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Don't do drugs, always listen to your TP and with that disclaimer out of the way, let's get started.
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Welcome to another episode of the Opticast with me, Nathan.
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And me Opri, where we are discussing everything related to mindset and self-image today.
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I mean, not literally everything, but questions that clients have asked us about self-image and everything.
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And today, I actually have a special guest here.
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I'm eating my meal, man.
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Don't fucking judge me.
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But I haven't had time today to do this, and I always tell people to eat their meals with calm and everything.
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But I didn't have time to do that today because I was fucking busy as shit.
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So don't judge me.
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I'm only having some carrots for the crunchy possible food.
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For some fiber as well as some um vitamin A.
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Definitely need it, hard to get on your diet.
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And an English muffin with almond butter and crunchy Nutella, but a low-calorie one called Go Zero, which tastes better than Nutella.
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It's crunchy, and um, it's only like 80 calories instead of 150 or something per teaspoon.
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So, yeah, definitely excited with this thing.
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It's pretty fucking tasty, and I cannot wait for it to get cold as shit and hard for me to be able to start eating it.
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Do you have something in your new diet?
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Because we just changed diets.
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Um, that you're like, I like this.
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Um, I haven't had my second day yet.
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Yeah, so I don't have anything oh, avocado.
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Yeah.
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Avocado slaps.
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Yeah, avocado's great.
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I haven't had avocado in a long time.
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That's awesome.
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Yeah, that's my fave.
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So let's start with client questions.
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What do we get?
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What do you do when your self-image is radically different from one day to the next?
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What do you do when your self-image is radically different from one day to the next?
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Man, um, first of all.
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Second of all, um you shouldn't have your self-image changed every day.
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Like just your your your whole self-image because your self-image is based on your identity, and your identity is shaped by your habits.
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Your habits are shaped by your actions, the actions that you do it all the time.
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So if your identity is changing is because your actions are inconsistent.
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And I find that um if you are thinking about how to fix this thing, you're not going to fix it.
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The issue with a lack of identity is the lack of action.
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So you need to actually start doing the shit that you're supposed to do, the shit that you told yourself that you were going to do, and then you won't have the issue of your identity fluctuating all the time.
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Why?
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Because you're the guy who does what he said he was going to do, you're the type of girl who, once you committed to doing something, you pull through, you do it the whole way.
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That's just who you are.
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That shapes your identity.
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That is the thing that's going to people get so focused on like trying to change, like, oh, I'm not consistent with my diet.
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Oh, but it's like I'm not consistent with my training.
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It's like, no, no, no, you're not a consistent person, period.
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You have to apply discipline to all of the areas of your life, and that increases not just the consistency of the action itself, but increases consistency.
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Period.
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It makes you a more consistent being.
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And when you are a more consistent being, you have a um an unchangeable identity, and that's what allows you to not be shape-shifting all the time, you know, just based off of your emotions and things like that, you know.
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So yeah.
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I have been.
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Yeah, I agree.
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Um, I think that you that your actions, like you were saying, will impact your mindset, and a lot of people try to start with the mindset piece, which there is something to that, you know, saying even if you feel like you're not, saying, I am the person that is consistent or does what they said they were gonna do.
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Um, and kind of the whole manifestation idea.
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Um, I think there's something to that, but I think that that your actions really do impact.
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Yeah, I think I think there's there's something to it, but it's about as long as the two minutes that I spend talking about it.
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It's not something that demands time and time and time and just thinking and just thinking about stuff and all the time.
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I don't, it's it's it's action that's gonna change the stuff, and you can change action with mindset.
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So yeah.
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Yeah, the mindset is just this the launching off point, but you don't just sit there like trying to change your mind.
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You need to shorten the time between um like your thought and the action.
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So, like one thing that I do, I have a five-minute rule, which is like it from the moment that I have a thought to the moment that I'm going to be creating that thing, it needs to be five minutes.
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Um, if it's less than, if it's more than five minutes, then I fail.
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And that task is just not going to get done.
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It's gonna get put on a to-do list, which just means that that task is not important and it's never gonna get done.
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Um, that's what to-do lists are for.
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To-do lists are for goals, they're not for like habits and things like tasks that can be managed, you know?
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So yeah, a good question.
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Let's um let's hope that this uh this person is no longer working with me.
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So um, but I hope that you are doing well.
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I hope you're listening to it, and I hope that you are doing well.
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So how does negative self-image impact progress toward goals?
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I mean, it doesn't until it does, right?
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You can think about like competitive shooters on how like they have such a negative image of themselves, on how they just talk so much shit about themselves, and it's um don't don't don't make no mistake, this is all a defense mechanism to prevent other people from making fun of them.
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So that's just all that it is, it's just a defense mechanism, but it doesn't affect your your image because it's just all in playful banter until the point that it actually fucking does.
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And at some point, the words that you are speaking, your brain can't know it doesn't know the difference between the words that you're saying jokingly and the words that you're saying seriously.
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Um, so your brain starts creating this image of who you are as a person, and that becomes a problem because if you're joking, you know, you know the whole fucking millennial thing of like just joking about depression.
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I was like, man, you know what would be great today if someone just fucking ran over me with the car.
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First of all, fuck those people.
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I hate those people with a passion.
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I think it's so fucking retarded and it's stupid and it's uh kind of disgusting.
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Like it makes me want to punch people when they when they say that.
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Uh, this has nothing to do with my dose of trend.
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I was I felt this way when I was not taking anything whatsoever.
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Um, that just it just pisses me off.
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You shut the fuck up.
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Um, but in any case, like I think it I think it affects it, and like because there's um your self-talk becomes reality.
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Like, I think to the point that you made before of how like your thoughts influence your actions, I think this is an instance where your thoughts influence your actions because it shapes your identity.
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So you can't really allow yourself to be talked to in a negative way, even if that person who's talking negatively about you is you.
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This is very, very hard because the hardest person to stand up against is yourself, it's not someone else.
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It might feel like it is, but it isn't, it's you.
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So, but sometimes you have to do that because your your brain just again, we've talked about this a lot, but your brain does not give a flying fuck's ass about your goals, it doesn't care.
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The only thing that your brain is seeking is comfort.
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So if there is comfort, if you're laughing, if you find um, you know, sort of a coziness in the known of this banter um of talking trash and talking smack and shit, your brain realizes that that is comfortable and it's gonna keep you in that place.
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Is it fun?
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Yeah, it's so much fun.
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Also, look at the people who do that.
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Do they look good?
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Do any of the people who talk like this look good?
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They don't.
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Are they very successful financially or in their careers?
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No, also not.
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Like, there's there's something to that.
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Just look at the patterns.
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Like, do you want to be that type of person?
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Like, what apart from just the fact that it makes you laugh, which it's not an argument for anything, which is you know why like it's stupid when people are like, Oh, you laughed at that joke.
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It was like that joke was funny.
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Um, like it doesn't, it doesn't mean anything.
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Like, apart from that, what exactly are you looking for in people who do this type of thing that you admire?
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You're gonna realize it's fucking nothing.
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So, yeah, that's just what I would say about how it impacts your your your progress overall.
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Yeah, I I think I agree with that.
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I think that you it's kind of a you have to have a fake it till you make it mentality almost.
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It's like I'm not a consistent person, but I'm gonna just pretend like I am.
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Yeah, you know, and I then you pretend like you are a consistent person, fake it to yourself, fake it to everyone around you, and by the week's end, you're gonna be like, look, I did all my stuff.
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You know, it sounds dumb, but it's like this almost like a mind game to get around some of these negative self-image things.
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You just have to define what we mean by fake.
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Like what we mean by faking is not like faking it in your mind.
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Um, what we mean is by faking it in action.
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So, like, oh, you recognize that you yourself is not someone who normally makes the bed in the morning, but you want to start making the bed in the morning, you just never feel like it.
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So that's where the problem is.
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You think that thought precedes action and it never does.
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You your action precedes the thought.
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Motivation is a result, it's an outcome, not the the guiding factor.
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So you start making the bed, you set up an alarm and you do it.
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You you don't allow any time in between the alarm and thinking about it.
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The alarm went off, you're making the bed.
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That's what happens.
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Once you get to the end of the week, you look back and you're like, fuck, I made the bed seven days a week.
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Guess what?
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I'm the person who makes the bed.
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So why would I not make the bed when I am the type of person who makes the bed?
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When people talk about me, they see a guy who makes the bed, you know?
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And you know what else a guy who makes the bed does?
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Guy who makes the bed also does his vacuums first thing in the morning.
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And you know what he's excited to do?
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To fucking get some sunlight exposure first thing in the morning and uh, you know, delay his coffee and uh just get a good meal with carbohydrates and protein in first thing in the morning.
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Like it just you start like stacking this stuff, you know.
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So I find that's uh that's what we mean by um like your your your thoughts should be there and you should fake it.
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Um it's not a thought faking it, it's like the action, it's just like recognizing it that you don't do this thing, but you will start doing it and you start and you start doing it.
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But you can't think like, oh, I will be the person who makes the bed.
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Like, no, no, no.
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You need to stop fucking recording this podcast and go make the bed right now.
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Like you need to stop listening to it and just go make the bed right now.
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Like that's the type of person who makes the bed, that's what they would do.
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It's almost like in my mind, like you know, when you write your resume and you sound amazing on your resume, uh-huh, and then you but what like day one of starting the job, you're like, oh I like I've gotta go be this person now.
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Yeah, yeah.
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Like that's what I'm kind of thinking when I say this.
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Yep.
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I like that.
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And then also, what is when I was thinking about the self-image question, I was thinking about how a lot of people's self-image is def is actually defined by what other they're like waiting for other people to tell them what their self-image is, or they're almost they like their self-worth is tied up in what other people say about them or what they perceive other people thinking about them.
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I mean, not just like social media, but maybe it's like your your spouse or your parents or the people at work or whatever it is, um, you're wanting this validation.
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And so really think about it as self-image.
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Like, what do you think about yourself?
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Because your parents or your boss or whoever you're looking for affirmation from does not is not going to care about your goals enough to make you do them, you know?
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So really think about the self part.
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What do you how do you view yourself like you and and having that um influence kind of how you approach it, I guess.
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Um so next question: how do you overcome addiction?
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I assume everyone's path is different, but I want to hear your perspective.
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Well, fuck me.
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Um like your assumption is correct.
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Um, everyone's path is different.
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Uh, and that's my perspective as well.
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But there are a couple of things that are pretty similar across everybody.
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Um, like, for instance, very few, and I mean by saying very few, I'm being very fucking generous.
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I could just say no one.
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So let me just say that.
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No one recovers from addiction 100% by staying in the same environment, maintaining the same habits, listening and ingesting and consuming the same type of media and content, and just overall becoming being the same person that you are, because that is the person who does drugs.
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So you need to change who you are.
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That's that's the thing that needs to happen, right?
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So, what I can tell you is from like my experience, what it was, and I've helped a lot of people come out of addiction as well, because of my experience with it.
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So, I I started um using drugs and alcohol smoking when I was very, very young, like like nine years old, I was drinking, and that's very, very bad, right?
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But um when I was like 14, I was in rehab already, uh, because of how bad addiction was.
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And the first few times I tried to maintain my whole identity and sh and everything the same way, even though because it was primarily a reaction against what my parents had done at the time, which was they understood this that I'm talking about right now, and I didn't because I was a child, but they understood that you had to change as a person, you had to be a different person because a different person doesn't do this type of shit.
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Um, so they like changed my clothes, they got rid of my music, they got rid of my computer and all this type of shit, and I just rebelled against it.
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And I was like, no, you want me to stop being this, this is who I am, so I'm gonna be that 10 times over.
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Um, which just resulted in relapsing over and over and over until the point that it changed, and everything changed with Ibogaine for me.
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So I am very, very um a big proponent of psychedelics in recovery.
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I'm a big proponent of you know using any type of enhancement that you can to get the most out of your action.
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So if it wasn't for Ibogaine, I can tell you that I would be dead.
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Um, I would not be here, and there would be no optolab or Nathan and Aubrey together.
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Um, because it's just that there would there was no way out for me.
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So I find that for depending on what addiction you have, like if you're talking addiction and you're talking sugar, first of all, go fuck yourself because that's not a true addiction.
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Um if you're talking addiction and you're like, well, cigarettes, it's like, well, you have a problem with the habit because nicotine is not really addictive.
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But um, like the habit of smoking, of stopping and relaxing and breathing and just not having dopamine turned on all the time and stuff, that is very good.
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So you have to create a you have to get a habit that does that and replace the old habit that you had of going out and smoking with the meditation, with the you know, dopamine detox day or something like that.
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And then you also have to um sort of uh create a uh distance between the the problem that you have and yourself.
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So like don't keep this shit at home.
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But also, if you have friends and they're doing it, and when you see them doing it, it makes you want it, tell them and say, Can you not do this in front of me?
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You don't have to, you don't have to do this for the rest of your life, but in the beginning, it can be extremely very, very helpful.
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And if they are your friends, and this is a good way to filter them, they will say, like, damn, I didn't know, I'm sorry.
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Absolutely, man.
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Your your life is more important than anything else, absolutely, and they'll just put it away.
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If they don't, they're like, Man, come on, my my cousin stopped smoking and he was doing this thing, then you can tell them, go fuck yourself and just go the other way and just go the other direction.
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Um, the last thing that I'll say is that depending on what it what the addiction is, like if it is something more serious like alcohol, which is terrible, um, if it's something like cocaine or benzos or you know, like heroin or anything like that, like you're going to need treatment.
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Like you're you're going to need to go to rehab, you're going to need to focus three to six months in your life.
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Just think about this shit.
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It's less than 1% of your entire fucking life, but it's just focused on you.
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You you you're abusing these substances for a reason.
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We need to find what the reason is, we need to address that root cause, and we need to show you what life is going to be and start building their life inside rehab already of what life is going to be away from this.
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So that's in general what I would say.
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This is something that I can talk a whole lot about.
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Um, the question is very open, so I just thought about sharing a little bit of my story and stuff.
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But do you have any any other thoughts?
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Just last thing.
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Uh, it's very, very hard for people to quit addictions um when they don't, when they refuse treatment, be it with a psychologist, with a psychiatrist, or in rehab, when people refuse to do it because they just want to do it themselves, they're proud as shit.
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And until you recognize that you are in deep shit, you're not going to be able to get out of it.
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So it's just like that person that's like, man, yeah, I'm a little bit overweight.
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It's like that guy that I said in the last podcast is like, I need to lose 100 pounds, but I just I want to lose 20.
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My goal, my goal is to get someone to help me to just be fat, not super fat.
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I'm like, that's fucking mediocre as shit, and you disgust me.
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But um also, you have to think about like in in terms of like your addiction, you're not just trying to like eliminate this one tiny little thing that's kind of problematic for your life.
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And then, like, if this went away, everything would be great.
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No, no, no, no, no.
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There's a major dysregulation between your dopamine, your serotonin, your melatonin, like all of your neurotransmitters are entirely fucked.
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The way that you think right now is not the way that you think, you are not thinking, the drugs are thinking, you are not wanting drugs, the drugs are wanting drugs.
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They have taken over this matrix that is your brain, and they're just guiding you like a fucking puppet.
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And you need to get into a place that you don't have access to this type of shit, and you need to get people who are going to prevent you from doing it, but are also going to be by your side multiple times a day to give you the support that you need.
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This is not something that you fix by just winging it.
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It doesn't, it doesn't happen by winging it.
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Like, talk to everyone who's addicted and they're all like, Man, I need to quit.
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Everyone knows they need to quit, everyone knows that they're fat, everyone knows they're unhealthy.
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It's the humility to fucking say, okay, I'm gonna get someone to help me with this that's actually going to change that.
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Yeah, I would I agree, and I think that looking for help, like you were saying, in the right places.
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So going to professionals who deal with this all the time, because like just like you would do, you would I would hire you to be my coach.
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I wouldn't like go talk to my random friend and be like, hey, you know, workout buddy, you know, I'm not gonna have the same results from that situation.
00:20:02.400 --> 00:20:11.440
You need people around you that are your workout buddies or your friends or your whatever, but um you're they're part, only a part of your support system.
00:20:11.680 --> 00:20:24.480
And I think a big part of taking ownership and saying, I want to make a major change in my life, is not being dumb and going and getting the people that actually know what they're doing and have the resources to help you.
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Absolutely.
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So I think that's important.
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I also think that um it's I mean, if you're with somebody who's or in a position where you can support someone who is uh dealing with addiction, you just have to keep repeating yourself over and over and over and over, like forever, like longer than you think.
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Just like a coach.
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Yeah, just like a coach, exactly.
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So that's not that's just an assumed role that you play.
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Like if you are selected by fate, God, or the person themselves to walk alongside somebody, like that's that's what your job is, is to keep repeating no matter what that person is telling you.
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Yep, you know, yeah, good question.
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If you guys want uh us to talk a little bit more about this stuff, just let us know in the comments.
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How do you handle the low points when you feel like you can't escape the pain or discomfort?
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Alright, so stop trying to avoid pain or discomfort and instead lean into it and become addicted to that.
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It's the this is the thing that changed the everything for me in terms of leg training.
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Because leg training is so fucking miserable, and I just got to a point that I'm like, it's gonna be miserable either way, man.
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So if I don't want to have sticky legs, fucking just fucking chicken legs, yeah, just chicken legs, fucking some green beans is sticking out.
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Um, then I'm gonna have to do something different.
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And I'm like, it's gonna hurt.
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You know what?
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I'm gonna fucking lean into that pain.
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And that has been fucking great because I will cry myself to on a leg extension.
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Um and uh Uh that you know may or may have not happened today.
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It's very, very, very, very tough and it hurts a lot.
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It burns like a bitch.
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But I know I'm growing, I know that the results are coming.
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I can see the fibers, I can see the veins coming in, which I haven't told you guys how much I'm weighing right now, but uh the cut is going, it's cutting.
00:22:16.799 --> 00:22:18.319
Um, but it's the same thing in a cut.
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It's like, well, you're gonna be hungry, so fucking lean into that hunger.
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Don't try to satisfy all of your hunger because you will be hungry no matter what.
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Even when you are in a GLP, you're going to be hungry regardless.
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You're going to be fatigued.
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So fucking recognize that you're going to be fatigued.
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There's no way to avoid this shit.
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So just let it be what it's going to be.
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But I find that there's a lot of power of leaning into something.
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It's like an experience that I've lived through when I was uh when I was bullied when I was in school.
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I used to be bullied a lot when I was a child, which makes sense because every bodybuilder is someone who was hurt as a child.
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Um, but so what the fuck are you doing?
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Just I had to come to the middle, guys.
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There we go.
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Sounds good.
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Um, so one like what was I saying?
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Um bullied as a child.
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Yeah, so I was I was bullied a lot, and one of the ways that I found to like deal with this, because I used to get like actual beat up, right?
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Like actually like bleeding beat up, is I started leaning into it, and I'm like, oh, you guys want to see pain?
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I would fucking hit myself, I'll fucking bang my own head against the wall.
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Oh, you want to fucking punch me, dude?
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I'll fucking punch myself, and that would like freak people out.
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People would just be like, what the fuck?
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This kid is just insane, and then it stopped.
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And then it fucking stopped, right?
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So that's the that's the thing that I that I'm trying to like convey here.
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Just this just lean into the discomfort and pursue it and learn to appreciate it because that's also you know, that's also teaching you something.
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You know, you can't you can't be in a deficit without being hungry, you can't grow muscle without having a lot of pain in that muscle for a really long period of time.
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You know, it's just not going to happen.
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So just lean into the discomfort itself.
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Stop trying to avoid it.
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That's a that is a major hack.
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Once you're able to turn that shit, it's game over.
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Because then nothing can stop you.
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Once you once you recognize that, like, oh, work is gonna be fucking miserable.
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Let's fucking go, bro.
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Let's fucking go, let's do this shit.
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Then it's great.
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There's no problem because you're you're you're you're not pretending that it isn't.
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Like this, this, this area that most people live in, which is just this fucking like, yeah, I know I need a change, but you know what?
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Like, yeah, like I'm trying, I'm trying my best, and all this shit.
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You're not trying your best, you piece of shit.
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You fucking lying to yourself.
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What what what you're doing is just hiding behind the circumstance because you're afraid of touching that pain.
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It's just a defense mechanism.
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So lean into the pain, and that's where you're gonna find your success.
00:24:45.920 --> 00:24:46.880
Yeah, I agree.
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I think that um avoidance or fighting, fighting it.
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Like stop fighting it, you know.
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Um, and yeah, I don't know if I if I would say anything differently.
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I mean, I think that you can you there's an amount of confidence that you get that you build.
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We're talking about like self-image and oh, I am the person that does fill in the blank.
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When you're able to do things that are uncomfortable, whether that be pushing yourself at the gym or not eating or eating, you know, whichever one is uncomfortable, or having a really tough conversation, or telling your coach, being super honest with your coach, even though it's difficult and uncomfortable, like doing those things builds crazy confidence because people don't do that.
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Just people do not do that.
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And like you're like you were also saying, um, learn to love it.
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Um there is a little bit of like a dopamine hit almost once you get in this pattern.
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And I I don't know if it's the sense of accomplishment.
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Well, it is the pain.
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You've been avoiding this thing, and you've been avoiding pain.
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Also, pain and pleasure in the brain are just almost the same exact fucking thing, by the way.
00:26:08.240 --> 00:26:15.839
Yeah, but like it's um it's it's something that you've been avoiding and you've been putting off because you're fucking terrified, and once you fucking do it, you just feel like a god.
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So, yeah, I definitely think that's the that's the route to go.
00:26:19.519 --> 00:26:20.400
Sweet.
00:26:21.680 --> 00:26:27.759
What are the best strategies for getting your head right when training fields off and nothing is connecting?
00:26:28.240 --> 00:26:31.759
Um, so it could okay.
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Next question.
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That's it.
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I think I think music can be helpful, but you also need to think about the fact that it might just be the data that you're like the feedback that you're getting is that you need to just dial down a little bit, just like be a little bit more mindful of your recovery and uh not so keyed in for your training and stuff like that.
00:26:56.880 --> 00:26:59.839
So that's that's the that's what I would say.
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Yeah, I think you um like one strategy that's that I find to be helpful is visualization.
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So I get to the gym, you know, I'm I'm walking on a treadmill, chilling, talking to people and stuff like that.
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Once I get to my set, like I'm talking to people and everything, and I sit down to do my set, I'm actually like I put on my headphones and I'm thinking about what I'm about to do, how many reps I did last week, what my job is this week, which is doing more reps or the exact same at least.
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And um, like that's that's what I have on my mind.
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I'm thinking about the muscles that I'm gonna put in.
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I'm thinking about something in my head.
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I'm just trying to hone in all of my emotions and my feelings that are gonna help me like actually produce the best outcome for that set.
00:27:39.920 --> 00:27:43.839
And then I go in, but I find that a lot of people they just jump in mentally cold.
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You're like, oh, you warmed up, but your your mind is just still cold.
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You haven't thought about what you're doing whatsoever.
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And if you if you just look at your life and the things that you do without putting any thought versus the thing that you do and you're very intentional about it, you're gonna realize that the things that you're intentional about it tend to uh turn out a little bit better and uh a little bit more like your results are better in comparison to the ones that you're just fucking winging it, you know.
00:28:07.839 --> 00:28:11.599
I almost feel opposite in a sense, where I the whole thing is.
00:28:11.839 --> 00:28:20.960
Wait, you don't find it helpful to meditate to med to visualize it all from my experience, like the whole thing of okay, training feels off and nothing's connecting.
00:28:21.119 --> 00:28:36.480
I'm not saying visualizing doesn't work, but the whole idea of like actions preceding thoughts or whatever, in my mind, I'm like, well, I know you don't feel super into this right now, but that's irrelevant because this is your time to train and you've got to go train, you know.
00:28:36.640 --> 00:28:39.839
Yeah, I just cut that into I never have that conversation in the first place.
00:28:43.200 --> 00:28:51.920
I just jump in straight into the visualizing of my job and then doing it because as you said, doesn't matter how I'm feeling, it doesn't matter like any of these things, but the the only thing that matters is my job.
00:28:52.000 --> 00:28:53.680
So I'm just doing that.
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I'm not doing the whole pep talk of like, I know you're tired, man, but you know, like you just have to do it, and I don't fucking have to do shit.
00:29:01.359 --> 00:29:04.799
I could just not go, I can go to the gym and just fucking drive myself back home.
00:29:05.039 --> 00:29:06.880
Um, so I don't need to do shit.
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I get to do shit.
00:29:07.759 --> 00:29:14.319
It's a fucking privilege to be in the gym first thing in the morning when so many people are working or they have health problems and they can't even fucking train.
00:29:14.480 --> 00:29:16.960
Like that's um that's that's a privilege.
00:29:17.039 --> 00:29:20.480
I I shouldn't be fucking bitching about being tired about this, tired about this.
00:29:20.559 --> 00:29:21.839
I'm paying for my own membership.
00:29:21.920 --> 00:29:23.279
No one is forcing me to do this shit.
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So I don't even think about this at all because I find it like kind of absurd.
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I just go straight into it.
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What's the job?
00:29:30.000 --> 00:29:31.279
This is the job.
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Remember the cues, fucking breathe, tune in your emotions, let's fucking kill it.
00:29:36.720 --> 00:29:38.000
That's the process every single time.
00:29:38.240 --> 00:29:43.359
Is it normal to feel like you see the world differently once you start changing yourself seriously?
00:29:43.759 --> 00:29:49.599
Yeah, I mean, we think that when we are looking at the world, we are looking at reality itself.
00:29:49.759 --> 00:29:53.200
That doesn't exist, it hasn't existed since the Enlightenment.
00:29:53.359 --> 00:29:57.279
That has never been true, but it was just a period of time in modernity where we believed that.
00:29:57.440 --> 00:30:02.720
Um, but you're never seeing the world as it is, you're always seeing the world as you are.
00:30:02.960 --> 00:30:07.200
So when you change, you start noticing things according to how you are.
00:30:07.279 --> 00:30:08.640
It's almost like a mirror.
00:30:08.799 --> 00:30:29.279
So the the world functioning as a mirror, it only makes sense that as you change your habits, you start noticing things more around you and the people around you, and you start noticing what is it that you're eating, like how much rest you're actually neglecting, how much better your sleep can actually get, how much more time you can spend on like learning things to be able to communicate better and to be a better person and all this type of shit.
00:30:29.359 --> 00:30:33.359
Like it's just it's just a whole lot, you know?
00:30:33.519 --> 00:30:34.000
Mm-hmm.
00:30:34.240 --> 00:30:34.720
Yeah.
00:30:35.039 --> 00:30:52.000
Yeah, I think that one way that I started seeing the world differently was I would start seeing the potential that all of these people or situations or whatever I had in my life, all the potential that they all had, and that they since if I could do this thing, then they could it too, you know.
00:30:52.319 --> 00:30:54.880
That was one of the biggest perspective shifts I think that I had.
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Yeah, absolutely.
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But I think I think this is absolutely normal, but just remember you're not seeing the world as it is, you're seeing the world as you are.
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That's just the the only thing that you have to remember from this.
00:31:04.960 --> 00:31:08.079
So it's it only makes sense that as you change, the world changes.
00:31:08.480 --> 00:31:11.359
How do you learn to be at peace while still wanting more?
00:31:11.599 --> 00:31:12.640
This is a great question.
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Picture yourself walking through a mountain, you're just hiking, going all the way to the top.
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And there's two people.
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There's one person who's going to get, you know, through the first time that they see a little, like a little peak of the abyss, and they just want to take a photo.
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They just want to appreciate, they want to sit down and like take it all in a little bit.
00:31:29.279 --> 00:31:31.599
They're still gonna get to the top, but they just want to do that.
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And there's the other person that's just puts their head down and climbs all the way to the top, and then they go back down.
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That person is miserable.
00:31:38.400 --> 00:31:50.240
Uh, the person who is able to get to the top, but also appreciate and enjoy the moments that they have during the the whole hike, that is going to be the person who is the happiest.
00:31:50.319 --> 00:31:51.519
So that's what you should do.
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You should be able to recognize that there's still room to grow and there's more to be done while still being able to look back where you started and just be like, holy fucking shit, look at me, man.
00:32:03.519 --> 00:32:05.519
What the fuck has happened to me?
00:32:05.599 --> 00:32:09.200
Like I've transformed into someone who's completely different.
00:32:09.359 --> 00:32:11.759
Like I'm I'm an entirely different being now.
00:32:11.839 --> 00:32:15.200
And I find that to be a very difficult skill to have.
00:32:15.359 --> 00:32:17.200
Usually people are one or the other, right?
00:32:17.279 --> 00:32:25.519
They usually have that reverse body dysmorphia where they just think they look great and they're just fat and like have no muscle whatsoever.
00:32:25.759 --> 00:32:28.160
And there's also the person who's like, nah, man, I'm too small.
00:32:28.240 --> 00:32:31.200
And I'm like, you're 200 pounds at 6% body fat.
00:32:31.440 --> 00:32:34.559
You need to go literally fuck yourself because of how hot you are.
00:32:34.799 --> 00:32:42.720
So, like, you like just just just have the uh the the balance in between and the the way to do that, I think it's by visualizing this mountain thing.
00:32:42.799 --> 00:32:46.160
I I find that to be a very useful metaphor to doing this.
00:32:46.400 --> 00:32:49.920
Yeah, I think uh my take on it is exactly the same.
00:32:50.079 --> 00:33:06.160
I just call it celebrating, yeah, like celebrate the smaller accomplishments, and I've been trying to work on that as well because I was I was talking to my therapist actually, I was like, so I always like I have this whole laundry list of things that I'm supposed to do in my life, yeah.
00:33:06.319 --> 00:33:17.920
And I every time I do one of them, I expect something, I guess, and I just don't feel necessarily better, and I just feel like, oh, I just still have more stuff to do, so I gotta go do more stuff.
00:33:18.079 --> 00:33:34.079
And so there's always this striving and everything, which I do get a lot done in my life, but um the thing that we've strategized to work on is to stop and celebrate somehow, doing something a little bit different, a little bit off, like small, you know?
00:33:34.240 --> 00:33:39.599
Yeah, to to kind of pause and appreciate what you have done.
00:33:39.759 --> 00:33:41.839
So I think that that's the same idea.
00:33:41.920 --> 00:33:43.839
You're stopping, you're looking at the view, taking it in.
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I like that going up the mountain.
00:33:46.240 --> 00:33:47.920
All right, we've got rapid fire questions.
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Rapid fire questions, questions from Instagram.
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Let's do it.
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How do I stay motivated long term?
00:33:53.680 --> 00:33:58.240
Um don't try to stay motivated long term.
00:33:58.400 --> 00:34:03.759
Motivation is very, very poor, and motivation is the result of you being consistent.
00:34:03.839 --> 00:34:08.239
So stop trying to start with your thoughts and actually start with your actions instead.
00:34:08.559 --> 00:34:11.440
What do I do when discipline disappears?
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Well, first of all, discipline doesn't just fucking disappear.
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Something broke down along the way, and you need to actually make an assessment, do pull an audit of your system, of your methodology, and do it.
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This is the thing that I find that people just who self-coach they just don't fucking do it.
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They never audit their process, they never audit how they're doing, they never like like like actually look into how things are going, which is something that a coach is doing for you every single fucking week.
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So, like actually spend time and do that because what you're getting is not that you're failing, what you're getting is feedback that your plan is not actually feasible for you and something needs to change.
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Maybe you need some different compounds thrown in to be able to support you, like some peptides or some bioregulators or something.
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Or maybe we just need to actually scale down how much stuff that you're doing and actually do less.
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Maybe we need to focus on water, maybe we need to focus on light, maybe we need to focus on food.
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You need to conduct that audit because discipline doesn't just fucking stop.
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There is a reason why that happened.
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Is it normal to feel behind even when I'm doing well?
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Yes, absolutely.
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That's entirely normal.
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Like everyone who's driven and who's motivated feels this way.
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How do I stop comparing myself to others?
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It's never gonna stop because you understand reality according to yourself.
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You are your only point of reference.
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So when you look at someone else, you are looking at them in terms of you, in in terms of what they can do for you, of what they have done for you, of who they are, um, you know, in relation to you and the people that you know.
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But yeah, next question.
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How do I know I'm pushing myself or punishing myself?
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Ooh, good question.
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Goes this so this goes back to the mindset.
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If you're punishing yourself, you tend to have very negative images to help you psych up and get ready for an action or something that you're doing.
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But if you are someone who is like doing this thing for like your own good, you have that thing in your in as your goal.
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Like you are trying to do this for your own benefit, and this is going to show in your actions.
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You need to stop, okay?
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Good girl.
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There you go.
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Why do I feel worse mentally when I'm dieting hard?
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Because you're fucking tired and fatigued, man.
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That's why.
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Yeah.
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How do I rebuild confidence after a setback?
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Scratch that.
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Use the data to modify your plan if needed, not in a reactive way, but in an objective way, and then move on.
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Just a fresh day, fresh start, fresh meal.
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Does training actually help mental health or just distract me?
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Nope.
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Um, it actually helps you um with mental health, but it does that by distracting you.
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Um, it also releases a bunch of endorphins and other hormones that are very beneficial for you.
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So there's a direct effect, but psychologically speaking, it just distracts you from the things that you're doing, which is why training is not therapy, it is the opposite of therapy.
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How do I stop tying my my worth to progress?
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Your identity cannot be construed around your body, man.
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Just think about the fact that like you could be hit by a truck any day, man.
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You could be driving to the gym and you could be in an accident and you break your ankle, you're never gonna train legs again.
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Like it's just you can't you can't tie your identity to your body, but you what you can do is just be like, Well, my body is a reflection of my identity.
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When you flip that, that's when good things happen.
00:37:35.840 --> 00:37:37.519
Yeah, uh quick note on that.
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I was thinking of like if you're in a relationship with somebody that you're committed to and you know, like a marriage.
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Um, I remember you saying that you knew you could marry me or something when you were like, What if she got in a car accident?
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Or she was severely burned or whatever, like I would you would still love me.
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Yep.
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Which was absolutely beautiful when he I remember when you said that.
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But um that's kind of how you have to think about yourself, yeah, to a certain extent.
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Not that he wants me to be burned or in a car accident, you know what I mean?
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Like you wouldn't want your body to be, you wouldn't want to be unhealthy and just say, Well, I accept you, I love you the way that you are, you know what I mean?
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But you have to have that level of commitment to yourself to make it possible.
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Um what mindset shift helped you the most?
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I can't answer that question.
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I've had so many mindset shifts that I can't even answer that.
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Uh um uh one that I will use again, it's the one of leaning into pain.
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I find that to be very, very helpful.
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Yeah.
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What do you wish people understood about the mental side of fitness?
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It's going to improve or it's going to be worse depending on how you deal with it.
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It's nothing to do with like, oh, fitness makes you this.
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Fitness doesn't make you nothing, fitness doesn't even exist.
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Fitness is just how fit you are for a specific task.
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That's what fitness means.
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Um, so it doesn't, it doesn't cause anything to happen to you, but you will you you will act according to how you are like thinking and imagining this process.
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If you if you lead with this process in terms of like something that's going to be just like help you to not be someone who you hate, um, it's going to be very problematic.
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But if you're trying to be someone that you're like, you already like yourself and you're trying to help yourself to love yourself more and to bring the good out of yourself, that's when good things are going to happen as well.
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What's something you've learned about supporting someone through low points?
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Is that when you support people through low points, you actually support yourself because again, remember, everything that you see in reality is a reflection of yourself, not of the world.
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So when you're giving people advice, when you see potential, all that you're saying is this is what I would do in your place.
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Man, I wish I was in your position to for me to be able to do this.
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This is what we mean by, oh, I see potential in you and stuff like that.
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Like we we think we don't mean this, but this is actually what we mean.
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So yeah.
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Last question.
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What's something you wish someone had told you earlier about the mental side of this journey?
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Um, I wish they had told me that it depends on how I handle this thing.
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I wish they had told me that it's my responsibility to direct my thoughts, to choose which narratives I'm going to believe in, and to actually be guided by thoughts that I choose, not by the thoughts that just pop in my head.
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I wish someone had told me that.
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And I wish, I wish that people gave a shit about this because this is the most important thing in terms of your progress.
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It's it all goes back to your mindset.
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And uh, if I put this shit on social media, the actual goal that's gonna change your life that I tell people on the check-ins, no one fucking watches it.
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So I just don't talk about it there anymore.
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I talk about it just on uh on check-ins with clients, but I wish someone had told me that that this thing is uh it looks like a physical transformation, it's not, it's a brain transformation.
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Yeah, I think that I don't know if I would wish someone would have told me this or not.
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It's hard for me to think that way.
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But um that they if they would tell me just just focus on your goals for this week, yeah.
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Um and really helping me see the value of those habits and seeing how they're cumulative.
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I although I think that that's something that I had to learn from practice, like from my own experience.
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I don't know if I would have really, if it would have hit home, just somebody telling me, you know, but that's I guess the truth that I would have appreciated to hear from someone.
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Yeah, um, yeah, yeah.
00:41:51.599 --> 00:42:03.039
Well, thank you guys so much for sending these questions, but I have a question for you because we are now in the first week of 2026, and my question is, how was your progress in 2025?
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How did you actually get like how close did you get to accomplishing your goals?
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If you did not get that close to accomplishing your goals, what exactly are you changing to be able to not have the same outcome happen this year?
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I find that people are extremely ignorant when it comes to answering this question, they have absolutely no fucking clue how to interpret English uh whenever I ask people this question.
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It's kind of like I say, like, what specifically are you going to change?
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What action specific?
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And they think, like, man, I'm just trying to like do a little bit better in terms of like my food, but it's hard with my girlfriend.
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I'm like, are you mentally incapable of answering the fucking question, you dumbass?
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So, like, actually think about this shit because this is going to be the set point of your entire 2026.
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2026, you're gonna get to December and you're gonna look back.
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Are you one of these people that has like crazy transformation?
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You need to work backwards from December to now.
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What is that person doing today?
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Are they winging it today?
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Are you fucking serious that you think you're going to accomplish something meaningful by just winging it today?
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Dog, people don't become successful in their careers by winging it.
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People don't become successful in their marriages by winging it.
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You don't become successful in any sport by winging it.
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What the actual fuck makes you think that you are going to be successful in your goals, which are just thoughts about stuff that you would like to have, like a six-pack.
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They're not goals, actually, they're not objectives, they're not things that you can direct and change and control.
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Think about this shit, because this is important, this is going to direct the entire year of 2026 for you.
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And I would hate for you to get to 2026 the exact same way that you got in 2025, which is the exact same way you got in 2024, which is the exact same place you were in 2023.
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Which by the way.
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The exact same place you were in 2022.
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2021?
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Well, that year you were also in the exact same fucking spot.
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Aren't you tired of this?
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This podcast right here is just for instrument purposes.
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I'm not a medical doctor, not an intrusionist, or personal trainer.
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I'm barely fun qualified for a bit doctor.
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As we're playing more so widely said, I don't shit about fuck.
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So don't trust me, don't listen to me with you just for chips and giggles.
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If you trust me with health advice, that's just natural selection at work.
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Don't do drugs, always listen to your TP and with that disclaimer out of the way, let's get started.
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Welcome to another episode of the Opticast with me, Nathan.
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And me Opri, where we are discussing everything related to mindset and self-image today.
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I mean, not literally everything, but questions that clients have asked us about self-image and everything.
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And today, I actually have a special guest here.
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I'm eating my meal, man.
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Don't fucking judge me.
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But I haven't had time today to do this, and I always tell people to eat their meals with calm and everything.
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But I didn't have time to do that today because I was fucking busy as shit.
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So don't judge me.
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I'm only having some carrots for the crunchy possible food.
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For some fiber as well as some um vitamin A.
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Definitely need it, hard to get on your diet.
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And an English muffin with almond butter and crunchy Nutella, but a low-calorie one called Go Zero, which tastes better than Nutella.
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It's crunchy, and um, it's only like 80 calories instead of 150 or something per teaspoon.
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So, yeah, definitely excited with this thing.
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It's pretty fucking tasty, and I cannot wait for it to get cold as shit and hard for me to be able to start eating it.
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Do you have something in your new diet?
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Because we just changed diets.
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Um, that you're like, I like this.
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Um, I haven't had my second day yet.
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Yeah, so I don't have anything oh, avocado.
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Yeah.
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Avocado slaps.
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Yeah, avocado's great.
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I haven't had avocado in a long time.
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That's awesome.
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Yeah, that's my fave.
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So let's start with client questions.
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What do we get?
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What do you do when your self-image is radically different from one day to the next?
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What do you do when your self-image is radically different from one day to the next?
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Man, um, first of all.
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Second of all, um you shouldn't have your self-image changed every day.
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Like just your your your whole self-image because your self-image is based on your identity, and your identity is shaped by your habits.
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Your habits are shaped by your actions, the actions that you do it all the time.
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So if your identity is changing is because your actions are inconsistent.
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And I find that um if you are thinking about how to fix this thing, you're not going to fix it.
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The issue with a lack of identity is the lack of action.
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So you need to actually start doing the shit that you're supposed to do, the shit that you told yourself that you were going to do, and then you won't have the issue of your identity fluctuating all the time.
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Why?
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Because you're the guy who does what he said he was going to do, you're the type of girl who, once you committed to doing something, you pull through, you do it the whole way.
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That's just who you are.
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That shapes your identity.
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That is the thing that's going to people get so focused on like trying to change, like, oh, I'm not consistent with my diet.
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Oh, but it's like I'm not consistent with my training.
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It's like, no, no, no, you're not a consistent person, period.
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You have to apply discipline to all of the areas of your life, and that increases not just the consistency of the action itself, but increases consistency.
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Period.
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It makes you a more consistent being.
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And when you are a more consistent being, you have a um an unchangeable identity, and that's what allows you to not be shape-shifting all the time, you know, just based off of your emotions and things like that, you know.
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So yeah.
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I have been.
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Yeah, I agree.
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Um, I think that you that your actions, like you were saying, will impact your mindset, and a lot of people try to start with the mindset piece, which there is something to that, you know, saying even if you feel like you're not, saying, I am the person that is consistent or does what they said they were gonna do.
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Um, and kind of the whole manifestation idea.
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Um, I think there's something to that, but I think that that your actions really do impact.
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Yeah, I think I think there's there's something to it, but it's about as long as the two minutes that I spend talking about it.
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It's not something that demands time and time and time and just thinking and just thinking about stuff and all the time.
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I don't, it's it's it's action that's gonna change the stuff, and you can change action with mindset.
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So yeah.
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Yeah, the mindset is just this the launching off point, but you don't just sit there like trying to change your mind.
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You need to shorten the time between um like your thought and the action.
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So, like one thing that I do, I have a five-minute rule, which is like it from the moment that I have a thought to the moment that I'm going to be creating that thing, it needs to be five minutes.
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Um, if it's less than, if it's more than five minutes, then I fail.
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And that task is just not going to get done.
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It's gonna get put on a to-do list, which just means that that task is not important and it's never gonna get done.
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Um, that's what to-do lists are for.
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To-do lists are for goals, they're not for like habits and things like tasks that can be managed, you know?
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So yeah, a good question.
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Let's um let's hope that this uh this person is no longer working with me.
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So um, but I hope that you are doing well.
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I hope you're listening to it, and I hope that you are doing well.
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So how does negative self-image impact progress toward goals?
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I mean, it doesn't until it does, right?
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You can think about like competitive shooters on how like they have such a negative image of themselves, on how they just talk so much shit about themselves, and it's um don't don't don't make no mistake, this is all a defense mechanism to prevent other people from making fun of them.
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So that's just all that it is, it's just a defense mechanism, but it doesn't affect your your image because it's just all in playful banter until the point that it actually fucking does.
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And at some point, the words that you are speaking, your brain can't know it doesn't know the difference between the words that you're saying jokingly and the words that you're saying seriously.
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Um, so your brain starts creating this image of who you are as a person, and that becomes a problem because if you're joking, you know, you know the whole fucking millennial thing of like just joking about depression.
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I was like, man, you know what would be great today if someone just fucking ran over me with the car.
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First of all, fuck those people.
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I hate those people with a passion.
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I think it's so fucking retarded and it's stupid and it's uh kind of disgusting.
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Like it makes me want to punch people when they when they say that.
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Uh, this has nothing to do with my dose of trend.
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I was I felt this way when I was not taking anything whatsoever.
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Um, that just it just pisses me off.
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You shut the fuck up.
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Um, but in any case, like I think it I think it affects it, and like because there's um your self-talk becomes reality.
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Like, I think to the point that you made before of how like your thoughts influence your actions, I think this is an instance where your thoughts influence your actions because it shapes your identity.
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So you can't really allow yourself to be talked to in a negative way, even if that person who's talking negatively about you is you.
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This is very, very hard because the hardest person to stand up against is yourself, it's not someone else.
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It might feel like it is, but it isn't, it's you.
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So, but sometimes you have to do that because your your brain just again, we've talked about this a lot, but your brain does not give a flying fuck's ass about your goals, it doesn't care.
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The only thing that your brain is seeking is comfort.
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So if there is comfort, if you're laughing, if you find um, you know, sort of a coziness in the known of this banter um of talking trash and talking smack and shit, your brain realizes that that is comfortable and it's gonna keep you in that place.
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Is it fun?
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Yeah, it's so much fun.
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Also, look at the people who do that.
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Do they look good?
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Do any of the people who talk like this look good?
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They don't.
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Are they very successful financially or in their careers?
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No, also not.
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Like, there's there's something to that.
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Just look at the patterns.
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Like, do you want to be that type of person?
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Like, what apart from just the fact that it makes you laugh, which it's not an argument for anything, which is you know why like it's stupid when people are like, Oh, you laughed at that joke.
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It was like that joke was funny.
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Um, like it doesn't, it doesn't mean anything.
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Like, apart from that, what exactly are you looking for in people who do this type of thing that you admire?
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You're gonna realize it's fucking nothing.
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So, yeah, that's just what I would say about how it impacts your your your progress overall.
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Yeah, I I think I agree with that.
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I think that you it's kind of a you have to have a fake it till you make it mentality almost.
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It's like I'm not a consistent person, but I'm gonna just pretend like I am.
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Yeah, you know, and I then you pretend like you are a consistent person, fake it to yourself, fake it to everyone around you, and by the week's end, you're gonna be like, look, I did all my stuff.
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You know, it sounds dumb, but it's like this almost like a mind game to get around some of these negative self-image things.
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You just have to define what we mean by fake.
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Like what we mean by faking is not like faking it in your mind.
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Um, what we mean is by faking it in action.
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So, like, oh, you recognize that you yourself is not someone who normally makes the bed in the morning, but you want to start making the bed in the morning, you just never feel like it.
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So that's where the problem is.
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You think that thought precedes action and it never does.
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You your action precedes the thought.
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Motivation is a result, it's an outcome, not the the guiding factor.
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So you start making the bed, you set up an alarm and you do it.
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You you don't allow any time in between the alarm and thinking about it.
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The alarm went off, you're making the bed.
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That's what happens.
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Once you get to the end of the week, you look back and you're like, fuck, I made the bed seven days a week.
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Guess what?
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I'm the person who makes the bed.
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So why would I not make the bed when I am the type of person who makes the bed?
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When people talk about me, they see a guy who makes the bed, you know?
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And you know what else a guy who makes the bed does?
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Guy who makes the bed also does his vacuums first thing in the morning.
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And you know what he's excited to do?
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To fucking get some sunlight exposure first thing in the morning and uh, you know, delay his coffee and uh just get a good meal with carbohydrates and protein in first thing in the morning.
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Like it just you start like stacking this stuff, you know.
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So I find that's uh that's what we mean by um like your your your thoughts should be there and you should fake it.
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Um it's not a thought faking it, it's like the action, it's just like recognizing it that you don't do this thing, but you will start doing it and you start and you start doing it.
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But you can't think like, oh, I will be the person who makes the bed.
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Like, no, no, no.
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You need to stop fucking recording this podcast and go make the bed right now.
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Like you need to stop listening to it and just go make the bed right now.
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Like that's the type of person who makes the bed, that's what they would do.
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It's almost like in my mind, like you know, when you write your resume and you sound amazing on your resume, uh-huh, and then you but what like day one of starting the job, you're like, oh I like I've gotta go be this person now.
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Yeah, yeah.
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Like that's what I'm kind of thinking when I say this.
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Yep.
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I like that.
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And then also, what is when I was thinking about the self-image question, I was thinking about how a lot of people's self-image is def is actually defined by what other they're like waiting for other people to tell them what their self-image is, or they're almost they like their self-worth is tied up in what other people say about them or what they perceive other people thinking about them.
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I mean, not just like social media, but maybe it's like your your spouse or your parents or the people at work or whatever it is, um, you're wanting this validation.
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And so really think about it as self-image.
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Like, what do you think about yourself?
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Because your parents or your boss or whoever you're looking for affirmation from does not is not going to care about your goals enough to make you do them, you know?
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So really think about the self part.
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What do you how do you view yourself like you and and having that um influence kind of how you approach it, I guess.
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Um so next question: how do you overcome addiction?
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I assume everyone's path is different, but I want to hear your perspective.
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Well, fuck me.
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Um like your assumption is correct.
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Um, everyone's path is different.
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Uh, and that's my perspective as well.
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But there are a couple of things that are pretty similar across everybody.
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Um, like, for instance, very few, and I mean by saying very few, I'm being very fucking generous.
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I could just say no one.
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So let me just say that.
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No one recovers from addiction 100% by staying in the same environment, maintaining the same habits, listening and ingesting and consuming the same type of media and content, and just overall becoming being the same person that you are, because that is the person who does drugs.
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So you need to change who you are.
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That's that's the thing that needs to happen, right?
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So, what I can tell you is from like my experience, what it was, and I've helped a lot of people come out of addiction as well, because of my experience with it.
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So, I I started um using drugs and alcohol smoking when I was very, very young, like like nine years old, I was drinking, and that's very, very bad, right?
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But um when I was like 14, I was in rehab already, uh, because of how bad addiction was.
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And the first few times I tried to maintain my whole identity and sh and everything the same way, even though because it was primarily a reaction against what my parents had done at the time, which was they understood this that I'm talking about right now, and I didn't because I was a child, but they understood that you had to change as a person, you had to be a different person because a different person doesn't do this type of shit.
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Um, so they like changed my clothes, they got rid of my music, they got rid of my computer and all this type of shit, and I just rebelled against it.
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And I was like, no, you want me to stop being this, this is who I am, so I'm gonna be that 10 times over.
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Um, which just resulted in relapsing over and over and over until the point that it changed, and everything changed with Ibogaine for me.
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So I am very, very um a big proponent of psychedelics in recovery.
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I'm a big proponent of you know using any type of enhancement that you can to get the most out of your action.
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So if it wasn't for Ibogaine, I can tell you that I would be dead.
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Um, I would not be here, and there would be no optolab or Nathan and Aubrey together.
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Um, because it's just that there would there was no way out for me.
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So I find that for depending on what addiction you have, like if you're talking addiction and you're talking sugar, first of all, go fuck yourself because that's not a true addiction.
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Um if you're talking addiction and you're like, well, cigarettes, it's like, well, you have a problem with the habit because nicotine is not really addictive.
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But um, like the habit of smoking, of stopping and relaxing and breathing and just not having dopamine turned on all the time and stuff, that is very good.
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So you have to create a you have to get a habit that does that and replace the old habit that you had of going out and smoking with the meditation, with the you know, dopamine detox day or something like that.
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And then you also have to um sort of uh create a uh distance between the the problem that you have and yourself.
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So like don't keep this shit at home.
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But also, if you have friends and they're doing it, and when you see them doing it, it makes you want it, tell them and say, Can you not do this in front of me?
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You don't have to, you don't have to do this for the rest of your life, but in the beginning, it can be extremely very, very helpful.
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And if they are your friends, and this is a good way to filter them, they will say, like, damn, I didn't know, I'm sorry.
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Absolutely, man.
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Your your life is more important than anything else, absolutely, and they'll just put it away.
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If they don't, they're like, Man, come on, my my cousin stopped smoking and he was doing this thing, then you can tell them, go fuck yourself and just go the other way and just go the other direction.
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Um, the last thing that I'll say is that depending on what it what the addiction is, like if it is something more serious like alcohol, which is terrible, um, if it's something like cocaine or benzos or you know, like heroin or anything like that, like you're going to need treatment.
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Like you're you're going to need to go to rehab, you're going to need to focus three to six months in your life.
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Just think about this shit.
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It's less than 1% of your entire fucking life, but it's just focused on you.
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You you you're abusing these substances for a reason.
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We need to find what the reason is, we need to address that root cause, and we need to show you what life is going to be and start building their life inside rehab already of what life is going to be away from this.
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So that's in general what I would say.
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This is something that I can talk a whole lot about.
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Um, the question is very open, so I just thought about sharing a little bit of my story and stuff.
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But do you have any any other thoughts?
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Just last thing.
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Uh, it's very, very hard for people to quit addictions um when they don't, when they refuse treatment, be it with a psychologist, with a psychiatrist, or in rehab, when people refuse to do it because they just want to do it themselves, they're proud as shit.
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And until you recognize that you are in deep shit, you're not going to be able to get out of it.
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So it's just like that person that's like, man, yeah, I'm a little bit overweight.
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It's like that guy that I said in the last podcast is like, I need to lose 100 pounds, but I just I want to lose 20.
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My goal, my goal is to get someone to help me to just be fat, not super fat.
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I'm like, that's fucking mediocre as shit, and you disgust me.
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But um also, you have to think about like in in terms of like your addiction, you're not just trying to like eliminate this one tiny little thing that's kind of problematic for your life.
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And then, like, if this went away, everything would be great.
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No, no, no, no, no.
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There's a major dysregulation between your dopamine, your serotonin, your melatonin, like all of your neurotransmitters are entirely fucked.
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The way that you think right now is not the way that you think, you are not thinking, the drugs are thinking, you are not wanting drugs, the drugs are wanting drugs.
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They have taken over this matrix that is your brain, and they're just guiding you like a fucking puppet.
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And you need to get into a place that you don't have access to this type of shit, and you need to get people who are going to prevent you from doing it, but are also going to be by your side multiple times a day to give you the support that you need.
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This is not something that you fix by just winging it.
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It doesn't, it doesn't happen by winging it.
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Like, talk to everyone who's addicted and they're all like, Man, I need to quit.
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Everyone knows they need to quit, everyone knows that they're fat, everyone knows they're unhealthy.
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It's the humility to fucking say, okay, I'm gonna get someone to help me with this that's actually going to change that.
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Yeah, I would I agree, and I think that looking for help, like you were saying, in the right places.
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So going to professionals who deal with this all the time, because like just like you would do, you would I would hire you to be my coach.
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I wouldn't like go talk to my random friend and be like, hey, you know, workout buddy, you know, I'm not gonna have the same results from that situation.
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You need people around you that are your workout buddies or your friends or your whatever, but um you're they're part, only a part of your support system.
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And I think a big part of taking ownership and saying, I want to make a major change in my life, is not being dumb and going and getting the people that actually know what they're doing and have the resources to help you.
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Absolutely.
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So I think that's important.
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I also think that um it's I mean, if you're with somebody who's or in a position where you can support someone who is uh dealing with addiction, you just have to keep repeating yourself over and over and over and over, like forever, like longer than you think.
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Just like a coach.
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Yeah, just like a coach, exactly.
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So that's not that's just an assumed role that you play.
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Like if you are selected by fate, God, or the person themselves to walk alongside somebody, like that's that's what your job is, is to keep repeating no matter what that person is telling you.
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Yep, you know, yeah, good question.
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If you guys want uh us to talk a little bit more about this stuff, just let us know in the comments.
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How do you handle the low points when you feel like you can't escape the pain or discomfort?
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Alright, so stop trying to avoid pain or discomfort and instead lean into it and become addicted to that.
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It's the this is the thing that changed the everything for me in terms of leg training.
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Because leg training is so fucking miserable, and I just got to a point that I'm like, it's gonna be miserable either way, man.
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So if I don't want to have sticky legs, fucking just fucking chicken legs, yeah, just chicken legs, fucking some green beans is sticking out.
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Um, then I'm gonna have to do something different.
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And I'm like, it's gonna hurt.
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You know what?
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I'm gonna fucking lean into that pain.
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And that has been fucking great because I will cry myself to on a leg extension.
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Um and uh Uh that you know may or may have not happened today.
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It's very, very, very, very tough and it hurts a lot.
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It burns like a bitch.
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But I know I'm growing, I know that the results are coming.
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I can see the fibers, I can see the veins coming in, which I haven't told you guys how much I'm weighing right now, but uh the cut is going, it's cutting.
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Um, but it's the same thing in a cut.
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It's like, well, you're gonna be hungry, so fucking lean into that hunger.
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Don't try to satisfy all of your hunger because you will be hungry no matter what.
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Even when you are in a GLP, you're going to be hungry regardless.
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You're going to be fatigued.
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So fucking recognize that you're going to be fatigued.
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There's no way to avoid this shit.
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So just let it be what it's going to be.
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But I find that there's a lot of power of leaning into something.
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It's like an experience that I've lived through when I was uh when I was bullied when I was in school.
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I used to be bullied a lot when I was a child, which makes sense because every bodybuilder is someone who was hurt as a child.
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Um, but so what the fuck are you doing?
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Just I had to come to the middle, guys.
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There we go.
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Sounds good.
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Um, so one like what was I saying?
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Um bullied as a child.
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Yeah, so I was I was bullied a lot, and one of the ways that I found to like deal with this, because I used to get like actual beat up, right?
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Like actually like bleeding beat up, is I started leaning into it, and I'm like, oh, you guys want to see pain?
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I would fucking hit myself, I'll fucking bang my own head against the wall.
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Oh, you want to fucking punch me, dude?
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I'll fucking punch myself, and that would like freak people out.
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People would just be like, what the fuck?
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This kid is just insane, and then it stopped.
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And then it fucking stopped, right?
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So that's the that's the thing that I that I'm trying to like convey here.
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Just this just lean into the discomfort and pursue it and learn to appreciate it because that's also you know, that's also teaching you something.
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You know, you can't you can't be in a deficit without being hungry, you can't grow muscle without having a lot of pain in that muscle for a really long period of time.
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You know, it's just not going to happen.
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So just lean into the discomfort itself.
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Stop trying to avoid it.
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That's a that is a major hack.
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Once you're able to turn that shit, it's game over.
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Because then nothing can stop you.
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Once you once you recognize that, like, oh, work is gonna be fucking miserable.
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Let's fucking go, bro.
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Let's fucking go, let's do this shit.
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Then it's great.
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There's no problem because you're you're you're you're not pretending that it isn't.
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Like this, this, this area that most people live in, which is just this fucking like, yeah, I know I need a change, but you know what?
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Like, yeah, like I'm trying, I'm trying my best, and all this shit.
00:24:31.279 --> 00:24:32.799
You're not trying your best, you piece of shit.
00:24:32.880 --> 00:24:34.319
You fucking lying to yourself.
00:24:34.559 --> 00:24:40.240
What what what you're doing is just hiding behind the circumstance because you're afraid of touching that pain.
00:24:40.319 --> 00:24:41.759
It's just a defense mechanism.
00:24:41.920 --> 00:24:44.960
So lean into the pain, and that's where you're gonna find your success.
00:24:45.920 --> 00:24:46.880
Yeah, I agree.
00:24:47.039 --> 00:24:52.000
I think that um avoidance or fighting, fighting it.
00:24:52.160 --> 00:24:54.400
Like stop fighting it, you know.
00:24:54.799 --> 00:25:03.200
Um, and yeah, I don't know if I if I would say anything differently.
00:25:03.359 --> 00:25:08.480
I mean, I think that you can you there's an amount of confidence that you get that you build.
00:25:08.559 --> 00:25:12.880
We're talking about like self-image and oh, I am the person that does fill in the blank.
00:25:13.039 --> 00:25:42.960
When you're able to do things that are uncomfortable, whether that be pushing yourself at the gym or not eating or eating, you know, whichever one is uncomfortable, or having a really tough conversation, or telling your coach, being super honest with your coach, even though it's difficult and uncomfortable, like doing those things builds crazy confidence because people don't do that.
00:25:43.200 --> 00:25:44.640
Just people do not do that.
00:25:44.799 --> 00:25:48.880
And like you're like you were also saying, um, learn to love it.
00:25:49.119 --> 00:25:56.640
Um there is a little bit of like a dopamine hit almost once you get in this pattern.
00:25:56.799 --> 00:25:59.119
And I I don't know if it's the sense of accomplishment.
00:25:59.279 --> 00:26:00.319
Well, it is the pain.
00:26:01.519 --> 00:26:03.759
You've been avoiding this thing, and you've been avoiding pain.
00:26:03.839 --> 00:26:08.160
Also, pain and pleasure in the brain are just almost the same exact fucking thing, by the way.
00:26:08.240 --> 00:26:15.839
Yeah, but like it's um it's it's something that you've been avoiding and you've been putting off because you're fucking terrified, and once you fucking do it, you just feel like a god.
00:26:16.000 --> 00:26:19.200
So, yeah, I definitely think that's the that's the route to go.
00:26:19.519 --> 00:26:20.400
Sweet.
00:26:21.680 --> 00:26:27.759
What are the best strategies for getting your head right when training fields off and nothing is connecting?
00:26:28.240 --> 00:26:31.759
Um, so it could okay.
00:26:32.000 --> 00:26:32.799
Next question.
00:26:33.119 --> 00:26:33.599
That's it.
00:26:33.759 --> 00:26:56.720
I think I think music can be helpful, but you also need to think about the fact that it might just be the data that you're like the feedback that you're getting is that you need to just dial down a little bit, just like be a little bit more mindful of your recovery and uh not so keyed in for your training and stuff like that.
00:26:56.880 --> 00:26:59.839
So that's that's the that's what I would say.
00:27:00.079 --> 00:27:06.880
Yeah, I think you um like one strategy that's that I find to be helpful is visualization.
00:27:07.119 --> 00:27:12.240
So I get to the gym, you know, I'm I'm walking on a treadmill, chilling, talking to people and stuff like that.
00:27:12.319 --> 00:27:25.839
Once I get to my set, like I'm talking to people and everything, and I sit down to do my set, I'm actually like I put on my headphones and I'm thinking about what I'm about to do, how many reps I did last week, what my job is this week, which is doing more reps or the exact same at least.
00:27:26.079 --> 00:27:29.359
And um, like that's that's what I have on my mind.
00:27:29.440 --> 00:27:31.200
I'm thinking about the muscles that I'm gonna put in.
00:27:31.279 --> 00:27:32.640
I'm thinking about something in my head.
00:27:32.720 --> 00:27:39.519
I'm just trying to hone in all of my emotions and my feelings that are gonna help me like actually produce the best outcome for that set.
00:27:39.920 --> 00:27:43.839
And then I go in, but I find that a lot of people they just jump in mentally cold.
00:27:44.079 --> 00:27:47.839
You're like, oh, you warmed up, but your your mind is just still cold.
00:27:48.000 --> 00:27:50.079
You haven't thought about what you're doing whatsoever.
00:27:50.160 --> 00:28:07.599
And if you if you just look at your life and the things that you do without putting any thought versus the thing that you do and you're very intentional about it, you're gonna realize that the things that you're intentional about it tend to uh turn out a little bit better and uh a little bit more like your results are better in comparison to the ones that you're just fucking winging it, you know.
00:28:07.839 --> 00:28:11.599
I almost feel opposite in a sense, where I the whole thing is.
00:28:11.839 --> 00:28:20.960
Wait, you don't find it helpful to meditate to med to visualize it all from my experience, like the whole thing of okay, training feels off and nothing's connecting.
00:28:21.119 --> 00:28:36.480
I'm not saying visualizing doesn't work, but the whole idea of like actions preceding thoughts or whatever, in my mind, I'm like, well, I know you don't feel super into this right now, but that's irrelevant because this is your time to train and you've got to go train, you know.
00:28:36.640 --> 00:28:39.839
Yeah, I just cut that into I never have that conversation in the first place.
00:28:43.200 --> 00:28:51.920
I just jump in straight into the visualizing of my job and then doing it because as you said, doesn't matter how I'm feeling, it doesn't matter like any of these things, but the the only thing that matters is my job.
00:28:52.000 --> 00:28:53.680
So I'm just doing that.
00:28:53.920 --> 00:29:01.279
I'm not doing the whole pep talk of like, I know you're tired, man, but you know, like you just have to do it, and I don't fucking have to do shit.
00:29:01.359 --> 00:29:04.799
I could just not go, I can go to the gym and just fucking drive myself back home.
00:29:05.039 --> 00:29:06.880
Um, so I don't need to do shit.
00:29:06.960 --> 00:29:07.680
I get to do shit.
00:29:07.759 --> 00:29:14.319
It's a fucking privilege to be in the gym first thing in the morning when so many people are working or they have health problems and they can't even fucking train.
00:29:14.480 --> 00:29:16.960
Like that's um that's that's a privilege.
00:29:17.039 --> 00:29:20.480
I I shouldn't be fucking bitching about being tired about this, tired about this.
00:29:20.559 --> 00:29:21.839
I'm paying for my own membership.
00:29:21.920 --> 00:29:23.279
No one is forcing me to do this shit.
00:29:23.359 --> 00:29:27.440
So I don't even think about this at all because I find it like kind of absurd.
00:29:27.599 --> 00:29:28.880
I just go straight into it.
00:29:28.960 --> 00:29:29.839
What's the job?
00:29:30.000 --> 00:29:31.279
This is the job.
00:29:31.519 --> 00:29:36.559
Remember the cues, fucking breathe, tune in your emotions, let's fucking kill it.
00:29:36.720 --> 00:29:38.000
That's the process every single time.
00:29:38.240 --> 00:29:43.359
Is it normal to feel like you see the world differently once you start changing yourself seriously?
00:29:43.759 --> 00:29:49.599
Yeah, I mean, we think that when we are looking at the world, we are looking at reality itself.
00:29:49.759 --> 00:29:53.200
That doesn't exist, it hasn't existed since the Enlightenment.
00:29:53.359 --> 00:29:57.279
That has never been true, but it was just a period of time in modernity where we believed that.
00:29:57.440 --> 00:30:02.720
Um, but you're never seeing the world as it is, you're always seeing the world as you are.
00:30:02.960 --> 00:30:07.200
So when you change, you start noticing things according to how you are.
00:30:07.279 --> 00:30:08.640
It's almost like a mirror.
00:30:08.799 --> 00:30:29.279
So the the world functioning as a mirror, it only makes sense that as you change your habits, you start noticing things more around you and the people around you, and you start noticing what is it that you're eating, like how much rest you're actually neglecting, how much better your sleep can actually get, how much more time you can spend on like learning things to be able to communicate better and to be a better person and all this type of shit.
00:30:29.359 --> 00:30:33.359
Like it's just it's just a whole lot, you know?
00:30:33.519 --> 00:30:34.000
Mm-hmm.
00:30:34.240 --> 00:30:34.720
Yeah.
00:30:35.039 --> 00:30:52.000
Yeah, I think that one way that I started seeing the world differently was I would start seeing the potential that all of these people or situations or whatever I had in my life, all the potential that they all had, and that they since if I could do this thing, then they could it too, you know.
00:30:52.319 --> 00:30:54.880
That was one of the biggest perspective shifts I think that I had.
00:30:55.119 --> 00:30:55.839
Yeah, absolutely.
00:30:56.000 --> 00:31:02.160
But I think I think this is absolutely normal, but just remember you're not seeing the world as it is, you're seeing the world as you are.
00:31:02.319 --> 00:31:04.799
That's just the the only thing that you have to remember from this.
00:31:04.960 --> 00:31:08.079
So it's it only makes sense that as you change, the world changes.
00:31:08.480 --> 00:31:11.359
How do you learn to be at peace while still wanting more?
00:31:11.599 --> 00:31:12.640
This is a great question.
00:31:12.799 --> 00:31:17.440
Picture yourself walking through a mountain, you're just hiking, going all the way to the top.
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And there's two people.
00:31:18.799 --> 00:31:25.759
There's one person who's going to get, you know, through the first time that they see a little, like a little peak of the abyss, and they just want to take a photo.
00:31:25.920 --> 00:31:29.119
They just want to appreciate, they want to sit down and like take it all in a little bit.
00:31:29.279 --> 00:31:31.599
They're still gonna get to the top, but they just want to do that.
00:31:31.759 --> 00:31:36.400
And there's the other person that's just puts their head down and climbs all the way to the top, and then they go back down.
00:31:36.640 --> 00:31:38.319
That person is miserable.
00:31:38.400 --> 00:31:50.240
Uh, the person who is able to get to the top, but also appreciate and enjoy the moments that they have during the the whole hike, that is going to be the person who is the happiest.
00:31:50.319 --> 00:31:51.519
So that's what you should do.
00:31:51.680 --> 00:32:03.359
You should be able to recognize that there's still room to grow and there's more to be done while still being able to look back where you started and just be like, holy fucking shit, look at me, man.
00:32:03.519 --> 00:32:05.519
What the fuck has happened to me?
00:32:05.599 --> 00:32:09.200
Like I've transformed into someone who's completely different.
00:32:09.359 --> 00:32:11.759
Like I'm I'm an entirely different being now.
00:32:11.839 --> 00:32:15.200
And I find that to be a very difficult skill to have.
00:32:15.359 --> 00:32:17.200
Usually people are one or the other, right?
00:32:17.279 --> 00:32:25.519
They usually have that reverse body dysmorphia where they just think they look great and they're just fat and like have no muscle whatsoever.
00:32:25.759 --> 00:32:28.160
And there's also the person who's like, nah, man, I'm too small.
00:32:28.240 --> 00:32:31.200
And I'm like, you're 200 pounds at 6% body fat.
00:32:31.440 --> 00:32:34.559
You need to go literally fuck yourself because of how hot you are.
00:32:34.799 --> 00:32:42.720
So, like, you like just just just have the uh the the balance in between and the the way to do that, I think it's by visualizing this mountain thing.
00:32:42.799 --> 00:32:46.160
I I find that to be a very useful metaphor to doing this.
00:32:46.400 --> 00:32:49.920
Yeah, I think uh my take on it is exactly the same.
00:32:50.079 --> 00:33:06.160
I just call it celebrating, yeah, like celebrate the smaller accomplishments, and I've been trying to work on that as well because I was I was talking to my therapist actually, I was like, so I always like I have this whole laundry list of things that I'm supposed to do in my life, yeah.
00:33:06.319 --> 00:33:17.920
And I every time I do one of them, I expect something, I guess, and I just don't feel necessarily better, and I just feel like, oh, I just still have more stuff to do, so I gotta go do more stuff.
00:33:18.079 --> 00:33:34.079
And so there's always this striving and everything, which I do get a lot done in my life, but um the thing that we've strategized to work on is to stop and celebrate somehow, doing something a little bit different, a little bit off, like small, you know?
00:33:34.240 --> 00:33:39.599
Yeah, to to kind of pause and appreciate what you have done.
00:33:39.759 --> 00:33:41.839
So I think that that's the same idea.
00:33:41.920 --> 00:33:43.839
You're stopping, you're looking at the view, taking it in.
00:33:44.079 --> 00:33:45.680
I like that going up the mountain.
00:33:46.240 --> 00:33:47.920
All right, we've got rapid fire questions.
00:33:48.160 --> 00:33:49.839
Rapid fire questions, questions from Instagram.
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Let's do it.
00:33:50.559 --> 00:33:52.720
How do I stay motivated long term?
00:33:53.680 --> 00:33:58.240
Um don't try to stay motivated long term.
00:33:58.400 --> 00:34:03.759
Motivation is very, very poor, and motivation is the result of you being consistent.
00:34:03.839 --> 00:34:08.239
So stop trying to start with your thoughts and actually start with your actions instead.
00:34:08.559 --> 00:34:11.440
What do I do when discipline disappears?
00:34:12.000 --> 00:34:14.800
Well, first of all, discipline doesn't just fucking disappear.
00:34:14.960 --> 00:34:21.760
Something broke down along the way, and you need to actually make an assessment, do pull an audit of your system, of your methodology, and do it.
00:34:21.920 --> 00:34:25.679
This is the thing that I find that people just who self-coach they just don't fucking do it.
00:34:25.920 --> 00:34:35.599
They never audit their process, they never audit how they're doing, they never like like like actually look into how things are going, which is something that a coach is doing for you every single fucking week.
00:34:35.840 --> 00:34:45.760
So, like actually spend time and do that because what you're getting is not that you're failing, what you're getting is feedback that your plan is not actually feasible for you and something needs to change.
00:34:45.920 --> 00:34:51.679
Maybe you need some different compounds thrown in to be able to support you, like some peptides or some bioregulators or something.
00:34:51.840 --> 00:34:56.480
Or maybe we just need to actually scale down how much stuff that you're doing and actually do less.
00:34:56.639 --> 00:35:00.800
Maybe we need to focus on water, maybe we need to focus on light, maybe we need to focus on food.
00:35:00.960 --> 00:35:04.559
You need to conduct that audit because discipline doesn't just fucking stop.
00:35:04.719 --> 00:35:06.239
There is a reason why that happened.
00:35:07.440 --> 00:35:10.079
Is it normal to feel behind even when I'm doing well?
00:35:10.320 --> 00:35:11.039
Yes, absolutely.
00:35:11.119 --> 00:35:12.079
That's entirely normal.
00:35:12.400 --> 00:35:15.599
Like everyone who's driven and who's motivated feels this way.
00:35:16.480 --> 00:35:18.719
How do I stop comparing myself to others?
00:35:18.960 --> 00:35:22.559
It's never gonna stop because you understand reality according to yourself.
00:35:22.639 --> 00:35:24.480
You are your only point of reference.
00:35:24.639 --> 00:35:38.320
So when you look at someone else, you are looking at them in terms of you, in in terms of what they can do for you, of what they have done for you, of who they are, um, you know, in relation to you and the people that you know.
00:35:38.719 --> 00:35:40.159
But yeah, next question.
00:35:40.400 --> 00:35:43.920
How do I know I'm pushing myself or punishing myself?
00:35:44.239 --> 00:35:45.119
Ooh, good question.
00:35:45.360 --> 00:35:48.320
Goes this so this goes back to the mindset.
00:35:48.559 --> 00:35:55.519
If you're punishing yourself, you tend to have very negative images to help you psych up and get ready for an action or something that you're doing.
00:35:55.840 --> 00:36:04.239
But if you are someone who is like doing this thing for like your own good, you have that thing in your in as your goal.
00:36:04.320 --> 00:36:11.679
Like you are trying to do this for your own benefit, and this is going to show in your actions.
00:36:11.840 --> 00:36:13.119
You need to stop, okay?
00:36:13.599 --> 00:36:14.559
Good girl.
00:36:15.280 --> 00:36:16.320
There you go.
00:36:18.559 --> 00:36:21.840
Why do I feel worse mentally when I'm dieting hard?
00:36:22.320 --> 00:36:24.400
Because you're fucking tired and fatigued, man.
00:36:24.480 --> 00:36:25.119
That's why.
00:36:25.280 --> 00:36:25.920
Yeah.
00:36:27.280 --> 00:36:30.480
How do I rebuild confidence after a setback?
00:36:31.840 --> 00:36:32.880
Scratch that.
00:36:33.119 --> 00:36:39.920
Use the data to modify your plan if needed, not in a reactive way, but in an objective way, and then move on.
00:36:40.159 --> 00:36:42.719
Just a fresh day, fresh start, fresh meal.
00:36:43.280 --> 00:36:46.800
Does training actually help mental health or just distract me?
00:36:47.039 --> 00:36:47.360
Nope.
00:36:47.440 --> 00:36:51.920
Um, it actually helps you um with mental health, but it does that by distracting you.
00:36:52.159 --> 00:36:56.639
Um, it also releases a bunch of endorphins and other hormones that are very beneficial for you.
00:36:56.719 --> 00:37:05.840
So there's a direct effect, but psychologically speaking, it just distracts you from the things that you're doing, which is why training is not therapy, it is the opposite of therapy.
00:37:07.679 --> 00:37:12.559
How do I stop tying my my worth to progress?
00:37:13.920 --> 00:37:16.719
Your identity cannot be construed around your body, man.
00:37:16.800 --> 00:37:20.159
Just think about the fact that like you could be hit by a truck any day, man.
00:37:20.239 --> 00:37:24.320
You could be driving to the gym and you could be in an accident and you break your ankle, you're never gonna train legs again.
00:37:24.400 --> 00:37:32.559
Like it's just you can't you can't tie your identity to your body, but you what you can do is just be like, Well, my body is a reflection of my identity.
00:37:32.880 --> 00:37:35.519
When you flip that, that's when good things happen.
00:37:35.840 --> 00:37:37.519
Yeah, uh quick note on that.
00:37:37.599 --> 00:37:43.760
I was thinking of like if you're in a relationship with somebody that you're committed to and you know, like a marriage.
00:37:43.920 --> 00:37:50.239
Um, I remember you saying that you knew you could marry me or something when you were like, What if she got in a car accident?
00:37:50.480 --> 00:37:54.480
Or she was severely burned or whatever, like I would you would still love me.
00:37:54.559 --> 00:37:54.880
Yep.
00:37:55.039 --> 00:37:59.440
Which was absolutely beautiful when he I remember when you said that.
00:37:59.599 --> 00:38:06.639
But um that's kind of how you have to think about yourself, yeah, to a certain extent.
00:38:06.880 --> 00:38:12.079
Not that he wants me to be burned or in a car accident, you know what I mean?
00:38:12.320 --> 00:38:20.880
Like you wouldn't want your body to be, you wouldn't want to be unhealthy and just say, Well, I accept you, I love you the way that you are, you know what I mean?
00:38:21.519 --> 00:38:27.280
But you have to have that level of commitment to yourself to make it possible.
00:38:27.840 --> 00:38:32.719
Um what mindset shift helped you the most?
00:38:35.440 --> 00:38:36.639
I can't answer that question.
00:38:36.719 --> 00:38:39.119
I've had so many mindset shifts that I can't even answer that.
00:38:39.199 --> 00:38:43.360
Uh um uh one that I will use again, it's the one of leaning into pain.
00:38:43.519 --> 00:38:45.199
I find that to be very, very helpful.
00:38:45.440 --> 00:38:45.840
Yeah.
00:38:46.320 --> 00:38:50.000
What do you wish people understood about the mental side of fitness?
00:38:50.880 --> 00:38:56.400
It's going to improve or it's going to be worse depending on how you deal with it.
00:38:56.480 --> 00:38:58.639
It's nothing to do with like, oh, fitness makes you this.
00:38:58.800 --> 00:39:00.880
Fitness doesn't make you nothing, fitness doesn't even exist.
00:39:01.039 --> 00:39:03.679
Fitness is just how fit you are for a specific task.
00:39:03.760 --> 00:39:04.880
That's what fitness means.
00:39:05.039 --> 00:39:16.800
Um, so it doesn't, it doesn't cause anything to happen to you, but you will you you will act according to how you are like thinking and imagining this process.
00:39:16.960 --> 00:39:28.960
If you if you lead with this process in terms of like something that's going to be just like help you to not be someone who you hate, um, it's going to be very problematic.
00:39:29.039 --> 00:39:38.960
But if you're trying to be someone that you're like, you already like yourself and you're trying to help yourself to love yourself more and to bring the good out of yourself, that's when good things are going to happen as well.
00:39:39.519 --> 00:39:44.159
What's something you've learned about supporting someone through low points?
00:39:44.639 --> 00:39:55.280
Is that when you support people through low points, you actually support yourself because again, remember, everything that you see in reality is a reflection of yourself, not of the world.
00:39:55.360 --> 00:40:00.480
So when you're giving people advice, when you see potential, all that you're saying is this is what I would do in your place.
00:40:00.960 --> 00:40:03.840
Man, I wish I was in your position to for me to be able to do this.
00:40:04.000 --> 00:40:06.880
This is what we mean by, oh, I see potential in you and stuff like that.
00:40:06.960 --> 00:40:09.760
Like we we think we don't mean this, but this is actually what we mean.
00:40:09.920 --> 00:40:10.880
So yeah.
00:40:11.599 --> 00:40:12.880
Last question.
00:40:13.280 --> 00:40:18.480
What's something you wish someone had told you earlier about the mental side of this journey?
00:40:18.800 --> 00:40:24.000
Um, I wish they had told me that it depends on how I handle this thing.
00:40:24.159 --> 00:40:35.440
I wish they had told me that it's my responsibility to direct my thoughts, to choose which narratives I'm going to believe in, and to actually be guided by thoughts that I choose, not by the thoughts that just pop in my head.
00:40:35.599 --> 00:40:37.039
I wish someone had told me that.
00:40:37.199 --> 00:40:44.800
And I wish, I wish that people gave a shit about this because this is the most important thing in terms of your progress.
00:40:44.960 --> 00:40:47.119
It's it all goes back to your mindset.
00:40:47.280 --> 00:40:54.159
And uh, if I put this shit on social media, the actual goal that's gonna change your life that I tell people on the check-ins, no one fucking watches it.
00:40:54.480 --> 00:40:56.320
So I just don't talk about it there anymore.
00:40:56.400 --> 00:41:05.599
I talk about it just on uh on check-ins with clients, but I wish someone had told me that that this thing is uh it looks like a physical transformation, it's not, it's a brain transformation.
00:41:06.000 --> 00:41:10.880
Yeah, I think that I don't know if I would wish someone would have told me this or not.
00:41:10.960 --> 00:41:12.320
It's hard for me to think that way.
00:41:12.960 --> 00:41:21.360
But um that they if they would tell me just just focus on your goals for this week, yeah.
00:41:24.159 --> 00:41:30.320
Um and really helping me see the value of those habits and seeing how they're cumulative.
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I although I think that that's something that I had to learn from practice, like from my own experience.
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I don't know if I would have really, if it would have hit home, just somebody telling me, you know, but that's I guess the truth that I would have appreciated to hear from someone.
00:41:49.679 --> 00:41:51.440
Yeah, um, yeah, yeah.
00:41:51.599 --> 00:42:03.039
Well, thank you guys so much for sending these questions, but I have a question for you because we are now in the first week of 2026, and my question is, how was your progress in 2025?
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How did you actually get like how close did you get to accomplishing your goals?
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If you did not get that close to accomplishing your goals, what exactly are you changing to be able to not have the same outcome happen this year?
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I find that people are extremely ignorant when it comes to answering this question, they have absolutely no fucking clue how to interpret English uh whenever I ask people this question.
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It's kind of like I say, like, what specifically are you going to change?
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What action specific?
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And they think, like, man, I'm just trying to like do a little bit better in terms of like my food, but it's hard with my girlfriend.
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I'm like, are you mentally incapable of answering the fucking question, you dumbass?
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So, like, actually think about this shit because this is going to be the set point of your entire 2026.
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2026, you're gonna get to December and you're gonna look back.
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Are you one of these people that has like crazy transformation?
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You need to work backwards from December to now.
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What is that person doing today?
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Are they winging it today?
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Are you fucking serious that you think you're going to accomplish something meaningful by just winging it today?
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Dog, people don't become successful in their careers by winging it.
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People don't become successful in their marriages by winging it.
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You don't become successful in any sport by winging it.
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What the actual fuck makes you think that you are going to be successful in your goals, which are just thoughts about stuff that you would like to have, like a six-pack.
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They're not goals, actually, they're not objectives, they're not things that you can direct and change and control.
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Think about this shit, because this is important, this is going to direct the entire year of 2026 for you.
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And I would hate for you to get to 2026 the exact same way that you got in 2025, which is the exact same way you got in 2024, which is the exact same place you were in 2023.
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Which by the way.
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The exact same place you were in 2022.
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2021?
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Well, that year you were also in the exact same fucking spot.
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Aren't you tired of this?
