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At the end of the day, you want peace.
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You know what I'm saying?
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Yes.
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Like and if I can't trust you, then I'm I'm not gonna be in peace.
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What you wear should say something before you ever speak.
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Every piece represents a mindset.
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Now, back to the episode.
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And another thing is um boundaries uh to help protect the relationship.
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Yeah.
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So how do we how do you do that?
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To respect means to respect my boundaries, you know?
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Like you have to figure out, you have to set boundaries, even as couples in business and as partners, and respect those boundaries from the other people, you know?
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Like I know with you and I in the beginning, that was some type of issues too, because both of us wasn't expecting each other's boundaries, you know.
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Like there was the line was blur.
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There was no boundary, you know, but just to respect the person and say, okay, even though I may be in work mode, this person is not in work mode.
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Yeah, you know, even though I may want to do this, this person is not open to doing that.
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It's not that they shut the business completely or the relationship completely, but that's that's their boundaries, you know.
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I may want to go to a conference, you know, and they may not want to go to that conference, you know.
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It it or y'all can talk and figure out, you know, if you want to do it or not.
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But just respecting that person's boundary and say, okay, I respect that.
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And just setting those those boundaries up.
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Because I think that's the thing.
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Like a lot of couples, they don't they don't they don't um say what their boundaries are, you know, or they don't set boundaries, they don't do all these things, and it becomes a conflict because you should you should have known I didn't want to do this.
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You should have known I didn't want that and that's how it was.
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You should have known.
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But honestly, people can't read your mind.
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Yeah, you gotta you gotta say it.
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You have to be able to say it.
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Yeah, so it's all like communication.
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Yeah, communication um and just to say what's what's on your mind.
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Yeah, what's the the boundary, like what you don't like or what you like.
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Like you say, like the conference, the conference, I might be want to go to a conference, but it's not the same, it's not the same thing for you.
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Yeah.
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So you gotta be able to say it, let the other person know.
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That's it.
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Yeah.
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Let the other person know.
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Um this one criticism.
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Criticism could hurt both people.
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Like if you don't know how to take that in, like if you don't know how to take critique.
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Critique.
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Now, if some if some especially if if your husband or or your your wife is critique you, they want you to become better.
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Now that's why they critique you.
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Um it could be how has to be a a better man, how to be a better business person, how to be like they just critique you.
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Yeah, and you gotta be able to take that critique and and help it's gonna help us both grow.
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Yeah.
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I don't like criticism.
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Well, I don't like criticism from you.
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You know, because somebody can critique me, I'm like, oh, okay, that's fine.
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But when you critique me, I feel like, man, like why?
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He's I'm supposed to be perfect.
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Like, I don't understand why you don't why you don't get what I'm trying to do.
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Like, what do you mean?
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I need to tweak that or tone that down or change that, or maybe that's not.
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I'm like, what are you talking about?
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And you know, and so I used to be in my feelings when you used to critique me.
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At the end of the day, you want peace.
00:00:02.160 --> 00:00:02.720
You know what I'm saying?
00:00:02.879 --> 00:00:02.959
Yes.
00:00:03.279 --> 00:00:07.040
Like and if I can't trust you, then I'm I'm not gonna be in peace.
00:00:07.839 --> 00:00:10.160
What you wear should say something before you ever speak.
00:00:11.039 --> 00:00:17.280
Owig apparel was created for the dream chasers, the risk takers, and the ones building something bigger than themselves.
00:00:17.839 --> 00:00:21.519
From our signature hoodies, tees, jerseys, and jogger sets.
00:00:21.920 --> 00:00:23.679
Every piece represents a mindset.
00:00:24.160 --> 00:00:29.280
Use code Risk Taker for 10% off your first purchase at OwigApparel.com.
00:00:29.440 --> 00:00:31.120
Now, back to the episode.
00:00:31.600 --> 00:00:37.359
And another thing is um boundaries uh to help protect the relationship.
00:00:37.679 --> 00:00:38.159
Yeah.
00:00:38.399 --> 00:00:40.640
So how do we how do you do that?
00:00:40.960 --> 00:00:44.399
To respect means to respect my boundaries, you know?
00:00:44.799 --> 00:00:58.240
Like you have to figure out, you have to set boundaries, even as couples in business and as partners, and respect those boundaries from the other people, you know?
00:00:58.479 --> 00:01:05.040
Like I know with you and I in the beginning, that was some type of issues too, because both of us wasn't expecting each other's boundaries, you know.
00:01:05.120 --> 00:01:06.719
Like there was the line was blur.
00:01:06.799 --> 00:01:16.879
There was no boundary, you know, but just to respect the person and say, okay, even though I may be in work mode, this person is not in work mode.
00:01:16.959 --> 00:01:22.079
Yeah, you know, even though I may want to do this, this person is not open to doing that.
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It's not that they shut the business completely or the relationship completely, but that's that's their boundaries, you know.
00:01:28.640 --> 00:01:34.560
I may want to go to a conference, you know, and they may not want to go to that conference, you know.
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It it or y'all can talk and figure out, you know, if you want to do it or not.
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But just respecting that person's boundary and say, okay, I respect that.
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And just setting those those boundaries up.
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Because I think that's the thing.
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Like a lot of couples, they don't they don't they don't um say what their boundaries are, you know, or they don't set boundaries, they don't do all these things, and it becomes a conflict because you should you should have known I didn't want to do this.
00:01:59.519 --> 00:02:01.359
You should have known I didn't want that and that's how it was.
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You should have known.
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But honestly, people can't read your mind.
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Yeah, you gotta you gotta say it.
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You have to be able to say it.
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Yeah, so it's all like communication.
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Yeah, communication um and just to say what's what's on your mind.
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Yeah, what's the the boundary, like what you don't like or what you like.
00:02:19.680 --> 00:02:27.039
Like you say, like the conference, the conference, I might be want to go to a conference, but it's not the same, it's not the same thing for you.
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Yeah.
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So you gotta be able to say it, let the other person know.
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That's it.
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Yeah.
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Let the other person know.
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Um this one criticism.
00:02:37.039 --> 00:02:42.319
Criticism could hurt both people.
00:02:42.400 --> 00:02:47.520
Like if you don't know how to take that in, like if you don't know how to take critique.
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Critique.
00:02:48.400 --> 00:02:55.439
Now, if some if some especially if if your husband or or your your wife is critique you, they want you to become better.
00:02:55.599 --> 00:02:57.520
Now that's why they critique you.
00:02:57.759 --> 00:03:05.680
Um it could be how has to be a a better man, how to be a better business person, how to be like they just critique you.
00:03:05.759 --> 00:03:12.639
Yeah, and you gotta be able to take that critique and and help it's gonna help us both grow.
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Yeah.
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I don't like criticism.
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Well, I don't like criticism from you.
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You know, because somebody can critique me, I'm like, oh, okay, that's fine.
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But when you critique me, I feel like, man, like why?
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He's I'm supposed to be perfect.
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Like, I don't understand why you don't why you don't get what I'm trying to do.
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Like, what do you mean?
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I need to tweak that or tone that down or change that, or maybe that's not.
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I'm like, what are you talking about?
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And you know, and so I used to be in my feelings when you used to critique me.
