SELLEST OSAST
Has someone you brought into the world hurt you so deeply, so deliberately, and for so long that you have wondered whether you would survive it?
Has a child you loved drained your finances, attacked your reputation, taken your peace, and walked away calling themselves the victim?
You are not the first. You are not alone. And what is happening to you has a name.
Episode 13 of F*ck You Narcissist goes where the mental health conversation has been avoiding for decades. Child to parent abuse. The unnamed crime. The dynamic that affects as many as 1 in 10 families and that almost half of its victims cannot bring themselves to report.
What You'll Hear:
→ The research — CAPVA is finally being documented. A 2025 scoping review found child to parent abuse may affect as many as 1 in 10 families. London's Violence Reduction Unit reported 40% of those experiencing it refused to report it. The crime exists. The crime is documented.
→ Why it stays invisible — shame, love, a broken legal landscape, and a public narrative that arrives with the verdict already in. A culture built around parents protecting children has very few words for parents being harmed by them.
→ The slow version of parricide — we have a word for what happens when a child takes the life of a parent. We have no word for the daughter who stops calling. The son who dismantles his mother's life through proxies and silence. The door that stays open and never gets walked through. The slow version and the fast version end the same way. One just takes longer.
→ Four practical steps — name it correctly, document everything, find a therapist trained in coercive control and narcissistic abuse, and find community built by professionals not competitive grievance.
You did not fail at the most important job of your life. You loved someone who was going to take from you in ways you could not have predicted and could not have prevented. And you are still alive. Which is the first miracle.
Next week: Episode 6 — The Estrangement Epidemic: 70 million grieving people who cannot find a funeral.
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