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Welcome to the Positive Growth Doctor Podcast for Women.
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I am your host, Dr.
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Christina Wilson.
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I created Positive Growth Doctor after years of dealing with societal expectations, self-doubt, and perfectionism.
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I leverage my 30 years of experience as a positive psychologist to address limiting beliefs and gain clarity through faith-based emotional wellness techniques rooted in mindset renewal and biblical truth.
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Subscribe to the podcast and check out the earlier episodes so you don't miss a thing.
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Let's get to it.
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Yes, we've all been there, right?
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Just pick one.
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We map her journey through the naming of her sons, tracing her shifts from striving to for human love to declaring praise to the Lord through her fourth son, Judah.
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Tune in to gain practical biblical tools to break free from people pleasing and find complete rest in God's grace.
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So access the full transcript for this episode in your favorite podcast app or on the pod on the Positive Group Doctor YouTube channel.
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And don't forget to hit subscribe, please.
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All right.
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So how do we escape the performance trap?
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You know, and find biblical freedom from perfectionism.
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I'll tell you, it is not easy.
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It really isn't.
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And it took me a very long time, and I had some hard lessons to learn.
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And that's why, you know, we talk about this because I know that I wasn't alone and that this is very common for women.
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Because modern women often learn the hard way, that striving for human approval is an unsatisfying trap.
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You know, it fosters perfectionism, people pleasing, and the toxic belief that worth and acceptance must be earned through performance, which is not what God intended for us.
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Breaking free requires a critical shift in mindset.
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So re-anchoring our focus on God to find true peace.
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And yes, it can be done.
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Leah's life demonstrates how to break free from the exhausting need to constantly perform.
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So, how did she move from rejection to redemption?
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Well, there's many lessons we can learn about our own worth or self-worth from Leah.
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You know, the enemy often traps women in a cycle of striving, using feelings of rejection and inadequacy to convince us that we have to work for God's love rather than living from it.
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Scripture offers a powerful counter narrative.
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One is divine worth is unearned.
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Okay, that's what scripture tells us.
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Um, and there's scriptures from Genesis and um Psalms, Galatians, and Ephesians that I listed in the transcript as well.
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Um, you know, God prioritizes the unchosen and broken, leading us out of striving.
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He does that for us and leading us into praise rather than striving.
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He loves us so much.
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Um, you know, performance all actually, scripture also tells us that performance cannot buy affection.
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And Leah tied her word to her ability to produce, naming her older sons after the pain of trying to earn Jacob's love, and believing that she had to produce children to win her husband's approval over her sister Rachel.
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She fell directly into the trap of performance-based acceptance.
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And it's a nasty little trap that you know all of us have found ourselves in.
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And thinking about the areas where you feel like you still have something to prove, you know, give that some thought.
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What are the areas that you feel like you still have something to prove?
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Striving to earn which should be freely given never satisfies.
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So, how do you shift your focus from human approval to God's unconditional love?
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Well, Genesis 29 illustrates a profound transformation in Leah's perspective.
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With the birth of her fourth son Judah, her heart shifted from pain to praise.
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And perfectionism is often just a fear of rejection, and it's disguised as high standards.
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But Leah realized she could not perform her way into grace.
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Instead, she declared, this time I will praise the Lord.
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So this week I challenge you to identify one task that triggers your perfectionism or people-pleasing tendencies.
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Set a realistic, that's the key word, a realistic standard, execute it without overpolishing, and spend the save time praising God for his unearned love.
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And also reflect on, I have a couple of questions for you to reflect on um as you start out the week.
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Okay, where in my life am I striving for human approval instead of resting in God's acceptance?
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And what performance standard do I need to lay down, put away, and at the altar today?
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What performance standard do I need to lay down at the altar today?
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This series has blessed you, and I I pray that it has.
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Please share it with a friend and take a moment to leave a review on Apple Podcast.
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You know, it means the world, and it also furthers the reach to other women, you know, and the sisterhood, right?
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We're all in this together.
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So join us next week as we dive into an exciting news series, and then I will see you there.
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Have a blessed week.
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Thanks for listening to the Positive Girth Doctor Podcast.
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Be sure to leave a review and tell other women about the podcast.
00:08:16.079 --> 00:08:17.920
Let's support each other.
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Find the full transcript for this episode on your favorite podcast app and learn more at the Positive Growth Doctor.com.
00:08:26.319 --> 00:08:30.959
And be assured you are not alone on your journey.
00:00:02.080 --> 00:00:05.440
Welcome to the Positive Growth Doctor Podcast for Women.
00:00:05.679 --> 00:00:07.519
I am your host, Dr.
00:00:07.599 --> 00:00:09.199
Christina Wilson.
00:00:09.519 --> 00:00:18.160
I created Positive Growth Doctor after years of dealing with societal expectations, self-doubt, and perfectionism.
00:00:18.480 --> 00:00:34.880
I leverage my 30 years of experience as a positive psychologist to address limiting beliefs and gain clarity through faith-based emotional wellness techniques rooted in mindset renewal and biblical truth.
00:00:35.359 --> 00:00:40.640
Subscribe to the podcast and check out the earlier episodes so you don't miss a thing.
00:00:40.880 --> 00:00:42.960
Let's get to it.
00:01:08.400 --> 00:01:10.400
Yes, we've all been there, right?
00:01:10.799 --> 00:01:12.000
Just pick one.
00:01:13.120 --> 00:01:29.840
We map her journey through the naming of her sons, tracing her shifts from striving to for human love to declaring praise to the Lord through her fourth son, Judah.
00:01:30.400 --> 00:01:42.719
Tune in to gain practical biblical tools to break free from people pleasing and find complete rest in God's grace.
00:01:43.840 --> 00:01:54.079
So access the full transcript for this episode in your favorite podcast app or on the pod on the Positive Group Doctor YouTube channel.
00:01:54.239 --> 00:01:57.439
And don't forget to hit subscribe, please.
00:01:58.719 --> 00:01:59.359
All right.
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So how do we escape the performance trap?
00:02:03.680 --> 00:02:08.240
You know, and find biblical freedom from perfectionism.
00:02:08.479 --> 00:02:10.639
I'll tell you, it is not easy.
00:02:10.879 --> 00:02:11.840
It really isn't.
00:02:11.919 --> 00:02:16.240
And it took me a very long time, and I had some hard lessons to learn.
00:02:16.560 --> 00:02:25.439
And that's why, you know, we talk about this because I know that I wasn't alone and that this is very common for women.
00:02:26.479 --> 00:02:36.960
Because modern women often learn the hard way, that striving for human approval is an unsatisfying trap.
00:02:37.520 --> 00:02:53.039
You know, it fosters perfectionism, people pleasing, and the toxic belief that worth and acceptance must be earned through performance, which is not what God intended for us.
00:02:54.400 --> 00:02:59.680
Breaking free requires a critical shift in mindset.
00:03:00.319 --> 00:03:05.680
So re-anchoring our focus on God to find true peace.
00:03:06.000 --> 00:03:08.800
And yes, it can be done.
00:03:09.520 --> 00:03:16.639
Leah's life demonstrates how to break free from the exhausting need to constantly perform.
00:03:18.719 --> 00:03:22.879
So, how did she move from rejection to redemption?
00:03:23.199 --> 00:03:30.000
Well, there's many lessons we can learn about our own worth or self-worth from Leah.
00:03:30.960 --> 00:03:47.680
You know, the enemy often traps women in a cycle of striving, using feelings of rejection and inadequacy to convince us that we have to work for God's love rather than living from it.
00:03:49.520 --> 00:03:54.000
Scripture offers a powerful counter narrative.
00:03:54.960 --> 00:03:59.439
One is divine worth is unearned.
00:04:00.400 --> 00:04:03.280
Okay, that's what scripture tells us.
00:04:03.599 --> 00:04:13.280
Um, and there's scriptures from Genesis and um Psalms, Galatians, and Ephesians that I listed in the transcript as well.
00:04:13.759 --> 00:04:23.360
Um, you know, God prioritizes the unchosen and broken, leading us out of striving.
00:04:23.920 --> 00:04:31.199
He does that for us and leading us into praise rather than striving.
00:04:32.000 --> 00:04:33.920
He loves us so much.
00:04:34.800 --> 00:04:44.639
Um, you know, performance all actually, scripture also tells us that performance cannot buy affection.
00:04:45.519 --> 00:05:04.959
And Leah tied her word to her ability to produce, naming her older sons after the pain of trying to earn Jacob's love, and believing that she had to produce children to win her husband's approval over her sister Rachel.
00:05:05.360 --> 00:05:10.720
She fell directly into the trap of performance-based acceptance.
00:05:11.600 --> 00:05:17.680
And it's a nasty little trap that you know all of us have found ourselves in.
00:05:18.399 --> 00:05:28.319
And thinking about the areas where you feel like you still have something to prove, you know, give that some thought.
00:05:28.399 --> 00:05:32.240
What are the areas that you feel like you still have something to prove?
00:05:33.040 --> 00:05:39.839
Striving to earn which should be freely given never satisfies.
00:05:41.680 --> 00:05:49.839
So, how do you shift your focus from human approval to God's unconditional love?
00:05:50.480 --> 00:05:56.879
Well, Genesis 29 illustrates a profound transformation in Leah's perspective.
00:05:57.199 --> 00:06:04.639
With the birth of her fourth son Judah, her heart shifted from pain to praise.
00:06:05.600 --> 00:06:15.839
And perfectionism is often just a fear of rejection, and it's disguised as high standards.
00:06:16.399 --> 00:06:21.439
But Leah realized she could not perform her way into grace.
00:06:22.000 --> 00:06:27.839
Instead, she declared, this time I will praise the Lord.
00:06:29.680 --> 00:06:40.879
So this week I challenge you to identify one task that triggers your perfectionism or people-pleasing tendencies.
00:06:42.319 --> 00:06:57.839
Set a realistic, that's the key word, a realistic standard, execute it without overpolishing, and spend the save time praising God for his unearned love.
00:07:00.399 --> 00:07:09.920
And also reflect on, I have a couple of questions for you to reflect on um as you start out the week.
00:07:10.240 --> 00:07:17.600
Okay, where in my life am I striving for human approval instead of resting in God's acceptance?
00:07:19.120 --> 00:07:28.720
And what performance standard do I need to lay down, put away, and at the altar today?
00:07:29.439 --> 00:07:34.800
What performance standard do I need to lay down at the altar today?
00:07:36.879 --> 00:07:40.639
This series has blessed you, and I I pray that it has.
00:07:40.959 --> 00:07:46.800
Please share it with a friend and take a moment to leave a review on Apple Podcast.
00:07:47.600 --> 00:07:55.040
You know, it means the world, and it also furthers the reach to other women, you know, and the sisterhood, right?
00:07:55.279 --> 00:07:57.199
We're all in this together.
00:07:57.439 --> 00:08:05.439
So join us next week as we dive into an exciting news series, and then I will see you there.
00:08:05.839 --> 00:08:07.439
Have a blessed week.
00:08:07.839 --> 00:08:11.120
Thanks for listening to the Positive Girth Doctor Podcast.
00:08:11.360 --> 00:08:15.839
Be sure to leave a review and tell other women about the podcast.
00:08:16.079 --> 00:08:17.920
Let's support each other.
00:08:18.160 --> 00:08:25.920
Find the full transcript for this episode on your favorite podcast app and learn more at the Positive Growth Doctor.com.
00:08:26.319 --> 00:08:30.959
And be assured you are not alone on your journey.
