Dave Jones: Yeah, Shelby, were you like in your feelings after that? you picture yourself in a house, you're like walking through it, 'cause I like every house. I probably step in like, I go, I could see myself here. I'm terrible when it comes to that. But like, how is that for you emotionally, like going through that whole process?
Shelbi: It was really hard. I definitely had one day where I was like crying and having like a little baby crash out and was like, Victoria, I feel like I'm wasting your time. We keep putting in offers on all these houses. It had been like two months, I think, at that point, and we still hadn't found my house. but Victoria was super reassuring. I think the reason that I had the stamina to go through all of those different offers and viewings was because I felt like Victoria wanted me to buy a house, not like she wanted to make a sale.
Dave Jones: Yeah. Yeah. That's dope. And did you do some
Victoria Stoughton: Yeah.
Dave Jones: counseling? You did some counseling, Victoria?
Victoria Stoughton: I mean, yeah, I think that anytime you're working with humans and they have feelings, there's bound to be excitement and disappointment and just all the different things and and to just You want, I mean, I can't speak for other agents, I want it just as bad as my client does. And so knowing that disappointment is so real and just
Dave Jones: Mm-hmm.
Victoria Stoughton: it sucks to feel like this wasn't it, and then the next one wasn't it. And I always just tell my clients, you know, you're gonna end up where you're supposed to. It's a little woo-woo, but I really believe it, and it's all gonna work out for a reason. and some of that comes from, you know, when my husband and I bought in 2020, it was insane. We would offer on houses we didn't even like just to like maybe get under contract.
Dave Jones: Hm. Yep.
Victoria Stoughton: And the house we ended up on, ended up getting, we almost didn't get it. Was this whole thing? So I always use my personal experience too, is you know, I promise you you're gonna end up where you're supposed to, and it may suck
Dave Jones: Mm.
Victoria Stoughton: a little along the way, but you really I promise you, like you're gonna find your home. I'm not gonna give up.
Dave Jones: Shelby, did you believe her she was saying stuff like that? Like, did you did you were at some point were you just like, is this ever gonna happen?
Shelbi: No, I did. I remember one time you had gotten a hold of it was that tiny house in North End that had like the big beautiful yard. And they
Victoria Stoughton: Yes.
Shelbi: were accepting offers up until that night. And Victoria called me and was like, Do you want to go now? Are you free? I can go now. And so I just always knew that she was gonna be there for me. yes, I felt like it was going to happen. It was just a matter of like when and how.
Victoria Stoughton: Yeah.
Dave Jones: Mm-hmm. Yeah, that's good. Cause I I mean it can feel hopeless sometimes. I mean that's a lot, like
Victoria Stoughton: Yeah.
Dave Jones: you said, it's a big life change. Like, I don't know, it's a lot. Like you're talking about buying a whole a whole house and living in a whole different area and yeah, I don't know. Just it's a lot.
Victoria Stoughton: Yeah.
Dave Jones: so what was the like Shelby, what was the hardest part of the process to you? Outside of like the that part that we just talked about.
Shelbi: Yeah, I think the hardest part Like was probably the emotional stuff that came with it because the logistical stuff I felt very supported on and there wasn't a moment where I was unsure, confused, or didn't know what was happening. Victoria helped me pick out a lender too, and the lender was so responsive. I didn't understand how she was living a life and also doing her job with how much effort she was putting in. We didn't get a hold of her for like an hour one time and that was super unusual. Because she's usually like immediate response. But I think the hardest part for me was feeling like I was competing against people who were trying to profit off of the city I live in that I'm from, and the moments where I couldn't compete with them and their offer was accepted over mine because they have the resources.
Dave Jones: Yep. Man, that's that's that's deep.
Victoria Stoughton: Yeah. Mm-hmm.
Dave Jones: That's a deal.
Victoria Stoughton: Yeah, we went up, I think, a few different times against investors, and that was really hard. There would it either be the house would be great for a rental or it would be a big plot of land that maybe they could build other houses on. And so I think that was that felt hard too, just in where I was, because I was like, these people aren't even gonna live in this house. I have someone who wants to live in this house and make a life here. And Yeah, I think that getting beat out by investors is always kind of a tricky feeling because it feels so so emotional for us and less emotional for them. I'm guessing. I don't know. Mm-hmm. Just a guess. Yeah.
Shelbi: Yeah.
Dave Jones: Just a g j j just a guess.
Shelbi: It was really hard. I definitely had one day where I was like crying and having like a little baby crash out and was like, Victoria, I feel like I'm wasting your time. We keep putting in offers on all these houses. It had been like two months, I think, at that point, and we still hadn't found my house. but Victoria was super reassuring. I think the reason that I had the stamina to go through all of those different offers and viewings was because I felt like Victoria wanted me to buy a house, not like she wanted to make a sale.
Dave Jones: Yeah. Yeah. That's dope. And did you do some
Victoria Stoughton: Yeah.
Dave Jones: counseling? You did some counseling, Victoria?
Victoria Stoughton: I mean, yeah, I think that anytime you're working with humans and they have feelings, there's bound to be excitement and disappointment and just all the different things and and to just You want, I mean, I can't speak for other agents, I want it just as bad as my client does. And so knowing that disappointment is so real and just
Dave Jones: Mm-hmm.
Victoria Stoughton: it sucks to feel like this wasn't it, and then the next one wasn't it. And I always just tell my clients, you know, you're gonna end up where you're supposed to. It's a little woo-woo, but I really believe it, and it's all gonna work out for a reason. and some of that comes from, you know, when my husband and I bought in 2020, it was insane. We would offer on houses we didn't even like just to like maybe get under contract.
Dave Jones: Hm. Yep.
Victoria Stoughton: And the house we ended up on, ended up getting, we almost didn't get it. Was this whole thing? So I always use my personal experience too, is you know, I promise you you're gonna end up where you're supposed to, and it may suck
Dave Jones: Mm.
Victoria Stoughton: a little along the way, but you really I promise you, like you're gonna find your home. I'm not gonna give up.
Dave Jones: Shelby, did you believe her she was saying stuff like that? Like, did you did you were at some point were you just like, is this ever gonna happen?
Shelbi: No, I did. I remember one time you had gotten a hold of it was that tiny house in North End that had like the big beautiful yard. And they
Victoria Stoughton: Yes.
Shelbi: were accepting offers up until that night. And Victoria called me and was like, Do you want to go now? Are you free? I can go now. And so I just always knew that she was gonna be there for me. yes, I felt like it was going to happen. It was just a matter of like when and how.
Victoria Stoughton: Yeah.
Dave Jones: Mm-hmm. Yeah, that's good. Cause I I mean it can feel hopeless sometimes. I mean that's a lot, like
Victoria Stoughton: Yeah.
Dave Jones: you said, it's a big life change. Like, I don't know, it's a lot. Like you're talking about buying a whole a whole house and living in a whole different area and yeah, I don't know. Just it's a lot.
Victoria Stoughton: Yeah.
Dave Jones: so what was the like Shelby, what was the hardest part of the process to you? Outside of like the that part that we just talked about.
Shelbi: Yeah, I think the hardest part Like was probably the emotional stuff that came with it because the logistical stuff I felt very supported on and there wasn't a moment where I was unsure, confused, or didn't know what was happening. Victoria helped me pick out a lender too, and the lender was so responsive. I didn't understand how she was living a life and also doing her job with how much effort she was putting in. We didn't get a hold of her for like an hour one time and that was super unusual. Because she's usually like immediate response. But I think the hardest part for me was feeling like I was competing against people who were trying to profit off of the city I live in that I'm from, and the moments where I couldn't compete with them and their offer was accepted over mine because they have the resources.
Dave Jones: Yep. Man, that's that's that's deep.
Victoria Stoughton: Yeah. Mm-hmm.
Dave Jones: That's a deal.
Victoria Stoughton: Yeah, we went up, I think, a few different times against investors, and that was really hard. There would it either be the house would be great for a rental or it would be a big plot of land that maybe they could build other houses on. And so I think that was that felt hard too, just in where I was, because I was like, these people aren't even gonna live in this house. I have someone who wants to live in this house and make a life here. And Yeah, I think that getting beat out by investors is always kind of a tricky feeling because it feels so so emotional for us and less emotional for them. I'm guessing. I don't know. Mm-hmm. Just a guess. Yeah.
Shelbi: Yeah.
Dave Jones: Just a g j j just a guess.
