SELLEST OSAST
Ever peed yourself on the M1? No? Lucky You. But if you’ve ever dealt with a body that won’t behave, a brain that won’t shut up, or a world that thinks you need to "look" disabled to get support… this will be a breath of fresh air… cos were talking about it… All of it!
Whether you’ve lived it or never even thought about it – you need to hear this!
I’m joined by Stacey Denyer – ex-RAF, Invictus Games athlete, ADHD-er, MS warrior, founder of At Ease inclusion, Female Veterans Transformation Programme Communications & Engagement Officer and bladder-challenged badass. Together we’re diving headfirst into the messy, unspoken realities of chronic illness, hidden disability, and why pretending to be fine is doing us all in.
What we cover:
Why Stacey ignored early MS symptoms (and why lots of us would’ve done the same)
How fatigue, nerve pain and bladder urgency affect everyday life
The not-so-fun overlap between MS and ADHD (and how Stacey makes it work)
What people think MS looks like vs what it actually is
Getting diagnosed in the forces, and what that did to her career
How she went from that diagnosis to representing Team UK at Invictus
Learning to say no (even to No.10 Downing Street)
Planning your energy like you’d plan your money – and what happens if you don’t
“An hour is 4% of your day. You can use it to get better – or to have a nap. Both count.”
Resources mentioned:
Spoon Theory by Christine Miserandino – have a watch and look it up, it’s a game-changer
Everybody Moves – A brilliant directory for finding inclusive sports near you, whatever your needs.
Amantadine (NHS overview) – A med Stacey uses for MS fatigue that’s also helped with her ADHD. (Not medical advice – just her lived experience. Always speak to your GP.)
Kadeena Cox – Paralympian, MS advocate, and all-round powerhouse proving MS doesn’t have a single look.
The IMHub – because no one should have to carry this stuff on their own. Not MS. Not ADHD. Not the constant juggling act of being human.
