Fluffy

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Consider one another as a podcast focused on each other.
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Thank you for tuning in to this podcast that is all about stirring up love and good works in one another.
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I'm sitting down with our very own Fluffy this afternoon.
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We've canceled our dentist appointments.
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It's 2.30 in the afternoon.
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We're here at the vintage, where Fluffy is a little bit of a celebrity, I would say.
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Fluffy, thanks for sitting down and being on the podcast today.
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I'm really encouraged to be here and I joke about her celebrity status here, but you really do know a lot of people here, don't you?
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Uh you were just telling me 17 years here.
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Yeah, 17 and a half.
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That half is what gets you.
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That's what gets you the connections and the celebrity status.
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I want to talk more about just the way you connect with people.
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But of course, first we're gonna jump in to scripture.
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That's where I want to be.
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I'm looking at Psalm 92.
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I'll read the verse because I think it describes Fluffy very well.
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But I'll read the verse and then we'll talk about that.
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Psalm 92 and verse 12.
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The righteous man will flourish like the palm tree.
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He will grow like a cedar in Lebanon, planted in the house of the Lord.
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They will flourish in the courts of our God.
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They will still yield fruit in old age.
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They shall be full of sap and very green to declare that the Lord is upright.
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He is my rock, and there is no unrighteousness in him.
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You guys probably know that I like tree imagery, and there's a lot of it in the Bible.
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That yielding fruit is one that Jesus talks about, of course.
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It's one the psalmist talks about here, and Fluffy, I just see you as yielding fruit.
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I want to know more about just these years, these 17 and a half years here, how you've connected with the people here, whether it's the singings or uh evangelism and Costco, like you're saying, uh, how do you uh what motivates you to keep being faithful, keep declaring that the Lord is upright and yielding fruit?
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Well, with the church, I'm rather gregarious, but not here.
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I'm shy.
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And people don't believe that when I don't believe you.
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Oh really?
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Here you're shy, okay.
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And my grandchildren think I have constant company here because of everybody.
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Right.
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Uh nobody ever comes here, and I don't go to their apartment.
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Not even Cheryl's.
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Okay.
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If I see them in the hall, I may chat a little bit, and frequently I'll go down to our social room where I know there are people gathering.
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Some of the people there are definitely not Christians as we understand it.
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Sure, yeah, yeah.
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And I told Cheryl, I said, that's where we need to be going.
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Mm-hmm.
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Go to the people we need to be getting acquainted with and encouraging.
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So I do that because they drink a lot.
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Okay, okay.
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And that's worked well for me uh as far as interacting with people.
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Well, I keep my ears alert for newcomers to the community, and they will invariably say, We're looking for a home church, and of course I jump on that with both music.
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Yes.
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Oh, I love that opening.
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And that's a good opening for me to uh invite them.
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That's perfect.
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And uh for instance my friend Landa uh I met at Costco.
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I was Christmas shopping, and it was on a Sunday, and I had been to church and I had on a bright purple outfit.
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Oh and she said, Oh, look at you, she's kind of loud.
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And oh, look at you, and that started our conversation.
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We talked for 15 minutes, I didn't even know her.
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Right.
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And I invited her to church.
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Wow, and she said, Well, I can't promise to go this Sunday because I've already promised to go with somebody else.
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Uh-huh.
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But I will be there the next Sunday, and she was.
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Wow.
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And she's been at least three times.
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Three times since I've been here, that's for sure.
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Yeah.
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Oh, that's awesome.
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And but that's the way I usually approach anybody.
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I love that.
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Yeah.
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Said you're shy.
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Do you get nervous doing that?
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Or are the nerves different to see what you're doing?
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I just don't want to do it.
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I it's hard for me to reach out.
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If I'm in control, I'm okay.
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Yeah.
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But if they're in control, it's very hard for me.
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I appreciate you opening up about that, because you're right.
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People will hear this and say, fluffy, shy.
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But it's different when we're in our church buildings.
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Yeah.
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We can feel more comfortable.
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Well, yeah, where I feel I can trust everybody and I pretty much know what their response is gonna be if I say anything.
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But down in the social room, who knows what?
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You get laughed at or kicked out.
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Wow, okay.
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So that's hard to do.
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People are staying in the rooms.
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Yeah, that it makes me shy about reaching out.
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I'm tired of being hurt.
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Yes.
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And it makes it hard to reach out and put myself vulnerable.
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And it I I love that you're saying that because you you still continue to yield fruit anyway.
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Whether it's the scene that we had here, where you got so many people that we did not know, just residents here to come and show up to that.
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Over over 200 here.
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Okay, over 200 here.
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That makes it even better because there there's probably uh twenty people at that that you'd invited.
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It's a big percentage.
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And so to be shy and have that fear of rejection is so normal, but uh you've overcome it.
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You you still reach out to these people and that's encouraging to me.
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I don't take part in any card games or or uh any kind of games here, and there are many.
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I saw all the Bunko signs and everything going on.
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Uh huh.
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I do play cards once in a while with a friend Linda.
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Cool.
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But uh she's been preoccupied lately.
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So Okay.
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Well, I was thinking about whether it's in the Costco, like you're telling me before, or just Josh Ralston will tell me about how you are in the Sprout store telling everyone about yeah, uh, like, oh, you gotta come and hear Josh, he gives these great talks at church.
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So I can understand when I hear those stories, I just can't picture Fluffy being shy.
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But even maybe those conversations can be kind of uncomfortable.
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Well, that's what it is.
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I'm afraid of being hurt.
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Yeah, yes, aren't we all?
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But it's so encouraging when we get to meet Landa at services or or anyone else you've invited.
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Thank you for overcoming that.
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It's a good example to us when we see someone who's natural at it.
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We think she's not shy, but she is.
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I have the loveliest birthday card from my son Mike.
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He's very poetic.
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Yeah, yeah.
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And later I'll read it to you.
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Oh, yeah.
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He's sweet.
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Yeah.
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He's sweet.
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We love Mike.
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We love Mike.
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He couldn't be on the podcast today.
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He's in Italy.
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Having a good time.
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Yeah.
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But we love him.
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I want to rewind with you to I guess before you were even known as Fluffy.
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That's all I know you as.
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Well, I got that nickname when I worked at the Willows.
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Oh, at the Willow.
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Yeah.
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Several of us were having coffee one morning and talking about our weight.
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I was like 43 years old and very slender.
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Okay.
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You're 43, got it.
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And I said, Well, actually, I'm not fat, I'm just fluffy.
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And one of the little men that struck him so funny, he almost fell out of his chair laughing.
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And he nicknamed me Fluffy.
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And you stuck with it.
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And it's absolutely stuck.
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It has served me well in working with the public.
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If I don't want to use my real name, I give them my nickname.
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Yeah, not the government name, but the the fluffy nickname, and you stuck with that.
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And I love that you have because it does make uh your presence iconic.
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When I talk about you to someone who's visited, like someone, oh well, you know her, Fluffy.
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And everyone says, Oh right.
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Of course I remember Fluffy.
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It's a memorable name.
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But going even before that, before th those times, I'm just curious about oh, where you grew up.
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I I don't know that, or how you became a Christian if you were raised in the church or how that came about.
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I was born in Columbus, Georgia.
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Wow.
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Uh long ways from here.
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My biological father committed suicide and I was four years old, and he is buried in Columbus.
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And uh when I was almost seven, uh mother had as she was a male order bride.
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I don't know if you know what that means.
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That is an old term to me.
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Well, nowadays it would be the internet.
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Okay.
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But anyway, they corresponded for a few months and he sent her money to come to Washington and marry him with five children.
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I'm the baby of seven, but the two elders had already left home.
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And uh so we got on the train and headed for Washington State.
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We went angled up to Chicago and then went across the northern states.
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And when we got to Sparta, Wisconsin, mother had a paralytic stroke.
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She was 41 and very nearly died.
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And I saw all that happening.
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It happened that in that town they had a home for dependent children.
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So they put her in the hospital and put us in this home for six or seven weeks.
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And I know God was right there because when she walked out of that hospital, walked out, not in a wheelchair, on her own power, not even a nurse with her, she walked to the vehicle by herself.
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And we continued our trip, and when we got to Spokane, she and my stepfather were married.
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Okay.
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And this was August 21st, 1944.
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And we went 150 miles up in the woods to his ranch.
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Wow.
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Which was a God send blessing for a place for to rear children.
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You liked it growing up.
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Oh yeah.
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Because you're pretty young here.
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I yeah, I was almost seven.
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Okay.
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He had an upright piano.
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Oh.
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And I started teaching myself to play.
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That was one of my questions.
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And to this day, I I don't know one key from another, don't know one note from another.
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You can't read music.
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I'm no.
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Wow.
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I'm totally self-taught, and I have over 300 songs in my repertoire.
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Just memorize.
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Yeah, give her sheet music.
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She'll just put it away.
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I can I just sit down and play one right after the other.
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Do you still continue to learn or you just rely on that free time?
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No, I try to improve every time I play.
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I always have.
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Yeah, I just learned something.
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What?
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Just picking it up by ear.
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Improve up my rhythm.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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And I know what sound a key is gonna make before I hit it.
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Yeah.
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Okay, so you've been playing the piano since you're about seven.
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Well, uh, professionally since the late nineties.
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Okay, that's what it became ninety, not my age.
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Right, right.
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Professionally, where you you got these gigs that we'll we'll talk about, but just learning from a young, young kid.
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You were just teaching yourself.
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God had a purpose in my doing that because I got on the phone, nobody knew me.
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Right.
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And I got 18 different places hired me, sight and sing.
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Wow.
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To play.
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Yes.
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And oh wow.
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Yeah.
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Like God was preparing this for you.
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Well, he has a purpose for my doing that.
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And bringing joy in the lives of those people in my life.
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And yourself too.
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I know it brings you joy.
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I remember being in this same room, me and a couple nice guys just moved this piano all the way up here.
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Oh, that's right, you helped move it.
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I did, yeah.
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I think Jonathan and David Kelly, and it's still right there, still playing there.
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And there was just so much joy when you got to play that piano.
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I could I could see that.
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It brings us joy too to hear, but something about you hitting those keys I'm sure you love for playing that piano for such a long time.
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God had a purpose.
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Yeah.
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With the piano or the stepfather, or anyone else.
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And I've said more prayers before I play and afterwards a prayer of Thanksgiving.
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Yeah, what does that prayer look like before?
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Just well, I just ask God to keep my mind clear and help me to totally focus, keep my fingers nimble.
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Yeah.
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Amen.
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And help me to bring joy to all those who hear my music.
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Yeah, that's a beautiful prayer.
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Yeah, we can apply that to so many things.
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I love that piano for you.
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Well, God had a purpose for that for sure.
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I'm wondering then, how did you come to know the Lord?
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Was that through your stepfather too, or how did that happen?
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Well, the kids' dad was a member of the Church of Christ.
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Oh, okay.
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And when we were engaged, I wanted to know about his religion because I we lived 70 miles from the nearest church.
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Wow.
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And even though my mother taught me a lot about God, we didn't go to services.
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I was baptized in Spokane, North Spokane congregation in 1955.
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Okay.
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Uh my brother, eldest brother, had an extremely sick wife.
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They were of different faiths.
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Yeah.
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And I didn't want to marry into that kind of situation.
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So I learned what I could about his faith.
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Oh.
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You just kind of seen how it didn't work for you.
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And I was baptized before we married.
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Okay, oh, interesting.
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In Spokane.
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Yeah.
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Okay.
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And then I graduated in Spokane from high school.
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And that night at 1230, my brother, whose wife had died, and a co-driver, the three of us set off from Mississippi for me to be married.
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Right after graduating high school?
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Yeah.
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Okay.
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Set off short trip down to Mississippi.
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I had my bridal shower.
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I was baptized.
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I had baccalaureate service.
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I had graduation service all within a week.
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And traveled 3,000 miles.
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Almost three.
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Wow.
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Well, and you're just 18 and we were married in uh Corinth, Mississippi, by brother Jimmy Allen.
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Okay.
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You might have heard of him.
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He was quite popular for he officiated down there in Mississippi.
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Yeah.
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Wow.
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And we lived six months with his parents, and I kept encouraging him.
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He already had two years of junior college.
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And I encouraged him to go on to Mississippi State and Startville to continue his education, and they didn't have anywhere for married couples to live.
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They were all taken up.
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So we had to wait six months till a place opened up where I could join him.
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Yes.
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And he would come home on weekends.
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Wow, that's hard.
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But he did go ahead and finish, like you encouraged him.
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Oh yeah.
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He eventually got a master's degree, and I got two and a half years in college.
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And then later went to Olympic college, and I've got three and a half years.
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Okay.
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I am curious then about that connection between Mississippi and Washington.
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I'm trying to understand.
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Well, he was in the Air Force.
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He was in the Air Force.
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Oh, he I was in high that part of my high school was in Colville, and they had an Air Force base there where he was stationed.
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I met him on a blind double date because I told my girlfriend when she called me and wanted me to go with him.
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She said it's my birthday and we're going to celebrate and then go to a drive-in movie.
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I've never been to a drive-in movie.
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I said, Well, you know how I feel about dating military guys.
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Right.
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And she said, and I could hear her mother in the background telling her what to say.
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She said, Oh, he's from the South.
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You'll love him.
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He's blah, blah, blah.
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So I ended up going on a date that night.
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That's how I met him.
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A blind double date.
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That's yeah, it's quite trusting.
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I understand.
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But there's the link between kind of South and Washington.
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I guess those would be the two major places you've lived then.
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Or am I missing somewhere in between?
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Oh, I've lived all over the place.
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Okay.
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Uh he was an agriculture teacher.
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Oh, interesting.
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In high school.
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And in the summer, we would go to Chicago to get a quick job to earn tuition money for the fall, and we'd go back south and go back to school.
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And so we lived uh his first teaching job was in southeast Arkansas, a little bitty town called Wilmot.
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And my first baby was born while we were living there.
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She was born in Durmont, Arkansas.
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Okay.
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And then he got a job teaching in Shannon, Mississippi, uh, eight miles from Tupelo.
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Okay.
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Another real small town.
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All small towns you're living in.
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And we lived there three or four years, and my son Mike was born while we were living there.
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Okay.
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We ended up going to his hometown.
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Big mistake.
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And he taught agriculture there.
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So then we built the house and lived there until we divorced.
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Okay.
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But there was a fair amount of time spent down there in those small towns.
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Oh yeah, 20 years.
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That was 20 years, okay.
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So then recently then, Washington has been home for how long for you?
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Since 1981.
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The reason I came to this area of Washington, I was reared in northeastern Washington.
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Okay.
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But I came to this area because my mother was still alive and she was in a care facility in Port Oregon.
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Oh, and I wanted to be near her.
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Oh, good for you.
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So I got to be with her for four years before she died.
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And then was it after that where you started that work with the retirement home that you started in Kitab County?
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No, it was uh when I left the kid's dad and we divorced, I didn't know how I was gonna make a living.
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Yeah.
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And I kept praying about it, and I kept having the thought, look in the newspaper, looking the newspaper, and but I wasn't looking at you.
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When I finally did, and I had already thought, I've always had good rapport with the elderly people.
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Well, there was one ad, 85-year-old lady needed help.
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Oh, and I called the lady in charge and got hired over the phone, and I was there six months.
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She was the meanest old bat.
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And her name was Holiday.
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Holiday.
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The meanest lady ever.
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But anyway, I went from there to different living jobs taking care of ladies with advanced Alzheimer's.
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Okay.
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Uh, until I married a second time and we became managers of the willows.
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I do appreciate you opening up about some of these things because it's easy in the pews to just not think about those those struggles and those hard times.
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I said we'd keep it positive and focus on the good.
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Yeah.
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But but if you were to kind of encourage maybe someone else who's going through their own hard seasons, it's coming for all of us.
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What kept you faithful during those hard times?
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What what did you cling to?
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What would you say to someone who's struggling?
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You know, I I've questioned myself about that.
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Mike said he can't remember me not sitting down reading the Bible.
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And my mother had a stronger faith as I've ever seen.
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Okay.
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But she taught me to always pray it be God's will.
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Well, first of all, to pray.
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And pray that it be God's will.
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And she taught me a lot of positive things like that about God.
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And that stuck with me.
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In fact, it still does to this day.
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And my faith just grew and grew more and more.
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Yeah, we hate to admit it, but if you look back on your life, people are going to agree that the faith grows during those hard times.
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Yeah.
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As hard as that is.
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I look at someone like Fluffy, I think, wow, what an encouragement, what an example of faith.
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I wonder how she became such a standard for faith and fruitfulness, and then you learn.
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Through hard knocks.
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Through hard knocks.
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Very hard.
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Yes, th don don't let me push it too hard here, but I do appreciate that.
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Advice because when people do go through those hard times, sometimes they forget to read.
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They forget to pray.
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They think, I gotta pull myself up here.
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This is a hard time.
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I gotta make my way on my own instead of depending.
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Well, I had to be strong for my
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Mm-hmm.
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Uh, that helped me for a lot of years.
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It's a big motivator.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Be strong for them.
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And clearly, like I said, we love Mike.
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I've gotten to meet him.
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You can see the impact that that strength had, that faithfulness had in his life.
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We'll focus on the positive for now.
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Thank you for just opening up into that.
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It it really does help us learn about faithfulness through hard times.
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Thank you for your example.
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I said we'd return back to the pianos.
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Let's talk about pianos.
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That'll make us smile.
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You said playing professionally starting in the 90s.
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So you've just been playing, kind of teaching yourself, and then you you said, you know what, I'm gonna start making money with this.
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Well, I used to uh stu I would work out at the Bremerton YMCA.
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Oh, cool.
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And on my way home, I would pass his nursing home.
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And there was a a member of the church who lived there twenty-something years, a lady.
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And uh so I would go by and see her, and I would just go in and volunteer and play the piano.
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And the activity lady said, You know, we would pay you for what you're doing.
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You're giving it for free.
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So that's what got me into it.
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Okay.
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They just observed the playing, you going through your repertoire, and they said, Hey, we'd we'd pay you for that.
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I was only playing probably thirty to fifty songs at that time, and as the years passed I kept increasing my uh list and Yeah, you just keep learning, keep getting better.
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Do you have a favorite song that you play?
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My favorites I can't play.
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I love fascination.
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Oh uh it's one of my favorites.
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But uh I like to keep it lively.
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Yes.
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Uh there's one that I love, the rhythm from the Second World War called Elmer's Tune.
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Elmer's Tune.
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That is very catchy rhythm.
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Okay.
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And uh I'm often told I like your music because it's happy and upbeat, and I do try to I I have uh probably forty country western songs from years ago on my lip, but they're so negative that I I hardly ever play.
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Yes.
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Uh because I wanna I wanna keep it a B.
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Depends on the venue, I suppose.
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Yes.
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But where are the types of places that you're playing now?
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No, it's not quite as frequent.
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Well, at retirement homes and nursing homes.
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That's why you're keeping it.
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That's where I've always played.
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Well, I take that back.
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For four years I played at a buffet.
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Oh Angels Buffet behind the Bremerton uh Pancake House.
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Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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East Bremerton.
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Oh, you just play there.
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It used to be a buffet there.
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Mm-hmm.
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And I played there until they closed.
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Oh, okay.
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Yeah.
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So now it's it's gonna be a retirement home setting.
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So you keep it lively and upbeat, just like that prayer you said.
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I hope this will be encouraging, exciting people.
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The point I started to make when I was Sizzler, that's the name of that registration.
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Sizzler.
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That is, yes, I do know the Sizzler.
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Their waitress would come to my apartment and I would pray with them.
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Wow.
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Yeah.
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Do you invite them to that, or how did that happen?
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And I would convert I converted one of them.
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Yeah.
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She was baptized.
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That's amazing.
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Yes.
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We just heard the encouragement on Sunday from Brother Don about inviting and how helpful that is.
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Yes.
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There are other things to invite people to besides a church service.
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Some people are really interested in that.
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Like you'd mentioned, some people say, I'm looking for a church home.
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Okay, invite them to ours.
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There's other people who aren't quite ready for that.
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But if you invite them to pray, it sounds like what you did.
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Yeah, let's let's come pray together.
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That's what they wanted.
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And they were just teenagers.
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Well, I would say at least four different ones to my apartment.
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It's a great invitation.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, we see it in scripture.
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That's amazing.
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And it makes sense.
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We see the disciples say that teach us to pray.
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And we are very blessed with our Bibles and good people who taught us things, like you said your mom did to teach you to read and pray.
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Yeah.
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There's so many people without that blessing in their life.
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Just like the disciples, people need to taught.
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If you offer that invitation, people will be interested.
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I love that invitation.
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Let's pray together.
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And they'll learn, and it yields fruit.
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Oh, there's the theme again.
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I also later worked at JC Benny's for three years down here in the mall.
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Yeah, yeah.
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But I had to quit that job because I had bursitis in both hips.
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And I was in agonizing pain when I would stand all day.
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Oh.
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And I had finally had to quit.
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But I I loved that job meeting the public on my terms.
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Uh yeah, yeah.
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Kind of your store, your setting.
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Okay.
00:27:02.960 --> 00:27:05.119
But with the piano gigs, you get to sit down.
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That's nice.
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That's really nice.
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Well, we're doing great here.
00:27:08.960 --> 00:27:18.559
But I people always do love to hear about someone's favorite something, whether it's a hymn or a verse in the Bible, either or both uh people would love to know.
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I love the the book of James and Ephesians.
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I love those two books a lot.
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The whole book, okay.
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We'll let you take the whole book.
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Yeah.
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James and Ephesians are great.
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Well, there's those two books are filled with encouragement.
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Encouragement, right.
00:27:35.920 --> 00:27:38.720
Which makes me curious about your favorite song.
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I think I know it.
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Your favorite hymn that we want to sing.
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I like singing be happy because I thought again, you know, you don't want to sing a dirge.
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Yeah.
00:27:50.799 --> 00:27:51.119
Right.
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And uh that's a song just as I am.
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It it has the most wonderful words, but but if it's not sung with a little pep to it, it can to me it can be discouraging.
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So you d yeah, almost like it's a bad thing.
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Like, uh, just as I am.
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Well, it's just not something I look forward to, I'll put it that way.
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Yeah.
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But the reminder, singing and be happy.
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Yeah.
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Oh, that's a great one.
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I also like my God and I.
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Are you familiar with that one?
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I I am.
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Is that something about walking?
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My God and I, we go the fields together.
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We walk and talk as good friends shouldn't do.
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We clasp our hands, our voices ring with laughter.
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My God and I go through the meadows here.
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Isn't that lovely?
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It is.
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It is lovely.
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My God and I.
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And I and and I would brought a song brought to mind Sunday, face to face with God my savior.
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Yes, oh I know that one.
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Oh, that's such a beautiful song.
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Well, I'm noticing a common theme here, uh, this kind of relational aspect of it.
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Uh, like probably a lot of people, I mean, just in my recent studies, I've met a lot of people who feel the same shyness and fear of rejection.
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Yeah.
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Just like you have felt, and to sing these hymns happily that are about this relationship we have with my God and I.
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That makes sense.
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That's what you cling to.
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One that helped me to get through a nervous breakdown was uh I get emotional and I lose my memory.
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You take your time.
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Although I will say, I've been very impressed with your memory, just citing those words of my God and I.
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That's because I'm in control.
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Yes.
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Right, it changes when that controls.
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Oh, I know.
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I know the Lord will find a way for me.
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If I walk in heaven's light, shun the wrong and do the right.
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Oh, oh, yes.
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I know the Lord will find a way for me.
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Yes.
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And also does Jesus care.
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Does Jesus care?
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Yes.
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Oh, yeah, that one.
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Mm-hmm.
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Yeah.
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I know.
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Yes, I do know that one.
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Does Jesus care?
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Kind of reminds me of Mark 4.
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The boat is sinking, there's a storm, and they say, Do you even care that we're finished singing?
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Those two songs I mentioned.
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I had copied the words down and had them taped to my chair side table when I worked at the Willows to remind me that God was there with me.
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Oh, which two songs were those?
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Uh, The Jesus Care and I know the Lord will find a way for me.
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I know the Lord will find a way for me.
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I think I recognize it, but the way you quoted the lyrics, this is so powerful.
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I know the Lord will find a way for me.
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I know the Lord will find a way.
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If I walk in heaven, light shall the wrong way.
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I know the Lord.
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Every sin I ever committed was because I didn't listen to God.
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He kept sending me red flags and I'd poo-poo it and go on and do what I wanted to.
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Yes.
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It was not until uh I moved here and I began going to Birmingham Church.
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That's when I really gave myself to God.
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Wow.
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You talk about leaving the Lord, how did you find your way back?
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I never really left him.
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Okay.
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And we know he didn't go anywhere.
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That's true.
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I had to fight very hard to uh find my way back to him.
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He was always deep down at my heart.
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And as I said, I ignored it, but it was always there.
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Right, okay.
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Yeah.
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So you stopped ignoring it.
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That's the key.
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The red flags of communication were always there.
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He didn't go anywhere.
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Yeah.
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You had to stop ignoring it.
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Yeah.
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That's easier said than done.
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Boy, that's for sure.
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And my kids stuck by me for for a while.
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They couldn't understand my ill behavior.
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And so I want to read Mike's card to you.
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And he mentions you are finishing strong, mom.
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Yes.
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That's amazing.
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And the beautiful thing is, I know he means it and it comes from his heart.
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It makes me think of this.
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Second Timothy 4 7.
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I have fought the good fight.
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I have finished the course.
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I have kept the faith.
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Yes.
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There's so much out of our control.
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Terrible things out of our control.
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Yeah.
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I'd love, I'd love it if I could be the savior of the world and just fix it for everyone.
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But I can't.
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It's God's will, not mine.
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I can pray for them and try to teach them the truth.
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Yeah.
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It's hard to learn that.
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We want to save everyone, but well, isn't that wonderful that God is in control?
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Amen.
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Instead of we can put all our burdens on him.
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And the beauty of that hellacious life I lived is that he doesn't hold that against me.
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He has forgiven me.
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And it took me so long to forgive myself.
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Right.
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Yeah, so long.
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Mm-hmm.
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But it is by grace that we are saved.
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You know, the scars are so deep.
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Of course.
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Until just the last couple of years I've had to sleep with a brilliant light on right by my head.
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Yeah.
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I was in a hospital at Northwoods rehabilitation from a from a surgery.
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And in the middle of the night, the first good night's sleep I'd had, the nurse very gently said, Miss Eunice.
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I said, Yeah.
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And I literally almost climbed over the headboard of the bed.
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Oh.
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Freaked you out.
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The next day a doctor talked to me for 40 minutes.
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He was so concerned.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, those deep-rooted scars you're talking about.
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Yeah.
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Stays with you.
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But there's nothing can stop all that fear but God.
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And my listening to him.
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Yeah.
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He was always there, but I didn't listen.
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It was until I started listening that he rescued me.
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Yes.
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Because he's just like you said, he's not moving.
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No.
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When we start listening, he hadn't gone anywhere.
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We find him.
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Amen.
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Just to tie it all together.
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I'm thinking about the song you pointed out.
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I I know the Lord will find a way.
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That seems like it's been a theme throughout your life as you're looking back at whether it's the piano that you got to play at seven or any other ways that you found the Lord and His people, you know the Lord will find a way.
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Oh, what amazing thing it is.
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Always his.
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Always will.
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Yeah.
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Amen.
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There's more that we could obviously talk about, but uh for today, Fluffy, this has just been uh so uh encouraging to us.
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We've learned a lot, uh, but we want to consider you always, and especially in these ways where we can learn and be encouraged by you.
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I I didn't tell you these personal things to make you feel pity for me because I'm not to be pitied.
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I have the joy of the Lord in my heart.
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Amen.
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And I'm not to be pitied.
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Of course not.
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I want you to focus on that.
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Yes, it's Jesus makes us all equal and we're all saved.
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The same way.
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Yeah, the same way.
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There's no pity there for those of us who rejoice in that, the joy of the Lord, the great one.
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You know, when the church was meeting in the funeral home.
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Yeah, yeah, don't remodel.
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Yeah, yeah.
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I kept having panic at that.
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It's where they had to help me out of the building.
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Really?
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And I haven't had a single one since we quit meeting there.
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I was associating that with my biological dad's death.
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Yeah, because you're in a funeral home.
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Yeah, and that was such a traumatic time.
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Yeah, and then it kind of comes all rushing back to you.
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Didn't help that my mother fainted twice at his bedside.
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I mean, at his gravesite, and I thought she was dying.
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Oh.
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You know, when my little child minds.
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Yeah, of course that's what you'd think.
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Yeah.
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They both go.
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Yeah.
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It's so helpful for us to learn.
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Wow, like Fluffy is shy at times.
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She can be nervous about being uh out of her controlled element, but it's encouraging to us that you've found comfort in my God and I, and you invite people to church, you pray with them, and you're at yielding fruit.
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Thank you for your champion.
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I missed an opportunity the other day that's really troubling me.
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There's a woman on the other side end of the building who is not right mentally, and she chose to walk all the way home with me, and I got rid of her at the door.
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I did not invite her in.
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And I that has just troubled me deeply because maybe God put her to walk with me because he wanted me to talk to her and invite her in my home.
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Sure.
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But God's the God of second chances.
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You let's be prayerful about that in Frank.
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There you go.
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Yeah, yeah.
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Yeah.
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That would be great.
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Fluffy, thank you again for letting us consider you today.
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It's been really encouraging.
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A lot of people from the start of this whole project said, You gotta interview Fluffy.
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And I said, Okay, like we'll we'll get to it.
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Now we have, so we're gonna consider this the season three finale.
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It's been awesome sitting down and learning from you.
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Thank you for your example.
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We love you so much, Fluffy.
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The Bible tells us to consider one another in order to stir up love and good works in each other.
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So thank you for stirring up love and good works in me just by listening to this episode.
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Brother Bobby Sands said, Fluffy, did you make this cake?
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I said, No.
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Sister Costco got up at three o'clock this morning and made that cake just for us.