael for helping us illuminate the hidden keys to Cooliana
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embodiment and for.
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Being here on my show, My Pleasure. Thank you David, and.
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Thank you all for joining me for this episode of
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reimagining Humanity's Future in Yours on the Kencom Broadcast Network,
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proudly broadcasting from Canada to the world. This has been
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doctor David Gruder, the futurist polymath of human potential and
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civilization architect who equips leading edge leaders, influencers and you
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with impactful resilience that makes it possible for humanity's most
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spiritually elevated future to at last emerge. I invite you
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to explore my main website, Doctor Gruder dot dot com.
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That's d R g r U d er dot com,
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where you'll find a link to watch or listen to
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all of the show's episodes and my books and keynote offerings,
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and to the Center for Enlightened Self Sovereignty. The world
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needs you, your nation needs you, your loved ones need you.
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You need you boost your impact in helping the future
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you most want to emerge. I enthusiastically invite you to
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tune in next time for another spellbusting, uplifting, an actionable
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episode on how together we can and will build a
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better future for ourselves and for humanity.